Inner Journey with Dr. Saliha Afridi: Recent Episodes
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Speaking about topics that include mental health, emotional wellbeing, how to be productive, how to not procrastinate… But, also having content that is deeper, such as, ‘How do I heal my childhood traumas or my inner child?’ And, ‘How do I figure out who I am and what my core values are?...and that are not the values that society gave me?’
One of the most complicated relationship we have is the relationship to ourselves and then we wonder why we struggle in our relationship to others…if we can’t even be with ourselves, how and why do we expect others to? Why self-love- you make the world a better place and free the people in your lives when you love yourself. What is *not self-love (hint… it is not selfish) What is self-love…as I see it, it has 5 aspects self-awareness, self-discipline, self-care, self-compassion, self-acceptance. What you can do to cultivate love- cultivate self-awareness, be honest with yourself … for that you will need to learn self-soothing, and be compassionate with yourself… meaning hold your self to the highest standards but support yourself as you make mistakes along the way… Ps. Once… it’s a mistake … twice it’s a mistake… but 3 times it’s a pattern. If you keep making the same mistakes again and again… then you need to understand why and make efforts to change that.
So much talk about purpose and passion. What if I work and it isn’t my passion but it feeds my family? How do I find my purpose? Why are relationships so confusing these days? How do I get rid of my anger? - how to sit with difficult feelings… I share my experience of sitting with regret. (Yes I cried and yes I am very ok with crying) - how do I make my child less angry ? How do I get out of my comfort zone?
Trauma is anything that overwhelms our capacity to cope. It can negatively impact the brain and nervous system. But you also have the power to heal the impact of trauma. Body Emotions Thoughts All need to be part of the treatment and healing of trauma in the mind/body.
This episode is for parents and children but really for all people who want to know what it takes to have healthy relationships in today's world. The skills needed for healthy adult relationships are cultivated in childhood… but even as adults you can start cultivating some of these skills if you struggle with relationships.
Relationships are not easy, and they are not always painful or difficult either. In this episode I talk about how something’s that we hear and see can really mess up our ideas about what a ‘perfect relationship’ is and what can we expect from a long-term relationship.
Integrating our anger/aggressive instinct does not mean you act aggressively- on the contrary, people who have worked on and are working on integrating their anger are often the most assertive, kind, confident, honest, and courageous people you will meet.
Healing journey / therapy journey/ inner work/ psychospiritual development / self-awareness … Call it what you want… here I share a few thoughts from having walked the path with people as well as walking my own path over the last 18 years… Things to keep in mind … what you may encounter on the path… what you may need to make the journey/experience safer …
One of the most complicated relationship we have is the relationship to ourselves and then we wonder why we struggle in our relationship to others…if we can’t even be with ourselves, how and why do we expect others to? Why self-love- you make the world a better place and free the people in your lives when you love yourself. What is *not self-love (hint… it is not selfish) What is self-love…as I see it, it has 5 aspects self-awareness, self-discipline, self-care, self-compassion, self-acceptance What you can do to cultivate love- cultivate self-awareness, be honest with yourself … for that you will need to learn self-soothing, and be compassionate with yourself… meaning hold your self to the highest standards but support yourself as you make mistakes along the way… Ps. Once… it’s a mistake … twice it’s a mistake… but 3 times it’s a pattern. If you keep making the same mistakes again and again… then you need to understand why and make efforts to change that.
What does it mean to have generosity of spirit and having greatness of spirit? What can you give/be generous with? - You are a custodian of everything you have/nothing you have belongs to you (time/money/love/belongings/talent/education) What is *not generosity? If you expect anything in return- you have lost the benefits of that -do it for your karmic account /God/Higher self account How can you BEcome more generous? - you are what you repeatedly do - do generosity to be generous I also answered some questions about “boundaries” and “toxic generosity” (not sure what that is but I answered it accordingly)
If ‘forgiveness’ is hard for you, try saying the word ‘compassion’ or try saying ‘I want to heal’ What is it and what is not Why should we do it What the journey is like What is pseudo-forgiveness It has been a long journey for me to come to the place where I see the value of this ongoing act for my own self… Forgiveness is an act of self love It is a practice of a generous heart It is freeing It is in service of an open and tender heart that loves and lives deeply What you practice gets stronger What you feed will grow What feelings and thoughts are you practicing and growing?
I share the framework of Francis Wellers gates of grief - all the grief in us that we have not acknowledged or processed - it’s in all of us We will all lose someone and something we love. This scares us and we run from acknowledging this. If we soften into it- we might know the depths of love. We all have parts that have never known love. If we grieve the times and experiences where we lost these parts, and show them love and bring these parts to the light of love, we might know integrity and wholeheartedness. We all are grieving the sorrows of the world. What humans are doing to each other, the planet, to animals, to the oceans… if we feel this grief, we might know what it means to be connected. We all are grieving the loss of what we expected but did not recieve. This longing for a ‘home’, this need for belonging- it’s our inheritance and coded into our cellular and spiritual memory. If we tend to this grief we might know the duty we have to each other. We all have an ancestral grief. We are not just a sum of our childhoods, but all the ancestors that came before us. If we acknowledge this grief, we might know that we have the power to heal the world.
scarcity vs abundance mindset (love, money, time) I briefly touch on un-integrated shadow of money - limiting beliefs you have (I will do a seoerste live on this another day) why does it still hurt when i have done so much work on healing how hope is keeping you stuck and full acceptance of an event or experience means giving up the hope of it being different
There are many reasons why we may not have a very healthy model for relationships. But today, I wanted to talk about how you begin to recognize when you're in an unhealthy relationship: 1) When you start to feel like everything you do is wrong. 2) You can't be yourself and, you're constantly compromising. 3) Your partner disappears for long lengths of time. 4) You feel drained and exhausted, and you avoid talking about issues. 5) When you feel the relationship is so one-sided that you become resentful. If some of these warning signs are familiar to you, it doesn't mean that you need to pack up your bags and go, but you should definitely be aware that you are in an unhealthy relationship and begin thinking about how you could be in a healthier one. Anything that is one-sided is unhealthy. A relationship is about 2 people – listening to each other, supporting each other, caring for each other. These are just some things to think about; let me know if you have any questions. #InnerJourney