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Hello dear, my name is Sulu. This series of podcasts is created as an intimate companion to accompany you in your inner journey. To embrace many ordinary moments of life and find a solace within yourself. To discover a soft spot inside your heart where you can hear endearing voices that guide you towards unconditional acceptance and contentment.
Through all the despair and hope, love will guide us to find our place back home. Let nature be our best friend and solace. Give yourself the love you deserve and share that love with those matter most to you. Let's us be grateful for this morning when we awaken alive in love.
What do you really want to do with your life? And what is your fuel to do it? These are 2 questions that keep me struggle for years. The answers don't come easily and mostly it comes to me through pain. It's said that love can move mountain, I am not sure it's true for me but it sustains and renews me everyday to do small things consistently. So you do it not to impress anyone or prove anything but to serve those you love. Even when you only love one person in your life, it's a huge source of strength. You don't just live for yourself but also for the one you love. Your heart beats for others as well. May you find your fuel! And maybe together we can move mountain. Be patient and pay attention inside yourself.
Birds don't wake up until 5.30am so this morning let's sit with them and hear them sing. And let's make a cup of tea to cherish a new day with them.
Freedom is not escaping a situation, it is a shift in mental state when there is clear seeing, acceptance and disidentification with content of mind. When the mind says: "i'm lost!", question it "is it true? where are you going?" if you are not going anywhere, how can you be lost? you are right here right now. Observing helps us to step back and have a necessary distance to painful thoughts to disidentification. What causes pain in relationship is none of people but attachment. Attachment is an invisible tie, in which one feels responsible for another. One tries to make decisions and fix another. There is fear and lack of trust. Attachment is natural, it's not wrong. It will naturally form in close relationship and pain is the opportunity to examine the dynamic. After seeing clearly the dynamic, detachment will happen. Detachment does not mean you become cold, indifferent to each other. On the contrary, you see each other clearer, without bias or prejudices, hold space better and become more loving, caring in an objective stance. You allow each other to be who we are and trust the struggle each handles without interfering. This is a lesson we learn through many relationships with parents, siblings, spouse, friends and it is not an easy process. The key to go through it is to not judge or label other as wrong, bad or villain but to see the interacting dynamic in between. When there is labeling there will be no room for examination because the mind has been biased. Just seeing and understanding its nature in your real relationships, it's worth it.
Life is comprised of transitions. Doors close and open. You are set on a path that you can never go backward. How to embrace yourself in those trying times? Solitude is my friend and I make my mind my best friend to have conversations that only me can express and hear me wholeheartedly. Surrender with gratitude for everything and everyone. Life does not always flow like a song and that is a gift for your maturity.
"My, my, time flies A new day is on its way So let's let yesterday go Could be we step out again" Invite you to listen to the soft rain of early morning and feel sensations of each breath. Relax and immerse into the serenity of a new day. May you be loved!
Let's hold space for each other in a loving silence. Every morning is a new morning, every moment is a new moment. Never the same. Live today like your whole life. Begin it with a serene mind and ready to let go at the end of the day.
Pain is a natural part of life. There is nothing wrong with it. Good feeling is a feeling and not good feeling is a feeling too. The physical pain and mental pain can be separated, they are different. The body can be in pain yet the mind can be at ease and curious. Mental pain happens when there is reaction (like and dislike) to body pain. The worst thing that can happen to you is sensations and you can feel it.
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We don't need to wait until we are perfect and flawless to appreciate ourselves. I love imperfect people and I allow myself to be imperfect too.
We don't need to wait until we receive a confirmation or return of love to express affection to someone. Do it for the joy of the receiver. Rejection is fun!
We don't need to wait until we know everything to start what we are enthusiastic about. Do it imperfectly and have fun!
We don't need to wait until all conditions are right to meditate. Feel it now!
We don't need to wait until someone loves us to feel whole, be our own lover now!
Instead of finding mr. Right, I will be ms. Right for myself!
This morning, invite a friend to sit with you. You can bring a teddy bear and hug it while listening to nature and relaxing. And when you feel calm and at ease, visualize a soft invisible blanket of love and cover it around someone you love. Cover yourself with this soft love blanket too. Let's walk around under this invisible blanket of love during our day. Thank you!
Find a place in your house where you can look really far away. Rest your gaze on the horizon and just look really far away. Notice how you feel. No need to analyze anything. Learn to live in the state of not knowing. Give yourself a chance of not knowing, let the mind be empty and clean. Not knowing is not dying. When we are fully with this step, another this step will open, no need for next step. Look far away, have a vision and at the same time pay attention to just this step, this moment. Let yourself be surprised! When you need to make difficult decisions, come from the place of not knowing. Calm down, keep quiet and listen and welcome. The heart will whisper to you in unexpected moments of silence and listening.
We can't be sure when we will die and how many times we can meet each other. So let's not take anything for granted! Live like today is the last day of your life. We don't need to accumulate more knowledge, we need to practise what we already know, put it into use and we can know more. Knowledge is dead if it's only in the head. Do it consistently and with discipline. Discipline doesnot feel good in short term because we have to resist temptation. But it's like a naturally ripen fruit, it tastes good at due time. Love needs time, a lot, sometimes a decade, a lifetime to ripen. For all emotions to die down and it's a concious choice. We can not pull a tree out of a seed and pluck a green fruit, which is bitter and disappoints you. Water the trees, embrace the sun, wind, insects and do your own job. You can not sit at the tree and forget taking care of yourself. Leave result to nature. Don't settle for the conditioning of love that you are used to: longing, pain and pleasure. Go beyond it. Go beyond pain. There is a new dimension of love that is spacious, open, free and peaceful. I'll wait for you from this place of freedom. allow your heart to get broken as when it mends, it will be more tenacious and it will make you a real man.
In the early morning, let's spend some quiet moments just listening to nature. Just listening and noticing. Notice for a moment! Let your heart be open and send love to someone you care.
Attention is essential for our well-being. It makes us feel seen and visible and cared fo in a busy world. What kind of attention are available? And how can we get real attention when we need it most?
You are your own warrior. And all you can do is try to know who your friends are. Stand up to all challenges and let it expand you to the unknown. Play with the heart of a child and the courage of a lion.
"Don't you just love the morning | When you're reminded of the special gifts of life." (Mattie J T Stepanek)
We often unconsciously play role in our relationships. We feel the need to define the roles and choose the role we wish to relate: boss to employees, casual friend to casual friend, colleagues to colleagues, lover to lover. And with the roles are assigned "shoulds" and "expectations". What if I can be Real to you and do not play any role? What if I tell you "I love you" and I am not your lover? What if the dynamic is not between a provider and a needy, an important and a not important. When all roles fall away, and there is no role to hide, can we show up to each other? What if all we need to do is just to be Real.
from the beginning you have nothing to prove and everything to feel when you think you’re weak, it’s just a lie to kill your motivation can’t be validation you are beyond the sum of everything you do you are loved for you good, bad and ugly you are loved truly
you’re already complete pick your life up and make it again
you are loved for you you are loved for you i see everything in you
you want companionship you already have it because you don’t trust, you just can’t see it from the time we meet it has always followed you beyond time beyond space
Indulgence doesn't cost you much. It's a way of reverential living, a way to honour simple beauty around you. It's a creative way of being. By being present, everything can be a free and wonderful indulgence.
Serene sky - creamy white - free birds fly - let's look up for a while - close your eyes - open again - take in the light - in this moment - in calmness let's abide
I realize that we all unconsciously look for true connection in daily conversations. Underneath all fights and misunderstanding is the wish to be heard, to be understood and to be valued exactly as we are. Hence, I would choose to speak gently and genuinely from my heart, no need to prove or convince or impress anyone. It gives both a sense of peace and helps to build true intimacy. We don't need to be great conversationalist, we just need to be real.
How are you feeling right now? Whatever feeling you are experiencing, you do not have to fight it. I'm here with you. Feel it! Let it slowly move through the body and be with it. You can feel it! Be gentle with yourself!