Mastering Midlife with Heidi: Recent Episodes
Heidi Gustafson
Are you at a place in your life where you think you should have it all figured out by now?
Heidi Gustafson is a Board-Certified Hypnotist and Mindset Coach who has taken all her life challenges and turned them into her superpower of creating a life that she loves… and she coaches midlife women to do the same! If you feel like you've tried everything and still don’t know where to start, you’re in the right place.
From painful divorce to retirement, chronic people pleasing to crushing self doubt, Coach Heidi explores the reasons behind our actions and gives real-world solutions to living a happier, more fulfilling life. She'll teach you how to regain self trust, come to terms with the past, and allow space for your future.
Midlife can be your best years yet. Stop merely surviving and get ready to thrive with Coach Heidi!
Many midlife women were taught that being “nice” meant staying quiet, keeping the peace, and putting everyone else first. I believed that advice for most of my life—and it cost me my voice, my peace, and years of self sacrifice.
I'm sharing the 7 lies I learned about being the "good girl" and how they conditioned me to ignore my feelings, avoid conflict, and tolerate what never felt right. This isn’t about fixing yourself or trying harder. It’s about seeing the patterns that kept you silent—so you can finally stop abandoning and betraying yourself.
If you've hit midlife, exhausted and quietly wondering, 'Is this it?', I created Choosing Me: A Women's Wisdom Circle for YOU! Choosing Me is for the ones who are ready to start living life on their terms — without guilt, apology, and without doing it alone.
Choosing Me 👈🏼 All the details and registration link here; I'd love to see you in the group if it feels like a fit. We start February 18
Free resource: 20 Ways to Say 'No' Without Feeling Guilty or Selfish
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If you’re the one who’s always keeping the peace, smoothing things over, and carrying a hidden weight you can’t quite name, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to stop being everyone’s emotional manager and finally put down the load you were never meant to carry.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- The 10 signs you’re taking on responsibility that isn’t yours
- How people-pleasing turns into emotional over-functioning
- What to do to reclaim your peace without guilt
Free Resources:
- Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz
- 20 Ways to Say No Without Feeling Guilty or Selfish
- YouTube video: How to Let Go of Your Need to Keep Everyone Happy
- YouTube video: This People-Pleasing Habit Destroys Your Confidence
- YouTube video: You're Allowed to Say No | 5 Guilt-Free Phrases for People Pleasers
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Ever feel guilty for needing a little breathing room, saying no, or wanting something just for you? You’re not alone — and it’s not because you’re selfish. It’s because you were trained to feel that way.
In this episode, we’ll bust the lie that being a “good woman” means being self-less, and uncover what it actually means to take care of yourself without apology.
You’ll learn:
- The hidden conditioning that made you equate self-care with selfishness — and how to break it.
- Why guilt flares up the moment you choose yourself (and why that’s actually a good sign).
- How to start your own Guilt Detox so you can replace guilt with balance, peace, and self-respect.
Because taking care of yourself isn’t selfish — it’s how you stay connected to who you are and who you were meant to be.
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What if your “niceness” is actually pushing people away?
In this powerful episode, I unpack a viral Reddit post where one woman asked, “Please just help me understand why people pleasers are disliked.” The 29 pages of raw, honest responses revealed painful truths about what people-pleasing really looks like from the outside — and why it keeps us stuck in guilt, exhaustion, and disconnection.
I break down five hard truths about people-pleasing — how it can come across as fake, create weak boundaries, attract toxic people, and erode your sense of self. You’ll learn why saying “yes” when you mean “no” teaches people how to treat you, and how to start reclaiming your peace and power, one honest boundary at a time.
I also share a touching tribute to Diane Keaton, who reminded us that, “The goal is to continue in good and bad, all of it.” Because healing isn’t about getting it right — it’s about showing up real, even when it’s messy.
🎧 Listen now to learn what your ‘niceness’ might really be costing you—and how to take your life back. 👇Free resources:
Book a call with me here: Heidi's calendar
Take the Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz here
Download the guide: 20 Ways to Say No Without Feeling Guilty
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Do you walk away from certain people feeling small, anxious, or wondering what you did wrong? That’s not an accident — it’s the effect of toxic energy slowly eroding your peace and confidence.
Here’s the truth: you don’t feel horrible because you messed up. You feel horrible because their behavior crosses boundaries - boundaries you were never taught to create and hold - and and it chips away at your self esteem.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why toxic people twist your “no” into guilt (and how to stop falling for it)
- The most powerful way to protect your energy without apology or over-explaining
- 3 practical boundary strategies you can use right now to feel calm, clear, and unshakably confident
If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself, replaying conversations, or shrinking to keep the peace, this episode will help you take back your power — and protect your peace — for good.
RESOURCES:
Want to know where your boundaries need some attention? Take the FREE Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz here.
Want to dive deeper into boundaries on your own time with my guidance? Take the Empower Your Life Boundaries Roadmap Challenge. 👈 Info and sign up here.
Related YouTube video: She Makes You Feel Guilty? 3 Ways to Take Back Your Power
Want some easy ways to say no in your back pocket? Download my free guide: 20 Ways to Say No Without Feeling Guilty
Want to chat about where you feel stuck and how I can help? Book a free 30-minute consultation call on my calendar.
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Do you bend over backwards to avoid being called selfish? For people pleasers, that word feels like the worst insult of all — and it’s exactly why so many of us swallow our truth, say yes when we mean no, and lose ourselves in the process.
But here’s the dark truth: the very behaviors we think make us “nice” are actually manipulative — and they’re keeping us stuck.
In this episode, I share:
- The hidden ways people pleasers morph and control situations without realizing it
- Why constant apologizing and over-explaining erode real connection
- How saying yes when you want to say no breeds resentment and disconnection
- The sneaky habits (like hinting or testing others) that keep you invisible and frustrated
If you’ve ever thought of yourself as “easygoing” but ended up drained, resentful, or invisible, this conversation will hit home. And the good news? You’ll also get simple, practical steps you can start using today to stop the cycle and reclaim your voice.
Grab my free guide with 20 ways to say no (without feeling like the bad guy) — link below:
20 Ways to Say NO Guide
A Dark Truth About People Pleasing YouTube video
If you'd like support on breaking free of people pleasing, schedule your free consultation and let's chat about how I can help you. Schedule time here on my calendar. Or you can email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com
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Do you feel guilty, selfish, or even wrong every time you try to set a boundary? You’re not alone. For so many women, people pleasing has been conditioned into us since childhood — and breaking free from it is the only way to protect your time, energy, and peace.
In this episode, I’ll share why saying no feels so hard, how people pleasing is NOT who you are (it’s just a habit), and the five steps that helped me finally set boundaries without guilt.
Here’s what you’ll learn when you listen:
- The real reason you keep saying yes (even when your gut is screaming no)
- How to set boundaries without explaining yourself — and why explanations keep you stuck
- The game-changing mindset shift that makes boundaries finally stick for good
If you’ve been exhausted from people pleasing, struggling with guilt or resentment, or afraid of disappointing others, this episode will show you the path to inner peace and stronger boundaries.
Boundaries Roadmap:
Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz (FREE) See where your boundaries could be stronger.
Empower Your Life Boundaries Challenge (use code EP71 to save $20!) Take the 30-day email challenge for healthier boundaries in just 1 month!
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Join my email newsletter and stay up-to-date on everything "Mastering Midlife" by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways to Say "NO" Without Guilt
If you'd like support on breaking free of people pleasing, schedule your free clarity call and let's chat about how I can help you. Schedule time here on my calendar. Or you can email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com
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Are you your own worst enemy, bullying yourself with negative self talk? Do you feel overly self-critical despite being nice to everyone else? If your inner voice is filled with negative thoughts, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to stay stuck in the cycle of feeling “not good enough.”
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why your inner critic is so harsh (and why it’s not your fault)
- A simple technique to calm negative thoughts in just minutes a day
- How to retrain your inner voice with 2 easy steps so you can finally feel more peace and confidence
Watch this episode on YouTube: The SECRET to Silence Your Inner Critic & Stop Doubting Yourself!
Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt
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Ever said 'yes' to something and then felt guilty when you needed or wanted to change your mind -- even when it no longer felt right? This exact thing happened to me recently.
In this episode, I share why people pleasers (even recovering ones like me) struggle to change our mind and say no when we already said yes, how pushing people manipulate your guilt, and why changing your mind and trusting your gut is so important for your inner peace and self respect.
If you’ve ever stayed in a situation just to avoid disappointing someone else, this episode is for you. I spent years believing that being dependable meant sticking it out, even if it cost me my peace. But keeping your word at the expense of your well-being isn’t integrity—it’s self-abandonment.
In this episode, I share the powerful shifts that helped me stop overriding my gut, let go of guilt, and start honoring what’s true for me. We’ll talk about:
- how people-pleasing keeps you from changing your mind,
- why changing your mind isn’t flaky, and
- how to confidently say no even when someone is guilt-tripping you.
Schedule a free consultation here on my calendar. I'll help you see your blind spots.
Take the FREE Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz
Watch the YouTube video here: "Is it okay to SAY NO after you already said YES?"
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Are you afraid that if people saw the real you, they’d walk away?
If you’ve ever felt like you had to wear a mask just to be accepted, this episode is for you. I spent over 50 years shape-shifting into who I thought others needed me to be—just to avoid rejection. But all that time, I was quietly rejecting myself.
In this episode, I share the two powerful shifts that helped me finally drop the mask, stop people-pleasing, and start living as the real me—without apology. We’ll talk about:
- the high cost of fake acceptance,
- how to reframe rejection, and
- what it really takes to build self-trust and authentic connection.
Watch the YouTube video: How I let go of the fear of rejection to finally be happy!
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call on my calendar here.
Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt
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Are you constantly feeling guilty for saying no, putting yourself first, or just needing a break? I used to feel that way too. Guilt whispered that I was selfish, lazy, or letting people down. So I kept over-giving, over-doing, and over-apologizing… until I finally said "enough."
I faced decades of saying yes when I meant no, repressing my own needs, and living under the weight of other people’s expectations. In this episode, I’m diving into the 20 things I finally stopped feeling guilty about—and how each one helped me:
- Break the cycle of people‑pleasing in midlife
- Overcome guilt and shame around setting boundaries
- Reclaim my time, energy, and self‑worth, and
- Live more joyfully—without resentment
If you're tired of feeling invisible, drained, or like you don't deserve simple pleasures (like rest, choice, and pride in your own life), this episode is for you.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a free Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30min
Specific YouTube video mentioned in episode: "This people-pleasing habit destroys your confidence"
More resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidi
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Are you the one always trying? Always giving? Does your inner voice whisper, "No matter what - it's never enough!" So you try harder and give more. You may think you're just being helpful, easygoing, or kind—but underneath it all, you might be working overtime to prove you're good enough.
In this episode, I’ll walk you through 15 people-pleasing behaviors that are secretly fueled by fear, guilt, and the deep need to be seen as “good.”
- Learn why these habits lead to burnout, resentment, and disconnection
- Spot the subtle ways you’ve been abandoning yourself to avoid rejection
- Get 3 simple steps to start letting go of guilt and honoring your needs
Let’s talk about what these people-pleasing "nice" habits are really costing you in your peace, energy, and self worth... and how to start setting boundaries without guilt or self doubt.
Take the free Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/bbsquiz
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30min
More resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidi
Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
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What if saying “sorry” isn’t kindness — but self-doubt in disguise? And what if the key to less doubt and more respect is simply choosing a new way to speak?
In this episode, I'm showing you why "sorry" isn't creating the connection you think it is—and why it's actually making things worse.
Here's what you'll learn:
- Why apologizing when you've done nothing wrong destroys your confidence
- How saying "sorry" is a trap to avoid feeling guilty
- Why over-apologizing pushes people away instead of bringing them closer and,
- Exact phrases to use instead of "sorry"
If you people please, saying "sorry" is like trying to comb your hair with a hammer. It's the wrong tool!
Take the free Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/bbsquiz
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30min
More resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidi
Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
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Do you show up one way with others, but feel completely different inside, maybe even the polar opposite of what others see in you? In this episode, I’m revealing what causes us to be this way and how this disconnection leaves us feeling small and invisible.
Listen to hear:
- how the pain of always being what others needed (the helper, the dependable one, the peacekeeper, the “good” girl) disconnects us from ourselves,
- why it feels safer to be what others want, and
- how learning to put other people first causes us to seek external validation in midlife
What causes us to continually shape-shift to fit in with others? And what’s the one key thing that’s needed to stop? That’s what you’ll learn in this episode.
The one common thing I’ve seen in everyone who prioritizes OTHER people over themselves is a struggle to protect their OWN needs. That’s exactly why I created the free Boundaries Blind Spot quiz so you can see for yourself. It’s a set of statements that you rate yourself on and the quiz helps you uncover where your boundaries might be leaky without you even realizing it. Download the free Boundaries Blind Spot quiz here: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/bbsquiz
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30min
More resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidi
Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
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Do you say yes when you REALLY wanna say no — just to avoid disappointing someone? Or say no, but then immediately feel guilty?
Yeah… the guilt? It’s not about that moment — it’s about a deeper belief you probably don't realize you’re carrying.
In this episode, we’re unpacking why so many women end up chasing approval without realizing it… and how that need to be liked or seen as “good” keeps us stuck in people-pleasing patterns that feel like love, but aren’t.
We’ll cover:
- Why disappointing others feels so unsafe — and what it’s really tied to
- How approval became a stand-in for love (and how to spot where it's still happening)
- What it looks like to give yourself unconditional love — instead of earning it through self-sacrifice
This one’s for the woman who’s tired of twisting herself into knots to feel worthy — and is ready to write a new story.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30min
More resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidi
Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
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Do you ever walk away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I say all that?”
You’re not alone — and there’s nothing wrong with you. Oversharing is a sneaky people-pleasing habit that feels like connection… but usually leaves us feeling exposed, regretful, or misunderstood. I'm breaking down why we do it — and how to quit this habit to take back your peace and power.
In this episode you’ll learn:
- 5 hidden reasons people pleasers overshare (and none of them mean you’re broken)
- How your urge to explain everything is actually about self-trust
- A personal story of a boundary that changed the course of my life
- 4 powerful ways to start protecting your energy without losing your warmth
This one’s for the person who’s tired of handing out their heart like a business card — and is ready to feel safe keeping some things sacred.
If you'd like to know more about what 1:1 coaching looks like, please email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30min
Visit my YouTube channel for more resources: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidi
Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide - 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
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Have you spent your life being "nice" and putting others first, even at the cost of your own happiness and peace of mind? If the answer is yes, it's time to rethink your approach. Tune in to discover how embracing kindness over niceness can rejuvenate your life. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The hidden dangers of being too nice and how it can lead to unhealthy relationships and personal dissatisfaction
- The difference between being nice and being kind, and how this distinction can transform your interactions
- How prioritizing inner peace by speaking your truth can lead to more genuine and fulfilling relationships
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
Get on my email list by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com.
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If you're someone who bends over backwards to keep the peace, this episode is for you! Tune in to learn how you can stop carrying the emotional weight of everyone else and start breathing more freely in your own life. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How fear of disappointment can lead us to compromise our own needs and well-being
- The 15 specific behaviors to stop that can help break the cycle of people pleasing
- Steps to take in order to reclaim your voice and become the author of your own life, rather than a supporting actor in someone else's
Boundaries Roadmap: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/boundarieschallenge (use code EP60 to save $20!)
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
Get on my email list by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com.
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Are you trapped in the cycle of people-pleasing and losing sight of who you truly are? It took me over four decades to break free, and this episode is here to guide you on the journey of self-worth and acceptance. Join me as I reveal seven transformative lessons that helped me let go of the exhausting need to be everything to everyone. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why letting go of what others think can liberate you and allow you to live more authentically
- How suppressing emotions can lead to toxicity and why expressing feelings is essential for well-being
- The importance of self-acceptance and how it frees you from the exhausting cycle of people pleasing and seeking external validation
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
Get on my email list by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com.
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Have you ever left a conversation wishing you'd spoken up? Or found yourself over-explaining and then feeling guilty afterward? If the fear of expressing yourself has left you silent or overwhelmed, you're not alone, I've been there too. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to differentiate between wanting to be right and wanting to be heard in your interactions.
- Why speaking up is a learnable skill and how you can start building this muscle gradually.
- Powerful go-to phrases you can use immediately to express yourself confidently without guilt or the need to explain.
Download a PDF of the Go-To Phrases: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/speakup-guide
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
Get on my email list by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com.
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What really happens when you stop people pleasing? Speaking up and setting boundaries are powerful steps, and they can also bring unexpected challenges. In this episode, you'll learn:
- The ten key steps to break free from people pleasing and how each can empower you in living more authentically.
- The initial discomfort and pushback you might face as you begin to speak up and prioritize your own needs.
- Why letting go of one-sided relationships can be both painful and liberating, ultimately making room for those who truly value and respect you.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
Get on my email list by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com.
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Breaking free from people pleasing can feel overwhelming, especially when you're not sure what to expect or how to handle the discomfort that comes with this huge change. Today, I'm answering some questions that have come through comments on my new YouTube channel (Mastering Midlife with Heidi). In this episode, you'll learn:
- How to identify and break free from people-pleasing patterns that may be holding you back
- The impact of resentment and how to navigate it when others do not change their behavior
- Empowering advice for living a happy, healthy life based on your own wants and needs
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
Get on my email list by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com.
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It's a very special 2-year anniversary episode of the podcast! Today, I'm giving you 25 simple life changes I made to reinvent my life over the last 7 years after my toxic marriage ended and I got fired from my job. In this episode, you'll learn:
- The power of rewiring your subconscious mind and why doing so can transform your love, acceptance, and trust in yourself.
- How self-respect and acceptance influence your interactions with others and your overall well-being
- Practical steps for self-improvement, including lists to make and daily affirmations that can help shape your future.
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Rate and review this podcast on Apple Podcasts, take a screenshot before you press submit, and email it to me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com to be entered to win an Amazon Gift Card! If you don't have an iPhone, email me your review.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
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Throughout my life, I've experienced hard lessons that pushed me to figure out self trust and taught me to finally accept myself. Changing your life starts with changing how you see yourself, and in this episode I'm sharing 10 lessons to help you do that. You'll learn:
- How keeping small promises to yourself builds self trust and diminishes people pleasing habits
- Why taking action, even imperfect action, boosts self esteem and breaks the cycle of perfectionism
- The importance of self talk in shaping your reality and how to transform negative self talk into empowerment and self acceptance
Sign up for the 30 Day Empower Your Life Boundaries Challenge: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/shop/p/30-day-boundaries-challenge
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
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This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com/
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How often do you catch yourself changing your words or actions to avoid someone else's negative reaction? If you're familiar with this habit, it might be rooted in a pattern of people-pleasing that erodes your confidence and relationships over time. In this episode, you'll learn:
- The deeply ingrained belief that often fuels people-pleasing behaviors
- The impact of guilt on your self-esteem and how it keeps you stuck
- Practical steps to break free from this pattern, set boundaries, and reclaim your authentic self
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
Get on my email list by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com/
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Do you ever find yourself saying yes when your gut is screaming no? If you struggle with people-pleasing, this habit can rob you of your time, energy, and self-worth. In this episode, you'll learn:
- The seven sneaky people-pleasing behaviors that are holding you back
- Why striving for perfection and over-apologizing are toxic to your confidence
- Practical steps to stop tolerating the intolerable and reclaim your peace and joy
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.
Get on my email list by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/join-the-community
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher: http://www.thepodcastteacher.com/
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It took me over five decades to realize that being "nice" was actually damaging my self esteem and confidence. Today, I'm revealing 8 eye-opening behaviors that were keeping me trapped in this cycle, plus sharing how you can break free from this people pleasing cycle.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The hidden ways people pleasing depletes your confidence and self-esteem
- Practical examples of behaviors that keep you stuck in the cycle
- Simple yet powerful actions you can take to start setting boundaries and rebuild your self-worth
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Have you ever felt obligated to say yes just to avoid disappointing someone? This common people pleasing dilemma can often leave us feeling overwhelmed and resentful. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why a reluctant yes is more harmful than an honest no for both you and the other person
- The hidden costs and ripple effects of always saying yes when you want to say no
- Five simple strategies to break free from this cycle and start honoring your needs without guilt or fear of disappointing others
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Do you ever catch yourself asking, "what if they don't like me?" If you're a people pleaser, this question can end up running, and even ruining your life. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What causes us to people-please and seek validation from others
- The physical and mental toll people pleasing can take on us
- A simple question you can ask yourself to shift your mindset, build authentic relationships, and escape this exhausting cycle
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If you've ever hesitated to ask for help, felt trapped by your commitments, or lost touch with your true self, this is your wake-up call. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The three lessons that shattered my people-pleasing, perfectionist mindset
- Why asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness
- The liberating truth about changing your mind - even in major life decisions
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After 15 years of practicing hot yoga, I’ve learned quite a few lessons that go way beyond the mat. But don’t worry, YOU don't have to know a thing about yoga or bend yourself into a pretzel to learn these lessons too. In this episode you’ll learn:
- The 10 surprising life lessons I picked up in hot yoga
- The everyday struggles we face when we don't set boundaries or value ourselves enough
- How to start applying these lessons to your life, set healthy boundaries, and protect your self worth
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Setting boundaries is one thing, but enforcing them can sometimes leave you feeling guilty and rude. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why we might feel like we’re being rude when setting or enforcing boundaries
- How to enforce boundaries without feeling “rude”
- Three simple strategies you can use to know your limits, communicate your needs, and build healthy relationships
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Have you been avoiding certain situations or conversations in order to maintain your sense of control? In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Four reasons we put limits on ourselves
- Real life examples of things we avoid in order to not feel discomfort or not disappoint others
- How this pattern of avoidance results in a diminished version of ourselves and what we can do to address it
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Are you always trying to be everything to everyone and repeatedly make exceptions for the boundaries you’ve set? In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What leaky boundaries are and seven ways to gauge if you have holes in your boundary bucket
- Four ways that leaky boundaries negatively impact you and add unnecessary stress to your life
- A simple exercise to help you start taking back control and ease some of that stress
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Do you find yourself apologizing too much, even for things you don’t need to be sorry for? In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The five reasons we feel the need to apologize so much
- How over-apologizing impacts our relationships and our self worth
- Two things you can do today to start breaking this devastating habit
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Constant feelings of guilt and selfishness can be devastating to your self-esteem, making you feel uncomfortable talking about yourself, worried about being seen as self-centered, and afraid to say no or express your true feelings. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The three reasons why so many of us feel guilty and selfish so often
- The way these feelings can negatively impact our lives
- Three quick techniques you can use to rewire your brain anytime you’re feeling guilty or selfish
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Do you struggle with saying no, justifying negative behavior, changing yourself to fit others' expectations, or feeling resentful when your kindness isn't reciprocated? Setting and upholding healthy boundaries is a common struggle for many women I talk to. In this episode you’ll learn:
- The aha moment that made me realize that my unhealthy or nonexistent boundaries had attracted and gotten me into an abusive relationship
- Why setting boundaries is crucial for protecting your emotional well-being and building strong relationships
- Five easy ways to test how healthy your boundaries are
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I’m doing something a little different this week and answering a powerful question from a listener about learning how to trust our own decision-making. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How we become trained to doubt ourselves from a young age
- What it really means to be selfish and how it affects our people-pleasing behaviors
- A powerful exercise you can use to shift any situation that's causing you to doubt your judgment
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Does your people pleasing behavior have you feeling like you don’t even know who you are anymore? In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why you can’t depend on others for your happiness and what problems arise when you do
- Three steps you can take to break free from the trap of people-pleasing and start listening to your own voice
- A powerful exercise you can do today to reclaim your happiness, silence your self doubt, and discover yourself again
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Perfectionism is a thief of happiness, joy, feeling successful, calm, content, fulfilled, or any feeling we'd like to have. It's an exhausting behavior that often causes chronic stress and burnout. But, you don't have to stay stuck in the cycle! In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What causes us to get into perfectionism and how it manifests in our lives
- Reasons why we get stuck in this cycle
- 10 simple steps to take to break free of these chains that hold you back and keep you playing small
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Do you find it easier to keep the promises you make to others but struggle with the ones you make to yourself? In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How breaking promises to ourselves can affect our mental health
- The subconscious habits and beliefs that lead us to prioritize others over ourselves
- Practical strategies and exercises to help you uncover deep-rooted fears and motivations, enabling you to create lasting change and honor the commitments you make to yourself
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Welcome to part two of our series diving into the harmful myths that keep us trapped in the cycle of people pleasing and self-sacrifice. Tune in as we continue debunking these myths and learning how to break free from their grip. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- 4 more myths that perpetuate people pleasing behaviors
- The importance of recognizing and challenging these myths
- Actionable steps you can take to dispelling these unhelpful myths
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The pervasive nature of people pleasing can leave us feeling stuck in roles of perfectionism and guilt, suppressing our true selves and hindering authentic connections. Let's break free from this debilitating pattern so you can live the rest of your life in the freedom of interdependent relationships instead of the constricting codependent relationships that people pleasing inevitably creates. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The ideas we’re conditioned to believe, that keep us trapped in a devastating cycle of people pleasing and guilt
- Harmful myths that can keep us stuck in people pleasing.
- Steps you can take to begin overcoming this diminishing behavior
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Is procrastination holding you back from living the life you want? Tune in for a fresh perspective on this sometimes debilitating behavior and what you can do to address it. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Common misconceptions about procrastination and what it really is
- The role emotions and feelings play in procrastination
- How you can address the underlying causes of procrastination and transform your life
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Do you find yourself trapped in a cycle of worrying about what others think? It's a common struggle that affects our confidence, self-worth, and ultimately, our decisions. But why do we care so much, and more importantly, how can we break free from this cycle? In this episode, you'll learn:
- The biological roots of our concern for others' opinions
- Practical exercises to shift your perspective on judgment and build internal trust
- The inspiring story of a client who discovered the true source of her fear of judgment and used it to reclaim her power
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Does the fear of judgment or rejection have you hesitating to speak your mind? Speaking our truths can be challenging, but withholding our authentic selves can lead to frustration, resentment, and hinder our personal growth. In this episode, I’ll share with you why many of us find it so difficult to speak our truths, the repercussions of staying silent, and the steps you can take toward reclaiming your voice, even when it feels daunting.
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Realizing that I was in a toxic relationship with a man I had married just months before opened my eyes to the devastating effects that people pleasing tendencies can have. In this episode, I’m opening up about what I discovered I was doing to attract toxic relationships in my life, the 5 steps I took to heal, and what changes I made to actually begin repelling toxic people and reclaiming my self-worth.
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Do you find yourself constantly asking "why" questions? Why did I do that? Why can't I get control of my eating? Why am I so disorganized? Then you’re definitely going to want to hear the four reasons why the “why” questions can be detrimental to your personal growth, especially for people pleasers. I’ll also share with you what you can do to shift this narrative and create positive change in your life.
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In this special anniversary episode, I'm celebrating the one-year milestone of this podcast, my 61st birthday, and the podcast's top 10% global ranking. Join the festivities as I share with you the life-changing lessons I’ve learned on my journey to becoming a recovered people-pleasing procrastinating perfectionist. Plus, don’t miss your chance to win an Amazon gift card!
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People pleasers do what they can to keep others happy, but many times we don't realize that this is a way we maintain control. In today's episode, I'll be sharing what compels us to want to control so much in our lives, and how a single question helped me let go of my 17-year marriage. Stay tuned to the very end because I'm also going to give you 5 things you can do to lessen the grip on your need to control.
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A shocking 92% of New Year's resolutions fail every year. But, you can avoid falling into this statistic! In this episode, I’m giving you the 3 science-based reasons why it’s so difficult to make lasting changes with resolutions, and sharing the ultimate secret to create change that lasts. Tune in if you want to keep your resolutions!
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Three years ago I went through a devastating moment that turned out to be one of the greatest gifts I could ever receive. In this episode, I’ll share how this pivotal chapter of my life led me to question my deep-seated need for external validation and reassess my self worth. I'll also share three practical steps you can use to break free from the trap of people-pleasing and discover your true self worth.
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Do you spend so much energy keeping the peace between others and then find yourself longing for some peace of your own? Peacekeeping is an exhausting pattern that can lead to putting yourself last. In this episode, I'll share two key reasons why you're stuck in this pattern, plus a powerful strategy to break free so that you can finally have some peace too!
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The holiday season brings hustle & bustle, additional spending, and additional pressure for things to be perfect and for everyone to be happy. In this episode, I'll be sharing why this can cause increased stress for those who are people pleasers and often playing the role of peacekeeper. Plus, I'll give you a 4-part method that you can use to break the unhealthy cycle of living in a stressed state.
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Codependency has had such a deep impact on my life and I’m ready to explore it more deeply with you. In this episode, we’ll discuss the origins of codependent behaviors, the distinctions between codependency and people-pleasing, and the 10 questions you can ask yourself to assess if codependency might be playing a role in your life. Tune in to learn how to identify and address these behaviors so you can break free from the grip of codependency and become your true self.
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There are two words that I’ve been mixing up my whole life and you might be too. In this episode, I’ll share with you the profound differences between being nice and being kind, why only one of them helps you to actually be your authentic self, and the 3 questions you can ask yourself to determine which one is directing the choices you make.
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Ever feel like you're stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing and self-doubt? In this episode, I’ll reveal three common lies that people pleasers tell themselves, and how these beliefs can keep us trapped in frustration and resentment. Join me as I share my personal experiences and valuable insights on breaking free from these limiting beliefs, so you can live a more authentic and fulfilling life.
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My 92 year old mom is as sharp as a tack and as healthy as a horse. In today's episode, I'm sharing her 4 secrets to living a long and fulfilling life. The best news? They're all really simple things that you can implement in your own life!
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In this episode, I share a deeply personal and unexpected experience from my Labor Day weekend that forced me to reexamine how I react to life's curveballs. I discuss the importance of responding rather than reacting, being your own advocate, and adopting the mindset of "I'm willing to see this differently." Join me in exploring these valuable lessons in handling difficult situations with grace and resilience.
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What's the best way to give yourself freedom and feel amazing about your life without relying on what others think? If you experience the need for approval from external sources, you don't want to miss the answer in today's episode. I'm sharing the experience I had on my first SCUBA dive in the Caribbean and the surprising connection to external validation.
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Are you afraid of disappointing others or of being judged? Do you often do things out of a sense of loyalty or duty to avoid being seen as bad or unforgiving? Do you feel selfish for putting yourself first or for saying no? If you said yes to any of these, tune in because being in this people pleasing FOG is what we're talking about in today's episode.
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Many people view people-pleasing as a good thing, a positive trait. It can be, when driven by genuine love and generosity. But if your people-pleasing is coming from a fear of not being liked, conflict, being rejected, etc., there's a catch. Tune in to hear about 7 signs that might show you that you're being nice for the wrong reasons, and how to start overcoming "the disease to please."
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Stress is no fun and has many negative side effects. Yet, many of us spend a lot of time in this state and some almost wear it as a badge of honor. Do you want to stop living in survival mode? In this episode, I'm breaking down how and why our bodies and brains get addicted to stress, and what you can do to kick stress to the curb.
Are you ready to create a life you don't need a vacation from? StressMas in July begins July 20th and is an easy way to prioritize your well-being. This free challenge is the easiest, non-challenging challenge you'll ever do! Just watch a 5 minute video each day about how to find more peace in your life, then share your video takeaways and win cash prizes and exclusive coaching. Head over to the Mastering Midlife with Heidi Facebook Group today and claim your spot.
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Do you look in the mirror and see someone that you deeply love as much as a dear friend? I've despised the person looking back at me, for reasons deeper than physical appearance. In today's episode, I'm sharing how negative perceptions develop and why we end up holding onto them, even when we know they're not benefiting us. Tune in to look at your reflection in a brand new way.
Are you ready to create a life you don't need a vacation from? StressMas in July begins July 20th and is an easy way to prioritize your well-being. This free challenge is the easiest, non-challenging challenge you'll ever do! Just watch a 5 minute video each day about how to find more peace in your life, then share your video takeaways and win cash prizes and exclusive coaching. Head over to the Mastering Midlife with Heidi Facebook Group today and claim your spot.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com.
Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt.
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What is happiness and why does it feel so elusive at times? In this episode, I'm shining a light on the connection between happiness and inner peace, and 3 things to look at so that you can live a peaceful, happy life on a daily basis.
Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/workshops now to check out the latest workshop and catch up on past replays.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com.
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Are you feeling perpetually overwhelmed, drained, and teetering on the edge? Could these feelings be more closely tied to your personal boundaries than you realize? Through exploring my own experiences with burnout and boundary-setting, I'll uncover five key signs that these two might be interconnected.
Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/workshops now to check out the latest workshop and catch up on past replays.
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Do you say 'sorry' a lot? Most often, the situation doesn't actually warrant an apology. Over apologizing sends the message that you've done something wrong or didn't try hard enough. Tune in for ways to reframe 'sorry' so that you can improve your confidence, self-esteem, and communication skills.
Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/workshops now to check out the latest workshop and catch up on past replays.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com.
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Have you ever thought "when X happens, then I'll do Y"? If so, this thinking could be stealing your happiness from the present moment. Tune in to find out the circumstances in which "when-then" thinking is helpful, and those in which it is not. Plus, discover why this is a common thinking pattern and what you can do to stop it.
Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/workshops now to check out the latest workshop and catch up on past replays.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com.
Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt.
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Are you a people-pleasing, procrastinating perfectionist? If so, you're not alone! Tune in to learn about the "trifecta of Ps," how these behaviors feed off each other, and what you can do to break the patterns to live a more fulfilling life.
Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/workshops now to check out the latest workshop and catch up on past replays.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com.
Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt.
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Does your stress seem kind of like an appendage? It may feel like it's a part of you, something you can't put down. If so, you're not alone...I've been there! In the second half of this two-part series, I'll uncover even more things you're probably doing and how they unknowingly contribute to the stress that feels attached to you.
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Do you want 1 on 1 support to define your goals, face your barriers, and receive tailored steps for lasting change? Contact me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com to schedule a complimentary connection call.
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Do you frequently feel like you're living in survival mode just getting through the day In the first episode of this two-part series, I'll uncover some things you're probably doing and how they may unknowingly contribute to the stress you experience in your life. These are the exact reasons why you are not getting what you want, whether in your relationships, finances, work, or health.
Stop letting stress control your life! Register for the Mastering Stress Workshop on April 20, 2023. A replay is available for anyone registered.
Do you want 1 on 1 support to define your goals, face your barriers, and receive tailored steps for lasting change? Contact me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com to schedule a complimentary connection call.
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Do you crave inner peace but find yourself struggling to attain it? In this episode, I'll explore the elusive concept of inner peace, uncover the reasons why we often fail to achieve it, and present a radical challenge that will help you finally discover what's holding you back.
Do you want 1 on 1 support to define your goals, face your barriers, and receive tailored steps for lasting change? Contact me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com to schedule a complimentary connection call.
Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt.
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For many of us, putting others first is as automatic as putting on a seatbelt. This leads to abandoning our own needs and can prevent us from developing an essential, positive, relationship with ourselves. Today, I’m discussing why this happens, the associated costs, and some ways that you can create a relationship with yourself, no matter how old you are!
Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disconnected, & overwhelmed, and instead create abundance in your life.
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We're talking about self care today, but not just any self care! I call it “radical self care,” and it's vitally important to your inner peace and living your very best life. Tune in to hear about four key areas to focus on and four questions to ask yourself to evaluate how you are doing in the area of self care.
Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disconnected, & overwhelmed, and instead create abundance in your life.
Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt.
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I spent 50 years addicted to people pleasing and self-sabotage. I finally overcame it, but not by changing my behaviors (surprise!). Tune in to hear the story of my “aha” moment and what finally worked to break this pattern.
For more information about coaching options, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com.
Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disconnected, & overwhelmed, and instead create abundance in your life.
Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt.
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher.
What is the difference between simply being nice and actually being a people pleaser? I dive into this question in today’s episode, including 5 questions that you can ask yourself to determine if you are people pleasing. Plus, learn about the costs and benefits of people-pleasing.
Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disconnected, & overwhelmed, and instead create abundance in your life.
Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt.
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Welcome to the very first episode of Mastering Midlife with Heidi, the podcast! Listen in to hear some of my story and to learn about how this podcast can help guide you to create a life that you love.
Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disconnected, & overwhelmed, and instead create abundance in your life.
This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher.