UnF*ck Your Feelings: Recent Episodes
Kaitlin Wilder
The world has become more stressed, fearful , offended, and overworked than ever before. In ”Unf*ck Your Feelings” we examine the parts of life that make us feel like shit and learn to understand them in away that gets you to the next level in life. Constantly annoyed? Anxious? Feeling victimized by this dumpster fire of a world we live in? Then this is the podcast for you. Hosted by Kaitlin Wilder- Life Coach for the Overwhelmed Overachiever- is a Board Certified Behavior Analyst, Teacher, and thrill seeking weirdo. Her mission is to help the world move past our self-imposed suffering.
We live in an achievement driven world. The main method of assessing whether your life is going well is if you accomplish your goals. Yet we can also see in society that plenty of accomplished people still feel totally like shit. This episode explains how you unf*ck your achievement such that you can feel confident in the actions that you take regardless of the outcome. The gold standard for success without all the stress.
If this sounds like you and you want to know more about achieving this result send me an email. wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com
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Being “nice” or “helpful” to everyone is going to kill you, and it’s also not as helpful as your brain would lead you to believe. If you’re in a helping profession this will suck you dry, and if you’re feeling frustrated at work, you’re probably also feeling frustrated in your personal life. If you’re an ambitious human that’s another layer of pressure to add in a world where our systems are so broken that no amount of help could satisfy the beast. So how do you survive AND feel good about what you’re doing with your life? You have WAY more control over your burnout than you think.
Learn how you can know when you’ve given too much of yourself and how to make changes in your life right now.
Catch Part 1 on The Nope Coach- Episode 147 – Who helps the helper with Kaitlin Wilder Part 1
Spotify
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ntzrf9y2PLoZWcoi3Hbb6
Apple Podcasts
https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/147-who-helps-the-helper-with-kaitlin-wilder-part-1/id1686087866?i=1000628928043
You can find Suzanne on her podcast “The Nope Coach” and on her website at suzanneculberg.com
You can contact the host, Kaitlin Wilder, at wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com
What do you get when you a behavior analyst, a nervous breakdown, and an undying willing to achieve happiness for the good of humanity cosmically collide?
A ginger breaking down the behavioral process of a spiritual awakening— High achievers who favor science-based outcomes may have had negative experiences with religion or may dismiss the value of taking a spiritual perspective on life due to lack of scientific evidence. Really, it's just another way to run from the pain of failure, which is the source of ALL the overachievers problems. I explain how the supportive beliefs offered by a spiritual perspective used in conjunction with the behavior science of employing psychological skills of of self awareness and self observation gives you the goods to change any way you think or feels to anything else. In this case— ending the addiction of being as asshole to you— an overachiever greatest hit!
Hit me, Kaitlin Wilder, up at wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com to be a guest, have me as a guest, or inquire about life coaching services.
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There are all kinds of ways to build a legacy that helps others- Amanda Parker tells us her story of life as Overwhelmed Overachiever as the result of growing up in a dysfunctional home and how her broken relationships, drug abuse, jail time, and a lifetime of running from her pain turned a moment of darkness turned into an entrepreneurial leap: Now when things fall apart, they help you smash it to pieces! She’s battling the mental health decline as a champion for women’s self love. She encourages others to embrace your sacred rage and FUCK the toxic positivity and here at UFYF we FULLY AGREE!
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You can contact me- Kaitlin Wilder at wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com. If you’re a fellow Overwhelmed Overachiever shoot me a message and say, hi!
There is a short blip at 14:04. I pride myself on the live and unedited convo, so don’t be alarmed a brief silence overachievers, nothing is wrong ;)
Today begins Season 2! Because I said so.
A logical choice is based on a network of rules and meant to create a desired outcome, but these rules of logical don't at all apply to feeling. When we expect our feelings to "makes sense" we often misinterpret the signals they give us and end up accomplishing exactly the opposite of what we were going for. It can mean a life of feeling like the world and connections with others are unsafe or don't make sense. You can definitely teach your logical brain to understand these rules!
You can find me teaching free workshops in this group on Meet Up: https://www.meetup.com/life-coaching-for-stressed-professionals/
You can email me at wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com
This episode is about shifting your perspective on rejection so you can view your feelings in a helpful way and regulate your emotions so you can stay focused on learning from your experiences and continue to evolve rather than limit yourself because the rejection is overwhelming. It uses and example me getting friend zoned by a date (you're welcome!) and give actionable steps to try yourself "in the wild". Mentioned in the episode are:
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Unf*ck your loneliness discussed the surgeon general’s advisory on the epidemic of loneliness in May of 2023. The advisory proposes a plan to “mend the fabric of our society” and entirely omits the main player in loneliness— self connection. This episode give tips and questions to you get more aware and decrease your feelings of loneliness.
This pod is dedicated to my depressive symptoms that almost talked me out of it all together. My brain tell me shit like “I don’t have anything to say” when I know it is so true that I have everything to say. So, I bring the lonely part of me with me so I could bring you this bullshit. YOURE WELCOME
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▪ READY TO LEARN MORE? If you’re an overwhelmed overachiever who has tried everything to control their brain and behavior I can help you take your life go from stressed, overwhelmed, and overthinking to a resilient, confident humans, so you can be clear on what you want and take action quickly to create the meaningful lives you’ve been grinding for.
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Is "mental health" getting you down??
This episode discusses the medical model of mental health that focuses on on ridding of mental “illness” and medication to one that focuses on personal power, lived experience, helpful language, and how we relate to those experiences to creates our desired mental climate and change our behavior.
I discuss self awareness as the main tool you can use to make behavior change.
Give it a listen and let me know what you think!
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▪ READY TO LEARN MORE? If you’re an overwhelmed overachiever who has tried everything to control their brain and behavior I can help you take your life go from stressed, overwhelmed, and overthinking to a resilient, confident humans, so you can be clear on what you want and take action quickly to create the meaningful lives you’ve been grinding for.
Get on my email list for ALL the updates and free stuff:
kaitlinwilder.podia.com
Book a consult for private life coaching or my group program- THE BRAIN GAME
https://wildsidebehavior.as.me/freecall
Learn more about my group coaching program THE BRAIN GAME
www.kaitlinwilder.com/game
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Say hi on socials:
Instagram: http://instagram.com/kaitlinwilder_lifecoach
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kaitlin.s.wilder
Email me:
wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com
I spent a lot of time in therapy talking about my family and having NO idea why. Whether you feel fucked or not an awareness of how the events of your childhood impacted you can untangle some bullshit in your life and feelings. In this episode I give you a rundown of my observations of the impact of these patterns. It doesn't matter if you think you've had an awesome parents or whether it was a dumpster fire-- you have the right to you feelings and understanding them will set you free. Putting yourself in a "what's wrong with the world/family" cage will not.
In this episode I mention a group I've attended: Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families: https://adultchildren.org
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Email: wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com
This episode discusses the overachiever brain and why its endless pursuit of perfection ISN'T the result of some defect needing fixing. This brain is WELL trained in behavioral and thought patterns that are meant to create security and success, but just end up building your self-imposed brain cage of overwhelm, stress, and overthinking. I'll discuss the game I've created to shift this mindset and the brain that creates. Find me on instagram @wildsidebehavior. Email me at wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com
The media today can create more inflammation than information. In “Unf*ck Your Offense” I discuss emotionally volatility as a barrier to progress and discussion. It brain washes us, it divides us. Let’s learn to understand ourselves and our feelings around our offense, break the cycles, and use social media as more than a dumpster fire of emotional vomit.
This episode presents my perspective as white, privileged female in a discussion about a viral social media post about racism at a daycare in Georgia. The articles are from 2021.
I welcome discussion with anyone. I’m always ready to learn something new and examine myself. If we can not create safety to speak we can never get where we want to go.
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Post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CozPjo3DoF3/
Viral Photo Article: https://www.dailydot.com/irl/white-children-eat-before-black-children-daycare-image/?utm_medium=sJ8OTU&utm_source=liqsoc&lsid=no0otm5nq
Investigation Article: https://www.ajc.com/neighborhoods/north-fulton/state-investigators-roswell-day-care-didnt-mistreat-black-children/QR3ZPPZQHFCN7IFT763RQNWIJU/
Stuck in a behavior pattern you don’t like? Feeling like shit about it? In episode 4 I explain HOW to unf*ck your feelings through the example of my personal fuckery around dating. I talk about the origin of my abandonment pattern, identifying it, how it FEELs and tips to create and awareness to change your patterns. You also get to see LIVE my brain protect me from that vulnerability by entirely forgetting what I was talking about. So much so that I don’t think I really finished the story and I’m gonna part 2 this shit. I hope this helps you cultivate some awareness around a pattern you’d like to change so you’ll FEEL better and get to the next level in life by better understanding WHY you do what you do #yourewelcome#brainsgonnabrain
Connect with me on IG: @wildsidebehavior; Facebook: kaitlin.s.wilder; wildsidebehaviorcoaching@gmail.com
Do you feel the urge to help all the time? Do you feel overextended and resentful about it? Does it feel really important to you that the people you help succeed or do what you say? When we help from a place of fear, control or to bolster our own worth we're not actually "helping". You're removing agency from another person and decreasing their opportunities to be responsible for and engaged in THIER human experience. It feels like you're doing exactly what you should be doing to be a good person, parent, teacher, or whatever you are but you're actually beating your head against a wall and making it worse. You can save yourself a ton of energy AND improve yours AND others lives helping LESS and bringing MORE awareness to your motivation. This episode will explain how you can analyze they WHY of your helping and manage the feels that come up when you change them. IG: @wildsidebehavior ;Facebook: kaitlin.s.wilder
Are you feeling low key (or HIGH KEY) annoyed with life? A little pissed about everything? A lot of BLAH in a dissatisfying, daily experience? Episode 2 talks about how this feeling isn't your "temper" or "just how you are" but actually showing you what you believe about yourself, your life, and how it could all just be a pattern you can break free from by shifting your mind. We're using that bullshit to get you to the next level! LFG!
In episode one we define f*cked feelings and talk about what it takes to change your mind and live a life experience that you truly enjoy without constant stress and overwhelm brought on by life.