The Good Mood Show: Recent Episodes
The Good Mood Show
Success & happiness in life would be so easy if it weren’t for our ego and its negative survival emotions. Join Matt O’Neill each week as he discusses the journey from the ego’s negativity to the authentic peace and joy of the soul. Learn how to overcome the limiting thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that are holding you back from living the life of your dreams.
Sometimes the happiest and most successful people are the ones who know when to stop.
Matt O'Neill built Good Mood Revolution into a top 1.5% global podcast with 230,000 downloads, but he's walking away at the peak. Why? Because he learned the ultimate happiness lesson: all the expert advice in the world means nothing if you're too busy to live it.
In this deeply personal final episode, Matt shares the most life-changing insights from his journey: from Marianne Williamson's revelation that happiness is love, to Lou Holtz's three principles for winning each day, to Dr. David Burns' discovery that depression often stems from beautiful values we hold too tightly.
You'll hear the strategies that transformed Matt's life—from Trish Blackwell's negative thought reframing technique to Sonja Lyubomirsky's research showing that 15-minute conversations are scientifically the happiest thing you can do. Most importantly, you'll understand why Matt realized that all the productivity hacks and goal-setting in the world can't replace the simple joy of being fully present with the people who matter most.
This isn't goodbye forever—it's Matt choosing to live the happiness principles he's spent years teaching. Sometimes the most revolutionary act is slowing down to savor what you already have.
0:00 Intro
2:05 Marianne Williamson: Happiness is love
4:02 Lou Holtz's three principles for winning the day
6:22 Dr. David Burns: Why depression reveals beautiful values
8:48 Dr. Jeffrey Rediger: Happiness is the best medicine
10:45 Joe Wechsler: The comfort crisis and why adventure makes us happy
12:43 Why Matt's "dream job" was right in front of him
15:11 Trish Blackwell's life-changing negative thought technique
18:28 Arian Mateo: How core beliefs create your reality
21:51 Matt King: If you want a better present, get a bigger future
23:20 Sonja Lyubomirsky: The scientifically happiest thing you can do
27:55 Eric Weiner: There's no such thing as personal happiness
29:01 Phil Moeller's Purpose Matrix: Ordering your life priorities
31:26 A final thank you and signing off
Resources Mentioned:
📚"A Return to Love" by Marianne Williamson
📚"Feeling Great" by Dr. David Burns
📚"Cured" by Dr. Jeffrey Rediger
📚"So Good They Can't Ignore You" by Cal Newport
📚"The How of Happiness" by Sonja Lyubomirsky
📚"The Geography of Bliss" by Eric Weiner
🌐Matt O'Neill's website and goal-setting worksheet: https://mattoneil.com
📖"The Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness" by Matt O'Neill
About the Host:
Matt O'Neill is the bestselling author of "The Good Mood Revolution," CEO of Matt O'Neill Real Estate, and the host who spent three years interviewing nearly 200 of the world's top happiness experts. Through Good Mood Revolution, Matt discovered that true happiness isn't about achieving more—it's about being present with what you already have. After reaching over 230,000 downloads and becoming a top 1.5% podcast globally, Matt is stepping away to live the principles he's spent years teaching: prioritizing God, family, and presence over productivity and achievement.
What if the thoughts driving your stress, anxiety, and unhappiness aren't even true?
Join Matt O'Neill and Dr. Seth Gillihan as they reveal the life-changing power of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy combined with mindfulness—a proven approach that's as effective as antidepressant medication, but without the side effects. Seth shows you how to break free from the prison of negative automatic thoughts that hijack your peace and steal your present moments.
This isn't about positive thinking or denial. It's about learning to see your thoughts as events in your mind, not facts about reality. You'll discover why your brain automatically scans for problems (and how to counter it), the difference between helpful reframing and toxic positivity, and practical techniques you can use starting today to challenge distorted thinking patterns.
Whether you're caught in spirals of self-doubt, overwhelmed by daily stress, or simply missing the magic of your own life, this conversation will give you the tools to step back, breathe, and see clearly what's actually happening versus what your mind is telling you is happening.
0:00 Introduction
0:49 What is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?
1:44 CBT vs. Antidepressant Medication
3:11 CBT vs. Traditional Talk Therapy
4:37 What are Negative Automatic Thoughts?
8:20 Breaking Thought Patterns with Evidence
12:26 Examining Thoughts vs. Reality
17:13 When Thoughts Become Self-Blame
20:58 Why "Should" Statements Keep You Stuck
23:54 The Once-in-a-Lifetime Opportunity of this Moment
27:02 Parenting, Presence, and The Last Times We Don't See Coming
29:52 How Mindfulness Reduces Anxiety and Depression
31:35 Simple Ways to Start Being More Mindful
35:12 Tracking Your Stressful Thoughts
Resources Mentioned:
🌐Dr. Seth Gillihan's website: https://SethGillihan.com
About the Guest:
Dr. Seth Gillihan is a clinical psychologist, author, and expert in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and mindfulness-based interventions. He specializes in helping people break free from negative thought patterns and develop greater presence and peace in their daily lives. Through his work, Seth has helped countless individuals learn that their thoughts are not facts and that they have the power to respond rather than react to life's challenges. His approach combines evidence-based therapeutic techniques with accessible mindfulness practices that anyone can implement.
What if the secret to everything you want isn't grinding harder, but feeling better?
Join Matt O'Neill and Andrew Kap as they blow apart everything you think you know about getting what you want in life. Andrew's approach isn't about vision boards or endless affirmations—it's about a revolutionary five-minute daily practice that transformed his life from total disaster to dream reality in just six months.
After losing his business and his relationship, Andrew discovered something counterintuitive: the harder you chase what you want, the more you reinforce not having it. But when you feel good just for the sake of feeling good, life starts organizing itself around you in ways that seem impossible.
You'll learn why manifestation works whether you believe in it or not (think "Muscle Fairy"), how to use the "Paint Can Theory" to choose your life's emotional color, and Andrew's exact voice memo technique that's helped hundreds of thousands of people create their dream lives. This isn't mystical—it's practical, sustainable, and backed by results from over 150,000 readers.
0:00 Introduction
1:07 Andrew's breakthrough story
2:50 Andrew's personal journey from rock bottom to transformation
6:06 Why only five to ten minutes a day is the secret
7:28 The "Muscle Fairy" theory
10:03 How miracles happen all around us every day
12:07 Taking complete responsibility for your reality
14:34 Ten powerfully simple ways to just feel good
17:29 Why you should never feel good to attract things
19:16 The power of recalling happy memories
21:44 The paint can theory
23:11 Andrew's exact five-minute daily ritual revealed
28:05 Handling deep emotional wounds and resistance
29:14 How to pull yourself out of negative spirals
32:22 The one thing to focus on this week
Resources Mentioned:
Andrew Kap's books:
📚 "The Last Law of Attraction Book You'll Ever Need to Read"
📚 "Just Feel Good"
🌐Andrew Kap's website: https://andrewkap.com
📺Andrew's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@andrewkap
About the Guest:
Andrew Kap is the bestselling author of "The Last Law of Attraction Book You'll Ever Need to Read," which has sold over 150,000 copies and garnered more than 6,500 five-star reviews. After hitting rock bottom in his thirties—losing his business and his relationship—Andrew discovered a simple five-minute daily practice that completely transformed his life within six months. His approach to manifestation focuses on feeling good for the sake of feeling good, rather than as a strategy to get something. Andrew's work emphasizes practical, sustainable methods that anyone can implement, regardless of how busy or skeptical they might be.
Anxiety doesn't always come from having too much on your plate or doing too much. Often it comes from doing the wrong things.
Join Matt O'Neill and entrepreneur Phil Moeller as they dive deep into the revolutionary Purpose Matrix—a life-changing framework that will bring clarity, calm, and fulfillment to your chaotic world. Phil discovered that his crippling anxiety wasn't from being busy, but from being busy with things that didn't align with who he really was.
This isn't another productivity hack. This is about getting crystal clear on your identity across the four pillars of life: Faith, Family, Finance, and Fitness. You'll learn the PEACE framework (Purpose, Education, Associations, Courage, Example) that transforms confusion into confidence and overwhelm into ownership.
Whether you're struggling with direction, feeling pulled in too many directions, or wondering why success doesn't feel fulfilling, this conversation will give you the tools to align your daily actions with your deepest values and finally find the peace you've been searching for.
0:00 Introduction
2:30 Phil's Story of Anxiety and Identity Crisis at 30
5:45 Who Am I and Where Do I Come From?
8:15 The Four Life Buckets
12:20 Why Balance Is Wrong and Alignment Is Everything
15:30 The Calendar Test
18:45 The Purpose Matrix Framework Explained
22:15 The PEACE Acronym Breakdown
26:40 Associations Accelerate Growth and Accountability
30:20 You Are What You Do, Not What You Say
33:15 The Enemy of Peace is Distraction, not Failure
35:50 Taking Ownership of Actions, Not Results
38:25 Balancing Contentment With Courage
40:30 Where To Start When You Feel Overwhelmed
Resources Mentioned:
🌐 Phil Moeller's website: https://www.moellere.com
🌐 Phil Moeller's Podcast The Puprose Matrix: youtube.com/@philonpurpose
🌐 Gobundance: https://gobundance.com
📧Contact Phil: info@moellere.com
About the Guest:
Phil Moeller is an entrepreneur, man of faith, husband, and father of five who created the Purpose Matrix after struggling with anxiety and identity confusion in his thirties. Through years of trial and refinement, Phil developed a systematic approach to aligning life's key areas—Faith, Family, Finance, and Fitness—using the PEACE framework. His work focuses on helping high-achievers find clarity and contentment by understanding what they own (their actions) versus what they don't (the results). Phil is currently writing a book on the Purpose Matrix and developing interactive tools to help others implement this life-changing framework.
What if the things we avoid the most—like messing up, slowing down, being bored, or even facing our own death—are actually the gateways to lasting joy?
Join Matt O'Neill and award-winning journalist Eric Weiner as they shatter everything you thought you knew about happiness. Eric, author of the New York Times bestseller "The Geography of Bliss" (now a Peacock docu-series), has mapped happiness across the globe from Bhutan to Iceland, uncovering the counterintuitive secrets that separate the world's happiest cultures from America's convenience-obsessed society.
This isn't your typical happiness advice. You'll discover why failure is celebrated in Iceland, how boredom becomes bliss in Switzerland, why silence is sacred in Thailand, and the profound truth that happiness isn't personal—it's relational. Eric reveals why America, the wealthiest nation on Earth, doesn't even crack the top 20 in happiness rankings, and what we can learn from cultures that prioritize relationships over results.
Whether you're caught in the convenience trap, struggling with the paradox of choice, or wondering why all your achievements haven't made you happier, this conversation will revolutionize your understanding of what true contentment looks like.
0:00 Introduction
1:06 What sent Eric on his global happiness quest
2:56 Failure, silence, boredom, death
6:02 Why happiness is relational, not personal
8:58 The Thai teacher's wisdom
12:18 How envy destroys happiness and why the Swiss hide wealth
15:24 Why Iceland celebrates heroic failure
19:46 The surprising statistics about happiness
23:02 The experience machine thought experiment
25:04 Why thinking about happiness makes you unhappy
27:33 America's convenience trap destroys connection
32:45 The power of putting effort without attachment to results
Resources Mentioned:
Eric Weiner's books:
📚 "The Geography of Bliss"
📚 "Man Seeks God"
📚 "The Geography of Genius"
📚 "The Socrates Express"
📚 "Ben and Me: In Search of a Founder's Formula for a Long and Useful Life"
🌐 Eric Weiner's website: https://ericweinerbooks.com
📚 "Stumbling on Happiness" by Dan Gilbert
🌐 "Rainn Wilson and the Geography of Bliss " https://www.peacocktv.com/stream-tv/rainn-wilson-and-the-geography-of-bliss
🌐 Bhutan writing workshops with Eric Weiner: https://www.himalayanwritersworkshop.com/discovering-a-sense-of-place
🌐 World Database of Happiness: https://worlddatabaseofhappiness.eur.nl/
About the Guest:
Eric Weiner is an award-winning journalist and New York Times bestselling author who has spent decades exploring the intersection of place, culture, and human happiness. His book "The Geography of Bliss" has been adapted into a Peacock docu-series and continues to influence how we think about joy across cultures. A former NPR correspondent, Eric has traveled to some of the world's happiest—and unhappiest—places to uncover what truly makes life worth living. He leads writing workshops in Bhutan and brings both journalistic rigor and philosophical depth to his exploration of human flourishing.
What if the darkest moments of your life aren't sent to make you miserable, but to show you how to experience more joy in the face of tragedy?
Join Matt O'Neill and New York Times bestselling author Angie Kim as they explore the revolutionary concept that suffering can actually enhance your capacity for happiness. Through her gripping novel "Happiness Falls," Angie reveals how tragedy, uncertainty, and even crisis can become unexpected pathways to deeper joy and meaning.
This isn't your typical happiness advice. This is about understanding the relativity of happiness—why lottery winners and accident victims end up at the same happiness level, and how your baseline expectations shape everything you experience. You'll discover why comfort might be killing your joy, how adversity builds resilience, and the counterintuitive truth that wanting what you already have is the secret to lasting happiness.
Whether you're facing your own crisis or simply wondering why all your comforts haven't made you happier, this conversation will transform how you think about joy, suffering, and what it really means to live a fulfilled life.
0:00 Introduction
1:43 How tragedy inspired a happiness story
5:49 The mystery of always appearing happy
8:04 What people get wrong about happiness
11:21 The backpacking happiness experiment
14:15 The lottery winner vs. paralysis study
17:59 Why tragedy can make you more grateful
20:04 How early adversity builds resilience
21:05 Learning to live with uncertainty
25:07 When characters take on a life of their own
27:46 Protecting vs. building resilience in children
28:39 Finding joy in the midst of despair
30:48 The secret to lasting happiness
Resources Mentioned:
🌐 Angie Kim's website: https://angiekimbooks.com/
🌐 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/angie.kim.va
🌐 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angiekimask/
🌐 X: https://x.com/AngieKimWriter
🌐 Good Reads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40121959-miracle-creek
📚 Angie Kim's book: "Happiness Falls": https://a.co/d/5oWDDPI
📚 "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle: https://a.co/d/daKQjTN
📖 The lottery winner vs. accident victim happiness study: https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0022-3514.36.8.917
About the Guest:
Angie Kim is a New York Times bestselling author whose novel "Happiness Falls" was named one of the best books of the year by Goodreads and has been featured in Time magazine. A former patent litigator turned novelist, Kim explores complex themes of identity, communication, and happiness through her compelling storytelling. Her work delves into the Korean-American experience and challenges conventional wisdom about what makes us truly happy. She brings both personal experience as a Korean immigrant and deep philosophical insight to her exploration of joy, suffering, and the human condition.
Do you ever feel like burning your whole life down just to escape the overwhelm?
You're not alone.
Join Matt O'Neill and Dr. Zoe Shaw as they shatter the myths around self-care and reveal the revolutionary 360-degree approach that will transform your life from the inside out. Dr. Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, bestselling author, and busy mom of five, shares how one commitment—practicing self-care every single day for an entire year—completely changed everything.
This isn't about bubble baths and spa days. This is about survival. You'll discover why self-care is as essential as brushing your teeth, why discipline is actually self-care, and how small daily habits create massive life transformations.
Whether you're drowning in responsibilities, struggling with burnout, or simply feeling like you've lost yourself in the chaos of life, this episode offers the practical tools and mindset shifts you need to reclaim your energy, time, sanity, and life.
0:00 Introduction
1:27 The "I Got It" Syndrome That's Destroying Women
3:06 What Self-Care Really Is (and what it isn't)
5:13 Why You Can't Binge Self-care
6:50 The Powerful Declaration: "I Am Worthy to be Cared For"
8:24 Why Women Feel Pressured to Sacrifice Everything
12:06 How Men Can Better Support Their Partners
15:14 The Four Wheels of Self-care: Body, Mind, Soul, Emotions
19:02 Why Self-Care is Not Optional—It's Survival
21:21 How to Handle Days When You Don't Feel Like It
24:08 The Power of Brain Dumps and Mind Clearing
25:31 Overcoming Guilt about Self-care
27:16 Sometimes Being the Best Parent Means Saying No
Resources Mentioned:
📚 Dr. Zoe Shaw's book: "Stronger in the Difficult Places"
📚 "Get Over I Got It" by Elaine Fluker
🌐 Dr. Zoe Shaw's website: https://drzoeshaw.com
🌐 "Stronger in the Difficult Places" podcast by Dr. Zoe Shaw
About the Guest:
Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist, bestselling author, and mother of five who specializes in helping overwhelmed individuals reclaim their lives through intentional self-care. After experiencing severe burnout herself, she embarked on a year-long journey of daily self-care that completely transformed her life. She's the author of "Stronger in the Difficult Places" and hosts a podcast by the same name, helping people understand that self-care isn't selfish—it's essential for survival and thriving.
Your mind isn't broken–it's just been hijacked.
And while you can't always control the depression, anxiety, or mental chaos that crashes into your life, you can choose to fight back with weapons that actually work. The truth is, your brain will betray you. The real power comes from learning how to reclaim control and rebuild your mental fortress from the ground up.
Join Matt O'Neill as he sits down with author Issac Robledo to unpack the seven powerful thoughts that can rewire your mindset and help you live with greater intention. From focusing on the positive to embracing the present moment, you’ll walk away with practical strategies for cultivating lasting happiness and fulfillment.
Don't miss this opportunity to revolutionize your outlook on life. Tune in to learn how small shifts in perspective can lead to profound changes in your well-being and relationships.
Get ready to unlock the clarity you've been searching for and embark on your own Good Mood Revolution!
0:00 Intro
8:18 Surrounding Yourself With Uplifting People
10:42 Controlling What You Can, Not What You Can't
18:32 Practicing Gratitude For What You Have
22:35 Living In The Present Moment
27:34 Prioritizing Needs Over Wants
33:25 Final Thoughts On Overcoming Struggles
Resources Mentioned:
📚 "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle
🌐 Issac Robledo's website: https://www.robledothoughts.com/
🌐 Amazon Store I.C. Robledo
About the Guest
Issac Robledo is an internationally bestselling author and writing coach known for blending psychology, spirituality, and self-growth into powerful, accessible insights. With over 15 books and 250,000+ readers, his work draws from personal experience with depression and anxiety, helping others break through mental barriers and live more consciously.
What if life’s biggest challenges weren’t roadblocks, but invitations to grow stronger and feel more alive?
Learn how ancient Stoic wisdom can help you reframe adversity, build emotional strength, and find calm in the chaos. Discover why becoming a “thankaholic” might be the key to lasting joy and how preparing for hard times can actually make you happier.
Join Matt and guest William B. Irvine for this powerful episode of Good Mood Revolution, and unlock the tools to turn setbacks into breakthroughs.
0:00 Intro
5:26 Reframing Setbacks As Stoic Challenges
15:05 Biggest Cost Of Setbacks
20:22 Choosing Humor Over Victimhood
25:32 Equanimity As Life's Ultimate Goal
30:12 The Five Second Rule For Anger
35:33 Closing Thoughts And Resources
Resources Mentioned:
📚"The Stoic Challenge" by William B. Irvine
🌐 William B. Irvine's website
About the Guest
William B. Irvine is a philosopher, author, and retired professor who brings ancient wisdom into modern life. After earning his PhD from UCLA, he spent nearly four decades teaching philosophy at Wright State University. Rather than writing for academics, William speaks to everyday thinkers, curious minds seeking practical ways to navigate life’s challenges. Known for his deep commitment to Stoicism, he doesn’t just study the philosophy, he lives it, helping others build resilience, gratitude, and a grounded sense of purpose.
What if burnout and lack of production isn't a discipline problem, but a happiness problem?
Learn why happiness is the cause of success–not the result–and how to rewire your brain for joy and achievement.
Uncover the power of asking "platinum questions" to deepen connections and transform your interactions at work and home.
Ready to stop feeling drained and start feeling powerful again? Join Matt and guest Jackie Insinger for this game-changing episode of Good Mood Revolution and unlock your path to sustainable happiness and success.
0:00 Intro
7:34 Emotional Intelligence in Parent-Child Communication
11:07 Positive Psychology: Moving Beyond Normal
16:50 Transforming Schools Through Positive Psychology
20:35 Practical Optimism vs Toxic Positivity
30:10 Sparking Brilliance Through Meaningful Conversations
32:23 Two Simple Ways to Improve Your Week
Resources Mentioned:
📚 “Spark Brilliance” by Jackie Insinger:
📚 “Spark Brilliance for Educators” by Jackie Insinger
About the Guest
Jackie Insinger is a bestselling author, leadership strategist, and keynote speaker who combines positive psychology, neuroscience, and data-driven insights to help leaders and teams thrive. With degrees from Duke and Harvard, and certifications from MIT, she founded Spark Brilliance to transform workplace culture and performance. Jackie’s Platinum Leadership framework empowers leaders to unlock their unique strengths and build authentic connections that boost happiness and success. She’s worked with top companies like Nestle and Accenture, and her book Spark Brilliance has become a national bestseller. Known for her relatable and actionable approach, Jackie inspires lasting change with humor and heart.
Do you ever feel drained, burned out, and unenthusiastic toward life? It could be that your bucket is empty. Join Matt O’Neill and Carol McCloud, the creator of the powerful "bucket filling" philosophy, as they reveal how to fill your bucket, and feel like your happiest self again.
Discover why small, intentional actions, like being kind to a stranger, can create a ripple effect of positivity in your day. Carol shares heartfelt stories, practical strategies, and easy to follow advice that you can start using today to boost happiness and foster a more compassionate world.
Don’t miss this inspiring episode of The Good Mood Revolution. Tune in and learn how becoming a bucket-filler can change everything.
0:00 Intro
5:51 How An Empty Bucket Affects our Behavior
11:51 Apologizing and Giving Yourself Grace as a Parent
17:40 Powerful Bucket-Filling Moments and Mentors
23:18 Practical Ways To Be an Intentional Bucket Filler
28:15 Morning Routines to Fill Your Own Bucket
32:21 Final Words of Wisdom on Being a Bucket Filler
About the Guest
Carol McCloud is an influential educator and author best known for creating the "Bucket Filling" concept, which promotes kindness and emotional well-being. With over 20 years of experience as a teacher, counselor, and early childhood educator, she has dedicated her career to teaching children and adults how simple acts of kindness can improve happiness and relationships. Her bestselling book, Have You Filled a Bucket Today?, uses an easy-to-understand metaphor to encourage positive behavior and emotional intelligence. Carol’s work combines practical lessons with heartfelt inspiration, empowering individuals and communities to foster compassion, resilience, and generosity in everyday life.
Resources Mentioned:
🌐 Bucket Fillers 101 - Carol McCloud's official website: https://bucketfillers101.com/
📚 “Have You Filled a Bucket Today?” by Carol McCloud
📚 “Bucket Filling from A to Z” by Carol McCloud
📚 “Growing Up with a Bucket Full of Happiness” by Carol McCloud
Are you chasing happiness in all the wrong places? Prepare to have your world turned upside down as happiness researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky shatters common myths about what truly brings joy. Discover why external goals like wealth, marriage, and career success often fall short, and learn powerful strategies to cultivate lasting happiness from within.
Join Matt and Sonja as they explore groundbreaking research on the science of happiness, including the surprising truth about cosmetic surgery, the power of micro-connections, and how to find fulfillment in any job. You'll walk away with practical tips to boost your mood instantly and a fresh perspective on what really matters for a joyful life.
Don't let another day slip by chasing elusive happiness. Tune in to this transformative episode and unlock the secrets to genuine well-being that have been within you all along!
0:00 Intro
5:52 The Surprising Truth About Cosmetic Surgery
10:42 Single vs. Married: Happiness Across Relationships
14:21 Finding Fulfillment in Your Career
20:57 Letting Go of Childhood Dreams
24:34 The Power of a 15-Minute Conversation
27:20 Practicing Gratitude in Daily Life
29:28 Closing Thoughts and Future Projects
About the Guest
Sonja Lyubomirsky is a leading researcher in the field of positive psychology, best known for her groundbreaking work on the science of happiness. As a professor at the University of California, Riverside, and the author of bestselling books like The How of Happiness, she has dedicated her career to understanding what truly makes people happy and how they can sustain it. Her research emphasizes the power of intentional activities, such as practicing gratitude and kindness, to significantly boost well-being. Sonja’s work bridges rigorous science and practical application, offering people evidence-based strategies to lead more fulfilling lives.
Resources Mentioned:
🌐 Sonja Lyobomirsky’s website: www.sonjalyubomirsky.com
📚 “The How of Happiness” by Sonja Lyubomirsky
📚 “The Myths of Happiness” by Sonja Lyubomirsky
📚 “So Good They Can't Ignore You” by Cal Newport
📚 “How to Feel Loved” upcoming book by Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reiss
Is the ability to stay calm and connected sexy in today's overstimulated world? Are you struggling to find your center in the chaos? Discover the ancient wisdom of Stoicism that's making a modern comeback.
Join host Matt O'Neill and special guest Sharon Lebell, bestselling author of "The Art of Living," as they explore how Stoicism can be your grounding light amidst the storm of life's challenges.
Uncover powerful Stoic principles like the dichotomy of control and the importance of virtue that can transform your outlook on life. From dealing with health crises to finding meaning in unexpected places, this episode offers practical wisdom for navigating life's ups and downs with grace and resilience.
Ready to revolutionize your approach to happiness and fulfillment? Tune in to discover how ancient Stoic teachings can help you master your mind, embrace your duties, and live a life of purpose in the 21st century.
0:00 Introduction
1:37 Origins of Sharon's interest in Stoicism
4:41 Ancient wisdom for modern happiness
7:22 Redefining Stoicism as a path to serenity
13:03 Applying the dichotomy of control in life
17:20 The moral lens of Stoicism
20:35 Duty and responsibility in relationships
24:12 Finding meaning through fulfilling duties
28:11 Answering life's quiet callings
30:50 Waking up from trance-like living
32:52 Committing to depth and kindness
34:44 Sharon's books and upcoming projects
About the Guest
Sharon Lebell is a pioneering figure in the modern Stoic revolution and one of the "founding mothers" of Stoicism. Her international bestseller, "The Art of Living," has sold hundreds of thousands of copies and has been a cornerstone of Stoic literature for over 25 years. With a background in philosophy and a passion for making ancient wisdom accessible to modern audiences, Sharon has dedicated her life to helping people apply Stoic principles to their daily lives.
Resources Mentioned:
📚 "The Art of Living" by Sharon Lebell
📚 "The Music of Silence" by Sharon Lebell
📚 "Naming Ourselves, Naming Our Children" by Sharon Lebell
What if the key to raising happier kids was actually the secret to becoming happier yourself?
Discover the ingredients of happiness with Nadim Saad, author of "The Happy, Confident Me" and founder of the Happy Confident Company. Learn how to foster better connections, manage emotions, and create a positive family dynamic that benefits both parents and children.
Join Matt and Nadim as they explore practical strategies for cultivating happiness, from understanding your feelings to reframing negative thoughts. Uncover the power of introspection, gratitude, and compassion in transforming your family's emotional landscape.
Whether you're a parent looking to raise confident children or an individual seeking personal growth, this episode will equip you to create a happier, more fulfilling life.
0:00 Introduction
5:42 Connection to self: The foundation of happiness
11:31 Reframing thoughts to change feelings
17:35 The power of feeling safe, loved, and valued
24:04 Embracing vulnerability and shared human experiences
28:23 Optimism and gratitude as happiness ingredients
32:10 Practical tools for cultivating happiness in families
35:06 Fostering emotional intelligence in parent-child relationships
36:31 Five key takeaways for a happier life
About the Guest
Nadim Saad is the author of "The Happy, Confident Me" and founder of the Happy Confident company. His work and tools are helping children learn the ingredients of happiness at schools worldwide. Nadim has spoken on raising happy, confident children at companies like Google and JP Morgan, and is dedicated to transforming family dynamics through positive parenting techniques and emotional intelligence education.
Resources Mentioned:
📚 "The Happy, Confident Me" by Nadim Saad
📚 Feel it Cards: https://www.happyconfident.com/shop/educational-games/
📚 Happy Confident Me Journal
🌐 Love and Logic parenting method: https://www.loveandlogic.com/
🌐 The Happy Confident Company: https://www.happyconfident.com
🌐 Happy Confident Club: https://lp.happyconfident.com/
What if your therapist is actually keeping you depressed?
Prepare to have your mind blown as Dr. David Burns, one of the godfathers of mental health, exposes the shocking truth about why traditional talk therapy often fails. Discover how to break free from treatments that don't work and take control of your happiness with powerful, scientifically-proven techniques.
Join us for a revolutionary conversation that challenges everything you thought you knew about therapy and mental health. Learn why positive thinking might be hurting you, how to overcome anxiety in record time, and the secret to transforming your mood in just hours.
Don't miss this game-changing episode that could be the key to unlocking your happiest life yet!
0:00 Introduction
5:54 Curing depression in just a few hours
12:29 Effectiveness of books and AI in treatment
16:06 The importance of empathy in therapy
21:15 A simple yet powerful tool for self-help
27:48 Personal experience with cognitive restructuring
31:36 Common mental distortions in different emotions
36:20 Key takeaways from Dr. Burns' insights
About the Guest
Dr. David Burns is a Stanford professor of psychiatry, best-selling author, and one of the most influential figures in the history of mental health. His groundbreaking books, including "Feeling Good" and "Feeling Great," have sold over 5 million copies worldwide. Dr. Burns has personally trained more than 50,000 therapists and pioneered innovative approaches to conquering depression and anxiety without medication.
Resources Mentioned:
📚"Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns
📚"Feeling Great" by Dr. David Burns
📚"Tools Not Schools of Therapy" by Dr. David Burns
🌐https://feelinggood.com
🌐https://feelinggreat.com
🌐Feeling Good podcast
Are you trying to be a superhero…and burning out in the process?
The truth is, self-sacrifice is NOT the key to being a good person. And it might actually be hurting everyone around you!
Dr. Chris Germer, a leading expert on self-compassion, joins Matt to expose the lie that giving everything makes you noble.
Learn practical strategies to break free from burnout, set healthy boundaries, and cultivate true compassion that starts with yourself. Whether you're a busy parent, caregiver, or anyone feeling stretched too thin, this episode offers transformative insights to help you thrive.
Tune in to revolutionize the way you care for others - and most importantly YOU!
0:00 Introduction
1:29 The lie of self-sacrifice hurts everyone
4:59 Balancing family responsibilities and self-care
8:18 Three components of self-compassion
13:43 Stress physiology and self-criticism
16:49 Recognizing early signs of burnout
22:52 Practical ways to start self-compassion
27:41 Simple daily practices for self-care
31:06 Letting go of superhuman expectations
33:49 Key takeaways and closing thoughts
Resources Mentioned:
📚Mindful Self-Compassion workbook by Dr. Chris Germer
📚Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout by Dr. Chris Germer
🌐Website: https://chrisgermer.org
🌐Center for Mindful Self Compassion: https://centerformsc.org
🌐Kristin Neff's website: https://self-compassion.org
About the Guest
Dr. Chris Germer is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. He is a pioneer in the integration of mindfulness and psychotherapy and co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program. Dr. Germer is the author of several books, including the bestselling "The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook," which has garnered over 4,000 five-star reviews on Amazon.
What if losing something you hold dear could actually lead you to a deeper sense of gratitude and self-acceptance?
Laura Bratton's journey from facing blindness as a teenager to finding joy and purpose offers profound insights into resilience and transformation. This episode will equip you with practical strategies to navigate life's inevitable challenges, emphasizing the power of gratitude, the importance of a supportive network, and the strength found in self-compassion.
Join us to explore how adversity can become a catalyst for growth and fulfillment.
0:00 Introduction
5:57 Denial and the struggle to accept change
12:11 The importance of a supportive network
16:24 Finding gratitude in unexpected places
22:03 Spiritual growth through adversity
25:40 A transformative experience as a hospital chaplain
31:32 Advice to her younger self
33:16 Guidance for those facing difficult struggles
35:26 The power of sharing stories of resilience
Resources Mentioned:
🌐Laura Bratton's website: https://laurabratton.com/
About the Guest
Laura Bratton is an inspirational speaker, author, and coach who lost her vision as a teenager. She now helps others navigate loss and change, finding purpose and joy even in life's most challenging circumstances. Laura's unique perspective as a former hospital chaplain and her personal journey with vision loss allow her to connect deeply with those facing adversity.
Are you chasing perfection…only to watch everything crumble?
Join Matt and bestselling author Katherine Center as they reveal the paradox that our greatest failures and darkest moments often become the catalysts for true happiness.
Katherine reveals her personal journey of studying happiness and how it has influenced her writing. From line dancing classes to pickleball adventures, explore how stepping out of your comfort zone can lead to unexpected moments of connection and growth.
Join us for practical wisdom about creating a "culture of appreciation" in relationships and why looking for small moments of joy—even on our worst days—can revolutionize our lives.
0:00 Introduction
1:27 Helen's journey from perfection to happiness
6:50 Finding wisdom through life's challenges
11:42 Stories as virtual reality for human experiences
15:37 Embracing vulnerability in social connections
19:28 How characters change: Plot as catalyst
23:24 Keys to living a happier life
27:42 Creating a culture of appreciation in relationships
31:29 The Bodyguard: Writing joy during dark times
Resources Mentioned:
📚 "Happiness for Beginners" by Katherine Center
📚 "The Bodyguard" by Katherine Center
🌐 John and Julie Gottman's relationship research: https://www.gottman.com/
About the Guest
Katherine Center is a New York Times bestselling author known for her heartwarming and transformative stories. Her novel "Happiness for Beginners" was adapted into a popular Netflix movie, and her book "The Bodyguard" has received widespread acclaim with over 29,000 five-star reviews on Amazon. Katherine's writing focuses on characters who find wisdom and growth through life's challenges, inspiring readers to embrace joy and resilience in their own lives.
What if everything therapists have told you about saving your marriage is completely backwards?
Join Matt and Dr. Bruce Chalmer as they challenge everything you thought you knew about relationships and take a deep dive into what it really takes to cultivate genuine intimacy, stability, and the kind of authentic connection that carries couples through life's most brutal storms.
You'll walk away with a deeper understanding of why communication might not be the real problem, how stability can sometimes work against you, and overcoming infidelity.
Dr. Chalmer's counterintuitive approach isn’t what you’ll find in typical relationship advice books. Whether you're navigating serious betrayal or simply feeling disconnected, this conversation offers the kind of revolutionary perspective that can transform your relationship pain into power.
0:00 Introduction
5:42 Forgiveness as an inside job
11:15 Communication isn't the core issue
16:19 Kindness, faith, and not panicking
21:47 The importance of kindness in relationships
27:15 Why great sex lives are uncommon
31:42 Betrayal can lead to relationship growth
33:53 First steps after discovering betrayal
36:50 Key takeaways on marriage and relationships
Resources Mentioned:
📚Dr. Bruce Chalmer's books:
"Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Couples Lose Intimacy and How to Get It Back"
"It's Not About Communication: Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy Is Wrong"
🌐Dr. Bruce Chalmer's website:
https://brucechalmer.com
"Couples Therapy in Seven Words" podcast by Dr. Bruce Chalmer and Judy Alexander:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/couples-therapy-in-seven-words/id1517231158
About the Guest:
Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist and couples therapist with over 30 years of experience helping couples navigate the complexities of relationships. He is the author of multiple books challenging conventional wisdom about marriage and therapy, including "It's Not About Communication: Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy Is Wrong." Dr. Chalmer co-hosts the "Couples Therapy in Seven Words" podcast and offers coaching services to help couples reignite intimacy and overcome challenges in their relationships.
Resilience isn’t something you’re born with — it’s forged in fire. And while we don’t get to choose the life events that test us, we can choose how we rise from them. The truth is, life will hand you hardships. The real power comes from learning how to use those moments to grow stronger, wiser, and more unstoppable.
In this inspiring episode, Caraline Hickman opens up about her journey from childhood neglect to building a successful life — only to have it shattered in an instant by a devastating hit-and-run. What happened next is nothing short of remarkable.
Join Matt and Caraline as they dive deep into what it really takes to cultivate resilience, grit, and the kind of inner strength that carries you through life’s most brutal storms. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how to face your own challenges with courage — and turn your pain into power.
0:00 Introduction
1:52 Resilience: A learned skill, not innate
6:26 Childhood trauma and its lasting impact
9:08 Chasing success to feel worthy of love
15:30 Life-altering accident on a perfect day
21:19 Finding strength through losing everything
27:56 Discovering inner resilience after trauma
31:18 The importance of sharing our burdens
34:50 Turning hardship into a beautiful adventure
Resources Mentioned:
https://caralinesadventure.com/
Instagram: @Caralinesadventure
https://www.instagram.com/caralinesadventure
Caraline's Adventure podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/caralines-adventure-incredible-true-stories-of/id1737493735
📚 "Always Looking Up" by Michael J. Fox
About the Guest
Caraline Hickman is the host of Caraline's Adventure podcast and a resilience expert who has overcome childhood neglect, abuse, and a life-altering accident. Through her journey, she's discovered the power of perseverance and the importance of sharing one's story to inspire others. Caraline's mission is to help people find the gifts hidden within their greatest challenges and live life as an extraordinary adventure.
Warning: This episode could transform your entire life… because the quality of your life is simply a reflection of the stories you tell yourself.
Discover the 10 stories we tell ourselves that hold us back, and how to overcome them. These stories were implanted in childhood and have caused us much self-inflicted misery. Today you will learn to break free from these destructive thought patterns and rewrite your stories.
Join Matt O'Neill and Marianne Renner as they explore these 10 stories and reveal how small daily habits of acceptance can lead to profound personal growth.
Are you ready to join the Good Mood Revolution and rewrite your story?
0:00 Introduction
5:00 Childhood trauma and its lasting impact
10:14 The moment everything changed
15:29 Accepting reality while pursuing growth
20:00 Overcoming the "not good enough" story
25:36 Reframing negative situations positively
31:35 The power of consistent practice and resources for further learning and growth
Resources Mentioned:
📚 "10 Stories You Tell Yourself That Hold You Back and How to Overcome Them" by Marianne Renner
Marianne Renner's website: mariannerenner.com
Free chapters and workbook available at mariannerenner.com/selftalk
The work of Byron Katie at https://thework.com/
Transform your self-perception and embrace your inner champion with Cam F. Awesome's incredible journey from bullied kid to 12-time national boxing champion!
Discover how the power of positive self-talk and rewriting your personal narrative can redefine your reality. Cam shares his transformative strategies for building unshakeable confidence, including his unique approach to humility and the life-changing decision to legally change his last name to "Awesome."
Ready to break free from self-doubt and embrace YOUR awesome? Don’t miss this inspiring conversation that will challenge you to step into your full potential and keep negative self-talk down for the count!
0:00 Introduction
5:27 Transforming fear into boxing success
12:25 The power of positive self-talk
19:10 Owning your greatness and confidence
24:45 Levels of consciousness and authentic confidence
29:50 Finding joy beyond outcomes
33:17 Strategies for maintaining happiness
What if the secret to unshakable happiness lies in the wisdom of a 22-year-old facing death?
Discover this young man’s profound daily mantra. His dying words will transform your life forever.
Chris Cochran shares the extraordinary story of his son Christian, who chose to live with more joy, love, and presence in his last year on earth, than most of us will in a full lifetime.
But it’s not too late… The wisdom in this episode will change you.
0:00 Introduction
1:38 Christian's extraordinary life and cancer diagnosis
4:41 Breaking the news to family
8:26 Finding faith through humility and surrender
11:32 The illusion of control in life
15:58 Coping with the loss of a child
18:44 Christian's "to love list” approach to life
22:36 Christian's only regret
25:29 Finding hope and goodness in every day
29:54 Seeing beauty even in life's darkest moments
32:03 Christian's legacy and foundation
Warning: This episode will challenge everything you thought you knew about success and happiness.
John Lee Dumas, CEO and host of the Entrepreneurs on Fire podcast, pulls back the curtain on why so many high achievers stay miserable and how you can design a life that actually makes you happy.
Discover the biggest mindset shift that will change everything for you, starting today. Because happiness isn't just a feeling, it's a skill.
0:00 Introduction
05:50 Happiness as a skill
08:20 Surrounding yourself with the right people
15:01 Three keys to happiness for entrepreneurs
19:16 Becoming relevant by solving real problems
Resources Mentioned:
Entrepreneurs on Fire podcast
The Common Path to Uncommon Success by John Lee Dumas
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching
About the Guest
John Lee Dumas is the founder and host of the award-winning podcast, Entrepreneurs on Fire. With over 150 million downloads and 3000+ episodes, John has built a media empire interviewing the world's most successful entrepreneurs. He is also the author of The Common Path to Uncommon Success and a sought-after speaker on entrepreneurship and podcast success.
Warning: The habit slowly killing you might be hiding in plain sight. Heart disease, cancer, and diabetes are on the rise, but there's hope.
Harvard Medical School's Dr. Jeffrey Rediger reveals three powerful strategies to counteract this deadly trend and unlock your healthiest, happiest life.
Discover how spontaneous remissions from terminal illnesses hold the key to vibrant well-being. Learn why today's "miracles" could become tomorrow's normal, and explore the surprising connections between love, nutrition, and healing.
Ready to revolutionize your health and happiness? This episode is your roadmap to transformation.
0:00 Introduction
2:50 The most extraordinary healing story
10:59 The power of nutrition and emotional healing
17:54 Modern stressors and the need for connection
20:54 Activating the parasympathetic nervous system
24:21 Meditation's role in healing self-criticism
29:13 The surprising impact of healing one's identity
34:36 How to flourish
Resources Mentioned:
Book: "Cured" by Dr. Jeffrey Rediger
The Sophia Institute:
“CURED: The Four Pillars of Healing and Well-Being”
Wednesdays, March 12, 19, 2025
6:00 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. ET
Website: drjeffreyrediger.com
There is a crisis destroying your happiness… too much comfort. Discover why embracing discomfort is key to unlocking your happiness and potential. Join host Matt O'Neill and special guest Joe Wechsler as they explore the "comfort crisis" plaguing modern society and reveal how intentionally seeking out challenging experiences can transform your life.
From adventure races to cold showers, learn practical strategies to embrace discomfort and reclaim self satisfaction. You may just find that manufacturing struggle will help you reap the rewards of a happier life. Uncover the surprising benefits of boredom, and discover why comfort might actually be your biggest enemy on the path to fulfillment.
00:00 Introduction
1:30 Joe's 48 hour race
6:58 The Comfort Crisis
15:40 Joe's Olympic dream
18:40 The power of boredom
24:56 Social media matrix
27:44 Misogi
34:15 Transformation from discomfort
Resources Mentioned:
The Comfort Crisis by Michael Easter
The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching
About the Guest
Joe Wechsler is an adventure enthusiast and former member of the USA skeleton team. With a passion for pushing his limits, Joe has participated in grueling multi-day adventure races, traveled to over 40 countries, and continues to seek out challenging experiences that test his physical and mental endurance.
Over two thirds of adults experienced some form of trauma by the age of 16, but childhood trauma doesn't have to dictate your future. Ryan Cass teaches us how he used his trauma to create a winning mindset. At just six years old, Ryan faced a life-altering moment. He could have crumbled from that moment, but he used it to rise up and become more.
Host Matt O'Neill delves into Ryan's journey from a challenging childhood to becoming a beacon of positivity and success. Learn how Ryan's "Unshakeable Discipline" philosophy can help you extract good from adversity and create a vision for your life. This episode is filled with practical strategies to help you build habits that fuel your goals and dreams.
Ready to transform your pain into purpose? Tune in for an inspiring conversation that will challenge you to take charge of your story.
Resources Mentioned:
Win Today podcast with Ryan Cass
Unshakeable Discipline Mastermind group
The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching
About the Guest
Ryan Cass is the host of the Win Today podcast and leader of the Unshakeable Discipline Mastermind group. Drawing from his own experiences overcoming childhood trauma, Ryan empowers individuals to live life by design and win every day.
What if your worst failure came true? Perhaps you would tumble into a dark depression. And how would you climb out?
Zach White's journey from the rock bottom of his worst failure to happiness coach reveals the transformative power of choosing our own emotions in the face of adversity.
Discover how crushing comfort and living on purpose can lead to authentic happiness and deeper connections in every aspect of your life.
0:00 Introduction
5:34 Hitting rock bottom and the power of honesty
11:19 The importance of humility in relationships
15:54 Crushing comfort and creating courage
26:38 Transforming your body through discomfort
35:49 Loving yourself through life's challenges
38:23 Connecting with Zach and career growth opportunities
Resources Mentioned:
The Happy Engineer Podcast
Lifestyle Engineering coaching program
Text "lifestyle" to 55444 for a free career growth audit
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching/
About the Guest
Zach White is a former mechanical engineer turned happiness coach and lifestyle engineering expert. After experiencing burnout and divorce, Zach discovered the keys to authentic happiness and now helps engineering and technology leaders create fulfilling careers and lives. He is the host of The Happy Engineer podcast and founder of a coaching program that empowers professionals to crush comfort and live on purpose.
Unlock the secrets of your inner wisdom and tap into the power of your chakras!
Join host Matt O'Neill and chakra expert Rosanne Nieboer as they explore how to access your body's energy centers for greater happiness, intuition, and self-awareness. Discover practical techniques to balance your chakras, overcome emotional blocks, and connect with your higher self.
From grounding yourself in the root chakra to opening your crown chakra for spiritual connection, this enlightening conversation offers transformative insights for anyone seeking to harness their inner potential.
Learn how to listen to your body's wisdom, cultivate gratitude, and find peace amidst life's chaos.
0:00 Introduction
3:29 Chakras as foundation for self-development
9:43 Unblocking the sacral chakra
15:34 Empowering the solar plexus chakra
18:45 The heart chakra and power of gratitude
24:21 Throat chakra and authentic communication
34:17 Third eye chakra and intuition
44:59 Crown chakra connects us to the universe
Resources Mentioned:
Roseanne’s website:www.chakra-way.com
The Chakra Way Meditation Podcast
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more athttps://mattoneill.com/coaching/
About the Guest
Rosanne Nieboer is the founder of The Chakra Way and a renowned expert on chakras, yoga, and meditation. With her extensive knowledge and soothing voice, Rosanne guides individuals through transformative chakra journeys, helping them unlock their inner wisdom and achieve greater balance in life.
We all want to love what we do, but is there really a “dream job” out there that guarantees our career happiness? Experts tell us to “follow our passion”—but what does that even mean? And is it really the key to career fulfillment?
In this episode, Matt O’Neill reveals the truth about career happiness and why passion alone won’t get you there. Instead of chasing an elusive dream job, you’ll discover a revolutionary approach to finding deep satisfaction in your work.
Matt shares his personal journey from post-college uncertainty to building a fulfilling career, offering practical strategies for developing rare and valuable skills that create lasting happiness. You’ll also learn the four key components that make a job truly wonderful—and how to cultivate them in your current role or future opportunities.
If you’re ready to transform your professional life and finally feel happy at work, this episode is for you!
0:00 Introduction
5:06 Selling recycled ink
10:12 The four components of workplace happiness
15:47 Developing rare and valuable skills
21:56 Finding purpose in real estate
27:33 The journey to becoming a great CEO
33:09 Seeking autonomy and control in your career
38:15 Embracing the challenge of meaningful work
Resources Mentioned:
“So Good They Can't Ignore You" by Cal Newport
"Outliers" by Malcolm Gladwell
"Mastering the Rockefeller Habits" by Verne Harnish
"Traction" by Gino Wickman
"Purple Cow" by Seth Godin
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching/
What’s the secret to happiness? If you could get a score that would tell you how happy (or how miserable) you really are, would you want to know it, or stay oblivious.
Here’s the thing: What you can measure, you can improve.
Leighton Campbell, created a free happiness test called "Your Happiness Equation." He has broken down happiness to seven key components. Join host Matt O'Neill as he and Leighton explore this groundbreaking approach to quantifying and improving your happiness.
Whether you're struggling to find joy some days or simply looking to boost your overall life satisfaction, this episode offers invaluable insights and actionable steps to elevate your happiness. Don't miss Matt's personal happiness score reveal at the end!
0:00 Introduction
2:00 Overcoming divorce through positive mindset
6:34 Basic needs: Foundation for happiness
8:17 Community's role in personal fulfillment
12:24 Bringing value to your communities
18:37 Cultivating gratitude as a powerful practice
24:01 Resilience in the face of unexpected situations
29:06 Purpose as a driving force for happiness
34:51 Combating isolation in modern times
Resources Mentioned:
Your Happiness Equation by Leighton Campbell
Website: yourhappinesseq.com
Instagram: @yourhappinesseq
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching/
About the Guest
Leighton Campbell is the author of "Your Happiness Equation" and a passionate advocate for personal growth and well-being. Drawing from his own life experiences, including divorce and fatherhood, Leighton has developed a unique approach to quantifying and improving happiness. His work combines practical strategies with deep insights, helping people find purpose and joy in their everyday lives.
Ever wondered why bad things happen to good people? Prepare to have your perspective transformed as we uncover the hidden reasons behind life's challenges. Join host Matt O'Neill and guest Brownell Landrum as they explore the five surprising reasons bad things happen and how understanding them can lead to profound personal growth and happiness.
Discover how to reframe adversity, tap into your body's wisdom, and find the silver lining in even the darkest moments. This eye-opening conversation will leave you with a renewed sense of purpose and the tools to navigate life's toughest obstacles with grace and resilience.
0:00 Introduction
5:57 Facing failure and existential crisis
11:09 The five reasons bad things happen
18:40 Subconscious sabotage: The body's wisdom
21:51 Karma and lessons: Life's teaching tools
29:52 Embracing change and divine guidance
34:57 Connecting with Brownell's work
Resources Mentioned:
"Five Reasons Why Bad Things Happen" by Brownell Landrum
"The End: A Love Story to the Universe" by Brownell Landrum (free download)
"We Meet Again" novel series by Brownell Landrum
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching/
About the Guest
Brownell Landrum is an accomplished author of over a dozen books and more than two dozen movie scripts. Her work focuses on helping people understand the deeper meaning behind life's challenges and how to find purpose in adversity. As the author of "Five Reasons Why Bad Things Happen," Brownell offers a unique perspective on turning life's obstacles into opportunities for growth and transformation.
Death doesn't wait for an invitation. It doesn't call ahead to see if it's okay. It just shows up, and there's nothing you can do. No amount of fitness will keep it from you. These are the profound insights Jeff Luther gained after dying for eight minutes in front of his 16-year-old son. In this gripping conversation with Matt O'Neill, Jeff shares his journey from the depths of fear and despair to finding gratitude in life's smallest victories.
Discover how Jeff's near-actual-death experience transformed his perspective on parenting, compassion, and seizing life's opportunities. Learn the five big takeaways he gained from dying and how you can apply these lessons to live a more fulfilling life without facing death yourself. This episode will challenge you to examine your own beliefs about mortality, success, and what truly matters in life.
Resources Mentioned:
www.instagram.com/jdluther2.0/
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching/
About the Guest
Jeff Luther is a survivor of sudden cardiac death who has turned his harrowing experience into a mission to inspire others. As a father, athlete, and motivational speaker, Jeff shares his journey of overcoming fear, rediscovering gratitude, and embracing life's second chances. His story serves as a powerful reminder of the fragility of life and the importance of living each day to its fullest.
Fear: the one thing holding each of us back from our most incredible life. You might think you're living fearlessly, but that’s only because fear can hide in sneaky ways from your view. In this eye-opening episode, world-renowned fear expert Rhonda Britten reveals how fear manifests in unexpected ways, from procrastination to perfectionism. Discover the life-changing "Wheel of Fear" concept and learn practical strategies to conquer your fears and unlock your true potential.
Prepare to be inspired as Rhonda shares her powerful personal story of overcoming tragedy and transforming her pain into purpose. Plus, find out why getting rid of fear isn't the answer – and what you should do instead to master this primal emotion. Don't let fear keep you from living your most authentic, fulfilling life any longer!
0:00 Introduction
1:54 Overcoming fear with Rhonda Britten
5:09 Witnessing tragedy and its aftermath
13:23 Understanding the Wheel of Fear
21:45 Facing fears in writing a book
32:09 Practicing self-compassion and awareness
34:48 Resources for living fearlessly
Resources Mentioned:
Fearless Living by Rhonda Britten
"Stretchers Can Die" video course
Fearless Living website
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching/
About the Guest
Rhonda Britten is a world-renowned fear expert, Emmy award-winning life coach, and bestselling author. As the first life coach on television, she appeared in over 600 episodes of reality TV, including NBC's "Starting Over." Rhonda is a repeat guest on Oprah and has written four bestselling books, including "Fearless Living." Her powerful personal story of overcoming tragedy and transforming her life has inspired countless individuals to conquer their fears and live authentically.
Are you ready to manifest your dream life in 2025?
Discover the secrets to turning your deepest desires into reality with Matt O'Neill's powerful manifestation process. Learn why your thoughts and feelings are the key to shaping your destiny, and how to harness the universal law of attraction to create the life you've always wanted.
Resources Mentioned:
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
How Life Works by Andrew Matthews
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching/
Are you ready to unlock the power of Divine guidance in your everyday life? Discover how to tap into your spiritual connection and receive answers to life's most pressing questions with bestselling author Sherianna Boyle. In this enlightening conversation, Sherianna reveals the transformative process of emotional cleansing and how it opens the door to higher consciousness.
Learn practical strategies for processing your emotions, connecting to light, and receiving clear spiritual guidance. Whether you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply curious about deepening your spiritual practice, this episode offers a roadmap to accessing your inner wisdom and living a more purposeful life.
0:00 Introduction
5:06 The power of asking Spirit for guidance
11:14 Trusting the process of spiritual connection
17:53 Embracing all emotions as energy
26:19 Communicating beyond words
35:02 Listening to Spirit through life's challenges
42:05 Connecting with Sherianna Boyle
Resources Mentioned:
Just Ask Spirit by Sherianna Boyle
The Emotional Detox system (CLEANSE)
Julia Cameron's book, The Artist's Way
Keith Cunningham’s book, The Road Less Stupid
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About the Guest
Sherianna Boyle is a bestselling author, emotional detox coach, and spiritual guide. With 11 books to her name, including her latest "Just Ask Spirit," Sherianna has dedicated her life to helping people process their emotions and connect with their higher selves. She is also the host of the "Just Ask Spirit" podcast and conducts transformative retreats that blend spiritual practices with emotional healing.
Bouncing back from life's unexpected challenges is not just possible—it's a skill you can master. Join Matt O'Neill as he sits down with Andrew Matthews, the best-selling author of "Being Happy" and "Bouncing Back," to uncover the secrets to finding happiness even when life doesn't go as planned. With over 8 million copies sold, Andrew's books have transformed lives worldwide by simplifying complex ideas into actionable strategies.
Discover how to stop complaining, reframe disasters, and embrace resilience with practical insights that can change your perspective and your life.
0:00 Introduction
2:02 The power of simplicity in happiness
5:52 Reframing life's unexpected challenges
9:55 The impact of perspective on resilience
11:30 Embracing gratitude in modern times
13:57 Managing media consumption for well-being
20:49 Building resilience through acceptance
24:19 The healing process of grieving
29:30 Experiencing life fully through emotions
32:43 Simple acts of kindness for happiness
35:37 Connecting with Andrew Matthews and his work
Resources Mentioned:
Andrew Matthews' website
Andrew Matthews' books
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About the Guest
Andrew Matthews is an acclaimed Australian author and speaker known for his ability to distill complex concepts into simple, engaging messages. His books, including "Being Happy" and "Bouncing Back," have been translated into 48 languages and have sold millions of copies worldwide. As a cartoonist, Andrew brings a unique and entertaining approach to personal development, making his work accessible and enjoyable for readers of all ages.
In this insightful conversation, bestselling author Marianne Williamson shares profound wisdom from her latest book, "The Mystic Jesus." Discover how to cultivate a "mind of love" and find Jesus not as a distant savior, but as a companion on the journey to inner peace. Marianne's teachings on prayer, forgiveness, and seeing the divine in one another will inspire you to transform your life and relationships. Don't miss this opportunity to learn from one of the most influential spiritual voices of our time.
[00:00] Introduction
[02:22] Finding a connection to God
[06:22] Healing of the mind and cultivating the mind of love
[09:44] The power of prayer in healing your hurts
[13:42] How our hurts can serve as our GPS
[18:05] Understanding betrayal
[20:27] How suffering opens you up to greater love
[23:17] How God lifts you to a level of love
[27:13] Why we need to bless people before we see them
[33:58] Seeing everyone through Jesus’ eyes
[35:52] Asking God for help about everything in your life
[38:39] Making decisions with God’s help
Resources Mentioned:
A Return to Love
The Mystic Jesus
Marianne.com
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About the Guest
Marianne Williamson is a bestselling author, spiritual teacher, and lecturer. She has written numerous books, including the iconic "A Return to Love," which served as the basis for Oprah Winfrey's popular Book Club.
What if you could overcome every ounce of self-doubt and step into the most confident, most amazing, most successful version of yourself?
Join host Matt O'Neill as he sits down with top confidence expert Trish Blackwell to explore how you can raise your level of confidence and courage to achieve your biggest goals. Trish shares practical strategies and personal insights to help you become the person worthy of your dreams.
[00:00] Introduction
[02:14] Defining confidence and its importance
[04:02] How to remain confident despite setbacks
[08:03] Practical strategies for building confidence
[16:44] The power of journaling and affirmations
[22:49] Strategies for effective journaling
[28:25] A message to her younger self
[29:55] How to dominate without focusing on the competition
[33:53] Tips for achieving the kind of success you want
[37:42] Believing that impossible goals happen
Resources Mentioned:
College of Confidence
www.trishblackwell.com
Instagram: @trish_blackwell
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About the Guest
Trish Blackwell is a top confidence coach and CEO of the College of Confidence, with over 7 million podcast downloads. As a leading expert in helping high-achievers, Olympic athletes, and CEOs overcome self-doubt and reach their full potential, Trish empowers individuals to build unshakable confidence and create lasting change.
All of us are facing life in prison… a prison made by our own minds. It’s time to escape and find true freedom. In this episode, Matt O'Neill talks with Arian Mateo about his ground-breaking book “Mind Made Prison” and explores strategies for breaking free.
Whether you're looking to overcome persistent negative thought patterns, deepen your self-awareness, or simply experience more joy and fulfillment in your daily life, Arian's approach is both grounded in psychology and infused with spiritual depth. He offers a refreshing perspective on personal growth that emphasizes changing the belief patterns that rule your life.
[00:00] Introduction
[01:19] Understanding the mind-made prison
[03:53] Identifying and addressing blind spots
[11:52] The awareness method and following the heart
[19:58] Practical tools for emotional awareness
[26:31] Cultivating self-love and compassion
[32:28] Reclaiming love in a mind-made prison
Resources Mentioned:
www.awarenessmethod.org
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About the Guest
Arian Mateo is an author and speaker known for his insights on personal growth and spiritual development. His books, including "The Mind-Made Prison" and "The Heart Knows: The Art of Living as Love," have resonated with thousands of readers seeking to overcome limiting beliefs and cultivate more self-love.
Warning: If you implement the advice in this episode, it could change your life. Happiness will forever be out of reach unless you find the thing stopping you from having it: YOUR BELIEFS. Listen as Matt walks through his 5-step process of replacing limiting beliefs and reprogramming your mind for happiness and success.
Imagine the possibilities when you take control of your beliefs and unleash your true potential… Don't let another day go by with your dreams stifled by negative thought patterns when you can take hold of these 5 life-changing steps!
[00:00] Introduction
[03:24] The illusion of reality and beliefs
[11:04] Knowing your value and worth
[16:18] Practical steps to reprogram beliefs
[21:11] The power of positive affirmations
[29:02] How to reprogram negative beliefs
[36:06] The secondary benefit of sabotage
[38:10] What makes us joyful
Resources Mentioned:
Ready to live a life of Conscious Happiness? Get the book: Good Mood Revolution: Igniting the Power of Conscious Happiness at https://a.co/d/2pgzwpU
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Is the honeymoon phase really as good as it gets? In this second episode with Mat and Ash, we discover that the answer is a resounding no! If you’re committed to growing together, you can reach new heights of relationship bliss as the years progress.
Join us for part two of this inspiring conversation, where Mat and Ash reveal seven powerful themes that can transform your relationships, from accountability to lasting happiness.
[00:00] Introduction: The honeymoon phase and beyond
[02:07] Awareness and humility in relationships
[07:32] The power of accountability and integrity
[11:15] The role of inner work in relationships
[16:44] The journey to ease and inspiration
[24:55] The role of acceptance and grace in relationships
[28:01] The ripening into universal love
[34:03] The path to inner freedom and happiness
Resources Mentioned:
The Inner Work of Relationshipsby Mathew Micheletti and Ashley Cottrell
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About the Guest
Matt and Ash are the renowned relationship experts and authors of the best-selling book The Inner Work of Relationships. As the "yoga couple," they have dedicated their lives to helping individuals and couples deepen their self-awareness and cultivate more loving, harmonious partnerships.
Are you tired of relationship struggles - the anger, the hurt, the constant walking on eggshells? It's time to break free and discover the secret to creating the loving, fulfilling relationship you deserve.
In this episode, Matt O’Neill sits down with relationship gurus Mathew Micheletti and Ashley Cottrell, as they reveal the misconceptions in relationships that could be holding couples back. They also share the transformative inner work that needs to be done to unlock a whole new level of connection, intimacy, and bliss.
[00:00] Introduction
[02:58] Misconceptions about relationships
[07:29] Conscious awareness is key to improving relationships
[09:40] Uncovering blind spots and embracing feedback
[13:24] Relationships require intentional effort
[17:46] Identifying and addressing underlying triggers for growth
[21:31] The universal desire to feel love and joy in life
[25:28] Addressing the themes of consciousness couples struggle with
[32:56] How suppressed anger can manifest physically
Resources Mentioned:
The Inner Work of Relationshipsby Mathew Micheletti and Ashley Cottrell
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What is your Good Mood Superpower? Take the Good Mood Assessment to learn your positive strengths here: https://mattoneill.com/good-mood-assessment/
Ready to elevate your happiness? Consider how 1on1 Happiness Coaching with Matt O’Neill could change your outlook on life. Learn more at https://mattoneill.com/coaching/
About the Guests
Matt and Ash are the renowned relationship experts and authors of the best-selling book "The Inner Work of Relationships." As the "yoga couple," they have dedicated their lives to helping individuals and couples deepen their self-awareness and cultivate more loving, harmonious partnerships.
Imagine if every year of your life got better and better—more success, more happiness, more fulfillment. Sounds impossible, right? Not according to The 7 Laws of Lifetime Growth, a revolutionary book by Dan Sullivan.
In this episode, Matt uncovers the secret formula for sustained, unstoppable growth, no matter your starting point or current circumstances. Whether you’re feeling stuck or just ready for more, these laws will help you expand your potential far beyond what you thought was possible.
[00:00] Growth and happiness
[06:02] Make the future bigger than your past
[10:02] Make learning greater than your experience
[12:44] Make your performance greater than your applause
[15:21] Prioritize gratitude over success
[19:30] Make your enjoyment greater than your effort
[24:03] Focus on confidence, not comfort
[26:46] Make your questions greater than your answers
Resources Mentioned:
The Laws of Lifetime Growthby Dan Sullivan and Catherine Nomura
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Ever feel like your happiness is at the mercy of those around you? It can be hard to feel good when you are in close proximity to someone who is choosing misery as their experience. Whether that person is at home, in your workplace, or a close friend or relative, we must learn to master our happiness in the presence of those who are not happy.
Join host Matt O'Neill and special guest Rev. Rachel Harrison as they explore practical strategies for maintaining your happiness and well-being when you are near someone who is choosing negativity. Discover how to protect your energy, set healthy boundaries, and find fulfillment on your own terms.
[00:00] Introduction
[03:34] Rachel's journey and soul recovery
[10:01] The secret to finding personal happiness
[13:52] What detachment actually means
[20:56] Giving full effort and letting go of the outcome
[27:15] Awareness anchors spiritual transformation
[32:33] Every emotion has utility
Resources Mentioned:
Recover Your Soul podcast
The Inner Work of Relationships
The Four Agreements
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About the Guest
Reverend Rachel Harrison is a spiritual teacher and coach who specializes in helping people find joy and fulfillment through the principles of "soul recovery." As the host of the popular "Recover Your Soul" podcast, she shares practical wisdom and insights on detachment, emotional well-being, and cultivating a deeper connection with oneself.
Forgiveness is selfish. You do it for you. You do it because you're the prisoner and you want to be free. But it doesn't mean they were right. Let’s be real—when we hold a grudge, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer. They’re probably out there living their best life, while we’re stuck in the past. In this powerful episode, Matt O'Neill sits down with forgiveness expert Katharine Giovanni discuss the path to freedom.
Katharine teaches us the "Forgiveness Matrix.” This systematic approach to letting go of past hurts enables us to move forward in our life in the happiest way possible. Listen now to start living lighter, happier, and truly liberated.
[00:00] Matt’s story about forgiveness
[05:12] Why we should forgive
[09:18] Practical steps to forgiveness
[16:10] A forgiveness exercise
[20:07] The role of joy and happiness in forgiveness
[24:06] Strategies for forgiving the unforgivable
[28:58] The Forgiveness Matrix
[33:12] The power of forgiving even dead people
Resources Mentioned:
www.katharinegiovanni.com
The Ultimate Path to Forgiveness
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Matt O’Neill takes us to the teachings of Adyashanti and provides a practical approach to overcoming suffering and finding happiness.
Learn how to dismantle the illusions of the ego, embrace the oneness of all things, and find the fearlessness that comes with spiritual awakening. Matt shares personal experiences and insights on embracing reality, finding freedom from suffering, and the fearlessness that comes with the realization of spiritual oneness.
[00:00] Introduction to Adyashanti's book on enlightenment
[01:50] Understanding oneness and awakening
[03:31] The role of ego and mental constructs
[05:26] Identifying and dismantling illusions
[10:25] Childhood beliefs and their impact
[13:31] The work of Byron Katie and mental freedom
[15:02] Embracing reality and finding peace
[17:47] The fearlessness of oneness
[20:18] Truth, love, and grace
Resources Mentioned:
The End of Your World by Adyashanti
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Discover how to overcome adversity and embrace your uniqueness from professional speaker Chris Welton. Chris shares his personal journey of childhood trauma, overcoming having a limb difference, and how he went from hiding his differences to celebrating them.
Learn Chris's daily routine for starting your day undefeated - using gratitude, mediation, and exercise. Hear how he manifested finding his ideal partner by bettering himself mentally and physically. Chris also provides tips for maintaining a positive mindset when challenges arise and advice on attracting your ideal relationships and circumstances.
So, listen in and leave feeling motivated to own your confidence and live an unstoppable life.
[03:49] Embracing Uniqueness[10:00] Starting the Day Undefeated[19:47] How to Attract Your Ideal Relationship [24:37] Shifting Your Mindset When Challenges Arise
Resources Mentioned:
Listen to our episode with Steve Gill
NubAbility
Lucky Fin Project
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About the Guest
Chris Welton is a professional speaker, life coach, and bestselling author. He is also a survivor of childhood trauma and infant loss who overcame adversity to help others find strength and inner confidence.
We all have money-mindset complexes we can clean up and improve. Money mindset issues programmed in childhood can hold us back from achieving the financial freedom and fulfillment we deserve.
In this episode, Matt O’Neill is speaking with money mindset expert Pericles Rellas about how to overcome ingrained money blocks. You will learn to cultivate a healthier, more empowering relationship with your finances. You will also find abundance everywhere you look. The best time to reclaim your right to wealth is right now.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The negative money mindsets that hold us back
- A powerful “money exercise” to uncover your limiting beliefs about wealth
- The relationship between happiness and money
- Expanding your capacity around money and happiness
[03:05] The Negative Money Mindsets that Hold Us Back
Whether it's the belief that money is the root of all evil, that wealthy people have cheated to get their money, or that you can't be rich and have a fulfilling personal life, these deep-seated attitudes create a scarcity mindset that sabotages our ability to attract and manage wealth. Unpacking and letting go of these ingrained money blocks is crucial for cultivating a healthy, empowering relationship with finances and unlocking our full potential for prosperity.
[07:11] The Powerful 'Money Exercise' to Uncover Your Limiting Beliefs About Wealth
The "money exercise" involves regularly interacting with physical cash - bills and coins - to gain deeper insight into your relationship with money. By taking time each day to handle, count, and reflect on your thoughts and emotions around the cash, you can uncover the subtle, subconscious beliefs you hold about wealth that may be limiting your financial growth. This simple practice helps you identify and release any negative associations or fears holding you back and replace them with generative affirmations.
[12:33] The Relationship Between Happiness and Money
While money alone cannot buy happiness, achieving financial security and stability can significantly reduce stress and provide the peace of mind needed to focus on the things that truly fulfill us. The key is finding happiness from within, rather than chasing wealth as the path to joy. When we master this balance, the abundance that flows into our lives becomes a joyful complement to our overall wellbeing, not a prerequisite for it.
Resources Mentioned:
https://www.periclesrellas.com/
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About the Guest
Pericles Rellas is a renowned money mindset expert who helps individuals break free from negative beliefs and attitudes about wealth to unlock their full financial potential. With his transformative strategies, Pericles empowers people to cultivate a healthy, empowering relationship with money.
Have you ever felt trapped by the endless cycle of self-criticism and the need to be a perfectionist? In this episode, Matt O’Neill dives deep into the profound impact of the wounds of judgment and guilt – and uncovers transformative strategies for overcoming these destructive thought patterns.
Discover the importance of self-acceptance, the role of natural consequences in learning, and the freedom that would come from creating a judgment-free environment for growth and authentic expression. Break free from the shackles of perfectionism and cultivate a life of true happiness.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Embrace imperfection as an essential part of the human experience.
- Utilize the power of natural consequences as a teacher, rather than punishment.
- Create a safe haven for vulnerability and authentic expression in relationships.
- Shift from a mindset of criticism to one of learning and growth.
- Cultivate self-acceptance and extend compassion to yourself and others.
[02:07] The Lasting Impact of Childhood Wounds
The wounds of judgment and guilt are not only deeply rooted in our childhood experiences but also have a profound impact on our adult lives. These thought patterns can lead to an endless cycle of self-criticism, conditional love, and a tit-for-tat mentality in our relationships.
[06:39] The Two Forms of Guilt
There are two distinct forms of guilt – overcompensating and undercompensating. The overcompensating form of guilt leads to harsh self-criticism and impossibly high standards, while the undercompensating form manifests as people-pleasing and conflict avoidance. Both stem from a fear of judgment and a desire for perfection, profoundly impacting self-perception, relationships, and well-being.
[10:27] The Beauty in Embracing Your Imperfection
Embracing imperfection and allowing natural consequences to be the teacher, rather than punishment, is key to healing the wounds of judgment and guilt. Surrounding ourselves with people who understand, have compassion, and allow for mistakes is crucial, as it fosters an environment of mutual understanding and growth, where both individuals can extend the same empathy and patience when mistakes occur.
[11:01] The Transformative Power of Affirmations in Healing Judgment and Guilt
By regularly repeating positive statements, we can retrain our brains to focus on the constructive rather than the critical, countering the trauma of constant self-judgment. These affirmations remind us that imperfection is part of the human experience, enabling us to extend the same compassion to ourselves and others and approach mistakes as opportunities for growth.
[26:30] The Role of Natural Consequences in Learning
Look at natural consequences as a teacher, rather than punishment in the healing process. By sitting with the discomfort of our choices and allowing the consequences to guide us, we foster true growth and self-esteem, without the need for harsh judgment or criticism.
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We all have an inner critic that works to hold us back from our full potential. This critic is the source of all sabotage of our dreams and success. Thankfully, today we are taking the power back. In this insightful conversation, Matt O'Neill sits down with Joanna Kleinman - the expert on dethroning your inner critic.
Joanna shares her proven strategies for quieting that nagging voice of self-doubt and reclaiming your creative freedom. Whether you struggle with imposter syndrome, perfectionism, or just that constant feeling of "not being enough" – this conversation has the tools to help you break free.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Understanding where your inner critic comes from and why it's so persistent
- Practical steps to start loosening its grip on your thoughts and emotions
- How to turn self-criticism into self-acceptance and greater fulfillment
[02:26] You Can’t Quiet Down Your Inner Critic
The inner critic can't be fully quieted, as it's a deeply ingrained part of us formed from early experiences of shame. Rather than trying to silence it, the key is to meet the inner critic, understand its origins, and develop self-awareness around when it arises. By unhooking from its limiting beliefs, we can choose a different perspective and embrace our authentic selves, flaws and all. It's an ongoing practice, but one that can free us from the cycle of self-doubt.
[04:14] Meeting Your Inner Critic
The first step is to meet your inner critic head-on. Understand where this critical voice comes from - the specific moments in your past that triggered feelings of shame or unworthiness. By getting intimate with the origins of this voice, you can start to see it not as an enemy, but as a protective mechanism trying to keep you safe. Approaching your inner critic with compassion and curiosity, rather than judgment, opens the door to loosening its grip on your thoughts and emotions.
[17:31] Getting to the Root of Our Inner Critic
To truly break free from the inner critic, we must understand what's deeply fueling it. Tracing the critic back to early experiences of shame and the need for safety provides vital self-awareness. Identifying the core beliefs and triggers that activate the inner voice gives us the power to unhook ourselves the moment it starts speaking. This intimate understanding allows us to replace self-doubt with self-acceptance and step into our fullest potential, unbound by the critic's limiting constraints.
[27:06] Escaping the Addiction of Internal Validation
Joanna describes an addictive pattern where we constantly seek success and external validation to cover up feelings of shame and self-doubt instilled by the inner critic. No matter how much we achieve or how many praise us, that core sense of "not being enough" persists. This vicious cycle keeps us chasing the next hit of accomplishment or affirmation, rather than finding peace in our authentic selves. Breaking free from this addiction is key to dethroning the inner critic.
Resources Mentioned:
www.dethroningyourinnercritic.com
Podcast: Dethroning Your Inner Critic
Book: Dethroning Your Inner Critic
The Artist's Way
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About the Guest
Joanna Kleinman is a psychotherapist, the host of the "Dethroning Your Inner Critic" podcast, and the author of a best-selling book by the same name. She is described as an expert on how to quiet the inner critic.
Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult experiences we can face in life. In this episode, Matt O’Neill sits down with grief expert Denise Dielwart to discuss her powerful Flow-Grief-Release Method and learn how to navigate the journey of grief with more ease, joy, and purpose. Denise shares her own personal story of loss and the transformative steps she took to heal herself and ultimately help thousands of others do the same. Whether you're currently grieving or want to be better equipped to support a loved one, this conversation is filled with invaluable insights and practical guidance.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The devastating impact of losing a loved one and the need for tools to cope
- Introducing the Flow-Grief-Release Method and Denise's expertise
- The importance of feeling emotions rather than avoiding them
- Letting go of grief vs. honoring the connection and memories
- Reframing loss to discover the gifts and live a fulfilling life
[08:25] The Importance of Feeling Emotions
True healing requires more than just talking about loss. The first crucial step is to acknowledge and fully feel the emotions of grief. To move through the pain, you must be willing to confront it head-on. Denise’s method involves "unpeeling the layers" - identifying the specific emotions that you feel and why. Importantly, this is not about rushing from grief to joy. It's about honoring the deep connection and memories you shared with your loved one. By allowing yourself to fully feel, you open the door to genuine, lasting transformation.
[13:12] Reclaiming Your Multifaceted Identity
Daniele cautions against identifying too strongly with terms like "widow" or "cancer survivor," as these labels can cement our identity in pain and loss, making it harder to move forward. Denise encourages letting go of these restrictive brands and instead focusing on reclaiming our multifaceted identities - as a woman, a friend, a parent, and so much more. By avoiding the temptation to define ourselves solely by our grief, we open the door to rediscovering who we truly are and envisioning the life we want to create, honoring our loved ones in the process.
[15:36] Shifting Away from Victimhood
When faced with unimaginable loss, it's natural to feel like a victim of circumstance. But dwelling in that mindset will only prolong your suffering. The path to healing requires taking responsibility for your ability to respond. Rather than seeing yourself as powerless, embrace the agency you have to feel your emotions fully, let them go, and reimagine a life that honors your loved one's legacy. By shifting away from victimhood and tapping into your own inner strength, you open the door to growth, joy, and the profound fulfillment that comes from living with purpose.
[17:34] How to Release Sadness and Grief
Simply journaling about your sad feelings is not enough to release grief. Instead, she advises journaling about what you want for your future and cultivating gratitude. The key is to shift your focus away from dwelling on the pain and towards envisioning the life you want to create. This helps you overcome the old identity tied to your loss and start reimagining a new, joyful path forward. It's not about ignoring the sadness, but actively working to let it go rather than unpacking and living in it.
Resources Mentioned:
Flow Grief Release Method
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About the Guest
Denise Dielwart is a grief expert and life coach who has helped thousands of people find joy and purpose after experiencing profound loss. Through her Flow-Grief-Release Method, she guides individuals on a transformative journey of self-discovery, empowering them to honor their loved ones by living fulfilling lives.
Feeling stuck in a negative mindset?
Learn how to overcome self-sabotaging thought patterns and cultivate lasting happiness from Matt O'Neill. In this vulnerable and insightful episode, Matt shares his personal journey of shifting from a bad mood to a good one, offering a practical blueprint you can apply to transform your own mindset.
Learn how to question limiting beliefs, reframe negative thoughts, and leverage self-inquiry to break free of the funk. Discover the power of gratitude in reclaiming your natural state of joy.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Identifying the root of negative emotions
- Questioning the certainty of limiting beliefs
- Reframing thoughts to find the positive
- Leveraging self-inquiry to break free of funk
- Embracing gratitude for life's blessings
[01:00] From Disappointment to Transformation
Matt's open and honest account of his personal struggle with a bad mood sets the stage for this transformative episode. After disappointing his wife Katie by prioritizing work over a commitment, Matt found himself spiraling into a negative thought pattern. Through self-reflection, he was able to uncover the root causes - fears about his career, doubts in his abilities as a leader, and a general sense of life feeling like a "grind."
[08:03] The Paradox of Mood: Downward Spiral vs. Upward Spiral
When we feel bad, we actually have a subconscious desire to "do bad" in order to prove to ourselves that we are bad. Conversely, when we feel good, we naturally want to make others feel good, creating an "awesome upward spiral." The key takeaway is that our emotions and behaviors are fundamentally shaped by the stories and narratives we tell ourselves. Understanding this dynamic is crucial for breaking free of negative thought patterns and cultivating lasting happiness.
[09:00] Questioning Certainty, Challenging Limiting Beliefs
By applying the process of inquiry championed by author Byron Katie, Matt systematically challenged the validity of his negative thoughts. Rather than accepting them as absolute truths, he questioned whether he could know them with 100% certainty. This simple yet powerful exercise began to chip away at the hold these limiting beliefs had on his mindset and emotions.
[22:54] Overcoming the Damaging Impact of Negative Thinking
When stuck in a negative mindset, systematically challenge the validity of self-defeating beliefs. Question whether you can know them as absolute truths, then look for evidence supporting the opposite, more positive perspective. Recognize that it's ultimately your own negative thought patterns, not external circumstances, that hold you back. By consciously reframing limiting narratives and cultivating a more constructive mindset, you can overcome the damaging impact of negativity and unlock your full potential for joy and fulfillment.
Resources Mentioned:
Loving What Isby Byron Katie
A Mind at Home with Itself by Byron Katie
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Are you tired of trying to push away your "negative" emotions? What if you knew the truth that no emotion was ever really “bad” or “negative” and that all emotions had usefulness.
In this episode, Matt O’Neill sits down with expert psychotherapist Michelle Maidenberg as she explains why facing our uncomfortable feelings - like anger, sadness, and fear - is essential for authentic happiness and personal growth.
As they dive deep into the topic of emotional avoidance, discover why facing our uncomfortable emotions is essential for authentic happiness and personal growth. Michelle shares practical strategies for building the discipline and self-efficacy needed to make lasting changes in our lives.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The importance of embracing all emotions, not just the "good" ones
- Reframing guilt and shame as opportunities for self-reflection
- Characteristics of people living empowered, fulfilled lives
- Overcoming the "slip-fall" cycle to sustain positive behavior change
- Developing self-trust through following through on commitments
[02:48] Embracing the Uncomfortable Emotions
Michelle emphasizes the importance of not categorizing emotions as simply "good" or "bad." She explains that even uncomfortable feelings like anger, sadness, and fear serve a vital purpose in connecting us to our values and humanity. Rather than avoiding these emotions, Michelle encourages facing them head-on as opportunities for growth and self-understanding. Recognizing that we all experience a range of emotions as human beings, she stresses the need to approach the uncomfortable ones with self-compassion, using them to better understand ourselves and live more authentic, fulfilling lives.
[13:15] Strategies for Sustained Change
A common struggle Michelle sees in her clients is the inability to sustain positive behavior changes over time. She shares concrete steps and tools to help break the "slip-fall" cycle, addressing the underlying rationalizations and core beliefs that can sabotage our best intentions. By developing self-awareness and self-compassion, we can learn to persist through setbacks and make lasting improvements in our lives.
[14:41] Facing Adversity, Building Confidence
Michelle emphasizes that living an empowered life requires accepting and facing adversity head-on. She explains that quick fixes and easy solutions are rarely the answer - true growth and fulfillment come through consistent effort and practice. By doing the hard things, even when it's challenging, we build self-efficacy and confidence in our ability to follow through on our goals and values.
Resources Mentioned:
www.michellemaidenberg.com
Books mentioned:
- The End of Your World
- I Am That
- The Compound Effect
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Michelle Maidenberg is a psychotherapist who works with children, adolescents, teens, and adults. She is the Co-Founder and Clinical Director of "Thru My Eyes," a nonprofit that offers free clinically-guided videotaping for chronically ill individuals to leave legacies for their loved ones.
Ever deal with feeling like an impostor? You're not alone, and it’s time to shatter that illusion. In this electrifying episode of the Good Mood Revolution, Matt O’Neill and Romy van der Merwe dive into the heart of impostor syndrome, exposing it for the myth it truly is.
Brace yourself as Romy reveals jaw-dropping strategies to crush self-doubt, from creating a "hit list" of your wins to flipping negativity on its head. Discover how to dodge the comparison trap and forge your path with unbreakable confidence. This isn't just about feeling better; it’s about unleashing a new, audacious you. Don't miss this chance to transform your inner dialogue and embrace your authentic power—tune in now and reclaim your confidence!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Embrace authentic confidence in your abilities
- Document your achievements to boost self-belief
- Reframe negatives as opportunities for growth
- Avoid comparing yourself to others' journeys
- Trust the process, learn from setbacks
[02:55] Where and How Impostor Syndrome Shows Up in Life
Impostor syndrome can manifest in various areas of life, not just in the workplace. Even in everyday tasks, the feeling of not being good enough or deserving of success can creep in, undermining one's confidence. Impostor syndrome often manifests as a persistent sense of self-doubt, despite evidence of one's competence and achievements. It can lead to anxiety about being "exposed" as a fraud, reluctance to take on new challenges, and constant comparison to others. When you’re struggling with imposter syndrome, you may attribute your successes to luck or external factors rather than your own abilities.
[12:20] The Power of Documenting Your Achievements
Documenting your achievements, both big and small, is a powerful way to overcome impostor syndrome and cultivate authentic confidence. By creating a "hit list" or "brag book" of your successes, you can counterbalance the self-doubt that often creeps in. Whether it's winning a writing contest, finishing a continuing education course, or simply having a fun tickle fight with your kids, these accomplishments are worth celebrating. Reflecting on your past wins, no matter how seemingly insignificant, can remind you of your capabilities and empower you to keep pushing forward, even in the face of challenges.
[21:37] Avoiding the Comparison Trap
When facing impostor syndrome, it's important to avoid comparing your current progress to someone else's more advanced stage. Instead, Romy advises comparing yourself to your own past achievements and growth, rather than external benchmarks. This allows you to focus on your unique journey and celebrate the small wins along the way, building momentum and self-belief. By resisting the urge to measure yourself against others who are further ahead, you can embrace the process of learning and improving at your own pace, ultimately unlocking your full potential.
Resources Mentioned:
Connect with Romy on LinkedIn.
Rapid Transformation by Ben Hardy
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About the Guest
Romy van der Merwe is a leading expert on overcoming impostor syndrome and cultivating authentic confidence. As a sought-after speaker and coach, Romy is passionate about empowering others to let go of impostor syndrome and unlock their full potential.
In a world filled with challenges and adversity, choosing to feel good is truly a revolutionary act. In this episode, Matt O'Neill shares his powerful journey of finding happiness even in the face of professional setbacks and personal struggles. Discover how to reframe your mindset, redefine your stories, and unleash your inner radiance to live a life of joy and fulfillment.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Choosing happiness in the face of professional setbacks
- Reframing negative experiences to find happiness
- Finding happiness through redefining stories and beliefs
- Why God allows hardships to help us grow
- Managing negative emotions in the real estate industry
- Overcoming negative experiences and finding happiness through reframing
[01:52] Choosing Happiness in the Face of Professional Setbacks
Matt shares his personal experience of dealing with the departure of a top-performing agent from his real estate team. Instead of succumbing to feelings of betrayal and heartbreak, he chose to reframe the situation and find the silver lining. By letting go of the need to be right and embracing a more empowering narrative, Matt was able to navigate this challenge with grace and maintain his positive outlook.
[06:36] Reframing Negative Experiences to Find Happiness
The stories we tell ourselves about our experiences can either empower or limit us. Matt shares inspiring examples of individuals who have faced unimaginable adversity, yet found a way to reframe their narratives and discover growth and meaning in their struggles. This serves as a powerful reminder that our happiness is a choice, even in the face of life's challenges.
[19:52] Finding Happiness Through Redefining Stories and Beliefs
Happiness is directly tied to the stories and beliefs we choose to tell ourselves. When we shift our perspective to see that everything in this world is guided by a higher love, even the most difficult and painful experiences can be reframed as opportunities for growth and transformation. Nothing has the power to truly hurt us when we adopt this lens of love and faith. By consciously redefining our narratives, we unlock the freedom to find joy and contentment, even in the face of adversity.
Resources Mentioned:
Divorcing Your Beliefs with Alice Emerson
Forgiveness with Chris Singleton
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Ready to break free from the cycle of anger? Dr. Mort Orman, anger elimination expert, joins Matt O’Neill to share his groundbreaking approach to living an anger-free life. In this eye-opening episode, you'll learn about the invisible mental filters that trigger your anger and how to dismantle them.
Discover the surprising link between unexpressed anger and chronic pain, and find out why humility is your secret weapon against rage. Whether you're dealing with minor irritations or major blow-ups, Dr. Orman's simple strategies can help you transform your emotional landscape. Listen now and take the first step towards emotional freedom!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Three invisible filters that cause anger
- Dr. Orman's personal struggle with anger in his 20s and 30s
- The connection between unexpressed anger and chronic pain
- How distorted perceptions fuel anger
- Practical techniques for questioning anger-inducing thoughts
- The role of humility in overcoming anger
- Dr. Orman's 10-session coaching program for anger management
[10:38] The Connection Between Unexpressed Anger and Chronic Pain
Based on the work of Dr. John Sarno, many people suffering from chronic back pain, neck pain, or other persistent physical symptoms may actually be experiencing the physical manifestation of unresolved emotional issues, particularly anger. This concept challenges traditional medical approaches that focus solely on structural abnormalities. Dr. Orman shares how addressing underlying anger and emotional trauma can lead to significant pain relief, even in cases where conventional treatments have failed.
[14:44] Three Invisible Filters That Cause Anger
Dr. Orman reveals that anger is not a simple cause-and-effect reaction, but rather a process involving three invisible mental filters. These filters distort our perception of events and lead to anger:
- Believing someone did something bad or wrong that they shouldn't have done
- Thinking that you or someone else was negatively impacted or harmed
- Assuming the person who did the perceived wrong is entirely to blame
Dr. Orman explains that these filters often oversimplify complex situations, leaving out important context and information. By recognizing these filters and questioning their validity, we can begin to dismantle our anger response. He emphasizes that in most cases of unwanted anger, at least one of these filters is inaccurate or exaggerated.
[33:39] The Role of Humility in Overcoming Anger
Dr. Orman explains that anger often stems from the ego's conviction of being right, and cultivating humility allows us to question our anger-inducing thoughts. In his coaching program, Dr. Orman first assesses a client's willingness to admit they might be wrong or have faulty life philosophies. He encourages listeners to approach their anger with curiosity and humility, considering if they might be misinterpreting situations or reacting based on incomplete information. By embracing humility, we can break free from rigid thinking patterns that fuel anger and develop a more balanced, compassionate outlook on life and relationships.
Resources Mentioned:
www.docorman.com
Dr. Orman's Life Changing Anger Cure
Healing Back Pain by Dr. John Sarno
The Great Pain Deceptionby Steve Ozanich
Leadership and Self-Deception
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About the Guest
Dr. Mort Orman is a renowned expert in stress and anger management, with over four decades of experience helping people eliminate unwanted anger from their lives. As a former physician turned author and coach, Dr. Orman developed a unique approach to understanding and overcoming anger based on his personal journey and extensive research, which he now shares through his books, coaching programs, and speaking engagements.
Finding joy through life's challenges isn't always easy, but Fitz Koehler proves it's possible. As a breast cancer survivor who underwent intensive chemotherapy and radiation treatments, Fitz shares how she maintained her upbeat attitude through humor and living life to the fullest. Fitz joins host Matt O'Neill to discuss her cancer journey, the importance of surrounding yourself with positive people, and simple lifestyle habits that can boost your mood daily.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Fitz's breast cancer diagnosis and 15-month chemotherapy treatment
- Choosing laughter over lamenting during difficult times
- Finding flow through passionate hobbies and career pursuits
- The mental health benefits of exercise, nature, and quality sleep
- Embracing your individuality and limiting time with "cranky people"
[04:55] Finding Humor in Hard Times
Fitz shares that just six weeks after a clean mammogram, she learned she had cancer that had already spread to her lymph nodes. She underwent an aggressive treatment plan of 15 months of chemotherapy. Despite the challenges, Fitz emphasized choosing laughter over lamenting difficult situations. She discussed cancer being "freaking funny" at times due to how absurd and difficult it was. Fitz found she had no choice but to laugh at herself through it all.
[08:52] Finding Joy in Unexpected Moments
Fitz faced an extended delay at the airport but chose to make the best of it. Upon discovering the Delta sky lounge had showers, she enjoyed a solo shower with music for over an hour. When the airport alarm went off, others may have left but Fitz decided to stay in her "happy place" where she felt good. This unexpected experience demonstrated Fitz's ability to find humor and joy even in inconvenient situations outside her control.
[12:58] Finding Your Flow: How to Fully Immerse in Activities That Lift Your Mood
Make sure your career is something fulfilling. Beyond work, people need personal outlets for enjoyment - whether it's time with loved ones, animals, nature activities, sports, dance, or a hobby. Finding something requiring full focus, like basketball or dance, can distract from negative thoughts and boost mental well-being.
[16:47] The Power of Choosing a Victor Mindset
One of Fitz's mantras that she emphasizes is choosing to be a victor over adversity rather than a victim of circumstances outside one's control. She discusses allowing herself to cry and feel emotions for a limited time, but then getting back up and moving forward purposefully rather than wallowing in negativity or self-pity. Fitz models taking charge of her own mindset and actions instead of seeing herself as powerless against challenges life presents.
[25:28] Embracing Individuality and Shrugging Off Judgment
Fitz emphasizes the importance of not worrying about others' opinions and embracing one's individuality. She notes that while people will have their own thoughts, it doesn't ultimately affect you or your happiness. By shrugging off judgment and the need for validation, one can feel free to fully be themselves and show up authentically in any situation, whether alone or in a crowd.
Resources Mentioned:
www.fitzness.com/blog
My Noisy Cancer Comeback Story
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
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About the Guest
Fitz Koehler is a breast cancer survivor, public speaker, and author from Gainesville, Florida. Despite receiving a cancer diagnosis, Fitz maintained her upbeat attitude through humor and passion for hosting races. Her book "My Noisy Cancer Comeback Story" shares how she found joy throughout intensive treatment.
What if the secret to happiness isn't in what you need, but in what you want? Today, we dive deep into the difference between needing and wanting, and how this distinction can make all the difference in your journey to freedom and happiness.
Having the essentials for survival keeps you alive, but it doesn't necessarily make you happy. True happiness comes from pursuing what you genuinely desire. Tune in to learn how to shift your mindset from one of scarcity and need to one of abundance and want, and watch your life transform.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The difference between needing and wanting
- How to set powerful goals that actually manifest
- Embracing abundance and ditching scarcity thinking
- The four freedoms that lead to ultimate happiness
[01:18] The Difference Between Needing and Wanting
Needing operates from a scarcity mindset, where resources are limited and people compete for what's available. It's about survival and maintaining the status quo. Wanting, on the other hand, comes from an abundance mindset. It's about growth, creativity, and expanding beyond basic needs. Wanters focus on creating new opportunities and resources, leading to greater freedom and happiness.
[07:34] How to Set Powerful Goals That Actually Manifest
Write down goals for 7 life categories: health, business, friendships, relationships, family, spirituality, and lifestyle. Spend two minutes per category listing what you want. Circle the top goal in each category that would make the entire area feel successful. Write these 7 goals daily, programming them into your subconscious. This practice activates your reticular activating system, helping you notice opportunities to achieve your goals and potentially bending reality to manifest them.
[14:13] Abundance Mindset: Creating Without Limits
Shift from a competitive, scarcity-based mindset to an abundance mentality. Recognize that in the world of wanting, resources are not limited - they can be created. Stop justifying your desires or competing for perceived scarce resources. Instead, focus on creating and innovating without limits. This mindset shift frees up energy previously spent on competition and justification, allowing for greater creativity, growth, and happiness. Embrace the idea that you can create as much abundance as you want without taking from others.
[28:15] The Four Freedoms That Lead to Ultimate Happiness
- Freedom of Time: Arrange your time as you wish in work and personal life.
- Freedom of Money: No upper limit on earning, saving, and investing.
- Freedom of Relationship: Choose who you interact with daily.
- Freedom of Purpose: Focus on your own goals and vision.
These freedoms expand and multiply each other, creating a universe of integrated freedom that propels forward progress for those who choose wanting over needing.
Resources Mentioned:
Wanting What You Wantby Dan Sullivan
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Ever wonder why making lasting changes is so difficult? You're not alone. Change can be challenging, but it doesn't have to be. Enter Paul Levitin, the expert behind "Change Made Easy," who has helped thousands transform their health, wealth, and relationships.
In this compelling episode, Paul unveils his groundbreaking EASIER framework, designed to make sustainable change truly achievable. Forget about the pressure of perfect goals; Paul explains why they often lead to failure and how embracing imperfect progress can set you on the path to success. Join Matt and Paul today to see how change can be easy and rewarding.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Making consistent habits and lifestyle changes for improved health and well-being
- Why change is hard and how to make it easier
- The EASIER framework for making long-term changes
- Internal motivations for wealth, relationships, and personal growth
- Enthusiasm and process for achieving goals
- Embracing imperfection in relationships and daily routines
[03:42] Why Change Has to Be Hard
Paul thinks change inherently has to be hard because that's why you need to change in the first place. Things that are easy don't require making habits or goals around them. The things we want to change but have trouble doing, like exercising or healthy eating, are difficult because there is "friction between where we are and doing the thing." Specifically, doing the thing consistently is challenging because that's what produces results, not a one-time action.
[12:17] Why Willpower Only Works for Short-Term Goals
Willpower is only effective for short-term goals as it is a finite resource that will run out. Lifestyle changes require consistency over long periods like months or years. Relying solely on willpower is not sustainable for this duration. Making changes easier through enjoyable habits provides a better strategy for maintaining them long-term compared to using willpower alone.
[22:15] The EASIER Framework for Long-Term Success
E - Enthusiasm. Paul emphasizes that true motivation comes from enjoying the daily habits and actions required to achieve a goal, not just the end result. Being enthusiastic about the process is key for long-term consistency.
A - Available. Goals must fit practically within a person's current time constraints, energy levels, financial means and other resources.
S - Straightforward. Complex goals that are difficult to explain or understand take more mental energy and are less likely to stick. Plans work best when they are simple to implement without unnecessary complexity.
I - Imperfect. Embracing mistakes and setbacks as a natural part of progress helps keep people motivated. Seeing imperfections as opportunities for growth prevents people from being too hard on themselves when inevitable slip-ups occur.
E - Exponential. For habits to be maintained indefinitely, their benefits need to compound over time and provide returns well beyond just a one-to-one input-output relationship. Small actions should lead to exponential long-term rewards.
R - Repeatable. Forming strong habits through consistency is key to long-lasting change. Goals must be designed so the same behaviors can be repeated over weeks, months and years to become an ingrained part of daily life.
Resources Mentioned:
Change Made Easy podcast
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About the Guest
Paul Levitin is the host of the popular podcast "Change Made Easy" and an expert on creating sustainable habits and lifestyle changes for improved health, wealth and relationships.
Discover simple ways to strengthen communication in your closest relationships. In this episode, Matt O'Neill sits down with veteran marriage counselor Chip Judd to discuss the keys to building a strong, lasting relationship through effective communication.
Chip shares insights from over 40 years of counseling couples on managing expectations, understanding different love languages, and taking responsibility for your own happiness within the relationship.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The hula hoop analogy
- Taking responsibility for your responses
- The power of embracing each other’s differences
- Anticipating your spouse’s needs
[04:44] The Hula Hoop Analogy
Chip says that a hula hoop identifies where one person ends and another begins. Chip emphasizes that everything inside your hoop is your responsibility, and that we cannot make others feel or be responsible for things within their own hoop - only they and God can work on meeting their own needs and emotions. This analogy helps illustrate healthy boundaries and expectations in relationships.
[12:04] Mastering Your Response-Ability
Chip breaks down the word responsibility itself, noting that it contains the idea of "response-ability" - our ability to choose our response. Chip emphasizes that one of the most important responsibilities we have is mastering our ability to choose how we respond, even when faced with challenges from life or our partner. If we give up taking responsibility for our reactions and blame others, then the relationship will struggle from that point onward.
[18:09] How Adjusting Expectations Strengthens Your Close Bonds
Frustration in relationships stems from the gap between our expectations and experience. He explains that there are two ways to close this gap and lower frustration - by changing the experience, or by lowering expectations. Lowering expectations is the one thing we have control over, since we can't force others to behave how we want. Boundaries help with this by reminding us that no person can truly meet our deepest needs - only God can be the source.
[22:19] The Power of Embracing Each Other’s Differences
Chip believes our differences in marriage push us to deeply understand our partners. He says God made us varied so relationships require learning each other - like anticipating needs beyond our own. Embracing diversity helps marriages thrive by growing closer through care of one another's unique qualities.
Resources Mentioned:
www.chipjudd.com
The Endurance Factor
The Endurance Factor Podcast
The 5 Love Languages
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Chip Judd is a veteran marriage counselor with over 40 years of experience. As a pastor and counselor based in Southern California, he has helped thousands of couples through counseling, seminars, and his bestselling co-authored book The Endurance Factor.
Looking for an easy way to de-stress and improve your mental well-being? In this episode, Matt O’Neill speaks with yoga therapist and meditation expert Ann Swanson about how only one minute of meditation per day can make a big difference.
Discover how small changes like spending time outside or meditating in line at the grocery store can boost happiness. Learn practical techniques for integrating brief yet powerful mindfulness practices into your busy life.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Meditation as a key to happiness
- Meditation techniques, including walking meditation, and its benefits for mental health and blood sugar control
- Meditation and mindfulness for busy lives
- Incorporating meditation into daily routine through various activities
- Yoga and meditation for mental well-being
[04:45] Getting Back in Touch with Nature
Studies have found that spending time in nature, such as walking in woods, increases natural killer cells and other parts of your immune system which help fight off tumors and foreign invaders. Walking meditations in nature can help you to truly be happier and return to a state of well-being that humans are naturally meant to experience.
[10:04] Optimizing Exposure to Natural Light
Ann recommends getting morning light near sunrise to set one's circadian rhythm and improve alertness. Spending time in midday sunlight is also important as it signals the peak of the day. The changing sky colors at sunset help reduce cortisol levels and raise melatonin production, preparing the body for sleep.
[12:51] Getting Started with Meditation
Ann recommends trying walking meditation, which allows flexibility and integration into daily life. Set specific intentions or focus points for each step. This can help change one's mood and has additional health benefits like lowering blood sugar spikes. For those new to meditation, walking practices may be better than rigidly following sitting techniques that don't suit one's needs or lifestyle.
[16:22] Walk Like You’re the Happiest Person on Earth
Ann shares a walking meditation technique taught by Thich Nhat Hanh. She explains that when walking, one can set the intention to "walk as if you were the happiest person on earth." Even if not feeling happy in the moment, imagining how the happiest person may walk can help alter posture, breathing, and perspective. This simple practice of pretending to be the happiest person can start to shift one's mood for the better in just a few minutes of walking meditation.
[19:11] Brief Mindfulness Practices for Busy Lives
Ann suggests one-minute meditations throughout the day to reset when feeling distracted or stressed, and finding times before, during or after existing routines like making coffee can help form a new habit. Additionally, being mindfully present during commutes or integrating meditation into transition periods after tasks promotes relaxation and allows busy individuals to still reap meditation's mental and emotional benefits.
Resources Mentioned:
www.meditationfortherealworld.com
Meditation for the Real Worldby Ann Swanson
The Power of Meditation with Muni Natarajan
Atomic Habits by James Clear
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Ann Swanson is a best-selling author and yoga therapist. She has a Master's of Science in yoga therapy and teaches meditation techniques for integrating mindfulness into everyday life.
Eckhart Tolle is one of the most influential spiritual teachers alive today. Matt O’Neill spent a weekend with him and discovered the two steps to spiritual enlightenment. Discover how to shift your manifestation mindset and consciously create the life you want. Matt shares Eckhart's profound insights on awakening your true self and taking back the power to consciously create your reality.
Through fascinating stories of his own spiritual journey from victim mentality to manifestation master, Matt explores how our thoughts and emotions shape our experiences in unseen ways. Listen and learn Eckhart’s meditative practices for accessing inner peace, and how living in the present moment can transform your perspective and lead to fulfillment that no circumstance can shake.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How shifting your mindset from victim to manifestor can change everything
- Releasing suppressed anger and stress through spiritual awakening
- Connecting to inner peace and happiness through meditation and presence
- Eckhart Tolle's meditative practices for accessing inner peace
- Why living in the present moment leads to lasting fulfillment
[03:31] The First Step to Enlightenment
Eckhart Tolle described the first step of awakening as recognizing that you are not a victim of outside circumstances, but rather you have the power to consciously create your own reality through your thoughts and emotional states. This realization lifts you out of victim consciousness and empowers you to take responsibility for manifesting improvement in your life by controlling your mental patterns and shifting to more positive mindsets. It is a crucial first step on the spiritual path toward enlightenment.
[12:47] The Second Awakening
The second awakening, as described by Eckhart Tolle, involves transcending the ego and deriving one's sense of self from their deeper inner consciousness or "true self.” It is realizing that true happiness and fulfillment come from within, rather than from external circumstances or achievements. Eckhart said this second stage of awakening involves discovering the "dimension within" through connecting to the eternal, peaceful part of our being that exists beyond thinking. Both Eckhart and Matt experienced this shift through profound life events like Eckhart's psychotic breakdown, which cracked open his mind to this deeper truth and led to a state of enlightenment.
[22:55] Tuning Into the Present
Eckhart stressed the value of living in the present moment. He noted that our senses can help ground us in the now. By focusing on your breath moving in and out, or the feeling of your heartbeat, you tap into the current situation. While thoughts may wander to past or future, senses keep us connected to what's happening right now. So taking a moment to notice sights, sounds or physical sensations can pull you from thinking and into simply being present – a key part of awakening to your true self.
Resources Mentioned:
The Power of Nowby Eckhart Tolle
A New Earthby Eckhart Tolle
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
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Do you want to feel happier, even while facing challenges? In this episode, Matt O’Neill sits down with world-renowned happiness expert Dr. Elia Gourgouris who shares research-backed strategies for cultivating more joy even when facing adversity.
From increasing self-care and gratitude to identifying your challenge-response style and eliminating toxic influences, Elia offers simple habits you can implement today. Happiness is a choice - let Matt and Elia help you make the happy choice today.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Self-care is non-negotiable for happiness
- Four personality types for navigating challenges: victim, critic, bystander, navigator
- Recognizing fear-based decision making and avoiding major choices during that time
[04:04] Self-care and Gratitude
Elia discusses the importance of non-negotiable daily self-care like walking for an hour. When the pandemic hit, he increased this to walking every day while leaving his phone behind half the time. This allowed him to focus on nature and doing "gratitude walks." He found that cultivating gratitude through appreciating the beauty around him helped release feel-good neurotransmitters that lifted his mood. Elia emphasizes gratitude can be practiced even in difficult times and is key to overcoming challenges with hope and optimism.
[11:36] Four Personality Types for Navigating Challenges
Elia outlines the four typical personality types people take on when facing adversity:
- The victim - sees themselves as the only one affected
- The critic - blames others
- The bystander - feels overwhelmed and paralyzed
- The navigator - maintains a positive outlook and adapts well
He notes we all have aspects of each within us at different times. The key is to pivot from the first three reactive types into the navigator mindset of learning from challenges rather than seeing them as roadblocks. Taking the navigator approach allows one to come through difficulties in a fulfilling, growth-oriented way.
[16:56] The Fear Camp vs. The Faith Camp
Elia discusses how in life there are two camps we operate from - the fear camp and the faith camp. He notes that all of our emotions stem from one of these two camps. Sometimes we fluctuate between operating from fear or faith based on life circumstances. However, it's important not to make any major decisions when in a state of fear. Staying rooted in faith even during challenges is key to navigating difficulties in a positive, growth-oriented way
[19:49] Setting Boundaries Through Honest Communication in Toxic Relationships
Elia discusses how to eliminate toxic relationships through "HOT" conversations - honest, open, and transparent discussions. These should be handled with care, love, and understanding rather than aggression. Elia emphasizes self-care requires surrounding oneself with supportive people and it's important to set boundaries with toxic individuals for one's own well-being, while still showing empathy. If they are unwilling to change behaviors, keeping them at a distance is acceptable.
Resources Mentioned:
www.dreliagourgouris.com
www.linkedin.com/in/thehappinessdoctor
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About the Guest
Dr. Elia Gourgouris is the Founder of The Happiness Center - an organization of world leading experts in the field of Positive Psychology dedicated to creating personal success and happiness.
Have you ever not gotten along with your boss? Do you sometimes not get along with authority or have trouble doing what other people tell you to do? Have you found yourself kind of not feeling like you fit in with the conforming society? You might just be a rebel – and that’s not a bad thing.
Every single one of us has some rebel tendencies inside. In this episode, Matt O’Neill sits down with rebel expert Joe Barnes to discuss what to do about those rebel tendencies and how to make the happiest, most successful life you can – being a rebel.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Embracing one’s rebellious nature
- Tapping your inner rebel
- The characteristics of a rebel
- Creating one's place in the world as a rebel
- Following heart-based decisions, even when difficult
- Breaking societal conventions and creating a fulfilling work life
[01:14] Embracing One's Rebellious Nature
Rebelliousness can be painful, but also enable positive change when one gains autonomy. Accepting rebelliousness as natural wiring and nurturing it could potentially help rebellious children blaze their own trail to create great things if they have strong morals.
[09:38] Tapping Your Inner Rebel
We all have a rebellious side, whether seeking freedom or following our heart. This often stays hidden due to societal pressures. But embracing your rebel spirit unlocks creativity. Listen to your passions, not just others' expectations. Question meaningless rules and tasks. Express dissent through hobbies. Guide choices with values over conformity. Your rebellion can inspire positive change on your own terms.
[10:47] The Characteristics of a Rebel
- A need for freedom and meaning -- Rebels want to determine their own path. They don't want to follow blindly without clear reasoning.
- Questioning authority — Rebels are more likely to resist conforming and challenge established systems.
- Making decisions based on internal passions and feelings rather than outside logic or expectations—Rebels follow their heart.
- May feel like outsiders to mainstream culture — They are potentially struggling to fit into conventional roles and niches in life.
- Driven to express individuality — Rebels want to blaze their own trail.
[18:37] Creating Your Place in the World
Joe acknowledges rebels may feel like outsiders to normal roles. However, through self-reflection and experimenting with different jobs, as Joe did first as a tennis coach then hypnotherapist, rebels can forge their own fulfilling path led by heart-based choices rather than conforming to societal expectations. Use your heart is your guide to navigate your way through life.
[22:42] Letting Your Heart Guide Your Decisions
Matt explains that the heart is our guide given by God to know right choices. When contemplating a future, a tight, constricted feeling in the chest means "no", while an open, loving, excited or passionate sensation provides a "yes" - not just mentally but physically feeling one's heart leading the way. Listening internally to how different options emotionally and somatically feel can help rebels and free spirits make choices aligned with their values and passions.
Resources Mentioned:
www.escapethesystemnow.com
The Rebel Code
Heart Callings with Carolyn Rivers
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About the Guest
Joe Barnes is the author of "The Rebel Code" and a self-proclaimed rebel. He believes that embracing one's rebellious nature can lead to greater fulfillment and happiness in life through living authentically on one's own terms.
Is your glass half full or half empty? Today, we're talking about the power of optimism and positivity. Why should we be optimistic, and isn't just being optimistic and positive all the time ignoring all the problems that are out in the world? Well, we've got some very important information today about why being optimistic and how you look at your glass is going to change the quality of your happiness and your life.
Join today’s conversation as Matt O’Neill chats with Bill Burke of The Optimism Institute about cultivating a positive outlook through challenges, big and small. Learn practical tools for staying hopeful, even when it's difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Optimism as a measure of positivity and taking action
- Putting daily problems in perspective through wish-granting experiences
- Maintaining optimism through understanding history and social progress
- How to get through your darkest times
- Practical tips: cleaning up social media feeds, limiting notifications, focusing on positivity
[03:53] Optimism as a Measure of Positivity and Taking Action
Bill defines optimism as not just a passive outlook, but as an outlook coupled with action. To him, an optimist is someone who looks at life's opportunities and challenges, takes action to address problems, and works to make positive changes in the world. His view of optimism includes actively doing something to improve situations, rather than just thinking that things will get better on their own.
[11:02] How to Get Through Your Darkest Times
Bill notes difficulty is natural, and life was often harder historically. Don't expect constant happiness. Though dark times seem endless, time often heals. Getting through hard periods effectively makes us stronger and more empathetic. Maintain optimism by recognizing challenges are temporary and we can deepen relationships through enduring them together.
[14:21] Putting Daily Problems in Perspective
Matt shares his involvement with a wish-granting organization for children with life-threatening illnesses. He recounts a recent experience taking a family out for pizza, a first for the children. The simple act of giving toddlers lemonade was one of the most magical experiences of their short lives. Moments like this help put everyday worries into perspective when faced with the challenges others are experiencing.
[24:15] Practical Strategies for an Optimistic Mindset
Bill shares tangible steps for cultivating more positivity in daily life. He discusses intentionally cleaning up social media feeds to prioritize uplifting content and avoid negativity. Limiting app time, disabling notifications, and avoiding news alerts can help reduce anxiety. Bill also emphasizes focusing on interactions with others in the real world rather than screens. Small changes in habits can shift perspectives towards optimism over time through selective curation of online and offline experiences.
Resources Mentioned:
The Optimism Institute
Blue Sky
Getting Better by Charles Kenny
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About the Guest
Bill Burke is the founder and CEO of The Optimism Institute, a nonprofit organization focused on spreading positivity. He is also the host of the Blue Sky podcast where he interviews guests about maintaining optimism.
What’s more important, time or money? If you have a lot of time, but not a lot of money, you may say that money is more important. On the other hand, you can always make more money, but once you spend your time, you can never get it back.
In this episode, Matt talks with time-optimization expert David Buck about some game-changing strategies for taking control of your time. They explore the differences between time management and time optimization, balancing work and family, overcoming distractions, and practical strategies for saying no and structuring your schedule.
Procrastination is the #1 time and money sucker – and specificity is key to conquering it and those lingering to-dos. Listen in and learn how small adjustments can lead to BIG results!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Prioritizing family over career by building "relationship capital"
- Smartphone distractions as the #1 time challenge and morning/evening routines
- The economic costs of procrastination
- Overcoming procrastination through specificity
[08:24] Building "Relationship Capital" to Prioritize Family Over Career
Create an overall "life purpose statement" to help make values-based decisions. A key part of this is building "relationship capital" – fostering understanding with employers so that flexibility is allowed when family needs arise. By developing trust through consistent performance, one can negotiate time off for important personal events while still meeting work commitments through established relationships. This balance helps to optimize both career and family responsibilities.
[12:15] Minimizing Distractions and Routines for Staying Present and Productive
Distractions, especially from smartphones, are identified as the number one challenge for time management. Some ways to minimize distractions include quarantining phones during important tasks, and having morning and evening routines like airplane mode overnight and turning phones off in the car to avoid distraction.
[22:52] The Economic Costs of Procrastination
David defines procrastination as intentionally delaying something that will end up hurting you. This delay can cause negative economic impacts by missing commitments, incurring unnecessary costs, or overloading your schedule to the point where you can't keep up. Procrastination has the biggest economic impact of all the time management challenges. When you procrastinate, it's like you're experiencing a flood – tasks and obligations continue piling up without any way to release or manage them. Delaying tasks compounds the issues, as more things get added to your plate that then need to be pushed back as well.
[23:48] Overcoming Procrastination Through Specificity
Specificity is key to overcoming procrastination. Break down projects into detailed steps and tasks, and assign them targeted due dates to gain clarity, momentum, and a sense of progress. Planning calendars in detail two weeks out also provides structure and accountability.
Resources Mentioned:
https://infinitylifestyledesign.com/
The Time-Optimized Life
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About the Guest
David Buck is an internationally recognized time management expert and the author of "The Time-Optimized Life." He has worked with individuals, teams and companies to help optimize their use of time through assessing workflows and implementing strategic planning techniques.
Stressful times can steal our joy if we let them. But you can choose joy during times of stress if you know the techniques. In this episode, Dr. Lauren Mellin explains her method for choosing joy called Emotional Brain Training. It is more effective for long-term happiness than just “thinking positive.”
Lauren shares powerful techniques for overcoming stress and negative emotions through accessing your unconscious mind and rewiring unhelpful brain patterns. Listen to learn about the 5 levels of stress and simple exercises you can do to shift your state from anxiety or overwhelm into a place of calm and purpose.
Lauren also discusses the importance of community in her Emotional Brain Training program. Tune in today for an uplifting discussion on prioritizing your mental health and staying connected to joy even during challenging times.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How to stay feeling your best
- The 5 levels of stress
- Stress as the “new joy”
- The difference between CBT and EBT
- The importance of social connection in emotional brain training
[04:37] How to Stay Feeling Your Best
Laurel talks about being in a state of joy, or "Brain State 1" as she calls it. In this state, your thinking brain and emotional brain are connected, making you feel naturally spiritual. You also feel closely connected to your body and aware of your emotions. When in this state, you feel a sense of higher purpose. However, as humans we have bodies evolved for survival, which can cause stress responses that disconnect us from this joyful state. Therefore, we need to use techniques like emotional brain training to outsmart how our bodies deal with stress, so we can stay feeling our best and most connected.
[05:46] The 5 Levels of Stress
- Brain State 1 - Everything is wonderful and you feel love, gratitude, hope, etc.
- Brain State 2 - You're okay but don't feel very inspired.
- Brain State 3 - Your feelings are scattered and you feel a bit anxious or stressed.
- Brain State 4 - You feel stuck in your body and not very good.
- Brain State 5 - Your brain feels absolutely split and you may experience extremes in emotions and behaviors.
[28:36] Stress as the New Joy
Laurel explains that getting triggered down to Brain State 5, the lowest state, can be reframed as an opportunity rather than something negative. When in state 5, you can use emotional brain training techniques to clear out "clutter" in the deeper, unconscious parts of your brain. This prevents you from carrying painful emotions with you long-term. She wants people to see state 5 as a chance to change your brain's wiring so you don't have to constantly feel on edge. With EBT, stress can become "the new joy" by using it as a way to process emotions and feel relief.
[30:50] CBT vs. EBT: Targeting Thoughts vs. Emotions
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on changing negative thoughts to improve mood and behavior, while emotional brain training (EBT) addresses the deeper unconscious emotions behind thoughts. EBT uses techniques to access and process underlying emotions quickly through the body's sensations, in order to rewire unhelpful brain circuits and maintain a state of joy and connection between the thinking and emotional parts of the brain.
Resources Mentioned:
Emotional Brain Training
1-2-3 Joy!
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About the Guest
Dr. Laurel Mellin is a psychologist and author who has been developing techniques in emotional brain training for over 40 years. She founded the Emotional Brain Training program and app to help people access their unconscious minds, process negative emotions quickly, and rewire unhelpful brain circuits to maintain a state of joy
Did you know feelings like worry are our brains' way of protecting us? However, they can become problematic when they trigger repetitive negative thoughts.
In this episode, Matt O'Neill interviews neuroscientist Alex Korb to discuss how common emotions like worry, anxiety, anger, and self-criticism are natural brain functions, not personal failings.
Learn simple strategies – backed by neuroscience – to improve mood and happiness. Understand why our brains experience these emotions and learn how you can manage them through mindfulness instead of judgment. This episode will leave you feeling empowered rather than critical of yourself.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why the brain experiences emotions like worry and self-criticism
- Understanding different brain wiring and personality traits
- Managing emotions through mindfulness and self-compassion
- The importance of exercise, sleep, gratitude, and taking action
[03:22] The Purpose of Worry and Self-Criticism
Worry evolved as a brain mechanism to avoid threats by thinking through problems and solutions, utilizing the prefrontal cortex similarly to playing chess. The amygdala provides emotions like anxiety to motivate protection. Therefore, feelings such as worry and self-criticism stem naturally from how our brains are formed for survival purposes, rather than being inherently negative traits.
[07:29] Unique Brain Wiring and the Value of Self-Acceptance
We all think and act differently based on natural variations. Instead of stressing over what you can't change, focus on your strengths and what really matters to you. If something gets in your way, look at tweaking your approach rather than feeling stuck with who you are.
[20:40] The Power of Emotion Labeling and Self-Compassion
Simply stating your emotion, like "I'm feeling angry", lets the prefrontal cortex regulate the amygdala. Labeling emotions mindfully while showing self-compassion, not judgment, replaces unhelpful rumination or avoidance with healthy emotional processing. This optimizes the brain's natural regulation abilities.
[29:00] Simple Habits for a Happier Brain
Alex highlights exercise, quality sleep, gratitude, and taking action as important daily habits for brain health and happiness. Small amounts of activity, optimized sleep, focusing on positives through gratitude, and controlling what's within our power can make a big impact per neuroscience.
Notable quotes:
[05:59] Worry in itself isn't a problem. Obsessively worrying is a problem. [06:13]
[17:46] You can't necessarily inherently change your brain's automatic reactivity. [17:54]
[18:17] Having a brain that is emotionally reactive is not a bad thing. What makes it a bad thing is the habits that you've programmed into it that are automatically triggered. [18:36]
Resources Mentioned:
The Upward Spiral
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About the Guest
Alex Korb is a neuroscientist who studies depression and the brain. His book “The Upward Spiral” explains what happens in the brain during depression and provides strategies for improving mood based on scientific research.
Learn powerful strategies for maintaining a positive mindset in the face of major life changes and challenges. In this powerful discussion, Matt O’Neill shares how he navigated massive losses in his real estate business to emerge stronger than before through resilience and a growth mindset. Author and speaker Rich Alderton also reveals simple yet impactful techniques for developing "adaptability intelligence" to thrive in times of change.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Matt faces biggest career challenge with loss of half company revenue
- Adaptability as a learnable intelligence
- Tips for managing fear and anxiety about uncertainty
- Using mindfulness to overcome negativity bias
- Inspiring story of replacing lost business volume in one week
[08:09] Adaptability as a Learnable Intelligence
Adaptability is a learnable skill. While people develop technical and soft skills, those skills are only useful in stable environments. Adaptability is the most important skill since it allows people to apply other skills during challenges and uncertainty. It unlocks one's full potential to perform their best regardless of adversities.
[12:29] Why People Resist Change
People resist change due to evolutionary instincts to avoid threats to security and survival. Humans feel fear and anxiety towards alterations as changes posed risks historically. However, this response today can be counterproductive and prevent embracing opportunities from change.
[15:09] How Change Creates Opportunities to Make a Positive Difference
Challenging times allow people to rise to the occasion and make an impact by embracing change. It provides opportunities to help oneself and others – and explore one's capabilities. Status quo, on the other hand, does not offer growth because it only reinforces past behaviors without learning or progressing. Change provides opportunities to make a difference by pushing us out of routines, and compelling creativity to address challenges in new ways that can help others or solve problems innovatively.
[25:45] Resistance vs. Adaptability
Resilience is about bouncing back to the previous state, while adaptability is about bouncing forward to a better state. Resilience focuses on recovering from difficulties, but adaptability enables growth by learning from challenges and finding new opportunities for improvement. An adaptable mindset empowers individuals to not only withstand disruptions but also to thrive in the face of change.
Notable quotes:
[08:42] If you can only be the best that you can be when the waters are calm, then you're not really going to be of very much use to yourself or society. [08:52]
[13:47] We've got to change the way that we perceive change. [13:51]
[15:33] The status quo is only ever going to tell you that what you did yesterday, you can do tomorrow, and you already know that. So you've learned nothing, you've achieved nothing. What's the point of life? [15:43]
[25:45] Resilience is about the ability to bounce back. Adaptability is about the ability to bounce higher. [25:50]
Resources Mentioned:
www.highperformancechange.com
Antifragileby Nassim Nicholas Taleb
S.U.M.O.by Paul McGee
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About the Guest
Rich Alderton is a speaker and author focused on helping people develop adaptability intelligence. He defines adaptability as a form of intelligence that can be learned and improved through understanding how to manage fear and anxiety about change.
There is a simple act that can lift your spirits - picking up the phone and calling a friend. In this episode, Matt O'Neill interviews social expert Devon Ash about how connecting with others is key to happiness.
Interacting with and deriving support from others has wide-ranging benefits for mental and physical well-being. When we feel socially engaged, connected, and supported – our mood lifts, stress decreases, and we feel happier and more fulfilled. Listen now to find the social fluency tips that may be just what you need.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How our social nature means connecting with others improves well-being
- Overcoming isolation during the pandemic and learning to say "yes" more often
- Real stories that show how developing social skills can transform lives
[02:09] Reaching Out for Support
Devon emphasizes the importance of social connection for our well-being. He advises reaching out to close friends or family when feeling down, as opening up about our vulnerabilities with trusted loved ones can provide much-needed relief. This may not be easy for those struggling to form deep relationships. However, by working on your social skills, you can develop supportive networks where people can feel truly seen and lift each other's moods during tough times.
[04:22] The Importance of Connection
Devon stresses that while some people are more introverted, human beings inherently need social interaction and connection with others. Reaching out to friends may not come naturally for those who struggle with social skills. However, developing the ability to connect is possible with time and practice. Building relationships is a learnable skill, and doing so can help ensure introverts still experience the mental health benefits of spending quality time with close friends and family.
[05:34] Hang Out with Happy People
Devon echoes Matt's advice to surround yourself with upbeat company when feeling down. As Matt discovered firsthand, being in the presence of happy, energetic people can lift one's mood even if they are not close friends. Both Devon and Matt recommend temporarily escaping negative headspaces by attending social events and putting yourself in environments filled with positivity and optimism. Doing so provides a mood boost at a time when you need it most.
Notable quotes:
Devon - [02:10] We are social creatures. We love feeling connected to people we love when we feel seen. And if you don't feel like you have an outlet for that, it can feel really tough. [02:24]
Devon - [04:22] We might be introverted, but we still need human connection to be fulfilled. [04:29]
Matt - [06:40] When we are feeling hopeless or depressed or overwhelmed by sadness... reaching out to the people who are our lifelines can help get us out. [06:49]
Resources Mentioned:
www.socialfluency.com
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About the Guest
Devon Ash is a social fluency expert who teaches people skills for better social connections and communication in relationships, dating, career, and family.
It’s time to have PASSION in your work-life. In this episode, Kimmy Powell shares how you can discover your true calling.
Kimmy also provides a simple process from her book "The Passion and Purpose Project" that will help you reflect on interests, skills, and childhood dreams. She'll guide you in ruling out wrong fits and taking inspired action. Tune in to hear Kimmy's tips for awakening your inner passion.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Awakening the inner child to find your true passion and calling
- How to get started with finding your calling
- How God guides us from whispers to knocks
- Find your path through self-awareness
- How to start with the end in mind
[06:19] Awakening the Inner Child to Find Your True Passion and Calling
Think back to what stuff excited you most as a kid before other people shaped your thinking. Remembering what you loved to do then can give you clues to your natural abilities and gifts. Reconnecting with that youthful part of yourself helps bring clarity around your real passions and purpose in life.
[16:30] Finding Your Path Through Self-Awareness
A lot of times people have an idea in their head of what they wanna do that's not realistic. And so, you’ve got to figure out what you really want versus what's actually possible. Cross off options that won't work to get clear on what's truly best for you. It's good to know what you don't want too, because that helps you put all the pieces together to see exactly what job would be the perfect fit.
[19:44] God's Guidance: From Whispers to Knocks
God first gently whispers ideas and insights to you. Then if you don't listen to the whispers, God will start shouting louder messages through more obvious signs or experiences. And if you still don't listen, God may ultimately deliver an experience that "knocks you over the head" – and leaves no doubt about the direction or lesson He is trying to impart.
[27:37] How to Start with the End in Mind
Think about how you wanna be remembered after you're gone - what difference or things you want people to say about you. Having a clear picture of your future self can help with choices now. Beginning by thinking big picture about goals and dreams keeps you focused on truly achieving your full potential.
Notable quotes:
[11:38] The child always knows roughly what they want to be – who they are at their core. [11:43]
[14:42] If you can just find your lane, you don't really need to know where it ends. You just need to know that you're on the right highway. [14:50]
[19:44] God whispers, then God shouts, and then God knocks you over the head. [19:47]
[27:12] Design a life that is centered around you and not so much around what you think you should be – but what you actually are. [27:21]
Resources Mentioned:
www.kimmykpowell.com
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About the Guest
Kimberly K. Powell is a mentor, author, speaker, angel investor, and serial entrepreneur with 30+ years of expertise in building and scaling multiple seven-figure businesses. She has advised people worldwide to find their true passion through her book, "The Passion and Purpose Project."
Struggling to stay positive? Discover a simple trick to boost your mood anytime, anywhere. In this episode, creative entrepreneur, author, and former spacecraft designer Aliki Samone shares a mindfulness routine that will leave you feeling relaxed and energized.
Try her 3-minute practice that focuses on getting in touch with what's going on inside you on a mental, physical, and spiritual level – and experience the life-changing power of presence.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Aliki’s three-phase approach to choosing happiness
- The mind-body-spirit exercise
- How to shift your perspective to fully live in the moment
- Setting a daily alarm to check in with yourself
[02:09] Aliki Samone's Three-Phase Approach to Choosing Happiness
Aliki discusses three phases in your approach to choosing happiness: mental tools, planning techniques, and execution habits. Get into a good mood so you can live your best life and make those plans for the future by focusing first on the mental tools.
[02:32] The Mind-Body-Spirit Exercise
Aliki suggests asking yourself these three questions as part of the mind-body-spirit exercise:
- What is my mind feeling like right now? - Are you feeling anxious, stressed, calm, joyful?
- What does my body feel like right now? - Are there tensions, pains, or areas of discomfort? A relaxed, energized body often indicates a relaxed mindset as well.
- What is my spirit telling me? - The spirit represents one's soul, passion, and purpose. It leads to reconnecting with inner wisdom and strength.
[06:38] Shifting Your Perspective to Fully Live in the Moment
Once you've checked in with your current mental, physical, and emotional state through the mind-body-spirit exercise, Aliki recommends learning from the present experience. Take a deep breath, smile, and ask yourself: "What's an awesome thing I can do today?" or "What's an awesome way I can change my mindset?"
[07:25] Setting a Daily Alarm for Self-Reflection
Setting an alarm is a good way to practice the mind-body-spirit exercise. Choose a calming sound to go off once or multiple times per day at set times as a reminder to pause activities. Then spend a few minutes reflecting on your current mental, physical, and emotional state through asking the three key questions. This helps you build the routine of self-awareness and mood monitoring as a daily habit over time.
Notable quotes:
[02:09] A good mood will lead you to your best life. [02:12]
[05:36] Your spirit is this connection between your heart and your soul – and that is where your passion and your fire for life grows. [05:46]
[06:38] Learn from the now, live in the moment, and take a deep breath. Smile, and ask yourself, what's an awesome thing I can do today or an awesome way I can change my mindset so that I am in the best mood? [06:56]
Resources Mentioned:
www.conqueryoursummit.com
Connect with Aliki on Instagram @thesummitmethod
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About the Guest
Aliki Samone is a dynamic entrepreneur and author of the book Conquer Your Summit: How to Build a Five-Year Plan and Live Your Best Life. Aliki is a former spacecraft designer who started her own company and shares tips on feeling good.
Do you sometimes rely on unhealthy coping mechanisms to feel better or escape difficult emotions? In this latest episode of The Good Mood Show, you'll hear an inspiring story of overcoming addiction and finding fulfillment.
Mark Congdon candidly shares his harrowing 5-year battle with substance abuse. But he also discusses the epiphany that led him to develop a simple 7-step process now proven to help thousands. Discover visualization techniques, goal-setting strategies, and habit-building tips to harness your brain's natural reward system – without artificial substances.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The 7 steps to harness stress, find purpose, and achieve goals
- Visualization techniques and setting achievable milestones
- Developing productive habits and maintaining discipline
- Practicing mental contrasting and deliberate practice
[09:46] The "I Got This" Framework: The 7-Step Process
- Identify a "master goal" or vision for your ideal future self - Craft a short mantra from your mission statement for daily motivation toward goals to remind you of your purpose.
- Visualize "dream goals" that may not seem possible now - Take your future vision and put it into a tangible yet challenging goal. It may not seem immediately possible, but it could be achieved with effort over time.
- Set "horizon goals" that are challenging but achievable - Choose goals you feel strongly you can achieve in your lifetime even if the timeline is unclear, marking progress towards your dreams.
- Break goals into controllable "objectives" and habits - Find concrete actions and routines that directly influence the outcome or who you become through consistent practice.
- Choose a specific "milestone goal" to work on - Select an outcome you will actively pursue over a set period to make tangible near-term progress on your path toward dreams and personal growth.
- Develop daily tasks to progress toward goals - Establish specific actions you will complete each day to move closer to your milestone through purposeful practice and productive routines.
- Allow progress to fuel further growth through "deliberate flow" - Let positive feelings from achieving smaller goals naturally inspire discipline in other areas through the spillover effect while comfortably practicing existing skills.
[21:40] The Concept of Mental Contrasting
Mental contrasting involves both positively visualizing a desired future outcome – and thinking of challenges and obstacles that could stand in the way. The research found that simply fantasizing leads to poorer results versus pairing positive visualization with considering negative realities and planning to overcome them.
Notable quotes:
[05:23] Discipline is how we learn [05:35]
[07:59] Drugs are ways for us to try to chase that reward. [08:14]
[34:54] Capitalize on the wins you get from just taking one baby step at a time. [34:59]
Resources Mentioned:
www.markrcongdon.com
The Ideal Life
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
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About the Guest
Mark Congdon, the Founder of The Ideal Life, developed the "I Got This" framework to help people achieve their goals based on his career success and research integrating psychology and neuroscience.
David Bush shares his proven 4-step formula for achieving extraordinary results and having more good days.
He emphasizes the importance of surrounding yourself with uplifting people, consuming inspiring content, developing a growth mindset, continuously learning new skills, and taking consistent action towards your goals.
Whether you want to improve your productivity, relationships, or overall happiness, you'll walk away with tangible tips to apply.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Motivation: The importance of consuming inspiring content and surrounding yourself with uplifting people
- Mindset: Developing a growth mindset over a fixed one to perceive challenges as opportunities
- Skill Sets: The power of continuously developing your skills through learning
- Action: How to take consistent, small steps towards your goals to keep moving forward
[01:45] How Consumption Impacts Motivation
David quotes Zig Ziglar saying that motivation is like bathing - it only works when you do it regularly. Without the consistent practice of self-motivation, life begins to feel stagnant. Be careful with what you consume for information through reading, watching, and listening to ensure it inspires and excites you rather than bringing stress or negativity. Maintaining motivation requires regularly focusing on goals and aspirations. Then you will feel energized to take the necessary actions for improvements and progress.
[02:28] How Your Perspective Paves Your Path
Mindset is about perspective and perception, which determines your path and pace in life. Having an open, curious, and growth-oriented mindset allows you to view current circumstances and future opportunities in a way that leads to progress, rather than being fixed on pain and problems from the past.
[03:15] How Learning Increases Skills and Success
David quotes Jim Rohn's wisdom that the more you learn, the more you become, and the more you become, the more you achieve and earn. Developing valuable skills through continuous learning allows you to grow in your abilities, which leads to greater achievements, income, and repeating this cycle of expansion and success.
[04:05] Motivation Requires Action to Sustain
Motivation alone is not enough – you need to take inspired action. Denis Waitley says, "Motivation is a contraction of motive and idea and action. When you combine them, you get motivation." Hence, evaluate what you’re consuming for motivation and ensure you’re taking consistent steps to feel its energizing effects.
Notable quotes:
[03:39] If you want to have more good days, learn more. [03:50]
[04:16] Motivation is oftentimes misunderstood. It's thought of as inspiration, and we can become inspired and we can gain inspiration. But we can also lose inspiration as time goes on. [04:28]
[05:56] That process–becoming a habit and a commitment inside your calendar – are you organizing your life around that concept? Because if you are, you're going to have more great days. [06:05]
Resources Mentioned:
www.theextraordinarylife.com
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
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About the Guest
David Bush is a renowned success and results coach. He has helped countless individuals from all walks of life achieve extraordinary outcomes in both their personal and professional lives.
It’s time to rethink your vacations. Matt O'Neill sits down with vacation expert Jennica Day to discuss how taking vacations increases your productivity and happiness.
Get tips for overcoming "vacay phobia" - that nagging feeling that you shouldn't take a break. And discover simple ways to feel happier and healthier without breaking the bank. Tune in now to reap the surprising benefits of prioritizing time away.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Prioritizing vacations to boost productivity
- Understanding work-related stress and the need for breaks
- Busting myths around vacation affordability and alternatives
- Mindset over destination
- Creating transformative one-on-one experiences with children
[04:54] The Influence of Leadership on Vacation Culture
Corporate culture impacts employees' willingness to take vacations. Managers who work long hours without breaks set an example that fosters a belief among staff that they must do the same. This embedded fear is exacerbated in workplaces where overworking without time off is the norm, leaving employees worried that vacations could make them look like they're slacking.
[06:34] Minimizing Vacation Stress: The Case for Shorter Breaks
To avoid feeling overwhelmed when returning from time off, Jennica suggests taking shorter vacations of 3-4 days rather than full weeks or longer. With briefer breaks, less prep work is needed before departing and fewer emails and tasks to catch up on upon returning. Shorter vacations still provide the benefits of rest and relaxation but minimize the stress of transitioning back to work.
[08:41] The Creativity Boost of Vacationing
When people take breaks from their regular work, their brains can think in new ways. Specifically, the default mode network is activated - this is a region activated when the brain is at rest. While doing nothing, the brain gains different insights and perspectives. Stepping away from ongoing projects or problems allows the mind to view them with a fresh lens upon returning. This is why vacations can facilitate increased creativity and innovative solutions as the temporary distance provides an altered mental approach.
[10:41] The 4 Vacation Myths
- Vacations are too expensive - Vacations don't necessarily require travel and can be affordable by utilizing free activities, staying with friends/family, or simple staycations.
- You must travel for a vacation - Taking time off from regular responsibilities qualifies as a vacation regardless of location.
- Vacations will hurt your career success - Vacations can actually increase productivity and performance, aiding career progression.
- You must sacrifice vacations to be successful - Regular breaks boost mental health and creativity, enhancing work rather than hindering it as the myth suggests.
Notable quotes:
[07:45] The more frequently we take vacations, the happier we are. [07:49]
[07:50] It really doesn't matter how many days of vacation we take, it's just that we need these little breaks to keep us going. [07:55]
[09:37] Health and wellness is boosted when we're taking breaks. [09:40]
[11:18] You don't have to spend any money to get the benefits of vacation, as long as you're taking time away from work and not feeling stressed. [11:27]
Resources Mentioned:
Connect with Jennica on Instagram.
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About the Guest
Jennica Day is a vacation expert and author focused on helping people prioritize rest and rejuvenation through travel. As a researcher, she analyzed vacation trends and statistics which revealed that many Americans fail to use all their earned vacation time each year, despite proven benefits.
Feel your best from the inside out with this game-changing wisdom from Beth Sandlin. Beth shares an insightful message about using different types of mindful movement to consciously lift your spirits.
Tune in to this episode to discover simple ways you can incorporate exercise into your routine specifically for emotional well-being. Find out how to "tune in" to your feelings and choose workouts that enhance your energy, reduce stress, and leave you feeling nourished from the inside out.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How movement impacts mood
- Discovering the mind-body connection
- Choosing the right workout for your mood
- Concluding workouts with mindfulness
[01:30] The Hidden Benefits of Exercise: How Movement Impacts Mood
Beth discusses how while exercise provides physical benefits like strength, mobility, and bone density, it also positively impacts mood in important ways. She notes exercise can reduce pain, regulate mood, and boost happiness. Different types of workouts influence how we feel beyond just physical strength and flexibility by benefiting emotional well-being.
[02:34] Discovering the Mind-Body Connection Through Mindful Movement
Once Beth realized that focusing solely on physical outcomes from workouts was not sustainable for motivation long-term, she started experimenting with different types of exercises after learning about their ability to influence mood and benefit both the physical body and mental well-being. As a cancer survivor, finding activities that lifted her spirits was especially important for her recovery and maintaining her energy levels over the past 20 years. Mindful movement proved crucial for Beth's full recovery from cancer and continues to be important today for managing her health.
[04:34] Choosing the Right Workout for Your Mood
Beth recommends tuning into your current feelings and body sensations to start. This involves acknowledging your emotional state and how your body feels, which helps understand what you need from your workout. You may need relaxation, an energy boost, or stress reduction. Recognizing these needs helps navigate workout options to choose one aligned with your emotional and physical needs for the day.
[06:45] The Power of Gratitude: Concluding Workouts with Mindfulness
Beth emphasizes the importance of nurturing yourself through mindful movement. She suggests concluding each workout by taking a moment to feel gratitude. This acknowledges taking the time to care for your mental and physical well-being through exercise.
Notable quotes:
[01:50] Different types of workouts can do more than just get stronger or stretch out our muscles. They impact how you feel. [01:56]
[02:01] Exercise is a powerful tool for emotional well being. [02:05]
[04:37] Start by acknowledging your current emotional state and how your body feels because that's going to help you understand your needs. [04:45]
[06:46] Conclude each workout with just a moment of gratitude, taking the time to acknowledge that you took time for yourself for your mental and physical well being. [06:55]
Resources Mentioned:
Trifecta Pilates
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About the Guest
Beth Sandlin is a Pilates instructor and founder of Trifecta Pilates in Austin, Texas. She discovered the mental and physical benefits of mindful movement after battling cancer over 20 years ago.
Discover the power of words to change your life! In today’s conversation, you will learn seven words that will transform your life. Matt O’Neill sits down with Becky Kemp who shares her incredible personal journey of overcoming challenges through focusing on her language and thoughts.
Becky reveals the seven words that transformed her perspective and helped her achieve her dreams. Learn directly from an expert on how language can impact your life in profound ways. Becky shares her methodology of daily affirmations to enhance your outlook and leave this conversation feeling motivated to enhance your reality – just by tweaking your daily words.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Discovering the power of words
- How focusing on "how" instead of "why" can help you move forward
- The transformative power of self-acceptance and positive affirmations
- Taking inspired action each day to achieve your goals
- Appreciating what you have and keeping a grateful mindset
- Continually aspiring to grow while embracing life's challenges
[04:28] Changing Your Internal Dialogue
We've heard that our thoughts become things, yet often give that power away to outside forces instead of recognizing the influence of our mindset. As Becky found, shifting her self-talk from blaming others to changing her own words profoundly altered her perspective. With awareness of our internal monologue-shaping experiences, we can consciously craft a new narrative and rewrite our story.
[09:50] The 7 Words That Can Reshape Your Reality
The seven simple words that Becky shares in her book and discussion are:
- Acknowledge - This involves openly acknowledging what you want out of life, such as dreams, desires, or goals. Speaking our aspirations aloud to others is the first step to manifesting them.
- Ask - Focusing on "how" questions instead of "why" to keep thoughts solution-oriented. Being curious and asking for guidance moves us forward in a positive way.
- Accept - Learning to find acceptance for where we are now and what we cannot control. Letting go of resistance allows us to take responsible action.
- Abundance - Shifting to an abundant mindset that sees limitless opportunities and resources available to achieve our goals. Focusing on positivity over lack.
- Action - While visualizing our dreams, we must also take purposeful steps daily by committing to small tasks to make manifestations real.
- Appreciate - Cultivating gratitude for what we have now so that more goodness may grow. Keeping a thankful perspective lifts our mood.
- Aspire - Continually setting new goals and embracing life's challenges helps us reach our highest potential. There is always room for growth.
Incorporating these powerful words into our daily routines through self-talk and affirmations can transform our perspectives and help us create the realities we desire. By focusing on these words, we can shift our internal dialogue to be more positive and solution-oriented.
Notable quotes:
[04:28] Change your words and you can change your life. [04:30]
[14:37] When you acknowledge things, all of a sudden, the path becomes clearer for the next step. [14:44]
[18:11] We have to learn to find acceptance in life because there's very little we have control of. [18:16]
Resources Mentioned:
The Word Effect podcast
The WORD EFFECT by Becky Kemp
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
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About the Guest
Becky Kemp is a certified life coach and host of the popular podcast "The Word Effect”. Through her own experiences overcoming adversity, she discovered the profound impact that positive self-talk can have on one's life. Becky went on to write the book The Word Effect to help others apply the principles of language and manifestation.
By embracing life's challenges from a place of open-hearted understanding, we can transform even pain and fear into opportunities for growth. But how do we do that exactly?
In this episode, Matt O'Neill welcomes Dr. Tracey Johnson, aka “the heart communicator," to discuss her powerful philosophy of loving from within. Tired of searching for happiness outside ourselves, Tracey found the key to joy by opening her heart and listening to its wisdom.
Learn how you can get access to Dr. Tracey Johnson’s 4-step process that she uses to help clients shift into a state of unconditional love and self-acceptance – so you can start living with your heart wide open.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Finding inner treasure in heartbreak
- Love is all there is
- Love as a creative power
- Why an open heart is key to healing
[00:58] Finding Inner Treasure in Heartbreak
When our heart is "broken" during times of emotional pain or loss, it is opening us up rather than shattering us. If we are open to inner transformation, we allow our inherent qualities – such as strength, wisdom, and compassion – to emerge so we can experience life as our richest, most authentic selves.
[01:51] Love is All There Is
Love is the fundamental creative force that gives life and animates all things. While love can be expressed in many forms, the extent to which we experience it and can express it ourselves depends on the openness of our hearts. Only by opening our hearts can we allow love to flow in from within, according to Dr. Tracey. With an open heart, we gain the capacity to both receive love and manifest it in the world through our thoughts, words, and actions.
[03:20] Love as a Creative Power
Love is not just an emotion, but rather a creative power. It creates our reality and allows us to experience peace, joy, passion, purpose, and all that we intend in life. To access this power from within and experience love in this way, our hearts must be open – open to receiving love flowing in from the inside out. With a closed heart, we block the creative power of love and limit our ability to manifest a fulfilling life experience according to our highest intentions and desires.
[04:30] The Illusion of Protection: Why an Open Heart is Key to Healing
When we build walls around our heart in an attempt to protect it from pain, we are not protecting it at all. Rather than letting the pain flow through us, we end up trapping it inside by walling it up. This causes us to be closed off from new experiences of love. Open the heart instead, to receive the power of unconditional love from within ourselves. With an open heart, pain can be released rather than stored internally. This allows us to freely experience love and healing on an inner level, which is the true path to overcoming emotional blocks and suffering according to Dr. Johnson's philosophy.
Notable quotes:
[00:58] Open your heart to receive love from the inside out, because if you don't go within, you go without. [01:06]
[01:51] Everything that we experience, we experience through our hearts. [01:56]
[02:41] Love is all there is. It is the creative force, which gives life to everything and everyone. [02:55]
[04:30] You have to have a heart that is open so that the experience can flow in and through your heart. [04:38]
Resources Mentioned:
www.openheartworld.com
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About the Guest
Dr. Tracey J. Johnson is a life coach and practitioner of heart-based philosophy. She holds a doctorate in philosophy and is known as the "Heart Communicator" for her work assisting clients in emotional healing.
We've all felt betrayed before, and it hurts. When it happens, it hurts. We feel a mix of emotions, like anger, sadness, distrust, and even shame. But we don’t want to stay feeling this way. There is a way to move beyond betrayal and find your happiness again.
In this episode, Matt teaches his 6-step pathway to move beyond betrayal and move to forgiveness. You will need this lesson at some point, and it’s a great idea to be ready with the answers before you need them.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why anger, sadness, and disappointment are secondary emotions
- The six steps for moving past betrayal
- Chris Singleton’s inspiring story of forgiveness
[01:09] Why Anger is Only a Secondary Emotion
Matt says anger is always a secondary emotion that comes in to protect our primary, underlying emotion. When we feel betrayed or hurt, the initial root emotion we feel is vulnerability, sadness, or disappointment. Anger seeks to defend our vulnerability and make us feel stronger in the face of pain. Other secondary emotions include sadness, distrust, and insecurity.
However, Matt emphasizes addressing the primary emotion underneath anger, rather than getting caught in a cycle of justifying our angry words and actions. Staying present with feelings of hurt or sadness with compassion is healthier than reacting angrily in the long run.
[04:57] The 6-Step Process for Moving Past Hurt Feelings Through Forgiveness
- Don't "box yourself in" by acting in anger through words or actions.
- Use the techniques in Byron Katie's "The Work" to question thoughts and see different perspectives.
- Be honest about how you genuinely feel while avoiding manipulation.
- Pray sincerely for forgiveness, compassion, and new understanding.
- Be open to symbols that may come through prayer as guidance.
- Choose forgiveness by letting go of resentment and recognizing others owe you nothing.
[33:03] A Gift of Forgiveness: Chris Singleton's Inspirational Story
Chris Singleton's story is one of the most powerful examples of forgiveness. After losing his mother in a tragic hate crime shooting at the Charleston church, Chris showed extraordinary compassion by facing her murderer in court. Instead of words of anger or vengeance, Chris offered the gift of forgiveness. When asked how he did it, Chris said he didn’t, but God did.
Notable quotes:
[11:33] Somebody might have cut us once, but we cut ourselves a thousand times every time we think about how hurt we are and how sad we are. [11:40]
[11:23] Who you are today is someone who is powerful and strong. That hurt is now in the past – and the only time we're hurting ourselves is (over and over and over again) in our minds. [11:32]
[15:38] Anger and happiness cannot exist at the same time. [15:39]
Resources Mentioned:
Interview with Chris Singleton
The Work - Byron Katie
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
Leadership and Self-Deception by Arbinger Institute
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Tune in to this episode as Matt sits down with humor expert Conor Cunneen. Conor shares an intriguing statistic - while children laugh around 300 times per day, adults only chuckle about 15 times. But as Conor reminds us, nothing boosts your mood like a good laugh.
From research on laughter habits to recounting a hilarious family blunder of his own, Conor provides practical tips to lighten moods and help important messages stick. Conor reveals you don't have to be a stand-up to engage your audience - just learn to find the funny in your everyday experiences.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Adding humor to presentations
- Using humor for workplace safety
- Capturing daily moments of laughter
[00:58] The Funny Factor
Conor notes you don't need to be a comedian to incorporate humor into presentations. While adults laugh 15 times daily, we've likely laughed 100 times in the past week alone. Yet most recall only a couple laughs. Though humor surrounds us, we fail to capture small laughter moments. By consciously spotting amusing anecdotes and observations, you can learn to find the funny and help audiences recall the message with a smile.
[02:35] A Funny Family Mishap
Conor shares how everyday humor can enhance presentations. He recounts picking up his granddaughter Maggie from soccer practice and jokingly trying to join her and his wife in the backseat. To his embarrassment, as the designated driver, Conor soon found himself locked inside by the child lock! He ended up having to call his daughter to let him out, providing a lighthearted anecdote that illustrates Conor's point about finding comedy in everyday life.
[06:17] Capturing Joy & Counting Laughs
Matt challenges us to count how many times we laugh each day for a week. Nothing feels better than a good laugh. Capture funny memories through photos or videos like happy children do. Recalling past moments of laughter is a great way to feel good even on less cheerful days.
Notable quotes:
[00:58] You don't have to be funny to be funny. [01:01] - Conor
[06:00] Children laugh 300 times a day... The average adult laughs 15 times a day. [06:08] - Matt
[07:45] Make a memory of (this) laughter because... when we think back on our life, what we have is our memories. [07:52] - Matt
Resources Mentioned:
www.irishmanspeaks.com/humor
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About the Guest
Conor Cunneen is an Irish humorist and keynote speaker. Known as "The Irish Man Speaks,” he teaches organizations how to incorporate more laughter into presentations and workplace culture.
Being a "nice guy" is not always the best approach, especially not when getting the approval of others comes at the expense of staying true to yourself. When we're constantly saying "yes" just to avoid upsetting others, it can be easy to lose touch with what's really important to us individually.
In this episode, Matt O'Neill sits down with men's coach Chuck Chapman to discuss the importance of integrity in living an authentic, purposeful life. Matt and Chuck debate practical examples of when "being nice" helps or hurts, and the line between people-pleasing and integrity.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Integrity's impact on happiness and well-being
- Virtues of courage and humility as foundations for integrity
- Integrity as the integration of virtues
- Maintaining integrity and balance in relationships and decisions
- Balance, accountability, forgiveness, and trust
[06:31] Courage as the North Star of All Virtues
According to Chuck, courage is the "North Star of all virtues." He sees courage as the first step toward living with integrity. Courage is necessary in order to do any virtue, because it takes courage to override our natural instincts and do what aligns with our values and integrity. Living with integrity often requires having difficult conversations or facing pain, which is where courage comes in. As Scott Peck said, courage isn't the absence of fear but the ability to move forward in its face.
[16:21] Integrity as an Integration of Virtues
Chuck realized integrity is not just one single thing, but rather an integration or combination of virtues. He describes living with integrity as similar to how all the individual parts of a watch (sprockets, springs, cogs etc.) need to be in alignment and integrated for the watch to serve its purpose of telling time. In the same way, he believes the 16 virtues need to be integrated within a person for them to be able to serve their highest purpose and live without inner conflict or suffering that comes from being out of integrity.
[18:29] "Nice Guy" vs. "Man of Integrity"
Chuck is making an important distinction between being a "nice guy" and being a "man of integrity." He states that the opposite of a "nice guy" is not a jerk - but what he calls a "man of integrity." He suggests that while a nice guy's niceness often comes from a place of seeking approval or avoiding conflict, a man of integrity acts from a place of genuine care, following his values and staying true to himself even if it's not the easiest thing to do. This highlights how integrity requires courage rather than just being pleasant, and speaks to the discussion around discerning when "being nice" helps or hurts one's character.
Notable quotes:
[07:03] Courage really is the first step of living in integrity because it takes an act of courage to do that. [07:11]
[12:01] When you live in love, and grace and compassion and humility, you feel a whole lot better. [12:10]
[18:29] The opposite of a nice guy isn't a jerk… it’s what I call a man of integrity. [18:35]
[22:55] If all I'm doing is loving everybody else, and not loving myself, then what happens is, I'm out of balance. [23:00]
Resources Mentioned:
www.chuckchapman.com
Gobundance
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About the Guest
Chuck Chapman is a licensed therapist and men's coach with over 15 years of experience helping men live authentically. His upcoming book "Finding Your Way Without Losing Yourself: The Path of Integrity" draws from his personal journey of discovering integrity after his life fell apart.
Start your day the sweet way with happiness hacks from Lynne Bowman. Matt interviews Lynn who shares her unconventional recipe for a good mood - brownies for breakfast.
As the author of Brownies for Breakfast, Lynne explains how enjoying your favorite treats in the morning can boost happiness. She also dives into the science behind how the foods we eat impact our energy levels and overall well-being.
Discover simple diet tips from Lynne on feeling your best every day, even with a little chocolate in the morning!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Brownies for breakfast? Lynne shares her simple recipe for happiness
- Cut the crap: The importance of whole, unprocessed foods
- Darren Hardy's fast food challenge and the impact on energy
[01:18] A Sweet Start to Happiness
Lynne reveals how enjoying your favorite treats first thing in the morning, like brownies, can provide an unexpected mood boost. As the author of Brownies for Breakfast, she explains how allowing yourself small indulgences each day in the form of dessert for breakfast keeps you feeling happy and satisfied.
[02:11] Ditch the Processed Junk
Lynne gets real about how cutting highly processed snack foods and fast food from your diet makes a noticeable difference in your energy levels. She advocates preparing simple, homemade meals with whole ingredients for a natural boost without the crash.
[03:15] No Fast Food Forever
Matt shares his experience taking Darren Hardy's challenge to never eat fast food again. To his surprise, the few times he broke the rules left him feeling terrible. Lynne explains the science behind why our bodies crave and then reject highly processed convenience foods.
Notable quotes:
[01:49] It's simple. Stop eating crap. Eat real food. [01:57]
[02:11] Of all the things in your life that are going to make you happy, eating well is going to be one of the main ones. [02:13]
[05:20] Get the most whole food in our diet and that's going to increase our energy the most. [05:24]
Resources Mentioned:
www.lynnebowman.com
Brownies for Breakfastby Lynne Bowman
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
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About the Guest
Lynne Bowman is a grandmother, dietitian and cookbook author based in Atlanta, Georgia. With over 25 years of experience in nutrition counseling, she has a special interest in recipes and meal plans for those with diabetes or other dietary restrictions.
It's time to take control of your financial future and unleash your wealth potential. It’s much easier to be in a good mood when your money is right. This week on The Good Mood Money Show, Matt O'Neill sits down for an insightful discussion with renowned wealth-builder Aaron West.
Learn action steps like tracking net worth for clarity and opening a "not my money" savings account. Aaron also reveals how to overcome fear-based thinking through developing an abundant mindset.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Reframing your relationship with finances
- How underlying emotions shape our money mindsets
- Creating a “not my money” account
- Figuring out your net worth
- The difference between a doer and a sayer
[08:44] How Underlying Emotions Shape Our Money Mindsets
Fear is often at the root of dysfunctional or limiting beliefs around finances. Spenders fear scarcity so they spend freely without regard for the future. Savers fear risk so much that they don't allow their money to work for them through prudent investing. Aaron created a "not my money" account to automatically transfer portions of each paycheck, shifting his mindset from spender to saver by separating funds for spending versus long-term investing and wealth-building.
[17:42] Figuring Out Your Net Worth
Aaron emphasizes that the very first step to improving your relationship with money is to calculate your net worth. Even if the number is low or negative, gaining clarity on your financial position is hugely important for making better decisions going forward. It provides a baseline to measure progress. Most people don't truly know where they stand financially. Taking just 10 minutes to add up assets, subtract liabilities, and determine one's net worth is a game-changing first move toward financial literacy and success.
[28:22] The Slow and Steady Path to Wealth
It's not about waiting to "hit a home run" but making a committed decision to prioritize wealth growth and start taking small, consistent steps to level up your financial life. True success comes from embracing the process of continually becoming a new, empowered version of yourself equipped to achieve greater goals.
[34:12] Sayers vs. Doers: Why Actions Get Results
Aaron emphasizes the importance of being a "doer" rather than just a "sayer" when it comes to building wealth and success. Many people will say they want to improve their financial situation, but true transformation comes from those who take action and do the work.
Notable quotes:
[05:19] Money is just a tool. It's a pawn that we use in our lives to be able to win our own personal game of chess or our own personal game of life. [05:30]
[15:19] Money is the tool of our life, that by having the right mindset and tools in your arsenal, you're able to accomplish so much more. [15:30]
[17:10] Wealth is abundance. Rich is a state of account. Wealth is a state of mind. [17:15]
[23:29] Discipline is the secret to building wealth. [23:31]
Resources Mentioned:
Instagram: @theaaroncwest
Secrets of the Millionaire Mindby T. Harv Eckert
Happy Money by Elizabeth Dunn and Dr. Michael Norton
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About the Guest
Aaron West is a successful real estate investor and goal setting expert who grew up with limited financial resources but has built wealth over 20 years through real estate investing and helping others improve their relationship with money.
We’ve all heard that gratitude is an important quality for feeling good, but have you heard of gratitude with a twist? Dr. Angelo Valenti's unique gratitude practice is guaranteed to put a smile on your face.
On this episode of "The Good Mood Boost", Matt O'Neill digs deeper with Dr. Valenti into this unusual technique that involves finding the humor in even your most irritating situations. From coffee makers that dare to break, to toddlers on milk-pouring rampages, hear how adding a fun twist can transform frustration into laughter and lighten your load.
Get ready to boost your mood - and maybe even your outlook on life. It's time to say thank you...with a comedic flair.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How gratitude with a twist helped one man turn his day around
- Applying gratitude with a twist to boost your mood
- Feeling blessed even with a full calendar
- Finding gratitude in life’s annoyances
[00:56] How "Gratitude with a Twist" Helped One Man Turn His Day Around
Dr. Angelo shared a story about his client Larry, who was having a rough start to the week when his coffee maker broke, his cat shredded his favorite couch, and he missed an important meeting after his alarm failed to go off. However, when Dr. Valenti asked how Larry reacted, he explained that he decided to practice "gratitude with a twist" by saying thank you to the coffeemaker for reminding him to enjoy a peaceful breakfast at a cafe, and thank you to his mischievous cat for giving him a chance to get a new couch that they could both enjoy. This helped him feel better almost immediately and allowed him to have a good day despite the annoyances.
[02:07] Applying Gratitude with a Twist to Improve Boost Your Mood
Dr. Angelo encourages the practice of finding something funny or seeing the humor in even small, seemingly irritating situations that arise. He suggests that the next time something annoys you, no matter how minor, to look for something to feel grateful for in that situation with a twist. Acknowledge your feelings but then intentionally practice gratitude with a humorous spin. You will find your mood improves almost immediately rather than dwelling in negativity. Don't deny your emotions, but recognize you have the power to shift your perspective in a more positive way.
[03:20] More Ways to Practice "Gratitude with a Twist"
The concept of "gratitude with a twist" can be applied in many everyday situations beyond just annoyances. You can practice finding humor and gratitude when facing traffic jams, unexpected expenses, technology glitches, or hectic to-do lists. By acknowledging the frustration but then twisting it with a funny or lighthearted perspective, you may feel relieved of stress. A simple shift in mindset can help you feel more at ease rather than aggravated by unavoidable challenges life presents each day.
Notable quotes:
[00:45] One of the simplest and most powerful tools you can use to be in a good mood and enjoy your day is to practice gratitude. And not just any gratitude, but gratitude with a twist. [00:55]
[02:07] The next time something small or annoying irritates you. practice gratitude with a twist. Find something funny in what just happened and you'll find that your mood will get better almost immediately. [02:20]
[02:29] The next time something irritating happens in your day, practice gratitude with a twist. Put a spin on it, and you'll find that your mood will get better. [02:40]
Resources Mentioned:
www.angelovalenti.com
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About the Guest
Dr. Angelo Valenti is a psychologist, coach, author and speaker who is passionate about helping people find their easy way to enjoy life through gratitude practices.
What if I told you that it was possible to live to 100 and beyond?
On this episode of The Good Mood Show, Matt O'Neill chats with Brett Harmeling of Happy Life Labs to teach us how to biohack our way to more longevity. Brett shares his time-tested tactics for increasing cellular energy, reversing the signs of aging, and unlocking your body's optimal performance.
Tune in to learn simple lifestyle tweaks like grounding, proper nutrition, and mindfulness routines that will have you feeling - and looking - decades younger.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The importance of grounding
- The role of minerals to maintain pH balance
- Strategies for optimal diet, sleep, and movement
- Daily routines for optimal energy and well-being
- Gratitude, mindset, and boldness in life and business
- Aligning yourself with the frequencies of abundance and love
[04:27] The Importance of Grounding
Brett explains that if we become dysregulated from the Earth's Schumann Resonance frequency, which is like its heartbeat of 7.83 Hertz, we lose a sense of consciousness and connection. He draws a comparison to how plants like flowers, grass and trees can only grow when grounded in the soil. Similarly, he believes we can only grow from where we are grounded. If we are not grounded, then the natural biological systems we are designed to have will not function properly. This can lead to inflammation, aging, and diseases and infections developing within us.
[09:56] Minerals, pH Balance, and Disease Prevention
Brett states that modern agricultural practices have left us missing fundamental minerals in our bodies, like magnesium, potassium and sulfur. He explains that these minerals are building blocks for anything positive in the body, as they help our body hold a charge. When he refers to charge, he means our body's alkalinity or pH level. Living in a positively balanced pH environment that is rich in minerals makes it almost impossible for diseases like cancer to exist, according to Brett.
[13:14] Strategies for an Optimal Diet, Sleep Routine and Movement Plan
Brett recommends several strategies for optimizing health and energy levels, including following a diet rich in mineral-dense "real foods" while avoiding highly processed items. He also emphasizes the importance of prioritizing quality sleep by managing elements like light and noise before bedtime. Movement is another key strategy. He recommends a minimum of 10,000 steps per day along with stretching and strength training to generate and maintain energy throughout the day.
Notable quotes:
[04:47] If we become dysregulated from that Earth's heartbeat, we lose a sense of consciousness and connection. [04:52]
[05:01] If we're not grounded, all sorts of natural biological systems that we're designed to have, don't go right. [05:07]
[13:14] The easiest diet in the world is eat real food. It's easy, but it's not simple. [13:18]
[23:49] You have to be really conscious about what your habits are – because your habits actually end up creating who you are. [23:55]
Resources Mentioned:
Happy Life Labs
The Gap and The Gain by Dan Sullivan and Ben Hardy
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About the Guest
Brett Harmeling is the founder and CEO of Happy Life Labs, one of the world's premier biohacking labs, where he helps optimize health, longevity and peak performance for clients through cutting-edge lifestyle interventions and products.
If you've been feeling more stressed than usual lately, it's a sign you need to listen to the latest episode of the Good Mood Show. Renowned neurodivergence expert Dr. Matthew Zakreski shares his best strategies for riding out emotional storms in a healthy way.
Learn how small changes like noticing where different feelings physically manifest in your body and saying your emotions out loud can make a big difference in calming down faster. Tune in for some easy ways to boost your mental well-being when stress starts to get you down.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How emotions impact the brain and body
- Reframing feelings as "what you're experiencing" not good/bad
- Using the parasympathetic nervous system to calm down
- Noticing where different emotions manifest physically
[01:05] How Emotions Impact the Brain and Body
The limbic system is like the alarm center of the brain. When a threat is detected, whether external or internal, it activates our emotional response. But we have the power to hit "snooze" on that alarm with our prefrontal cortex, the CEO of the brain. Emotions don't only happen in our brain, they impact our entire body. Matt explains that understanding how our emotions physically manifest in the body, through sensations like increased heart rate or tension in the jaw, gives us a "head start" to choose healthier coping behaviors over reactive ones. The more awareness we have of our own early warning signs, the better equipped we are to regulate big feelings and make decisions we won't regret later.
[03:15] How to Get Ahead of Big Feelings
The sympathetic ("fight or flight") system kicks into gear when strong feelings arise, preparing the body for action. But consciously using our voice to label these internal experiences actually triggers the competing parasympathetic ("rest and digest") system. By saying how we truly feel out loud, even if it feels uncomfortable, our nervous system gets the signal to start winding back down. Matt suggests verbalizing emotions as a simple yet powerful self-soothing technique. Say your emotions out loud, rather than bottling them up, to shift from a place of reactivity to one of regulation much more quickly.
[05:26] Riding Out Emotional Storms
Matt compares emotions to thunderstorms, emphasizing the importance of allowing feelings to pass through you rather than getting caught in the storm. Think of emotions like weather - they'll run their course if you don't fight them. Focus on positioning yourself to ride it out safely so you can get back to your day feeling better once it's over.
Notable quotes:
[01:41] The more we know about how emotions impact our body, we increase our chances of making better choices when we've got big feelings. [01:48]
[04:12] The parasympathetic nervous system is going to activate on its own no matter what… But we can escalate that process by saying how we feel out loud. [04:22]
[05:00] When we're calmer, we make better choices. When we make better choices, we feel better. [05:03]
[05:26] When the emotions come, it's helpful to think of them like thunderstorms… You're allowed to be upset or scared that the thunderstorm exists. But don't go out in the thunderstorm and scream at it, because then you're gonna get hurt. [05:50]
[06:24] When you feel a feeling, it's not good or bad. It's just what you're feeling. You name it. And you watch that parasympathetic nervous system calm you right down. [06:33]
Resources Mentioned:
www.theneurodiversitycollective.com
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About the Guest
Dr. Matthew Zakreski is a neurodivergence and mental health expert who teaches people how their needs may change socially and professionally due to different brain types like ADHD, giftedness, dyslexia, or autism.
Picture this: you're at the top of your game, then bam! You're down and out. A cool quarter million bucks gone, a loved one no longer with you, and your body's in pieces. That was Matt O'Neill's 2023. But then, everything changed. One conference, one book, and one powerful message turned his life around.
This isn't just about Matt’s comeback story – but a blueprint for yours. This episode is packed with powerful lessons on prioritizing your goals, surrounding yourself with excellence, and pushing past fear to pursue your dreams.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Prioritizing life goals for a fulfilling present and future
- Reframing negative experiences for mental health
- Setting priorities and pursuing dreams despite fear
- Surrounding yourself with growth partners
[05:22] The Power of Envisioning Your Future Self
Matt shares that according to Dr. Ben Hardy, the relationship you have with the person you envision yourself becoming in the future directly influences the quality of your present experience. If you often think about and feel connected to a future self living an inspiring life aligned with your goals and values, you will make choices in the current moment that move you closer to realizing that vision. On the other hand, failing to consider who you want to be tomorrow can result in present decisions that leave you feeling unfulfilled. Hence, every behavior in your daily life becomes a step towards your most compelling future self.
[10:34] Finding Gratitude Through Future Vision
Matt shares a powerful visualization technique to lift oneself out of a "funk"– imagine your future self at 80 or 85 years old, with a potentially weak or limited body. Then, picture that elderly version of you getting to return for just one day to experience your current life once more. Contemplating your future self allows you to be more grateful for your health and strength now, and you cherish time with your loved ones, breaking you out of a negative mindset.
[17:30] Surrounding Yourself With Growth Partners
Dr. Hardy recommends that you design your environment to become who you want to become. The most important part of your environment is the people you choose to hang around. The people in your life are either having a positive effect on you or a negative effect on you. So think about the people that you hang around with and see if they’re inspiring you to become that greatest future version of yourself.
Notable quotes: (Please Choose One)
[03:01] Sometimes when you're stuck in a rut, you need outside perspective, and you need other people's positive energy to pull you up. [03:08]
[05:22] The connection that you have with your future self determines the quality of your life right now. [05:28]
[10:34] Anytime you get in a funk, contemplate yourself at age 80, or 85. And imagine that that version of you gets to come back for one day, and live in your current life. And you will see the goldmine that you were sitting on in the present. [10:51]
Resources Mentioned:
I Love Coaching Conference
Be Your Future Self Now by Dr. Benjamin Hardy
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Today, you're in for an exciting Good Mood Boost as you join host Matt O’Neill in a captivating conversation with Kevin Burk, a trailblazer in astrology and the mastermind behind the Human Game philosophy.
Prepare to embark on a transformative journey as Kevin shares his groundbreaking insights into viewing life through the lens of astrology. Through his visionary approach, you'll discover how to turn life's obstacles into thrilling quests, each one propelling you towards a brighter, more joyful existence. Tune in to hear Kevin challenge traditional ideas of problems and solutions, and learn how a shift in perspective could unlock joy even in life's most difficult moments.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Using astrology to understand happiness is internal
- Reality has three story levels: plot, character, theme
- Lowering stakes of life's challenges through perspective
[01:23] Human Happiness vs. External Goals
While we spend so much of our energy pursuing objectives outside ourselves, Kevin explains that our character's development and feelings of joy are shaped from within. True pleasure comes not from achieving aims, but from the story we tell ourselves in the process. His insight challenges traditional notions that fulfilling desires is the key to bliss. By reframing problems as quests in an epic roleplaying adventure, we can overcome obstacles with enthusiasm rather than frustration.
[02:05] The Happiness Problem
While sometimes obtaining our wants brings pleasure, other times it fails to deliver lasting fulfillment. As Kevin explains, part of the "happiness problem" is this misconception that attaining external objectives will make us happy. In reality, happiness depends more on our internal state of being than on fulfilling desires, since their satisfaction is inconsistent in raising our mood in the long run.
[07:02] Viewing Life as a Game
By viewing life as a fun game to play, our relationship to challenges is transformed. With a mindset of "how can I win?" rather than "how can I fix this?", difficulties shift from a burden to an opportunity for play. Life becomes a game we engage in creatively rather than an obligation. Lowering the stakes through perspective allows us to focus on enjoying the process of playing to win without anxiety.
Notable quotes:
[01:23] The human game is a philosophy based on the idea that the universe is made up of stories. [01:28]
[07:02] If you approach your life as a game, your entire reality transforms. [07:05]
[03:38] Reality is story and story is reality. To change your reality, you only need to improve your story. [03:44]
Resources Mentioned:
The Real Astrology Academy
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About the Guest
Kevin Burk is the headmaster of The Real Astrology Academy and creator of the Human Game philosophy. He believes that understanding how astrology works can help people view their life as a game and lower the stakes of challenges to increase happiness.
Life has a funny way of throwing us curveballs when we least expect it. It's those moments when everything seems to be going awry – perhaps a morning marred by pink eye, dog pee, and a dad teetering on the edge – that we often find ourselves questioning the universe's sense of humor. But what if, hidden amidst the chaos and messiness, there lie blessings waiting to be discovered? Welcome back to The Good Mood Show, where we specialize in uncovering those hidden gems and helping you navigate life's messiest moments with grace and a smile.
In today's episode, we're joined by a true expert in finding joy amidst the chaos, Jon Vroman, founder of Front Row Dads and a beacon of positivity in the realm of relationships. As your host, Matt O'Neill, shares a heartfelt and humorous anecdote from his own journey, you'll quickly realize that even in the midst of pink eye pandemonium, there's room for laughter, growth, and unexpected joys. So grab your coffee, buckle up, and get ready to explore how the smallest acts of kindness and moments of connection can turn even the messiest of days into opportunities for profound transformation.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Matt shares caring for his sick wife and kids while feeling energized
- Reflecting on the importance of family after a mood shift at work
- The pursuit of money and success
- Jon emphasizes honesty, self-awareness and repair in relationships
[01:07] A Daughter's Gift
As pink eye confined his wife to bedrest and a massive dog pee accident soaked the living room floor, Matt felt the stresses of juggling work and family responsibilities finally overwhelm him. But thoughtful daughter Harper sensed her father's turmoil and left a handwritten note sharing words of encouragement. Upon reading Harper's thoughtful reminders of life's blessings, Matt broke down in tears - not of sadness, but of gratitude for the family that brought him such joy, even in their messiest moments. Harper's small act of kindness lifted Matt’s spirit and renewed his appreciation for the loved ones that made each chaotic day worthwhile.
[18:17] The Pursuit of Money and Success
Most families do not require as much financially as people assume to be happy and healthy. Beyond a reasonable number, the constant drive for more is often just a story we tell ourselves to justify overworking. And so, it pays to ask yourself this: Are you hustling for your family's long term security, or simply feeding addictions to progress, external validation, and leaving a legacy? When it comes to motivations, you’ve got to separate fact from fiction. Reconsider whether endless professional gains truly lead to fulfillment, or are they pulling you away from more important priorities like your time with loved ones.
[21:14] The Art of Authentic Connection
Jon shares the philosophy behind cultivating meaningful relationships in the Front Row Dads community. He believes embracing life's full spectrum, without judgment of others' light or dark moments, is key to true understanding. Members support each other's journeys with honesty and vulnerability, finding perspective helps navigate life's complexities as a united brotherhood.
Notable quote:
[21:14] The relationships that are around us that help us to stay on that track of whatever it is we care about, is so important. [21:22]
Resources Mentioned:
Front Row Dads
Be Your Future Self Nowby Ben Hardy
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About the Guest
Jon Vroman is the founder of Front Row Dads, an organization cultivating community for fathers. He is dedicated to helping men strengthen relationships through presence, vulnerability and prioritizing what truly matters in life.
In today's episode, titled "Good Mood Boost," we're diving headfirst into the realm of personal transformation. If you've ever felt like life's challenges are weighing you down, but you're ready to break free and thrive, then this is the episode you won't want to miss.
Prepare to be captivated by a tale of resilience and triumph as we hear from personal development coach Nick Rivas. Nick's journey from battling with porn addiction to reclaiming his life is nothing short of inspiring. Through sheer determination and a commitment to confronting his vulnerabilities, Nick not only conquered his demons but emerged as a beacon of strength and positivity. Join us as we uncover the strategies that propelled Nick from a place of self-doubt to one of unparalleled success in every aspect of his life. It's time to supercharge your mood and unleash your unstoppable potential!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How Nick’s 10-year struggle with porn addiction ruined his life
- How following a daily non-negotiable process changed his life for the better
- Overcoming porn addiction and all vices
- Experiencing peak physical and mental performance
- How Nick increased his monthly income from $0 to over $10k
[00:49] From Addiction to Transformation
Nick opens up about his over 10-year struggle with porn addiction, which left him feeling weak, lacking confidence as a man. At one point in July 2022, he had reached his breaking point and was seriously contemplating suicide. Desperate for a change, he invested in a coach who taught him the importance of diet, fitness and mindset. By committing to a daily non-negotiable routine, Nick began to feel better about himself than ever before. Where he once felt a "dark cloud" over his head, now his outlook became more positive.
[03:00] Non-Negotiable Daily Habits
Nick describes how his coach taught him the importance of establishing a daily non-negotiable process. This included focusing on his diet, fitness, and positive self-talk. Nick discusses how faithfully following this routine, especially on days when he didn't feel like working out, made a huge difference in how he felt. Through consistently applying these habits each day, Nick found himself experiencing flow states during workouts and envisioning the best version of himself. Repeatedly taking action to shape his character through diet and exercise ultimately lifted Nick to new heights of physical and mental performance. He credits these daily disciplines with fully transforming his life for the better.
[06:57] Facing Problems Head-On
Nick had encouraged listeners to face the problems in their lives head-on instead of running away from them, as he used to do with his porn addiction. When you directly confront challenges and problems instead of escaping them, it allows you to get to the root cause and shift onto a more positive trajectory. Nick found all the answers he needed by facing his problems courageously rather than hiding from them. Only then was Nick able to fully transform his life and heal himself.
Notable quotes:
[03:24] Look at all the problems that you're having, and actually run into them. Don't run away from them. [03:30]
Resources Mentioned:
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About the Guest
Nick Drivas is a 23-year-old personal development coach who overcame a decade-long porn addiction and transformed his life through daily disciplines of diet, fitness and mindset, and now helps others do the same through his coaching services.
Today's episode with the fabulous Emma Hull was nothing short of a joy ride to our better selves. Here are the golden nuggets we unpacked together:
- Make Friends with Future You: Emma Hull illuminated how befriending our future self can lead to a life of abundance and joy. The key? Visualize, appreciate, and make decisions today that future you will thank you for.
- The Power of Decision-Making: We explored how every choice, big or small, shapes our future. Emma shared insights on pausing before binge-watching or indulging in that extra slice of cake, and instead, considering what future you would prefer.
- Delayed Gratification is a Superpower: Remember the marshmallow test? We revisited this concept, showing how those little moments of choosing long-term rewards over instant gratification can lead to a successful and fulfilling life.
- Building Unshakeable Confidence: Connecting with our future selves isn't just about making wise decisions; it's also about growing our confidence. By loving and appreciating our future selves, we cultivate the confidence to tackle life's challenges head-on.
- Manifesting Your Dream Life: Emma shared her personal story of manifesting a property with a waterfall through visualization and action. It's a testament to the power of holding a clear vision and taking steps towards making it a reality.
- Taking Action Now: Why wait? We discussed how the best time to start moving towards your goals is the present moment. Small, actionable steps taken today can lead to significant achievements.
- The Essence of Your Goals: By focusing on the essence of our dreams, we can start experiencing the joy and satisfaction of those goals right now, in our everyday lives.
Thank you for tuning in, and remember to embrace the journey to your future self with love, intention, and a sprinkle of joy. Let's make our future selves proud! See you in the next episode for more good moods and positive vibes.
Resources Mentioned:
https://www.lifeuntethered.com
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Notable quotes
Matt: "Every single decision you make is either helping your future self or hurting your future self."
Emma: "Visualize, appreciate, and make decisions today that future you will thank you for."
Matt: "The best time to start moving towards your goals is the present moment."
Emma: "Stop waiting for the right time. There is no right time. You get to choose; you get to decide; you get to make this the right time."
About the Guest
Emma Hull is a leading life coach who empowers clients to deepen their connection to their future selves, boost self-love and self-belief, and create lives of abundance, meaning and joy. Drawing from over a decade of experience in the personal development field, Emma's influential work focuses on strengthening clients' relationships with their future selves through visualization, gratitude practices, and neuroscience-backed strategies.
Are you ready to break free from the barriers holding you back and embrace a life filled with unrestrained happiness? On this week's Good Mood Boost, Matt O'Neill sits down with mindset coach Evangeline Thompson while she shares her powerful formula of happiness.
In this enlightening conversation, Evangeline will unveil actionable strategies to increase your agency and infuse your life with gratitude, setting the stage for a life filled with fulfillment and contentment. Say goodbye to negativity and hello to a brighter, more empowered you. Your best mood is just a listen away, so let's dive in and unleash the happiness that's waiting to bloom within you!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Defining happiness as a combination of agency and gratitude
- Improving mood through working towards goals, even small progress helps
- Finding positives in difficult situations by counting blessings
[01:45] Defining Happiness
True feelings of fulfillment and joy result from balancing two key components - agency and gratitude. Agency refers to a sense of control over one's own thoughts and perspectives, while gratitude involves appreciating the positives one already has in life. By gaining awareness of how we talk to ourselves and making an effort to reshape limiting beliefs, we can increase our agency. Similarly, taking time to reflect on blessings, even during challenging periods, cultivates an attitude of gratitude. Evangeline suggests finding harmony between these internal aspects of agency and gratitude holds the key to unlocking happiness.
[03:03] Improving Mood Through Goals
Listen carefully to negative thoughts and inner voices expressing complaints or unhappiness. Rather than ignoring these thoughts, see them as helpful alarms signaling a need for change. The goal is to use this insight to identify something meaningful to work towards that connects to one's deeper desires. Making even minor progress on a personally meaningful goal can boost mood, as it generates feelings of movement in a positive direction. Evangeline emphasizes that taking action, no matter how small, toward what one wants in life is more effective for shifting perspective than simply giving in to fear or bad feelings.
Notable quotes:
[01:16] We all have a default setting for our mindsets, and it can be kind of limiting unless you actively work to shape it. [01:25]
[03:03] There are few better feelings in this world than the feeling you get from accomplishing a goal you set for yourself. [03:12]
[03:32] Listen to those voices in your head who are complaining about whatever they're unhappy about. Think of them as an alarm. Let it be okay that you're not happy for a moment while you check in with what you deeply desire. [03:46]
Resources Mentioned:
https://yourlifearchitect.com/mindreset
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About the Guest
Evangeline Thompson is a mindset coach and the co-founder and president of Life Architect, a company that helps entrepreneurs feel and be successful in both their personal lives and businesses. Their coaching program teaches people how to talk to themselves in a more positive way and shape their default mindset.
Pause for a moment and ask yourself, when was the last time you truly connected with those closest to you? Not just a quick chat over dinner or a passing hug on the way out the door, but a real, undistracted, heart-to-heart connection?
This episode promises to be a game-changer for you and your loved ones. We're about to delve into a simple yet life-altering practice that could be the key to unlocking the deepest levels of harmony and happiness in your family life. This isn't just another feel-good theory; it's a practical, actionable approach that your host, Matt O’Neill, has implemented in his family life. Discover how monthly one-on-one time isn't just a nice idea, but a crucial lifeline for the thriving family you've always envisioned.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The importance of relationships and creating special moments
- A system for monthly one-on-one dates and annual trips
- Ideas for one-on-one dates and trips
- Overcoming challenges of time and money
- Highlights from Matt's one-on-one experiences
[00:01] The Importance of Prioritizing Relationships
Matt cites research showing 50% of marriages end in divorce and 40% of children experience conflicts with parents. He shares an anecdote from the book "The Five Regrets of the Dying" where a nurse discussed patients' top regrets that included working too much and not prioritizing relationships. Matt emphasizes that relationships, not career or money, will be most important when looking back on life.
[10:37] The Six Strategies for Strong Relationships
- Have a monthly one-on-one date with your spouse - These moments are important to stay intimate and keep the romance alive in your marriage.
- Have a monthly one-on-one date with one child - The focus is on really listening to one child, such as going to an event they enjoy.
- Take an annual one-on-one trip with your spouse - This takes you away from distractions to rediscover what drew you together.
- Take an annual one-on-one trip with one child. - Provide each child with the dedicated attention of an annual special trip centered around their interests and dreams.
- Have quarterly one-on-one dates with parents. - Maintain strong bonds with aging parents through quality quarterly dates to share life experiences.
- Make time for important friends. - Say yes when friends invite you out to maintain vital community and avoid loneliness in later years.
[13:16] Creative Ideas for One-onOne Time with Your Loved Ones
Here are some creative date ideas Matt suggested for one-on-one time with your spouse and kids:
Spouse:
- Cooking classes
- Bowling
- Concerts
- Sporting events like basketball or football games
- Hiking or outdoor activities
- Trying a new hobby like pottery or painting classes
- Volunteering for a cause you both care about
Kids:
- Outdoor activities like hiking, camping, fishing, surfing
- Educational activities like museums, zoos, aquariums
- Experiential outings like rock climbing, trampoline parks, escape rooms
- Attending a play, magic show, or other performance they enjoy
- Cooking or art projects done together
- Community/school sporting events
- Day trips to a nearby city/town to explore
Notable quotes:
[08:10] Prioritizing these special moments with your children allows you to create more time with them before they're gone. [08:16]
[28: 29] Most of the time we regret on our deathbed that we let those friendships just kind of fizzle out because we didn't make the effort to stay in touch. [28:37]
Resources Mentioned:
The Top Five Regrets of the Dyingby Bonnie Ware
The Power of Momentsby Chip Heath and Dan Heath
18 Summers by Jim & Jamie Shiels
The Blue Zonesby Dan Buettner
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How do you turn your personal pain into purpose? On this week's Good Mood Boost, Matt O'Neill welcomes mental health advocate Lisa Sugarman. Join us as Lisa shares her heartfelt journey of overcoming profound loss. In the face adversity, Lisa has become a beacon of hope, dedicating her life to mental health advocacy.
Prepare to be inspired as she reveals the transformative process of channeling personal pain into a force for good, offering a roadmap for anyone seeking to elevate their own well-being. Your emotional breakthrough awaits in this episode of the Good Mood Boost - where turning pain into purpose becomes a guiding light on the path to joy.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Lisa's background in mental health advocacy and crisis counseling
- Losing her father to suicide 35 years after being told it was a heart attack
- Turning her pain into her purpose through various advocacy organizations
[01:27] Finding Purpose in Helping Others
Lisa explains how helping others in crisis actually improves her mood. She states that as a mental health advocate and crisis counselor, it genuinely lifts her spirits to be actively assisting those who are struggling. Lisa finds it inspiring and motivating to help others successfully navigate their grief or learn that joy can still be experienced even amidst pain.
Being able to aid those in emotional crisis in turning their lives around gives her tremendous joy and positively impacts her mental wellbeing. Rather than dwelling in her own painful past, Lisa has channeled that experience into helping others in the present, which she says is what truly enhances her mood on a daily basis.
[03:34] The Science of Kindness: How Acts of Service Can Boost Your Mood Through Serotonin Release
Lisa provides insight into how even simple acts of kindness can noticeably boost your mood. She explains that when we help others through acts of service, whether big or small, our brains release serotonin - a neurotransmitter that regulates mood and emotions. The serotonin response we get from compassionate actions, like holding the door for someone or taking time to actively listen without judgment, is very real.
Lisa notes that just providing a listening ear for others and allowing them to feel acknowledged can be mood-lifting. Through her own experience helping people in crisis, she has found that the joy and positive impact on her mental wellbeing from aiding others is immense. According to Lisa, the scientifically proven serotonin boost from engaging in kind acts is powerful enough to significantly impact one's overall mood and sense of wellbeing.
Notable quotes:
[04:05] Try being of service to other people, even by doing something as simple as holding space for them and just listening to them, because there's some pretty serious serotonin to be found in acts of kindness. [04:16]
[03:34] It makes me feel inspired to help somebody successfully navigate their grief or learn that grief and joy can actually coexist. [03:42]
[03:49] By helping people who are in crisis to find their way... it gives me the most amazing amount of joy and it has the biggest and most positive impact on my overall mood. [04:02]
Resources Mentioned:
The Trevor Project
National Alliance on Mental Illness
Email Lisa Sugarman: lisasugarman@hotmail.com
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About the Guest
Lisa Sugarman is a Boston-based mental health advocate and crisis counselor. As a crisis counselor with The Trevor Project, she provides support to those experiencing suicidal ideation or in emotional crisis. Lisa facilitates grief support groups with Samaritans and shares her story of overcoming trauma and turning her pain into purpose through her advocacy work with the National Alliance on Mental Illness.
"Your Self Worth = Your Net Worth" promises to revolutionize your perspective on success and value. Forget everything you thought you knew about financial prosperity and career growth. Today, we have the extraordinary Erin "Big" Diehl to shake up your world. Are you ready to be challenged, inspired, and possibly transformed? Then you're in the right place.
In a world where 80% of our thoughts are negative, Erin Diehl, a master of turning failures into fuel, joins us to unveil the secret weapon for professional triumph: the unbreakable bond between self-worth and net worth. Through her unique blend of humor and wisdom, Erin dissects how our internal narratives shape our external realities. Let's break the shackles of self-doubt and unlock the treasure chest of your true potential!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How your net worth follows your self-worth
- 80% of thoughts are negative
- New choice technique for changing thoughts
- Leading energy, not people
[01:58] Why Net Worth = Self-Worth
Erin explains that your self-worth directly impacts your net worth. When you have positive self-esteem and see your own value and potential, you carry yourself with confidence and purpose. This attracts opportunities and allows you to fully utilize your talents. You're also more likely to take risks and pursue your goals wholeheartedly. On the other hand, if you have low self worth and are plagued by doubts, it shows in your energy and actions. You may hold yourself back from applying for promotions, asking for raises, or taking on new challenges. You're less effective at leading others because you don't truly believe in yourself. This limits your ability to increase your skills, career prospects, and overall net worth over time.
[13:27] Finding More Self-Love
Erin shares that 80% of our thoughts are negative and offers the "New Choice" technique - clapping and saying a positive affirmation - to help listeners interrupt negative thought patterns and replace them with kinder statements. When a negative thought like "I'm not good enough" enters your mind, you clap your hands loudly and say "New choice!" aloud. This acts as a pattern interrupt for the brain. You then forgive yourself and immediately replace the thought with an affirmative statement such as "I'm doing the best I can." By making new choices around the stories we tell ourselves, we can start to change our internal dialogue for the better.
[17:23] The Power of Words
Erin delves into recent findings that the words we speak aloud physically impact our brain and body. When we say negative words, it triggers stress responses that block logical thinking. However, positive words activate our prefrontal cortex. This is the region responsible for reasoning, problem solving and decision making. It allows us to consider challenges from a place of calm rather than reacting out of fear. By choosing our words wisely, we can physically optimize our brain for success and clarity of thought.
Notable quotes:
[21:53] We aren't leading people, we are leading energy. And so, we're energy leaders. [22:01]
[02:25] Success starts with an internal job. It is up to us to love ourselves first.. [02:39]
Resources Mentioned:
https://www.learntoimproveit.com/
The improve it! Podcast
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About the Guest
Erin “Big” Diehl is a business improv edutainer, failfluencer, and professional zoombie. Through a series of unrelated dares, Erin created improve it!, a unique professional development company that pushes others to laugh, learn, play, and grow. Erin has spoken on global stages both virtually and in-person, and is also the host of a Top 1% Global Podcast.
Unlock the secret to perpetual positivity! In this exhilarating “Good Mood Boost” episode we dive into how to turn bad moods into good moods.
Host Matt O'Neill and Rozlyn Warren, an intuitive coach extraordinaire, unravel the mysteries of our minds and how our mental language creates our moods. They delve deep into the art of transforming negative emotions into stepping stones for positivity. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to conquer their inner critic and embrace a life of joy and resilience.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How our thoughts shape our lives
- Maintaining good mood through self-awareness
- How to turn bad moods around
- The DANCE journaling process
- Shifting focus from negative thoughts to positive actions
[01:19] How Our Thoughts Shape Our Lives
The thoughts we consciously and subconsciously think on a regular basis ultimately shape our experiences of the world. By focusing on certain types of thoughts over others, we can influence our beliefs and outlook, which then impacts the situations and outcomes we go on to encounter in life.
[02:07] Maintaining Good Mood Through Self-Awareness
Notice when you start feeling negative and question the thoughts contributing to that mood, as many surface thoughts aren't truly yours but from outside influences. Use mindfulness techniques like deep breathing to step back from thought loops and gain perspective, then challenge any assumptions fueling the bad mood by asking for evidence. Identify what you really want in that moment, such as feeling good, and take action to shift your state, such as expressing gratitude for positives in your life to boost your mood and perspective.
[07:44] How to Turn Bad Moods Around
The key is using bad moods constructively by gaining insight into thought patterns and consciously choosing thoughts that feel better. Release any negative assumptions or beliefs that may be contributing to a bad mood. Stop attaching meaning and stories to everyday occurrences in ways that bring our mood down. View negative or "not good" moods as opportunities to gain insight, rather than just wallowing in negativity. Use bad moods productively rather than fighting them.
Notable quotes:
[01:19] The thoughts in our heads create the reality of our lives. [01:23]
[01:35] The thoughts in your head – 99% of them – do not even belong to you. They are thoughts that you have picked up along the trail. [01:45]
[08:13] Use your “not good” mood to show you your good mood. [08:22]
Resources Mentioned:
www.sacredlifemastery.art
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About the Guest
Rozlyn Warren is an LA-based intuitive wealth and abundance coach who helps clients manifest prosperity and positive change through mindset work. With over 15 years of experience in the personal development field, Rozlyn offers one-on-one coaching, workshops, and online programs focused on mindfulness, intuition cultivation, and conscious thought transformation.
In this not-to-be-missed conversation, discover the power of small changes and the extraordinary ripple effects they can create. John and Matt explore the intricate dance of passion, perseverance, and intentionality, offering actionable insights to reignite your inner flame. Whether you're feeling stuck in your career, personal life, or just need that spark to get 'passion struck,' this episode is your catalyst for a life aligned with your deepest desires and aspirations. Tune in and transform the way you view your daily grind – it's time to break free from boredom and embrace a life of intentional passion!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How even those with successful careers can still feel unfulfilled and feel like imposters
- The synergy between passion, perseverance, and intentionality
- Getting stuck in ruts and how setting new goals can spark passion
- How making small changes can have big ripple effects
- How improv impacted John’s life
- What is the visionary arsonist?
[08:45] The Visionary Arsonist
John refers to the "visionary arsonist" when discussing how people often try to avoid facing feelings of being stuck in a rut or unfulfilled in their lives. By avoiding dealing with these uncomfortable emotions, people end up starting to put a flame on all the things that they had hoped to aspire to, and they go by the wayside because of the actions they start taking. By not facing their issues head on, people sabotage their own visions and dreams for their life through the actions they take while trying to avoid dealing with the underlying problems.
[10:57] Sparking Change with Small Actions
Matt shares how attending a goal setting workshop inspired him to focus on improving his physical strength. He joined his old gym again and hired a personal trainer, which he said were small actions but sparked a new passion. Working out with the trainer opened him up to new exercises and led him to overhaul his diet with protein powder. This put him on a path of optimizing his health, such as getting full medical checkups. John reinforces that it doesn't take a huge change but simply shifting one small choice, like Matt did in renewing his gym membership, to start moving in a different direction in life. They both emphasize how a little action can have big rippling effects and re-ignite passion.
[20:22] The Synergy Between Passion, Perseverance, and Intentionality
John believes passion fuels perseverance, and persevering more makes you more passionate. But intentionality is needed to guide both passion and perseverance in the right direction aligned with your goals and values. Having grit is important, but it needs to be applied intentionally toward the things that truly matter. The synergy between these three elements - passion, perseverance and intentionality - is what allows one to maximize their potential and become self-realized according to John.
Resources Mentioned:
https://passionstruck.com/
https://passionstruck.com/passionstruckbook
10x is Easier Than 2x
The Miracle Morning
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About the Guest
John R. Miles is an author and speaker who has been recognized as one of the top 100 leaders. He wrote the book Passion Struck, which provides a framework to unlock your purpose and ignite an intentional life. He hosts the top 0.1% podcast Passion Struck.
In this gripping episode of The Good Mood Show, we tackle the tough question: How do you stay upbeat in the face of bad news? Your host, Matt O'Neill, doesn't just talk the talk; he walks the walk. When confronted with the daunting news of a shoulder injury requiring surgery, Matt found himself at a crossroads. Choosing the path less traveled, he embarked on a journey from the valleys of distress to the highlands of happiness. This episode isn't just a narrative; it's a roadmap for anyone navigating the stormy seas of unfortunate news.
Join Matt as he shares the transformative steps he took to overcome the gloom. It's a tale of acknowledging the initial shock and disappointment, then bravely shifting gears towards a mindset of gratitude and optimism. This isn't your everyday pep talk; it's a deep dive into the art of bouncing back. Matt's story is a testament to the power of perspective, and the resilience we can all tap into when we want to move past our bad moods and choose good moods instead.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Matt’s story of requiring a shoulder surgery
- Steps to take when receiving bad news: stop and acknowledge feelings, share with someone, rest if needed, give yourself what you need
- Reframing the situation to see how it may work out for good
[03:57] Steps to Take When Your Receive Bad News
Stop and acknowledge your feelings: Allow yourself to fully feel the disappointment, sadness, or other emotions in response to the bad news instead of ignoring or brushing them aside. Taking a moment to sit with your feelings helps you process them.
Share with someone who has your back and cares about you: Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what happened. Sharing your burden with others who support you can help lighten your load emotionally.
Recognize that sometimes when feeling bad you just need rest, and give yourself what you need: If you feel drained or overwhelmed, don't try to problem-solve right away. Rest is important for emotional and mental well-being, so allow yourself time to recharge through sleep or low-key activities.
Reframe the situation to see how it may work out for good: Look for any potential blessings or lessons that could come from the difficulty. Having an optimistic outlook helps you view challenges as temporary rather than permanent.
Take positive action within your control to make the situation better, like making doctor appointments: Once you've processed your emotions, determine small steps you can take to actively address the problem or learn more about your options for moving forward. Taking action can help you feel less powerless.
[11:18] Routines and Rituals to Feel Amazing
Meditation: Focus on deep breathing to stay present. This helps calm your mind and boost your mood.
Prayer and gratitude practice: Spend 5 minutes thanking God for specific blessings in your physical body and life. This shifts your mindset to appreciation.
Journaling: Write down 3 things that went well the day before as a way to focus on positives.
Notable quotes:
[24:30] Without adversity, we would be complacent. It is only through challenge and adversity that we can become our greatest version of ourselves. [24:38]
Resources Mentioned:
Calm app
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Happiness equals progress. When you are progressing in your career, you are probably pretty happy with your career. If your marriage is progressing in a positive direction, you’re going to be happy with your marriage. But if your career is going backwards, or your marriage is declining, you are not going to feel very happy.
In this conversation, Matt O’Neill sits down with goal setting expert Matt King. Matt shares his insights on how to cast a giant vision by setting goals in different areas or "gardens" of your life. He discusses the importance of surrounding yourself with an empowering environment or "tribe" and provides strategies for finding your peer group. Matt also offers specific examples of the goals he sets in areas like health, relationships, finances and more. You will come away from this episode inspired to progress the happiness in your life.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How to set a five-year vision for your life by writing as your future self
- How your environment or tribe impacts your energy
- Strategies for finding your tribe
[07:56] How to Set a Five-Year Vision for Your Life
Setting a clear five-year vision is one of the most powerful things you can do to achieve success. The process is to literally time travel five years into the future through journaling as your future self, getting very specific about relationships, health, career and financial accomplishments achieved while being compelling yet realistic. Then review this vision regularly and set measurable annual goals in areas like health, relationships, and finances to program your subconscious that your ideal future is possible. Give yourself the best chance to achieve it through intentional goal-setting and action.
[22:12] The Power of Your Environment: Surround Yourself With Eagles
Environment and tribe have a profound impact on your energy. Matt stresses the importance of intentionally surrounding yourself with "eagles" or high performers rather than "pigeons." Assess who your current "tribe" is and find opportunities to get involved where achievers congregate. You become the average of the five people you spend most time with so you must choose to fly with eagles if your goal is an abundant life.
[25:20] Connecting with Your Peers: Strategies for Finding Your Tribe
Matt recommends you look locally for someone doing what you want to do and reach out by offering specific value and appreciation without asking for anything. Request a short initial meeting and follow up by reporting actions and insights while thanking them and potentially donating to causes they support, as this establishes you as someone who gives value first and makes people more open to helping you. It's about building authentic relationships over time rather than just asking transactionally, allowing you to gain access to an empowering peer group that can help take your goals to new levels through their guidance and connections.
Notable quotes:
[23:44] You need to protect your energy and you need to understand that through osmosis, you will attract whoever you're around or the life that you're around. [23:52]
[23:59] If you take a performing individual in a workplace and you put them within 25 feet of a high performer, their performance will increase by 15%. [24:08]
[24:22] Whether we want to believe it or not, energetically, we become the people we spend the most time with. [24:27]
Resources Mentioned:
GoBundance
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About the Guest
Matt King is an entrepreneur, investor, and the CEO of GoBundance, a tribe of millionaire entrepreneurs, leaders, and investors. Matt is passionate about personal development and helping others achieve their potential.
If you want good moods, you need your health and energy working at optimal levels. But millions of people in our world today are sick, and modern medical advice is not always the best answer. We have “sick” care which perpetuates the problem by adding pills and prescriptions to mask the underlying causes of illness.
Cardiologist Dr. Jack Wolfson joins The Good Mood Show this week to share natural strategies aligned with how our ancestors thrived - without pharmaceuticals. Dr. Jack shares insights from his book "The Paleo Cardiologist" on how to achieve optimal health by eating well, living well and thinking well. Listen in to learn natural strategies for feeling your best!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Eat Well - specifically wild seafood for omega-3s
- Live Well - Get quality sleep, sunshine & physical activity
- Think Well - Practice self-love and self-acceptance
[02:30] Eat Well
Our ancient ancestors regularly consumed omega-3 rich seafood as part of their diets, and modern diets often lack these essential fatty acids. While omega-3 supplements can provide benefits, Dr. Jack's preference is to obtain omega-3s through whole food sources like seafood whenever possible. Wild seafood like salmon, sardines and shellfish, which are high in omega-3 fatty acids, are shown to reduce risk of mental health issues, heart disease and more.
[11:37] Live Well
Quality sleep and exposure to natural sunlight, which aids in vitamin D production, are essential to our health as per Dr. Jack Wolfson, who emphasizes the importance of our bodies' natural circadian rhythms. He encourages outdoor physical activities like walking, hiking, biking, and water sports, reminiscent of our ancestors' high-intensity interval type activity. However, Dr. Jack also warns of indoor toxins such as mold mycotoxins from water damage, which can harm brain and body functions. He underscores the significance of holistic dentistry to avoid toxic materials like mercury fillings, and chiropractic care for overall wellness.
[24:01] Think Well
Developing self-acceptance, gratitude, spirituality and strong relationships are keys to thinking well. Dr. Jack advises limiting technology and getting outside when feeling down as they naturally improve moods and cognitive function.
Notable quotes:
[09:50] When we suffer from a heart attack, how do we prevent another one? Well, the answer to prevention is not pharmaceuticals. The answer to prevention is through that lens of eat well, live well, and think well. [10:02]
[25:15] When people have spirituality, they tend to be happier people. [25:18]
[27:48] Turn off the fear channel. Understand that when you're watching mainstream media, they are there to keep you glued. They're there to keep you fearful. [27:57]
Resources Mentioned:
www.drjackwolfson.com
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About the Guest
Dr. Jack Wolfson is a renowned, board-certified cardiologist recognized for his integrative and preventative approach to heart health. He is also the author of the Amazon bestseller "The Paleo Cardiologist," where he presents his philosophy of "Eat Well, Live Well, Think Well" as a path to a long, healthy life free from pharmaceutical dependency.
We experience so many emotions during our lives that we need to take time to detox. What’s an Emotional Detox? It’s a process that allows you to release emotions that no longer serve you. In this episode, Matt sits down with Sherianna Boyle to discuss her approach to emotional detoxing. Sherianna developed the Emotional Detox Method to help people process stuck emotions and reactions.
Sherianna also walks us through a real-time detox with Matt to cleanse and release childhood wounds around abandonment. This episode is for anyone seeking to better understand and release emotions that no longer serve them.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Key principles of the Emotional Detox method
- Love as the only emotion
- The power of light, sound, and breath in emotional processing
- Some of the spiritual laws of the universe
- A walk through the cleanse method
[02:37] Key Principles of the Emotional Detox Method
Sherianna's emotional detox methodology centers on the belief that all emotions are fundamentally good and useful when fully processed. She posits that love is the core emotion, while feelings like anger or fear are reactions. The goal of her detox is to clear reactions and coping mechanisms obstructing genuine emotional connection. She defines reactions as the means by which people make uncomfortable emotions bearable through suppression or denial. Techniques such as mantras, breathwork, and light rays are used to remove these reactions, enabling individuals to return to a default state of love and experience pure emotions for healing and personal growth.
[13:31] the Power of Light, Sound, and Breath in Emotional Processing
Research highlights light, sound, and breath as key tools in processing emotions. These elements form the core of emotional cleansing and energy in action. They're closely tied to spiritual laws that teach us about energy - the essence of our emotions. These laws guide us to process emotions, release reactions, and detach from negative narratives. Using a mantra can help replace such narratives. Adding a layer of high vibrational energy, or light, aids in this process. This energy, untainted by societal perceptions, mirrors the universality of spiritual laws.
[16:01] Some of the Spiritual Laws of the Universe
Some of the spiritual laws of the universe include:
- The Law of Oneness - The principle that at our core, we are all connected and one. What we do to others affects us.
- The Law of Correspondence - The idea that what is happening outside of us internally corresponds. External events can trigger internal reactions.
- The Law of Giving and Receiving - The spiritual principle that we must learn to receive as well as give. This came up in relation to fully taking in support that is offered
- The Law of Transmutation - The violet ray of light that Sherianna uses in the cleanse represents this law's ability to help change or transform energy into something new.
Notable quotes:
[01:39] All your emotions are good, so long as you process them. [01:43]
[07:20] There's only one emotion – love – everything else is a reaction. [07:32]
[13:31] Light, sound, breath, are three ways that you can process those emotions that are so powerful. [13:42]
Resources Mentioned:
www.sheriannaboyle.com
Choosing Love
Energy in Action
Emotional Detox
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About the Guest
Sherianna Boyle is an internationally renowned intuitive healer, emotional processing guide, and bestselling author. She developed the Emotional Detox method which combines energy healing techniques, spiritual laws, and light frequencies to help people clear stuck emotions and reactions from their energy fields.
What really makes us happy? Renowned author Ryan Bush has created a new definition for happiness, one that involves a third dimension. This new theory will help you understand what makes you happy so that you can spend more of your time feeling good, and less of your time feeling bad.
This week, you’ll hear from Matt and Ryan as they teach you this new theory of what makes us happy. You’ll also gain powerful tools to boost your mood by cultivating fulfillment from within.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Ryan’s three dimensional model of happiness
- How to identify your unique personal virtues
- Creating the five core values for your company and your family life
- The theory of the self-appraisal system
[01:11] Ryan’s Three Dimensional Model of Happiness
Ryan introduces a three-dimensional model comprising pain and pleasure, gain and loss, and virtue or admiration. While the first two dimensions focus on experiences and external accomplishments, the third dimension, virtue, plays a crucial role in our well-being. By embodying virtues like courage, creativity, and compassion, we can cultivate a sense of self-worth and fulfillment even in the face of adversity. Ryan's model emphasizes the importance of maximizing this virtuous dimension and aligning our actions with our strengths, highlighting the influence of self-approval on our overall mood and life satisfaction.
[10:36] How to Identify Your Unique Personal Virtues
Take the VIA StrengthsFinder survey to uncover your top 5 strengths and ask those who know you well for their perspective. Look to admired individuals, like philosophers and heroes, and identify traits that resonate with you - they may reflect your own virtues. Consider your core values such as integrity, kindness, and creativity, as they often align with your virtues. Once identified, focus on maximizing behaviors, activities, relationships, and environments that allow you to demonstrate your virtues. Embrace self-admiration and fulfillment as a result.
[20:18] Ryan’s Theory of the Self-Appraisal System
When we find evidence of admirable virtues in our daily lives, it produces a deeper sense of happiness and well-being. However, if we are not demonstrating these virtues, it can move us closer to depression. Ryan argues this self-appraisal system is what really influences our satisfaction and moods in life. It evolved to motivate behaviors that are socially adaptive and boost our status, for the purpose of survival and reproduction.
Notable quotes:
[04:11] We're all going around navigating our lives with a faulty map. We're pursuing happiness without accounting for the factors that actually produce happiness much of the time. [04:21]
[10:52] It can often be more useful to double-down on your strengths, rather than focusing on your weaknesses. [10:58]
[19:18] There really is a mechanism in your brain that is going to lower your own mood based on your lack of self-approval. [19:25]
[20:18] There's no worse prison than being a person you yourself don't approve of. [20:23]
Resources Mentioned:
www.designingthemind.org/psychitecture
Become Who You Are by Ryan A. Bush
VIA StrengthsFinder
Jim Collins books: Good to Great and Built to Last
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About the Guest
Ryan A. Bush is a thinker and designer focused on building better systems, better people, and a better future. As founder of Designing the Mind, Ryan’s central purpose is to provide wisdom education and expand human potential beyond the norm.
How can we trust that the moment we receive disappointing news, that this news is God’s grace for us? This question is answered this week by Kimberly Braun, who spent 10 years as a monastic nun. What she discovered during her daily, hourly, and yearly devotion is that everything is in fact grace.
She sits down this week with Matt O’Neill to discuss how to access our inner guidance, follow our calling, and discover for ourselves that even our most disappointing days are in fact being guided by God’s grace.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Lessons from her book, Miracles in the Naked Light
- What it means to be love
- How fear gets in the way of love
- How to know you’re following your calling
- How to tap into your calling
- How is everything grace
[02:36] Lessons from Her Book
Miracles in the Naked Light offers profound insights on embracing authenticity and deepening our spiritual connection. Contrary to the romanticized image, monastic life often brings up unconscious fears and wounds for healing, rather than offering constant peace and serenity. By letting go of our defenses and embracing vulnerability, we open ourselves up to experiencing grace in every moment, making miracles a part of our ordinary lives. Prayer has transformed for Kimberly, becoming more about opening her vibration to connect with the Divine, experiencing the Beloved within herself in a wordless way.
[06:52] What It Means to Be Love
To be love means to express oneself without reservation, not worrying about acceptance or rejection. It means being the source of love itself and engaging in the dance of love through giving and receiving with others and the world in an open exchange of energy. Ultimately, to be love is to embody love in one's very being so that a presence and vibration of love is what one radiates wherever they go.
[12:44] How to Know You’re Following Your Calling
Some signs that you may be following an authentic calling rather than just your ego include experiencing a wordless peace, a sense of expansion rather than tension or contraction, and natural inclinations to lean into the calling even if it's scary. As you get to know yourself more intimately through practices like meditation, you can learn to discern the subtle cues within yourself to distinguish between a calling from a higher source versus projections of the mind.
[17:32] Everything is Grace
Kimberly suggests reframing the perspective on difficult life experiences by saying "everything is grace for me." When viewed through this lens, even challenging situations that involve loss or suffering can be opportunities for growth, as they push us to reflect more deeply and make positive changes that may ultimately lead to greater fulfillment, wisdom and understanding. Rather than seeing experiences as purely negative, focusing on how they can cultivate important life lessons frames them in a way that finds meaning and benefit.
Notable quotes:
[06:52] Even though we have beliefs that we may ascribe to or we have aspirations that we hold, ultimately, it's our experience and our reflection on our experience that roots us in deep inner wisdom and freedom. [07:07]
[09:14] Fear cloaks itself in a lot of different disguises. [09:19]
[10:43] The spiritual path is a security in the unknown. [10:49]
[17:32] Everything is grace for me – look at how that just shifts the whole energy of that belief or that truth. [17:43]
Resources Mentioned:
www.kimberlybraun.com
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About the Guest
Kimberly Braun is an ordained minister, Reiki Master, and TEDx speaker. With her experience as a meditation faculty at the renowned Omega Institute, Kimberly has positively impacted the lives of tens of thousands through her writing, speaking engagements, retreats, and courses.
Are you looking for practical strategies to help maintain a positive mood and thrive each day? In today’s episode, veteran life coach Derick Johnson shares his tips for implementing simple routines, social connections, and exercise to help you stay in a good place – mentally and physically.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Clearing the path to change
- Morning routines and self-care
- Managing emotions and finding calmness
- The power of asking better questions
[02:00] Clearing the Path to Change: Eliminating What Doesn't Serve You
To make meaningful changes in your routine and overall well-being, start by examining and eliminating things that don't contribute positively to your everyday life, such as unhealthy relationships, digital distractions, and physical clutter. By creating space through this process, you take ownership of your energy and pave the way for a more fulfilling lifestyle.
[04:52] Morning Routines and Self-Care for a Successful Day
To set yourself up for a successful day, Derick emphasizes the importance of establishing a consistent morning routine that includes one activity for the body and one for the mind. Options such as exercising or going for a walk energize the body, while practices like visualization or meditation promote calmness and focus. Keeping the routine simple with just one or two activities prevents feeling drained. Self-care activities are also important such as prioritizing sleep, staying hydrated, and nourishing your body with nutritious meals to support overall well-being.
[17:18] Emotional Management: The Power of a 10-Minute Window
Derick introduces the concept of a "10-minute window" as a powerful tool for emotional release and self-regulation. Within this designated timeframe, you have the freedom to fully express your emotions, whether it involves shedding tears, venting frustrations, or finding solace in nature. By allowing yourself this brief but crucial period of emotional release, you regain control over your emotional state, breaking free from the cycle of constant highs and lows.
[22:15] The Power of Asking Better Questions to Reduce Social Anxiety
When you shift your focus from yourself to the other person, it reduces your anxiety levels and alleviates the pressure to perform. Ask thought-provoking questions about their work, hobbies, recent challenges, or interesting experiences to pleasantly surprise them and move beyond mundane small talk, fostering genuine connections.
Notable quotes:
[02:00] Get rid of something that is not serving you today [02:17]
[09:45] I'm going to create but I'm not going to consume. Create more, consume less. [09:49]
[24:02] Asking good questions is like a cheat code for anxiety nowadays. [24:05]
Resources Mentioned:
Derick’s website:www.fitwithderick.com
Follow Derick Johnson on Instagram @fitwithderick2
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About the Guest
Derick Johnson, a highly sought-after life coach and trainer, is an exceptional US Army veteran who has empowered hundreds of clients and companies to enhance their mindset, health, and business. A three-time "Soldier of the Year" awardee, Derick uses his remarkable leadership skills and dedication to serve others in his coaching practice, helping individuals overcome challenges and achieve happiness, health, and success through personalized routines and mindset shifts.
Stress is actually what makes you happy. In this episode you will learn that the higher your level of stress, the higher your level of life satisfaction will be. The only caveat to this rule is that you must have hope in a bright future as you endure your stress for your life satisfaction to be high.
In this episode, Matt is joined by Adam Roach, CEO of I Love Coaching as they discuss the incredible insights from the I Love Coaching Summit. Matt and Adam explore how stress does not have to be seen as a negative thing and can actually make us stronger when we learn to reframe our mindset. They also share valuable lessons about surrounding ourselves with uplifting people who support our personal growth.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How Dr. Ryan Smith stepped into fear and embraced stress
- Why stress is good for you
- Auditing your who’s and how to find your who’s
- Lessons from John Maxwell
[07:03] Why Stress is Good for You
Stress, often seen as a negative force, can actually be a catalyst for personal growth and development. Research shows that reframing stress in a positive light can make you stronger, more resilient, and a better version of yourself. Engaging in activities that push you out of your comfort zone, such as public speaking, can lead to adaptation and the creation of new neural pathways that benefit you. Moreover, studies suggest that moderate stress, coupled with hope for a brighter future, can increase life satisfaction. Difficult challenges and stressors, while challenging to endure, have the potential to strengthen relationships and family units. Finally, stress can inspire innovation, foster creative thinking, and enhance leadership skills when faced with significant obstacles or changes.
[15:45] Auditing Your Inner Circle: Building a Supportive Community for Growth
In order to create a supportive and uplifting environment, it's crucial to audit the people you surround yourself with. Find individuals who not only lend a listening ear and shoulder to lean on but also offer genuine support, just like Matt did. These are the people who will help lift you out of challenging situations and provide the guidance you need. However, before assessing your community, it's important to establish your overall vision. Whether it's happiness, personal growth, or strong family connections, defining your vision sets the foundation for your journey. As you evaluate the individuals in your circle, ask yourself: Are they lifting you up or dragging you down? Seek out a community that genuinely supports your goals and allows you to be authentic.
Notable quotes:
[16:01] Audit your “who’s” – Surround yourself with individuals that you can share your shit with… to lift you up out of that shit or… to have a shoulder, to have an ear – and then help you. [16:16]
[18:15] You should be auditing the people around you at all times [18:20]
[18:28] What is the overall vision? And as you look at the people who are your community around you, are they, are they lifting you up?... Or are they holding you down? Are they a community that you can actually go to, be real authentic with? [18:43]
[31:36] Our purpose, though, from a spiritual standpoint, is to bring God's kingdom into everyone's world. And our assignment is our passion. [31:43]
Resources Mentioned:
I Love Coaching
I Love Coaching Summit 2024
Gobundance
10x Is Easier Than 2x
Be Your Future Self Now
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About the Guest
Adam Roach is an entrepreneur and CEO of I Love Coaching. He is also the founder of the I Love Coaching Summit, an annual event focused on whole life wellness. Adam has built a successful coaching business over the past decade and is passionate about empowering coaches to change lives.
Jane Goodall has been called the Mother Theresa of our environment. She has spent the last 60 years dedicated to protecting chimpanzees in the wild. Recently, Matt and his wife Katie had the opportunity to meet with Jane and ask her questions about making the world a better place.
Jane shared stories about how her mother encouraged her to be curious and didn’t punish her for wanting to understand how the world worked, even when it got Jane into trouble. Matt and Katie share how these insights have shaped the way they wish to raise their four children.
Jane’s message to Matt and Katie was also about hope for a bright future for the planet, but only if we act with urgency to address the issues facing all of us. Tune in to learn simple actions you and your family can take to help to protect the Earth.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The power of curiosity and exploration
- Supporting your kids’ dreams and passions
- Showing up for family through difficult circumstances
- The importance of patience and understanding in parenting
- Jane Goodall's groundbreaking chimpanzee research and environmental activism
[02:56] Lessons From Her Mom
Jane Goodall's mother played a pivotal role in shaping her future as a renowned conservationist. She fostered Jane's curiosity, even when it led to minor inconveniences, and always encouraged exploration. She backed Jane's dreams, no matter how improbable they seemed, and never let fear of danger or inconvenience stifle her daughter's curiosity. Through thick and thin, she showed unwavering support, even accompanying Jane to Africa to live in an army tent. This nurturing environment cultivated Jane's enduring love for nature and animals, ultimately fueling her groundbreaking career in conservation.
[09:22] The Importance of Patience and Understanding in Parenting
In our fast-paced lives, it's crucial to slow down and fully comprehend the moments we're experiencing, especially with our children. Caught in the whirlwind of life, Katie recently found herself profoundly affected by Jane’s message, urging her to slow down and appreciate the present. She realized the potential harm in hastily reprimanding children during their moments of curiosity and exploration. These instances, though seemingly insignificant, are crucial to their growth, and this has prompted Katie to adopt a more patient and understanding approach towards parenting.
[21:32] The Interconnectedness of Everything
Before Jane Goodall, the prevailing philosophy separated humans from the rest of nature. However, Goodall revolutionized this belief by promoting the concept of interconnectedness. She observed that humans, animals, and the environment are not distinct entities, but rather parts of a greater whole. Drawing parallels with Buddha's teachings, Goodall emphasized that the survival and prosperity of humans are intrinsically linked to the health of the animal kingdom and the planet itself.
Notable quotes:
[09:37] Any little situation or anytime we get upset with the children or fuss at them, we could be having some negative consequences. [09:44]
[22:00] We can't thrive if the animal world is dying. We can't thrive if the planet is dying. [22:08]
Resources Mentioned:
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About the Guest
Katie O'Neill is the Chief Financial Officer of Matt O’Neill Real Estate, a $10 Million enterprise. She is married to Matt O’Neill and together they raise four amazing children. Prior to becoming the CFO, Katie practiced law for 10 years at a law firm in Mount Pleasant, SC. As a working mom, Katie is truly super-human in her ability to get the homework done, cook great meals, and manage the finances of a major corporation.
Books, podcasts, and audiobooks can completely change your life. But not all methods for consuming the information are created equal. Have you ever considered how you can maximize the impact of the information you wish to receive from your books and podcasts?
In this episode, Matt sits down with Nick Hutchison, author of 'Rise of the Reader' and discusses how to get the most out of the time you spend reading books and learning from podcasts and audiobooks. Learn about effective note-taking, SMART intention setting, and the transformative power of accountability groups.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Setting intentions before reading
- Taking action on the intention through effective note-taking
- Strategies for effective reading and implementation
- Nick’s book recommendations and favorite quotes
- The power of accountability groups
[19:02] Setting Intentions and Taking Action
It's important to be clear on why you are reading a particular book and what you hope to get out of it. Intentions should be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-bound (SMART). Write your specific intention down, such as "Find two strategies to improve my communication skills from this book by next Friday." This makes the goal clear. Having a strong intention and "why" behind it leads to greater retention and follow through on applying what you learn. Vague intentions like "learn something new" won't lead to clear action. Write your intention on the inside cover to stay focused. Also, be open to surprises as well because your understanding and goals may evolve as you read, leading to unexpected insights or applications.
[23:21] Effective Reading and Implementation
Avoid multitasking when reading a book. Reading, taking notes, and implementing those notes are separate activities that shouldn't be combined. During your reading session, mark points you want to revisit or note down, but keep reading. Afterward, rewrite those notes, focusing on those that can help fulfill your reading intention. Remember, repetition leads to retention, and retention prompts action, making it more likely for you to act on these rewritten notes. You can use platforms like Evernote, your phone's notes section, or a physical notebook for this purpose. Once the book is finished, review all your notes and apply the 80/20 principle. Identify the 20% of notes most likely to bring about the desired behavioral change.
[32:33] The Power of Accountability Groups
- Forming an accountability group with motivated individuals is a powerful strategy for turning information into action. This was inspired by Darren Hardy's The Compound Effect, advocating for tracking weekly activities. If a book provides a strategy to improve communication, set a goal and track its implementation, discussing progress with the group. The group then offers reminders, suggestions, and celebrates successes, embodying the idea that personal growth is influenced by our closest peers. This collective approach to reading and implementing strategies fosters mutual growth and fresh perspectives.
Notable quotes:
[24:04] Repetition leads to retention, retention leads to action. [24:16]
Resources Mentioned:
BookThinkers
Nick’s book: Rise of the Reader
Amplify Your Influence by Rene Rodriguez
Unlimited Memory by Kevin Horsley
Limitless by Jim Kwik
The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma
The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy
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About the Guest
Nick Hutchison is the founder of BookThinkers, a digital marketing agency that serves authors. He discovered personal development books at age 20 and used them to improve every aspect of his life. Now he helps millions of readers apply what they learn from books to rise to their full potential.
Are you curious about the benefits of reducing alcohol? Discover why we often feel pressured to drink socially. Also, explore the surprising negative effects even moderate drinking can have on our health, particularly our brain and sleep.
Join Matt O'Neill as he interviews James Swanwick, a former Hollywood correspondent turned alcohol-free lifestyle coach. Enjoy a lighthearted moment as James shares his hilarious encounter with Bradley Cooper, as well as some amazing transformations he's seen in people who have reduced their drinking.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Even moderate drinking destroys brain matter
- Social pressure to drink stems from ancient 'lizard brain' survival instinct
- Alcohol disrupts quality sleep and leaves you feeling foggy
- Removing visual alcohol cues and replacing with healthy cues aids reduction
- Stopping drinking allows more energy, money gains, and an enhanced experience of life
[05:38] The Reason Behind the Societal Pressure to Drink
James provides fascinating perspective on the existence of social pressure to drink. He explained that thousands of years ago, humans lived in small tribes, and being ostracized from the tribe essentially meant death. Our "lizard brain" still holds onto that ancient survival instinct of needing acceptance from the group. Even though logically we know it's not true today, on an unconscious level many feel social rejection if they don't drink with others. This helps explain the resistance people feel to stopping drinking, as it triggers fears of being kicked out of their "tribe." Understanding this biological root of social pressure can help people feel empowered to choose their own path free from unnecessary influence.
[13:38] Even Moderate Drinking Destroys Your Brain Matter
Even moderate drinking of just one standard drink per night can destroy gray and white brain matter. James discussed a 2022 study of 35,000 middle-aged adults that found those who consumed this seemingly low amount of alcohol weekly showed brain degeneration. This challenges the common perception that casual, weekly drinking is harmless. It highlights how any level of regular alcohol consumption can physically impact the brain over time. This finding shows everyone should be aware of the risks even moderate drinking poses to cognitive health.
[18:50] The Benefits of an Alcohol-Free Lifestyle
- Living an alcohol-free lifestyle can lead to weight loss by reducing empty calorie intake and curbing cravings for sugary foods. It promotes clearer, more youthful-looking skin by preventing visible wrinkles and premature aging. By improving sleep quality, it increases energy levels, overall well-being, and allows for better focus and mental clarity. Moreover, abstaining from alcohol can enhance productivity and performance, potentially leading to higher income and wealth creation. Most importantly, it enables individuals to fully engage with and appreciate life's richness without the need for external substances.
Notable quote:
[14:16] Even moderate drinking can cause brain degeneration. [14:20]
Resources Mentioned:
The 30-Day No Alcohol Challenge by James Swanwick
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About the Guest
James Swanwick is an Australian-American entrepreneur, award winning journalist and former ESPN SportsCenter anchor. He spent eight years working as a Hollywood correspondent interviewing numerous celebrities. He now coaches people to improve their lives and performance by adopting an alcohol-free lifestyle. He is the author of the book "The 30-Day No Alcohol Challenge" and created a five-step formula to discreetly quit alcohol.
Boost your mood and optimism with four habits that will change your life. Discover the research-backed strategies that Matt learned from happiness expert Shawn Achor. Optimism is one of the strongest predictors of career success and life satisfaction. These four habits take as little as two minutes each day and will increase your gratitude, reduce your stress, and strengthen your social connections.
Join Matt O’Neill this week and take on the 21-Day Happiness Challenge to boost both your well-being and success. Because everything gets better when you feel happier.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why happiness is elusive despite achievements and external factors
- The pursuit of happiness
- How negativity works and the key to true happiness
- The four habits to increase optimism
- The 21-day Happiness Challenge
[06:25] Rediscovering True Happiness Within
In our pursuit of happiness, we often look to external factors. We believe that achieving certain goals or possessing certain things will bring us joy. We work tirelessly to earn enough money, find a life partner, have children, and eventually retire, all in the hopes of attaining happiness. But despite all our efforts, we still find ourselves feeling unfulfilled. The truth is that happiness is not found in these external circumstances; it resides within us. If we strip away all negative thoughts and patterns, what remains is the innate happiness of our being. However, society has conditioned us to believe that happiness is contingent upon material achievements and societal milestones. We are taught to believe that if we can just reach the next level, then we will finally be happy. But time and again, we realize that these milestones only provide fleeting satisfaction. It's time to shift our perspective and realize that true happiness is not found in the pursuit of external validation, but in embracing the happiness that already exists within us.
[11:04] The Key to True Happiness
- The power of emotions is contagious, as both negativity and positivity can spread from person to person. Our brain's mirror neurons and empathy enable us to unconsciously absorb the emotional states of others, impacting our own mood. While removing negative people from our lives isn't the solution, fostering inner positivity allows us to be a beacon of happiness amidst suffering. Putting on our happiness armor each day, we can uplift and inspire those around us, making a positive difference in the world.
[22:43] The Four Habits to Increase Optimism
The four habits to increase optimism discussed in the transcript are:
- Write down three new things you're grateful for each day.
- Go for a 15-minute brisk walk 4-5 times a week.
- Take two minutes each day to watch your breath through mindfulness meditation.
- Spend two minutes a day sending praise or thanks to someone new via text or email.
Notable quotes:
[06:41] Everything we do, we're trying to be happy. Well, then why aren't we?... because we're chasing after happiness in the wrong place. [06:52]
[12:07] Negativity is contagious. And so is positivity. What are you spreading? [12:15]
[13:11] Become so good at your internal happiness that your mood lifts everyone around you. [13:32]
[16:42] Everything improves with happiness. [16:45]
Resources Mentioned:
The Happiness Advantage is a book written by Shawn Achor
You Are the Happiness You Seek by Rupert Spira
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Legendary football coach Lou Holtz joins Matt on The Good Mood Show!
Coach Holtz shares lessons on leadership, character, and living a purpose-driven life. He emphasizes doing what's right, commitment to excellence, and caring for others.
Coach also discusses overcoming challenges and achieving your dreams through having the right attitude. This interview provides great insights into how you can win every day.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The three rules for success
- The importance of trust in relationships
- Teaching others beyond football
- Defining a champion
[04:56] The Three Rules for Success
- Always do what is right. By making ethical choices, we lay a strong foundation for growth.
- Do your best in everything you do. While not everyone may achieve All-American status or be at the top academically, we all have the potential to be the best version of ourselves.
- Show genuine care for others. A simple smile, kind words, and offering support can make a significant difference in people's lives, even in challenging times.
[06:22] The Importance of Trust in Relationships
If you don't have trust between two parties, you cannot have a relationship. Lou remembers benching star players before a big game because they had broken his trust by being late multiple times. He believed that trust was critical for a coach to have a good relationship with players, and for players to have a good relationship with each other on the team. Trust is important for any other relationship. It is the foundation that allows relationships to thrive.
- [18:29] Defining a Champion
- What does it mean to be a champion? Being a champion means striving to be the best version of yourself. It means pushing yourself to reach your full potential. It's important to remember that you may deceive others, fool your teammates, or even fool the crowd in the stands. However, deep down, you can't deceive yourself. When you lay your head on the pillow at night, only you truly know if you gave your all, if you did everything in your power to support and uplift your teammates. That inner honesty and dedication are what set champions apart.
Notable quotes:
[06:22] If you don't have trust between two parties, you cannot have a relationship. [06:26]
[07:23] Life is about choices, and we make the choice to do what's right, because trust is critical. [07:30]
[25:31] If you need drugs to help you get through the day, then you got some serious problem because you're making bad choices. [25:40]
[4:56] Three Rules for Success: 1. Do what is right 2. Do your best 3. Care for others.
Resources Mentioned:
Winning Every Day
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About the Guest
Lou Holtz is a legendary college football coach who led six different programs to bowl games, including winning a national championship with Notre Dame in 1988. He also won the national coach of the year in 2000 with South Carolina. Coach Holtz emphasizes character, integrity, and caring for others both on and off the football field. He is also the author of the bestselling book, Winning Every Day.
As a parent we always want the best upbringing for our children. But what does that look like? Kids don't come with instruction manuals. While some may have had a good childhood, there is no such thing as a perfect one.
In this episode Matt sits down with Bonnie Compton, a child therapist and one of America's most trusted resources regarding parenting. Bonnie teaches us that kids don’t respond well to being controlled by their parents. Instead, what they need is to be guided to make their own choices and learn from their own mistakes. Whether you’re a parent or you plan to be one, this is a conversation you will want to take in.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Guiding children to make responsible choices for themselves
- Discipline is not a dirty word.
- Parenting and expectations for the youngest child
- The downsides of helicopter parenting
[03:17] Nurturing Children: A Responsibility and Opportunity for All of Us
- While some may have had a good childhood, there is no such thing as a perfect one. Those who want to emulate their own parents' parenting styles should approach with caution as every individual and family dynamic is different. It's important to bring in other ways that you want to be as a parent or seek guidance from experts to ensure a well-rounded approach. For those from dysfunctional families, it's important to avoid swinging too far in the opposite direction and putting pressure on yourself to create a "perfect" childhood for your own children. Instead, focus on being present, nurturing, and supportive.
- [12:15] The Importance of Allowing Children to Make Responsible Choices
- Kids don't respond well to being controlled by their parents. They often rebel and resist our efforts when we try to control them. Instead, it's important to guide our children towards making responsible choices for themselves and allowing them to experience the consequences of those choices. This is how we raise children to become independent young adults and eventually, fully functional adults. By trying to exert too much control over our children, we risk pushing them away and fostering resentment.
- [25:47] The Downsides of Helicopter Parenting
- Helicopter parenting can actually prevent children from learning how to handle failure and make their own decisions. Instead of learning from their mistakes, young adults who were overly protected often become paralyzed by fear of doing the wrong thing or making a mistake. Failure is an opportunity to learn and grow, rather than a catastrophic end result. However, this type of overprotective parenting can ultimately do more harm than good, as children are not given the chance to develop their independence and problem-solving skills. By stepping back and allowing children to make decisions and experience the consequences, parents can help foster their children's self-reliance and confidence in their abilities.
Notable quotes:
[10:32] Maybe the dishes don't get done. What kids care about is that you are there and that they are seen. [10:42]
[25:25] Kids don't come with instruction manuals... you're learning as you go. [25:31]
Resources Mentioned:
Mothering with Courage
https://thesophiainstitute.org
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About the Guest
Bonnie Compton has 30 years of well-earned wisdom, hard-won experience and results-driven techniques that have transformed countless parents and kids around the world. Her best selling book Mothering with Courage, offers a mindful approach to becoming a parent who listens more, worries less, and loves deeply. Bonnie believes that being a parent is her most important job.
Failure is a part of life, right? Not according to leadership coach Emily Sander. She believes you can live a life where you never fail again.
Our fear of failure often holds us back from taking risks, pushing our limits, and becoming our best selves. By adopting the mindset that every perceived "failure" is actually an opportunity to grow, we can overcome the fear of failure and live a more bold and fulfilling life.
In this episode of The Good Mood Show podcast, Matt sits down with Emily Sander as she shares her concept of the "failure loop.” Learn how to reframe failure as a success by embracing the learning opportunities.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Reframing failure as a learning opportunity
- Embracing failure and personal growth
- How the fear of failure can hold us back
- Overcoming public failures
- Why staying comfortable isn’t the best life you can have
[02:22] Reframing Failure as a Learning Opportunity
- The Failure Loop framework helps redefine failure by viewing it as a growth opportunity rather than a negative experience. By extracting lessons from failures and applying them to future endeavors, we propel ourselves towards success. Embracing failure as a catalyst for personal development and pushing beyond our comfort zones leads to success. Each time we encounter a challenge, we move up the failure chain, entering the next loop of personal growth. By reframing our perspective on failure and consistently embracing it, we set ourselves up for success in all areas of life. Embracing failure as a natural part of the journey is a hallmark of success.
- [13:19] Embracing Failure and Personal Growth
- Emily's journey on a podcast revealed her deep-rooted fear of judgment and rejection, stemming from our primal instincts for survival. Despite her desire to perform well, her amygdala triggered a fear of being disliked and abandoned. Through guidance and self-discovery, Emily rewired her brain's association between podcasts and the fear of death, liberating herself from fear's grip. Now approaching podcasting with confidence and a growth mindset, she sees failure and judgment as opportunities for growth. Emily's story reminds us to challenge our primal fears and embrace personal and professional growth through self-awareness and reframing failure.
[19:58] How the Fear of Failure Can Hold Us Back
Imagine a world where every endeavor you undertake is destined for success. How would your approach change? What dreams would you pursue today, knowing that they will flourish? This thought experiment unveils a plethora of opportunities and breaks down the barriers imposed by the fear of failure. It encourages us to reflect on how much this fear holds us back and empowers us to embrace a fearless mindset. So, let go of hesitations and doubts, and embark on your journey toward success with unwavering determination.
Notable quotes:
[18:32] Our brains are still wired where we think of our identity and our reputation as our actual survival. [18:39]
[19:58] If you knew that everything you would do would be successful, what would you do differently? [20:03]
[28:30] If you're playing small, you're not doing your job... and other people are missing out because of that. [28:40]
Resources Mentioned:
Next Level Coaching
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Emily Sander is a C-suite executive and founder of Next Level Coaching. Previously on the original testing team for the Kindle, Emily is the author of two books, including Hacking Executive Leadership which discusses the failure loop. During the podcast interview, Emily shared her insights about reframing failure and how to use the failure loop concept to never fail again.
In a world chasing happiness, how do you find true and lasting joy? In this episode, you will learn the 5 powerful ways to live beyond happy, including creating your own definition of success, leaving it all on the field, and serving a purpose greater than yourself.
Join Matt O’Neill as he interviews intuitive business coach Lynita Mitchell-Blackwell. Lynita shares her insights on how to live a successful life, which she defines as living a life of peace, joy, and fulfillment.
It's time to live your life beyond happy!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Finding success from within
- How to find peace
- Five ways to live beyond happy
[02:49] Finding Success From Within
- In the midst of a life filled with external achievements and accolades, the weight of stress began to take its toll. It was a wake-up call when Lynita discovered that her daughter found her passed out from exhaustion one day. She then realized she needed to redefine her notion of success. It couldn't be solely based on material possessions like clothes, cars, money, and fame. She had to find something deeper, something that would allow her to be present for her kid as she grew up. Unsure of where to start, Lynita embarked on a journey within herself, creating a new list of priorities that aligned with her true values. She crafted a blueprint for her own happiness, letting go of the expectations imposed by others. It was time to stop ticking someone else's boxes so she paved her own path to fulfillment.
[14:29] 5 Ways to Live Beyond Happy
1. Create your own definition of success rather than following someone else's definition. Focus on intangible things like peace, joy, and fulfillment. Happiness and joy differ in their nature - happiness is derived from external factors, while joy comes from within. It's crucial to discard societal definitions of who we should be and how we should live, and instead, forge our own path.
2. Leave it all on the field. Do your best with what you have in each moment and don't dwell on what could have been better. Be grateful for the opportunities and experiences.
3. Debunk the myth that being busy is the same as being productive. Cut unnecessary things off your plate so you have space to enjoy life.
4. Serve a purpose greater than yourself. Come within to understand what truly fulfills you rather than just saying yes to everything to seek approval.
5. Live your modern life by setting your own daily practice for peace. See challenges as opportunities for growth rather than problems.
Notable quotes:
[05:53] There will never be enough money… because that is not what brings joy. That's what we're all really chasing is – joy – not happiness. [06:06]
[14:39] We have to put aside someone else's definition of who we are and we have to create our own. [14:47]
[16:30] There's nothing else that we want than to be happy... But we're never taught how to do that. [16:43]
Resources Mentioned:
www.lynitamitchellblackwell.com
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About the Guest
Lynita Mitchell-Blackwell is an intuitive business coach who teaches her clients to live life on fire. Not only has she built an award-winning law firm and a publishing house, Lynita is also a number one bestselling author, a certified public accountant, an ordained New Thought minister, and recognized nationally as an outstanding community leader.
Life can sometimes feel out of control. To regain our feeling of control, it is important to reduce the size of our circle of personal control. We can minimize this circle by focusing on our own response to the world, rather than trying to control the entire world. Ultimately, the only thing any of us can control is our own reactions to external conditions.
In this episode, Matt O'Neill interviews recovery coach Bryan Yates. Bryan opens up about his past struggles with alcoholism and achievement addiction. When faced with big challenges like addiction, it is important to understand where your true power lies. It lies in this moment, in this response, in controlling the only thing we can control, our reactions to the world.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Who are you becoming? vs. Who are you?
- Embracing self-acceptance and accountability
- The “over and next” exercise
- The power of self-control
[10:47] Embracing Self-Acceptance and Accountability
Bryan emphasizes the common tendency to negotiate self-acceptance away. We often set conditions for accepting ourselves, tying it to external achievements or milestones. This pattern is prevalent in our late 20s, 30s, and early 40s. From a sobriety perspective, Bryan shares two essential rules: surrender, and then acknowledge powerlessness over alcohol, people, and emotions. By accepting our past avoidance and taking full accountability for our actions and responses, we can truly embrace self-acceptance and personal growth.
[18:26] The Over Next Technique
The "over/next" technique is a simple yet powerful exercise that Bryan uses in his coaching. It involves writing things you want to let go of or be "over" in one column, and what you want to replace them with in the "next" column. This exercise helps you consciously identify behaviors, thought patterns, or habits that are no longer serving you. Writing them down makes it more real and committed. The "next" column is where you get to envision positive changes and how you want to grow or improve, providing motivation and direction.
Simply writing it out takes it from your head to your heart in a way that visualizing can reinforce changes on a deeper level. We naturally fall back into old patterns, so revisiting your "over next" lists helps keep you accountable to evolving in a healthy way. It acknowledges that change is a process by focusing on replacements rather than just "cutting things out," and so, it tends to be more sustainable long-term.
[30:36] The Power of Self-Control
Bryan highlights the essence of personal control as a small circle. Through his own struggles with sobriety, Bryan realized that by minimizing this circle and focusing on his own response to the world, he gained clarity on the limited influence he truly possesses. Ultimately, the only thing any of us can control is our own reactions to external conditions.
Notable quotes:
[18:10] Knowing the meaning of two words – over and next… Over, it’s like I'm letting go of this thing. Next, let's hit the next thing. [18:24]
[31:12] The only thing I really control is my response to conditions in the world. [31:17]
[07:21] We're constantly in this process of becoming... Who are you becoming?... That's a much harder question to answer but it's a much better question that who are you? [07:53]
Resources Mentioned:
www.locomotivcoaching.com
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About the Guest
- Bryan Yates is an experienced performance and leadership coach. Bryan's coaching methods reflect his passion for using past challenges to assist others, viewing recovery as an ongoing process of personal growth and self-acceptance.
We all want the kind of peace that transcends life's ups and downs. To do this, we must listen to the five cravings of our soul: 1. Security 2. Identity 3. Independence 4. Significance and 5. at Innocence. In this episode, Matt interviews Cory Rosenke about these five fundamental cravings. Discover how each craving influences the way we behave. Take a look within and join this soul-searching conversation that will leave your mind and mood feeling fully nourished.Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: These are non-biological soul cravings, not just psychological needs. God can fully satisfy these cravings in a way the physical world cannot. Following God's guidance brings security, significance, and fulfillment beyond what money/status can provide.[02:08] The Craving for SecurityOur need to feel safe goes beyond just having locks and walls. It goes deeper than just a desire for physical protection. Cory describes it as having two parts - physical security vs. relational security (knowing that our hearts are safe with the people we're close to). Connecting with our creator is the way to experience a deep and lasting sense of security.[13:40] Craving for IdentityIdentity encompasses the questions "Who am I?", "Why am I?", "What is my purpose?", and "Do I have value?" This craving is strongly rooted in psychology but is actually non-biological in nature. People often try to find identity through worldly means like gangs or political affiliations. However, allowing external things to become our sole identity can be problematic since it will fiercely defend that identity even when it's not serving us. True identity must go deeper than surface-level affiliations and circumstances.[17:38] Craving for IndependenceThis includes both a craving for freedom as well as a desire for distinct individuality. While independence is an important craving, it is never fully satisfied through worldly or biological means alone.[20:54] Craving for SignificanceThis craving seeks not just to feel different through independence, but to feel above or special. When managed properly, this craving can create great works of art and beauty. But when pursued in unhealthy ways, it can lead to conflict and a desire to feel significant by pushing others down. [29:36] Craving for InnocenceInnocence is underlying every argument or conflict, as each person wants to feel innocent of wrongdoing. This craving is meant to inspire right living, but is often misused to claim righteousness over others through "cancel culture". Innocence is best managed through connection to God, who declares our innocence through love rather than condemnation.Notable quotes: [09:55] I know God loves me, cares for me, and is working for my best. [10:00][11:12] If you want to satisfy a non-biological craving, you're gonna have to look towards the non-biological. [11:20]Resources Mentioned: The Magnetic Heart of God: Understanding the Five Cravings of Your SoulCory Rosenke's website: https://CoryRosenke.comCory Rosenke on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CoreyrosenkeministriesCory Rosenke on Twitter: https://twitter.com/CiroRosenkeDownload this week’s free resource instantly when you sign up for The Good Mood Show newsletter here! Or, reach out on our contact page at GoodMoodShow.com/Contact and we will email you a copy of any free resource you request.About the Guest Cory Rosenke is a renowned author, pastor, and expert who delves into the depths of the human soul to understand its profound cravings. As a pastor, he guides individuals on their journey to find inner peace by strengthening their connection with God. His upcoming book, "The Magnetic Heart of God: Understanding the Five Cravings of Your Soul," offers valuable insights on managing core soul cravings such as security, identity, independence, significance, and innocence.
Sometimes our talents are mistakenly seen as our life's purpose. But our true purpose is to seek, find, and experience joy. This perspective relieves the pressure of constantly striving to live a life of meaning. By simply embracing the present moment, sharing love, and serving others, we are already living our purpose. As we deepen our connections and expand our capacity for joy, we naturally attract greater opportunities to connect with, and impact, more people.
In this episode, Matt interviews Victoria Rader, and they delve into strategies for cultivating joy in life. Know that you deserve to be joyful without needing to earn the right to be joyful. No matter what you have experienced or caused in your life, nothing can prevent you from reclaiming your joy. Tune in to embrace the profound joy that awaits you.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Living with purpose: Embracing joy and impact
- Breathing exercise for stress
- The concept of the mindset as a thermostat
- The four-step principle for marriages
[02:17] Living with Purpose: Embracing Joy and Impact
We all have a unique purpose that manifests itself through our individuality. Sometimes, our talents are mistakenly seen as our life's purpose. However, what we do is a reflection of us living out our purpose, which is to seek, find, and experience joy. This perspective relieves the pressure of constantly questioning our life's purpose. By simply embracing the present moment, sharing love, and serving others, we are already living our purpose. As we deepen our connections and expand our capacity for joy, we naturally attract greater opportunities to connect with and impact more people, allowing our purpose to unfold in unexpected ways.
[10:42] The Concept of Mindset as a Thermostat
The concept of mindset as a thermostat versus a thermometer is a profound understanding. A thermometer's role is to measure the environment, solely reflecting the temperature without influencing it. However, to measure accurately, it must align with the temperature it is measuring. In our lives, we often function as mere thermometers, absorbing and reflecting the energies around us. If anger or intense emotions escalate, we unintentionally measure and match them, becoming stuck in that emotional state. By embracing the role of a thermostat, we can take control of our reality. Instead of reacting to external energies, we proactively choose the emotions and energy we wish to radiate, creating a harmonious and abundant existence.
[33:19] How to Access Joy in Your Life
Reset into knowing that you deserve to be joyful without needing to earn the right to be joyful. No matter what you have experienced or caused in your life, whether you have inflicted pain upon others or carried the burden of guilt, nothing can prevent you from reclaiming joy and restoring yourself. It may require effort, humility, and embarking on a journey of forgiveness. Many of us unknowingly hinder our own joy through self-incrimination and the lack of self-forgiveness. Today, it is imperative to know that you no longer need to punish yourself. It is time to release the weight of guilt, forgive yourself, move forward, and embrace the profound joy that awaits you.
Notable quote:
[33:19] Know that you deserve to be joyful, without needing to earn the right to be joyful. [33:27]
Resources Mentioned:
Yu2Shine
Peace is Every Stepby Thich Nhat Hanh
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Victoria Rader is an eight-time best-selling author who's globally recognized with Brene Brown, and Sir Richard Branson for creating innovative ideas in the mental health space. She helps us uncover underlying hidden problems, expand our peace, purpose, and prosperity, and specifically, expand our joy in our lives.
If you find yourself dealing with intermittent pain, such as headaches, knee pain, back pain, or neck pain, it's important to recognize that this is not a natural state for the body. Recurring pain is your soul's way of getting your attention. It signifies that there may be unresolved emotions within you that need to be addressed and released in order for you to experience freedom from pain.
By becoming more attuned to the pain in our bodies and recognizing the emotional component behind it, we can clear both the emotions and the physical pain. In this way, we can live a healthier life, both physically and emotionally.
Join Matt O'Neill as he explores a never-to-be published chapter of his book regarding subconscious emotions manifesting as physical pain in our bodies.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The reason subconscious anger can cause so many problems
- The primitive aspect of human personality
- Pain in our bodies is a sign of suppressed anger
- Understanding the link between pain and emotions
- How to muscle test yourself to identify trapped emotions
- Exercise to release trapped emotions
- How to deal with anger
[02:29] The Reason Why Subconscious Anger Can Cause So Many Problems
The impact of subconscious anger stems from societal conditioning that portrays anger as a negative emotion. As children, we expressed anger openly, resembling tantrums and outbursts. However, as adults, we suppress and conceal our anger, having learned to hide it from punishment and societal expectations. This suppression leads to unresolved anger residing within us, often unbeknownst even to ourselves. Many individuals claim not to be angry, yet the truth is that most adults harbor unexpressed and suppressed anger, tucked away in their subconscious mind, manifesting in various ways.
[12:54] Pain In Our Bodies is a Sign of Suppressed Anger
If you find yourself dealing with intermittent pain, such as headaches, migraines, shoulder aches, knee pain, back pain, or neck pain, it's important to recognize that this is not a natural state for the body. Physical pain is typically meant to be acute and serve as a warning sign that something is causing harm. Just like how a rock in your shoe would cause pain in your foot, prompting you to remove it for relief, recurring pain is your soul's way of getting your attention. It signifies that there are unresolved emotions within you that need to be addressed and released in order for you to experience freedom from pain.
[29:44] Exploring the Hidden Emotional Roots of Pain
When you are feeling pain in your body, ask yourself these questions: Are you feeling overwhelmed and burdened by the demands of your life? Perhaps you're carrying too much and need to make a change. It may be time to prioritize self-care and create space for relaxation. Do you feel that others are not respecting your boundaries, and do you need more personal space? Being honest about the true source of your tightness or pain is the key to healing it completely. Once you acknowledge that emotional elements contribute to your pain, it will start to diminish. To avoid future pain accumulation, revisit these questions and address them honestly.
Notable quotes:
[01:22] When you start to get really in tune with pain in your body... that is when you start to open up... to really manage your emotions in a much better way. [01:45]
[12:54] If physical pain keeps coming back, your soul is trying to get your attention. Most likely, there is an emotional blockage keeping you from being pain-free. [13:05]
[27:17] Being honest about the true source behind your tightness or pain is the solution to fully healing it. [27:23]
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Wendy Wallace lost both her hands and both her feet, and almost lost her life to a flesh eating bacteria. She survived by the grace of God. Challenges in life are a part of our journey. Instead of worrying, it's important to focus on gratitude and live in the present moment.
In today’s episode, Wendy Wallace joins Matt O'Neill to discuss how she finds peace, joy, positivity, and gratitude in her life despite losing both hands and both feet. Wendy shares how her deep connection with God helps her help other women rediscover God's joy and fulfillment amid life's trials.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Embracing life’s challenges with gratitude and faith
- Overcoming limitations and embracing the power of “can”
- The importance of seizing the present moment
- How to live a life without worry
- The importance of giving more than you receive
[07:22] Embracing Life’s Challenges with Gratitude and Faith
Life is filled with challenges, regardless of how virtuous we strive to be. Wendy's story serves as a testament to this truth. She believes that sharing her experiences is a divine calling, an opportunity to inspire others and instill hope in the face of adversity. Wendy emphasizes the importance of gratitude, faith, and maintaining a positive mindset. She reminds us that even when life doesn't go as planned, we can still find peace and joy by shifting our perspective. Wendy's words resonate with the idea that with the right attitude, we can navigate life's difficulties and cultivate a sense of well-being.
[12:03] Seizing the Present: Embracing Action and Opportunity
In life, we often hold back from pursuing our desires due to timing and financial constraints. But waiting for the perfect moment only hinders our progress. Living in the moment means seizing opportunities as they come, rather than making excuses. By taking action and embracing new experiences, we open ourselves up to personal growth and hidden opportunities. So, don't let your dreams go to waste. Take the leap and embrace the present, because what's the worst that could happen?
[16:06] How to Live a Life Without Worry
In Philippians 4:6-7, the Lord encourages us to replace anxiety and worry with thankfulness. By shifting our perspective and focusing on gratitude, we can find a silver lining in every situation. No matter the circumstances, actively seeking reasons to be grateful can change our mindset and bring peace amidst the chaos. When worry arises, take a moment to reflect on what you are thankful for, knowing that gratitude has the power to transform even the toughest challenges. Embracing a spirit of thankfulness allows us to navigate life with joy and resilience.
Notable quotes:
[12:49] Living in the moment means "do or do not, there is no try." [12:53]
[16:28] If you're worried about something, why not flip the switch on that and say, Okay, well, let's think about what I'm thankful about in the situation. [16:35]
[16:39] There is a silver lining in every dark cloud, in every test, in every boo-boo, in every challenge, there's something to be thankful for. [16:50]
Resources Mentioned:
Inspiring Ways to Start Living Your Best Life
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About the Guest
Wendy Wallace is a wife, mother, grandmother, author, and Christian life coach. She lost both hands and both feet to necrotizing fasciitis, commonly known as flesh-eating bacteria. In spite of this hardship, Wendy finds peace, joy, positivity, and gratitude through her deep connection with God. Wendy helps women rediscover God's joy, peace, and fulfillment amid life's trials through becoming more intentional in their relationship with God. She shares her story and wisdom through her website One Exceptional Life and her ebook Inspiring Ways to Start Living Your Best Life.
1 NYT best-selling author and spiritual teacher Mark Nepo joins “The Good Mood Show” once again to share insights from his highly anticipated new book Falling Down and Getting Up.
Mark has been named by Watkins as one of the 100 most spiritually influential living people. In this episode, he discusses how the essence of life is an evolution of falling down and getting up, each time with a little more wisdom. As Mark explains, we never reach an "arrived state" without problems, because that’s not how life truly works. We can't bypass the challenges; we have to live through them.
You will learn how the strength of being alive comes from embracing our wholeness, being real, and being authentic.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The mystery of life and how it works
- The importance of making amends
- Seeing things as they are
- The wisdom of being present
- The story of Gilgamesh
[08:12] The Mystery of Life and How It Works
In life, we often seek the good times and avoid the tough stuff, but that's not how life works. The strength of being alive comes from embracing its wholeness, being real, and authentic. We can't bypass the challenges; we have to live through them. It's like water - we can't just have hydrogen alone and call it water. Life is a mystery, and its wholeness requires us to support and journey together. We've always chased the ideal state without problems, but the truth is, there are no problems only in death.
[10:38] The Power of Authenticity of Making Amends
Pain and suffering are inherent in the cycle of life, according to Buddhist teachings. While unavoidable, we must learn to work with it. When we unintentionally hurt each other, it's often a mistake that can be rectified through sincere apologies and making amends. This process plays a crucial role in fostering intimacy and growth. However, there is also deliberate harm caused by evil, which stems from personal pain and avoidance of facing one's own issues. The courage to be authentic and face our own pain reduces violence in the world and allows us to support rather than harm one another.
[13:00] Seeing Things as They Are
Being authentic requires us to embrace the challenging yet essential practice of seeing things as they truly are, rather than through the lens of our desires or the urge to escape. By facing reality head-on, we empower ourselves to navigate through obstacles and extend support to one another. When we acknowledge our mistakes and the harm we have caused, we can take the necessary steps to repair and prevent such incidents from recurring.
Notable quotes:
[09:00] The strength of being alive comes from its wholeness, and we can only access its wholeness by being real and authentic. [09:11]
[11:59] The courage to be authentic by itself reduces violence in the world because then we help each other rather than hurt each other. [12:08]
[17:46] If we are open-hearted, we are returned to life right where we are. [17:52]
[18:08] When we are stopped, or we willingly stop, there's always a teacher nearby, always. And often, we run right past it. [18:18]
Resources Mentioned:
Falling Down and Getting Up
www.sophiainstitute.org
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Mark Nepo is an American poet, author, and spiritual teacher. A New York Times best-selling author, Mark has been called one of the finest spiritual guides of our time and named by Watkins as one of the 100 most spiritually influential living people. He was also chosen as one of the Oprah Winfrey Network's Super Soul 100 and has appeared several times with Oprah on her Super Soul Sunday program.
Tuesdays With Morrie is the bestselling memoir of all time. Rob Schwartz, Morrie’s son, discovered an unpublished manuscript in his father’s desk drawer years after his death. Rob recently published this incredible book, The Wisdom of Morrie, and he joins the Good Mood Show this week to discuss the deep wisdom of his father.
Learn how to live fully in the present moment and appreciate the beauty of life. Rob teaches us about forgiveness, compassion, and strengthening relationships. When we have strong relationships with others who love and support us, it fulfills us at a deep level. It brings meaning and purpose to our lives, and it improves our wellbeing and happiness. You will come away from this episode with a greater understanding and appreciation for what it means to be human.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The importance of strengthening human relationships
- How to appreciate the beauty of life
- What it means to stay human
- Why the most beautiful time in life is now
[07:14] The Importance of Strengthening Human Relationships
When we have strong relationships with others who love and support us, it fulfills us at a deep level. It brings meaning and purpose to our lives, and it improves our wellbeing and happiness. Our relationships provide opportunities for growth, as we learn how to be more empathetic, compassionate, and understanding of others. As Morrie Schwartz said, "Love is how you stay alive even after you're gone." The impact we have on others through strong relationships can continue long after we're gone.
[13:50] What It Means to Stay Human
To stay human means to stay true to the qualities that make us distinctly human - our capacity for love, compassion, empathy, creativity, and spirituality. It means relating to others in a genuine, authentic way and connecting deeply with their humanity. It means appreciating beauty, art, and joy. It means living in accordance with higher human values like kindness, honesty and integrity. In essence, to stay human is to avoid becoming hardened, cynical or indifferent. It is to remain open-hearted, thoughtful, and connected to others and to the world around us.
[16:51] The Most Beautiful Time in Life is Now
Now is the most beautiful time in life because it is the only time we truly have to experience life fully. The past is gone and the future is uncertain, so all we really have is this present moment. When we live fully in the now, we develop a greater appreciation for the beauty that surrounds us. As we age and gain wisdom, we realize how precious each moment is. Understanding our own impermanence and mortality makes us value our time while we are still alive. Living in the present allows us to have more meaningful connections and be fully present with the people we love right now. Now is the only time we can act with purpose and express our values. So in essence, now is the most beautiful time in life because it is the only time we have to truly live, love, experience joy, and appreciate the gift of being alive.
Notable quotes:
[16:51] It's always now. The past and the future don't exist. So the most beautiful time in life has to be now because it's the only time. [16:59]
Resources Mentioned:
www.wisdomofmorrie.com
Tuesdays with Morrie
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About the Guest
Rob Schwartz is the son of Morrie Schwartz, the beloved subject of the bestselling memoir Tuesdays with Morrie. After rediscovering his father's unpublished manuscript The Wisdom of Morrie in his desk drawer years after his death, Rob worked to get the book published. The Wisdom of Morrie was released in 2019 and shares Morrie Schwartz's wisdom on aging gracefully, living joyously, and strengthening human relationships.
When we are kind to ourselves, we are more able to extend kindness to others. But the Dalai Lama talks about how at the end of the day, he's tired, and he can get cranky. If that’s true for the Dalai Lama, it allows us to have a sense of graciousness and patience with ourselves. This is how we offer unconditional kindness to the world, it starts by offering it to ourselves first.
In today's episode, join Matt as he interviews Swami Nityananda, a devoted spiritual teacher at the Awake Yoga Meditation community. Her teachings invite people to explore their innate capacity for love, wisdom, joy, harmony, and kindness – prompting people to ask, "How may I be of service?" Today's show unravels the power of unconditional love and kindness, revealing how all of us can triumph even in challenging times.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- What is a natural expression of our spiritual energy?
- The concept of equipoise
- The story of the mother who donated her son's heart
- Choose love first, or choose love second.
- Self-awareness and the ability to self-correct
- Focus on the light that is present everywhere
- How every human is connected to their own energy
[02:40] Discovering Your Unique Awakeness: Embracing Joy, Curiosity, and Dedication
Within you, lies a profound joy intertwined with an insatiable curiosity and an unwavering dedication to exploring spiritual questions. This innate awakening is the natural expression of your vibrant spirit. As each listener embarks on their journey, a fundamental question emerges - what form does this joy, curiosity, wonder, and creative life energy take for each of us individually? Like beautiful fingerprints, we possess a unique identity, but beneath it all, there lies a signature energy that defines our awakeness. Embrace the exploration of your own authentic expression.
[15:39] Choosing Love First, Or Choosing Love Second
Every human has the ability to choose love and kindness or just step out of the stream. If we do step out of the stream, just choose to step back again. The Dalai Lama talks about how at the end of the day he's tired and not his best self. This allows ordinary humans to have a sense of humor, graciousness, and patience. By cultivating these qualities within, we become more capable of extending the same graciousness and patience to those we encounter on our journey.
[30:05] Harnessing the Power of Light and Love: Connecting to our Inner Divine Awareness
In moments of anger, frustration, or disconnection, it's crucial to tap into the energy of light and pure love. This divine energy of righteousness, truth, justice, and clarity resides within each of us. By embracing this awareness, we can transcend doubt and live from a place of pure potentiality. So, whenever you encounter injustice or observe feelings of separation, channel the energy of light and love to align with your truest self and radiate your unique essence to the world.
Notable quotes:
[18:32] When we're gracious & patient with ourselves, we're more able to extend graciousness & patience to others. [18:40]
[30:05] If you do experience that feeling of anger or feeling of frustration, or a feeling of disconnect… connect with the energy of light. Connect with the energy of pure love. [30:25]
Resources Mentioned:
https://awakeyogameditation.org
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Swami Nityananda's mission is to guide people towards living a life filled with joy and freedom. Her teachings focus on helping listeners connect with the essence of love, wisdom, joy, harmony, and kindness. She embodies selflessness and constantly strives to be of service to others.
Have you ever wanted to firewalk? To walk on hot coals at temperatures of over 1000-degrees? Dave Albin, the firewalking master, has helped over 500,000 people successfully firewalk. He shares how to overcome your fears and face all challenges and rise.
Dave worked for Tony Robbins for almost two decades as his firewall captain. In this episode, he shares the best strategies for facing obstacles in your life, and how you can be bigger than the moment and conquer your fears.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- What walking over hot coals is like
- Building your confidence through facing your fears
- The liberation people get from acting with courage
- How ordinary challenges are easier to overcome after facing your fears
[08:48] The Firewalking Experience at Tony Robbin’s Events
Dave's firewalking experience was filled with mystery and awe. As he walked along the line, a stranger whispered to him, signaling that he would know when it was time to go. The atmosphere was intense, with chanting, drums, and people of all backgrounds firewalking. Dave was mesmerized, trying to comprehend the metaphorical meaning behind it all. Suddenly, he found himself at the front of the line, facing the glowing hot coals. Overwhelmed by fear, a trainer reminded him to keep his eyes up and focus on the celebration at the end. With a burst of determination, Dave squeezed his fist and shouted "yes," propelling himself forward. In the end, he emerged unburned, experiencing disbelief and exhilaration along with thousands of others who had conquered their fears.
[26:25] Fear is Good: A Powerful Guide for Personal Growth
Fear, often seen as a negative force, actually serves a vital purpose by preventing us from engaging in dangerous activities that can be life-threatening. It acts as our guardian, urging us to make wise choices. But what does fear really stand for? Is it "Forget Everything and Run," or is it "Face Everything and Rise"? The answer lies within us. As Alcoholics Anonymous suggests, fear can be summed up as "False Images Appearing Real." It is important to acknowledge fear's presence and guidance, but we must not allow it to become our jailer. Embrace fear as an ally on your journey of self-discovery and personal transformation.
[30:23] Unlocking Boundless Potential: The Liberation of Firewalking
The power of firewalking lies not only in the physical act itself but in the profound impact it has on our mindset. Stepping onto scorching coals that reach temperatures of 1000 degrees challenges our perceptions of what is possible. It sparks a realization: if we can conquer such a formidable feat, what other barriers can we break? This revelation is why Tony Robbins incorporates firewalking on day one of his events. By igniting this transformative experience, participants emerge with heightened energy, connecting deeply with others and unleashing their limitless potential. As they enter the room, Tony asks, "Firewalkers, what else can we achieve? What else is within our grasp?" That’s the true beauty of firewalking.
Notable quotes:
[26:57] Fear is there to guide you. Just don't let it become your jailer. [27:00]
[27:17] The fears we don't overcome… become our limits. [27:20]
[26:33] Forget everything and run, or face everything and rise. You decide. [26:50]
Resources Mentioned:
Firewalk Adventures
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About the Guest
Dave Albin, the top firewalk instructor in America, has guided over half a million people in conquering their fears through transformative firewalking experiences. As the founder of Firewalk Adventures, Dave trains aspiring instructors, sharing his expertise and inspiring personal growth.
The way we approach stress can make or break our day, and our life. You have to figure out the stress equation because, if left unchecked, stress can drain your capacity right out of you.
In this episode stress expert Allison Graham teaches how stress is really an illusion. Many high achievers believe that the only way to achieve success is by living an intense, high-stress lifestyle. However, adopting a zen-like approach to managing stress can be just as effective without sacrificing intensity. Learn how to make friends with your stress and how to redefine the relationship you have with stress.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why stress is an illusion
- Allison’s journey with pain
- The correlation between stress and chronic pain
- The loop of destructive self-judgment
- What to do in the absence of emotion
- Situational awareness and self-awareness
[10:43] The Correlation Between Stress and Chronic Pain
As your stress level rises, your body and mind suffer, and your ability to make friends with your pain and prevent it from taking over your life weakens. To combat this, you have to figure out the stress equation because if left unchecked, it can drain and suck your capacity right out of you. Designing how you use your capacity each day is crucial to managing stress and chronic pain. By proactively designing how you use your capacity to manage stress, you can improve your ability to be resilient and manage chronic pain.
[12:33] Zen Approach: Managing Stress without Sacrificing Intensity
Many high achievers believe that the only way to achieve success is by living an intense, high-stress lifestyle. However, adopting a zen-like approach to managing stress can be just as effective without sacrificing intensity. There are people who live a kumbaya lifestyle and manage to stay at a nice, cool pace that works for them. Meanwhile, the rest of us must figure out how to reach our goals without letting stress take over. It's about shifting our perception of stress and realizing that we don't have to completely change who we are to be stress-free. We weren't designed to be lackadaisical human beings lying on the beach, so it's important to find a balance between intensity and mindfulness. By embracing a zen approach to stress management, we can still achieve our goals without sacrificing our mental health and wellbeing.
[15:41] The Loop of Destructive Self-Judgment
Do you find yourself judging yourself for being judgmental? This negative loop is just one layer of destructive stress and a barrier to achieving peak performance. It's important to remember that the things that define our lives are often beyond our control. The reality is that we can't just ignore our feelings and stuff them down. Instead, we need to break the loop of destructive self-judgment and embrace our emotions, even the negative ones, so we can move forward and achieve our goals without the weight of self-judgment holding us back.
Notable quotes:
[02:09] Stress – the way that we're taught to approach it, the way we're taught to solve it, to measure it, to live with it is–all of it combined – is the illusion. [02:20]
[10:43] There's a definite correlation between destructive stress and our level of chronic pain.
Resources Mentioned:
Take Back Your Weekends: Stress Less, Do More, Be Happier
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About the Guest
Allison Graham is a keynote speaker and author who speaks about resilience and personal capacity design. She has published a book called The Stress Illusion, offering a fresh perspective on the destructive cycle that makes professionals feel like they are suffocating under stress.
Sadhguru is the 5th most influential global spiritual thought-leader, behind the Pope, the Dalai Lama, and Eckhart Tolle. Matt O’Neill spent a weekend learning from Sadhguru at his renowned program, Inner Engineering. This episode teaches the most important lessons he teaches about living a life of joy.
In this episode, learn how to live life with an open heart, create peace and love in the world, and tap into your highest potential. Learn how you can take responsibility for absolutely everything and become intensely involved in life. These principles are keys to unlocking good moods.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Take responsibility for your thoughts and emotions
- Breaking free from the victim mentality
- Accept each moment as it is
- How to become intensely involved in life
- Unlock your heart through unconditional love
- Cultivate peace within to share joy and love with the world
[05:47] Embracing Perspective: Our Place in the Vastness of the Cosmos
One of the most negative thought patterns we can fall into is the victim mentality. When we view ourselves as victims, we believe that circumstances are out of our control, and we suffer as a result. However, the truth is that being a victim is a choice that we make with our perception. By taking responsibility for our lives and choosing to be in control, we can free ourselves from the suffering that comes with the victim mindset
When we choose to take responsibility for everything in our lives, we empower ourselves to take action and improve our situations. We no longer feel helpless or at the mercy of external circumstances, and we can approach challenges with a proactive mindset. This shift in perspective allows us to move from victimhood to action and take steps toward creating positive change in our lives.
[09:51] Breaking Free From the Victim Mentality
The victim mentality is a negative thought pattern that disempowers us by making us believe that things are happening to us, beyond our control. This mentality perpetuates suffering as we blame external factors for our problems and feel harmed by others. However, being a victim is a choice we make with our perception. By taking responsibility for everything in our lives, we can break free from the victim mentality and create positive change. This shift in focus allows us to take control of our experiences, let go of suffering, and move towards a fulfilling life. Though it requires effort and self-awareness, choosing to be responsible empowers us to take action and pave the way for a brighter future.
[14:46] Choosing to Respond
Responsibility is about our ability to respond to situations in our lives. By taking responsibility for everything that happens, we empower ourselves to choose how we respond, even in the face of unfair or difficult circumstances. This means that true responsibility requires a willingness to respond to any situation that arises. When we limit our responsibility, we also limit our ability to take action and respond effectively. Therefore, embracing responsibility means embracing our ability to respond to whatever life throws our way.
Notable quotes:
[06:26] When you keep the fact that we are floating through empty space, on a ball of dirt, and that it's all happening, and you get to experience it... you start to see that this problem really is not a problem.
[06:54] The more involved we are with what's going on in life consciously, the happier we get to be.
[10:18] Every single time you are a victim of something, you are suffering.
Resources Mentioned:
Sadhguru’s Inner Engineering
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Emotions are just data, they're not directives. When someone is upset with you, they have every right to feel that way because of the data they are perceiving. By taking full responsibility for the data you are showing the world, you can evolve into greater and greater versions of yourself.
In today’s episode, Dante DiBattista, bestselling author, leadership coach, and inspirational speaker, talks about how this mindset helps us in a leadership position with others. Dante teaches us how to analyze the data from our emotions to increase happiness, success, and well-being.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How different people weigh different data points
- Emotions as data, not directives
- The power of intention
- The Stanford Prison Experiment
- Overcoming fear for effective leadership
[05:37] The Fear of Failure
The fear of failure can hold us back from pursuing our goals. Being branded a failure earlier in life gives you the freedom to never fear it again. It's important to remember that failure is a natural part of the learning process, and we can't let it stop us from trying. By embracing the possibility of failure, we give ourselves the opportunity to grow and succeed in ways we never thought possible.
[07:25] How Different People Weigh Different Data Points
At times, it can be upsetting when people doubt us. However, it's essential to reflect on whether we're truly upset with them or ourselves for providing enough evidence for their doubts. We can't control their thoughts, but we can influence them by demonstrating our behavior, how we treat others, and approach life. If we break trust with those who depend on us due to our refusal to take responsibility for our behavior, they're not wrong as we've given them enough data. Ultimately, we need to accept responsibility for our actions.
[09:00] Emotions are Data, Not Directives
Your behavior is a reflection of the data available, not necessarily who you are at your core. However, you still hold responsibility and ownership over the data you share with others through your actions. If someone gave you a spreadsheet with numbers on it. Would you get offended if the numbers were there? The answer is probably no.
[22:54] Overcoming Fear for Effective Leadership
As a leader, it's crucial to recognize the significance of your position. The fear of being perceived as imperfect and the ego-driven desire to maintain a certain image can prevent leaders from making the right decisions. This behavior can have dire consequences as it could discourage people from speaking up when they need to, potentially leading to disastrous outcomes. It's essential to put the needs of the team or organization above personal pride and to create an environment that allows for open communication and collaboration towards achieving common goals.
Notable quotes:
[08:19] Emotions are data, not directives…. If someone gave you a spreadsheet with numbers on it, would you get offended if the numbers were there? The answer is probably no. [08:58]
[12:37] It’s completely okay if someone's upset with you. They have a right to be upset with you. Don't take it personally. [12:44]
Resources Mentioned:
https://dantedibattista.com/
The Lucifer Effect by Dr. Philip Zimbardo
The Anatomy of Malice by Joel Dimsdale, J. Paul Guimont, et al.
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About the Guest
Dante DiBattista is an experienced community servant, leadership coach, and speaker who challenges traditional ideas of authority and is an advocate for the future of work. He coaches leaders on using emotional intelligence and psychology research to improve company performance while prioritizing employee well-being.
After being hit by a drunk driver at the age of 23, Danielle Matthews lost so much - her job, her independence, and her health. She was told by the medical community that she would never recover from her brain injury and that she must accept her new reality. But she refused to let this accident define her. Instead, she chose to break free from the victim mentality and inspire others to do the same.
Tune in to hear Danielle's story and learn how to overcome adversity. Danielle shares her story to inspire us that we can triumph over the challenges in our lives just as she has. As she describes in this episode, it all comes down to mind mastery.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The accident that changed her life forever
- Dealing with the victim mentality
- Do what’s happening in front of you
- The equation in life that made all the difference
- The low vibration of victimhood
- How to become aware of your thoughts
- The spiritual principles of success
[02:50] Danielle’s Story
Danielle Matthews experienced the harsh reality of something occurring to her that was beyond her control. While en route to a family wedding, she was struck head-on by a driver who had fallen asleep at the wheel after a night of heavy drinking. As a result of this individual's decision, Danielle lost her job, income, independence, ability to tolerate light and sound, and focus, among other things. Despite the overwhelming despair and suffering that could have resulted from this situation, Danielle refused to succumb to the victim mentality.
[12:19] The Wake-Up Call
Danielle Matthews experienced severe depression and panic attacks after her accident. Her neurologist informed her that she had reached her maximum healing potential and had to adjust to her new normal. This statement was a wake-up call for Danielle, who realized she needed to find a way to live a fulfilling life despite her physical symptoms. Through introspection, she found the strength to push through and keep going.
[15:16] The Power of Staying Present
As Danielle studied various spiritual practices, she learned that being present is a key component to finding inner peace. It allows us to let go of the past and not worry about the future. Instead, we can fully embrace the present moment and appreciate all that it has to offer.
Danielle also recognized that thinking too much about her past self could lead to negative self-talk and self-identification. By accepting who she is now and focusing on her current strengths and positive attributes, she was able to grow as a person and find happiness within herself.
In essence, Danielle's journey highlights the importance of being present and self-acceptance. By living in the moment and embracing who we are now, we can find joy and contentment in our lives.
Notable quotes:
[28:36] Triggers in life are your teachers. [28:40]
[32:05] The external world, plus your internal response, equals your reality.
[32:19] You've got the external world… 99% of it is happening… And you have a choice as to how you want to interact with them. [32:26]
Resources Mentioned:
Mind Control by Danielle Matthews
https://brainbodyself.com/
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About the Guest
Danielle Matthews utilized the power of "Mind Control" to manifest the mindset, techniques, and healing technologies required for a complete recovery. Her experience has been shared with thousands of individuals worldwide, and she aims to provide readers with the essential tools to overcome any obstacles in their lives and achieve their highest potential. Through her teachings, Danielle hopes to inspire and empower individuals to become the best version of themselves.
Are you ready to create your happiness habits? Perception is the key! When we focus on positive qualities and achievements within ourselves, we begin to notice them more frequently.
Join us in this episode as we talk about mindset, movement, and meditation with happiness coach Jason Harwood. Learn how to shift your focus and create a more positive outlook toward life.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: - Understanding the hierarchy of needs as it relates to happiness - Why the time is now to create happiness habits - Starting your day with gratitude habits - The first principle of starting and sticking to a habit - Shifting your mindset: the power of positivity - Why movement and meditation are so important
[08:07] Hierarchy of Needs Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a widely recognized theory in psychology that explains human motivation and behavior. At its base are physiological needs such as food, water, and shelter, followed by safety and security. Once these basic needs are met, humans strive for love and belonging, self-esteem, and self-actualization. Research shows that once people reach a certain level of income, additional income does not necessarily lead to greater life satisfaction. This suggests that material possessions alone are not enough to fulfill our needs and desires.
[13:53] Starting Your Day with Gratitude Habits Gratitude is a powerful tool that can help us shift our focus toward the positive aspects of our lives. Establishing gratitude habits, such as writing down three things we are grateful for each day, can have a significant impact on our overall well-being. Starting your day with gratitude statements can set a positive tone for the rest of the day and help you approach challenges with a more positive mindset. It can be as simple as taking a few minutes each morning to reflect on what you are thankful for and jotting down those things in a gratitude journal.
[15:18] The First Principle of Starting and Sticking to a Habit Starting small is key to forming and maintaining habits. Breaking down larger goals into manageable tasks can build momentum and increase the chances of success. Practicing gratitude and movement, such as writing down a few things you're thankful for and doing a few minutes of exercise, can create a positive tone for the day. Additionally, meditation or prayer can improve mental clarity and reduce stress. By focusing on achievable tasks, you can lay the foundation for long-term success.
[20:13] The Power of Perception: How Focusing on Positive Aspects of Yourself Can Change Your Outlook Our perception is influenced by what we focus on. When we train our minds to seek out positive qualities and achievements within ourselves, we begin to notice them more frequently. It's not that these positive aspects of ourselves suddenly increase in number, but rather our awareness of them has heightened. Notable quotes:
[08:50] Once you hit a certain level of income, additional income does not create any additional life satisfaction. [08:57]
[15:18] The first principle of starting and sticking to habits is to actually start small. [15:24]
[24:17] The more you can reduce the energy necessary to do something, the more likely you are to do it. [24:22]
[31:41] The challenge we face is losing connection with the present moment. [31:47]
Resources Mentioned: www.jasonhartman.com The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg Atomic Habits by James Clear
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About the Guest Jason Harwood is a professional speaker and happiness coach
We typically choose to be giving because we want to help others. But you are, in fact, the real benefactor of your generosity. As you give, you also receive. When you are generous, loving, and kind you are the one who receives the gifts of your loving, kind, and generous heart.
In this episode Matt interviews Dr. Stephen Post, whose books have received acclaim from His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Deepak Chopra. Stephen and Matt talk about his book on giving called When Good Things Happen to Good People, a book that emphasizes the positive impact of acts of kindness and generosity on one's own well-being.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why giving is good for us
- Goodness in the heart of a child
- How we can apply compassion and kindness to our everyday life
- The importance of winning with love
- Considering your adversaries as your friends
[02:24] The Value of Giving
In the realm of giving, it's not enough to simply perform an action. Scientific evidence has shown that the level of empathy and care infused into the act is paramount. It's not about the quantity of the donation, but rather the quality of compassion and kindness put into it. This approach yields numerous benefits for all individuals, regardless of age or background. It's particularly advantageous for those experiencing certain medical conditions. As such, it's crucial to remain mindful of this principle and impart its value to younger generations.
[07:37] Goodness in the Heart of a Child
Children possess a pure and innate goodness, but often this quality is overshadowed by external factors. To cultivate this trait within families, it's important to establish a support system that includes positive role models and clear family values. Encouragement and opportunities for volunteering can also be instrumental in fostering altruistic behavior from adolescence throughout the entire lifespan. Despite common negative cultural beliefs that humans are inherently selfish, recent scientific research has shown that kindness and love have numerous benefits. Scientists are now dedicating their work towards exploring the many forms of love, which is producing promising results.
[21:43] The Importance of Winning with Love
Life presents us with many obstacles, and our responsibility is to continue growing as individuals. It's crucial to persevere with love despite any difficulties that may arise and resist the temptation of getting caught up in negativity. Although this can be challenging, it's important to approach life with a love-filled attitude and not let external factors bring us down. While suffering may be present, it's often linked to our attachment to certain things or circumstances.
Notable quotes:
[02:37] It's not how much you give, but how much kindness you put into the giving that matters. [02:42]
[07:37] There's a lot of goodness in the heart of a child. The problem is that we push the wrong buttons. [07:43]
[21:50] Our job is to stick with love, if we can, no matter what, and not allow ourselves to get sucked down into this negative, seething boiling cauldron, which is easy to do. [22:05]
Resources Mentioned:
StephenGPost.com
UnlimitedLoveInstitute.org
Email: StephenGPost@gmail.com
Books:
Dignity for Deeply Forgetful People
God and Love on Route 80
When Good Things Happen to Good People
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About the Guest
For over 20 years, Dr. Stephen G. Post has been spreading the science of giving and the commitment to the greater good. He has promoted the idea of “give and live better” across the globe. Funding over 50 scientific studies at the nation’s top universities as well as conducting his own research, Stephen brings a new level of insight into the ways in which we benefit as givers.
Society and media have long associated alcohol with fun, but is this really true? When we drink alcohol it activates the reward center in our brain. This makes us feel happy… until it doesn’t.
According to alcohol freedom coach, Lily Weis, thinking that alcohol is going to bring you joy is like borrowing joy from a loan shark. Yes, you get that initial hit. But the interest you have to pay is a total bummer.
In this episode Lily teaches us how to start with alcohol-free days as progress. She speaks from personal experience and her non-judgmental, real-life approach make this a must-listen episode for anyone curious about decreasing their alcohol consumption and increasing their happiness.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The myth of having to hit rock bottom
- The research on the link between fun and alcohol
- What alcohol does to our brains
- How to be comfortable in social situations without a drink in your hand
- Knowledge about addiction can shorten relapse rates
- Alcohol-free days as progress
[02:49] The Myth of Having to Hit Rock Bottom
Alcohol use disorder is a spectrum and hitting rock bottom before quitting is a myth. "Gray area drinking" can still be harmful and cause joy to leak out of one's life. Even with a healthy body and marriage, some individuals may struggle to quit drinking. This pattern of increasing drinking over time can continue for years, but there is hope and help available.
[06:50] The Link Between Fun and Alcohol
When we drink alcohol, it activates the reward center in our brain by increasing the dopamine neurotransmitter. This makes us feel happy, as dopamine is linked to pleasure and survival instincts. However, this feeling doesn't last long. Thinking that alcohol is going to bring you joy is like borrowing joy from a loan shark. Yes, you get that initial cash. But the interest is a bummer.
[09:49] What Alcohol Does to Our Brains
Alcohol numbs our senses and our ability to feel. However, it also numbs our ability to experience joy. If you're a regular drinker, your brain gets a large dopamine hit which can cause it to shut off natural dopamine production. This means you have effectively turned off your body's ability to produce joy chemicals.
[26:51] Shortening Relapse Rates and Alcohol-Free Days
Knowledge about addiction can shorten relapse rates. It all depends on where you are on the alcohol use disorder spectrum. But having knowledge about the urges that arise and knowing how to deal with them makes it easier to resist drinking. If you are afraid of relapsing, that can grow bigger and bigger.
View every alcohol-free day as progress and every lesson learned as a victory. Even if you drank seven out of seven days last week, but only two out of seven days this week, you still have five alcohol-free days and two lessons learned. Instead of feeling bad and asking "What's wrong with me?", ask yourself "Why did I drink that day?" This approach helps you reflect on your behavior and discover solutions without blaming yourself.
Notable quote:
[09:49] - [10:10] Alcohol numbs everything… it is also numbing your ability to have joy.
Resources Mentioned:
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About the Guest
Lily Weis is an alcohol freedom coach who has been helping people break free from alcohol for over a decade. She struggled with alcohol addiction herself and has been sober for 12 years. Her personal experience and extensive training in addiction recovery have equipped her with the tools and knowledge to help others, making use of a holistic approach to help her clients achieve long-term sobriety and rediscover joy in their lives.
Connor McKemey burned over 90% of his body in an explosion and was given less than a 1% chance to live. After three months in a coma, and over one hundred surgeries, Connor survived, but his life would never be the same again.
His incredible story of mental and physical resilience is an inspiration to us all. Connor now sees his scars as symbols of survival and his ability to overcome.
In this episode, Connor shares valuable insights about how to find your inner strength, and how to understand the power of your own mind. He discusses how to own your uniqueness, and to focus on what you can control. Through his story, learn how motivation, attitude, and courage are keys to achieving your goals and conquering life's challenges.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How to find your strength within
- Understanding the power of your mind
- Owning your uniqueness
- Focus on what you can control.
[10:05] Finding Your Strength Within
Life brings diverse challenges that test our strength and resilience, but we are stronger than we think. Connor's experience taught him the importance of having a support system and confronting pain to find inner strength. Remember that challenges wouldn't come if we weren't capable of handling them. Recognizing our strength and having people rooting for us can give us the courage to keep going.
[22:19] Owning Your Uniqueness
Difficult times can lead to self-criticism, but it's important to recognize that these feelings are normal. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself and embracing your uniqueness. Connor's experience highlights the power of this mindset in overcoming adversity and finding happiness. Own your uniqueness and stop being negative about yourself.
[31:12] Focus on What You Can Control
We have incredible resilience and can achieve beyond our imagination. Utilize the tools within, have faith, courage, and hope to overcome negativity. Connor's story highlights the power of focusing on what we can control and utilizing our abilities to achieve more than we thought possible. Motivation, attitude, and courage – these are three things that we can control in our everyday life. They all work together in unison in a way so we can see improvements and changes, as well as withstand those difficulties in our lives.
Notable quotes: (Please Choose One)
[10:05] You wouldn't be given this adversity if you weren't strong enough to handle it. [10:09]
[22:19] We're so critical and so judgmental on ourselves, when we're healing when we're going through adversity, and when we're not the best versions of ourselves. [22:26]
[30:53] As a human being, we're capable of so much more than we could ever imagine. [30:56]
Resources Mentioned:
www.macmentality.com
Life Ignited by Connor McKemey
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About the Guest
Connor McKemey had a pretty normal childhood growing up as a youth. However, his life took a drastic turn when an explosion burned 90% of his body. He woke up three months later in a hospital bed, looking completely different and in bandages. Despite being given a 1% chance of survival and being told he may never walk or play sports again, Connor persevered and defied all odds to become a motivational speaker and help others overcome their obstacles.
How do you choose happiness even in the most frustrating moments?
In this episode, happiness expert Joe Kavanagh describes an exercise you can use in any challenging situation to brighten your mood. Throughout the conversation Joe and Matt dive into topics such as the ego's need to be right, the concept of shifting perspectives, embracing a positive mindset, and choosing happiness.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The ego’s need to be right
- Embracing a positive mindset
- The concept of shifting perspectives
- Choosing peace over ego
- Why listening is the key to happiness
[04:54] The Ego's Need to Be Right
The ego tends to assert the notion of being right and others being wrong. This urge to validate one's beliefs stems from a desire to prove oneself superior. The fear of losing value or worthiness compels individuals to cling to this idea. In childhood, mistakes were acceptable, and there was no concept of right or wrong. However, as we grow older, societal expectations begin to influence us, making us feel inadequate and unworthy. We start to believe that our worth is tied to being right, and we must continually prove ourselves to be valuable.
[16:23] The Concept of Shifting Perspectives
Material possessions, societal pressure to conform, and attachment to money can create an illusion of happiness, which is a con game. The discussion emphasizes that true happiness comes from being in the present moment and choosing to be happy. The conversation also touches upon how a calamitous event that may seem like a significant loss to the ego could be a massive gain for the soul with a shift in perspective. The speaker shares their personal experience of a big calamity in Q4 of last year and how it led to massive awakenings when they shifted their perspective.
[23:05] Choosing Peace Over Ego
In moments when someone cuts you off in traffic, you face a decision. You have a moment between the urge to respond impulsively and the opportunity to choose a peaceful response. The ego may want to assert itself and prove something, but it's up to you to make a conscious choice.
[25:43] Why Listening is the Key to Happiness
The secret to happiness lies in listening. We all have an innate desire to be heard, seen and understood. When we truly listen to others, they feel validated and uplifted. The key is not just to focus on our own happiness, but also to make those around us feel better. As the saying goes, "a rising sea raises all ships". By elevating others, we elevate ourselves. So let's strive to bring everyone up a little bit and create a rising tide of positivity and happiness.
Notable quotes:
[11:37] We started out with nothing. This could be a failure, we end up with nothing. But if you don't try, it's not going to happen. [11:44]
[14:44] Be in the present. And that's where I was going wrong. I was always living for the future, thinking things would get better. [14:53]
[26:05] It starts by making others feel better, because when they feel better, you feel better. [26:10]
Resources Mentioned:
Kavanagh Appraisal Company
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About the Guest
Joe Kavanagh is the owner of Kavanagh Appraisal Company. Having been in the real estate space for 35 years, Joe takes all of his life and business experiences as he fulfills his purpose as a business coach, a mentor, and a trainer. He spent all this time learning how to be successful, and now, he is pouring it into the next group of people that are coming up.
This very important episode teaches you how to get out of despair and find joy again. This is a blueprint for getting out of the darkness and back into the light.
Hopelessness is a heavy emotion that can lead to self-destructive behaviors. It is crucial to learn how to overcome this mood, not only for yourself, but also to be able to help loved ones who may be struggling.
In this episode, Matt teaches the lessons from his own battle with hopelessness and the exact method to get out of it. Learn how to conquer hopelessness and embrace the positivity within.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How to get out of hopelessness
- The power of asking for help
- You have more control than you’re admitting
- Living in a higher state is a choice
- Start focusing on love
[01:51] How to Get Out of Helplessness:
Allowing oneself to succumb to hopelessness can lead to destructive behavior such as excessive drinking and drug use, which can be seen as a subconscious desire to end one's life. As someone who has battled both, I have experienced firsthand the danger of turning to drugs and alcohol during moments of hopelessness. Rather than exacerbating an already difficult situation, it is essential to learn healthy ways to cope with and overcome these emotions.
[09:31] The Power of Asking for Help
It's crucial to seize the helping hand that reaches out to us, even if it means answering a phone call. That hand could be our lifeline. When feeling lost and hopeless, we may find ourselves pushing away those who are trying to help because it's not in the way we expected. We may wait for a specific person to provide the help we seek, but sometimes someone entirely different extends us precisely what we've been praying for, albeit in an unexpected manner.
[22:10] You Have More Control Than You Realize
You have far more control than you may be admitting to yourself. Maybe you feel like you've tried everything in your power and given it your all, yet you still come up short. It's important to remember that this feeling is not necessarily true. It's impossible to test every option and do everything, given the vast array of choices available in the world. You always have options and choices at your disposal, even if you haven't taken advantage of them yet.
Notable quotes:
[01:51] If you don't learn how to get out of hopelessness, it can destroy you. [01:56]
[09:31] “We have to grab the hand that's reaching out to help us. Maybe we need to pick up the phone. And that's our rope." [09:37]
[22:31] There's so much choice in this world, that you've never done at all. You've never tried it all. You're never without options or choices. [22:38]
Resources Mentioned:
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We all have recurring thoughts. Which thoughts are currently tattooed on your mind?
Doug Dickerson shares how to tattoo your mind with positivity. Learn valuable takeaways such as guarding self-talk, making 1% daily improvements, believing in yourself, cultivating a growth mindset, and minding the influences you allow in your life.
Get ready to tattoo your mind in a good way.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Guard your self-talk
- Make 1% improvement every day
- The importance of believing in yourself
- The power of ‘not yet’
- Cultivating a growth mindset
- Minding the influences you allow in your life
[04:12] The Power of Positive Self-Talk
Often, we unconsciously adopt beliefs and belief systems imposed on us by others. These beliefs stem from our personal stories, upbringing, and societal conditioning, and they can shape our thoughts and define our lives. Our thought patterns have a profound impact on our well-being and success. We must remain vigilant of our self-talk and the conversations we have with ourselves, as they shape our outlook on life.
Negative thoughts can easily creep into our minds, but we have the power to control them. We need to cultivate positive self-talk, even when there isn't someone else to lift us up. We can choose to encourage ourselves with uplifting thoughts, empowering beliefs, and positive affirmations that propel us toward our goals. Regardless of the labels that society or others may place upon us, we have the power to define and shape our own lives through our self-talk.
[10:39] 1% Daily Improvement
Consistently making a 1% improvement every day has the potential to bring about life-changing results. This concept is highlighted in James Clear's book Atomic Habits, which emphasizes the significance of small, incremental progress. By changing one's mindset and committing to adding value to oneself and others through 1% improvement daily, we can greatly impact our lives and those around us over time. Additionally, an article was recently discovered, further exploring this topic.
[22:05] The Power of Not Yet
The idea of "not yet" is to shift the way we think about things we don't understand or haven't mastered yet. Rather than saying, "I just don't get it," we say, "I don't understand it yet." It's a small change, but it can make a huge difference. By acknowledging that we haven't grasped something yet, but we will eventually, we approach learning with a growth mindset. It's all about being positive and believing in our ability to learn. Even if we don't understand something today, we remind ourselves that we haven't learned it yet, but we will. It's a powerful way to keep ourselves motivated and driven to succeed.
Notable quotes:
[36:25] "You have to do what you have to do to preserve and protect that wellspring of life that's within you and preserve it for your family as well." [36:35]
[04:48] "The thoughts that we entertain have a way of defining us." [04:55]
[06:13] "We can tattoo our mind with positive thoughts” [06:25]
Resources Mentioned:
https://www.dougdickerson.net
Leadership Lessons for Mr. Bates
Atomic Habits by James Clear
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About the Guest
Doug Dickerson is the author of leadership books including Leaders Without Borders and It Only Takes a Minute. Doug Dickerson has been speaking to audiences in the U.S. and overseas for more than 30 years. Doug is a certified John Maxwell leadership, speaker, trainer, and coach. He loves leadership and leaning into organizations to help them grow in their leadership.
If you’ve ever struggled to maintain boundaries in your personal and professional life, you’re not alone. Dr. Miriam Zylberglait, renowned expert on the topic of boundaries and self care urges you to understand that boundaries are not for others, but rather for your own protection.
In this episode, she shares insights from her book, The 3G Cycle of Life, and offers practical tips for setting boundaries. Miriam also provides an exercise to help identify if your personal and professional lives are in alignment.
By prioritizing your self-care and learning to say no, you can transform your life and achieve greater satisfaction and fulfillment.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The importance of boundaries
- Putting yourself first so you can help other people
- Why you need to set boundaries
- Learning to say no
- Focusing on values and purpose
- The power of saying yes
[08:19] Putting Yourself First to Help Others
It's true, self-care and setting boundaries are essential for serving others. Have you ever taken a moment to really look at yourself in the mirror and feel completely content with what you're doing? It's a beautiful feeling, but it can be challenging to maintain. Sometimes, it's easy to lose sight of yourself and start blending into life, taking on the colors of those around you like a chameleon. But, amidst all of this, it's crucial to still have boundaries. You need to define what is and isn't acceptable for your own well-being, to ensure that you aren't compromising yourself for the sake of others. Remember, prioritizing your own care is not selfish, but rather, it's a way to serve others from a place of strength and stability.
[14:37] Setting Boundaries
It's important to understand that boundaries are not for others but for your own protection. Don't think that they are related to satisfying or helping others, but instead, consider them as a way to take care of yourself. You need to make it clear to yourself that this is your way of protecting yourself and keep this mindset embedded in your brain and heart. This is indeed the first step towards self-care and transformation. Learn to be okay with saying no. Some people's feelings could get hurt, especially when you've always said yes. When you say yes to something, then you say no to everything else.
[22:55] Focusing on Your Values and Purpose
If you want to align your actions with your purpose and values, it may require some sacrifices in your schedule. You might have to think about what you need to cut out in the coming week and make some adjustments accordingly. Perhaps you can reduce the time spent on watching TV or doing something less important. But there may be something special or significant that you cannot miss, and should prioritize. Use that as your barometer to gauge the importance of various commitments and make decisions accordingly.
Notable quotes:
[11:37] Think about the last time that you recognized yourself in front of the mirror, and you are doing what you want. [11:43]
[14:09] When we fail to set boundaries, we just live for others, and not for ourselves. [14:21]
[14:37] You need to understand that boundaries are not for others….The only reason why you set the boundaries is to protect yourself. [14:52]
Resources Mentioned:
The 3G Cycle of Life
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About the Guest
Dr. Miriam Zylberglait is a triple Board Certified Physician in Internal Medicine, Geriatrics, and Obesity Medicine with extensive clinical and academic experience. Dr. Z is interested in the areas of well-being, burnout, mental health, and leadership development.
Leadership potential exists within all of us, waiting to be unlocked. It starts with leading today well. Identify the role you must master today and the mindset and actions towards fulfilling that role. This can help you show up powerfully and fulfill your sense of duty for the day.
Listen in as Matt engages in a conversation with Vin Infante, a specialist in achieving positive moods with a mission to impact one billion lives. Vin also unveils the "five aspects to self-mastery" exercise.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How to get out of the victim mindset
- Identifying your relevant role for the day
- How pain becomes your potential
- Happiness as a choice
- The five aspects of self-mastery
[03:40] How to Get Out of The Victim Mindset
Getting out of the victim mindset requires a level of self-awareness and accountability. Admitting that we have control over our lives and the ability to make positive changes is essential in overcoming victimhood. The “victim” state says that life is happening to me, not for me. But if you want life to happen for you, then you need to take ownership and responsibility over all things in life. We must acknowledge our role in the situations we find ourselves in and take responsibility for our actions and reactions. This includes being honest about our challenges and seeking help when necessary. With a positive mindset, a willingness to take action, and a commitment to personal growth, we can overcome the victim mindset and start living a more fulfilling life.
[14:21] Identifying Your Relevant Role for the Day
To maximize your potential for success, it's important to identify what role is most relevant to your day. By recognizing your obligations, such as a business meeting or being present as a parent, you can better tailor your mindset and actions towards fulfilling that role. This can help you show up powerfully in the chosen role and commit to fulfilling your sense of duty for the day. Whether you want to spend time with your family, partner, or parents, identifying your intended role for the day sets you up for how you should show up and fulfill that role. By spending time developing it, you'll better understand what makes a role powerful and strong, increasing your chances of success on any given day.
[31:25] The Five Aspects of Self-Mastery
To have control over your life, focus on the five aspects of self-mastery that you can control, including thoughts, feelings/emotions, behaviors, actions, and language. As you start with one of these aspects and gain control over it, it will lead to more control over the others. This increases your influence over your life and potentially others. Although there are many things outside of these five aspects that you cannot control, the good news is that nobody else has autonomy over them either. By having control over the five aspects of self-mastery, you have full autonomy over them, giving you 100% control in this area.
Notable quotes:
[15:08] Identifying what you're supposed to do with your day will set you up for how you should show up. [15:13]
[32:53] The only five things you can control are your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors, your actions, and your language. [33:09]
[33:29] There's a lot more things you can't control than what you can. However, the benefit, even though it's only five things... nobody has the autonomy over this. [33:41]
Resources Mentioned:
www.vincentinfante.life
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About the Guest
Vin Infante is a Master Mindset Coach & Psychotherapist with a passion for cultivating lasting change and maximizing results. A former New York firefighter, Vin now has over 13 years of experience in coaching people as a psychotherapist on their mindset and positive psychology.
Lisa Burbage had a highly successful career until the stress and anxiety caught up with her and she got really, really sick. She believes God blessed her with cancer because it was what she needed to slow down and re-evaluate her lifestyle. She then founded Wellness Five, a boutique training and consulting firm that teaches all of us all how to live healthier, happier lives.
Listen in as Lisa and Matt talk about needing to be perfect, and how that unrealistic expectation can be implanted in us by a parental figure at a young age. Lisa describes how the need to be perfect also created eating disorders in her teen and college years and then, how she was finally able to break free.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Lisa’s experience dealing with eating disorders
- The creation of Wellness Five
- The need for social connection
- The “upward spiral”
- Breaking down your goals into bite-sized pieces
[04:32] A Holistic Approach to Health
All of these chronic diseases, cancer, Type II diabetes, heart disease, autoimmune, and the list goes on – all of them are preventable. A new research shows that only five to 10% is genetic. The rest is our lifestyle.
In creating Wellness Five, Lisa didn't want to focus just on the physical side of health because there are a lot of other factors that contribute to a person’s health, not just exercise and nutrition. There is a need to be healthy emotionally and mentally healthy as well.
Prior to the pandemic, most wellness programs were focused on Fitbit challenges and healthy snacks in the break room. But then the pandemic hit and everyone was isolated. We became lonely, and we realized the need for social connection.
[33:38] Try This Goal-Setting Exercise!
Set your goal, then forget about it. Then think about what you need to do every day to move forward – not to reach the goal, just to move forward. Have something that you're reaching for but then forget about it, and just focus on what you're doing today. And if you fall off the next day, fine. Just get back on as soon as you can.
A lot of people set goals and end up giving up because they set insurmountable goals. The trick is to break your goal down into bite-sized pieces. For instance, if you’re looking to lose weight and the goal is to lose 30 pounds, just think about what you can do today, and only focus on that day. Writing down what you need to do for one day is also very helpful because it prevents decision fatigue.
Notable quotes:
[18:32] We all have an inner voice, a guardian angel… that’s telling us to pay attention. [18:41]
[21:50] How you feel, emotionally, mentally and physically... they're also intertwined. You can't really separate one from the other. That's the key. [22:00]
[22:06] If you eat better, you do feel better. But if you still have low self-esteem, is eating better going to change that? [22:15]
[33:43] Set your goal, then forget about it and think about what you need to do every day to move forward – not to reach the goal, just to move forward. [33:56]
Resources Mentioned:
Email: lisa@wellnessfive.com
Wellness Five
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About the Guest
Lisa Burbage is a board-certified health and wellness coach who focuses on helping people feel more connected and happier. She coaches many CEOs and C-suite executives and companies in the corporate world for more health and wellness.
Wally Bressler hit rock bottom and ended up in federal prison. He was honest enough to own up to the pain and lack of self-acceptance that got him there, and this was ultimately his path to freedom and happiness.
In this episode, Wally teaches how to eliminate the victim mentality, which he describes as the root of our suffering. Stick around as Wally shares an exercise to help you pull up the roots of any unhappiness – with just a single note card.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- What is radical acceptance?
- The importance of being transparent with yourself
- The four quadrants of the Johari window
- Isolation versus common humanity
- How to get feedback from others
- Finding gratitude in recovery
- The power of unconditional love
[03:27] What is Radical Acceptance?
You may have made a lot of decisions you’re not proud of, and as you go through those moments where you’re experiencing pain, at some point, you'll have to accept it and take responsibility for it. You have to be willing enough to be transparent with yourself and other people. You’ve got to be willing enough to be transparent with yourself, and as you accept your feelings, and they become apparent, you can then start working on them.
[21:28] The Power of Self-Compassion
Self-compassion means giving yourself the same compassion you would offer to somebody else. In Kristin Neff’s book, Self-Compassion, she cites the three elements of self-compassion, one of them is common humanity. The reason we isolate ourselves is because of shame. But once you learn to engage in common humanity and you start talking to people who have gone through what you’ve gone through, with similar emotions of shame and guilt, that can be so freeing. Then you realize you’re not the only one going through that.
[29:44] The Power of Unconditional Love
The reason that unconditional love is the highest form of happiness and peace is that it's rooted in acceptance. Unconditional love means you accept somebody exactly as they are where they're staying with nothing to change. If you don't accept somebody for who they are, then there's no reason to keep them in your life. But if you're going to have a happy, peaceful, loving relationship with yourself and somebody else, and you want to get unconditional love, that means you accept all their goodness and faults.
Notable quotes:
[03:39] Where a lot of that pain comes from... is not accepting it and not owning it. [03:45]
[21:28] Self-compassion is basically you giving yourself the same compassion you would offer to somebody else. [21:33]
[29:44] The reason that unconditional love is the highest form of happiness and peace is… it's rooted in acceptance. [29:49]
Resources Mentioned:
Trigger Sales System
Tragic Hero by Wally Bressler
Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
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About the Guest
Wally Bressler is a coach, speaker, and founder of the Trigger Sales System. Wally is also the author of the book, Tragic Hero, which emphasizes the importance of dismantling the victim mentality.
Learn how to create your best version ever – and what gets in the way of living as your best self.
In this episode, Josh Painter takes a deep dive into his WSJ #1 best-selling book, Best Version Ever. Josh and Matt discuss how to stop living on autopilot, and how to break down your goals so that you actually achieve them. Become your best version ever!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why we’re living on autopilot
- Finish line goals vs. marathon goals
- How to do a breakdown of your goals
- How to move from goal setting to finally achieving your goals
- C is for consistency
- Mastering your craft
[02:37] Why We Live Our Life on Autopilot
We're raised by our parents who have expectations of us. And even as we grow up, our society has so many expectations of us. But are you living your life the way you truly want it, or just based on the expectations of others? It's like spending your whole time listening to the song and waiting for the last note to hit. Meanwhile, you didn't dance the whole time the song is playing because you’ve been waiting for that last note to hit.
[17:47] Goal Setting: Breaking Them Down and Achieving Them
If you have 10 business and work goals and zero personal family goals, it's probably going to show up somewhere in your life. Just throw out a bunch of goals in each category of your life. And then from there, narrow it down to one or two goals (in each category) that are really driving you.
What’s the one goal that really excites you the most? Then figure out how to go all in. Most people are looking and focused on the highlight reels of life. It’s not exciting when you first start something right. And oftentimes, the first three months might not be exciting at all, and you can get frustrated. What could you start today, where you're not going to maybe notice a lot three months from now, but you'll be an expert 10 years from now?
[28:33] Consistency is Key
Consistency is about tiny, incremental growth over time, it's almost imperceptible at the time. You're probably not going to notice a difference for three days. But 30 days later, you're probably going to notice a difference. It’s all about just building those habits, and turning routines into habits.
Notable quotes:
[28:33] Consistency is about tiny, incremental growth over time. [28:41]
Resources Mentioned:
Best Version Ever: Discover the MAGIC of Becoming Extraordinary by Josh Painter
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware
Bounce by Matthew Syed
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About the Guest
Josh Painter is a dedicated father, leader, coach, and speaker. Josh has also created his own charity and founded the Best Version Ever community after realizing that most people live a life that others expect of them and not a life that is true to themselves. Since then, he sold a successful real estate company, started his charity, and is now living the best version of himself.
NYT #1 best-selling author Mark Nepo takes us on the highs and lows of life as a human being. He shares that it is both the moments of great love, and of great suffering to define a meaningful life.
Join this magical journey to the soul as Mark and Matt talk about overcoming your cloud of fear, opening your heart, and how to clear confusion out of your mind.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The gift of relationships
- If you ever feel lonely, say hello
- How to overcome the cloud of fear
- The story of the the barn and the fire
- What opens up is never as important as what is open
- Give, anywhere, to anyone
[15:54] Say Hello to Loneliness
We go places, we do things in life. But they're all to bring us alive. They're not to get you anywhere. There's nowhere to go. We travel. But when we come together in these authentic spaces, we open the same eternal moment – all the time. That's the beauty, the depth, the miracle that authentic relationships give.
[21:32] How to Overcome the Cloud of Fear
Fear is meant to move through, not to be obeyed. If you’re afraid and you ask fear what to do, then it will tell you to be more afraid. So don’t ask your fear. Instead, ask your spirit. Ask your heart. Ask your mind. Ask your dear friends. Fear is to be moved through like a fever or a chill, or a sudden stubbing of the toe. We have to not give it too much authority. You can't deny it, because it'll only get bigger. But we can't give it too much authority, because it will want to take over.
[42:04] Give, Anywhere, To Anyone
When your mind feels like it's all tangled, when you're confused, and you can't figure something out, try to give – anywhere, to anyone. Then see if that clears your mind. See what happens. Oftentimes, when you give, not only are you doing good in the world, but it’s coming back to you. Giving cleanses and clears out the confusion in your mind. A confused mind can't really clear itself and we need to use other resources. So when in doubt, give.
Notable quotes:
[14:29] To harden will help you get through life, but to soften will let you experience life. [14:35]
[21:32] Fear is meant to move through, not to be obeyed… we can't give it too much authority, because it will want to take over. [22:16]
[42:49] A confused mind can't really clear itself, we need to use other resources. So when in doubt, give. [42:57]
Resources Mentioned:
https://thesophiainstitute.org/events/mark-nepo-true-inheritance
The Half-Life of Angels
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About the Guest
Mark Nepo is one of the greatest poets and authors of our time. Author of 22 books, Mark has sold over a million copies worldwide and has been named one of the 100 most spiritually influential living people, having also appeared several times with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday program.
You can bring joy into your physical spaces at home and at work, and in doing so, bring joy into your life! Research shows that your physical surroundings actually influence your emotional and mental states of being.
Ingrid Fetell Lee, author of the #1 best-selling book, Joyful, discusses the power of bringing joy into the aesthetics of your environment. Ingrid and Matt talk about the power of joy and how you can manifest it into your life through your surroundings.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The link between our surroundings and our mental health
- How to be courageous with color
- The joyful aesthetics of the home
- How to bring joy into your aesthetics at work
- Bringing play into your spaces
- How to create a sense of abundance with your environment
- How judgment holds back joy
[03:23] The Link Between Our Surroundings and Our Mental Health
Our unconscious minds are absorbing information about our surroundings, through what we see, feel, smell, or hear. All of those sensations give us information about how safe, settled, calm, exciting, or joyful the environment feels. The more that we understand those sensations and the more that we understand the connection, the better we can set ourselves up for well-being.
[15:39] Incorporating Play Into Your Space
If you think about play, and you look at a child's world, there's one shape that starts to come out more than anything else – the circle or the sphere. For instance, there are a million different things you can do with a ball, hence, it’s the most playful shape. Research shows that angular, sharp shapes create a heightened sense of unconscious caution and we're not as relaxed. We don't want that in our homes, so bringing in more of those round shapes can help with that sense of ease.
[20:42] How to Create a Sense of Abundance With Our Aesthetics
A huge contributor to feeling joy on a daily basis is an abundance mindset. And we live in this society that is constantly conditioning us to scarcity and competition, and feeling like we don't have enough. But joy is not a zero-sum game. You can have more joy and it doesn't take joy from anyone else. It is a self-reinforcing thing and it has a positive feedback loop.
Notable quotes:
29:40] One of the biggest things that hold us back from joy is judgment. [20:43]
[20:42] A huge contributor to feeling joy on a daily basis is… being able to find an abundance mindset. [20:48]
[21:10] Joy is not a zero-sum game... you can have more joy and it doesn't take joy from anyone else. [21:16]
Resources Mentioned:
The Aesthetics of Joy
Joyful: The Surprising Power of Ordinary Things to Create Extraordinary Happiness
TED Talk: Whey joy hides and how to find it
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Ingrid Fetell Lee is the founder of The Aesthetics of Joy, where she empowers people to find more joy in their daily life through design. Ingrid has 17 years of experience in the design and branding world, working with huge brands like Target and Conde Nast, and IDEO. Her TED Talk, Where joy hides and how to find it, has been viewed more than 17 million times.
Lion Goodman was shot in the head four times, and survived to tell. He shares how acceptance, forgiveness, and love literally saved his life.
We all experience some form of trauma in our lives, and these create our limiting beliefs. Regardless of where those traumas come from, all can be cleared.
In this episode, Lion Goodman, founder of Clear Beliefs Institute, teaches how to delete the limiting beliefs that hold you back and create your life on purpose. He walks us through this beautiful process of clearing out the deep subconscious using the subconscious mind, the conscious mind, and the superconscious mind all at once.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The tragic event that got him shot in the head four times
- How acceptance, forgiveness, and love can save your life
- All the ways we don’t experience what we experience
- On judging ourselves and forgiving ourselves
- How to identify and delete limiting beliefs
- Creating the space for the belief you want to create
[19:01] All the Ways We Cannot Experience Our Experience
When something bad or painful happens to us, we usually think about or do something else. We either resort to comfort food, drugs, or alcohol. We can talk endlessly about it to someone else. We can ignore it, suppress it, push it away, or pretend it doesn't exist. These are all ways of “not experiencing” our experience. If you shove enough anger down, you could get cancer or heart disease, or you can gain weight and not be able to lose it.
[27:19] Deleting Your Limiting Beliefs
Our beliefs are created from our experiences, and those beliefs then start creating our reality. They act like a filter in front of our eyes. So if you think you'll always be poor and you're looking through that belief, then what you see is evidence for why you're always going to be poor. In order to clear that belief, you have to go down into the originating experience and clear it from the psyche.
Notable quotes:
[23:18] The hardest thing we have to forgive is ourselves.
Resources Mentioned:
Clear Beliefs Institute
Clear Your Clients’ Limiting Beliefs
Creating on Purpose
The Untethered Soul
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Lion Goodman is the Founder of Clear Beliefs Institute. He's a professional Certified Therapeutic coach, with 40 years of experience as an executive coach, teacher, healer, and subconscious pattern detective. He's the creator of the Clear Beliefs method for deleting limiting beliefs.
Is your mind your best friend or your worst enemy? All of us can get triggered. It’s important to build your mental fitness so you can stay powerful even when you are feeling triggered.
In this episode, mental fitness Jedi master Colin Thompson joins Matt as they discuss the three-step process to building your mental fitness. Pick up tools to improve your relationships while increasing your peace of mind. Once you’re able to maintain a positive mindset regardless of what is happening in the world around you, the things that trigger you now will no longer trigger you.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- An introduction to positive intelligence
- What is mental fitness?
- The three-step exercise to build mental fitness
- The two choices that are not helpful: Fight or flight
- The power of the pause
[09:53] What is Mental Fitness
Physical fitness refers to your body’s vitality and energy, and its ability to do things that you want to do. Then you build that up through nutrition, exercise, sleep, hydration, etc. Mental fitness is the exact same thing. But instead of the muscles in your body, you’re working with the muscle in your head – your brain. You build your mental fitness by dealing with issues in your life – small issues, and then larger, larger, larger, larger ones over time.
[18:24] The Three-Step Exercise to Build Mental Fitness
1. Be mindful of when you get triggered. As heat is building up, you have to be able to intercept your saboteur.
2. Pause and ask yourself what is the opportunity? How am I going to respond? Figure out how you can better manage the situation, such that nobody gets triggered.
3. Develop the ability to take the next positive step. As you change your behavior, the person who triggered you will change their behavior as well. This is not easy to do. But once you start building momentum, it's very powerful.
[22:00] Finding the Gift/Opportunity in the Trigger
The moment you find yourself being triggered, that’s the moment when you can either respond to it or take a different action. When you’re able to take that pause, you allow yourself to settle so you can figure out what you can do to make sure everybody is in a good mood.
Notable quotes:
[11:18] You build your mental fitness by dealing with issues in your life – small issues, and a larger, larger, larger, larger one over time. [11:27]
[23:33] You can't handle more until you handle what's in front of you. [23:35]
[31:34] When you have that pause, you're going straight into, "What can I do to make sure everybody's in a good mood?" [31:39]
Resources Mentioned:
www.oligye.com
Email: coachcolint@oligye.com
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Colin Thompson is the founder of Oligye Life Coaching. A Jedi master of mental fitness, Colin is a certified Positive Intelligence coach.
You are the light, and you are here on Earth to light up the world. When you feel your very best, you're out in the world doing your best. It’s only when you feel hurt that you could hurt others.
Join this episode to learn about the journey your soul is taking through the darkness to remember who you really are. You’ll learn rituals to increase your positivity and help you shine your light the brightest.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The story of the little soul and the sun
- Remembering who we really are
- The role of negative thoughts and the ego
- The eight bad moods of the ego
- Rituals you can practice to make you feel good every day
- The power of meditation, prayer, & journaling
[05:17] Remembering Who We Are
We're walking through this world of darkness to remember who we really are. And who we are is not the pain and the hurt and the suffering and the darkness – who we are is the light. We can only know that light – love, joy, peace, forgiveness, and compassion – when we experience the opposite of it. When we get stuck in those bad mood emotions, we're like a magnet for more bad things and more things that attract circumstances that prove that those emotions are valid and worthwhile. So if we do things that are negative, we'll feel more negative.
[17:23] Rituals to Make You Feel Good
Be mindful that your brain is not you. Choose which thoughts you want to believe and which ones to pass on by. Limit the inputs that are negative. Eliminate the news. Watch positive shows. Unfollow people in your social media feed that make you feel bad. Stay away from things that trigger negative thoughts such as fast food, alcohol, pornography, and lack of sleep. Finally, feed your brain with positive inputs and make a list of the things that make you feel good.
[25:29] The Power of Meditation, Exercise, Journaling, and Reading
(1) Meditation allows you to separate yourself from the thoughts that your brain is giving you.(2) Journal - Write three things you did well the day before. Then write three things you’re grateful for. Get super small on gratitude, whether that’s your cup of coffee this morning or the electricity in your house. Then write down the top three goals in your life. (3) Read. Feed your brain with something positive. (4) Exercise - It's scientifically proven that if you exercise, you feel good. When you work out, you feel good about yourself and it increases your confidence.
Notable quotes:
[05:17] You are walking through this world of darkness to remember who you really are… You are the light. [05:30]
[06:23] Humans have about 70,000 thoughts a day… how many do you think are positive and how many do you think are negative? [06:33]
[23:41] Here's the truth. When you feel on top of the world, what can you accomplish? Anything! [23:48]
Resources Mentioned:
The Little Soul and The Sun by Neale Donald Walsch
Calm app
A Course in Miracles
The Upward Spiral by Alex Korb
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Your heart is calling to you now, and has been your whole life. When you tune in and listen to the callings of your heart, blessings follow.
In this episode, Carolyn Rivers, founder and director of The Sophia Institute teaches how you can identify your own heart callings. Carolyn and Matt dive deep into the wisdom of the heart and how you can cultivate your heart’s yearnings.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How everything is sourced by love
- How a book sparked Carolyn’s aha moment
- The more we follow our heart callings, the louder they get
- Ways to feed your soul
- Listening to what your heart is telling you
[05:57] Following Your Heart Callings
His Holiness, the Dalai Lama teaches that the mind is in the heart, not in the brain. The brain works with the heart but the wisdom of the heart is what's most important. The heart holds joy, and it holds love and wisdom. Scientists are now teaching us that even the cosmos itself is sourced by love. There's a feeling in our body when something is meant for us. The more we follow our heart callings, the louder they get and they lead us. Follow the threads of guidance that come through to you and you will always get enough. But you have to take things step by step.
[19:10] A Balance Between Your Heart and Your Logic
The heart is your starting place. Then you turn to logic and reason because that's how flow actually works. Both are needed, not just one. So you need to develop both within yourself. And as you do that, you become stronger, wiser, clearer, and more focused. You don’t want either side to be dominant, so you have to choose both in partnership.
[21:18] Listening to Your Heart
You can feel love in your body. You can feel how every cell in your body tingles with energy when you've got that love sourcing through you. It’s not just about romantic love, but about loving what you're doing. When you're in that flow of writing, or whatever it is you’re doing, there's a lot of love that pours into yourself. When you listen to your heart, you can hear answers. It's not a thundering voice but it's the knowledge that rises up within you.
Notable quotes:
[04:49] There can be additional callings, usually related to the primary first calling that got you into callings. But yes, it's not just one calling in one lifetime. [05:00]
[06:43] Scientists are now teaching us that even the cosmos and cosmology, the cosmos itself has love, is sourced by love. [06:52]
[19:10] Your heart is your starting place. [19:17]
Resources Mentioned:
The Sophia Institute
Phone: 843-720-8528
Email: info@thesophiainstitute.org
Download Carolyn’s white paper “Heart Callings” instantly when you subscribe to the Good Mood Show Newsletter here
Or, request a copy of the PDF “Heart Callings” on the contact page https://www.goodmoodshow.com/contact/
A Mythic Life by Jean Houston
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Carolyn Rivers is the founder and director of The Sophia Institute. Founded in 2001, her work centers on cultivating wisdom, mindfulness, well-being, and spirituality for a more flourishing world for all people.
We all deal with some form of anxiety, and when you are feeling anxious please don’t be hard on yourself. The key is to reimagine anxiety so you can start making positive changes rather than resisting it or battling it.
In this episode, Neelma Pyfrom, owner of Living Lotus Life Coaching, shares her wisdom about how to reimagine anxiety so you can live your best life. Neelma and Matt dissect what lies beneath the anxiety so you can heal the root causes and liberate yourself.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why anxiety is very personalized
- The kind of self-care you want to do
- Anxiety is a form of fear
- Why feelings are neutral, not good or bad
- How to get out of fear
- How to use your phone in a calming way
- Embracing your “thought adventures”
[04:22] Understanding Anxiety
First, look at what triggers your anxiety – whether it's getting on a plane, being with a large group of people, or walking into a room full of strangers. How anxiety presents itself is different for everyone. Once you start to understand where your anxiety comes from and you’re able to reorient the voice that tells you all those things that make you anxious, your confidence starts to build up. Take baby steps, reevaluate, pivot as needed, and figure out your next step to get to where you need to go.
[12:13] Feelings are Neutral
Feelings in and of themselves are neutral. Anger has the same "pH" as fear, sadness, happiness, etc. However, we tend to lean into the ones we like, avoid the ones we don't, and awareness is important. A lot of times, we don't know what we feel, or we don't know how to express it. But knowing what you're feeling helps you to know what you need.
[20:03] How to Get Out of Fear
Fear is energy that’s getting you ready for a fight or flight. And it’s all there is. But you have to learn how to use this energy in a positive way. Also, when you’re in that state, that’s where growth occurs. You have to go through it and not avoid it if you truly want to grow. The more you embrace fear, the more it gives you confidence.
Notable quotes:
[08:24] We have an internal voice that tells us we’re not good enough. We need to reorient that voice… Tell it “You're not serving me.” That starts to build our confidence. [08:55]
[04:40] Anxiety is very personalized... it's understanding the specifics of what our anxiety is and getting in touch with it. [05:03]
[12:53] It's okay to have the feeling of anger... it has to spur us to action… that comes from responding mindfully and thoughtfully. [13:09]
[13:47] Knowing what you're feeling helps you to know what you need. [13:50]
Resources Mentioned:
Connect with Neelma by calling 843-471-0395.
Living Lotus Life Coaching
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Neelma Pyfrom isthe owner of Living Lotus Life Coaching, where she helps people live their best life. She helps them reimagine their anxiety by figuring out a healthy work/life balance and making positive changes to find peace, purpose, and authenticity.
Roughly 50% of our happiness is genetic, 10% is due to external circumstances, and 40% of our happiness is within our control. We tend to focus on the 10%, our external circumstances. But a better way is to focus on the 40% within our control, which is activated by choice between stimulus and response.
Join happiness expert Anthony Poponi as he and Matt O’Neill discuss the hard parts to happiness and a happiness technique that is as easy as counting to five.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Where our happiness comes from
- Hedonic adaptation and the constant chase for more
- The easy and hard parts of happiness
- Shifting the focus from self to other people
- Hope has two parts – belief and action
- The intersection of talent and effort
- Stress can be a good thing
- The 1-2-3-4-5 gratitude technique
[02:20] Where to Focus Our Attention
We're looking for this magic pill of things that would make us happy all the time but we’re focusing on the wrong things. Our happiness comes from 50% genetics, 10% from life circumstances that we can’t control, and 40% through intentional action. We get lost in this "I'll be happy when..." scenario, focusing our attention on things that can be way off in the future.
[06:02] Hedonic Adaptation
Our brains are habituated to the things that are happening around us. It's called hedonic adaptation or being put on a hedonic treadmill. So those good things that often fit in that 10% piece of the pie are things that we adapt to more quickly. People are happier when they have kids or happier when they graduate from college. When we get these things, our brain habituates to those things. So it's always this chase for more happiness versus focusing on what's already around.
[38:01] The 12345 Gratitude Technique
Set your alarm at 12:34 to give you a little reminder to name five things you’re grateful for. These can be small things to very big things in front of you, whatever gives you gratitude for the present moment.
Notable quotes:
[03:00] We're looking for a magic pill that would make us happy all the time. [03:06]
[12:14] In between the highs and the lows, can you come back to feeling about your life with a sense of pride, purpose, and planning? [12:21]
[33:03] The best thing you can do for yourself is live in a community with life-enhancing relationships. [33:10]
Resources Mentioned:
Focus on the 40
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AnthonyPoponi
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anthonypoponi/
Dan Buettner, Blue Zones
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Anthony Poponi is the CEO and founder of Focus on the 40, where he teaches people how to be in a good mood. In 2022, he gave over 50 keynote presentations on how to feel your best. He coaches and gives conferences and workshops, bringing out the best of company cultures.
Neuroscientist Alex Korb teaches how to live our lives in an Upward Spiral. We've all experienced a downward spiral. An upward spiral is linking positive actions together to the point where life keeps getting better and better.
Things like petting a dog, physical activity, quality sleep, and creating a daily gratitude practice are just some of the ways you can start moving in an upward spiral. Listen in as Matt and Alex discuss the neuroscience of feeling good.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The power of doing the things you enjoy
- Examples of things that change the reward circuit of the brain
- How our dog friends can help reduce our stress hormones
- The power of quality sleep
- Activating the gratitude circuit
[08:58] The Power of Doing the Things You Enjoy
When you’re struggling, the best place to start is to do the things you enjoy. For instance, oftentimes, using the term “exercise” can suck all the fun out of it because now, it feels forced. Instead, just start moving your body and make sure you’re enjoying whatever physical activity you’re doing. When you start doing things that you enjoy, you begin to modulate circuits like dopamine and serotonin, which help overcome momentary distress or stress.
[16:50] The Power of Rest
If you can improve the quality of your sleep, you don't even need to get more of it. It's actually better to get a shorter amount of quality sleep than eight or nine hours of low-quality sleep. And so, it doesn't have to take more time. Getting enough quality sleep improves your mood, overrides bad habits, and increases your ability to focus.
[26:47] Activating the Gratitude Circuit
Research shows that practicing gratitude, such as writing a gratitude journal, improves the quality of your sleep, and also reduces anxiety. Stop looking for the one big solution that's going to fix everything. Instead of spending five minutes before bed playing games on your phone, write a gratitude journal.
Notable quotes:
[12:31] When you start doing things that you enjoy, the motivation is coming from within you. It's a choice. [12:38]
[19:58] Getting enough quality sleep improves your mood. It helps you override bad habits and it increases your ability to focus. [20:09]
[28:40] Stop looking for the one big solution that's going to fix everything. Just make one tiny change that's better than the default. [28:46]
Resources Mentioned:
www.alexkorbphd.com
The Upward Spiral by Alex Korb
The Empath’s Workbookby Krista Carpenter
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About the Guest
Alex Korb is a neuroscientist, a coach, and a best-selling author. He has a Ph.D. in neuroscience from UCLA where he’s also part of the Department of Psychiatry faculty. Alex is the founder of The Upward Spiral, a method that helps smart, passionate professionals conquer unnecessary overthinking, stress, and self-doubt. He also has a wealth of experience in yoga, mindfulness, physical fitness, and stand-up comedy.
The full spectrum of your humanity is beautiful. You get the highs, and the lows. Life is not meant to feel comfortable all of the time.
In this episode, Simran and Matt discuss how to show up fully to each present moment. Be sure to listen to the exercise at the end of this episode. Matt implemented Simran’s five-minute ritual into his day and it made an immediate impact.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Humanity is experiencing all of life’s emotions
- Looking at every experience as your personal amusement park
- Finding clarity to know when you’re meant to sit or act
- How we’re trapped by the illusion of money
- The three-breath exercise that can change your life
[02:52] The Magic of Experiencing Humanity
Humanity is the full experience, expression, and embodiment of everything that we are. Simran likens humanity to every color in the crayon box, from anger, depression, jealousy, sadness, and loss – to happiness, bliss, peace, understanding, forgiveness, and unconditional love. However, most people only want the lighter spectrum in the crayon box and not the darker part.
[15:38] The Mastery of Your Environment
The journey of the soul is not about being comfortable, but about mastering your environment. In order to do that, you have to clarify what is worth your time, what fulfills you, and what brings you joy and peace.
[27:48] Trust and Surrender
We have to get away from this condition or idea that life has to look a certain way. Because it's very hard to live in a space of complete trust and surrender, and at the same time, trying to take control. Once we learn to surrender, we start to open to a greater power within ourselves.
Notable quotes:
[03:13] - Humanity is the full experience, expression, and embodiment of everything that we are. [03:19]
[15:38] The real journey of the soul is not about life being comfortable or easy. [15:49]
[28:15] Working smart doesn't necessarily require muscle. But it does require presence and alignment. [28:22]
Resources Mentioned:
The Sophia Institute
11:11 Magazine
11:11 Talk Radio
Living: The 7 Blessings of Human Experience
Conversations with the Universe
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Simran Singh is a catalyst for love, compassion, and humanity. In addition to being an award-winning author, she published the 11:11 Magazine, and she is the host of the 11:11 Talk Radio show, a weekly show since 2009.
If you only had one day to live, how would you spend it? Every single minute matters. Live today like it could be your last.
In this episode, Scott White teaches the principles from his best-selling book, The Life Is Too Short Guy. You’ll learn how to make every day your best day ever, the power of positivity, and the importance of being intentional with how you choose to use the remaining minutes of your life.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Minutes matter
- Take a chance and get it done today
- Attitude is everything: the power of positivity
- LIVE for today, don’t wait for tomorrow
[04:58] Minutes Matter
You don't know what tomorrow is going to bring so make the most of every day. You have a finite number of minutes. So you have to choose how you're going to use those minutes. Minutes are a commodity so you don’t have an endless amount of them. They are fading away and you don’t actually know how many minutes you still have left. So think about how you are using your minutes. Be thoughtful, be deliberate and use them in ways that make you happy. And if you use them in ways that don't make you happy, today is the day to make that change.
[24:12] Attitude is Everything
There will be twists and turns and there will be setbacks. That's the reality. But think about the power of positivity as a proposition to wake up to and set the course for the day, instead of staying in bed where you’re warm and comfortable. You have the proactive ability to choose your attitude.
[35:25] LIVE for Today
If you were to write your own eulogy, what would it be? How do you want people to remember you? Take a minute to reflect on that and whether that’s the life you're living right now. And if it's just aspirational, then today's the day to make a proactive plan to live that life because you don't know what tomorrow is going to bring.
Notable quotes:
[04:58] Minutes matter. You could die tomorrow. Make the most of today. [05:02]
[09:56] Think about how are you using your minutes. Be thoughtful, be deliberate and use them in ways that make you happy. And if you use them in ways that don't make you happy, today is the day to make that change. [10:07]
[25:23] Attitude is everything, the power of positivity – it sets you on the right road. [25:28]
Resources Mentioned:
The Life Is Too Short Guy
Book: The Life Is Too Short Guy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/scottewhite2
Facebook: www.facebook.com/scottewhite
IG: www.instagram.com/scott.e.white
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Scott White is the happiest guy you will ever meet. After spending over a decade in investment banking on Wall Street, he took a chance to become an entrepreneur and business builder. Today, he is the chairman and CEO of a public real estate company with a mission to make the world happier – one smile at a time.
Your habits create your life. Fantastic habits create a fantastic life. In the book Atomic Habits, author James Clear describes how to make good habits attractive, and bad habits unattractive.
In this episode, join Matt O’Neill to learn the four easy ways to build good habits, and thus get the life of your dreams. You’ll also learn the four ways that effectively cut out the bad habits that keep you down.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How 1% shifts changed the history of British cycling
- Our habits create who we are
- Make good habits obvious and make bad habits invisible
- How to make good habits attractive, easy, and satisfying
- How to make bad habits unattractive, difficult, and unsatisfying
[07:48] Atomic Habits = Good Mood
Achieving your goals will make you feel good. But it can be hard to accomplish your goals if you lack discipline and motivation. As James Clear puts it in his book, Atomic Habits, one of the ways you can be successful is by creating small habits. By making tiny, easy changes, that marginal gain will help you achieve what you want – and it improves your mood as well!
[08:52] How Our Habits Create Who We Are
According to James Clear in his book, Atomic Habits, if all you did was get 1% better each day for one year, you would end up 37 times better at the end of the year. Getting 1% better each day is a tall task. But if we just got 1% better each month, we are 12% better by the end of the year. That's a big improvement. And if we got 1% better each week, that would be 50% better at the end of the year, and that is a huge improvement.
[10:05] Make It Obvious
For example, if you want to read more, set a book on top of the bed after you make it. Just because the book is already laying there, it's too obvious for you to not be able to see it once you go to bed. In contrast, make your bad habits invisible, which means getting those things out of the way. For instance, if you want to quit drinking, throw all of your liquor away.
[15:07] Make It Attractive
Look at things you already like and pair that with the habit you want to pick up. For example, if you love coffee and you want to start journaling, set your journal right next to your coffee pot. Another way is to join a culture where your desired behavior is just normal. A great example is joining mastermind groups like GoBundance, where there’s a supportive environment and positive peer pressure.
[21:11] Make It Easy
A way to make it easy is to reduce friction or decrease the number of steps between you and your good habit. For example, if you want to go to the gym consistently, prepare your gym attire and shoes the night before. Another thing is to optimize your start line.
[27:55] Make It Satisfying
Give yourself an immediate reward. For instance, there's something so satisfying about checking a checkbox.
Notable quotes:
[07:48] Wouldn't achieving what you want to achieve improve your mood? We all want to feel our best… we all want to do our very best. [07:57]
[08:52] Our habits create who we are. [08:55]
[09:24] If we got 1% better each week, that would be 50% better at the end of the year, and that is a huge improvement. [09:33]
Resources Mentioned:
GoBundance
Atomic Habits by James Clear
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Stoicism was created 2,000 years ago by some of the greatest philosophers of all time: Seneca, Marcus Aurelius, and Epictetus among others. Jonas Salzgeber, author of the Little Book of Stoicism, joins the Good Mood Show to discuss how living according to Stoic philosophy is a path to true happiness.Today, Jonas and Matt dive into the book as they break down the happiness triangle and tackle what it takes to express your inner truth and live the highest version of yourself.Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation: Live your inner truth from moment to moment. We flourish when we’re living the highest version of ourselves. Just be present and focus on what you can control. Take a moment to zoom out and create space for yourself.[05:31] Living Your TruthLive according to your inner truth with virtue, and if you can express your highest self in each moment, you will get there. Now, your inner truth might change on a regular basis and that’s fine. The most important thing is that you’re expressing your inner truth in every moment. Even if that changes, you’re still doing your best.If you don't know what your truth is, go and find it. Look within. Spend time with yourself to ask those challenging questions of what you want to live by and what are the things that are important to you. Then try to live accordingly.[09:10] The Happiness Triangle Center: Eudaimonia - being in harmony with your highest self Bottom left: Arete - expressing your highest self in every moment. Bottom right: Focus on what you can control[21:23] How to Get Yourself Out of NegativityOftentimes, being aware that you’ve got to remove yourself from that negative presence is enough. If not, zoom out to get some perspective on your situation. Take the bird’s eye view, zoom out, and see yourself from above. Then almost magically, this perspective takes you away from the pain or whatever emotion you have at that moment. Then you can re frame the situation and come from an angle where you try to see what you can learn.Notable quotes:[05:31] "Live according to your inner truth with virtue. And if you do this every moment… you will get there.” [05:47][13:30] “There are things that are beyond your control and things that are within your control… Focus on the things that are within your control." [13:40][22:38] “Perspective helps you get some distance… it's so helpful because you get some distance between the situation and you." [22:52]Resources Mentioned:Email Jonas at jonas@njlifehacks.comThe Little Book of Stoicism by Jonas SalzgeberThe Power of Now by Eckhart TolleDownload the Good Mood Toolkit here!THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… About the GuestJonas Salzgeber is the author of the best selling book “The Little Book of Stoicism.” Jonas shares his stoic strategies with people to gain back their confidence so they feel ready to effectively deal with whatever life throws at them.
We all know what to do to feel good, so why is it that we can’t always be feeling good? We can, as soon as we change our patterns of conditioning.
In this episode, Rachel Yellin, founder of The Feel Good Life speaks about healing the body through healing the trauma. Rachel and Matt dive deep into how we can all feel good today, and every day of our lives.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Allow the body to metabolize emotions.
- Get in touch with your feelings every day.
- Your issues are in your tissues.
- Relearn how you actually feel.
- Undo depression and anxiety through neuroplasticity.
[02:38] The Step In Between “Not Feeling Good” and “Feeling Good”
If a person is feeling sensations in their body of not getting a particular need met, you’ve got to allow them to feel. They have to metabolize their emotions for them to pass through, and not land in the body as a permanent lens through which they see all kinds of interactions. Otherwise, if you skip this step and move on to problem-solving right away, the emotional experience stays in the body and it will repeat itself over and over again because the trauma has not been processed and healed.
[11:44] Getting In Touch With Your Feelings
One of the things that we learn to do as children is to bypass our feelings [so] that we have completely lost our ability to even know how to feel. It’s not just your basic emotions, but really check in with your heart. Make it a daily exercise to ask yourself: “How do I feel right now?” Do this 10 times a day until it becomes a habit.
[14:33] Our Issues are in Our Tissues
Whether it’s heartbreak or someone screaming at you, no matter how big or small that trauma is, everything is stored in our tissues. This is why many illnesses, and even mystery illnesses, exist. Aggravation is based a little bit on the current circumstance, and a lot on all the situations that happened in the past. It's cumulative aggravation. And so, we have to go back to relearning how we actually feel.
Notable quotes: (Please Choose One)
[09:03] When a person is having emotions, they actually have to metabolize their emotions for them to pass through. [09:09]
[11:44] One of the things that we learn to do as children is to bypass our feelings… we have completely lost our ability to actually even know how we feel. [12:03]
[12:05] Your first order of business as an adult – 10 times a day – stop and ask yourself, ‘How do I feel right now?’ [12:13]
[14:42] Our issues are in our tissues… this is one of the reasons why there is so much illness. [14:56]
[15:49] Aggravation is based a little bit on the current circumstance. It's based a lot on all the situations that happened in the past. It's cumulative aggravation. [16:00]
Resources Mentioned:
The Feel Good Life
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THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… About the Guest
Rachel Yellin is a relationship, and trauma healing coach, alternative therapist, childbirth educator, and hypnotherapist. Rachel has attended births as a doula and is helping thousands of people not just have babies, but also go through trauma healing and restore their foundation of wellness.
Dr. Loretta Breuning’s groundbreaking book Habits of a Happy Brain describes how the chemicals in your brain are in charge of making you feel happy. When you learn to understand how the brain controls these chemicals, you can create new habits to manage the release of your happy chemicals and put yourself into better moods.
In this episode, Dr. Breuning and Matt O’Neill discuss the 4 happy-brain chemicals. They also discuss the 2 unhappy-brain chemicals. By understanding these chemicals and why your brain releases them, you are able to take control of your moods and live a happier life.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Chemicals in our brains make us feel good or bad
- Get a Dopamine boost by rewarding yourself for progress
- Build your bridges with others for Oxytocin
- Create your legacy to trigger Serotonin
- Make time to laugh for an Endorphin rush
[09:57] Dopamine and Oxytocin
Dopamine is a happy chemical released when you’re closer to meeting your needs and goals. Oxytocin comes from the good feeling triggered by social support. In the modern world, humans bond with each other to feel less isolated and stimulate oxytocin.
[18:43] Serotonin and EndorphinsThe confidence chemical serotonin makes you feel good when you feel like you’re in a position of strength. Endorphins, on the other hand, are released as a response to physical pain.
[24:55] Creating Your Happiness HabitsYou can regularly stimulate dopamine when you set your goals and take action to achieve them. Understand your own personal reward system and create a pathway of achievement, goals, and dopamine. Start an oxytocin habit by remembering that it’s natural to seek support from others. Focus on having realistic expectations to get your serotonin.
Notable quote:
[02:56] Happy chemicals are released when you take action to meet survival needs. [03:01]
[15:45] Serotonin is the good feeling that you're in a position of strength, so your brain is constantly comparing you to others. [15:50]
[34:06] If you're kind to others, then you anticipate other people being kind to you. And that's creating a more comfortable world for yourself. [34:11]
[29:34] It's so important and useful to understand your personal reward system. [29:38]
Resources Mentioned:
Remembrance of Things Past by Marcel Proust
Habits of a Happy Brainby Loretta Breuning
Status Games by Loretta Breuning
Science of Positivityby Loretta Breuning
The Innermammal Institute and their course
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About the Guest
Dr. Loretta Breuning is a Professor Emerita of Management at California State University. She is the founder of the Inner Mammal Institute, where she helps people understand and manage their mammalian brain chemistry.
One of the keys to happiness is reducing your stress. Professional stress coach, Andrew Oakes, teaches us the correlation between stress and happiness. Andrew explains that the higher your current stress, the harder it is to feel happy. And, when you are feeling relaxed and carefree, it’s so much easier to feel happy.
In this episode, Andrew joins Matt O’Neill to discuss how to think of stress as a game you get to play. Once you start to learn the game mechanics, you can begin to equip yourself with the necessary tools to navigate it. You can conquer stress in a fun, rewarding way.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Learn what creates stress.
- Acknowledge little discomforts in your life and deal with them.
- Have the discipline to take on big mountains.
- Stress is a game you have to play.
- Record and reframe.
[02:16] The Happiness and Stress Scale:
On a scale of 1 to 10, how happy are you? From that same scale, how stressed are you? Happiness and stress are inversely correlated. Once stress compounds, it starts to move solely in that one direction. Often, what we do is assign all our problems to big mountains in our life. But in reality, what maxes out our capacity are the discomforts that then create stress.
[15:00] The Natural Flow of Dopamine:
Our body only has a certain capacity for taking on discomforts. We’re hardwired for survival. The brain rewards us with feel-good feelings—dopamine—upon removing that discomfort. It’s the same process when you urinate after holding your bladder for some time. However, the brain can’t really tell the difference between a small and big discomfort.
[19:32] Stress Management Toolbox:
Having a hammer—anger or frustration—as your standard equipment in your toolbox only leads to more stress. Andrew has come up with re-tools to re-tool your toolbox: Record: Use cheat sheets, journals, organizers, etc. “5P’s” means “Proper planning prevents poor performance”. Reframe: Reframe how you see things to stop the stressor from coming in as a discomfort. Practicing gratitude changes the way you see life. The tools you will put in your toolbox are going to be unique for you.
Notable quotes:
[27:15] “Stress plus time equals wisdom.” [27:17] — Andrew
[27:35] “It's not the stressor that causes the stress, it's your reaction to the stressor. If you accept the stressor, you can be surrounded by stressors and not be stressed.” [27:46] — Andrew
[30:15] "A setback is a setup for a comeback." [30:18] — Andrew
Resources Mentioned:
- Download Stress Relief HQ’s FREE stress management resources here!
- The Inner Work by Mathew Micheletti and Ashley Cottrell
- Episode 24: The Inner Work with Mathew Micheletti
- Download the Good Mood Toolkit here!
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About the Guest: Andrew Oakes is the founder of Stress Relief Headquarters. He is a mental health advocate, stress management consultant, and public speaker. His Street View of Psychology brings a new approach to resolving complex mental matters. You can connect with Andrew through LinkedIn.
Love is a miracle. It is the ultimate purpose of your life. The only way for someone to be truly happy is to realize this purpose and to love unconditionally as God loves. In the present time where the constant attack of modern thought systems leads us to hate one another, how do we tap back into the miraculous power of love?
In this episode of The Good Mood Show, Marianne Williamson, author of four #1 New York Times best-selling books, including her famed hit “A Return to Love” joins Matt O’Neill to talk about the lessons she has learned from A Course in Miracles. This conversation will deepen your understanding of love, happiness, and finding miracles amidst a world so desperate for healing.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Loving leads to happiness.
- Always choose to forgive.
- Surrender to the miracles of God’s will.
- Practice love and compassion every day.
- Live with responsibility for the world’s healing.
[12:16] The True Meaning of MiraclesTrue miracles do not happen when we make God our errand boy. True miracles happen when we realize God’s unconditional love for us. We can allow things to happen when we are dwelling in love.
[23:37] How to Be Loving and Trusting in the MomentThe will of God is our highest joy. When we learn to be still and connect with God, we eventually see that His will for us is also our greatest good. This creates a fierce trust in God.
[28:26] The Daily Practice of Love and CompassionGod placed us in roles where we can practice love and compassion daily. However, Marianne also emphasizes the practice of morning meditation to empower us to love better. She invites everyone to sign up for Mornings with Marianne.
[35:00] The Responsibility and Power of Love to Change the WorldThe ultimate goal of love is not just to heal ourselves but also to heal others. We all have a responsibility to love one another; when we do, it has the power to change the world.
Notable quotes:
[02:33] “God is love. We are creations of God. Our purpose on this earth is to love….That is when we’re happy.” [02:40]
[12:20] “You can have a grievance, or you can have a miracle. You cannot have both.” [12:23]
[14:03] “You were not created to be at the effect of lovelessness within yourself or anyone else.” [14:08]
Resources Mentioned:Connect with Marianne: Website | LinkedIn
A Course in Miracles by Foundation for Inner Peace
Everyday Grace
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About the Guest
Marianne Williamson is an American author, a spiritual mentor, and a political activist. Four of her books have been recognized as New York Times bestsellers, and in 2020 she ran for the Democratic nomination for President of the United States.
Marianne has been teaching the principles of A Course of Miracles for over thirty years, and in the process, she has brought hope, love, and joy into the world. Sign up for Mornings with Marianne or find one of her books on Amazon.
We waste a lot of energy taking things way too seriously. And our soul is so powerful that it can handle all of life’s events with grace and understanding. As Sarah Snyder points out in this episode, “Your very essence is LOVE with a capital L.”
In this episode, Sarah joins Matt O’Neill to talk about the golden nuggets from her book The Value of Your Soul. They delve into how to deal with life’s noise and annoyances with more grace and how this ultimately gets you into lasting good moods.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Realize your essence is pure Love.
- Learn not to take things too seriously.
- Polish your mirror.
- Quiet the constant noise around you.
- Heal your original wound.
[02:08] The Value of Your SoulThe book contains real-life stories filled with lessons about how to get over annoyances. Sarah used the poet Rumi's principles in offering ways to flip the script. The essence of your very soul—love—matters. Material possessions pale in comparison to that essence, which is the gift of life.
[10:13] Flipping the Script around Negative Sounding Emotions
The biggest negative-sounding emotions are expectations, disappointments, anger, fear, vulnerability, resentment, control, and impatience. We should not get ashamed when we fall prey to them because they are a natural part of life.
[25:00] Quieting the NoiseConstant noise creates an unhealthy feedback loop. Learning how to quiet the noise means refusing to entertain unproductive thoughts. Only then, we learn how to accept simply what is and hear God communicating with us.
[26:55] The Wound is the Place Where Light Enters YouHurtful experiences are lessons. We don’t grow by having everything perfect in our lives. Personal growth happens on rough edges. Your original wound is your earliest experience that can set the course for the rest of your life. Everything is a learning opportunity.
Notable quotes: (Please Choose One)
[05:50] “Your essence is pure Love with a capital L.” [05:53] — Sarah
[13:21] "I have to take life's lemons, and I have to learn from them so that I can become a polished person, better in my body and spirit." [13:29] — Sarah
[37:03] “Never waste a bad experience without trying to learn from it first.” [37:10] — Sarah
Resources Mentioned:DIY Solo Retreatsby Sarah Snyder
The Value of Your Soul by Sarah Snyder
Chicken Soup for the Soul
E05: Healing Your Body by Releasing Emotion with Kim Kolodji
Connect with Sarah at Luna River Voices and get 50% OFF and a signed copy of any one of her books!
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Finding true happiness — the genuine, juicy, and authentic kind — is not impossible. We all have the capabilities, tools, and everything we need to create happiness for ourselves, regardless of what’s going on around us. In this episode, The Happiness Doctor, Dr Sophie Godkin, joins Matt O’Neill to talk about creating happiness from the inside out. They talk about finding joy within ourselves and even unpack some tools to jump start our journey to becoming genuinely happy. Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
Take time to know yourself. Heal from places where you hold a lot of emotions. Orient your mind to find things to be grateful for. Practice mindful meditation. Befriend your inner critic. Be compassionate with yourself.
[6:57] Reacquaint With Your Soul The first and hardest step to getting in touch with your soul is to heal from places where you hold a lot of emotions. Your wounds, pains, and hurts should not be buried; instead, acknowledge, process, and learn from them. [14:28] Gratitude: Your Biggest Tool Gratitude can be your biggest tool for happiness. Learn to be joyful despite life’s stress. The mind has a natural affinity to focus on the negative. It is drawn towards everything that’s not going right in our lives. [17:53] Do Mindful Meditation Maintaining a Gratitude Journal also helps keep the mind’s negativity bias away. It retrains our mind to start counting things to celebrate. Some prompt to get you started is to write down what went right that day or take note of opportunities you have now that you didn’t have before. [24:47] Deal With Your Inner Critic Perfection gets in the way of your happiness. It prevents you from living authentically. The voice that tells you to be perfect is the voice of your inner critic. The only way to shut it out is to start working on your thoughts and feelings. Notable quotes: [04:50] “Who you truly are is, you know, infinitely capable. Who you truly are has the skill set that you need to achieve. You have the love to succeed.” [05:02] [16:47] “It's really up to us to take it upon ourselves to orient our mind towards the kinds of things that we do want to focus on -- the kinds of things that we want to pay attention to in life. And gratitude is just such a simple, easy process that allows us to do that.” [17:02] [27:50] "When we realize that every single thought, every single feeling is actually here to help us, right? We can befriend it. [27:55] Resources Mentioned: The 5-Minute Gratitude Journal: Give Thanks, Practice Positivity, Find Joy by Sophia Godkin Mark Nepo TheHappinessDoctor.com Sophia’s LinkedIn and Twitter Download the Good Mood Toolkit here! THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… About the Guest Dr Sophia Godkin is an internationally recognized expert on happiness. Better known as “The Happiness Doctor,” Sophia’s mission is to use holistic education and coaching to help people become healthier, happier adults.
Your true self is one of the greatest sources of love and wisdom available to you. Sometimes what you need to do is to look inside yourself to find the answers you’re looking for. In this episode, Ulrika Sullivan, author and intuitive spiritual life coach, joins Matt O’Neill to talk about the journey of awakening your true self. They talk about Ulrika’s book “Wisdom Beyond What You Know” and what you can do to connect with, and love yourself. Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
Love yourself and put yourself first Find your opportunity for self-awareness Tune in to your body Set your energetic boundaries You are part of a big, wide universe.
[06:25] You Complete Yourself Turn your focus inwards. Ask yourself first before seeking validation from others. You know best what works for you. You are a source of love for yourself. Even without others, you’re whole and complete. [16:38] Journey of Self-Awareness Ulrika was a successful woman whose identity revolved around her job. However, when she got laid off, she found herself lost and not knowing who she was. This was the start of her journey to self-awareness. [21:44] The Body Talks Everyone has an energetic connection to their bodies.For Ulrika, yoga was her gateway to this connection. Spiritual practices and time tuning into yourself can help you learn to connect with your emotional, physical, and spiritual body. [35:02] Ruling Your Own Life When you seek to please others, you can lose your own sovereignty. Set your energetic boundaries and say no to what doesn’t align with your true self. You are connected to the whole universe. You have a connection to a bigger, true self. Notable quotes: [02:31] “Awakening can be awakening to who we truly are… to our true self.” [02:38] [14:00] “We all have this story of how we got to where we are. But the important part is to allow ourselves to distance ourselves a little bit to those stories inside” [14:11] [23:42] "Yoga is this connector of movement, breath, and stillness. Because all three are required in a way to be able to listen to what the body and its intuition is telling us. It's not really separate. [24:00] Resources Mentioned: Wisdom Beyond What You Know by Ulrika Sullivan Jerry Maguire (1996) Healing Back Pain by John E. Sarno All the Rage Saved by Sarno (2016) Ulrika Sullivan’s website Download the Good Mood Toolkit here! THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more… About the Guest Ulrika Sullivan is an intuitive spiritual life coach, energy healer, and yoga teacher. She is also the host of the New Light Living Podcast where she talks about finding the calm and balance many people hope to live with.
Why do you do the things you do in life? If you don’t know the answer, it’s time to examine your mindset. Creating a powerful mindset helps you redefine the world you experience. Your good mood, or bad mood, is 100% determined by your perspective, and that starts with mindset.
Joining Matt on The Good Mood Show is Case Kenny, renowned podcast host and the author of But First, Inner Peace. Listen to their conversation as they dive into Case’s book and teach you powerful techniques to fortify your mindset.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Practice mindfulness with radical honesty
- Find your incentives
- Start with your whys
- Believe in yourself and be proud of yourself
- Write your narrative with a positive mindset
[02:04] What is Mindfulness Practicing mindfulness doesn’t have to be complicated. It may have many forms and layers but simply put, it’s about radical honesty with yourself. You have to combine your inner and outer gaze to take in the world around you and redefine it as what’s true for you. Mindfulness is like self-therapy.
[10:07] Starting With Why When you’re searching for your why, be intentional about it. Journaling can help you find clarity. Think about what you don’t want to regret. Ask different questions about what you do and don’t want in your life.
[23:41] Redefining the Negative It’s easy to fall into a negative mindset. This negative environment and personal experiences can push people to quit. However, you have magic in your future. Despite everything else, it’s up to you to rewrite the narrative and give tomorrow a second chance.
[32:54] Your Beliefs, Your Story Align yourself with what you believe. When you understand reciprocity, you can bridge the gap between the head and the heart. The stories you tell matter, so be more positive in your narrative.
Notable quotes:
[20:07] My fear is looking back and having regret because you cannot change it. And that scares the shit out of me. [20:12]
[26:58] “The greatest gift you can give yourself is to believe in second chances.”
[31:44] At the end of the day, it does come down to you writing or rewriting the rules and expectations for yourself. And I think that's the greatest gift we can give ourselves [31:54]
Resources Mentioned: New Mindset, Who Dis? Podcast and website
But First, Inner Peace by Case Kenny
Case Kenny: Instagram
Start With Why by Simon Sinek and his Ted Talk
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About the Guest
Case Kenny is a writer, podcaster, and recording artist. He started New Mindset, Who Dis, with his passion for growth. You can learn more about Case and his work as a mindfulness thought leader on his website and Instagram.
Empathy is a gift, but it can also be a curse. On the one hand, your empathy allows you to establish deep connections with others, and on the other hand, your ability to feel the emotions of others can be draining and exhausting. This is why empaths must understand how to accept the gift and manage the downsides of high empathy.
In this episode, intuitive life-coach Krista Carpenter joins Matt O’Neill to talk about the struggles and joys of being an empath. They talk about dealing with internal problems that come with a high level of empathy and how you can live a happy, empowered life.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Never give up on yourself.
- Trust yourself more and do not listen to the outside world.
- Cut off the toxic and triggering people in your life.
- Do proactive self-care.
- Set boundaries and enforce consequences.
[01:57] What Are Empaths? Empaths are highly-sensitive people who feel for and pick up other people’s emotions and energies as though they were their own. They often grew up with narcissistic caregiver/s who made them feel unsafe and drove them to become hypervigilant — even with microexpressions.
[15:32] Overcoming Dark Times Never give up on yourself. Instead, follow your bliss. Force yourself to do things you always wanted and haven’t permitted yourself to. And if you do not have the energy to force yourself, just take some time and give yourself space.
[20:07] Self-Love and Self-Compassion Trust yourself more. Do not listen to the outside world — the judgements, opinions, or societal norms. Cut out toxic people in your life. Prioritize quality over quantity when it comes to the people around you.
[33:41] An Empowered Empath People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. Set boundaries, and enforce consequences on people who push past your boundaries. Or even better, surround yourself with people who respect you enough that you won’t need boundaries.
Notable quotes:
[27:31] “Four quarters is better than 100 pennies. Meaning, if you have four friends that are truly uplifting, it's way more valuable than 100 people that make you feel bad.” [27:47] — Krista
[32:05] “Don't wait till you're totally burnt out to do the self-care because then you're just trying to do repair work.” [32:11] — Krista
[35:06] “People will treat you how you allow them to treat you. So you have to have some boundaries and consequences if they push past those boundaries.” [35:18] — Krista
Resources Mentioned: The Empath’s Workbookby Krista Carpenter
Krista Carpenter’s website
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About the Guest
Krista Carpenter, MS, CLC is a bestselling author and life coach. She is well-known as an expert on helping empathetic people identify unique gifts of living empowered.
Krista’s book, The Empath’s Workbook, has over 700 5-star reviews on Amazon.
Life is hard. But it’s also full of beauty and love and happiness. You get to choose which side of life you focus on. You can choose to dwell on the negative aspects, or you can choose to focus on the positive. And that choice is the key to an empowered life.
In this episode, Jamal Jivanjee joins Matt O’Neill to talk about the root causes of human suffering. They talk about how you can overcome these struggles and live life to its fullest.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Shift your perspective inward.
- Live in the present.
- Adopt an abundance mindset.
- Be totally involved in everything you do.
- Control how you respond to life.
[01:32] The Key to Empowerment Empowering someone requires a shift in perspective. We can control our inner state of being and how we respond to certain things.
[06:06] Living in the Moment
We often feel like we’re running out of time, which can lead to anxiety. But the truth is, all you have is time. Stay present in the moment. Stop trying to hang onto the past.
[12:40] The Concept of Lack We give money value. Economy is an exchange of energy. While there might be fluctuations in that exchange, nothing is lost. All we have is everything.
[21:31] Hard Work Ethic Success requires total involvement. If your desires, actions, and values are fully aligned, it becomes easy. As long as you’re totally involved, you’ll get to where you want to be.
[30:00] The Root of Our Evil People are inherently good. But when our core needs aren’t met, it creates trauma. Some behaviors that come from trauma are evil. But if you dig deep into the trauma, there’s healing. If we can control how we respond to life, we can end these cycles.
Notable quotes:
[05:05] — [05:15]
“As a society, as a species, as humanity, we have to understand that we’re not actually separate from each other. Your success is instrumental to my success.” — Jamal
[22:25] — [22:28]
“Success is predicated upon total involvement.” — Jamal
[31:54] — [31:59]
“If you can get below the trauma, there’s no evil; that’s where healing is.” — Jamal
Resources Mentioned: Free to Love by Jamal Jivanjee
Living for a Living by Jamal Jivanjee
The Love Cast
Jamal Jivanjee’s website
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About the Guest
Jamal Jivanjee is a bestselling author, podcaster, and full-time life coach. With more than 20 years of experience working with people in various stages of life, he discovered the common roots of human suffering and sustainable solutions to help people become empowered. He has written two books, Free to Love and Living for a Living.
Your worst day is not the end of your story. You can take back the pen and write a new chapter. All it takes is a decision to own your narrative.
In this episode, Alice Emerson joins Matt O’Neill to discuss Divorcing Your Beliefs. They talk about the journey to inward healing from diagnosis and identity crisis and how you can own your story!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
[07:37] Rewrite Your Story You can always rewrite your story. The pen is yours as long as you make the choice. This also applies to your divorce. Both diagnosis and divorce are hard, but they can be approached with the same thought process. Choose to heal your thoughts, your labels, and your story.
[10:57] Bein the Moment Eternity is the eternal now and now is the only time you can exist. The mind is always existing in the past or making plans for the future. Instead of succumbing to this trap, choose to be in the moment.
[20:27] Do Grounding
Before starting your day or picking up your phone, set your intentions for the day. List what you want and need to accomplish and what you’re grateful for at this moment. Practice guided meditation and proverbial sighs every day. You’re only good at what you practice. What you don't practice will not develop.
[24:48] Detox Your Heart
Protect yourself from overwhelming environments — especially those you cannot control. The energy around you can stir up something inside you. The world is filled with energy that can stir up inside you: news, politics, crimes, and pornography, among others. Make sure to protect the peace you started and worked hard to achieve. In choosing which to protect yourself from, let your heart be your guide.
[31:57] Heal from Identity Crisis You can only love your neighbor after you have learned to love yourself. Healing from an identity crisis involves unpacking all the labels from childhood to career. It is a journey of embracing yourself — who you were, who you are, and who you are not. You can celebrate other’s gifts but fall in love with yourself first. You are God’s masterpiece; denying your identity is denying God’s creation.
Resources Mentioned:
Divorcing My Beliefs: Experiencing God Outside of Religionby Alice Emerson
Dr Caroline Leaf
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About the Guest
Alice Emerson is the president of the Charleston Metro, Holistic Chamber of Commerce. She is a certified Divorce, Transition and Recovery Coach (CDC) and public speaker. Alice is also the author of the bestselling book, Divorcing My Beliefs: Experiencing God Outside of Religion.
Described as the “Healing Rebel”, Alice describes herself as an ally of health and wealth professionals and is dedicated to moving others towards their journey to true wellness.
Reach out to Alice at healingrebel@gmail.com or connect with her on LinkedIn.
What makes a family a solid unit? Is there a playbook you can follow to lead your family? Here's a secret: it all starts with deciding to create Family Miracles.
In this episode of The Good Mood Show, Matt O'Neill interviews the proud dad and author of the book Miracle Morning for Families, Mike McCarthy and his wife Lindsay. Mike shares the wisdom that comes with being the head of a family. He shares the importance of creating family values and goals together and constantly reinforcing them to every family member from a young age. He also tackles why intentional family meetings matter.
Lead your family to be the best it can be by tuning in to this episode now!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How to create family values
- The importance of family meetings
- Reinforcing values from the home to the world
- Setting family goals
- Establishing accountability
[06:36] Creating Family Values
Every family member should have a role in creating your family values. As a family, create a list of words and decide which ones are important. Let these serve as guideposts that will lead your family to the ideal. Reinforce them when challenges arise and affirm family members when they uphold them.
[20:28] The Family Meeting
Bring intentionality to the family through family meetings. Set a schedule and sit down together to appreciate one another. Tell each other your desires, plans, and goals. Gather and communicate.
[33:42] Family Goals
In light of your family values, create categories to form the basis of your goals. These categories may be health, adventure, finances, and more. The decision relies on what you value as a family. However, be intentional in setting these goals and creating accountability measures for them.
Notable Quotes:
Mike [07:36] - “If you want people to really care about whatever it is that you’re creating, as a family, as an organization, as a team, then the first step is to get everybody to play a role in creating whatever that is.”
Mike [18:13] - “If you’re going to build something great, you want to do it on a foundation of really solid values.”
Mike [30:07] - “It’s my job to make sure they’re prepared for the world. It’s not the world’s job to make sure they’re prepared for me at home.”
Resources:
Connect with Mike McCarthy: Website | Instagram
GoBundance
FamBudance
XChange Approach
The Miracle Morning for Parents and Families, available on Amazon (with accompanying playbook)
Miracle Morning Playbook Free Exercises
Living Untethered by Michael Singer, available on Amazon
Grit by Angela Duckworth, available on Amazon
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If you're looking to improve your mood and mental well-being, consider meditation. Meditation is a mindfulness practice that can improve your mood and mental well-being. There are many different types of meditation, but the goal of all meditation practices is to focus your attention on the present moment and become more aware of your thoughts and feelings.
In this episode, Muni Natarajan, a monk and meditation expert, sits down with Matt to discuss meditation, its benefits, how to meditate using mantras or affirmations, and tips for making meditation a part of your daily routine.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Why mantras or affirmations are powerful
- Meditation as a mood booster
- Meditation to achieve goals
- Breathing techniques for effective meditation
- How our consciousness works during trauma healing
- Mindfulness exercises to help solve problems
[10:24] Bad Moods Come From Negative Mantras
Bad moods come from fearful, anxious, angry, and hurtful thoughts. They are tough to remove. But, as Matt puts it, "you may trump them like a trump card at a card game." You overpower negative thoughts by replacing them with positive thoughts. Do this by repeating positive thoughts in a rhythmic pattern so that it becomes a natural part of your body's vibration.
[29:57] Our Consciousness Is A Giant Ocean
"Our entire consciousness is a giant ocean, and each of our negative and positive feelings are only small islands in that ocean," says Matt as he echoes Muni's ideas. If you end up washed up on the shores of Anger Island, you should get off that island and over to Bliss Island as quickly as possible. You can use tools, such as meditation, to help you get off the island. But the one thing you don't want to do is create a permanent home on the island of rage and live there.”
[36:30] Manifest Your Success Through Mindfulness Exercises
“If you seek enlightenment, infinite peace, and a heart open with love at all times and in all circumstances, you align your desire to that and get what you want. If you focus your want on the attainment of another goal, the acquisition of another item, or the victory of another sexual conquest, joy always becomes fleeting.”
Notable Quotes:
[3:33] - “Affirmations clear the subconscious, mantras pull on the super conscious”
[11:27] - [11:39]
“Your immediate impulse is to not feel good because you had to go through an adjustment period, because you don't feel that way. But now, with the affirmation, you will feel that way.”
[15:58] - [17:07]
“So the one thing that is really most precious, aside from affirmations, is mindfulness.”
[26:10] - [26:24]
“Your own intuition gave you that insight as a consequence of your practices of affirmation first and then facing the demon second. And blessing the demon became an angel.”
[34:12] - [34:20]
“Without desire, no food, no water, you die. It’s a very basic thing; basic as it is, it can't be ignored.”
Resources Mentioned:
The Good Mood Show with Matt O’Neill
CALM
The Callard Company
Meditate With Muni
Have you been feeling overwhelmed by the things happening to you lately? If it has you constantly in a bad mood, you will have to deal with it before it worsens. But how?
In this episode, Matt O'Neil is joined by Jeremy Reiseg, the Head of Admissions and Marketing at XChange Approach to discuss how to change your reactions to things around you. From your physical posture to different perspectives, you will be able to get into a good mood — no matter what!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Your physiology affects your mood
- Your first reaction shouldn’t be the last
- Cut off negativity
- A new perspective can make all the difference
- Conditioning yourself takes time
[00:55] Power of Physiology One way of dealing with a bad mood is to change your physiology. Get into a position or stance and perform an action that fills you with energy and confidence. The way your body reacts to this changes your mood and makes you a new you.
[12:06] Cut Out Negativity Many things in the world affect your mood and condition you to be a certain way. Notable ones include TV shows, world events, and the people around you. If they negatively impact your mood and mindset, it may help you to avoid them. You will feel a change in yourself once you cut out negativity.
[24:55] Have A Different Perspective When upsetting things pile on, you feel overwhelmed and blame everything and everyone around you. Sometimes, all you need is a different point of view to understand what is happening and how to improve it.
[32:04] The XChange Approach Jeremy is part of XChange; the XChange approach aims to ensure that the groups that go through their programs unlock their highest potential.
[46:28] What Are You Grateful For? The secret weapon to a good mood is gratitude. Take a moment to write down a few things you’re grateful for every day. The more gratitude you have, the more you attract things to be grateful for and appreciate.
Notable quotes:
[2:14] — [2:18]
“As soon as you change your posture and physiology, your mood changes.” - Matt
[30:28] — [30:36]
“If you can take an old emotion and an old pattern and you can let it go today, that piece is gone forever.” - Matt
[34:39] — [34:49]
“When you use the brainpower of 10 people or 20 people or 100 people, you get a way better answer than one genius at the front of the room.” - Matt
Resources Mentioned: Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie
Michael Singer | The XChange Approach | David Cooperrider | Ron Fry | JonBurghoff
Experiential Learning: Experience as the Source of Learning and Development by David A. Kolb
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When you look in the mirror, what do you see? If you’ve been consistently in a bad mood, it might be a sign that you’re miserable with what you’re doing. Quit the things you don’t enjoy and make that jump into better moods.
In this episode, Pat Hiban joins Matt O’Neill in talking about The Quitter’s Manifesto. They talk about doing more of what you enjoy and quitting your way into success and good moods.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Do more of the things you enjoy!
- Appreciate what you already have.
- Cut out what puts you in a bad mood.
- Express and accept your feelings.
- Consciously choose to be in a good mood.
[01:17] What Puts You Into a Good Mood You’re not always conscious of how you feel in the present. You have to ask and get to know what gets you into a good mood. Once you know what things you enjoy doing, go out and do more of them!
[09:57] Too Scared to Quit
Many people feel trapped and miserable in their jobs. However, they’re too scared to quit. It’s you who can make the most impact on your success. However, quitting doesn’t always mean you have to start your own business. It can lead to creating your own place to pursue your passion or to finding a job with a better culture.
[18:43] Are You Ready to Quit? Don’t just simply quit your job. Quitting doesn’t mean sitting still. You have to put in the work and build the skills you need to make it work. Don’t let go of something because you’re comparing your situation to what others may have. Instead, appreciate what you have.
[24:55] Quitting Bad Moods Matt and Pat talk about the practice of marking your calendar with pluses, minuses, and equals. Get rid of your minuses and equals. Instead, pursue a calendar full of plus days. You can do the same with the people around you.
[35:00] Accepting Your Feelings Expressing how you feel can affirm how true your feelings are for you.It’s alright to feel and acknowledge your emotions. However, you’re in charge of making a good life for yourself. Make the conscious decision to move away from bad moods into good ones.
Notable quotes:
[13:10] — [13:14]
“Betting on yourself is actually the safest bet you could make.” - Matt
[20:07] — [20:11]
“If you’re going to quit, you better have the skills inside you or the resolve to go and build those skills.” - Matt
[32:21] — [33:25]
“I think we all need other people and human interaction to be in a good mood.” - Matt
Resources Mentioned: The Quitter’s Manifestoby Tim Rhode and Pat Hiban
Tony Robbins
Think & Grow Richby Napoleon Hill
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Whether you like it or not, life often throws a curve ball that will knock you off your feet. You try to resist and hit it out of the park knowing that it only creates more suffering. But when you surrender yourself to it, you'll find that it's actually a gift given by life to help you grow
In this episode, Matt O’Neill talks about his takeaways from Michael A. Singer’s The Surrender Experiment. He shares the lesson of how to be more at peace with life when it presents its most difficult challenges.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Surrender to life.
- Challenges are so much bigger than you.
- Don’t resist and try to control the forces of the universe.
- Make the empowered choice.
- Connect the dots from your past to create a new light.
- Whatever is happening is supposed to be happening.
[01:36] Surrender to the Flow of Life Surrender to the flow of life; life knows more than you do. We are not responsible for even the tiniest fraction of what is manifesting around us. It’s so much bigger than you.
[08:51] Resistance Creates Suffering
Resistance to challenges the universe presents creates suffering. The resistance is the problem, not the challenge. Ask yourself, “This is happening. What am I going to do about it?” The first piece grounds you in reality. The second piece is where your power comes from.
[11:16] Dare to Let Go Dare to let go and trust the flow of life. Stop listening to the mental chatter about your personal likes and dislikes. Instead, start the willful practice of accepting the flow of what life is presenting you.
[17:50] A Matter of Perspective Every single experience we have in life compared to nothing is a gift. It’s just a matter of perspective. Whatever reality presented to you is supposed to be happening. You always have a choice to add pain on top of your pain, but there’s always one choice—the empowered choice.
[20:00] Creating Something Beautiful Out of Your Suffering Challenging situations bring about the force needed to create change and break out of the inertia of everyday life. You could use a challenging situation you’ve overcome to create freedom inside yourself.
Notable quotes:
[07:01] — [07:13]
“Instead of anxiety and tension and trying to control all the forces of the universe that you can't—only God can—surrender, and say ‘This is the way it's supposed to be,’ and you're gonna have peace.” - Matt
[11:22] — [11:27]
“Dare to let go and trust the flow of life.” - Matt
[18:03] — [18:09]
“Every single experience we get to experience in life compared to nothing is a gift.” - Matt
Resources Mentioned: The Surrender Experimentby Michael A. Singer
The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
Tony Robbins Date With Destiny
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When something bad happens, it’s easy to react negatively. You might feel anger, sadness, guilt, or shame. However, it’s up to you how you choose to respond.
Matthew Micheletti joins us in this episode to talk about his and his wife’s book, Inner Work. They talk about what you can do to catch yourself from spiraling into the negative patterns of your mind. Your choice could be the key to turning a bad situation into lasting happiness.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Practice discipline and effort to do inner work.
- Be aware of the addictions of your mind.
- Remember you are always worthy and loved.
- Hold yourself accountable for your actions.
- Exercise your freedom to choose.
[02:05] Putting Energy Into Inner Work. Instead of exerting time and effort into pursuing comfort, put your energy into inner work. It takes a lot of effort, courage and discipline. Though there’s a hard road ahead, it’ll all be worth it.
[09:30] Addictions of the Mind
Your mind can be addicted to emotions and encourage thoughts and beliefs that feed this. When you do inner work, you must experience discomfort. Be aware of your mind’s patterns. It takes discipline and control to avoid following what your ego tells you to do.
[22:29] Shame and Conscience You learn shame from someone else. Your mind ends up combining self-worth with the choices you make. However, remember that you are always loved and worthy.
Shame and guilt don’t help anyone. You must be accountable for what you do.
[28:52] Freedom to Choose In every circumstance, you always have the freedom to choose. In that time, stay in discomfort and truly think about your choice. Your response determines whether you suffer or turn difficult times into something beautiful and good.
Notable quotes:
[19:45] — [19:49]
“Anything the ego promises you, it delivers you the exact opposite of that promise.” - Matt
[23:32] — [23:40]
“Shame, the feeling that I’m not good enough, wasn’t a thought that was created. It was a thought that I inherited or learned.” - Matt
[32:59] — [33:06]
“You were still doing the very best you could at all times, even if what you were doing was wrong. And that’s why you don’t have to add guilt on top of your action.” - Matt
[41:52] — [42:01]
“Every single external circumstance that happens to us that’s negative, there’s always an empowered option.” -Matt
Resources Mentioned:
Chris Singleton
The 7 Day Frequency Reset Challenge
Inner Workby Matthew Micheletti
The Yoga Couple website | TikTok | Instagram
Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook
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Many of us tend to take our friends for granted, thinking they will stay in our life no matter the odds. But anything worth having takes work—including friendships. To foster a friendship that will stand the test of time, you have to give it effort and care.
In this episode, Michael Rosales talks about putting effort into our friendships. We talk about the type of person you should put effort into and what it takes to build a great friendship.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Put effort into your friendships.
- Make time for your friends.
- Go all out for relationships that matter.
- Enjoy life with people you value.
[01:00] Why Friendships Take Work No relationship would be successful without effort. Anything worth having is worth putting in the work for it. Only our souls are eternal; that’s why friendships are powerful.
[06:14] What Type of Person is Worth the Effort?
It’s different for everybody. It can be someone you can count on, who lifts you up, sees the best in you, and calls you out with the best intentions. On the other hand, you should move on from friendships that seek to tear you down, drain your energy, and cause anxiety.
[09:42] The Effort Required for a Friendship to Blossom First, invest and make time to be together. Second, a good friend is someone who picks you up when you’re down and offers an invaluable support system.
Third, find someone you can be vulnerable with and get encouragement from. Fourth, it’s either you’re all in or you’re all out. Fifth, follow through with your word. Finally, you need to laugh and be goofy together.
Notable quotes:
[06:25] — [06:30]
“There are some friendships that aren’t meant to last a lifetime, and then there’s some friendships that you really should work on. And if you don’t work on them, they’ll fizzle, and you lost a big opportunity for somebody who really could have been a positive influence on you.” - Matt
[13:36] — [13:39]
“You got to put in effort, and it’s worth it to have great friendship.” - Matt
[15:49] — [29:12]
“That’s what a good buddy does. It’s, ‘You’re down? I’m gonna pick you up.’” -Matt
[22:30] — [22:38]
“If you have that somebody that has your back like that, that always wants the best for you, it is worth every ounce of effort you can put in.” - Matt
Resources Mentioned:
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware
Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook
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Many of us spend the majority of our days in a career we don’t enjoy. It might be time to start finding the path to the life you want.
On the Good Mood Show, Tim Rhode joins us to talk about how quitting can be the start of a new chapter. We talk about listening to the signs and taking action. Join us in finding out how you can learn what’s next for you.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Pursue your interests.
- Keep moving toward fulfillment.
- Make time for what truly matters in your life.
- Enjoy the journey.
[04:45] Interests Over Obligation Live a life of 80% interests and 20% obligations. Take time to be quiet and determine what you want to do next.
[11:39] Find Your Fulfillment Triangle
The Fulfillment Triangle is where your talents and passions collide with real-life opportunities. As time passes, it can change. Listen, ask and reflect.
[16:41] The Biggest Challenge is You Acknowledge what you excel in. Then find others to help you fill in the gaps. Cut off things that don’t matter and make more time for things that do.
[27:22] The Importance of Identity Take the time to reflect on your outcome, purpose, and action plan. Don’t let fear stop you from taking action and moving forward. Commit to your identities.
Notable quotes:
[09:01] — [09:04]
“I had all these little signals that were tugging at me to what I was supposed to do next.” - Matt
[27:15] — [27:19]
“When we just follow that guidance, our life is blessed.” - Matt
[29:08] — [29:12]
“You start with your outcome. That’s number one. You have to say ‘Where am I headed ?’” - Matt
Resources Mentioned: Tony Robbins
Tucker Max
The ONE Thing
The Quitter’s Manifesto
Tim Rhode’s website and Facebook
GoBundance
1 Life Fully Lived.
Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook
THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…
It’s difficult and often daunting to search for the meaning of life. How can we find the meaning of life? Where do we even start looking for it? As it turns out, the answers are already within you.
In today’s episode, Matt O’Neill discusses the seven questions that led him to discover the true meaning of life.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Know that God is at your core.
- Love and learn from your enemies.
- Choose love and peace.
- Cherish and love the life you have.
- Enjoy the journey.
[06:57] Why Are We Here? God created everything by speaking it. We can also speak things into existence because every one of us is a piece of God at our core.
[12:37] How Can We Love Our Enemies? If we’re all made of God, then our enemies are also God. Loving your enemies is the same as loving God and yourself. Every person in your life is sent to teach you a spiritual lesson.
[14:52] Where’s Heaven Located? The Kingdom of Heaven is within you. We only perceive what our mind perceives. So the only thing you can truly know is yourself — and to know yourself is to know God.
[22:02] Why Doesn’t God Answer Us Out Loud? Your whole life is a conversation with God. He communicates with you through every single person and experience that you encounter.
[24:13] Why Doesn’t God Stop Bad People From Killing Others? God gave us free will. Every single choice you make has a direct divine consequence. Always choose peace and love in your life.
[27:53] Why Do We Have To Die? Death makes life richer. Our souls are eternal, but our life isn’t. Knowing life is fragile makes everything more important. Cherish and love the people you have.
[34:33] What’s The Meaning Of Life? Life is uncertain. Uncertainty scares our ego. We must experience and learn from the ego to find our way back to God. Life’s meaning is to:
- Learn and grow to be more loving and peaceful.
- Love and cherish your relationships with others.
- Enjoy the journey.
Notable quotes: [14:01] — [14:05]
“All is God. And ultimately, all is love.” - Matt
[24:47] — [24:50]
“You’re free to choose to love, and you’re free to choose to reject love.” - Matt
[34:18] — [34:26]
“Life is meant to be cherished. And because it’s not permanent, we cherish it even more.” - Matt
Resources Mentioned: A Mind at Home with Itself
The Inner Work
The Little Soul and the Sun
Surviving Death
The Good Mood Show Episode 16 with Chris Singleton
As our lives get busier and busier, we often lose touch with how we can achieve inner peace and happiness. However, there’s no better time than now to reflect on how we can attain these intangible goals and, ultimately, go beyond our limitations.
In today’s episode, Matt O’Neill and Adam Copenhaver discuss their key takeaways from The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer. They talk about how we can free ourselves from the shackles of negative thoughts and chaos.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- You have the power to control your thoughts.
- We create our own reality.
- Be open to experiences.
- Constantly let go to embrace peace and happiness.
- Death is a gift.
- Always choose happiness.
[04:30] You Have an Inner Voice The incessant negative thoughts in your head do not define who you are. Recognize that your inner voice is just a fleeting opinion of yourself. By doing so, you start gaining awareness of who you are and stop getting caught up with pessimistic thinking.
[13:20] Don’t Close Your Heart Amid unpleasant thoughts or experiences, we frequently opt to close our hearts and protect ourselves. However, this reaction might only result in suffering. Stop resisting. Remember that you have the freedom to let go and be open to new experiences.
[18:55] Remove the Thorn You are worthy and loved; believing differently is a lie. Stop putting up with the thorns that cause you pain. It's necessary you understand how you respond to difficulties and recognize that your negative self-perceptions are untrue.
[31:59] Accept Death Contemplating death teaches us lessons to improve our lives. It allows us to make sure we’re not wasting our limited time on Earth so we can increase the happiness and fulfillment in our lives.
[38:59] Choose to Be Unconditionally Happy Commit to unconditional happiness. Despite the odds, make a conscious decision to choose happiness over misery. It will teach you all there is to know about yourself, others, and life in general.
Notable quotes:
[26:17] — [26:23]
“I don't care who you are. You are good enough. You are lovable. And that's the real truth about you. Because you're a son of God, you are designed perfectly.” - Matt
[29:11] — [29:13]
“Whatever you believe is your reality.” -Matt
Resources Mentioned:
The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
CopeGrand Homes website, Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn
Adam Copenhaver LinkedIn
Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook
The Good Mood Show website
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In the world of personal finance, there are two goals that everyone seems to be striving for: wealth and happiness. Some people believe that you cannot have both at the same time. The truth is it’s possible to be wealthy and happy — but it takes a lot of hard work, dedication, and patience.
Matt O’Neill and Jarrett Hodson discuss the seven steps you must take to build wealth. They talk about how wealth can lead to good moods and happiness.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Find your desire to be wealthy.
- Develop a work ethic.
- Choose a niche and keep going at it.
- Make more money than you spend.
- Balancing risk and leverage.
- Invest in what you know.
[3:08] Wealth and Good Moods
Wealth makes it easier to explore ways to be happy and accomplish your goals. It also helps you be more honest and confident. Truly wealthy people don’t like short-term relationships and tend to be humble.
[5:09] Having a Burning Desire
Everyone wants to be wealthy. The first step to becoming wealthy is to have a burning desire. You will not make it without a burning desire to have what you want. Do you want what you want badly enough?
[11:23] The Importance of Work Ethics
Do whatever it takes to get what you want. That means doing something every single day to make more money. You must train yourself to have a work ethic — it’s not an innate ability. Every successful person has a powerful work ethic. Consistency and commitment lead to success.
[21:17] Pick a Niche and Keep Going
The third step is focusing on a niche. Then do not stop until you are great at it. It would be easier to focus on something smaller. So pick a niche with evidence of people having financial success in that particular niche. And then invest time into showing up and doing the hard work.
[27:39] Make More Than You Spend
You need capital to invest to grow wealth. While there are ways to make a quick buck, such as crypto, it’s not a path to wealth. You should always find a way to keep some measure of savings, whether it’s cutting expenses or making more money — or both.
[32:36] Leverage Risk
Letting an opportunity pass by is a risk. Leverage is crucial to creating wealth. Every leverage comes with risk. Matt and Jarrett diverge when it comes to debt. But they agree that investing is important.
[37:50] You HAVE to Invest
Invest in yourself, your business, and something you are an expert at. You can either set investment goals or buy when the opportunity presents itself. Invest in what you know. Or study what you want to invest in. Diversify your portfolio.
Notable quotes:
[22:59] “If you can focus for five years with every single day, you’re showing up and grinding, you’re going to be successful no matter what career path you’re going down.”
[26:39] “Choose a niche that is proven to have results.”
[38:06] “You first invest in yourself. And then you invest in a business. And then you invest in something that you're an expert at.”
Resources Mentioned:
Sweetgrass Capital
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook
We don’t always like what happens to us. Many of us have experienced loss, grief, and anger from events in our life. However, these experiences aren’t meant to hold us down. Having faith that there is a reason for everything that happens and being open to learn and grow is important.
Matt O’Neill and Missy Reid discuss their key takeaways from Maximum Achievement by Brian Tracy. They talk about choosing responsibility, reaching our goals and striving to fulfill life’s sole purpose: love.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Take responsibility for what happens to you.
- Welcome and expect good things.
- Know that all your experiences have a reason.
- Ask God for help in giving and asking for forgiveness.
- Always strive to grow, love, and be better.
[01:58] Taking 100% Responsibility
Take responsibility for everything that happens in your life. Accept what has happened and choose to learn and grow from it rather than wallowing in negative emotions.
[36:25] Expecting Good Things
Expect good things in your life and share that good with others. Know that all that has happened is for you. As long as your intentions are good, God will guide your actions and answer your prayers.
[23:13] A Reason For Everything
Have faith that there is a reason for the brightest and darkest times in your life. All the good and bad moments have led to where you are now. Be grateful even during these darkest times.
[28:15] Forgiveness Is Life’s Cornerstone
There will always be people to forgive who have hurt and betrayed you. But forgiving can be difficult due to our pride and ego. You can always ask for God’s help to find, give, and ask for forgiveness.
[36:25] The Purpose of Life
Taking responsibility and forgiving can be challenging. But they make life worth living. Things may never be perfect but that’s okay because it means there is room to grow, love and be better. God’s love is perfect, so strive to spread the same love from God. Everything we do should be motivated by love.
[36:25] Envisioning Your Life’s Masterpiece
When you set goals and plans for the future, you find your masterpiece. Take time to meditate. Reflect on your aspirations and give yourself positive affirmations. Have faith in achieving your vision and open yourself to the good you are expecting.
Four notable quotes:
[13:15] — [13:18]
“I do believe that everything is happening for us and not to us” - Matt
[24:01] — [24:04]
“One of the cornerstones to a life well-lived is forgiveness.” - Matt
[29:21] — [29:25]
“The sole purpose of this journey is to grow more and more and more loving.” - Matt
Resources Mentioned:
Maximum Achievement by Brian Tracy
The Untethered Soulby Michael Singer
The Untouchables (1987)
The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
Connect with Missy Reid at 8639345447 or missy@mattoneillteam.com.
Matt O’ Neill Real Estate LinkedIn and Facebook
THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…
Passing judgment on what’s happening around us and how other people treat us is normal. But even if it might protect us from fear, sadness or hatred, judgment takes away our happiness. And that’s why we should learn how to manage it.
In this episode, Matt O’Neill shares his key takeaways from Marianne Williamson’s Everyday Grace. He explores how to get rid of judgment, be patient with where we are now, and ask help from God.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Stop judging others and choose love and light.
- Give out love, happiness and peace instead of judgment and hatred.
- Be wary of the ego and how it separates you from God and others.
- Ask God for help and guidance.
- Try to see other people in a new light.
[01:58] Stop Judging
You can’t be judgmental and happy at the same time. Judging other people blocks your light in the world. Every judgment comes from a place of sadness and fear. When we’re at our worst, we’d also like to receive compassion, forgiveness and empathy from others.
Pray to God and wait for three days. It took for Jesus three days to rise from the grave. It may take three days for your thoughts to be resurrected. After that, your judgment will soften.
[23:13] Ask Help From God
God loves you so much that He will not interfere with your will unless you ask Him to. He gives us total freedom to make even the worst mistakes. He only will help if you ask — so start asking. If you feel the judgment, hatred or hurt, know that He loves you and will help you with whatever you ask.
[28:15] Letting God
Place all your decisions in the hands of God. God dwells in eternity and He knows the past, present, and future. Every single thing is happening for your benefit. You can learn even during the bad times. Just ask God to guide your actions and thoughts.
[36:25] Finding Peace Within Yourself
We can be extremely critical of ourselves. Learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes because God has already forgiven you. When you’re in conflict with someone, you can either be right or you can be happy. But you can't be both. If you want happiness, peace and joy, stop trying to be right all the time.
Four notable quotes:
[06:04] — [06:08]
“In that state, where I’m at my very worst, what I would really want from someone else is to have grace on me.” -Matt
[07:05] — [06:08]
“When we heal that sadness, we get to heal the judgments.” -Matt
[10:53] — [10:58]
“When you’re giving, you feel great. And when you’re judging, you feel awful.” -Matt
[16:54] —[16:59]
“God’s will for you is your highest, most happy, most joyful, most peaceful self.” -Matt
Resources Mentioned:
Everyday Grace: Having Hope, Finding Forgiveness, and Making Miracles by Marianne Williamson
The Good Mood Show Episode 13: Pray Everyday
Tony Robbins’ Priming
Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey
There are a lot of things that can divide us as humans — race, religion, politics. But there are also things that can unite us, bring us together, and make us feel connected to one another.
In this episode, Chris Singleton shares his inspiring story and why it is crucial to nurture resilience and forgiveness. He discusses how to unite people from around the world through love, faith, and kindness.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Choose to forgive.
- Seek God for strength to overcome struggles.
- Exercise empathy and understanding.
- Let love and kindness manifest in your words and actions.
- Be helpful and humble.
Episode Highlights:
[10:58] Using Your Free Will
Free will is a gift and a curse. People can make terrible choices. When you actively seek strength and guidance from God, you will gain the strength to overcome tough battles and make the right choices. But forcing people to turn to God will only make them resist more.
[15:42] Fighting Against Hatred
Hatred can only be overcome through unconditional love. It is difficult to be mean to somebody if they are genuinely loving and kind to you. Love will always triumph over hate.
[18:35] What Unity Means
Unity is realizing that every single person has a story behind what they do and who they are. Try putting yourself in other people’s shoes. Understanding others does not mean changing your beliefs. It is simply seeing things from their perspectives and respecting them.
[25:06] Choosing to Forgive
You can forgive someone while also wanting justice to be served. Justice might look different for every person but forgiveness is always freeing.
[28:29] The Importance of Empathy and Faith
Learn to listen to understand. Empathy is a crucial factor in understanding and loving others. Be helpful to others as much as possible — and even in the smallest ways. Always be humble and control how you respond to adversities. Faith brings you peace in times of uncertainty.
Four notable quotes:
[17:25] —[17:32]
“Hate and the darkness actually doesn’t have power. All it has is the absence of love.” - Matt
[35:11] — [35:15]
“Your greatest adversity can become your greatest gift, too.” - Matt
[36:54] — [36:59]
“The goal in life is to be able to traverse all the uncomfort with peace.” - Matt
[33:33] — [33:34]
“Whatever we give, we get back.” - Matt
Links to Resources:
chrissingleton.com
loveyourneighborbrand.com
Instagram: @csingleton_2
Twitter: @csingleton_2
TikTok: @csingleton_2
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Trauma is often misunderstood.
Some think it only happens in life-threatening situations. But it is anything that overwhelms your system and leaves you feeling helpless or scared. It could be a car accident, a natural disaster, or even being bullied. No matter the cause, trauma can have a lasting impact on your life.
In this episode, Dr. Gerry Schmidt shares his powerful tips on overcoming fear, trauma, and anxiety. He guides you on how to start healing and moving forward so you can live to your fullest potential.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Change how you respond.
- Reflect on your behavioral patterns.
- Determine the positive intention.
- Use your energy to move forward.
Episode Highlights:
[12:59] Redefining Trauma
Trauma is a brain-functioning injury. When you have post-traumatic stress, you need tools to overcome it. Meanwhile, trauma with a small “t” can cause anxiety. Fears and anxiety come from projecting a worst-case scenario from present moments.
[19:47] Healing Yourself
Find out about what parts of your life you would say, “I _____ and I don’t want to.” Your younger self may have made a decision without the proper resources that led to behavioral patterns. You must heal so you can fulfill the positive intention behind them.
[31:03] How to with Trauma and Anxiety
Identify the behavior you want to change. Then ask yourself:
- Where do you feel the underlying feeling?
- How large is the area?
- What’s the physical sensation?
Focus on that feeling without judgment. Determine the positive intention behind that feeling and its direction. Then focus on what you truly wanted. Allow that feeling to spread throughout your body.
[40:51] Spiritual Awakening
Spiritual awakening is feeling less attached to the expectation of feeling good all the time. Use that energy and feelings to move forward. Change your vocabulary and the meaning you give to things.
Four notable quotes:
[06:35] — [06:44]
“Two people could experience the exact same event. One could be traumatized, hold trauma. And one could catapult into growth.” - Matt
[18:43] — [18:50]
“Fear is anticipating a future that’s not great. And anxiety is the anticipation without joy.” - Matt
[39:25] —[39:32]
“The only people that never have anger, have sadness, or have fear and anxiety are in the graveyards.” - Matt
[42:10] — [42:18]
“Everything will be okay as soon as you’re okay with everything. And until that point, it will not be okay.”
Links to Resources:
gerryschmidt.com
THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…
We all have to deal with difficult people from time to time.
Maybe it’s a coworker constantly complaining or a relative who dominates conversations. It can be tough to stay calm and diplomatic when we’re dealing with someone who is being unpleasant.
In this episode, Lisa Quick shares her powerful tips on responding to difficult people with kindness, empathy, and awareness. She emphasizes the importance of always being patient and understanding — even if others are not.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Put yourself in other people’s shoes.
- Keep an open mind.
- Listen closely.
- Choose to spread positivity.
- Be kind to others.
Episode Highlights:
[04:32] Put Yourself in Others’ Shoes
We have to choose how to respond to the challenging people we encounter. Try putting yourself in their shoes. Being defensive will only make matters worse, so practice patience and understanding. Learn how to reset yourself and others to de-escalate things and solve conflicts.
[17:31] The Customer Is Always Right
If you want an enjoyable and smooth-sailing career, remember that the customer is always right. That is, in your customer’s mind, they are 100% right — so drop the defensiveness and try to understand where they are coming from. Instead of arguing with them, hear them out.
[22:57] Keeping Your Calm
Getting defensive is already an attack against another person. It may be hard to keep your light during a challenging situation, especially when the other person attacks your loved ones. But again, you must put yourself in their shoes.
[28:27] Building Trust and Connection
Listen to the other person and let them get through what they want to say. Ask questions. That coaxes them to open up and build rapport and trust with you. Solutions will not come without a genuine, heart-to-heart connection.
[35:15] Dealing with Difficult Loved Ones
Make light of situations when you can. Laughter is always a good thing. Instead of cutting people off, it is better to forgive them. Choose to shake off negativity and create positive ripple effects. Being unkind will only make you feel bad.
[45:31] Lisa’s Top Three Tips
Practice self-awareness throughout the day, every day. When you find yourself in an unpleasant situation, work on putting yourself in other people’s shoes. Make sure to brush off the negativities and reset by being kind, smiling at others, or being aware.
Four notable quotes:
[14:52] — [14:59]
“If you all just agreed with everything that I said or if I just agreed with everything that you said, then we wouldn’t have as great of a company as we have.” - Matt
[23:39] — [23:45]
“If you feel like you have anything to defend, you also feel like you have reasons to attack.” - Matt
[29:46] — [29:58]
“Behind all anger is sadness or fear. So the anger is only there ever to cover up a hurt or a fear.” - Matt
[43:10] — [43:18]
“You can choose to see the negative ripple and then make a positive choice and have a positive ripple. Or you can choose to get infected by the negativity.” - Matt
Links to Resources:
lisa@mattoneillteam.com
A Course in Miracles by Helen Schucman
THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…
When we think about God, we often imagine Him as a being far away, just sitting on a throne in heaven and watching us from a distance. But the truth is, God is always close by and available to us — and we can always reach Him through prayer.
In this episode, Matt shares the powerful lessons he learned from Marianna Williamson’s Everyday Grace. He emphasizes the importance of prayer and how it can help you lead a fruitful life. Prayer draws us closer to God and helps us heal from the things weighing us down.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Surrender your pain and suffering to God
- Pray every day
- Ask God for a miracle
- Always strive to live in God’s will
- Love and forgive others
Episode Highlights:
[01:06] Let Go and Let God
Some people may believe that if they want something, they have to grind to get it — as if God has no part in their achievements. But external success will not give you true happiness and peace. Attachment to the external world is a life that is setting you up to suffer.
No problem is too hard for God to solve. No matter what you are going through, God is more powerful than any suffering.
[05:57] The Power of Prayer
To pray is to take spiritual action. When you have a problem, say a simple prayer. Miracles can happen at any moment. When there is a change in your perception from fear to love, then that is a miracle. Make prayer a daily habit.
[09:51] What Keeps Us From Asking For Miracles
Because our suffering is familiar, we might not ask for miracles. But you have to give that up to find true peace. The ego drives a wedge between God and us.
Other times, we do not ask for miracles because we do not trust God. Or perhaps we do not want to relinquish control. But life becomes so much easier when we give everything up to God and stop carrying everything on our shoulders.
[14:36] The Importance of Forgiveness
We are on earth to love and forgive. Forgiveness sets people free. Your heart becomes open. It creates space for blessings and miracles to appear in your life. Your ego wants you to act with lovelessness but recognize that when you make mistakes — and you do — you’ll want forgiveness.
[19:41] Living God’s Will
Miracles happen when you allow them. God sustains your entire existence. Without God, you may not even be here. Every experience is a gift, even the painful and sad ones. Your job is to show up in the most loving, joyful, and inspired way possible.
[25:16] Love and Be Loved
Our relationship with God is our relationship with ourselves. Knowing that God is love is knowing you are loved. Never forget that you are loved, and you will be able to love others truly. Ask God to make you be more loving. God is always listening.
[29:31] How to Get Rid of Pain and Fear
Meditate every morning. Connect with God through silence. Pray out loud every day because words are powerful. These will help you change your perspective from fear to love.
Notable Quotes:
[26:04] — [26:07]
“There is no problem that love cannot solve.” - Matt
[23:17] —[23:19]
“When we’re listening to our ego, we’re actually believing a lie. ” - Matt
Links to Resources:
Headspace App
Everyday Grace by Marianne Williamson
THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…
Some things aren’t taught in school, such as how to live your life and find happiness. Those lessons only come from experience. When we’re young, we tend to brush off our parents' advice & what they tell us, only to find out that their profound words will carry us through life.
In this episode, Matt’s mother, Issy Burch, shares the words of wisdom that she learned from her mother, Gigi. You’ll regret having learned these life lessons so late — but you’ll be grateful to hear them now!
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Balance hard work and self-care
- Happiness comes from within
- If you believe in yourself, you can be anything you want
- Practice moderation in everything you do
- Always choose joy
Episode Highlights:
[03:41] Take Time to Smell the Roses
While it’s important to do your best in everything, it’s just as important to take care of yourself. Taking time to smell the roses is about finding the balance between giving 100% of yourself to whatever you’re doing and self-care. That’s how you can be your best self.
[07:45] Practice Honesty and Integrity
If you remain honest and truthful while living your best life, God will know. And being true to yourself will help fill your happiness tank, which will lead to good moods. Treat people the way you want to be treated. Have grace and compassion even for those who are unkind to you.
[12:34] Money Doesn’t Buy Happiness
Happiness comes from the inside. Unless you can find your joy, you’ll always be unhappy. You can go out and create wealth, but don’t rely on money to be happy. Do not idolize money and worldly successes. Do not lose your joy.
[17:48] Believe in Yourself
You can do and be anything you want as long as you work hard and put in the effort. Set realistic goals and believe in yourself. If you don’t put yourself out there, you’re never going to achieve anything.
[22:48] Do Everything in Moderation
Strike a balance between working hard and taking care of yourself. Don’t deprive yourself of things that you want. Instead, give yourself and do everything in moderation.
[24:42] Always Choose Joy
You can’t choose what happens to you, but you can always choose how you react. How you respond to situations and present yourself is so important. Sometimes choosing joy can be hard. Just have faith that things will get better and find a reason to be happy and grateful.
It’s also important to let yourself be sad. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Understand what’s making you sad. Connect with nature to help you relax and be happy again. Remember to love and accept yourself.
[35:25] Share a Smile
Sometimes, just smiling at someone or being kind can make a person’s day. Try going out of your way to smile and greet the people you encounter — it could make your day, too!
Notable Quotes:
[26:21] — [26:35]
“We still can make a choice to choose our reaction, to choose our attitude, to choose the state, to choose the way that we’ll show up, to choose the emotions that will show up to handle that situation.” - Matt
[34:37] — [34:46]
“Standing on the edge of the beach and looking at the vastness of this ocean… I mean, that’ll give you some perspective that ‘Man, this world is so much bigger than my little preferences.’” - Matt
Links to Resources:
THE GOOD MOOD SHOW Podcast on Apple, Google, Spotify, Anchor, and more…
Just as David vanquished Goliath, you can overcome the giants or scary challenges in your life. The giant blocking your way may appear insurmountable, but this is only a mirage. If you change your mindset and seek God's purpose, you can become a champion.
In this episode, Jimmy Kaiser, a coach, entrepreneur, and real estate agent, talks about how to overcome the seemingly unbeatable challenges you’re facing — inspired by the biblical story of David and Goliath.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Change your habits one small step at a time
- The way we treat others creates a ripple effect, so choose kindness always.
- Have the courage to step in when someone needs a helping hand
- What truly matters is how our life's work affects other people
- Tap into the champion within you
Episode Highlights:
[04:55] The Real Life Giants
A giant is a metaphor for a challenge. Everyone's problems are unique, but you can group them into one of five categories: financial, physical, relational, vocational, and spiritual giants. When you start to see your giant as an opportunity rather than a stumbling block, you'll be able to overcome it daily, no matter how big or small.
[07:25] Facing Your Financial Giant
Even successful people deal with financial behemoths like taxes. When it comes to money, connect with people who can help you achieve your goals. They can be CPAs, coaches, or even financially savvy friends.
[15:12] Overcoming Your Physical Giant
Most people find health to be a complex topic. It's all about making small changes. If you keep up your bad habits, they can cascade into your other habits, making your giant appear even more prominent. Pay attention to your sleeping and eating patterns.
[22:50] The Ripple Effect
Our relational giant pertains to our relationships with others. How we treat the people around us creates a ripple effect on how they treat others. In difficult situations, choose to extend grace. Take a moment to think about what's on your mind and respond with love.
[38:42] Service to Others
The spiritual and vocational giants are inextricably linked. Our vocation should focus on our relationships with others, not our career itself. It's all about making an impact on the lives of other people. Instead of being self-serving, live for the glory of God.
[46:11] Unleashing the Champion
Jimmy tells the story of a racehorse named Mine That Bird that ran in the 2009 Kentucky Derby. Like Mine That Bird, we all have a champion and God's Spirit within us. Harness that power and slay the giants in your life.
Notable Quote:
[27:05] — [27:11]
“That is one of my mantras: I can either be right in this moment, or I can be happy, but I can't be both.” - Matt
Guest Bio
Jimmy Kaiser is an successful entrepreneur, executive coach, and adventurer who is best known for leading and consulting with some of the world's leading nonprofit and mission organizations for over thirty years. From all his different roles, Jimmy has consistently helped others face their "giant" challenges and opportunities with faith, strategy, and encouragement in their own "David vs Goliath" situations. In the last ten years, he has also built a successful real estate sales and development business. (can all of this fit?)
Links to Resources:
Jimmy’s website
Dave Ramsey’s website
Instagram: @slaying_the_giants
We’ve all been through times in our lives when we felt out of touch with our emotions. These low-energy, low passion periods are normal, but that doesn’t mean we should let them turn into bad moods that stick around.
In this episode, Matt shares how he navigated his way in and out of a funk, and how you can change your life by implementing a simple daily routine.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Burnout is a mindset. Change your perspective and change your life!
- Honor yourself and your energy, otherwise you won’t have the energy to give to others.
- Your emotional state dictates the actions you perform every day.
- A good ritual or routine can be your anchor in troubled times.
Episode Highlights:
[00:64] Getting In and Out of a Funk
We’ve all been through low-energy, low-passion periods in our lives — Matt calls these troubled times “funks”. Rather than physical exhaustion, a funk or burnout describes the negative meaning we give to the way we feel about a certain event.
Matt shares the story of a two-week series of events that left him feeling over committed and burnt out. Listen to the full episode for all the details!
[11:31] You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup
If you don’t honor yourself and your energy, you won’t have the energy to give to others. It’s easy to get caught up in what “productive” things we think we should be doing and forget to serve ourselves first. Keeping up this kind of mentality can cause burnout and may even be counterproductive. It’s important to reclaim your calendar and add activities to it that spark joy — not just work.
[17:11] Taking Back Control
Matt shares how Steve Gill got him back on track: through the power of rituals. Your daily rituals create your state of being, and a powerful, positive emotional state will bring that energy into the actions you perform every day.
Matt lists meditation, prayer, journaling, reading, and exercise as his daily rituals. Listen to the full episode for an in-depth look at how routine activities can affect your whole day!
[32:29] Creating the Life You Want
If you don’t dedicate time to cleaning your mind and blessing your day, you fall prey to your ego and the world’s negative thoughts and influences — this is why, for Matt, daily rituals are non-negotiable. Your mindset is what creates your success, and you create your mindset with powerful rituals.
There will always be fear, but your ritual and routine can be your anchor in troubled times. Matt urges listeners to come up with three morning rituals to follow for seven days. Stick to them and see the difference!
Notable Quotes:
[02:13] — [02:23]
“If you're working and you don't feel like working, the meaning you're giving that work is ‘I don't want to do this, but I have to.’ Alright, you're gonna get burned out with that mindset.” -Matt
[18:33] — [18:41]
“The emotional state that you're in, the emotions your body feels create the actions that you're going to perform that day. And your actions create all the results in life.” -Matt
[33:49] —[33:57]
“When any challenge is presented, we can choose to suffer, be a victim, or we can choose to be powerful and thrive.” -Matt
Links to Resources
Make A Wish
Overcoming Fear with #1 Coach Steve Gill
There’s so much negativity around us. It’s important to learn to block out the noise, which can even come from our inner voice. We all have the power to flip the narrative, empower ourselves, and fulfill our life’s purpose. Don’t you want to know how to use your words and perception to turn your life around?
In this episode, Amy Wienands, CEO of Amy Wienands Real Estate and host of the “You are More!” podcast, talks about how she lives out her life’s purpose through positive thinking and by surrounding herself with inspiring and supporting friends.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
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Take the time to celebrate your wins and express your appreciation to your family, friends, and co-workers
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Flip the narrative and use your perception to turn negative events around
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Everyone is original and each of us is called on to fulfill our one specific purpose
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Surround yourself with like-minded and supportive people
Episode Highlights:
[04:23] The Importance of Appreciating People
Amy didn't celebrate wins at first. It wasn’t until she saw how it made her team feel appreciated and valued that she realized the importance of doing so. She now treats her family the same way, believing that it’s not about having more time but rather more contact with them.
[08:40] Your Language Dictates Your Life
Get into the mindset of flipping your narrative into something positive, especially during tough times. What you say reflects what you believe in, which will likely become your reality. Amy is grateful every single day for merely being alive and believes that everyone has their own life’s purpose.
[18:06] Your Life’s Purpose
Amy believes that she’s original, but people tend to adopt a herd mentality. Deep internal work is key to developing the confidence to fulfill our life’s purpose. We all have a different purpose in life; it’s okay to embrace our differences and become who we truly are called to be.
[25:57] Creating a Supportive Network
You only need a few key people in your circle. God leads us to the people we need at the exact moment we need them. Not every friend will stay with us, but this just means we’re growing. It’s normal to feel pain at the loss of a friend, but this creates space for like-minded people to walk with us instead.
Guest Bio:
Wife, mother to twins & President/CEO of Amy Wienands Real Estate, Amy Wienands is no stranger to the real estate industry and creating impact. For nearly three decades, Amy has been committed to creating an impact in her community and the growth of those around her, through the “vehicle of real estate.” Amy and her team have been consistently ranked as one of the Top 100 Teams in the Nation, and Iowa’s #1 team of REALTORS for the past 8 years. Her biggest passion in this life is to create one thing; a legacy. She knows she’s been put on this earth for “more” and is called to inspire, motivate, bring inspiration and leave a significant mark on this world. She is the host of the You Are More Podcast, a place of revelation and encouragement for all, and a pillar of faith for many. Amy is a firm believer that hard work, principles of faith, and having the “pop-back” factor are the keys to success.
Links to Resources:
“You are More!” podcast Website | Spotify | Apple | YouTube
Amy Wienands Real Estate Website
Caught up in the hustle and bustle of life, we often end up overlooking the time with ourselves. It is crucial to cultivate a deep connection with yourself to only improve the connection you have with others. Make time to learn about yourself and grow as a person.
In this episode, Adam Roach, CEO of “I Love Coaching”, shares his tips on what activities you can do to self-connect and create the best version of you.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Set aside time for self-improvement activities
- Importance of journaling and reflecting
- Tracking your progress
- Know when and where to direct your energy
Episode Highlights:
[5:30] Finding "Me Time"
Matt and Adam are both morning people. They discovered that the best time to exercise is in the early morning. It can be challenging to find time for yourself, but you may end up feeling lost or burned out if you don't.
[9:18] The Power of Journaling
Writing about your day is cathartic. Whether positive or negative, you can release your thoughts and emotions in a journal. Your entries can also serve as messages from your past self to your future self about lessons learned.
[11:11] Life Audit with Pictures and Reading
Looking back at old pictures allows you to reflect on what you've learned since they were taken. Reading past journal entries can help you see what has changed, what you can apply in the present, and what you can teach others.
[16:45] The Importance of Tracking
Adam learned the value of tracking from his father, an Olympic swim coach. You're telling a story when you're tracking things. Tracking is an excellent tool for self-improvement because it can show you where you've improved and fallen short.
[24:48] Understanding Your Energy
We can't give what we don't have, so keep track of your energy. Also know when and where to direct your energy. Strike a balance between giving and taking, energy-wise, to grow as a person.
Notable Quote
[31:28] — [31:33]
“When my cup is full, I can spill over into others, and when it's empty, I don't have anything to give.” - Matt
Guest Bio:
Adam has been a serial entrepreneur and a recruiting junkie for over two decades! From playing collegiate tennis, to owning his first business in his 20's, Adam recruited and built one of the most dynamic tennis club's in all of Beverly Hills CA. He later cut his real estate teeth in Los Angeles, with 6 and 7 figure flips.
In his mid 30's, Adam transitioned to owning and running multiple Keller Williams Realty franchises. Combined, this team led over 700 agents doing nearly $2 billion dollars in total sales.
In his 30’s he developed a recruiting software and company that has now recruited over 130,000 agents across North America. To date, The I Love Recruiting family of companies includes 4 recruiting platforms (recruiting bridge, xceed, chamber scout, and touchngrow), and the I Love Coaching Company includes 10 1:1 coaches, a monthly group coaching and an evergreen course.
By the end of 2022, the I Love Coaching Company is projected to have revenues exceeding $8 million, and on track to bring its Vision Statement to life; “To empower Coaches to change 100 million lives.
For fun, Adam loves traveling and creating experiences with his fiancée Dana Gentry, his 2 kids, Addison and Amelia and the family dogs Frankie and Charli.
Links to Resources:
I Love Coaching website
I Love Coaching Instagram
Reaching your dreams is always going to be a long game. It takes years of discipline and dedication to get closer to the person you want to be and the life you want to live. There will be hurdles along the way, but honing your mental toughness will help you overcome the obstacles that stand between you and success.
In this episode, Davon Gilliard, the CEO of Can’t Stop Training, LLC, shares his tips on developing mental toughness. With consistency and effort, you can be mentally tough enough to achieve your goals.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Put consistent effort into improving
- Elevate your work ethic
- Plan your day around your goals
- Eat healthy and exercise
- Find a coach to guide you
Episode Highlights:
[08:18] Increase Your Work Ethic
Increasing your work ethic involves consistent practice and progress. Adopt the mentality of training to become the best, and develop the confidence to know that you’ve worked hard enough to deserve success. Set concrete goals, plan your day around them, and make intentional choices.
[21:18] Plan Your Day
Establish your goals. Find time to meditate and journal or adjust your schedule to make time. Doing these activities for a few minutes a day will compound.
[26:55] Mind Your Nutrition
Plan your meals around your nutrition goals. If you work out, you need to eat within 30 minutes of starting. After working out, just a smoothie is fine, but you can also eat carbs and protein. Listen to the full episode for more dietary tips and suggestions!
[41:35] Get a Coach
Finding a mentor gives you access to tips and advice on how to improve yourself. It also deepens your understanding of how to better yourself and achieve your goals. Don’t worry so much about what other people think about you.
Notable Quotes
[17:29] — [17:34]
“The difference between five championships and zero championships is just choices, decisions.” - Matt
[20:51] — [21:01]
“You’re focusing on the positive rather than beating yourself up for the negative because as we beat ourselves up, that’s more guilt. And guilt just takes us down even further.” - Matt
[40:23] — [40:27]
“It’s better to go one day a week to start or two days a week to start, and then build from there.” -Matt
Guest Bio:
Davon Gilliard is the CEO and Director of Sports Performance at Can’t Stop Training. He is a member of the National Academy of Sports Medicine and has received a certification in sports performance. He is passionate about helping people develop their sports performance, skills, and personal fitness.
Davon has spent much time volunteering with REACH, a health and fitness program designed to educate and train young adults with autism. Davon has also trained high school and collegiate basketball players in skill development. His experience working with different athletes has influenced his coaching style and helped him grow as a health and fitness professional.
Links to Resources:
Can’t Stop Training website
@cantstoptraining
The 12 Week Year by Brian Moran
High Performance Habits by Brendon Burchard
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With all of the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to get caught up in stress and problems. Our thoughts become tangled, our time becomes limited, and our bodies become weary — but even in these moments, there are valuable lessons and abundant blessings. It may just be hard to see them because we become so focused on what we need to do every day that we fail to see all there is to appreciate.
In this episode, Matt shares about his wife’s failed pregnancies and the powerful lesson they took from their experience: learn to see the silver lining in your suffering and treasure every moment gifted to you.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- The Power of Choosing Love
- Strengthening your Faith
- Lessons from sadness and loss
- How to learn from life’s challenge
- Free yourself from attachments
Episode Highlights:
[00:45] Choosing Between Fear and Faith
Many people think that everything is owed to us. But we must realize that nothing is owed to us — rather, every moment is gifted to us.
In Marianne Williamson’s A Return to Love, she says that we only ever have one choice: to choose love or not. Choosing love means connecting with God and our souls, and coming into our eternal being.
[04:07] Strengthening Your Faith
Strengthening your faith can be done by connecting the dots backward in the darkest moments of your life and putting them into perspective. You will realize that you were being guided in those moments and that you are always being guided by a higher purpose.
[08:13] The Gift of Sadness
With God’s guidance, we learn lessons in either of two ways: through wisdom or from experience. If you’re not learning from wisdom, he’ll teach you through experience — these can be difficult to overcome.
Through his wife’s miscarriages, Matt learned that the point of loss is to teach us not to take anything for granted. Every moment is precious. Treasure what you have and let the people you love know that you love them. Nothing is owed to you so don’t take anything — or anyone — for granted.
[16:27] Learning From Challenges
You don’t always need to learn from experience. You can also learn from wisdom, study, and contemplation. Contemplate the lessons in the stories you hear and read. After that, choose to love. Know that challenges are not meant to discourage you; they’re happening for you.
[30:02] Releasing Major Attachments
Our egos always have attachments, some of the biggest being money, health, and life. There are some attachments that you need to release for the benefit of your soul. Just remember that you’re okay and that God always has your back.
Four notable quotes
[01:57] — [02:03]
“Every moment that we get is gifted to us. Nothing is owed to us.” -Matt
[11:55] — [12:03]
“The point of loss is to teach us not to take any moment for granted. Every single moment is precious.” -Matt
[27:09] — [27:17]
“Resistance is suffering. And what we resist, persists. And if we don’t learn the lesson, we’ll continue to get the exact same lesson.” -Matt
[29:55] —[29:59]
“Problems are a gift sent from God to help you grow.” -Matt
Links to Resources:A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
The Inner Work by Mat & Ash
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So many of us carry heavy emotional baggage and experience physical discomfort but chalk it up to simply being part of growing up. What we don’t realize is that in many cases, the two are connected. We’re putting up with physical and emotional pain when we don’t have to.
In this episode, Kim Kolodiji, a physical therapist and business owner, shares how to tap into our emotions and change our lives for the better.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Learn to listen to your body
- Discover how your emotions are linked to your muscles
- Incorporate the Emotional Freedom Technique into your life
Episode Highlights:
[01:37] Kim’s Path Down the Steiner Route
Twenty years into her career in physical therapy, Kim found herself in a slump. She wasn’t getting the results she wanted and her patients weren’t making full recoveries. But in 2011, Kim met Rebecca Steiner of the Steiner Institute and became her apprentice.
Kim learned how to listen to her patients better, and realized that you don’t have to age with pain. You don’t have to limit yourself in life.
[11:38] Your Body’s Wisdom
As opposed to more traditional forms of physical therapy, the “Steiner Route” goes deep into concepts like joint movement and muscle alignment, and how they relate to our emotions.
By listening to the wisdom of our bodies, we can help heal them. Matt is Kim’s patient as well!
[21:03] The Science of Emotion
The longer we keep negative emotions in our bodies, the harder it becomes for our nervous systems to deal with them. Opening ourselves up to high-vibration emotions like joy and peace reflects in our posture.
[32:35] The Emotional Freedom Technique
Certain “meridian points” on our bodies are linked to certain emotions. By identifying the root of our emotional pain, we can address our physical pain as well.
Listen to the full episode to hear Matt and Kim’s discussion on the Emotional Freedom Technique!
Notable Quotes
[13:42] — [13:52]“The emotions that were stored in my body that were negative were ones I didn't want to admit that I had. That is the issue.” - Matt
[17:17] — [17:25]“I was saying, ‘No, I'm super happy. I love everything that's going on. I'm really positive.’ Subconsciously, my body was saying, ‘Yes, I have anger stored in my body.’ - Matt
[23:53] — [23:58]
“It's just these bad moods that get in the way of us feeling what's at our core already.” - Matt
[36:21] — [36:28]“Even though I'm feeling the emotion of anger, it's okay. I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” - Matt
Links to Resources:
Kim’s LinkedIn
Thrive Physical Therapy
Steiner Institute
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About the Guest:
Kim Kolodiji is a physical therapist with 34 years under her belt, as well as an independent business owner. She started Thrive Physical Therapy as a way to provide one-on-one integrative therapy with a focus on helping people achieve their personal rehab and wellness goals.
Kim’s other ventures include being a licensed massage therapist, an energy healing practitioner, and the owner of a small-business massage and bodywork practice, Awakenings Massage.
So many people are held back by fear. It’s always easier to stay in your comfort zone but that is not where you reach your full potential. To surpass the limits and transform your life, you must push past your fears and reframe how you look at life’s challenges.
In this episode, Steve Gill, the #1 Coach, shares how to conquer fear and transform your life and business for the better.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Discover how to face your fears
- Regain control over your life
- Find out how to thrive in uncertain times
- Overcome challenges
- Learn how to get into a good mood
Episode Highlights:
[03:44] How to Deal with Fear
The first step to dealing with fear is to take notice of how you’re feeling. Fear and faith exist in your mind. While fear causes your mind to run wild, faith is directed focus. Reframing the way you think about fear will give it new meaning because nothing in life has any meaning except the one you give it.
[10:42] Taking Back Control
There’s a lot of fear in entrepreneurship; that’s why you need more certainty. Rituals are controllable practices that will help give you a sense of control, thus eliminating fear.
Rituals plus routine equals peak performance. Giving meaning to your actions can make even the simplest decisions feel incredibly empowering.
[16:52] Thriving Despite Fear
Find out what you’re afraid of and ask yourself if you would do it if your fear did not exist. If the answer is yes, then you need to do it. The mark of a great business is how you thrive amidst the chaos and fear.
[25:00] Meeting Your Worthy Opponents
Worthy opponents come into your life to help you become the best version of yourself. When you meet people who challenge you, they are meant for you. It’s happening for you — not to you — to conquer that worthy opponent and step up to another level.
[28:50] Getting Into a Good Mood
Tony Robbins would say there are only two states of being: the beautiful state and the suffering state. Exercise your emotional muscles by acknowledging when you’re in the suffering state so you can overcome it and get to the beautiful state.
Notable quotes
[10:18] — [10:30]
“The fear is always there. And you’ve talked about it earlier here. You just have to trump the fear, you have to be more powerful than the fear. And you do that with faith. And faith is this directed focus.” - Matt
[20:28] — [10:30]
“Conquer this one small hard thing that’s not going to hurt you — it won't hurt you, it’ll help you — and then the rest of your day, the hard things really aren’t that hard to just go ahead and step forward and do them.” - Matt
[32:19] — [32:26]
“A mood is not just an emotion and thought patterns in our head. A mood is a full-body experience.” - Matt
Links to Resources:
steve.gill@tonyrobbins.com
@sgresultscoach
MAXOUT Your Life by Ed Mylett
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About the Guest: Steve Gill is a Senior Mentor/Platinum Coach, and Master Business Results Trainer, for Tony Robbins. The top 1% best coaching in the world. He has worked with different individuals and businesses around the world on almost every topic imaginable. He was named Coach of the Year in 2017 and 2019 for his ability to implement Tony’s strategies and for his impact on his clients.
Looking back on your life, you can probably recall at least a few instances in which you overcame obstacles. Whether big or small, they were all a part of your journey. What got you through those difficult situations?
In this episode, Shannon Hawkins, shares how her faith has helped her through many adversities and how she has received blessings by giving back to others.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- How to dig yourself out of the trenches
- Dealing with negative moods emotions
- Appreciating all that you have
- Giving back makes room for blessings
- Have faith in God and His plan for you
Episode Highlights:
[03:44] Getting Out of Bad Moods
Many years back, Shannon had to dig herself out of the trenches and talk herself out of many negative situations. Now, people see her gift as helping others with their own life obstacles.
Shannon was young when her dad died and it affected her tremendously growing up without a Dad. She got pregnant with her firstborn at a very young age. She had to put herself through school and work while raising him. These are only some of the trenches that Shannon had to dig herself out of — and now she is living a beautiful, abundant life.
[07:04] Dealing with Abandonment
It might be difficult to realize but when God takes someone from us, He does it to protect us. Matt talks about his appreciation for his mother’s efforts in raising him. Shannon had a similar story when she was hustling to provide for her son at a young age.
One time, she brought home shrimp to put in their ramen noodles after receiving a bonus and her son considered it a luxury. He was able to see the fruits of his mother’s hard work and seeing him appreciate what was in front of him was a moment Shannon will never forget.
[12:32] Giving Back to Others
When her son was around four or five, Shannon didn’t have the money to buy him a Christmas present. She had made a promise to herself that if there came a time that she wasn’t living paycheck to paycheck, she’d give to other people.
Now, she brings food to families in their communities. She even took in a homeless man named Charles — listen to the full episode to hear her inspiring story.
[26:17] Shannon’s Faith
Shannon’s faith became strong because it was about all she had as a young mom. When she had a hard time sleeping, she was advised to pray before going to bed. By continuing to do that, she was able to finally find peace and trust in the Lord.
Everybody has moments where they doubt if they will be able to overcome hardships. But if God brings you to it, He’ll bring you through it. In the end, it will help you learn and grow.
Links to Resources:
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Shannon Hawkins has been voted the best interior designer in Charleston for the past three years. She is the owner of Refresh Your Nest, a company that helps homeowners and real estate professionals to improve the interior of their homes or offices. After spending 15 years in the medical field, she finally tapped into her life-long love of design.
Her mission is to not only elevate people’s homes but their spirits. She touches the lives of others every single day through the work she does and gives back in any way she can. Outside of design, she enjoys trips to the beach with her family, live music and of course, scouring antique shops for hidden gems.
Do you consider yourself a pessimist or an optimist? In any case, positivity is an attitude toward life that you can choose to adopt. Some people believe that positivity is an innate trait, but this is not the case. From the moment you wake up, there are small things you can do to start your day on a positive note. You can cultivate a positive attitude by changing your habits and thinking. Positivity is not just about having pleasant moments; it is also about finding the good amid adversity.
In this episode, Matt O'Neill talks with guest Marcia Germain about what positivity is — how they incorporate it into their daily lives and share it with the people that surround them. They also offer advice on how you can choose positivity and apply it in your life.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Positivity is selfish, but in a good way, because it allows you to choose yourself
- Know that you are enough
- Live your passion, even if only in a few aspects of your life
- Don’t write out the negative people around you, encourage positivity instead
- Be kind to others and look for the good in their situations
- Life's adversities provide opportunities for growth
Episode Highlights:
[1:23] Let the Positivity Spread Around
Matt and Marcia share their recent victories in life. Marcia discusses the success of her vision dream board workshop with teens and how rewarding it is to connect with young people.
[6:06] Start Your Day Positively
Getting out of bed and starting your day can be difficult at times. There are, however, small steps you can take to get back on track. Consider what you are grateful for and how you can express your gratitude to others.
[12:35] Put Your Passion Into Your Daily Activities
Passion leads to happiness, but most often people do not have their dream job. Living with passion means finding it in the components of your career and other aspects of your life. It is important to understand that no career or job is perfect.
[17:30 ] Energy is Contagious
Energy whether positive or negative radiates to the people around you. There is a saying that goes, “You are the same person as those closest to you”. However, not everyone we interact with will be in a positive mood all the time. Remember to choose kindness.
[24:12] Growth Comes from Good and Bad Experiences
There is an assumption that optimistic people are born with optimism. You go through different experiences in life that shape the person you are today. There is a silver lining in every negative experience. It’s about how you look at the experience and what you take from it.
Links to Resources:
The Secret
Guest Bio
Marcia Germain is an account executive at Choice Home Warranty and a personal life coach at Yours Truly Life Coaching. She helps others find and set their goals to live meaningful lives.
Do you know what self-confidence is? It’s a feeling that you can succeed at what you are doing. The opposite is having low self-esteem or low self-confidence: feeling like you can't do what you want to do. But ultimately, self-confidence isn't about what the world shows you; it's about what you believe.
In this episode, Matt O'Neill will share his life story — how his family faced discrimination, the challenges he faced as a child, and how he overcame them. He'll also share three critical pieces for building your self-confidence.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
- Hurting yourself hurts other people
- Belief is all that self-confidence is
- Identify low confidence beliefs and write the truth beside them
- Some low confidence beliefs can be helpful, but you can't keep them forever
- Tell yourself that you can
- When you fully believe something, the world will feel it too
- Do not let yourself down
Episode Highlights:
[01:03] Generations of Low Self-Confidence
Matt and his family lived difficult lives for generations. Matt's grandparents fled Ireland due to the potato famine and were treated like lesser people when they arrived in the US.
These experiences created generational pain. The thing is, only people who are in pain hurt others. Matt’s father constantly told him that he was unworthy of good things. Unfortunately, as a child, Matt believed it.
[11:35] What Is Self-Confidence?
Belief is all that self-confidence is. Self-confidence can give you momentum, but everything will slide backward if you think things are going wrong. It all comes down to what you believe — if you think you’re going to succeed, you will.
[16:54] Manifest Powerful Beliefs, But Know When to Let Go
Matt’s grandfather believed that their family was full of determined fighters. It was a powerful belief that kept him alive on the streets of New York.
Matt inherited this energy and used it to fight for everything, whether success or survival. It helped him become successful today, however, being a fighter isn't a happy place. He eventually changed that belief to "success flows easily to me." It was a better mindset than thinking he needed to fight. When your subconsciousness knows what self-confidence is, the world will begin to validate your beliefs.
[23:34] Telling Yourself You Can
A critical element to building self-confidence is believing you can do something. Someone else might tell you that they believe in you — a real confidence booster. However, you don't have to wait for someone else to believe in you or tell you that you can do it — you can tell yourself. Write down in a journal every day until your subconscious fully believes you.
[24:40] Keep Your Promises to Yourself
How you act in one thing is how you do everything. It's critical never to let yourself down; you're the only person you can count on. Even when it's hard, you have to drag yourself out of bed.
[28:09] Doing Lots of Work and Aiming for Big Goals
Doing a lot of work in a short amount of time always increases your self-confidence and self-belief. When you put in the work, you believe the results are coming. That is self-confidence — the belief in yourself and your success.
Links to Resources:
Lou Holtz
Success & happiness in life would be so easy if it weren’t for our ego and its survival emotions of fear, frustration, hurt, guilt, anger, and judgment. Join Matt O’Neill each week as he discusses the journey from the ego’s negativity to the authentic peace and joy of the soul. Learn how to overcome the limiting thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that are holding you back from living the life of your dreams.