It’s Not All Rainbows: Surviving Abusive LGBTQIA+ Relationships: Recent Episodes
Lindsay Goodman
A safe space for survivors of abuse in queer relationships (or otherwise) Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode I talk about how abusive people can isolate their victims at home but SOMETIMES they encourage victims to leave home. Why?Website: thelindsaygoodman.com--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
No matter what you do or don't do, you WILL be the villain in the abuser's story.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode, I talk about some issues with abuse in the LGBTQ+ community (and in general) and some things I wish we would change as a whole to make our community safer.
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In today's episode, I talk about ways abusive people can use the words I love you as a weapon.
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In this episode, I talk about how when someone is abusing one person at home, they're abusing EVERYONE.
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In this episode I talk about monkey branching and what that can look like.
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In this episode I talk about why abusive people LOOK so happy after your relationship with them ends.
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In this episode, I talk about how some abusive people will tell you that you won't like sex with anyone else. Why do they say this? Is it true?
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In this episode, I talk about what it can look like when your "partner" is always walking in front of you, and why an abusive person might do that.
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In this episode I talk about how we can't really know our abusers because they most likely don't even know who THEY are.
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In this episode I talk about how sometimes, as you continue to heal from abuse, you might even start to miss moments of testament to your healing and why that's a wonderful thing.
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In this episode I talk about some little things you might notice when someone starts dating a potentially abusive person.
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In this episode I talk about several scenarios that might go down on Valentine's Day, or any special day, with an abusive person.
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In this episode I talk about how an abusive person can pretend to be everything you are/have so much in common with you, at least for a short while...
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In this episode I talk about some of the mysterious physical issues I experienced while being abused and how YOUR "mysterious" issues might not be so mysterious.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about a few of the times I attempted to leave my abuser and how eventually I learned (was trained) not to even try to leave. TRIGGER WARNING: physical abuse
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In this episode I talk about how abusive people will use finances (financial abuse) to control you.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode, I talk about how abusive people will use your helplessness (which they will bring out in you) to control you.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode, I talk about how quite often abusive people will tell on themselves. It's very hard to keep up with all the lies they tell, and if you pay attention, they'll give themselves away!Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode, I talk about 100 things I've done since I started recording and sharing this podcast with you! Just kidding, that would take too long, but I talk about a few of the big things! Thank you for being on this journey with me.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
In this episode, I talk about 100 things I've done since I started recording and sharing this podcast with you! Just kidding, that would take too long, but I talk about a few of the big things! Thank you for being on this journey with me.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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Many people tell me they feel like a fool for not recognizing the abuse sooner. In this episode, I talk about why it doesn't make sense for us to feel that way!Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about what it can be like as trauma anniversaries roll around. How does it feel? How does it effect our bodies? How to get through those times? Website: Thelindsaygoodman.con 1:1 coaching/group coaching Calendly.com/Thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
Did you "go crazy" when your ABUSER moved on their next victim? Let's talk about why that might be and what to do about it!Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode I talk about several reasons why it's so important to not rush into another relationship, especially after abuse (I KNOW you don't want to hear this but it's important)!Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode, I talk about two reasons why I DON'T pet the dog in my viral birthday video (here: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8rqpPKS/). Pets are used as pawns in relationship and here I dive into what that can look like for a victim.
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In this episode, I answer your questions about going and staying no contact.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/group coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode I talk about how so many of us confuse the push-pull abuse dynamic with love and why it is NOT love.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I tell a story of a specific experience with triangulation on the day my abuser and I "broke up." I'll talk about what triangulation can look like and why coercive controllers use this tactic. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode I talk about how an abusive person may try to sever the connection between you and your kids and I give several examples of what that can look like. I'll also dive into why they do this insidious abuse tactic.website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: thelindsaygoodman.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about when your abuser seems to be getting better. Are they actually changing? Is the relationship still viable? Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode, I talk about ways we can retrain our brains after abuse and how the brain works when it comes to changing the messages we've been given!
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In this episode, I talk about the experience of healing from having your child used as a pawn to abuse you/having your child abused by proxy and the struggles that come with it.
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1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about mysterious (or not so mysterious) health issues that can come with experiencing intimate partner violence (or abuse from a parent, etc).Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode I talk about what it really means when your abuser suddenly starts offering to be helpful. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode I go over some of the green and red flags to look for when dating when children are involved (but honestly this can apply without children too).
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In this episode I talk about my birthday blueberry video which went viral on Tiktok and Instagram (56m+ views) in 2022. WHY was it so viral? WHY is it so important to talk about covert abuse?
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In this episode I talk about grief. Often we feel (or society makes us feel) like we shouldn't be grieving for someone who has harmed us so terribly. Let's talk about it!Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this week's episode I talk about a not often talked about subject: the nitty gritty of what abuse can look like in an LGBTQ+ relationship.
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In this episode I talk about the survivor tendency to be hesitant to go no contact with our abuser. I'll talk you through some of the considerations and hopefully help get you off the fence and on the road to recovery.
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In this episode I talk about the idea that we have to forgive our abuser in order to heal. Is it required? is there something else that can help instead? Website: thelindsaygoodman.comIG & TT: lindsaygoodmancoaching1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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And this Monday many episode of, it’s not all rainbows I talk about whether or not, we need a diagnosis to leave an abusive person or to be able to heal. Website: Thelindsaygoodman.com
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In this episode I talk about ways abusive people will find little things that keep the two of you "attached." You can't go no contact because you're always still waiting for this or that to be resolved. They don't want it to be resolved for a reason.
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In this episode, I talk about some of the things that helped me go no contact and speed up my own healing journey.
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In this episode I talk about physical abuse and what actually "counts" as physical abuse. There is so much more than we as a society understand as physical abuse.
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1:1 coaching/LGBTQ Support Group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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And this Monday Mini, I talk about your option to shop for the right therapist. You do not have to work with the first person who comes along.
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In this episode, I talk about a horrible but effective abuse tactic known as stonewalling. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode, I talk about the difference between abuse and attachment issues. I definitely confused the two and I want to make sure you don't do the same!
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1:1 coaching/LGBTQ support group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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On this Monday mini episode, I talk about how often abusive people will say things like “I’ll never leave you” and why they say it.
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In this episode, I talk about how whatever is yours can become THEIRS as soon as you're together. They have a strong sense of entitlement. It can be something small like wearing your clothes or it can be big, like your car.
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1:1 coaching/LGBTQ support group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about CPTSD flashbacks and how they can happen any time, anywhere. 1:1 coaching/events: calendly.com/Thelindsaygoodman. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com.
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On today's episode, I talk about post seperation abuse, or narcissistic collapse, which can happen when a victim leaves their abuser. It can be VERY dangerous, so it's important to know that this MAY happen and to take measures to protect yourself.
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1:1 coaching/LGBTQ+ support group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
FREE safety planning: thehotline.org
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In this episode I talk about my escape plan, or lack thereof, and what I would do differently if I could do it over. Website: thelindsaygoodman1:1 coaching/LGBTQ+ support group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodmanFREE Safety Planning tool: thehotline.org --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode, I talk about some of the things that can contribute to power imbalances in abusive relationships, especially those those that are less obvious to society. Power imbalances are an essential tool in abusive relationships.Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In today’s Monday Mini, I talk about how an abusive person can react to YOUR success vs how they expect you to react to their minor achievements. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode, I talk about how often in abusive relationships, survivors lose their ability to make decisions, both big and small.
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In this episode I talk about how abusive people may use your struggles to abuse you. Any struggles (mental/physical/financial) that you came into the relationshiop with or any that pop up during the relationship are fair game.
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Trying out Monday Minis. Today I’m taking about BOUNDARIES. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode I talk about something I call the "mean hoover." I've talked about "nice" hoovering, reverse hoovering, and now this. The yucky, horrible side of the hoovering technique.
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In this episode, I talk about how an abusive person will use a sob story very early on to try to garner your sympathy and get you to prematurely feel a sense of trust and connection with them. LOOK OUT FOR THIS!
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In this episode, I talk about how going on vacation with an abusive person will NOT make things any better. In fact, they will most likely use it as a perfect setting to amp up the abuse.
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In this episode, I talk about how often survivors of abuse wait for the "right moment" to leave their abuser and the pros and cons of doing so. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 coaching/ LGBTQ+ Support Group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode, I talk about how ANY response is an open door to an abusive person. Sometimes it can be tempting to respond "LEAVE ME ALONE" or "I NEVER WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU AGAIN." However, an abusive person will take this as another opportunity. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching/LGBTQ+ Support Group: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about what it looks like when a haelthy or non-abusive person sets a boundary vs when an abusive person sets a "boundary."
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1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
LGBTQ+ support group (one Saturday a month): calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I interview Andrew Campbell, author of Not Without My Pet, Understanding the Relationship Between Victims of Domestic Violence And Their Pets. You can find Andrew at @amcampbell84 on twitter You can find his book Not Without My Pet here: https://www.amazon.com/Not-Without-Pet-Understanding-Relationship/dp/195626700X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=6ZQKKQDJTO76&keywords=not+without+my+pet&qid=1677855810&sprefix=not+without+my+pet%2Caps%2C204&sr=8-1
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1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
Polishing Off The Rainbow LGBTQ+ Support Group (one Saturday a month): calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about an insidious but easy to spot tactic of abuse: the reverse hoover.
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In this episode, I talk about the way trauma bonded survivors often reach out to their abuser for help and support where there is none.
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In this episode I talk about some of the things that my abuser told me I would never be able to do without them that I'm doing just fine since I left!
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1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about the difference in how I talked about an unhappy but not abusive relationship vs the abusive relationship while I was in then. Quite often, abuse victims LOSE THEIR VOICES. Have you experienced this?
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In this episode, I talk about how the first move from your abuser was probably a calculated move on their part rather than a chance encounter.
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In this episode I read examples of hoovering attempts from my own screenshots of emails/texts from my abuser. Learn to spot hoovering when you see it and RUN.
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In this episode, I read a letter I recently found that I had written to my abuser while I was still with them. I talk about gaslighting and trauma bonds and how this letter is a perfect example of both.
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MANY survivors of abuse ask themselves "am I the toxic one?" In this episode I talk about why we so often end up feeling this way.
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In this episode I talk about a few of the breadcrumbs I "tolerated" while I was with my abuser and some of the ways you can tell that was indeed breadcrumbing and not a kind gesture. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com 1:1 coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman--- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode, I talk about a personal experience I had (TW: Physical abuse) with an abusive person who had an uncanny interest in psychology and domestic violence. Website: thelindsaygoodman.com1:1 trauma recovery coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/itsnotallrainbows/support
In this episode, I talk about some of my observations when it comes to abusive people and their "friends."
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The dreaded smear campaign. Many people are held back from leaving their abuser because they fear the smear campaign. In this episode, I talk about when the campaign actually begins, how it looks, and what to do about it.
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1:1 trauma recovery coaching: https://calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I interview Trey De La Torre (@iwaslikeyo_trey) about his experience with abuse in a queer relationship.
Trey's website: https://treydelatorre.podia.com
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In this episode I go into detail about how an abusive person can behave during the holidays.
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In this episode, I talk about a big question survivors face when coming out of an abusive relationship. "Should I share my story?" I dive into some considerations when making this decision, some ways that you may be able to share your experience safely, as well as pros and cons.
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In this episode I talk about some of the feelings I felt early on in my relationship with my abuser. These can be HUGE red flags!
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In this episode I talk about a common occurrence in which abusive people conveniently "forget" they're married or otherwise have a strange story for why they still haven't signed their papers.
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1:1 trauma recovery coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode, I interview Natalia (@_pollypocketprincess) about her experience in an LGBTQ+ abusive relationship.
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In this episode I talk about how I broke the trauma bond with my abuser. I talk about some challenges I faced in the early days and some things that really helped.
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1:1 trauma recovery coaching: calendly.com/thelindsaygoodman
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In this episode I talk about how it feels to be one year no contact! I talk about how I got here and answer some questions.
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In this episode I talk about what a trauma bond is and how you get in one.
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In this episode I tell the story of our first date which for a very long time I told as a romantic tale. In addition, I'll talk about what was really going on with the knowledge I have now as a survivor and a certified trauma recovery coach.
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In this episode I dive into the differences between love bombing and genuine connection. What does love bombing look like? What can you do if someone is love bombing you? What happens after love bombing?
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In this episode I talk about how moving quickly is an abuse tactic and can be a very dangerous approach to a new relationship.
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In this episode, I tell the story about a horrible day that I had that somehow turned into the worst day of my ABUSER'S life. This is a common occurrance in abusive relationships.
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In this episode I talk about the myth that toxic sex is the best sex we will ever have.
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In this episode I talk about the many subtle ways a narcissist will use sex to abuse you.
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In this episode I talk about the kinds of people you'll encounter and the kinds of comments you may receive when you decide to talk about your abuse story.
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In this episode I talk about the long line of people that a narcissist takes off and puts on their "supply shelf" as needed. If you like this and want more from me, you can find me on TikTok and Instagram at thelindsaygoodman or visit my website thelindsaygoodman.com
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In this episode I talk about the awkward, tense time from "let's break up" to no contact (Aug-Oct 2021). If you like this and want more from me, you can find me at thelindsaygoodman on TikTok and Instagram.
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In this episode I detail the day my abuser said "let's break up" and I finally took it seriously. Still, I wasn't free for another two months. Untangling yourself from a narcissist is no small feat! If you like this and want more from me you can find me at thelindsaygoodman on all social media. 1:1 coaching coming soon. DM me to get on the list!
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In this episode I talk about how sleep deprivation can be used to abuse you. It serves to keep you mentally drained, unable to think straight, and thinking something is wrong with YOU. If you want more from me, you can find me at thelindsaygoodman on all social media.
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A friend recently asked me for dating advice and this is what came to mind. If you're after that forest fire kind of feeling, where does that leave you when the fire burns out? If you like this and want more from me, you can find me on TikTok and Instagram at thelindsaygoodman or visit my website thelindsaygoodman.com.
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Leaving an abusive person can be incredibly dangerous. In this episode I talk about leaving and share some stories from other creators when they tried to leave.
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Im this episode I process some of the struggles I have about being queer after about in a queer relationship. I’m curious what you can relate to! If you want more from me you can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on TT and IG or Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I discuss the difference between talking through sexuality and preferences in a loving way versus an invalidating, abusive way. If you want more from me you can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on TT and IG or at Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about how abuse felt quite different for me in a same sex relationship and how it felt harder to understand it for what it was. You can find more from me at Thelindsaygoodman on tiktok and Instagram or visit my website Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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It’s quite common for people to come out liger in life and get swept away by the first time queer person who comes along. The point of this episode is not to instill fear of dating in the LGBTQ+ world, but to help you feel more equipped to have healthy relationships and avoid abusive ones. If you like this and what more you can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on TT and IG or visit my website at Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about some of the things that helped me really put together the pieces of what I was dealing with in my abusive relationship and helped me move toward healing. If you want more from me you can find me on TT and IG at Thelindsaygoodman or visit my website at Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about the toxic mess that was my abuser going out drinking with friends…until I found a way to make it stop. If you want more from me you can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on tiktok and Instagram. You can also visit my website at Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about some of the things my son experienced while I was in an abusive relationship and the ways he was used as a pawn to control me. If you want more from me you can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on tiktok and Instagram or visit my website Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about the differences between love and a trauma bond and how I went about breaking mine. You can find more at thelindsaygoodman on tiktok and Instagram or visit my website Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about the ways in which my abuser worked to isolate me very early in our relationship. If you want more from me you can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on tiktok and Instagram or visit my website Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about the ways in which my abuser would react to me when I was crying. You can find more from me at Thelindsaygoodman on tiktok and Instagram or visit my website at Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about the day my abuser and I finally broke up (although that didn’t mean it was the end). You can find more from me at Thelindsaygoodman on tiktok & Instagram.
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I’m this episode I talk about the time between breaking up with my abuser and actually getting to no contact (about 2 months) and what I experienced during that time.
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In this episode I talk about my experience trying to leave my abuser and what some of their tactics were to keep me around. If you want more from me you can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on tiktok and Instagram.
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In this episode of the NEWLY NAMED PODCAST I talk about my experience with my abuser using my dog to control me. Lots of followers on tiktok and Instagram showed concern for my dog in my birthday video so I wanted to share her story. If you like this and want more, find me on Tiktok and Instagram at @thelindsaygoodman.
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In this episode I talk about flying monkeys. What are they? What do they do? How do you avoid them? Why does a narcissist use them? If you like my content and what more from me you can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on tiktok and Instagram.
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In this episode I talk about reframing my understanding of the start of my relationship with my abuser. They seemed to be my savior, soul mate, perfect match, etc. What was really going on?
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In this episode I talk about how narcissists Tell on themselves and my experience with this in my past relationship. You can find me on TT and IG at thelindsaygoodman.
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TW: DV (graphic descriptions of DV). In this episode I talk about being careful what you say at the start of a relationship. Don’t give an abuser a field guide to how to abuse you. I did! Follow me on IG and TikTok at Thelindsaygoodman or visit my website thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I react to an Instagram reel from Elizabeth Barre Coaching. I share my perspective on some of her points. You can find me at Thelindsaygoodman on IG and TikTok and at my website thelindsaygoodman.com
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In this episode I reflect on my experience with holidays and gift giving while living with a narcissist. If you like this episode and want more you can find me on TikTok and Instagram at thelindsaygoodman and you can visit my website Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about my experience of doing couples therapy with an abuser. If you like this episode and want more from me, you can find me on TikTok and Instagram at thelindsaygoodman or visit my website Thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I go into detail about the lead up to me finally leaving my abuser and what it was like during and after. If you like this episode and want more content from me, find me at Thelindsaygoodman on Instagram and Tiktok or at my website thelindsaygoodman.com.
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In this episode I talk about what breadcrumbing from a narcissist can look like. Find me at thelindsaygoodman on IG & TikTok for more.
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In this episode I’ll talk about my experience with hoovering by a narcissistic partner.
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TW: DV. In this episode I talk about just a few red flags I ignored early on in my relationship with a narcissist.
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In this episode I talk about my experience with devaluation from a narcissistic partner. I cover everything from gaslighting to passive aggression to stonewalling.
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In this episode I talk about how my relationship began. What I thought was a romantic and beautiful creation unfolding was actually love bombing.
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My life took a little turn a few months ago when I decided to leave my toxic relationship. I’m putting a pause on the later bloomer focus and will be sharing my experiences with that. Since the incidence of first queer relationships being super toxic is so high, I hope this is helpful information for you.
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