Divorce ReDefined: Changing the Experience of Divorce: Recent Episodes
Cindy Stibbard
We are having raw and candid conversations that you need to be having. Conversations that will improve your life:
When you hear the word “codependent,” you might think of the traditional enabler framework involving a hapless victim and their selfless rescuer.Psychotherapist and boundary expert Terri Cole certainly did. However after years in her therapy practice, she realized that many of her clients were presenting codependent behaviours that fell outside of the classic model. Terri calls this new paradigm “high-functioning codependency” (HFC).The ironic truth with high-functioning codependency is that the more capable you are, the more your behaviour doesn’t seem codependent. “As HFCs, our desire to feel at peace often drives us to chronic over-functioning and overinvestment with the loved ones in our lives,” says Terri. “Even with those we don’t love… or sometimes with folks we barely know.” Here, Terri breaks down the characteristics of high-functioning co-dependency?including how to identify one’s “HFC blueprint”?so you can get more clarity around what’s going on under the surface of your behaviour and take steps toward better boundaries, self-care, and integrity.You’ll walk away with a clear understanding of how you relate to others and the world… with a newfound inner peace. With the teachings and tools in Too Much, now you can break the cycle of overdoing and over-giving and start living a more authentic and joyful life.PRE-ORDER THE BOOK HERE: https://hfcbook.comJOIN TERRI'S FREE RELATIONSHIP SUMMIT:https://epicrelationshipssummit.comBOOK A FREE MINI-COACHING CALL WITH ME:https://cindystibbard.as.me/freeminicoachingcall
Dr. Nicole's philosophy is consistent with a nationally general movement called 'Sex Positivity'. We’re so used to hearing about the risks and dangers associated with sex yet there are so many diverse and wonderful things to celebrate! Sex positivity encourages safety but also highlights sexual pleasure. It embraces LGBTQI+ identities and issues. It rejects shame and stigma and it acknowledges that our sexuality feeds into the very essence of our self-identity and happiness. Beyond this, however, I have found that to be truly sex-positive, sex education must be empowering. It has to be collaborative, NOT authoritative to promote trust and a free exchange of ideas.WEBSITE: https://nicolethesexprofessor.com/about-nicole/INSTAGRAM: @nicole_thesexprofessorLooking to join my online circle, 'Should I Stay or Should I Go? Ongoing enrolment. Join anytime. Cancel anytime.JOIN HERE: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/should-I-stay-or-should-I-go-registration
Doctor Tari is a clinical psychologist and relationship expert. Her passion is helping people elevate themselves internally so they can access elevated relationships and partners. She is passionate about this work because of her own rocky journey to love and self-love. For years she did her best in relationships but always ended up exhausted, heartbroken, and confused. It wasn’t until she discovered the secrets to personal alignment and healing that everything changed. She found that before we have self-awareness and the tools to shift our beliefs, self-view and old templates and roles, we continue to be attracted to people who can’t love us and spend our time trying to get or keep love that is unattainable. Dr. Tari knows that complete and total transformation is possible because of her own personal transformation as well as witnessing thousands of these transformations in her clients in her role as a psychologist. She is committed to helping others with their own transformation so they can access and keep healthy, joyful loving relationships.www.drtarimack.comInstagram: @drtarimack
Max Trombly is not your typical love guru or traditional therapist who reaffirms comforting stories of victimhood that keep you stuck. He is a radical life changer, an awakener for deep-rooted healing. He believes in the transformative power of being fearlessly authentic and direct about what he sees happening. He knows you crave that liberated life, that deep loving connection that's authentic and free from past baggage. You deserve relationships that nourish your very being and support your personal growth. You deserve a life you are excited to wake up to every single day. His mission is to liberate men and women toward living lives of exceptional love and depth within a relationship, as well as living a life from a place of authentic expression and deep fulfilling purpose.Instagram: @maxtromblyMore About Max: https://www.ashiftinbeing.com
Hailey Magee is a certified coach who helps people around the world break the people-pleasing pattern and master the art of self-advocacy. Her debut book, Stop People Pleasing and Find Your Power, will be released by Simon & Schuster in May 2024. Hailey’s refreshingly nuanced perspectives on boundary-setting and self-advocacy have captured the attention of millions on social media. Certified by Erickson International, she has worked one-on-one with hundreds of clients, and her public talks and workshops have welcomed tens of thousands of participants worldwide. She has written for Newsweek and The Gottman Institute, and has facilitated corporate workshops in partnership with WeWork, Women In Music, and a variety of other companies and organizations. Hailey is dedicated to offering clear, research-supported strategies for change, helping recovering people-pleasers rediscover not only their power and agency, but their pleasure, joy, and sense of wonder. GET HER NEW BOOK HERE: https://www.haileymagee.com/book
Katre is a mentor and coach empowering women through mindset and fitness.She is a survivor of narcissistic abuse and is rebuilding herself and her life as a solo parent. She started @untamedhero page on Instagram a couple of years ago which has organically grown into a large and safe community.Paying it forward has been a mission of hers since she knows how isolating and lonely this journey can feel. She is the host of a new podcast @untamedheroespodcast where she has raw and real conversations with other survivors and experts to offer support to the community, especially knowing how to move on and how to be able to live a life of peace and joy. VISIT: www.cindystibbard.comNew Clients receive $100 Off a Single Strength Session using code: NEWCLIENT
Are you a woman over 35 and struggling to lose weight, balance your hormones and feel like a human? Emily Sadri is a Nurse Practitioner & Hormone Expert who helps women feel better in their bodies so they can thrive through peri-menopause and beyond!Visit: www.emilysadri.com
Just in time for Valentine's Day let's get onto one of my favourite topics - SEX! I am joined by Clinical Sexologist and Relationship Coach, author of Erotic Integrity and TEDx Speaker Claudia Six. We discuss the importance of sex in a relationship, the difference between sex and the true meaning of intimacy, and how we can initiate more sex and sex as a 'being and not as a doing. You can reach Claudia or find out more about her book at: www.drsix.netIs your relationship on the edge or needing some refreshing? Book a free discovery call with me and let's talk about how you know if you should stay or you should go.Book a Free Call with Cindy here: https://divorceredefined.as.me/discovery-call
In this episode we are going to look at the power of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing) as an empowering and effective way to help clients recover from trauma and PTSD. We can't out-think trauma and EMDR has been proven in treating anxiety, depression, OCD, chronic pain, addictions and other distressing life experiences. Want to learn more about how to work with me? Book a Free Strength Call Here: https://divorceredefined.as.me/discovery-call
The affair that results from being married to a covert narcissist is most often the affair of self-liberation and an act of self-restoration since the spouse has to be a shadow of their truer or fuller self in their marriage. Marriage to any kind of narcissist has an abusive effect, How can you spot a covert narcissist even if it's almost impossible to identify on the outside?Is your partner someone you can grow with?https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0dBook a Free Discovery Call with Cindy? https://divorceredefined.as.me/schedule/934a37cf/appointment/36048123/calendar/7123164?appointmentTypeIds%5B%5D=36048123
Co-parenting isn't impossible. Jay and I sit down and talk about how parents can let go of fear, set healthy boundaries, communicate more effectively and create thriving lives, no matter what their EX do!For Co-Parenting Courses, follow Jay on Instagram @jayskibbensFREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d
In this episode, I have the privilege of sitting with world-renowned love and relationship expert Jillian Turecki. Jillian is on a mission to teach people how to transform their love life completely, and where you start is by addressing the relationship you have with yourself. Whether you’re looking to strengthen your relationship, heal your heartbreak and choose better partners, develop a stronger sense of self, or move away from dysfunctional patterns into highly functioning ones, this episode is for you.FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d
I am deeply honoured to have the privilege to get vulnerable and humanly emotional with @ronniestevenson, former star of Real Housewives of Vancouver @realhousewivesofvancouver this week as she shares openly and candidly about her very personal, devastating and heart wrenching story of the sudden loss of her son, @thehoustonstevensonlegacy to suicide 15 months ago. In this episode, Ronnie and I get emotional with each other as we open up, share and connect over our profound losses and how both of our worlds have been irrevocably shattered and rocked to the core. Ronnie’s beautiful courage to find the strength to keep going in the face of this inconceivable tragedy for herself, her surviving children, her husband, her siblings and Houston’s legacy is nothing short of a story of strength, grit, resilience and the realness of raw grief. Have your Kleenex handy for this one.
In this episode, we talk about how to get over your past and move on to live a more fulfilled and meaningful life without the past continuing to loom over you. Jason is launching his new book; Get Past Your Past: How Facing Your Broken Places Leads to True Connection. In this book, Jason invites you to own your past, hold onto hope, and live a connected life.FREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d
Like most men, you've felt alone for a long time – even when surrounded by people. No matter how much money you make, how healthy your body is, whether you're single or have the family of your dreams, your mental stress and (secret) inner struggles persist. You endlessly search for what you never seem to find: FREEDOM. Freedom from what? Stress. Stagnation. Self-doubt. Self-sabotage. Feeling isolated and alone. A consistently nourishing, thriving intimacy may elude you. You may feel disconnected from your deepest purpose. Even when you get your way, it never fully satisfies.According to Bryan and his extensive work in this field, men tend to be ruled over by five primary distractions: work, ass, addiction (alcohol/drugs/porn, etc.), sports, and war/politics. Thus, our joy and vitality are inevitably drained by the daily whims of external forces we have little control. We fail to be present for what really matters and don't know how to use our power in ways we otherwise would have real agency. So even when we outwardly succeed, we feel internally dissatisfied and endlessly disoriented.For more guided support for men (women & couples, too) please visit: bryanreeves.comFor further support, and guidance and to access my coaching programs, please follow me on Instagram @divorceredefined or pop me an email to cindystibbardcoaching@gmail.comFREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d
At the heart of an affair, you will often find yourself longing and yearning for an emotional connection, for novelty, for freedom, for autonomy, for sexual intensity, a wish to recapture lost parts of yourself or an attempt to bring back vitality - Esther Perel.You have found yourself in an extramarital affair for reasons unique to you. Some reasons you are aware of and others you may be unclear about. In this episode, we dive into these reasons. I sit down with Lauren LaRusso, a trauma-informed psychotherapist who has helped countless individuals and couples process extramarital affairs impacting their lives. Infidelity has affected her life, my life, and countless others we love and care about. It became a clear path for her to make it her mission to help others through, heal, and grow from an affair.For more support and individual coaching programs and expert guidance for your own unique situation, visit me on Instagram @divorceredefined or send me an email at cindystibbardcoaching@gmail.comFREEBIE: Is This Still My Forever Person? https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0d
In successful relationships, three essential ingredients must be carefully considered and nurtured. Think of these as the pillars upon which a thriving partnership stands. Are you wondering if your partner is someone you can grow with? Get a copy of my FREE 18-questions to assess if your partner is someone you can grow with: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/opt-in-6a63c29e-c38f-4b9b-a944-20c9f5a02a0dAre you looking for a Support Group? I Think I Want a Support Group, but Ho Do I Know? runs every Thursday until December 21. Click the link here to join: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/ithinkiwantadivorcesupportgroup
While there is no hierarchy of loss, the death of a partner is among the most profound losses. The death of the adult you love the most is an especially cruel experience. I know this now: I have been widowed at 47. Mike’s death was sudden and unforeseen, and the psychological impact is taking a while for me to understand – and I imagine I haven’t even scratched the surface–It was something I could never have fathomed being prepared for. While grief is not a mental health issue in the same way as depression or anxiety, it is a profound psychological wound; one of the most bleakly transformative events a human being can experience and one we need to understand better. Grief education should be part of our national curriculum, but it isn’t.The loss of your partner is one you cannot hide from psychologically or practically. Humans are programmed to be in couples. They are all around you – and you are single. Your status suddenly changes from two to one – in the most mundane ways, which are hard to articulate. I feel existentially alone despite being loving family and friends.For those of us fortunate enough to afford therapy, it becomes possible to share this feeling. But even with my multiple therapists and therapist friends and mentors, I have a lot of fear around boring friends, my family, my listeners, and my followers as the grief forges ahead, dragging everyone along in its wake as I share my experience openly about losing the love of my life. To join my community: https://divorceredefined.cindystibbard.com/forms/2148151111To follow my content on Instagram and TikTok: @divorceredefinedTo book a FREE Discovery Call: https://divorceredefined.as.me/discovery-call
Ongoing relationship distress is harmful to each romantic partner’s mental and physical wellbeing, and in addition, can negatively impact the kids. We all know this.
Difficult conflict can lead to things being said that hurt us at our core. The growing emotional distance can leave us feeling like we are stranded on a boat in the middle of an ocean—desperate for connection, safety, and security. The lack of commitment and trust perpetuates toxic interactions that push us farther away from each other rather than building a bridge back to one another. Fortunately, empirically-based couples therapy has demonstrated that couples therapy can create a positive change for 70% of couples. And these changes actually last. But when is it too late for a couple to save their marriage?
Sarah's new book: LIVE, LAUGH, TRUE LOVE: A Step-By-Step Guide to Dating and Finding a Meaningful Relationship from a Divorce Attorney, is written from the perspective of a divorce attorney, essentially working backwards. Delineating all of the things she routinely watches go wrong in relationships. Sarah shows the reader the pitfalls to avoid and termed the 6 main reasons relationships fall apart the Fail Factors or F-Words. They are: 1) Fundamental Values, 2) Fear, 3) Foundation, 4) Fairy Tale, 5) Family and 6) Fixing.
Raised by a mother who has practiced Family Law for almost thirty years, and still practices, Sarah feels as though she has been exposed to the issues Family Law practitioners encounter on a daily basis, her entire life.
Sarah has also been a yoga instructor since 2000, and a spin instructor since 2004. She continues to teach. Sarah incorporates her experience as an instructor into her lawyering style. Teaching has enabled Sarah to maintain calm even under the most rigorous of pressures. It has provided her with the invaluable opportunity to command the respect and attention of any group of individuals she addresses, and it is her nurturing nature that gravitated her, both, to teaching and to the practice of, specifically, Family Law.
Amberly’s life story of astounding resilience has inspired a revolutionary lesson she offers to the world. She brings unique strategies developed to teach others how to tap into their superpower of resilience and persevere through any challenge. She is a powerhouse of energy on stage with a story that will engage and captivate any audience. Her keynote speeches, best-selling book, workshops, and podcasts offer hope and solutions for living life at its fullest to those in chronic pain (like her) and those who find themselves struggling against any obstacle.
Tracy Coenen CPA, CFF, MAFF, has been investigating fraud and finding money for over 25 years, but she didn’t always want to be a forensic accountant. Even if you've never looked at your family's financials before, Tracy's Divorce Money Guide empowers you to get the settlement you deserve. Discover all the assets you're entitled to and have more control over your divorce. With Tracy's expertise, you will uncover every dollar, expense, and hidden transaction with The Divorce Money Guide. You only get one shot at the settlement you need.
Co-founding a finch company that would revolutionize the divorce sector was not what Catherine Shanahan and Karen Chellew, set out in life intending to do, but their experience, skillls and life events turned out to leave them perfectly placed to set up this business together.Catherine was a financial planner, who went through a painful divorce, and vowed to help women understand their marital estate, so they did not get taken advantage of at such a vulnerable time in their lives. As part of this bigger purpose, she took on further training to become a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. She quickly realized that the problems with the divorce industry were much bigger than just financial awareness. She started to understand that there were systemic issues throughout the entire divorce processCatherine had the expertise to tackle the financial element of the problem. Still, she needed someone with experience with the legal process of divorce who would share her perspective and join her mission. Fortunately, around this time, a colleague introduced her to Karen, knowing that Karen also had a passion for helping empower women through her nonprofit. Catherine also learned that Karen had extensive professional experience as a paralegal and law firm business manager – and, like Catherine, she’d been through a divorce herself, and her experiences had convinced her that the system needed reform. With aligned incentives and joint commitment, Divorce U Solutions and My Divorce Solution was born in January 2016. Catherine and Karen believe divorce doesn’t need to be a contentious, expensive legal battle so created My Divorce Solution so families don’t have to experience divorce alone, afraid, and uninformed. They help divorcing couples have a clear picture of their full marital estate. This means they can understand the long-term consequences of the choices they make when dividing money to reach the best outcome for themselves and their family.FREE DIVORCE CHECKLIST. Grab your copy by joining my Free Facebook Community and you will find it and many other valuable resources under the FILES section. Click below to join and access your free resources!https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceredefinedexclusive/
Maverick Willett AKA The Emotional Support Viking is Owner of Maverick Online Coaching, the premier online women's body transformation program taking the internet (and your waistline) by storm. Maverick is a former army ranger turned empowerer of women, as his comedic instagram reels have gained massive popularity amongst single moms and divorcees looking to get their revenge bodies and make their ex's jaws drop, all without sacrificing carbs or wine night.@maverickonlinecoaching
Julie Harper is a writer, producer, musician, and Founder of the online sisterhood I AM HER. She is based in Nashville, TN. A divorced single mother of triplets known for her unfiltered authentic voice and fierce fighting spirit. Julie said, “even at rockbottom and the decade it’s taken me to crawl my way out, I’ve always had huge dreams for myself, for my children and for women. And every single dream for us points to freedom. Freedom is my North Star. Freedom to choose. Freedom to create, build and lead in our own way. Freedom to leave without fear. Financial freedom. Freedom to live on our own terms in every last damn part of our lives and extend that vision and support to every woman we encounter. And I rarely know how I’m gonna pull it off, but I am unwavering in my ‘why.’ And my why has always been freedom for us. Freedom is my North Star.”
Stacey Freeman is a New York City-based writer and journalist and the founder of Write On Track LLC, a full-service consultancy dedicated to providing high-quality content and strategy to individuals and businesses. She has written extensively on lifestyle topics, including career reinvention, health and wellness, personal finance, divorce, and parenting. Her work has been published or syndicated in The Washington Post, The Lily (published by The Washington Post), Forbes, Entrepreneur, MarketWatch, Good Housekeeping, Cosmopolitan, Woman’s Day, Town & Country, InStyle, PBS' Next Avenue, AARP, SheKnows, Yahoo!, MSN, HuffPost, POPSUGAR, Your Teen, Grown & Flown, Scary Mommy, CafeMom, MariaShriver dot com, and dozens of other well-known platforms worldwide. A single mom of three amazing kids, she authored the memoir I Bought My Husband's Mistress Lingerie to share her experience navigating bicontinental co-parenting, mid-life dating, and career reinvention.
You may know Nick Thompson from season two of Netflix’s hit reality show “Love is Blind,” but there’s a side of him you may not know: The Storyteller. Nick believes everyone has a story to tell and should shine in the world as their authentic self.Nick’s most passionate about building human connections, mental health and wellness, problem-solving, self-improvement, and giving back to the community. As a tech marketing executive, Nick builds personal connections with customers, teammates, and coworkers to empower people to take action, learn, and grow. His podcast, “Conversations with Nick Thompson,” elevates societal issues such as free speech, free press, mental health, healthy lifestyles, and helping the less fortunate live better lives.Born and raised in Chicago, Nick was the oldest of three siblings with two sisters. Nick's favourite hobbies growing up were writing, filmmaking, journalism, and finding unique ways to connect with others through storytelling. Nick has a degree in business and currently working towards a master's degree.He personally through his podcast “Conversations with Nick Thompson.” The podcast elevates societal issues such as free speech, free press, mental health, healthy lifestyles, and helping the less fortunate live better lives.Nick is unapologetically himself and enjoys helping others achieve that level of self-confidence. As a connection coach, Nick helps you build a personal relationship with yourself through self-discovery, self-care, and compassion so you can show up authentically in every situation.
WHAT EMOTIONS ARE YOU ADDICTED TO?Katie is a mindset coach and mentor who specializes in helping powerhouse women experience their relationships as they truly desire. In overcoming her own difficulties in her relationships and marriage, she found that the process of healing herself exposed that vulnerability was the true superpower she had been rejecting within herself all along. Katie’s background in Human and family development almost led her on a path to becoming a marriage and family therapist, when she discovered the world of coaching and ended up finding her true life’s calling. Katie has helped countless high-achieving women transform the relationships in their lives by taking them through her proprietary coaching method’s three pillars of communication, boundaries, and connection.
This week for the FIRST TIME EVER, you get to meet my partner in this next chapter in life, Mike Mayo. He and I sit down together and share with you how we have taken our shame story of divorce and redefined ourselves, our lives, our careers, our parenting, our goals and what a loving, authentic relationship looks like for us. We are going to talk about how we got here, the struggles we fought through, the emotions we experienced, our truth about our choices and the work we have done and continue to do, to redefine our shared purpose and how we are committed to making meaning in this beautiful new chapter together.
What is WTF divorce?Divorce is confusing.It's deeply isolating.It's...a mindf*ck.Rob Roseman is a divorced dad to 3 kids (ages 10, 8, 5), curated WTFdivorce.com. WTF divorce to help other people (who aren't scrolling Instagram, TikTok and Clubhouse for help like I was) have a chance to learn about how to live after divorce. ?But the biggest thing I learned is that you're not the only one going through it. Hopefully, WTFdivorce.com helps you find your way.Sheds light on issues you're struggling with. Gives you a boost of confidence.Or even, makes you laugh. Because, while painful at times, divorce is the ultimate opportunity to restart your life, on your terms, Rob appreciates everyone for stopping by his site and looks forward to walking this path with you.A few interesting things about Rob:?• He is a former Las Vegas Poker Pro• Notorious Who Wants to Be a Millionaire contestant• Co-founder of KickstartReading.com• He has interviewed over 110 dads (like Jesse Itzler & Pat Flynn) on the Dad the Best I Can podcast• Author of a 5-star rated book on Amazon
As the founder of THE EXIT, Phil Yagoda has seen multiple divorces within his family and many within his community of friends, so he wanted to start a site to give others as much help, guidance, and support as possible to help along their journey. Although it’s not always easy, and at times it may look as bleak as can be, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and at the EXIT, Phil's hope to help you see that and reach your Exit safely.It is said that sometimes a good divorce or separation is better than a bad marriage or relationship. Even if the last effort lands in a “de-coupling,” Phil and his team at THE EXIT hope that what you see, read, and learn on their site helps you along the way. The aim for their site to be unbiased, engaging and as easy to understand as possible.Remember, things get better. Sometimes it takes time to heal mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually - you are not alone! You have THE EXIT, which is designed to be your guide. After all, everyone needs a great Exit!
Dr. Erica Harris, a retired sports chiropractor and kinesiologist, serves as a TedX Keynote Inspirational Speaker, a Social Media Influencer, a Success Coach, and the Host of the Rise Today Inspirational Podcast. As the inspirational survivor of a 2-month terminal cancer prognosis, a bone marrow transplant, a double lung transplant, and even divorce at the end of it all, Erica passionately pays her success forward to inspire, motivate and support her audience to rise, to survive, and to thrive alive in the face of adversity!
FINDING YOUR BLISS POST-DIVORCE: Cindy Ryan is an intuitive guide and Reiki Master based in North Vancouver, BC. She spent 35 years of her life living the white picket dream. She had a degree, two beautiful boys, a solid career and marriage until suddenly everything she thought she wanted was not making her happy. Her life took a massive left turn after some major metaphorical bricks fell inspiring her to realize Cindy was finally coming home to herself.Cindy is deeply grateful and humbled to be able to help humans to find their uplifting, honest inner voice: Working together, we connect back to the inner tools and techniques to achieve an open, balanced life.FREE OFFERING: https://www.blissfulintuitive.com/self-love?utm_campaign=3411c23c-7315-4c5b-95f3-07f989f3f2b1&utm_source=so&utm_medium=mail&cid=7bde4263-d4b8-4f54-b5d8-ed72ced097bf
Annie Mayfield is a 24 year old 4x published author, 2x Amazon bestseller, leader of a sales organization with over 4,000 consumers, and host of the Apple podcast “Made to Shine,” that is streamed by individuals in over 40 countries. In 2022 she was selected by the New York Journal as one of the “Top Female Leaders to Look for in 2022,” and was just elected “Top 30 Inspiring Women to Look Out for in 2023” by the Entrepreneur Herald. She resides in Atlanta, GA. Jesus Christ and her family are the absolute lights of her life.
Kimberlee Davis has more than 25 years of finance, legal, and corporate experience and is a Managing Director/Partner at The Bahnsen Group, a bi-coastal wealth management firm, where she specializes in personal wealth advising, and financial, retirement and estate planning solutions, for high net worth individuals and multi-generational families. She is also a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst focusing on helping women transition to financial independence after life-altering events such as death or divorce. Kimberlee is the host of The Fiscal Feminist, a podcast and platform about women and their relationship with money and finance. Her mission is to help all women of all ages and wealth levels embrace their responsibility to themselves to achieve solid financial footing in both calm and turbulent times. Kimberlee’s new book The Fiscal Feminist: A Financial Wake-up Call For Women was released on May 31, 2022 in which she provides guidance with thoughtful strategies pertaining to personal finance, advocating for yourself, negotiating a raise, retirement planning, buying property, making investments, managing relationships with others, preparing for marriage and the creation of prenuptial agreements, navigating divorce, and estate planning. Her passion is to inform and educate women about their fiscal responsibilities and she attributes this to her own life lessons. For more information, visit https://fiscalfeminist.com/. Instagram - @thefiscalfeminist
Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, is a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Specialist, bestselling author, educator for divorce coaches. and top 1% podcaster known for her ability to inspire and empower moms through their divorce and co-parenting journeys. Michelle’s passion for “putting the child first” in the divorce process while helping everyone she reaches feel supported and empowered, makes her a sought after coach by clients as well as divorce industry professionals from around the globe. Michelle’s unique perspective on divorce and co-parenting has helped thousands of women find the permission to move on confidently after divorce as they move towards a more intentional and holistic co-parenting experience - one that their kids can be proud of one day. Michelle solidified her place as a thought leader in the divorce space with the recent publication of her bestselling book, Moms Moving On: Real Life Advice on Conquering Divorce, Co-Parenting Through Conflict, and Becoming Your Best Self from Simon and Schuster.
Want to level up your relationship and be that unshakable powerhouse couple?
Laila Presotto is a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, having been trained by Dr. John Gottman, who is a leading research scientist on marriage and family with over 25 years of landmark research and is the author of several books including “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage work” and “And Baby Makes Three”.
Laila uses this method when working with couples to help turn their relationship problems around and create a stronger and more resilient union. The goal of this method is to help couples break through barriers in order to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationship. It can help couples learn how to work through potentially destructive problems, how to detect the most common stumbling blocks within a relationship and more importantly, how to avoid them altogether. These intervention and assessment strategies are based upon data taken from Dr. Gottman’s study of more than 3000 couples.
Laila is also certified in Dr. Sue Johnson’s externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, where couples learn to recognize how to de-escalate problematic cycles and restore their emotional bonds. Dr. Sue Johnson is the author of “Hold me Tight” and “Love Sense”.
Twice divorced herself, Simone is a mama, food coach and mentor. She has been a health coach for over 20 years. Simone helps keep mamas informed and healthy and transform from the inside out and become the best version of themselves by giving them the tools and roadmap to achieve optimum health and fat loss. She teaches her clients how to eat the right food at the right time for the right reasons and empowers them to make daily changes toward leading a healthier lifestyle.
Simone says her mission is to not only empower you to fuel your body, but also fuel your mind and your soul. She helps women burn fat, increase energy and confidence so they can fall back in love with themselves and their life.
Simone is a certified nutritionist through NASM and Precision Nutrition. She is also BCRPA SFL certified as a fitness leader.
Dr. Michelle Scoggins is a licensed clinical psychologist, business mentor, author and speaker not to mention one of my most inspiring friends in business! She has over 12 years of experience as a therapist and 5 years as a business owner. After two divorces herself, Michelle redefined her purpose and created a multi-six figure business from scratch which has fuelled her passion to help fellow female entrepreneurs through the struggles in business.
Dr. Scoggins works specifically with women using proven clinical strategies to regulate their nervous system to manage stress which offers the missing stability that is vital during major life transitions like divorce as well as business expansion. This approach has been a game-changer in her own business and she recognized the gap in the business industry with regard to understanding how nervous system regulation is key to continuous and exponential growth.
Everyone thinks the first thing they need to do when they are seeking divorce is to retain an attorney. But how do you know how best to choose an attorney? What should you look for? What should you ask them? How do you use their time effectively? How do you keep your legal fees down?
Bill is the founder and CEO of Farias Family Law, a divorce & custody firm in Massachusetts. He started his legal career prosecuting, then practicing criminal defense, and later committing exclusively to divorce and custody work.
In 2020, Bill transitioned from lawyering to focusing on building his firm. He loves working on marketing, sales, management, and optimizing client service.
One of our most essential needs as human beings is to love and be loved. Since we are wired for relationships from the moment we enter the world, one would think it would be easy to pick partners that suit us well. But the truth is, many people repeatedly pick the wrong partner and end up feeling unhappy (and perhaps utterly pained) in their relationship. For some, it’s easy to walk away from a relationship when it’s not right but for others, not so easy. Many people stay in relationships and are even aware of their unhappiness as they know deep down that their partner is not the right one.
There are many reasons that motivate how we choose our partners and why we stay in dead end relationships—some of these reasons are conscious while others are unconscious. In order for us to understand what motivates our choices we have to be willing to work on ourselves and build awareness around our patterns. Today’s guest is going to help shed light on some of the factors that may lead us into unhappy partnerships, and what keeps us in them. She is known on Instagram as @theconscioushealingmams. Dayna Ciarfalia is a Conscious Parenting Mentor & Content Creator on a mission to inspire mamas to heal their childhood wounds so they can create the joyful, connected relationships they desire with both partners and with their kids. Dayna has two kids ages 4 and 2, who were (and still remain) the catalysts & inspiration for her healing & growth journey.
You learned how to love as a result of the relationship between you and your primary caregivers, most likely your parents. Children attach in different ways to their caregivers, which creates your attachment style. In your family, you also learned how to communicate if you are a high expressive person you are more vocal and verbal if you are a low expressive person you keep things to yourself. The combination of your attachment style and your communication style is called your LOVE STYLE. This is the way you connect with romantic partners. Your love style will dictate what you need from a partner and how you express your needs.
The most significant predictor of how teens will do after a divorce depends on how well their parents get along.
Researchers have found that conflict between divorced parents increases the risk of mental health problems in kids. Specifically, parental contention can lead to a child’s fear of abandonment, which can lead to future mental health problems.
Even when a divorce is amicable, it’s natural for teens to grieve the loss of their family life. Expect to see your teen experience a wide variety of emotions, ranging from anger to sadness. Let them know that it's healthy to share those feelings, but make it clear that it's important to express them in a healthy manner.
But for parents the big question is - HOW do I connect with my teenager?
From weeknight dinners and homework sessions to Christmas card photos and vacations, Nikki and Ben have created a tight-knit, enviable family.They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there.Though their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.
Nikki and Ben had hoped their wedding would start their happily ever after—but seven years, one child, and countless financial and familial entanglements later, their I do-s had turned into We can’t-s. Armed with their fierce love for their son and a desire to give him the best, they realized they needed to find an alternative to the seemingly inevitable toxic divorce that loomed over their lives.
Refusing to participate in the standard litigious legal divorce process, they devised a new strategy and worked to confront their hurt feelings and fragile egos head-on. Committed to putting Asher’s needs first in every decision, they helped each other heal and build a future. Their happily blended family today is a testament to their commitment to a few core principles and their incredible son—during the divorce and beyond.
Throughout the book, Nikki and Ben elaborate on the difficulties of their divorce experience, their individual pains and triumphs, as well as their unique approach to relationships and blended families. Their story is sure to inspire others to pursue something few believe possible...a happy divorce.
Dating After Divorce can be quite the feat!
Daniel Herrold is a Divorced Dad of 3 daughters living in Tulsa, Oklahoma. He is one of the Co-Founders of Divorced Over Forty (“DO40”), a national group that provides support & community to divorced men & women across the United States who are ages 40+.
The DO40 community has enabled Daniel to pursue his passion for writing, where he writes on several topics including his own personal divorce journey, dating over 40, and being a dad to three daughters.
This led him to create the Intentional Dating Club, an online dating community created that provides techniques & tips on how to create a safer and more positive dating experience. The club has grown to nearly 150 members since its launch in January.
Daniel is also the hosts of 2 podcasts, is on the Board of Directors for an advocacy group to fight romance scamming and is currently advising several new & emerging dating apps.
You can find Daniel most prominently on Instagram at @daniel.herrold or on TikTok at @danielherrold.
Becoming a stepparent is a gift but is not always easy. It is important to view the challenges of being a stepparent honestly so that you can prepare yourself for the emotional work that it will take to make a happy blended family.
With each challenge of being a stepparent, there is a way to overcome it - but you have to do the work. Some challenges take longer than others to move past, but eventually, you will look back on the early years of stepparent life and see growth.
Jamie Scrimgeour is a mom of one and a stepmom of three with kids ranging in age from 7-19. Jamie creates digital content about all things parenting, step-parenting, entrepreneurship and living a KICK-ASS Life. Jamie’s material is raw, real and relatable while always leaving her followers inspired.
As a Life Coach with a specialization in Stepfamily Dynamics, Jamie is also the creator of the highly acclaimed digital membership platform for Stepmoms, The Exclusive Stepmom Community and the host of a top charting podcast, The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast.
With candidness and humor, Jamie uses her personal and professional experience to support woman in living their best life.
Jennifer is known for her no-nonsense approach to all things relationships and is proud to say she's made quite the career out of pretty disastrous circumstances...her own divorce.
She’s a Relationship Expert, Dating Coach, best- selling author, and host of the award-winning Doing Relationships Right Podcast. Divorced since 2014, Jennifer lives in Charlotte with her two awesome, college-bound sons.
Through her books and weekly podcast, Jennifer helps people understand what a happy relationship can look like and how to dip their toes back into the dating world post-divorce. Jen has been featured on OprahMagazine.com where her book, Woulda.Coulda.Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married was chosen as one of the BEST books to read with your partner for a healthy relationship!
Find Jennifer speaking all over the country and look for her name in publications like, Forbes, Scary Mommy & BluntMoms AND on THIS podcast, with ME!
Need Help In Your Custody Case?
Anthony's online training program, How To Master Your Custody Case To Get What You Want Without Going Crazy Or Broke, is sure to help the parent or grandparent going through even the most complicated custody battle.
In his training, Anthony uncovers the following three secrets:
Secret 1: How To Use The Rules Of Evidence To Prepare For Your Case With Or Without A Lawyer! Secret 2: How To Present Evidence In Court Even If You've Never Done It Before! *Secret 3: How To Communicate In And Out Of The Courtroom Even In High Conflict Cases!
Tessa Spence was 13-years-old when her parents announced their divorce. Although initially very difficult for her and taking years to speak to her father again, she now looks back and sees the many opportunities her parent's divorce gave her to intentionally build a life that she loves. Because of her personal experience and the understanding that so many teens out there are struggling to navigate their own difficult family transition, Tessa is on a mission to change the experience by helping ALL teens thrive through their parent's divorce!
Tessa has led and built a team of professional therapists and certified educators to develop the Teens Thriving Through Program. It helps teens avoid becoming a statistic and leverage the adversity of their parent's divorce by using it as a catalyst to greater growth, potential, and happiness.
Of all the major financial decisions you’ll need to make in a divorce, few will involve larger amounts of money than the decision of what to do with the house. Few will also have a greater impact on the next chapter of your life.
Some couples simply choose to sell, split the proceeds evenly and go their separate ways. Others choose to defer the sale of the home until a later date, especially if kids are involved.
But for many divorcing couples, one spouse is inclined to keep the family home and own it outright on their own. The reason, again, could be that children are living at home and there is the goal of minimizing disruption by letting them reside there. Alternatively, if you don’t have kids, perhaps you love your house so much you don’t want to let it go. Or maybe the choice is being made out of pride and ego. Whatever the reason, it’s well within your right to pursue sole ownership (after all, the house is partially yours).
So you’ve decided you want it, but how do you get it?
The foundation for getting unstuck is first figuring out WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT? This can be a really hard question to answer. Most of us have years of someone else’s beliefs or expectations programmed into us, so it’s hard to peel those away and find out what you truly want. OR, maybe you know what that is but you have that voice in your head stopping you from doing it - keeping you in the comfort zone.
At Launch Success Lab, Jillian dives right into this in the very beginning, as she asks her clients: “If this was a universe where ANYTHING was possible, what would you want to do, be and have? Don’t worry about money, time, other people’s opinions. What would your life look like?” Set a BIG HUGE goal - as wild and out there as you like.
Then she works to break it down to bite size goals.
But, easier said than done… Jillian talks about that voice in our heads that holds us back. It’s one thing to have KNOW what you want, but it’s a whole other thing to BELIEVE you can have it.
The voice in our head is our paradigm - it’s our beliefs, our habits. Paradigms drive all of our behaviour and results. The paradigm’s job is to keep us stuck in the comfort zone, even if that place isn’t good. At Launch Success Lab, Jillian teaches you how to kick out that limiting voice and replace it with one that’s on your side.
One of the ways Jillian starts this process this is by helping you create a self image to get you where you want to go, then you create the MINDSET to get you there!
Like so many good things, this one started with conversations among a few new friends.
Over small dinners and happy hours during the summer of 2020, six 40-somethings in Tulsa realized one striking common denominator: their midlife, post-divorce status. Messy, raw, friendly, acrimonious, you name it – their experiences with divorce and their ex were varied, but all of them sang from the same sheet of music: divorce midlife is not for the faint of heart.
Themes began to emerge such as the importance of friendship, managing a new set of finances, self care and healing, successful co-parenting and, of course, dating. Maybe, they thought, they should share their collective thoughts about life after divorce on a new social media account.
What started as an idea to simply self deprecate about their experiences has evolved quickly into a grass-roots movement. DivorcedOver40 (DO40) now has become a dynamic, inclusive community with both virtual and in-person meet ups all over the USA. The gatherings are not intended to be dating mixers – rather they are a way to build genuine connections with people who can relate. The group’s message is clear: dating is fun and helpful after a divorce, but take time to heal and find friendships along the journey.
Mediation is a form of alternate dispute resolution that uses the services of a neutral (mediator) to help parties reach resolution in conflict. Mediation is fast, cost-effective way for couples who are divorcing to resolve the various issues related to their divorce. Additionally, it allows for parties to have control over the outcome rather than allowing someone else tell them how their matter will end. Mediation serves as a much gentler alternative to litigation which is especially important for couples who have children. Cortney and I will tall about when mediation makes sense in divorce and what to do to make sure your mediation experience goes as smoothly and effectively as possible.
Shannon Sagawe is the founder of The Wealth Alchemist, a lifestyle investment brand and the host/creator of the Shot Caller Podcast, launched in 2019.
The Wealth Alchemists’ definition of wealth is having access, freedom and resources to pursue your dreams, invest in your health, spend time with loved ones and enjoy the beauty of this amazing planet. Financial and investment literacy play a key role in achieving this vision and to knowing your WORTH.
Dr. Elizabeth uses the term Relational Programming to describe the impact of our upbringing on present day behaviours in relationships. In tis episode, we will talk about the impact of our upbringing on our attachment styles and how we respond to conflict and communication with others in our lives, most notably our partners and spouses.
The way we have been programmed can also impact our marriages and can lead to the end of relationships. Having insight into ourselves by understanding our up-bringing, our attachment styles and identifying our own patterns and how they negatively (and positively) impact our relationships, we can learn to prevent repeating the same cycles in the future. Dr. Elizabeth, and myself included, believe that healing is how we break the cycle.
Renee and I are going to talk candidly about what it's like to be a Divorce Attorney, how it impacts her own marriage and family and what are the most important things you should know when hiring a family lawyer / attorney for your own situation.
Renee is also an expert in establishing the right mindset when going through Divorce and we are going to dig into some tough questions:
If you’re the one who wants the divorce, how do you deal with the guilt of breaking up the family – how do you reconcile that guilt with your own happiness?
You’re used to being with your kids 24/7 and that’s all going to change - how do you handle feeling like you’re missing out on so much?
When women go through a divorce they often end up angry or bitter and if they don’t want to feel that way what can they do to prevent it?
In this episode, Kelly and I will talk the importance of understanding your financial world not only in the event of divorce, but as an empowered woman. She and I will talk openly and candidly about her personal experience with divorce, what the biggest lessons she gained, what she would do differently and what lead her to work in the field she does. Kelly will also give us an inside peak of her newly released book: Untying the Knot: Protecting Your Emotional & Financial Health During Divorce.
One of my driving missions and what inspired me to start my professional practice, Divorce ReDefined, is to increase the knowledge and understanding of both marriage and separation.
When I found myself navigating the divorce process in my early 40s, I was embarrassed, shocked and terrified to discover how little I truly knew about the legal implications of marriage and what the divorce process actually entailed.
Let’s focus on the #1 leading misconception: If you work with a Divorce Coach it means you are getting a divorce.
I’ll get one thing straight right off the bat. As a Divorce Coach I am in no way “pro-divorce”. Just because divorce was the right decision for me, does NOT mean it is the right decision for everyone. Mine was actually years in the making, but this is not always the case for others. And in fact, for some divorce may be the wrong decision.
What I am though is pro-happiness, pro-empowerment, pro-mental and emotional health, pro-family and pro-wellbeing. Whether that means staying married or getting separated, I not only have first hand experience with how it feels emotionally and how it works systematically, I also have the tools, education, expertise and professional network to guide others in making decisions they are comfortable with - decisions that are right for their family - and support them along the way so it can happen as smoothly, as rationally and as cost-effectively as possible.
The dissolution of a marriage is a big deal, and it is not something that one should enter into lightly. You have built a life with someone, created a home and perhaps are still raising children together; therefore; the decision, as well as the process, deserves to be handled with care, maturity and thoughtful consideration.