The Partnership Podcast: Recent Episodes
Lauren & Trey
Trey and Lauren met on an online dating app in 2019 and have chosen partnership (almost) every day since.
This podcast takes you behind the scenes of their relationship and is committed to sharing both their successes and failures so that you can learn from their experiences and cultivate the relationships of your dreams.
⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of attempted suicide, verbal abuse, and non-consensual labor. Please listen with care.
In this deeply somber and storytelling episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey opens up about the recent death of his mother and the complicated emotions that have surfaced in its wake. He shares raw stories of his childhood—verbal abuse, forced labor, and the endurance it took to survive—and how those patterns shaped his adulthood.
For the first time, Trey reflects openly on the relief he feels with his mother’s passing, and the heavy mix of grief, pain, and even freedom that comes with the loss of someone who caused harm. He tells the full story of how their relationship unraveled, the anger and resentment he felt during their reconnections, and why they hadn’t spoken in years.
Midway through the episode, Trey recounts a difficult memory of his mother’s attempted suicide and the service he was forced to provide as a child in its aftermath. This story is shared with tenderness but may be activating for some listeners.
Lauren reflects on how the children inside all of us are still longing for parents to do their own healing work and offer unconditional love. Together, Trey and Lauren explore the messy, contradictory realities of grief: sadness, anger, longing, and relief.
This is not an easy episode, but it’s an honest one.
If you’d like support in navigating your partner’s grief, or if you are carrying grief of your own, you can request a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.
If this episode resonates with you, please like, subscribe, and share with someone who may need to hear these words.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
When your partner’s body changes — whether from weight gain, shifting eating habits, or perimenopause — it can bring up some of the trickiest conversations in long-term relationships. In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey share a vulnerable look at how they navigate these sensitive moments with honesty, compassion, and growth.
Trey tells the story of skipping Lauren’s favorite Hazy IPAs on a Sam’s Club run after a recent conversation about her body changes. Was this a supportive choice, or a potential “land mine”? Together, they unpack how unrequested service can backfire, drawing from Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent and Alison Armstrong’s Celebrating Partnership.
Lauren shares her desire to resist cultural obsession with “skinny” while entering her 40s with self-love, compassion, and education — not self-judgment. Trey reflects on breaking old patterns and celebrating small outward shifts that actually mean big relational change. They also dive into Lauren’s latest work on the roles of Liars & Lie Invitees in partnership, showing how truth-telling and conscious communication can transform long-term dynamics.
This episode is both tender and practical, offering couples real insight into what not to do — and better ways to support each other through body changes, health goals, and the realities of aging together.
Want more tools for navigating tricky conversations in partnership? Subscribe to The Partnership Podcast and connect with Lauren directly: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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On this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey asks Lauren about the career-focused women she works with—are they struggling to find partners, and why? Lauren’s answer may surprise you (and you’ll have to listen to see if she chose the unfiltered or the compassionate version).
Together, Trey and Lauren explore the dating challenges ambitious women face, why many men resist accountability, and how women and men often enter coaching from very different motivations. Lauren shares a tearful reflection on what Trey provides her—calling him her “soft place to land”—and why deep support, joy, and emotional presence matter just as much as great sex.
She also celebrates the men she does get to work with—those hungry for tools to love women better—and why this feels deeply restorative and healing. To close, Lauren offers a trauma-informed perspective: that many men’s avoidant behaviors are safety-seeking strategies learned in childhood.
This conversation reframes what some call “high-value women” and clarifies what truly matters in creating the kind of partnership career-focused women are longing for.
If you’re a man ready to step into the kind of relationship women deeply desire, request a free consult today: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break down two of the most unhelpful questions partners ask: “Are you OK?” and “What’s wrong?”
Right before recording, Lauren asked Trey, “Are you OK?”—and it sparked a powerful conversation. These questions often come from hypervigilance in our own nervous systems, not from genuine curiosity about our partner’s well-being.
Trey shares the stress response he felt in his body and why he’d prefer to hear:
- “Is there any way I can support you?”
- Or even, “My body can sense some discomfort in yours. Would you like to share about that?”
From there, the two dive into:
- 🎯 Why “Are you OK?” rarely lands the way we hope
- 🎯 A playful story about hiding a package of cat wipes around the house (at 8:15)
- 🎯 How men often bottle their emotions, and the vulnerability of asking for what we want (14:00)
- 🎯 Why Lauren centers individual agency—not the relationship itself—when working with couples (17:45)
- 🎯 The importance of protecting privacy in partnership and in coaching
- 🎯 Trey’s heartfelt confession about wanting to “level up” alongside Lauren as she grows (29:30)
This episode is equal parts playful and profound—exploring how tiny moments (“Are you OK?”) reveal the deeper ways we connect, protect, and grow together.
✨ Curious about how these tools could support your relationship? Request a free 15-minute consult with Lauren to explore what’s possible: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
We’re picking up right where we left off in last week’s episode! Trey kicks things off with a scene where Lauren asks him not to masturbate because she’s craving his pursuit. What follows is a hilarious and eye‑opening exchange about dating each other inside a long‑term relationship.
From there, Lauren dives deep into spontaneous vs. responsive desire—and she doesn’t hold back about how frustrating it is that so many men want women to “just want them more,” without doing the work to actually understand responsive desire!
We break down the scene step‑by‑step and show how having the right tools (and the courage to use them!) helps us get the sex we both want. Then we open the door to one of our favorite parts of our week—our Sunday Morning Ritual.
We talk about:
- What our ritual actually looks like (and why it’s never locked in stone)
- How those slow, connected hours keep us craving each other
- Why this practice feels like both an investment in our sexual connection and a trip to our “favorite restaurant”
Don’t forget to listen to last week’s episode first for the full story—then join us here for the deep dive!
Want to learn how to craft rituals like this in your own relationship—and talk about the sex you actually want?
🎙️ Request a free consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.#MasturbationInRelationships #SexEducationPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #SexAndRelationships #PartnershipPodcast #WheelOfConsent #SexualCommunication #LongTermRelationships #SexualDesire #HealthySexLife
In this candid episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the messy, beautiful, and often misunderstood topic of masturbation within long-term relationships—the good, the bad, and the ugly.
They open up about real moments in their own sex life, from Lauren recently asking Trey to “hold your cum for me” to their conversations about “tingle time” and what it really means to have mutually pleasurable sex.
At 4:04, Lauren shares how they first introduced the term tingle time—and how Trey wasn’t a fan at first! They discuss the power of withholding, why Trey doesn’t want Lauren to “take one for the team,” and how “hot sex” and “warm sex” have shaped their desires.
Key moments include:
- Why being able to talk about sex is more important than how much sex you’re having.
- Lauren’s reflections on The Wheel of Consent and why she sometimes chooses not to “give” Trey sex during her work week.
- The difference between invitations to mutual pleasure and gifts of sex—and why Trey isn’t disappointed when Lauren says no.
- How they’ve deconflated touch and sex, so touch never feels obligatory.
- Lauren’s clients who believe masturbation is “wrong” in partnership—and why this belief can be a trap.
They also tease next week’s episode, where they’ll walk through a hypothetical scenario to unpack these ideas even further.
✨ Ready to have more open, playful, and connected conversations about sex in your own relationship?
Request a free consult with Lauren today: sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
🎧 Listen now and learn how talking about sex—even the awkward stuff—can lead to a more flourishing, mutually pleasurable partnership.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.#MasturbationInRelationships #SexEducationPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #SexAndRelationships #PartnershipPodcast #WheelOfConsent #SexualCommunication #LongTermRelationships #SexualDesire #HealthySexLife
In this episode, Lauren and Trey pick up where they left off—exploring the inner work men need to do so they can connect authentically with the women they truly desire. Trey opens up about how his experience as a Human Design Projector means running on a finite battery. Lauren, as a Generator, offers steady energy and support within the relationship.
Trey shares how their conversation sparked a realization they hadn’t discussed: Human Design has been a game‑changer for them as a couple, helping them understand and support each other on a deeper level.
Lauren reveals what she's been into lately:
- 📚 Reading BOYS & SEX
- Studying Human Design: Discover the Person You Were Born to Be
- Listening to The Diary of a CEO Podcast Interview with Dr. K, where Dr. K unpacks the natural selection pressures men face in today’s culture.
Lauren gets on her soapbox about pornography: yes, it can feel good—but if we’re solely chasing dopamine hits, we miss the relational and emotional tools needed to recognize women as fully formed human beings. That’s a stumbling block to real growth.
They both champion the idea of natural consequences and affirm their mantra: “Sex is not everything—it’s a part of everything.”
Lauren challenges straight male listeners to get outside: go to parks and observe fathers, while Trey encourages observing happy couples in real life. Trey recounts a couple he admired as a younger man—a model of the relationship he aspired to create.
Lauren shares how she’s obsessed with Trey’s habits, and how their couples reading with Andie Thueson helped them support each other’s Human Design.
They send listeners off with homework:
1️⃣ Look up your Human Design type.
2️⃣ Observe couples and families you admire through that lens.
They close with a teaser: next episode, they’ll dive into sex and the role it plays in dating relationships. Lauren emphasizes: always start by knowing why we do what we do.
- Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity
- Human Design: Discover the Person You Were Born to Be
- The Diary of a CEO Podcast Interview with Dr. K
- Couples Reading with Andie Thueson
Request a free consult with Lauren and get personalized guidance on intimacy, connection, and partnership.
👉 sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
📌 Resources from this episode:💬 Ready to go deeper in your own relationships?
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
What do emotionally available men do differently in sex and dating? Trey interviews Lauren about how straight men can unlearn old patterns, attract real connection, and become the sexual partners they truly want to be.
Trey shares the story of a pivotal rejection that sparked his growth journey and gets honest about his disappointment in the questions men have been asking at Lauren’s recent Soho House events. While the women show up with curiosity and self-awareness, many of the straight men seem stuck in meta-level thinking—and Trey doesn’t hold back.
They also discuss:
– Why preparation is more powerful than performance
– How to identify the wounds you’re bringing into dating
– What green flags look like when you’re actually ready for partnership
– How to communicate wants and needs without pressure
The episode wraps with a playful role-play using Lauren’s M.E.A.N.S.™ tool—a framework designed to help partners talk about sex with more clarity and connection:
M – Motivation: What’s driving my desire for this experience?
E – Edges & Boundaries: What’s okay, what’s not, and where am I unsure?
A – Aftercare: What kind of support might I need afterward?
N – Needs: What do I need emotionally, physically, energetically?
S – Safety: Do I feel physically and emotionally safe to engage?
Whether you’re a man hoping to date more intentionally—or someone who loves one—this episode offers honest insight, practical tools, and a whole lot of heart.
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And if you’re ready to explore this work in your own relationship, visit sexedforyou.com/freeconsult to connect with Lauren.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our podcast for more episodes about sex, partnership, communication, and love.
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
In this short but powerful episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey pick up right where they left off.
Lauren invites Trey to share what he’s been exploring around his source wound, and he opens up about a childhood memory from 1994 — sitting in a car, hearing Adam Sandler’s “The Chanukah Song,” and feeling an intense response in his 10-year-old body.
With the help of a meditative practice inspired by Dr. Joe Dispenza, and guided by Lauren, Trey revisits this memory using active imagination — and discovers how much healing can happen when a partner helps you repattern what once felt too big to hold alone.
Together, they talk through what it’s like to do this kind of inner child work in relationship, how safety can be renegotiated when met with presence, and why they’d like to apply the same toolset to old wounds from their recent NYC rupture.
Timestamps:
00:00 Why Trey wanted to share this memory
02:55 The 1994 car memory & The Chanukah Song
06:45 Active imagination as a relational repair tool
10:30 Trey’s nervous system response & what helped
12:50 Can we use this process for NYC too?
✨ Want to learn how to use tools like the ones we shared today?
Request a free consult at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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In this deeply honest episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the rupture they first discussed after their NYC trip — but now, they’re speaking from the other side of a powerful coaching session with their person, Dr. Joli Hamilton.
They explore how separating roles in their partnership has transformed the way they handle feedback, support, and stress. Lauren introduces the term “Vision Carrier,” a phrase that finally captures the role Trey has long played in her life. At 10:42, Lauren shares the moment she felt real validation — when their coach and Trey both affirmed that her critique of Trey’s self-awareness wasn’t too much, it was spot-on.
They discuss how denial of her feelings touched on old wounds of gaslighting from her first marriage, and how they are both working to repattern their safety-seeking behaviors in real time.
And even though the work is hard (Lauren shares she felt physically sick before the session), they’re recommitting to a partnership where love is prioritized over comfort.
Timestamps:
00:00 NYC rupture recap & coaching session reflection
04:51 “Vision Carrier” and role separation
10:42 The moment Lauren felt less “crazy”
14:45 The difference between critique and cruelty
20:30 Trey's repatterning work
26:00 Love vs. comfort in partnership
✨ Want to learn relationship tools like the ones we shared today?
Request a free 15-minute consult at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love.
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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Can you play The 3-Minute Game without it leading to arousal?
In this powerful episode, Trey and Lauren demonstrate how to play a completely platonic version of the 3-Minute Game - a core practice from Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent®. They explain how this version builds self-awareness, trust, and clear boundaries without courting arousal or triggering old patterns.
At minute 18:23, tune in to watch them play live, bringing real-time curiosity, discomfort, and delight to the table. They show how clear requests and responses can strengthen relational dynamics - even when it’s not about sex.
They also unpack a vulnerable moment from a recent Sunday morning where the game went sideways. When Trey said “do whatever you want,” it sparked confusion and disconnection. Lauren shares how this moment felt like desire smuggling - and what helped them find clarity and repair.
Stay through the end as they offer creative ideas for body-based requests, explore their most challenging quadrants from the Wheel of Consent, and reflect on why this practice is one of the most transformational tools in their relationship.
Want to learn more about the 3-Minute Game?
📚 Read The Art of Receiving and Giving by Dr. Betty Martin and Robyn Dalzen → https://amzn.to/3Gq3HND
🎧 Watch on YouTube or Spotify at minute 18:23 to see Trey and Lauren play in real time!
💬 Curious how this might help your partnership?
Request a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at:
👉 www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
ThePartnershipPodcast #WheelOfConsent #3MinuteGame #PlatonicTouch #ConsentEducation #DesireSmuggling #BettyMartin #SomaticConsent #HealthyRelationships #SexEdForYou
After Lauren’s standing-room-only Soho House event, she and Trey pull back the curtain on what happened behind the scenes—and why big wins can sometimes bring up big shadows.
Lauren introduces her inner "Sissy," the part of her that believes she's only lovable if she's working hard, never celebrating. She opens up about the shame spiral that followed her success and how it led to a painful rupture with Trey. Trey shares his raw truth about feeling like “the help” while everyone else gets the best version of Lauren—and the resentment that can build in silence.
They explore their shadow stories, like “I’m never enough” and “I don’t get to want,” and how irrational beliefs can hijack real connection. They break down the missteps and miscommunications, the tender repair, and the nervous system reset they found on a long walk (and a 5-minute oral sex session that helped them stop over-talking).
Lauren reflects on the power of being surrounded by people who help her level up—and cries as she thanks Trey for being her dream man, the one who keeps showing up.
Don’t miss the emotional moment at minute 42 where Lauren names, with full heart, the partnership they’ve built—and the gratitude she feels for the man who keeps cheering her on.
💬 Book a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
ShadowWorkInLove #BehindTheScenesHealing #ConsciousPartnership #SuccessAndSelfSabotage #LevelingUpTogether
“So, we’re on the elevator—and we’re angry.”
In this raw and revealing follow-up to last week’s episode, Lauren picks up right where they left off: the hotel hallway tension, the slammed door, and the unforgettable, rage-fueled sex that followed. Clothes were ripped off, bodies thrown against walls, and a deep desire to be chosen and wanted took over.
Lauren and Trey reflect on the erotic electricity of that night—what made it so charged, why they’ve never had sex like that before, and how it left them both breathless… and then laughing when Trey had to wear Lauren’s sweatshirt home after the fire alarm went off. (Yes, really.)
But this episode isn’t just a sex story. They unpack the difference between hot and healthy. They name the ingredients that made that encounter intense and why they’ve agreed not to repeat it. Together, they explore the psychology of angry sex, make-up sex, and what happens when arousal is driven by disconnection instead of desire.
They then shift into what’s coming next: their plans for an upcoming Manhattan rendezvous—one that blends familiarity and mystery—and Lauren’s exciting speaking gig at Soho House. She opens up about her growth, the mantra she's holding—"I am good enough"—and how she’s preparing to do Live Sex & Relationship Coaching on stage.
Trey shares his excitement and support for Lauren’s so-called “National Tour,” and they talk about what it means to keep showing up for each other, especially when the stakes are high.
This conversation blends sexual healing, relationship advice, and emotional intimacy, offering tools for couples who want to better understand the intersection of sex and conflict. Whether you're curious about sex after a fight, make-up intimacy, or how communication can turn rage into repair, this episode delivers insights you won’t hear in couples therapy or your group chat.
🎧 Don’t miss this one—and if it resonates, leave a comment, subscribe, or share it with someone navigating intimacy and conflict in real time.
💬 Book a free 15-minute consult with Lauren at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
AngrySexExplained #SexAndConflict #IntimacyAfterFights
Why is hotel sex so hot? In this juicy and joy-filled episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren explore the psychology behind the passion—why sex in a hotel room often feels freer, more exciting, and more connected.
Trey opens with a hilarious hotel story from Amarillo, TX, and shares how heightened sensations and novelty make intimacy feel brand new. Lauren adds her insights about anticipation, freedom from responsibility, and the gift of being cared for instead of caretaking. She breaks down the difference between support and caretaking, referencing their past episode and the cultural conditioning that teaches women to be “human givers.”
At minute 10:47, Lauren introduces “Noel,” the sexy Christmas gift she sends Trey every year—and the conversation takes off from there. Together, they explore how hotel sex removes pressure while opening up the possibility of pleasure.
Lauren names the unique freedom hotel stays offer:
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Sex as a place we go, not something we do
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A break from obligations and identity
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The opportunity to abandon roles and expectations
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A container for connection, not performance
They even touch on hotel sex that goes wrong—and how even those moments strengthen the bond and create hilarious, memorable stories. The episode ends just as Lauren shares the start of a fight she picked with Trey about his wedding ring… but to hear the juicy resolution, you’ll need to tune in next week for Part Two.
🎧 Subscribe, share, and leave a review if this one got you thinking!
💬 Want to work with Lauren? Book a free 15-minute consult at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
HotelSexExplained #IntimacyTips #RelationshipPodcast
In this vulnerable follow-up to last week's episode on opening up their relationship, Lauren and Trey share how they’re really doing—and the deeper attachment patterns that were activated in the aftermath.Lauren opens up about her coach’s reflection that she often strives to “do it all” to protect Trey from pain. Trey reveals his own avoidant tendencies, formed in childhood, to escape disappointment and judgment when others fail him. Together, they explore how these strategies, shaped by their families of origin, play out in long-term partnership.They unpack why words from outside voices—coaches, mentors, and therapists—can land differently than when they come from within the relationship, and how external perspectives help them grow as individuals and partners.This episode dives into the quiet pitfalls of committed relationships: fusion, business-mode, the death of mystery, and the pressure to keep each other comfortable. Lauren reflects on how “the unknown” is part of her erotic landscape, and why being curious—and remaining unknown—to each other keeps their desire alive.They quote their friend and colleague Dene Logan: “The desire to keep another comfortable is not love, it is attachment.” From here, they explore their biggest turnoffs (Trey’s is caretaking, Lauren’s is sameness), and at minute 17:20 Lauren asks a pivotal question: What’s the difference between caretaking and offering support? The answer leads them to a powerful realization about infantilization, helplessness, and the ways gendered expectations keep us stuck.They close with an honest conversation about asking for help, why men often don’t, and how true partnership means a dynamic flow of giving and receiving—where no one has to carry it all alone.Timestamps:00:00 – How last week’s episode impacted them06:15 – Childhood wounds & attachment strategies11:40 – Why outside voices matter14:50 – Fusion, sameness & the death of mystery17:20 – Caretaking vs. offering support23:00 – The fear of asking for help26:30 – Challenging “women’s work” and old beliefs🔗 Subscribe for more conversations on long-term love, repair, and intimacy💬 Curious about working with Lauren? Request a FREE 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsultAbout Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastReminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
In this raw and deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey open up about a conversation they’ve never shared publicly before—one that rocked the foundation of their partnership. At minute 06:49, you’ll hear Trey’s exact words at the bar: “What would it look like if we opened our relationship?” What followed was a weekend of intense reflection, body-based reactions, and tender reckoning.
Lauren, a professional sexuality educator and relationship coach, shares the real-time emotional and physical impact of that moment—not the polished version, but the full, human one. At 10:29, she reveals just how vulnerable it felt to speak from her truth, not her title.
They discuss how sex can become currency in relationships, the concept of “creative monogamy,” and the invaluable tools they've learned from Dr. Joli Hamilton. Trey reflects on his own missteps and the fear beneath his desire, while Lauren wonders aloud if it might be easier to live alone.
Together, they explore:
✨ What it means to choose partnership when it doesn’t give you everything you want
✨ How “ugly journaling,” vibrational alignment, and Human Design can support deep repair
✨ What full-bodied honesty looks like—even when it’s messy
This episode is tender, complex, and full of grey. It’s for anyone navigating modern love, boundaries, and the courage it takes to grow together—without losing yourself.
💬 Considering opening your relationship—or navigating the complexities of one that already is? If you're looking for thoughtful, non-judgmental, and deeply nuanced support, Lauren offers free 15-minute consults to explore if coaching is right for you.
👉 Request yours today at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
openrelationship #creativepartnership #modernlove #relationshippodcast #wheelofconsent #emotionalintimacy #humanresponse #relationshiptools
This week, Lauren and Trey dive into a big, juicy topic: breaking up—but not with each other. (Don't worry, they're still together!)
When Trey invites Lauren to share about a date night she requested, the conversation turns deeply personal. Lauren opens up about a core pattern in her attachment style: the fear of being “too much” and the impulse to protect others from her bigness—especially when she’s on the edge of growth.
She shares the origin of that story, the somatic response our bodies have to perceived threats to attachment, and how those old beliefs can sneak into even the most loving partnerships. As her business, Sex Ed for You, takes off—and more people ask her to write a book—Lauren admits that even sexy texts from Trey on her weekend off can feel like pressure, not pleasure.
Trey offers a surprising solution: "What if we just broke up?"
Not with each other—but with outdated roles and stories.
In a twisty, tender, and hilarious conversation, they explore the freedom that comes with redefining relationship agreements. Trey reflects on his own experience in football operations, how watching the NFL used to feel like work—and how that mirrors what Lauren’s going through now.
He reminds Lauren that he wants her to chase her dreams—that "that’s" the woman he fell in love with.
✨ This episode is a heartfelt, real-time unraveling of the beliefs that keep us stuck—and a powerful reminder that sometimes, love means letting go… of everything except each other.
🎧 Listen in, then tell us: What old roles or stories are you ready to break up with?
👉 Want support in breaking up with your own outdated patterns?
Lauren is currently offering Free 15-Minute Consults to help you learn the exact tools and somatic practices discussed in this episode.
💻 Request yours at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult — and start creating the relationships you actually want to be in.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
relationshipgoals #breakup #attachmentstyles #sexeducation #partnershippodcast #selfgrowth #entrepreneurship #somatichealing #marriedlife #oldstorynewstory #boundaries
What do you do when your partner’s ego takes the wheel? In this deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey explore how to handle ego in real-time partnership. Trey opens up about recent struggles with his inner critic, replaying imaginary arguments, and how it’s made him short-tempered. Lauren gently suggests this might not be "stupid" behavior—but actually part of the work of real, evolving partnership.
They unpack a pivotal moment that came to a head over ice cream, when Trey’s defensiveness flared in response to their 14-year-old. Lauren accessed anger in a way she rarely does, and for the first time, Trey dropped his walls. What followed was a meaningful, healing conversation that helped them both grow.
Lauren connects this moment to Trey's childhood patterning—specifically, the safety-seeking behaviors he developed when his mother would yell at him in the car. She wonders if “The Baby” might actually be the healing balm for his mother wound. Trey admits Lauren can provoke him like no one else—and maybe that's a good thing.
Later, they share details from a playful, connected date where they revisited the 3-Minute Game. The experience was so profound that it might have sent them into a state of DROP—a physical, emotional, and chemical crash that can follow intense pleasure. Lauren explains how the nervous system reacts to intense intimacy, why we sometimes feel disoriented or exhausted afterward, and how important it is to close the container.
They wrap up by discussing what they’ll do differently next time to stay connected and grounded—and how to better support each other through the mess and magic of long-term love.
🔗 Need tools for navigating hard conversations with your partner? Request a free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult and get the support you deserve.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
RelationshipAdvice #EgoInRelationships #EmotionalTriggers #GreatSex
In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey share how they've learned to say "No" to sex — without creating distance, resentment, or feelings of rejection.
They start by introducing a powerful game from Dr. Betty Martin 's WHEEL OF CONSENT: -Like A Pro Training called "No Three Ways," and reflect on how it helped rebuild trust between them after a traumatic experience at a tantra party earlier that year. (Catch that story HERE)
Lauren and Trey explore:
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How childhood experiences around "No" shaped their adult relationships
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How they're working to honor their 14-year-old's boundaries
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Personal responsibility for orgasm (and why it matters!)
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How they navigate saying "No" inside their partnership — and when it does or doesn’t feel like rejection
They also model different communication tools they've found incredibly helpful, like:
➔ "Not now, but then"
➔ "Not that, but this"
➔ "I'm interested"
➔ "This benefits me"
The conversation gets juicy as they discuss why touch and sex often get conflated — and how unspoken "No’s" can create distance over time. They even do about 8 minutes of role-playing, modeling how to gracefully decline sexual invitations while still keeping intimacy alive.
At 43:00, they shift into an honest conversation about the differences between solo sex and partnered sex — and why they aren't in competition.
Trey asks at 45:15, "If I fantasize about another woman or use porn to orgasm, why don't you take it personally?" Lauren offers a fresh perspective, likening erotic materials to fast food 🍔 — satisfying, but not competing with fine dining 🍷.
Lauren closes by sharing the one time porn use made her sad — and why it was really about broken expectations, not the porn itself.
✨ If you want more tools to communicate your desires for sex and your boundaries without rejecting your partner, request a free 15-minute consult with Lauren today: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
WheelOfConsent #SexualBoundaries #RelationshipCommunication #ThePartnershipPodcast #sayingno #justsayno #rejection #sexualrejection
After the cameras stopped rolling in “She Got Triggered. He Got Scared,” (LISTEN NOW) Trey and Lauren weren’t done. In this raw and revealing follow-up, Trey shares what happened immediately after filming ended—and why he wasn’t OK with having his ability to see a better way shut down. Lauren recounts their intense phone call and the moment Trey asked her, “How are you going to attend to this?” Her response? A scheduled TRE session with her coach, Robyn. Trey’s reaction? Deep respect.
Together, they unpack what’s theirs to work on individually—and what belongs to the space between them. Lauren dives into Human Design, bringing her books to the “marketplace” for some solo reflection, and discovers some of the keys to understanding their friction: electromagnetic channel 52-9. She finally sees why Trey thrives in details and she in vision—and why that sometimes pulls them apart.
This episode is a conversation about owning your work, respecting each other’s design, and giving one another the freedom to get it wrong. Lauren offers a heartfelt apology for trying to dim Trey’s superpowers in an effort to make him more like her. This one’s tender, honest, and filled with lightbulb moments.
🎧 Listen in and let us know—what’s your partner work vs. your personal work?
👇 Drop your reflections in the comments. We read every one.
💬 Need support navigating conflict in your own relationship? If you're looking for tools to repair, reconnect, and relate more clearly—Lauren offers free 15-minute consults to help you explore what's possible in your partnership. Book yours at: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries.
(WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
ThePartnershipPodcast #HumanDesign #RelationshipWork #TRE #CouplesWhoGrowTogether #EmotionalSafety #SplenicAuthority #Channel529 #TreyAndLauren #PowerCouples #PersonalGrowth
In this raw and unfiltered emergency episode of Season 2, Lauren and Trey sit down early the morning after a seemingly casual Friday kitchen conversation triggered one of Lauren’s deepest source wounds. If you saw her 11-minute Instagram video (watch it here), you already know this moment hit hard—activating powerful, body-based beliefs and a flood of old, painful stories.
What was meant to be a lighthearted recap of how far they’ve come as a couple turns into something far more intense. Lauren vulnerably shares the inner chaos that took over—memories tied to scarcity, shame, and her family being barred from writing checks at the grocery store.
Trey, caught off guard, reveals his own fear response to any offers of service to Lauren: “Is this going to backfire?” he wonders. “I’m not your dad, and if I start to act like him, you should leave.” What follows is an unpolished, unscripted, and deeply human moment between two people doing the work—imperfectly and together.
They say there won’t be a part two... but there is. Tune in next Monday for the healing and surprising conclusion.
If this episode hit close to home and you’re ready to build healthier communication and arguing skills in your relationship, Lauren offers free 15-minute consults to explore if working together is a good fit. Whether you’re navigating recurring conflicts or want to create more emotional safety with your partner, she’s here to help. Book your free consult now at www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult — because your relationship is worth it.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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In this vulnerable and emotionally-rich episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey unpack a recent argument that started with Trey’s new hairstyle—but quickly spiraled into deeper feelings of not being heard, not feeling prioritized, and long-standing insecurities.
Trey bravely shares how hurt he felt when Lauren made a seemingly small but painful comment, and how it led to a moment where he didn’t feel safe taking his hat off in public. Lauren opens up about her fear of “angering the dragon,” and the shame that creeps in when she feels like she’s going to be “found out” as not good enough—especially in moments she’s trying to help, like with his hair.
Together, they explore the anatomy of an argument: the initial misstep of not knowing who the gift was for, the breakdown in communication around expectations, and the importance of renegotiating in real time. They talk through how they navigated Sunday morning’s repair conversation—not by obsessing over the accuracy of memory, but by focusing on the tools and connection they wanted to rebuild.
Trey reflects on how easily this could’ve turned into a deeper rupture, and what it would’ve meant for the relationship if Lauren had doubled down instead of getting curious. They touch on gaslighting, the emotional weight of small comments, and how to reframe conflict as an invitation to move closer rather than farther apart.
With humor (hello, dragon jokes) and heart, this episode is a raw, real-time example of how to argue with love—especially when one partner doesn’t feel heard and the other feels insecure.
✨ If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who’s learning to fight fair—and don’t forget to rate and review the podcast so more folks can find us. 💛
Want to strengthen your relationship? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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How do the simple rituals we share each day shape the security and connection in our relationship? In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into "Launches & Landings"—the daily practices that start and end their days together.
Lauren recently finished Wired for Love (Second Edition) by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT (📖 Get the book here) and was surprised to learn the science behind the rituals they've naturally developed over the years. They explore:
☕ Morning Launches—How Lauren signals Trey for coffee in bed, the small moments that light up their faces, and why these rituals set the tone for the day.
🌙 Evening Landings—Why they go to bed at the same time, their three evening questions (Highlights, Ouches, and Boo-Boos), and how prepping coffee at night has become an act of love.
💛 The deeper truth—At 33:35, they reflect on why these practices provide safety, reassurance, and a sense of home, no matter what the day brings.
From kissy sounds at the door to the power of eye contact, this episode is all about the simple yet powerful ways we show up for each other daily. Huge thanks to Stan Tatkin for the science behind what we've always felt!
Want to strengthen your relationship? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
🔔 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review if this episode resonates with you!
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
#Relationships #AttachmentStyles #StanTatkin #WiredForLove #DailyRituals #Partnership
What happens when one partner wants something sexually, but the other doesn’t? In this episode, Lauren and Trey respond to an audience member’s question about sexual boundaries in relationships. Lauren shares one of her favorite Betty Dodson quotes: "The first principle of pleasure is the freedom of personal choice."—reminding us that if you don’t want to do something in bed, you don’t have to. Period.
They explore past experiences, why relationships don’t begin or end over just one preference, and how mutual enjoyment plays a role in long-term intimacy. Plus, Lauren shares a resource for learning pleasure-centered techniques through Beducated.
This short but impactful episode (under 30 minutes) is a must-listen for anyone navigating intimacy, consent, and personal agency in relationships. Because your body, your choice—always. 💙
Want to be better at saying NO to BJs? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
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About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
Talking about sex in a long-term relationship can feel awkward, vulnerable, or even impossible—but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into how to have hard conversations about your sexual relationship and create the sex life you both want.They unpack societal scripts that shape men's and women’s experiences of desire, share real feelings from couples—including feeling stuck and trapped—and explore Esther Perel’s insight: “It is not a crisis of desire, it is a crisis of imagination.”Together, they walk through six steps to reinvigorate your sex life:1️⃣ Examine your beliefs – Where did your ideas about sex come from? Do they still serve you?2️⃣ Assess your social circles – Are the relationships around you communicative and pleasure-centered?3️⃣ Expand your knowledge – Introduce new ideas and education into your “diet” and consider working with a sexuality educator like Lauren.4️⃣ Own your part – Take accountability for ways you may have contributed to a stagnant sex life and discuss what you’d love to nurture together.5️⃣ Take risks & explore – Experiment with new initiation styles, fantasies, Creative Monogamy (Dr. Joli Hamilton), sexy getaways, and educational resources like OMGYES and BEDUCATED.6️⃣ Integrate & choose – After experimenting, decide what works for you and what you want to keep.Lauren wraps up with a powerful reminder: “Once we have a greater understanding of our options and our choices, we don’t feel stuck—we feel like choice makers. And THAT equals great sex.”🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe for more deep, honest conversations on love, intimacy, and relationships!Want support in your hard talks? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultAbout Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastReminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.#Intimacy #Relationships #PartnershipPodcast#Relationships #Sexuality #LongTermLove #Intimacy #Marriage #Desire #PartnershipPodcast #SexTalks #Sex #HardTalks
Ever heard of “grapefruiting” but weren’t quite sure what it meant? 🍊 In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break it all down—starting with the viral technique made famous by Auntie Angel and its unforgettable moment in Girls Trip (yes, we’re linking that scene below 👀).
But this conversation isn’t just about technique—it’s about communication and how to ask for more of what you love without guilt, pressure, or entitlement. Lauren also shares her recent experience creating content for Lovers, sparking an open and hilarious discussion on pleasure, requests, and intimacy dynamics.
What You'll Learn:
🍊 What Is Grapefruiting? The origins, the technique, and if it’s really all that…
💬 How to Ask for More in the Bedroom (without making your partner feel obligated)
🚫 Avoiding the "Pussy Brat" Mentality – What it is and why it kills connection
💡 Handling Rejection Like a Pro – How NOT to punish your partner when they say no
🎥 Watch Auntie Angel in action: Auntie Angel - YouTube
🤣 Relive the Girls Trip scene: Girls Trip Grapefruit Scene
💫 Secret Link for More: www.sexedforyou.com_\mywife
Join Lauren and Trey for an honest, laugh-out-loud episode packed with practical insights on keeping intimacy fun, playful, and 100% pressure-free.
💬 Drop your thoughts in the comments & don’t forget to subscribe for more real talk on relationships, sex, and connection!
Grapefruiting #SexEducation #Relationships #Intimacy #Communication #PartnershipPodcast
Want to give better BJs? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
How do you keep the passion alive when you have kids at home—especially when they walk in at the worst possible moment? 😳 In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey get hilariously real about the awkward (but inevitable) challenges of maintaining an intimate life as parents.
They share the cringe-worthy story of a recent mishap, Trey's knee-jerk reaction to blame Lauren, and how they all repaired after the shock wore off. Plus, they offer practical tips for finding time to connect, getting creative with privacy, and why it's actually healthy for teens to know their parents have a loving (yet private) intimate life.
The episode wraps up with laughter as Lauren references "dropping your teens off at the barn," leaving Southern California-born Trey totally baffled. 🐴😂
🔹 Topics Covered:
✔️ The importance of intimacy in long-term relationships
✔️ How to find uninterrupted moments for connection
✔️ Repairing after awkward encounters with kids
✔️ Why modeling a loving partnership benefits your children
✔️ Hilarious parenting moments you won’t want to miss
🎧 Subscribe for more candid conversations on relationships, intimacy, and personal growth!
Want to work on building better intimacy in your partnership? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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In part two of this deep dive, Lauren and Trey challenge the narratives shaping the Blake Lively vs. Justin Baldoni case. Lauren refutes the idea that "once a cheater, always a cheater," while Trey shares his teenage Nickelodeon stardom experience—including a moment on set with Blake Lively. They explore trust, attraction, and power, with Lauren questioning if she would have reason to fear if Trey worked alongside a beautiful, dynamic woman who had done the work. Trey asks Lauren’s take on Baldoni’s and Lively’s character, and Lauren introduces Elizabeth Lesser’s "Old Story vs. New Story Power," reimagining how this conversation could shift with a new perspective. Trey reflects on why these stories captivate him—and us. Don’t miss the conclusion of this two-part series.
Want to work on old narratives that affect the way you approach hard conversations with others? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the Blake Lively vs. Justin Baldoni case, unpacking the narratives, power hierarchies, and gender dynamics shaping the conversation. Lauren shares intimate details about her own divorce and the fear of being deposed, connecting personal experience to public scrutiny. Together, they explore how jealousy, silencing, and cultural norms shape relationships and question how these dynamics might play out in Blake and Ryan’s partnership. Don’t miss part one of this powerful two-part series.Want to work on old narratives that affect the way you approach hard conversations with others? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultAbout Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastReminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.#BlakeLively #JustinBaldoni #ThePartnershipPodcast #PodcastEpisode #GenderDynamics #PowerHierarchies #RelationshipTalk #DivorceStories #CulturalNarratives #JealousyInRelationships #SilencingVoices #BlakeAndRyan #CelebrityRelationships #PodcastCommunity #Storytelling
In this Season 2 premiere of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break down how to prioritize sex and negotiate intimacy in a way that feels good for both partners. They explore the stories we create about our relationships—often shaped by insecurity—and ask, Is your partner actually avoidant, or is that just a narrative in your head?
Lauren shares why safety-seeking behaviors aren’t inherently wrong, but as adults, we get to decide whether we still want to feel their impact. They discuss the differences in arousal times, how Lauren uses a vibrator and erotic imagination to bridge the gap, and the power of reframing rejection through the “No Exercise” from The Wheel of Consent: Like a Pro Training.
From understanding the difference between obligations and invitations to sex, to negotiating everything—including who takes out the trash—this episode highlights the beauty of co-creating consent. As Lauren puts it, “Sex is not everything, it’s just a part of everything.” Plus, they explore Dr. Betty Martin’s redefinition of consent: “You don’t give consent, you arrive at consent—together.”
If you’ve ever struggled with mismatched desire, feeling rejected, or navigating intimacy with ease, this episode will give you practical tools to shift the dynamic. Tune in to learn how to release old narratives, communicate better, and create the sex life you both want—without pressure or resentment.
Want to learn more about prioritizing sex? Click here:www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You athttps://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today:https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page:https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love:https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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In the Season One finale of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Trey and Lauren answer listener questions on relationships, intimacy, and personal growth. They discuss navigating mismatched libido, overcoming body insecurities, and living in a conservative town while raising a teen who could tune in. Trey shares insights from his meditation practice, gives an update on how he’s handling the dishes in the sink, and reflects with Lauren on the most valuable lessons they’ve learned about each other after 100 episodes. Plus, they reveal exciting details about the guests joining them in Season Two.Tune in for an honest, engaging Q&A to wrap up an incredible first season. 🎉Want to learn more about working with Lauren? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultAbout Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastReminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.#Relationships #Partnership #Intimacy #MismatchedLibido #BodyImage #Mindfulness
In this raw and unfiltered episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren dives into her favorite topic of the moment: erotic self-focus. With passion and purpose, she breaks down how centering yourself in your most erotic fantasies can be a transformative act of self-love and empowerment—especially for women.
But what starts as a liberating conversation takes a sharp turn when Trey voices his discomfort in the recording chair. What unfolds is an unexpected on-camera conflict that lays bare their vulnerabilities. Lauren wrestles with her inner urge to tell Trey to "buck the fuck up," while both hosts share the unspoken words they want to say—and explore the emotional fallout if they did.
Together, they confront childhood wounds, unpack learned behaviors, and navigate the tension between creativity and conflict. While the moment is messy, Lauren and Trey agree: avoiding hard conversations is far worse than tackling them head-on, even when the timing feels off.
Tune in for a candid and heartfelt discussion that ends with resolution and a renewed commitment to honoring each other—just in time to prepare for the final episode of Season 1 next week!
🎙️ Key Themes:
Erotic self-focus and why it’s so freeing for women
The messy realities of conflict in creative partnerships
Childhood wounds and their impact on communication
Why avoiding hard conversations is never the answer
Don’t miss this emotionally charged episode that perfectly sets the stage for the season finale!
Want to learn more about Erotic Self Focus or navigating conflicts like these? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
EroticSelfFocus #OnCameraConflict #RelationshipPodcast #ConflictResolution #ThePartnershipPodcast #CreativePartnership #SelfEmpowerment #EmotionalHealing #WomenEmpowerment #ChildhoodWounds #OpenCommunication #PodcastEpisode #SeasonFinalePreparation
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
Note: We’re redesigning our podcast studio, so the visuals might look a little different over the next few episodes! In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren opens up about her biggest fears around overworking and neglecting her family. She and Trey share a new image that helped them get on the same page and discuss how they found their way back to one another sexually after a hectic work week. Hear how they turned toward each other even without the presence of desire, why it felt awkward, and how it ultimately worked to deepen their connection. Tune in for relatable insights on balancing work, family, and intimacy!Want to learn more about finding ways back to one another without guilt and shame? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultAbout Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastReminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.#TooBusyForSex #Intimacy #RelationshipAdvice #WorkLifeBalance #PartnershipPodcast #RebuildingConnection #MarriageTips #BusyCouples #EmotionalConnection #RelationshipGoals
In this festive 25-minute Christmas episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into the surprising role anxiety plays in arousal—especially during the holidays. They explore how visiting your childhood home can be a turn-on or turn-off, and the three key moments that can make you desire your partner more: missing them, seeing them in their element, or being surprised by them.
They also share hilarious and sexy stories about sneaking away for private moments (like a stinky NYE bathroom and slipping into a hotel conference room—no breaking and entering, promise!). Learn how taking risks and trying something new together can reignite passion in long-term partnerships.
Plus, get their tips for sneaky holiday play, titrating eroticism, and expressing your true needs, wants, and desires during the seasonal chaos. Lauren and Trey wrap up with practical ways to co-regulate with your partner through breathwork amidst holiday stress.
Tune in for laughs, insights, and a fresh perspective on keeping intimacy alive this holiday season!
Want to learn more about spicing up your sex life? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
HolidayStress #Arousal #SexualArousal #LongTermLove #RelationshipTips #HolidayIntimacy #SneakyPlay #CouplesGoals #AnxietyAndArousal #PassionInPartnership #SurpriseAndDesire #EroticismInRelationships #HolidayRomance #BreathworkForCouples #IntimacyTips #RelationshipGoals
In this quick, 25-minute episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey revisit the topic of casual sex, diving deeper into tools and resources for those navigating casual dating with ethics. Trey asks Lauren for practical advice on how to take care of yourself and the people you're dating. Lauren shares her top 5 tools for Ethical Casual Dating, including getting clear on your wants, practicing safer sex, and diversifying your emotional "portfolio."
The episode heats up when Trey confesses to waiting for women to ask, "Where is this going?" and Lauren challenges him to reflect on whether he’d change his past behavior. Lauren surprises Trey with spicy stories from her "slut era," reflecting on lessons learned and personal growth.
They also explore the 6 Human Needs—Certainty, Uncertainty, Significance, Love & Connection, Growth, and Contribution—and how these needs impact dating dynamics. Don't miss this candid and insightful conversation!
👉 Lauren’s Tools for Ethical Casual Dating:
1) Get clear on your desires and ask your partners what they want.
2) Practice dating verbiage with trusted friends.
3) Diversify your portfolio—don’t rely on sex partners to meet all your needs.
4) Practice safer sex.
5) Get educated and resourced.
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About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
CasualDating #DatingTools #RelationshipAdvice #SexualHealth #ModernDating #SlutEraStories #LessonsLearned #SelfGrowth #HealthyRelationships #DatingConfessions #PartnershipPodcast #OpenCommunication #SaferSex #HumanNeeds #LoveAndConnection
In this candid episode, Lauren and Trey discuss the difference between relational and recreational sex. Lauren dives deep into Trey's years of casual sex and dating multiple people, uncovering a story she's never heard before. Trey reflects on his past, takes ownership of mistakes, and shares how he wishes he'd had the tools to communicate better with women.
At 21:42, Trey asks, "How do women prevent getting led on? What red flags should they look for if they're being used just for sex?"
At 26:00, Trey shares a shocking story about a casual dating experience gone wrong.
At 35:10, Trey talks about the time he cheated on a partner because he’d failed to listen to his true needs, wants, and desires.
Lauren shares her own turning point in a casual relationship and how it helped her clarify her true needs, wants, and desires. Together, they explore what sex provides and why it's important to get clear on intentions in relationships. Don't miss this thoughtful and vulnerable conversation!
Want to learn more about working with Lauren? Click here: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Do you want to learn more about embracing sex positions you all love and creating new patterns in your partnership? Click here to book a free consultation with Lauren: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
CasualSex #RelationalSex #DatingAdvice #ThePartnershipPodcast #Relationships #SexualHealth #Consent #ModernDating #HealthyRelationships #RedFlagsInDating #CommunicationInRelationships #EmotionalIntimacy #SexualWellness #DatingTips #RelationshipGoals #Vulnerability
In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey break down "Sleepy Side Sex" in response to an audience question. They explore the nuances of Offers, Requests, and Invitations, inspired by Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent. Discover how these concepts can transform intimacy and communication. For deeper insights, check out Dr. Martin’s book The Art of Giving and Receiving. (https://amzn.to/3CJ6Rdi)
13:47 What are the differences between offers, requests, and invitations?
15:39 What is desire smuggling?
16:45 How do you get curious about your wanting?
23:50 Why is it vulnerable to make requests?
29:00 Why is it hard to enjoy oral sex?
33:00 Why don't we want to take from our partners?
Learn more about BettyMartin here: https://www.youtube.com/@BettyMartin
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relationshiptips #WheelOfConsent #IntimacyExplained #drbettymartin #robyndalzen #wanting #desire #marriedsex
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
In Episode 93 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey explore powerful topics inspired by a recent post from The Holistic Psychologist. They dive into the parentified son's resentment of household responsibilities, codependency, and how childhood strategies may no longer serve us in adulthood.
Lauren shares a vacation story of choosing embodied joy by dancing solo when Trey needed time to himself—a breakthrough moment a year in the making. They discuss empathy, the danger of "desire smuggling," and how hearing wants can strengthen intimacy.
At 26:50, the conversation shifts to listener "L's" question about sex positions like reverse cowgirl. They discuss the pros, cons, and myths of novelty positions, plus the anatomical realities of clitoral stimulation. Lauren and Trey break down the joy of giving and receiving in sexual encounters, the importance of movement freedom, and how comfort can lead to deeper pleasure.
Join them for an honest, relatable, and playful discussion about relationships, sex, and personal growth.
Do you want to learn more about embracing sex positions you all love and creating new patterns in your partnership? Click here to book a free consultation with Lauren: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
#ThePartnershipPodcast, #Relationships, #ParentifiedChild, #Codependency, #SexPositions, #ClitoralStimulation, #HolisticPsychologist, #EmbodiedJoy, #PersonalGrowth, #Intimacy, #DesireSmuggling, #HouseholdResponsibilities, #CouplesCommunication, #EmotionalWellbeing, #Consent, #SexualHealth, #RelationshipGoals, #MindfulRelationships, #Pleasure, #SexualIntimacy, #HealingJourney, #PodcastEpisode, #SelfGrowth, #HealthyRelationships, #DanceOfDesire
The Parentified Son & The Truth About Fancy Sex Positions | Relationships & Intimacy | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 93
Do you ever want your partner to be your perfect parent? In this revealing episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into household responsibilities, exploring how childhood roles and unmet needs shape their relationship today. Trey opens up about his frustrations with household chores and how deep-seated resentments impact their partnership. Together, they unpack themes of projection, shadow work, and the desire for a partner to act as a "perfect parent." Join them as they work through real-time challenges and create a plan to reframe their daily dynamics with more understanding and compassion. Perfect for couples navigating shared responsibilities!
If you would like to work on shared responsibilities in partnership, click here: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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SPECIAL AUDIO-ONLY VACATION EPISODE - Your Questions Answered | Partnership Podcast Ep. 91
If you would like to work with someone to craft your ideal partnered vacation, go to: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Join Lauren and Trey on this special vacation episode of The Partnership Podcast! This audio only episode was recorded in the Dominican Republic! Tune in as they dive into your questions, sharing insights on how they’ve worked to heal the wounds inflicted on their trip last year and open up about the journey over the past 12 months. Expect real conversations, heartfelt reflections, and some lighthearted moments along the way. Grab a seat, relax, and enjoy this intimate look into Lauren and Trey’s relationship as they celebrate and reflect.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
ThePartnershipPodcast #RelationshipHealing #QandAPodcast #AnniversaryEpisode #CouplesJourney #RelationshipAdvice #HealingTogether #VacationVibes #PodcastLife #LoveAndGrowth #EmotionalWellbeing #RelationshipPodcast #PersonalGrowth #MarriageJourney #IntimateConversations #RelationshipGoals
What Does It Really Mean to Love Someone? Reclaiming a Vacation Gone Wrong & Building Resiliency | Partnership Podcast Ep. 90
If you would like to work with someone to craft your ideal partnered vacation, go to: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
In Episode 90 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into reclaiming their "Vacation Gone Wrong" from last year. Kicking off with a powerful quote from Lauren's professor and colleague, Dené Logan, “We have been conditioned to believe that love means 'I keep people comfortable at all costs.' That is not love. That is attachment. A lot of times, what we are calling love is not actually loving people! It’s just us attempting to maintain attachments at all costs.” — they reflect on the difference between true love and the need to maintain comfort at all costs. Trey shares how he was stuck in this mindset before their anniversary trip last year, and they open up about how they plan to honor the places where pain occurred.
As they prepare to revisit the same vacation spot, Lauren reveals her practice of rest and their mutual intention to make this vacation their best yet—with a focus on play, pleasure, and resiliency check-ins. Lauren also shares her free worksheet at 16:25 to help listeners take responsibility for their feelings on vacation, while Trey reflects on how last year’s disaster led them to prioritize communication and comfort.
Don't miss the funny, heartfelt, and vulnerable moments, like when Trey talks about the vacation's tragic moments (minute 18:40) and their negotiation of vacation mornings for solo journaling and intimate time (minute 35:16). Get inspired with their tips to make this year’s vacation 10% cozier and check out the exclusive discounts mentioned throughout!
Download Lauren's worksheet: https://sexedforyou.com/shop/p/responsibility-for-feelings-on-vacation-worksheet
Try NUULY rentals with Lauren’s code: https://share.nuuly.com/laurenelise
Watch their first "Vacation Gone Wrong" episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5TlMEuMrXmnZeto43NSCG6?si=b658181d382d4c6b
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
denelogan #cheaperthantherapy #embodylab #WhatIsLove #AttachmentVsLove #ReclaimYourVacation #VacationGoneWrong #RelationshipResiliency #EmotionalHealing #RelationshipGoals #WheelOfConsent #LoveAndAttachment #RelationshipTools #RestAndResiliency #CouplesGrowth #PlayAndPleasure #EmotionalWellbeing #PartnershipPodcast #wheelofconsent #embodiedintimacy #relationshipcoach #sexeducator
Can a Married Man Have Female Friends? | Navigating Boundaries & Uncomfortable Conversations
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In episode 89 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey tackle the hot topic: Can a married man have female friends? They share their personal experience supporting each other's friendships with the opposite sex, while navigating trust, boundaries, and potential feelings of jealousy. Plus, they open up about Trey's 40th birthday, and how an ill-timed conversation led to ongoing discussions. Tune in for insights on friendship, managing jealousy, and working through tough moments in marriage.
Do you get jealous of your partner’s friends? Let us know in the comments section below.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
MarriageAdvice #RelationshipGoals #OppositeSexFriendships #HealthyBoundaries #MarriageAndJealousy #ManagingJealousy #TrustInRelationships #NavigatingMarriage #ThePartnershipPodcast #LaurenAndTrey #FriendshipAndMarriage #CouplesPodcast #PodcastLife
How to Set Emotional Boundaries in Relationships | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 88
Learn more about setting emotional boundaries in relationships: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
In episode 88 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey explore how a partner's emotions can impact our well-being. They dive into Dr. Betty Martin’s concept of domains—"all the things we have a right to and responsibility for"—and Robyn Dalzen's insight that "every aspect of human relationship is a negotiation of the third domain, the space between us." Learn practical and kind ways to set boundaries with those you love. Lauren and Trey share personal stories of moments when they crossed into each other's domain and how they worked through it.
Do your partner’s emotions overwhelm you? Let us know in the comments section below.
About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Intimacy Coach.
RelationshipAdvice #SettingBoundaries #EmotionalHealth #RelationshipCommunication #BoundariesInRelationships #SelfCare #EmotionalWellBeing #CouplesTherapy #HealthyRelationships #PersonalBoundaries #EmotionalSupport #ConsentInRelationships #DrBettyMartin #RobynDalzen #TheWheelOfConsent
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The Wheel of Consent Explained: Lauren & Trey’s 'Like a Pro' Training Review | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 87
LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. BETTY MARTIN’S WHEEL OF CONSENT: https://www.schoolofconsent.org
In this special episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey share their transformative experience after completing Dr. Betty Martin’s "Like a Pro" training on The Wheel of Consent. They rave about their incredible instructors, Carmen and Robyn, and dive deep into the exercises that resonated most with them—like the powerful "Listening Turn" which they practice on camera. Trey opens up about his decision to extend provisional trust on day one, while Lauren reflects on her favorite takeaways; including the difference between touch and sex and how watching Trey be "gifted" touch by other women moved her deeply. Trey also reveals his crush on Robyn after she helped him through an exercise, and Lauren shares how this training was a healing balm for her nervous system after a traumatic tantra event earlier this year. Don't miss this heartfelt and raw discussion about boundaries, trust, and connection.
This is part two of their Wheel of Consent journey!!
Do you conflate touch and sex?? Let us know in the comments section below.
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
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Preparing for DC: Wheel of Consent, Emotional Growth & Trey's First Training Experience | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 86LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. BETTY MARTIN’S WHEEL OF CONSENT: sexedforyou.com/freeconsultIn Episode 86 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into their feelings as they prepare for Dr. Betty Martin's "Like a Pro" Training in Washington, DC, exploring The Wheel of Consent. For the first time, Trey steps into "Lauren's world" of training, sparking an insightful discussion about personal growth, boundaries, and emotional connection.They also segue into lighter topics—Trey's golf obsession and his recent sadness—while Lauren reflects on her September "purge" and an eye-opening experience during a rough hangover. Together, they navigate feelings of neglect, not wanting to be a burden, and the importance of asking for help. Trey shares how stepping outside his comfort zone to ask Lauren for support deepened their emotional bond.Join them as they explore boundaries, receiving, and the value of honoring one's needs. Don't miss part one of their two-part series on the Wheel of Consent journey, and stay tuned for next week's AirBnB-recorded episode!Have you ever had a violent hangover?? Let us know in the comments section below.About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcastReminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.#WheelOfConsent #BettyMartin #LikeAProTraining #EmotionalGrowth #Podcast #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipTalk #PartnershipPodcast
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Projection, Gaslighting & The Wheel of Consent: How to Handle Relational Conflicts | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 85LEARN MORE ABOUT THE WHEEL OF CONSENT: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsultIn Episode 85 of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren dive into a real-time argument, uncovering how projection and gaslighting play out in relationships. They share a funny story about miscommunication with Lauren's daughter, leading to a candid discussion on setting boundaries and knowing our limits. Lauren and Trey explore the importance of seeking clarification and understanding, even from “the baby.” The episode takes a deeper turn when Trey opens up about his fears around receiving gifts in sexual contexts. Together, they explore the Wheel of Consent, focusing on embracing both Taking and Accepting. Tune in as Lauren breaks down the Wheel at 34:36, offering valuable insights on navigating relational dynamics.Do you struggle with receiving?? Let us know in the comments section below.About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment. • Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.#Projection #Gaslighting #WheelOfConsent #RelationshipConflicts #CommunicationSkills #SelfAwareness #SettingBoundaries #PodcastEpisode #RelationalDynamics #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalIntelligence #ConflictResolution #Miscommunication #ConsentEducation #EmbracingBoundaries
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How to build anticipation in long-term partnership: Why we don't text when we're apart. | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 84
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In Episode 84 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey dive into the unique choice of not texting while apart to cultivate longing and anticipation in their relationship. They share personal stories of recent "ouches," how they took ownership of their actions, and the steps they're taking to prevent future hurt. Tune in to learn how creating distance can deepen connection and build arousal in a long-term partnership.
How do you build anticipation? Let us know in the comments section below.
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
RelationshipAdvice #LongTermLove #BuildingAnticipation #HealthyCommunication #EmotionalOwnership #IntimacyInMarriage #ArousalInRelationships #PartnershipGoals #ConsciousCoupling #ThePartnershipPodcast
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What is Sex? Exploring New Perspectives and Roadmaps to Pleasure | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 83
LEARN HOW TO DEFINE SEX BY CLICKING HERE https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
In Episode 83 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive deep into the question, "What is sex?" Before their insightful conversation begins, they explore the triggers that left Trey unsettled that morning. Lauren offers a compassionate perspective on understanding his frustration, rooted in past hurts from female figures. As they unpack their definitions of sex, Lauren introduces a fresh view of pleasure, while Trey shares personal stories of erotic encounters and how they shaped his understanding. Stay tuned as Trey unveils his transformative new definition of sex.
04:13 Watch Trey be horrified by the baby's iPad!
09:15 Why is choosing more important than doing?
11:05 What is an important question to ask yourself after a night of no sleep?
15:00 Why do men treat their wives like their mothers?
22:00 Why is sexual communication so hard?
24:56 What is sex?
26:00 How do you define sex?
29:30 For sex, are roadblocks the things you think you have to do?
35:34 Why do we go to critism of self in sex?
41:20 What are the top reasons for lack of arousal?
45:58 Why is "Just take me!" a less sexy thing than, "Here's how I want you to take me."?
49:43 How do you define a great sexual experience?
51:02 What contexts make sex great?
What is sex to you? Let us know in the comments section below!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
SexualWellness #RelationshipTalk #EmotionalHealing #PartnershipPodcast #Sexuality #MentalHealth #Triggers #PersonalGrowth #UnderstandingTrauma #PodcastEpisode #HealthyRelationships #Pleasure #NewPerspectives #EroticStories #SexualDefinitions #LoveAndConnection
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How to Attune to Your Partner's Needs: Balancing Autonomy and Connection in Relationships | The Partnership Podcast Ep. 82
LEARN MORE ABOUT ATTUNING TO YOUR PARTNER BY CLICKING HERE https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
In episode 82 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey navigate the complexities of attuning to each other’s needs, especially when one partner is under the weather. As Trey battles a summer cold, they explore Lauren's tendency to overfunction, the delicate dance between autonomy and connection, and how to let go of old strategies that no longer serve. Watch as Lauren guides Trey through a live exercise on camera, demonstrating how to track and shift cycles for a healthier functioning in your relationship or on the golf course!.
Do you have any questions, tips, or ideas for attuning to your partner? Let us know in the comments section below!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
PeriodSex #BreakingTaboos #Menstruation #SexEd #RelationshipAdvice #Podcast #SexualHealth #EmotionalHealth #Intimacy #ThePartnershipPodcast #LaurenAndTrey #SexualWellness #PeriodTalk #OpenConversations #RelationshipGoals #HealthyRelationships #AttachmentStyles #EmotionalWellbeing #PartnershipPodcast #CouplesTherapy #MindfulConnection #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalIntelligence
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In Episode 81 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey tackle the often taboo topic of period sex. They dive into hilarious past stories, personal discomforts, share practical tools to combat mess, and discuss how Lauren's emotional reaction after orgasming during her period brings a deeper understanding to the experience. The conversation takes a turn when Trey uses the term "Shark Week," prompting Lauren to express her frustration with terms that make menstruating people feel poorly about their bodies. Join this candid conversation and learn how to break the taboos surrounding period sex!
Do you have any questions, tips, or ideas about period sex? Let us know in the comments!!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
PeriodSex #BreakingTaboos #Menstruation #SexEd #RelationshipAdvice #Podcast #SexualHealth #EmotionalHealth #Intimacy #ThePartnershipPodcast #LaurenAndTrey #SexualWellness #PeriodTalk #OpenConversations
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How to Build Secure Connections vs. Secure Attachments & Learning Together with OMGYES!
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Learn more about OMGYES! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/3841222/1463336/17315
In Episode 80 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey delve into the crucial difference between secure connections and secure attachments in the early stages of dating. They share their unique experience of watching OMGYES, (https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/3841222/1463336/17315) a vulva-centered educational platform, on a recent date. Lauren asks Trey about his thoughts on this unconventional learning method and explains why it was so beneficial for her. Join them for an insightful discussion on building deeper, more meaningful relationships.
2:35 What do men want? What do women want?
5:15 What is the difference between secure connection and secure attachment?
18:10 What is an example of a secure connection who wanted a secure attachment?
22:24 What does a needy partner look like?
37:50 Do individuals ever realize that what they wanted and needed was in themselves?
41:54 What does a nightly marriage check-in look like?
44:23 What is OMGYES?
48:52 How does it feel to watch erotic content with a partner?
53:07 What does it look like to fail when you try something new in sex?
Do you have any questions, tips, or ideas about how to start conversations like these with your partner? Let us know in the comments section below!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
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LEARN HOW TO GO TO CURIOSITY INSTEAD OF FRUSTRATION https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Join Trey and Lauren in this episode of The Partnership Podcast as they chat about frustration with a menstruating teenager! It’s a constant struggle to parent differently than we were and these two show us how curiosity can help. Lauren asks Trey to share how he’s doing emotionally, intellectually, and sexually and he asks her the same. They explain their term Jelly-Bear for anyone who is not familiar with their term for low resiliency. Lauren shares how they made their recent staycation fun by assigning roles instead of overfunctioning. After a few rough weeks of podcast content, this easy-breezy episode is a gift to us all.
4:05 How do you define “drunk?”
6:24 How are you doing emotionally, intellectually, and sexually?
13:06 What does it look like to parent differently than we were?
18:55 What is the difference between guilt and shame?
24:24 What is “Jelly-Bear?”
28:55 How do you make vacation prep easier?
Do you have any questions, tips, or ideas about how to parent teenagers? Let us know in the comments section below!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
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Relationship Issues Explained: Smartphone Drama & Post-Traumatic Growth
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Join Trey and Lauren in this episode of The Partnership Podcast as they dive into the aftermath of the Smartphone Drama, exploring "what went wrong" and how it impacts relationships. Trey introduces the concept of the Distancer-Pursuer Dance, comparing the spectrum from Isolation to Fusion with PH Balance. Discover their insights on securely attached relationships, post-traumatic growth, and how they've seen immense growth since the pivotal "Is this the beginning of the end?" episode aired on 10.30.23. Don't miss this deep dive into securely attached relationship dynamics and post-traumatic growth!
3:56 How do you request something from your partner?
17:04 What does co-regulation in partnership look like?
24:11 What is the Distancer-Pursuer Dance in relationship?
38:57 Are workbooks and worksheets helpful in marriage communication?
Do you have any questions, tips, or ideas about how to become securely attached in your relationship? Let us know in the comments section below!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at https://www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List https://www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
iphone #MentalHealth #Podcast #SmartphoneUsage #BedtimeRoutine #RelationshipTalk #CouplesPodcast #TreyAndLauren #RealTalk #PartnershipPodcast #DigitalWellness #RelationshipStruggles #PodcastEpisode #RelationshipAdvice #Communication #Accountability #Marriage #RelationshipTips #SexualHealth #RelationshipGrowth #SecureAttachment #posttraumaticgrowth
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Bedtime Smartphone Drama: Trey and Lauren's Real Talk
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In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren dive into a surprisingly contentious topic: Trey's frustrations with Lauren's smartphone usage before bed. This episode almost didn't see the light of day because Lauren felt it was a silly conversation, but she hopes it helps others see that everyone argues over ridiculous things sometimes.
Join us as Lauren tries to ask Trey her signature question, "What would this action provide you with?" only to be met with Trey's unexpected twist on what he thinks it would provide her with. Enjoy the candid moments and watch both of them squirm, or skip the episode altogether. Either way, you’re in for a real look at the dynamics of their partnership!
2:56 Lauren’s caught off guard by this topic
10:53 Lauren giggles over this “issue”
17:15 Lauren tries to share that this doesn’t affect her the way it affects Trey
23:09 Lauren shares how she’s trying to allow moments to just “be”
Do you have any questions, tips, or ideas about how to navigate smart phones in your house? Let them know in the comments section below!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
Learn more about Sex Ed for You at www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
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Navigating Stepparent Frustrations & Enhancing Sexual Relationships
Learn how to take ownership of your own actions as a stepparent and enhance your sexual relationships: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren delve into the complexities of parenting a stepchild. Trey candidly shares how his frustrations build up, while Lauren lightens the mood with a heartwarming memory from a recent three-minute game. They reflect on Lauren's unwavering support for Trey and transition into a discussion on common issues faced by men in relationships.
Lauren reveals insights from her consultations with men who want to have more sex and explains why simply focusing on techniques isn't enough. Trey labels this "cherry picking" and advocates for holistic sexual education. The duo explores the differences between pickup strategies for recreational sex and the importance of long-term growth and understanding.
Lauren shares inspiring stories of her male clients who seek self-improvement to become better sexual partners. She highlights the societal conditioning that impacts both men and women regarding sex, and expresses her hope for clients to achieve mutually satisfying sexual relationships. Trey wraps up the episode by questioning whether Lauren's clients ultimately get the sex they desire. Tune in till the end for her enlightening answer, and their final thoughts on establishing limits and boundaries in relationships.
Do you have any questions, tips, or ideas about how to have healthy disagreements? Let us know in the comments section below!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
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How to Have Healthy Disagreements in Partnerships: Overcoming Disappointment
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In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Trey and Lauren dive into the essential topic of how to have healthy disagreements with your partner. Trey candidly shares a personal experience of disappointment and miscommunication, and how they navigated through it together. Learn how Lauren took ownership and accountability for her actions, fostering growth and understanding in their partnership. Join us for insights and strategies on turning conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection. Don't miss this heartfelt and informative discussion!
3:57: What to do when you know you’ve disappointed a partner
12:59: How to push in and through with health in a disagreement
14:55: How NOT to use emotion to manipulate and control
17:05: How to help your partner if they’ve overexerted themselves
Do you have any questions, tips, or ideas about how to have healthy disagreements? Let us know in the comments section below!
About Us: Trey and Lauren are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and curricula to individuals, couples, parents, and organizations.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (World Health Organization) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
• Subscribe to our YouTube channel for more videos about sex, partnership, communication, and love: https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast
• Learn more about Sex Ed for You at www.sexedforyou.com
• Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren today: www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
• Sign up for Sex Ed for You’s Mailing List www.sexedforyou.com/email
• If you’re a femme, check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
• Learn more about partnered communication best practices on Sex Ed For You’s Instagram Page: www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
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In Episode 74 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into a recent challenging conversation about finances and explore how it led to an unexpected outcome. Lauren often says, "Sex isn't everything, it's just a part of everything," and this episode illustrates why.
The episode kicks off with a tense moment: after 24 hours of simmering frustration, Trey’s irritation with Lauren surfaces while they're waiting in line for coffee. They discuss the discomfort of sitting with unresolved issues and the resilience needed to navigate these rocky moments with compassion and curiosity. Despite the tension, they marvel at their ability to maintain kindness throughout the process.
Lauren and Trey introduce the powerful tool of "appreciation" and share insights from Emily Nagoski's new book, COME TOGETHER, which Lauren has been learning from. They explain how this tool and compassionate curiosity helped them bridge the gap in their communication and ultimately resolve their misunderstanding over a two-day period.
The episode takes an intimate turn as they describe how the resolution of their financial dispute led to some of the most passionate and primal sexual encounters they've ever experienced. They emphasize that if the conversation had gone differently, the quality of their sexual connection would not have been the same.
Trey closes out the episode with a powerful statement: "You don't fix the sex, you fix everything else, and the sex follows." Tune in to hear how Lauren and Trey turned financial friction into fiery connection and learn strategies for enhancing both your emotional and physical intimacy.
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses non-consensual touch.
In Episode 73 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey open up about their recent romantic getaway that took an unforeseen and distressing turn. During an exercise at a Tantra event, Lauren was non-consensually touched by another attendee, shattering their expectations of a serene retreat. This experience left them both in shock, grappling with feelings of fear and helplessness.
Lauren courageously shares how she sought immediate support, including a two-hour counseling session right in the midst of their getaway. They discuss Dr. Peter Levine's definition of trauma—fear plus helplessness—and how this concept resonates deeply with their recent experience. Lauren talks candidly about the struggle of trying to process the trauma through her body, acknowledging the immense challenge it presents.
Throughout this heartfelt conversation, Lauren and Trey emphasize the importance of supporting one another as they navigate the healing journey together. They offer insights into how they're helping each other cope and find strength in their partnership.
Join us for an honest and raw discussion about the unexpected, the importance of seeking help, and the ongoing process of healing from trauma.
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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In episode 72 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey dive into a candid conversation about how they bounced back from Lauren's recent bad orgasm. Lauren opens up about her choice to embrace a grumpy and irritated day, sharing her fear of hurting Trey's feelings in the process.
The duo also explore the new things they've been trying in their sexual relationship, and how they've discovered that new isn't always better. Trey's recent communication win on the golf course becomes a tool for Lauren to teach about sexual communication, highlighting the importance of clear and open dialogue.
Tune in as Lauren and Trey remind us to embrace the natural hormonal shifts in our bodies and challenge the notion of viewing the menstruating body as broken. It's a heartfelt and humorous episode you won't want to miss!
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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In this heartfelt episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey delve into their choices to center pleasure in their relationship. They open up about the importance of prioritizing time and space for sexual connection, exploring how these intentional practices have brought them closer.
This episode discusses how they are repatterning their relationship to be distinct from the templates set by their parents, forging a path that's uniquely theirs.
Lauren and Trey also discuss the groundbreaking research of Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., from her latest book, COME TOGETHER. (https://amzn.to/3UQWU2C) They examine her four key reasons individuals want to have sex: connection, pleasure, feeling wanted, and a sense of freedom from ordinary life. Through Nagoski's insights, they shed light on how understanding these motivations can enhance intimacy and strengthen bonds. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that's sure to inspire listeners to rethink and rejuvenate their own partnerships.
Catch up on the episode: IS THIS THE BEGINNING OF THE END reference at minute 6:26. (https://youtu.be/78wcxKpDFXM?si=lr1M1-ERJHkV_Ue-)
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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In Episode 70 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey dive deep into the intricacies of maintaining sexual tension and connection during a week apart. As they explore how to craft spaces for playful intimacy that don't feel obligatory upon reuniting, they share personal anecdotes and practical tips for keeping the passion alive.
Throughout the episode, Lauren and Trey candidly discuss the delicate balance between grief and care while separated. They reflect on how they supported each other emotionally during their time apart, even with the death of Holland’s dog, Ollie, ensuring that their bond remained strong even in moments of vulnerability.
One notable strategy they highlight is the importance of limiting communication during work trips to maintain anticipation and desire. Trey shares how he prepares the house for Lauren's return, taking care of chores and creating a welcoming environment so she can focus on reconnecting rather than worrying about tasks.
Don’t miss minute 20:17 where Trey and Lauren discuss the space they crafted on a Wednesday afternoon to play with one another!!
Join Lauren and Trey as they navigate the complexities of distance, desire, and devotion in Episode 70 of The Partnership Podcast.
For further exploration of intimacy and connection, check out episodes on The Three Minute Game and The Living Room Adventure.
[Listen to The Three Minute Game Episode] (https://youtu.be/vrlQfpZV9zA)
[Listen to Sex Outside the Bedroom: The Living Room Adventure Episode] (https://youtu.be/cAqKcUfpUaw)
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey tackle the tricky topic of discussing sexuality with children and teenagers. Lauren kicks off the conversation by highlighting breakthroughs her clients are experiencing, tracing many of their challenges back to their inaccurate and incomplete sexuality education.
Trey starts off feeling very uncomfortable, but by the end of the episode comes to see how his own adult experience is coloring his perspective.
Lauren equates the Sex Ed most kids receive to providing Fast and the Furious movies as Driver’s Ed. Trey adds his own perspective, sharing that most people stopped learning how to catch a baseball in Little League.
Throughout the episode, Lauren and Trey share practical tips and insights on how to approach these discussions with sensitivity, honesty, and age-appropriateness. They discuss strategies for addressing various topics and how to keep channels of communication open for kids to lead the way.
Don't miss out on this insightful and thought-provoking episode. Tune in now to gain invaluable insights into navigating sexuality-related conversations with kids and teens.
For further resources and reading recommendations, check out Lauren's Amazon Book List for Families: https://amzn.to/4aU0Eaq
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Episode 68 of The Partnership Podcast delves into an intimate conversation between hosts Lauren and Trey as they candidly discuss a recent sexual encounter gone wrong! Just two days ago, they found themselves grappling with intrusive thoughts and old beliefs that threatened to derail their connection.
Trey opens up about the pressure he felt to maintain his erection, only to find himself losing it amidst the mental gymnastics of performance anxiety. Meanwhile, Lauren recounts the internal struggle of feeling pressured to climax quickly so Trey could pursue his plans for the day, only to feel a pang of inadequacy as she sensed his arousal fading.
In a raw and vulnerable exchange, they share the exact words they used to navigate feelings of fear, rejection, and inadequacy in the heat of the moment. Lauren bravely confronts her body-based beliefs surrounding pornography and wrestles with feelings of comparison to unrealistic standards.
Together, they highlight the importance of patience and understanding from partners when old wounds resurface unexpectedly. They emphasize the power of open communication and naming emotions during sexual encounters, rather than trying to navigate them silently.
Ultimately, their journey leads them to a profound realization: prioritizing pleasure over pressure unlocks a world of raunchy, wild intimacy. Through mutual support and empathy, they discover that true connection lies in embracing vulnerability and navigating the complexities of the human experience.
Join Lauren and Trey as they explore the intricacies of sexual trauma, the impact of communication in relationships, and the transformative journey from pressure to pleasure on Episode 68 of The Partnership Podcast.
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Join Lauren and Trey for a whirlwind of laughter and joy in Episode 67 of The Partnership Podcast.
Lauren kicks things off by playfully mourning Trey, despite him being very much alive, setting the tone for the delightful banter that ensues.
As the conversation unfolds, they thank a client of Lauren's for her gift of coffee and touch upon Trey's aversion to marriage, a topic that never fails to spark some lively back-and-forth between the two.
Lauren shares her current fascination with cell biology and the book titled: "The Honeymoon Effect.” Naturally, this leads to Trey recounting the infamous story of how he inadvertently ruined Lauren's honeymoon orgasm.
So, grab your headphones and get ready to chuckle along as Lauren and Trey take you on a hilarious journey filled with laughter, love, and a healthy dose of teasing. This is one episode you won't want to miss!
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Welcome back to Episode 66 of The Partnership Podcast! In this installment, Lauren and Trey dive deep into their reflections on integrating the valuable lessons learned from last week's on-camera breakdown. Lauren vulnerably shares her journey of self-discovery, revealing how a phone call with her sister led her to uncover the source of her emotional wounds. Trey eloquently describes this pivotal moment as a "First Fucking Time" inspired by the wisdom of Brene Brown, emphasizing his commitment to better support Lauren moving forward.
Despite their transformative insights, the duo also indulges in the lighter moments of life, recounting their incredibly relaxing Easter Sunday. However, amidst the tranquility, Lauren encounters an unexpected challenge—a panic attack inside the grocery store. Join them as they navigate through the highs and lows of their shared experiences with candor and humor.
In a departure from the usual topics, Lauren delves into her recent exploration of cannabis strains tailored to her body's unique needs. She shares the tale of her first encounter with indica on Easter, which proved to be a resounding success. However, her subsequent experience with sativa unveils a vastly different narrative, offering insights into the intricate relationship between individual physiology and strain preferences. Tune in as Lauren unveils her journey towards holistic wellness with hilarity, honesty, and curiosity.
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/support
In Episode 65 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey dive into the murky waters of miscommunication and confrontation. What begins as an attempt to address a communication failure from the previous night quickly spirals into the most uncomfortable onscreen conversation ever witnessed on the podcast.
Tensions run high as Lauren and Trey grapple with their own insecurities and frustrations, laid bare for their audience to witness. With raw emotions, they navigate the terrain of misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and unspoken expectations.
Listeners will find themselves captivated by the raw honesty and vulnerability displayed as Lauren and Trey struggle to find common ground amidst their individual pain. With each uncomfortable pause and awkward exchange, they confront the uncomfortable truths lurking beneath the surface of their partnership.
Join us for an unforgettable episode as Lauren and Trey confront their differences head-on, showing us all that even the strongest partnerships are not immune to communication breakdowns. Tune in to Episode 65 for a raw and unfiltered look at the challenges of navigating difficult conversations in any relationship.
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/support
In Episode 64 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey delve into the vulnerable intricacies of coaching a partner during sex. However, before the podcast even begins, Lauren unintentionally hurts Trey's feelings. What ensues is a raw and honest conversation as they navigate simultaneously repairing the wound while discussing the topic at hand.
Lauren takes accountability for the harm she inflicted, demonstrating the importance of acknowledging and owning one's mistakes in a partnership. Trey is given the space he needs to process his hurt feelings in his own time, highlighting the significance of allowing each partner the freedom to navigate emotions at their own pace.
The episode emphasizes the necessity of having conversations about sexual preferences outside of the bedroom. Vulnerability in discussing sexual matters is acknowledged, with an emphasis on creating safe spaces for partners to express their desires and concerns openly.
Central to the discussion is Lauren's favorite quote, "Not being enough is big business," which prompts reflection on societal pressures and expectations surrounding sexual performance and satisfaction. The hosts engage in a lively debate about the ways in which matriarchal dynamics can inadvertently uphold patriarchal norms, particularly through the perpetuation of the male gaze.
Ultimately, Episode 64 serves as a poignant reminder of the complexities inherent in intimate relationships and the importance of open communication, accountability, and mutual respect in navigating them. Through their candid exchange, Lauren and Trey offer valuable insights into fostering deeper connections and understanding within partnerships.
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If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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AUDIO ONLY EPISODE!In Episode 63 of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey delve into the depths of personal growth, financial perspectives, and intimate adventures. Trey opens up about the patterns and self-limiting beliefs he's conquering, while Lauren shares her insights into what money truly signifies for her, leading to an emotional moment where she describes its connection to self-worth.Throughout the episode, Trey reflects on recent instances where he bottled up his emotions, resulting in natural consequences that prompted deep introspection. From missed opportunities for connection to feelings of frustration, Trey grapples with the effects of suppressing his feelings and explores avenues for healthier expression.The conversation takes an intimate turn as Lauren and Trey discuss the importance of safety and security in adventurous sexuality. They share candidly about the best sex they've had this week, emphasizing the role of trust and communication in creating an environment conducive to uninhibited intimacy.The episode concludes with an exploration of fantasies and their enactment, as Lauren shares a personal experience that blends adventure with emotional connection. Through vulnerability and mutual understanding, Lauren and Trey illustrate how genuine intimacy thrives when both partners feel valued, respected, and secure in their relationship. Tune in to Episode 63 for an insightful journey into personal growth, financial mindfulness, and the intricacies of intimate connection.If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/support
In this sizzling episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey candidly explore the art of initiating sex in short-term to long-term relationships.
They kick things off with a hilarious tale from their own lives, recounting the time when a misguided attempt at sexual initiation went hilariously awry in their basement - a story you won't want to miss! Lauren also challenges the popular concept of the 5 Love Languages, arguing that everyone deserves each. The duo delves into the delicate subject of handling rejection and shares insights for when your partner turns down intimacy.
As the conversation unfolds, Lauren reveals her resistance to "Hurkle-Durkle" time on average mornings, shedding light on the 200-year-old Scottish term meaning to lounge in bed long after it's time to get up.
The episode concludes with a thought-provoking discussion on initiating sex in casual dating and between friends with benefits. Lauren and Trey explore the nuances of asking questions even in the context of a booty call, leaving listeners with valuable insights into the complexities of human connection and desire. Tune in for an episode that's equal parts laughter, vulnerability, and wisdom on The Partnership Podcast!
Listen to the hilarious basement story here: https://youtu.be/ItoI4w02tjk?si=kz9zjyCof_NMdLp4
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Join Lauren and Trey in Episode 61 of The Partnership Podcast as they dive into the viral video that's been making waves in both of their online communities. Female Pro Golfer, Georgia Ball, finds herself being "mansplained" by a stranger while she films a practice session. (Here’s the LINK!) Lauren and Trey share their perspectives on this incident and her chosen response - shedding light on the broader issues of gender dynamics and the plight of “being polite.”
Trey opens up about his own experiences on the golf course, recounting similar encounters and the challenges he's faced. Meanwhile, Lauren reflects on the feelings of fear and terror she has experienced when speaking up against unwanted attention by male identifying people in social spaces, drawing parallels to the golf course incident.
In the latter part of the episode, Trey takes on a coaching role as he guides Lauren through a question-asking technique to empower her during solo journaling sessions at her favorite local bar. The duo explores effective ways to assert oneself and navigate uncomfortable situations, providing listeners with valuable insights and strategies for handling challenging interpersonal dynamics. Tune in to Episode 61 for a candid and empowering conversation on navigating unwanted attention on the golf course or at the bar!
If you would like to learn tools like the ones mentioned today, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey invite listeners into the intimate realm of their relationship as they recount the steamy playtime that unfolded upon Lauren's return from Washington, DC. Far from the ordinary, this episode delves into the couple's journey of consensually communicating their desires, leading to a decision to transform their living room into a tantalizing play space. The duo shares their experience of navigating through the complexities of maintaining a healthy and exciting sexual connection, exploring the expansive possibilities of turning common spaces into realms of creativity and connection. The narrative unfolds as the couple reflects on how they used the 3-Minute Game to create an obstacle, injecting an element of surprise and anticipation into their playtime. With open communication and a commitment to shared exploration, Lauren and Trey reveal how they individually stoked the flames of desire, using their own unique forms of sexual currency to heighten the anticipation for this uncharted territory of pleasure. Brace yourselves for a candid and passionate episode that explores the boundaries of love, trust, and the endless potential for creativity within a committed partnership.If you would like to learn tools to create playtimes like this with your partner, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!Mentioned Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3FiBFliXrHbOuIp3s6dFSj?si=90de0f71efcd4896Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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In Episode 59 of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey openly explore the intricacies of great oral sex on the vulva. The duo candidly shares stories, including their first sexual encounter, setting the stage for an intimate, hilarious, and informative discussion. Lauren shares common oral sex obstacles for both the giver and the receiver of oral and how she and Trey overcome these in the bedroom. Trey unveils how he stumbled upon a Nina Hartley video, “how to eat p*ssy,” that became an unexpected source of inspiration for improving his techniques. The episode concludes with some of Trey and Lauren's favorite phrases they use to communicate during "passionate love making," emphasizing the importance of both verbal and non-verbal communication in intimacy. Tune in for an episode that combines personal anecdotes with valuable insights into sexual well-being and connection.If you would like to learn more about giving or receiving oral sex, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/support
In this episode Trey surprises Lauren by diving deep into the lingering stigmas that heterosexual men often grapple with when it comes to seeking therapy. Together, they question generational patterns that have perpetuated the notion that seeking help is a sign of weakness.
Lauren and Trey shed light on the importance of giving partners the space they need to process emotions and challenges that arise during a private counseling session. They explore how breaking free from stereotypes, like crying, can lead to healthier relationships and personal growth.
As the conversation unfolds, they tackle traditional masculinity norms that hinder open communication. In a hilarious twist, Lauren takes on the role of "Dan" and asks Trey about the barriers he fears will get in his way if he too seeks help. This role-play segment adds a hilarious touch to the discussion, allowing listeners to giggle while grasping the very serious struggles that many men may encounter.
Join them they challenge preconceptions and encourage a new era of openness and self-care. Discover the power of breaking down the invisible barriers that hinder heterosexual men from embracing the transformative benefits of therapy. It's time to redefine masculinity!
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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In this scintillating episode, join Lauren and Trey as they invite listeners into the intimate realm of their long-term partnership. Delving deep into the dynamics of Longing & Anticipation, Violating Prohibitions, Searching for Power, and Overcoming Ambivalence, this episode unveils the secrets behind their enduring passion by exploring the profound influence of Jack Morin’s Four Cornerstones of Eroticism.Lauren and Trey share their personal journey, discussing how these pillars of emotional intimacy, communication, novelty, and vulnerability have played pivotal roles in sustaining the fiery spark in their relationship. Through candid anecdotes and heartfelt conversations, they offer a raw and authentic portrayal of how they navigate the complexities of maintaining desire over the course of their partnership.Listeners will gain valuable insights into the importance of emotional connection in fostering a strong foundation for intimacy. Lauren and Trey share their communication strategies, highlighting the significance of open dialogue in understanding each other's needs and desires. The exploration of novelty brings a fresh perspective to keeping the desire (to want) alive, whether through spontaneous adventures or creative endeavors that add excitement to their shared experiences.Moreover, vulnerability takes center stage as the duo delves into the power of authenticity in the bedroom and beyond. By sharing their own vulnerable fantasies and the origins of their personal turn-ons, Lauren and Trey provide a roadmap for listeners to cultivate a deeper connection with their partners, fostering an environment of trust and acceptance.Get ready for an episode that goes beyond the surface of romance, offering practical tips and heartfelt stories that listeners can relate to. Whether you're in a long-term relationship or navigating the exciting world of new connections, this episode promises to inspire and ignite the flames of passion in your own journey of love.If you would like to learn more about the Four Cornerstones of Eroticism, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock Facts:Martial Rape was overturned in 1975 The Commonwealth of VA repealed the crime of fornication, i.e., voluntary sexual intercourse by an unmarried person, punishable under current law as a Class 4 misdemeanor in March of 2020!
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After a recent sexual encounter that felt slow, nurturing, and wonderful, Lauren and Trey decided to categorize the different types of sex they have in order to help you (and enjoy some shared laughter!)
This episode is a quickie, but we hope it titillates you in all the right places.
These are the categories they came up with, what would you add?
- Slow Sex
- Sleepy Side Sex
- On-Top Sex
- Use the Space Sex
- Semi-Public Sex
- Selfish Sex
- Quick Sex
- Mutual Masturbation
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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TW: Spanking as child abuse.
They knew immediately that they could have done better. Episode 55 is a play-by-play of how a momentary problem turned into so much more. Watch or listen to hear how Lauren and Trey each take accountability for the individual roles they played in this brief conflict.
Trey shares how a resiliency check-in led, by Lauren speaking the words, “Jelly-Bear,” would have helped to dismantle the entire misunderstanding BEFORE it happened. They each expound on what this soft word means to them and how it would have helped them coregulate and love one another more fully.
Lauren shares an intimate memory of abuse from when she was 13-years-old; and how by demanding blind obedience, she was robbed of opportunities to practice how to disagree and argue from a place of respectful agency. She asks Trey if they can renegotiate this traumatic memory through play this week and he enthusiastically agrees.
They both discuss how, at times, forging new neural pathways can feel like tremendous work and the temptation to throw in the towel can be HUGE, but they end this episode encouraged by the ways they each are growing THROUGH these challenging opportunities.
If you would like to learn more about navigating conflict in your partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Episode 54 is a follow-up to Episode 53! Make sure you listen to that HERE. Trey and Lauren dive right into the concept of anxiety as a form of sexual arousal. This is directly connected to Jack Morin’s Erotic Equation: ATTRACTION + OBSTACLE = EXCITEMENT.
Lauren talks about how it turns her on to have sex when other people are somewhere in the house. Trey surprises her by sharing that the spicy sexual encounters they have in public spaces are because SHE is aroused by the sneakiness, NOT because it is enticing to him. This shocks her and is precisely why we should have these conversations with our partners!
Trey explores the sexual benefits of creating a life that allows him the freedom and space to be turned on. He expounds on why he has eliminated porn this week to allow more space for sexual arousal. Lauren smiles, and at minute 9:58 says her favorite phrase, “We turn ourselves on.” Our desire for our sexual partners has so little to do with them and so much to do with us!
Trey talks about protecting Lauren’s space to come into her sexual body and Lauren segways into the concept of desirability. She shares that it’s important to cultivate a life that makes us FEEL DESIRABLE - even our friendships and the types of fun we have outside of the home affect the sex we have. She shares that she gets really turned on thinking about Trey’s choice to begin therapy and the meditation practices he makes time for daily.
At minute 16:15 they unpack their game changing practice of Nightly Check-Ins that includes just two simple questions. “Any ouches today? What brought you joy today?” This modality has given them so many new tools! Lauren was never given permission to have opinions of her own, and this tool of sharing an “ouch” has given her a new and playful tool to express her own voice and thoughts. Trey wants her to share her opinions and this gives her a way to do so! No more appealing here. Watch at minute 24:00 as Trey directly addresses partners whose first instinct is to say things like, “stop being ridiculous.” He questions traditional households where men are in charge simply because of their gender.
They close out Episode 54 discussing the 2023 “Peace on Earth” Christmas Card trend. Lauren shares why she feels this joke is harmful and disgusting. Trey shares how jokes like this don’t even deserve our time or opinions.
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Happy Holidays! Lauren and Trey kick off this episode with a long conversation about arousal and erections! Lauren gives a quick anatomy lesson - sharing what IS and is NOT normal for a penis in a sexual encounter! Then they accidentally stumble into a hilarious discussion about porn, film sets, and fluffers. When Trey expresses doubts that fluffers even exist, Lauren gets SO embarrassed. It’s worth the watch for sure.
After normalizing different levels of “hardness” and the various things that can lead to lack of an erection, Lauren and Trey discuss the role of attraction and the wisdom of our bodies that we may sometimes be ignoring, just to get laid.
Trey tells of a few sexual encounters where an erection was hard to maintain, but as he likes to say, "sex is like pizza, even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good."
They discuss the critical importance of hygiene in sexual encounters and reveal Lauren’s lack of love for showering! Trey asks her if there’s anything on his body that can repel her, and Lauren admits that a scratchy 5-o’clock shadow or bad breath can be a big turn off.
Trey shares that if his feelings have been hurt, his penis is not going up, after Lauren asks him if there’s anything she’s ever done to turn him off emotionally. They then explain that they do not have a transactional sexual relationship in which either of them is required to “drop trou.” Lauren rounds out the topic sharing that criticism is a major turn-off for her, because it makes her question her own comfort in her own skin.
After spending the majority of the podcast discussing arousal of the penis, Lauren spends a few minutes describing what a lack of arousal can feel like in the vulva and in the body of the vulva owner. She describes the most recent time she experienced dry mouth while in a sexual relationship she should have left.
They close out this episode talking the smallest bit about vaginismus and dyspareunia, but that conversation will be continued next week!
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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On Episode 52 Lauren and Trey discuss the ways in which they are building bridges, growing their support teams, and allowing themselves to be witnessed.
They ponder why people raised male tend to avoid therapeutic interventions and Lauren challenges Trey on the level of success he feels like he has attained. Do the wounds of our parents affect the way we interact with our lovers? Trey will be figuring that out soon!
Lauren dissects the concept of “felt safety” and how as she and Trey grow closer they have the potential to wound one another more and more deeply. Recently, she has seen first hand how much her “ugly” triggers Trey’s childhood coping mechanisms.
At minute 19:20 Lauren shares an analogy about how she feels she can see the brand new bridge they are building to one another while they traverse a temporary bridge they've built over these past few weeks.
You will not want to miss the vasectomy update at minute 23:30! Trey tells the tale of bringing a "fresh" semen sample to the urologist and the hilarity that unfolded!
They close out this episode with a conversation about agency of choice and the power of celebrating the little wins every day. By inviting others into their lives to speak loving truth these two are slowly building a stronger bridge back to one another.
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Episode 51 is a real-time look at the old and new tools Trey and Lauren are using to heal themselves and their partnership. They discuss the individual ways they are caring for their nervous systems and how they are navigating one another’s sensitivities in this season.If you would like to learn more about healing inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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In this episode, Trey and Lauren reflect on three major misunderstandings from their vacation. With transparency and vulnerability, they explore how these instances triggered deeply rooted traumas within each other, shedding light on the complexities that emerged amidst their disagreements.
Amidst the turmoil, Lauren advocates for a shift in perspective, encouraging Trey to embrace curiosity during their arguments and misunderstandings. This episode delves into the emotional intricacies of their relationship, offering listeners a poignant glimpse into the challenges of navigating conflict and healing wounds in real time.
Tune in to witness an unfiltered dialogue as Trey and Lauren traverse the nuances of their journey, seeking understanding, growth, and connection in the face of adversity.
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
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Episode 49 is all about travel post-blow-up and the guardrails Trey and Lauren are putting into place to support themselves and one another. They detail the ways in which this recent trip to NYC majorly differed from past adventures - specifically their new “ouch” check-ins and taking accountability for themselves first! If you listen till the end you’ll catch a hilarious story of train bathroom intimacy and how obstacles can be titillating or terrifying. If you would like to learn more about guardrails like this inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/support
They are finding their way back to each other - gently, slowly, and tenderly. This episode is full of the tools they are using and the insight they have sought from outside sources. At minute 10:28 Trey shares how their joint Human Design reading with Andie Thueson provided wisdom they were craving! Click here to book your own: https://andiethueson.as.me/schedule.php Lauren explains how needed this reading was for her and they both share their biggest takeaways and how they are using them in this time of healing. Lauren talks about their Anniversary Dinner and how she felt hopeful for the first time. The new information they’d taken in gave them new things to discuss and it was healing. Trey shares how Lauren hadn’t even felt safe to be naked in front of him and at minute 29:45 Lauren describes the Sensate Focus work they used to learn one another’s bodies in new ways. This exercise allowed trust to be rebuilt patiently. At minute 32:00 Lauren gets firey as she explains how she remained an ally to herself throughout this hard time - NEVER granting access to body without feeling safe and secure. She expands on Sensate Focus and how Dr Betty Martin’s tools gave her words to ask for what she needed, wanted, and desired. Trey describes their joint coaching session and the new routines they’re implementing to allow them both to check-in daily. Lauren gets giddy as she talks about all they learned through archetypes! Trey describes the “Good Boy” he turns into and how it leads Lauren to feel like a princess in a tower. At minute 41:00 they discuss the tool they learned of “gathering our council.” And Trey challenges men to not be “such a grumpy mother f*cker” and embrace childhood wounds. Trey says this is work he GETS to do - not that he HAS to do. Trey expresses his gratitude for the blow-up and Lauren shares how the outside insight has given her hope. At minute 47:00 Lauren asks if this experience has pushed them forward and Trey answers that Lauren feels more sacred to him now. If you would like to learn more about healing and coming back to each other in partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Oh friends, Episode 47 is raw. You might remember Trey’s recent feelings of excessive output - well, it didn’t end. After two weeks of tallying and nit-picking, it all came to a nasty head on Monday night of last week.
Lauren shares how she was deeply hurt and how her body got her out of bed at 2:45am to journal. Trey describes how he came down to find her and details the conversation they had from 3:00am-5:00am Tuesday morning.
You’ll see how tired Lauren is and yet grounded in her center. She shares how she felt like a Mama Bear for her younger self and knew that if Trey did not get outside help this would be the “beginning of the end,” because this is not her work to do, but his work to tackle on his own.
Lauren talks through her desire to get back to a place of open heartedness, but to NOT have it help against her in any way.
Trey committed to seeking outside help from one of Lauren’s dear colleagues and to join Lauren for a partnered Human Design reading on Thursday - their 1st Anniversary. He promised to get to the root of this wound and cease this maltreatment.
Trey woke up on Tuesday and made a detailed list of things that are his to work on. Despite this work, the day was sensitive and fragile and Lauren shares how her body had the hardest time feeling safe and the tools Trey used to help her access anger - including making her walk at the golf course and giving her permission to call him names and rage at him.
At minute 43:00 they share about some of the guardrails they’re instituting now, even without fully healing. One of these new patterns is ‘TIDY TIME’ and another is sharing our “ouches” nightly.
Want to see Lauren in her anger? Watch the video at minute 47:00 where Trey brings up his birthday and his expectation that Lauren “curate” a magical day for him.
You’ll hear Lauren’s complete disinterest in sex and her disgust with being rushed.
At minute 54:00 you’ll hear Trey say, “if I can’t be that to you, you need to go!”
We cannot force someone to change or to heal or to grow. If they are not willing to do the work, we need to go.
Lauren continually says that she is scared but she is not a victim. Trust is earned through trustworthy behavior and she is ready to see the work.
Lauren is in the water, hanging to the life saver and she tells Trey that she needs him to pull her to safety.
There’s still more to come of this slow journey to resolution - as this was filmed on Wednesday after the crack in their bond on Monday - but they hope you benefit from this real-time look at emotional wounding and the gentle steps they are both taking to heal themselves and their partnership.
If you would like to learn more about conflict like this inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Episode 46 is short and sweet! Trey and Lauren start off talking about the discomfort Lauren’s been experiencing in her body in this season of growth and how so many go through similar seasons!
At minute 3:14 Lauren talks about the nausea she’s been experiencing for the past month. Is she pregnant or is it a precursor for something else?
They review tools to combat anxiety and how to support one another as they step into something new!
Then they launch in the public partnership of the moment, TAYLOR AND TRAVIS!
Trey moans over the recent publicity the Chiefs have received and considers whether or not it’s the best for Travis to be out at all hours before a game and Lauren shares how she thinks this pairing is incredible!
Individuation is so important inside of partnership as are our natural stages of human development! Lauren and Trey discuss where they were in their own growth when they met and if they’d met earlier if their relationship would have even happened!
Enjoy this short and sweet episode and the ponderings of this growing partnership!
If you would like to learn more about individuating inside of partnership, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Trey and Lauren open Episode 45 with the update you’ve been waiting for! Did Trey gather enough courage to orgasm?!?! You’ll have to tune-in to find out!This episode was recorded 10-days-post-op and it’s hilarious to see Trey’s real-time reaction as well as Lauren’s attempt at describing a meme she sent to Trey as he was healing! Follow The Partnership Podcast on instagram to see the actual image!Lauren asks about the quality of Trey’s orgasms post surgery and he shares that they do feel slightly less forceful as of right now, but promises to keep us all posted.At minute 5:45 Lauren launches into the exhaustive weekend that began on Trey’s birthday, Oct 6, 2023 lasted until Wednesday morning Oct 11, 2023 and the burnout that ensued! Trey walks us through the feelings of, “holy fuckin’ shit, I do a lot for my wife.” at minute 9:00. Lauren asks him about the characteristics of “pissy Trey” and what he goes to in moments of anger and exhaustion.They talk about the lessons they’re learning about how to support one another in the midst of individual stress instead of allowing themselves to be triggered by the other’s bad mood. At minute 13:45 they recount Trey’s most passive aggressive moment from Wednesday that involved his golf clubs and a two second video. Wanna see a reenactment? Make sure to pull up your video at minute 14:49! At minute 16:00 they revisit their Projector and Generator types in Human Design. In the midst of Trey’s mood, Lauren challenged herself to have compassion for Trey’s exhaustion and allow him to take all the space he needed while simultaneously caring for her nervous system. By minute 19:00 they’re unpacking consensual and non-consensual gifts and Trey's ability to anticipate needs. If his gifts of service are not requested, are they really gifts? What do you think? Should Lauren feel guilty for not doing more for him?Do you curate restful experiences for your partner? Trey is a master at curation and sadly Lauren is not! In their partnership, Trey is learning to ask for what he needs and Lauren is learning to provide specific acts of service that align with his needs INSTEAD of over functioning and providing things he doesn’t need or want! At minute 23:00 he shares that if Lauren had gone to an overabundance of words of affirmation when he needed space it would have felt disingenuous and harmful.Projectors often need time alone - ESPECIALLY SLEEP - in the future, Lauren might very well send Trey to his favorite hotel after a weekend of insane output to recharge in a way that feels best in his body.At minute 27:00 Lauren shares one of the magical things she is discovering with so many clients right now. So many of us have a tendency to say, “I don’t need _________.” When really our bodies learned to survive without something necessary in order to function in our families of origin. Lauren asks Trey to take advantage of her Generator power. And Trey says that he really wants to get better at asking for help when he’s stressed.At minute 31:00 they talk about how they came back together and the giggles and snuggles that ensued! If you would like to learn more about vasectomy and navigating burnout with your partner, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Welcome to episode 44 where Lauren and Trey talk about their journey into and through Trey’s vasectomy! This episode was recorded just DAYS after he was snipped and while the whole experience is still VERY fresh in his mind!
Lauren opens storytime reminding the audience about her scare over the summer with a uterine fibroid. It was at that point that Trey decided to find a urologist and get on the books!
At minute 8:57 Lauren asks Trey to tell the story of his initial consult! He shares that he seriously felt like he was in middle school health class!
At minute 15:00 Trey launches into his experience of the day of surgery and how he felt far from sexual! Then at minute 18:18 Trey gets wheeled back to have his vasectomy!!
Trey gives his play-by-play of the surgery which is great and short and sweet, then, at minute 21:25, Lauren comes behind and gives the much more colorful and accurate version! ;)
Trey shares how he felt “meek” in the hospital gown, which is totally a thing!
At minute 29:00 Lauren shares one of her favorite moments all regarding “scrotal wear!”
Lauren asks all about recovery at minute 33:00 including arousal and desire and at minute 34:00 Trey shares that he is, “afraid to come.”
Lauren shares at minute 39:00 how this whole thing has created such a large obstacle to sex and has made her so very horny!! Jack Morin’s Erotic Equation, ATTRACTION + OBSTACLE = EXCITEMENT is on display!!
If you would like to learn more about alternate forms of birth control and how to discuss them with your partner, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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So many giggles on Episode 43 of the Partnership Podcast where Lauren and Trey cover their original Partnership Yes/No Lists, the 3 C’s of Partnership, and their recent sexy getaway!
At minute 4:50 Lauren and Trey start unpacking the logical choice they made in choosing partnership with one another. Listeners will enjoy their short trip down memory lane as they approach their anniversary and giggle over Lauren’s most used word of the week, BEMOANING: to regard with displeasure, disapproval, or regret.
At minute 7:20 they start to unpack the “lists” they each made independently before meeting on October 26, 2019. Lauren wants the audience to understand that we each individually get to be specific about our desires for a partner, but that does NOT excuse us from unpacking the harmful effects of cultural beauty standards. For Trey, his list was helpful, because it allowed him to get, “clear on what he wanted” and then forget about it! Lauren wrote her “list” slightly differently in 2019 when she was coming to grips with being a divorcee and single mother! (Enjoy your hilarious NFL moment at minute 16:21!)
At minute 19:25 Lauren shares how Nora McInery’s book, NO HAPPY ENDINGS, inspired her to write a story different from the sad one she was experiencing! Nora taught her to write “lonely hearts club ads” that allowed her to look beyond the limits of her small town and for a future partner like Trey! Honing in on what you want allows our future partners to be the object of our truest desire and WOW is that powerful!
At minute 22:00 our hosts begin to take us on the hilarious journey of their weekend getaway! They share the highs and lows and inbetweens of this sex-cation gone… sideways! There’s a slight skip at minute 24:58, but nothing is lost!!
Lauren shares how anxiety and separateness build her anticipation for the evening and on the contrary,Trey shares the work he did to slow his mind and his rhythms down in order to be present as a lover. They both giggle about the nervousness they experience over not knowing what they’re gonna talk about and then tell the story about what they did AFTER dinner and before going back to their room! Listeners will laugh when Lauren talks about the planning that goes into the undergarments that we wear or do NOT wear on dates!!
Trey talks to the fellas for a moment at minute 31:00 about outercourse and training up your skills! If anyone needs teaching tools, of course, reach out to Lauren for more info on OMG Yes!
Oh… but friends, the real meat of the podcast begins at minute 35:00! We’re not gonna give it away here, so make sure you watch or listen!
At minute 36:30 Lauren talks about how she refused to hate on her body “stuffed” in lingerie because as adrienne marie brown states in PLEASURE ACTIVISM, there is “big business in not being enough!”
They talk about the fun and then the moment the fun goes WRONG at minute 41:13 and how they responded and handled disappointment in the middle of their sexy weekend! Lauren shares that the grace and compassion she extended to herself was so important in overcoming the disappointment of a “failed” encounter! Trey shares how caretaking was important and needed in the moment!
If you would like to learn to plan a sexy getaway, improve your partnered sexual encounters, or write a pro/con list for a future partner, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!
Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Do old wounds ever show up in your partnership when you’re trying to learn new things? Then Episode 42 is for you! Trey shares more than he EVER has as he tells Lauren the story of his weekend on the golf course and how his body internalized GOLF as trauma. Lauren invites him to share the origin story of his anger and how he’s working through rage now.At minute 7:07 Trey remembers how his rage this past Saturday was directed at his mom. He shares the story of the time they were driving on the freeway in LA when he was 8 or 9 and how she proceeded to yell at him at the top of her lungs while driving 60 mph. Trey’s biggest question becomes, “what is the difference between pushing rage down and releasing it?”At minute 11:00, Lauren begins to draw correlations between learning a new skill as an adult and the foundational patterns we formed in childhood as we tried to learn new things. She then DIVES into one of her favorite concepts by Peter A. Levin, author of WAKING THE TIGER. She describes the difference between reenacting trauma and renegotiating trauma through play. She draws a correlation between the Civil War reenactors in Appomattox, VA and the way our own bodies try to “close the loop” and “change the ending” of our stories.Chaos in the brain requires us to forge new neural pathways! At minute 13:40 Lauren honors the wisdom of BDSM and Kink Communities, and the way they have been healing trauma for ages. From minute 15:30 Trey begins to brainstorm how his renegotiation could look, including a random tangent about Julia Roberts. At minute 18:00 he stands up for his little self and it brings Lauren to tears. (Surprise!)Lauren shares a recent time when Trey helped her renegotiate misogynistic trauma through play on a simple bike ride at minute 20:00. By allowing themselves to engage their creative imaginations Trey offered her a different path to healing. Lauren cries as she shares how the illusion of control was burst open that day.Lauren shares how much Trey’s experience parallels the experiences of her students as they work to overcome relational and sexual patterns. The SAME voices and frustrations tend to confuse them as they work to write new scripts. We suggest that everyone take an ACEs Quiz to assess their own adverse childhood experiences. (Links below!)Trey asks Lauren what tool she recommends partners try to renegotiate past behaviors. Of course, she responds with the Three Minute Game! Watch the whole episode HERE.At minute 36:00 we get to the BEST PART of this episode where Trey unpacks something Lauren has been waiting for him to discover about his erotic turn-ons! Make SURE to watch her face starting at minute 37:00! 37:41 is maybe the best reaction on this podcast SO FAR! Trey’s face at minute 38:59 is exactly how Lauren always imagined it would be! Lauren shares at minute 40:00 that troublesome turn-ons are only a problem when we say they are. We can use our Cornerstones of Eroticism as spring boards (minute 42:00) to hot sex with our partners of choice! Going to our “red light districts,” Esther Perel, or using “Creative Monogamy,” Dr. Joli Hamilton, allows us to create NEW peek erotic encounters with our own partners! Resources: WAKING THE TIGER: HEALING TRAUMATHE EROTIC MINDMATING IN CAPTIVITYHarvard: ACEs and Toxic Stress: Frequently Asked QuestionsNPR Article and ACEs QuizIf you would like to learn to Renegotiate Trauma through Play or how to explore erotic turn-ons, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Lauren would love to equip you and your partners with tools for mindful communication and sexual flourishing.Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.
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On Episode 41 Lauren and Trey discuss the different ways they “keep the door open to arousal” through non-sexual foreplay. They each share various actions the other does that allows them to remain open to desire.At minute 6:45 Lauren shares an image of how small actions throughout the day enable her to clear a path through the imaginary jungle to Trey with a machete or a weed-wacker or a machete… you’ll get the idea!Lauren explains that for centuries women have been relegated to objects of desire, and how, implementing non-sexual foreplay allows them to become subjects WHO desire. We are people connected to our sexual organs!Trey asks how partners get in trouble when/if they fail to “machete their way to their partners throughout the day? Lauren responds by sharing that “curiosity is the key to intimacy.”At minute 11:00, Trey jokingly references men who don’t want sex and Lauren reprimands him for stereotyping. In truth, Lauren has found that the loving partners who are denying their partner’s sex are actually fighting “overwhelm” as they work to provide for the person they love most. Friends, for many and “invitation to sex can feel like an obligation for sex!” You are not alone!At minute 15:00 Lauren breaks down the fun Business Titles we can develop inside our partnerships, but by minute 19:15 they’re already onto Lauren’s favorite topic, not having “THAT type of sex!” At minute 23:00 Lauren shares once again how mornings are NOT her tingle time and the mental gymnastics she has to struggle with to remain aroused! Everyone has Core Erotic Themes and within those themes we find sexual scripts, at minute 25:00, Lauren breaks this down even more!Do you see long term partnerships breaking apart around you? Have you ever asked, “why?” Well, at minute 27:15 Lauren and Trey get curious about this same thing after an audience member stated that she believes it’s when partners stop growing individually and together!Trey asks what a person can do when they want to grow but their partner is not interested in doing the same and Lauren gives a blunt but trauma-informed answer. Trey also shares one of his favorite statements, “if you don’t have time and money to grow and date your wife - you’ll be finding time and money for a divorce attorney.” We cannot force individuals to grow. Trauma-informed care says that we learn the things that are ours to learn when we’re supposed to learn them. We must allow our partners to maintain agency! If you would like to develop tools to strengthen the non-sexual foreplay in your partnerships, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Lauren would love to equip you and your partners with tools for mindful communication and sexual flourishing.Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.
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On Episode 40, Trey tosses out a question to Lauren at 6:52am that gets her engine revving! Over the next 45 minutes they break down how love differs from cathexis, creating a nurturing adult, the questions we ask that are NOT questions, the vulnerability of requesting help, and facing the truth about our own needs.
Trust is crucial inside of partnership, yet many of us have very few examples of trustworthy relationships. Lauren shares how our families of origins shape our earliest understandings of communication, but sadly, very few of our parents were experts. Trey asks if it is up to us to heal and rebuild, so that our partners do not pay the price of our inability to ask for what we need, want, and desire.
Trey wants you to know that there is a small skip at minute 27:00 due to an editing error. Lauren thinks it’s minor, but he’s appalled!
If you would like to develop tools to rebuild trust inside of your partnerships, click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Lauren would love to equip you and your partners with tools for mindful communication and restoration.
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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A close friend of Lauren’s took flight from this world this week. Episode 39 finds this duo sitting with all the many colors of grief inside of partnership.
You’ll witness tears, laughter, confusion, and wonder as Lauren shares her process in real time. Trey is aware that losses like this often trigger Lauren’s “mother-wound.” Having lost her mother in 2007 to cancer, death has a tendency to rock her world.
And yet, this loss feels integrated, expansive, and grounded. While devastated, Lauren shares how she is using so many tools she has learned from her friend J to care for herself in this process of grief.
Trey closes the episode by sharing how he is holding space for Lauren’s emotions without allowing them to overwhelm his nervous system.
If you would like to develop tools to navigate grief inside of your partnerships, click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Lauren would love to equip you and your partners with tools for mindful communication and restoration.
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Lauren and Trey FINALLY SAW THE BARBIE MOVIE!! Episode 38 is their hot take on the themes they observed including the hilarious jabs the film makes at the Patriarchy.
This episode marks ONE FULL YEAR of releasing podcasts out into the wild and Lauren and Trey sharing their thoughts with you in real time! :) Thanks for being here!
Lauren shares how many folks are frustrated with their partner’s lack of interest in seeing The Barbie Movie with them and how there’s really another question beneath that request. Trey shares the parts of the film he found most funny including Ryan Gosling’s brilliant portrayal of Ken.
They discuss the push-back the film has gotten including the inclusion of gender expansive actors. Lauren asks Trey what he thought of America Ferrera’s monologue that brought her to tears which leads to a deep discussion on masculine and feminine energies and the differences in similarities and polarities in partnership.
All in all, Lauren AND Trey LOVED the film and highly suggest you and your partner give it a watch!
If you want to dive more deeply into any of the topics discussed today, click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Lauren would love to equip you and your partners with tools for mindful communication and restoration.
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
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In Episode 37 Lauren and Trey recap their recent travel and the result of the Event Planner and Day of Coordinator roles they brainstormed on Episode 36. Spoiler, it went wonderfully, despite feeling like they were being punked in the international terminal at LAX!
At minute 16:00 Trey gives a shout out to an audience member who flagged him down on the golf course! He shares how hilarious it is to him that after decades in film and television, it is this podcast that gets him recognized.
For the meat of the podcast Lauren shares something she's been brainstorming recently after re-listening to the work of Alison Armstrong. She is coming to believe that "conflict is the result of problems we fail to address" and she asks Trey to weigh in with his own thoughts and feelings. A fun conversation ensues that you won’t want to miss!!
If you want to learn about how to handle problems and conflict in your partnership, click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Lauren would love to equip you and your partners with tools for mindful communication and restoration.
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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After last week’s doozy of an episode, Trey and Lauren recap what they did to repair and restore their relationship after they turned off the cameras last week.
Emily Nagoski says that, “the sign of relationship health is not whether or not a couple argues. But rather, how quickly they find their way back to one another.” On episode 36, Trey and Lauren recap share the different tricks they now use to find their way back.
They talk all things nervous systems, Nurturing Meditations, and the power of re-negotiation.
Then at minute 25:14 they pivot the conversation to talk about upcoming travel and how they could possibly handle the stress differently! They nominate Lauren to take on the role of “Day of Coordinator” and allow Trey to take a back seat as the “Event Planner.”
This episode feels like a walk in the park after the last one, so if you need to restore your own nervous system! We recommend you watch or listen!
Spoiler alert, they did find a safe word. ;)
If you want to learn about how to find your way back to your partner, click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Lauren would love to equip you and your partners with tools for mindful communication and restoration.
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
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If you ever wonder what real human conflict looks like, just watch/listen to this podcast. There’s not much more to say about Episode 35. The moment Lauren sits down, Trey brings up the mortgage and the rest of this conflict happens in real time.
You will see these two on the struggle-bus for roughly 30 minutes straight. You’ll hear lengthy pauses and feel the awkward silences. You will see tears, hear juvenile thoughts, and feel Lauren’s feigned powerlessness.
Rewiring our brains is not easy. At minute 11:23 Lauren references the scarcity mindset and the concept of women being of “lesser mind.” She is still seeking to overcome these patterns and conversations like this one about the mortgage still trigger deep fear in her.
At minute 16:42 Trey brings up the concept of holding space and how easy it could be in these moments to say things like “you’re being ridiculous.”
Chores/mental load, sex, and money are three of the top reasons partnerships dissolve. And we can see why!
At minute 21:00 Trey shares that Lauren is not being manipulative and Lauren shares her favorite concept of “feigned powerlessness.”
We FINALLY get to the root at minute 25:44. Trey shares the tally marks he’s made recently over the overabundance of investment he feels he’s made into Lauren’s business within the last few weeks. Do not miss the side-eye at minute 26:53.
They eventually reveal each other’s insecurities, feelings of failure, and their deep desires to serve and support one another. Lauren uncovers how she treats others better than she treats Trey and she commits to doing better.
What you do NOT see off-screen is the Nurturing Meditation Lauren and Trey do immediately after recording; followed by a walk to complete the stress response cycle in their bodies.
If it feels comfortable to you, push through and listen to the end. We promise it does get better and the episode ends with laughter and joy.
If you want to talk more about stumbling through conflict with your partner you can click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult Lauren would love to equip you and your partners with tools for mindful communication.
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Let’s get right to it. Episode 34 talks about Oral Sex a LOT. If that’s not your cup of tea, this might be the episode for you!
Lauren has recently been re-reading Dr. Betty Martin's book, THE ART OF RECEIVING AND GIVING. At minute 1:50 she shares how Dr. Martin suggests that many folks might think they dislike receiving when REALLY they dislike enduring, tolerating and allowing.
At minute 13:40 Lauren unpacks the four quadrants of Dr. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent and they both talk about how allowing is NOT the same as receiving.
At minute 14:50 Trey reveals that he has disliked blow jobs since high school due to the tremendous pressure to orgasm. He and Lauren go on to unpack the basics of the 3-Minute Game and agree to use it to uncover new ways to receive oral gifts in the way they ACTUALLY want them.
Lauren shares a recent lightbulb moment she had about her Core Erotic Theme at minute 21:20 and how it influenced her in buying an old fashioned chemise that’s maybe gotten her laid a couple of times. :-)
Whether you call it consent or a game plan, Lauren and Trey hope you'll incorporate some of what you learn today into your sexual play with your partners!
Wanna learn more about taking, allowing, serving, and receiving CONSENSUALLY?! You can click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult She would love to walk you and your partners into playful freedom.
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Do you ever find yourself in the car with your partner thinking, “are we there yet?!?” If so, Episode 33 is for you! Trey and Lauren took a little road trip on the 4th of July and what could have turned into “road-gate,” instead took a turn for the better!
Despite high stress from a crazy storm on the dark county roads, Trey chose curiosity instead of rage and Lauren leaned into neutrality over self-blame.
This short-and-sweet episode will have you snickering at Trey’s tongue-in-cheek critique of Lauren’s driving skills. (You know we all do it!)
Celebrate with these two as they break patterns and acknowledge little wins even when they seem small.
If you are curious about how to approach old patterns with your partner,, click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult with Lauren today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult She would love to walk you and your partners into autonomy, change, and celebration!
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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You’ve been asking, “What’s up with Trey and weed? WHY doesn’t Lauren care when he says he’s going to stop, but starts right up again!? Does weed affect your partnership?” Such great questions and they’re tackling them all on Episode 32!
In her previous marriage, Lauren experienced the harmful ramifications of alcoholism. She also felt the deep pain of trying to “make someone change,” and vowed never to do that again.
Trey began using weed as a Californian highschooler and it’s been a part of his life ever since. Lauren asks him about belonging, avoidance, consequences, and negative ramifications Trey’s experienced. Then, they turn the tables and discuss Lauren’s alcohol use.
Any substance can be poison or medicine and these two chat about using weed and alcohol to cope, to soothe, to escape, and to heal.
If you and your partners have different substances of choice, this episode will be a fantastic resource!
If you’d like to unpack co-dependency and your tendency to want to control your partner’s habits, click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult with Lauren today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult She would love to walk you and your partners into autonomy and freedom of choice!
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Well, they did it. They watched the documentary about fundamentalist religion and The Institute in Basic Life Principles on Amazon Prime entitled: SHINY HAPPY PEOPLE. (https://amzn.to/44dDOHP) While The Secrets of Hillsong on Hulu was difficult to get through, Lauren was much more afraid to watch this piece of media as it closely aligns with the life she escaped.
Trey doesn’t say much on this episode, but if you watch closely, you can see his blood boiling as he gently asks question after question to more deeply understand Lauren’s lived experience.
If your partner comes from a faith structure that indoctrinated them to believe that they are deeply depraved, we highly recommend watching this documentary for your own benefit. They say a picture says more than a thousand words and for Trey and Lauren this was absolutely the case. Through SHINY HAPPY PEOPLE (which they consistently call the wrong name) Trey was able to learn about: homeschooling, parentification, courtship, headship, absolute authority, corporate and familial discipline, abuse, emotional repression, gender roles, total depravity, and control.
Lauren tells story after story and Trey shares that he now understands why her face sometimes changes to that of a child’s when she feels she has made a mistake.
If you are also a survivor of Religious Indoctrination, click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult with Lauren today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult She would love to walk you and your partners to freedom and joyful expression of yourselves!
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Episode 30 finds Lauren and Trey right in the middle of an incredibly fragile morning full of fear and worry. After several months in physical therapy for a hamstring injury, Lauren was encouraged to get an ultrasound of her ovaries to check for the possibility of ovarian cysts. While this is a common frustration for people with uteruses, Lauren's grandmother died of ovarian cancer and her nervous system took a tailspin at the possibility.
Lauren struggles to put words to her feelings, and Trey's response to Lauren's feelings has Lauren feeling feelings. Friends, you are getting the unfiltered and raw “morning after” hard news. At one point Trey mentions "having a great day" and Lauren’s whole body rejects the idea in favor of an "aware day." She shares how for 3 decades she was taught that a “joyful heart is good medicine and a broken spirit dries up the bones.” She tells Trey that she COULD have a “great” day, but she knows that’s not at all what her body needs.
Towards the end of the episode you'll hear Lauren mention another trauma-informed theory that’s been rolling around in her brain. She wonders out loud if her body is finally feeling brave enough to tackle her decade of sexual neglect. Trey and she talk about the wisdom of the pelvis and all the emotions that can become stored in our bodies.
**This episode was recorded on a Tuesday and the ultrasound was scheduled for the next day, Wednesday. We will have more news for you in the weeks to come.
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Well, friends, this episode jumps immediately into the "intimate" details of a recent hike Lauren and Trey went on! If you do nothing else, make sure you watch Lauren's mortified face at minute 2:54! Also, if you think this episode is all about Hillsong, guess again! These two dive into shame, erotic imagination, cheating, love bombing and more!
After they get their mountain of a story out of the way they dive into some prepared questions to wrap up their viewing of the Hulu HILLSONG documentary.
Lauren asks Trey if he feels the corruption seen in "The Secrets of Hillsong '' are unique to religious institutions and Trey asks if Lauren ever experienced similar policing of her body in order to keep others pure. Lauren closes out the questions asking if Trey believes Carl Lentz's wife should have stayed in their marriage and more importantly if he would stay if she did something similar.
Trey flips the tables and asks Lauren the same question and her answer takes him by surprise - so much so that one of their most touching and honest conversations they've ever had ensues.
Then, friends, SURPRISE at minute 36:00 we add an HOUR of bonus content all on Love Bombing! After watching the Final Season of Ted Lasso, they HAD to discuss this hot topic! Let us know what you think after listening! Did Trey "love bomb" Lauren in the early stages of their courtship? How would you define Love Bombing? They go on to break down what forms of "love bombs'' they still give each other every day.
If you are also healing wounds and unpacking from Purity Culture and Religious Trauma, or ready to have your own sex in the woods, Lauren would love to work with you! Click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
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Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Trey stumbled into the room when Lauren was watching the Hulu documentary, “The Secrets of Hillsong” this week and got sucked in! So, they’ve made an episode out of their initial thoughts and reactions so far!
Like all episodes of The Partnership Podcast, this one starts off on a completely different note, with Lauren sharing some of her recent fears and growing pains as the owner of Sex Ed for You. They talk through the logistics of sharing struggles in partnership, and Trey’s tendency to want to “fix” it.
A favorite moment from this episode is at minute 19:10 when they discuss the term, “my wife” and how every time Trey jokingly uses this phrase, Lauren’s skin begins to crawl!
Don’t miss minute 20:40 where Lauren talks about a recent ‘real life’ experience of this whole system in action.
Ready for some nerdy sex education? Skip ahead to minute 28:12 where Lauren reintroduces the concepts of Reaction Formation and the Pedestal Paradigm! She breaks down how and why they matter for those in positions of authority inside of churches!
If you are also healing wounds and unpacking from Purity Culture or Religious Trauma, Lauren would love to work with you! Click here to schedule a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Episode 27 is one of the most accidentally personal episodes Trey and Lauren have recorded so far! They begin their chat having no idea what they're gonna talk about and end up discovering how interconnected the birth of SEX ED FOR YOU is with their love story.
At minute 2:20, Lauren begins her highlight sharing a very exciting announcement and by minute 2:58 she's jumping right into storytelling! Trey recalls his personal and raw journey to realizing how deeply he still wanted to be with Lauren after leaving Virginia and returning to California during the 2020 pandemic. Lauren shares the huge mistakes she made while he was gone and how SEX ED FOR YOU would not exist had he not sent one specific text message.
Trey's highlight at minute 18:51 is going to shock you. ;) Just kidding. BUT after he talks about his golf wins, he ignites a fascinating conversation about sexual energy and how we are often turned on by our partner's personal perusal of their dreams and goals.
Trey talks about receiving a sexy photo from Lauren at minute 19:50 and his choices in that moment to "meet her energy" or not. At minute 32:30 Lauren goes on to share how watching Trey complete household chores while she worked at the computer turned her on and visibly decreased her mental load - leading to incredible sex!
They talk about their phrase "can you save it for me," and at minute 30:12, Lauren’s foolproof technique of harnessing your CET (Core Erotic Theme) to "get in the mood" for sexual encounters with long-term partners.
We hope you enjoy this intimate episode and if YOU would like to discover your CET or learn more about pushing through vulnerability and into amazing sex! Click here to schedule a FREE CONSULT today! https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult Lauren would be honored to walk with you and your partner to discover what good sex means to YOU!
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Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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This episode discusses the difference between cathexis and love as Lauren is coming to understand the terms as she reads ALL ABOUT LOVE: NEW VISIONS by bell hooks. Trey opens by asking Lauren about a recent "work-cation." She shares how she chose to show up for herself as CEO, COO, and CFO and some difficult and scary choices she had to make. At the end of the day, it is her job alone to care for herself so that she can care for Sex Ed for You.The conversation centers around the verb, "CATHECT: to invest with mental or emotional energy" and the noun, "CATHEXIS: investment of mental or emotional energy in a person, object, or idea." Trey and Lauren discuss the conflation of love and cathexis and how possibly Lauren's fundamental and religious understanding of "love" was shaped by cathexis.Trey shares how things are bubbling up for him as he sorts through old patterns and behaviors and the affirmation that is making this process slightly less painful. Despite his best efforts, two recent instances of criticism bubbled up into Lauren's orbit. They share how they navigated through hurt feelings and came out on the other side intact! They both push into the concept of many of their conflicts revolving around desiring to protect the other, but accidently inflicting harm, and sadly, how it can leave one partner feeling controlled.Wanna feel some TENSION!?! Jump to minute 28:33! See Lauren and Trey rework through a conflict in real time that they thought they'd already solved. Lauren briefly mentions Karpman's Drama Triangle and how at any point we can play the victim, the judge, or the rescuer. If you'd like to know more, book a free consult with Lauren today! https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult Lauren would be honored to walk with you and your partner through conflicts of your own!Books Mentioned: ALL ABOUT LOVE: https://amzn.to/3q2xYttLEAVING THE FOLD: https://amzn.to/43if8g6THINK AND GROW RICH: https://amzn.to/3MLeu5kReminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thepartnershippodcast/support
Episode 25 dives right into the bedroom! Lauren's recently been rereading Ian Kerner's book: SHE COMES FIRST and she has some juicy questions for Trey.
But, before they launch into the subject of communicating their way to better and more patient sex, Trey shares one of his favorite phrases, "Are you asking for advice or do you want me just to listen?" They discuss why this term has been so helpful to their partnership and Lauren even goes so far as to say that, "If we cannot feel vulnerable enough to communicate with our partners, there is no way that our sex is going to improve. Because better sex requires better communication."
Throughout this episode, they discuss female arousal times and even tell a story about a recent work day where Lauren had to embrace the slow build, fight feelings of inadequacy, and trust that there was plenty of patience for her AND that Trey would communicate if he needed to be done.
Since Trey has not read Ian's book (spoiler!) Lauren asks him to share where and how he learned to provide oral and manual pleasure to the vulva and clitoris.
Trey asks Lauren how she moves through personal frustration when arousal is taking longer than desired, and she shares how she avoids using negative phrases at all costs! They both realize that their favorite go-to-phrase is, "are you comfy?" This code allows them both to continue chasing pleasure while checking in with the other's body.
They discuss the power of coaching one another up in the sex they want and HOW they want it and close this episode out by sharing the power of celebrating the unique sexual desires of all humans.
If you’d like to learn how to understand YOUR process of arousal or how to communicate what you want in the bedroom, schedule a FREE 15-minute consult with Lauren today! https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult Lauren loves equipping couples with tools to communicate their sexual needs, wants and desires!
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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On Episode 24 Lauren and Trey dissect a recent question from the audience that asked, “What if we don’t share the same goals?” Buckle-up, because they’re gonna take you on a wild ride!
At minute 8:57 Lauren shares how MANY of her clients are going through similar struggles right now as one partner deconstructs their evangelical faith, and another seeks to retain their beliefs. What IS the most loving thing to do?
They discuss one of their favorite terms, “interdependence” at minute 10:45 and how far it extends. They ask so many questions including: What happens when our goals involve a community that doesn’t include our partner? What happens when that community casts judgment on our partner? What happens when our personal goals threaten the well-being of our partner?
Does interdependence mean alignment with your partner’s autonomy or their goals? Are you trying to push your partner to a breaking point so that you can vilify their actions? Are you trying to shape your partner's values? At minute 28:17 Lauren shares just how detrimental it can be to try to control another person and then at minute 29:21 she suggests how letting someone go, while heartbreaking, may be the most loving option at times.
Trey closes us out with a zinger, sharing that before we can make any decisions about partnership, "we have to trust ourselves first."
If you’d like to make more values-based decisions inside of your partnership, schedule a FREE 15-minute consult today! https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult Lauren loves equipping couples with tools to communicate and celebrate their partnership!
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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On this Episode Lauren and Trey share about a recent instance where Lauren's body reacted negatively to Trey's mention of porn use earlier in the day. Despite "knowing" the benefits of porn and having a Relationship Agreement (Episode 5) that celebrates sexual privacy, Lauren's body still retains body-based sex-negative beliefs that reside in her due to decades of Purity Culture indoctrination. AND THERE IS SPACE FOR HER PAIN.
Trey shares how he felt when Lauren's body responded negatively to his open-hearted sharing and how they worked their way through the moment without further harm. And Lauren shares how she is slowly moving away from self-criticism into curiosity.
Intertwined with these thoughts you'll hear discussion of Lauren's recent fascination with embodied porn usage and ways to use porn that make for greater enjoyment of partnered sexual encounters!
Is porn causing pain in your relationship? If so, Lauren would love to chat with you about ways to heal and integrate! Schedule a FREE 15-minute consult today! https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She loves equipping couples with tools to communicate and celebrate their partnership!
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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On Episode 22 Lauren and Trey share all the intimate details of a recent sex-cation and the responsibility they each took to make it happen! This weekend hotel stay started as a desire of Lauren's but took a game of catch to make it cum to fruition. Watch or listen to this episode of the Partnership Podcast to see how the three minute game, raspberries, and sex toys contributed to this amazing sex-filled weekend!If you feel confused at minute 24:30 when Lauren is talking about the 3 MINUTE GAME, you probably missed the whole episode devoted to this awesome game!! Click here to catch up! https://youtu.be/vrlQfpZV9zAAt minute 33:08 things take a wild turn as Trey shares his thoughts behind Tiger Woods' tampon choice. Lauren goes toe-to-toe with him as they debate comedy, menstruation, audiences, censorship, and more. Do you disagree? Do you have a different opinion? Good! We encourage you to both disagree and form your own opinions on all of the content we share!This episode is just another day in the lives of these two and it's as hilarious as it is practical. These two close out the discussion back where they started, with taking responsibility for their own feelings! ENJOY!If you are looking for tools to plan your perfect sex-cation reach out to Lauren for a free consult today! https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She loves equipping couples with tools to communicate and celebrate their partnership!Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/partnership.podcast/support
On Episode 21 Trey and Lauren break down two recent conflicts that existed solely in their minds. They discuss finding their way back to one another and the importance of taking responsibility for their personal feelings.
Lauren stumbled into an old porn wound last week and Trey shares how the tone of her question made him feel judged and threatened. They then move into their favorite topic of sexual privacy and how they can continue to support and protect one another as they continue to reprogram their minds and habits.
Lauren ALMOST makes it through a second episode with no tears, but conversations about the beautiful expansion of her business, Sex Ed For You, and the changes it is bringing about in her personal life, lead her to a breaking point. They discuss how, in their own ways, they're both mourning prior patterns and coping mechanisms.
They close with a conversation surrounding how tricky it is to live with and be partnered to someone who is growing. In Trey's words, “partnership is work!”
If you're ready to get to work on your partnership, click here to book a free consult with Lauren. https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She loves equipping couples with tools to communicate and celebrate their partnership!
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
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Episode 20 is here and it marks Lauren’s FIRST episode without tears! Perhaps it’s because these two spend most of this episode flexing their acting muscles by pretending to ask one another for new and exciting sexual things in the bedroom. Wanna see Trey blush? Make sure to watch the video on Spotify or YouTube!
(Fun fact! Did you know Trey was an actor/SAG member for years? While he’s appeared in numerous films and television shows, this episode showcases his finest work! Kidding! Kinda.)
Lauren shares that clients often ask her how to bring up new things to their partner that they'd like to try sexually and the next thing you know they're role playing. There's laughter and awkwardness, but no tears! At minute 4:21 Lauren invents a Step-Wise Model for Bringing up Sex Requests to a partner and hilarity ensues!
Help these two celebrate their 20th Episode by liking, subscribing, sharing, rating, and leaving a review wherever you get your podcasts!
If you’re ready to request new things from your partner, but need a little help, click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!
Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
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Episode 19 almost went unshared. It's messy, unrehearsed, raw, and necessary. In their warm up conversation,Trey began telling Lauren about the ways in which he's pushing into the discomfort of growth in this season - habits he's attempting to curb and new disciplines he's hoping to develop. This reminded Lauren of the work so many of her clients are doing right now and so she began to ask how partners can be helpful when their partner is growing - and that conversation just kept rolling.
In this intimate episode Lauren and Trey discuss the inherent vulnerability in growth - for both the person growing and the people in their orbit. They discuss how bearing witness to a partner's growth can threaten our security and make us question our own foundations.
You'll hear them brainstorm questions partners can ask of one another when they want to support NOT hinder growth. And how growth can bring out the best and worst of the people around us.
Lauren shares a recent failure and how this colleague pushed into a clarifying conversation with bravery and vulnerability - resulting in a deeper and more trusting connection than before.
When we say this episode is messy, we mean it. Lauren's camera dies two thirds of the way through (see the hidden easter egg message at minute 31:55!) - but the wrap up was too good not to share.
If you’re ready to talk about messy topics like these with your partner, click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren:https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!
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This episode begins with a silly little confession from Trey and leads into a deeper dive of the many health benefits of masturbation when used as a purposeful tool. Lauren believes that it's time to let go of the misinformation that continues to leave people feeling guilt and shame about a normal expression of the sexual self.
The REAL content of this episode revolves around the taboo of menstruation and period sex! As a menstruating person, Lauren has experienced GREAT period sex and hilarious period sex and she gets down and dirty with Trey as they talk about it all! What was intended to be a silly and lighthearted discussion on how to incorporate an intimacy blanket like The Layer (https://getthelayer.com/products/the-layer - use sexedforyou at checkout for 10% off!) into your love-making became a much deeper discussion on the taboos that continue to surround menstruating people.
Lauren and Trey brainstorm workplace emergencies and deconstruct chauvinistic slurs aimed at people who menstruate, and how as humans we can all do better. You'll watch as Lauren breaks down as she and Trey discuss this topic for VERY FIRST TIME! Trey explains his perspective on those who fail to use empathy for those in their lives who menstruate.
We hope you'll send this podcast to all who need it. Trey and Lauren both believe that until we can openly and honestly discuss menstruation and the role it plays in our relationships, we cannot fully embrace partnership. This podcast is for those who have sex with people who bleed, have children who bleed, and work with those who bleed.
Happy Women's History Month to all who menstruate and many, many thanks to THE LAYER (getthelayer.com) for sending us their incredible product that has greatly improved our period playtime! Use SEXEDFORYOU at checkout to receive 10% off of any of their incredible intimacy products!
If you’re ready to talk about messy topics like these with your partner, click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren:https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!
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Episode 17 unfolds differently than all the rest! When they embarked on this conversation Lauren thought they'd be discussing the power of self-actualization and the accessibility of self-help resources these days. But, as you'll see, the dialogue takes a much different turn. Lauren shares how, through the power of question asking, Trey encourages intimacy and makes her feel: un-known, exciting, and erotically expansive.
Trey shares how he first picked up the classic book, HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE (https://amzn.to/3SzH6jp), written in 1936 by Dale Carnegie, and how it became a game changer for his interpersonal encounters. Lauren then draws a connection to the KINK world and how, contrary to appearances, the power lies with the submissive. Similarly, the power in conversation lies with the questioner who is RECEIVING the words of the responder.
At minute 31 Lauren mentions, once again, one of their favorite books by Susan David, PhD: Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. You can purchase it here: https://amzn.to/3IrIAri
PSST: Find yourself wanting to listen to all the books Lauren and Trey recommend? Get a FREE TRIAL of Audible by clicking here: https://amzn.to/3m7VgMI
If you'd like to see if curiosity the key to YOUR intimacy, click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!
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Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Hold on folks, on Episode 16 Lauren is talking about her FAVORITE GAME for partnerships of all kinds! The Three Minute Game by the brilliant Dr. Betty Martin has revolutionized Lauren's work and you'll be able to feel her nerdy excitement as she and Trey share about their recent attempt at playing this game for research purposes. ;)
Trey shares how uncomfortable and vulnerable the game can be and his experience playing for the first time. He pushes into some difficult corners of the exercise and asks Lauren some hard "what if" questions that cause her to pause.
Noticing, trusting, and valuing our needs, wants, and desires can be the most difficult task of all. The Three Minute Game creates a boundaried container to practice serving, accepting, taking, and allowing!
If you'd like to know more about the HOW and WHY to initiate this exercise with your partner, click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult with Lauren: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult She adores working with partnerships to help restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and pleasure!
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Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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If sexual fantasies and the erotic make you uncomfortable this might not be the episode for you! On Episode 15, Lauren and Trey discuss one of their FAVORITE topics, the Erotic Imagination. They unpack how they protect one another's sexual privacy and what that looks like in their monogamous relationship.They unpack one of @drjoli_hamilton 's terms, "Creative Monogamy" and the different ways they both practice sexual fantasy sharing. Lauren recently rewatched @estherperel 's Ted Talk on Long-Term relationships and she tosses questions at Trey about what flames desire in him!This episode feels safe, playful, and sweet. Which after the past two episodes, should lead the audience wondering if Esther is correct that “The erotic is the antidote to death.”Do you want to work through the worksheet Lauren references in this episode? Do you feel safe to share your erotic fantasies with your partner? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult to see how Lauren can help you get curious about your long-term partnership and the hundreds of ways you can craft a relationship that feels safe and sexy: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsultLike what you hear? Like, subscribe, share, or tip! https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcastReminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlockWant to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast/support
The Holistic Psychologist recently shared that "Safe relationships don't always feel good. You will be in tears with each other having tough conversations and facing the wounded parts of yourself. Safe relationships just won't weaponize or shame those parts of you."While they wish Episode 14 was a tidy wrap-up to the dishes conflict in Episode 13 (catch it here: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast/episodes/In-conflict--Silencing-vs--Submission-e1thb1i) the fact of the matter is that not all conflicts are solved in one attempt. Remember, this is a "how-they" podcast, NOT a "how-to" podcast.As they discuss this week, Trey and Lauren both have wounds left over from parents, previous partners, etc. that are triggered and activated by seemingly trite things such as dishes - or as they now call it in their home, "DISHGATE."Thanks to you, audience, Trey and Lauren now know they are not alone! Episode 13 resulted in more messages, listens, and ANGER than any other. Many of you messaged to say you were so mad, you couldn't even finish listening! One of you even sent in a study that affirms Lauren's sensitivity to commonly gendered chores such as dishes! And it's amazing! (Read it here: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2378023118765867)The Council of Contemporary Families (CCF), examined a variety of different household tasks—including shopping, laundry, and housecleaning, and found that, for women in heterosexual relationships, it’s more important to share the responsibility of doing the dishes than any other chore!The study goes on to share that "egalitarian arrangements are more conducive to higher quality relationships because they foster cooperation and communication among partners, two essential and apparently increasingly important predicates to a good sex life and good relationship."While they didn't know about this study when they recorded - you'll get to watch the research play out in real time on this episode. You'll be able to feel how ready Trey is to put Dishgate behind them, while Lauren continues to prolong the conversation seeking clarity over ownership and the division of labor!Lauren can sense exactly what this CCF article is referencing when it says that, "when it comes to more global relationship satisfaction, individuals are perfectly happy to bend convention as long as the division of labor appears to benefit themselves. The consequence, however, is that although one partner may be reasonably satisfied with the relationship, the other is not, a direct contrast to the supposed benefits of separate spheres." Can you sense it too?Do you and your partner ALSO have conflicts? Do you feel safe to share your opinions and not have them weaponized against you? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult to see how Lauren can help you get curious about the hows and whys behind your arguments: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsultLike what you hear? Like, subscribe, share, or tip! https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcastReminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlockWant to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Anchor enough. Visit www.anchor.fm to launch your podcast today.--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/partnership.podcast/support
Well, it's about damn time. Pop the popcorn, sit back, relax, and enjoy your front row seat to another CONFLICT. Episode 13 finds Trey and Lauren on day two of a conflict over DISHES and you don't wanna miss it. One party feels that their needs are being silenced and the other feels pressured to submit - buckle-up, friends, this is a wild ride.
The whole thing started because Lauren thought it would be a cute idea to pull a few cards from the Best Self INTIMACY Deck on their lazy Sunday morning in bed. (Get your own deck here: https://shrsl.com/3v7wp) What they stumbled into will not surprise our faithful audience, but hopefully, you'll be encouraged by the way this seemingly small issue escalated to anger, confusion, tally marks, and feelings of utter failure.
We see both Trey and Lauren express resentment over adult responsibilities demanded of them in childhood and how no matter how hard they try, these familial wounds keep popping up. Lauren's utter hatred of submission seems to paralyze her towards the end, leading Trey to choose to concede, just to make the argument stop. Audience, it's not pretty.
What would you have done differently? How can our conflict help you and your partners? Who is the more anal one in your relationship? (Yes, that's mean, but Lauren types this body text and Trey will never see this. :-)
WARNING: You will FEEL the tension in this episode. It's not pretty and nothing gets tied up in a pretty bow, AND we hope you see that you are NOT alone.
Do you and your partner ALSO have conflicts? Do you wish they ended in laughter and jokes like this one? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult to see how Lauren can help you get curious about the hows and whys behind your arguments: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Lauren quickly crumbles on Episode 12 as she attempts to share her dreams for 2023. She and Trey spend time talking about the examples of feminine success they saw modeled as they were growing up and how Lauren feels a wall every time she attempts to dream large.
Having grown up believing that she was to only be a "jewel in her husband's crown" and that it is her job to always remain attractive and submissive to a husband, Lauren struggles to find the words to share the resistance she is experiencing.
Trey shares how much he loves Lauren now and how much he loved the woman he first met.
Lauren tearfully shares how Trey builds a wall of safety around her, allowing her to accomplish her dreams.
Are you also struggling with your dreams for 2023? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult to see how Lauren can help you give name to your fears: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Are you decompressing from the holidays? Us too! On Episode 11, we break down the holiday traditions we are building and the holiday obligations we are no longer choosing to participate in. Trey shares how we stumbled into Christmas Tree trauma early on in our relationship and Lauren explains how she attempts to protect his nervous system without sacrificing what is important to her.
We hope this episode provides you with the opportunity to chat with your partners about the traditions that do and do not serve you! You'll see us do it in real time!! If you'd rather not do it alone, click here to book a couples session with you and your partner: https://sexedforyou.as.me/Coupleshour
How do the principles of consensual communication apply to what we allow ourselves and our families to do over the holidays? You'll have to listen to find out!
Lauren and Trey talk about levels of trust and how an act of service ALWAYS begins with the one who is accepting the gift of service. The request for help can sound like, "will you do ________ for me?" And the one who is being asked can then say, "Yes, I will." or "No, I will not." This modality from Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent modality has been a game changer for their partnership! You can follow Dr. Betty Martin on YouTube to learn more about the art of giving and receiving!
Lauren uses The Wheel of Consent with so many of her clients. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult and figure out how you could benefit from this type of work today: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Our 10th episode focuses on the Human Design system of self-knowledge and how we, as a Projector (Trey) and Generator (Lauren), utilize this modality to our advantage!
We are NEWBIES at this system, but we love when tools like this enable us to learn about ourselves and one another! We believe that by grasping a surface level understanding of My Human Design, you too will notice immediate opportunities for growth. If you want to get started, click here: https://www.mybodygraph.com/
On this episode, you'll hear us mention The Projector Movement Podcast, particularly a recent episode entitled: Projector and Generator Relationships. You can listen by clicking: HERE.
Digging into any archetypal system should feel fun and like experimenting! You'll hear Trey and Lauren speak about ways in which they agree and disagree with the thoughts shared on the podcast they listened to, and we hope you'll do the same. You and your partners deserve to live out your purposes and to see the beauty of what life holds for you.
Lauren uses Human Design with so many of her clients. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult and figure out how you could benefit from this type of work today: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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Reminder: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Episode 9 begins with a story of a sexual encounter gone terribly WRONG! What started as a sexy tryst quickly turned to terror! Trey and Lauren will have you cackling or groaning as you recall similar encounters of your own. WARNING: this episode uses anatomical terms and describes sexual positions.
Have you ever have a major stumble midway through a sexual escapade? Have you ever had difficulty initiating a lover's tryst? Then Episode 9 is for you! Without giving away the story, Trey shares just exactly what was going through his head when the disaster occurred and how Lauren was able to hold space for his fear then laugh with him to release the tension that had been built up in his body - BECAUSE of her.
Lauren expounds on WHY she did what she did and all the work it took to stay present in the midst of her major failure. Then, at minute marker 31:06, she outlines Dr. Petra Zebroff's Seven Styles of Sexual Initiation and how knowing what turns ourselves and our partners on can be such a cool party trick!
This episode is a prime example of our desire for this podcast to be a "how we" instead of "how to!" We are messy, flawed, and at times downright dysfunctional. We hope your bedroom disasters feel more normal after you've watched/listened!
Sexual Initiation can be hard and Lauren would love to walk you and your partners through this tough conversation. Click here to schedule an hour session with your partner just in time for the holidays! https://sexedforyou.as.me/Coupleshour
Not ready to commit to a whole hour? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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Reminder: Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
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On Episode 8 Lauren shares how she recently failed to communicate about a joint financial decision and Trey shares his newest thoughts on pornography. They walk through their juvenile insecurities and the surprisingly similar origins of their desire to conceal behaviors.
If money and sex are two of the most common reasons for divorce, you might want to give this raw episode a listen. Lauren and Trey come to unfiltered discoveries about the motivations behind each of their tendencies and how they can support one another as partners.
Watch as Lauren, a Professional Sexuality Educator, listens to a clip from the @mattandshanessecretpodcast9138 at minute 19:22. Her real-time reactions to Matt's thoughts on porn are un-edited and completely unscripted. Then watch as Trey connects his instance of "getting caught" back to Lauren's monetary concealment.
Pornography can be a sensitive subject and Lauren would love to walk you and your partners through the murky waters surrounding this tough conversation. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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Reminder: We like to think of The Partnership Podcast as a "how they" podcast as opposed to a "how to" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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On Episode 7 we share our raw and honest thoughts on the new Hulu documentary: God Forbid: The Sex Scandal That Brought Down a Dynasty. Not only do we live in the SAME TOWN as Jerry and Becki Falwell, Jerry Falwell, Sr, founder of Liberty University, married Lauren's parents. As we watched the almost 2-hour documentary, Lauren couldn't stop analyzing the content through her lived experiences and professional lenses, so Trey recommended they hop in their podcasting chairs a week early and get their thoughts on camera.
For decades, Lauren would have brushed off a scandalous film, such as GOD FORBID, as an attempt to speak ill of an institution committed to "training champions for Christ." But over the past 5 years, Lauren has changed her mind. As a survivor of spiritual abuse, purity culture indoctrination, and religious trauma, who now works as a Professional Sexuality Educator, she has done extensive research on the longterm impacts of the type of sexual oppression students at Liberty University experience. On this episode, Lauren breaks down the harmful effects of pedestal paradigms, Freud's theory of Reaction Formation, The Cornerstones of Eroticism, the harmful effects of sexual splitting, and more.
When sexuality fails to be integrated, we see what should be natural and joyous expressions of ourselves become harmful and destructive behaviors. In this revealing documentary, Giancarlo Granda, former pool attendant at the Fontainebleau Hotel, shares the intimate details of his 7-year relationship with an older woman, who we come to discover is former Liberty First Lady, Becki Falwell, and her husband, and Liberty University President, Jerry Falwell Jr. You can watch the documentary here: https://www.hulu.com/movie/god-forbid-the-sex-scandal-that-brought-down-a-dynasty-d0c5802f-05ec-4826-9390-f9ceca67f3e0
As always, this podcast is not a proclamation of judgment or critique of the human experience, but rather an opportunity to learn and grow. For a more comprehensive look at the damage done by this institution, we encourage you to check out Season 3 of the Gangster Capitalism Podcast. To support students harmed by the school, follow @liberty_students_against_abuse on instagram.
Are YOU healing from religious trauma? Lauren would love to help you unpack the origins of your pain and develop the tools necessary to not only heal but FLOURISH. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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On Episode 6 we discuss our ELOPEMENT! We chat about why we didn't call the day we we got married a "wedding," and why we never once used the words "VOWS."
We share all the details about our October 26, 2022 "ritual" that was healing for Lauren's wounds and honored Trey's nervous system. We talk about how we snuck up to NYC for wedding photos with Lauren's ex-husband that celebrated LOVE in all forms.
After a lucious honeymoon in the Dominican Republic, you can SEE the joy on our faces!
Are YOU getting married? Lauren would love to help you develop a ritual that matches YOUR personalities and celebrates your unique love. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Looking to expand your own sexuality education? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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On Episode 5 we discuss the process of qualifying and disqualifying what you're looking for in order to find a partner, lover, friend, or even a healthy work environment! We share how, even though we were on opposite sides of the country, we were independently developing our own systems for choosing. We touch on perhaps the least talked about part of this process - the refining who WE ARE in order to become the type of human another partner is looking for!
10/26/22 is the THIRD anniversary of our first date in San Diego, California. For the first time, we are sharing our cheeky first messages inside the MATCH app, our first phone call that felt so comfortable, and the magical moment we met where it felt like we'd known each other our whole lives. What was supposed to be a "one night stand" turned into a whole lot more.
What happens when an "eligible divorcee" from Virginia meets a Californian who's "looking for a female who's a driver." You'll have to watch or listen to find out.
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Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Lauren would love to help you develop your own process of qualifying and disqualifying that which you WANT. Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
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On Episode 4 we break down the beauty of choosing partnership. We share the ins and outs of our Partnership Agreement, highlighting WHY we choose and HOW we choose each other every day.
Lauren comes from a fundamentally religious home and was raised to believe she was the property of God, her father, and her future husband. After a traumatizing first marriage, Lauren promised herself that her body would never belong to anyone but herself ever again.
For reasons of his own, Trey was only interested in Consensual Non-Monogamous (CNM) relationships until he met Lauren on October 26th, 2019.
What happens when you combine a Purity Culture Survivor from Lynchburg, VA with a consensually non-monogamous Californian who's never heard of Jerry Falwell? You'll have to watch or listen to find out.
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Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Lauren would love to help you and your partner(s) craft custom relationship agreements. Do you have questions about how that works? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
Not ready to take the jump into individual sexuality education? Then check out Lauren's brand new monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself! https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock
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Friends, we've found our way back. The great Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. shares that healthy couples are not those, "who never hurt each other; they're the ones who find their way back." We couldn't agree more. (If you haven't, pick up a copy of her books, COME AS YOU ARE and BURNOUT - they will forever change your partnerships.)
While Trey was editing Part 1 of Episode 3 for you, his nervous system became even more activated from watching the conflict on repeat. Out of frustration, he sent a mean/critical text to Lauren. Instead of letting it linger, they both decided it was time to press into their discomfort and figure out how to find their way back to one another.
While we failed to bring microphones along to record our actual healing conversation, you can rest easy. We hopped in our podcasting chairs as soon as we could to record Part 2 for you! On this Episode, we take you through the step-by-step process of HOW this conflict was resolved for us. From golf course convos to wild sex - this resolution is one you don't want to miss.
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Have you ever wished you could be a fly on the wall of someone else's disagreement? Well, look no further.
This episode of The Partnership Podcast finds Lauren and Trey right smack in the middle of an incredibly uncomfortable conversation. They stumble into childhood trauma, their responses trigger one another, and eventually they realize there's no true resolution other than time and space. (Watch them find their way back to one another in Part 2)
WARNING: You will FEEL the tension in this episode. It's not pretty and nothing gets tied up in a pretty bow, AND we hope you see that you are NOT alone.
Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Lauren would love to help you and your partner have respectiful dissagreements. Do you have questions about how that works? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
We couldn't keep this gem to ourselves! In this Bonus Segment, Lauren describes a term used by a Sexuality Education Colleague to reference the time of the day one prefers to engage in intimacy...
This is Trey's reaction to whether or not he would resent having a request for sex denied during his "Tingle Time."
Do you ever feel your attraction level for your partner dropping? Do you ever feel like their attraction for YOU is dropping? You are not alone!
On this episode Lauren and Trey unpack a recent partnership failure and how it made their sexual and romatic attraction levels for one another drop! They discuss how taking responsibility for communicating to our partners and holding space for our partner's words is hard, but oh-so-worth-it!
Both share two things that INCREASE and DECREASE their attraction levels for one another. HINT: you might be surprised at their answers...
Reminder: The opinions expressed on this podcast are just that - opinions. We invite you to take what you like and leave the rest. This is not meant to be a “how-to” podcast but rather a “how they” podcast. Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.
Lauren would love to help you and your partner build a container of safety. Have questions about how that works? Click here to book a Free 15-Minute Consult: https://sexedforyou.as.me/freeconsult
On this introductory episode of The Partnership Podcast Lauren and Trey talk about their "why" for this content. They discuss who they hope their vulnerable conversations help, what led them to want to share their sucesses and failures, and how choosing partnership has been their most powerful decision to date.