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Ruchira Darda
Ruchira Darda is an expert on personalities, Blogger, Podcaster, Serial Entrepreneur, Personal Growth Coach,Relationship & Parenting Mentor,Author & Storyteller, Parent of two independent kids
As parents we often aim to provide every possible comfort to our child. We feel that they must get everything their heart desires, but we forget that we are overfeeding them. And then we blame them for being the third generation entrepreneurs who took the business down.
Leave your children wanting more, let them have a burning desire in their belly to do and achieve more. Just like our body, only when we feel hungry does our metabolism kick in.
Life is limited, we all will die after at a certain point of time in life, some earlier than others. We can't keep worrying about death and wondering what could have been done if we had more time in life... Utilize the time you have and make the best out of it.
We only realize the value of our parents once we have children and they think we are wrong.
Of course that happens to all of us, and as daughters we luckily connect with our mothers as soon as we get married.
Of course to talk about how the men in our lives dont value us and more, but most importantly to lean on her for the support we need as women.
Only mothers truly know who we are and who we need to be.
My mother is definetly my pillar of strength and goodness. Keeping me on constant check, constantly motivated and forcing me to rise above a certain level each time.
As children we found many ways to hurt you, with mean letters and spiteful poems and now we will spend our entire life to make sure we treasure you.
A candid chat on how Personality science has impacted my life and why am such a huge fan of this subject.
We always have a choice for which way we will stir our relationship. With our spouse, with the person we want to spend our most beautiful moments we assume we can choose to be angry and upset. Learning to forgive their small mistakes will only let you make every minute spent together memorable.
I used to love the lyrics of this song “where is the time to hate when there is so little time to love”
We are all made up strengths and weaknessness. what according to you is more important?
Being aware of your weakness is far more important than believing in your strengths. in a game of wrestling, your opponent watches out for your weakness. its the weakness that will allow him to score a point on you. being aware yourself about your shortcoming can help you to overcome it and work from a place of strength. i was sharing this with my son that when you are preparing for a debate, work more on your wekanessness than strengths. being aware of where the attack will come from allows you to prepare the defense. we loose debates in life not because we don't know our subject we loose them because we forget to work on our weakness the areas where our knowledge is weak the areas for which you can be looked over by a recruiter.
While you polish your strengths stay alert and work on your weaknessness too.
Sometimes we fail to understand whether our reactions to our the children are coming as a result of their action or as a result of our hurt ego.
While parenting there are no real answers but sit back and analyse if you are judging your child’s action as a reflection on you or of their own accord.
Many times we are trying too hard to teach our children our belief system and religious rituals but while doing that our children think that my parents focus is more on us instead of the ritual.
Children learn best from what they see and if u want your child to inculcate certain practices in their lives or pick up the love for spirituality then you first need to focus yourself.
Moms = Powerhouse
But most often these powerhouses don’t feel like one.
Often battling guilt and self doubt because they chose to step out to pursue their dreams or passions.
I go through it every time I notice i missed a dress code at school or the kids are something wrong when I wasn’t there and aren’t feeling so good.
But you need to swing back to believe in yourself. Planning, communication and connection are the few things that work for me.
How do you handle your mommy guilt?
Feeling, emotions, reactions all stem from our very own needs.
Ask yourself ‘WHY’ thrice to get to the root of why you are feeling a certain way.
Children don't fail. We as parenting fail to back our goals and expectations for our children with our own dedication.
We forget to commit our own sweat and blood to build the skills essential for them to succeed.
Hence while you plan for your kids to be famous scientists or cricketers, don't forget to plan your time, clear steps on how he has to get there.
I remember when I first got married my husband wanted me to dress like my bhabhi, because that’s what he had seen and expected that of me.
It was over time he began to appreciate my individuality but I believed in who I was even then.
We put two different people and ask them become clones of each other when one fails at meeting the expectation she is left with envy, disappointment and disgust. This may not be a third person but maybe one of the sisters in the relationship herself.
Accept each person for their own strengths and highlight them for who they are versus who you expect them to be.
I love how we blame our God for our situation but the choice to give in to the pressures or to stand strong was always in our hands.
It sounds like a daunting task but it isn’t .
Work on your mind, strengthen it with doses of positivity and spirituality.
Work on it everyday and nothing is unachievable.
I hope you have chosen strength.
Do you feel scared to take decisions because they can be wrong?
Do you allow your children they same luxury?
Being wrong is the single biggest tool to getting ti right in the long run. every successful business plan, every successful individual definitely taste failure before they enjoyed the fruits of being correct.
Execution is a matter of perspective and experience.
Failing to understand the people you work with be it at home or at work will do things in a different manner than you expect them to is being unreasoanble.
To get the team to execute your ideas in a particular manner give powerful instructions.
After a meeting or an event, Have you ever got the feeling that you could have said more or added more to it?
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That feeling is a signal that you needed to prepare and practice, basically add a little thought to the task at hand.
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What are your core ideas to make you better prepared for the job at hand?
So many things about ourselves we don't value. we don’t value who we are, we don't value how we feel, and we don't value our own words.
Just keep donating it to different people and then receiving reactions in return for what we said.
Make your Words as valuable as your Gold. Only share it to those who understand, only give that much that can be used to truly understand what you want to say.
It's not necessary that every conversation needs to be lengthy to be clear. In school we did learnt the art of making things precise, use that skill lifelong to make conversation Crisp, Clear and Powerful.
"Your body is your Temple, don't choose to dump garbage in it. Just like in your place of worship you go in your purest form, wear the best clothes, offer the best things.
You are your own place of worship. Respect yourself and don't dumb negative energies in terms of food, thoughts, conversations, environmental influences in yourself.
Finally it boils down to respecting yourself and taking care of the one thing that helps you to lead your life and to achieve your goals.”
These are testing times even for wonder woman. From managing home to her work. We are all battling with thoughts on how to do and how much to do. Listen on for Ruchira Darda's experience during the Lockdown.
Here's an excerpt from my diary. The new situation of our lives came out to be a blessing in disguise for me. Hear on to know more.
Our relationships are a product of our reaction and actions, no matter how much we choose to change somethings about us they always stay. Identify Your Personality answers the fundamental question of 'who am I? why do i react like this? what do i need? and why?' This Program gives life changing answers in such a simple way.
This podcast is an introduction to the concept.