Invincible You with Dr. Alex Avila: Recent Episodes
Dr. Alex Avila
What if you could transform negativity and fear into the highest form of inner and outer triumph? You can do this with the power of LoveQ, your innate Love Intelligence.
LoveQ is the union of self-love with the loving energy of the Higher Nature, also known as God or Spirit.
On this week's episode of Love University, we explore how to tap into the innate source of compassion and goodness: the Higher Nature within you.
Here are three ways:
- Reconnect with Your Higher Nature
This is the most authentic part of your mind and soul, where love and wisdom naturally reside. When you draw from this inner source, you no longer feel that you must struggle through life alone. Instead, you discover a reservoir of strength that helps you face challenges with greater peace and confidence. The more you recognize beauty and kindness in everyday life, the more you awaken your LoveQ and experience the caring intelligence at the heart of the universe. - Break Free from Spiritual Disconnection and Bad Me
Two powerful Thought Demons, critical inner voices, seek to separate you from your Higher Nature. They are Spiritual Disconnection (alienation from your inner truth) and Bad Me (not good enough). These malevolent forces try to convince you that you are alone and unworthy of love. Together, they create loneliness and self-doubt, weakening your connection to the loving energy that sustains you. As you reconnect with your Higher Nature, these destructive voices gradually lose their influence. Self-acceptance replaces self-condemnation, while compassionate unity replaces isolation. - Discover the Friend Within
A beautiful description of the Higher Nature comes from Sufi tradition. It is called the Friend, the one who never condemns or abandons you. Instead, they encourage, comfort, and remind you of your true nature. The more you strengthen your relationship with the Friend, the more naturally you express patience and kindness toward yourself and others. Eventually, you discover a life-changing truth: the Friend has never been separate from you.
You are, and always have been, the Friend, the ultimate source of your truth and power.
Rejoice: The Higher Nature within you arises.
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What if the answers to your biggest problems were right there at your fingertips?
On this week's episode of Love University, Dr. Avila reveals the secrets to solving life's seemingly unsolvable problems. He answers your most pressing questions about love, loneliness, happiness, and finding your purpose. Although you may have spent years searching for answers outside yourself, the truth is that lasting change begins within. As you strengthen your Invincible Mind, the part of you that refuses to be defeated, you activate your inner power and begin to take charge of your life.
Here are three important lessons from this week's discussion:
- Find Love by Becoming More Loving
People often ask how to find someone to love and how to overcome loneliness. The answer is to become the person you want to be with. Instead of waiting for someone to complete you, develop your natural talents and extend loving energy to others without expectation. When you do this, you transform loneliness into connection. The more love you express, the more love returns to your life. - Build Your Invincible Mind
When life becomes frustrating, you may ask, “Why is this happening to me?” A better question is, “How can I strengthen my Invincible Mind?” Self-defeating thoughts create the circumstances you struggle against. As you replace fear and self-doubt with peace and inner love, you begin to live invincibly and achieve your dreams. - Happiness Begins Within
You may believe that happiness depends on finding the perfect relationship, career, or opportunity. In reality, lasting happiness grows from a deeper source: your Invincible Mind. As you begin to trust your inner knowing, you will find the answers you are seeking.
Always remember: The peace and fulfillment you seek is already inside you. Just look and you will find it. Be invincible.
What if the answers you've been searching for have been inside you all along?
On this week’s episode of Love University, Dr. Avila answers some of your most important questions about love, loneliness, happiness, frustration, and personal growth. Many people spend years searching for external solutions to inner struggles, only to discover that lasting change begins with a different way of thinking. As you strengthen your Invincible Mind, many of life's biggest problems begin to dissolve because you’re approaching them from a higher level of understanding.
Here are three powerful lessons from Dr. Avila’s answers to your questions:
- Love Yourself First and Loneliness Loses Its Power
People often ask how they can find someone to love, or how can they overcome loneliness. The answer lies within. When you become comfortable with yourself and develop your natural talents, your neediness begins to disappear. Instead of desperately searching for someone to complete you, you become a whole person who naturally attracts healthier relationships. One of the fastest ways to dissolve loneliness is by extending loving energy outward. Help someone who is hurting. Encourage a lonely friend. Volunteer your time. As you give love without expectation, you discover that the love you were searching for has found its way back to you. - Change Your Thinking Before You Try to Change Your Circumstances
Many unfavorable situations begin long before the circumstances themselves appear. They often grow from self-defeating thoughts that shape your choices, relationships, and expectations. Instead of asking, "Why does this always happen to me?" ask, "How can I strengthen my Invincible Mind so I respond differently next time?" As your thinking improves, your decisions are more favorable. Better decisions create better circumstances. Your future begins to change because you have changed the person creating it: You. - Happiness Comes From Within
Many people believe that happiness depends on finding the perfect relationship, career, income, or opportunity. Those experiences can add satisfaction to life, but lasting happiness comes from a much deeper source. Like the sun, you can choose to shine regardless of changing circumstances. When your peace depends on what happens inside your Invincible Mind, you become emotionally stronger and more resilient. Instead of searching endlessly for happiness, you become a person who naturally radiates it wherever you go.
Now it’s your turn. Stand up and proclaim: I am ready for life’s challenges. I am Invincible.
Do you know you can learn a secret power from dogs that will change your life?
It is called extending loving energy without expectation. On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore how dogs offer a simple but profound lesson in elevated human connection. They give affection freely, stay emotionally present, and express warmth without constantly calculating what they will receive in return. You can benefit greatly when you apply this kind of unconditional loving energy in your relationships, work, and everyday interactions.
Here are three ways to utilize the dog love secret in your own life:
- Show Genuine Interest in Other People
Dogs pay close attention to humans. They follow them, observe them, and stay emotionally engaged. Human beings often do the opposite, becoming trapped in self-consciousness and constantly thinking about their own worries, appearance, or needs.
One of the most attractive qualities you can develop is the ability to display sincere interest in others. Ask people about their goals, passions, struggles, and dreams. Listen carefully instead of waiting for your turn to speak. When you focus on others with curiosity and empathy, people feel seen and appreciated. That emotional connection naturally draws them closer to you.
- Bring More Enthusiasm Into Daily Life
Dogs greet life with enthusiasm. They play, explore, run, jump, and approach ordinary moments with excitement. Adults often lose that spirit through routine, stress, and emotional heaviness.
Enthusiasm changes your emotional presence. This week, aim to be more playful and laugh more freely. Enjoy spontaneous moments and approach life with greater openness and less rigidity. People will be drawn to you when you radiate energy, warmth, and humor.
- Do Nice Things Without Keeping Score
Dogs show affection naturally. They comfort people, stay close during difficult moments, and offer companionship without worrying about what they will receive back. Your relationships become more loving and joyful when you give in a similar spirit.
You can have a tremendous emotional impact on others when you offer a kind word, listen empathetically without judgement, and help someone through a hard time. When you give from your genuine goodwill rather than hidden expectations, you strengthen both yourself and those you help. This creates more rewarding relationships, greater emotional peace, and a deeper sense of fulfillment.
Start today. Apply the loving energy of the dog and learn the secrets of authentic connection. Love without expectation and your world will be transformed
What if loving without expectation could activate your inner power and fulfill your dreams?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore the secret to your triumph in life: extend love without expectation. Many people give love because they want something back, then they’re disappointed when they don’t receive what they were expecting. Things are different when loving energy flows naturally from your core. You become impervious to the reactions of others. You access your inner flame and restore the health and happiness in your life.
Here are three ways to practice this principle in daily life:
- Be Like the Sun
The sun shines on everyone and everything: the young, the old, the pretty, the no so pretty, the poor and the rich. Some people love the sun and lay out to receive its rays; others avoid it and cover up. But the sun doesn’t get mad or feels hurt if some people dislike it. It just keeps shining. In the same way, be like the sun. Be kind and loving to others regardless of how they respond to you. When you shine your loving energy without thinking of what you will get back, you become more powerful and inwardly accepting. You radiate kindness and goodwill because that is who you really are. - What Type of Nice Are You?
When you’re nice to yourself but not to others, you’re self-absorbed. When you’re nice to others and not yourself, you’re self-diminishing. When you’re nice to both yourself and others, you are a high loving energy person who has a great relationship with everything around you. When you’re truly kind, you know when to be generous and when to be firm. Your warmth is authentic because it reflects your balanced inner nature.
- Love Without Fear
Fear grows when you become emotionally attached to specific outcomes. But when you love without expectation your life elevates. You realize there is no fear in giving, there is only fear in taking. When you focus on getting something from life or other people, you’re always worried that you won’t get enough, or that what you have will be taken from you. Love without expectation brings the comfort and security back into your emotional life. You give from the abundance of the love you have inside. When you do this, you will always win.
Start today to extend love without expectation. Smile at others, pay sincere compliments, help in practical tasks, listen empathetically without judgement. Be like the sun and spread your warm and caring everywhere you go. Your world will be brighter and more joyous than ever before.
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When was the last time you felt truly spontaneous?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore the life-changing power of spontaneity. Children and animals naturally live in the moment. They laugh, play, explore, and react with openness and curiosity. As adults, many people become trapped in routines, repetition, and overly serious living. Spontaneity helps you reconnect with the lighter, freer, and alive parts of yourself that become buried beneath stress and obligation. With more spontaneity, you experience more creativity, fun, and success in your inner and outer life.
Here are three ways to bring spark and exuberance back into your life:
- Recapture the Playful Energy of Childhood
One of the fastest ways to awaken spontaneity is by spending time with your children and animals. They naturally embody joy and presence and invite you into their world of fun and exploration. Playing games, running outdoors, being silly, or simply relaxing without an agenda soften rigid mental patterns that build up through adult preoccupations. As you reconnect with your playfulness, your mood lightens and everyday frustrations lose much of their emotional weight. Life begins to feel open, relaxed, and enjoyable again. - Play All the Keys on the Mental Piano
Many people become emotionally stuck because they play one key on their “mental piano”—they keep repeating the same negative thought, for example, "I can't find success." A healthier and more expansive approach is to play all the psychological keys, including thoughts of gratitude, compassion, joy, curiosity, and hope. As your emotional flexibility increases, your resilience and creativity rise as well. Instead of being trapped inside one note of negativity, you create a richer and more uplifting psychological life. - Enjoy the Easy Roll of Life
Many people exhaust themselves trying to force relationships and opportunities to happen exactly the way they want. The “easy roll of life” teaches a different approach. Imagine that what you want, a certain outcome, is like a rock. Instead of desperately chasing the rock (person or situation) uphill, allow it to roll naturally downhill to you. You trust that the right people and circumstances will move toward you in the proper time. This mindset reduces strain, anxiety, and emotional pressure. You remain focused on your goals, but you stop trying to control every detail. As you relax into the rhythms of life, your intuition becomes sharper, your creativity increases, and you have better results than ever before.
Spontaneity can help you break free from rigidity and enable you to experience life with greater enjoyment and vitality. When you play through life while still taking your responsibilities seriously, you find the perfect balance. You live your dreams with pure joy and fulfillment.
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On this week’s episode of Love University, we continue exploring the principle of Reversal and how paradoxical action can radically change the quality of your life. Instead of exhausting yourself by forcing outcomes, Reversal introduces a wiser approach. By changing how you relate to time, adversity, and even your own thoughts, you begin opening possibilities to better your life in a powerful way
Here are three reversals that can transform your life:
- Get Your Time Back by Giving It AwayModern life teaches people to guard their time obsessively, yet rushing makes you feel emotionally depleted and disconnected. Reversal teaches that your experience of time expands when you invest it meaningfully in people and experiences you genuinely value. Sharing an unhurried conversation, spending relaxed time with family, helping others, or simply enjoying a quiet moment restores a sense of presence and spaciousness. Life begins to feel fuller, calmer, and more enjoyable.
- Be Grateful for the Bad as Well as the GoodPainful experiences often contain life-changing lessons. Loss, disappointment, and hardship can deepen your appreciation for love, friendship, and the fragile beauty of life itself. When you begin looking for the meaning inside difficulties, your emotional perspective widens and your resilience grows stronger. Gratitude becomes more mature because it now includes both the joys of life and the wisdom gained through struggle.
- Remove Thoughts That Weaken YouYou may carry mental habits that quietly drain your energy. These include perfectionism, fear, and regret. Reversal teaches you to separate yourself from destructive patterns rather than automatically believing them. As you stop identifying with fearful or self-critical thoughts, your mind becomes steadier, and your confidence more grounded. Over time, you begin experiencing a freer and stronger version of yourself.
Paradoxical action can help you reverse frustration and overcome mental self-sabotage. Start today. Do the opposite of what you’ve been doing to receive the greatest prizes in life: joy, inner mastery, and love.
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What if the secret to your success was to do the opposite of what you’ve been doing?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we introduce a powerful principle called Reversal, a complete turnaround of your old patterns to produce superior results in your relationships, finances, career, and personal life. When effort alone is not making things better, you need a complete transformation of the way you’ve been doing things, a reversal of your usual habits and behaviors.
Here are three ways to apply this practice to your daily life:
- Make Friends with What You RejectYou may have spent years pushing away parts of yourself you believed were weaknesses, without realizing those same traits carry hidden strengths. A short attention span can indicate quick energy and the ability to move efficiently between tasks. A strong desire for approval can show a natural ability to connect with others and build relationships. As you redefine these traits, you stop working against yourself and begin using your natural tendencies in more productive ways, creating ease and effectiveness in your daily life.
- Turn Fear into Forward MovementFear has a way of keeping you mentally frozen by focusing your attention on what could go wrong. Instead of waiting for fear to disappear, consider how you would act if you trusted your ability to handle the situation. Then act like that. Now your focus moves toward progress, and each step builds confidence. Over time, you rely less on how you feel in the moment and more on your ability to act despite the fear. This emboldens you and lets your joy soar.
- Give Yourself Space Instead of PressureWhen you constantly push yourself without pause, your energy begins to decline and your thinking becomes less clear. This leads to frustration and reduced effectiveness. By giving yourself space to step back, rest, and reset, you have better focus and stronger performance. Returning with renewed energy allows you to feel good about yourself and enjoy what you’re doing. With increased contentment and internal balance, your results will be successful and your satisfaction will rise.
In the end, reversal is about taking pressure off yourself and changing your stuck momentum into forward progress. The paradox of life is that by redirecting your energies toward your loving growth, you create the conditions for outer excellence. Step into the power of Invincible You and you will achieve your greatest dreams.
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Is money working with you, or is it working against you?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we delve deeper into the concept of Loving Money Energy (LME) and how your relationship with money shapes your life. LME is the concept that money is a form of loving energy that can be used to uplift yourself, others, and the world. When you treat money with tension, fear, or desperation, the loving energy flow becomes restricted. When you circulate it with a mindset of care and goodwill, it spreads to others and flows back to you.
Here are three ways to strengthen your relationship with Loving Money Energy:
- Treat Money Like a Friend, Not Something You Chase
Many people approach money with urgency and pressure. They chase it, hoard it, and worry about its loss. But this often pushes money away from you.
Think of money as a friend. If you invite a friend over and have delicious snacks, a fun environment, and provide good conversation, they will want to come back. But if you demand they come with gifts, they will likely stay away.
Money is like a friend you need to nurture and cultivate. Just as people are drawn to individuals who are warm and generous, money tends to follow those who create value consistently. Money becomes your friend when you attract it with your talent and contribution, not neediness or craving.
- Build Bonds, Not Transactions
Every exchange carries emotional weight. Business interactions are not only financial. They are relational.
You may slightly overpay a merchant or vendor to create bonds of cheery affinity. Think of the overpay as helping them—perhaps with their child’s college education or their elderly parents’ medical bills. Chances are, they will return the favor by offering you a discount in the next transaction. Even if they don’t, you have created a loving energy space for money to come back to you, perhaps through another person who also projects a LME generous spirit.
- Stay Generous, Stay Disciplined
Generosity does not mean passivity. It requires awareness and strength. There will be individuals who attempt to take advantage of your goodwill. Recognizing this does not require anger or withdrawal. It needs clarity.
When you maintain both generosity and firmness, your decisions become balanced. You can give where there is mutual respect and withdraw when there is manipulation. This preserves your LME and keeps your relationships aligned with your values. Over time, this approach filters out unstable connections and strengthens those built on trust and loving reciprocity.
With loving money energy, you spread goodwill, value, and contribution throughout your community and ultimately the world. LME is what helps us surpass limitations and live our most invincible lives.
Extend Loving Money Energy in your daily life, and you will experience a deeper sense of abundance and purpose. For more self-wisdom, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27
Would you like to experience wealth that expands your life and the lives of others?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we introduce a powerful concept called Loving Money Energy (LME). LME is a way of seeing money as an expression of loving energy that moves from person to person, recognizing value and enriching lives along the way. Instead of viewing money as something to fear, chase, or control, it becomes a conscious exchange of appreciation, contribution, and human connection.
When you understand money in this way, your relationship with it begins to change. You move from tension to flow, from pressure to purpose. Money becomes part of a larger system of giving and receiving that reflects how you live, create, and contribute.
Here are three ways to understand and activate Loving Money Energy:
- See Money as a Flow of Value and Appreciation
Money represents value in motion. When you express your abilities, your effort, or your creativity, you receive something in return that reflects that contribution. When you give money, you’re acknowledging the value created by someone else.
This perspective changes how you interact with money on a daily basis. Instead of treating it as something separate from your life, you begin to see it as an extension of your actions and your intentions. It becomes a tool for reinforcing what you value, supporting what matters, and participating in a continuous exchange that connects people in meaningful ways.
- Shift from Scarcity to Expansion
A scarcity mindset creates tension. It keeps your focus on what is missing, what could be lost, and what others might take. That mindset contracts your thinking and limits your willingness to act.
An expansion mindset opens your perception. You begin to see possibilities where you once saw limits. You become more willing to create, to invest your energy, and to move forward with confidence. As your thinking expands, your actions follow. You stop operating from hesitation and begin operating from positive expectations. This shift alone can transform your internal state and your external results.
- Give and Receive with Awareness
Loving Money Energy grows through circulation. When you give with awareness, even in small ways, you reinforce the flow. You begin to experience yourself as someone who contributes rather than someone who holds back.
The quality of your giving matters. When giving is driven by pressure or expectation, it creates friction. When it comes from clarity and openness, it strengthens your sense of abundance. Over time, this approach reshapes how you experience both earning and giving. You begin to trust the flow instead of resisting it, and that trust creates a more stable and empowered relationship with money.
Learn how to apply Loving Money Energy in your daily life, and you will experience a deeper sense of abundance and purpose. For more self-wisdom, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27
Would you like to expand your life instead of feeling confined by it?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore what it means to live with an Expansion Mindset, a way of thinking and being that steadily increases your energy, clarity, and emotional range. When your mindset expands, your life expands with it. Your perception sharpens, your relationships deepen, and your sense of possibility widens. Expansion is not something that happens occasionally; it’s a daily orientation toward growth, contribution, and higher living.
Here are four ways to develop and sustain your Expansion Mindset:
- Expand Your Energy Through Growth and Contribution
An Expansion Mindset begins with the decision to grow beyond your current limits. You look for opportunities to learn, to experience, and to contribute. You listen more attentively, help when you can, and remain curious about the world around you. As you stretch your thinking and behavior, your internal energy increases.
This process creates a powerful effect. The more you give, learn, and engage, the more energy you generate. Your mental state becomes brighter and more stable. Everyday experiences become richer. Food tastes better, conversations deepen, and simple moments carry more meaning. Expansion transforms ordinary life into something more vivid and rewarding.
- Use Expansion to Break the Cycle of Contraction
When your mindset contracts, your world narrows. Attention turns inward in an unhealthy way. Small concerns become overwhelming. Negative thoughts repeat. In this state, energy decreases and your sense of possibility fades.
Expansion reverses this pattern. Instead of withdrawing, you extend your energy outward. You connect with others, engage in meaningful activity, and move your attention beyond your own concerns. This outward movement restores perspective and reduces the intensity of negative thinking, reopening access to creativity, motivation, and hope.
- Expand Your Energy in Difficult Interactions
Expansion is most important when you’re dealing with challenging people. When someone approaches you with anger or negativity, their energy contracts. If you react in the same way, the situation escalates. But if you expand, the dynamic changes and things become more positive.
Expansion in this context means maintaining calm awareness while matching presence and intensity without hostility. You remain steady, you maintain eye contact, and your words stay measured and constructive. This combination of strength and softness interrupts the other person’s pattern. In many cases, their intensity decreases because your expanded energy fills the space their contraction created. Now communication becomes possible again.
- Develop a Blast Off Mentality and Sustain Momentum
Expansion accelerates when you commit focused bursts of effort to break through resistance. Like a rocket escaping gravity, you apply concentrated energy to move past initial obstacles. Once that barrier is crossed, momentum takes over and less effort is required to continue.
This can be done through small, focused actions. Break large tasks into manageable segments. Direct your attention toward what matters most each day. When you enter a state of flow, remain there as long as possible. Over time, this sustained momentum creates a self-reinforcing cycle of progress. Each success strengthens your belief in your ability to continue.
Remember: As your mindset expands, your life grows with it. Start today with the Expansion Mindset. For more self-wisdom, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.
Would you like to have an unstoppable relationship?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore one of the most decisive factors in long-term happiness and relational success: the psychological level of the people you choose to build your life with. Relationships are not neutral. They either strengthen your inner world or weaken it. They either expand your LoveQ or drain it. The difference is not based on status, wealth, intelligence, or surface chemistry. It comes down to emotional maturity and inner development.
Here are four core principles for creating unstoppable relationships:
- Learn to Recognize Invincibility Seekers
Invincibility Seekers are individuals committed to inner growth. They work on their thoughts, emotional reactions, and character. They cultivate compassion, patience, confidence, and integrity. When you’re around them, you feel steadier and more grounded.
These individuals do not need to dominate conversations or prove superiority. Their strength is calm and contained. They handle conflict with maturity. They’re kind whether they gain something from you or not. Their presence encourages you to become better without pressuring you to perform. Over time, being aligned with Invincibility Seekers elevates your own psychological level and deepens your capacity for lasting love.
- See Through the Masks of Negativity Seekers
Negativity Seekers are people who complain, gossip, and maintain a negative outlook on life. Don’t be fooled. They can appear attractive and charming at first. They may be witty, confident, and engaging. Yet beneath the surface, there is often chronic criticism, entitlement, and emotional volatility. Their kindness frequently depends on what they are receiving.
Watch how someone behaves when they can no longer get something from you. Do they remain respectful, or do they become dismissive and hostile? Negativity Seekers often thrive on behind the back talk, argument, and drama because it gives them stimulation and a false sense of power. Over time, their instability drains the emotional reserves of those closest to them. Recognizing this early protects your peace and keeps you from being in a relationship that can cause you long-term damage.
- Protect Your Psychological Integrity
It is not always possible to avoid Negativity Seekers. They may be coworkers, relatives, or even romantic partners. In these cases, emotional boundaries become essential. You must learn to separate your internal state from their external behavior.
Refuse to accept anger, gossip, or criticism as emotional currency. When negativity is offered, decline it internally. Maintain composure and steadiness. When you refuse to absorb their emotional turbulence, you conserve your energy and preserve your Invincibility. Your inner power remains intact because you don’t sacrifice your integrity for temporary approval or excitement.
- Attract Your Own Level of Development
People connect at similar psychological levels. Insecurity attracts control. Criticism attracts defensiveness. Emotional immaturity attracts chaos. If you repeatedly encounter draining relationships, examine your own internal standards.
As you strengthen your self-respect, emotional control, and self-compassion, your relational landscape changes. You stop tolerating behavior that diminishes you. You begin attracting individuals who operate from stability, growth, and generosity. Invincibility Seekers recognize one another because they share a commitment to development and integrity. When you become the kind of person who values growth and emotional strength, you naturally align with others who do the same.
An unstoppable relationship with an Invincibility Seeker is your greatest prize. Start developing one today and your life will rise with love and joy. For more self-wisdom, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.
What if you could create inner greatness by designing your personal imprint of invincibility?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we learn how inner power begins by implementing your Invincibility Blueprint—your inner guide to excellence. At its core, this mental roadmap strengthens your capacity to act from self-love and higher intention rather than impulse or fear.
Here are three foundational components of your Invincibility Blueprint:
- Do One Right Act and Build Momentum
Inner strength begins with a single intentional decision. It may be as simple as starting a task you’ve postponed, initiating a difficult conversation, or committing to one disciplined improvement in your health, finances, or relationships. That first right act carries disproportionate power because it alters your internal narrative. You move from thinking about change to enacting it, from hesitation to alignment.
Over time, these small, consistent actions accumulate and your confidence grows naturally. Each right act reinforces self-trust and self-affirmation. Your momentum builds quickly and your Invincible Blueprint takes form as you choose growth over comfort and authenticity over avoidance.
- Become a Mental Pathmaker Through Repetition
Every repeated action deepens a neural pathway. The behaviors you practice most frequently become the easiest to access. When you repeatedly choose constructive routines, you gradually replace old patterns with new ones that better serve your long-term goals and higher nature.
With continued repetition, what once required conscious force begins to operate with greater ease. Ultimately, your Invincibility imprint becomes part of how you operate rather than something you’re striving to become. You begin acting from your true self without strain.
- Expand Beyond Contraction
When your energy contracts, your positive perception narrows. Regret fixes attention on the past, anger distorts judgment, and self-doubt limits initiative. In that contracted state, your field of possibility shrinks and your forward motion slows.
Expansion requires a deliberate reinterpretation of difficulty. You see challenges as instruction and setbacks as learning experiences. You begin asking what this moment is shaping within you rather than what it is taking from you. As your soul grows, your creativity resurfaces and your willpower is strengthened. In time, your self-love deepens and your inner power grows.
Now your Blueprint for sustained excellence is ready, and your mind and spirit are ready to soar.
Welcome to Invincible You. Create your Invincibility Blueprint and live your dreams. Also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.
What if your power returns the moment you return to the core of your impeccable being?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we continue the exploration of the Hara, your psychological and energetic centerpoint of balance, intuition, and grounded strength. In Part 1, we introduced the Hara as your internal anchor. In Part 2, we go deeper into the discipline of living from that anchor. Focus is not accidental. Stability is not random. Inner authority is cultivated. When you operate from your Hara, your life gains direction and steadiness without strain. You stop chasing energy and begin conserving and directing it.
Here are three ways to deepen your Hara focus and strengthen your inner command:
- Guard Your Attention and Direct Your Energy
Hara focus begins with disciplined attention. The people you associate with often influence your emotional baseline. Calm, patient, purpose-driven individuals strengthen your center. Chronic exposure to outrage, sensationalism, and negative narratives fractures it. Your concentration is a finite resource. When it is scattered across gossip, endless scrolling, or catastrophizing, your power weakens.
Every deliberate action rebuilds realignment. When you make each move purposeful, you begin to concentrate your forces. Nervous energy decreases. Your breathing steadies. You think more clearly. Over time, your presence gains power. Instead of reacting to every stimulus, you become selective about what deserves your response. Energy that once leaked into distraction gathers into strength.
- Create a Hara Focus Statement and Live From It
Power increases when direction becomes clear. A Hara Focus Statement is a short declaration of what your life is organized around. It may center on service, creativity, leadership, faith, family, or mastery of a craft. When you define it and revisit it daily, your decisions simplify. Competing impulses lose intensity. You stop drifting.
History shows us that focused individuals concentrate their energy around one guiding aim. Lincoln focused on freeing the slaves. Martin Luther King Jr. concentrated on civil rights. Florence Nightingale dedicated herself to healing with compassion. Their clarity multiplied their force. The same principle applies personally. When your mission is defined, setbacks no longer scatter you. They refine you. Each obstacle becomes part of the path rather than proof of defeat.
- Stand in the Centerpoint and Integrate Your Extremes
The Hara is your emotional midpoint. Between arrogance and insecurity lies grounded confidence. Between aggression and passivity there is self-respect. Between despair and fantasy you find mature optimism. Living from the Centerpoint allows you to hold these opposites without being torn apart by them.
Before long, you begin to see that disappointment and fulfillment are connected. High expectations create the possibility of both. Small expectations reduce risk but also limit expansion. When you stand in the middle, you stop fearing either outcome. Time loosens its grip. You no longer feel chased by the future or haunted by the past. You live in the present moment with full awareness, drawing from memory and vision without being dominated by either.
When you return to the core of your impeccable being, distractions lose their pull and pressure loses its grip. What remains is steadiness, clarity, and the quiet authority of someone who knows exactly who they are.
Also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.
What if your deepest source of confidence, clarity, and peace has been within you all along—quiet, steady, and waiting to be activated?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore the ancient yet profoundly relevant concept of the Hara—a center point located two inches below the navel, long recognized in Eastern traditions as the wellspring of intuition, balance, and inner power. In martial arts, practitioners who root themselves in the Hara are said to be immovable, not because of physical strength alone, but because they’re grounded in the core of their being. But the Hara is not just for warriors. It’s for anyone who wants to live with presence, be immune to external chaos, and return to a life led by truth and strength. When you center yourself in your Hara, you become your most powerful and authentic self.
Here are three transformational principles for true Hara living:
- Live from your gut—not your fear
The Hara is more than just a physical center—it is your emotional and intuitive core. It’s that deep knowing you feel in your body before your brain has time to rationalize or second-guess. When you ignore it, you often find yourself pleasing others, overriding your own needs, or apologizing for your existence. You start living from the head up—anxious, scattered, and disconnected. But when you listen to your Hara, and act on it, your entire decision-making process changes. You no longer need to debate every choice endlessly. Instead, you center yourself, you feel, and you act with certainty. Whether you’re navigating a difficult relationship, a career shift, or a personal crossroads, your Hara becomes your compass—steady and grounded in your truth.
- Self-unity is where real confidence begins. Many people walk through life as two versions of themselves: the outer self that tries to gain approval, while the inner self quietly suffers, resenting giving up their true nature. This self-division drains energy and creates emotional exhaustion. You can’t live in your Hara while living a double life—you need full self-integration. When your thoughts, actions, and words align, something powerful happens: you no longer second-guess your worth. You stop chasing validation and trying to prove your worth. Now your calm becomes unshakable because your identity is no longer divided. When you’re in the Hara, your self-worth is not something you need to earn—it becomes something you return to.
- One-point focus transforms distraction into mastery
In a world of nonstop noise and constant demands, attention is one of your most sacred resources. Without focus, your power diffuses—you end up busy but not effective, active but not fulfilled. The Hara brings you back to one-point awareness—a clear and deliberate focus on what matters most. Whether you're having a hard conversation, pursuing a creative goal, or simply making a daily decision, focusing on your Hara—the balance point two inches below your navel—allows you to cut through mental clutter and move with precious and effectiveness. You no longer waste time chasing superficial goals or dwelling on negative thoughts. You move from “doing more” to “doing what matters”—and as a result, you attract the special ingredients you have been longing for all of your life: Love, joy, and peace.
Also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.
What if your greatest power isn’t something you need to chase—but something already within you, quietly waiting to be claimed?
This week on Love University, we delve into the concept of your Reservoir of Invincibility—the deep, untapped core of strength inside you. It’s the mental and emotional wellspring that holds your most powerful states of being: peace, confidence, resilience, clarity, compassion, and purpose. When life overwhelms you, this internal reservoir is where you go to reset, refocus, and re-emerge stronger than ever before. But to access it, you need to learn how to think, feel, and act from a place of intentional mental mastery.
Here are three life-changing ways to unlock your inner power:
- Build Relentless Confidence—True Inner Knowing
Relentless Confidence is the engine of your Reservoir of Invincibility. It’s not about inflated ego or blind positivity—it’s about an unshakable knowing that you can handle what life brings. It starts with where you put your attention. Do you constantly rehearse your flaws, failures, and fears? Or do you actively remind yourself of your talents, past wins, and inner resources? Relentless Confidence means choosing to believe that more is working for you than against you. When you face challenges, you don’t collapse under the weight of fear—you lean into your strength, calmly and clearly. You stop inflating problems and start expanding your perspective. The more you train your mind to focus on what is working, instead of what is not, the more you reclaim authority over your inner world—and the more you realize that you’re bigger than whatever obstacles stand in your way.
- Become a “How Thinker”—Because Solutions Require Direction, Not Doubt
Your inner power reveals itself in the way you respond to setbacks. Most people spiral into “if” thinking: If only I hadn’t failed... If I were more disciplined... If I were younger, smarter, luckier, more attractive... But “if” thinking leads to paralysis. It drains your emotional fuel and feeds helplessness. In contrast, “How Thinkers” immediately shift their mental lens to How can I come back stronger? How can I learn from this moment? How can I turn this situation into a moment of transformation? That single shift from if to how changes the emotional chemistry of your mind—rewiring your default response from reaction to strategy. “How Thinkers” don’t deny pain; they use it. They turn breakdowns into breakthroughs because they refuse to stay in passive mode. They live in motion, not hesitation. And that motion activates the very strength they thought they had lost.
- Discard the Mental Junk—So Your Power Has Room to Flow
No matter how gifted you are, your inner reservoir can’t serve you if it’s clogged. That clutter—old regrets, guilt, resentment, fear—acts like emotional debris that blocks your access to clarity and peace. The good news? You don’t need to fix everything overnight. You just need to start making trades. Exchange peace over anger. Discipline for impulse. Truth for denial. Focus for scattered anxiety. When you do this, you're not giving up anything of value—you’re letting go of the thoughts and habits that have kept you small. You begin to clear space for your true identity to rise—a grounded, sustainable state of being. Every time you release a self-defeating thought, you expand the reach of your Invincible Mind. Every time you choose a higher emotional state, you draw deeper from the reservoir of love, success, and happiness that’s been waiting for you all along.
Listen to the full episode now on Love University and learn how to build a mind that doesn’t collapse under pressure, but expands in power and joy. Also, make sure you pick up a copy of Invincible You on Amazon at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.
On this week’s episode of Love University, we’re joined by Anne Abel, acclaimed memoirist, storyteller, and TikTok inspiration, whose book High Hopes (https://tinyurl.com/3bhmfb9t) recounts one woman’s unexpected reinvention. After decades of treatment-resistant depression—including psychiatric hospitalization and electroconvulsive therapy (ECT)—Anne made a single, life-changing decision: she said “yes” to a solo 26-day trip to Australia to follow Bruce Springsteen on tour. That journey, at age 60, became far more than an adventure. It was the beginning of a full emotional reawakening.
Here are three powerful insights from her story:
- The Cure to Sadness May Be as Simple as One “Yes”
For much of her adult life, Anne lived behind a wall of emotional numbness. Highly educated, married, and outwardly functional, she moved through the world with deep internal pain. Therapies had come and gone. ECT helped, briefly. But nothing truly shifted—until she gave herself permission to act on something instinctual. That “yes” to a Springsteen concert tour—unreasonable, unplanned—became a way back to her authentic, powerful self.
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- Healing Begins When You Stop Waiting to Feel Ready
Anne didn’t fly to Australia because she felt courageous. She did it because she knew she couldn’t stay in the life she was living. Surrounded by strangers in packed Springsteen arenas, she found something she hadn’t felt in years: vitality, meaning, and self-validation. The music, the lyrics, the crowd energy—they stirred emotions that had long been locked away. Bruce didn’t just perform—he mirrored her back to herself. She began to feel, to connect, to hope. That alone was its own kind of healing.
- You Are Not Defined by Your Past—Unless You Keep Replaying It
High Hopes is more than a travel memoir. It’s a guide to emotional renewal, bold reinvention, and reclaiming your voice after years of silence. Anne shows that transformation doesn’t require perfection—it needs permission. Through movement, music, and saying “yes” before she felt “ready,” she rewrote her narrative. Depression may have shaped her past, but it no longer had the final word. Her life began again when she stopped waiting for conditions to be perfect—and chose to live anyway.
You can follow Anne’s example by listening to your intuition and saying “Yes” to the calling of your soul.
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What if you could use the energy of anger to create peace instead of conflict?
This week on Love University, we explore how to use Anger—one of the most volatile forces in the emotional universe—for healing and empowerment. Often mistaken for strength, irrational anger is actually a form of reactivity that drains your mental energy and damages your relationships. Drawing from his book Invincible You, Dr. Avila offers practical strategies for mastering what he calls the Anger Weakness—the tendency to be consumed by frustration and irritability when you feel blocked from your desires and wishes.
Here are two key approaches to shift from anger to empowered calmness:
Use grounding and empathy to transmute anger
You don’t have to suppress your anger—you can learn to redirect it. When you stay physically grounded and emotionally aware, you can turn reactive energy into emotional strength. For example, instead of clenching your fists and raising your voice during a tense conversation, take a slow breath, plant your feet firmly on the ground, and steady your tone. This simple act calms your nervous system and keeps your mind clear; you hold your ground without aggression. In addition, make sure you recognize the humanity in others, even during disagreements. This approach not only protects your serenity—it also deepens your self-control and helps you build stronger, more respectful relationships.
Treat anger like a color until it disappears.
The true goal isn’t to erase anger—it’s to transform it. When anger arises, you can choose non-reaction: Feel the fire, but don’t fuel it. Say to yourself, “I’m experiencing a certain color at this moment. Some call it anger, but I see it as a color, for example red. I will allow myself to momentarily feel its hot intensity, but I won’t do anything about it. I will simply let it pass through me until its fierceness vanishes.” Over time, this emotional mastery over anger builds what Dr. Avila calls the Invincible Mind—a state of calm strength in which you acknowledge emotions without being overpowered by them. From this place of ultimate strength, you will transmute anger into fuel for positive change and upward soul elevation, culminating in the most wonderful of gift of all: Peace.
Learn how to manage anger with clarity, wisdom, and self-mastery. Also, pick up a copy of Invincible You at https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27.
What if you could turn regret into wisdom and self-attack into self-love? This week on Love University, we explore how to finally break the grip of regret and live with full freedom and joy.
The Regret Weakness is a subtle but persistent thought pattern—the belief that your past defines your future, and that you’re somehow unworthy of success, love, or happiness because of previous mistakes and failures. Regret, unfortunately, can lead to paralysis, low self-worth, and a repeated cycle of poor choices. But when reframed into wisdom and self-acceptance, it can be one of your greatest sources of strength and clarity.
Here are three essential takeaways from the episode:
- Separate mistakes from your identity
Regret becomes destructive when it turns into self-definition. It’s one thing to acknowledge a mistake—it’s another to believe that an error or failure means you’re fundamentally flawed. The Regret Weakness thrives on that confusion. Because of what happened in the past, you begin to believe you're “bad at relationships,” “not cut out for success,” or “too damaged to change.” But the truth is, the version of you who made those past decisions no longer exists. Healing begins when you stop dragging your old identity into your present and realize that the new you doesn’t need to repeat the cycles of the past.
- Allow progress without perfection
A common regret trap is expecting overnight transformation—then feeling like a failure when old habits resurface. But growth isn’t linear. You will have setbacks—what matters is how you interpret them. If you shame yourself for every backward step, you reinforce the very patterns you’re trying to break. But when you allow yourself to return, recommit, and realign—without judgment—you build emotional strength. The Regret Weakness loses its power when you understand that healing includes imperfection, and growth encompasses wisdom from lessons learned.
- Convert regret into learning and hope
When regret lingers, it’s usually because you haven’t yet mined the wisdom from the experience. You’re stuck in “If only…” instead of “Next time I will…” That shift—looking forward instead of backward—changes everything. Every painful memory contains valuable knowledge: what mattered to you, what you ignored, what boundary you didn’t set. When you uncover that meaning, you create a new imprint—a Loving Memory—where wisdom replaces shame, and acceptance surpasses imperfection. Now regret stops being a chain and becomes a compass to the discovery of your most loving and true self.
The bottom line: Learn how to erase regret and look forward to a glorious and wonderful future.
What do you do when you’re faced with an insurmountable obstacle? Answer: You act with realistic hope. This week at Love University, we had an inspiring time with Jennifer Dickenson—cancer survivor, wellness advocate, and author of A Case for Hope (https://tinyurl.com/4j2jukn8). In 2011, she was a busy, stressed-out lawyer who was diagnosed with stage 4 brain cancer and told she only had twelve months to live. She recovered and now teaches others how to harness their mind, body, and spirit to create durable well-being. Here are some important things to keep in mind when you’re stuck in an unwinnable place:
Hope Is a Daily Verb
One way to define hope is “focusing on the positive while taking realistic steps toward joy and meaning.” Genuine hope begins with practical optimism. You expect the best while also planning for contingencies and unexpected occurrences. In this way, you’re prepared but positive; realistic yet optimistic.
Train Your Attention on Small but Steady Goals
Big numbers—diagnoses, timelines, statistics—can paralyze you. The antidote is to work on the small numbers you can control. Begin with the smallest winnable action: a five-minute walk when your energy is low; talking to a friend for a short while when you’re lonely; reading a few pages of a spiritual book when you need inspiration. Remember: Your attention is your remedy. Focus on the things that empower and heal you: meditating, praying, exercising, listening to music, spending quality time with loved ones, or practicing a relaxing bedtime ritual (turn off devices 30 minutes before sleep). When you do these things, you will be refreshed and energized, ready to look forward to tomorrow with renewed hope and enthusiasm.
Laughter Is a Great Medicine
Laugher can save your life. Norman Cousins, the renowned journalist and author, combined humor films with medical care during a serious inflammatory illness. He recovered and wrote a classic book: Anatomy of an Illness. It’s true: Humor can lighten your life and help you gain perspective. Start this week: watch funny shows, go to a comedy show, or play improv games with your friends—the laughter that ensues will enlighten your mind and lift your spirits.
In the end, rebuilding your life is about practical, optimistic, and repeatable steps. Choose one healthy thing you can do today—do it before noon, and let tomorrow build on it. Your life will grow with hope and happiness.
What if you could transform your rushing and impatience into peace, clarity, and real accomplishment?
This week on Love University, we explore how to do exactly that. In a world addicted to speed and urgency, many people are unknowingly ruled by what Dr. Avila calls the Rush Weakness—the inner pressure to do more, faster, all the time. But rushing rarely leads to real progress. Instead, it drains energy, clouds thinking, and invites mistakes. The good news is that this mental habit can be transformed into a deeper strength known as the Mind of Patience.
Drawing from his class book, Invincible You (https://tinyurl.com/3y3szh27), Dr. Avila teaches you how to replace reactivity with calm direction so you can stop racing against time and start living with purpose.
Here’s how transformation begins:
- Recognize the Rush Weakness as a fear-based habit
Rushing feels productive, but it's often driven by fear—fear of falling behind, missing out, or not doing enough. It masquerades as urgency but creates inner tension and impulsive decisions. Transformation begins with awareness: noticing when the Rush Weakness is controlling your pace, and realizing that calm action often leads to better results.
- Train your patience like a mental muscle
Patience is not passivity. It’s a deliberate, focused mindset that brings clarity under pressure. A key tool in building this strength is the “Choose the Longer Line” exercise: intentionally standing in the slower queue to recondition your tolerance for waiting. By facing down the discomfort, you gain control over your impulses and strengthen emotional resilience.
- Shift from rushing to rhythm
When guided by the Mind of Patience, your actions become more grounded. You stop chasing time and start managing energy. This shift leads to fewer mistakes, less stress, and greater clarity. Results come not from moving faster, but from aligning thought with purpose—and trusting that the right outcomes will unfold when approached with steadiness and focus.
Learn how to break free from the Rush Weakness and step into a new pace of life—one built on patience, presence, and sustainable achievement.
Is it possible to start over after you've already lost time, made mistakes, or fallen behind? Yes, it is.
This week on Love University, we explore what it takes to reclaim your inner strength—even if life has knocked you down, again and again. Based on key principles from Dr. Avila’s acclaimed Invincible You book (https://shorturl.at/vfeRI), this episode reveals three essential secrets for developing an Invincible mindset of power, healing, and resilience. Regardless of your past, you can make a comeback. And the truth is: It’s never too late.
Here are the three secrets we explored in this episode:
- Transform Your Pain into Power
Pain is energy—raw, intense, and deeply personal. But it doesn't have to define you. When reframed as meaning and lessons learned, pain becomes fuel for your success. Emotional setbacks, failures, and even long-standing regrets of your past can be converted into forward motion. Real-life stories remind us that suffering can bring insight and shift priorities, like the workaholic father who rekindled family love by spending more time with them after a near-fatal accident. Healing begins when you stop resisting pain and start using it as a tool for awakening and growth.
- Learn From the Greats Who Overcame Adversity
We grow by learning from those who have turned adversity into purpose. People like Marla Runyan (blind Olympian), Stephen Hawking (physicist with ALS), Malala Yousafzai (activist and Nobel Peace Prize winner), and Nick Vujicic (motivational speaker born without limbs) didn’t just survive hardship—they transformed it into meaningful impact. Studying how they thought, adapted, and moved forward helps you develop the mindset you need to overcome challenges with strength and purpose.
- Keep Walking Forward
Progress is rarely in a straight line. Some days bring setbacks. Other days give you forward progress. But every step counts. The biggest trap is believing you need to feel ready to begin. Don’t fall for it: the time to being your inner development is now. Self-doubt and delay are part of the old programming—the self-defeating mind that says “wait until it’s easier.” But change happens by acting, not waiting. Taking two steps forward and one step back still means you're advancing. Keep moving, taking small chances, and advancing toward your goals. Even small wins build momentum, bringing you closer to the life you dream about.
Why do we deliberately seek out fear—only to feel more alive afterward?
This week on Love University, we’re exploring the psychology of horror with acclaimed supernatural thriller author Monica Kastle, creator of the Cascade Wolves series. Known for suspenseful plots, richly layered
Monica Kastle uses the language of fear to teach courage, deepen empathy, and rewire how we experience stress and safety. If you’ve ever wondered why we love scary stories—or how they help us heal—this episode will change the way you think about horror.
Would you like to live like a champion—someone who consistently wins in life, not just occasionally, but day after day, in every area that matters most?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we explore three key principles that can help you step into your greatness—starting now. Whether you want more success in your relationships, career, finances, health, or mindset, these three simple steps can help you live with more confidence, power, and joy:
- Step 1: Turn “Little Bads” into “Little Goods”
Many people are weighed down by self-defeating thoughts: “I don’t have enough time,” “Life is difficult,” or “I can’t find someone to love.” These are the little bads—small, self-defeating messages that accumulate in your thinking and drain your emotional and psychological energy. The key to living like a champion is to notice these patterns and change them for little goods: positive, believable affirmations like “There’s plenty of love and opportunity for me,” or “I have all the time I need.” At first, the negative voices will resist—after all, they’ve lived in your head for years. But, with daily repetition, you will crowd them out and replace them with encouraging, life-affirming thoughts that fuel your actions and elevate your mood. - Step 2: Start with the Easy.
Champions don’t wait for the perfect moment. They begin with what they can do right now. This might mean reading a short article about a new career path, writing the first sentence of a book, or spending just 20 minutes at the gym. Psychologists call these early actions successive approximations to the goal—small steps that build confidence and momentum as you reach your larger objectives. With each completed action, you develop a rhythm of success. As you go from short walks to longer ones, from brief study sessions to deep dives, and from quality conversations to meaningful relationships, you prove to yourself that growth is possible—and that you’re the kind of person who follows through to achieve what you desire. - Step 3: Practice the Power of Discard.
Living like a champion isn’t just about doing more—it’s about letting go of what holds you back. That includes old clothes that don’t fit, obsolete equipment, and cluttered paperwork. Discarding isn’t just physical; it’s psychological. When you clear your external space, you begin to free your internal space. As you throw away objects that no longer serve you, you create mental clarity, self-respect, and room for new, empowering beliefs to take root. The more you let go of what you don’t need, the more power you have to attract what truly matters.
Have you ever wondered if something as natural—and as ancient—as a mushroom could help you resolve trauma, reduce depression, or even diminish the fear of death?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we met Dr. Stacey Simmons—psychotherapist and certified psychedelic-assisted therapy practitioner (staceysimmonsphd.com). Her work brings together neuroscience and and plant-medicine research. As the author of Mushroom Pharmacy, Dr. Simmons explores how psilocybin and other psychedelics may support emotional healing, spiritual awakening, and brain transformation.
Here are a few highlights from our conversation:
- What is psilocybin therapy?
Dr. Simmons explained that psilocybin—the psychoactive compound in “magic mushrooms”—has been used for thousands of years in sacred ritual. Today, it’s being clinically studied for depression, trauma, and end-of-life anxiety. Several U.S. states, including Oregon and Colorado, have already approved regulated use in therapeutic settings. - Microdosing vs. full-dose journeys.
We talked about the difference between microdosing (small, sub-perceptual doses taken regularly) and higher-dose “journey” sessions, which can open people to profound experiences of unity, inner clarity, or even a rehearsal of death—helping some individuals release long-held fear or emotional pain. - The healing comes from preparation and integration.
Dr. Simmons emphasized that psychedelics aren’t miracle pills. Safety, psychological screening, and careful integration afterward are essential—especially for those with conditions like bipolar disorder or schizophrenia, where use is contraindicated. - Beyond chemicals: spiritual repair.
According to Dr. Simmons, psilocybin can temporarily silence the inner chatter of the “monkey mind,” opening space for deep insight, connection, and awe. She believes these moments remind us that we’re more than our bodies—and can reconnect us with a sense of mystery in an increasingly mechanized world. - A new kind of medicine.
With her clinical practice and book, Mushroom Pharmacy, Dr. Simmons invites us to rethink how healing happens—not just with prescriptions, but with purpose, intention, and reconnection to self and nature.
Dr. Simmons left us with a simple reminder: Mushrooms alone may not save your life—but when used with wisdom, they can help you remember how to live it more fully.
🎧 Catch the full interview now on Love University to explore the intersection of brain science, plant medicine, and personal transformation—with one of the most grounded and inspiring voices in the psychedelic wellness space. Also make sure to follow Dr. Avila on Instagram at @dralexavila
Have you ever carried a family secret so heavy that the only way to heal was to bring it into the open?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we sat down with Richard K. Lowy—international event producer, creative director, and now author of Kalman & Leopold: Surviving Mengele’s Auschwitz (Jan 2025). Through deep, painstaking interviews with his father, Leopold, and his father’s childhood friend, Kalman, Richard uncovers how two Hungarian-Jewish boys—friends by circumstance—survived Josef Mengele’s experiments, served SS guards, endured unspeakable horror, and ultimately reunited more than five decades later.
Here are a few highlights from our conversation:
- From stages to testimony. Richard had a successful career producing events for icons like Van Morrison and thought leaders such as Malcolm Gladwell, but says he reached a tipping point: the weight of his father’s unwritten history was greater than the draw of any concert or summit.
- The bridge between film and book. His documentary, Leo’s Journey, became the foundation for deeper psychological layers in the memoir—exploring post-traumatic growth, social support as a buffer, gallows humor, and how friendship can serve as a lifeline in extreme trauma.
- Friendship as survival, and the science behind it. In the camps, Kalman and Leopold became a “protective pair.” Psychological research supports the concept that in trauma zones, strong dyadic bonds (pairs) lower mortality risk. Richard also explores reciprocal altruism (mutual giving and protection between two people) and how it plays out in survival—each risking for the other, not out of obligation, but from shared trust.
- Humor, grief, and truth. The memoir includes moments of gallows humor—dark laughter amid horror. Richard says that while the book risks jarring readers, it was essential to preserve the emotional authenticity of his father’s voice.
- Tragedy as a platform for inspiration. With his media appearances and public speaking, Richard’s mission is to turn sacred memory into living purpose—raising witnesses, protectors, and storytellers to resist forgetting the unforgettable.
Always remember Richard’s lesson we need to learn: suffering doesn’t just require remembrance—it demands witness, action, and connection.
Have you ever wondered what it’s like to busk with a red ukulele at nine years old—and end up headlining festivals before even finishing high school?
On this week’s episode of Love University, we sat down with Aspen Jacobsen—an 18-year-old Americana-folk prodigy and award-winning recording artist. With her finger-style guitar, mandolin, and raw vocals, Aspen’s debut LP Arsonist Daughter is turning heads with its fearless lyrics on relationships, mental health, and social justice.
Here are a few highlights from our conversation:
• Origins of a prodigy. Aspen shared what she sang for tips as a 9-year-old busker—and why music called her even without a family influence. She described herself as an “old soul” drawn to lyrics that spark reflection and change.
• Why fire? We asked why her debut album carries the title Arsonist Daughter. For Aspen, fire symbolizes transformation—controlled destruction that clears the way for rebirth. She even pointed out the lyric that burns hottest for her personally.
• Music as medicine. Anxiety often threads through Aspen’s lyrics. She opened up about whether performing soothes or stirs it—and how songwriting itself gives her a tool for healing that therapy alone could not.
• Staying grounded. From sold-out shows to industry recognition, Aspen stays centered by leaning on close friends, mindfulness practices, and remembering why she writes: to spark thought, ignite conversations, and inspire change.
• Takeaway from Arsonist Daughter. Each track, Aspen says, is a spark meant to ignite reflection—on faith, climate grief, mental health, or identity. Her goal is for listeners not only to hear her music but to feel compelled toward empathy and action.
Aspen left us with one lasting truth: songs aren’t just melodies—they’re matches. When you strike them, they can light up the dark corners of your heart.
Catch the full interview now on Love University to hear Aspen’s remarkable journey—from street corners to festival stages—and why she believes music can still change the world, one lyric at a time.
Do you long for a relationship built on trust, responsibility, and doing things the “right” way—where roles are clear, effort is mutual, and loyalty is everything? If so, you may be the Traditionalist LoveType (ESTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the grounded, dependable partner who leads with action and honors commitment above all else. On our Love University podcast, we explored the romantic strengths and potential blind spots of the Traditionalist—one of the most reliable and enduring LoveTypes from my book LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we discovered:
As a Traditionalist, you take relationships seriously. You’re likely the one who plans the future, keeps things running smoothly, and makes sure that promises are kept. You believe in hard work, structure, and showing love through consistent, tangible actions. When you care about someone, they know it—because you prove it through responsibility, protection, and follow-through.
It’s true that your practical, rule-based nature can sometimes clash with more emotionally expressive or free-spirited types. If your partner is looking for spontaneous romance or lots of emotional nuance, they might misunderstand your love style. You may get frustrated when others don’t “just do what they say they would do,” or when your deep feelings go unnoticed beneath your outer strength.
The good news is that you can build a rock-solid, lasting love when you pair up with someone who shares your values and appreciates your loyal, steady presence.
Here are a few tips to help your traditional heart thrive in today’s topsy-turvy love world:
- Choose a Partner Who Respects Duty and Dependability: Because you’re not into flaky, chaotic relationships, you need someone who is as serious about commitment and follow-through as you are—ideally someone who sees strength in your stability.
- Let a Little Flexibility In: Love doesn’t always follow a blueprint. Practice softening your grip on control now and then. Small moments of vulnerability and spontaneity can go a long way.
- Express, Don’t Just Execute: While actions speak loudly, your partner may also need to hear that you love them. Try verbal affirmations and affectionate gestures in addition to your usual responsible deeds.
At the end of the day, your greatest romantic power lies in your ability to build a life of integrity, structure, and trust. When you find a partner who respects your old-fashioned values and meets you in your strong, steady rhythm, love becomes not just a feeling—but a legacy. That’s when tradition becomes timeless.
Do you long for a love that’s grounded, reliable, and built on mutual respect—one that thrives on shared responsibilities, long-term vision, and practical support? If so, you may be the Administrator LoveType (ISTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the steady, dependable planner who values duty, loyalty, and a well-ordered life. On our Love University podcast, we explored the essential relationship strengths and romantic needs of the Administrator—one of the most grounded and responsible love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we discovered:
As an Administrator, you bring a strong sense of purpose and integrity to your relationships. You are the builder of love’s foundation—someone who creates trust by doing what you say, showing up consistently, and working hard for the people you care about. You thrive in partnerships that honor tradition, shared goals, and clear expectations. For you, love is a well-structured home built with mutual respect, consistent effort, and a deep commitment to a shared future.
However, your strong sense of duty can sometimes make romance feel like just another task on the to-do list. You may find it hard to relax emotionally or express affection spontaneously. Fortunately, your partner will come to see your care in your actions—how you protect, provide, and plan for the future. With time and trust, your affection blossoms in deeply meaningful ways.
To attract and maintain a strong, lasting love, consider these practical tips:
- Prioritize Emotional Presence: Even though you're more comfortable with logistics than emotions, try to be present emotionally. A listening ear or a reassuring word can go a long way in connecting with your partner on a deeper level.
- Look for a Partner Who Respects Structure: You flourish with someone who values routines, shared responsibilities, and long-term planning. Together, you can build a life of peace, purpose, and partnership.
- Make Space for Playfulness: Love doesn’t always have to follow a plan. Leave room for surprise, spontaneity, and affection beyond your comfort zone. It can recharge your relationship and deepen emotional intimacy.
- Recognize Your Love Language: You show love through acts of service, protection, and reliability. Helping your partner understand this—and learning theirs—can help both of you feel more seen and appreciated.
Ultimately, the key to a fulfilling relationship as an Administrator is honoring your gift for commitment while learning to connect emotionally in ways that may not come naturally. When you find a partner who values your stability and depth—and who encourages your emotional expression—you’ll discover that love is not only built, but also deeply felt. Together, you’ll construct a partnership that’s enduring, loving, and unshakably real
Do you dream of a love that feels warm, secure, and deeply caring—one that’s rooted in loyalty, kindness, and the quiet joys of everyday life? If so, you may be the Caretaker LoveType (ISFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test), the devoted nurturer who cherishes emotional intimacy and harmonious relationships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the distinctive romantic needs and strengths of the Caretaker—one of the most caring love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here's what we discovered:
As a Caretaker, you approach life with a generous heart, exceptional empathy, and strong devotion, making you a compassionate and dependable partner. You thrive in relationships that offer emotional closeness, stability, and a shared appreciation for cozy routines. For you, love means building a sanctuary—a warm, comforting home filled with thoughtful gestures, heartfelt conversations, and small acts of kindness that deepen bonds over time. Whether preparing a favorite meal, remembering special occasions, or creating welcoming traditions, you find immense joy in giving love through steady and practical care.
However, your giving nature may sometimes lead you to put your own needs last, causing you to feel emotionally drained or underappreciated. Fortunately, your innate sensitivity often help you gently communicate your needs, restoring balance and nurturing mutual respect. Your ability to tune into your partner’s emotional landscape and offer unwavering support creates lasting bonds of trust and affection.
To attract and cultivate your ideal partnership, consider these helpful pointers:
- Express Your Needs Clearly: Because you naturally focus on others’ happiness, you might downplay your own emotional desires. Openly sharing your feelings and needs helps your partner recognize how best to care for you in return, creating a balanced and fulfilling relationship.
- Find a Partner Who Appreciates Stability: Seek someone who values consistency, loyalty, and heartfelt connection as much as you do. Together, you'll create a harmonious home that honors both your emotional depth and shared values.
- Balance Giving and Receiving: Though giving nurtures your soul, it's equally important to graciously accept love, appreciation, and support from your partner. Learning to comfortably receive strengthens intimacy and mutual understanding.
- Honor Your Quiet Strength: Celebrate your natural talents—such as organizing, empathizing, and quietly supporting—without feeling pressure to become someone else. Your gentle strength is deeply attractive to partners who seek genuine, lasting love.
Ultimately, the key to finding lasting happiness as a Caretaker is recognizing your remarkable capacity for nurturing love, while ensuring that your own emotional well-being is also prioritized. When you build your cozy home with someone who honors your warmth and devotion, you'll experience the quiet joy and deep connection you've always desired. With the right partner, you'll find that love isn’t merely about caring for each other—it's about feeling equally cherished, supported, and at home together.
Do you ever sense that you’re moving fast yet, somehow, standing still? You’re busy but you’re not making progress in your important goals—finances, career, relationships, health, or happiness. On our latest Love University Podcast, we explored that turning-point moment when scattered effort condenses into laser focus, self-doubt thins out, and your boldest vision starts taking physical form. Here’s what we learned:
Direct Your Spirit Flow: Master the Energy Within
Most of us leak power in a hundred ways—notifications, half-finished projects, stray worries. Energy diffused is energy diminished. When you choose one meaningful target and give it your undivided attention, everything changes: tasks line up, distractions fall away, and progress compounds. Think of sunlight: it’s pleasant when spread across a porch, but astonishing when it’s focused through a lens strong enough to weld steel. Your attention is that lens.
Transform, Don’t Erase, Yourself
Real change isn’t a demolition job; it’s a patient revelation of what you have inside you. The great artist Michelangelo said the statue already lived inside the marble—his task was to remove what didn’t belong. In the same way, your confidence, creativity, and resolve are already present. Strip away outdated labels, inherited fears, and second-hand expectations, and your genuine strengths stand in full power. Transformation is less about becoming someone new and more about allowing the best of you to step forward.
Materialize Your Desires Through Perfect Conception
Invention always begins as a clear imagination. Visionaries from Beyoncé to Whitney Wolfe Herd (founder of Bumble dating app) saw vivid mental movies of their future long before anyone else believed in them. They didn’t wish vaguely for success; they rehearsed every detail until the outcome felt inevitable. When your picture of the future sharpens into a high definition, resources and opportunities organize themselves around that certainty.
If you’re ready to shift from hoping to happening, practice these four essential keys:
- Keep a Daily Time of Focus
Reserve an uninterrupted slice of time—no alerts, no multitasking—to clear your mind and advance your most important objective. Meditate, think, journal, exercise, engage in a spiritual practice, plan your next step. It’s true that momentum loves consistency. When you focus on what truly matters, your energy and motivation mutlipy. - Eliminate the Nonessential
Identify one commitment, habit, or belief that drains your energy without bringing you closer to your goal. Now, whatever it is, stop doing it; eliminate what is not moving you toward your dreams. Each distraction and nongoal you let go of gives you strength and encouragement to keep pushing for your true aims. - Draft a Vision Script
Write a one-page snapshot of your ideal day. Imagine that you wake up to work that excites you, relationships that nourish you, and activities that energize you. Study your script and visualize your brilliant future—morning, noon, and night—until it feels real to you. It will be. - Act in Alignment to Your Dream
Take one step—however small—that matches your script: Send the proposal, enroll in the course, introduce yourself to a future collaborator or prospective soul mate. Action signals to the mind that your vision is underway.
Remember, the life you want isn’t waiting somewhere outside you; it’s pressing from within, eager to emerge. When you direct your spirit flow, you hold a vivid vision that feels familiar, and you transform potential into power.
Let today be the day that you close the gap between knowing and doing. Aim your attention like a beam, bring your authentic strengths to center stage, and watch the world rearrange itself around a picture you have created of your future. Above all, keep loving yourself, others, and a Higher Nature—when love fuels focus, the results are limitless.
Have you ever heard an inner voice whispering you were a lion and meant for something greater? If you’re not where you want to be in life, then it’s time for a change; you need to tap into your hidden lion’s roar—your self-love, confidence, and talents.
On our latest episode of Love University, we explored the instant of awakening—that split-second when you suddenly realize the life you’re living is too small for you—you’re not fulfilling your true potential. Our story begins with a lion cub who is raised among sheep. Just like other sheep, he grazed, was startled at shadows, and obediently followed the flock—until one day a stream mirrored back amber-gold eyes and the first hint of a mane. A roar he had never heard before burst from his throat, and in that moment he realized he wasn’t a sheep, but a powerful lion, the King of the Jungle.
How about you? Perhaps, you have experienced a similar jolt of understanding: a stubborn dream that won’t stay quiet, a Sunday night restlessness, a flash of unfulfilled desire when you see someone succeed by thinking big. You hear a faint roar of power and need, and you ask yourself, “Is it coming from outside, from somewhere else, or is it inside me?” Yes, it is inside you.
Following your roar, your inner authentic power, means tapping into your immortal capital—the reservoir of talent, curiosity, resilience, and intuition lying unused in your mental vault. Chances are, you have let this fortune sit idle, convinced you need outside permission, more resources or credentials. In your own life, think about the novel still unwritten, the venture unlaunched, the kindness unsaid—each one representing a stack of coins unused; greatness unfulfilled. In reality, your mental vault is unlocked. You can access your inner potential—all you have to do is step inside and gather your treasure—gifts, talents, and wisdom.
Consider how Oprah Winfrey lost her first high-profile news role, and Steve Jobs, was ousted from Apple, yet both of them turned rejection into reinvention because they interpreted restlessness as a call, not a curse. If you feel a similar tension, take it as proof that you’re being summoned to evolve and accomplish something meaningful and powerful with your life.
Turning that calling into momentum requires the following steps:
- Catch the voice. Notice moments when you feel vividly alive or painfully confined—decide to increase the moments of empowerment and decrease those activities that leave you feeling tired, down, or frustrated.
- Withdraw a coin of immortal capital within 24 hours. Do something that fills your soul: Sketch, pitch, rehearse, research, help, share, communicate, exercise, pray, or meditate. Always remember that even small actions remove doubt and increase your resilience and inner power.
- Treat temporary discomfort as a guide, not something to avoid. There will be some “growing pains” when you heed your inner roar—when you start that new relationship or job; travel or make a lifestyle change; expand your horizons. But the momentary discomfort is like when you first lift weights—the sensation of soreness means your muscles are growing and you are getting stronger. In the same way, stretching out of your comfort zone will eventually bring you to the place of lionhood—self-mastery and confidence.
Here’s the truth: Once a lion or lioness discovers their roar, grazing quietly like a timid sheep will never satisfy them again. Your roar is both a warning and a promise. It is a warning that you can no longer live like a sheep; you must claim your true power, and you can—that is the promise. It’s your time now, let your lion roar and you will transform yourself and the world.
Do you crave a love that fuses dazzling ideas, playful debate, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the Innovator LoveType (ENTP on the Myers‑Briggs personality test)—the quick‑witted explorer who thrives on possibility, originality, and meaningful partnerships. On our Love University podcast, we dove into the unique qualities and romantic requirements of the Innovator—one of the most dynamic love personality styles from my classic book, LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we discovered:
As an Innovator, you sprint through life with a curious intellect and irrepressible sense of adventure, making you a stimulating and magnetic partner. You flourish in relationships that invite spirited discussions, blue‑sky brainstorming, and the freedom to experiment together. For you, love is a grand laboratory where two imaginative minds can hatch bold schemes, celebrate every breakthrough, and deepen trust through candid communication and shared laughter. From dreaming up great business ideas to pivoting when a project fizzles, you’re always ready to dive head‑first with your partner into the next big venture as you build an empire together.
Yet, in your rush to chase the next big idea, you may sometimes overlook subtle emotional signals—both yours and your partner’s. Fortunately, that same inventive energy often makes you exceptionally encouraging, resourceful, and inspiring. Your knack for spotting hidden potential and reframing obstacles as opportunities (optimism) can be priceless in any partnership.
If you’re searching for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:
- Spark Mutual Curiosity: Invite your partner into your world of “what if?” by tossing out fresh concepts—designing an app, learning a language, or mapping a bold travel route—to build excitement and intellectual curiosity.
• Listen Between the Lines: Your talent for lively debate is legendary, but pause now and then to tune in to the feelings beneath the words. Empathic listening reassures your partner that you value their heart, not just their ideas.
• Prototype Together: You’re at your best when you co‑create—whether it’s launching a side hustle, remodeling a room, or planning a cause‑driven event. Tackling projects side by side knits your bond and channels your innovation into shared victories.
• Ground Genius with Warmth: While your mind races ahead, remember the power of a steady emotional foundation. Offer clear affection, follow through on promises, and show your partner they’re cherished beyond the brainstorm.
Let your partner glimpse the softer layers beneath your confident banter. Although it’s easy for Innovators to stay in the realm of theory, sharing your vulnerable emotions can transform bright sparks into lasting warmth. By pairing your inventive spirit with genuine sensitivity, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both electrifying and nurturing.
Ultimately, your ideal relationship marries creativity with authentic closeness. When you share your visionary spark with someone who appreciates your individuality, you can build a life of exhilarating experiments, heartfelt camaraderie, and world‑rocking impact. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love is the ultimate innovation—culminating in a boundless source of mutual growth and joy.
Do you desire a love that blends strategic drive, bold vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the General LoveType (ENTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the decisive leader who thrives on challenges, big goals, and purposeful relationships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities and romantic requirements of the General—one of the most powerful love personality styles from my classic LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here’s what we learned:
As a General, you approach life with a confident intellect and proactive mindset, making you a strong and compelling partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to brainstorm creative solutions, set audacious objectives, and champion each other’s dreams. For you, love is about forging a dynamic alliance, celebrating every success along the way, and cultivating mutual respect through honest communication and shared ambition.
In relationships, you may sometimes get caught up in your drive to achieve, which can lead you to miss important emotional subtleties—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same determination often makes you exceptionally supportive, visionary, and inspiring. Your capacity to see potential in both yourself and your loved one can be a priceless asset in any partnership.
If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:
- Leverage Your Leadership: Your gift for motivation and organization is one of your biggest strengths—don’t hesitate to involve your partner in the strategic process. By crafting goals together, you build unity and show that you value their perspective.
• Practice Mindful Empathy: You’re direct and solution-focused, but remember to pause at times and genuinely hear how your partner feels. By showing care for their emotional experience, you foster greater trust and understanding.
• Cultivate Shared Ambitions: You’re at your best when you can collaborate on exciting projects or tackle new challenges as a team. Whether it’s launching a business, planning an epic travel adventure, or investing in mutual learning, striving side by side fortifies your connection and your achievements.
• Balance Drive with Warmth: While you flourish in goal-oriented environments, you also need a tender emotional bedrock. Be transparent in your affections, and let your partner know you value them as more than just a teammate in your pursuits.
Remember to let your partner see your vulnerable side and share the feelings that often lie beneath your confident exterior. Although it’s easy for Generals to stay focused on action and progress, opening your heart to emotional truths can lead to a deeper and more rewarding connection. By pairing your passion for achievement with authentic emotional presence, you’ll create a love that’s as powerful as it is nurturing.
Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that harmonizes ambition with genuine closeness. When you extend your leadership and vision to someone who appreciates your individuality, you can build a life of impactful collaborations, heartfelt companionship, and ongoing success. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be an extraordinary partnership—and a lasting source of mutual growth and happiness.
Do you desire a love that blends intellectual synergy, strategic vision, and heartfelt connection? If so, you may be the Expert LoveType (INTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the forward-thinking strategist who thrives on knowledge, self-improvement, and purposeful partnerships. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Expert and how you can find your perfect love match. Here’s what we learned:
As an Expert, you approach life with a keen analytical mind and an unquenchable thirst for understanding, making you a focused and perceptive partner. You excel in relationships that allow you to delve into stimulating topics, share well-reasoned perspectives, and collaborate on future goals. For you, love is about building a shared vision, celebrating each milestone of the journey, and creating a deep bond through honest dialogue and mutual respect.
In relationships, you may sometimes get absorbed in your own thoughts and overlook important emotional cues—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same dedication to thinking things through often makes you exceptionally loyal, attentive, and supportive. Your ability to plan for the future, notice small details, and offer insightful observations can be a wonderful asset to any partnership.
If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:
- Honor Your Vision: Your ability to see the big picture and chart a course toward meaningful objectives is one of your greatest strengths—don’t hesitate to share it. By inviting your partner into your planning process, you create a sense of teamwork and inspire mutual trust.
- Practice Empathetic Listening: You’re naturally focused on logic and problem-solving, but remember to slow down and truly hear your partner’s feelings. By showing genuine interest in their emotional world, you foster deeper understanding and respect.
- Nurture Shared Goals: You’re at your best when you can pursue growth and learning together with your partner. Whether it’s studying a topic of mutual interest or taking on a challenging project, dedicating time to common pursuits strengthens your intellectual and emotional bond.
- Balance Logic with Warmth: While you thrive on analysis, you also need a loving emotional foundation. Be open with your affections, and reassure your mate that you’re emotionally available despite your more reserved nature.
Remember to share your inner feelings and let your partner see the more vulnerable facets of who you are. Although it can be easy for Experts to remain in the realm of logic, acknowledging and communicating your emotional truths can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling connection. By pairing your visionary mindset with genuine warmth, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both stimulating and comforting.
Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that combines intellectual exploration with true emotional closeness. When you offer your insights to someone who values your individuality, you can build a life of deep conversations, purposeful collaboration, and meaningful partnership. With the right person by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be a profound journey and sustaining source of lifelong growth.
Do you desire a love that blends excitement, spontaneity, and heartfelt connection? If so, you might be the Performer LoveType (ESFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the life of the party who thrives on joy, interaction, and shared adventures. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Performer and how you can find your perfect love match. Here’s what we learned:
As a Performer, you approach life with a vibrant enthusiasm and zest for new experiences, making you a magnetic and lively partner. You shine in relationships that allow you to express your warmth, creativity, and desire for fun. For you, love is about living in the moment, celebrating every step of the journey, and nurturing a strong emotional bond through shared laughter and connection.
In relationships, you may sometimes get caught up in the excitement of the present, which can lead you to overlook deeper emotional needs—both yours and your partner’s. Yet, this same energy is what makes you exceptionally supportive, affectionate, and attentive. Your ability to lift your partner’s spirits with your natural charm can be a wonderful asset to any relationship.
If you’re looking for true connection, consider these helpful pointers:
- Embrace Your Vibrancy: Your playful and adventurous spirit is one of your greatest gifts—don’t be afraid to let it shine. Whether it’s planning a surprise weekend getaway or organizing a fun gathering, your enthusiasm can be contagious and keep your love life fresh.
- Listen as Much as You Speak: You’re naturally talkative and expressive, but remember to slow down and truly hear what your partner is saying. By practicing active listening, you create space for deeper emotional understanding and mutual respect.
- Create Meaningful Memories: You’re at your best when you’re sharing delightful, spontaneous experiences with the person you love. Whether it’s trying a new hobby together or hosting game nights, investing in quality time builds stronger emotional bonds.
- Balance Spontaneity with Stability: While you thrive on excitement, you also need a consistent emotional foundation. Seek a partner who can match your energy yet provide the steadiness and reassurance that helps you feel good in the long run.
Remember to acknowledge your deeper feelings and communicate them with your partner. Although it’s easy for Performers to focus on the thrills of the moment, being open about your needs and emotions can lead to a richer and more authentic connection. By pairing your fun-loving nature with honest communication, you’ll cultivate a love that’s both exhilarating and nurturing.
Ultimately, your ideal relationship is one that combines excitement with genuine emotional depth. When you share your sunny outlook with someone who values and respects your individuality, you can build a life of joyful companionship, heartfelt closeness, and endless fun. With the right partner by your side, you’ll discover that true love can be a great adventure and deep source of lasting happiness.
Daniel Gutierrez was once at the top of his game in the business world—an advisor to the Obama Administration, a big-time speaker, and a highly paid consultant to major organizations. But then he left it all behind to embark on a spiritual journey toward self-love. Now a mindfulness master (danielgutierrez.com) and bestselling author (Radical Mindfulness), he leads life-changing retreats to Peru, teaching Radical Mindfulness and the power of living and loving fully in the present.
A Life-Changing Encounter with Wachuma
In his search for enlightenment, Daniel took San Pedro (Wachuma), a plant medicine known for opening the heart and deepening wisdom. Unlike the intense night visions of Ayahuasca, Wachuma is taken during the day, bringing clarity and connection to nature. During the experience, he saw a powerful condor (a large bird of prey)—a sign to trust his inner wisdom and embrace his path as a teacher and healer.
A Mother’s Final Words of Freedom
During his mother’s dying moments, Daniel experienced the sacred energy of Palo Santo wood. He saw two lights and felt her presence. Her last words to him: “You were here when I needed you. I release you to the world.” With that blessing, he stepped fully into his mission of love and mindfulness.
Radical Mindfulness: The Art of Being Fully Present
Mindfulness rewires the brain—lowering fear, increasing memory and planning, and boosting compassion by 23%, while reducing aggression by 57%. Daniel’s Six-Step Radical Mindfulness Framework helps people stay present:
- Focus on the present (breath, senses).
- Direct thoughts to the moment.
- Ask: Am I okay right now?
- Question fear: Is this real?
- Assess: Am I moving toward or away from my goal?
- Take action: Shift energy through movement.
Plant Medicine: Nature’s Teachers and Healers
Daniel learned that Indigenous wisdom sees plants as living beings (Anima). If a plant loves you, it heals you. This is a sacred exchange—plants willingly offer their spirit when treated with gratitude and respect.
Spiritual Wisdom From the Jungle
Here are some of Daniel’s Nuggets of Natural Higher Knowledge:
- Healing isn’t the goal—love is. When you love, healing happens.
- Don’t wait for the storm to pass—dance in the rain.
- The dangers of the jungle aren’t there just to kill, but to protect (like in life, what you fear may be guarding something valuable).
- Unplug from technology to reconnect with yourself.
- Guilt and sadness come from burdening yourself with self-harming expectations—but Radical Mindfulness teaches acceptance and love.
Finding Peace in Sacred Lands
Daniel now runs the Catalina Retreat Center (catalinaretreatcenterperu.com), named after his beloved departed mother. He leads earnest seekers on transformational journeys to Peru, including spiritually evolved places such as Cusco and Machu Picchu in the Andes.
A New Definition of Success
Once a "big baller" in the business world, Daniel discovered that true success isn’t about money or power. It’s about stillness, presence, and love.
On Love University, we invite you to embrace the powerful lesson inspired by Daniel’s journey to peace and self-acceptance: Live more. Love more. Be more. When you do this, the world opens its arms to you, and your joy will be unending.
Listen to the full episode with Daniel Gutierrez on Love University Podcast. Take the first step toward a life of peace and purpose—because true success begins within.
Have you ever felt like success, love, or happiness was just out of your reach? Do you feel like there’s something bigger waiting for you, but you’re not sure how to grasp it? On our Love University podcast, we explored what it means to step into your Invincible Self—and achieve your dreams—not by forcing change overnight, but by making small, meaningful shifts that open doors you never knew existed.
Here are 8 powerful ways to unlock your unstoppable success in 2025:
- The Thing You Seek Is Seeking You
What if your biggest desires—love, success, purpose—are also looking for you? Consider Sara Blakely, the founder of Spanx. With only $5,000, she noticed a problem (uncomfortable shapewear) and realized the solution was calling her just as much as she was searching for it. The same happened with Tim Berners-Lee, who invented the World Wide Web—his vision for a connected world was something humanity was already yearning for. - The Dark Room: Desire Versus Resignation
Imagine standing in a pitch-black room filled with everything you need, but you can’t see it. You fumble for a light switch but come up empty. Frustrated, you think, maybe I should just accept the darkness. Then a thought hits you: What if the switch isn’t on the wall? You feel around, find a button on the floor, press it—and suddenly, light floods the room. You see everything you need. - Do You Want It as Much as a Dying Person Wants Life?
True desire is intense. Imagine someone fighting to survive—they don’t hesitate, doubt, or give up. They fight with everything they have. That’s the level of passion you need for your goals. - Be the Thing You Long For
If you want love, be loving. If you want success, act as if you’re already successful. The moment you embody what you seek, the world starts reflecting it back to you. - Lift Your Mind Above Effort and Resistance
Many people struggle because they fight against life instead of flowing with it. Imagine trying to swim upstream—it’s exhausting and gets you nowhere. Now, picture letting go and allowing the current to carry you. When you do this, love, happiness, and success will surely flow to you. - Attract High-Value Relationships
Your relationships are a direct reflection of your energy. If you radiate confidence, kindness, and self-worth, you’ll attract people who have the same qualities. Now your relationships become your golden treasure. - Search for Worthier Prizes
Sometimes, failure is just a redirection to something better. Consider Lady Gaga who was dropped by her first record label after only three months. Devastated, but determined, she refined her artistry and soon became one of the biggest pop stars in the world. - Reverse the Desire
Not every desire is meant for you—and that’s okay. Sometimes, the greatest act of self-love is letting go. Holding on to something that isn’t aligned with your true path—whether it’s a relationship, career, or outdated dream—only blocks the right opportunities from finding you. When you release what no longer serves you, you create space for something far greater to take its place.
Remember this: What you seek is also seeking you. Align your energy with your desires, and opportunities will follow. Even when life feels like a Dark Room, keep searching—the light switch is there. Success, love, and happiness require full commitment. Sometimes setbacks are actually redirections toward something better, but you must be willing to let go of what no longer serves you.
The moment you fully embrace your worth, act with purpose, and let go of what doesn’t belong to you, you will naturally attract the success, love, and joy that were always meant for you. Here’s to your Invincible Year.
Do you think brains are sexy, and do you seek an intellectually compatible mate? If so, you may be the Scholar (INTP on the Myers-Briggs test), a knowledge aficionado who loves to learn and values a partner who can keep you thinking. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Scholar and how they can find a love that stimulates both heart and mind.
The Scholar's Approach to Love:
As a Scholar, you approach relationships with curiosity and a desire for deep understanding. You value meaningful conversations and are drawn to partners who can engage in intellectual debates and share your passion for knowledge. Your analytical nature means you appreciate honesty and directness, often favoring straightforward communication over emotional nuance. This can lead to profound connections with those who appreciate your thoughtful and introspective demeanor.
Challenges in Romantic Relationships:
While your intellectual approach is a strength, it can also present challenges. You may find it difficult to express emotions, leading partners to perceive you as distant or detached. Your preference for logic over emotion might cause you to overlook the emotional needs of your partner, potentially leading to misunderstandings. Additionally, your tendency to become absorbed in your thoughts can make you seem unavailable or uninterested in the relationship.
Finding Your Intellectual Match:
To find a partner who complements your scholarly nature, consider the following:
- Seek Shared Interests: Engage in activities and communities that align with your intellectual passions, such as academic clubs, book discussions, or science forums.
- Prioritize Open Communication: Be transparent about your need for intellectual stimulation and seek a partner who values and reciprocates this need.
- Balance Logic with Emotion: While you thrive on intellectual connection, remember to nurture the emotional aspects of a relationship. Practice expressing your feelings and be attentive to your partner's emotional cues.
By embracing your intellectual strengths and addressing potential challenges, you can build a fulfilling relationship that satisfies your intellect and emotional needs. Now it’s up to you: Valentine’s Day is almost here. Go out this week and connect with like-minded individuals who match your thirst for knowledge, competence, and wisdom. Who knows, your compatible love partner may be a click or text away.
Have you ever felt like there’s something more waiting for you—something bigger, but just out of reach? Maybe you’ve had moments where you imagined a wonderful career or relationship, a new direction, or a fresh start, but doubts crept in, making it seem unrealistic.
On our Love University podcast, we explored what it means to step into your Invincible Self—not by forcing change overnight, but by making small, meaningful shifts that open doors you never knew existed. Here are 7 ways to move toward the life you truly desire in 2025:
- Imagine What You Truly Want—Not Just What You Think You Deserve
Unfortunately, many people dream within their comfort zone—what they think is realistic or possible. When they do this, however, they limit themselves and mute their passion and drive. But, what if you removed the limits? Picture the life you’d love—career, relationships, health—without the "I can't" or "it's not realistic" filters. The second you stop aiming small, the universe starts expanding the possibilities.
- Plant the Desire Seed: Are You Growing or Neglecting Your Dreams?
Your dreams are like seeds—if you feed them with time, effort, and belief, they grow. But if you let distractions (negative people, doubts, excuses) take over, they dry up. Are you making small daily movements toward your goals, or are you just hoping things will magically happen? Love yourself enough to water the seeds of your desires until they bear the fruits of success.
- Make Every Action a Win by Keeping Your Vision Strong
Every small step adds up. A painter doesn’t finish a masterpiece overnight, but makes a little progress daily to create something incredible. Are you thinking of a great business idea, fitness goal, or creative project? Stick with it even when progress feels slow. The key isn’t speed—it’s consistently moving toward your goals every single day.
- Call Every Experience a Success (Even the "Failures")
What if nothing was truly a failure—just a stepping stone? A lost job might push you toward a dream career. A bad relationship might help you find real love. When you label everything as progress, setbacks lose their power over you, and you feel like a winner no matter what.
- Focus on What You Want Until Your Actions Feel Natural
Have you ever started something that felt like a struggle, but over time, it became second nature? That’s what happens when passion meets consistency. The first steps might feel forced, but stick with it, and suddenly, your effort turns into a natural attraction of what you desire.
- Every Person is a Golden Link in Your Chain of Good
No connection is random. Some people push you forward, others teach you lessons, and some fade away to make room for who you really need. Trust that the right people will show up at the right time—whether it’s a mentor, friend, romantic partner, or even a stranger who sparks an idea.
- It’s Never Too Late to Take Back Lost Time
Do you feel like you’ve wasted a lot of time in life? In reality, you haven’t. Some of the world’s most successful people found their passion and achieved their dreams later in life. Vera Wang started designing in her 40s. Stan Lee’s biggest comic book hits came in his 60s. The road wasn’t straight for them, but every detour had a purpose. In the same way, be open to life changes and use them for your ultimate good.
It's Time to Step Into Your Invincible Self
This is your year to stop waiting and start believing in something bigger for yourself. Here’s the truth: Your dreams matter, your past doesn’t define you, and every action—big or small—moves you forward.
On our next Love University episode, we will dive even deeper into stepping into your power and creating the life you truly deserve. Until then, dream big, take action, and keep spreading love—because the energy you put out is the energy you attract.
Do you believe that love should be a gentle dance of understanding, emotional connection, and shared appreciation for life’s beauty? If so, you may be the Gentle Artist LoveType (ISFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—a compassionate and introspective soul who values nature, animals, art, and the simple yet profound joys of life. On our latest Love University podcast, we delved into the unique qualities of the Gentle Artist and how you can find a love that complements your tender, creative spirit.
As a Gentle Artist, your love for the world around you is reflected in everything you do. Whether it’s through creating art, cherishing the beauty of nature, or forming meaningful connections with children and animals, your heart is deeply attuned to the world’s softer, quieter side. You are flexible and willing to adapt for love, even to the point of moving cross-country if it means being with your soulmate. This openness and gentleness make you an incredible long-term partner, but they also mean you must guard your heart against being taken advantage of by those who might mistake your trust for naivety.
In relationships, you express your love in subtle yet profound ways—through a handmade gift, a quiet moment shared under the stars, or the warmth of your presence when words aren’t needed. You value harmony and emotional connection above all, making you a nurturing and empathetic partner. Yet, your natural reserve can sometimes make it hard for others to fully understand the depth of your feelings, leading to occasional misunderstandings.
To find your perfect love, seek someone who appreciates your creativity and gentle spirit—someone who values authenticity, loves nature as much as you do, and treasures life’s simple yet meaningful moments. A partner who supports your artistic passions and honors your need for introspection will help you flourish. This person will not only cherish your sensitivity but will also inspire you to grow in ways you never imagined.
At the same time, it’s important for you to express your needs openly in a relationship. While you often prefer to let your actions speak for you, sharing your feelings and vulnerabilities will deepen your connection with your partner. Vulnerability, far from being a weakness, is your pathway to true intimacy.
Your ideal relationship as a Gentle Artist is one filled with shared experiences that celebrate life’s beauty—strolling through a quiet forest, creating something meaningful together, or simply enjoying a peaceful evening side by side. With the right partner, you’ll find a love that feels as natural and enduring as the art and beauty you so deeply value.
The key to finding your perfect love as an ISFP lies in embracing your gentle, creative nature while learning to set boundaries and communicate openly. Trust in your ability to connect on a deep emotional level, and seek someone who resonates with your values of authenticity and emotional depth. With the right person, your love will not only be tender but also transformative—a testament to the beauty of two sensitive souls coming together in harmony.
Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life, settling for an “okay” relationship, a decent job, or a predictable routine? On this week’s Love University Podcast, we uncovered the secret to breaking free from mediocrity and stepping into a life of boldness and achievement. As we learned in The Man with No Shirt story, the path to greatness starts with aiming for what seems impossible—and discovering that it’s not only within reach, but essential for your ultimate happiness.
The antidote to feeling stuck is to extend your psychological reach farther than you think possible. Ask yourself, “What would it look like if I became the greatest version of myself—the best partner, parent, creator, or businessperson?” It’s about daring to aim for “insane” goals that others might dismiss as unrealistic. Why? Because even if you fall short, you’ll surpass limits you never thought you could. As we explored on the show, striving for greatness sets a powerful chain reaction in motion: small wins lead to bigger wins, confidence builds, and barriers you once saw as immovable start to dissolve.
In The Man with No Shirt, a desperate young man searches for the happiest person in the world, believing he can gain happiness by wearing that person’s shirt. But the story takes a surprising turn when he learns that the happiest man has no shirt—because happiness isn’t external; it’s already within you. As we discussed on the podcast, this tale reminds us that the key to reaching extraordinary heights is not just about external goals, but about recognizing your own inner potential.
To take charge of your destiny, you must aim for goals that stretch you to the limit. Think about what you really want in life: an incredible career, a love-filled relationship, or an extraordinary lifestyle. Start small—send that email to a mentor, enroll in a course to boost your confidence, or try something new that aligns with your dreams. As we emphasized on the show, focusing on one significant action each day helps eliminate distractions, silence self-doubt, and build unstoppable momentum.
Of course, the journey won’t always be easy. You’ll face obstacles, procrastination, and fear. But as we learned, pushing beyond mental limitations—just like the young man searching for happiness—reveals an unexpected truth: You’re capable of far more than you realize. The moment you stop settling for “okay” and start reaching for the stars is the moment your life begins to transform.
On Love University, we’re here to inspire you to think big, dream bold, and take that first daring step toward the life you deserve. Remember, it’s not about finding someone else’s “shirt” of happiness—it’s about stepping into your own greatness. The impossible isn’t as far away as it seems. When you extend your reach, you’ll realize you were made for much more.
So, what’s your impossible goal? Take a step today, and watch the extraordinary unfold.
Do you believe that love should be a partnership built on trust, shared experiences, and practical connection? If so, you might be the Craftsperson LoveType (ISTP on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—a resourceful and independent individual who values freedom, exploration, and tangible accomplishments in both life and love. On our Love University podcast, we explored the unique qualities of the Craftsperson and how you can find fulfilling love and purpose. Here’s what we discovered:
As a Craftsperson, you approach life with a quiet confidence and a knack for problem-solving, making you an intriguing and grounded partner. You thrive in relationships that allow for both independence and mutual respect. For you, love is not about constant emotional intensity or elaborate displays of affection—it’s about steady, meaningful actions and building a life together through shared experiences and practical support.
In relationships, you may not always express your emotions openly, but your actions speak volumes. Whether it’s fixing something that’s broken, planning an exciting outdoor adventure, or simply being a steady presence, you show your love through what you do rather than what you say. This makes you a dependable and down-to-earth partner, but it can also lead to misunderstandings if your emotional depth isn’t fully recognized.
To find your perfect love, seek someone who appreciates your hands-on approach and values your self-sufficiency. You’ll thrive with a partner who respects your need for space and freedom but also inspires you to explore deeper emotional connections. Look for someone who enjoys adventure and discovery as much as you do—someone who can join you in experiencing life to the fullest without holding you back.
At the same time, it’s important to acknowledge your own emotional needs and communicate them with your partner. While you might be naturally reserved, opening up about your feelings can lead to a stronger, more intimate bond. Remember, vulnerability isn’t a weakness; it’s a bridge to deeper understanding and connection.
As a Craftsperson, your ideal relationship is one where mutual respect and shared interests create a foundation of trust and companionship. Whether you’re building a project together, exploring a new hiking trail, or simply enjoying a quiet evening, the love you seek is grounded in authentic moments and mutual growth.
The key to finding your perfect love as an ISTP lies in balancing your independence with emotional openness. Embrace your adventurous, pragmatic nature, but don’t shy away from vulnerability that can enrich your relationships. By seeking a partner who aligns with your values and supports your journey of exploration and growth, you can create a love that’s not only stable but also endlessly fulfilling.
With the right partner by your side, your love life can become a journey of shared adventure and practical joy—proving that even the most independent hearts can find extraordinary love and purpose.
By Dr. Alex Avila
Do you believe that love should be a grand adventure filled with endless possibilities? If so, you may be the Social Philosopher LoveType (ENFP on the Myers-Briggs personality test). As an ENFP, you're a passionate, free-spirited individual who thrives on deep connections, exploration, and discovering new perspectives in every aspect of life. You’re an idealist with a deep yearning for meaning, often questioning the world around you and how love fits into the larger picture of existence.
In relationships, you are the type of person who desires more than just romance—you crave emotional depth, intellectual stimulation, and the sense that you're growing together with your partner. You’re always seeking new ideas, perspectives, and experiences, and you want a partner who can keep up with your adventurous spirit and philosophical musings. You're highly empathetic and love engaging in heartfelt, meaningful conversations that delve into the mysteries of life. But while your openness and creativity make you an exciting partner, your idealism can sometimes lead you to expect perfection or overlook potential incompatibilities in a relationship.
If you find the right person who shares your sense of adventure and can match your intellectual curiosity, you can build a love that’s both deeply fulfilling and endlessly transformative. However, be cautious of letting your boundless enthusiasm for potential cloud your judgment. Your imagination may lead you to idealize someone or a relationship to the point of overlooking red flags or staying in a situation that doesn't align with your true desires.
The key to finding your perfect love as an ENFP is embracing both your passionate spirit and your need for authentic connection. Recognize that love, for you, is a journey of mutual growth and discovery. By staying true to your values and seeking a partner who can engage with you on a deep emotional and intellectual level, you'll create a relationship that not only enriches your life but also allows both of you to explore the endless possibilities of love and meaning together.
Do you believe that love should be a deeply emotional and spiritual experience? If so, you may be the Mystic Writer LoveType (INFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test). On our Love University podcast, Dr. Avila reveals Mystic Writer love secrets from his classic bestseller, LoveTypes (https://shorturl.at/6uo30). As a Mystic Writer, you’re a rare personality type who values the written word, is a great listener, and wants to help humanity in a creative, spiritual, or psychological way. When it comes to love, you can be quite content having your soul mate as your primary, and perhaps sole, source of companionship in life (you like it that way). You are highly idealistic and privately passionate. You can love someone very profoundly, but you may stay too long in an incompatible relationship because you can delude yourself (with your highly attuned sense of imagination) into believing the person is the right one. On the positive side, if you find the right “soul partner,” you can create a love that lasts a lifetime and beyond.
Would like to speedread your dates and quickly determine if they’re the one? Now, there is a way to do that by utilizing Dr. Avila’s classic LoveTypes system (lovetype.com). Based on the theory behind the Myers-Briggs®—the most popular personality test in the world, Dr. Avila’s approach to love finding has been proven with over 40 million internet users. On our Love University podcast, Dr. Avila explained two of the most important LoveType personality dimensions: Deciding and Organizing, as follows:
- Deciding Dimension: Thinker of Feeler? Thinkers make decisions primarily with their logic, while Feelers decide mainly with their emotions. Thinkers and Feelers often get together in relationships, but need to understand and respect each other’s style. If they don’t, Thinkers may accuse Feelers of taking things too personally, while Feelers tell Thinkers they are too cold and critical. A better approach is to value each other’s strengths. The Thinker recognizes that their Feeler provides warmth and emotional support, while the Feeler appreciates the way the Thinker can calm conflicts and provide logical solutions. To determine whether your date or romantic partner is a Thinker or a Feeler, ask them this question: “What’s your favorite movie and why?” If they choose a movie because of the way it made them feel, they’re likely a Feeler. If they choose a movie because of the way it made them think, they’re probably a Thinker.
- Organizing Dimension: Structured or Spontaneous? Structured people value schedules, organization, and being on time. Spontaneous people (known as “P’s” or “Perceivers” on the Myers-Briggs test) like to be more flowing, easy-going, and less attuned to schedules and too much organization. In relationships, when Structured people get together with Spontaneous people, they may have problems in a lot of areas, including time, schedules, children, sex, commitment, and money. Again, the key to a harmonious relationship is to respect and appreciate each other’s style. Structured people can value the Spontaneous person’s ability to get them to have fun and be more relaxed. Spontaneous people can be grateful when their Structured partner helps them get organized and makes sure they get to places on time. To determine your romantic partner’s style in this dimension, ask them, “If you were invited to Vegas (or a nice resort) tomorrow, a work day, would you go?” A spontaneous person would say, “My bags are packed,” while a Structured person would say, “I can’t,” or “I have to plan it out.”
It is said that differences make the world go round. Yet, certain differences in core values and preferences can make a relationship more conflictual and difficult. Therefore, it’s important to recognize and understand your love partner’s differences, especially in the initial dating stages before you fall in love and commit (possibly to the wrong person). By applying the LoveTypes system, and screening out candidates who are not compatible, you have a better chance of discovering your ideal soul mate and creating a love that lasts a lifetime.
Are you practical or imaginative? How about your love partner? Research shows that 70% of happily married couples are the same or similar in this personality dimension—either both imaginative or both practical. On our Love University Podcast, we delved into the Jungian/Myers-Briggs personality dimension known as N/S or Intuitive/Sensor (Imaginative/Practical), and how it can affect the happiness and success of couples.
If you’re an N (Intuitive/Imaginative), you probably like to create, invent, innovate, and think outside the box. You may like psychology, philosophy, science, technology, spirituality, and the arts. You’re always looking to improve something.
If you’re an S (Sensory/Practical), you may like to experience life through your five senses in a practical, realistic, and concrete way. You savor the aesthetics of life, and you’re probably good at saving, investing, and dealing with practical matters. You enjoy life as you experience it in the moment, not in a “pie in the sky” futuristic way.
Unfortunately, a strong N with a strong S can have a lot of problems in a relationship, especially if they don’t respect each other’s styles.
The S will say to the N: “You’re such a head in the clouds person. Come down to earth.”
The N will reply: “And why are you such a stick in the mud? Why don’t we elevate our auras to a higher point of actualization and enter the noosphere?”
The S will retort; “Why don’t you elevate yourself off the couch and pay the bills; we’re two weeks late.”
The good news is that Ns and Ss can work things out in their relationships—and may even complement each other—if they respect each other’s differences. Tune in to hear more about how to make the practical versus imaginative dimension work in your relationship so you can create a love that lasts a lifetime.
Do you have election anxiety—stress and worry about how a political outcome will affect your life? The election in the US has taken place and millions of people are experiencing a variety of emotions—from hope to despair; from confidence and optimism to worry and fear. Some people become so emotionally identified with their preferred candidate or party that they think their personal self-worth or self-esteem is riding on an election outcome. On our Love University podcast, we went into the community to ask people their thoughts and feelings about the election, and we received a fascinating variety of opinions. Here are three things that can help if you’re experiencing election anxiety:
*Limit your political media consumption. Although it’s good to stay informed, many people go overboard and spend too much time watching the news and feeling anxious about it. To counteract this, set boundaries for how much time you will spend checking political news (1 hour etc.), and take breaks from election coverage. In this way, you will refresh your mind and see things from a different perspective.
*Focus on what you can control. You may feel that election results are a big thing that you can’t control—and you may start feeling helpless about it. The solution is to stay active. Stay informed, volunteer, and have meaningful conversations about policy and issues with people who care about those things. It’s true: The more active you are, the better you will feel.
*Practice mindfulness and relaxation. You can reduce stress and improve your emotional control by focusing on the present moment. Try this exercise: Spend ten to fifteen minutes each day imagining a beautiful scene as you breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. For example, if you visualize that you’re on a beach, imagine the sounds you hear (waves crashing), what you see (beautiful blue sky and ocean), what you smell (the smell of coconut oil), and the emotions you feel (peace and relaxation). Do this daily, and you will be more centered, and at peace.
Election time and the period afterward can be stressful in some people’s lives. The good news is that you can maintain peace and relaxation by taking care of your physical and emotional needs. It’s also important to extend loving energy without expectation. Love yourself, others, and a higher nature, and you will be in a much better place.
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Are you in an Introvert-Extrovert relationship? Maybe you’re the Introvert—you get energy more from your own thoughts—and your partner is the outgoing, Extraverted type. If you don’t understand each other, you may clash. Or, you could be an Extroverted woman with an Introverted man, which can be a challenging combination based on research. In our enlightening Love University podcast, love personality expert, Dr. Avila (Lovetypes: Discover Your Romantic Style And Find Your Soul Mate: Avila, Alexander: 9780380800148: Amazon.com: Books), delves into the world of Introversion and Extroversion in dating, love, and relationships. He reveals important tips on how to thrive in various personality love combinations, as follows:
*Introverts and Extroverts have different needs for social energy. Introverts often like to stay home while Extroverts like to go out. Key to success: Extroverts, respect your Introverts need for “alone/quiet time,” while Introverts be OK with giving your Extrovert a boy’s/girl’s night out.
*Introverts like to listen; Extroverts like to talk. Although Introverts like to talk at times and Extroverts can listen, it’s usually the Extrovert doing the majority of the talking. In this case, each partner needs to appreciate the other’s style (Extroverts listen to Introverts; Introverts let your Extrovert enjoy their talking time).
*Extrovert women and Introvert men can have challenges. Research shows that Extrovert women have the most problem with Introvert men in the areas of chores, finances, hobbies, communication and sex. If they don’t respect each other’s style, they will attack each other (“Why don’t you speak up?” “Can you be quiet for once?”).
The key of harmony in relationships is to appreciate and respect each other’s unique personality style (LoveType). When partners do this, almost any combination can work—two Introverts or two Extroverts together; or an Introvert/Extrovert combination. Respect and mutual appreciation for each other’s personality difference can work wonders in a relationship
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On our Love University podcast, we had an enlightening interview with Karl Dunn, an expert on same-sex divorce and mental health issues related to divorce. Karl recounted the lessons learned from his own marriage/divorce and how “his marriage didn’t make him whole, but his divorce did.” Here is some of the useful advice he shared for how to have a healthy divorce:
*Be aware of the friend filter. Karl identifies three types of friends during divorce: Friends who are on your side no matter what, friends who care about you, but don’t want to be around your divorce (it brings up their own trauma), and “binge divorce watchers” who are hungry for the gruesome details for their own entertainment (the worst kind).
*Keep an emotional diary: As you go through your divorce, keep a diary in which you write down what triggers your sadness or anger (e.g. email from an attorney or your ex), why you feel that way, and what the Universe is telling you about the best way to respond.
*Expectations will kill you—kill expectations. The key to getting out whole on the other side of divorce is to minimize your expectations of what is just, fair, or equitable. Hire the best lawyer if you need to, prepare all of your documents, and see a therapist if you want more support. At the same time, be present in the moment and don’t let anger, fear, or hardened expectations take over your mind.
In the end, Karl says, he realized that he didn’t need a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow to be happy. He was the pot of gold. He had the power to actualize all of his hopes and dreams and achieve ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment. Karl counsels that you, too, can be your own happy ending, whether you’re married, divorced, or single; whether you’re straight, gay, or anywhere in between. Happiness is your internal gold—dig for it and you will find it.
Do you ever feel like your mind is controlling you with negativity, doubt, and fear? If so, then there is a solution for you. It is called “Soul Statements,” simple phrases you can incorporate into your daily thinking that will lift you from despair and frustration into joy and love. Our guest on Love University, Corey Folsom, is an enlightened relationship coach, spiritual leader, and author (Soul Statements: A Love Coach's Guide to Successful Communication: Folsom, Corey Lyon: 9798218188856: Amazon.com: Books). Taking us on a journey into the power of soul statements, Corey educates us with his life-changing advice on regaining your wisdom within. Here’s what we learned from Corey:
*Find your querencia. In bullfighting, a bull may stake out his querencia, a certain part of the bull ring where he feels strong and safe. As humans, we can discover our own querencia by going emotionally back to a place where we felt strong, comfortable, and authentic. Recall what you were doing, the people you were with, and how you felt during your time of querencia. Maybe, it was with a certain friend or loved one, doing a hobby or activity you loved, and you felt joy, peace, and comfort. Now, whenever you’re feeling anxious or doubtful, mentally (and physically) go back to that querencia—that zone of comfort—to re-energize yourself and regain your inner strength.
*Repeat soul statements to yourself daily. Soul statements are a healing and comforting way of talking to yourself (“I am enough”; “I am growing”), instead of the self-bullying thoughts that may torment you (“I’m not good enough” “I’ll never get better”). Come up with your own affirming soul statements—write them down or record them—and repeat them to yourself regularly. This will transform your life and uplift your confidence and well-being.
*Have the courage to disappoint. You may fall into the nice guy or gal zone where you try to please others and are afraid to state what you really feel. When you do that, you often hurt yourself and your authenticity, and you feel disappointed in yourself. Remember that saying “no” is a powerful healing word if you feel in your gut that you need to say it. The other person may be momentarily disappointed, but they will get over it, and you will stand firm in your beliefs—taking care of yourself so you can give more to others who really need your help.
*Uplevel always. Think of every act you do, however small, as a chance to do better and feel better. For example, when Corey brushes his teeth, he says to himself, “I’m keeping my commitment to take care of my teeth, my self, as an act of self-love. Self-care is soul care.” When you strive to do everything with love and care, and tell yourself that you’re doing so, you will start to feel buoyant and cheerful. Now, every day is an opportunity for growth and learning, giving you the energy and strength to help yourself and others.
There is a great power in Soul Statements. How we talk to ourselves can make a tremendous difference in our relationships, finances, career, health, and happiness. When you’re supporting and loving yourself, through your thoughts and inner voice, you will transform your life from fear and regret to joy and optimism. By repeating soul statements to yourself, you will constantly improve and grow—becoming a more confident and loving human being each day. It’s a wonderful sight to behold to see your soul grow and your heart soar. Enjoy every minute of it.
Is something holding you back from achieving your dreams? Maybe, you’re being held back by negative people, or perhaps by self-defeating thoughts in your own mind. If that’s the case, then things are about to change. It’s time to kick the negativity out of your mind and become the most powerful and loving person you can possibly be. On our Love University podcast, we recently had the pleasure of meeting up with Sean Kanan, star of Cobra Kai and the iconic Karate Kid franchise. Aside from being an award-winning producer and consummate actor (Young and the Restless, Bold and the Beautiful), Sean has written self-empowerment books (wayofthecobra.com) and dedicated his life to showing students how to overcome obstacles and reach their dreams. Here is some of the wisdom we learned from this special interview with Sean:
Be a Cobra. A Cobra is someone who is authentic, self-aware, empathetic, strong, and humble. They epitomize a blend of paradoxical characteristics that make them a Compassionate Warrior. They’re ready to fight to defend their principles and protect others from harm, while at the same time being compassionate, loving, and empathetic. Like the Mike Barnes character in the current Cobra Kai* series, season 6, the Cobra can offer tough love and discipline, while also being an inspiring mentor to help others grow.
*Never compromise your character. Sean tells us that reputation is what others say about you; character is what you say about yourself, and what you do when no one is around to watch you. Guard your character with everything you have; it is the essence of who you are, your authenticity, your inner power. With it, you can conquer the world; without it, the world will conquer you.
*Win the battle for your mind and be reborn each day. You need to metaphorically die each day to your old limiting self (self-defeating mindset). Every day when you wake up, resolve to be a better version of who you were the day before: wiser, kinder, more compassionate, more humble, tougher, and stronger. Each day, you will let go of the person you were yesterday. If you fell short or made a mistake, today you will start fresh; you will do better. Today, you will forgive yourself for your past errors and create a new, more powerful, and more loving you.
These are just some of the life-changing secrets we learned from Sean on how to kick the problems out of your life and achieve personal mastery. Be a Cobra, never compromise your character, and be reborn every day. If you do these things, you will conquer your inner world and achieve your dreams as you help others achieve theirs.
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Does life sometimes get you down? You try hard to find the answers for a successful, happy, and loving life, but you often come up short. If this sounds like you, then you’re about to receive some powerful solutions for your pressing problems and challenges. In our latest Love University episode, Dr. Avila answers some of your most crucial questions for ultimate living. Here are some of the important things you will learn:
*How to Handle People Problems
*How to Get Ahead
*How to Truly Relax
*How to Handle Defeat
*How to Find Someone to Love (and Keep the Love Strong)
*How to Live a Joyous Life and Achieve Your Dreams
There is a powerful way to access your greatest talents and achieve your grandest goals. It is called Brahmacharya—the use of sexual and romantic energy for a higher purpose. Our guest on Love University, Melissa Barragan, multimillion dollar real estate producer, applied the principle of Brahmacharya and explained how it led her to a powerful realization of self-love and transformation. After initiating a lifestyle of romantic abstinence beginning in 2023, she achieved her biggest sale ever--$25 million in one day (Valentine’s Day, 2024)--and helped a loving family find their perfect forever home. Here are some of the highlights from Mellisa’s experience of personal awakening:
*God Is Your Valentine. Although Melissa wondered if she would find romantic love after her Brahmacharya experiment, she realized that her true love was God (Higher Nature). Instead of feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day, she experienced a great feeling of unity and love with her Higher Nature as she spent the day with a lovely family and helped them achieve their real estate dreams.
*Fusing Passion, Love, and Romance. The happiest and most influential couples in the world like Grant and Elena Cardone (real estate and motivation) have the ideal blend of love qualities. These Supercouples are able to combine mind, body, and soul to create a tremendous partnership in which they transmute their attraction and love for each other into greatness and contribution for the betterment of society.
*Livmor, Love More. Melissa coined the phrase #Livmor (Live More) to symbolize the importance of focusing on abundance, joy, and love—every day of your life. We often feel disappointed and frustrated when we try to find happiness in externals: relationships, money, work, or experiences. The truth is that true happiness is based on inner love and peace. To live more, we need to love more: Ourselves, others, and a Higher Nature. When we do everything with love—spending time with loved ones, eating, exercising, making love, working, giving, helping, and contributing—life becomes an absolute joy.
It’s about you now. Decide that, starting today, you will give your life energy an upward turn. Instead of wasting your vital life forces on superficial relationships, distractions, and negativity, you will use every ounce of your energy to live more, love more, and be more. When you do this, you will achieve everything you have ever dreamed of, and your life will be a miracle come true.
Do you or a loved one have a serious, life-threatening illness? Do you fear contracting a deadly disease in the future and having no hope for your recovery? If so, there is a way for you to rewrite your sickness story into one of triumph and peace. Our inspiring guest on Love University, Elizabeth Benedict, bestselling author and cancer survivor, shared her personal experience (Rewriting Illness) about illness (elizabethbenedict.com). On the show, she enlightened us about the realities of disease, love, and recovery. Here are some of the things we learned:
*Medical Professional’s emotional reactions can influence a patient’s mental and physical state. In psychology, mood contagion occurs when we pick up the moods of others—whether good or bad. A medical professional’s fears or negative emotions can influence the patient in a negative way. At the same time, positive emotions expressed by medical providers—compassion, optimism, and love—can also be healing forces to help the patient in their recovery.
*There may be a gendered response to illness. Men tend to be more stoic about illness and not as hyperfocused on their bodies as women often are (which explains why men may detect illness in later stages when it’s too late).
*Serious illness is an internal power struggle—choose your own way. Some people benefit by talking about their illness to loved ones—it helps them release their tension and fear. Others do better by not talking a lot about it and focusing on positive thoughts and activities. Each person has a different internal battle and needs to choose the mental approach that works best for them.
*Fear needs to be balanced. According to Elizabeth, patients need to strike the right balance between feeling too much fear about an illness and not having enough fear to protect themselves from danger. Although fear can be a practical and useful ally, too much fear can paralyze a person and take away their joy for living, which prevents them from maintaining the proper recovery mindset.
The truth is that a majority of us will get sick and die one day. Yet, we don’t know the time or the way. Those who trust in a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature) understand that they will be called from their bodies at the appropriate time. In the meantime, our duty is to live with as much love, joy, and contribution as we possibly can while we’re here on earth. As long as you have your body, rejoice in it, love it, and be grateful for it.
Do you get stressed, afraid, or sad? Does conflict with others wear you down? If the answer is yes, there is a solution for you. It is called empathy: caring and giving with intention—both to yourself and others. Our esteemed guest on Love University, Judith Orloff (drjudithorloff.com), empathic psychiatrist and New York Times bestselling author shared light on the “Genius of Empathy” from her new book with the same title. According to Judith, empathy is an important part of emotional intelligence and a powerful healing tool for ourselves and others. Here’s what we learned from Judith about the amazing gift of empathy:
*You need to start with self-empathy. You may be hard on yourself, self-critical and attacking yourself about your flaws and mistakes. This is especially the case for sensitive and caring people who often excessively take on the psychological burdens of others and don’t know how to set healthy boundaries. If this sounds like you, it's important to put yourself in your own shoes and be an advocate for your self-worth and value. Love yourself by putting your hand over your heart and repeating this phrase: “I forgive myself for my past and I open my heart to my future. I am a loving and valuable human being. I can say “No” to others and still be OK. All is well.”
*Practice empathy toward others. Place yourself in other people’s shoes; feel as they feel during your time with them. When someone angrily cuts you off on the road, instead of getting angry in return, you can slow down your thought process and see the situation through their eyes. You can consider, “Maybe they’re having a rough day—perhaps they’re feeling sick or just got into a fight with a loved one. There may be a reason for their behavior that I’m not seeing.” When you substitute your irritation and anger for empathy and love, you start to display compassion, and you have a desire to relieve their suffering. Think about how much the angry person suffers from their own reactions—their face gets red, their veins pop. They can’t really help themselves. Now you can forgive them and move on to a higher plane of feeling.
*Develop empathy toward the world. According to Judith, it’s important to understand the “Power of We” instead of “Us Versus Them.” The truth is that we are all interconnected as human beings. We all share this planet. We all breathe in air, eat, sleep, love, and work. We suffer from the same feelings of regret, sadness, anger, and frustration. We all want to love and be loved, enjoy life in the way we can, and feel meaningful or valuable in some way. By seeing other people as part of a grand human family, we can develop a global sense of empathy. We can send a healing thought or prayer to people in parts of the world who are in horrible conflict or strife. Also, by practicing the beautiful Tonglen meditation, we can inhale the suffering of others and breathe out compassion and love. In this way, we can help heal the world as we heal ourselves.
Empathy is on a continuum. Some people are very empathetic, others moderately so, and some (sociopaths, narcissists) have little, if any, empathy. The good news is that a majority of people can increase their empathy toward themselves and others. By doing so, you will quiet the unkind voices in your head (self-critical thoughts), and you will befriend yourself and others. You will also establish good boundaries so you are not overwhelmed by the negativity of others. And, most importantly of all, you will extend loving energy without expectation and shine your light of love to all who may receive it. Empathy is truly a genius, and the genius is in you.
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Are you an intuitive and sensitive (feeling) person? Perhaps you’re someone who loves psychology, philosophy, spirituality, and finding the meaning of life. If that’s the case, then you may be an Idealistic Philosopher, the rare personality type (about 4%) who believes that “love is the perfect place: quiet, peaceful, and kind.” On Love University, Dr. Avila began a new series on the 16 LoveTypes (Myers-Briggs romantic styles) based on his classic bestseller LoveTypes. In this segment, Dr. Avila reveals the qualities of the Idealistic Philosopher personality and how they can find and keep love. Idealistic Philosophers (INFP on the Myers-Briggs) have these characteristics:
Internal (Introvert) Energy, represented by the letter I. They primarily get energy from their own thoughts, as opposed to socializing with other people. Although they can be quite talkative and sociable at times, they can get tired talking too much and may need to retreat to a private and quiet place to recharge their batteries.
Intuitive/Imaginative, represented by the letter N. Idealistic Philosophers view the world through their imagination and their vision of what is possible. They may not be as practical as the other LoveTypes, but they believe they can eventually bring their dreams into reality. They also believe they have a special mission to fulfill in life, and this vision will keep driving their quest for love and meaning.
Feeling/Sensitive, represented by the letter F. Idealistic Philosophers make decisions primarily with their heart (feelings). If they need to say something to someone and it may hurt their feelings, they may not say it because they want to maintain harmony in the relationship. As feelers, single Idealistic Philosophers are also “hopeful romantics”—they’re always thinking the next person they meet could be their soulmate.
Spontaneous (or Perceiver on the Myers-Briggs), represented by the letter P. Idealistic Philosophers tend to be playful, fun, and spontaneous. By other people’s standards, especially the more structured types, they may be disorganized and unstructured. However, Idealistic Philosophers don’t see it that way. They would say they are organized in their own way, and they value people and experiences over strict structure. Their motto is: You only live once, enjoy it.
Therefore, by combining the four letters above, the Idealistic Philosopher is known as the INFP.
Overall, the Idealistic Philosopher (INFP) can be a warmly appreciative and supportive romantic partner. In terms of challenges, if you’re an INFP, you tend to be hard on yourself (self-critical) so you need to practice self-love and self-forgiveness. Here’s the good news: If you can love and appreciate yourself as an Idealistic Philosopher, you can attract a like-minded mate who shares your passion for finding a meaning in life. A good match for you is an Idealistic Philosopher or the more structured Mystic Writer (INFJ on the Myers-Briggs). Regardless of your disappointments in the romantic world, as an INFP you can discover your compatible love partner. When you meet that ideal soul mate, your joy will have no bounds, and you will create a harmonious relationship that lasts a lifetime.
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Is this the year of your prosperity, joy, and love? The answer is a resounding “Yes” according to our distinguished guest on Love University, Marci Shimoff (happyfornoreason.com) the woman’s face of “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series and #1 NY bestselling transformational author (Happy for no Reason; Love for No Reason). In our delightful conversation, Marci shared the secrets of maintaining your happiness and loving nature and achieving your dreams, regardless of any obstacles and problems you may experience. Here are some of the marvelous insights we learned from Marci:
*Believe the Universe is Loving and Benevolent. Happy and successful people expect that good things will happen to them. Because of their optimistic and grateful natures, they are open to new opportunities. They are prepared to accept the best and they often receive the best the Universe has to offer. Repeat this to yourself every day: “The Universe has abundant good for me—love, happiness, and success. I just need to open the door to my wonderful good.”
*Build Up Your Emotional Immune System. Mood contagion is what happens when you pick up the moods of other people—either positive or negative. This is especially the case if you are a sensitive or empathic person who absorbs the energy of others. When you’re around negative people, tell yourself: “I am my own castle of positive energy; no one and nothing can enter and disrupt my peace and happiness. I am protected and safe. I am content.”
*Take Ownership of Your Happiness. According to Marci, many people need to have a reason for happiness (“I need a new job, relationship, house, experience…”). The problem is that happiness from external things soon wears off and you’re back to the emotional state you had before. Lasting happiness comes when you don’t have a reason for your happiness. You are just happy, period. To develop your inner happiness, repeat this to yourself: “I will not let any unhappy thoughts penetrate my mind. If a negative thought enters my mind temporarily, I will quickly discard it. I will only allow peaceful and joyful thoughts to penetrate my consciousness. I am happy and free.”
*Raise Your Love Set Point. Love Set point refers to a certain baseline level of loving energy that you tend to have in most situations. The good news is that you can increase your love set point; you can become more loving, and you can feel more loved. For example, you can practice unconditional self-love by loving the unlovable in you (something you consider unappealing about yourself). Part of this is forgiving yourself for any things you have done that you regret. Also, you can become more loving toward others by giving fully from your heart—doing altruistic and kind acts to help others (giving money to the homeless, listening empathetically to a hurting friend). At the same time, you can look for the similarities and beauty in others and recognize the oneness of all humanity. Finally, you can connect with a Higher Nature (God, Spirit, nature) that is all-loving and helps actualize your potential to love yourself and others to the fullest.
Yes, this will be the year of your happiness, success, and love. All you have to do is work from the inside out—develop these traits first within yourself—and then manifest them in the outside world. When you do this, you will attract all you desire: career and financial success, excellent physical and mental health, and an amazing lifestyle. Yes, this is your year of wonder and accomplishment. Rejoice in it; excel in it, love it.
Do you have an emotional bully in your life who harasses, demeans, or criticizes you? Maybe it’s your boss, friend, or even your love partner. Or perhaps you bully yourself relentlessly, pointing out all of your flaws and weaknesses and making you believe you’re a puny little nothing. If that’s the case, then there is help on the way. Our friend and favored guest, Sean Kanan, Emmy winner and beloved actor in the classic Karate Kid and Cobra Kai franchises, graced us with his advice on how to defeat the bullies in your life. Here are some important tips we learned from master teacher Sean (wayofthecobra.com):
*Never compromise your character. Stand firm in who you really are. Don’t let other people try to tempt you or bully you into doing things you don’t really want to do. When you stay true to your inner self—your Hara (center of power in the East)—you will be happy and proud of your authentic nature. No one can push you off balance.
*Respect yourself and others. Be kind and compassionate to yourself and other people. Although anger is a common reaction when others try to hurt us, we need to rein in our reactions and do what is best for our mental and physical health. See the angry person as someone who suffers from their own out of control nature, while you maintain your calm and peaceful composure. Practice self-care, breathe deeply, meditate, or engage in a spiritual practice. Conserve your integrity and peace of mind at all costs.
*Take a Personal Inventory. Fear is what holds many people back. In a journal or notebook, write down the fears you have in your life. Note the times you have the fear, the intensity of the fear, and what you did to deal with it. When you do this, you will discover your fear triggers—when and how you become fearful and anxious. Now you can begin to neutralize the fears and focus on the parts of you that are good, powerful, and noble.
*Think From Abundance. Many times our anxieties, worries, and insecurities stem from our belief in lack—we think we don’t have enough; we’re not good enough. As a result, we settle for being with negative and critical people who feed into our erroneous self-belief that we’re not good enough. The simple antidote is to believe that there is an abundance of love, prosperity, health, and happiness for you. When you think from a mindset of abundance, you never have to settle for less. You can live more and love more, always.
Yes, you can defeat inner and outer bullies by the power of your mind. You don’t even have to throw a punch or kick. Most bullies are cowardly, so having a steely inner mind of confidence, poise, and balance will throw them off balance and defeat them. You can also defeat your inner critical thoughts (thought bullies) by saying: “I don’t need to listen to your poisonous words. I can be free, strong, loving, and happy. I am the Cobra. I am Invincible.”
What if I told you about an unsung hero, an American diplomat and businessman, who did incredible things to help America and the world during World War II? This man, one of America’s leading industrialists, put his business career on hold to help save European Jews during WWII, assist in deposing Mussolini, the Italian dictator, and block Germany from succeeding in the war. On Love University Podcast, we had the pleasure of learning about this mystery man, Myron Taylor, courtesy of award-winning legal scholar, Evan Stewart. In Evan’s latest book, “The Man Nobody Knew,” Evan painstakingly recounts unknown and fascinating details about Myron’s influential, yet modest and humble life, and the way he helped save many lives during WWII. A fascinating portrait of a man who sacrificed for his country and the world, Myron’s life is an inspiration to many of us today who realize that history can, and does, repeat itself.
Once in a while you meet a person who is endlessly fascinating and an absorbing conversationalist. This is who we met when Donna Spruijt-Metz joined Dr. Avila on Love University Podcast. An Emeritus Professor of Psychology and Public Health at USC, a former professional flutist, and an acclaimed poet, Donna enlightened us on various life topics and inspired us to find our true inner nature and develop a love for learning.
If you or a loved one is on the Autism spectrum, or if you have been curious about this condition, then you’re about to learn some fascinating things about this often-misunderstood diagnosis.
On our Love University podcast, we had the pleasure of meeting Dr. Sneha Mathur, autism expert, as she enlightened us on the truth about those who are classified as being on the “spectrum.”
Sneha talks with Dr. Avila about the natural diversity and creative potential that these unique individuals may possess. Although a number of them can have challenges in social and behavioral areas, they may also exhibit great qualities of creativity, intense focus, loyalty, the ability to detect patterns, and passionate productivity.
According to Sneha, what was once viewed as a severe mental disorder can be reconceptualized in a more positive way that respects the abilities and contributions of these extraordinary people.
Imagine if you had to disguise your race and gender or risk capture and death? This is exactly what happened to William and Ellen Craft, an enslaved married couple in the Deep South during Pre-Civil War times. In 1848, Ellen, whose mother was half-white, disguised herself as a white male slaveowner and her husband, William, played the part of her slave as they traveled North to escape slavery. Since Ellen couldn’t read or write, she tried to bypass any nosy questioners by having her arm in a sling and pretending to be sick. With various close calls and harrowing situations, they eventually made it North and became activists for anti-slavery. Through it all, their love for each other kept them safe, physically, psychologically, and spiritually. Join celebrated author, Ilyon Woo, and Dr. Avila as they discuss the amazing lives and journey of William and Ellen Craft on Love University, based on Woo’s NY times bestselling Master Slave Husband Wife. It is a story that will melt your heart and inspire you to reach for your own mental freedom.
“My father was kidnapped and killed when I was young. I fell into a deep depression and almost lost the will to live. But then, during my darkest hour, I discovered the magical words “Live More” and my life transformed. I realized that I had more to live and I could teach others about the amazing possibilities of life. I became a Ms. Universe contestant and pageant winner, as well as one of the top real estate producers in the nation, with over $200 million in sales. I work with celebrities and everyday people to help them buy their dream properties. I am Melissa Barragan, the Queen of Florida real estate, and this is my story. Please tune into Dr. Avila’s Love University and listen as we discuss the secrets of Living, Loving, and Being MORE. I did it and you can do it too. Love and Blessings, Mellisa. @liv_mor."
Is something holding you back from achieving your dreams? Does the obstacle seem too great? If so, then you are about to be inspired by our guest on Love University, Zana, an amazing new musical artist who overcame great obstacles to influence the world with her music. Growing up during the horrors of war in Bosnia and Herzegovina, she escaped and started a new life in the US.
Transforming her pain into power, her music was shortlisted for an Oscar and considered for Grammy nominations in three categories. Her music speaks to the soul and her musical language is love. Listen as Zana raises our spirits by channeling songs through her Higher Nature. In a candid and uplifting way, she shows us what it takes to drive toward your vision and achieve your most treasured goals, no matter what.
Would you like to give your children one of the biggest advantages in life? You can by giving them the gift of being bilingual. Teaching your children a second language at an early age can open them up to exciting new cultural experiences, advantageous job and career opportunities, and a world of travel adventures. Join us on Love University and listen as our special guest, Maritere, award-winning parenting expert and author, explains the importance of teaching your child to be bilingual in our fast-changing, technology focused world.
Would you like to create your own reality and achieve your wildest dreams? Now you can by applying a powerful three-part system of mental and physical transformation based on self-hypnosis and neural reprogramming. On Love University podcast, we met Diego Soto, an acclaimed expert on installing new mental frameworks and living successfully. Diego taught us the three steps for conquering negative thought patterns and implementing positive mental habits to fulfill your deepest desires. On the show, we also witnessed a real-life case study as Diego helped Carlos, one of LA’s most notorious gangsters, overcome his fears and develop a new mindset of peace, love, and hope. Here are the three steps to inner and outer fulfillment as explained by Diego:
1.Have a Defined Intention: What is it that you really want in life? Focus on that one goal, and everything else will fall into place. Perhaps, you desire a loving relationship and family life, material comforts and financial security, a beautiful home, wonderful friends, amazing travel experiences, or the opportunity to contribute something positive to the world. Now that you know your defined intention, write it down, speak it into existence, and focus on it daily.
- Maintain a Clear Visualization.Through meditation, affirmations, journaling, or prayer, imagine that you are achieving your ultimate aim. Whatever you imagine, make it very clear in your mind. Imagine all of the sights, sounds, tastes, and scents of your dream goal. Perhaps, you see your dream home—a beautiful white house on a hill overlooking a gorgeous sandy beach with clear blue water. You imagine your home filled with loved ones, as you do the creative work you love. You smell the scents of delicious seafood cooking in the kitchen. Your hear the joyous laughter of those around you.
- Experience the Full Feeling of Actualization. Once you have a clear intention, and visualize your goal becoming reality, you need to feel it in your body, heart, and soul. What is the emotion you experience when you meet your soul mate, start your dream business to help the world, travel to your most beloved destination? Perhaps, it’s joy, curiosity, love, gratitude, and so on. Focus on that feeling as it propels you beyond your fears and barriers, and takes you to the promised land of your ultimate dreams.
Yes, it’s true. You can create your own reality and change your mind from fear to love, from regret to satisfaction, and from sadness to joy. Practice daily and you will be amazed at how much you can achieve in your inner and outer life.
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Have you ever felt regretful or sad about the past? Perhaps, you feel that you’ve made some serious mistakes or blunders that have cost you important things in your life—love, success, finances, opportunities, health, or happiness. If you feel burdened under the pain of lost hope and unrealized expectations, there is good news for you. There is a way for you to recapture your power and joy through the magic of Self-forgiveness: forgiving yourself for any imagined or real errors you may have made in the past. On our Love University podcast, we delved into the final secret of happiness—Forgiveness, especially Self-Forgiveness. We pick up where we left off in the story of our two protagonists: Harry, the pompous psychiatrist, and Tanaka, the eccentric, but brilliant, martial arts master. Together, they will discover what forgiveness truly is, and their lives (and yours) will be changed forever.
Have you ever felt sad, depressed, or futile? It seems that nothing works, you can’t achieve your goals, and the whole world appears to be against you. If you’ve felt like that, then there is a solution for you: It is called Gratitude. Gratitude is the marvelous recognition that the good that you receive in life comes from outside you. It may come from a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature), your loved ones, or even a stranger who appears out of nowhere to help you (your car is stuck on the side of the road). Gratitude is a powerful feeling of true appreciation. On our Love University podcast, we delved into the first secret of happiness—Gratitude. We pick up where we left off in the story of our two protagonists: Harry, the pompous psychiatrist, and Tanaka, the eccentric, but brilliant, martial arts master. Together, they will discover what gratitude truly is and their lives (and yours) will be changed forever.
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There are secrets to happiness—three of them in fact. In this series of transformative talks by Dr. Avila on Love University, you will not only learn the three secrets of happiness, but you will discover how to live a miraculous life. You will achieve greatness in your relationships, career, finances, health, and happiness. But, first, you will take a journey of surprising enlightenment by meeting our protagonists, Harry, the pompous psychiatrist who thinks he already knows all of the answers, and Tanaka, the martial arts master and sage who breaks down Harry’s ego and shows him the truth of his own being. Get ready to learn the lessons of true contentment as you delve into the story of your own empowerment.
Are you carrying emotional hurts, fears, and sadness from the past that are limiting your joy and success? If so, you can rid yourself of these self-defeating thoughts and feelings and live a free and joyous life. On Love University podcast, we learned lessons of self-love, forgiveness, and gratitude from Jackeline Cacho, former Ms. Peru contestant, Emmy-nominated TV personality, bestselling author (“My Emotional Backpack", “Mi Mochila Emocional”), and international inspirational speaker. After surviving a devastating three car rollover accident, Jackeline suffered from anxiety attacks for seven years until she learned to master her fear and awaken her inner power. Here’s what Jackeline shared with us:
*Everything happens for a reason; be grateful for what you have. When she saw her father’s dead body (heart attack) at age 17, she was devastated. For many years, she blamed herself for not going to him earlier to save him. But now she realizes that she could not have done anything differently and she needed to forgive herself. She realized that her father is proud of her now, looking upon her from a higher place, as she achieves great things and inspires others.
*Latino women need to speak up. Jackeline explains how many Latino women remain silent and try to keep a happy face even though they are suffering inside. The key, says Jackeline, is for all women to awaken their inner power and express their authentic selves. An enlightened woman can achieve her unique destiny while influencing her husband/love partner and children to reach their fullest potential.
*Relationships may not be perfect, but love is. After 17 years of marriage, Jackeline says she is still deeply in love with her husband. She counsels other couples to recognize that love is the equalizing force in all successful relationships. Although disagreements and problems may arise in the relationship, it’s true that a strong bond of unconditional love will get couples through any obstacle.
After overcoming heartbreak and loss to achieve a life of success and contribution, Jackeline sums up her philosophy with the phrase: “We are all divine creatures—we need to believe in something divine.” When she was in the horrendous car accident, she says a mysterious man came out of nowhere to counsel her, and then he disappeared. No one else saw him, but she is sure he was an “angel,” who was there to help her (she emerged without any physical injuries). As Jackeline advises, we as human beings can all work together to be each other’s angels; we can be loving agents of change to create a better, more beautiful, and loving world.
When NY times bestselling author, W. Bruce Cameron, was on a road trip with his girlfriend, she shared some sad news: Her first dog had just died. She was crying and inconsolable. Then, W. Bruce was inspired to tell her a story about a dog that reincarnates and eventually ends up in heaven with his owner. The story became a beloved novel and movie (“A Dog’s Purpose, and sequels), and catapulted W. Bruce (wbrucecameron.com) as the dog lover novelist (he also married his passenger). Appearing on our Love University Podcast, W. Bruce shared his insights on the unbreakable love bond between dogs and humans. Here's what we discussed about dogs and the lessons they can teach us:
Dogs and humans are evolutionary programmed to love each other. In ancient times, the human-wolf (later dog) bond developed as wolves helped humans hunt and survive better. Those humans who worked well with wolves tended to survive and pass along their genes, while wolves who worked well with humans were taken care of and were able to reproduce. Now, according to W. Bruce, in modern times, it’s in our respective DNAs to love dogs and dogs to love us.
Dogs give us pure unconditional, forgiving love. People are judgmental, but dog’s aren’t. A human will say to another, “You look terrible with that shirt,” or “You hurt me back in 2020—I can’t forget it.” A dog doesn’t care what you look like; they will still love you if your hair is all messed up. They also don't hold grudges (you put them outside when company came), yet they are still super excited to see you when you come get them. Strive to be the same toward yourself and others—forgiving, accepting, and loving.
A dog enjoys the simple pleasures. We live in a rush-rush society—multitasking, technology overload, trying to cram one more thing into our day. Take a lesson from dogs—they enjoy the simple pleasures of the moment. Even a car ride around the corner is exciting for them. When they take you for a walk, they stop to smell everything and really enjoy it. Follow their example, “Smell the essence of life”—wherever you go, and whatever you do, strive to savor and relish the sights, sounds, tastes, and smells of the experience. Slow down and enjoy the simple pleasures of life.
Dogs fully accept everything. Dogs are masters at going with the flow. W. Bruce talks about a dog that lost the use of their leg and were in a cart. Yet, the dog was happy because it didn’t have pain and it could spend time with its loved ones. What a beautiful way for us to live as humans if we could accept everything that happens to us—as we find the silver lining in even the darkest of clouds.
You have a short life span—enjoy every minute. The average dog has a lifespan of 10 to 13 years. Yet, in that short time period, dogs can pack a great deal of fun, adventure, love, and joy. You can do the same. Realize that your physical time on earth is limited, but the love you create and share is eternal. Like a dog, you can be grateful for every “treat” you experience in life, and approach each moment of existence with joy and anticipation.
- Bruce says the biggest concern of a loving dog is what will happen to their human after the dog is gone. Ultimately, W. Bruce’s dog books are about reunification and returning to the ones we love; otherwise known as eternal love. This uplifted love can be between humans and each other, humans and a Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature), and humans and animals. It’s true that dogs are truly a great gift to our world. They teach us how to be generous, nonjudgmental, and forgiving. They show us how to enjoy the present without worrying about the future or regretting the past. Let’s face it: It’s a dog’s world, and you’re living in it. Enjoy.
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Have you ever felt shy, lonely, or disconnected from others? Now there’s a way to connect with others and have great friends. Our guest on Love University, Cat Moore (cat-moore.com), USC Director of belonging, shared some insights on how to bring positive people into your life and feel a powerful sense of belonging and connection with others. Here’s what we learned:
*Make yourself “Tappable.” Put yourself out there to interact with people. Go to public spaces, activities, and events. Smile at others, say “Hi,” pay sincere compliments. Make yourself approachable and chances are someone interesting will start a conversation with you. If you’re shy or Introverted, start small. Say “Hi” to a couple of people and see how that feels. Practice your smile with others. The more you send loving energy into the environment, the more likely someone will respond favorably to you.
*Show Empathy and Listen. Cat says, “Being listened to with empathy is the closest thing to feeling loved. When you’re with others, make sure you listen without judgement—put yourself in their shoes. Ask: “How would I feel if I were in their position?” When you show up with loving intention, you will be able to develop deeper, more meaningful relationships.
*Meet your friends in person. In our hyperconnected society, many people are overwhelmed with virtual relationships, but lack deep meaningful connections on a personal level. Cat suggests that you meet your friends on a regular basis (weekly) in person if possible (homes, coffeeshops, outdoor locations). According to Cat, we need embodied experiences (not just zoom) to sustain quality connections. Relationships are a living organism that have to be fed regularly for true bonding to take place.
Although we’ve become more of an internal society with more people working and entertaining from home, it’s important that we balance our social and self-care needs. If you’re more Introverted or shy, you may be perfectly content staying home and not interacting too much with people. Yet, it’s important to remember that other people may need you—your companionship, attention, advice, and love. Also, you can learn valuable things from others, and you can feel that you’re not alone in this big unpredictable world. Love and be loved. That is the essence of human connection. It’s simple, but if you do it, you will achieve a great sense of belonging, peace, and joy.
There once was a lion cub who got separated from his mother. A sheep found him and took him in as her own. The lion cub grew into a lion and one day an amazing thing happened. In the distance, he heard the roar of a lion. Suddenly, something powerful emerged within the lost lion—surprising himself, he started roaring as well. Realizing his destiny, he left his sheep mother without looking back and went in search of his lion heritage. In a similar way, our guest on Love University, Jesse Leon, underwent an amazing transformation to discover his inner lion. Raised in a horrific environment of sexual abuse, drug addiction, homelessness, and hopelessness, Jesse awakened to his true nature by graduating from prestigious universities and making a tremendous impact on his community and the world. He also embraced his authentic nature as a gay Latino male who wants to inspire others to shine their light and love to their communities. We were honored to hear his story, as described in his bestselling memoir, I’m Not Broken (https://rb.gy/uruyp). Here’s what we learned from Jesse:
Channel Your Inner Nerd: We all have innate intelligence. You’re smart and resilient no matter where you come from and what you’ve been through. You just need to code switch—apply your knowledge and experience to the environment you’re in and do it for the good of all.
Be Ready for Unexpected Mentors: Be open for moments of magic when remarkable people come into your life to help you. They may not look like individuals you expect to help you, but they can help transform your life if you let them.
Just Go For It: If you have a desire, don’t think twice, just go for it. Jesse thought his ceiling was to graduate from community college (cosmetology), but he didn’t realize that he could do much more. With motivating people to guide him, he applied to UC Berkeley and Harvard, and graduated from these prestigious institutions. Jesse says that if you want something, just put yourself out there. Go for it, and you will be pleasantly surprised that you accomplished it.
Jesse’s message can be summarized in a simple phrase: Don’t Stop Until the Miracle Happens. No one gave Jesse a chance, but he found faith, friendship, and hope in embracing his true authenticity and power within. You can do the same. No matter what you’ve gone through, no matter where you come from, You Are Not Broken. You are perfect just the way are. Embrace yourself, love yourself, and extend your love to others without expectation. Nothing can stop you now.
What would you do if the one you loved cheated on you with their ex and then a gun was pulled on you? And what if your mind’s expectations of what your parent wanted you to do drove you to think about jumping off a building and ending your life? Sounds hopeless and miserable. Yet, our guest on Love University, Daniel Perez, 3D, overcame all of these challenges to become an up and coming producer, MC, and rapper who is happy to share his amazing story of acceptance, authenticity, and transformation. Listen as Dr. Avila helps Daniel see the beauty of his own inner nature and find the love inside he has been searching for all his life.
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You can live the most amazing life possible, despite any setbacks, obstacles, or problems you may face. On our Love University podcast, we learned the secrets of impeccable living and reaching your most treasured goals. Here’s what we learned:
*Claim your birthright as a King or Queen. Remind yourself daily of who you are: A Queen or King by virtue of being a creation of the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature). Claim your inner royalty and decide that you will live joyfully every moment of every wondrous day.
*Expand your Love Energy daily. In the East, the vital flow of life energy is known as Qi or Chi. On a daily basis, decide that you will express your positive and loving energy—smile at others, act kindly, listen attentively. When you extend your loving energy into the world, the world will reciprocate with good and wonderful things in your favor.
*Say “I am” and follow it with great things. The words “I am” are very powerful. When you add positive and uplifting words to the “I am” sentence, you will be uplifted and encouraged. Say “I am healthy,” “I am rich—both materially and spiritually,” and “I am loved.” When you speak positives after “I am,” you can accomplish great things and live joyfully.
There you have it. Three simple things you can do daily to live an extraordinary life: Claim your royal birthright, expand your love energy daily, and say “I am” followed by great statements of positivity. You’re on your way now to actualizing your full potential and achieving your deepest desires. Enjoy every minute of your journey to the ultimate You.
Have you ever given up on a relationship, career/business, or lifestyle choice and then later regretted it? Would you like to have more power in your life to persist and accomplish the things you truly desire? If you answered “yes,” your solution is to catch your second wind. William James, the esteemed psychologist, coined the term “second wind” to describe how you can persist through obstacles and tap into a deeper layer of energy and motivation to achieve your goals. Runners catch their second wind after running for a period of time. They are able to enter into the mindset called “Flow,” in which they lose track of time, worries, and even their very body—feeling joyous and uplifted in the process. Here are some ways you can access the power of your second wind:
*Cultivate a Fruitful State of Mind. Adopt a mindset of positive expectancy (“things will work out just fine”), gratitude (“I am thankful”), and meaning (“I have a purpose”). When you do this, you will be able to push through barriers easier to reach your goals.
*Practice Kaizen. Kaizen is a Japanese term that means “continuous improvement.” Every day strive to make small improvements. If you want to get in shape, you may start by working out only 15 minutes, and then gradually increase your time and frequency as you feel the pleasure and gains of your workout.
Participate in Persistent Contagion. Moods and mindsets can be contagious. Study and learn from successful “Second Winders” who have overcome great obstacles in life. J.K. Rowling was a single welfare mom when she wrote Harry Potter* and became one of the wealthiest authors of all time. Thomas Edison, famed inventor, “failed” thousands of times in his quest for the ideal light bulb filament, but he never saw failure. He said he learned many ways that wouldn’t work so he could find the way that would.
*Have a Strong Back, Soft Front. Another term from the East, this means that you will have resilience (strong back) when you face problems, but you will also have compassion for self and others (soft front). In this way, you are balanced and firm when circumstances go against you, while maintaining your sense of love and humanity along the way.
*Take a Second Wind Inventory. In a pad, tablet, or notebook, write down the times when you got a second wind. Although you wanted to quit, you didn’t give up on a relationship, business/career/educational, or lifestyle decision. By not giving up, you experienced something wonderful and beneficial. Also, for the next two weeks, push your comfort zone a bit to get to your second wind. Maintain that yoga position or fast a little longer, make that uncomfortable call you need to make, do less of the bad habit (excessive social media use) that drains your energy. Record how you feel and your results—you will find that Second Wind becomes more natural and ingrained in you the more you do it.
In the end, you will realize an important truth: The wind is always blowing. It’s up to you to flow with the wind—instead of trying to fight against it. Be like a kite who is taken up by the wind—soaring majestically into the skies as you actualize your dreams of love, joy, success, contribution, and legacy.
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Do you love your work or is it mainly a way to make a living? Now there’s a way to love your work and make as much money as you need. On our Love University Podcast, we explored the secrets of doing work you love and achieving everything you desire. Here’s what we learned:
*Tap into your Don. You Don is your Higher Nature (God/nature)—given talent. Perhaps you’re gifted in writing, entertaining, caretaking, teaching, science, business, hands-on crafts, mechanics, or the like. When doing an activity, ask yourself: “Does this activity make my heart sing and my spirit soar?” If it does, then it is your Don. Once you discover your Don, devote as much of your time to developing it as you can. When you tap into your Don, your self-esteem and self-confidence increases and you realize that your Don, used rightly, can be part of the restoration of the earth.
*Give the fruits of Your Don to the Higher Nature. After you’ve discovered and developed your Don, your next step is to mentally give the fruits or results of your Don (money, accolades, status) to the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature). In other words, you’re not working for the rewards of your work. You’re simply doing what you love to do and that is all. You’re giving away your talents in service to others as a result. As a result, you're no longer burdened by the expectation or pressure of earning a certain amount of money or receiving some type of benefit from your labor. Now you can do infinite work without getting tired because you are approaching it with a lighthearted and loving mindset. In turn, the Universe/Higher Nature will bring to you all of the success, well-being, and joy that belongs to you. It will come to you naturally and abundantly.
*Express kindness in the workplace. They say the workplace can be filled with hostile, gossiping, and conflictual people and situations. Although this may be true, your task is to bring the energy of kindness to the workplace. On a daily basis, strive to relieve the suffering of the people in your work environment, including employees, manager, customers, affiliates, and business partners. On a regular basis, perform acts of kindness. For customers or clients, you can offer an unexpected gift or discount; for service providers, you may give them an extra tip or bonus. At the office, you can help a co-worker with a difficult task. You can also tell your supervisors, co-worker, and clients how much you appreciate them. In this way you create a “Kindness Chain” in which one person’s kindness inspires another to be kind as well. With this atmosphere of kindness and compassion, work satisfaction and productivity will be significantly increased.
Yes, you can love your work and love your life. All you have to do is tap into your Don, give the fruits of your Don to the Higher Nature, and express kindness in the workplace. When you do these things, you will be one step closer to actualizing your true potential and using your gifts to uplift yourself, your loved ones, and the world. As the famed Lebanese poet, Khalil Gibran, once said, “Work is love made visible.” Now it’s your turn: Go out this week and make your love visible in the work you do as you leave a legacy of goodness, light, and contribution.
Have you ever lost your temper and said and did things you later regretted? If so, you were likely under the influence of the Anger Thought Demon—excessive and blown out of proportion anger thoughts that needlessly cause damage to yourself and others. On our Love University podcast, we learned powerful tools for mastering the Anger Thought Demon and maintaining a mind of peace, calm, and love. Here’s what we learned:
*Analyze your anger triggers. In a notebook or pad jot down the things, people, and situations that trigger your anger (e.g. traffic jams, mechanical failures, rude people). As you become aware of the things that make you mad, you will take the necessary precautions to protect yourself from the Anger Thought Demon.
*Give yourself a space between frustration and reaction. Take a time out when you feel yourself boiling over with extreme anger (perhaps an argument with a loved one). Take a walk, exercise, listen to music. Don’t react or add to the Anger Thought Demon at the moment it rears its ugly head; simply let the anger go through you until it is no longer in control. Then, come back and pick up the activity or conversation from a more relaxed mindset.
*Learn the Reverse Lesson. Observe angry people and do the opposite of what they do (maintain peace). Study those who are under the fiery influence of the Anger Thought Demon. See how their fists clench, their faces turn ugly red, and their voices become shrill or screaming. Take notice of how they harm relationships and career/business opportunities through rageful reactions. Realize how much they suffer from their out of control anger and resolve that you will be different. You will be a calm, peaceful, and loving person who is in command of your mind at all times.
Although some anger can be useful to right wrongs and correct injustices, the Anger Thought Demon is a harmful exaggeration of your feelings of hurt and disrespect that can lead to self-harming actions. It’s true that many people in our society suffer from the Anger Thought Demon. The good news is that you can live peacefully in an angry world. All it takes is an awareness of the Anger Thought Demon and a desire to take the necessary steps to separate yourself from its fiery, destructive influence. Imagine a life of peace, love, and contentment. This can be your life when you eradicate the Anger Thought Demon from your mind—once and for all.
Have you ever wondered why fear and worry rule your life? It’s because you haven’t learned how to transform fear into power and worry into security. In the Watermelon Hunter parable on Love University Podcast, you will learn the secrets of a worry-free life. The Watermelon Hunter is a tale about a wise man who helped a land of foolish and worried people find peace and security. Now sit back, relax, and listen as you uncover the time-honored mystery of ultimate confidence, love, and joy.
Have you ever wanted something badly that you knew was no good for you? Perhaps, you were addicted to a substance, behavior, person, or way of life that was self-defeating or self-destructive. If so, you were probably under the influence of the Compulsion Thought Demon—the damaging irresistible thoughts that compel you to sabotage your life by indulging in unhealthy behaviors and getting involved with toxic people. Fortunately, there is a way to overcome bad habits, addictions, and compulsive behaviors that you can’t control. On our Love University Podcast, we learned powerful ways to vanquish the Compulsion Thought Demon so you can pursue a healthy and satisfying life. Here’s what we discovered: *Give Your Desires an Upward Turn. When you feel overcome by an overwhelming desire for something harmful (e.g. staying in a toxic relationship), you will give your desire an upward turn. In other words, you will transform your unhealthy desire into a healthy and uplifting one. In the relationship example, you will channel your craving for the exciting, but toxic, person into a strong desire for a compatible, high quality soul mate who provides you with genuine love. You will search for a quality and loving partner with as much intensity and desire as you pursued the unhealthy and toxic relationship. Now when you meet that wonderful person, you will feel a sense of joy and accomplishment.
Keep A Compassion Journal. In a pad or notebook, write down all of your harmful compulsions (activity, substance, person) and record all of the details you can remember about the compulsion. Write down when they occur, their intensity and ability to overwhelm you, how you feel when they first influenced you (excited, anticipating), and how you feel when you have indulged in the compulsion (letdown, regretful). Doing this will raise your awareness of just how much compulsions rule your life and will give you a blueprint for how to eradicate them from your daily existence.
Draw Your Compulsion and Imagine it Disappearing. Now in your pad or notebook, draw what you think the Compulsion Thought Demon looks like—give it a color. Maybe you see it as a cloud of black smoke (smoking compulsion) or a red creature with a pointy head (road rage addiction). Now imagine that your Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature) is lifting the Compulsion Thought Demon away from you—vacuuming the black smoky (or red) figure out of your mind permanently. Visualize that you are being cleansed of the Compulsion Thought Demon’s relentlessly craving and chasing thoughts, and you are becoming mentally free.
As you do these exercises, your mental burden will become lighter. Where before, you yielded to the compulsion, or futilely tried to fight it with your own mental willpower, now you can relax. You will let your Higher Nature fight the battle for you and kick the Compulsion Thought Demon out of your mind, once and for all. You are free at last.
Has fear and worry ever got ahold of you and made you suffer? If so, you were under the influence of the Fear Thought Demon. The Fear Thought Demon consists of self-defeating and exaggerated thoughts of fear: “Watch out, you will lose your money, relationships, health, and even your life.” These attacking thoughts constantly warn you that bad things will happen to you in the future, and you will lose everything you value. The good news is that there is a way to get rid of the Fear Thought Demon once and for all. On our latest Love University podcast, we became acquainted with some powerful ways to vanquish unnecessary and exaggerated thoughts of fear and worry. Here’s what we learned:
*Rewire Your Brain From Rabbit to Lion. In nature, the lion is powerful and confident; it sleeps a lot because it has little to fear from other animals. The rabbit, on the other hand, is on every animal’s menu. They are always scurrying around, fearful they will be eaten at a moment’s notice. If you’re like a fearful rabbit, you can become a fearless lion by associating pleasant and relaxed feelings with things that make you afraid, worried, or stressed. For example, let’s say you feel overly stressed at work and you fear you can’t do all of the work you need to do. If that’s the case, then try this exercise: Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine that you are in a beautiful relaxed place in nature; perhaps a beach, mountain, or lake. Mentally breathe in the fresh air, experience the sounds, sights, and feelings of the gorgeous locale. By doing this, you will relax your mind. In place of anxious and worried thoughts, you will associate pleasant, relaxed feelings with your workplace. You will be happier and more productive as a result.
*Play to Your Strength. The theory of multiple intelligences tells us that individuals can have different kinds of talents (musical, kinesthetic, verbal, interpersonal, etc.). You probably have one strong talent or ability that you can utilize to build your confidence and reduce your fear, worry, and anxiety. Perhaps, you’re good with words, numbers, people, ideas, or machines. Whatever your greatest ability is, focus on developing and applying it as much as possible. In fact, your aim should be to spend about 80% of your time using your gift/talent and only 20% of your time (or less) on improving your areas of weakness. However, chances are you may be spending a lot more time working on your weaker areas and not enough time on building up your strength—this leaves you weakened and fills you with doubt and anxiety. Focus this week on devoting a majority of your time working on your strength, and you will feel more relaxed and capable as a result.
*Use Fear as an Ally. Realize that rational (realistic) fear can be a valuable asset. Evolutionary psychology tells us that we developed the fight or flight mechanism as a protective mechanism. When we face danger, our bodies are filled with chemicals that enhance our ability to run or fight so we can survive. Therefore, some fear can be adaptive and helpful (“don’t walk in a dark alley alone at night in a dangerous area”). Yet many people exaggerate fear and are afraid or anxious even in situations where there is very low (or no) risk of danger or harm. Therefore, your task is to use reasonable fear and caution as a friend (“get insurance, watch your diet, be wary of emotionally dangerous people”), while still maintaining your faith, confidence, and optimism. When fear starts to become the Fear Thought Demon (irrational and excessive fear), you can put a stop to it and say: “Fear Thought Demon, go away; you don’t control me anymore. I am confident, loving, and at peace. I am perfectly fine and happy without you.”
Love University students, go out this week, and declare a Fear Thought Demon free week. You will act like a lion, play to your strengths, and use rational fear as an ally for protection when necessary. Along the way, you will counteract excessive thoughts of fear with thoughts of success, power, and happiness. Make your mind a reservoir of positivity, and you will never have anything to fear. Only light, love, and joy will fill your mind and heart—enjoy every day, every hour, and every minute of your life with the fullest appreciation and contentment.
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Have you ever felt down and out—sad, depressed, and feeling like nothing seems to work? If so, you may have been under the influence of the Futility Thought Demon—the critical thought voice that tells you that you’re a failure and nothing will ever change. Now there’s a way to conquer the Futility Thought Demon and soar on the wings of self-love. Here are the secrets of emotional freedom we learned on the Love University Podcast:
*Ask yourself: “was I connected to my joy today?” Before you go to bed each night, reflect on the things that brought you joy during the day, perhaps, meditating or praying, communicating with loved ones, or enjoying some time outside in nature. Also, take note of the time you wasted on non-productive activities such as partaking in excessive social media or absorbing negative news. Strive each day to do the things you love, and you will elevate your mind and soul.
*Do the difficult things first. Make sure you handle the most important and emotionally challenging tasks at the beginning of your day. Make that difficult call, have an important discussion, do a crucial business task. When you get the difficult out of the way first, the rest of the day is easier, and you feel more confident and motivated.
*Access the power of positive habit. Every movement and thought requires energy. To improve your success and inner power, you need to build up positive habits and decrease negative habits. You can do this by managing the energy you expend in daily activities. For example, if you watch too much TV, you can move the TV remote to another part of the house so you have to walk to get it (spend energy). If you want to read more, put a book next to your couch in the living room to make it easier for you to access it. By doing these small actions, you restructure your mental patterns and accentuate positive activities that can help you build a better life.
*Give love without expectation. This is one of the most powerful secrets for vanquishing the Futility Thought Demon. Give kindness, appreciation, respect, and love to others—even to strangers. Smile, say “hi,” offer sincere compliments. Get to know other people in a deeper way; ask them questions about their dreams and values. Listen empathetically. When you do this, you not only help others, but you lift your mood from gloomy “poor me” to hopeful and loving “united we.” You see all people as part of you, and you as part of them—helping, loving, and growing.
Yes, you can defeat the gloomy and self-attacking thoughts in your head, the Futility Thought Demons of your mind. You can do this by being committed to your joy, doing the difficult thing first, accessing the power of positive habit, and loving without expectation. By doing these things, you will evaporate futility from your mind and bring love, joy, and good cheer into every ounce of your being
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Do you feel shame, regret, or guilt for things you did or should have done? If so, you may be under the influence of the Bad Me Thought—the negative and critical inner voice that insists you screwed up, you’re a bad person, and you don’t deserve any better in life. On Love University podcast, we learned ways to eradicate the Bad Me Thought Demon—exaggerated shame and guilt—so you can live confidently and with peace and joy. Here’s what you can do to eliminate the Bad Me Thought Demon:
*Take moral inventory of your past actions and learn from them. If you made a mistake, acknowledge and learn from it. Maybe you hurt a loved one or messed up at work in a bad way. Resolve to apply the lessons learned to help you become a stronger and better person. You don’t have to beat yourself over the head constantly for your errors, blunders, and bad habits. You can grow from your experiences and move forward with your life.
*Affirm the Gift of Life. Instead of hiding from others and life because of the mistakes you’ve made, boldly enter the present and travel into the future. Embrace the gift of life and natural abilities you have been given by the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature). Spend time with loved ones, do the hobbies and activities you love, and engage in a spiritual/meditative practice. Most importantly, shine your positive loving energy to everyone who crosses your path with a feeling of gratefulness and compassion.
*Catch others doing the right thing. There is an interesting psychological paradox. What we do to others, we often do to ourselves. When we condemn others, we are likely to condemn ourselves. When we forgive and are tolerant to others, we do the same for ourselves. To master the Bad Me Thought Demon, therefore, begin to reward people (verbally, affectionately) for saying and doing positive and uplifting things. Instead of being quick to judge, criticize, and condemn, develop empathy and put yourself in their shoes. Forgive them for their errors. With empathy, perhaps you realize that the person who made a cruel remark was having a bad day (family problems), and they are actually a decent and caring person. Strive to see the good in people, and you will start seeing the good in yourself.
Although some guilt can be useful to help you overcome weaknesses and remedy wrongs, the Bad Me Thought Demon exaggerates guilt and shame to humiliate and destroy you. The good news is that you don’t have to yield to its influence. While recognizing and learning from your mistakes, you can move forward to affirm the gift of life and help others along the way. After all, there is nothing for you to be ashamed about: You are human, you are free, and you are loved.
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There is a negative force that is out to get you. It is called the Thought Demons—the collection of all the negative and critical thoughts you’ve had in your mind since childhood. These include thoughts such as “You’re never make it. You’ll never find love. You’ll never be financially secure. You’re a loser.” The good news is that these voices can be defeated and you can live free from their malevolent influence. On Love University, we learned powerful techniques for eradicating the Thought Demons in your mind and finding joy and success. Here are the three steps of Thought Demon eradication:
*Identify the Thought Demon. In a journal, pad, or notebook write down the name of the particular negative or critical thought that is tormenting you the most at the moment. Maybe it’s the “Money Failure Thought Demon”—telling you that “You’re a loser with money. You will never have enough.” Draw what it looks like, with a certain color that represents its nature. Maybe, you will draw a skinny green goblin that laments the lack of money in your life.
*Talk back to the Thought Demon. Tell it, “I am smart and talented. I can make as much money as I want. I am stronger than you and I can make you disappear.” As you challenge the Thought Demon, realize that it has no power to harm or control you. You can be the master of your mind.
*Develop your Love Voice. Your love voice is the part of your mind that is loving, powerful, and healing. It tells you that you can succeed and you are worthy. To cultivate your Love Voice, think of all the love you have for your loved ones, friends, family, pets, work, and hobbies. When a Thought Demon tries to infiltrate your mind, think of all the good things in the world: the love between humans; the beauty of nature, and the great things that await you in the future.
The truth is that you can be free of the Thought Demons and get your mental life back. All you have to do is identify the critical thoughts, stand up to them, and develop your positive, healing Love Voice. When you do this, you can rid yourself of the Thought Demons and regain control over your mind. You can live effortlessly, with peace, power, hope, and love. Start today: Say goodbye to the Thought Demons and say hello to your authentic and confident loving nature.
There is a science of mind and body that can transform your life. It is called Yoga. On Love University podcast, we welcomed beloved Yoga teacher, Mandeep (HOME | Kundalini Collective), as she enlightened us on the benefits and joys of yoga practice. Here is what we learned:
*Yoga offers many benefits. The practice of yoga improves mood, concentration, and decision-making, as well as the immune system, while reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. It can help in weight loss. It can teach trauma victims how to tolerate discomfort and integrate their past experiences into their mind and body. In addition, practicing yoga in a group setting can increase your sense of community, togetherness, and sharing.
*You can reduce your Monkey Mind. In the East, the “Monkey Mind” refers to all of the chattering thoughts you have in your head (“I have to pay bills; I’m late for work”) that prevent you from maintaining peace and relaxation. Fortunately, in yoga, you can practice Mudras (hand/finger movements) that occupy your body while your mind can relax. The good news is that you don’t have to sit still and think of nothing when you practice yoga meditation. You can chant, breathe, stretch, and perform mudras to integrate your mind, body, and spirit.
*Yoga can help you raise your consciousness. In her studio, Mandeep teaches Kundalini Yoga, a way to inner peace and union with the Higher Nature by uncoiling the energy within you. Kundalini yoga contains many schools of yoga in one teaching, one practice, and expresses Mandeep’s philosophy: “We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”
You can raise your emotional, physical, and spiritual level by incorporating yoga practice into your daily life. By tapping into your inner energy and power, you can calm your Monkey Mind, release tension and fear, and develop a hopeful and optimistic outlook on life. It’s true that yoga can be a great tool for your inner and outer advancement. Remember: The way to union and peace comes from an everyday commitment to understanding and integrating your mind, body, and soul.
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Do you really love yourself in an authentic way? Loving yourself authentically means that you have a deep understanding and appreciation of who you really are. You accept yourself as you are without excessively judging and criticizing yourself. For many people, authentic self-love is difficult because they judge themselves harshly and push themselves too hard. The solution is to have balanced self-love, in which you love and forgive yourself, while recognizing your areas of needed improvement. Here’s how to practice self-love in a healthy and powerful way:
*Write a self-love letter. Write a letter from the perspective of your future self. Write as if your future self is asking your present self an important question: Am I living my most authentic, healthy, and love-filled life right now? Perhaps, you’re not living healthily right now—eating the wrong foods, indulging in bad habits. Maybe, you’re not living an authentic and loving life because you’re in an incompatible relationship or career. If that’s the case, then you need to change course right now so your future self will benefit from your current decisions: practice healthy habits, choose the right career or relationship, and develop your inner and outer self.
*Practice radical self-care. Give special attention to your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs. Get enough rest and exercise, eat healthy, and engage in positive and life-affirming hobbies, occupations, and pursuits. When you do this, you are able to give more to others because you have more to give.
*Repeat a self-love mantra. Every morning when you wake up, repeat a phrase that acknowledges your specialness as a human being and the great gift you have been given, which is Life. Say something like this: “Today I am fortunate to wake up. I am alive. I am not going to waste this precious gift known as ‘Human Life.’ Instead of anger and fear, I will have thoughts of peace, love, confidence, and security. I am blessed.” When you repeat this phrase on a daily basis, you will unleash hidden power. Instead of seeing the world from a mindset of lack and insecurity, you will realize that there is an abundance of everything you need in the world, and within yourself.
It's important to remember that healthy self-love is not egotism, selfishness, or narcissism. It is a balanced appreciation and acceptance of who you really are, while recognizing the specialness of all human beings. When you love yourself authentically, you have more love to give to others. You also have more energy, vitality, and confidence to achieve your greatness and leave a lasting legacy of goodness, love, and contribution. Love yourself today, and spread your love to the world without expectation. That is the greatest secret of all.
Gratitude is a tremendous power for inner and outer success. Gratitude is the recognition and appreciation that the good that you receive comes from outside you—from the Higher Nature (God, spirit, nature), loved ones, and even from strangers. When you are grateful, you have less depression and anxiety, and better sleep. You also have growth and increase in your finances, career, relationships, health, joy, and ultimate success. On our latest Love University Podcast, we discovered how to unleash the tremendous power of Gratitude in your daily life. Here’s what we learned:
*Use Gratitude to Banish Ungratefulness. When ungrateful thoughts come in your mind—"I never get any breaks; everyone is doing better than me”—don’t dwell on these mental intruders. Instead, think of everything that you’re grateful for: Your life, loved ones, friends, career, finances, the place you live, the food you eat, clothes you wear, your pets, hobbies, and the marvelous things you are able to see, feel, and experience. Look around and observe the beauty of the world: babies, sunsets, nature, inventions, creations, and love expressed by those who love. Always realize that there is much to be grateful about in the world.
*Be grateful in advance. To get what you want, be grateful for what you want, even if you don’t have it yet. If you want a new house, for example, visualize that you already have it and be grateful for it. When you do this, you will release a tremendous amount of positive energy that will help make your dream home a reality. Because you are already experiencing the same feelings (joy) that you would have if you owned the house, you will generate more enthusiasm, perseverance, and dedication to make your dream come true.
*Love more fully each day. You don’t know how long you have on earth, so it’s important that you give all the love you have to give on a daily basis. Say “I love you” to those you truly care about. Do what you love to do for work. Express love mentally to everyone around you—even strangers. When you do this, your level of gratitude and appreciation for life will soar, and you will attract more wonderful people, opportunities, and circumstances into your world.
Love University students, your goal this week is to practice gratitude on a daily basis. When you do this, you will raise yourself to greater heights of emotional and spiritual well-being. You will also help create a circle of gratefulness in which you inspire others to be grateful as well. Remember: A grateful world is a happy and joyous place where love and harmony abound. Be grateful today and always.
You have a tremendous power near your navel. It is called the Hara. In Eastern philosophy and martial arts, the Hara is the physical point that exists two inches below your navel. When a martial artist is centered in their Hara, they cannot be pushed or pulled by another person, no matter how strong the other individual is. They have tremendous one-point focus. In today’s Love University Podcast, you will learn how to apply the power of the Hara—one point focus—to maintain your mental balance and actualize your dreams. Here’s what you can do:
*Ask yourself: What’s the most important thing I need to do today that would make everything else unnecessary? By narrowing your focus to your ultimate goal for the day—family, health, spiritual development, creativity—everything else will tend to fall into place. When you do the most important thing first, you will find that you have enough time and energy to take care of the practical and mundane aspects of life.
*Redirect your Distractions: Distractions fill your world—technology, people, things to do, your own thoughts. To maintain a one-point focus, you need to be aware of, and eliminate, distractions. In a pad or notebook, write down all the things that distract you and drain your energy on a daily basis, whether it’s social media, needless texts, or negative news. Also, write down how you feel when you participate in the distracting activity (sad, worried, stressed). Now, redirect your attention and focus to the things that really matter and make a positive difference in your life—career/work, family, spiritual and physical health, and improving your state of mind. When you do this, you will be more focused, peaceful and powerful.
*Practice the Million Mile Palm: In this exercise, you will stand with your right foot in front, and feet shoulder length apart. You will inhale deeply and bring your right palm up to your face (palm facing to the left). Now imagine that there is a solid brick next to your face that represents the most serious problem or obstacle that stands in the way to achieving your ultimate goal. Perhaps, you see the barrier as being a lack of money, ability, education, and so forth. Next, as you exhale, quickly and explosively extend your palm straight out as far as you can reach as if you were pushing through the brick, one million miles into the distance. As you do this, visualize that you have already accomplished your goal, whether it’s a great relationship, amazing job, impeccable health, or sterling financial/career success.. Rejoice. You have broken through the mental barrier that has kept you from fulfilling your dream by going one million miles beyond it.
It's true. With practice and perseverance, you can develop the pure power of unadulterated one-point Hara focus. With an inalterable focus and disciplined mind, you will blast beyond the barriers and obstacles of life to reach your ultimate destination: Love, success, and happiness.
As we enter the New Year, money is on the minds of many people. The good news is that this year can be your most prosperous and successful year ever if you follow the rules of money and wealth. Our guest on Invincible You, Ja’Net Adams, an international money coach, enlightened us on how to start 2022 in the right financial way. Here’s what we learned:
Create a Positive Money Story. Many people learn negative money stories when they’re growing up (“you’ll die in debt”; “money doesn’t grow on trees”). The key is to write down and repeat positive money stories to yourself on a daily basis, “I can be rich,” “There is more abundance in my life every day.” When you do this, you will attract more abundance and riches—financial and emotional—into your life.
Know Your Money Type. It’s important to embrace your money style and do what feels comfortable to you. If you’re a Security Seeker, you like to save and invest money. If you’re a Meaning Seeker, use money for your crusade or mission to help others in life (a nonprofit). If you’re a Knowledge Seeker, use money to advance your wisdom and knowledge (seminars, conferences, books). Finally, if you’re an Excitement Seeker, you can learn how to put money aside in a “fun” fund to do the exotic, fun things you have always wanted to do (safari in Africa).
Don’t Let Money Get in the Way of Your Dreams. Ask yourself, if money weren’t an object, what would I do (your dream)? Make a Dream Sheet and write down your short-term (paying off debt), middle-term (buying a better car), and long-term dreams (travel, your children’s college education). When you have a definite money plan and implement it, you will have the motivation to save and invest to reach your ultimate goals in life.
The truth is that money can be a vehicle for love. When you do something you love, you receive appreciation in the form of money. Then, you take that money to buy goods and services, and you express appreciation for what you receive. In this way, money can circulate throughout the world—bringing love and positivity to humanity. Make this year your most prosperous ever by creating a positive money story, knowing your money type, and using money to achieve your dreams of love, health, and happiness for you and your loved ones.
Would you like to be rich? Our guest on Invincible You, Anita Mae Aguilar (manifestingmoneypodcast.thinkific.com), shared some of her secrets for developing a wealth mentality and achieving success in every area of your life. Here’s what we learned from Anita:
1.Create a Money Abundance Story: What you tell yourself about money is crucial. Do you say limiting phrases like “Money doesn’t grow on trees?” Or do you say “Money is ever-growing and ever-flowing into my life.” The second phrase is the affirmative phrase you should be repeating to yourself to create a mind of money attraction.
- Make Money Your Best Friend: Would you ignore your best friend and expect them to want to be with you? No, you would give your best friend your utmost time and attention as they do the same for you. In the same way, study money and give it your time and attention. Observe how money comes in and out of your life. Write down your beliefs about money. Read, listen, and learn about money mind attraction principles. The more time you spend learning about money, the more money will want to be your friend and will come into your life.
- Practice “Being Doing Having.” Many people think in terms of “Having” (material goods and money), “Doing” (being motivated to do things), and then “Being” (happy). Anita tells us to reverse the phrase to “Being” (be happy first), “Doing” (what it takes to reach your goals), and finally “Having” (you will achieve your heart’s desires). When you feel happy and successful first, you will attract the good things in life that harmonize with your feelings of happiness and success. This may include financial riches as well as emotional and spiritual wealth.
Yes, you can be rich. You can be rich in money, love, health, relationships, career, and happiness. As Anita teaches, everything starts with your beliefs and your sense of inner worth. If you believe that you are worthy of riches and greatness, you will attract it. Start today by saying: “I am wealth, I am love, I am joy.” Do this and you will be what you feel.
Do you keep trying and trying and you still don’t get the results you want? If that’s the case, then you need to learn about the powerful tool called Reversal. Reversal is when you do the opposite of what you’ve been doing so you can get the opposite of what you’ve been getting. Here are some effective reversal techniques to help you achieve your dreams: Make Friends With What You Reject. Find strength in your so-called bad or negative traits. Consider a short attention span a gift for multi-tasking. Think of shyness as a way to think deeply and be sensitive to others. Have a Self-Kindness Day. Instead of trying to cram more into your day, choose a day when you will pamper yourself. Read, write, think, meditate, exercise, go out into nature, get a facial or massage, engage in your favorite hobby, or spend time with loved ones. Make this day about your regeneration and rejuvenation. *Get Your Fools Out: If you’re shy or insecure in social settings, practice acting like a funny fool in private. Jump up and down, stick your tongue out, make silly noises. When you get the spontaneous and foolish side of your personality out in private, you won’t be so afraid of looking like a fool in public. Now you’re ready to use the power of reversal to get yourself back on track. Make friends with what you reject, have a self-kindness day, and get your fools out. With reversal as your guide, you will jump over obstacles and reach your dreams.
Do you sometimes feel stuck in life? No matter how hard you try, you can’t quite achieve what you desire. If that’s the case for you, then there is good news. As we discussed on the “Invincible You” podcast, you can develop the blast-off mentality—a winning mindset of perseverance, motivation, and success. Here’s what you need to do: Focus Your Energy on Your Most Important Purpose: Every day, concentrate on doing the one most important thing each day, whether it’s related to your career, finances, health, or relationships. Do micro-tasks daily—smaller tasks you can complete in a short period of time—which bring you closer to your desired goals. Maintain a Mindset of Completion: When you have a mindset of completion, you realize that if something is worth starting, it’s worth finishing. Complete that one important task you have been putting off. Make the challenging phone call, send that critical email, have the difficult conversation. When you finish what you start, you will have a great feeling of accomplishment and purpose. Remember that Action is Distilled Intent. Your action or behavior is what matters in the end, not what you say or think about doing. To distill something is to get to its essential elements. Ask yourself: Did I achieve my goals today? If you didn’t, then you need to cut out everything that is extraneous and unnecessary to completing your objectives. Instead, focus on doing what you told yourself you would do—fulfilling your heart's desires. Yes, you can develop a blast-off mentality and achieve your dreams. All you have to do is focus your energy on your most important purpose, develop a mindset of completion, and remember that action is distilled intent. By doing these things you will actualize your potential, and you will blast-off into that rarified air of success, love, and joy.
When you face a terrible catastrophe or setback, how do you find the strength to get your life back on track? We received inspiration for how to overcome obstacles and tragedies from our guest on Invincible You, Ashley Jackson. Ashley is the founder of Timeless Dream Events (timelessdreamevents.com), an event planning company for chronically/terminally ill people and their loved ones. Facing the imminent death of her fiancé a few months after he proposed to her at Disneyworld, Ashley turned her pain into power and taught us amazing lessons of love and resilience. Here is what we learned from Ashley.
*Take a Cemetery Tour and Find Your Purpose: When Ashley was a teenager, her dad took her to a cemetery and told her: “Here lie many people of untapped potential and lost dreams.” This shook up Ashley and taught her the lesson that we don’t have time to waste in life. While we’re alive we need to find our purpose and pursue our dreams so we have no regrets when we end up in the cemetery. Start today to actualize your dreams and fulfill your potential. Don’t wait until later because later may never come.
*Write a letter to your fear (terminal illness, loss of love or finances, death): When her fiancé (future husband), Troy, was diagnosed with cancer, she was fearful, angry, and sad. To express her feelings, she wrote a letter to “Cancer.” She learned that. although it’s a terrible disease, Cancer taught her some great lessons, including “realizing who my real friends are,” and “As a caretaker who sacrifices a lot for others, I don’t need to feel guilty about taking care of my own needs.” In the same way, you can write a letter to your biggest fear, expressing your feelings, and seeing what you can learn from that fear.
*Find your pain point and create a Miracle of the Heart: After taking care of her husband, Troy, during his recovery from cancer, Ashley made an amazing discovery. She learned that her pain point (grieving over her husband’s cancer) could be turned into a great blessing when she started Timeless Dream Events (event services for chronically/terminally ill people). She realized that she could combine her loves (event planning and traveling) with her previous suffering experience (her husband’s diagnosis) to create a great business to help others. You can follow Ashley’s example by finding the pain point in your life—what has caused you the most suffering—and write down ways you can turn that pain into something positive. Perhaps, you can create a business or project to help others with the same problem. Maybe, you can learn how to connect with others in a more compassionate way. Or, you can develop more confidence and patience to make the changes in your life that you want to make.
When Troy proposed to Ashley at Disneyworld, he asked, “Can we chase our dreams together, forever?” His beautiful proposal was then followed by the pain and suffering of his cancer diagnosis, and finally by their triumph as a happily married couple. In the same way, you can recover from the pain and loss of the past to reach your dreams. Start by finding your purpose, writing a letter to your fear, and turning your pain point into a Miracle of the Heart. By doing this, you will be able to find your purpose and achieve your destiny of love, success, and happiness.
This week on our Invincible You Podcast, we learned some of the secrets of reengineering your mind to think of success and contribution. Here are some of the keys you need to know to create a mental invincibility imprint and make your mind a supercomputer of success and power:
*Do One Right Act. Create momentum by doing one small act each day. If you’re shy, look at one person in the eye today, and smile. If you’re scared of going broke, do your research and make a small investment that will pay off in the long run. If you procrastinate, make one decision quickly (rapidly pick your Starbucks in the morning).
*Be a Mental Pathmaker: Create healthy habits. If, for example, you want to get in shape, start by working out 15 minutes every day. The time you spend working out will grow as you see and feel the benefits. Do the same for other areas of your life—keep repeating productive actions to create empowering habits.
*Expand Your Mindset: Always look to grow and improve. Offer to help other people. Learn one new thing each day. Think more positive thoughts. Tell the people you care about that you love them. Instead of dwelling on negative news, find good news to share with others.
Yes, you can imprint invincibility into your mind. Start by doing one right act, become a mental pathmaker, and expand your mindset. Soon, you will be well on your way to developing a mentality of success, love, and power.
Would you like to have unlimited riches—money, health, and love—on a daily basis? Now you can by following the tips we discussed on the Invincible You Podcast:
*See Money as Loving Energy (Loving Money Energy, LME). Think of money as a positive energy force that you can circulate to help people and improve the world.
*Give LME without expectations. Give to charity and help people with your money without expecting anything in return, not even a “thank you” or acknowledgement. When you do this, the money will flow back to you—often from unexpected sources.
*Do Business to create bonds of cheery affinity. Don’t worry if you overpay a merchant or service provider. Visualize that you are helping their family or business. By expressing your money generosity into the Universe, the money will come back to you.
*Make Money Your Friend: Offer Value. Instead of chasing or fearing money, make money your friend by offering value in whatever you do. Offer more value than you’re paid for and money will gladly come to visit you.
Yes, you can have Unlimited Riches. All you have to do is give LME (Loving Money Energy) without expectation, do business to create bonds of cheery affinity, and make money your friend. Do these things, and love, abundance, and riches will be yours.
Would you like to be rich beyond your wildest dreams? Riches can consist of money and material possessions, as well as inner riches such as love, happiness, and health. On our new platform and podcast, Invincible You, we discussed the secrets of immense wealth and personal riches, as follows:
*Think of Money as Loving Money Energy (LME). There is a revolutionary way to think about money. Money is really Loving Energy—a positive energy force that travels between human beings to make the world a better place. When you do something you love for work, you receive money in the form of loving energy in appreciation for the work you’ve done. Then, you take that money and purchase goods and services—you give your loving energy in appreciation for the value you receive from another person or entity. In this new way of thinking, money is not just a vehicle of exchange for goods and services. It is a powerful force for good that can enhance lives and bring positive emotions into the world.
*Vanquish the Mind of Scarcity. Unfortunately, many people grow up with a Mind of Scarcity—believing that there is not enough money or prosperity to go around. From their parents or others, they may learn money scarcity phrases like “Money doesn’t grow on trees,” or “Too much work, too little money.” In reality, money can grow greatly if you know how to work, save, and invest properly. You can also get to the point where your work doesn’t seem like work (you love it), and money flows abundantly from the work you do. Start today to write down your money-limiting ideas and thoughts in a journal or pad, and recognize how much these thoughts have kept you from achieving your true financial and psychological potential.
*Cultivate the Mind of Abundance. The Mind of Abundance is the belief that you have(will have) all of the money and success you need. When you have the Mind of Abundance, you will boldly start new businesses and engage in new ventures and lifestyle changes because you know that you will obtain the resources you need to accomplish your goals. To develop the Mind of Abundance, visualize that the money supply in the world is constantly growing. Further visualize that, each day, there are more great ideas, inventions, and innovations. Also, imagine that every day, there are improved health conditions, better relationships, and more love in the world. Finally, imagine that you have so much money that you can afford to give away plenty. You know that you will always have more in store for yourself, your loved ones, and those people you can help. You understand that money, like everything else in the world, is constantly growing and expanding. You can give more because you have more.
Yes, you can have wealth without limits. You can achieve this exalted state by thinking of money as loving energy, vanquishing the Mind of Scarcity, and cultivating your Mind of Abundance. When you do this, you will unleash the floodgates of riches and prosperity in every area of your life: financial, relational, spiritual, and personal development. Enjoy the riches of the world. They are yours.