Men's Divorce Recovery: Recent Episodes
Men's Divorce Recovery
Men's Divorce Recovery exists to empower divorced men through support, knowledge, and encouragement to survive and thrive beyond divorce and become resilient, strong, and wise. New episodes will be dropped every other week. We look forward to walking with you on this Journey to Recovery. Find us on Facebook and Instagram @officialmensdivorcerecovery or visit us at www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
They often say that there are three primary reasons why divorce takes place, with sexual issues being near the top of the list. But if sex factored into the dissolution of our marriage, what can we do to heal and repair our sexual brokenness to be restored in our relationship with God and also prepared for future romantic relationships? On today’s episode Dr. Carol Peters-Tanksley, author of the book "Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories About God, Love, and Relationships” joins the show to discuss these issues and more.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Song of Songs
Resources: drcarolministries.com
Part Two of Interview
Divorce disrupts our daily routines and upends what our daily life looks like. During divorce we must choose how to spend our time and what activities will contribute to our recovery. Today we welcome Chris Bolinger to the podcast, who is the author of two Christian devotionals for men to help us understand the importance of daily devotionals during divorce and other topics that will help us recover in the proper way.
Bible Passage Inspiration: James 5:13-15 “Is anyone among you suffering? He should pray. Is anyone among you sick? He should summon the presbyters of the church, and they should pray over him and anoint [him] with oil in the name of the Lord, and the prayer of faith will save the sick person, and the Lord will raise him up. If he has committed any sins, he will be forgiven.”
Resources: https://chrisbolinger.com/
Divorce disrupts our daily routines and upends what our daily life looks like. During divorce we must choose how to spend our time and what activities will contribute to our recovery. Today we welcome Chris Bolinger to the podcast, who is the author of two Christian devotionals for men to help us understand the importance of daily devotionals during divorce and other topics that will help us recover in the proper way.
Bible Passage Inspiration: James 5:13-15 “Is anyone among you suffering? He should pray. Is anyone among you sick? He should summon the presbyters of the church, and they should pray over him and anoint [him] with oil in the name of the Lord, and the prayer of faith will save the sick person, and the Lord will raise him up. If he has committed any sins, he will be forgiven.”
Resources: https://chrisbolinger.com/
Part Two of Interview
**After spending years on submarines and surface ships, Jay Patterson adjusted his heading to help men facing brutal battles, such as divorce, pivoting careers, hitting midlife, and other challenges. Having spent much of his life submerged, working excessive hours, and being crammed into a compact people tank with 130 men for weeks and months on end, there is no option but to get along. Post-divorce life includes uncharted objects and shoals, but you can navigate obstacles and become stronger with the right mindset. On today’s podcast Jay shares how he survived on a 300-foot-long sewer pipe and how resilience, leadership, and continued growth can help rebuild your life.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Romans 8:18 “I consider that the sufferings of this present time are as nothing compared with the glory to be revealed for us.”**
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
**After spending years on submarines and surface ships, Jay Patterson adjusted his heading to help men facing brutal battles, such as divorce, pivoting careers, hitting midlife, and other challenges. Having spent much of his life submerged, working excessive hours, and being crammed into a compact people tank with 130 men for weeks and months on end, there is no option but to get along. Post-divorce life includes uncharted objects and shoals, but you can navigate obstacles and become stronger with the right mindset. On today’s podcast Jay shares how he survived on a 300-foot-long sewer pipe and how resilience, leadership, and continued growth can help rebuild your life.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Romans 8:18 “I consider that the sufferings of this present time are as nothing compared with the glory to be revealed for us.”**
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
In today’s episode Chris provides encouragement for men who are going through divorce as we begin to enter the holiday season. For many of us, this might be the first holiday season we are spending alone, away from our former wife. You can get through this, but you must put the effort into planning to ensure you don’t make poor decisions during this difficult time.
Bible Passage Reference: 2 Corinthians 1:3-6
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
Divorce is a confusing time where we are asking to make decisions when we are not at the top of our game. If you ever asked yourself "where did that thought come from?," the answer may surprise you. Today Chris discusses the three voices we might hear in our head while recoverying from divorce and how to make the best decisions possible.
Bible Passage: 2 Corinthians 11:14 "And no wonder, for even Satan masquerades as an angel of light."
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
Today Chris dives into the work we need to put into our divorce recovery program. He will also discuss the way recoverying from divorce is similar to a 12 Step Program, and what we need to do to ensure we are drawing closer to God during this difficult time.
Bible Passage Inspiration: James 2: 14-24. "What good is it, my brothers, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can that faith save him? If a brother or sister has nothing to wear and has no food foer the day, and one of you says to them, "Go in peace, keep warm, and east well," but you do not give them the necesssities of the body, what good is it? So also faith of itself, if it does not have works, is dead. Indeed someone might say, You have faith and I have works." Demonstrate your faith to me without works, and I will demonstrate my faith to you from my works. You believe that God is one. You do well. Even the demons believe that and tremble. Do you want proof, you ignoramus, that faith without works is useless? Was not Abraham our father justified by works when he offered his son Isaac upon the altar? You see that faith was active along with his works, and faith was completed by the works. Thus the scripture was fulfilled that says, "Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness," and he was called "the friend of God." See how a person is justified by works and not by faith alone.
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
PART TWO OF INTERVIEW
Many of us came from loveless marriages and have been craving affection for a very long time. Once we have spent time recovering from divorce and putting in the work to ensure we are fully healed, some of us may choose to go back into the dating game. On today’s podcast James Newberry will teach us the secrets to creating a dating profile that will help to attract the type of person you want and to product yourself against many of the most common dating scams out there today.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Ephesians 5:25-26. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her to sanctify her, cleaning her by the bath of water with the word”
**Resources: https://datingprofilesecrets.com/
Podcast Featuring: Dale Brown, Christopher Espinoza, Megan Jones, & James Newberry**
Many of us came from loveless marriages and have been craving affection for a very long time. Once we have spent time recovering from divorce and putting in the work to ensure we are fully healed, some of us may choose to go back into the dating game. On today’s podcast James Newberry will teach us the secrets to creating a dating profile that will help to attract the type of person you want and to product yourself against many of the most common dating scams out there today.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Ephesians 5:25-26. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her to sanctify her, cleaning her by the bath of water with the word”
Resources: https://datingprofilesecrets.com/
Podcast Featuring: Dale Brown, Christopher Espinoza, Megan Jones, & James Newberry
PART TWO OF INTERVIEW ON THINKING TRAPS
Sometimes in the divorce recovery process our mind can be our own worst enemy. We can get caught in thinking traps that keep us circling in a loop of negative and self-destructive thoughts. On today’s podcast we welcome Wynter Edwards, who is an Adjunct Professor in the Criminal Justice Department at Virginia Wesleyan University to discuss what thinking traps to look out for and how to avoid them when they do come up.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
Sometimes in the divorce recovery process our mind can be our own worst enemy. We can get caught in thinking traps that keep us circling in a loop of negative and self-destructive thoughts. On today’s podcast we welcome Wynter Edwards, who is an Adjunct Professor in the Criminal Justice Department at Virginia Wesleyan University to discuss what thinking traps to look out for and how to avoid them when they do come up.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
In a well known passage from the gospel of Mark, we learn about a time that Jesus was crossing the Sea of Galilee with his disciples and a storm broke out. Jesus awoke from his slumber to calm the storm. Today Chris discusses what we can take from this as men who are recovering from divorce.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Mk 4:35-41 “On that day, when evening had come, he said to them, “Let us go across to the other side.” And leaving the crowd, they took him with them, just as he was, in the boat. And other boats were with him. And a great storm of wind arose, and the waves beat into the boat, so that the boat was already filling. But he was in the stern, asleep on the cushion; and they woke him and said to him, “Teacher, do you not care if we perish?” And he awoke and rebuked the wind, and said to the sea, “Peace! Be still!” And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm. He said to them, “Why are you afraid? Have you no faith?” And they were filled with awe, and said to one another, “Who then is this, that even wind and sea obey him?”
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
PART TWO OF INTERVIEW
What does it mean to be a man on purpose? What does it mean to us, as men, when the Bible says we are a priest, profit, and king? How have women changed over the years and what does that mean for our role as men? Today we welcome Dave Johnson, author, former pastor, and corrections officer, who will share his years of wisdom and personal experience with us.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 2 Corinthians 1: 3-4 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and God of all encouragement, who encourages us in our every affliction, so that we may be able to encourage those who are in any affliction with the encouragement with which we ourselves are encouraged by God.”
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
What does it mean to be a man on purpose? What does it mean to us, as men, when the Bible says we are a priest, profit, and king? How have women changed over the years and what does that mean for our role as men? Today we welcome Dave Johnson, author, former pastor, and corrections officer, who will share his years of wisdom and personal experience with us.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 2 Corinthians 1: 3-4 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and God of all encouragement, who encourages us in our every affliction, so that we may be able to encourage those who are in any affliction with the encouragement with which we ourselves are encouraged by God.”
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
PART TWO of EPISODE
If you are listening to this podcast you are well aware that divorce is one of the most painful and stressful events that a person can go through. But what are we doing with that pain? Are we sitting in a dark room alone? Are we numbing it with drugs, alcohol, or bad behavior? Or are we transforming that pain into something bigger? Are we letting God do his work within the pain? Today Dale and Chris discuss how to not waste your pain.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 2 Corinthians 1: 3-4 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and God of all encouragement, who encourages us in our every affliction, so that we may be able to encourage those who are in any affliction with the encouragement with which we ourselves are encouraged by God.”
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
If you are listening to this podcast you are well aware that divorce is one of the most painful and stressful events that a person can go through. But what are we doing with that pain? Are we sitting in a dark room alone? Are we numbing it with drugs, alcohol, or bad behavior? Or are we transforming that pain into something bigger? Are we letting God do his work within the pain? Today Dale and Chris discuss how to not waste your pain.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 2 Corinthians 1: 3-4 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and God of all encouragement, who encourages us in our every affliction, so that we may be able to encourage those who are in any affliction with the encouragement with which we ourselves are encouraged by God.”
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
On today's mini episode Chris discusses God's everlasting and unending love. And if you are a Willie Wonka fan - or just like bad anologies - you'll like this episode! Chris apologizes for calling it the "Never-Ending Gobstopper" instead of the "Everlasting Godstopper"!
Bible Reading: Psalm 37:4-5 "Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you your heart's desires. Commit everything you do to the LORD. Trust him, and he will help you."
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
PART TWO
Who did God make us to be? How do we find our calling in life? Are some people made bad? On today’s podcast Dale and Chris will discuss the topics of dualism, personalism, and finding our calling in life as it relates to recovering from divorce. We hope you enjoy this philosophically focused episode and that it helps you find meaning in who you are!
Bible Passage Inspiration: Jeremiah 1:4-5 “Now the word of the Lord came to me, saying, ‘Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you
Resources: www.mensdivorcerecovery.org
Who did God make us to be? How do we find our calling in life? Are some people made bad? On today's podcast Dale and Chris discuss the topics of dualism, personalism, and finding our calling in life as it relates to recovering from our divorce. We hope you enjoy this philosophically-focused episode and that it helps you find meaning in who you are!
Bible Passage Inspiration: Jeremiah 1:4-5 "Now the word of the Lord came to me, saying, 'Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you.'"
Resources: www.MensDivorceRecovery.org
In today's mini espisode Chris discusses the lessons from the story of the man at the pool at Bethesda from John chapter 5. He will talk about what it means to want to be well and what we need to do to figure out if we are truly ready to ask for God's healing.
Resources:
John 5:1-16
PART TWO OF INTERVIEW
Today we will discuss the topic of high conflict divorce. It’s unfortunate, but far too common for a poor marriage to end in a high conflict divorce. On this podcast we welcome Karen McMahon, Chief Visionary of Journey Beyond Divorce, to discuss what to do if we find ourselves in a high conflict divorce to survive and thrive.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Hebrews 12:14 “Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.”
Resources: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
Today we will discuss the topic of high conflict divorce. It’s unfortunate, but far too common for a poor marriage to end in a high conflict divorce. On this podcast we welcome Karen McMahon, Chief Visionary of Journey Beyond Divorce, to discuss what to do if we find ourselves in a high conflict divorce to survive and thrive.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Hebrews 12:14 “Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord.”
Resources: www.jbddivorcesupport.com
Part Two of Interview
We welcome back Greg Wheeler to the podcast for today’s episode. Greg is a relationship, Conscious Uncoupling, Divorce, and Calling In “The One” coach who has helped both men and women heal after separation and divorce. Today we zero in on the topic of achieving inner balance following divorce. We look forward to chatting with Greg and hope you learn something new!
Bible Passage Inspiration: 2 Peter 3:17 “You therefore, beloved, knowing this beforehand, take care that you are not carried away with the error of lawless people and lose your own stability.”
Resources: https://gregwheelercoaching.com/
Single Parents Book: “Single Dad Essentials - The 12 Most Important ThIngs Single Dads Need To Know”
We welcome back Greg Wheeler to the podcast for today’s episode. Greg is a relationship, Conscious Uncoupling, Divorce, and Calling In “The One” coach who has helped both men and women heal after separation and divorce. Today we zero in on the topic of achieving inner balance following divorce. We look forward to chatting with Greg and hope you learn something new!
Bible Passage Inspiration: 2 Peter 3:17 “You therefore, beloved, knowing this beforehand, take care that you are not carried away with the error of lawless people and lose your own stability.”
Resources: https://gregwheelercoaching.com/
Single Parents Book: “Single Dad Essentials - The 12 Most Important ThIngs Single Dads Need To Know”
Happy New Year!! Today we have a very special guest - former NFL quarterback and man of God Jeff Kemp! On the podcast we will discuss his new book Receive: The Way of Jesus for Men, and specifically why forming a tight group of men is critical to not only your divorce recovery journey but also living a life that reflects Jesus’ love.
**Bible Passage Inspiration: 1 John 1:7 “But if we are living in the light, as God is in the light, then we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from all sin.”
Resources: https://jeffkempteam.com/receive/**
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PART TWO OF INTERVIEW:
On today’s episode we hear the incredible story of JD McCabe, a male survivor of domestic abuse. At the darkest moments of his life, JD chose to turn to God and lived to tell his amazing story. We hope this episode helps you to put everyone’s situation into perspective and to show you that no matter how low you get, you will survive if you trust in the Lord.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Psalm 11:5 “The Lord tests the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.”
Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Third-Gift-Dance-Devil-Mother/dp/1643073834
On today’s episode we hear the incredible story of JD McCabe, a male survivor of domestic abuse. At the darkest moments of his life, JD chose to turn to God and lived to tell his amazing story. We hope this episode helps you to put everyone’s situation into perspective and to show you that no matter how low you get, you will survive if you trust in the Lord.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Psalm 11:5 “The Lord tests the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and the one who loves violence.”
Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Third-Gift-Dance-Devil-Mother/dp/1643073834
PART TWO OF INTERVIEW
On today’s podcast we will talk about what it takes to recover from divorce from both a physical and mental perspective. Our guest today is Alex Nugent who runs his own personal training and wellness business. We’ll discuss his own divorce journey, what he’s learned, and how guys can focus on their physical fitness to help support their mental health.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
Resources:
instagram.com/iamnugefitness
facebook.com/Alex.Nuge
On today’s podcast we will talk about what it takes to recover from divorce from both a physical and mental perspective. Our guest today is Alex Nugent who runs his own personal training and wellness business. We’ll discuss his own divorce journey, what he’s learned, and how guys can focus on their physical fitness to help support their mental health.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
Resources:
instagram.com/iamnugefitness
facebook.com/Alex.Nuge
This is Part Two of the podcast with Scott Hall.
Today’s podcast welcomes a very special guest. Singer and songwriter Scott Hall joins Dale and Chris today to discuss his song “Driveway”. Scott wrote this incredibly emotional song about his own experience and the experience of what dads go through following a divorce. No matter where you are in the divorce process Scott’s interview and song will reach your heart and touch your soul.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Psalm 34:18 “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Resources: https://iamscotthall.com/home
Today’s podcast welcomes a very special guest. Singer and songwriter Scott Hall joins Dale and Chris today to discuss his song “Driveway”. Scott wrote this incredibly emotional song about his own experience and the experience of what dads go through following a divorce. No matter where you are in the divorce process Scott’s interview and song will reach your heart and touch your soul.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Psalm 34:18 “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Resources: https://iamscotthall.com/home
Podcast Featuring: Dale J. Brown, Ph.D, Scott Hall, & Christopher Espinoza
This is Part Two of the interview with Chris Harper.
On today’s podcast we welcome Chris Harper, who is the Chief Executive Officer of Betterman, an organization that helps men unleash the better man inside them by dismissing today’s toxic and passive cultural expressions of masculinity and empowering the timeless manhood fundamentals found in the Bible and in the person of Jesus Christ.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 1 Timothy 3:5 “For if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how can he take care of the church of God?”
Resources: www.betterman.com
On today’s podcast we welcome Chris Harper, who is the Chief Executive Officer of Betterman, an organization that helps men unleash the better man inside them by dismissing today’s toxic and passive cultural expressions of masculinity and empowering the timeless manhood fundamentals found in the Bible and in the person of Jesus Christ.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 1 Timothy 3:5 “For if a man does not know how to manage his own household, how can he take care of the church of God?”
This is the second half of the conversation between Dale and Chris dealing with the fear of not finding someone else.
Today’s podcast is inspired by a question we got on our group Facebook page about the fear of not finding someone else who we loved as much as our ex wife. In the podcast we peel back the layers of this question, its meaning, its potential origin, and our advice on how to deal with these feelings that you might be having.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Philippians 3:13-14 “Brethren, I do not consider that I have made it my own; but one thing I do, forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. ”
Passage References:
2 Corinthians 5:17
Job 17:9
Proverbs 4:25-27
Colossians 3:2
Today’s podcast is inspired by a question we got on our group Facebook page about the fear of not finding someone else who we loved as much as our ex wife. In the podcast we peel back the layers of this question, its meaning, its potential origin, and our advice on how to deal with these feelings that you might be having. This is part one of two parts of this episode.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Philippians 3:13-14 “Brethren, I do not consider that I have made it my own; but one thing I do, forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. ”
This is part two of our interview with Andy Heller, Enoy!
Podcast Topic: For the first time, today we welcome back a previous guest on the podcast! Andy Heller is the author of Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family. We brought Andy back today to dive deeper into the subject of doing the right thing during the divorce process. If it’s the easy thing, it probably not the right thing for anyone - today we will explore this topic and more!
Bible Passage Inspiration: James 4: 17 “Whoever knows what is right to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.”
Resources:
https://www.facebook.com/takethehighroadbook
https://www.instagram.com/andyhheller/
www.takethehighroaddivorce.com
https://www.amazon.com/Take-High-Road-Compassion-Yourself/dp/B0C1J1RJL2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=21FIUY1TYSN4Q&keywords=take+the+high+road+andy+heller&qid=1688163756&sprefix=%2Caps%2C168&sr=8-1
andy@takethehighroaddivorce.com
For the first time, today we welcome back a previous guest on the podcast! Andy Heller is the author of Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family. We brought Andy back today to dive deeper into the subject of doing the right thing during the divorce process. If it’s the easy thing, it probably not the right thing for anyone - today we will explore this topic and more! This is part one of a two part interview.
Bible Passage Inspiration: James 4: 17 “Whoever knows what is right to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.”
Resources:
https://www.facebook.com/takethehighroadbook
https://www.instagram.com/andyhheller/
www.takethehighroaddivorce.com
https://www.amazon.com/Take-High-Road-Compassion-Yourself/dp/B0C1J1RJL2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=21FIUY1TYSN4Q&keywords=take+the+high+road+andy+heller&qid=1688163756&sprefix=%2Caps%2C168&sr=8-1
andy@takethehighroaddivorce.com
Today listen to the second half of our interview with, Founder & President of Be Broken Ministry, which helps both men and women recover from sexual brokenness and trauma. In the episode we focus on the grace of God and what is needing for the healing process to be successful.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Galatian 5:1 “For freedom Christ has set us free; stand fast therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.”
Today we revisit the topic of sexual brokenness with the first part of an interview with Jonathan Daugherty, Founder & President of Be Broken ministry, which helps both men and women recover from sexual brokenness and trauma. In the episode we will explore what it means to be sexually broken, how that can manifest and interfere with our divorce recovery, and how we can heal from this brokenness to wholeness in Christ.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Galatian 5:1 “For freedom Christ has set us free; stand fast therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.”
Today we revisit the conversation with Kristal DeSantis, author of STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man, to discuss attachment styles, where they come from, and what lessons we can learn from them.
On today’s podcast we welcome Kristal DeSantis, who is the author of the book STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man. During our conversation with Kristal we will cover what makes relationships healthy, and what can make them fall apart. You’ll leave this episode with a better understanding of why your marriage may have ended and what you can do to achieve more productive relationships going forward.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 1 Corinthians 16:13-14 “Be watchful, stand firm in your faith, be courageous, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.”
Resources: Catholicism of the Catholic Church 1812-1829
During this episode Dale and Chris discuss the Christian virtues of faith, hope, and love and the role they play within the divorce recovery journey. To fully recover from our divorce and to grow closer to God, we must practice these virtues in our daily life. This is easier said than done when going through a divorce. We hope this content is helpful in your path to healing!
Bible Passage Inspiration: 1 Thessalonians 5:8 - “But since we are of the day, let us be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love and the helmet that is hope for salvation.”
Resources: Catholicism of the Catholic Church 1812-1829
In this week’s MDR Circle Conversation Dale and Chris continue their conversation on the Turning the Corner stage of the divorce recovery journey. This conversation includes potential trouble areas in this stage of recovery along with what to expect next. We hope you enjoy it!
In this episode Dale and Chris discuss the “Turning the Corner '' stage of divorce recovery. In this stage there are moments when life doesn’t seem so hard and traumatic. Your energy will slowly return. Your sleep will improve and you will begin to think more clearly. There are moments of intense pain but these moments will be less frequent and less intense. Join us as we discuss this pivotal moment in the recovery process.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Psalm 147:3 - “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Happy Holy Week, Brothers. In this episode you will hear the MDR Circle Conversations Dale and Chris had with Dr. Thomas Jordan about his book, Learn to Love. They will ask Dr. Jordan’s opinion about topics such as codependency and how the standards for love within marriage have evolved. May you have a blessed Easter weekend.
Why is it that real love seems so difficult to find? How is it possible that our marriage, which we had hoped to be the greatest love of our life, ended in tragic disappointment? What can we do in the future to ensure we have a healthy and stable love life? Join us today as Dale welcomes Dr. Thomas Jordan to discuss these topics and his book Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life.
Bible Passage Inspiration: “Beloved, let us love one another; for love is of God, and he who loves is born of God and knows God.” (1 John 4:7)
Resources:
https://lovelifelearningcenter.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dr.ThomasJordan/?ref=tn_tnmn
Twitter: https://twitter.com/LLLearningCtrIG: https://www.instagram.com/lovelifelearningcenter/
Hi Brothers! In this very special bonus episode Dale and Chris have an off-the-cuff conversation following the recording of the Why Me episode. This is the first in a series of MDR Circle Conversations that are meant to fill the gap between our regular full episodes. More details to come on how to subscribe to these episodes through the MDR website, but for now, enjoy this freebie!
As we go through the agonizing pain of divorce we often find ourselves asking the question “why me?” We may wonder why God is allowing this to happen to us. We might not understand why our world is crumbling down, especially if we have done nothing to deserve it. Today Dale explores this question and attempts to shed light on why something so tragic can happen to a good person.
Bible Passage Inspiration: “In this you rejoice, although now for a little while you may have to suffer through various trails, so that the genuineness of your faith, more precious than gold that is perishable even though tested by fire, may prove to be for praise, glory, and honor at the elevation of Jesus Christ.” (1 Peter 1:7).
Resources:
Job 38
1 Peter 1:7
Through both the Old and New Testament we hear stories of God’s people, and Jesus himself, spending time in the wilderness. These times were often difficult for those who suffered through them. As we go through our divorce and seek recovery, we spend our own, personal time in the wilderness. In today’s episode Dale discusses what this means for us and how we can look to scripture to get us through these times.
Bible Passage Inspiration: “The Spirit immediately drove him out into the wilderness. And he was in the wilderness forty days, tempted by Satan; and he was with the wild beasts; and the angels ministered to him.” (Mark 1:12-13)
Resources:
Exodus 16:1-361
Kings 19:1-8
Matthew 4: 1-11
Luke 22: 39-46
What is the true path to sustained internal happiness? When faced with the prospect of divorce many of us turn to the things of this world to try to escape and find moments of peace. None of these things, though, will create a lasting change in our lives. Fortunately, as Christians we are provided with a perfect roadmap to happiness that never fails. Today Dale dives into The Beatitudes and what they mean for us as we go through divorce.
Bible Passage Inspiration: The Beatitudes (Matthew 5: 3-10)
As we continue to kickoff the new year we have a very special guest on this week’s podcast. Twyla M. Marks is the host of the podcast Divorce Talk with Twyla and she will be sharing her experience in helping those going through a divorce to “get their happy back”. We will also discuss the intersection of divorce and a life of faith, and the fear of being a newly single dad.
Bible Passage Inspiration: “For the kingdom of God does not mean food and drink but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit” (Romans 14:17)
Resources:
@DivorceTalkwithTwyla
PickingUpthePiecesEXPO.eventbrite.com
To start the new year off right, Dale welcomes Andy Heller, Author of the book Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself & Your Family, to the show. During this episode we will discuss what taking the high road means and active steps we can take to ensure that we are acting in the best possible way during the divorce process.
Bible Passage Inspiration: “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, and patience” (Colossians 3:12)
Resources:www.takethehighroaddivorce.com
In this special episode Dale reflects on the first year of the podcast, some of the most important topics, and provides advice going into the new year.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.” (John 13:35)
Resources:
https://www.abundantmercychristiancounseling.com/
https://www.dwkllp.com/team/jasonpica/
https://stephaniesarazin.com/
https://www.theresstillhope.org/
https://juliebeckerman.com/https://
gregwheelercoaching.com/
http://www.evworthington-forgiveness.com
When your soul is feeling destroyed because the person who vowed to be with you for a lifetime has ended the relationship, the thought of forgiveness can seem like a far off dream. But for our own healing, forgiveness is something that we must find. How do we do this when we are full of rage, anger, sadness? In today’s episode Dale is joined by Dr. Everett Worthington, a psychologist and foremost expert in the field of forgiveness.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Matthew 23-35, The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant
Resources:
http://www.evworthington-forgiveness.com
Divorce tears at the fabric of your heart, but it doesn’t have to tear down the entire world around you. Conscious uncoupling is a term that was coined by Katherine Woodward Thomas in her book on the topic. Today Dale is joined by Greg Wheeler, who is a certified coach on conscious uncoupling to help you think through a better way to detach from your ex both emotionally and with the responsibilities you have in front of you in mind.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
Resources:
https://gregwheelercoaching.com/
How do you cope with the pain and shock that is dealt to you in the early stages of divorce? Have you tried to bargain with God to get your wife back? Do you feel like life will never be ok again? On today’s episode Dale will share the content of Week One in his new Quick Start to Your Divorce Recovery video series. We hope the message in this episode helps to inspire you and provides reassurance that this journey, although tough, is one that you can survive.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Matthew 28:20 “And behold, I am with you always, to the close of the age.”
Resources:
www.988lifeline.org
www.savingcain.org
www.aa.org
www.na.org
www.celebraterecovery.com
www.theresstillhope.org
Going through the pain of divorce can cause even the most faithful to question God’s plan. How do you remain grounded in your faith during these turbulent times and get through the other side of your divorce with a deeper purpose? On today’s episode Dale discusses these topics with Marcus Farris, author of the book No Less Faithful: How the Scars of Divorce Reveal the Heart of God.
Bible Passage Inspiration: 2 Timothy 4:7 “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.”
When you were married parenting responsibilities were split between you and your wife. Following a divorce many of us must learn how to coparent with an ex who is less than cooperative. Even if you and your ex get along well, coparenting presents unique challenges. In today’s episode Dale interviews coparenting coach Julie Beckerman to discuss ways that we can keep focused on what really matters: our children.
Bible Passage Inspiration: Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
Resources:
https://juliebeckerman.com
https://www.instagram.com/juliebeckermancoach/
One of the most common traps men fall into when going through a divorce is the pathway of pornography. We are often leaving a marriage that was absent of physical affection for an extended period of time and we turn to this habit to ease our pain and fill a void. But what happens when this behavior becomes an addiction? In the first of our series on breaking addictive patterns Dale will be joined by Dr. Mark Denison, who is the founder of There’s Still Hope, an organization dedicated to recovery from porn addiction.
Podcast Resources
Dr. Mark Denison, www.theresstillhope.org
Bible Verses
John 5
John 11
Luke 7
Matthew 6
Mourning the loss of someone you love is one of the most difficult things a human being has to go through. But what if the person you are mourning is still alive? The death of a relationship caused by divorce comes with a unique type of grief. Ambiguous grief is the grief experienced from the loss of a loved one, who is still alive, accompanied by a change or death of the relationship. In this episode Dale is joined by Steph Sarazin who is an author and expert on the topic of ambiguous grief.
Steph Sarazin is the founder of the Rise Up Rooted Community and her book, SoulBroken, is available this fall and can be pre-ordered on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and IndieBound. You can find more information on Steph and her work at www.StephanieSarazin.com.
While in the midst of our pain it's easy to ignore some of the most important and fundamental aspects of the process. Today we interview a family attorney to discuss the unique legal aspects of a divorce for a man. We will also discuss how young boys react when their parents go through divorce and ways to support them through this challenging time.
The Bible verse that inspired this episode is Proverbs 11:14 - “Where there is no guidance, a people falls; but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”
You can reach Jason Pica at www.dwkllp.com.
After divorce one of the most natural things many men do is get back into the dating scene, often far too quickly. Jumping into another relationship too soon after a divorce can lead to further problems and can hurt not just you, but the person you are dating and your kids. In today’s episode Dale will discuss what the Bible says about dating and also provide advice based on his own experience of what healthy dating after divorce looks like and when is the right time to start dating.
Bible Verses from this podcast include:
Matthew 7:24-27
Ephesians 5:3
References from this podcast include:
The Gottman Institute, www.gottman.com
TheresStillHope.org
S-Group Workbook pages 86-87
Today Dale has the pleasure of interviewing Justin Turner, who has traveled a harrowing journey to recovery. Following his divorce Justin lost everything and is now on the path to redemption thanks to his dedication to God. His story will inspire you, along with being a cautionary tale of what can take place should you give into the negative temptations placed in front of you following your divorce.
Today’s podcast is inspired by Romans 3:21-26.
When first going through the divorce process it seems like the hopes and dreams for your future are crushed. We also often idealize the past, and often look at a past that did not really exist. In today’s podcast Dale will discuss the dangers of living too much in the past or too much in the future and go through techniques to start living in the now.
There may be no other time in our life when we feel as lonely as when we are going through a divorce. From the rejection of our spouse, to missing our kids, to social isolation, the pain seems unrelenting. During these times do we even pause and ask ourselves if there is a difference between being alone in isolation and alone in solitude? In this week’s episode Dale will discuss the most common problems that stem from loneliness for men and how we can change our thinking to achieve more positive results.
Fear is one of the most crippling emotions that men experience during a divorce. Interestingly, fear is a root emotion that often manifests in a number of other emotions, including anger, rage, and loneliness. In today’s episode Dale discusses the concept of fear, how it shows up, when to take action, and what we can do to cope with this strong emotion.
One of the most challenging aspects about a divorce is having to leave many parts of our old life behind. It is not uncommon to be riddled with grief over what you have to let go of - from your home, daily access to your children, mutual friends, and your now ex-wife. In today’s podcast Dale discusses what we can do to begin to overcome the pain of this loss and begin to build a new life that is uniquely yours.
When a divorce takes place we can feel lonely even when we are surrounded by others. Friendships are split between you and your ex-spouse, family and friends may not know what to say and do. In this episode Dale discusses where to go for help and how to build new friendships to get you through this difficult time.
This week Dale welcomes the first guest to the podcast, Francisco Peralta. Francisco is a Licensed Professional Counselor who practices Christian counseling. In this robust episode Dale and Francisco discuss feeling normal through your grief, self forgiveness, dealing with negative self talk, and learning from our mistakes. We hope you enjoy.
In this week's hope-filled episode Dale discusses the steps to staying strong in the face of divorce. He will talk about how we can build the strong roots it takes to survive the pain of divorce and come out more sturdy than we were before.
In this episode Dale discusses hope during divorce. He will cover the topics of why hope matters, sources of hope during the time of divorce, and how hope relates to faith. Please take comfort in this episode and remember that you are not alone.
In our second podcast Dale discusses surviving the first few days after finding out that a divorce is imminent. You will hear about the emotions you can expect, questions to ask yourself as you go through this stage, and pitfalls to avoid. We hope you find this episode useful. You are not alone.