The Real Meaning of Humanity Podcast: Recent Episodes
The Real Meaning of Humanity Podcast
The Real Meaning Of Humanity is a Podcast where we redefine what it means to be human. Humanity is beautiful but imperfect. We are all learning how to embrace it; the good, the bad and the ugly. God could have chosen to be anything but He chose to come down and put on human skin. Through acknowledgment, acceptance and connection to who we truly are, we can find freedom. With this freedom, comes compassion for ourselves and others. No one should feel alone in the midst of it. It’s okay to be authentically human.
Life is honestly such a whirlwind of emotions! This week you get to have a glimpse into our friendship and the type of conversations we have about our everyday life.
For most of us, a majority of life is spent at work. How we feel about work is essentially how we feel about our life. A lot of us are taught to just suck it up, make the money, and go home, but at what cost? We challenge you not to just push away your emotions when it comes to your career, don’t shut down your desires, rather, lean into them and continue creating the life you want to live. You are not powerless and it is never too late to start over.
When it comes to Valentines Day, it is so easy for us to focus on showing our significant other and/or our besties love. It may also be easy to focus on our current relationship status. Either way, we want to challenge you to change that. Let’s focus on the first relationship you’ve ever had; the one with yourself. You are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with, so you want to make sure that relationship is solid!
Over the years, we have challenged, cherished, and put in a lot of fucking work into the relationship we have with ourselves. It is SO incredibly important to connect to yourself, to feel safe in your body, and to truly feel like it is your home. Since we have experienced how life changing it is to do the work, this episode is completely dedicated to that! This month, we hope you begin (or continue) to do the following:
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Re-write your SELF-worth
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Embrace SELF- love
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Create SELF-confidence
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Always practice SELF-compassion
The work you do on yourself becomes a gift to everyone else. I promise you, it is not selfish.
Just like in the Marvel movies, we tend to create heroes and villains in our personal stories. A lot of times, we create villains in our stories as a defense mechanism. If you have ever painted someone as a villain or you have been painted as the villain in someone else’s story - skip reading the rest of this and go ahead and click play!
Personally, we have done both of these things. In this episode, we discuss how we have dealt with being a villain in someone else’s life as well as what we did when we realized we created villains in our own stories. The bottom line is, humanity isn’t comprised of heroes and villains. We are simply just humans. Each of us doing the best we can with what we have in each moment of life, which will be good, bad, and ugly.
Let’s leave the villains and heroes to the screenwriters.
PSSST! We’re back!!
After taking a little time off, we have finally found a schedule that works best for us and are beyond excited to be in this space again!
Of course we had to kick off 2024 with an episode about New Year’s resolutions!! However, it’s not the typical conversation you’d think when discussing this topic. We put our own little spin on things we have learned about dreaming, goal setting, and how to ACTUALLY meet those goals. Hint: a goal without a plan is only a wish.
You have heard it from us before, you have the power to create the life you want to live. How will you take control of your life? What small steps will you take to reach the big ones? You are capable of so much more than you think, so dream big!
also, we changed a few things….ENJOY!!
Why do people act so damn childish?! Don’t tell me you’ve never had that thought before!!
Can you think of a time where you have had an interaction with an adult human being - but felt like you were talking to a child?! There’s honestly so much that goes into this idea of why people act “child-like” in terms of communication, actions, and emotions. In this episode, Alexis and Krista share some instances that left them perplexed. We then discuss what could be behind that and by the end, it leaves them with more compassion and understanding.
If you have dealt with someone who seemed “immature” or you yourself have partaken in immature actions in your adult life, listen to this episode as we process and talk through that thought!
Allowing our hearts and minds to take a break for two months has allowed us to recharge and come back ready to serve by talking about our life experiences with you all. We want to make sure to be as vulnerable as possible, while still being authentic + genuine. This episode is evidence of that as we talk about something that we have both experienced, just on different levels. This left us questioning everything and filled with shame. Being able to identify and name exactly what was happening to us during that time in our lives has given us knowledge. This knowledge has turned into a sense of power, an understanding that things can happen on a physical/emotional level, but we are spiritual beings with power that comes from a very mighty source (God, of course ◡̈)
In our current world, there is so much talk about trauma. Trauma is thrown around everywhere. Here, we are speaking specifically about a term called TRAUMA BONDS. In this episode, we speak on what a trauma bond means to us- while also looking up the definition to clarify. We discuss how we have experienced the trauma bond as well as discussing the top 10 signs of someone being in a trauma bond!
If you, or anyone you know, has ever been in a relationship that seemed “toxic”, that seemed to have high highs and low lows, that left one or both parties feeling drained, that has had cheating/abuse in the mix, or felt addictive/was difficult to leave out of fear, this episode is for you. Not only do we talk about recognizing you are in a trauma bond , but also what a person who is a victim of that cycle needs from loved ones who surround them. We are by no means experts in this field, however we have experience, and hey, they say experience is the greatest teacher, right?! Take a listen!!!!
WE ARE BACK!! Our hearts were telling us to take a break, so we listened!! But now it’s time to get back to business - With that being said, this episode is all about the autonomic nervous system. Gaining knowledge of how your body works and understanding why you do the things you do, is imperative for your healing. The autonomic nervous system responds to the challenges of daily life. It manages risk and creates patterns of connection by changing our physiological state. Trauma (an overwhelming demand placed on the physiological human system) interrupts the process of building the autonomic circuits of safe connection. This can affect your ability to regulate and to feel safe in relationships. Trauma compromises our ability to engage with others by replacing patterns of connection with patterns of protection (Deb Dana, The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy).
In this episode, Alexis and Krista bring on a guest, Courtney Lancaster. Courtney Lancaster is a life consultant, singer/songwriter, speaker, and podcaster. Her knowledge and explanation of the autonomic nervous system leaves us speechless and mind blown. You MUST listen!!
Redemption is defined as the act of saving or being saved from bad things. Often times, we view redemption as this grand miracle or we think it should look a certain way, so much so that we could miss the actual redemption that has taken part in the midst of our story.
God has redeemed us in a big way already, however, in your current situations, pay attention to how you are being redeemed daily. When you notice the small wins, the small ways you are being healed, those will equal to the big redemption. It doesn’t happen without any effort and it sure doesn’t happen over night.
What you think your life would look like when it’s redeemed might not match what it actually looks like when it is redeemed. You must keep an open mind and not fixate on one outcome. I promise you, God will show up. We talk about this and so much more throughout this episode. What are you waiting for? Go listen!
We always talk a lot about being connected to ourselves and disconnected from ourselves in our episodes; but In this episode, we dig deeper into what we mean when we say that.
Oftentimes we view being connected to ourselves as being perfect and free of pain, but that is the furthest from the truth. Everyone is either connected or disconnected from their authentic selves. We were made for connection. Disconnecting from yourself may seem like the best thing in order to “protect” yourself, but you are likely just causing more damage.
Listen to find out more about what connection looks/feels like and what disconnection may look and feel like!
Have you ever came out of a relationship and thought, “How did I attract this type of person in my life?'“
This is truly a loaded question. There is so much that needs to be thought of in regards to this. In this episode, Alexis and Krista discuss their thoughts on this saying. They go through different perspectives and thoughts about this question and dig deep into their own experiences of what they have attracted and what they have learned.
Your belief systems, your level of self awareness, and your experiences highly affect how you might respond to this question. There is so much nuance to it. What do you believe?
We experience so many things throughout our lifetime, some good, some bad. Often times, the things that we experience that are painful or scary, result in building walls to protect ourselves. But that protection is really just all an illusion. We aren’t actually protecting ourselves.
In this episode, Alexis and Krista welcome a guest on to discuss how our unhealed wounds often times can prevent us from our future blessings. We share experiences we have had where this is evident. There are so many things to unpack when it comes to humans, but the bottom line is that listening to understand others is the most powerful thing we can do to allow ourselves to stay open to bless others and to receive Gods blessings. But first, we have to be willing to listen and understand ourselves!
Valentine’s Day brings up different emotions for everybody. For some people, they can’t stand this holiday or think it’s a hallmark ploy. Many people have triggers come up during this time, or they have intrusive thoughts about their “single life” pop up. On the flip side, others believe this holiday defines their romantic relationship and rely on it to make them feel worthy/loved.
Those are the two sides that you see in all the movies and on the internet, BUT it doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t have to look at Valentine’s Day in that way, you have the power to redefine what this holiday means to you!
In this episode, Alexis and Krista share their journey of how they have felt towards this specific time of year and how they are choosing to step into it now!
How powerful can it feel to go back to an age and talk to your younger self? To be able to acknowledge, validate, and speak truth to your heart. You are the only one who truly knows what your heart needed in that moment and you are able to go back and give your heart what it needed.
In this episode, Alexis + Krista talk to their younger selves. They chose whatever age came to mind first and tried to put themselves back in that frame of mind/time period. There’s so much freedom in going back in time to your child-self to gain an understanding and speak truth. Christians say it all the time, “A love so deep it changes me”. To realize the truth of our belief systems is to first go back to when we first partnered with them; when the seed was first planted. This isn’t to “fix” you. This is not to preach at you or TALK AT you. No. It’s to pour into that child that really needed to be seen, heard, known and LOVED in those moments where you didn’t receive it. That is where true healing comes in. That is where the love transforms you. It is reconciling with yourself & the Father. If you were to speak to your younger self, what age would you start with?
In the past couple of years, we have gained so much knowledge, so much healing, and so much awareness. However, that doesn’t mean that we have everything figured out or that we are going to be the best versions of ourselves all of the time. Sometimes it’s hard to not feel like we '“HAVE TO” have it all together when we do the podcast, so in this episode we don’t.
In this episode, Alexis & Krista are showing you exactly where they are at in that moment. No masks. No faking. Not trying to be ‘ON” even when they feel so off. Alexis and Krista talk about their day/experiences, and what they aware of when it comes to feelings/thoughts they had during this off day.
It’s okay to not be connected all of the time. Don’t fake it, just notice it. You can not truly love every version of who you are until you get to know and understand every version of who you are. This is apart of our Humanity; embracing every version of ourselves. The good, the bad and the ugly. Being messy is apart of life, instead of pushing it away and abandoning that version of yourself, you can embrace it— which leads to healing and understanding!
Fear is hardwired into us- it is supposed to help us identify and avoid threats to our safety. Unfortunately, most of us have a lot of fears based on a perception of danger instead of actual danger. It is likely because of a belief system we have.
In this episode, Alexis + Krista discuss their fears and how those fears have limited them. They show that you don’t have to be held captive by your fears, they can actually be dealt with head on and you can get freedom from them.
Since our fears are built by belief systems, there are ways to conquer them. You can create freedom from them, but it takes work! It takes awareness of yourself and a willingness to ask yourself the hard questions. Face your fears. Don’t let them control you!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! How many times have we set goals for ourselves, especially for a “New Years Resolution” but failed to meet them? It seems to happen every year. There is a consistent cycle of setting goals, typically for what we don’t feel adequate at, and then we start off the year being consistent and meeting the goal, then something happens, the goal isn’t met, and we give up.
So, what is it that keeps us from reaching those goals that we were so determined to meet? Some might say lack of discipline, but let’s get even deeper than that. You don’t have discipline because you likely don’t believe in yourself. You don’t believe you are capable of change, and as soon as something goes wrong or you make a mistake, you use that as proof that you can’t do it. What if this year you tried something different? What if instead of having all these exterior goals, what if you just believed in yourself? What if you made a conscious decision to continue to choose yourself no matter what this year?
Give yourself grace. Believe in yourself. Prove yourself wrong. Keep showing up. You are capable!
Healthy boundaries are essential for life, and for some, they might be especially essential around the holidays. Boundaries can be set by being aware of what is acceptable to you and allowing yourself to say no to the things that do not make you feel safe. Know that it is not your responsibility to sacrifice yourself in order for others to feel comfortable and happy.
In this episode, Alexis and Krista discuss boundaries that they have set through the holiday season and they give examples of what that could look like. If you are uncomfortable most holidays around family, you do not HAVE to be. Know that you have permission to do what is best for you while still being respectful and loving to your loved ones.
You’ve heard us talk about triggers before, but in this episode, you will be listening in on a triggered moment. While getting ready to start the podcast, Alexis experiences a trigger and you see how she communicates that experience and the way in which Alexis and Krista work through it!
A trigger isn’t just something that rubs you the wrong way. It is being around something that reminds you of a traumatic experience and it can feel like you are back in that same place experiencing those same emotions all over again. It seems as though around the holidays those emotions become heightened, ESPECIALLY AROUND FAMILY! We do not have to go into this holiday season feeling powerless. We can allow our triggers to help us get connected to what we are truly needing and then communicate those needs in a healthy way around our family & friends. Triggers ARE NOT bad, they are an indicator of what is going on inside of you-which can lead you into a deeper invitation for healing. You do not have to go into this holidays season being a victim to your triggered moment, but rather come out of it more connected, more powerful & free!
Are you like Alexis, where she thought she didn’t need anyone’s help nor want it OR have you found yourself like Krista, deciding you want to reach out for help - but you’re not quite sure where to go or what to look for? In this episode, Alexis + Krista talk about the belief systems surrounding the mental health space & the different types of care you can seek.
They describe some differences between counselors, therapists, and life coach/consultant. Each one has its own benefits. The one you choose truly depends on what you are looking for and what you need in the current season of your life.
If you have come to the first step of deciding you would like someone to guide you through your journey, listen to this episode to find out more about the different resources available!
During Alexis’ discovery of how deeply rooted her mother wound was, she realized how closely related her mom and her ex were. As she was noticing and becoming more aware of her past, she noticed similarities in the present. Why did Alexis attract people into her life that were similar to her mom? She was subconsciously mirroring the relationship and characteristics she has with her mom.
This kind of discovery is not an easy one. It’s difficult beyond measure, but incredibly rewarding in the end. Doing this takes vulnerability, humility, acceptance, and most importantly, honesty.
How you show up in your relationships often tell you a lot about yourself. Everyone’s behavior has a motivation behind it, a deeper meaning, allow yourself to notice + get to the root of it. Listen to the journey of Alexis’ self discovery and explanation of why she would do the things she did, tying back to her childhood and life experiences.
As we continue to dive deeper into Alexis past with her mother, it all starts to make sense as to why Alexis operated the way she did in her adolescence & adulthood. It took a long time for Alexis to realize that not having a mother to protect her and love her affected how she showed up in relationships. It was easy to be in denial and act as though her experience with her mother didn’t affect her. But it did affect her. It took Alexis to hit rock bottom and face her wounds to grieve the loss of her mom.
Family is HARD. It is not the easiest thing to go back and admit that there are certain parts of your childhood that affected you. BUT, it is the most rewarding thing you can ever do for your heart. It matters what happened to Alexis. It MATTERS what happened in YOUR STORY too. Think, if you were to go back and heal the deepest places in your heart, where would you be a year from now? Where would you be two years from now?
Have you ever thought back on your childhood and thought, “That wasn’t normal, but it was MY normal”? These are some things Alexis has reflected on throughout the past few years.
In this episode, Alexis is incredibly vulnerable with us about her childhood trauma. She uncovers some specifics as to what happened in her family home. She also describes the disconnect from what was happening and what was perceived by others. There’s so much to uncover and understand, just like there would be if we were analyzing anyone’s past. If you have a mother wound, a father wound, or both, you are not alone. It is normal since your parents are HUMAN. Going back to your childhood can help you gain so much clarity as to why you are the way that you are. It can be painful, but ultimately freeing. Instead of running from her past or suppressing it, Alexis decided to face it head on.
In the next part of this episode, she will uncover the flip side, the beauty she found within herself despite the mess.
We have officially blessed you (and ourselves) for FIFTY-TWO weeks!!! This podcast has transformed our lives and we can only hope that it has helped at least one person in one way or another.
In this episode, Alexis + Krista celebrate their one year anniversary by discussing how they started this podcast, the journey it has been, they answer questions some people submitted, and share the hearts behind why this podcast matters and the vision we have for it.
If there’s anything to note, it’s that we are aware that humanity is hurting. There are so many views on what it means to be human and how this life should be lived. We want to shine the light on what we think the real meaning of humanity is. You are allowed to be both good and messy at the same time. There is no one size fits all, we want everyone to have the tools to get connected to themselves in order to better navigate through this beautiful, messy, painful, lovely, life.
BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!!
In this episode, Alexis shares about the opportunity she was faced with 6 months ago and how it has led her up to this point. It is crazy how ONE decision you make for yourself, can lead you into the rest of your life.
Alexis shares a little more about what her childhood was like, her relationship with her mom and how it affected the way she showed up in life toward herself & in relationships. Our childhood can mold us into how we show up as an adult. How our child brain interprets our experiences, creates our belief systems as an adult. Alexis, came to a point in her life where she could not live the way she was living any longer. She did not want to live in self-hatred anymore. She did not want to continue to abuse herself the way her mother did and she did not want to continue to attracting toxic relationships in her life. This is when Alexis chose to go on a journey of self-discovery and heal the deepest parts of her heart, which led her into the rest of her life.
Do you fear upsetting others? Do you obsess with wanting people to be pleased with you? Do you meet everyone else’s needs and put yours on the back burner? If this is you, this can be called codependency. You’re not alone, we struggle with that, too.
In this episode, Alexis + Krista give a definition for codependency, discuss signs that you might be codependent, and give steps you can take to overcome it. They bring awareness to how their childhood had played a part in their codependent tendencies. If we are being 100% transparent, recovering from codependency requires that you dissect and understand how your childhood trauma has manifested. It requires you to dig deep and decipher what experiences led to these tendencies.
Listen to find out the steps you can take to recover from codependency! You are powerful + capable!
Have you been cheated on? Have you immediately felt like something was wrong with you because your partner decided to cheat? If so, these are normal human feelings when we go through something like this. We naturally start to dissect the relationship and what role you must have played in it.
In this episode, Alexis and Krista discuss being cheated on in the past and their experiences with that. In both situations, there was a question of their worth. There was a wondering on what is wrong with them, but in reality, when someone cheats, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and their own issues inside.
There is nothing you can do to change someone else’s behavior. Their behavior is a direct reflection of themselves and how they feel. Don’t attach your worth to someone else’s behavior & the lack of worth they have for themselves at that time.
As we are entering into a new season with cooler weather, trees changing colors, the smell of pumpkin spice in the air and the holidays getting closer; it can often times feel lonely. Has the smell of fall/holiday season ever trigger you? …..Well, it has for us!
In this episode, Alexis gets vulnerable about feelings she has been uncovering recently. Alexis and Krista discuss how when you are heartbroken, when you have been done wrong in some way, there are lasting repercussions. Reliving memories and feeling the pain of a relationship around the holiday season is NORMAL!! The holiday season can often times heightened those painful feelings you haven’t felt in a long time, but don’t let this scare you! In this episode, we discuss trauma responses and how to attune to them; to normalize those feelings after a traumatic experience. You are not crazy, you are valid in your feelings/thoughts.
Heartbreaks hurt, but you don’t have to stay in that hurt. There are opportunities for growth, there are opportunities for rebuilding.
Saying no is often looked at as something negative, something bad. Yet, saying no and accepting no, is powerful.
In this episode, Alexis and Krista discuss how saying yes to the things you want to say no to, can be you putting yourself and your needs on the back burner. What would it look like for you to listen to yourself and say no to the things you don’t want to do? To say no to tolerating the way people treat you? To accept the no’s people give you?
It is okay to say no to whomever. You have to take care of yourself, it is not selfish. The relationship you have with yourself should come first, so that you can pour out to others. In order to take care of yourself, sometimes that means saying no.
Communication is so important. Confrontation is key. Comprehension is key.
Confrontation is not bad. It does not mean you have to argue. Confronting something is simply bringing an issue to light. No one can read your mind, so you have to learn how to use your words to communicate effectively.
We communicate everyday in so many different ways. Everything we do is a form of communication. How do you communicate?
In this episode, Alexis + Krista talk about what communication is. They discuss the 4 types of communication and what it can look like in a healthy way. Learning how to communicate and seeking to understand while talking to someone, is life changing. It is vital to be able to use your words to express how you feel, without letting defense mechanisms arise and take over.
In this episode, we jump right into it!
To talk candidly is to be able to say what you think without being concerned about looking foolish or being knocked back. It’s having the feeling to be heard and to process what is going on inside of you and the thoughts that are consuming your mind. In this episode, its starts off by Alexis & Krista talking candidly on how they used to feel about God and how they feel about God now. They even get into the topic of christianity and their thoughts on the church.
We are all on a process of figuring out who God is, what the bible says and how to interpret the bible. There is so much pressure to know EVERYTHING as a christian. It can be overwhelming and sometimes feel as though we need to know this in order to be loved by God; we need to be right about this in order to be chosen by God, but that is just not the case! Can we all just admit that we are all on a process of getting to know God’s character and what that looks like for an individual without judging them & without judging ourselves. Let’s take the pressure off and get honest in how we feel without any judgment, that way healing and understanding can take place!
Dating can sometimes feel messy, high stakes, and also feel like a HUGE waste of time.
In this episode, Alexis opens up about her journey in dating this summer. Dating does not have to feel like a job; it does not have to feel like you are getting prepared to interview your “future husband/future wife”. You can actually allow dating to be an adventure and go on a journey to learn more about yourself and what you really want for your life.
What would it look like for you to show up in your dating life as a whole + healed human being, who is connected to their authentic self? It took a long time for Alexis to get to that point. Alexis, shares the highs and lows of her journey and actually gets to a point of how she feels now about her past relationships.
Relationships can be messy as well. Everyone at some point in their life, has probably felt these things towards an ex. A lot of times, anger, resentment, and frustration can come out of a failed relationship. Those emotions are natural, human emotions. However, we can’t stay in those emotions forever. We also can’t just dismiss them. In order to genuinely be able to move forward, we can face those emotions and take a deeper dive inside to determine the root of those feelings. I promise you, you can learn something through the pain. It will make you better, make you more aware of potential wounds/insecurities that you have had within you that you either didn’t know was there; or you thought you had healed from. There are many things we can learn within the dating world (and honestly any relationship) you just have to be willing to see it, acknowledge it, and work through it. You are powerful. It’s your choice!
Justin Stumvoll is BACK & we have Spencer Robbins joining us on the last episode of the Masculine Series!
In this episode, we get connected to what healthy masculinity looks like by denouncing every narrative the world has given men that doesn’t fit. Justin & Spencer share their journey in getting connected to themselves and their journey in their friendship. They give practical tools to get connected to what masculinity looks like FOR YOU and grow in healthy connection with other men/mentors. This episode opens an invitation to dive deeper into unveiling who you truly are as a man.
Men often times feel like they need to go through the hard things alone, but that is not the case. You were never meant to go through things alone. It is okay to ask for help. It is okay to have someone speak into your life and champion you! Men there is a way out of the war within your mind & heart. You do not have to feel stuck anymore, you can take ownership over your life, face your fears and become your true authentic selves and live life fully alive!
In this Episode, we have Justin Stumvoll from “The Connected Life” Podcast.
Justin gives his knowledge of what masculinity is and how it is typically effected by the relationship men have with their father or father figures. We discuss the role a father plays in a man’s life. He also dives deep into what his relationship was like with his father growing up and even into adulthood. He gets vulnerable about how that relationship affected him and describes what the road to becoming aware of the wound looked like. This episode helps gain clarity on how your father affected you. Being negatively affected by your father is more normal than not. You are human and… so is your father. Unfortunately, we’re messy and often bleed on others.
You have the power and authority to break through the negative defense mechanisms you developed as a result of this relationship. You do not have to live in survival mode anymore. You have permission to break free of those chains & gain the tools to work through this wound. Healing is possible- you don’t have to feel like this forever.
We all have hidden struggles that we go through and never want to bring to light in fear of being judged or looked at differently. However, it feels as though it is more high stakes for men because there is a standard for men in this world that they have to act a certain way & if they don’t they will be labeled as weak or “you are not a real man”.
We want to bring to light the most common struggles among men and also the struggles that NO-ONE talks about. In this episode, we talk about the hard, uncomfortable things in an effort for a man to feel more seen, known, and understood. We know that human beings yearn for belonging, and this episode is to do just that. Reminder Men, that you are not alone. You are powerful. YOU ARE NOT STUCK. You have the power to transform. You can connect to who you truly are & LIVE life as full as possible.
Every boy wonders what their purpose is. What is masculinity?
THIS IS THE BEGINNING OF OUR MASCULINE SERIES & WE COULD NOT START IT WITHOUT TALKING ABOUT THE FIRST MAN EVER CREATED!! In this episode we go back to the beginning of time, back to the very first man in order to gain an understanding as to why we are the way that we are. We want to break down the events of what happened when humans first came into creation, looking specifically at Adam. We want to unfold his actions and how it has affected men!
Men, you are not the broken narrative in this world. You are not the villain. Adam is not the villain! You are capable, you are strong, you still have a choice & there is still hope!
You might be one of those people who knows exactly who you are and one day feel so confident in yourself, then the next be shaken by someone’s destructive actions. Once we are hurt by the person we really love those question’s start flooding in; “How could they have done that to me?” “Is there something wrong with me?” “Am I just not good enough?” “I guess nobody is ever going to love me.” “People are always going to leave me”. The voice of accusation starts screaming lies into our heart’s and it shakes our identity.
It is one of the most painful things when someone you love reflects their own insecurities onto you and we partner with those lies that we tell ourselves about other peoples destructive behavior. This episode is meant to encourage you that the saying “it’s not you, it’s me” can actually be true at times. When we are connected to our identity and the core of who we are, other people’s judgments & actions will not have a landing strip on our heart’s any longer. We will be able to look at them for where they truly are at in their life and not let it take anything away from WHO YOU ARE!
Who are you? What is the story you have been telling yourself? The narrator in your head, are they lying to you? Are they mean to you? Are they kind to you?
In this episode, we talk about how frustrating it can be to witness others not knowing who they truly are and watching them be destructive towards themselves and you. At times, it is hard to understand. It is hard to hope for change. Ignorance is not bliss, it is destructive. The stories we tell ourselves to escape the pain can hurt us in the long run, but what would it truly look like to conquer that pain? What if us conquering our pain and facing the reality of our situation, we find who we truly are. Stepping into who you FULLY + TRULY ARE, that is YOUR POWER! Connecting to your self and figuring out who you are is how you conquer those struggles you have been facing. Pain won’t be able to take you out anymore! The lies you have been believing about yourself will be demolished and you will be able to show up in your life with full confidence and be able to live fully alive!
It’s okay to be frustrated. It’s okay to be angry. It’s okay to still have days where you feel the pain of something that you have lost, that means it meant something. That means it mattered!
This episode is going to look a little differently this week…ever heard of “Stranger things”?
Stranger Things is the No. 1 Top Rated show on Netflix. This show is so beloved world-wide and for good reason. Have you ever watched a show and felt so connected to a character OR hated a character so much and have even said “I can’t stand that character, there is just something about them that I just don’t like”. SO RELATABLE, right?
There is something so beautiful when a tv show or a movie can bring out the most beautiful emotions inside of you whether that be triggering a past memory or triggering inspiration out of you. This is what is so beautiful about movies/tv shows. In this episode, we talk about the most famous characters in “Stranger Things” and how it can relate to our personalities and/or personal relationships. Whether you listen to this and get inspired or even get self-aware about your own self, it is beneficial for you either way! SO go ahead and press that play button and take a look at the world through the lens of “Stranger Things”!
The word “Narcissist” is thrown around frequently. We are so quick to notice something about someone, and demonize them as a narcissist. Narcissism is real. Narcissism can be abusive and a lot of people have been hurt by their destructive behavior. But what makes a narcissist a “narcissist”? What got them to this point?
In this episode, we open up the conversation about what a Narcissist is, how it affects that person/others, and challenge your thoughts about the topic. We know that everyone has a reason for everything they do, so how can we give a little more compassion and a little less judgement?
People’s interpretations of the “F” word has caused ALOT of harm & honestly caused people to be stuck in a lot of ways in their healing process. In this episode, we talk about FORGIVENESS!!
Forgiveness is something Alexis & Krista have struggled with their whole lives; forgiveness toward others & forgiveness toward’s themselves. It can be really hard, especially when people try to weaponize forgiveness against you. In this episode, we are not going to lecture you about forgiveness, we are not going to force you to forgive that person who hurt you. This is not another “church message” that you have heard on a Sunday morning, we just want to open a space where we gain an understanding of forgiveness without any judgement! You are valid in all your feelings, you are valid in your hurt and you deserve to have breakthrough. You deserve freedom from what has been done to you!
Alexis & Krista have been vulnerable many times on this podcast. In this episode, Krista gets REALLY HONEST in where her heart is at currently.
Exhaustion is real. Numbness is real. It’s all part of the human experience and it is NORMAL that it happens when you are on your healing journey. Just because Krista and Alexis have a podcast and they talk about self-awareness, doesn’t mean they have it all figured out. We are all walking with you and trying to figure shit out too. Krista, open’s a space where she wants to understand herself in a deeper way and through that invites Jesus in to radically heal her. This is where breakthrough happens; a love so deep that it breaks all the lies you have been believing for so long.
Our hope for you, as you listen to this episode, is to get honest with yourself about how you are feeling and have an encounter with Jesus the way Krista does in this episode. You are not broken. God did not create you to be a robot. You are a human, who has feelings and just wants to be loved, seen & heard.
In this episode, We continue talking about the repercussions of the "purity culture".
We all have our beliefs. We are all in the process of figuring out what we want for our lives and Honestly, who and if we want to share our life/bodies with. We continue to be vulnerable in this episode and have an open discussion about shame in the purity culture.
In the episode, we have a very special guest, Meigan Gray!
Meigan, shares intimate details about her childhood and what her life looked like growing up in the purity culture. This episode reveals how growing up in the purity culture affects relationships and how you socialize with opposite genders. Meigan does not shy away from how making one decision, she didn’t fully understand at the time, has affected her life to this day.
Did anyone else receive a handbook on how to do life “right” in your twenties? …..Nobody? Oh good, okay, neither did we!!
It’s crazy that when you are in your twenties, you are making decisions as an adult, but you still feel like a kid. There are so many standards to live by, however, when you do not meet those standards you feel like you are a failure. In this episode, Alexis & Krista speak on the expectations they felt going into their twenties and how they feel now, half way through their twenties.
Oh how our ideas of what your twenties are supposed to be like have changed! You’ve heard it a million times, but age is nothing but a number. Your experiences are what shape you, not the amount of years you have been on this earth. Stop comparing your life to where others are, they are completely different. Your twenties are definitely a shift- but everyone’s looks a little different, and that’s ok.
Alright beautiful humans, can we just take a moment to remove those black and white shades that has been covering our eyesight for quite a while now and realize the world is full of grey areas and then also some really beautiful vibrant colors!! We want to get away from that “right”, “wrong”, “good”, “bad” judgmental perspective, because it is actually not helpful for us. This mindset is not serving you. Life is messy. There are messy human beings. Everyone’s story is different. Everyone grows up differently and experiences different things. These things just exist. It’s part of life. It’s apart of our humanity. The sooner we accept this, the better our understanding of ourselves and others will be. Life is not black or white, we live in the grey. But we can choose to bring a multitude of colors into those grey areas.
Does anyone suffer from a father wound? Hi, yea that’s us! Anyone suffer from the mother wound? Hi…its us again.
In this episode, we have the wonderful Jordan Henderson come on and share a-little bit about his journey with his father. He shares how his father wound has bled into his life from adolescence to now; How that wound has affected his relationships and what he truly thought of himself. Jordan gives us insight into a man’s heart of what it’s like to grow up without a Dad, but from that Jordan decides to change the narrative of his story from “abandonment” to a powerful man who decided to step into his identity as a Man of God and know his value.
Alexis & Krista have been friends for over a decade. It has not been an easy road, especially for two women who are still figuring out who they are and how to navigate life. In this episode, Krista & Alexis reflect on their journey of their friendship for the past 10 years. They get vulnerable about fights they have had years ago and fights they have had recently.
How do you get through a friendship when there has been so much history of "the “back & forth” cycle? This episode might give you some insight to the roadmap of loving others well and how a friendship that was dead, come back to life and be better than it was before!!
Have you ever had a burst of emotions and all of the sudden started crying and you don’t even know why/where this is coming from; it feels so sudden & out of the blew? YEA….SAME HERE!!
That is actually your heart’s way of trying to get your attention. Your heart is trying to get you aware of the chaos that is going on inside of you. In this episode, Alexis & Krista walk’s you through a process of how to get connected to your heart. They get vulnerable with personal encounters they have had and what they have learned through this process. What has your heart been trying to tell you? How long have you been neglecting and/or dismissing your feelings? When we do this, this creates a disconnect within ourselves. And sometimes when we do this, we are actually mirroring how our parents treated us as a child when we would have BIG emotions come up.
Be brave enough to listen to what is going on inside of you. Be brave enough to conquer that lie that you have been believing about yourself. Be brave enough to feel and heal!
Life can be very unpredictable at times. One day we feel like we finally got life figured out and then the next day we get thrown a curve ball and sometimes we won’t be able to control the outcome.
In this episode, Alexis & Krista talk about the challenges they have faced recently and how at times it is out of their control. But what do we do when we can’t control a situation or an individual? Do we sit back and just let everything fall apart? No. There are ways we can choose into a powerful decision and not be shaken by the outcomes of a sudden curve ball in our life. This is part of the human experience, so allow it to empower and strengthen you!
What is Femininity? What does that word truly mean? Has anyone every taught you?
This series has covered the thorns we face while trying to navigate life as a woman. We spend our life trying to understand how to be a women “correctly.” This episode is dedicated to owning your femininity. It is up to you to decipher what that means- not anyone else. It’s okay to go on a journey in figuring out what it means to be a woman without feeling any pressure in doing so. What does that look like FOR YOU? What does it look like to BE YOU? Be authentically & uniquely, YOU!
We get really raw in this episode…
We talk about body issues; growing into our woman body & not being ashamed of it. We even have the puberty + sex talk!
Without even realizing, our mothers teach us so much about how to be a woman, to nurture and take care of our bodies. So if you didn’t have a mother who taught you how to nurture and love your body we actually go into an encounter with our younger self and spend time loving on her.
We want to break the idea of what a woman’s body “should” look like. There is so much expectation of what a woman's body should look like nowadays that it makes it feel high stakes if we do not meet that unrealistic expectation. This episode is meant to inspire women to OWN their God given curves. Believe that YOU ARE A MASTERPIECE! We have got to start loving what we think are the “unlovable” parts of our body and believe that you are beautiful no matter what shape or size your body is!!
In this episode, We are blessed with Tiffany Bluhm as our guest who educates us on the history of women of all different cultures around the world and empowers women to own their God given voice. We take a deep dive on why/how women have been silent and treated from Biblical times to today’s world. This episode brings a self-awareness and inspire change in all humanity-how we can evolve and discontinue enabling a broken system that has kept women in suffering, in the name of a warped view of women in modern times. We want to expose the darkness and amend the worldly outlook of women in a loving way that also does not discredit what women have endured.
How can we have a Feminine Series without talking about our girl, Eve?! In this episode, we go back to the very beginning of time.
We all have a little bit of Eve in us, so we should probably get to know her a little better. From our experience, Eve is typically vilified when we learn about her through various sources. We are here to DENOUNCE that narrative. At the end of the day, Eve made a mistake. That mistake had consequences, but it didn’t stop her from doing amazing things!! We don’t have to carry that narrative- nor were we supposed to. Anyone is more than the mistake they made! God can and will still use YOU!! Get up & Keep going!!!
Defense Mechanisms…We all have them. There are so many different ways that when our body feels threatened we will react in a way to where it thinks it is protecting us, but in reality we are not wanting to deal with the situation or the pain from it. This is a natural human tendency, THIS IS NORMAL! By gaining knowledge and an understanding of our defense mechanisms, we can actually find freedom and walk in a healthier way of how we can react to a confrontation. In this episode, Alexis & Krista share how their defense mechanisms have prevented them from finding connection and kept them from making powerful decisions.
In this episode, Alexis and Krista talk about the world of social media. We discuss the original idea behind social media and what it has turned into, from our point of view. Without even knowing, we have been programmed by it in one way or another in our lifetime. Often times, we hardly grasp just how much power these things have over us. We want to encourage you to be more aware!
Have you ever found yourself going back to what is familiar? Have you ever felt like you have been stuck in a never ending cycle? Same, Us too!! This is a VERY NORMAL human tendency. It’s okay to miss something that you used to have in your life. It’s even okay to miss someone that use to be in your life, but we can no longer allow them to wreak havoc in our lives. You have the power to walk away. You have the ability to move on. Healing is YOUR CHOICE! You can feel empowered and believe in yourself enough to finally walk away from someone or from a system that has been tearing you down. We can not wait for someone to realize what they did wrong in order for us to heal. We may never get the apology that we deserve, but we can still find healing. We can still find true joy. We can still thrive and turn our pain into power!!
In this episode, we discuss what we believe is the basis, or the foundation of becoming aware. It all starts with gaining a true understanding of the mind and figuring out what in the world is happening inside of your brain! Listen to find out how the conscious mind and subconscious mind play the main characters in our belief systems & thoughts.
Have you ever been at a crossroads? Most times when we have a decision to make in life, no matter how big or small, we feel flustered and may believe it is a high stakes situation. What it really comes down to is the fact that we don’t have confidence in ourselves and our ability to make a decision.This is where committing to yourself comes into play: Commit to getting to know yourself. Commit to understanding what your body is telling you.Commit to loving yourself no.matter.what. AND JUST MAKE THE DAMN DECISION!
Let’s talk about TRIGGERS! We see “TRIGGER WARNING” alot, and that can cause us to avoid whatever feelings we would potentially experience if we were to continue to be exposed by that trigger. Instead of letting our triggers influence us to runaway, we can take our power back and gain an understanding and identify why it is affecting us. Once we get self-aware of where that trigger is rooted in, we can actually allow that trigger to guide us into healing & freedom.
Healing can look different for everyone. In this episode, we begin the conversation of what healing has meant and looked like for us individually. Acknowledgment and honesty are at the root of it. It starts with choosing yourself which allows you to begin to move forward.
In this episode, we open up a space to be honest about what our true beliefs about God have been. Alexis & Krista take the pressure off of giving the perfect Christian answer and truly gain an understanding of who you believe God is. Through this honesty, we can find connection in the true nature of God.
What do your views of dating look like? In this episode, we talk about our views of dating throughout our lifetime and how they have changed with time and experience. We also challenge the idea of there being “The One” for you and what we believe God’s role is in that process.
In this episode, We continue to dive deeper into what we were taught at a young age and redefine what it can teach us now. Pain is universal. Pain is a part of the human experience. However, Alexis & Krista sheds light on a new perspective of how we can allow pain to teach us something instead of destroying us. There is beauty in the pain. There is hope & change can happen, but we have to feel it in order to heal it!
In this episode, Alexis and Krista dive into what humanity means to them. The whole podcast is called The Real Meaning of Humanity, so they explain how they redefined what humanity means to them and how to except everyone where they are at in life.
We have a very special guest! We talk about her all the time on the podcast, she is one of my best friends and I also get to live with her! We have the beautiful Jennifer Norton. In this episode, Jennifer and I talk about the tough times in our friendship and what it took for us to gain perspective and get connection through confronting our feelings about each other.
New Year’s Resolutions, More like Intentions for yourself! IT’S 2022!! But how many times have we made a TON of New Year’s Resolutions and then forget all about them by the end of January, TOO MANY TIMES! In this episode, Krista & Alexis redefine what it means to make “Goals for yourself” & tap into practical ways on how you can reach your goals without it being such High Stakes.
Alright Humans, it’s the last week of 2021…It’s been a long year…it’s been a long two years for most, BUT YOU ARE STILL HERE, YOU MADE IT! In this episode, we celebrate how far we have come and how much we have learned. There was so much beauty in the messiness of this year & Alexis + Krista take a moment to give gratitude towards themselves and the listeners.
In part two, Krista explains her healing process. She dives into the idea that it all starts with a choice, a willingness to change. Krista talks about the ups and downs of healing and how it is not an easy process, but so worth it in the end.
In this episode, Krista unpacks her core beliefs that she had in high school and how it has affected her life. Krista touches on how she clung onto certain defense mechanisms in order to feel “safe" in that time period.
In this Episode, Alexis shares where her heart is at with her past relationship. How far she has come and the healing she is still continuing to walk through. Alexis, continues to be vulnerable and share her heart and how God has redeemed her throughout this story and how she took her power back!
In this episode, Alexis continues to be vulnerable in her story about the relationship she was in and how her home church got involved. As Alexis shares her perspective, in that time period, She expresses how the church can be better. How we can all be better. Alexis & krista highlight how there is still so many good parts that church brings to the community, but there are also very messy parts.
In this episode, we discuss the turning point of Alexis' past relationship. Alexis gives explicit details of the manipulation that went on as the truth unfolds. She discusses the wars she was having within herself, and with God. This part of the story is where her deep rooted pain was revealed.
It's time to dive deep! In this episode, we begin to have a look into Alexis's past relationship. Why she fell in love with him, the good parts, and Alexis beginning to realize her true belief systems about what she thought a relationship looked like. Alexis will be giving more insight on what actually happened and the dynamic between the two. This episode sets the foundation for the next 3 episodes.
This Mini Episode is introducing two women who have been best friends for 10 years and why they're deciding to start a Podcast now. It leads into what their hearts are all about, what the Podcast will be about & a teaser of the next 4 episodes.