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What if your “little food problem” — the restriction, bingeing, or rigid food rules — is actually your nervous system trying to survive?
In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by Marnie Davis, LMHC, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist and Consultant, Certified EMDR Therapist, EMDRIA-Approved Consultant, and HAES®-aligned clinician.
Together, we explore the hidden link between people pleasing, trauma, neurodivergence, and eating disorders — and why so many women, clinicians, and families completely miss what’s really happening beneath the surface.
This is a compassionate, non-shaming, neurodivergent-affirming episode that reframes eating disorders from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What happened to me, and how did my system try to keep me alive?”
⚠️ Content Note: We discuss eating disorders, body image, trauma, dissociation, and co-occurring mental health struggles. Please listen with care and take breaks as needed.
✨ In This Episode, We Explore:
- How, from a trauma lens, eating disorders are maladaptive coping strategies that once made sense to your system
- The impact of attachment injuries, perfectionism, and people-pleasing on food, body image, and control
- Why eating disorders are not about vanity or willpower, but about safety, power, and relief from overwhelming sensations and emotions
- The role of culture, family rules, and “finish your plate” messages in shaping food beliefs
- How neurodivergent brains (ADHD, autism, sensory sensitivities) can be especially vulnerable to disordered eating
- Why one person dies every hour from an eating disorder and why a comprehensive medical + therapeutic team is crucial
- What healing can look like: becoming more self-led, value-driven, and authentically you
👤 Connect with Our Guest: Marnie Davis, LMHC, CEDS
Website:
🔗 www.MarnieDavisLMHC.com
Email:
📩 Marnie@MarnieDavisLMHC.com
LinkedIn:
🔗 https://www.linkedin.com/in/marnie-davis-lmhc-ceds-c-33187b45/Instagram:
🔗 @marniedavislmhcFacebook:
🔗 MarnieDavisLMHC
🔗 Davis Counseling and Consulting
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💌 If This Episode Spoke To You…
- Share it with a friend, client, or loved one who struggles with food, people pleasing, or feeling “never enough.”
- Subscribe so you don’t miss future conversations on people pleasing, boundaries, trauma, neurodivergence, and empowered living.
- Take a quiet moment after listening to ask yourself:
“If my eating, my people-pleasing, and my burnout are all parts of me trying to keep me safe… what would it look like to meet them with kindness instead of shame?”
You’re not broken. You’re a system that learned how to survive. 🩷
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Why are so many women struggling with reflux, IBS, bloating, and chronic stomach pain—despite changing diets, taking supplements, and doing “all the right things”?
In this powerful episode, Dr. Scott Rower, PhD—clinical psychologist and founder of Rest and Digest—joins Anita Sandoval LPC-S to reveal the real root cause of women’s gut issues: the gut–brain connection and the hidden impact of chronic stress, overgiving, and people-pleasing.
If you’ve ever wondered why your symptoms flare during stress, why tests come back “normal,” or why your digestion falls apart during burnout… this conversation may completely change the way you see your body.
💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
- Why women are more likely to develop gut problems—especially people-pleasers
- How the sympathetic nervous system shuts down digestion (and what to do about it)
- The difference between functional GI disorders and organic diseases
- The “stress bucket” model and why your symptoms flare on overload
- What GI psychology is—and why most people have never heard of it
- The 3 pillars of digestive healing (medical, diet, and gut-brain regulation)
- Why guilt, perfectionism, and emotional suppression fuel gut symptoms
- How to begin down-regulating your nervous system so your gut can finally heal
🌿 Connect With Dr. Scott Rower
Explore his free resources and gut-brain healing tools:
🔗 Website: www.restanddigest.org
🔗 Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/RestAndDigest
🔗 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RestAndDigestGuide
🔥 Key Moments:
- 00:04:00 — The three pillars of gut healing
- 00:07:00 — Why slowing down feels unsafe to people-pleasers
- 00:14:00 — Sympathetic overdrive and digestive shutdown
- 00:17:00 — The stress-bucket overflow and gut responders
- 00:23:00 — What “disorders of gut–brain interaction” really are
- 00:33:00 — Polyvagal theory and why safety matters for digestion
- 00:39:00 — The truth about resentment, guilt, and chronic symptoms
✨ If You’re a Woman Healing From People-Pleasing…
This episode is for you. Awareness is the first step toward reclaiming your health, your boundaries, and your peace.
✨ Work With Anita & Begin Healing People-Pleasing
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STOP HEALING WRONG: Why Mindfulness, Not Hustle, Ends Toxic Cycles with Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat
If you’ve been trying to heal by doing more—reading more, achieving more, fixing more—this episode will feel like a breath of truth.
Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat, Registered Psychologist, Certified Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Teacher, and Founder of the Center for Mindfulness Canada, joins Anita Sandoval to unravel one of the biggest misconceptions in healing: you can’t hustle your way out of pain.
Together they explore how mindfulness invites you to slow down, reconnect to your body, and end the toxic cycles of people-pleasing, burnout, and emotional self-abandonment.
🪞 In This Episode You’ll Learn:
📍 Why “doing more” can actually deepen emotional burnout
📍 How mindfulness helps you notice when old people-pleasing patterns return
📍 The power of non-judgmental awareness and self-compassion
📍 Why curiosity is a superpower in your healing journey
📍 How to tell when you’re safe to trust again after trauma
📍 Practical tools to ground yourself when emotions feel overwhelming
🧘♂️ Connect With Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat:
🌐 Website → centreformindfulness.ca
🌐 Personal Site → drkasimalmashat.com
📱 Instagram → @dr.kasimalmashat
✨ Ready to take the next step?
Join the EmpowerHer Women’s Community for exclusive support, mindfulness resources, and connection:
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🌿 Coming Soon: The 12-Step People Pleasing Recovery Program — designed for women who are done fixing everyone else and are ready to reclaim their power.
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Start with the 5-Day Relief Program — your gentle reintroduction to calm, clarity, and confidence.
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Now That the Mask Is Off: Navigating Love, Boundaries & Burnout as Neurodivergent Adults (Part 2 w/ Eric Tivers)
What if taking the mask off isn’t the end—but the beginning of finding love, belonging, and peace as your authentic self?
In Part Two of my conversation with Eric Tivers—Licensed Clinical Social Worker, ADHD coach, and host of ADHD ReWired—we explore what life looks like once you stop people-pleasing and start living unmasked.
Eric shares the truth about:
✨ The difference between fitting in and belonging
⚡ Why consistency isn’t the goal—resilience is
💗 How community and accountability help ADHD adults thrive
🌿 The power of being loved because of who you are, not despite it
If you missed Part 1, start there first: listen in:
Unmasking the People Pleaser: How ADHD and AuDHD Shape Relationship StrugglesOr watch with the amazing visual for my neurodivergent community:
Video: Unmasking the People Pleaser
That’s where we unpack how masking begins and how unmasking starts the journey toward authentic living.
Then come back for Part 2 to learn how to build healthier relationships, find your people, and protect your peace.
💡 Key Takeaways:
1️⃣ Fitting in disconnects you—belonging heals you.
2️⃣ ADHD growth = resilience, not perfection.
3️⃣ Accountability and safe community create lasting change.
🔔 ⏰ Time-Sensitive Announcements:
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If you’ve been waiting to join a supportive ADHD community that helps you stay consistent, connected, and confident—this is your moment.
👉 Apply before registration closes: https://www.adhdrewired.com
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Unmasking the People Pleaser: How ADHD and AuDHD Shape Relationship Struggles
with Eric Tivers, LCSW – Founder of ADHD reWired
What if your people-pleasing isn’t weakness—what if it’s masking?
In this deeply honest and eye-opening episode of Empowering Women in Conversations, host Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, is joined by Eric Tivers, LCSW and founder of ADHD reWired, to explore the powerful intersection of neurodivergence and relational patterns—especially in women who are recovering people pleasers.
We explore:
- What is AuDHD and how it shows up differently in women
- Why ADHD and Autism are often missed or misdiagnosed
- The emotional and relational toll of masking and people-pleasing
- Real stories of late diagnosis, sensory overload, and emotional burnout
- The difference between kindness and character, and how masking can impact intimacy, boundaries, and belonging
- How ADHD reWired’s Adult Study Hall and coaching groups help bridge the gap between intention and action
You’ll hear vulnerable stories, laugh-out-loud moments, and radical truth-telling that will make you feel seen, validated, and empowered.
Whether you’re neurodivergent, wondering if you might be, or supporting someone who is—this conversation will open your eyes and soften your heart.
✨ Want visuals with the audio?
📺 Watch this full episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/4MTkgHpqAoI
🔗 Links & Resources
🎧 Connect with Eric Tivers:
🌐 Website: https://www.adhdrewired.com
🎙️ Podcast: ADHD reWired on Apple
💻 Adult Study Hall Virtual Co-Working: https://www.adhdrewired.com/studyhall
🧠 Coaching Groups: https://www.adhdrewired.com/coaching-rewired
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What if the very things you’ve been told are weaknesses… were actually the reasons different brains win in business and life?
This 13-minute After Show episode goes deeper into the gifts of neurodivergent brains. Christine Molina, LCSW, and I explore how ADHDers and Autistic individuals bring innovation, structure, creativity, and resilience to business and everyday life.
What we cover:
- ADHD as a visionary, risk-taking, people-focused brain
- Autism as a precision, system-building, detail-driven brain
- The unique blend of AUDHD and how it balances both gifts and struggles
- Why companies, communities, and families need different brains to thrive
- 🌟 The “double gift” of AUDHD — big-picture vision + detail mastery
- 🧠 How to embrace your own strengths instead of fighting your wiring
This After Show is just for you — because the more we talk about these differences, the more we normalize them as strengths.
✨ Want visuals with the audio?
📺 Watch this full episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/TT8cdXWuhyU
✨ Takeaway: You’re not broken. Your brain may be wired differently — but that wiring holds the very gifts that create progress, efficiency, and change.
🎧 Main Episode: Fixing What Isn’t Broken with Christine Molina
🌐 Connect with Christine Molina:
- Website: christinemolinacounseling.com
- Resources: christinemolinacounseling.com/resources
- ADHD Counseling: christinemolinacounseling.com/adhd-counseling
- FAQ: christinemolinacounseling.com/commonly-asked-questions
- LinkedIn: Christine Molina, LCSW
🌐 Connect with Anita Sandoval:
Website: www.anitasandoval.com
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Instagram: @anita_sandoval
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🌟 Free Masterclass: 5 Days to Start Saying No: The First Step from People-Pleaser to Empowered
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Fixing What Isn’t Broken: People Pleasing, ADHD, Autism, and the Gift of Difference with Christine Molina, LCSW
Have you ever felt like you’re broken because you struggle with people pleasing, ADHD, or Autism? In this powerful episode of Empowering Women in Conversations, Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, sits down with Christine Molina, LCSW, EMDRIA-Approved Consultant, trainer, and neurodiversity advocate, to challenge the medical model myths and reframe how we see our brains.
Christine shares:
- 🔎 Why ADHD and Autism aren’t “disorders to fix” but unique wiring that holds incredible gifts.
- 💡 How people pleasing often develops as a survival response — and how to unlearn it.
- 🧠 Why understanding your brain is the first step to healing shame, trauma, and negative self-beliefs.
- 💪 The strengths neurodivergent partners bring into relationships — and why every brain has value.
My takeaway from this conversation:
Neurodivergence is not a flaw — it’s a gift. It’s like speaking a different language or coming from a different culture. Once we stop trying to “translate” everyone into the same way of thinking, we can embrace the richness of those differences. Every brain brings its own wisdom, its own rhythm, and its own strengths. The real empowerment comes from seeing those differences not as barriers, but as bridges to understanding and connection.
✨ Want visuals with the audio?
📺 Watch this full episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/CdVBXYAukeA
This conversation will change the way you see yourself. You’re not broken—you’re becoming.
🌐 Connect with Christine Molina:
- Website: christinemolinacounseling.com
- Resources: christinemolinacounseling.com/resources
- ADHD Counseling: christinemolinacounseling.com/adhd-counseling
- FAQ: christinemolinacounseling.com/commonly-asked-questions
- LinkedIn: Christine Molina, LCSW
🌐 Connect with Anita Sandoval:
Website: www.anitasandoval.com
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Ready to stop people pleasing and step into your power? Join Anita’s free masterclass: 5 Days to Start Saying No
👉 Continue your journey: Watch the last episode — Running on Empty: How to Reclaim Your Energy and Stop People Pleasing
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The Lie of Self-Sacrifice: Why Women Are Taught to Burn Out
Are you constantly giving but still feel empty at the end of the day? You're not alone—and it’s not your fault.
In this powerful episode, Anita Sandoval sits down with Cara-Michele Nether, Licensed Acupuncturist and founder of Strength & Vitality Wellness, to uncover the deeper reasons women are running on empty. Together, they explore the intersection of people-pleasing, burnout, and generational programming that teaches women to sacrifice their energy in order to belong.
You’ll learn:
- Why self-care is more than spa days—it’s your survival strategy.
- How people-pleasing is hardwired into the nervous system.
- What happens when women choose themselves, and how to deal with the backlash.
- How to start reclaiming your energy with just 5 minutes a day.
- The truth about creating momentum, not perfection.
This episode is your reminder that you deserve to feel good, and you don’t need permission to prioritize your well-being.
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Limited spots available. Get the tools to start breaking the cycle in just 5 days.
🔗 Connect with Cara-Michele Nether:
🌐 Website: strengthvitalitywellness.com
📘 Facebook: @strengthvitalitywellness
📸 Instagram: @strengthvitalitywellness
🔗 LinkedIn: Strength & Vitality Wellness Center
📚 Book: Fuel Your Engines → Available on Amazon
💖 Connect with Host Anita Sandoval:
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📸 Instagram: @anitasandoval_lpc
📘 Facebook: @anitasandovallpc
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Part 3: Beyond People Pleasing – Building a Conscious Relationship That Heals and Grows
with Shane & Wendy Adamson
💬 Episode Summary:
In the final installment of our 3-part People Pleasing Recovery Series, we welcome back Shane and Wendy Adamson — a couple who nearly walked away from their marriage, but chose healing, growth, and conscious love instead.
Wendy, a former people pleaser and daughter of a narcissist, and Shane, a seasoned therapist with over 30 years of experience, open up about the real work behind a thriving relationship. From boundary-setting and self-advocacy to the little daily rituals that build emotional intimacy (hello, Two-Minute Miracle 💞), they share the tools that helped transform their connection from codependent to interdependent.
We talk about:
- How trauma and ADHD impact relationships — and how to navigate them with compassion
- What it really takes to support your partner’s empowerment (even when it feels scary)
- How to respond when guilt and emotional manipulation show up
- The drama triangle — and how to step into maturity and healing love
- Why evolving as individuals strengthens the team, not weakens it
- Creating safe space to grow separately and together
If you've ever felt lost in a relationship or afraid that growing into your authentic self would threaten your connection… this conversation is your reminder:
✨ Love can grow deeper as you become more of yourself.
🔗 Connect with Shane & Wendy Adamson:
- Wendy Adamson Portraits
- Center for Marriage and Family – Shane Adamson
- Find out more about the Finding Peace Retreat & Hold Me Tight Couples Workshops
🛑 This is Part 3 of the People Pleasing Recovery Series
🎧 Haven’t listened to Part 1 and 2 yet? Start here:
- [Part 1: From People Pleaser to Empowered Woman – Wendy’s Story]
- [Part 2: Rewriting the Narrative – The Healing Journey Within the Relationship]
🔥 CTA (Call to Action):
If this episode moved you, share it with a friend who’s learning to let go of people pleasing and step into empowered love.
📲 Stay connected:
- Subscribe to the podcast
- Leave a review on Apple or Spotify — it helps more women find these healing conversations
- Join our EmpowerHer Community at www.anitasandoval.com for tools, retreats, and resources to support your journey
✨ Stay grounded. Stay growing. And keep having the conversations that set you free.
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From People Pleaser to Empowered Woman: Wendy’s Story of Healing & Growth
Series: Empowered & Unfiltered (Part 2 of 3)
Guest: Wendy Adamson | Luxury Portrait Photographer & Empowerment Advocate
Episode Description:
What happens when a daughter finally says, “I won’t sacrifice myself for your love anymore”?
In this raw and powerful conversation, Wendy Adamson opens up about growing up under the control of a narcissistic mother—and what it took to finally break free. From being groomed to take over a family foundation to being emotionally cut off and financially abandoned, Wendy’s story is one of reclamation, creativity, and courage.
We explore the cost of generational people-pleasing, how trauma warps identity, and the deep healing required to live life on your own terms. Today, Wendy empowers women 45+ to see their true beauty through luxury portraiture—and helps them reconnect with their authentic selves.
✨ Topics we explore:
- What it’s like growing up with a narcissistic parent
- Financial control, golden handcuffs & emotional manipulation
- Reclaiming identity after decades of people-pleasing
- Healing through creativity, portraiture, and self-worth
- Inner child work, boundaries, and becoming your own nurturer
🛑 If you've ever felt trapped by guilt, stuck in silence, or unsure who you are without others’ approval—this episode is for you.
🎧 Listen to Part 1 with Wendy’s husband, therapist Shane Adamson, and stay tuned for Part 3 as they return together to share their healing journey as a couple.
🌿 Ready to take the first step from people pleaser to empowered?
Join my free community + sign up to be notified about my next live masterclass:
👉 5 Days to Start Saying No: The First Step from People Pleaser to Empowered
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🔗 Connect with Wendy:
Website: https://www.wendyadamsonportrait.com
Instagram: @wendyadamsonphotography
📌 Binge-worthy episodes to listen before or after this one:
- People Pleasing & Appeasing – Part 1: Why We Do It
- Setting Loving Limits Without Guilt – Part 3
- Unmasking Manipulators & Becoming a Woman Empowered
- Breaking Free from People Pleasing During the Holidays
- The 12 Steps to Reclaim Your Power and Stop People Pleasing
📲 Follow, subscribe, and share this episode if it speaks to your heart—and remember:
You were never meant to be their puppet. You were meant to shine. 💫
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Empowered & Unfiltered: A 3-Part Series on Healing, Empowerment, and Real Connection
Guest: Shane Adamson, LCSW, CSAT, CCPS
What happens when a people pleaser finally decides she’s worthy of more?
In this honest and unfiltered conversation, I’m joined by therapist and relationship trauma specialist Shane Adamson, LCSW, , CSAT, CCPS to explore what really lies beneath the urge to overgive, over-accommodate, and lose yourself in relationships that never loved you back.
Together, we peel back the layers of people pleasing as a trauma response, the invisible weight of betrayal, and the impact of emotional neglect that keeps women stuck in cycles of unworthiness. Shane brings clinical insight and deep compassion to the conversation—and even shares his own healing journey and how it shaped his work with couples and betrayed partners.
This is the first episode in a powerful 3-part series where we explore what it means to come home to yourself after years of giving yourself away.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why people pleasers are drawn to emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners
- The signs of betrayal trauma and how it hijacks your nervous system
- What “duty sex” reveals about emotional disconnection
- How guilt, family roles, and cultural expectations keep women stuck
- What the first signs of healing really look like—and how to get there
🛑 If you've ever asked, “Why do I always lose myself in love?”—this episode is for you.
🎧 Connect with Shane Adamson:
🌐 Website: cmfcdallas.com
📧 Email: shaneadamsonlcsw@gmail.com
🔗 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shaneadamson
📸 Instagram: @shaneadamson
📘 Facebook: facebook.com/shane.adamson
▶️ YouTube: @SAdamsonLCSW
🎧 Binge-worthy episodes to listen before or after this one:
If you're new here, or want to dive deeper into people pleasing and self-worth, listen to these must-hear episodes:
- People Pleasing & Appeasing Part 1 – Why we do it and how it starts
- How to Stop Yourself from the Quick Reflex of Pleasing & Appeasing – Part 2
- How to Set Loving Limits Instead of People Pleasing – Part 3
- Unmasking Manipulators and Becoming a Woman Empowered
- Breaking Free from People Pleasing During the Holidays
- The 12 Steps to Reclaim Your Power and Stop People Pleasing
📌 Coming next in Part 2:
Wendy Adamson joins us to share her story of breaking generational cycles of narcissistic abuse, rediscovering her voice, and launching the Ageless & Empowered portrait campaign to celebrate women reclaiming their power at every age.
🌿 Ready to take the first step from people pleaser to empowered?
Join the free Women Empowered community + sign up for my upcoming live masterclass:
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In this episode of Empowering Women in Conversations, we walk through a powerful 12-step framework designed specifically for people pleasers who are ready to stop the cycle and start showing up for themselves—without guilt or apology.
You’ll learn how to:
🌿 Identify the roots of your people-pleasing behavior
🛑 Set boundaries without fear of rejection
💬 Communicate your needs clearly and assertively
💖 Prioritize self-care and self-respect
🌟 Replace emotional burnout with empowerment and authenticity
Each step includes simple challenges and small wins to help you take action and begin healing from within.
✨ If you’re ready to stop shrinking yourself for the comfort of others and start honoring your worth, this episode is your roadmap.
💬 Mentioned in this episode:
- How to join the Empower Her Pathways online community
- What to expect from each step of the healing process
- A reminder: You’re not alone, and change is possible
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🚨 Are you tired of feeling stuck in the cycle of people-pleasing, overthinking, and relationship anxiety? You're not alone. Many women struggle with breaking free from toxic patterns that keep them trapped in self-doubt and emotional exhaustion.
In this powerful episode of Empowering Women in Conversations, I sit down with Patrick Martin, LCSW, to dive deep into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) strategies that can help you reclaim your confidence, set boundaries, and step into your authentic power.
🔍 In this episode, we cover:
✅ The hidden reasons why people-pleasers struggle in relationships
✅ How CBT helps rewire negative thought patterns and ease anxiety
✅ Practical tools to stop overthinking and self-sabotage
✅ The secret to setting boundaries without guilt or fear
✅ How to shift from reactive to empowered communication
If you've ever felt like you're carrying the emotional weight of your relationships, this episode is for you. Learn how to break free and start living life on your terms. 💪✨
🎧 Tune in now and take the first step toward empowerment!
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Connect with Patrick Martin, LCSW
🌐 Website: The Mental Health Toolbox
📷 Instagram: @mentalhealthtoolbox
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🐦 Twitter: @PMartinLCSW
💼 LinkedIn: Patrick Martin, LCSW
🎙️ Podcast: The Mental Health Toolbox
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- If you enjoyed this episode feel free to listen in to our previous episode:
Breaking Free: Unmasking Narcissistic Abuse and Empowering the People Pleaser Within
And remember to subscribe so that you don't have to miss another episode.
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The holiday season is here, and while it’s a time for joy and celebration, it can also be overwhelming—especially for women who struggle with people-pleasing. In this episode of Empowering Women in Conversations, Anita Sandoval is joined by Jessica Hope Murph, LMFT, to explore why the holidays are particularly challenging for people pleasers and how to reclaim peace, joy, and authenticity during this time.
What We Cover in This Episode:
- Why the Holidays Bring Stress for People Pleasers:
Jessica explains how family programming, perfectionism, and cultural expectations contribute to holiday stress. - Core Characteristics of People Pleasers:
Understanding the patterns that lead women to prioritize others' needs and struggle with self-worth. - Steps to Shift Away from People-Pleasing:
Practical tips for starting small, such as treating yourself with care and setting boundaries. - The Power of Assertive Communication:
Examples of passive, aggressive, and assertive communication styles, and phrases to use in challenging situations. - The Importance of Peer Support:
How surrounding yourself with the right people can help you maintain boundaries and build resilience.
BONUS: Listen in to 6 quick survival tips will help you reclaim your worth, set boundaries, and truly enjoy the season. Reclaim Your Worth and Enjoy the Holidays
Memorable Quotes:
- “Stop trying to prove that you're enough and just be enough.” – Jessica Hope Murph, LMFT
- “When you treat yourself like the queen you are, you’re not just practicing self-care—you’re changing your core value to ‘I am enough.’” – Jessica Hope Murph, LMFT
Actionable Tips:
- Start small with self-care: Take 10 minutes for yourself each morning or treat yourself to something you enjoy.
- Practice assertive communication: Replace passive or aggressive styles with confident, respectful phrases.
- Surround yourself with supportive people: Find peer groups or friends who uplift and empower you.
You can reach Jessica Hope Murph:
- practice: Beyond Boundaries Counseling RGV
- Couples Boot Camp: 4 Week Online Group Counseling For Couples
- Facebook: facebook.com/BBCRGV
- Youtube: Beyond Boundaries Counseling RGV
- Anita Sandoval’s 5-Day Relief Challenge:Unwind and Relax in 5 Days
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Episode Highlights:
- Understanding Narcissistic Abuse: Definition and insights into how narcissists use coercion, power, and control in relationships.
- The People Pleaser's Plight: Examining why people pleasers become prime targets for narcissistic individuals and how their natural tendencies can prolong toxic dynamics.
- The Mask of Narcissism: Discussing the initial charm and subsequent reveal of a narcissist's true nature, and the psychological impact on their partners.
- Signs and Patterns Overlooked: Identifying the early warning signs that people pleasers often miss, including the dangerous cycle of justification and self-sacrifice.
- Breaking the Cycle: Strategies for recognizing, addressing, and healing from narcissistic abuse, with an emphasis on self-awareness and boundary-setting.
Key Takeaways:
- Narcissistic Abuse Beyond Physical Harm: Understanding that emotional and psychological manipulation is a form of abuse.
- The Danger of Mirroring: Recognizing the early phases of a relationship with a narcissist can help prevent deeper entanglement.
- Empowerment Through Knowledge: Providing listeners with the tools to identify and escape abusive situations.
- Healing and Recovery: Highlighting the importance of support, therapy, and community in overcoming the effects of narcissistic abuse.
If you want to learn more you can connect with Sybil Cummin at:
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Welcome to my OMST Journey,' a 12-day mini docu series where we delve into the fascinating world of Optometric Multi-Sensory Training (OMST). As a licensed professional counselor with EMDR certification and a background in neurobiology, I'm excited to share my personal experiences with this unique therapy and its potential impact on mental health. About the Series: Join me on this immersive exploration as we focus on various aspects of mental well-being, including: Focus Retention: Discover how OMST influences concentration and attention. Memory Retention and Recall: Explore the effects on memory functions and recall. Restlessness: Addressing feelings of restlessness and finding a sense of calm. Sleep, Dreams, and Nightmares: Uncover the connection between OMST and sleep patterns, dreams, and nightmares. Dissociation Level: Investigating how OMST may influence dissociation experiences. Muscle Tension and Release: Exploring the impact on physical tension and relaxation. Cravings and Urges with Sugar: Discussing the role of OMST in managing cravings and urges, particularly with sugar. Intrusive Distorted Thoughts: How OMST may contribute to managing intrusive and distorted thoughts. Engage with the Journey: This series is more than just a documentation of my experiences – it's an invitation for you to engage and share your thoughts. Feel free to leave comments, questions, and your own insights as we navigate through this 12-day journey together. Subscribe for Daily Updates: Make sure to subscribe to the channel for daily updates. Each video in the playlist will be a chapter of this exciting exploration into OMST and its potential benefits for mental well-being. Are you ready to embark on this journey? Let's dive in!
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In this episode, we feature Kate Conwell, the founder of Journey Beyond Betrayal, who shares her personal journey of forgiveness and resilience after facing infidelity in her marriage. Discover how Kate turned her own pain into a mission to empower women who've experienced betrayal, and be inspired by her transformative story.
Some Key Takeaways I learned were:
1. Personal Transformation:Kate Conwell's journey through infidelity in her marriage, 11 years ago, was an incredibly challenging and painful experience. However, it became a catalyst for personal growth and transformation, prompting her to reexamine her life and the kind of person she wanted to become.
2. The Power of Healing:Kate recognized that healing was necessary, and she decided to pursue it, both individually and with her husband. This journey of healing allowed them to eventually come back together and work on their marriage, which ultimately led to a stronger and more resilient relationship.
3. Creating a Safe Space:Kate's mission, with Journey Beyond Betrayal, is to provide a confidential and supportive environment where women can openly discuss their experiences, feel affirmed in their feelings, and gain a better understanding of what's normal in such situations. It's about ensuring that no one has to face this painful journey alone.
4. You're Not Alone:Kate understands that women who have experienced infidelity often feel isolated, misunderstood, and overwhelmed. She aims to be a guide for these women, offering a place where they can find understanding, support, and healing.
If you want to learn more you can connect with Kate Conwell at:
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**Start creating awareness on Unmasking Manipulators and Becoming a Woman Empowered!
Some Top Self-Defeating Thoughts of Women who lack Empowering Attributes which lead to being susceptible in unhealthy situations are:**
- I am not good enough
- I am not confident enough
- I am not loveable or worthy enough
I will discuss the importance for people pleasers to know the characteristics of manipulators and on how it will allow you to build healthier relationships.
Join me as we expose the hidden strategies, tactics, and techniques employed by manipulators in different aspects of life, including personal relationships, workplaces, and even the digital realm
- This podcast aims to shed light on the various ways manipulators can exert control over us.
With a focus on understanding the psychology behind manipulation, we will uncover the underlying motives and intentions of manipulators. By interpreting their behaviors and recognizing the warning signs, you will gain invaluable insights to protect yourself from their influence.
But knowledge alone is not enough. This podcast is all about equipping you with the skills required to counter manipulation and reclaim your personal power. We will explore effective strategies, communication techniques, and self-empowerment practices that can help you break free from manipulator's grasp.
I will offer you a Quick Tip on:
The reasons on why Manipulators choose to exploit others and what it compensates for:
- Whether you have encountered manipulators in your personal relationships, faced manipulation in your workplace, or even experienced it within yourself:
Click Below for the Cheat Sheet:
Unmasking Manipulators and Becoming A Woman Empowered is your ultimate guide to understanding, unmasking, and ultimately empowering yourself against manipulative individuals
If you want to know if your present relationship is the right oneFinding Mr. Right and Getting Rid of Mr. Wrong
If you have not been able to identify how the Fear of Abandonment and the Pain of Rejection can affect your relationships then listen to the previous episode: How to Overcome the Pain of Abandonment and Fear of Rejection
***Want to start learning how to Stay True To your Boundaries in Relationships with Ease and Confidence:
Below I will give you the cheat sheet on how to do just that:**Stop Sacrificing your Boundaries to Avoid Abandonment
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**Start creating awareness on the situations that increase Stress in Relationships:
Some common situations that increase stress in relationships are when one or the other person says:**
- Do not want to be intimate with me
- Do not want to spend the night with me
- Share a difference of opinion
- Loved one Walks away from an Argument
I will discuss the concepts, techniques, and strategies for:
- Preventing the pattern of bad relationships that keep you stuck on continually falling with toxic partners because you cannot see the warning signs.
In today's episode I will focus on several goals:
- Ability to be the person you can be in a relationship where the other person can be who they are without being that caregiver for you.
- To know if they are the one for you, if you like or dislike the person enough to create a connection with them.
What keeps a person stuck in bad toxic relationships?
- Lack of trust
- Inability to tolerate unpredictable change causing the nervous system to become dysregulated
- Grew up expecting to be abandoned, mistreated, not have anyone to predictably support them or be there for them so then has created a higher tolerance for unhealthy behaviors and relationships.
You want to learn on how can you assess other people and see if they are right for you?
Then This Episode is For you!
Some questions you can ask yourself that will help relieve the stress if you want to pursue a relationship with someone? 1. What did it feel when there was a conflicting view of opinions?
2. How does this person deal with difficult situations or difficult people?
3. What does their activities and relationships with others reveal about their value system?
I will offer you a quick tip on:
The Relief of Finding the Right Type of Person! The Ease in Being able to Filter them out from the Toxic ones more effectively.
If you have not been able to identify how the Fear of Abandonment and the Pain of Rejection can affect your relationships then listen to the previous episode: How to Overcome the Pain of Abandonment and Fear of Rejection
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**Stop Sacrificing your Boundaries to Avoid Abandonment
Some common symptoms causing stress in Relationships due to issues of Abandonment are when your:**
- Inner Neediness can lead to you lowering your standards
- Personal boundaries that you have worked so hard to create are compromised
- Focused on the other person in a way to avoid focusing on themselves and therefore:
- Put up with things such as disrespectful treatment
- Put up with somebody’s addiction
- Put up with somebody cheating
I will discuss the concepts, techniques, and strategies for:
- A positive support system or professional help to face the fear and pain of abandonment/rejection and find ways that do not include someone that will trigger your self-awareness on feelings of safety, belonging, loving oneself, and thoughts of being worthy and deserving of it.
In today's episode I will focus on several goals:
- Ability to self-regulate better and be emotionally and mentally stable with other people with healthier relationships while making your own needs matter simultaneously.
- Get to the point of wanting to protect your boundaries and be more attentive to what may be triggering your abandonment fears.
What keeps a person stuck in emotional pain?
On one side of the stick you (want boundaries)on the other side, you want (love and connection)
now the question is how much pain and suffering are you willing to deal with?
How much personal sacrifice are you willing to risk in order to get that connection?
Then This Episode is For you!
Some questions you can ask yourself that will help relieve the stress in relationships? 1. Whatever the reward was, how long did it last?
2. What am I getting from doing this behavior?
3. Is there another way I can be able to obtain the necessary feeling sensation without doing this needy behavior?
I will offer you a quick tip on:
7 Steps on How to Stop Sacrificing your Boundaries
If you have not been able to identify how the Fear of Abandonment and the Pain of Rejection can affect your relationships then listen to the previous episode: How to Overcome the Pain of Abandonment and Fear of Rejection
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Who becomes overly needy and clingy in order to avoid abandonment?
Fear of abandonment and rejection in terms of clinginess/neediness in relationships are shown in two common ways:
- When you choose the most undependable person to connect with
- When you become so controlling in order to have your own needs met that you end up pushing the other person away.
In this episode I will discuss the concepts, techniques and strategies for:
People who become overly needy and clingy in order to avoid abandonment
I will discuss 5 ways on how to change fearful behaviors that sets up for more abandonment and the effects on how such behaviors creates havoc in the person's relationship. In today's episode I will focus on several goals:
- The true cost of the behaviors and whether it’s a cost that might be too high
- Awareness of the distinction between what you feel and what you do.
You can feel needy but you can’t be demanding to your partner and expect them to tolerate your emotions of neediness and clinginess.
If you are still struggling on tolerating the ability to appreciate your partner’s self-care
***The ability to have your partner say no sometimes, you appreciate it and celebrate your own capacity hear the no and not take it personal
Then This Episode is For you!***
I will go over the common symptoms on living in a relationship with unhealthy needy and clingy behaviors such as:
- A person will have unrealistic expectations of other people that lead to some very unhealthy dynamics on expecting them to be responsible for your emotions.
Abandonment fears expresses these fears in accusatory behaviors:
- Jealous fantasies, (where were you last night), what were you doing, then worry about other signs of abandonment
- You’re thinking of leaving me- friends, family members romantic partners
Some questions you can ask yourself that stem from neediness and clingy behaviors
- In what way has being clingy and needy protected me in the short term?
- How would you like your life to change?
How are things now and how would you like them to be? I will offer you a quick tip on:
5 ways to. Change fearful behavior that sets up more abandonment
If you have not been able to identify how the Fear of Abandonment and the Pain of Rejection can affect your relationships then listen to the previous episode: How to Overcome the Pain of Abandonment and Fear of Rejection
Want to start learning on how to Overcome the Clingy and Needy Behaviors in Relationships:
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Overcoming the Fear of Rejection and Pain of Abandonment
- What fuels the fear of rejection and pain of abandonment?
- What are the habits that keep the fear of rejection and abandonment present?
This episode is the first part of a series that will discuss the concepts, techniques and strategies for Fear of Rejection and the pain of abandonment that happens within human society.
The challenging part is that no one really talks about it, so I decided to incorporate this episode on the in’s and out of what encompasses the fear of rejection, pain of abandonment and on how you can begin to get out of that mindset into a healthier one of being accepted and feelings that you belong and are lovable. In today's episode I will focus on several goals:
- Awareness on how unrewarding it is to be constantly hyper vigilant toward rejection and the pain of abandonment.
- Several techniques in self regulating with that part of you that is hypersensitive to rejection and abandonment
- You will be able to identify an association with your emotions & body sensations that are sensitive to rejection and abandonment.
If you are still struggling on tolerating the ability to walk into the sensation of being rejected and not take it personally, then listen to this episode to help you out:
- How to Know your Values
I will go over the common symptoms on living life with fear of rejection and pain of abandonment:
- General anxiousness in social settings
- Focusing only on the area that looks like rejections and filter out all the other positive messaging and examples to the contrary within the same experienced event.
Some correlated unhelpful thoughts that stem from rejection and abandonment are:
- What is wrong with me?
- What did I do wrong?
I will offer you a quick tip on:
Taking the Panic of the unhealthy sensations and emotions out of your body and offer something reassuring to say to yourself about this symptom that would make you feel better.
If you have not been able to identify how to set loving limits and boundaries listen to the previous episode Just click on the link below to find out:
- How to set Loving Limits and Boundaries
Want to start learning on how to take the negative sensations from rejection and abandonment from your body : Below I will give you the cheat sheet on how to do just that: Body Scan To Regulate the Nervous System
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Our values reflect what we find meaningful in life.They are what you care about, deep down, and what you consider to be important. Everybody’s values are different, and they can change over time. They reflect how we want to engage with the world, with the people around us, and with ourselves.
In today's episode I will focus on several goals:
- Strategies on how to make "A Valued Based Decision."
- Awareness on whether your decisions are" Emotional vs. Value Based Decisions"
- Quick Tip to Problem Solving with Your Values
If you are still struggling on saying "NO" and quickly tend to react to saying yes often then listen to this episode to help you out:
- Stop Saying YES so much and Start Saying NO with Ease and Confidence
I will go over the common symptoms on living life with lack of values and clarity such as:
- Inaction
- Procrastination
- Not doing enough of what matters most to you
Lack of Values and correlated behaviors describe how problems can stem from.
I will offer you a quick tip on:
**Problem Solving with your Values
If you have not been able to identify what your top values are; listen to the previous episode Just click on the link below to find out:**
- How to know your Values
You will be able to identify an association between different activities and your emotions with behaviors are inclusive to your Values.
Obtaining value Based Behaviors have resulted in positive rewards such as:
- Having positive relationships with other people that make us feel connected and valued.
- Connecting with the present moment and being authentic within ourselves.
- It will bring about a chance to grow and develop an increase sense of achievement within ourselves.
Want to start learning on how to make a value based decision.
Below I will give you the workbook on this episode and link to discover the steps in learning on how to begin making those important decisions based on your values.
Free Workbook to align your decisions and behaviors with your values!
Leave a Comment on what Decisions you made based on your Values.
Quote of the Day:"It's not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are."
--Roy Disney--
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The one life lesson that changed my life was....
Being aware of my values, to make value based decisions and be aligned with who I am.
Clarifying my values as a top priority shifted many things in my life.
Individuals experience greater fulfillment when they live by their values.
If we don’t honor our values, our mental, emotional, and physical state suffers.
Knowing Your Values Changes Your Behavior
In this episode I will go over the characteristics on living life with lack of values
such as:
- Strong feelings of panic, fear, and helplessness when faced with being alone when voicing your own opinion or belief.
The goal in this episode is to help you:
- Identify your own emotional and social needs and ways to fulfill them without feeling selfish.
I will go over the Steps so you can identify your values:
Sneak Preview: On minute 18, I will go over
Step 5: What are you top 5 values and rank them from 1-5 in priority
I will also give you a quick tip in the beginning of the episode on 3 questions you can ask yourself to immediately become aware of your values.
Don't want to wait until you hear the whole episode, that's ok,
Below I will give you the cheat sheet on the steps and quick tip on figuring out your values.
Step by Step Process on how to know your values
Leave a Comment on what Values are most important to you.
Quote of the Day:
"Value's are like fingerprints.
Nobody's are the same, but you leave 'em all over everything you do."
--Elvis Presley--
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In today's episode (People Pleasing and Appeasing Part 4)
How To Increase your conflict resolution skills by Normalizing conflicts and decreasing the habit of people pleasing and appeasing.
You will learn on:
- Looking at somebody in the eye who's disapproving of your opinion and continue to view your own opinion of value.
- Why it is difficult to obtain effective conflict resolution skills
- How to Normalize conflicts from the nervous system so that you can feel your way through conflicts as a normal and healthy way of being as opposed to making it personal and having negative thoughts such as "I am a bad person" coupled with feelings of shame and guilt.
- To feel what it can be like to say something to somebody and not get hit with the negative consequences of shame and guilt because you said it.
Expect to have some awareness and continue learning, growing, and changing from people pleasing and appeasing into finally having the necessary conversation with confidence and ease.
You will gain knowledge on the advantages and disadvantages of conflicts, misconceptions, behaviors and characteristics that come from people pleasing and appeasing that hinders the awareness of conflict resolution skills.
There is a quick tip in the beginning of the episode:
I will give you more ways on how to say NO to the people that matter the most and expressing your own opinions with value and confidence.
You will get information on what to do right before entering a conflict to prepare you into having an effective conflict resolution with the people that matter the most to you.
Some benefits in learning on Normalizing Conflicts are:
- Increase in self-esteem
- Creating boundaries with your values will establish you to act in alignment with who you identify with and decrease stress and depression
- The ability to discuss problems without the negative thoughts that you are a bad person or did something wrong.
- Increase in leadership skills
- Help yourself in becoming who you really want to be
Quote of the Day:
"All conflicts, no matter how intractable, are capable of peaceful resolution"
– Nelson Mandela
You will gain access to a cheat sheet in this link to help yourself on learning on how to Normalize Conflicts and decrease the habit of people pleasing and appeasing.
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You can click on the links below to listen in to the previous People Pleasing and Appeasing Episodes:
People Pleasing and Appeasing Part 1:
How To Stop Yourself from the quick Reflex of People Pleasing and Appeasing Part 2:
How to Set Loving Limits/Boundaries instead of People Pleasing and Appeasing Part 3:
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In today's episode (People Pleasing and Appeasing Part 3)
You will learn tips and strategies on
How To Set Loving Limits/Boundaries
Expect to have some awareness and continue learning, growing, and changing from people pleasing and appeasing into setting limits to those that once would take advantage of you. You will gain knowledge on your insecurities and learn on how to increase your internal self and life to make sure you love yourself without the feelings of shame, guilt or thoughts that you are a bad person.
There is an added BONUS in the end where:
I will give you more ways on how to say NO to the people that matter the most with confidence and ease.
You will get information on the TWO common FEARSthat is holding you back from setting boundaries. Then you will gain a strategy on how to experience setting limits in a way where you can be able to feel safe, secure, and able to empower yourself to happily say NO.
You will become aware on how you can be able to gain insight on your nervous system to help guide you on a true YES or NO with setting limits.
You will learn additional insight on advantages and disadvantages of people pleasing and appeasing.
Some benefits in learning on how to set loving limits are:
- Increase resiliency
- Creating boundaries with your values will establish you to act in alignment with who you identify with and decrease stress and depression
- The ability to say a true YES or NO while still believing you are a good person
- Treating yourself with importance
- Help yourself in becoming who you really want to be
Listen in because you will also get a quick strategy on what to say before talking to a loved one on setting limits and boundaries in the beginning of the episode.
Quote of the Day:
“When you say yes to others make sure you are not saying no to yourself.”
– Paulo Coelho
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In today's episode (People Pleasing and Appeasing Part 2)
you will learn the techniques on how to stop yourself from the
Quick Reflex on people pleasing and appeasing.
Expect to have some insights and connections on how to begin learning, growing, and changing from people pleasing and appeasing into making decisions that will empower you as an individual creating a decrease of anxiety and depression.
I will give you an approach on different ways to say NO to the people that matter the most.
You will get information on the reasons why people tend to gravitate and remember the negative experiences easier than the positive experiences. Then you will gain a strategy on how to experience positive experiences and have them stay longer in the long term memory to decrease your anxiety or depression symptoms.
You will learn additional insight on advantages and disadvantages of people pleasing and appeasing. Some benefits in learning on how to manage your people pleasing and appeasing would be:
- Allows you to receive into yourself what you long for
- Allows you to dwell in that positive state of being what you want
- Increase development of mindfulness
- Treating yourself with importance
- Help yourself in becoming who you really want to be
- Grow and meet your own needs rather than turning to other’s for fulfillment
- (become less needy)
Listen in because you will also get a quick strategy on what to say before talking to a loved one on setting limits and boundaries in the beginning of the episode.
Quote of the Day:“People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.” – Abraham Hicks
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In today's episode you will learn the details on people pleasing and appeasing.
How to be empowered and say a true YES and NO with ease and confidence.
You will gain a better understanding on what triggers please and appease and the role it serves.
I will give you an approach on how to say YES and NO to the people that matter the most.
You will learn the misconceptions, advantages and disadvantages on people pleasing and appeasing.
You will also get the inside tips and strategies on how to stop yourself from pleasing and appeasing so much and finally do what you want and feel good about it.
You will gain access to a cheat sheet in this link to help yourself on your journey in stopping people pleasing and appeasing.
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In today's episode I will be covering the differences of stress and grief.
I will give you some quick tips on how to alleviate some of the holiday stress and grief and the different ways that people may be grieving.
I have included the common myths and truths on the process of grief.
In this link you will also find the different stage of grief and some tasks that you can begin doing to support you on your path of well-being.
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Also, some exciting news on sneak peak on upcoming 5 day Relief plan Challenge.
And the best part is that it is FREE!
All you have to do is just sign up and wait for the details.
Can you imagine 5 daily tips and techniques to help you manage those negative feelings and thoughts.
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Stay tuned for more and of course I always like to leave you with a quote.
"Stress acts as an accelerator: it will push you either forward or backward, but you choose which direction."
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In this Episode you will gain insight on several takeaways for some much needed relaxation and relief within these times.
Topics on stress and the Pandemic (Endemic is what I call it now).
In my interview with Katrina Villagomez LPC you will learn:
What to look for in a support system
How long it takes for Stress to become Chronic
What is needed to find the right type of people to meet your needs
And best of all ways to prevent and intervene when your body is under stress.
I have also included a link to a fun sheet on your Autonomic Nervous System and
Flight/Fight/Freeze to see what actually happens to you and your body when you are under stress.
But wait..... There is more... I have been working on something really awesome for you.
A 5 day challenge on finding relief in distressing times.
and best of all it will be for free. All you have to do is click on the link below to be on the list and be ready for more details to follow.
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Pride Month!
This episode will help bring awareness to the importance and representation of the LGBT Community. Understanding the importance of community resources. In addition, new strategies in communication to someone on how you identify and represent as LGBT.
"My silences had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you." -Audre Lorde
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"The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear."
--Nelson Mandela
The greatest challenges that get in the way is sometimes in the mind. In today's episode we have our very first interview with Dr. Blanco a Clinical Assistant Professor at the UTRGV School of Rehabilitation Services in Counseling.
Don't have a pen, no problem: Attached you will find a link to our strategies in this episode.
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001 - Let's start the conversation! Making Challenging Conversations Easy!
I hope you enjoyed the first episode as we continue to have those much needed challenging day to day conversations and make them easy for you to do. Join the conversations and hit subscribe or leave a comment on topics you are interested in.
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