The Misfit Mentor with Larry Merino: Recent Episodes
Larry
Every hero —including you — needs a mentor, a guide and a companion for the journey. The road you’re on can take you to uncharted territory where there’s no map, no road signs, and no way to know if you’re going the right direction. And that makes it easy to feel like you’re stuck on the island of misfit toys I believe you can benefit from the mistakes I made and the wisdom my mentors taught me. I have traveled the road you’re on and I hope you’ll think of me as your misfit mentor.
Thank you to all of our Misfit Mentor listeners! We now introduce our new podcast The 40 Something Soul.I hop you will say with us and learn more about how to feed your 40 Something Soul.
God bless you,
-Dr. Larry Merino
In this episode I talk about how difficult it can be to accept the new truth when it becomes clear that what I though was true is actually not true.
In this episode I also share some good news for the future.
Today you can kiss disappointment good bye because you will discover the faulty principle on which it is built. This made a huge different in my life when I learned it and I know it will for you, too.
Show Notes
Much of my thinking here is influenced heavily by philosopher Gabriel Marcel. There is much in the digital world to read about concerning him and his existential approach.
You can listen to episode 1 "On Coming Out" by clicking the link below
https://www.buzzsprout.com/1729778/episodes/8277491
Have you ever considered that the things you want are actually not attainable? Have ever wondered why you have the goals and desires you have? In this episode we help you untangle a very complex issue that could be why you don't make the progress you want to make.
Show Notes
Here are some really helpful books on this topic if you want to take a deeper dive.
Luke Burgiss, Wanting: the power of mimetic desire in everyday life.
Dan Levinson, The Seasons of a Man’s Life
1 Timothy 6:6-10
In this episode we learn to be aware because it's easy to slide down this slippery slope that leads to places you don't want to go.
Show Notes
Tha Happiness Curve. By John Rausch
Clifton Strengths ( good resource for finding your signature strengths).
Why You Can't Be Anything You Want. By Arthur Miller (Another good book about finding your strengths and not wasting time on pipe dreams).
The Parable of the Vineyard (Matthew 20:1-16)
You can listen to "Checking in With Your Conscience" click the link https://www.buzzsprout.com/1729778/episodes/9231145
In this episode I wanted to tell you how to get rid of identities that do not help you be who you want to be. I will also share some ancient wisdom that isn't ordinarily used for this situation
Books I have cited:
The happiness curve, by John Rausch
The season's of a man's life, by Daniel Levinso
Creating, by Robert Fritz
What Got you here won't get you there, by Marshall Goldsmith
In this episode I speak to you straight from the heart. I try to help you learn how to win the battle against fear and gain the courage to face anything.
A book I referred to:
Constuctive Living...Constructive Living (Kolowalu Books (Paperback))
https://www.amazon.com/Constructive-Living-Kolowalu-Books-Paperback/dp/0824808711 - 740k - Cached - Similar pages
The "Constructive Living" is a short 100 page book on a Japanese therapy technique called Morita therapy for treating depression, and anxiety as well as failure .
Achieving some success is always a wonderful experience. But if the success you have is not the one you want it can feel like wilderness in a corner office. I hope this episode helxpyou understand how you got into this wilderness and how you can get out.
This episode aired last spring and has fostered a lot of interesting conversation and good insights. We play it for you this week and will be back next week with a brand new episode. Happy 2023!
If you ever get into an oscillating back and forth pattern just when you think you will make forward progress, this episode can help. The problem can't be fixed by working harder but by looking first in the mirror.
Books and Essays:
Your Life as Art, by Robert Fritz. Especially Part III which deals with "Structural Imprinting." He makes some difficult concepts much easier to understand.
"Miswanting: Some Problems in the Forecasting of
Future Affective States"
Citation
Gilbert, D. T., & Wilson, Timothy D. ”Miswanting: Some problems in the forecasting of future
affective states.” In Thinking and feeling: The role of affect in social cognition, edited by Joseph
P. Forgas, 178-197. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2000.
Permanent link
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Show notes:
In this episode I pose the question: “How Much is Enough?” I don’t believe anyone could answer the question for you so today I will pose other questions that help to clarify what's important to you and to know what you really want.
Sources and Citations:
( 3 Quarks Daily. The Conflict Between Competition And Leisure
POSTED ON MONDAY, APR 14, 2014 1:10AM BY EMRYS WESTACOTT by Emrys Westacott
The social-competition treadmill…the hedonic treadmill are discussed on p. 102 of Jon Rausch, The Happiness Curve.
“How Much Is Enough?” Money and the Good Life (Other Press, 2012), Robert and Edward Skidelsky
Todays episode is for you if you wonder IF you can achieve that important goal. I will share what I have learned about this important skill and you will be surprised at what actually works.
Books and Essays I cite:
Finish,by Jon Acuff
The Happiness Curve,by Jonathan Rausch, esp. p.101 where you can read more about the principles of progress and adaptation.
Miswanting Miswanting: Some Problems in the Forecasting of
Future Affective States
Citation
Gilbert, D. T., & Wilson, Timothy D. ”Miswanting: Some problems in the forecasting of future
affective states.” In Thinking and feeling: The role of affect in social cognition, edited by Joseph
P. Forgas, 178-197. Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2000.
Permanent link
http://nrs.harvard.edu/urn-3:HUL.InstRepos:14549983
Terms of Use
This article was downloaded from Harvard University’s DASH repository,
This episode ha been one of the most popular over the last year. We are on hiatus and will be back for season 6 in a few weeks. In the meantime please enjoy this episode and don't forget our website is still open: misfitmentor.com
There are blogs, video teachings and if you need to you can even schedule a free call with me. See you in a few weeks.
God bless you,
Dr. Larry Merino
In todays' episode we discover that everything we know about aging is wrong. And that there are a lot of pleasant surprises waiting for those who gain a clearer understanding of what actually happens when you're in the 40's.
Books I refer to: The Happiness Curve,by Jonathan Rausch. Rausch digs into the research and makes a compelling argument about aging.
Find Your Why,by Simon Sinek. This author helps you connect to what is important for you. If you don't know why you do something, the chances are good you will stop doing it.
In today's episode we will get a better handle on the worst kind of pressure -- the self-inflicted kind. What makes this kind of pressure so bad is that you can often believe it is being created by others but again, it is the guy or gal in the mirror who is the culprit. Please listen and use these suggestions.
I also referred to Robert Fritz, Your Life as Art, p. 189.
Limiting Beliefs with Cognitive Behavioral Therapist Miles Nitz. Part 2.
Contact Miles at 260-415-5967
takechargecounseling.org
mnitz@takechargecounseling.org
Limiting Beliefs with Cognitive Behavioral Therapist Miles Nitz. Part 1.
Contact Miles at 260-415-5967
takechargecounseling.org
mnitz@takechargecounseling.org
In this episode we will unpack a secret to success -- but one that is out there in plain sight.
For many years I have had some wonderful conversations on my front porch. Today I invite you to join me there.
In this episode Executive Coach Peggy Zilz tells us what she went through in her 40’s that helped her to understand the value of courage at a deeper level.
Books: Constructive Living by David Reynolds
Why You Can’t Be Anything You Want by Arthur Miller
Self-Development Programs: The Gallup Strengths Finder. You can find the assessment at: www.gallup.com
You can visit misfit mentor.com to find our blogs, video teachings and mentoring pdf’s You can write me a line at larry@misfitmentor.com
In this interview with media and radio executive Scott Howard, talks about some of the trouble he got into in his 40’s that he knows now could have been avoided. There are lessons here you’ll need to navigate through your 40’s.
You can visit misfit mentor.com to find our blogs, video teachings and mentoring pdf’s You can write me a line at larry@misfitmentor.com
In our first episode of season 5 Executive pastor Matt Switzer teaches us how to navigate through some treacherous times in 40’s.
Book: The Happiness Curve by John Rausch
You can visit misfit mentor.com to find our blogs, video teachings and mentoring pdf’s You can write me a line at larry@misfitmentor.com
In this first episode we deal with a very common experience for those who deviate from the cultural norm or from what we were expected to do or to be. There is plenty of disappointment to go around in these situations but when you are “the disappointer” it can be brutal. Coming out doesn’t have to be the gut-wrenching anxiety-producing event you imagine it to be. This episode can help.
Sometimes we chase the things that we think will empower us but only weaken us.
There are lot of fake and phony ways that masquerade as empowerment when in fact, the real ways to empowerment are not even being considered. So, on this last show of season 3 I wanted to leave you with something to ponder -- something you can really use for real and powerful empowerment.
Fake and Phony solutions sound so believable. That's what makes them so poisonous. When we buy a fake and phony solution we always become immobilized and are tempted to give up on ourselves.
Show Notes
Fake and Phony Solutions still exist because:
1. we all have a lot of feelings we'd rather not feel
2. we want these fake solutions to be true
3. those who sell the fake solutions are very convincing
(From 3-2-1 Thursdays by James Clear)
Writer Jorge Luis Borges on transforming every experience into a resource:
"A writer — and, I believe, generally all persons — must think that whatever happens to him or her is a resource. All things have been given to us for a purpose, and an artist must feel this more intensely. All that happens to us, including our humiliations, our misfortunes, our embarrassments, all is given to us as raw material, as clay, so that we may shape our art."
Source: Twenty-Four Conversations with Borges: Including a Selection of Poems
You are able to stay away from fake and phony solutions but you must
1 Create and be very clear on what it you want to create -- not what others want you to do.
2. Commit to the craft of your dream. Not for a month or year but for your whole life. Besides, what else have you got to do but get better and better at creating what you want to create?
3. Stop Comparing yourself to others. You cannot make a judgement of your own self based on what others do and who they are.
Third Culture Kids:
Are you familiar with term “3rd culture kid”? A 3rd culture kid (AKA TCK’s) is someone who grew up in one culture and then found themselves in another one. Gypsies who deviate from the cultural norm and Misfits who want to do different things and do them differently are considered TCK’s. Being a TCK has a lot of benefits but like everything else it has a dark side and if you’re not aware of it you can end up in some pretty dark places. In today’s episode we’ll show you how to stay in the light.
Today's episode helps us to beware of the self-sabotage that we often fall into just as we get closer to our goals. We also have to especially aware of families' way of doing the same thing.
In this episode from 2021 we learn how important it is to pay attention to our authentic self more than our social image and status.
In the Hans Christian Andersen story, "The Emperor's New Clothes" it's a dumb little kid who turns out to be the smartest person in he crowd.
There are plenty of reasons to be the dumbest person in the room and in today's episode you will learn why it's a smart move.
Let's stop calling it stress and call it what it is….Fear. Actually stress is what happens to the body when it is fearful. The symptom that shows up is stress in your body…BUT the real cause the real problem is fear.
Fear is a liar….but if you dont know that….you will give in to its destructive power.In today's episode we will learn a new way that will work for you.
Farmers are an interesting bunch. They don't talk a lot but they are smart and in today's episode we will learn some timeless principles from agriculture that you must use to grow your creative process.
Focus and Energy. I'm sure you have noticed you do not have an unending supply of either. That's why you've got to be stingy with these assets and use them for creating NOT problem-solving. In today's episode we tell you how it sneaks up on you and what you can do about it.
Do you ever get cold creatively? Do you ever get burned out? From time to time everyone does. This happens more when you don't know to build a fire and keep the fire going in your creative process So today I want to teach you how to NOT QUENCH THE FIRE WITHIN YOU.
Creatingby Robert Fritz is a great book for learning more about this and other helpful concepts.
Endurance. That word is packed with meaning for people like you who are in it for the long haul. And sometimes enduring feels like suffering because it is not the most fun part of the journey but you mustn't give up because there will be suffering and something can be made from it. It's called creative suffering.And everyone who is in it for the long haul has to learn how to to do it. In today's episode I will show you how.
Too many of us suffer from those voices: “you’re a loser you’re a bum…why do you even try…just give up…and run away now before they all figure out you’re a phony….!”But when you change the game the voices can still come and it won’t even matter. In today's episode you will learn how to play the game so that there is always an upside.
One of the ironies of productive, goal-oriented people is that we can lose focus very easily. And when that happens it is easy to feel like we don't quite know what to do next. Today's episode will help you create momentum, imagination, and energy.
Creating,by Robert Fritz is an excellent book on this topic. it can be hard to understand but is worth the time you invest.
One of the reasons you’re a misfit is that you have this notion that you should do the things that actually FIT for you. And nowadays nobody wants to hear that. Most people are looking everywhere to get some direction but the wise person knows where to look and I’m gonna tell you where that surprising place is in today's episode.
A great book for today's topic is Why You Can't Be Anything You Want, by Arthur Miller. This book can help you -- if you do the exercises.
More than likely if you are in your 40’s you have been dealing with some disatisfaction. What makes this weird is that the outer, object parts of your life are really not so bad…A lot of people would even trade places with you…and yet there is that nagging disatisfaction but it doesn’t have to be that way. You can actually thrive through your 40’s and in today's episode you'll find out how.
The Happiness Curveby John Rauch is an excellent book on this topic. John has done a wonderful job researching the data and shows s how to interpret it. he's also a really good writer.
Sometimes we chase the things that we think will empower us but only weaken us.
There are lot of fake and phony ways that masquerade as empowerment when in fact, the real ways to empowerment are not even being considered. So, on this last show of season 3 I wanted to leave you with something to ponder -- something you can really use for real and powerful empowerment.
Answer this one quickly : you have have been working hard and you just know this project will work because you are clear and focused. And at the last minute everything goes sideways. Whaat do you? No one could blame you for being disappointed or angry. A wise man once said failure is not really fatal but failure to change in the face of setbacks -- well that could be. I believe we all need help when we get hit with a setback. That is what you'll get in todays episode
In today's episode we will learn how seeming contradictions -- what we call a paradox -- can be the absolute key to helping you get where you want to go.
Leadership is not what most of us think about when we plan our preferred futures. In today's episode we will learn how important it is to guide, influence and control ourselves if we want to get to the life we dream about.
In today's episode we learn about an old and counterintuitive truth: The Negative way can be more helpful than the Positive.
It doesn't sound right and yet it is. This way of living and learning is often misquoted and misused but it leads to better decision-making.
If you want to study up on this here are 2 excellent sources.
- Nassim Nicholas Taleb , Antifragile: Things That Gain From Disorder
- Wealest.comThomas Waushenfelder
In today's episode we'll learn about how everything can serve your interests -- if you know what to look for.
Writer Jorge Luis Borges on transforming every experience into a resource:
"A writer — and, I believe, generally all persons — must think that whatever happens to him or her is a resource. All things have been given to us for a purpose, and an artist must feel this more intensely. All that happens to us, including our humiliations, our misfortunes, our embarrassments, all is given to us as raw material, as clay, so that we may shape our art."
Source: Twenty-Four Conversations with Borges: Including a Selection of Poems (I found this at Jamesclear.com)
My guest today is Anne Merino, who is an accomplished dancer, writer, actress, and the author of Hawkesmoor: A Novel of Vampire and Faerie.In this episode Anne shares her unique insights on the creative process and what it takes to get to your goal.
Why accept your frustrations and anxieties when you can hold a meeting with yourself and make some real progress on your goals at the same time. Today we will be talking about how to talk to yourself and learning from two authors: Think and Make it Happen, by Dr. Augusto Cury,and King, Warrior, Magician, Lover, by Robert Moore. I guarantee that once you learn the art of talking to yourself you will never stop using this tool as a way to enhance your creative process.
Did you know that your growth can be lopsided? If we don'y pay attention to the different ways to mature our gifts and talents won't do us any good.
We owe it to ourselves and to everyone else to make sure our growth is balanced and not lopsided.
“Larry you are perfectly organized to get the results you’re currently getting….” Hmmm…I put a lot of though into that…
Since I didn’t like where I was going at the time I had to take another look at how I was organized. And I had to admit that he was right. And that was a big eye-opener for me . In today's episode you can get your eyes open, too, and start organizing -- or structuring -- your actions so that they move you where you want to go.
Sometimes we Misfits spend way too much energy trying to fix our past. Getting to the future you dream about, however, requires that you look forward -- not backward. In today's episode we will deal with your past in a way that gets you back on track.
Today's episode is important because as you are out on your journey you will meet other misfits who are lonely and it's good to know how to help them. Because loneliness gets worse -- dangerously worse -- when someone thinks: “I must be the only one…” But you’re not and in our true story today we can learn a lot about how to re-inhabit loneliness in a way that’s good for you.
We have so many designations for age groups today: Boomers, GenXers, Millenials, GenZers, etc. These designations can be helpful BUT can sometimes get in the way of important inter-generational partnerships that enable us to make a real difference in the world.
No one can do it all by themselves. In today’s episode we learn how older dreamers and younger visionaries can bring out the best in each other.
Do you ever get tense? Sure, we all do but did you know that there are basically two kinds of tension? One is really good and helps you get where you want to go with your life. And the other is very bad and will, if you let it, destroy all your plans and probably you in the process.
You have to know how to use the good one and not get sucked into the bad one. The tools you need to build your life are in today’s episode.
In today's episode I want to warn you about some traps you can fall into because they look and sound so good but they are so bad for you. Please heed these warnings or you'll threaten your chances to get where you want to go.
This episode will be a little hard to take but will be worth it because it comes from a place of genuine care and concern about helping you get you want to go. And it will have long-lasting benefits for your journey.
One thing I knwo about misfits is that we have very sensitive consciences…. And that’s because we often dont have the support of our families….and that can make us feel like we are doing somethign WRONG when we are simply BEING WHO WE ARE. THE GOOD NEWS is that there is way of out of this dillemma. In this episode you will learn how to check in with your conscience
Have you ever been in a situation in which it feels like you’re on a journey in a boat and you’ve got to navigate through a very narrow straight? On the left, rocks -- big ones. And on the right a whirlpool….A little too far right or left and you’re done.
I would bet you're in a situation like this or on your way to something similar. You can’t go right or left but that doesn't change the fact that YOU’RE THE HERO OF THE STORY. In today's episode we will learn more about how to navigate through narrow straits on your journey and what it means to be the real hero of your own story.
Everybody loves a winner and nobody wants to look like a loser. That seems harmless enough. At the same time we always have to be aware our need to have a positive social image because it has a dark side. In today's episode you'll not only learn how to keep from falling into that temptation but also how to stop wasting time, energy, and money on activities and things that do not get you where you want to go.
Fake and Phony solutions sound so believable. That's what makes them so poisonous. When we buy a fake and phony solution we always become immobilized and are tempted to give up on ourselves.
Show Notes
Fake and Phony Solutions still exist because:
1. we all have a lot of feelings we'd rather not feel
2. we want these fake solutions to be true
3. those who sell the fake solutions are very convincing
(From 3-2-1 Thursdays by James Clear)
Writer Jorge Luis Borges on transforming every experience into a resource:
"A writer — and, I believe, generally all persons — must think that whatever happens to him or her is a resource. All things have been given to us for a purpose, and an artist must feel this more intensely. All that happens to us, including our humiliations, our misfortunes, our embarrassments, all is given to us as raw material, as clay, so that we may shape our art."
Source: Twenty-Four Conversations with Borges: Including a Selection of Poems
You are able to stay away from fake and phony solutions but you must
1 Create and be very clear on what it you want to create -- not what others want you to do.
2. Commit to the craft of your dream. Not for a month or year but for your whole life. Besides, what else have you got to do but get better and better at creating what you want to create?
3. Stop Comparing yourself to others. You cannot make a judgement of your own self based on what others do and who they are.
Most of us use some “strategies” to gain a measure of control over our lives. Here are some common ones that we all use from time to time. See if you can find your favorite default strategy:
• Denial
• Comfortable boredom, laced with escapism
• Irrepressible good humor
• Fatalism
• Hormonal surge of youth
• Magical belief in technology
• Comforted by the myth of control1
In this episode we try and get a better handle on our default strategies and getting to a healthy measure of control over our lives.
1 Kleinman, 5.
The last year everyone has had an opinion about masks. But most of us are not even aware of the mask that was placed upon us when we were little kids. And it works pretty good until.....we decide we want to switch it out for a mask that fits better and expresses who we are. Misfits need to know this if they want to move forward with their
We are all on a journey -- a journey that we hope leads to a meaningful and significant life. But everyone on this journey, at some point, also ends up taking some detours that take us to places we do not want to go. This episode will help you if you want get off the dead end or avoid those detours altogether
Fill in the blank: When I was thirteen I usually felt kind of (fill in the blank…)I have traveled around the U.S. and parts of Europe asking people that question in workshops and in private conversations. No matter the country, the people, or the culture, I almost always got the same answers. The power of that question is that it always reveals our “point of vulnerabiltity…” This is important to know because many of us can sometimes be like middle schoolers who have aged. In todays’s episode we’ll learn that our point of vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength.
Third Culture Kids:
Are you familiar with term “3rd culture kid”? A 3rd culture kid (AKA TCK’s) is someone who grew up in one culture and then found themselves in another one. Gypsies who deviate from the cultural norm and Misfits who want to do different things and do them differently are considered TCK’s. Being a TCK has a lot of benefits but like everything else it has a dark side and if you’re not aware of it you can end up in some pretty dark places. In today’s episode we’ll show you how to stay in the light.
The Spirit of Adventure
Someone once said that the safest place for ships is in the harbor — but that’s not why ships were built. Likewise the safest place for you is in some kind of harbor where you’ll be safe. This leads us to a question: Is being safe the most important thing to you? Or is it more important to create something which could bring meaning and significance into your life and help you live in the spirit of adventure? In today’s episode we’ll discuss the myth of being safe.
Episode 3
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Saboteurs: Our Families and Us
I believe every person has a personal story inside them and in that story he or she will see SEE THEMSELVES AS THE HERO OF THE STORY. And all heroes have to go on a journey. It doesn’t have to be a journey where you travel far away but it is a journey nevertheless and not every family is willing to let us go on that journey. And sometimes our families, God bless them, even try to sabotage our efforts. We can get a handle on this sabotage dynamic but we must learn how to see it. In this episode you can learn how.
Episode 2 DESCRIPTION
OBSTACLES
Wouldn’t it be nice if we Misfits didn’t have to deal with so many obstacles? Maybe it happens to you: you make really good progress and then from out of nowhere comes another obstacle that pulls you back and hinders from getting to that life that you dream about; the life that has real meaning for you. In this episode we’ll uncover what’s behind those obstacles, and make a plan to help you overcome them.
Show Notes for Episode 2, 4/13/2021
OBSTACLES: Avoiding Them and Overcoming Them
Larry discussed how obstacles get in our way and do it in a way we are not really aware of.
This episode is not about problem solving but creating what you want to create LIFE OF MEANING AND SIGNIFICANCE? . He urged us to stay away from problem-solving as our main focus and turn to building the life we want to create.
Unlearning things so we can learnt he new things.
1. Unlearn the quick fix solution.
Makes you feel better but you do not get better. Move toward a long-term approach. “Resistance you feel is proportional to the love you have for the new thing.”1
2. Unlearn seeing time as the enemy
Larry discussed his 8 year- journey at age thirty to become a pastor. He discovered a powerful principle: in 8 years I’d be 8 years older whether or not I’m doing what I want to do with my life. Better to start now and enjoy the ride — if not you have to wonder if it really is that important to you.
3. Don’t tell everyone about your idea
Keep it to yourself because that idea is your baby. Protect that baby as if it was a newborn don’t let others infect the baby with their negative vibes. Once the baby is older (and you’ve made some progress on your plan) then you can let other people know what you’re up to.
A plan for overcoming obstacles.2
1. Ask the vital question: what do I want to create?
2. Understand your current situation in relation to your goal
3. Each time you reach a small goal in your action steps it creates momentum and energy toward the big goal.
Larry gave us real life examples of how even creative and wise people can fall into the trap of structuring their life around what they DON’T WANT. And how to stop doing that. And how aligning with our identities is just as important as reaching our goals.
Larry believes that the listeners want to create a life of meaning and significance. But as much as we want it we also feel great RESISTANCE. But the resistance we feel is directly proportional to how important that goal really is to us. We make resistance our compass as we learn to stop moving away from the resistance and learn to follow it — wherever it takes us. And that feeling of resistance is always there no matter how old you are — even as old as Larry!
Larry directed us to misfitmentor.com for the show notes and the resources and links to his Instagram, Larry_Merino videos, and You Tube channel (https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCCKHgnIPxumhrSJPQ_FG6RA) .
TAGS: OBSTACLES, RESISTANCE, STRUCTURAL CONFLICT, STRUCTURAL TENSION
1 See Steven Pressfield, The War of Art for a discussion on this powerful principle
2 See Robert Fritz, The Path of Least Resistance for a full discussion on these concepts. Also see Friz for the full definition of “structural conflict.” Snd “structural tension.” And The
Coming Out
In this first episode we deal with a very common experience for those who deviate from the cultural norm or from what we were expected to do or to be. There is plenty of disappointment to go around in these situations but when you are “the disappointer” it can be brutal. Coming out doesn’t have to be the gut-wrenching anxiety-producing event you imagine it to be. This episode can help.