Codependency Recovery: Recent Episodes
Counsellor A.J. Mahari
Codependency Recovery - Inner child & shadow integration healing with Counsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach A.J. Mahari who has 30 years of experience working with clients to help them through this process of healing and self-integration to become independent individuals.
Enmeshed in a BPD Relationship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles
Are you enmeshed in a BPD relationship? Why can’t you let go—even when it’s hurting you? This Codependency Inside Out, surviving cluster B episode explores the 5 trauma-rooted codependent hooks that keep you psychologically and emotionally enmeshed, fueling the cycles, in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.
From rescuing and self-abandonment to enmeshment and fantasy bonding, you’ll learn how these unconscious patterns pull you deeper into the storm—and how to finally begin breaking free.
You’ll Learn:
– What enmeshment really is and why it feels like love
– How your nervous system mistakes chaos for connection
– Why self-erasure becomes a survival strategy– How to reclaim your identity and rebuild your boundaries
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7 'Codependency Doesn't Exist' Myths Debunked
7 'Codependency doesn't exist' myths - from “It’s not in the DSM” to “It’s just empathy,” these claims are doing real harm—especially to those trying to recover from relational trauma and emotional enmeshment.
If you've ever felt dismissed, invalidated, or confused by the growing trend of codependency denial, this episode is your grounding truth. Whether you're on your healing journey or supporting someone who is, this is the clarity you’ve been waiting for.In this episode, I dismantle the 7 most common myths used to deny the reality of codependency and used to falsely claim that Codependency doesn't exist or have any known patterns and even less formal clinical ties to what it actually is and means and how Codependency needs to be treated in recovery.
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The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Are Stuck
The BPD Fantasy of who you thought they were and then that loss, over and over again, is why Codependents are stuck in the Fantasy and Trauma Bond abandoning self not knowing how to face your own multi-layered pain now. The idea of letting go feels like an imminent ending to who you used to be, who you have lost in the BPD relationship that was a BPD Fantasy.
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The Lost Self: Childhood Roots of Codependency
The lost self - childhood roots of Codependency. The lost self in Codependency is not as profound or complete of a lost self as it is in Borderline Personality Disorder. To a lessor degree this is a partial over-lap with BPD but not enough to mean you have BPD. Codependency has its roots in childhood. It is what turns out to be in adulthood, a maladaptive reality that was adaptive and help you to survive adverse experience or trauma in your childhood.
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Is Codependency Really an Addiction?
An often asked, and I think, an often misunderstood question where Codependency is concerned. My answer in this podcast to "Is Codependency Really an addiction" with my 35 years experience working with clients in Codependency recovery is, "yes" and "no" and I think that this approach gives my clients the best of "both" possible asserted "understandings" of Codependency.
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Struggling to Know Self Through a BPD Partner
Codependency presents the struggle to know "self" through a BPD Partner and/or Ex. This is the Codependent part of the Trauma Bond. People with Codependency are repeating their own childhood woundedness, often unconsciously, in these toxic relationships. It just isn't all about the person with Borderline Personality. You need to become more consciously aware of your own choices and get into therapy to break the trauma bond and stop abandoning yourself.
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Two Codependents in Relationship After Previous Cluster B Relationships & Counter-Dependency
A Youtube commenter asked can you be Codependent in a relationship with a partner with Codependency and both manifest codependency more as counter-dependency when each person in the relationship has had a previous Cluster B relationship?
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Codependency Painful Emotional Dangers Rooted In Family Systems Re-Enacted In Adult Relationships
People with Codependency, more often than not, re-enact core childhood woundness from Family Sytems in Family of Origin in adulthood with people with BPD or NPD especially in significant other relationships. You need to focus on you now and your patterns and what you need to heal not continue to focus on a Borderline or a Narcissist and recycling relationship breakups with them which is only you repeating your multi-layered trauma and increasing your pain and loss of self.
Codependency has its roots in a childhood trauma response to varying degrees for people who have Codependency. People cannot heal from Codependency and/or the trauma bonded relationships with CLuster B's without a trauma-based and trauma informed healing and recovery process working with ana expert in this area.
The Codependent's Anonymous 12 Step program or other 12 step programs are not designed for the depthy of the process to heal your codependency. The 12 step groups are not the way to go and certainly not something to choose instead of working with an expert in your reccovery process.
Codependency 12 Core Signs that inidcate codependency and understanding the
dysfuncional relational patterns of Codependency that have their causation in
childhood woundedness.
Codependency is Rooted in Childhood - It's Not Your Fault - Why you have Codependency is not your fault because nothing is ever a child's fault. It is your responsibility now to get into therapy to heal and recover and find and know yourself in an independent way for the first time in your life.
AJ Mahari outlines several key core challenges in Codependency that are must know. How codependents are thinking, feeling, behaving and why. Must know info that doesn't even yet get into the traits of codependency.
Codependency Overview - Codependency is complicated due to its definition being left in a limbo place of confusion says A.J. Mahari Codependence is it a personality disorder or not and why is it, in some circles being more pathologized? Will this hurt or help more people to learn about their own codependency?
Codependency a Personality Disorder? When "Love" Wounds The Enabler - An examination of how a psychiatrist in the mid-1980's proposed Codependent Personality Disorder to the DSM 3 working group - why it wasn't included in the DSM, still has not been and what does that mean for how to define and understand Codependency. It has outdated definitions as well. AJ Mahari talks about how Codependency is a painful mental health challenge.
Does it need to be pathologized to be better understood? Does Codependency need a more across the board definition and understanding to effectively help people identify with it to be able to heal?
Episode 1 of the Codependency Recovery Podcast, with your host A.J. Mahari, delves into the history, controversy, and trauma recovery lens of Codependency. With 30 years experience working with clients in their codependency recovery Counsellor and Trauma Recovery Coach A.J. Mahari has her own experience and methodology of helping you heal and recover.