The Polynesian Life Coach: Recent Episodes
Elisha Tamasi
Thank you for being here and WELCOME to The Polynesian Life Coach Podcast (Formerly known as Life Lessons With Leesh) I'm Leesh, your host, a proud polynesian from NZ now living in Melbourne, I'm a biz owner, mentor, life coach and speaker. TPLC is a safe space where I support and empower you to level up your life! I hope you love these episodes as much I do and if you get any amazing takeaways pls share with someone you think it may help! Ngā mihi nui x
Hi my love! If you're going through it please know things WILL get better! I am proof of this! I love you!
Please listen to this episode where I share how I keep going after I feel like my world is crumbling.
You got this queen! Leesh xx
If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need join my Destination Self Love program. See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
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🔥 NEW EPISODE with Special Guest Brooke Pomare 🔥
Ahhhh I’m SO excited to have the incredible Brooke Pomare on the poddy today!
This one’s for the woman who’s walked through fire… and is still standing.
Brooke gets real about what it’s like to grow up in a broken home, hating her life, hating her family, and the people around her and the long road it took to finally find herself.
She opens up about facing abuse, having an absent father, battling addiction, low self-worth, and chasing love in all the wrong places... and how she turned it all around.
This convo is raw, unfiltered, and packed with truth bombs that will light something up inside you.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, full of resentment, or like you’re barely surviving, you need this episode. 🎧
We talk about:
✨ The turning point that changed everything for Brooke✨ Where true strength really comes from✨ What healing looked like when she was at her lowest✨ Advice for the woman who feels like giving up✨ And the one truth every woman needs to hear
Please enjoy! And if you feeled called to, rate and review us!
I love you, thank you for being here!
You can connect with powerhouse Brooke Pomare here
Go tell her how much you loved this episode 😉
This ep will blow your mind…You don’t need to change your body, relationship status, or bank account to feel happy or worthy.
But most women are stuck in the trap of:👉 “I’ll be happy when…”👉 “I’ll be worthy when…”
And it’s keeping them stuck, exhausted, and disconnected from their power.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reason why you still don’t feel good enough and how to finally set yourself free.
If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need join my Destination Self Love program. See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Want to work 1:1, DM me ‘QUANTUM’ on IG here https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach/#
Queen, if you’ve ever felt like food is the enemy or movement is punishment this episode is for you! 🧡
I’m so grateful to have had Cherie and Kendall from Active Pacific on the poddy this week!
They’re a powerhouse duo in the fitness and nutrition space, specialising in personalised training and nutrition for Polynesians.
Cherie focuses on strength and mindset, reminding us that feeling amazing is more important than just looking good.
Kendall is passionate about breaking generational nutrition cycles and helping clients create a balanced, sustainable lifestyle that actually works for them.
Together, they’re leading real transformation in our community and this conversation was 🔥
We unpacked:
🔥 Why fad diets aren’t sustainable
🔥 The truth about carbs, fasting & late-night eating
🔥 How generational food rules are still shaping your choices today
🔥 And so much more...
This episode isn’t just about weight loss.It’s about healing the way you relate to food, movement, and your body. Listen now xx
Connect with Cherie & Kendall:
💻 www.activepacific.net
📲 @active.pacific on Instagram
You’re loud and confident in some rooms and quiet and unsure in others.
That’s confidence code-switching — a survival pattern where you change who you are based on who’s around.
In this episode, I’m breaking down:
🔸 Why you shrink around bold women🔸 Why you lead when no one else does🔸 And how to stop shape-shifting just to feel safe
Ready to be the same YOU everywhere? Listen now!
If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need join my Destination Self Love program. We are now enrolling for the July intake! See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Want to work 1:1, DM me ‘QUANTUM’ on IG here https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach/#
My love! Thank you for being here! This week's podcast is a reminder to pour into youuuu! I have had a busy last couple days/weeks doing some incredible things and I am so so grateful but today I needed to recoup. This is your reminder to do the same 🧡
Having a solid morning routine is a game changer!
Every night when you sleep, your brain resets and when you wake up, it’s all too easy to slip back into scarcity, old conditioning, and autopilot.
That’s why I’m so devoted to my morning routine, it’s how I set the frequency for my day.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
✨ Why mornings are so important
✨ The practices I use every day
✨ How these practices help you shift your energy
✨ Why off days are normal (and how to meet yourself with compassion on those days)
If you’re ready to dive deeper and get the support you need, join my Destination Self Love program!🔗 See more info here: https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Want to work with me 1:1? DM me ‘QUANTUM’ on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/
thepolynesianlifecoach/#
And if you missed the “Back Yourself Birthday Special” — How to make brave moves even when you’re scared, you can grab the replay here:
🔗 https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/cart/231577-Back-Yourself-How-To-Make-Brave-Moves?landing_page_id=658006
Queens, this one’s for the women who know they’re meant for more…
✨ To start the business
✨ To leave the relationship
✨ To love themselves deeply
✨ To wear what they want
✨ To travel the world
✨ To get paid to do what they love
✨ To finally back themselves, fully
I’ve been where you are. I left the job. I left the relationship. I chose to believe in myself and everything changed.
In this episode, I’m sharing my story, a powerful call to action to join my Back Yourself Birthday Special, and I’m calling you into your power.
You’re not here to play small, Queen. This is your sign. Let’s goooooo!
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My love! Please enjoy this IG live with @yourdailydoseofselflove 🧡
We talk about confidence, weightloss, fatphobia, how to authentically be yourself and so much more!
Jesse is a body positive activist, self-love influencer, and the hilarious, unapologetic queen behind the takedown of Skinny Tok!👏
What I love most is how she shows up fully herself, trolls and all — no shrinking, no censoring, just self-love out loud every damn day. 🙌
THAT is leadership. 💥
THAT is power. 💥
This is the reminder every woman needs to be authentically herself xx
Connect with Jesse and see her hilarious videos here - https://www.instagram.com/yourdailydoseofselflove?igsh=MW4xdTNpaHhjd2Zudg==
If someone followed you around for 24 hours… would they think you're actually going anywhere?
Oof. I said what I said.Because too many women are talking about the life they want but their actions are telling a completely different story.
In this episode, I’m asking the question that might sting a little: Are you proud of the way you're showing up for your dreams right now?Or are you hiding, half-doing it, or waiting for “someday” to finally arrive?
This isn’t to make you feel guilty. This is to call you into your power.And if you’re brave enough to listen, this might just be the moment everything starts to shift.
🎧 Hit play if you're ready to move different.
If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need join my Destination Self Love program. See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Want to work 1:1, DM me ‘QUANTUM’ on IG here https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach/#
‘Unlearn Your Insecurities’ - the $27 training that changes the way you see yourself. Click here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/567792
If you’ve ever felt stuck, second-guessed every move, or kept looking outside of yourself for answers—this episode is for you.
You’ll learn why you struggle to trust yourself… and how to reconnect with your inner knowing.
✨ I cover:
- Where your self-doubt really comes from
- Why fear shows up when you're actually making the right move
- Simple ways you can start building self-trust today
You don’t need more advice. You need to get quiet enough to hear your voice again.
Your intuition is powerful. Your body is wise.
It’s time to trust her.
If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need join my Destination Self Love program. See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Want to work 1:1, DM me ‘QUANTUM’ on IG here https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach/#
‘Unlearn Your Insecurities’ - the $27 training that changes the way you see yourself. Click here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/567792
In this episode, we’re getting real about the emotions so many of you were taught to suppress. Crying isn’t weakness. It’s healing. It’s powerful. And it’s human. Whether you’re breaking generational patterns or just having a tough day—this one’s for you queen. Let those tears flow. You don’t have to hold it all together to be strong.
If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need join my Destination Self Love program. See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Want to work 1:1, DM me ‘QUANTUM’ on IG here https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach/#
‘Unlearn Your Insecurities’ - the $27 training that changes the way you see yourself. Click here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/567792
What if your weight wasn’t just physical, but emotional and spiritual too? In this soul-deep episode, Yasmin Hussein and I unpack emotional eating, shadow work, and the path to true, lasting transformation. If you're ready to heal from the inside out—this one's for youuuuuu!
Want to connect with the queen herself? Click this link - https://www.instagram.com/yas_emotionaleatingcoach?igsh=MW50a3d1YXprN3ZlNA==
This isn’t your average meditation.
It’s a celebration. Of you. Of everything you’ve overcome. Every win, big or small.
Press play and soak in the truth: you’re THAT GIRL! You’re amazing. Say something kind to yourself today, queen—you deserve it. You're the best!
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Queen, if you’ve ever looked in the mirror and felt not enough, this episode is for you.
I’m giving you a 15-minute snippet of my Unlearn Your Insecurities training—where we dismantle the lies you’ve been told about your worth, your body, and your beauty.
This isn’t surface-level fluff.
This is the real work—the kind that shifts your identity, breaks generational cycles, and brings you back home to the powerful woman you truly are.
✨ Ready for the full 75-minute experience?
Grab the entire Unlearn Your Insecurities training for just $27 here → https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/567792
You don’t need to fix yourself.
You need to unlearn the stories that made you believe you were broken.
Let’s go there, queen!!
We’re done glorifying burnout queen! Hustle culture had its moment—but the truth is, overworking yourself isn’t the flex it used to be.
In this episode, we’re diving into what’s replacing it: alignment, ease, and success without self-abandonment.
You get to create a life you love—without the grind!
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What if you got curious instead of critical? 🤔
The next time you see a photo of yourself, instead of picking it apart, ask yourself: Why do I feel this way? Where did this belief come from?
Because your worth was never tied to an angle, a pose, or the way the camera caught you in that moment. A photo is just that—a moment, not a measurement of your beauty, value, or confidence.
You are still THAT GIRL. No bad lighting, awkward pose, or unflattering angle could ever take that away from you. 💥
Let’s talk about it in my latest podcast—listen now! 🎙️
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This week’s poddy is inspired by your question: "How do I cut ties with fake friends?"
I’m sharing my own experience, guiding you to have an honest conversation, take responsibility for your part, and heal—so the next friendship you attract is one that truly aligns with you.
🎧 Tune in now to take your next step forward!
If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need, join my program Destination Self Love here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Want to work with me 1:1, DM me ‘QUANTUM’ on IG here https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach/#
Who told you that self-love has to take years? That you have to suffer, struggle, and ‘earn’ your way to feeling worthy? 👀
The truth is: you get to decide how long it takes you.
Quantum leaps aren’t reserved for a lucky few. You don’t have to wait until you hit rock bottom or achieve some imaginary ‘perfect’ version of yourself to start loving the woman you are today.
You could spend a lifetime hating yourself… or you could decide right now that you are done with that story. Done waiting. Done shrinking. Done believing self-love is somewhere in the distant future.
Queen, your dream life starts when YOU say so. And I’m breaking it all down in today’s podcast episode. 🎙️🧡
If you're ready to dive deeper and get the support you need join my program Destination Self Love here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Want to work with me 1:1, DM me ‘QUANTUM’ on IG here https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach/#
🚩 You’ve heard them. Maybe you’ve said them. Phrases like:
❌ “You carry your weight well.”
❌ “I need to slim down before [event].”
❌ “She’s so confident for her size.”
❌ “I was so bad for eating that.”
These comments might seem harmless, but they reinforce fatphobia—both in the way you see others and how you see yourself. The more you say them, the more you internalise them.
🎧 In this episode I'm...
🔥 Breaking down why these phrases are harmful
🔥 How rejecting fatphobic language changes your body image
🔥 What to say and do instead
It’s time to take your power back—starting with the words you choose. 💥
Hit play now and enjoy queen! 🎙️
Do you find yourself looking at old photos, wishing you could have that body back? The one you still picked apart back then? 🙃
In this episode, we’re unpacking why you romanticise your past body, how this mindset keeps you stuck, and what it really means to embrace the body you have right now.
I used to HATE my curly hair. 😞
For years, I straightened my curly hair every single day. I thought my curls were messy, unruly—something to be fixed.
But the truth? My rejection of my curls was just another way I was rejecting myself. 💔
I was rejecting my Polynesian identity without even realising it. I had been taught—like so many of us—that our features, our hair, our natural selves weren’t “good enough.” And that lie kept me from fully embracing who I am.
In this episode, I’m sharing how I unlearned the belief that my natural hair wasn’t good enough and what it taught me about self-love, worthiness, and embracing ALL of who I am. Because how many of us are still at war with parts of ourselves, trying to fit into a version of beauty that was never meant for us?
Tune in now, Queen—this one’s for you. 🎧✨
My beautiful friend Cat’s Life After I Left event - https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/life-after-i-left-tickets-1253924625309?aff=erelexpmlt
Join me in Destination Self Love - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
We’ve all been there—feeling unseen, unheard, and unappreciated by the people around us.
But here's the truth: If you don’t value yourself, others won’t either.
In this episode, we dive into why you feel undervalued and how to start owning your worth, setting boundaries, and demanding the respect you deserve.
Tune in to discover how you can shift from feeling invisible to being the woman who stands tall in her own power. 🔥
If you're ready to dive deeper and truly learn how to love and value yourself, join my Destination Self Love program. See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Who said Valentine’s Day is just for couples? Queen, it’s time to flip the script. Instead of waiting for someone else to make you feel special, how aboutyou become the love of your own life? 💐
In today’s episode, we’re talking about:
Why self-love should come first (always)
How tode-center relationships & reclaim your power
🌹 The best ways to spoil yourself like a QUEEN this Valentine’s
Because the truth is—your happiness, your worth, and your joy donot depend on anyone else. You deserve love every damn day, and it starts withyou!
🎧 Listen now & tag me @thepolynesianlifecoach with how you’re spoiling yourself this Valentine’s!
🚀 Ready to take your self-love to the next level?Join Destination Self Love—the program designed to help you fall in love with yourself,for good!
Click here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Queen, your body is already bikini ready!
Confidence isn’t about changing your body—it’s about changing the way you see it. This episode will help you ditch the fear, own your space, and actually enjoy summer without holding back.
And if you’re ready to put this into action, come to Your Safe Space Pool Day—a judgment-free zone to celebrate your body, have fun, and be fully YOU!
Grab tix here
Need more support? Check out my group coaching program 'Destination Self Love' here
I have a confession to make… 😅Last week, I caught myself deep in scarcity mode. You know that feeling when you’re questioning your goals and playing small because fear creeps in? Yep, that was me.But THIS week? Ohhh, Queen, we’re flipping the script and stepping into ABUNDANCE. 💫On this episode, I’m sharing how I shifted out of lack and into possibility, resharing my 2025 goals (and saying them with my chest!) and encouraging YOU to ask yourself some hard-hitting questions.💭 Are you ready to leave scarcity behind and step into the life you deserve?Let’s step into our most abundant year yet! Catch the replay to my free workshop New Year New Confident You: How to feel good in your body here -https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/591098Listen to last weeks poddy here - https://tr.ee/ApPdamdShR and enter into the giveaway! I have more books up for grabs!
QUEEN! HAPPY NEW YEAAARRRRR!
We are back in action and kicking off 2025 with a powerful episode to inspire you to THINK BIG and set goals that truly reflect self love this year!🚀
In this first episode of the year, I'm challenging you to step outside of your comfort zone and dream beyond the limits you've placed on yourself.
It's time to set intentions that will elevate your life and bring you closer to the woman you’re destined to be.
Tune in now and get ready to step into this year with a mindset of abundance and unstoppable confidence!
PS: THIS EPISODE HAS OUR FIRST EVER PODCAST GIVEAWAY IN IT!
To enter, leave me a 5 star review, take a screenshot and send to me - elisha@thepolynesianlifecoach.com
First 2 people get a signed copy of bestselling book “Becoming Magnetic” by Erika Cramer
Here’s the links to all the things you need…
Bingo card/polaroid idea - https://vt.tiktok.com/ZS6qwaJPr/
Click here to get the deets for my FREE WORKSHOP New Year New You: How to feel good in your body NOW! https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/591098
Click here to watch my free Goal Getters Workshop https://youtu.be/T7YSLv4uXiM?si=qDLDjESi8as_ZrPH
Book recommendation - Your Dream Life Starts Here Kristina Karlsson
Want to help me with my goals and become one of the 50 women lives that I transform? Join my program Destination Self Love Here https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
The holidays are here - a time for joy, connection, and celebration. But for many, it can also be a time of stress, overwhelm, and self doubt. In this episode, we're diving into what it really means to practice self love during the holiday season.From navigating family gatherings to setting boundaries and prioritising your well being, this conversation is packed with tips to help you feel grounded, confident, and worthy through it all.Whether you're feeling the pressure to look a certain way, struggling with the thought "I didn't accomplish enough this year", or simply trying to survive the season, this episode is your reminder that you are enough, just as you are and this Xmas you MUST put you first!Tune in to discover how to show up for yourself with love and intention this Xmas season.Merry Xmas and Happy New Year my love!As always, thank you so much for listening!I'll be back 21st Jan, love you xx
Navigating the holiday season can feel heavy when fatphobic comments are flying about but you don’t have to sit in silence. The holidays are meant for joy and connection, not bracing for body shaming remarks or diet talk.
In this episode, I’m sharing how to protect your peace, set firm boundaries, and handle those triggering moments with confidence and grace. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by unsolicited comments at the dinner table, this conversation will empower you to take control and prioritise YOUR happiness this season.
Join me for ‘Unlearn Your Insecurities’ Online Training here
Join Destination Self Love here
People often convince themselves that they will start 'one day' - but that ‘one day’ is a lie.
As the holiday season approaches, you may push your goals to 2025, thinking there’s always time. .
The truth? Tomorrow isn’t guaranteed, and waiting for the 'perfect' moment only delays progress.
In this episode, I tell you why you must stop deferring your future and take action now. The most powerful time to start is always today!!
Need support? Join me in Destination Self Love here
Queen, how many summers have you sat out of your own life? How many beach days, BBQs, and moments of joy have you skipped because you were afraid to be seen in your body?You’ve been sold the lie that summer is only for those with “perfect” bodies. But here’s the truth: Your body is already worthy of sunshine, laughter, and memories NOW!The world doesn’t need you to shrink to fit in. It needs you to take up space, boldly and unapologetically.🎧 Tune into this week's episode and get ready to stop hiding and start living.Ready to Show Up for Yourself This Summer?If you’re done sitting on the sidelines and ready to love yourself exactly as you are, my program Destination Self Love is calling your name. Don’t wait for another summer to pass you by.
Click here to join Destination Self Love Because your time isn’t “when you lose weight.” Your time is now queeeennn!!!
It’s not just about them, Queen - it’s about you.
The type of partner you attract reflects the relationship you have with yourself. If you’re settling for less, accepting breadcrumbs, or chasing unavailable people, it’s time to ask: What am I tolerating within myself that allows this?
This episode dives deep into why you keep choosing the same toxic patterns and how to break the cycle by loving yourself enough to raise your standards. 💎
If you’re ready to stop settling and start attracting love that mirrors your worth, join Destination Self Love. This program will transform how you see yourself - and the partners you attract.
Join here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
You say things like, 'I look like a whale,' or 'I shouldn’t be eating this in front of people 💔 These aren’t just throwaway comments - they are reflections of how you truly feel about your body. This week’s podcast is a raw, honest look at why you put yourself down in front of others and how those words impact your confidence, relationships, and self worth. Tune in to learn why it’s time to stop tearing yourself down and start seeing yourself with compassion.Want help with this? Check out how to work with me here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Queen hello! Thank you for being here!
In this episode, I tackle a vital conversation - how to dress for your size and feel truly unstoppable.
Fashion should be an expression of who you are, not some sort of restriction. I share insights on breaking free from societal norms and embracing styles that empower you to own your body and dress sense confidently.
This isn’t just about clothes - it’s about reclaiming your narrative and celebrating your unique style!
If you’re ready to embark on a deeper journey toward self love, check out my program Destination Self Love here
Such an important msg on today's podcast!
You are enough as you are right now! No conditions babe.
Love you!
Want to work with me? Destination Self Love is NOW OPEN! Click here
Hey gf! Thanks so much for being here! On this week’s poddy ep, I’m joined by the incredible Ama Phillips of Lashfix Powerhouse!
Ama is not only a good friend but an incredible biz coach, and I knew I had to have her on to talk about the crucial role confidence plays in business
It’s clear that true confidence comes from a foundation of self-love and self-trust 🧡
We dive deep into limiting beliefs, facing our fears head on, letting go of other people’s opinions, and the journey of being a Poly woman in biz and in life. And that’s just scratching the surface!
This episode is packed with insights to help you level up in both life and biz.
Confidence is key to unlocking your full potential, and it all begins with loving and trusting yourself first 🙌
Thank you sis for dropping all this wisdom!
Enjoy, and if you love this episode, please don’t forget to rate and review! 🌟
Need support in your biz? You can find Ama here -
https://www.instagram.com/lashfix_powerhouse?igsh=djIweXM5NzVzNTFm
What’s some daily habits that can help me build body confidence over time?
Stop talking 🤫
Like actually STFU 🤐
We’ve normalised disrespecting, mocking and speaking poorly about ourselves and it needs to stop ✋
I need you to filter yourself
(And this is the only time I’ll tell you to do this)
But you need your filter the words that come out of your mouth 👄
Too often I hear women say things like…
“My stomach is so disgusting”
“I look like a whale”
“I’m fat and ugly”
“I’m so gross”
“I’m so bad, I ate so much today, I need to starve myself”
“I’m worthless because I look like this”
Like no!
Stop with this language ✋
Literally stop talking shxt about yourself and watch your life change!
Start NOW and let me know how you go 🧡
I hate seeing my sister struggle with her confidence, how do I help her?
Such a beautiful q, I love that you care so much about your sis 🥰
But unfortunately you can’t want it more than her
You can’t become confident and then transfer it to her
What you can do tho is keep doing you boo 🙌
Keep showing up as the most confident version of you
And maybe some of your confidence magic may land on her 🪄🤞
How Do I Stay Confident In Times Of Uncertainty/Change?
🔥 Ground yourself - take a deep breath
🔥 Be present - don’t go future and worry about all the what ifs
🔥Focus on what you CAN control - your thoughts, attitude and actions
🔥 Be kind to yourself, practice self compassion, give yourself a cuddle hehe
🔥Trust that you can adapt and step into a solutions mindset
🔥 See it as an opportunity for growth, trust that everything is happening in your favour
I’ve been working on my body confidence but negative thoughts about my body keep popping up. Is this normal?
Yes❣️
Building body confidence takes time ⏰
Think about it - these negative thoughts have been around most of your life
(For me they were around for OVER 20 years) 😒
Acknowledge the thought without judgement
When these thoughts pop up, instead of getting caught up in it
Become aware and decide whether or not you’re going to allow them to take up space in your mind 🧠 #youcantsitwithus
Notice what triggers the thoughts 💭
Remove the trigger
Rinse and repeat 🔁
Here’s why although these seem like compliments, they’re not!…
“I wish I had the confidence to wear something like that”
This makes it sound like the person's clothing choice is an act of bravery because of their body size (you wouldn’t say this to a smaller person)👎
“You carry your weight well”
Implies that their size is something they need to manage or "carry" in a certain acceptable way👎
“You’re not fat, you’re beautiful!”
This reinforces the idea that being fat isn’t beautiful👎
“You’ve lost weight, you look amazing!”
Puts value on weight loss as a prerequisite for beauty or worth👎
“I love seeing big people still dress stylish and make an effort in the way they look”
It suggests that dressing well or putting effort into appearance is something unexpected for people in bigger bodies, reinforcing harmful stereotypes that larger people don't typically care about themselves👎
“Good for you for loving your body!"
Suggests that loving a fat body is rare or difficult👎
“You’re not fat, you’re just big-boned!"
This comment tries to dismiss or downplay a person’s size and reinforces that they can’t accept their body/big is not good👎
“I wish I had your attitude and/or confidence!"
Implies that a fat person’s confidence is surprising or that they "shouldn't" feel good about themselves👎
"You look great for your size!"
Suggests that there are separate standards for fat people, implying that someone is only attractive despite their size👎
Here’s what you can say in response to backhanded compliments❣️
“I know you mean well, but that comment actually feels backhanded. Please don’t make that comment again” and redirect the conversation or walk away
Ask for clarification -
“What do you mean by that?“
This usually makes them think about what they’ve just said and hopefully they realise it’s not ok but if not it allows you to explain to them why what they’ve said isn’t ok
Be straight up! (I use this one with family/friends) -
“Sounds like the Fatphobia/Internalised Fatphobia in you is talking”
This allows them to realise they are being Fat phobic and in turn realise what they’ve said is not ok👎
More examples 👇
"I’m so proud of you for going to the gym/being active!"
This can sound condescending, as if it’s shocking for a fat person to engage in fitness, reinforcing harmful stereotypes about inactivity and laziness👎
“You’re so brave for wearing that!”
Suggests that their body doesn’t usually "deserve" that type of clothing👎
"I could never pull that off!"
Implies that the person is somehow unusual or unexpected for wearing something fashionable or bold👎
My love! Those insecurities you have are learned! And on today's podcast I share with you how you learned them and how to unlearn them! Yasss that right! You can live a life where you don't let your insecurities take over!
If you love this podcast ep pls don't forget to rate and review it! It'll mean the world to me! Love you xx
Eeeekkk! I am soooo excited to have guest Miria Flavell owner of Hine Collection on the poddy this week
We talk all things biz, motherhood, size inclusivity and my fav takeaways from our chat was about loyalty and self belief. There's so much goodness in here!
Miria was also kind enough to give us a discount code, use code TPLC20 for 20% off your Hine gears (As mentioned in the poddy I vouch for her clothing 100% hehe it's the bomb!)
Shop here - https://www.hinecollection.com/
You can also follow Miria and Hine on instagram through the links below -
https://www.instagram.com/miriaflavell/
https://www.instagram.com/hinecollection/
What is a Life Coach & How do I choose a good one?A life coach is someone who helps you get clear on your goals and guides and supports you to overcome the obstacles to achieve them When choosing a coach here is 3 things I look for…What do you want?For example - confidence, a loving relationship, successful biz, parenting helpSearch google, IG, Tik Tok for those keywords Does that coach have it?Do the best stalking you’ve ever done to find out all about them lolDo they have what you want?Check out their experience Schedule a free call with them Most coaches off a free consult call so msg them and ask On that call check if you vibe with themFeel them out Trust yourself and your gut
If you want me to answer one of your q's please dm me on instagram here
Queen! If self-doubt, imposter syndrome, or caring what others think is holding you back from creating content, this episode is for you!
Today, I’m keeping it real about how to create with confidence and post anyway - even when it feels messy.
You don’t have to be perfect. Just start.
Wear the filter if you want, embrace the imperfections, and be yourself.
Confidence comes from taking action, not waiting for everything to be ‘just right.’
Thank you for being here and listening 🧡
I appreciate you so much!
Want to know how to work with me and/or know what's happening in my world? Come join the gram fam, click here
How do you deal with a parent who is set in their ways and constantly brings judgment or shame, especially when it comes to expressing yourself?
💥 Sit down and have an honest conversation with them
💥 Set clear boundaries
💥 Push past the assumptions you have about how they may react and have the convo - give them the benefit of the doubt
💥 Accept that you can’t change them but you get to choose how you respond
💥 If your parent disregards your boundaries, enforce the consequences
💥 You may need to stop hanging around them and work on your beliefs around that
💥 Hang with people you can be yourself around
💥 You must do whatever is necessary to protect your peace
💥 Put yourself first! Like FR!
If you need help with building your confidence to set clear boundaries
I invite you to join me in the 21 Day Confidence Boost program 🚀
It’s where I support you to…
🚀 Speak up with clarity and set boundaries that honour your worth
🚀 Show up powerfully, even when it feels uncomfortable
🚀 Take bold action and challenge the limiting beliefs that have been holding you back
Join me here
Welcome to part 2 of the biz series where we talk about your intentions and I remind you to be very intentional with everything you do in your life! Enjoy!
PS: You can get deets to our 'Build Your Confidence From Inside Out' event here
Hey Queen, please enjoy this bonus ep of a live I did on IG with Thom which is all about our upcoming event!
Here’s all the q’s we answered -
💄Where did the idea come from? And what’s the inspiration behind the event?
💄What does building confidence mean to both of you?
💄How do you become a life coach?
💄What should we expect?
💄How long will the event be? Will there be food and drinks?
💄Is it a lesson where I should bring make up too? What else do I need? Pen? Paper? Do I have to bring anything?
💄Is this appropriate for all levels of make up? Is it beginner friendly? I’ve always wanted to learn basic make up skills?
💄 I feel shy to come alone and need to get brave to show up. Does it matter? I have no girl gang
💄Will you have another one? I’m so sad I can’t make it
💄 Are you planning on hosting one in Sydney?
💄 Where can we get tickets & how much?
Tickets go on sale 5/9 6pm AEST
Make sure you’re on the special list to get early access and $ off here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/567792
Welcome to my Biz Series queen!Over the next few weeks I will be sharing all about business. This week I share the most important thing I think you need when it comes to business. It was the difference between me starting a biz and becoming self employed.This was the video I was referring to - https://youtube.com/watch?v=waU7KJP5K7gIf you have any biz questions you want me to answer please dm me on instagram here - https://www.instagram.com/thepolynesianlifecoach/
Hey Queen, please enjoy this bonus ep of a live I did on IG. Q is "Do the people around you affect your confidence?"
Yes❣️
If you’re around 5 unconfident insecure people you will be the 6th 💥
When I look back to when I really struggled with my body confidence, looking at the environment I was in…
It made sense
I was around people who would comment negatively on their weight, my weight, everyone’s weight and mock eachother all the time
Once I started moving away from them and getting around body positive people, reading books, podcasts, etc that promoted body confidence
I was then able to create a safe space for me to show up how I wanted 🥰
Look around your life 👀
Are the people around you uplifting and inspiring?
If not, get around people who are 🔥
If you love this korero and need support with your confidence
Check out my program 21 Day Confidence Boost here
Hey my loves! Thank you so much for tuning into this weeks poddy! This week I have special guest Timara Rapana aka Sagi sis Tee.We talk about her past struggles with addiction, sleeping on the streets, her journey as a public figure, dance, body image, motherhood and so much more!I am so grateful to have the sis on, please enjoy xx
Connect with Timara here-
https://www.instagram.com/sagisis_tee/
https://www.facebook.com/sagisistee/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sagisis_tee
Hi sis!
Please enjoy this bonus ep from a IG live I did...
3 TIPS TO BECOMING CONFIDENT 🚀
1️⃣ STOP telling yourself you’re not confident
Your words create your world
If you don’t believe you’re confident, say you’re “working on your confidence”
2️⃣ Get clear on what confident YOU looks like…
What does she do, say, wear, how does she act and show up in the world?
3️⃣ BECOME her, act as if you are already her and keep practicing being her till it becomes normal
Want more?
Check out the 21 Day Confidence Boost Program 🚀
It’s where I support you to…
🚀 Speak up with clarity and set boundaries that honour your worth
🚀 Show up powerfully, even when it feels uncomfortable
🚀 Take bold action and challenge the limiting beliefs that have been holding you back
Hey queens! Welcome back to this weeks podcast episode where we explore the difference between internal and external confidence.
Make sure you watch to hear an exciting announcement!! Eeeeekkk!
Also, click here to get notified as soon as tickets are released
Hey gf! Pls enjoy this bonus poddy ep!
Q is "How have you dealt with setbacks or failures in a way that strengthened your confidence?"
💥 Never a failure, always a lesson
💥 Trust you are in the right place
💥 Don’t make it mean anything
💥 Learn, reevaluate and try again
💥 Don’t let it stop you
💥 You are worthy as is
Also - it makes a fxcking good story once you do overcome it! 🙌 haha
Today’s poddy is a big one and I want to preface it by saying that this comes from a loving space.
This is the kick up the butt I needed so I’m gifting it to you hehe
Where in your life are you not taking responsibility for your actions, decisions and your results?
Take your power back babe!
Stop making excuses, stop blaming others!
Own your choices and reflect on your actions, habits and mindset.
Learn from your mistakes and decide what you want and take action to get it!
Don’t let anything get in your way!
You got this babe xx
Hey Queens!
Please enjoy this bonus ep from a IG live I did, question is "How Do You Manage The Difference Between How Others Perceive You & How You Perceive Yourself?"
💥 How people perceive you is none of your business
💥 People perceive you as they are, not as you are
💥 We can’t control how others perceive us but we can control how we perceive ourselves
💥 Work on the way you see yourself
💥 Stop changing yourself to fit in
💥 Be so secure and confident in yourself that when people don’t like you it doesn’t affect who you are
This is one of the many things I teach in my NEW program
🚀 21 Day Confidence Boost 🚀
Work with me to transform your confidence and become the most confident version of you that you’ve ever been 🔥
See more info here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/
Hey queen! Are you addicted to drama?
You’re probably like no? Why would I want to be addicted to drama Leesh?
Well after hearing this podcast episode you might actually have some realisations💭and it’s not a bad thing.
It’s great awareness for how we are showing up in the world and taking responsibility for it and becoming a better person.
Let’s spread love and positivity. Let’s focus on ourselves and our own business and trying to be the best version of ourselves in the world 🙌
Please enjoy. Let me know if you have any takeaways by messaging me on IG here . Don’t forget to subscribe gf! & better yet, leave a rating and/or review
I love you so much thank you for being here 🧡
Hey Queens!
Please enjoy this bonus ep from a IG live I did, question is "How do you handle criticism without it negatively impacting your confidence?"
💥 Check in with your body, are you triggered?
💥 Would you take advice from this person?
💥 Is their point valid?
💥 Do you want to do something about it?
Criticism isn’t always a bad thing, sometimes it’s a great opportunity for growth
Pls know that criticism should not change the way you feel about yourself and your worthiness
You are worthy as is 🧡
Queen! This weeks poddy episode is with beautiful guest Monica Aererua who is the biz owner of ‘Not Your Average Candy’
I’ve known the sis for many years now and her growth is a huge inspiration!
She shared with us all about her self development journey, how it helped her make nearly 200k in her first financial year in biz, how it helped her with her relationship, motherhood and being present with her children.
We speak about business, making big scary changes, being the small fish in the pond, motherhood, autism, being kind, having empathy and so much more!
If you love Mon as much as I do please go check her out on socials - https://www.instagram.com/monicaaereruaxo/ https://www.instagram.com/notyouraveragecandy/
Woohoooo Podcast 100!! Leesggoooo!!
I AM BEYOND EXCITED TO BRING YOU THIS WEEKS PODCAST!
And I can’t thank you enough for being here queen! If you have listened to all 100 episodes I love you so much!
If you’ve listened to just 1 I still love you haha
I wanna say a huge thanks to all the guests that have been on the poddy so far
And what better way to celebrate 100 episodes then to have them come back on for an audio hug
I wanted this episode to be the episode to come to when you need that extra push, when you feel like giving up, maybe you’re questioning who you are, you’re about to do something big and you’re scared or you’re just having a bad day.
Have a listen babe and enjoy xx
Huge mihi to (and the guests in order, go check them out)
Oriana Plus size - https://www.instagram.com/oriana.plussize/
Lilz aka Crossthick - https://www.instagram.com/crossthick/
Talita - https://www.instagram.com/talitakate/
Lavi - https://www.tiktok.com/@_lavi_love_
Ani - https://www.instagram.com/tahui.active/
Fipe - https://www.instagram.com/living_koko/
Ama and Venna - https://www.instagram.com/lashfix_powerhouse/
Te Kahukura aka Maori Millionaire - https://www.instagram.com/maorimillionaire_/
Thank you for being here queen!
On this week's podcast episode I talk about my speaking experience at the 'Deeper Than What It Is' event.
I share with you what Confidence means to me and give you actionable steps on How To Be Confident.
Please enjoy!
If you want to work with me to transform your Confidence, leave your details here
I'm dropping my 21 Day Confidence Boost program in a few days!
So many people (including me) are scared to do their culture wrong so they don't celebrate it at all. My message is that you can't do it wrong. Try! Learn! It's better than not celebrating your culture at all. We need to keep our cultures alive! It's sooo important xx
Wow exactly a month ago I celebrated my 31st bday and omg it was such an emotional one. On this week's podcast I share those emotions and tell you all about my bday trauma, I know a few of you can relate so i've also added in some tips that'll help you.
Thank you for listening love xx
Stop complaining sis! This weeks poddy is a reminder to watch your words!Do you complain a lot? Are you taking action to change the situation you continue to complain about or is it something you've been complaining about for years? This poddy might be the wake up call you need!Stop complaining and start taking control and taking action!Listen and let me know what you think here
Sis thank you so much for being here!On this weeks podcast episode I have special guest Ani Tahui the owner of activewear brand Tahui Active.We talk about business, size inclusivity, self-love and self acceptance, getting pregnant at 19 years old, accepting motherhood, motherhood struggles, coparenting and ego and so much moreI was blown away from this podcast episode honestly thank you so much to the Sis for jumping on the podcast and if you want to follow her journey, please click the link below and follow her. She’s fucking incredible!https://www.instagram.com/tahui.active/https://www.instagram.com/anii.tahui/
Babe it's so important you keep your promises to yourself! When you break the trust with yourself it has many negative impacts like self doubt, lowered self esteem, negative mental health and so much more.
Listen to this week's podcast to hear why it's important to keep your word!
Hey queen, thank you so much for being here!
On this week's podcast episode I talk about the importance of backing yourself ‼️
Having self-confidence, self acceptance and self compassion, as well as self validation haha all the selfs.
I also speak on standing up for yourself. Please enjoy and let me know what you think in the comments or dm me on IG here
Sis do you feel like you're not being your true self? Like you have to change yourself or put on a facade to fit in. On this week's podcast I talk about why we don't show up, caring what others think and how to be so secure in yourself that when people do try to dim your light - it doesn't stop you!
I also wanna gift you my free training that teaches you how to become a wahine toa and build unstoppable confidence, click the link below to get your copy - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/howtobecomeawahinetoa
Babe, if you take anything from this video let it be YOUR VOICE IS IMPORTANT WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY MATTERSPLEASE SPEAK YOUR TRUTHLove youuuuuu xx PS - you can get the free training I refer to in the video here - https://elishatamasi.simplero.com/page/495110
What labels have you places upon yourself? Could they be doing more harm than anything? On this week's podcast I talk about how the labels you place upon yourself could actually be doing more harm than good. Take a listen and let me know your thoughts here
Welcome back to this weeks podcast episode sis!This week I talk about pushing yourself vs punishing yourself!Growing up I had such a bad relationship with exercise and saw it as punishment. The only reason id exercise is to punish myself for what I had eaten and for not exercising and becoming so fat (when I used to think being fat was a bad thing). I only ever saw exercise as a way to lose weight.Now I exercise for my health, to be fit, strong and be able to keep up with Mets and my future kids.Let’s stop punishing ourselves and give ourselves a kind loving push to the next levelThanks for listening queen xx
Hey sis! Thank you for being here. On this weeks poddy I uncover a trigger of mine haha those 30 day challenges😒The reason why it triggers me is because all my life I’d chase these challenges for weight loss reasons and I’d restrict myself for the 30 days and lose the weight but then once it’s done I’d revert back to everything I was previously doing and just put the weight back on again. It became very unhealthy and I think people are doing them for all the wrong reasons My whakaro - why start if it’s not something you wanna sustain and do for a life time?If it’s good for you, why wouldn’t you wanna keep doing it? If it’s not good for you, why would you wanna start it? I recently embarked on a 30 day challenge and here are my thoughts. Have a listen and let me know what you think 🧡
Hey sis! Eeeekkkkk I am soooo excited! My rebranding has launched and I am officially 'The Polynesian Life Coach' hehe the amount of love and support I have received has been sooo incredible and this podcast is just a little korero about that. From the photoshoot, to the logo, to why I wanted to change my brand name and how I decided for it to be TPLC. Please enjoy and let me know what you would love to see from TPLC by dm'ing me on IG here
Hey Sis, thank you so much for being here!
On this week’s podcast I share what I would have loved with my mother daughter relationship growing up, although I am so glad that things turned out the way that they are because I am the woman I am today this is a loving letter to all the mums out there.
Pls enjoy and share you feedback here xx
Hey gf! Thank you so much for being here! Today I’m talking about how to overcome obstacles in life.Sometimes we think these obstacles are bad luck and terrible but let’s be real, these moments are actually what shape you. Are you going to let it break you or are you going to push through? Life is not linear, there’s going to be up and downs.If you are watching this and you are currently going through something - I want you to know that everything is going to be ok. You got this 🧡🧡Want to work with me? Click here and book in a call - https://calendly.com/elishatamasi/10-15mins?month=2024-04
Hey sis, welcome back to another podcast episode! On this week's podcast I answer a q that came from IG - what's my thoughts on Ozempic and Weight Loss Surgeries.I think this may be a controversial topic but I loved the question because I am very passionate about self love, body positivity and being confident in my plus size body.Here's my whakaaro/thoughts, i'd love to know yours!Let me know by messaging me on instagram here xx
Hey love! This is a bonus episode for you!
I recently went on a IG live with the beautiful Natasha West, she asked to interview me as part of her Mana Wāhine series which was such an honour.
In the interview she asked me about myself and how I became a Life Coach, the barriers I faced, the effects working on myself has on me, my whanau and community and so much more!
If you enjoy this podcast episode please don't forget to rate and review it :)
Hey queen! Eeeeek I'm sooo excited for you to hear this one!
On this week's podcast I have special guest Lilz aka Crossthick joining me!
Lilz is a influencer, mum, LSKD sponsored athlete, strong boss baddie and a keynote speaker.
We talked about Confidence, her journey to becoming a influencer, getting hate online, her traumatic pregnancy and birth story, breaking generational cycles and so much more...
Huge mihi to Lilz for blessing the podcast, if you want more, follow Lilz here
Sis! It's been an incredible past couple weeks!
Actually, the whole year so far has been amazing!
I’ve been in such inspiring spaces and around some amazing amazing people which has lead to more amazing and incredible ideas and things I want to do this year haha
And this has low key taken me off the road I was on to achieving my goals and dreams.
So on this week's podcast episode I give you a loving quarterly kick up the butt! Haha
I remind you of those beautiful amazing goals you set out at the start of the year and see how you’re tracking so far, are you on track to achieving those goals?
I also share my progress and how i’m going as well as remind me and you to take our goals seriously!!
Let's do this babe!!
Have a listen and let me know ONE of your goals for 2024, dm me on instagram here
Hey queen! Thank you for being here!
On this week's podcast I finish up the relationship series talking about relationships with friends, colleagues and acquaintances. I speak about the expectations we have, becoming the friend that we want to attract, dealing with people you don't like and so much more.
Enjoy sis!
Hey Kia Ora love! Thank you so much for being here!On this week's podcast I talk about Family Dynamics, I share about my own relationship with my family members, family expectations, not having my parents in my life, having hard convos with family members, forgiveness and so much more!Please enjoy and let me know any of your takeaways xx
Hey love, this weeks podcasts a hard one but its for those of you who are experiencing heartbreak and/or know you need to leave a realtionship
I give you tips on how to know whether you should leave or not and how to manage through heartbreak
At the end of the day I just want you to know that everything is going to be alright
Love you xx
Hey love! Thanks for coming back to the relationship series! I am soooo excited for you to listen to this one! This episode is for my couples but even if you're single rn I would still recommend to have a listen!
I talk about the 5 love languages, communication in relationships, individuality, goals and more.Please enjoy! And let me know your thoughts here
All my single ladies this one's for you!
On this podcast episode I share my tips on how to date and find the love of your life hehe i'm so excited for you!
If you haven't listened to episode 1 of this relationship series please go back and listen to it before you listen to this one
I'd love to know what you think and if you have any questions here
Hey guys! Welcome back to the podcast! For the month of February I am doing a relationship series and this week I am talking about the relationship you have with yourself.
Ooooofff this is SO IMPORTANT!
We attract what we are, if you want an amazing partner you need to become that!If you want a partner that has an amazing mindset, great job, is goal driven, etc.
You need to be that! If you struggle with self love and worthiness this is your invitation to work on it.
How are you supposed to love someone else when you don't even love yourself?
Date yourself, become so damn self aware and so good and secure that you attract the partner of your dreams.
Let me know what you think of this episode and if there is something you'd like me to talk about or if you have any questions please dm me on instagram - https://www.instagram.com/soextra.__/
Yal! I am so excited to have my first podcast guest for 2024! Te Kahukura Boynton aka Maori Millionaire!
I am so excited for you to listen to this episode as it is such an important korero!
We talk about what money is, how a poor mindset correlates to lack of money, the effects colonisation has on generational wealth, tips for creating multiple sources of income and so much more!
This is a must listen episode! Enjoy!
There’s a lot of people out there that talk the talk but don’t necessarily walk the walk
And I want to make sure you are taking advice from the right people
Speak to people who have actually done what you wanna do
They have the experience and can show proof that they’ve done it!
Don’t ask your poor friend for financial advice
Your single friend for relationship advice
Your mum who doesn’t have a biz for biz advice
Speak to the people who have done it!
That way you’re more likely to do it too
Love you!
You’ve gotta feel it to heal it babe!
How often do you hold space for your feelings? How often do you see and hear yourself?
This weeks podcast is all about feeling the feels.
Instead of bottling them up or pushing them to the side.
Pay attention to why you are feeling that way.
What happened? Why do you feel this way? Get clear
Journal it out
Share it with someone you can trust
And you may even need to talk to a professional - coach, councillor, therapist
I hope this podcast episode helps you! Thank you for being here love!
Want change in the world? Be the one who makes the change
Be the leader
Don’t underestimate the impact you can have by being the change
Whether you impact 1 person or 1 million people
Instead of complaining, take charge, become who and what you wish for
I hope this podcast inspires you to show up differently in 2024
This is the energy babe!
Go kill it xx
Let me know what actions you are going to take in the comments or dm me on Instagram here - https://www.instagram.com/soextra.__/
Happy New Year love!
I feel like 'lose weight' is one of the top things people put on their new year's resolutions list and on this week's podcast I invite you to take it off.
Enjoy the podcast! xx
Hey lovely! Thanks for being here!
I hope you had a wonderful Xmas and you're being kind to yourself, this week's podcast is about being kind. If you find that you aren't being a kind person this is your invite to look inside of you and see what's going on, make time and space to heal and spread love instead of spewing hate.
Enjoy the poddy!
PS: If you would love some help and support on yor healing journey dm me "heal" on IG here
Have podcast requests? Or feedback? Please msg me here
Lots of love to you!!
Leesh xx
Hey love, thanks for being here!
On this week's podcast I am talking to those of you who have been doing affirmations for awhile and aren't seeing any results.
Like anything, one thing doesn't work for everyone so here's an alternative if you're done with affirmations!
Please enjoy and let me know your thoughts :)
Hey love, this week's podcast is all about setting healthy boundaries. I think this is so timely as we head into Xmas and being around family/friends. Setting healthy boundaries protects your mental health and your energy. This Xmas I invite you to take a look at your life and where you need to set those boundaries, what's the boundary and what will you do if they don't adhere to it? This is a crucial listen, please enjoy!
Don’t play with your life sis!
Last week I got my new glasses and this whole podcast stemmed from it. How often do you take life for granted? The fact that you can see is a blessing. That you can hear, smell, walk, talk. Love, none of this is promised but here we are taking that shit for granted.
Let this podcast be the wake up call for you to stop taking life for granted and live it to the fullest!
I love you!
Leesh xx
Wanna work with me? Dm me “work” on instagram here
Hey love, can you believe 2023 is coming to an end? How did you go with accomplishing your goals this year?On this week's podcast we are going to look over those goals and do a little bit of a clean up, celebrate what we have achieved and see what we can get done before the year ends.Book I quoted in the episode is The One Thing by Gary W Keller and Jay PapasanTo listen to the podcast I referenced in the ep click here
You are a product of your environment so you need to make sure that environment is good sis. Are the people around you uplifting? Supportive? Do they share similar values? Are they positive or do they drain your energy?On this week's podcast episode I share about a time in my life where my environment was horrible, like absolutely terrible but when I removed myself from that environment my whole life changed for the better.I also share some signs that means you need new friendsPlease enjoy and let me know what you think over on instagram here
After being self employed for 3 years I've gone back to a 9-5 job and when I first started I was like WTF I really feel like I don't have much time in my day to do anything.
I spend 8.5 hours at mahi, 2 hour travel time, 8 hours sleep, so that only leaves me with 5.5hours of free time left and between running my biz, cooking, cleaning, spending time with Mets, doing life admin, etc it doesn't feel like much.
On this podcast I share how I make the most of my time because now that i've set up routines and systems (that I share in this podcast) I feel like I'm getting shit done and not like I'm only living to work haha.
Please enjoy this episode and let me know here if helps xx
This weeks podcast episode is another one from my coaching program but ties into last weeks podcast so if you haven't already listened to that please go back and listen.
The resources I mention in the episode -
Watch Youtube video - "I am Fat" by Victoria Welsby here
Read book "You have the right to remain fat" by Virgie Tovar
Questions to answer...
What things are you doing in your life that reinforces fatphobia?
What are you doing that supports it? Scales, diets, etc
What are fatphobic things you are doing?
Do you judge fat people?
What do you think of when you hear the word fat?
What do you think of fat people?
Finish the sentences...
Fat people are _________
I don't love my body because __________
I want to lose weight because __________
I want to lose weight but __________
Whose voice is it? Yours? Learned?
Is there someone you want to give them back to?
Thank you so much for listening! If you would love to work with me please DM me on Instagram here
Hey love, this is a little video taken from my online coaching course but I thought it would be so beneficial to you!
Check out the IG post I referred to about fat shaming in kids media here
Follow Alicia Mccarvell here
Ask yourself these questions...
What are your beauty standards?
What does healthy look like to you?
Let me know your takeaways on Instagram here
I'm back from holiday fam! We have so much to talk about! On this weeks podcast episode I talk about my holiday to NZ, the cruise, realisations I had in NZ, putting yourself first and breaking generational cycles.
Pls enjoy!
I can't wait to hear your podcast my love!
Here's all the equipment and links I talked about in the episode...
Microphones -
Samson Q2U - https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/samson-recording-and-podcast-pack-black-q2u-ps90028785
Otto - https://www.officeworks.com.au/shop/officeworks/p/otto-usb-studio-microphone-otmicusbdc
Platform - Anchor aka Spotify for podcasters - https://podcasters.spotify.com
Imovie is what I use to edit - download this onto your computer
Canva (for podcast logo) - https://www.canva.com
Hey my loves, on this weeks episode I thought I would share a lil korero I had in The Vibe Tribe about having a scarcity mindset.
Please enjoy!
On this weeks poddy I speak about not caring what people think and let's be real, it's a thing and something even to this day I have to check myself for.I share with you how your judgment of others relates to how you care what others think.How important it is to be secure in yourself, know your values, worth and what you stand forThat you need to challenge and investigate your thoughts and why you careWriting down the impact that caring what others think has on your life and where it is stopping you from living your best lifeHaving boundaries and saying no, having self compassion and having the right support system around you is so so important And that, at the end of the day, it's not about you. It's about them!
If you loved this episode don't forget to rate and review us!
There's so many factors as to why we may feel like we are behind in life - on this week's episode I unpack this...
Sometimes we feel behind because we are comparing ourselves and what we've achieved in life to societies expectations, how our friends and family are doing or what their expectations are, we compare ourselves to where we thought we would be - for me that was married and pregnant at 21 years old LOL
I give tips on how to overcome this like seeing our so called "failures" as lessons, celebrating what we have accomplished as opposed to dwelling on what we haven't
Asking ourselves the question "Am I happy?"
And celebrating the fact that if we aren't happy we are doing something about it as opposed to moaning about it and doing nothing
BTW - If you do find you are moaning about it this is your friendly kick up the butt to do something about it!
I'd love to hear your thoughts here
Enjoy!
Hey my love, I'M BACKK!! Aroha mai for missing last week I was absolutely bedridden all week but this week makes up for it because I am sharing with you all the lessons i've learnt from recently going back to a 9-5.
I talk about the shame, fear of failure and resistance of going back
How it has helped me understand the women I work with more
I speak about how it is a right now phase and not a forever phase
How easy it is to get stuck into work gossip and drama and the importance of having other things going on for you outside of work and how not having this may lead to a feeling of hopelessness
The company doesn't gaf about you so put yourself first
I was able to remember how nice it is to work for someone else, do your time and leave (having a biz is a 24/7 gig)
And so much more...
Please enjoy and let me know what you think!
If you love this ep pls leave us a review xx
How to find your purpose 🫶
This q has come up a few times with my clients so I thought I’d share with you some tips on how to find your purpose…
Take time for yourself to reflect
What matters to you?
What are your value, interests, passions?
What topics make your feel alive and engaged?
Look back at past experiences where you felt fulfilled or purposeful
What are your strengths, talents, skills?
What comes naturally to you?
What do you excel at?
What would you do if all your needs were met?
If you had all the time, money and resources?
What do you love to do?
What do people ask/come to you for?
What goals do you have?
TRY ALL THE THINGS❣️
What have you done?
Go travelling, take up that course, make a bucket list of all the things you wanna do before you go
Pay attention to moments in your life where you have deep satisfaction 🧡
Enjoy the journey!
Your purpose might just be living 🙌
Sis, is it being selfish or selfless?Putting yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s the right thing to do You can’t poor from an empty cupI share my journey with putting others first, people pleasing and moving away and working on myself and putting myself firstWe can’t give if we don’t got Have a listen and let me know what you think, dm me on IG - https://instagram.com/soextra.__
BONUS IG LIVE
I know I want to CHANGE but where do I start?
Start with finding out what’s stopping you❣️
What’s the thought that keeps popping up that is stopping you from making a change?
I wrote down some of the things clients have said in the past and shared how to overcome them
I’m scared of the unknown
I don’t want to feel discomfort
I lack clarity on what I want
I don’t like change
I have no motivation
It’s too hard!
I don’t have enough money, resources, support, time
I don’t think I’m good enough, smart enough, skinny enough, pretty enough
I’ve failed in the past and I’ll probably fail again
I’m so overwhelmed, it’s too much
I don’t have the patience
I’m worried about what others may think
Watch the full vid and let me know in the comments what’s stopping you and what you’re committed to doing about it 👇
Hey my beautiful friend!
On this week's podcast episode I share my beautiful tāne Mets incredible story and congratulate him on winning his rugby grand finals.
I highlight the fact that growth looks different to different people and how important it is to have sit down convos with your partner to talk about your values, what is working, what's not working and going through the wheel of life exercise.
I also remind you that we all have incredible stories and we can help so many by sharing them and not comparing them!
Have a listen and let me know your thoughts here
How do I be more productive? ✅
This is what I do to get shxt done…
📝 Write down everything you want and need to do
👉 Get clear on every task and break big tasks into smaller tasks
⏰ Prioritise your tasks - look up time matrix on YouTube and action
💨 For any task that takes less than 2mins do it immediately
🗓️ Set 1-3 tasks per day only
🛒 Batch similar tasks and same place tasks together
🥰 Have realistic expectations and standards - you know yourself best
⚡️Schedule tasks at your best energy times
⏱️ Time block - set timer for 20mins, go hard and then take a break and repeat
📱Eliminate distractions - put your phone on do not disturb, go into a quiet room alone, etc
🚫 Say no to all the extra things people ask you to do, prioritise your to do list first
Routines, habits and organisation play a huge part into productivity. If you want more on this let me know here
On this weeks poddy episode I talk about how to stop worrying about your weight ✋
Waking up every morning thinking about how much I weigh, how to get that number down, starving myself, skipping meals, torturing myself with workouts and thinking about the numbers all day and night had me bloody exhausted
But now, none of that is on my mind and here’s a few reasons why…
I changed my environment
I got rid of the scales and diets I got rid of friends and family that would comment on their weight and always talk badly about theirs I stopped following people that had negative narratives on fat people and food
I got clear on what my beauty standards are
Listen to this ep to hear more and how I stopped worrying about my weight 🧡
Wanna work with me? Check out the Vibe Tribe here - https://elisha-tamasi.mykajabi.com/the-vibe-tribe-landing-page
Bonus IG live
How do I show up as my fully expressed self? Or as I like to say being So Extra & proud ☺️
For so long I didn’t show up as my fully expressed self because I was worried about what people might think of me, that judgment and worry about not fitting in
Ask yourself - what is it costing me? For me it was my happiness, I was living a life where I was so bloody miserable 😩
Investigate where in your life you are hiding and why?
Challenge those thoughts 💭
Who do you want to be? What does your fully expressed self look like?
Become her ❣️
Back yourself - be okay with people not liking and understanding you
Would you rather live a miserable life surrounded by plenty of people? Or live a fully expressed so extra life alone?
Lowkey tho, you won’t even have to do it alone you’ll just have to make sure you surround yourself with like minded people who uplift you and love your fully expressed self!
Sit down and take time to get clear on these things
And then slowly take small steps to become the fully expressed version of you 🧡
If you need more support with this dm me 'TVT' on IG here
Been feeling very vulnerable in these spaces the last couple weeks but I feel like that's a given
It's a part of the level up and something I need to do to become the best version of me and become who I want to be
Being open, honest, and emotionally exposed is uncomfortable af and so challenging.
Sharing your true thoughts, feelings, and experiences to others and not knowing how people will respond is daunting.
But we have to remind ourselves that we are doing the best we can and we need to have a little self compassion.
Being vulnerable is necessary for growth
And that's what I am all about xx
IG live episode
How do I stop doubting myself?
Self doubt is normal
You’ll have self doubt but I think it’s important to know how to manage it
Think about the times when you feel self doubt, what are you doing?
Usually you’re about to go to that next level 🔥
Give your doubts attention, see them, hear them, what’s coming up?
What’s the worst case scenario? Let’s go there!
Have self compassion - of course you’re scared you’re about to do something big!! 😮💨
This is why people don’t grow, they don’t want to feel the feels and would rather stay comfortable - what are your options?
Remember who tf you are!!
Hype yourself up sis! None of this “stay humble” crap 🙄
Self doubt is a choice - choose a different thought to believe
“I can do it”
“Everything will turn out better than I ever thought”
If you want more of this consider joining me in The Vibe Tribe here
BONUS EP from IG live
How do I embrace my tummy/problem area? Love this q that came off the back of my last post 🧡
Firstly, your tummy/ body is not a problem and you don’t need to be fixed ❣️
I invite you to change your language
If you’re currently at a stage where you are aware of your thoughts around this area 💭
And you’ve challenged it ‼️
And now you are ready to change it
You need to…
Choose what you want to believe - don’t identify with that thought anymore, stop saying it ✋
Build a relationship with that area - get to know it, touch it, stop hiding it 🚫
Practice what it is that you want to do with people who support you and are a safe space
Take small steps to make who you want to be your current reality - practice makes progress
Once you’ve done it so much it’ll just become normal to you 🙌
On this weeks poddy I have special guest Sarah Viliamu!
Sarah is a self love advocate, model, speaker, business owner, mum, wife and influencer.
We speak about all things self love - why women struggle with self love, Sarah's journey to self love, tips on how to practice self love and more.
Enjoy sis!
You can connect with Sarah here
Buy tickets to the 'Move For You' event here (use code 'VIBETRIBE' for $10 off)
Bonus - IG Live Episode
How do I practice self compassion?
We lack a lot of self compassion when it comes to our body image
The mean things we say to ourselves and how negatively we talk about ourselves
“I hate my body, stomach, stretch marks, rolls”
“I’m not good enough, worthy, attractive”
“Ew, I look so fat and disgusting”
So I put together a easy to remember acronym - ACT
Awareness, Acknowledgment
Challenge, Change, Care
Thankfulness, Throw it away, Train yourself
ACT is my go-to for anytime I’m speaking negatively about myself
It stops me from going on this downward spiral of self hatred and self loathing and numbing out with social media, binge eating, etc
It’s a practice, we need to train ourselves to react differently then what we’ve been doing
The next time you say something bad about yourself, try practicing ACT and let me know what happens 🧡
This week we are talking about why I chose not to go to Lizzo's concert
It's a goodie and I hope it helps you expand your thinking
Questions to ask yourself...
Why am I doing this?
What am I prioritising?
Am I looking out for my highest self and what that women needs?
Are you thinking bout your dream life?
Or are you settling for less?
If you are ready to prioritise yourself and your relationship with your body join me in The Vibe Tribe here
You can get on the mailing list for my special early bird offer here
Love this q that was asked in last weeks Fat Fridays Q&A IG live. Have a listen and let me know what you think xx
Self compassion is key sis 🔑 And I know it’s hard!
When you’re feeling down because of your weight the last thing you think you deserve is self compassion
But you do❣️
And if it’s hard to be kind to yourself think of a loved one - how would you treat them if they came to you telling you they hated their body?
I used to picture my nieces or nephews, I’d never say the nasty things I used to say to myself, to them
Instead I’d hug them and remind them that they’re more than their appearance and to challenge where they heard that thought
Do the same for yourself - Hug yourself 🥰
Remind yourself that you are more than your appearance and challenge that narrative 🤔
If you need more support with this come and join me in The Vibe Tribe
You can get on the waitlist for my special early bird offer here
BONUS EP from my Fat Friday's Q&A Series
How do I stop judging the size of my body when I look in the mirror/photos?
Practice self compassion 🥰
Sis you’re incredible! You need to hype yourself up and show yourself all the love and kindness you give to others.
If this feels hard to do, think about a loved one and how you treat them - give that same love to yourself 🧡
Focus on what you love - we are so conditioned to go straight to what we hate when it comes to the mirror, instead point out what you love.
For me, it was my eyes and eyelashes so whenever I was in-front of a mirror I would just focus on that 😍🪞
Practice body neutrality - this is where you don’t love or hate your body, you’re just neutral.
You understand that your body is a vessel and holds all your magic and believe that it isn’t the most important thing about you
Challenge the thoughts you are having 💭
And challenge the unrealistic beauty standards ❣️
Please let me know your thoughts here
Need help with loving you plus size body? I got you sis!
Here's 3 ways I can help...
1 - Download my Free Masterclass here
2 - Check out The Vibe Tribe here - A safe space for plus size women to be seen, heard, unravel and heal
3 - Book a call with me here and we can explore your options
I've been getting abit of feedback online where people think I am promoting unhealthiness so I want to make it clear...
My message is that -
Your weight doesn't equal your worthiness
You can look in the mirror and love what you see as a fat person
You can be plus size and confident in your body
I think people get it twisted because they think that fat = unhealthy and I'm here to challenge that
Is it true?
There's also different types of health and health looks different to everyone
BUT
Regardless of health, we shouldn't treat people differently just because they are fat!
We need to dismantle fatphobia and internalised fatphobia
This is my problem
This is my message
Please don't get it twisted!
If you need help with your health (of any kind) please make sure to seek it! Big love sis!
I'd love to know your thoughts here
Need help with loving you plus size body? I got you sis!
Here's 3 ways I can help...
1 - Download my Free Masterclass here
2 - Check out The Vibe Tribe here - A safe space for plus size women to be seen, heard, unravel and heal
3 - Book a call with me here and we can explore your options
BONUS EP from my Fat Friday's Q&A Series
I LOVE this question so much cos I think so many people think that self love and weight loss cannot co exist
We think that if someone wants to lose weight they must hate themselves
But I think self love is NECESSARY in order to lose weight in a healthy way ❣️
Please listen and let me know your thoughts here
Need help with loving you plus size body? I got you sis!
Here's 3 ways I can help...
1 - Download my Free Masterclass here
2 - Check out The Vibe Tribe here - A safe space for plus size women to be seen, heard, unravel and heal
3 - Book a call with me here and we can explore your options
Stop hiding in photos and videos, bending your body like crazy to look "flattering"
Embrace what your body truly looks like! Sure, we want to look good in photos but this narrative reinforces that tummy rolls, double chins, stretchmarks, etc is not beautiful and we must hide it.
Secondly, we forget what we look like and then compare the "unflattering" photo our mum posts to the "flattering" photo you post.
They can both coexist, we look different at every angle and every angle is okay.
We just aren't aware of it so we need to become aware to be okay and accept it.
If you want to watch my series "10 things that helped me love and accept my plus size body" you can do so here
Need help with loving you plus size body? I got you sis!
Here's 3 ways I can help...
1 - Download my Free Masterclass here
2 - Check out The Vibe Tribe here - A safe space for plus size women to be seen, heard, unravel and heal
3 - Book a call with me here and we can explore your options
Do you struggle with being confident in your plus size body? You dress down or don't wear the cute clothes you want to wear?
This episode will help you overcome this and SHOW TF UP!
Ask yourself 💭 What’s currently stopping me from showing up confidently?
For me I had a lot of internalised fatphobia I had to unlearn
Uncover what your current belief system is
What do you think of confident plus size women when they show up? Honestly, I used to be judgmental asf!!
I was projecting my own insecurities btw! It had nothing to do with them
Choose to be confident - yes it’s a choice!
Stop telling yourself you are not confident ✋
Become her!!
Practice baby - I remember when I first started skating, I started on carpet and was falling over 😅
But I kept practicing and now I’m so very close to being pro 😂
& don’t forget to celebrate yourself sis 🥳 You’re doing amazing sweetie!!
If you need the free Masterclass I refer to click here
If you have a question dm me here
Thank you so much for listening!
Nearly all the ladies i've spoken to that don't love what they see in the mirror tell me that weight loss is the answer.
"Once I lose the weight then i'll be happy, i'll be confident, i'll love what I see in the mirror"
And i'm here to tell you that's not true!
I'm speaking from lived experience too and here's the reasons why...
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You'll look in the mirror and still be unhappy
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We've got it twisted - weight loss isn't a requirement for self love and acceptance
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You'll put the weight back on and have the same problem and continue the yoyo weight loss and dieting so many of us experience.
If you are sick of this negative cycle I welcome you to work with me here
Like I say in the podcast - this is deeper than weight loss
Want my free masterclass?
I teach you 5 steps on how to love what you see in the mirror. Watch it here
Come say hi on instagram @soextra.__
1 - If you celebrate someone for weight loss I feel like it’s almost automatic that when they gain weight they feel bad and like a failure.
You just told me losing weight was good so when I gain weight it’s obviously bad.
Instead of commenting on someone’s weight, highlight the way it’s made them feel or anything else that doesn’t involve physical appearance.
For me, my TOP TIER compliment is “Leesh, I love your energy!!” or "Leesh, I love your mind!!"
The Vibe Tribe is a 12 month coaching experience where you will learn how to be confident in your plus size body, know that your weight doesn't determine your worthiness and love what you see in the mirror!
According to our IG fam it is! I thought I would open up this convo to help people overcome this word. If someone referring to you as fat affects you negatively and sends you on a mental downward spiral I invite you to look at things differently... If we pull it all back - Fat is a describing word. It's not the word, it's what we make it mean. What are you making the word mean? Reclaim it! Take the power away from it! Self Awareness is key! You get to choose what it means!
If you want to have more convos like this come korero on instagram here
Want to join The Vibe Tribe? Join the waitlist here
Not me telling you my deepest darkest secrets on this episode haha.
This week I talk about my past relationships, relationships with friends and saying I love you.
Thank you for the podcast request - I'm glad cos I feel like this is a side of me I have never really talked about.
Please if you have any podcast requests msg me on instagram here
Want to learn how to love and accept your body without losing a kg?
Book you Body Acceptance Masterclass tickets here
You're gonna love this episode! On this week's podcast I talk to Talita Simpson, she is bloody incredible and multifaceted and I wanted to get her on to have a beautiful korero about being a plus size curve model.
She shares with us how she got into modelling, what the industry is like and her top tips. We also talk about self belief, comparison, body image issues and so much more. I can't thank Talita enough for blessing us on the podcast! If you loved this as much as I did please rate and review it and you can connect with Talita on Instagram here
And listen to her podcast here
Our girl Gracie at FiaFia Art is the photographer we talked about and you can connect with here/book her here
Ama at Lashfix was also mentioned, you can check her out here
And if you would like to connect with me please come say hey on the gram here
Want to learn how to love and accept your body without losing a kg?
Book you Body Acceptance Masterclass tickets here
Sometimes life sucks! Haha I love that title cos it's how I be feeling lately.
On this week's podcast I talk about the realisations I had from being in that funk. I am a true believer in "everything happens for a reason" and I believe this funk was a gift because it helps me support and assist the women in The Vibe Tribe better. It reminded me to have compassion and that I am human and even though "I know" how to manage my mind and do the work it's a whole other thing to actually practice and action it. Anyways, listen to the episode and you'll hear all about it and grab my FREE guide to get out of that funk below!
Get the FREE guide "5 Ways To Get Out Of That Funk here
Would you love to learn how to accept your body no matter your size?
Join me for this transformative event where you'll learn what it takes to love and accept your body unconditionally.
NO scales, crazy diets or losing weight needed. Click here for more info
Sis, have we connected yet? Come say hi on the gram
Want to be the first to know when The Vibe Tribe doors open? Click here
What an enlightening amazing korero with Tarsh!
We speak about culture, the importance of Acknowledging country, what life is like as a first nations Australian and so much more.
This episode was exactly what I needed and I hope you get some goodness from it too!
Connect with Tarsh here
Welcome to my mind haha this week I share with you a live journal entry on productivity and societies pressure around it as well as my own pressures that cause overwhelm and then I don't do anything lol.
I realise...
- I put too much pressure on myself and need to be kinder to myself
- The need to always be doing something stems from childhood and having a strict dad
- I was caught up in the pressure of society and having to always be doing stuff
- I need to spend less time on my phone/social media
- If I stop checking in online I will get more shit done
- I can have fun whilst smashing out my goals and dreams
If you want more live journal entries please let me know - @soextra.__
Want to learn more about THE VIBE TRIBE, book a FREE call with me here
Find out more info about TVT here
This weeks episode is huge! Something i've been uncovering and will continue to uncover as it's something I resonate with heavy.
Seeking that external validation from the people around me when I really needed to self validate.
I share with you tools that have helped me overcome this!
Enjoy! and please let me know your thoughts on today's podcast episode by leaving a comment, rating and reviewing or messaging me on instagram @soextra.__
Secure your spot for my FREE So Extra & proud Masterclass here
Want to learn more about THE VIBE TRIBE, book a FREE call with me here
Find out more info about TVT here
On this week's podcast I share my story, from childhood to now.
I speak on...
Neglect and Abandonment
Negative Body Image
Emotional Eating
Being a hoodrat (lol)
Being a bully and fighting
Drinking at a young age
Being a So Extra queen hehe
Getting bullied for being a so extra queen
Being a Flight Attendant and getting fired
Seeking validation online
Moving to Melbourne
Depression, drinking, smoking, drugs
Toxic relationships, home and work environment
Starting a business
Getting a life coach and making a change in my life
Loving my body and myself
Becoming a coach and mentor
Please let me know your thoughts on today's podcast episode by leaving a comment, rating and reviewing or messaging me on instagram @soextra.__
Secure your spot for my FREE So Extra & proud Masterclass here
Want to learn more about THE VIBE TRIBE, book a FREE call with me here
Find out more info about TVT here
On this weeks podcast episode we talk HIERARCHY!
This is something I had to unlearn and realise that I needed to stop putting people on a pedestal, at the end of the day we are all people with and without the titles. The main points in this episode are…
I speak on my “don’t talk back ” childhood
It pays to explain things to children, not just “do this cos I said so”
Question everything and everyone
Just because they have a higher title than you doesn’t mean they are better
We need to learn how to have conversation without violence
Always speak up for what is right
Have your best interests at heart
Please let me know your thoughts on todays podcast episode by leaving a comment, rating and reviewing or messaging me on instagram @soextra.__
Want to learn more about THE VIBE TRIBE, book a FREE call with me here
Find out more info here
WOOOH i don't think you guys even understand how much of a honour and pleasure it is to have my life coach Erika TQOC on the podcast. Erika has helped me change my fricken life! I have to pay my respects and give her her flowers because the mahi/work she does in this world changed my life and is changing women's lives!!
We talk about her childhood, the key factors to her success, not giving a fuxk what other people think, money scarcity, her hardest lesson in life, what she is teaching her kids that she never got, military and modelling haha she honestly has the best stories and I got so many AHA moments from this podcast so you bet I will be listening back to it over and over again haha.
Thank you for listening!
Don't forget to rate and review and if you want to connect with me or Erika please see our details below...
Connect with Erika here
Connect with me here
This week's episode is like a flow on from last weeks, last week I talked about what I physically do to get out of bed cos i didn't want to get into my mindset but as I slowly start to feel better and more myself i've managed to get into the thought work. I share with you a journal entry that made me realise why I was feeling the way that I was feeling. Reminder to have more self compassion in these moments, remember who tf you are and all your past accomplishments, surround yourself with supportive people, focus on yourself and try not to compare yourself to others, journal/meditate and unpack and question those thoughts with the 4 q's by Byron Katie, I end with a loving pep talk hehe.
Thank you for listening!
Want to work with me? The Vibe Tribe is a safe space for Polynesian women and a reminder that it is okay to be "So Extra". It is time to show up to your life sis! Click here for more info
Do the bare minimum! This doesn't sound like the best advice but for me, in moments when I can't get out of bed this has been the best advice. It helps stop me from overwhelm in getting a million and one things done but instead to just take one step at a time. Something is better than nothing. I hope this episode helps you!
If you need mental health support please click the link below for your country:
AUSTRALIA - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support
NZ - https://mentalhealth.org.nz/helplines
USA - https://mhanational.org/im-looking-mental-health-help-myself
UK - https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/
FIJI - https://findahelpline.com/fj
BULGARIA - https://findahelpline.com/bg
INDIA - Call 1800-599-0019
FRANCE - https://findahelpline.com/fr
IRELAND - https://www.mentalhealthireland.ie/get-support/
JAPAN - https://findahelpline.com/jp
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You can join The Vibe Tribe here
I am back in Melbourne yal! I had the best holiday in Fiji and NZ and thought I would do an episode on all the lessons I learnt while I was away. This episode was like a little debrief on my holiday 🧡Connect with me on IG @soextra.__Want to join The Vibe Tribe? Click here
Want more confidence in your life? Listen to this!!!
On this week's episode I share with you the tips and tricks I use to be more confident!
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Awareness - what are you currently telling yourself? Drop the thoughts/self talk that doesn't help you!
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Choose to be confident!! Confidence is not something I always have but it is something I always choose to be!
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Become - What does "Confident (enter your name here)" look like, how does she act? BE HER!
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Practice - practice makes you better and builds that confidençe, practice being confident!
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Keep going - you got the momentum so keep going till it feels normal
Extra tip - give yourself pep talks like you do your fam and friends
Set small goals and keep your promises to yourself!
You got thissss!!!
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On today's episode I talk all things Flight Attending...
The interview process, pros and cons, my fav and least fav place and answer some of your questions.
Enjoy! And if you want more Flight Attending podcasts please DM me and let me know on IG @soextra.__
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No questions asked, no judgment passed! Haha IFYKYK!
On this weeks podcast I introduce a new segment, idk what it's called yet but I share with you a story to get you thinking.
I share the Zen story and talk about my takeaways...
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Nothing exists until we give it meaning
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We all have different perspectives that comes from the way we were raised, our environment, our conditioning, etc
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We've all had different experiences in the world and that's why we have different viewpoints and opinions
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It's not about the event, it's about what we make it mean
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Learning not to have judgment 'bad luck, good luck, who knows?'
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Have empathy, compassion and understanding for other people
I would love to hear what you got from this episode, tell me on IG @soextra.__
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Ever felt the most you, the most free, the most real when you're travelling? Hi5!! That was me! And that's now something I call 'The Travel Affect'.
When you're in another country and feel on top of the world and you don't care what anyone thinks of you! I was thinking about this today and thought back to when I realised this, it was when I was doing the work on myself and creating my alter ego with my life coach. She asked Who do you want to be, What does your alter ego dress like, show up in the world, etc. And I wrote out all the things and then thought about moments when I felt that way and realised it was only when I was travelling.
As time went on I learned how to be that person whether I was travelling or not. That took a lot of practice, a lot of choosing. I would step into a room and choose to be my alter ego, I would raise my hand in a room full of people and choose to be my alter ego and I did this until it became the norm and I didn't have to keep pretending to be her anymore cos that's just who I was.
If this is something you struggle with also and you want to change and become your fully expressed self, ask yourself "Who do you want to be? What does she wear? What does she stand for? What are her values?" and slowly become that person, choose to be her in rooms full of people. Practice being her until it becomes the norm!
Hope you love this ep as much as I do!
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This ep is so special cos I have the love of my life on the poddy hahaha with valentines coming up I thought it would be nice to sit down with my valentine Mets hehe. We answer questions yal asked us on instagram, talk about how we met, what we love about each other, a time when our relationship was at a low point and so much more.
Please enjoy this episode and apologies in advance for the audio, we had some tech issues.
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Omg I just found this episode in the archives haha. An oldie but whakarongo mai!
On this episode I talk about my lessons from High School, take it with a grain of salt haha...
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It's not that serious, school seems so full on but honestly I don't even use half of the stuff I was taught in high sch in my everyday life. Have fun and enjoy high sch! Go party! Hahahaha and be present in the moment cos I feel like it goes by so fast!
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Fighting isn't cool, I wish we got taught the power of communication in high school and instead of resorting to fighting we talk it out. Drop the ego!
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Friends, if you struggle to make friends don't worry - you don't need them haha learn to be okay with being alone.
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If you're not planning to be a doctor, lawyer, etc where you need schooling for your career I wouldn't even worry about staying in school.
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Don't change honey, keep being who you are and don't let anyone dim your light. Don't listen to the people who try to bring you down, fxck what they think!
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Your environment is so important, check the company you keep.
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Ooohweee this was such a good episode! I was so excited to have Lavi on the podcast, she's someone I found online and fell in love with her mahi as I related to her so much. We talk about so many important topics like sexual assault, body image, being a single mother and breaking the cycle.
I hope you get everything you need from this episode. It's also available on Youtube here if you want the visuals.
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Better late than never am I right? haha aroha mai fam!
On this week's episode I share something so special with you, "The Vibe Tribe" this is something I am so passionate about and so excited to share with you!
I started The Vibe Tribe after I struggled to see people like me, polynesian people, in these personal development spaces. Not only did I struggle to see people like me in these spaces, it was hard to even find a poly coach. I wanted this kind of space so bad so of course I had to create it!
TVT is a safe space for polynesian women who are committed to change and creating a life they're truly proud of. In this episode I cover what you will learn in TVT and all the FAQ's.
Work with me now and join the tribe click here sis
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To find out why I got fired click here
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Talk about some selfless souls, it was a honour to have both Lena and Agnes on the poddy, they're besties, youth workers and selfless turned selfish (in a good way lol) souls who are on such a beautiful journey in life. We talk about youth work, the differences between PI raised in Aus in comparison to NZ, a near death experience, church, fa'a samoa and so much more, I learned so much about church in this episode thank you Agnes haha.
You can connect with Agnes here and Elena here
Before you leave...
Check out The Vibe Tribe - A safe space for polynesian women who are committed to change and creating a life they're truly proud of. Doors are open now. Click here for more info
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HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! I'm so excited for all the amazinggg things we're about to achieve this year yal!!
This podcast ep is a practical one fam so grab your pen and paper and lessssgoooo!! Hehe.
What was your word for 2022?
What are you grateful for in 2022?
What accomplishments are you proud of in 2022?
What did you learn in 2022?
What can you improve on?
What habits do you want to start/stop?
What were your 2022 goals? Did you do what you set out to do?
What are your goals for 2023?
- Take the goals off that you just put on for "the fun of it"
- Be intentional with the goals you set out
- Use the SMART goals formula
Set them out into personal, biz, couples and family
What are you leaving in 2022?
What experiences do you wanna have in 2023?
What do you wanna learn in 2023?
Get a calendar and start planning it all out - Click here for the one I got from Kmart
Review your goals monthly and ask yourself these questions again, reassess and reevaluate.
Find someone to keep you accountable - your partner, bestfriend, mum, dad, etc
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Ahhh yal there's so much goodness in this episode with Fipe from Living Koko! Everytime I see her we have the most beautiful korero and she shares such cool, amazing and inspiring stories so I had to have her on. We speak about grief, choosing to not have kids, mocking in the island culture, business, trauma and so much more. If you love this episode as much as I do don't forget to tell us on IG and/or rate us!
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Merry Xmas yal! On this episode I talk about why I didn't celebrate Xmas growing up - listen to hear more about my experience. I also speak about my Xmas traditions now and how we all have options to choose what we want to do at this time of the year. If there's a Xmas tradition you grew up doing that you don't like, you have the option to change it. You don't have to do the same shxt you hate doing 'just because it's always been that way'. Stop doing things just because it's how society does it or how your family does it. Also reminder to question everything. If you love this episode please share it with someone you think will love it! Thanks for listening! Connect with me here
Omg what a huge pleasure to have the beautiful Oriana Plus Size from W A A A A A! Oriana is a stan for normalising bigger bodies, promoting body positivity and spreading plus size love.
She shares about her journey as a young child in a predominately white school knowing she was different and embracing it, her parents were so supportive and she gives huge props to them for allowing her to be herself which assisted her with her confidence and body positivity.
We speak on being part of the LGBTQIA+ community, staying true to yourself, taking breaks from social media and all about Samoa and the amazing achievements our poly people have accomplished.
If you want more Oriana Plus Size goodness check her out here
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Bruh, where do I even begin? Imposter syndrome hit me crazyyyy last month and I share with you a raw and real clip of me going through it.
Imposter syndrome is loosely defined as doubting your abilities and feeling like a fraud. That's how I was feeling - like a fraud!
I was questioning everything "is my life really as good as I say it is?" but once I shared with my safe spaces I felt comfort in knowing I wasn't the only one who felt these feels and as my coach says "this is the uplevel" New level, new devil am i right? Lol.
I share with you some things that helped me get through it...
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Feel the feels, get quiet, cry, laugh, do what you gotta do.
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Share with someone you trust/ your safe spaces.
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Journal - get your thoughts out of your head and onto paper. This helps clear your mind and gain more awareness of what's going on in your head.
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Question your thoughts "Is it true that i'm a fraud?" (Check out Byron Katie for the 4 q's if you wanna go deeper)
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Remember you deserve the life of your dreams!!!
I hope you love this episode as much as I do!!
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Lashfix is in the buildingggg!! I am so honoured to have my good friends Ama and Venna join me on the podcast! And baby Malachi the cutie makes his appearance too! Hehe.
Ama and Venna are the owners of Lashfix, they are polynesian sisters navigating their way through the business world.
Lashfix started in 2014 and Venna shares her journey of how she started, shortly after Ama joined her in what Ama thought was the 'CEO of marketing' position hahaha. (you'll have to listen to get the joke) haha but Ama shares her beautiful story on how she studied marketing to get closer to her sister Venna.
We speak about biz, motherhood, experiencing self doubt, their biggest lessons in life and money management. There's soooo much goodness in here so enjoy!!
Please also bear with us as the sound quality chops and changes as your girl is still learningggg how to podcast and had some mishaps with the audio.
Enjoy and let me know your thoughts here
If you want to connect with the Lashfix sisters their instagram is here you can also check out their website here
Do you want to start a business? In this episode I talk about my business lessons. Something I am so passionate about. Here are my top tips that you probably aren't expecting lol.
- Work on your mindset - read books, podcasts, get a mentor/coach, etc
The difference between Leesh who started So Extra in 2018 to the Leesh who made So Extra her full time income was the difference in me working on my mindset. Working on my self doubt, comparison, caring what other people think, money scarcity/trauma, feeling like i'm not good enough, etc.
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Content is KING! Marketing is everything and so so important. Something I didn't know till I started, get on your social media and start making that content! If you need content ideas message me cos i'd love to help you!
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Stay consistent! Show up consistently. Think about the 'Know, Like and Trust' factor.
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Be intentional - why are you starting your business? Business is a marathon! Make sure you are starting your business for the right reason. Get your business plan down - what's your vision, mission, values, target market/audience.
Thank you for listening! If you feel called to please share with someone you know might love this episode. I would also love to hear any feedback and connect with you here
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We have Gabby Goodman on the podcast yal! I found Gabby on Tik Tok and absolutely fell in love with her online presence.
We speak about her self love journey and what self love means to her, Quote 'Self love is being self aware' she shares about how she was bullied about her weight and what she learnt from that time in her life. We cover her relationship with food and bond over how much we love food hahaha.
Her confidence is something I absolutely adore and she so kindly shared with us some of her tips to creating confidence...
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Speak it into existence "you are beautiful, you are sexy, you are confident"
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Surround yourself with the right people - your vibe attracts your tribe
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Try new things, do things alone, become your bestie
Her biggest lesson in life is "People are important" if it wasn't for people we wouldn't have social media, connections, lessons, etc. You do something for one person and they do something for someone else and it's just a butterfly effect, we can change a whole nation. People and community are important.
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I'm the biggest i've ever been in my life and I am the most confident!!
Body acceptance is something i've struggled with my whole life and today I speak on my journey, I've always been trying to lose weight and had the thought that 'once i get to x amount of kgs i'll be happier' but i've come to realise that it has nothing to do with the weight.
I've been 80kgs and I still had the same problem, I wasn't small enough, I still wasn't happy. It was never about the weight. It goes back to mindset, what you choose to think about yourself, what you think everyday and going back to where this initial thought came from. For me it was being called fat when I was little and comparing myself to other kids and clearly being chubbier.
Also, my body wasn't represented in the world so I was always trying to chase what 'society' labelled 'beautiful'.
If you struggle with this please go watch Lizzo's Watch out for the big girls and start working on your mindset queen!
You're beautiful honey!
I also cover the 5 main things I learnt at the retreat I attended in June...
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I was always looking for outside validation and I realised 'Leesh you just need to validate yourself!'
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Body Acceptance - It's not about the weight! Build a relationship with your body - become best friends.
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Anger and resentment I had towards my parents - feeling neglected and learning to let go.
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Numbing out on social media, tv, drinking, smoking, partying, etc - be ok with being still.
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Who are you and why are you here? I am more than the labels. Figuring out my mission in life with TVT.
Thank you so much for listening!!!
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Wanna work with me? The Vibe Tribe doors open 5th January 2023!!! The Vibe Tribe is a safe space for like minded women who are committed to change and creating a life they're truly proud of! See more info here
Today I had the honour in sitting down with the amazing Alaina Key from Make It Pretty.
Alaina was one of the first polynesian women I found in biz that I looked up to so it was so perfect that she was my first guest.
We talk about how her biz came about, what key factors led to her success and she gave us tips for businesses who want to grow their following - get onto those instagram reels fam!
We also spoke about the effects covid had on her livelihood, biz and mental well being, her decision to move back home to NZ and how sad it is that when some poly's move from NZ to Aus they have a negative outlook on NZ.
We also close with her biggest lesson in life which was to evaluate your life - your priorities and values and see if your life aligns with it and then be brave enough to make the changes.
I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did and don't forget to rate and review xx
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You guys!!!! WTH this is my first podcast episode!!! Eeeeek!!
Thank you for being here and WELCOME to 'Life Lessons with Leesh'
This is a safe space where me and my guests can talk about our lessons which sometimes comes with pain/trauma and we talk about how that turned into power/triumph. I hope it gives you something to think about, inspires you, educates you on different topics and situations people go through and I also hope we have a little bit of fun!!
In this episode I talk about the lessons I learnt from getting fired from my dream job...
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Don't rely solely on someone else for your income/You need to have multiple sources of income
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Trust your gut
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Honesty is the best policy
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Choose your friends wisely
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Your job doesn't define you and determine your "success"
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Success to me is happiness
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You have some many options and choices in life
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Everything happens for a reason
All in all, getting fired was a blessing in disguise.
Thank you for listening xox
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