Three Things I Didn't Learn By Not... By Jay Cafferata: Recent Episodes
Jay Cafferata
Three things I didn't learn by not becoming a ...... is a podcast about how the things we don't learn impact us in ways we don't realize because we don't know what we could have learned. In this podcast, I examine things I didn't learn as a way of bringing the benefits of what I could have learned if I were in that position. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/fibonacci-temple-jay-caff/support
When we want to find the next goal or desire of our heart - where do we start? Envy is considered a negative emotion - but what if it's not? What if it's our best tool to discover what we want next? This podcast discusses the use of an emotion like envy.
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This podcast reflects on the lessons learned in the Garden of Eden - the snake (a plot device), a woman (seeking wisdom), and a man (eating). It's up to you to decide the lesson of original sin - what do you think the original sin was anyway?
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Consent is something that we give - only we can give it. Looking at consent and how it plays out in cultural competency is the topic of today's podcast!
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This episode reflects on how our expectations have shifted over time - we now expect things to arrive instantaneously - like a text message or an email. But writing a letter has different expectations. Manifesting a Desired Outcome is all about the expectations.
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This episode is about change - is it really hard? or are we just making it "hard"? Just asking for a friend . . .
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The Emperor's New Clothes is a tale about deception? About clothing choices? Representation? Or what? This podcast looks at some of the things we can learn from revisiting the tale of the Emperor's New Clothes!
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This episode explores the skills that actors use - that we could all use - in managing our emotions.
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Fox Hunters enjoy the sport of hunting foxes - there are many skills that we can learn from Fox Hunters! There are many elements to fox hunting - I don't cover them all - just three.
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Being picked is an important part of our childhood - this episode examines some of the things I didn't learn by Not being picked.
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In this episode, I look at the ways we unpack concepts and ideas. What we do before we unpack - is to pack. There are limitations to what we pack when we go on vacation. This podcast is all about packing!
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This episode explores the autopilot assumptions we accept as part of our own intersectionality. The three things I didn't learn about being an Auto Pilot American are about being Normal, My Behavior, and Expectations for Me.
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This episode talks about how we use associations to create expectations to create experiences that become our Truth even though that Truth is not the TRUTH - that is implicit Bias in action - and how we don't consider how a person's accent colors our impression of them. Is a French Accent exotic? Is a Russian accent indicative of your job? This episode looks at how accents and implicit bias work together.
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This episode explores boundaries as a visual exercise. Teaching our children about boundaries is important - but we have to think about how we set our boundaries first!
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A Moment of Clarity is when you have that moment when the truth or reality of a situation hits you. When you realize that this could be good, bad, or indifferent. What you do next is up to you!
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This episode is about the saying "A Bird in the hand is worth two in the bush" as a way of exploring the message or the lessons that are the underlying meaning of this saying. Don't dare to dream, you aren't good enough to be better and there are guarantees in life you can absolutely count on - all of which are suspect!
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In this episode, I explore the idea that oftentimes we see diversity as about the color or pigmentation of our skin and yet we know there are more types of diversity than just that. And Vampires - they cannot see themselves in the mirror - you will have to hear what I have to say about that!
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This episode continues the theme of Three Things I didn't Learn. Examining how women are treated in the border areas between the USA and Mexico reveals a life that is unseen and invisible - a life barely lived. These powerful lessons help to demonstrate how women are used - not for themselves as sentient beings - but as messages to others.
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It's that time of the year when folks join a gym, resolve to eat more healthily, take a walk every day, be more kind - all those things that we hope happen as we make our New Year Resolutions. This episode talks about why affirmations might be a better way to get what you want rather than the goal-setting exercise doomed to failure called New Year's Resolutions.
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This episode examines how the words privilege and leverage can be used to take apart white skin privilege.
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What does it mean when we allow others' perceptions of our body to impact our health? Just thinking about why we make some of the choices we do about what we wear can help us to unlink the fear of others' perceptions and our own self-worth.
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This podcast is about using the metaphor of stock certificates to see the value of your life. When we use "shares" we are increasing our value or worth and increasing the value or worth in others. This topic discusses how the currency of gratitude is the coin of our investment that creates the expected dividend or the manifestations of our best life.
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What do professional athletes have that we don't have besides, a great body, money, and status? Well, not much - and we can learn the same lessons that catapult them into professional athlete lives without the concussions, wear and tear on the body, or as a life in the spotlight! We can use these three things to change our lives for the better - will we get that million-dollar shoe contract? Probably not - but we will feel good in our own shoes!
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This episode tells the story of my 10 year old son and his experience playing a video game where he ultimately realized he was "working for the Bad Guy" and not doing the good in the world he thought he was. How do we change when we discover we are wrong?
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This episode examines how we use the words deserve and worthy and how they relate to our vision of ourselves and our dreams. If you cannot say you are worthy of your dreams coming true - are you deserving of your dreams coming true????
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Why do we choose some failures as part of our identity - "I'm a failure" and some we reject out of hand? This episode looks at failure and even a little bit about success!
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This episode discusses the Stories we tell about ourselves and our identity. What is your story? Can you change the past? Yes, you can and we do it all the time. The reframing of how you see yourself and others changes the way you make decisions. It changes how your future looks in your own mind. Drop the bricks that others gave you as negative stories and start watering the grass underneath your feet. You can find the silver lining and change your future!
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These two powerful forces live within our relationships. Often cited as the cause for divorce and breakups, yet we are not taught how to discuss these important topics or even how important they are. This episode discusses how this conversation shapes the intimacy of our relationships - committed or not.
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There are no New Year Resolutions or goals set for the year - just a budget. This podcast examines the meaning of vacation or to vacate or "leave" your vocation or job in ways that make 12 vacations a year a reasonable expectation for 2021. It really is in the budget! This podcast explains how to do just that! Happy Vacations in 2021!
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This episode considers what happens if every country had its own Thanos - who would be left? What happens when our systems try to act as if they are in a vacuum or independent and not interdependent? Where do you fit in? How do we change our culture to be for everyone and not just for some?
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This podcast is about how gratitude functions as a credit toward the future and as the coin of the realm in the law of attraction. Thinking about how your energy is produced in a field and as a biological process helps us to focus on what is important!
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This episode is about Thanksgiving and how a celebration isn't always joyful. It is a call to action about changing our culture in the US to acknowledge the wrongs and make things right. As people - we can only be responsible for our actions, words, and thoughts - and as a nation, we must address the inequalities that we have perpetrated against the humans that live on the planet. I am grateful that I have another chance to make things right. Enjoy!
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This episode explores the connection between us looking at others, them looking at us, and then how that gaze is about connection and closeness to each other. What will be the impact once we are out of quarantine? In looking at the Chat - how this utility is changing the power dynamics in meetings - anyone can add to chat - no waiting to be acknowledged - you speak your mind. The crazy connection between us and them. Thanks for listening to our podcast!
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This episode talks about how we learn boundaries, how we think about boundaries, and the impact those boundaries have in our world. The connection between our parents, parenting, and zoom meetings all rolled into one!
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How do less government and the definition of humanity intersect? Who will care for those who cannot care for themselves? How do we decide who is human? These are all good questions that deserve a thoughtful moment of reflection. This episode discusses how we need to look closer at who is responsible for what.
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This episode explores the messages that came from the movie, The Secret, from 2006 and how it relates to victim-blaming - how individuals are blamed for their lack of ability to rise to positions of power and wealth due to individual responsibility.
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There are no role models for asking for consent for sex - how do we teach consent? Consent starts with "Keep your hands to yourself". I discuss the associations around consent and what it means to give consent.
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