Unshakeable Marriage: Recent Episodes
Oliphant & Cretia Mtsweni
Welcome to the Unshakeable Marriage Podcast hosted by Oliphant and Cretia Mtsweni. The podcast aims to equip couples with the requisite knowledge, tools, and skills to build and enjoy an unshakeable marriage. We have real conversations and present practical, time-tested, and biblical insights that will take your relationship to the next level. Each episode highlights key areas where your marriage could use improvement. So, join us every week on this journey and watch your marriage grow!
Mxolisi and Bonisile Vilakazi are founding leaders of Hope Life Church in Volkrust, South Africa. In this episode, they share about the joyful times in their marriage, family and ministry.
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It can be difficult to navigate the dating process, no matter who you are. But dating doesn't have to be rocket science, and neither should it be complex. This episode explores some relationship advice for young adults to consider before and during their dating process.
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God has designed a master pattern for husbands and wives that, when followed, will create a whole, fulfilling, and unshakeable marriage. We must work out our marriages according to His plan. The key is for each one to follow God’s plan and work together. This episode explores the role that the wife can play to honour the husband and bring glory to God.
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There are many ways to ease the stressful times experienced when raising a family, but one of the most important ways to manage a household is the introduction of structure. Structure in the home is created by consistent routines and rules. The key to keeping kids safe and parents sane is structure in the home. Creating a home life that values structure leads to more freedom for everyone, not less. Though structure may vary from family to family, everyone needs it at every phase of life. This episode explores how best to design systems in the home to the benefit of everyone.
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The husband’s responsibilities are huge but not burdensome. They will require constant dependence on Christ, constant reflection on biblical and gospel truth, and a willingness to walk in humility. But what they lead to is freedom, enjoyment, and a life that is protected from the constant pressures of the world. This episode explores the roles of loving, learning and leading.
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Spending time together is important for a strong and growing marriage. It affords a couple the opportunity to communicate well with each other. Quality time spent together helps a couple to express love and affection with undivided attention. When it comes to quality time, it's not about the amount of time you spend together but instead the quality of your interactions that count. And with so much going on in your life, carving out a few minutes for a meaningful and uninterrupted conversation can be a wonderful way to show the person you love that you really care.
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Sacrificial Love is the covenantal commitment to self-sacrifice in small and large ways for the total well-being of your spouse. It is loving your spouse selflessly, unconditionally and without keeping score. It doesn’t matter how your spouse responds. In this episode, Oliphant and Cretia explore practical ways to practice Sacrificial Love.
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A home is a place of relation, enjoyment, and character building. The home is the training ground for children for life and faith, and where they are given a worldview that acknowledges God. Developing a godly home can be very difficult in our day, but with the help and counsel, it is possible. This episode explores ways to develop a godly atmosphere in the home.
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It’s not always easy to keep the peace with your in-laws, but it is possible. Although it can be difficult to find the right balance between “honouring my parents” and “honouring my spouse,” there are some practical ways to make it work. This episode explores some important issues to address so that you can better honour your in-laws.
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This episode explores some important facts to understand about conflict in marriage and effective ways to handle it. Conflict is the common denominator of all human interactions. Conflict is a marital reality where there is disharmony. It emerges when couples compete over perceived or actual goals, values, or interests. It occurs when couples confront each other with opposing actions and counteractions. It is an indicator that something is changing, has changed, or needs to change.
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When couples come together to "blend" or create stepfamilies, things rarely progress smoothly. Some children may resist changes, while parents can become frustrated when the new family doesn't function like their previous family. Changes to family structure require adjustment time for everyone involved. In this episode, we help blended families work out their growing pains and live together successfully.
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Marriage is a promise of love, companionship, respect, and friendship. But if we are not careful, we may forget to give our spouses the appreciation they deserve. The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated. Appreciation is the binding factor of every successful relationship. A successful marriage is a product of a lot of positive things happening at the same time, and showing appreciation is one of the most important. A spouse who feels appreciated and valued is likely to engage in more physical intimacy and communicate even more. When there is a prevailing atmosphere of praise, the marriage grows.
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Forgiveness is an essential component of successful romantic relationships. In fact, the capacity to seek and grant forgiveness is one of the most significant factors contributing to marital satisfaction and a lifetime of love. Forgiving yourself and others is about being willing to acknowledge that you are capable of being wounded. Nothing destroys a relationship faster than lack of forgiveness. If one person is holding onto a hurt or wrong, then it impacts the relationship on every level. Forgiveness can make a relationship even stronger. When you forgive someone for hurting you, it shows you care more about that person and your relationship than getting what you deserve. It shows that you recognize the person is more than just the wrong they did. A relationship based on forgiveness and grace is much stronger than one based on being right and getting what you deserve.
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Parenting is one of the toughest and yet one of the most enjoyable roles you will be offered in this life. It is definitely not easy and if you are a new parent, and you want to raise your children without raising your blood pressure, we’ve got some help for you. We present the 5 pillars of parenting that will help you get a good grasp on this complex but incredibly beautiful role. These 5 pillars of parenting will help you become a better parent who is more attuned to the needs of your children. Start practicing them from today to reap the best results.
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Marriage counselling is not just for couples with extreme problems, conflicts, or issues. There are times when even the healthiest and happiest of us need a little assistance to navigate through life. It is completely expected and normal to experience challenges and difficulties in your relationship, but once they seem unscalable, marriage counselling/coaching can help. Marriage counselling/coaching is designed to help partners recognize and resolve any form of conflict or challenges that may weigh on their relationship. Marriage counselling is well suited to couples from all walks of life, as it does not recognize limitations. From cultural conflicts to racial and economic concerns, nothing is too controversial that it cannot be discussed, and no problem is so immense that it cannot be resolved.
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Communication is how all relationships are started, how they are maintained, and how they grow. Good communication is the key to a happy, healthy, and growing relationship. Nobody's born a natural communicator, but everyone can learn how to. In a sense, marriage communication is like riding a bike, it takes time, intentionality and a few bruises to master it. Learn the ingredients of constructive communication.
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The foundation of a good marriage is love and respect. Men and women are wired differently and thus have differing needs. While we all need love and respect, men and women each distinctively need more of one than the other. Women by nature want to know that their husbands love and adore them. Men by nature desire to know that their wives respect and honor them. And while we each need to give and receive both love and respect, expressing love is an essential focus for a husband, and demonstrating respect is a necessary focus for a wife. Failing to understand the importance of these essentials can leave a couple frustrated and unhappy. When both partners even attempt to meet these needs, the marriage has an opportunity to flourish.
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Ours is a journey of 22 years, 20 of which have been spent in marriage. In this episode, we briefly discuss when we met, how we met and when our journey began. An unshakeable friendship has produced an unshakeable marriage.
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Welcome to the Unshakeable Marriage Podcast hosted by Oliphant and Cretia Mtsweni. The podcast aims to equip couples with the requisite knowledge, tools, and skills to build and enjoy an unshakeable marriage. We have real conversations and present practical, time-tested, and biblical insights that will take your relationship to the next level. Each episode highlights key areas where your marriage could use improvement.
So, join us every week on this journey and watch your marriage grow!