Your Mind, Your Body, Your Choice: It's YOUR Life...what are you going to do with it? : Recent Episodes
Sonya A McQueen
Pressure is real! Depression is taking our friends and family away from us in various ways and hate is at an all time high. How do I handle these things? Not always correctly, but eventually I figure it out. Walk with me as I not only share my pain, grief good and bad times, but also share adoption stories, abortion grief, how to break generational curses and grow in love. Listen in as I share others stories about the choices they have made whether right, wrong or indifferent. Email me at: Sonya.McQueen69@outlook.com with questions, comments or if you would like to be a part of the show.
Has the internet made us crueler, or has it simply removed the consequences? Listen in as I speak about division, accountability, and what happens when we forget there's a real person behind every screen.
Sometimes, people get upset with those they claim to love and never express it. They will talk to others about it, and sometimes just cut you out of their life and you have no idea why. Listen in as I give a little advise...straight from someone that knows how it feels to be cut out without an explanation.
Have you ever realized that someone else's negativity followed you home? Listen in as I discuss how childhood wounds, painful conversations, and unresolved hurt can quietly affect our relationships, and why protecting your peace is one of the healthiest decisions you'll ever make.
Listen in as I discuss why seeking validation from everyone around us can keep us from living the life we were created to live. Sometimes your greatest breakthrough comes when you stop asking for permission and simply move with purpose.
Everyone's healing journey is different, and no one has the right to decide when another person's pain should end. Listen in as I discuss why compassion, accountability, and understanding are far more powerful than judgment when someone is carrying the weight of trauma or grief.
As children, we often believe that a different home will solve all of our problems. Sometimes it does. Sometimes it becomes the place that changes us forever. Listen in as I talk about expectations, disappointment, and the responsibility adults have to protect the hearts of the children who trust them.
Your words have the power to build someone up or quietly break their spirit. Listen in as I share a childhood memory that shaped my self-worth and the life-changing encouragement that helped me begin to see myself differently, reminding us all that love, kindness, and intentional words can break generational cycles.
Have you noticed that negativity is the front runner in all of social media? If you aren't posting negativity for clicks and views, you are spewing it on others pages, sites and in their comments to show your distain for that person or whatever they are speaking of. When did negativity start to be the norm? Listen in as I speak on how I feel about this.
Sometimes the people who share your blood are not the people who stand beside you through life's storms. listen in as, I share how God can place extraordinary people in our lives who become family through love, loyalty, and unwavering support, reminding us that family is not always blood, but it is always a blessing.
Too often, we judge people based on where they are today without knowing the journey that brought them there. Listen in as I discuss why homelessness, financial hardship, addiction recovery, incarceration, and personal struggles do not define a person's worth, and why compassion can change lives.
If you've ever been upset with God, questioned His plan, or wondered why something important was taken away, this podcast is for you! Listen in as I remind you that what feels like rejection today may actually be divine direction for tomorrow.
People often believe they deserve access to every decision we make, but the truth is not everyone is entitled to our story.
Listen in as I discuss why you do not owe everyone an explanation, the importance of healthy boundaries, and how to move forward with confidence even when others do not understand your decisions.
Sometimes people cannot just walk away from toxic jobs because life, bills, and responsibilities do not stop. Listen in as I discuss workplace toxicity, anxiety, leadership failures, protecting your mental health, and learning how to leave unhealthy environments without losing yourself in the process.
Sometimes the biggest lesson comes from a complete stranger. This episode is not about charity, it is about grace, forgiveness, and the way so many of us quietly believe we do not deserve kindness, healing, or another chance. Listen in as I discuss self-forgiveness, compassion, and the unexpected conversation that stayed with me long after the rain stopped.
Some jobs are assignments, some are preparation seasons, and some are simply funding the dream God placed in your heart. Listen in as I give my recent experience.
Listening in as I remind you…everyone doesn’t deserve a front-row seat in your life, and protecting your energy will always be your responsibility.
Taking ownership means standing in what you did without excuses, deflection, or turning the pain back on the other person. Listen in as I break down why real apologies don’t come with a “but” and what true accountability looks like in our relationships.
Too many people judge others based on their circumstances instead of recognizing their value. Listen in as I share why I refuse to negotiate anyone’s worth, no matter what they’re going through.
Listen in as I speak to a devoted daughter as she shares the reality of caring for her mother through Alzheimer’s disease, from recognizing the signs to navigating the emotional toll it takes on your own mental health. At its core, it’s a story of patience, resilience, and choosing love every single day.
(Janice's book 'Alzheimer's through a daughter's eyes" can be found on Amazon.
I share how I move with intention, spreading love, positivity, and gratitude in everyday moments, and why the smallest gestures can make the biggest impact. Listen in as I remind you how powerful your presence, your words, and your kindness truly are.
Sometimes, the 'right' advice can quietly pull you away from what has always worked for you. Listen in as I speak on having to find my way back to what works...for me.
Sometimes we lose our way without even realizing it, taking turns that lead us further than we ever intended. This episode is a reminder that even when you feel completely lost, the journey back can bring a level of joy, clarity, and gratitude you never had before. Listen in as I tell about one of the several times I have been lost.
Age doesn't make you mature, accountability does. Grace covers you, but growth changes you. Listen in as I expose one of my biggest issues with me and how I try to handle it.
Sonya and Paula.....This conversation on mentorship offered real insight for both current and future mentors and mentees, grounded in discernment, growth, and purpose. Listen in as we talk through what it truly means to guide, be guided, and build the right connections.
We all go through things, but when every word we speak is negative, we begin to shape our reality around it. Listen in as I share how shifting what we speak can change not only our mindset, but our lives.
Good Friday reminds us that what looks like loss, rejection, and endings can actually be the beginning of something greater, even when life feels at its lowest. Through faith, personal experience, and purpose-driven work with Led by Motivation Outreach, Inc., I share why your hardest moments are not the end of your story… listen in as I share my thoughts.
Sometimes we give too much energy to moments that don't deserve it; allowing small situations to steal our peace. Growth is learning to pause, choose differently and protect who you are instead of reacting to everything. Listen in as I recount what happened to me this morning.
Not every shift in life feels good, but every shift has purpose. Even when you don't understand it in the moment, it's moving you, growing you and positioning you for what's next. Listen in as I explain.
Sometimes what feels like a delay, an inconvenience, or a change in plans may actually be protecting you or redirecting you right on time.
Listen in as I discuss.
Differences make life beautiful—we admire how trees, plants, and animals of every kind live together in harmony, yet as humans we often struggle to accept differences in religion, nationality, or appearance. Listen in as I share my thoughts on why the very things that make us different should be what bring us together.
Pursuing your dreams can be exciting, but it can also become complicated when we expect the people closest to us to carry the same vision and responsibility that we do. Listen in as I share how I feel about this topic.
Often times people don't want to get involved when they notice others in distress; is that you? Listen in as I give a little loving encouragement to help the next person that you see in need.
There are times when people ask general questions about how you are feeling, but really don't pay attention to your response....listen in as I speak of this happening to me recently.
If you are anything like me, you have often brought people into your life, allowing them access to your heart, your family...your home, and were greatly disappointed when they failed you. You put a lot of time and energy into building a 'ship' with them, with no return of care; that is because these people were allowed into your life - by you! Assigned 'ships' are ordained. Listen in as I discuss the difference.
Have you ever stole anything? Picture me asking, 'have you eva' been thief'in? I have. Now, have you ever stole something from someone and didn't care about the outcome? Ready to hurt them over items they worked hard to purchase because you felt more deserving? Me either...let's discuss.
Have you ever met someone for the first time and they instantly don't like you? You walk in a room and eyes roll? Yeah...me too! Listen in as I discuss how we all should handle such people.
I wake up with a song in my head every...single...day! Listen in as I discuss the music that is playing in my head before my feet even touch the floor. Don't judge the singing...lol
I love the fact that I am aging. That means that I have another chance to get it right. Listen in as I speak on people that don't want to age.
Being prepared doesn't mean things will always go in your favor. You may not get that job, end up with the person you are interested in or, be able to save that life. Listen in as I give you a little loving advice.
Trust is a gift. If someone extends it to you, hold it close to you and cherish it. Listen in as I discuss what genuine trust is like.
Sometimes when things don't happen the way we want, when we want, we move on and say that thing is dead, it is no longer an option. Say this with me: My dreams, goals, business, love, life...it isn't dead - it is just dormant. Listen in as I give (mostly me) hope.
Love, appreciation, empathy, support, happiness, affection, good, support, hugs, friendship, prayers, smiles, blessing...give freely.
Sonya
I can't be the only person that notices the things I am slacking in, the errors I make and/or the improvements I need to make before thinking of the good things I am doing....can I? If not, listen in...this is for us. www.ledbymotivationoutreach.com
There are times people say, 'that is just the way I am... deal with it' and you should. There are other times they use those words, and you understand the lack of growth they are showing. How do you know when to accept those words and when to call bullsh*t and tell someone to grow up? Listen in as I discuss.
Were you raised believing in Santa? If so, what were you told? How old were you when you realized the Santa story wasn't quite accurate? Listen in as I share a short story with you all.
Just a few reminders of how to reach me if you need and wishing you all a happy holiday.
This is what I have been on for the last month; loving yourself and showing yourself as much positive energy as you show others. Sometimes we give people we barely know more positive energy then we pour into ourselves; let's do better. Listen in as I drop a little positive energy into you.
Have you ever questioned your worth because of how others treated you? Yeah… me too. Listen in as I express your worth...and how allowing others to minimize it is non-negotiable.
If I wrote down every chaotic thing I faced this week—mentally, emotionally, physically, and in my relationships—and compared it to the moments where I chose peace instead, the difference would be clear. Today, I’m sharing how I finally chose my peace over someone else’s chaos.
Have you had situations in your past that you pray no one ever finds out about? Do you avoid certain people because they know about your skeletons and you don't want to be outed? If this is you, listen to my thoughts on this subject.
I apologize for the sound. It was raining and I am not always self aware. LOL
Have you ever been to a party, or a group gathering and no one spoke to you, or you noticed someone else that was being excluded from all communication?
Have you ever included a lonely person in your guest list for the holidays so they would not be sad and alone?
Listen in as I speak on both of these subjects. It may change who you invite to your Christmas dinner.
Are you hard on yourself? Is it because of others attitudes towards you, or you overthinking things for yourself...or a mix? Whatever it is, me too! Listen in as I speak on this topic and give a little advice for you and me!
Have you ever met someone and liked them from day one, but as time went on they became a totally different person? Yeah, me too, but this isn't about me. Help me explain to another listener why people (that do not have a diagnosis) change their personality.
Conversations with the McQueen's is a podcast/video that include my husband and I having real life adventurous conversations in real time. We aren't cooking, cleaning, playing games, exercising...none of that. Just talking and laughing....a lot! Hope you can find us and listen in. We will be back by November 30th, 2025.
Envy isn't always about what someone else is driving, or how much they make. Sometimes it is as simple as my husband thinking they cook better than me! Listen in as I tell you things that can make me envious of someone else.
I keep hearing about millennials; how they are ruining our country. This is the first conversation of a series; discussions with these millennials. Listen in as I speak with future doctor; Rhode B.
A lady ran a red light today and almost hit me. Listen in as I realize how I messed up.
There are times people ask for prayer, but when their needs are met, they forget about people praying for them. Listen in as I tell you a story about this happening recently.
God will straighten you out even when you don't know that you need straightening!!!! Listen in as I reminisce on such a time.
Throwing stones. There are so many people that judge where others are in their lives. People place judgement on when others are supposed to move past negative things that happened in their lives. Listen in as I give you a real story about others living in glass houses throwing stones.
When you have to tell everyone that you’re a Christian, you may need to start acting like one so that they will believe it. Listen in as I share a story about how I was corrected by the Spirit.
I remember the day I decided to make a personal hygiene change - I know, personal, but listen in as I describe how actions made to create a better me is now a mindset.
Have you ever thought about where you were in life ten years ago and compared it to where you are now? I have, and boy...I'm full grown. Listen in as I share.
There are people who walk through life bitter, angry, negative, and full of hurt. Some even backstab or spread hate—just unhappy every day. Many tell themselves, “Tomorrow, I’ll try to be better.” But what if tomorrow never came? What if today was your last chance?
Join me as I talk about how to stop waiting for “someday” and start becoming a better person—today.
It is great to make a positive impression on others. We have enough negativity effecting our day to day lives, why not celebrate someone that makes you smile and do something good JUST because you know it is something they would do? Listen in as I discuss someone that did something beautiful and had lil' ol' me on her mind when she did it.
I remember a time when kids were very respectful of adults and adult business. Now, I can't tell who is the kid and who is the adult. Will we be able to ever go back to letting kids be kids? Listen in as I discuss my 'village' desires.
It's okay to be wrong; it is how you handle knowing you are wrong that becomes an issue. Listen in as I share a story.
Sometimes we accept things and people the way it is presented. We don't complain, just show happiness to whatever it is that we get. But later, maybe there is something that we originally accepted that is now unacceptable. Maybe it is annoying or, you have grown past it. Whose issue is this? Listen in as I discuss.
Often, we run into people that have a career that doesn't fit them. They hold a license for something that makes them dangerous to their clients. Just because you CAN be a social worker, doesn't mean you should. Follow me as I give a few examples of people that legally were doing what they wanted to, but honestly should have been doing something else.
Have there been times when someone tried to warn you that a business move you are planning to make isn't a good idea? A dream you are following is a waste of time?? Yeah, me too! Listen in as I discuss what the real issue is.
Where is your peace? Do you find your home, your job, or your mate bring you too much drama and chaos? I don't, however, I do find that when I am away from my home and my job, I have a lot of peace. Listen in as I explain.
I was reminiscing on how trustworthy I use to be and how I really didn't know the people that were around me. Have you ever found out things about a person in your life months to years after you met them? Yeah, me too. Listen in as I discuss.
So often, people will ask for things over and over again, but never sew back into those that are blessing them. Do you know anyone like that? Listen in as I discuss me....
While visiting my father's home in Colorado Springs, I really paid attention to the beauty of the state I grew up in. I thought about how living in south Florida compares and then wondered, how the same type of comparison falls into relationships. Listen in as I give a way too detailed account of the beauty of the state I called 'home.'
What type of parent are/were you? Do you understand that quality time is a necessity to raise the kids you had a hand in giving life to? Listen in as I discuss how kids remember how you treated them.
Have you ever wondered why some people - people filled with negativity, evilness and are full of hatred prosper? Yeah, me too! Listen in as I give my thoughts.
Do you go into stores that have horrible customer service? I’m trying to avoid spending my money in places I’m tolerated. Listen in as I discuss.
Has someone ever been rude to you for no reason? They look at you funny, or whisper about you? Yeah, me too. Listen in as I caution people.
Have you ever lost yourself to please someone else? Is it because you thought that is what they wanted? Sometimes, we morph into what we think someone else expects of us and we aren't as happy as we would be if we were just ourselves. Listen in as I discuss this.
Have you ever wanted to do something outside of your regular day-to-day activities, shared that feeling with friends and/or family and expected them to have the same passion you had? Yeah, me too! Listen in as I discuss my passion to help and how others lack for my passion changed my moves.
This podcast is just explaining why I haven't dropped in the last two weeks. I'm not talking about anything profound...just exercising my jaws :-)
We all know the constant complainer; the person that you hate to see coming because you know you are about to lose a bit of your joy. When do you say enough is enough? I had to learn how to close doors to joy stealers. Listen in as I discuss.
We all know someone that has been through something; sometimes WE are the ones that have met a lot of adversity. When do we properly label our emotional and mental baggage as generational curse verses when it is/was just bad parenting? Listen in as I give my opinion on this topic. #LedByMotivationOutreachInc. #LedByMotivationLLC #SonyaMcQueen #SonyaArtis #McQueenFamilyValues
We all have the ability to be negative and wish...hope...pray people would be 'different'. Listen in as I discuss how I feel about people wanting everyone to be a version of themself.
What is more important to you; your bag or your blessing? Listen in as I describe how I differentiate the two and what's most important to me.
We are often harshest on ourselves; we don't like this or that about ourselves. Others needs take precedence over your own in your life.... listen in as I discuss how I'm learning to love me...FIRST.
Have you ever been judged by a person that has never met you or barely knows you? Yeah, me too! Listen in as I speak on a situation.
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Have you ever had a situation that ended you want to revisit? Maybe a relationship? A job you wish you never quit? Listen in as I give my thoughts on 'doubling back' to what you walked away from.
I was watching a YouTube video (HoodieFromTheHood) and he was speaking about giving a homeless alcoholic alcohol. Would you feed someone else's addiction? Listen in as I give my thoughts on this subject.
Sometimes we have no idea of where we're going or who we can trust to get us there. Listen in as I discuss this topic and how I have learned (at times) to trust the process.
There are people in our lives for a reason; I call them 'resources.' In your time of trouble...in your time of need, do you depend on your resources, or do you try to do it all on your own? Listen in as I discuss how and if I utilize my resources.
Have you ever tried to give someone a different direction to go in because you see that they are traveling down the wrong road (metaphorically) or, tried to speak wisdom into them and they close you out? Yeah, me too. Listen in as I discuss how I move forward in those situations.
I think I have a great character....(I THINK I do...), but I KNOW that at times, my actions don't align with my character. How about you? Listen in as I discuss this topic.
How do other young adults see you? Are you a second motherly/fatherly figure or are you someone they try to avoid? Listen in as I discuss.
Do you have people that celebrate your wins? With each win they cheer - all love and no envy...sometimes, it's easy to show that initial love, but the more people we love win, we start to stray away from the cheering and start wondering, when are they going to lose?? Listen in as I discuss my feelings about constant winners and their 'cheerleaders'.
Have you ever had someone contact you and speak negatively about people they are supposed to love? If so, how do you react? Listen in as I discuss how I feel about those type of conversation.
When was the last time you witnessed children outside playing? Laughing and actually speaking to each other, not looking at a phone? Listen in as I speak about what I have noticed lately and how I feel about it.
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Have you ever had someone that is not family copy your words and actions? Listen in as I discuss my 'single white female.'
If you don't want to hear me rambling about a word of the day or, a New Year change, go to the five-minute mark. :-)
Do you understand what friendship means? Do you believe you know how to be a great friend and accept friendships? Listen in as I discuss my thoughts on the subject.
Trees...I see myself and my journey when I see a tree with roots wrapped around it; does that sound crazy or can you second the sentiment? Listen in as I explain the beauty of trees in my eyes.
Whether you know it or not, you judge others:: The way they dress, walk, DRIVE, act…listen in as I realized how truly judgmental I am.
Sometimes people show their real feelings toward you when you have greatness...or sadness effect you. Have you ever noticed a friend change when you get something they don't have? Llisten in as I discuss 'ships' and how all aren't what they seem to be.
Verbally and via sight, we have and hear signs leading us the right or wrong way constantly; are you noticing and paying attention? Listen in as I discuss 'being the light'.
So often, friendships end, family members fall out, all because they didn't have each others back. Listen in as I discuss what a real friend looks like.
Sometimes in life, we are stagnant; we are angry; we let others dictate our moods - where are you going? On the way, who is with you? Listen in as I discuss this peculiar question.
Sometimes to fit in, people will give in to others request or start taking on people's personality traits. Instead of doing that, allow people to follow you in your greatness. Listen in as I discuss.
What do you know and/or believe about Halloween? I had to do a little research myself; listen in as I discuss.
It's never too late to change. Listen in as I discuss people being 'set in their ways'...and those ways are not good.
Sometimes people call us just to vent...to be encouraged or to share a situation hoping for leadership from you; are you that person? Listen in as I discuss your role if you are.
Sometimes, we go through life thinking people see us one way, when they see us as the complete opposite; do you know why? It's because your actions don't match your words. Listen in as I give examples.
Today is my birthday...(If I posted this on time). This isn't a word on a lesson I've learned, but, instead, I want to know how you allow others to celebrate you.
Sometimes, it is the person you least expect to not support you is the one throwing shade your way. Listen in as I give my opinion on this.
Have you ever known someone that has been abused? Have you ever had to deal with such turmoil? Listen in as I discuss different types of abuse and what we may be able to do to help.
Two things are guaranteed: You are born, and you will die. What are you doing with the time between? Listen in as I give a few pointers. :-)
You are important to someone...how important are you to yourself? Listen in as I discuss....
What do you value? What is the importance of others looking at you and complimenting what you have? your car...your clothes....your home? Let's discuss....
On my last episode, I spoke of the negative aspects of social media and how people misuse it. This episode is the complete opposite.
Negativity is all around us. No matter your social status, your family or your work/home community, someone is thinking or speaking negatively. How do you handle it?
I am a planner; there is nothing spontaneous about me! Listen in as I talk about how I'm learning to listen to His instructions...even when they are not in 'my' plans.
Friendships. Listen in as I discuss how my friendships turned from heavy to heavenly. This won’t be for everyone…
Beautification is a process; it brings honor and pride to the person that owns or delivers it. What happens when something that is supposed to be beautiful if not? Listen in as I explain.
Who can take what God has ordained for you? Have you ever witnessed in your life or the life of someone else a person that sees you happy, prosperous and fulfilled and decides they want what you have? Not to seek out their own happiness, but to take from you what God has said is yours? Listen in as I speak about such a time.
We all stumble, make mistakes, say things we don't mean...how do we correct ourselves from continuing these mistakes so that those situations don't become what defines us? Listen in as I share a story.
Have you ever felt led to go somewhere you've never been before, or to reach out to someone that you no longer communicate with and once you do it, you KNOW it was God that led you there? Yeah...me too.
Listen in as I tell you of two experiences I recently had.
I remember telling someone once that I don’t like little girls sticking out their tongues when they dance because it makes me think of female rappers rapping about sex….things (in my opinion) little girls shouldn’t emulate..
Each generation has something going on that the previous generations doesn’t like-no right or wrong, we just have our own opinions.
We are allowed to have opinions about what we deem as good, bad or, what needs to be eliminated, but do we have the right to judge?
Envy- described as an emotion which occurs when a person lacks quality, scale, achievement, or possession, the other, and wishes that the other lacked it. Envy has been an issue since the beginning of time when Cain Killed Able.
Listen in as I tell a quick story about envy.
Change… something we all should do as we mature, but what if you, or someone you know prefers to complain or conform? Listen in…
We sometimes look at someone and think we know all we NEED to know about that person. 9 times out of 10, you are wrong. Let's stop looking at someone and judging them.
This episode is not based on my thoughts; it is based on a question: Do you miss the village mentality? Don't you miss people looking out for each other? I do...
There are some people that no matter what they've been blessed with, it isn't enough: They want bigger, better...more expensive. Then you have people that are grateful for everything they have; food, car, home. One group is satisfied and the other never will be: where do you fall?
Do you find time for some people and never have a moment to spare for others? You never know who God places in your path as a gatekeeper, so be careful of who you dismiss.
Stop putting yourself down or, reminding yourself of all the negative things you have done in the past. Oh…and MENTOR is the word I couldn’t think of 🤣🤣.
Have you ever tried to speak to someone about your feelings? Something they have said or done to wrong you and they turn it around on you? Listen in as I give my thoughts on people like this...
You wouldn't go to a doctor that graduated from plumbing school...credentials are a necessity! However, a real friend needs no credentials.
We say that we love you...until we get upset, then, we hate you. Can you truly love someone unconditionally? Listen in as I give my answer to this question.
Have you ever had a friend that called or visited and they monopolized the entire conversation speaking about themselves? When you finally get the opportunity to speak your words fall on deaf ears, or; the friend/family member that calls to get your advice but speaks over all of your words and really just calls to open their release valve? Yeah, me too. Listen in as I think out loud about relationships I have that go just as written above...
We expect to receive grace when we are going through something and may present ourselves in a way that is unbecoming of whom we are; but how easy is it to give back to a stranger? Listen in as I give you a quick story of what happened in my life over the weekend.
They say, the grass isn't greener on the other side: I say...YES IT IS if you are choosing you.
This is a continuation of my interview with DeAires Peterson. If you did not hear part 1 of, 'The TRUE meaning of resilience and perseverance' do yourself a favor and start there.
Whether you are self-shackled or second party shackled, don't allow others negativity (or your own) to keep you stuck in the past.
If you have never listened to a previous podcast of mine, this is the PERFECT one to start with. Listen in as I converse with De'Aires 'Ray' Peterson about his strength, love of life and resilience...the type of resilience we all should have. Grateful is what I am to have conducted this interview at this point of my life.
This is the second part of my life changing, second-second chance, believing in something bigger than what I know and see life. When a prophet speaks, you MUST listen. I know I promised a picture of the necklace, but I couldn't get one good enough to be accepted by the podcast feed.
*Singing....'Do you know what today is? It's our anniversary, ANNIVERSARYYYYYY.... Well, tomorrow is, but listen in as I share with you my love story and how my husband and I have been tagged the 'perfect couple' from people that know us.
This is for you praying listeners...and the ones that don't pray alike. Prayer WILL fix it every time!
We speak often about our past; what we've been through and how we survived and that is fine, but when we get stuck in the past and can't live today...well, that's a problem.
What drives you? This is a subject that stays on my heart: Love of family and friends NOT love of money.
Grace...pray for it - for someone else. Listen in as I discuss the need for grace...and forgiveness in our lives.
Feel free to email us your thoughts and ideas. Sonyam@ledbymotivation.com or, ledbymotivation07@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you.
Part III: How do you protect the ones you love? Listen in as I discuss the changes I feel we need to make to ensure our future is better than our present.
Feel free to email us your thoughts and ideas. Sonyam@ledbymotivation.com or, ledbymotivation07@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you.
Part II: How do you protect the ones you love? Listen in as I discuss the changes I feel we need to make to ensure our future is better than our present.
Feel free to email us your thoughts and ideas. Sonyam@ledbymotivation.com or, ledbymotivation07@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you.
How do you protect the ones you love? Listen in as I discuss the changes I feel we need to make to ensure our future is better than our present.
Feel free to email us your thoughts and ideas. Sonyam@ledbymotivation.com or, ledbymotivation07@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you.
You are perfectly made...PERFECTLY! With all of your imperfections and shortcomings, you are still perfect. Do you see it? I didn't for years, but now I know what I have to offer. Listen in as I discuss.
Feel free to email us your thoughts and ideas. Sonyam@ledbymotivation.com or, ledbymotivation07@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you.
Stress...aggression...attitude....depression. Sometimes these emotions can be handled by making changes in the way you move. Let's discuss what that looks like.Do you have a comment about this podcast? Send your thoughts to: Sonyam@ledbymotivation.com or, ledbymotivation07@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you.
After a little communication, I thought it was a MUST to have part two of the 'What you won't do for love' conversation.
What would you do for true love? Someone that treats you the way you could and have only dreamed of? Listen as I discuss what three people said they would do for love.
Middle man...the person that stirs the pot or the one that puts the lid on it...which one are you or, do you know?
Negativity, depression, hate, public embarrassment...all at an all time high. We must be purposeful about having, sharing, keeping and showing joy wherever we go. Who knows; we may be able to turn all this negativity around.
Why do we waste our time trying to convince a no-it-all of anything, or someone that doesn't accept/acknowledge direction? I don't know either but listen in as I discuss how I maneuver around the ones that won't keep silent.
We go through life reading and watching others opinions on how life is supposed to be lived; how to have the best marriage, the greatest children, the most abundant quality of life: where do these instructional manuals come from? Listen in as I give my opinion on how we all should live our lives.
If you are an adult, you have been in a personal valley. We sometimes allow others to hold us deep down in that valley, or, worse yet, keep ourselves down, reminiscing about the negative things we have done. You don't have to keep that negative energy going - turn that valley into your greatest victory.
We love to discuss when others are standing in our way. When others are the reason things don't work out favorably in our lives, but what if YOU are the issue? What if you are blocking your own blessings? #Podcast#YourMindYourBodyYourChoice#SonyaArtis#MotivationalMonthly#GodsBlessings#Motivation#MotivationalMoments#BlockedBlessings
Have you had a rough start to your life? Maybe you were a bully, a thief, liar...alcoholic. It doesn't matter what the situation - maybe you were just unpopular. Well, it's never too late to go get your seconds! Listen in so that you understand, it is never too late to start a new.
People sometimes act like they don't know what it's like to hurt...to need help or some type of assistance. They act as though they have always had it together, never had to pray for extra funds...never had to get a payday loan, or borrow from a friend. They act as though they have never been in a valley, crying, hurt or the loss of someone or something. Well, hopefully, that group of people will listen to this podcast.#LedByMotivation#Podcast#SonyaArtis#ledbymotivation07@gmail.com#MotivationalMonthly#YourMindYourBodyYourChoice#LedByMotivationOutreach#Support#Homeless#CommunityGrowth#GivingBack
When things go badly in your life, do you hold on to the negativity and share your feelings of being hurt, forgotten, used or another negative feeling with others? Do you walk around thinking of all the bad things that have happened in your life? If so, this is definitely for you!#Podcast#SonyaArtis#OppositionToOpportunity#YourMindYourBodyYourChoice#MotivationalMonthly#Newsletter#LedByMotivation#LedByMotivationOutreach
Here I go again...I'm speaking to you about what God said you are supposed to do, but hey, someone needs to hear this today! Listen in as I speak about what is for you is for YOU!#SonyaArtis#Podcast#LedByMotivation#MotivationalMonthly#YourMindYourBodyYourChoice
Do you really listen for understanding? We sometimes hear 'yes, yes, yes', but what they said was, 'yeah right, yeah right, yeah right' which means no. Make sure you get a firm understanding from the person you are communicating with before repeating the wrong scenario to a friend. ledbymotivation.comledbymotivation07@gmail.com
This podcast explains how the Lord will use one person to deliver information to another person that may need a gentle reminder or, budge. Sonyam@ledbymotivation.comledbymotivation07@gmail.comwww.ledbymotivation.com
I'm hammering in working in your purpose. There's no way around my point...DO WHAT YOU WERE PURPOSED TO DO!!!!#ledbymotivation.com#ledbymotivation07@gmail.com#sonyam@ledbymotivation.com
I get so busy looking in my rear view that I miss the greatness in the now. Have you ever done that? Listen in as I discuss what prompted this 100th episode of Your Mind, Your Body, Your Choice. 100!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes we judge people based on their actions and words because they don't mirror the way WE would act. Think about it; we are not cut with the same cookie cutter. Show grace and forgiveness when someone is what we deem as rude or, just ignore and walk away. We have different upbringings. We are living different lives in different situations - don't take others actions so personally.
I use to quickly end relationships - mate and friend relationships the same. I was hurt enough in my past to where I never wanted to give anyone else the opportunity to hurt me. Have you ever felt like that? Listen in.
Sometimes people get caught up with the Jones and want to live their lives. They totally forget about their purpose and follow the purpose of others hoping for wealth and popularity. Let's discuss...
We think we know exactly what we want in a mate, so we pray for those things. What happens when you get those attributes, but other personality traits you DIDN'T pray for?
Has anyone ever made you feel as though you HAD to do something you truly didn't want to do? You have the right to say NO, and when you use that firm word: stand on it.
Have you ever done something kind for someone and it went unnoticed? Well, I have and recently, I visually saw someone else do something kind that in MY opinion was not appreciated. Listen in as I understood my way of thinking needed to be changed.
Why is negativity our first emotion sometimes? I don't have the answer, but listen in as I discuss how we can start turning that strong emotion around.
Want to make the devil happy? Keep holding on to that anger, hatred, stress and negativity: he lives for that. Listen in as I discuss how I learned to woosah my stress away.
At one point or another, you will have someone that envys you, dislikes you, or even hates on you. Where do you place that person in your life? I use to discard those people without a second thought, but now...now I place them in the proper place in my life.
We all know someone that puts up with waaaay more than we can ever imagine dealing with. It's like they expect the person they are with to suddenly change for them, but the person is who they are and change is not in the horizon.
There are two reasons people lie: Fear or they are habitual. We have all lied whether, it was on purpose, a white lie, a little lie or a whole lie...a lie is a lie. Let's discuss...
Do you pray to God for direction but then ignore what He is showing/telling you to do because it's really your will you want for Him to bless? Yeah...me too.
At one point, most of us have felt unloved...unwanted and like we are unworthy of companionship whether it be a friendship, or a romantic interest. Listen in as I give my best reasons and examples of how wrong you are if you feel this way.
I received an email from a listener about how to handle family members that have shut her out because of her past mistakes. Listen in as I give my thoughts.
Is fear keeping you from enjoying your moments? We sometimes recount our previous days for hours on end, missing all of the beautiful things we could have done today.
Do you know how to de-escalate a situation? There's a time to stand and fight, but too often, we want to show that we're not scared: having that attitude can bring a lifetime of sorrow to you, or someone you love.
Have you ever had to confront a person or a situation? How about condemn?? When do you do either and when do you know to walk away?
You want to quit your job and excitedly tell your significant other about your plans; instantly, they nix your thoughts and say that they do not support your decision; what do you say or do next? Listen in as I share my thoughts.
Do you know someone who is negative ALL the time? I use to, but eventually, they faded out of my life. It is hard to deal with someone that has nothing positive to say ever; sometimes we allow their negativity to become our way. Do you know when to say ENOUGH!?
Sometimes you go through something painful and life changing at the same time as another person. Just because you are going through at the same time doesn't mean your healing will match. Pain exposes itself differently and individually; it isn't a cookie-cutter experience.
Have you ever saw one of those folded dollars on the ground, get excited, pick it up, just to unfold it and realize it is not money, but is an ad or a request for you to attend a church? How about seeing something sparkling on the ground and bend to pick it up thinking it is a diamond, but it turns out to be glitter? Are you holding on to something that you think is glitter, but it is really a diamond (or vice versa)?
What situations deserve your time and attention and which should you just be silent and move on as if the situation doesn't concern you? How will you know the difference?
Sometimes we mentally kill people off to survive. When is it okay to bring them back into your life?Led by Motivationledbymotivation07@gmail.com
Today, is my day. I decided to let go of everything that has been holding me back from being love.
I was hesitant to post this podcast as I didn't want to offend anyone; but then I thought...how dare I not share someone's TRUTH because the thought of another person being uncomfortable about something we all know exist would make another person uncomfortable.! I personally have never endured racism, but I see it daily on the news. Not only for blacks, but Muslims, Hispanics, Latino's...all races and I pray for the day when it doesn't exist any longer and we all can live together in harmony.
EPISODE SEVEN! Listen in as I speak to one of my favorite people; my forever love...my husband about waiting on God.
So often we speak lovingly of the items we possess; cars, jewelry, clothes....but what happens when we over value things and under value people? I had a hard lesson in this very thing years ago - a lesson I will never forget.
Are you growing mentally or are you stagnate? If you are not growing mentally, spiritually or emotionally, you are cheating yourself of better. Listen in as I speak with one of my favorite people about growth.
As you will see, this episode was supposed to be about the amazing Janelle and her journey through her forever love life with her husband, but midway through the podcast, God had another plan....
A fathers love...
The bond between a father and child can't be broken. Listen to this powerful, love-filled podcast AKA, an ode to my child.
Women are phenomenal! Often, we work, go to school, raise the kids, do the cooking, cleaning and chastising. Listen as I speak to one Superwoman...who happens to be my daughter.
You know, negativity is my favorite subject...joy suckers....turning things around for your good. but, what happens when you don't necessarily want to cut a person off?
Are you truly happy? Are you living each day to the fullest of your ability or are you robotic, just going from day to day trying to keep your head above water?
On March 15th, it will be one year since Your Mind, Your Body, Your Choice was created. I am so proud of myself for actually seeing this through!
This podcast is just a short, blurb of what is to come...please stay tuned and THANK YOU for your spoken, face-to-face and virtual love; it is greatly appreciated.
In my world, people are quick to call each other friends, but know the bare minimum about the person they just claimed friendmanship with (yes, I made up that word). I posted something yesterday that rubbed someone the wrong way...oh well. I can't make everyone happy.
Truth is, I only have a few friends. I have a slew of associates and people I care about. Why does it bother someone when you correct their term of your relationship??
There are people that are mean, negative and seem to find joy in 'telling you about yourself' every chance they get. These people cause us to loose sleep, they bring sadness, anxiety and depression. Why is it, these peoples nastiness seems to overshadow the love other people give?
Have you ever had a moment when you acted out of character and had to pay a price for your misbehavior? Well, I recently did and I promise you, even after my apology, I received exactly what I deserved.
Thoughts of the moments you being in being your last can take you to a place where you question, have you really lived a good faithful life?
Living thier best fake lives, posting pics of food daily, trolling others and making rude comments...these are all parts of the social media life. How do you manage social media? Better yet, how do you view others social media accounts?
After last weeks podcast, a question was asked of me: 'how does a person know when they are being abused and when to leave?'
Listen in as I speak about abuse and how I believe we as a community should handle it. This is for the abused, the abuser and the community.
Do you recognize real friends? Are YOU a real friend? Listen in as I speak about love and lost of friendships.
It's amazing how things that happen to us in our childhood stays with us for decades. Were you picked on, teased or bullied? Were YOU the bully or mean boy/girl at school?
Not only children are bullied and mistreated; adults are too!
How do you feel when people purposely go out of their way to hurt you? Maybe they do it while smiling in your face, or while hiding somewhere in social media land. Any way it goes, it is your reaction to the action that matters.
Why do so many people's happiness depend on what others are saying to them or doing for them? Let's change that.
This holiday season, show kindness, give love, smile freely, reach out to your friends, family and acquaintances. Check in on the elderly and the lonely. Just remember the reason for the season and think about the level of depression so many have during this time.
We all talk about generational curses; how our fathers use to beat us, our moms were alcoholics, our siblings molested us, our uncle was on drugs....how about turning that around to generational love? Let's talk about the love that has followed us through the generations and how to turn that negativity around.
Do you ever feel like you need time alone to think...to pray...to regain your sanity? Listen in as I discuss the first time I realized keeping my sanity required for me to excuse myself from everyone else and go to my own personal island.
Recently, I was really sad and I don't know why. I realize that sometimes, others take your sadness personally....listen in.
We all have good and bad days. Sometimes our bad days seem to be endless; how do you handle those times? Better question, how do you support others that are in a valley??
'Do as I say, not as I do' is a dumb saying. Your kids should emulate you; so what if you are doing all things wrong?
More than ever, I hear races, political affiliations, genders....labeled. It's both sad and improper.
All of us have faked our way through a period of our lives for one reason or another. Sometimes we forget we are faking and start living in the alternate 'fake' life without looking or wanting better
Sometimes, we deal with people that have low or no energy for us. We call them friend or family but they treat us as if they can take us or leave us; how do you deal with that?
Listen in as I discuss my birthday gathering and how simple love can change your life and what you value.
Often times, we make offers that we don't mean and when people come to collect, we get upset, ignore them or have to admit the truth...I was just being kind. Do you mean what you say all the time?
you want to start a new business, do something new, is it a requirement for your spouse/mate to support you? Listen in as I discuss a 'callers' situation.
So many find a high value in expensive cars, jewelry and clothes: what do you find value in?
Breakthrough: A sudden, dramatic, and important discovery or development...you haven't lived until you've had a breakthrough.
We sometimes put up with abuse from those that are supposed to love and protect us. How much are you willing to deal with, and when you hit that threshold, how do you deal with the person and situation?
What happens when you blame all of your negative endings on others? When do you start to make the necessary changes to make your life better? The start for me was when I was labeled, 'unstable'.
Have you ever had a rumor start about you that passed like wildfire? Have you ever joined in gossip??? Well...both are wrong.
Each one of us should be in control of our minds and bodies, so what is really causing your anxiety?
Often times, I see passed over post from people doing positive things that should get hundreds of likes, but only receive a handful. Are you supportive of your friends endeavors, or jealous?
Do you have a hard time forgiving? I do! This discussion covers why I have difficulties forgiving and how I am moving forward.
Sometimes, we are judged or judge others based solely on what we would (or wouldn't) do.
There are times when a question posed to me, makes me feel as if I have a two-hundred pound weight that has been dropped on my shoulders...the heaviness in answering simple questions can and usually does - cause bigger issues.
We have fallen away from the 'village' mentality and our children are suffering. We leave it up to the parents to raise their children as decent, strong individuals, but how can the parent do that when they are broken themselves?
So many people need validation from others before they can live their lives the way they want; No one can be a better you than you.
Sometimes, we have to take drastic steps to release people that mean us no good from our lives forever. That may mean, having a funeral and mourning their death...even though they are still living.
Forgiving, healing and visiting your pain, then helping others that are currently going through what you survived.
Sometimes, we go through life and others feel as though it is their job to remind us of what we used to do or, how we use to be and that’s how they will identify us…it’s annoying!
I couldn't sleep last night...this podcast was greatly on my mind.
I had all intentions on continuing my adoption podcast, but sometimes what you intend and what God intends for you to do doesn't match - and you know He always wins.
Listen in as I describe my personal childhood and how my past molded my anxieties and lack of emotion and affection.
This was my favorite podcast to date!!! The opinions are high on who should be able to adopt and why...what is your belief? Share your thoughts at: Sonya.McQueen@ledbymotivation.com
I received an inbox message (seems as though all of my podcast start this way) about a young man that has always been aware of his adoption, but when he really knew what the word 'adoption' meant....his feelings and thoughts changed. Listen in.
I received an inbox message on Facebook from a parent that mistakenly gave 100% custody to his babies mother. The mother quickly removed him 100% from the child's life, speaking negativity about him to the child. The child is now grown and will not accept the father into his life....listen in.
Covering an inbox message I received from a gentleman expressing how his girlfriend from decades ago abortion is affecting him now.
I'm going back to what started all of this for me.
The idea of this podcast was the idea of the company COO I currently work for. After reading my first book, he thought there should be a platform for people to speak about their adoption, abortion, not wanting to have kids or, being forced to give up a child situations.
Who do you blame for the choices you've made in your life that didn't go the way you expected? My list of the guilty is quite long.
This is my story....