Really?: Recent Episodes
Nikita Stienissen
Trying to engage the world to some critical thinking with a philosophical and psychological twist. A psychologist to-be trying to shine light on some interesting subjects in life and advocate for mental health and have a laugh at the same time cause why not?
In this episode, we explore how humor is used as a coping mechanism in today’s relentless news cycle and the mental health implications of ignoring pressing global issues. Being aware of why you're ignoring current events in the name of anxiety is discussed.
This episode dives into the controversial dynamics of modern policing and the ACAB movement. We explore the gap between the intended role of police as protectors and the realities of violence, brutality, and corruption that many communities experience. If you want to support me click here.
A dive deeper into our motivations and needs when it comes to accomplishing tasks and making decisions or simply getting out of a slump. The why, the how and how it starts, let's take a wider view on motivations and what you need to take into account when you want to start and accomplish a task whether it's a small task or a large one. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally
From poverty to being rich, is it that easy? Newer generations being hesitant to work 9-5, 5 days a week, why is that. The roles our governments should be playing in making people happy and find jobs. Of course the ever famous, "just get abs and be rich" answer to people's troubles. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally
Recently got back into reading and it's a forgotten different world. From my childhood Archie comics and its translation into Riverdale and from the books of Harry Potter to the industry that is the Wizarding World. The motivation of a hobby can be so simple. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
After another break, a guest from home reminds me of the discussion of the ever so classic Western vs Asian or collectivistic vs individualistic conversation. From how you treat elderly to relationships and family values, the differences are interesting to assess from the point of view of Netherlands and Malaysia. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Spirituality, the existence of God and the universe, what's more? Why do people believe and make these beliefs their life. Some people believe, some don't, and we talk about that dynamic. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
We all know the one group mate that does not do anything but take most of the credit and make your blood boil. The theory of social loafing in social psychology is discuss in relation to this mess as well. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
In this first week of the New Year, we discuss meaning in life and how you perceive the ultimate dream life. So many options and suggestions for an answer only you know. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Happy New Year! I start off discussing the mythical New Years Motivation that always seems to disappear in due time. Next I stumble upon AI psychology as well and discuss whether AI can ever replace Psychologists and Therapists. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Thanks for all the support so far! Episode 50 is here and we discuss some fun and adorable topics like Legos, Astronomy and other Christmas gifts you might have received. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Let's talk about lights, Christmas, religion and the gift giving traditions. Some gift giving events...may not be as fun thanks to spoiled kids, but hey, there's a lot more cheer to go around. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Contemplating life decisions at work or at university, picking your battles becomes important. Let's venture into this idea we deem as "Failure". If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
With the temperature dropping and the gas bills piling, I talk about how I'm handling this issue along with how my friends have been handling it. The cultural differences between how we do it as well and of course the small other differences between the things we do from different countries. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Based on recent research conducted by me for my thesis, I relay insights about what we found and also ponder about the wonders of pets or, some would even call them, our friends. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
In this random episode I decide to speak my mind and see where it wanders. I touched upon meaning in life and how we perceive the stages of life with kittens as a special guest in the background. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
How about motivation from a different perspective? We speed through life rather quickly, maybe it's nice to take a break once in a while and hone in on yourself or your surroundings then reapproach your work or studies with more confidence and peace of mind. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
I dive further into our motivation to study and what's up with that. What's stopping, the deeper layers towards our excuses and see what's the underlying issue. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Inspired by a real life incident, I think about how minutes of action can change perceptions that take years to build. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
It's new and taboo but also exciting...? I'm sharing my experiences about the magic bean and talk about the effects, pros and cons about the spiked leaf too. It's definitely one way to open your mind. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Riding on the high of recent viral episodes, I reflect on the past 39 episodes and talk about positivity and how we can use that to pursue our dreams or motivate ourselves to move forward to do something we've always wanted to do. We need more kindness and positivity each day, so why not spread some. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
Amidst the sadness and negativity that we have around us these days, it might be nice to do a positive thing or think of a positive thing to do today. We talk about social media, our perception of today's issues and the weight it has on our mental health. If you want to support me: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally or reallynik@getalby.com
No surprise that motivations drive us however how we get the motivation is a question that long plagued students of all ages and years in every aspect of their academic career, Let's talk about meaning in life and motivation.
Money can be a sensitive topic, depending on who you're talking to. How can this reflect in work place and how to keep morale up without giving everyone raises? How different people perceive money makes a difference on how much power money has over you.
Take it easy and believe in yourself, a lot of what you're pursuing will come to light because even if something were to take a lot of time, time will pass anyway. Increase your toolbox and maximise the advice of the people you see without devoting yourself to one unless that works for you, could be simpler or more complicated than you think.
Upon obtaining my new feline friends, I've learned somethings about them and about cats and dogs in general. I talked about training them ethically as well as some laws and regulations about them in different countries. A stray issue with cats and dogs as well is slowly increasing.
What's up with social media, everyone's saying we're being brainwashed but the very same people claiming that is brainwashing the people themselves, which is justified at all? Something interesting to think about as we dive into popular common conceptions of today.
A touch into my thoughts on the recent uprising of the gender roles argument. We discuss social media and its current state as well as equal rights.
Just a catch up along with some fun facts about Malaysia. Dove into some societal issues and my very own teaching style. Transitioning into new chapter in my life and more classes to teach!
We explore our past, future and present to attempt a reconnected to our humanity. Sometimes taking a step back to see what we we've done and will do can help make us closer to our goals in life or maybe not, let's find out shall we? The lightning address for Bitcoin is reallynik@getalby.com. I'm curious myself how that works.
I address a recent episode of mine that blew up due to recent controversies in the United States. From abortion to gun control and once again school. Some debates never ends so let's look at it from both sides for once. Take a step back and let's see.
In my return, I discuss what I learn about social media and forms of online communication. I bring comments from Andrew Tate and other people as well as their thoughts on how they perceive social media and what it has become.
I reflect on my absence but also bring up some news I heard over the past week about a teacher coming out to his students and using the time that he should be teaching to answer questions in regards to his sexuality also discussing what schools are attempting to teach to their kids.
Once again, reflecting on my roots and experiences. I talk about how simple everyday things like going to the grocery store in the Netherlands can be so different compared to in Malaysia and I progress to talk about the different legal systems in Malaysia and how different races can be viewed and treated that may be odd for people who have not had experiences in other countries or in Malaysia.
We dive into the construct of marriage and ask what makes it such a core value of society and why is it a must to achieve happiness in life...to some. Some personal experiences with marriages from different cultures. Posing the question of why it's such an important aspect outside the scope of religion.
A quick dive into my experiences in Malaysia in regards to marriages and the schooling system. I touch on my experiences with caning in school and how the schools run as compared to western countries and the cool cultural ways of getting married in Malaysia from a Chinese household.
Another box of society. We discuss the unwritten rules of free speech that not many people mention. We may be able to say "anything" yet again, there are many things we aren't allowed to say because it may be offensive or rude and so on. As free speech goes on, ironically the more and less we can say at the same time.
As things progress, there are many people with more and more variable views and it is interesting to see however, like many things, some views get more and more extreme on both ends of the spectrum. Mainly the reflection of the American political system.
What does it mean to critically think? I say that a lot but let's look behind that. We have fact over feeling and seeing which justification is fair. It's almost impossible to please everyone all the time, but we try our best to be fair. It's a good insight to see what exactly gauges as fair.
Everything's being cancelled everywhere you go! From pancakes to Dr. Suess to celebrities tweets from 20 years ago, what's next and what's exactly "right" here. It's getting harder and harder to tell so let's break it down a little bit. Want to reach out and share your opinion, find me on one of the following links:
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The latest news in a Japanese school banning ponytails for exciting boys after a student complains. How progressively unprogressive we're being. First it was shoulders and now is necks, who knows what's next. Let's understand why and look into the age old argument of boys will be boys. Should women be covering up or should men learn to control themselves.
Comic relief, the ever so classic. Ever watched a horror movie and tried to make yourself feel better by watching something funny. We've been there of course, we try and we try but we still have to face the reality of the situation. The reality of what we have to face and the hardships involved.
Let's look behind why people argue the way they do and why they rather shut someone down instead of collaborating and coming up with an idea that attempts to benefit everyone, of course, it's easier said than done. Looking into society's evolvement and how far we've come and how much we've uncovered as well. As mentioned, if you want to check out my YouTube (ReallyNik): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz28g3WnbydM2W8LkbMtX8Q. A little change in pace goes a long way.
We start by breaking down society to its basics and growing from there and understanding our government in the state that it is in today. A continuation of a previous episode I have in relation to anarchy. Exploring more and start to see if it's truly the government that's the issue or is it the way its conducted.
We dive into the ever so classic topic of love and the nature of relationships. Revealing the ways in which we are connected to someone can be very insightful and may reveal some good and not-so-good things. The beautiful idea of running of into the sunset together and living happily ever after could potentially be just one big fantasy.
The classic term, assuming the worst. Let's get into that and understand why we do. We have to take control of our emotions and not let our own paranoia and self-esteem take over what we feel. Help me out if you're interested: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/nikitareally
A dive into what's missing in school, what kids should learn. The importance of critical and a good sex education class. A side track into abortion laws as well. Many other subjects are necessary to learn but we've been teaching kids the same subjects for years now, maybe it's time to add.
Having a little block or bad vibe? Join me in discovering that a little. Also exploring a little funny article I found between a conversation with a coach and their client which has hilarious statements. Introducing some positive psychology in the meantime too!
A, every couple months, update about myself, my goals, my thoughts. It's a little out of topic but maybe you'd want to know more about this stranger spewing random yet not so random information and spreading critical thinking and also announcing the launch of a new platform I recently became a part of at "Buy Me A Coffee". If you want to help out and join the community, or not, we shall see where this brings us!
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Despite the many issues with our education systems, we can start by understanding how children and people learn to begin with. I touched on my experience of caning in school and how that affected me to this day versus how my education is now in the Netherlands and of course a comparison with the Finnish education system.
The understanding of rebelling. So many movements and they are all coming out at once, let's break it down a bit and see why. The concept of Anarchy may be more prevalent than the name itself, let's get a little taste of this together in this very very brief understanding and conversation of it.
There's too sensitive and there's not enough, where's that sweet spot. A little touch into Malaysia's social welfare situation as well as comparing it to the Netherlands. An introduction to the overly sensitive people of the world as well.
Having a bad day? Join me in exploring why, thinking deeper and maybe figuring out why. Nothing bad with accepting that you feel the way you do, if anything, own it! Every storm will pass and embracing the storm is not the worst thing in the world.
Feeling suffocated by your identity? Feeling like it's a race to find who you are? Why is that? Is it really for you or for everyone else. We look into identities and why we feel the need to put labels on everything we do and all that we are from a very young age.
Have a massive bump in the road and you're running away from it? Let's see why? Sometimes it's tiring to question what you say and do all the time but if it's starting to impact your life negatively, maybe it's time to do a little introspection.
Hearing people out on their comments on my structure and looking into how to find structure myself. Important to recognize the mess in your life and look for ways to help with that. Giving my own tips as well as some that I have found online and seeing what fits best. Set forth and find your own structure!
We breakdown sexism a little bit, trying to understand the idea behind basic pay and equality. A few snippets of my experience with it throughout my life. Sexism is way too complex to sum up in 20 minutes but we try to understand a little bit of the logic behind that. Addressing some comments that some people might find sexist as well from my first episode.
May sound similar but have different meanings. Ever feel like no one is listening to you? Like really listening, I share an encounter I had which was intriguing and insightful. Shining light on an underrated and extremely important skill.
Bringing light upon an incident in Malaysia where a deputy minister for women, family, and community development enables husbands beating their wives. Looking a little bit into why and questioning the mindset of some conservatives.
A quick introduction along with a snippet of my thoughts on communication and drama. Crazy how drama can happen from 2 parties that never even happen. Let's Go!