SheWolf Alchemy Podcast: Recent Episodes
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This is a Podcast about personal growth as millenniums transitioning through life and the lessons learned along the way .
In this season of sacred exhaustion, the She Wolf is pulling back. The podcast is going mini-mode while the host reclaims their energy. The She Wolf Alchemy podcast is switching gears, think less marathon and more mindful jog as your host reckons with the myth of Chiron. It’s time to alchemize the burnout, say yes to softness, and remember: you don’t have to bleed to prove you care.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique discuss the concept of 'perpetual freshman syndrome' where adults fail to take responsibility for their own growth and constantly rely on others for emotional labor. They explore how excusing such behavior can create codependency and normalize dysfunction. The discussion includes personal anecdotes about relationships and friendships where individuals refuse to grow and instead weaponize their incompetence. They also emphasize the importance of reciprocity, self-reflection, and setting boundaries to avoid being drained by others who refuse to do their own work.
Is "peace of mind" just you ignoring red flags in high definition? In this episode, hosts Nique and Ress take a candid dive into the emotional gymnastics we perform to keep the peace — whether it’s with bae, your bestie, your boss, or your cousin who still owes you money from 2018.
From sweeping issues under the rug (until you trip over the damn thing) to the slow drip of self-betrayal we call "keeping it together," they unpack the cost of pretending everything's fine when it’s clearly... not.
Tune in for real talk, personal stories, and tangible strategies on how to know when to speak up, when to let it ride, and how to stop betraying yourself for the sake of "vibes."
Because sometimes, "keeping the peace" is actually starting a war — with yourself.
Ress and Ashley unpack the real meaning behind “all skinfolk ain’t kinfolk,” getting into the messiness of how not everyone who looks like you is necessarily for you. They get into why some folks in marginalized communities end up caping for the very systems that hurt them — yes, Uncle Tom energy is still alive and well. From awkward work dynamics to celebrity betrayals, they dish on how peer pressure, self-interest, and clout-chasing can warp loyalty. The takeaway? Look beyond the optics, know what you believe, and uplift the people walking the walk — not just talking it on timelines.
In this episode of SheWolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique delve into the rising and complex world of house husbands! Listen as they discuss the growing number of men who trade briefcases for brooms while women climb the corporate ladder. Ress grapples with ambition versus domestic bliss, while Nique humorously tries to figure out how a house husband would work when she is trying to be a housewife. The pair talk about societal judgments, gender norms, and the occasional Xbox antics. With witty banter and personal anecdotes, they explore everything from financial dynamics to public displays of affection, striking a balance between humor and serious reflections on modern love. Don't miss out on tips for vetting house husbands and avoiding 'professional bums'—this insightful and funny look at non-traditional relationships is a must-listen!
You guys asked us to run it back on this topic so here we go again- This one's for the overachievers, emotional contortionists, and secret softies. Nique and Ress get real about the cost of being an over functioner — when vulnerability feels unsafe, and slowing down feels like failure. When being soft feels risky, and hyper-independence becomes your whole personality.From childhood pressure to adult burnout, they get vulnerable about emotional armor, grief over lost girlhood, and why slowing down feels terrifying (but necessary). If you’ve ever been praised for your independence while quietly drowning, prepare to feel seen.
This week, Ress and Gabi unpack what it feels like to be “love bombed by life”—those whirlwind moments when everything happens all at once: big wins, major curveballs, and life-altering changes that don’t exactly wait their turn. From new jobs and personal breakthroughs to emotional overload and decision fatigue, they explore how even the best things can feel like too much when they hit all at once.
Gabi opens up about her recent season of growth and transition, highlighting the unsung heroes—support systems, boundaries, and a solid cup of coffee. The duo dives into the idea of love bombing in relationships and cleverly flips it on its head to talk about how life itself can sometimes overwhelm us with "too much of everything."
They discuss the sneaky signs of burnout, the pressure to say yes to every opportunity, and why it’s okay to hit pause—even when life’s throwing glitter. With honest reflections and practical tips (think commitment audits, grounding rituals, and protecting your peace), Ress and Gabi remind us that while intense chapters are temporary, our well-being is not negotiable.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Ashley dive headfirst into the philosophical deep end to ask: Do we actually make our own choices, or are we just puppets in a cosmic puppet show? From the sneaky tactics of advertisers to the subtle strings of propaganda and upbringing, they unravel how much of our "free will" is actually... well, free.
With a mix of sharp wit and personal confessions, they explore whether we're driven by destiny, DNA, or just really persuasive YouTube ads. And while they admit the case for free will is a little shaky, they also argue that believing in it might just be the thing that keeps us human.
Grab your favorite existential beverage—this one's a ride.
Nique and Ress wade into the murky waters of breakups—the kind where both people walk away convinced they were the wronged party. They dissect the art of mutually assured villainy, trading stories where the endings were messy, the perspectives mismatched, and closure was more of a rumor than a reality. Along the way, they reflect (with varying degrees of grace) on the tangled business of accountability, the temptation to rewrite history for comfort, and the delicate skill of letting go without setting the past on fire. There’s talk of emotional scar tissue, DIY self-soothing, and the quiet impossibility of forgiving someone without dragging the whole mess back into the light.
In this episode, Nique and Ress unpack the sneaky trap of calling something "growth" just because it’s not as bad as your last relationship. We get real about how easy it is to mistake a slightly better partner for a healthy one — especially when your baseline was dysfunction.
Together, we break down how to tell the difference between true healing and just trauma-dodging. We talk emotional safety, consistency, respect, and how to raise your standards beyond “he’s not terrible.” We also dig into the dangers of love bombing and the pressure to settle just because someone isn’t outright toxic.
Whether you’re dating, healing, or trying to figure out what love should even feel like — this one’s for you!
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, hosts Ashley and Ress get real about the “messy middle” of personal growth—the awkward, in-between stage where you’re too self-aware to be toxic but still too triggered to be totally healed. Sound familiar? You’re not alone.
They dish on their own face-palm-worthy moments and breakthroughs in this emotional limbo, where the only thing more chaotic than your group chat is your inner monologue. Together, they explore the power of grace, boundaries, and community when your healing is a work-in-progress (aka: always).
From navigating triggers without spiraling, to ditching the myth of "healed girl" perfection, this episode is your permission slip to be human, messy, and still growing. Because real progress? It’s quiet, subtle, and never as Instagrammable as you'd like.
This week on She Wolf Alchemy—Nique and Ress are breaking all the rules (and maybe a few hearts) as they dive into the wild world of dating as single moms.
From dodging judgment to redefining love on their terms, these two are getting real about the emotional rollercoaster of balancing romance, motherhood, and self-worth. They break down the "dating categories" society tries to shove single moms into—and flip the script with bold honesty and humor.
You’ll hear personal stories, hard-earned wisdom, and fire advice on how to spot the difference between “he’s nice” and “he’s safe.” Plus: a discussion about when (or how) to weave a new partner into your child's life .
Because modeling healthy love matters—and you don't have to settle for crumbs when you deserve the whole damn bakery.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Ashley ask the hard question: Why do we keep running into burning buildings for people who lit the match?
It’s time to talk boundaries—especially with those chaos-loving characters who treat your peace like it’s optional. From drama-magnet friends to emotionally messy family and partners, our hosts break down why the "rescuer role" is exhausting—and unnecessary.
Nique and Ress sit down to unpack a handful of real-life questions pulled from online advice threads—covering everything from dating doubts to deeper insecurities.
We start with a man feeling insecure about his sexual performance compared to his partner’s ex, . Then, we offer reassurance to an 18-year-old feeling behind in love and life, encouraging patience and focusing on growth at your own pace. There's a 62-year-old single father of two young children navigating dating and we give him some honest answers about why he is struggling to find a match. Meanwhile, a young woman trying to decode mixed signals from a date is reminded that actions—not likes or emojis—tell the real story. There's a question around a former high school bully-turned-coworker .And finally, we talk through a man’s insecurities about his girlfriend’s sexual past. Throughout the episode, we share our usual mix of humor, empathy, and personal stories, wrapping up with some powerful reminders about self-worth, boundaries, and what it really means to put yourself first.
Ever dated someone and at some point it felt like they low-key hated you? Gabi and Ress are diving deep into the confusing (and let’s be real—soul-crushing) dynamics of being with a partner who shows more disdain than affection. From sneaky shade to full-blown emotional sabotage, they break down the red flags you might’ve brushed off—and share their own “what-was-I-thinking” stories. This episode isn’t just tea, it’s therapy. Expect real talk on toxic patterns, exit strategies, and the emotional clean-up that comes after. Because healing, self-worth, and surrounding yourself with people who actually like you? Non-negotiables. Tune in and reclaim your peace.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique discuss a unique kind of loneliness experienced by those who are everyone's go-to person. They dive deep into the emotional toll of always being the strong one who others rely on for support, yet rarely receiving the same in return. They share personal experiences of feeling invisible and emotionally unheard despite being surrounded by people. They explore themes of over-functioning in relationships, the burden of constantly being depended upon, and the struggle to ask for help. They also discuss the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and the need to find relationships that offer reciprocation and emotional support. Throughout, they emphasize the significance of communication and the necessity of making conscious efforts to bring in people who can genuinely meet their emotional needs.
In this episode, Nique and Ress bust the myth that love is something you earn after achieving full emotional enlightenment (or attending a suspicious number of sound baths). They unpack the illusion of needing to be "healed" before being lovable, likening it to a cosmic punch card that magically unlocks intimacy once fully stamped. Instead, they offer a refreshing take: love is a co-creative, sometimes messy partnership—not a reward at the finish line of your self-help journey. The duo also side-eyes the 'healing industrial complex' for turning growth into a capitalist grind and remind us that real love doesn’t demand perfection, just participation.
Join Ress and Gabby for a hilariously insightful ride through the messy intersection of childhood wounds and modern dating. Are you really into bad texters, or is that just your inner child clinging to emotionally unavailable dad vibes? Ress breaks down how dating your “type” might actually be a subconscious stroll down memory lane, while Gabby makes the case for therapy, self-reflection, and choosing peace over chaos (hint: boring isn’t always bad). Expect personal stories, uncomfortable truths, and a reminder that you don’t need to be perfectly healed to date—just self-aware enough to spot your patterns and swipe differently.
Nique and Ress dive into why the American Dream feels more like a group chat myth for many millennials. From 9/11 to the 2008 crash, COVID, and today's wild job and housing markets, they unpack how their generation got dealt a rough hand. With personal stories and sharp insights, they tackle rising costs, student debt, and the pressure to “have it all” by 30. Instead, they champion community, collective care, and alternative paths—think tiny homes, remote work, and redefining success on your own terms. The key takeaway? Ditch perfection, embrace progress, and balance big dreams with bite-sized goals.
In this soul-nourishing episode, Ashley and Ress from She Wolf Alchemy unpack the wild ride from “me” to “mom.” They spill the tea on losing (and finding) yourself in the chaos of motherhood, the myth of the Supermom, and why bubble baths aren't a cure-all. With honesty and humor, they talk about setting sacred boundaries, carving out solo time (without guilt), and parenting with self-love as the compass. From burnout to breakthroughs, this convo is your permission slip to reclaim your magic—one messy, magnificent moment at a time.
Ashley and Ress discuss the concept of 'Call Me Out Therapy'—the type of therapy that involves harshly calling out clients—and the growing trend of folks wanting some one to "go awwffff" and 'get me together". We explore can this actually hinder genuine healing by creating dependency rather than fostering self-awareness and sustained progress. The hosts emphasize the significance of creating a therapeutic environment that feels safe and emotionally supportive, allowing for true accountability and growth. Ress and Ashley explore if the desire to be 'called out' is just rooted in past traumas and cultural norms, that mimic abuse disguised as healing.
Ress and Nique discuss various relationship and friendship dilemmas posted by people in online forums. The first question revolves around a woman dating a man who is still legally married and financially supporting his estranged wife. In another scenario, a woman struggles to adjust after her husband discovers he has a 9-year-old son from a previous relationship. Additional topics include a fiancée suspecting her partner is settling for her, a university student feeling isolated and struggling to make friends, and a man unsure about expressing his feelings to a friend after already being rejected by this very friend.
Ashley and Ress dive deep into the 'Lifestyle Over Love' debate, emphasizing the need to prioritize lifestyle compatibility over mere affection. Drawing from personal stories, they highlight the pitfalls of dating potential and the importance of being with someone who complements your lifestyle ambitions. The episode is peppered with humorous anecdotes about lazy exes, the necessity of dating problem solvers, and the red flags that should make you rethink your romantic decisions. The duo also tackles societal expectations, support systems, and relationship dynamics, urging listeners to choose partners that enhance their lives rather than becoming burdens. It's a lively, insightful session reminding everyone that love should never mean compromising on your way of life.
Ress and Nick of She Wolf Alchemy dive deep into the hilarious and heartfelt dilemma of choosing to have kids in your 30s and 40s. From battling the ticking biological clock to imagining wrangling toddlers in their sixties, they leave no stone unturned. The episode is a candid conversation reflecting on past parenting experiences, lifestyle shifts, and those inevitable societal pressures. Whether you're planning babies, contemplating cruisy kid-free future, or finding yourself somewhere up in the air, this episode dishes out real talk, relatable fears, and a lot of laughter. Tune in for some self-reflective exercises, personal anecdotes, and all the feels about possibly being 'old mom' or enjoying the white-furnitured, free-wheeling childfree life.
Join Nique and Ress in a breakdown of the perils of modern dating and 'being strung along' . Ever felt like you're in a relationship limbo? Or maybe you're the one dangling the strings? They dish out personal anecdotes, including unsentimental breakups, being the safe harbor for someone else's emotional baggage, and why potential is a trap. From the complexities of online dating to the illusion of endless options and the downfalls of being a placeholder. Buckle up for insights, laughter, and the harsh truths about why you should cut the string—either way.
Join Gabby and Ress as they dive into the rollercoaster world of surviving a girls' trip. They spill the tea on those unforgettable (sometimes regrettable) travel tales that leave friendships hanging by a thread - from epic Tulum clashes to almost becoming the international no-fly list stars. This episode is a compilation of the types of friends you should (or shouldn’t) take on a trip, the cardinal rules of roommate assignments, and the art of balancing jam-packed itineraries. If you've ever had to navigate the minefield of trip payments, dodged travel divas, or survived drunk drama, this guide is for you! Laugh, learn, and pick up key survival tips to ensure the group trip doesn't end with someone blocking you on all social media.
Join Nique and Ress as they dive into the tricky terrain of why your besties shouldn't play therapist! They explore the emotional toll of unloading your baggage onto friends and share personal anecdotes about setting boundaries. From learning when to vent and when to seek professional help, to the importance of asking for consent before unloading your drama, this episode is packed with hilarious and heartfelt insights. Plus, they discuss how to balance emotional support with fun activities, ensuring your friendships remain vibrant and not just dumping grounds.
Join Ashley and Ress as they dive into the controversial topic of using sex as a coping skill. They revisit why hopping into bed might sound like a good distraction but explain why it can be a ticking time bomb for your emotional health. From the allure of dopamine hits and false intimacy to the potential pitfalls like codependency and emotional drainage, they cover it all. They even call out the media for glamorizing unhealthy sexual escapades and offer healthier alternatives . The message is clear: use sex for fun and connection, not as your personal stress-relief strategy.
Join Ress and Ashley on She Wolf Alchemy as they dive into the misunderstood world of mental health and accountability. They tackle the myth that a mental health diagnosis excuses bad behavior, sharing personal stories, venting and debunking TV stereotypes . From childhood trauma to navigating relationships while dealing with depression, they highlight the importance of owning up to your actions, advocating for better mental health management, and setting boundaries. They also dish out advice on forming a support system and sidestep potential pitfalls like self-diagnosing via Reddit.
In this episode of 'She Wolf Alchemy,' hosts Ress and Nique dive into quirky questions from the internet advice forums . They tackle dilemmas such as a friend debating whether to tell her friend about her cheating husband, dealing with a boyfriend's messy financial situation, making a career leap into the unknown, and deciphering mixed signals from a partner who basically screams 'I'm not ready for this!' Join them as they offer advice and share personal stories..
Join Ress and Gabi from She Wolf Alchemy as they dive deep into the murky waters of 'struggle love.' This concept, much like a full-time job with no benefits, involves one-sided efforts, endless disputes, and dating someone who believes communication is optional and therapy is witchcraft. From high school dramas to adult relationship woes, Ress and Gabi recount their own 'struggle love' scenarios, highlighting the differences between relationships in your 20s versus your 30s. Expect gaslighting, broken dreams, and endless efforts with little to no return. However, they offer a beacon of hope with insightful tips on escaping these toxic cycles, embracing self-worth, and finding a love that feels like a warm embrace rather than a cold war.
Ress and Ashley dive into the minefield known as sibling relationships in this episode of She Wolf Alchemy. They tackle everything from favorite-child syndrome to handling surprise siblings popping up out of nowhere . Whether it’s treating a brother like a loan shark or figuring out if you should text or flee during family gatherings, they cover it all. They also break down the do's and don'ts of repairing strained sibling bonds, all while dropping hilarious anecdotes . Spoiler: not every sibling relationship is Mary-Kate and Ashley-level tight, and sometimes you’ve just got to find the natural rhythm and accept it for what it is.
Join Ress and Nique as they dive into the wild world of free spirits and the perplexing habit some people have of trying to cage them. Ress and Nique explore the emotional rollercoaster of being the untameable and those who try, often awkwardly, to tame them. Expect talk of big hair, colorful personalities, existential parenting woes, and relationships that clash between freedom and structure. With anecdotes about dating chaos, structuring finances, and the psychosocial dynamics of friendship, this is a heartfelt yet hilarious look at why some people just can’t let free birds fly and a reminder that being a free spirit is a chaotic kind of magic that needs no leash.
Ress and Gabi from She Wolf Alchemy dive deep into the murky waters of frenemies, those 'friends' who might secretly hate you. They share personal stories of backhanded compliments, shady behavior, and even some wild college days. Offering tips on how to spot these toxic friendships, they emphasize the importance of trust, setting boundaries, and sometimes just disappearing gracefully. The duo also discuss why some friends might unknowingly harbor resentment and how comparison, social media, and jealousy play into it. All of this is wrapped in their signature blend of humor and raw honesty, making for an engaging and enlightening conversation on the complexities of friendships.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ashley and Ress dive deep into the struggles of maintaining the Christmas spirit amidst financial woes, emotional exhaustion, and the general chaos of 2024. They offer heartfelt advice on acknowledging your feelings, setting realistic expectations, and finding joy in simplicity. From insightful discussions about gift-giving on a budget, and dealing with family pressures, to innovative ways of celebrating New Year's Eve at home, this conversation is a blend of humor, vulnerability, and practical tips. Join them as they navigate the holiday craze, reminding everyone that it's okay if this Christmas looks a bit different.
Join Ashley and Ress from SheWolfAlchemy as they delve into the 'Sunken Cost Fallacy' and discuss how it impacts our relationships, friendships, and careers. In this insightful episode, they explore why people stay invested in bad situations and the emotional and financial costs of doing so. Learn how to recognize when you're caught in this trap and get practical tips on setting boundaries, seeking new perspectives, and celebrating the courage to start over. Don't let the past dictate your future—discover the freedom and happiness that comes from letting go.
In this hilarious and insightful episode, Ress and Nique of SheWolf Alchemy dive into juicy, unanswered questions from the web. They tackle dilemmas ranging from unresolved office flings to navigating elderly care, finding love, and pawning precious jewelry. The co-hosts don’t hold back with their raw, genuine advice and a dash of quirky humor. They serve up the reality check some might need about situationships, misplaced feelings, and strategically dealing with stealing spouses. Whether it’s about moving on, confronting your crush, or secretly stashing your jewelry, this episode has it all—with an extra helping of laughter.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ashley and Ress dive deep into the topic of gentle parenting, especially focusing on the Black child. Bucking tradition and critiques from older generations, they passionately explain that gentle parenting is far from letting kids run wild. Instead, it's about nurturing emotionally intelligent, self-aware, and empathetic little humans. They tackle misconceptions like 'spare the rod, spoil the child' and share personal experiences. They even touch on co-parenting challenges and dealing with family boundaries. With humor and heart, they explore the importance of creating safe spaces at home, while also ensuring kids are well-prepared to tackle the world. All in all, this is a heartfelt conversation about breaking generational cycles and guiding kids with love rather than fear.
In a thought-provoking session by Ress and Gabi of SheWolf Alchemy, they delve into the complex emotional landscape shaped by emotionally immature parents. The duo ask, 'What happens when you're the mature one in the relationship between you and your parents?'Drawing insights from Dr. Lindsay Gibson's book, 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents', the conversation highlights the generational patterns and impacts of parenting styles on children and their adaptation into adulthood. Gabi touches on what it feels like to have a rejecting parent that makes it feel like you are bothering them with your love. Ress explores what might happen when your parents are the "driven" type of parent that treats you as an extension of themselves instead of your own person . While the episode runs a bit longer than normal, we promise you the conversation is worth a listen!
Join Ress and Gabby on 'She Wolf Alchemy' as they tackle questions from advice forums. This episode covers dilemmas like balancing career ambitions with relationship demands, handling mishaps at work, confronting defensive partners, and navigating unexpected spicy bedroom talk. With heartfelt advice and personal anecdotes, Ress and Gabby offer listeners a mix of humor, wisdom, and relatable life lessons.
In this week’s episode, hosts Ress and Gabby dive into the delightful tug-of-war between nurturing your own growth and being the ultimate do-gooder for everyone else. Ever wonder if you love yourself as much as you love everyone else? Sure, you might say “yes,” but does your daily life really show it? Ress and Gabby are here to unravel the mystery of whether being the world’s best helper is actually holding you back from personal progress.
They’ll chat about how being too generous with your help might derail your own development, and why investing in yourself is like putting on your own oxygen mask first. They’ll explore the juicy topics of discipline, accountability, and kicking the fear of failure to the curb. Plus, they’ll highlight the magic of self-validation, the art of persistence, and the importance of taking concrete steps toward your goals.
So tune in and get ready to rethink how you juggle helping others and chasing your dreams. This episode is your pep talk on turning obstacles into stepping stones, keeping yourself in check, practicing some self-love, and, most importantly, putting your dreams front and center. Are you ready to make yourself a priority?
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Nique serve up a sizzling conversation about the sneaky little betrayals that can sneak up on you—from family, friends, lovers, and even yourself. We’re talking about those small but mighty acts of disloyalty that slowly chip away at your well-being and self-esteem if left unchecked.
Tune in as we dish on the importance of spotting these casual betrayals, setting some fierce boundaries, and working through the emotions they stir up. We’ll also chat about the sweet release of anger—because while forgetting might be a tall order, letting go of those toxic vibes is essential. Plus, we’ll dive into the art of rebuilding trust and why it’s crucial to pay attention to those repeated, minor betrayals that can add up over time. Don’t miss this deep dive into reclaiming your peace and power!
Ress and Nique discuss the concept of emotional permanence, comparing it to object permanence in child development. They explore how emotional permanence: the ability to trust that others care for you, even when are they are not there constantly validating it. The question is , do I struggle to believe the love is there unless the person is right there constantly validating it for me? Do I spiral into anxious behavior to quench my thirst for validation? By reflecting on childhood experiences, they highlight the significance of things like emotional regulation. The duo emphasizes the role of self-care, therapy, and mindfulness in nurturing one's emotional health and fostering secure relationships. Through a blend of humor and insight, they underscore the journey toward personal growth, self-compassion, and emotional stability.
Ress and Nique tackle a segment called "Questions That Nobody Asked Us," where they answer questions from advice forums around the web. One users ask for advice after struggling with feeling like they will never be the "main character" in their own life. A widowed mother of two, hesitant to date seeks out advice on how to start. A young woman involved with a married man, struggles with guilt . Someone reconnects with an ex and faces confusion over mixed signals . And lastly someone questions the existence of "safe people" due to past hurtful relationships, seeking advice on trust and self-work. Ress and Nique offer heartfelt and practical advice rooted in their own experiences , emphasizing the importance of self-trust, setting boundaries, making conscious choices, and the value of personal joy.
In this episode of SheWolfAlchemy , Ress and Gabi explore the 'cool girl' archetype and its impact on relationships, drawing inspiration from the movie 'Gone Girl.' They share personal experiences about striving to fit this unrealistic and often harmful mold, while stressing the significance of being true to oneself. The conversation highlights the importance of authentic communication, self-reflection, and setting boundaries in fostering genuine connections. Additionally, the hosts discuss the role of supportive female friendships and the personal growth needed to break free from societal and media pressures. The discussion concludes with practical advice on navigating personal boundaries and living authentically.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, hosts Nique and Ress discuss the challenges and consequences of detachment culture on intimate and meaningful relationships. They explore the societal appeal of emotional detachment, its promotion in pop culture, and its personal impacts, including loneliness and unfulfilled bonds. They share personal experiences and emphasize the importance of vulnerability, communication, and effort in fostering authentic connections. The conversation covers the detrimental effects of playing emotional games in both romantic and platonic relationships, as well as practical steps for breaking the cycle of detachment and building stronger, healthier bonds.
In this podcast episode of SheWolf Alchemy, hosts Ashley and Ress explore the relevance of chivalry and courtship in contemporary dating. They define chivalry, share personal stories, and discuss online conversations about traditional romantic gestures. The hosts emphasize the importance of intentionality and setting boundaries in relationships while critiquing societal changes influenced by pop culture. They conclude that chivalry is still alive, requiring genuine effort and respect.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, hosts Ashley and Ress delve into the topic of escapism as a sole coping mechanism. They discuss the consequences of relying solely on isolation or other forms of escapism like maladaptive daydreaming, binge-watching, and substance abuse. The hosts emphasize the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for the need to escape, recount personal experiences, and stress the value of healthier coping strategies such as effective communication, community support, and emotional regulation. They conclude by highlighting the necessity of mindfulness and balanced behaviors to address life's challenges more constructively.
Ashley and Ress discuss a topic that's often overshadowed by its counterpart: the mother wound. While conversations about "daddy issues" are abundant, we rarely hear about the emotional, psychological, and sometimes physical pain inherited from mothers. This discussion aims not to bash mothers but to bring some overdue awareness to the wounds that can arise from complex mother-child relationships.
Ress and Ashley lead a thoughtful and insightful discussion on the importance of mindful social media engagement. They tackle the addictive nature of social platforms, the impact on mental health, and tips for balanced online presence, encompassing managing algorithms, emotional responses, and the thin line between online portrayal and reality. With personal anecdotes and reflections, they stress the significance of thoughtfulness in the digital world for a healthier relationship with social media.
In this episodes the ladies explore the essence of maintaining strong female friendships and community, focusing on communication, setting boundaries, and adapting to life changes. It underscores the importance of honest conversations, mutual support, and celebrating successes, while navigating challenges like toxic relationships and financial disparities.
In today's episode we delve into the theme of when something looks good on paper but the reality of it is not what we expected. We talk managing expectations in relationships, careers, and lifestyle choices. By exploring actual realities versus perceived ideals, this episode promotes introspection, reassessment of personal criteria, and alignment of choices with genuine needs. It underscores the need to adapt, evolve, and be open to change for individual growth and satisfaction.
Join Ashley and Ress on a journey through the tangled web of respectability politics! Together, they delve into its effects on marginalized communities, navigating the fine line between fitting in and staying true to yourself. From exhausting social norms to the perpetual struggle for authenticity, they shed light on the paradoxical nature of these so-called rules of engagement. Get ready for a witty discussion that emphasizes the need for critical dialogue in forging a more inclusive and just society—one that offers grace without sacrificing authenticity!
In this episode of the 'SheWolfAlchemy' podcast, hosts Ress and Ashley delve into the concept of the 'glass cliff', a situation where women, often in corporate America, are promoted to leadership positions during times of crisis with little chance of success. Using personal anecdotes and broader societal examples, they discuss how this sets women up for failure, reflecting on their own experiences with difficult leadership roles and the pressures they entail. Additionally, they touch upon the lack of infrastructure and support in these positions, the challenges of navigating corporate culture as women, and the broader implications of being set up to fail. This candid conversation sheds light on the subtle ways gender discrimination manifests in the workforce and the personal and professional ramifications of these glass cliff scenarios.
Welcome back to another QNAU ( Questions Nobody Asked US) episode where we tackle questions from online advice forums . In this episode we have a ex stalking their former flames social media pages , when they previously ghosted them after a two year relationship. One user has a better job opportunity but feels guilty about leaving their small company. The host follows up with a question from a woman struggling with extreme feelings of guilt and shame when it comes to sex. Ress and Ashley provide advice and share stories from their personal life's- even though.... no body asked. Sit back and enjoy the last QNAU !
Ress and Ashley talk about the emotionally-taxing role millennials are pigeonholed into and tango around the delicate dance of dealing with boomers in the family tree. Tune in for a hearty giggle, unexpected stories, and pearls of wisdom on establishing and respecting boundaries. This isn't your usual podcast episode—it's an entertaining expedition through life's generational rollercoaster.
Ashley and Ress discuss various aspects of adulthood, including financial responsibilities, forming friendships, perception of adulthood from their parents' perspective, and work-life balance. The hosts reflect on how different their lives are from their previous expectations and the seemingly unattainable societal standards set for them. They humorously explore concepts such as the misunderstanding around what becoming an adult truly means, and their encounters with realities of adulthood. One of the significant themes of the discussion is the challenges associated with financial independence and being responsible for personal decisions. The conversation ends on a note that there's no set path or feeling associated with adulthood, it changes with each person, and one's age doesn't necessarily reflect their level of "adulthood".
Ress and Ashley talk cults - what they are, how individuals get attracted to them and the challenges faced when leaving them. The hosts share various anecdotes and perspectives on the topic, highlighting numerous characteristics and techniques these cults utilize, such as charismatic leaders, a sense of specialness, isolation, manipulation, love bombing, and more. Ashley talks in-depth about someone she is almost certain is a cult leader/scammer of some sort and Ress discusses her likelihood of accidently funding a cult because she's a sucker for well mannered strangers with big eyes and soft voices. Come take a listen !
In this episode, Ashley and Ress discuss "medium ugly men", focusing on the concept in popular culture and online forums. Both hosts share personal anecdotes and opinions. The topics include whether relative attractiveness determines a person's behavior, the influence of ego on one's skills in bed and the impact of self-awareness.
This episode focuses on dishonesty , more specifically, lies by omission. Ashley and Ress discuss the implications of leaving out important details and how it can affect relationships. They also touch upon various aspects such as gender roles, power dynamics, trust issues, and impact of lies on mental health. While sharing personal anecdotes and societal observations, they essentially underline the importance of honesty and transparency for maintaining healthy relationships.
Ashley and Ress answer questions about a range of topics from help forums from around the web, giving advice based on their experiences. The topics discussed include dealing with a partner who lacks ambition, how to handle unfair compensation, parenting styles, and dealing with a partner's crush.
Join Ashley and Ress as they dive into the relatable and often hilarious world of millennial adulthood. From grappling with emotional intelligence to deciphering the basic mechanics of everyday tools, this dynamic duo fearlessly explores the uncharted territory of being a grown-up.
Ashley and Ress dissect the reality of millennials feeling unprepared for the challenges of adulthood. From the elusive handbook on emotional intelligence to the mysteries of adulting, they've got it all covered.
The hosts share personal anecdotes, touching on the struggles of understanding tools that seem to have skipped their generation. Who knew a wrench could be so intimidating?
Ashley and Ress discuss the idea of signs and signals in life, and the importance of understanding one's individual "flow". They share personal experiences and anecdotes about recognizing these signs, how they push forward through challenges and practice resiliency.
Welcome back, did you miss us? In this episode, we delve into what it means to really let go of who we thought people were . We explore what it means to accept the reality of who they are. Through insightful discussions and personal stories, Ashley and Ress discuss the liberating journey of releasing preconceived notions of celebrities. We explore what its like when a tragedy strikes in the form of mental illness or life altering diseases change the people we use to know. What happens when they no longer fit into the box we had custom made for them in our minds?
Final episode of 2023- We explore the concept of media manipulation and discuss the importance of mindfulness and recognizing biases in the media landscape. Join us for an insightful discussion on how media influences our perspectives and ways to navigate through it.
In this episode Ashley and Ress explore the nuanced experiences and perspectives of black individuals in various black spaces. Recognizing that Black people are not a monolith, we delve into the diversity of experiences within the Black community and highlight the importance of understanding and respecting the unique stories and perspectives of individuals
In todays episode Ress and Ashley talk about including your partner in holiday festivities. Can holidays be the make it or break it point for couples? Ashley talks about the importance of being able to blend your partner in with your current life. Ress discuss what this might look like if you're simply not a 'family' type of person . What kind of details should you be looking out for when you're meeting the family and friends? And at what point should you take possible red flags seriously?
Happy Halloween! In this weeks episode Ashley and Ress discuss Halloween and the thinning of the veil. Both ladies discuss growing up in religious households where Halloween was frowned upon. The ladies discuss how Halloween can be a marker for those who want to call it quits on their relationship without seeming like the A-hole and running the other persons holidays. Ashley talks about her experience with Boohags, and Ress kindly ask that all spirits refrain from trying to wake her up out of her sleep for a little chit chat and favor asking. Dive into the lastest episode with girlies and enjoy!
In this fast-paced world, we often find ourselves overwhelmed by the pressure to achieve and succeed. We set high expectations for ourselves and strive for perfection in every aspect of our lives. But have we stopped to consider the importance of knowing our bare minimum?
Knowing our bare minimum means understanding the minimum requirements for our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Ashley and Ress deep dive into understanding our bare minimums for self but also for others, and the cost of only accepting the least.
Today, we're diving deep into a topic that many of us can relate to: the ever-increasing costs of everyday life. From housing to education, it often feels like everything is getting more and more expensive. In this episode, we want to validate your concerns and offer some insights and strategies for navigating these financial challenges.
In today's episode, Ashley and Ress discuss the art of receiving. Are you usually the giver in your relationships or the roles you occupy? It's time to lay back and learn how to receive. Let someone come and nurture you. Let go of the illusion of control, the idea that you always have to be the one to 'do'. Let someone learn to give and pour into you.
Ashley and Ress discuss fake friends and the Girl Code. What are the do's and don'ts of real friendship?
Welcome back Questions Nobody Asked Us, in today's episode we reply back to a plea for help from a confused worker who took a date to a company party just for the CEO to bring her into the office and interrogate her about her date. We read a question about being ghosted, and we explain the importance of doing like Elsa and letting it go. There is a young girl learning about the importance of girl code, Ress and Ashley walk through the steps of de-prioritizing women in your circle that leave you to the wolves. Come take a listen!
In this delightful episode, we dive headfirst into the treacherous world of jobs and all the hilarious chaos that comes with them. Buckle up, folks! We're about to tackle the art of interviewing with a dash of dark humor and a sprinkle of unconventional advice. From perfecting your poker face for interview questions to work dramas, we've got you covered.
Ress and Ashley also share their takes on making friends at the office and office romances. So, whether you're a job seeker, a drama enthusiast, or someone desperately seeking office companionship, tune in to this episode. You'll laugh, and cringe, and you'll definitely think twice about accepting that next job offer- and that might be a good thing....
Ashley and Ress deep dive into the realm of conspiracy theories and their unexpected impact on our mental well-being. From lizard people ruling the world to the moon landing being staged in a Hollywood basement, we'll peel back the layers of these theories while keeping our sanity intact (we hope!). The ladies navigate the treacherous waters of misinformation and talk about how secret societies just make sense logically. So grab your popcorn and join us- tinfoil hats optional !
Ashley and Ress are unraveling the benefits of having a hobby or too in our lives. Whether it's learning a new skill, relieving stress, or simply finding pure joy in doing something for nothing else but joy itself.
So, get ready as we share our own hobby mishaps and misadventures. Don't miss out on this exciting episode, where we'll be your hobby tour guides on a journey of self-discovery and pure, unadulterated fun. We'll equip you with tips and tricks to find your passion, unleash your creativity, and embrace the wonders of hobbies. Remember, life is too short not to pursue your passions for pure joy. Let's dive in and discover the hidden treasures of hobbies together!
Today's episode is dedicated to those who still haven't 'figured out how to love'. They say love is like a rollercoaster ride, with exhilarating highs and stomach-churning drops. In this episode, we dive headfirst into the fear of falling in love and explore the unexpected perks of taking the plunge.
In this thought-provoking episode of "I Got Needs ! : Loneliness and connection," we dive deep into the often-overlooked topic of loneliness and explore the profound significance of human connection. Prepare yourself for a captivating exploration of the impact of a lack of community, the creation of false narratives, and the powerful journey toward overcoming loneliness.
In this episode of She-Wolf Alchemy, Ress and Ashley discuss the books that have had a profound impact on their lives. They share their love for reading and how it has become a habit for them. Ress even admits to bringing books to events, always wanting to be entertained. Ashley reflects on how her reading habit was affected by grad school but has since made an effort to get back into it. They emphasize the importance of finding joy in reading and making it a regular part of their lives.
In this episode of She Wolf Alchemy, Ashley and Ress discuss the concept of letting yourself be uprooted and following a different path. They reflect on the societal checklist that often dictates our lives and challenge the idea of sticking to a predetermined plan. They explore how sometimes the universe throws us curveballs and how being open to change can lead to unexpected growth and fulfillment. Tune in to gain insights on embracing new paths and trusting your intuition.
In the newest episode of Questions Nobody Asked Us - One mother freaks out about her 16-year-old coming to her about sex and the host touch on the importance of treating kids like people, with their own thoughts and feelings. One guy had sex with a Tinder hookup and is now wondering if he's being scammed as the hookup keeps popping back up asking him for money- Ashley gives an important short and to-the-point monologue- ' Men, your penis is not invincible- please start making smarter decisions about your hookups. Ress answers a question from a woman going 50/50 on a house with a man who won't tell her anything about his finances. Don't forget to follow us on Instagram @ SheWolfAlchemy and reach out to us via email at SheWolfAlchemyPodcast@gmail.com. Stay tuned for more episodes coming your way!
In this episode of SheWolf Alchemy, Ress and Ashley discuss the topic of "learning not to hate while you wait." They explore the natural feelings of jealousy and envy that can arise when we see others achieving what we desire. Ress shares her personal struggles with feeling entitled to success based on her efforts, and Ashley reflects on a time when she struggled to not be mad when her hard work didn't equal the same financial opportunities as others. Together, they offer alternative perspectives and strategies for dealing with these emotions. Tune in to gain insights on how to navigate feelings of envy and embrace a more positive mindset while waiting for your own dreams to come to fruition.
In this episode, Ashley and Ress discuss the topic of depression, specifically high-functioning depression. They delve into the various symptoms and effects of depression, including feelings of loneliness, loss of interest, and physical manifestations. Ashley and Ress open up about their personal experience with depression, sharing how they initially struggled to admit it and slowly allowing themselves to call it what it is. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding and acknowledging depression, even in its subtle forms. Warning; brief mention of suicide in this episode
In this episode of She-Wolf Alchemy, hosts Russ and Ashley discuss the idea that not everyone is meant to be a "hot girl" or a "city girl." They reflect on their recent break from the podcast and the need to go out and experience life in order to gain new perspectives. The conversation was sparked by encounters with women who were tired of the dating game and wanted to embrace a carefree, unattached lifestyle. Russ and Ashley caution against taking on a persona that doesn't align with one's true nature, urging listeners to be mindful of their own emotional well-being.
In this episode of Shewolf Alchemy Podcast, we discuss the poem "Autobiography in Five Chapters" by Portia Nelson. Ashley and Ress discuss recognizing patterns and changing from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. Ashley talks about relational patterns and taking accountability for the part she played in it. She describes being in a romantic entanglement and realizing that she was in an emotional black hole when she didn't feel comfortable sharing with her close friends what she was going through. Ress discusses recognizing where your inner critic thoughts came from, are you in your thirties being bullied by thoughts that were formed in childhood, before you even had the ability to form complex thoughts? At what point do you recognize your patterns? At what point are you responsible for the emotional 'holes' you keep falling into? If you walk down a street and know there's a big hole there that you're always tempted to fall into... why not take another street?
In this episode of SheWolf Alchemy Podcast, we talk about distress tolerance and what your sexual fantasy can say about your needs. Distress tolerance is the ability to stay calm and maintain a healthy sense of perspective when things aren't going your way. In this episode, we'll talk about building up your distress tolerance and its importance. The ladies also do an exercise that requires them to explore their kinks and relate them to what they crave in their everyday lives.
In todays episode Ashley and Ress discuss traveling! Can traveling change your life? Ress shares about a vacation trip that changed her whole life. Ashley discuss tabling your issues when you are traveling with a group. Are you the couple that ruins the trip for everyone? Lastly the girls explore Astrocartogphy-where Ashley discovers she is meant for the east coast and all signs tell Ress to move to Cali.
Ress and Ashley discuss out growing your pot. What happens when you've outgrown the area you've gained comfort in? When the roots are getting cramped and you're only left with the option to grow or wither away. Ress and Ashley discuss the process of leaping without seeing the next step. Sometimes we struggle with the idea of leaving others behind- and other times we simply refuse to acknowledge where we are the problem- either way gather your tools and get ready to be re-rooted- you've outgrown your pot!
In this weeks episode Ashley and Ress discuss movies and the trope they love and hate. Ashley talks about the beauty in sci-fi movies. Ress discuss trauma porn. The pair explore movies that center around toxic love themes but also movies that show love is possible. Ress details one of her worst in theater experiences and Ashley talks about the fun in watching movies simple for its ratchetness. Come join us as we talk about movies that shaped us .
Another round of 'Questions that nobody asked us', where Ashley and Ress answer questions from advice forums around the web. Ashley talks about the best time to try to flirt with a woman. In short, avoid all times and circumstances that could be referenced in a thriller movie. Ress gives advice to young black women in their 20s and talks about 'healing fun'- which is when you have a great time that leads to improvement and not regrets. Ashley discusses reaching your 30s and your 'path running out' and the art of re-calibrating. Listen and find out which question really irked Ashley, to the point she skipped over a few lines of the question. Come listen to this week's latest episode!
Ashley and Ress discuss birth control. Millennial women who were put on it in high school are now in their 30's+ and getting off of birth control...and realizing they have to re-learn their bodies. Ashley and Ress discuss how lightly birth control is taken, with many of us not understanding the changes it may be causing. Some are told it is the only way to prevent babies and others are told 'your period will be uncontrollable without it'. Ashley and Ress discuss the myths, the fallacies, and the uncomfortable truths.
In today's episode, we discuss being put on hold. When it feels like someone is trying to put you on pause to diddly daddle, but come back for you later. Ashley discusses the mental gymnastic that can come with trying to make sense of this. Ress talks about doing it unconsciously and having it done to her. If all is fair in love and war, is this act even considered malicious or simply a part of the dating game?
In today’s episode, Ashley and Ress discuss music. What are the songs that made you? Which songs defined a whole era for you? Ress discusses having a song trigger her for the first time at a red light while it poured down raining. Ashley discusses a former flame suggesting to her a toxic love song and not taking the universe’s hint. And while we were all popping it to David Banner’s ‘ Like a pimp’, did you know they were in the background buring confederate flags and making political statements? The ladies discuss how so many other songs have a deeper meaning or video’s with hidden messages. Come join us this week as we talk about music and how it moves us.
In today's episode, we talk about Fate and Destiny. Is there some invisible hand interfering on our behalf? And does that give you the liberty to just give up and assume 'Fate' will do its job without you putting in the work? Ashley discusses the importance of being able to tell when you're on the wrong path and there always being windows of opportunities to get back to the right road. Ress talks about recognizing when you're being blocked out of opportunities that will take you off your path and how the most random of things could be leading you exactly where you're meant to be. As Ress said, "Fate might have brought you to greatness, and you might be like, this is cool... I'm comfortable, but it doesn't mean destiny doesn't have something even better for you to work towards".
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In today's episode, Ress and Ashley ask: Who are you outside of your trauma? In today's episode, we're going to be taking a deep dive into the often-complicated subject of trauma and how it affects us both personally and socially. We explore, what happens when you wear your trauma like a mask and use the survival skills you learned to cope as a default personality. And while we are at it, what kind of ripple effect does that cause once you find yourself within? What happens when you heal and realize you have nothing in common with the old crew anymore? What happens when you realize you were using sex as a coping mechanism? And what happens when you no longer identify with the old you? Check out this episode for that and more!
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In today's episode, Ashley and Ress talk about motivation. It's that time again after winter blues comes spring, are you feeling the need to start making moves again? Does your partner have the motivation to make the same moves? Can you be with an unmotivated partner? And how much harder is it to be motivated without support? Come take a listen, and be motivated (or not).
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In this week's episode, Ashley and Ress discuss seeing people out of 'uniform'. The importance of seeing someone in more than one context. Ashley wonders if that one horrible co-worker is an amazing partner and parent at home, or are they just overall terrible in all places. Ress talks about dating someone and seeing a completely different side of them when you put them in different environments. The discussion veers over to parents, what it was like for you when you first realized your parents are completely different people outside of being your caretaker.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
On this week's episode of SheWolf Alchemy Podcast Ress and Ashley talk about haters. And why, you probably don't have as many as you think. Ashley discusses the huge 'Hi Hater' wave of the early 2000s and the moment she realized she was being a hater in one particular situation. Ress discusses how sometimes, you are just the problem - and there's nothing wrong with doing reflection. Professional trolls and imaginary foes- come listen to the latest episode!
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Join Ashley and Ress as they answer questions in this week's episode of Questions Nobody Asked Us. This week, we cover settling out of loneliness, and why it's bad for both parties. One person questions if everything is too expensive and miserable while Ashley gives another tips on how to go about therapy. Ress offers some advice for a woman who found her dream man, only for him to tell her he doesn't want the same future as her.
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In this week's episode, Ashley and Ress discuss astrology. Do you remember when being too into astrology was something you kept secret? Now seeing someone's big three on their tinder profile is almost a norm. Ashley discusses the resurgence of astrology and Ress describes her thoughts on using it in your life for self-reflection.
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Have you ever been in a situation where you needed to forgive someone for something they did or said, but weren’t quite sure how to go about it?
In today’s episode of the Ress & Ashley Show, we discuss the topic of forgiveness. We explore if wishing someone the best is really necessary to heal and move forward, or if there’s more to it than that.
Ress talks about the “gray area” of forgiveness – what exactly is required for us to be able to move on and find closure within ourselves? It’s a complicated concept but one that can be so pivotal in our own personal growth.
Join us as we talk through this deep and meaningful subjec
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In this week's episodes, Ress and Ashley talk about the conversations you should be having before seriously committing yourself to a partnership. How do you know if your partner is a fully functioning adult? Are they ready for life together? And what about money? Do you talk about money before saying "I do"?
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Welcome back Questions Nobody Asked us, in today's episode we reply back to a plea for help from a man still in love with his best friend, who is also his ex. She's married, he's married, and it's a mess. We read a question about the timing of mentioning you're a virgin as an adult. At what point is it simply being private and at what point can it be looked at as purposely hiding something and manipulating territory? There is also a single dad who's trying to get his groove back, but with a very particular type of person... and Ashley and Ress side-eye the questioner, it's giving creep territory. Come take a listen!
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In today's episode, Ashley and Ress wish everyone a happy new year and discuss what they hope 2023 brings in. A discussion is had on the pressures of expectations regarding New year resolutions and a mindful conversation is had on having a word or theme to describe your 2023 instead of exact goals. Ashley talks about her 2023 word, 'Doing'. She explains her goals of wanting to do more and explore more. Ress's word for 2023 is "Harvesting", she explains that 2020-22 were full of inner and outer work with little rest. She wants 2023 to be the year of receiving the fruits of her labor- and learning to be ok with receiving. In a sidebar about what 2022 taught them, Ress talks about learning to let go and stop trying to manipulate the outcome of things. Learning to do her part and releasing fears associated with control. Ashley on the other hand discusses the sense of urgency prompting her need to change. It's a new year ya'll, and new things will be happening!
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In today's episode we talk about Daddy issues, and mommy issues too. Ashley talks about recognizing how much impact someone who wasn't even in your life can have on you. Ress discusses how the impact can be felt by those who still had their father in their life daily. A question is brought up, why aren't mother issues talked about as widely? Men with Madonna /Whore complexes and those with psychological Oedipus complexes. We recognize the perils of Jodi in the Baby Boy but struggle with addressing the complexities of mother issues in real life. So let's have the talk.
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In today's episode, Ress and Ashley talk about gift-giving. How do you gift to those who have everything? Are you required to match energy? And the importance of not getting caught up in capitalism and digging yourself into a hole trying to make sure things go according to 'plan'. Ashley gives details about a valentines day that went horribly wrong. Ress talks about gifting based on the person you are gifting to, and not gifting out of ego. In the spirit of the season, lets see what "It's Giving....".
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In today's episode, Ashley and Ress talk about handling covert rejection. Learning to take the L and keep it pushing. Ashley speaks on taking rejection without needing closure. Ress talks about never discounting how much a person DOESN"T want you because of how much you want them. A conversation is had about letting go of the imaginary script of how things 'should' go. And more importantly, recognizing that no matter how great you are sometimes you're just not their person, and that's ok.
This episode we are talking about emotional accountability and owning up to your feelings. Essentially, we are talking about taking ownership of the part we have played in our own circumstances. What parts of this do I have control over? Can I just focus on that? The only thing we have control over is ourselves; how we think, how we operate, how we move and how react to things. If I focus on these things, will this create a major change ? and if so, just how profound will that change be?--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
In today's episode, we talk about embracing your grown woman body. The things you knew and the things you didn't expect. Accepting your body as is, and letting improvements or changes come from a place that isn't riddled with guilt and shame. Ress talks about struggling to be a bustier girl and how that translated into adulthood. Ashley discusses skin issues and being team 'natural", and what it meant for her to realize that came from a place of judgment. What stories were originally your mothers, your peers, or the media that you took on and decided to make your issue to?
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In today's episode, Ashley and Ress discuss changing the narrative. What do you do when the narrative you've always told yourself about you no longer fits? CHANGE THE NARRATIVE - change the story. Ress discusses recognizing there are greater roles than the ones we can feel ourselves outgrowing. Ashley discusses shifting your perspective and attracting the right characters and plot lines to your life. When you no longer feel aligned with your role, take a bow. Close the book and pick a new genre.
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In today’s episode Ashley and Ress discuss romance. Ashley talks about feeling free in wanting and expecting more out of romance. Why talk yourself into thinking small? Ress discuss soulmates, passion, and intensity. Ashley tells Ress to simmer down. Is romance a game of show and tell , for Instagram viewers? Or is privacy and tailored gestures where the real intimacy is at? Ress is team ‘destined lovers”, and Ashley is team (Gucci Mane voice) ‘Miss one bus , next one coming… . So lets talk about romance baby.
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In todays episode Ress and Ashley discuss genrational trauma and breaking cycles. Cycles of dysfuntion and trauma can end with you, if you would like. What is it like to be the person to look at family trauma/dysfunction and decides it ends here? What is it like to realize, secret keeping keeps the whole family sick? What about upholding a certain image for the masses ... does this come with negative consequences? Healing patterns or dysfunction can be painful, lonely and full of misunderstandings..... push through it anyways. It can end with you, you don't have to pass the emotional buck.
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In today’s episode Ashley and Ress discuss breakups. The daunting task of actually leaving , but also the reason’s people linger around while being emotionally absent. While one person is putting in their all , the other may be making emotional deposits in whole new situations. What does that emotional push and pull do to both parties involved? The duo discusses the temporary discomfort in leaving and all the messiness that comes with it. We have a detailed conversation recognizing that love is not an obligation and what it’s like to not be held captive by your emotions - The importance of learning to how to move based on what’s in your emotional best interest. We’ll say it again for those in the back, its ok to leave. But if you’re going to leave? Leave.
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In todays episode Nique and Ress talk about the ways in which the definition of ‘strength” has changed and morphed over time for them. From looking at strength as ‘ how much I can put up with’ to understanding strength as look at how free I am. Is your definition of strength actually keeping you attached to your weaknesses ?
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In todays episode we are talking about cannon balling (or simply tipping your toes back) into the dating pool. Nique and Ress discuss dating after a break, dry spell or long term relationship. How do you know when you're ready? Has the dating game changed? Can you still be out here doing what you use to? Nique and Ress also take a detour to discuss what a psychic told them about their future spouses.
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Escapism is diverting your attention from something you simply don’t like or don’t want to deal with . Some people run from their thoughts or feelings through over-working, preoccupation with people or procrastinating with daydreams. We use escapism to run away from unpleasant thoughts and feelings but reality is always there waiting for us and we cant escape that. In todays episode Nique and Ress discuss emotional escapism and the problem with making this your go to coping mechanism.
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Today we are talking about that feeling of sorrow, of dread of waiting and wanting something more. Sometimes while we are in a season of waiting and wanting a sort of pessimism grows and in that space sadness turns to anxiousness then to resentment into anger and that anger turns to us stepping out of alignment. Today we are talking about how to hit that pause button before deciding we’re tired of waiting and we going back to our worst behavior.
Liminal space- Its that holding area. Its that space between what was and what will be. It’s a transitional spot of not knowing. Feeling like In know there's something coming but maybe not knowing when , where or how. We explore what makes limbo so hard and how can we best use this time?
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Today we talk about changing up the price to access you. In the words of fat joe, ‘Yesterdays price is not todays prices!’ . And just because someone USE to have access to you , doesn’t mean you have to continue to extend that offer. We talk about making that change up , and why its NOT SELFISH to require more out those wanting some of your energy.
In todays episode Nique and Ress discuss breakups and why are they so hard . Nique and Ress share their adventures of both good and bad breakups. The breakups where both parties agreed, this whole relationship was a bad idea. But on the flip side , we discuss the breakups that turned us into “THAT” friend for a couple months after walking away . The stages of breaking up ( similar to the stages of grief ) are discussed in detail; for example the bargaining stage ‘ So you really done with me Stink?’ and the anger stage , ‘please call Tyrone because you can’t call me’. Nique explores the do’s and don’ts of healing after a break up ( stop checking their Instagram for updates!) and Ress discuss’ the flawed logic behind ‘ to get over somebody get under another’.
In todays episodes we get real about boundaries and why its important to walk that talk when it comes to implementing them. Nique and Ress break down what boundaries are and how to implement them in different areas of your life. Nosey parents that won't respect your privacy? PUT UP A BOUNDARY. Romantic partner that constantly leaves you feeling anxious and confused? PUT UP A BOUNDARY! Home girl that is forever emotionally dumping on you leaving you emotionally drained? You guessed it- time to set some MF'N BOUNDARIES.
Another round of ' Questions that Nobody Asked Us' ! In this episode one woman wonders should she let her ex-stay in her 2 yr old's life? He's not the child's father but is using their 'family' as a means of staying close to her - Is this a form of manipulation? Nique answers a question from a 17yr who wonders if his girlfriends parents are being unreasonable by restricting her phone usage. Ress follow ups on a question from a 19 who feels like their whole life is dedicated to serving others with no sort of reciprocity. And lastly, a woman in a May/December ( age gap) romance is coming to the realization that their whole relationship has been based on her older partners ability to control her, does this mean automatic divorce?
Ress and Ashley discuss what its like dating with unhealed trauma. What is trauma and how does it present itself with dating? Ashley deep dives into the conversation of unresolved abandonment issues and how sweeping it under the rug is all gravey until that rug is removed. Ress talks about the importance of calling yourself out on your own bullshit and not just shrugging it off thinking, 'tis' life'. Is it your responsibility to recognize when you aren't healed enough to date? And how has a generation of rolling stone papa's affected us as a whole?
Today we have another round of Questions Nobody Asked Us. Ress breaks down the issues that pop up when a parents put a child in grown folks business. Nique tackles the new age question, Is 'vibes' being off a good enough reason to separate yourself from a person? One person is struggling with words and.... a lack of boundaries with their extended family. Another ask, is 50 + years to late to tell someone you're sorry?
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Today we are going to talk about some of the unhealthy ways we try to solve our need for intimacy without the risk of being truly intimate. And furthermore, why this is a problem. Nique talks about holding on to situationships and letting issues run unchecked. Ress discuss using sex as a means to prevent abandonment and confusing control with love.
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In todays Questions Nobody Asked Us Ress answers Questions with a guest co-host Ashley from @parentsrpeople (IG) /Parentsarepeople.net . In one question a woman in her late 20’s questions her dating options. Ress and Ashley take a jab at a question surrounding fate and predestined paths . Ashley talks about the beauty in genuine friendships. And Ress reads the last questions asking about red flags - with each host admitting to one of their own red flags.
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In todays episode Nique and Ress talks about pivoting, making a U-ey, changing course ! Todays episode is all about getting out of your head, and making movement in these streets. What’s holding you back from making that change that’s been in the back of your mind for years now? Nique talks about finally making a change that’s been 10 years in the making for her. She describes how 10 years later- its still not the perfect time but enough is enough. Ress talks about a dream deferred, mostly her fathers dream . Watching someone else dream slip away and how that motivated her to not live a life of what ifs. Pivoting in your 30s, 40s and beyond- its not a wild dream , let’s make this reality.
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In todays episode Nique answers questions about anxiety and choosing your path. Ress tackles the theme questioned of todays episode which is, wth is wrong with your husbands??? A woman ponders on telling her lovers wife about their continued affair and teen wonders if she was in the wrong for telling her father the truth about his girlfriend.
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In todays episode we discuss anxiety in young black professionals. Nique and Ress discuss why anxiety seems so common among millennials and the stigmas surrounding it. We discuss the idea of ' you can't be good , you have to be great", and the cost these type on mantras cause in the long term. Is always being labeled the 'strong one' a compliment ? or is it an eventual detriment ? Millennials are the first generation to grow up on social media and Nique and Ress discuss the role that has played on our generations mental health.
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In todays "Questions that nobody asked us", Nique talks about it never being to late to start over and Ress discuss the levels of trife when it comes to wedding etiquette. One questioner worries about not having the right size, and questions if the motion of the ocean is good enough for future partners. We discuss boundaries with our parents; if being there for a parent puts your mental health at risk , should you go along with it anyways ? Lastly a 19 yr who has never dated asked if they should just give it a go , and how to even begin the dating process.
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In todays episode Nique and Ress break down the narrative that there are plenty of fish in the sea but women are simply choosing the wrong fish . Every few weeks, some guy jumps on social media with a new thought on what women are doing wrong and everyone jumps into a frenzy on one side or the other. A argument we've heard time and time again is that - women date trash men then get mad that these men act like dogs then swear off all men ....when the real issue is they simply should have picked better. Nique shares her opinion on the topic- Can you pick better when the dating pool is tinted? And Ress ponders , why is accountability only reserved for women when the topic of dating is brought up?
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Another round of questions nobody asked us. Nique and Ress take a look at a question about dating apps with the ability to rate your date after, would you be down for this? One user asked if its weird to not care to keep in contact with family members you haven’t seen in over 20 years . A dad struggles with telling his children the truth about his mental health struggles, is it better to hide it from your kids or is this an opportunity to build trust and normalize talks about mental health in our community? A wife struggles with depression after her husband drunkenly tells her he’s not in love anymore, could you just bypass these comments once they’re sober? And when you decide to break up with somebody? Is it preplanned or are you more of an on the spot kind of person?
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In todays episode we discuss energy vampires. A energy vampire is someone that comes around and drains you of your mental energy. They feed off your empathy, willingness to be there for them and listen without giving anything back in exchange. Nique and Ress discuss their experience with this type lover, coworker and friend. How do you rid yourself of these people? Ress and Nique tell you how they did it.
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Another round of questions nobody asked us. A brief conversation about telepathy... and why we shouldnt count on that as a means of communication . Put on your big boy/girl pants and USE YOUR WORDS - Communnication , out loud in the real world is the theme of todays questions and answers. In this weeks episode Nique and Ress discuss the hard questions that single parents face when dating: When do you introduce your kids to your partner and how? There's a commenter wondering how to work out a relationship where his partner refuses to talk about sex . A woman went through a scary miscarriage and has changed her mind about trying for children again, the problem? She's scared this may be a deal breaker for her partner. Lastly , Ress discuss believing people when they tell you who they are and what they want- and the dangers of trying to convince someone to be with you when they have already told you they are not ready for that kind of commitment.
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In todays episode we are going to explore our relationship with ourselves. How do you treat you? And how can you build a better relationship with self?Time alone is good to gather our thoughts but too much isolation goes against our nature. Nique and Ress discuss how they’ve been balancing this out and what self care can really look like internally.
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In todays "Questions that nobody asked us" episode , Nique and Ress answer a question about a horrible first day on the job fiasco. There is a woman who came into a bit of money whose boyfriend insist she use it on a down-payment for a house without her name on it... oh, and she's currently unemployed but he insist she use all of that money on his house... ( I mean their house....). Nique and Ress ponder about the differences between not being ready to date again or simple having cold feet. And Ress gives advice to guys about how they are ruining their FWB situation.
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In todays episode Nique and Ress discuss trauma bonds. We know what a toxic bond looks like when it gets to a certain level of extreme…. But what about covert toxicity ? The yo-yo relationships that feel like an emotional rollercoaster? The on again off again energy that keeps surrounding that one guy/gal you once called the love of your life and then called an asshole just a few moments later….?
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Nique and Ress address questions from around the web. The general theme in todays episode seems to be , misplaced guilt. In todays episode we discuss a wife who wants to know how to win back a friend who was texting her husband love gifs and making him uncomfortable . We also hear from a poster who wants to save a violent friend who has a history of hurting others . An annoyed girlfriend wants to know if her boyfriend should stick through with a job that doesn't appreciate him and there's a young woman questioning if she loves he boyfriend.
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In todays episode Nique and Ress talk about ex's and letting go of dead relationships from the past. What is the line between being cordial and keeping it friendly and where exactly is the line of "doing the most" ? We explore the question 'Should all ex's be fully let go of?' And then we go into tips to help you keep them on your block list and you off their Instagram page... from a fake account..........
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In todays episode Nique and Ress discuss emotional safety. Are you forming bonds that feel anxious and suppressing?
In todays episode I speak with Ashley Cole, LMSW . She is a social worker with over 10 years experience in the field. In todays episode Ashley and Ress discuss their journey as Social Workers . Ashley and Ress share some of their favorite stories from their time in the field and discuss if its a career they would recommend to others.
Double dose of Questions Nobody Asked Us ! In todays episode we answer questions from around the web. Today we make a tackle a woman who wants to be married ... but asked about finding a 'work around' for a partner who doesn't want to marry. There's a lonely grandmother that wants to see her granddaughter more but goes about it passive aggressively. At one point, a man wonders what's the best way to tell your partner its ok for them to cheat? And we also get into a story of a scary ex and his stalking partner. Enjoy the double dose episode! And be on the look out for Saturday's BONUS episode with guest!
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Finally time for another session of ' Questions nobody asked us' ! In todays episode we answer questions from around the web , found on various advice forums . We tackle a concerned child wanting her mother to leave her father. A ex contacting her former flame to wish him happy birthday .... who then claims married people shouldn't have opposite sex friends. There's a guy who wants to get that old thing back and a woman struggling to to cope with her partners depression. Come take a listen and maybe even get a laugh.
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So, we all have that inner voice in our head. Some of us have a inner voice that is kind and gentle. One that encourages us to keep the faith and remind us of how awesome we are . Some of us have more of an inner critic. When we talk to ourselves we are mean. Unforgiving and sometimes down right cruel. So today that’s what we are talking about shutting down our inner bully.
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In todays episode we discuss delaying the inevitable - avoiding something that is coming either way. We know its coming, nothing we are doing is actually going to stop it – it doesn’t change it , it doesn’t take off the edge or make it better. It simply puts off a thing that is going to happen regardless , but we often trick ourselves into thinking the wait is going to make this better. We trick ourselves into thinking ahah, pain avoided. But the avoidance is temporary at best – at worst we made the unavoidable even worst for when we finally have to deal with it. Its simply procrastination by another name. But why do we procrastinate? and is procrastination even all that bad?
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So what happens when the life we planned for ourselves isn’t going the way we thought? Our five year plan is looking real iffy, or maybe you accomplished what you sought to accomplish but it still doesn’t feel right…. Maybe your plans are in shambles and now you're realizing what you thought you wanted is no longer feeling like the missing piece to your puzzle. Maybe something beyond your control happened and now you simple can’t go back to the same path you wanted. What happens when change comes, when nobody asked for it? Today we are talking about why we resist change and the beauty that can come from accepting new paths/
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Learning how to let someone love you.
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In todays episode we talk about emotionally unavailable partners, and why we fall for them. When we say emotionally unavailable we are talking people who keep their feelings and love at a distance. Alot of times with these individuals they have no problem with surface level bonding, essentially you can have my body but I will disappear if you demand my heart. Why do some of us keep attracting these types? And what can we do to course correct?
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In this weeks episodes we answer questions from around the web. Nique touches on when to let the office know you and a coworker are dating . Ress gets firey on a question about getting a friend to forgive you ...... after you slept with their ex.... multiple times... in multiple places. And together they focus on the invisible symbolism in a mate ignoring a simple request that has been asked time and time again.
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" Some people survive in chaos and that’s how they grow. And some people thrive in chaos because chaos is all they know." In todays episode we explore the topic of thriving while in chaos but not knowing what to do when we have peace. For some people chaos (rather this is drama, excessive work, constant go-mode, etc) is not an issue, in fact some purposely create this sort of environment to live in - on the other end of that is not really knowing what to do in peace. In times where nothing is going on - in times where you are meant to sit alone , with your thoguhts...in peace . Are you able to do that? Or do you this? Add more "stuff" to the quiet periods in your life to create this ever ending cycle to the point that self care and stillness is foreign?
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This episode we are talking about emotional accountability and owning up to your feelings. Essentially, we are talking about taking ownership of the part we have played in our own circumstances. What parts of this do I have control over? Can I just focus on that? The only thing we have control over is ourselves; how we think, how we operate, how we move and how react to things. If I focus on these things, will this create a major change ? and if so, just how profound will that change be?
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Today we talk about unrealistic relationship expectations. Nique discusses how important fitting her partner into her family life and social life is and Ress dives into the trouble with thinking a relationship will save you. Are unrealistic relationship goals holding you back from a healthy , happy and long lasting commitment?
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Another round of questions from forums around the web. Today we tackle questions about how to cope when you're always the person that has to be strong. We answer a question from someone who wants to learn how to turn off their feelings . There is one user who broke up with their girlfriend 2 yrs ago and didn't start missing them until now. Tune in and hear Ress and Niques perspective.
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Are you dating for fun or are you unconsciously avoiding intimacy? In todays episode we discuss the difference between "living your best life" and just using the term as a way of keeping yourself emotionally stunted - never having to do the real work that would requires vulnerability , openness and possible hurt.
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In this episode we explored SAD-Seasonal affective disorder* . As the cold makes its presence known and the dark takes over day Seasonal Affective Disorder starts to rear its ugly head as we head into the holidays. SAD is a form of depression, seasonal depression also known as winter depression. How do you prepare for a more effective winter /holiday season? Why is it different from regular depression and how are they the same? Like our previous episode on depression we talk about all the hard stuff when it comes to depression; Lack of caring , suicidal ideation , snapping at loved ones and just feeling like giving up. You are not alone and in this episode we ask the big question: how do we combat these thoughts ?
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Today we are discussing emotional avoidance. Emotional Avoidance refers to any action designed to prevent the occurrence of an uncomfortable emotion such as fear, sadness, abandonment , rejection or shame. Emotional avoidance is a faulty coping mechanism, and many of us are unconsciously using these unhealthy coping skills as a way of living, or avoiding living….
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In today’s episode new address #teamnosleep #24/7grind and talk about learning to rest and recharge .
What is unconditional love ? And should we be loving people with out conditions ?
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Nique and Ress discuss high achieving women partnering with stay at home plant dads . Women now make up 40% of the bread winners in American homes - as women climb the social ladder some are struggling to find mates climbing the ladder with them and take solace in finding someone that gives emotional support as they provide financial. Is this inevitable and does it work ?
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Today we are answering question from around the web, that no one asked us to answer. We explore one woman’s dilemma of allowing her husband time to grieve his mistress to a workers question about moving for a career advancement to a city they aren’t exactly excited about living in.
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There was a trending topic on Twitter over the weekend. A woman brought up the fact that a few years ago there was an infamous thread of men talking about how they just ‘settled’ for whoever was there when they were ready to marry not the women they actually loved the most. Well, this weekend more men and women chimed in on the topic with a lot of the men agreeing with this logic ! Ress and Nique chime in their thoughts on the topic.
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In today’s episode we discuss being friends with a member of the opposite sex ( or sex you are attracted to ). How does this work in adulthood? Is there a age limit where it’s just not possible to make platonic friends? Are you ok with partners who stay friends with ex’s ? And how many side eyes are you giving on your partners friendships before it’s a problem?
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In today’s episode we talk about grief. Nique and Ress both share their personal stories about dealing with grief in their lives and explore the stages of grief. Nique discusses the difficulty in losing not only your love one but all the plans and hopes you may have had with that person. Ress discuss the anger and complexity that may come along with grief.
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Online dating, lets get into it ! We discuss the apps that promote monogamy, the hook up sites and our best and worst dating app experiences. Are dating apps worth the effort? Unfortunately … yes.
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Today we discuss the issue with ‘getting back in the horse’ after falling off. Overcoming the feeling of failure .
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In today’s episode we discuss sacrifice and what it means to constantly sacrifice yourself. Are you sacrificing your happiness to maintain a relationship? Are you sacrificing your mental health to maintain a job that you hate? Are you sacrificing who you really are to make sure that whatever image you project is pleasing to your family?
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Today we are answering questions from around the internet. We answer questions about your kids finding out about your xrated past, lying about birth control , paying off a partners bills… but they won’t let you make the payment directly……… and more !
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In this episode we discuss burn out , the five phases of burnout and what we can do to alleviate it . We explore when burn out from something like a job can actually be something way deeper than you just hating your job .
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Another round of questions from around the internet . We discuss questions on therapist needing therapist, bf with drunken rage, having a crush on your boss and more !
On today’s episode we explore the web and answers questions asked on advice forums from around the web. Nobody asked for this.... literally nobody... but here you go!
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In today’s episode we talk about the strong woman trope, and how strong women want to have times when we get to be soft, get to be protected .At what point do people recognize the strong one needs help too?
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On today’s episode we explore the web and answers questions asked on advice forums from around the web. Nobody asked for this.... literally nobody... but here you go!
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And today’s episode we discussed having a pity party. We are discussing why it’s bad to wallow in self-pity and how to get yourself out of it. Is it OK to feel bad for yourself? And when is it too much?
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Today we are talking about letting your self be uprooted and being open to your path changing
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What is imposture syndrome and how does it play out in your life ? Nique and Ress explore the ways imposter syndrome has impacted them and in what areas. Ress talks about feeling it in her career and Nique discuss feeling it when around friends and family from her past.
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In this week’s episode Ress explores the things that can be holding us back from greatness. We touch on self doubt, holding onto the wrong people, taking accountability and forgiving ourselves for what we didn’t know.
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Emotional responses What are our emotional reactions to perceived stress and hurt ? On this episode we explore emotional shutting down , vulnerability and perceived rejection. Why do we react the way we do? And what are we doing to develop a more mature response.
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In today’s episode we explore books on love that seemingly tell women to do a whole lot of work and men to do the minimum. Is that approach even worth it in today’s day of dating?
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Today we get real deep and personal and talk about the struggles of depression. The big D word. What’s it like to try to hide it, brining it up in relationships and more.
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Resisting change normally comes down to one thing: fear. In today’s episode we explore those fears and explore what makes us so resistant to something that we know is needed for growth.
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We’ve talked about unhealthy relationships in the past and on this episode we explore healthy relationships . What’s something you’ve could have done from jump that would have made the relationship run smoother?
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On today’s we talk about the struggle to be vulnerable and the importance in allowing your self to stand in the midst of uneasy feelings .
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In this episode in we explore toxic relationships, being both the innocent party and the toxic party.
How do you argue ? And when you argue are you arguing fair? Nique and Ress explore what it means to fight fair in various types of relationships and the things that tempts us to go for the low balls .
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This episode Ress and Nique talk about the struggle of knowing when to stay or when to leave a relationship . We explore deal breakers and being ok with life not turning out the way that we wanted.
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In today’s episode we discuss the pros and cons of getting back together with an ex. Is it always a NO? Is it ever worth it? What is the big glaring red flags that this is not a road you need to revisit ?
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On today’s episode we explore the difficulties of making friends as an adult. When you’re in school you can just become friends with whoever is around you and some of us even get lucky enough to have those same friends for life. However, for some of us life happens , you move , they move , you take different paths . At some point you have to do the friend thing all over again, but why is it’s so awkward to do at our big ages ?!? We all typically just get to a point where you feel the need of other adults and entertainment but how do you go about finding this as an adult?
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Today we talk about long distance relationships. We discuss the tips experts say make them more successful. Are they realistic? Could you be in one?
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Nique and Ress discuss the popularization of manifesting. We discuss techniques we use and what we’ve been able to manifest so far and what we struggle with.
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