Big Hairy Chats: Recent Episodes
Eugene Vassilas & Nico DiMattina
Eugene Vassilas & Nico DiMattina share personal growth tools to help ambitious men develop unshakeable confidence, align with their purpose and unlock the mind’s potential.
Being amazing in the bedroom starts well before you engage in foreplay with your partner.
It starts with YOU and expanding your self-awareness. Having a focus on improving your awareness and energy levels has a direct impact on your capacity to connect with yourself more intimately.
It’s this connection which is the name of the game when we talk about enlightened sex.
In this episode we dive deeper into learning some techniques that we can utilize to expand our self-connection and have a wild time in the bedroom.
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Most successful organizations have guiding values that every employee can get behind and align with. This alignment is a real game changer for synergy.
When we take this approach to our personal lives, we begin to prioritise what matters most in our lives and adjust our energy accordingly. Where our focus goes, energy flows.
In this episode, we unpack some guiding principles that can help be your north star and orient your awareness towards achieving your goals.
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Why am I here? What are my unique gifts? What are my passions? What’s my purpose?
If we don’t ask ourselves some big existential questions we might find ourselves living without passion and doing the things that we don’t like doing.
However, when we ask good questions we get good answers. And men operate optimally when we have some direction.
In this episode we unpack a juicy question around your life path which allows everything else to fall into line so we can live more intentional and happy.
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Are you doing too much?
Does life feel hard, like a struggle?
Have you stopped believing in a cause or stopped having fun?
Have stress and exhaustion become normal states of being for you?
If so, you’re not alone.
We men get stressed when the demands of life feel greater than our ability to handle them. Our bodies become filled with stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol and then conditioned into a pattern so deep and subtle that it feels like this is the real us.
But stress is not the real you. And you can change the fear, the negative mindset, the addictions and other stuff faster than you think.
In this episode we’ll explore how you can take back your life and become truly unshakeable.
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What does it mean to be a man?
What does it mean to be a son, a brother, a husband and leader?
In this episode, we will redefine what masculinity is as we recognize that over the years our society hasn’t really done a good job at explaining this concept.
We dive deeper into the importance of mentors in different areas in our lives so we can have a balanced approach to living across health, wealth, career, relationships and spirituality.
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Gents: did you know that one of the most common experiences we men have is fear?
We all carry some fear of change, criticism, being alone, or—the mother of all fears—death.
But we prefer not to talk about it. We pretend that it’s not there.
Even if we are all scared creatures, and we don’t fear the same things or experience fear in the same way — we’d rather ignore it or power through.
But that’s not always the best strategy.
In this episode, we’ll explore how to better handle this common “enemy.”
We’ll learn how to treat it as negative arousal—an evolutionary program deep inside the reptilian brain.
What would you start doing if you had no fear? If now, all you had was a power that wants you to pay attention and act?
Tune in and find out.
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Men often believe they can “fake it til they make it” with confidence. They’re wrong.
The world is full of people who have fancy cars, houses, money and/or 15” biceps.
These men are on overdrive - busy chasing milestones, promotions or “living” at the gym.
Why have we struggled with real confidence for so long?
For starters, it's because we were never shown the tools to celebrate ourselves (beyond the performance) and build our inner strength.
We may have been show tactics to imitate confidence, but not the long-term tools for confident transformation.
The truth is that real confidence is deep and lives in your head and heart. And what's more, confidence actually precedes success; it’s part of the inner process that gets you to your goal. It’s needed for overcoming the hard road to the top.
In this episode we talk about how you can start truly accessing confidence in a different way.
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Gents, do you know what the single BIGGEST barrier to our success is in life?
Can you guess?
Hint:
It’s not a lack of ability.
It’s not a lack of effort.
Rather, it’s the feeling that the things we want are beyond our self concept, our idea of who we are. It’s this one idea or belief that limits what we find to be appropriate for ourselves and what we do with our days.
What does it create instead?
Intense struggle, oversensitivity, indecisiveness, self-consciousness, a lack of self-trust, rocky relationships and more.
In this episode, we’ll talk about how you side-step the feeling that you’re not enough and instead develop a healthy self-esteem and regard for yourself.
You’ll learn how to accept who you are, without endless self-sabotage and self-punishment.
Tune in!
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Do you feel guilty when saying “no”?
Have you avoided setting limits with someone in order to avoid someone’s strong reaction, i.e. anger?
Do you watch what you say, so other people don’t feel “hurt” or “upset” by you?
Do you hold back or repress your reactions to avoid confrontation...but later feel resentful and embittered?
Then you might need to create some boundaries.
A boundary is a psychological divider, a sort of envelope that separates you from everything else. Boundaries shine through in your demeanor, behavior, and words and signify to others that you have a “line” and it cannot be crossed.
Without this line, you invite a lifetime of humiliation and disrespect.
With them, cool people and success are magnetized to you everywhere you go.
Join us in this episode as we dive into the single biggest key to an amazing life.
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Everyone always thinks that their mind is the craziest and can’t be tamed.
With the right tools, coupled with the right guidance and a mindset of diligence and vigilance, we can see over time that a daily disciplined practice to tame our busy minds really works.
The fastest and easiest way to discipline our monkey minds is by meditation. And they call it a meditation PRACTICE for a reason. It takes consistent practice to discipline our minds.
With a daily disciplined practice we start to win the battle over this inner critic that we all have in our minds.
Enjoy this episode as you learn to tame your busy monkey mind.
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As men, we’re often taught that we’re only as good as our last performance.
Western culture quietly implies that “being a man” means “proving” ourselves, especially in our careers.
But then why is it then that leaders, entrepreneurs and athletes get convinced that they’re not closing enough deals, getting enough done, or winning enough — even when they’re soaring?
Why is it that we can’t help but eat, drink, shop, smoke, fuck and scroll, just to get a moment’s peace?
In this episode, we’ll explore behind the scenes.
We’ll explore: why we’re always competing with others and ourselves, and how to get beyond the fear of not measuring up.
We’ll explore: what happens when you live a life propelled by lack instead of love, by comparison instead of celebration.
We’ll explore: what does it mean to actually live a life based on your heart’s desire.
In this episode, Eugene & Nico take the listener down a fun life inventory exercise and the currency is all about energy and self-awareness.
Like Shakespeare’s “To be or not to be”, in this case the question is rather simple:
“Does this reduce my energy or does this raise my energy”?
Better energy translates to an improved mindset; with an improved mindset we have enhanced focused; resulting in better decision-making in our lives.
It’s our responsibility to set up our life around the things that give us energy as life is so much more fun that way.
Happy listening.
Welcome to Big Hairy Chats, the little corner of the internet for modern men trying to do good in a busy world.
Drawing on lessons from their lives, Eugene Vassilas and Nico DiMattina share proven principles to help listeners enhance their energy, tame their busy minds, perform under pressure, befriend fear and navigate sex.
In this episode, you’ll get to know the Podcast Hosts, Eugene and Nico. You’ll learn some fundamental lessons as we share our own hairy life stories that could help you get through yours, easier and faster.