The High Life: Recent Episodes
Alice Kennerson
'The high life' is a podcast about personal and spiritual growth. Join me on my journey of personal growth and self- love. I hope I can provide you with as much advice and tips to help become the best you. Just see how much happier your life will become when you start working on your relationship with yourself! New episode out every Wednesday. Created by Alice Kennerson Instagram: @alicekennersonx @thehighlifepodcastbts Email: alicerubyk@outlook.com Show this podcast your support: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/AliceRuby
In this week's episode, we discuss how much social media influences our thoughts and actions. It is very easy to be influenced by social media as we are constantly consuming it, and we can often find ourselves believing everything we see on the internet. This episode talks about why it is so important to desensitize ourselves to social media and remember that a large majority of it is an opinion and others deflecting their own insecurities onto the internet. Just because someone states something to be true when it comes to friendships or relationships does not mean you should apply it to yourself. It is much more likely that it is a reflection of their own experiences and there is no one rule that will apply to everyone. Live your life the best way you can inform by your own experiences and think carefully about how much of social media you believe to be true.
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In this week's episode we talk about how important it is to understand the differences we have with others. So many confrontations and problems arise when we find someone acting in a way we wouldn't ourselves. It is very easy to misinterpret this as feeling as though they're doing something wrong just because they're not doing it our way. Learning that others being different doesn't necessarily mean they are wrong will help you navigate a lot of your relationships in a much healthier way. The only way we can apply this to our life is by making the effort to understand our own behaviour and why we do the things we do in order to try and understand others. This episode helps to advise how you can go about understanding yourself better.
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In this week's episode we talk about learning how to respond rather than react to a situation. Often we can find ourselves reacting in the moment to a situation and when we do this we can often come to regret the way we have acted based on emotions. Although it is not always possible it will help you so much if you learn how to take the time to process a situation and consider what the best way is to respond. Many arguments escalate and don't lead to a resolution as easily and calmly as they should because we are acting off emotions, when we take the time to respond in a healthy way we will find that problems are solved a lot easier and in a less harmful way. Have a listen to this episode if you'd like some advice with how to do this.
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In today's episode we talk about the way in which our anxiety can often negatively affect the way we view the relationships we have in our life. This episode hopes to help anyone acknowledge that the way they think or feel about certain things may be irrational. Learning to acknowledge when a thought is irrational or is due to our anxiety, can help us to challenge these thoughts and feel better our relationships. This episode also goes through some healthy coping techniques for times when we feel like this. It is very common for our anxiety to try and convince us that people are out to get us or that we can't trust them, but it is important to acknowledge when it is our anxiety causing these thoughts rather than somebody else's actions.
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In today's episode we talk about not being a passive receiver of all the negative things that happen in our lives. People can mistreat us and we can get hurt but unfortunately we are the only person that can resolve these issues for ourselves. Sometimes we may find ourselves in a rut, feeling unmotivated or miserable but yet make no attempt to feel better. Sometimes we have to realise when enough is enough, don't be a victim to your emotions or to the bad things that happen. Life can be cruel and unfair at times but we are the only one responsible for how we deal with it. Make the effort to improve your current situation and be proactive about being happy.
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This week's episode is about learning how to truly value your own opinion of yourself and the decisions you make. We tend to do so much for others or avoid doing things in fear others wont approve. If we spend our lives avoiding scary decisions and taking risks in fear of what other's will say, it is only us inevitably that will suffer. You need to remind yourself who you are making these decisions for and who has to live with the consequences of your actions. And a scary truth we all have to accept is that people will say things, people aren't going to like you and you will be judged but this isn't something that can be avoided. The very least you can do is ensure you're happy with your life.
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In today's episode we talk about motivation and being productive. Motivation tends to fluctuate a lot and so it is important not to rely your productivity solely on how motivated you are. The reality is sometimes you don't have the motivation to do something but you still have to get up and do it. Focus on discipline, better managing your time and becoming okay with the fact that nothing ever goes exactly to plan. If something falls off course or doesn't go exactly to plan don't use that as an excuse to give up altogether. Doing something as best as you can on that day is better than not doing it at all.
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Today's episode marks one year of The High Life Podcast! This episode talks about learning to say no, setting boundaries and learning that we don't need to prove to anyone that we are worthy of their love. This episode is dedicated to my mum who has always taught me about the importance of saying no and who is someone that is very firm in her boundaries. A lot of us tend to avoid saying no in fear of not being liked, yet my mum is so widely liked and loved and doesn't sacrifice her own boundaries in attempt to 'prove herself' to anyone. Listen to this episode if you struggle with being a people pleaser and learn how to be secure in yourself.
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In today's episode we talk about why it is unhealthy to put celebrities, the people we date and friends on a pedestal. We create an idealised version of this person in our head and set unrealistic expectations for them to meet. Doing this often tends to be due to our own insecurities, we see in someone what we don't see in ourselves or we feel as though is 'too good' for us. Putting some on a pedestal is not only unhealthy for you but it is also incredibly unhealthy and unfair on the individual you idolise. Listen to this episode if you need reminding that we are all equal and no person is 'too good, pretty or smart' for you.
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In today's episode we talk about conditional happiness. Something a lot of us tend to do is give ourselves requirements for when we can be and will feel happiness. We spend so much of our lives looking forward to the time when we have the job, the house, the kids and when we have it 'all figured out' but something we have to come to terms with is there will never be a time where we have it 'all figured out'. Problems will continue to present themselves and our lives will continue to change, stop waiting to be happy and feeling as though this isn't possible until everything in your life is sorted because you are inevitably setting yourself up to fail. Stop chasing this feeling and instead embrace the good days and get through the hard ones, you deserve happiness at all times, at all ages. Happiness is not a reward we have to work for to deserve.
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In today's episode I answer some questions/give advice on some dilemmas that some listeners sent in! This episode covers the topics of: casual sex, dealing with anxiety, dating after being single for a long time and paranoia. If you have concerns about any of these topics or are just interested in what I have to say about them, give this episode a listen. If you have any questions or want any advice on anything be sure to send in your questions via Instagram direct message, (Instagram in the bio).
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In this week's episode we talk about practising detachment. Being overly attached to a certain person, thing or even a time in your life can make you feel as though they are your only source of happiness. You should never place one person or one thing at the centre of your being or over depend on them. A fact of life is that things will always change, your circumstances, the relationships you have in your life and even you. Sometimes thing's feel so perfect that we don't want to let go of them but an undeniable truth is that holding on tighter wont stop things from changing. Move with the change in your life and embrace it in order to be truly happy.
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In today's episode we talk about taking accountability, which at times, can be really difficult. It can be hard to admit when we're in the wrong or that we've hurt someone close to us. Our pride often ruins a lot of things and wont allow us to take the time to really listen to someone and admit that we're wrong. Think about what's more important, your pride or your relationships, your need to be right or your own growth. Listen to this episode if you want to learn how to control your reactions and grow from your mistakes. When you realise that there are much worse things in life to be than wrong, you'll grow a lot.
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In today's episode we talk about finding peace. A lot of the time, the reason why we feel upset or anxious is because we aren't accepting a situation we've found ourselves in. A relationship or a person turns out not to meet our expectation and we struggle to accept the truth. We find ourselves upset because something hasn't turned out the way we wanted it to and refuse to accept what's happened so we don't have to deal with it. This is often the reason we find ourselves in relationships that no longer fulfil us and with people that don't deserve us. We hope they'll be better and we wait around in hopes that they will. True peace comes from accepting people and situations for what they are and knowing when to leave when they no longer serve you.
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In today's episode we talk about the importance of setting boundaries and raising your standards. A lot of the time we can be so worried about being a 'nice' person that we can struggle to stick up for ourselves and require more from people. There is nothing noble about being kind to everyone but yourself. If you constantly find yourself in relationships where you feel as though you're always giving more than you're getting back, then you need to have a think about how much you think you deserve. Stay confident in the fact that you deserve all the love you give out in return, no one is more deserving than you. Raise your own standards and don't accept anyone that isn't treating you as good as you treat yourself.
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In this week's episode we talk about how we can improve our confidence. So many of us miss out on so much of our life because we spend so much time beating ourselves up for the way that we look. Life is far too short to miss out on so much good because we feel like we're not up to the 'beauty standard'. If there are things holding you back from enjoying your life, make the change and make the effort to improve the way you feel towards yourself and your confidence. Nothing is more beautiful than a person who looks the way they truly want to and loves themselves for it.
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In today's episode we talk about not allowing ourselves to become so consumed by our emotions. Sometimes we allow one slight inconvenience or a small disturbance ruin our whole day. Allow yourself to feel the initial emotion and then take the time to decide how much of your energy this situation is really worth. We often find ourselves getting so stuck in the right now and how far away from our goals we are, that we tend to forgot about all the goals we have already achieved. It is so important to take a step back at times and think about how proud your younger self would be and how your future self will look back at this time. Don't spend your whole life getting bugged down on so much of the little things and allow yourself to focus on the bigger picture.
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In today's episode we talk about our tendency at times to complain, bitch and be negative. It is completely normal to not always be positive and to not like everyone but when it is more common for you to have something negative to say as opposed to something good, you might be a 'hater.' We can all be a 'hater' sometimes, about certain people and certain things but we have to take accountability and ask ourselves why it is we hate this thing or person so much. What is it about this person that is triggering you to the point that you have to say something hurtful? We have to look within ourselves and see what it is about this person that highlights something we don't like about ourselves.
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In today's episode we talk about the fact that so much of our lives is out of our control, including the timing of when certain things happen. Once we finally let go of all these things we're trying so hard to control we will find ourselves much more at peace. The most important thing to do is become confident in the fact that what you want to happen in your life and all the things that you want to achieve will happen and that it is just a matter of when. Don't let the fact that something hasn't happened yet as a sign that it never will, remain confident that you will receive everything you desire.
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In today's episode we discuss just how special the first time you do anything is. When you try something for the first time it will always top anything else because you go into it blindly, without any expectations. Growing up we find ourselves constantly doing something for the first time but as we grow older we grow comfortable and find ourselves continuously doing the same things that we've grown to love. This is your sign to try that new thing you've been meaning to and meet some new people. You cant go back to any stage in your life and you don't want to find yourself looking back at any time and wishing you did more.
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In today's episode we discuss why you keep finding yourself going back and fourth with someone that deep down you know isn't right for you. When we really care about somebody we find ourselves putting them on a pedestal and it feels as though the only opinion that matters to us is theirs. It can be really tricky when we give someone so much power, over our emotions, the way we see ourselves and our self esteem. Stop searching for validation in someone that is never going to give it you, take back that power.
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In today's episode we discuss the importance of both having discipline and allowing ourselves to enjoy life. It can be very difficult to not do things in excess and that's where the problem lies- people always speak about the dangers of doing things that 'feel good' to an excess, but being disciplined to an excess can be troubling too. You shouldn't be so hard on yourself that you find yourself constantly feeling guilty when you don't follow your plan. Whilst its just as important to not find yourself constantly over indulging in things that feel good now and not so much later. Listen to this episode if you want help in finding that important balance.
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In today's episode we talk about why it's important to not take things so personally. We constantly put ourselves at the centre of so many situations and feel as though peoples' actions are a direct reflection of us and how deserving we are of love. Once we learn that other peoples' actions have everything to do with them and nothing to do with us we will stop getting hurt by other peoples behaviours. Realising that not everything is about you will set you free in so many ways.
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This week's episode is about how to stop settling in life. Often we find ourselves not wanting more from life because we have become comfortable with where we are. We find ourselves in jobs that we hate, relationships that drain us and sometimes we find ourselves in a bad place for so long it almost becomes comforting. The thought of going out and wanting more can be scary, but it is always worth the risk. You should want more from life and always strive for more happiness above all else.
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Today's episode is inspired by the brilliant book 'The power of now' by Eckhart Tolle. In this episode I share my interpretation of some the thoughts shared in this book, I discuss ways in which you can improve your peace of mind and stay present more often. It is important to know that spending so much of your time in constant thought is very draining and can be damaging for both our mental and emotional well-being. Listen to this weeks episode if you want to hear my advice on how not to engage with those negative thoughts and worries and how to come to appreciate the power of now.
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In today's episode we talk about dating and the ways in which dating can affect our self-esteem and the way we view ourselves. However, this is not to say that dating is a negative thing and that we are unable to continue on our self love journey whilst also dating/ being in a relationship. Listen to this episode if you want to hear my tips on how to date in a healthier way and how to maintain your identity and self love whilst still working on your romantic relationship.
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In today's episode we talk about the process of finding yourself and wanting to improve yourself. At times we can want to grow and improve so much that we end up losing ourselves in the process. It can be difficult at times to make the distinction between what makes you you and what is a downfall of your character. Remember to always stay true to yourself, and although you can always be better, don't lose yourself trying to be somebody you're not. You don't need to be more like anyone else, be yourself and improve all that you already have.
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In today's episode we're talking about when it is the right time to let go of something or someone that is harming us. Often we find ourselves unable to let go of something even when it's hurting us because we fear that by letting go, we will lose ourselves in the process. We tend to feel as though relationships and the harmful things that have happened to us define us entirely, but the truth is you have your own identity outside of any relationship or experience. Holding on to something pass it's expiration date will only do more harm than good. Don't hurt yourself in the process of denying what's meant for you and what isn't. Anything you lose only gives space for better things to come.
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In today's episode we are talking about mental health and trying to remove the stigma that surrounds it and also raise awareness. So many experience issues with their mental health and there is not enough support shown both by the system and society as a whole. It is our responsibility to look out for those we love and care about and support those who need our help. And those struggling with their mental health, remember to put yourself first and never allow other peoples' judgements invalidate your feelings. We all deserve to be happy and if you are struggling please seek help and support.
Mental health helplines:
Betterhelp.com
Justanswer.co.uk
Samaratans: 116 123
Papyrus hopelineuk: 08000684141
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In today's episode we talk about re-finding your value. Over time through socialisation, failed friendships and relationships we can often start to doubt ourselves and our self worth. We can start to feel as though we are not deserving of as much good because we haven't been treated the best. This episode discusses how to unlearn this way of thinking and to remember that your value is not dependent on changing things, your value doesn't decrease just because you don't fit the ideal body standard, or because a past relationship failed. This episode highlights the importance of showing ourselves unconditional love.
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In today's episode we talk about how we can often tend to rush through our days and even weeks in order to get to the weekend, a holiday or just something we're excited for. Today's episode highlights the importance of making plans and setting goals, whilst still enjoying the time we have between now and then. Add some more meaning to each day and you'll find yourself enjoying so much more of life. A day doesn't need to be extraordinary in order for it to be good. Also, don't let the pressures of others make you rush through your goals. It is important to have faith that those days will come and to enjoy the now.
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In today's episode we talk about the importance of forgiving yourself for past mistakes and the people we've hurt. When we are trying to improve ourselves and be better, we can often find ourselves riddled with guilt when we think about the mistakes we've made in the past or when we do things now that we swore we wouldn't do again. The truth is, growth has a lot to do with forgiveness, how can we do better when we are too stuck in the past? Focus on improving your present self rather than focusing on how you could have been better in the past. Start showing yourself the same type of forgiveness you show others.
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In today's episode we talk about the importance of really getting to know yourself. Getting to know yourself will help you figure out what it is that you really need out of life in order to be happy, it will help you become more in tuned with your emotions and help you do what's best for you. We discuss why it is so important to get to know yourself, alongside how it is you actually go about doing this. You are the most important person in your life and you should spend more time looking out for you rather than for everybody else. Learning about yourself is one of the key ways to really grow and to give yourself true happiness. Once you know who you are, you can be the one to give yourself everything that you need.
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In today's episode we talk about seeking external validation from others, even those that we don't know nor like. You have to realise that people will dislike you regardless of how much effort you put into appearing to be perfect. It's better to live the life you want to live than live the life you feel you should. It's impossible to be loved by everyone so why aspire to this? Once you finally realise the simple fact that people don't care as much as you think they do, you will set yourself free. The truth is nobody cares if you post that Instagram picture or not, or if you wore that top three weeks ago. Stop doing things for other peoples' approval and start doing them for your own and you'll find true happiness.
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In today's episode we talk about how we can work on being happier for others even if we feel as though they may have something we don't. Comparison is the biggest thief of happiness, we can look at other people's successes and feel as though these dim our own. Learn to stop comparing yourself to others and remember that life isn't a competition or a race and there are no winners. Focus on your own goals and your own timeline instead of allowing other's to confuse you on what it is you want out of life. Your happiness comes first, above anyone else's judgements, whether anyone else thinks your 'behind' or that you're doing life wrong. Stay true to yourself and then you will find true happiness.
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In today's episode we talk about finding true happiness, we have to stop taking life for granted and wishing away our days hoping for the future. We often spend so much time looking forward to a moment, then when the moment comes we tend to not appreciate it fully because we are to preoccupied with whats to come. Learn to appreciate life more and to live in the now. We talk about the power of meditation and the need to actively seek out happiness. Once you start actively seeking out happiness and positivity you'll be surprised by how much goodness comes your way. Stop waiting for the right time to do the things you really want and decide to be happy today.
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In today's episode we talk about the difficulty of being consumed by our looks and trying to learn how to focus on improving our inner self more than our outer appearance. Society's obsession with social media and celebrities can often make us feel like the most important thing to be is pretty. Focus on being kind and having fun more than looking put together and feeling slim. Sometime's we ruin a perfectly good moment by fixating too much on trying to maintain our appearance. Don't let your self love and value depend on the way you look or how much you weigh, learn to have unconditional love for yourself regardless of how pretty you feel each day.
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In today's episode we talk about just how much of an impact our perspective and thoughts have on our life and our happiness. Focusing on the negatives wont bring about any good and it wont make stressful situations any easier. Approach experiences with an open and positive mind and you will find so much more goodness in your everyday life. Don't let the bad things that have happened to you define you, focus on how you can grow from it and what you can learn from it.
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In today's episode we are talking about the difficulty of finding yourself after a break up. When leaving a relationship it can be so hard to try and figure out who you are when you're no longer the other half of something, listen to my advice on finding your own identity again. You have to learn how to stop living for their approval and start living for yourself. Focus on bettering yourself and growing into the person you need yourself to be rather than the person they always wanted you to be.
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In today's episode we talk about the importance of understanding others, sometimes we assume that others think and feel the same way we do and this can be harmful sometimes. Instead of assuming you know exactly what a friend needs from you just ask. We also talk about not trying to control our friends lives and remembering that different doesn't necessarily mean wrong. Let your friends live their lives and be the friend we all deserve. There's a beauty in being truly understood.
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In today's episode we're talking about the importance of forgiving others and letting go of people and things that no longer serve us. Don't allow other people's actions to stunt your growth and effect your day, let go of the hurt that other people have caused you. Instead of obsessing over all the ways they could have been better to you, start focusing on how you can be better for you.
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In today's episode we are talking about just how temporary life is. Life isn't permanent and neither is any relationship that we encounter. Start being more aware of how short lived some moments are and learn to appreciate the people in your life more and make more of your time. Learn to accept the constant change that comes along with life and don't become too attached to the idea of forever. The only time we waste in this life is the time we don't appreciate.
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In today's episode we talk about the importance of self love and the stigma of being single. Listen if you want to hear my advice on staying single and relying on yourself for validation and self confidence, instead of searching for it in somebody else. Give yourself the same amount of time, energy and love you would give a partner and make yourself whole. You can never be alone when you have yourself.
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In today's episode we are talking about just how much of an impact the way we feel about ourselves can affect the way we treat others. We discuss how we often project our own insecurities onto those around us and how, with time, we can work on both ourselves and the relationships we have in our lives. Join me in learning more about ourselves and how to deal with your insecurities in a healthy way, without hurting yourself or others.
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In today's episode we talk about the importance of prioritising yourself. Have a listen to hear my advice on building a better relationship with yourself and why it is so important to spend time alone. Learn to depend on others less for your happiness and be kinder to yourself. The most important relationship we form in this life is the one with ourselves.
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