better an Oops!: Recent Episodes
Sam
better an Oops! is a lifestyle podcast that encourages honesty, self-awareness, and fearless living. Sit down with content creator, journalist, and fitness instructor Sam Sette for raw conversations on the things we don’t usually talk about—navigating your young 20s, mental health, relationships, and so much more. It’s Sam’s hope for you to get uncomfortable and feel more connected and inspired with every episode. Subscribe for a new podcast every other Monday!
In this episode, I share why I’m quitting alcohol. Although I never had a drinking problem, my relationship with alcohol has always been problematic. From health concerns to societal pressure and more, we’ll walk through factors that influence why we drink and dive into questions to help you better understand YOUR relationship with alcohol.
Living in Alignment Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4xCkTPr7CHJhdwBHoYwgYg?si=71ba8731e9334496
Drinking Games by Sarah Levy: https://amzn.to/44sN7mw
Tori DeSimone’s Alcohol Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1vKtyahAJ8l1w5zMBQcJLA?si=31d7dd0f5af14b6f
Andrew Huberman’s Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2ebY3WNejLNbK47emgjd1E?si=9c3449a350b641ed&nd=1
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Living on your own is hard. It’s lonely. It can also be liberating.
In this episode, I share what it’s been like living alone—from the discomfort of finding your independence and making friends in a new city to financial woes and more. Consider this episode a look into the reality of living alone (mostly the messy side) and why I think it’s an experience we all ought to have at some point to really get to know ourselves.
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Why do we overeat? And where do feelings of guilt around food come from? In this episode, we unpack the raw and messy reality of what it's like to struggle with binge eating and real talk on how to break the cycle. Our relationship with food tells us something about our physical and mental state—and when it comes to disordered eating patterns, it’s rarely about the food. From dismissing food rules to seeking to understand ourselves better, I share experiences of my own in hopes to let you know that you CAN move forward and you are not alone <3
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So you’re dissatisfied with your life and feel like you should be happy? Here’s some tough love.
This episode addresses how in trying to get ahead and become the highest version of ourselves, we can easily get lost and forget where we are. After having a mini-breakdown, I wanted to open a dialogue on the uglier side of personal growth as a reminder that it’s TOTALLY OKAY to not have everything figured out. None of us do. And we have to accept that in order to find peace, to be present, to be.
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When it comes to love, is the timing EVER right?
I recently learned that the short answer is yes and no. There’s a difference between being open to a relationship and actually seeking one. This episode is about the latter. We walk through 7 signs you’re not ready for a relationship. This is dating advice that I used myself to reflect and can hopefully help you avoid a head-over-heels mess of your own—although that is, after all, how we learn.
the upside of being single: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7Ia6SdD0UwDabceC3UQjIv?si=a0735a3aae7246e9
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This one is for the girlies who are WAY too hard on themselves.
Self compassion is a practice that we can continuously improve on to tame our inner critic—which during periods of change and uncertainty can be all-encompassing. In this episode, we chat all about what it actually means to practice self compassion and walk through 6 tips that can assist you on your journey.
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What does it mean to have a money mindset? In this episode, I share how moving forced me to confront an unhealthy relationship with money, plus everything I’ve learned thus far in the process. We chat about the similarities between financial anxiety and eating disorders, how limiting beliefs impact our ability to obtain wealth and actionable tips on how to be smart (not obsessive) with your finances and adapt a constructive money mindset.
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WE MADE IT!!! In this episode, I recount the highs and lows and lessons learned while moving into my first apartment (let’s just say it’s been a week). It’s my hope that candidly sharing these move-in struggles will provide some useful tips and essential items to purchase, plus a generous dose of self-deprecating humor.
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This episode is all about moving out and how to prepare for life in a new city all on your own. We chat about how our environment shapes us and the importance of choosing a place that aligns with your life stage, interests, non-negotiables and more. I then share all of my tips for setting yourself for a move—not an apartment guide (although stay tuned!) but advice on how to put yourself in a position physically and mentally so you can make the jump.
This move has been a long time coming for me and I am ECSTATIC to bring you along for the ride.
City Personality Map: https://creativeclass.com/whos-your-city/maps/#Personality_Maps
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In this episode, we chat all about how to reclaim your personal power—that self-assured, inner confidence that liberates your thinking and has the capacity to instigate real change. I open up about my own struggles in this department and how the narrative I’ve been pushing forward isn’t in alignment with who I want to be. We chat about what contributes to this perceived powerlessness, the importance of letting go of the past and other strategies to become the person you set out to be. Podcast IG: https://www.instagram.com/baopodcast (@baopodcast)
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This episode is all about principles: those fundamental truths that we can use to build the foundation of our lives. We’ll walk through how to use your values to inform these guiding statements in an active journaling session. Then, I share my short list of principles to live by as inspiration to create your own.
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If you’re looking to have a healing girl summer, this one’s for you.
In this episode, I share everything I did wrong in my own journey to bring light to the real reasons why your “healing era” isn’t actually “working.” The healing mentality—or rather, aesthetic—often gives the wrong idea of what glowing up is really about. What is even meant by healing? And how do you start a healing journey? We answer these questions and more as I share those habits and tools that continue to guide me through a period of self-transformation.
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This episode is dedicated to anyone going through difficult emotions. There is no need to label this as a period of lowness or hopelessness or even identify with it. We simply are. And we deserve space to feel these things as much as we need it to come out on the other side. Here are some affirming ideas that can help keep you afloat and remind you that you are not alone.
If you or someone you know is experiencing mental health issues, seek help:
To contact the NAMI HelpLine, call 800-950-NAMI (6264).
For crises, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK (88255).
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This week we’re joined with one of my closest friends, Reese Fortier, who feels equally lost as I do despite being in a different season of life. We raise three big questions that tend to make us feel lost in life: What do I do? Who am I with? And where do I live? From there we chat about creative and professional uncertainties, outgrowing friendships, our dating lives, moving to a new city and other areas where it’s so easy to feel LOST (that’s ALL CAPS LOST). Truth is we’re all just figuring things out. Whether you feel stuck or consciously choose to be directionless in an area of your life, this episode is meant to be a reminder that it always works out, doesn’t it?
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What do you do when the person you’re striving to become isn’t aligned with who you are?
This episode is about personal discovery and coming home to ourselves. It’s raw and vulnerable. I share stories from the past where I received praise for who I wasn’t and felt embarrassed for who I really was. We chat about the importance of getting to know ourselves and how sometimes putting on a facade is necessary to figure out who we really are.
Because in order to become the highest version of yourself, you first have to find peace with who you are.
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The first year post-grad is kind of like your freshman year of life: It’s messy, but it’s just the beginning. In this episode, we walk through 10 things I wish someone told me sooner about life after graduating college. From defining success on your own terms to establishing a fitness routine that restores your energy levels, there’s a whole lot to learn. Here’s some advice I picked up along the way.
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Think balanced girl summer, but on your own terms. In this episode, I share how I plan to manifest a summer of stability, ease and growth. We start with big picture intentions and priorities to set the vibe and guide the goals, activities and habits that define make up our everyday. Consider this episode as an inspirational guide—not an instruction manual—to gear up for a summer that serves you in your own way.
The Third Plate by Dan Barber: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18667790-the-third-plate
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There’s never been a better time to be single.
In this episode, we chat about the upside of being single. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or have been riding solo for a while, it’s tempting to spiral into loneliness and despair (been there). But living your best single life requires a mindset shift away from presumed scarcity and towards abundance. Because when you’re single, there’s a lot more energy to go around.
It’s really about forming a foundation of who you are for future relationships, pursuits and, most importantly, yourself.
Related episodes:
a conversion on how to find love in your 20s
my yoga teacher training experience: expectations + lessons learned
i’m not doing enough (and other concerns)
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We hear it from elders all the time: “I wish I traveled more.” “Travel while you’re young,” we’re told. But why now?
In this episode, we walk through five reasons why you should travel in your 20s. Exploring the world adds value to our lives not just in the moment, but also in the long run. And after traveling more in the past year than I ever thought I would in my life, I understand why.
Listen Now! The Post-Grad Trip: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7qQ0nUJ07LowN4BjbAoPra?si=75d5db98315c4e7c
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Are you on the verge of a shift? Time to lean into the discomfort because a new era of you just might be on the horizon.
In this episode, we explore the sticky in-between phase of outgrowing a past version of ourselves.
As a new era of our lives unravels, it’s normal to experience growing pains—feeling directionless, frustrated and jealous to name a few. After unpacking how these emotions show up in our lives, we learn how to recognize these indicators of growth and make room for necessary change.
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In this episode, we chat about how to be your most authentic self and how to live a life that serves you. Living authentically relies on knowing who you are, owning who you are and living according to your values. It can be pretty distressing when these things are out of sorts (been there and still there) which is why we walk through how to define your core values and ways to put them in practice—from being selective with who you surround yourself with to setting boundaries.
This episode is really an exercise in getting to know yourself—another mile marker on the lifelong journey of becoming. I hope it leaves you feeling more grounded and assured in who you are.
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This episode is all about friendship and how to figure out who your people are. In a culture heavily focused on romantic relationships, it’s easy to overlook this area of our lives. But friendship is important. It also takes intentional work, which is why we start our conversation by unpacking why that is. We then walk through how to define your circles and assess your current relationships as a way to center your energy on those that are in it for the long run. With more clarity, it’s natural to outgrow friendships that no longer serve you, so we chat about that as well.
The advice in this episode is based on my own experience after investing a bulk of my energy into this area of my life over the past few months. It helped me immensely, and I hope at least one or two nuggets can resonate with you, too.
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Do you feel like you’re behind in life or not doing enough? In this episode, we get straight to the point and address concerns that many of us have in our 20s related to careers, relationships and more. We talk about how difficult it is to avoid comparison, the equally unsettling and liberating experience of not having a life plan and what it means to find balance (which, by the way, is an illusion).
This episode is different from others, as Sam takes on a big sister tone to assure you that your feelings are valid and you are enough.
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In this episode, we celebrate my 23rd birthday with 23 lessons I learned in the past year.
Now, a lot can happen in a year. We are constantly evolving based on the lessons we extract from both our greatest milestones and the Oops! moments that fall in between. The lessons in this episode cover a range of topics—from career pivots and financial woes to friendships, heartbreak and simply how we approach our lives not just in our 20s but in the long run.
It’s my hope that the nuggets of information I share in this episode help inform the person YOU are becoming as we continue to go on this journey together!
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Yoga is way more than a physical practice. In this episode, I share what it was like to complete my 200-hour yoga teacher training with Y7 Studio—from the expectations I had going in and logistics of the course, to what it was actually like. We walk through the reasons why I signed up in the first place, how my experience as a spin instructor informs my practice and the countless possibilities of what can come next. Spoiler It turns out many people go through YTT with no intention of teaching (say what?) and now I understand why: Its teachings trickle into every aspect of our lives.
Now, don’t worry—we don’t get super “woo-woo” here. But needless to say, there’s a lot I learned over the past eight weeks that I’m excited to share!
If you’re interested in learning more about the program I chose, I couldn’t recommend Y7 enough!
Y7 Studio 200-hour YTT: https://www.y7-studio.com/teacher-training
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Your “flop era” is officially over. It’s time to return to you.
Getting unstuck is really about taking agency of your life. In this episode, we get unstuck together by first understanding why we feel stuck and how to let go by leaning in (because the only way out of a funk is through). I share the four tools I’m using along my own journey to cultivate a sense of revival, as well as how they show up in our everyday lives—from spring cleaning and outgrowing friendships to the power of novelty and accountability. Read to quit passively going through the motions instead of being an active participant in your life? Same. So let’s get unstuck together.
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Moving back home after college goes against the narrative we’re fed about life in our 20s, but it’s more common than you think. It might also be the gift you didn’t know you needed—I know it was for me.
In this episode, we talk all about what it’s like to live with your parents in your 20s. From saving money and adult child syndrome, we get deep on topics like loneliness, feeling stuck and emotional healing. At the core of this episode is a lesson for everyone on how to stay in your own lane. Because even when things don't turn out like you expected them to, there’s a way to embrace it.
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We give our bodies way too much power over our personal worth. In this episode, we chat about the tendencies, fears and beliefs we have around body image—and how to change them. This conversation is intentionally juicy and raw—from toxic behaviors around food and exercise to a word from the president of the itty bitty committee (yours truly), we create space for these thoughts.
Why? To find acceptance and heal our relationship with a place that we can always call home.
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The hard truth: you can’t expect to find a partner until you learn how to cultivate love in other areas of your life—including yourself. In this episode, we get intimate and talk about how to manifest love in your 20s. Because underneath the hard truth is a comforting reality: you are absolutely capable of attracting the love you’ve been longing for. It just might look different than you thought it would…
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Is sad girl winter hitting anyone else extra hard this year? In this episode, we talk about loneliness and how feeling lonely can shift everything out of balance—especially our sense of self-worth. But there’s a difference between feeling lonely and being alone. Only by learning how to enjoy the latter can we receive the love and connection we’re looking for. Because there’s only one thing you have for a lifetime: You.
I’m right there with you going through these feelings so it’s my hope that this episode brings words to feelings that are otherwise really hard to describe and rationalize. <3
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If you’re going to be sad, you might as well be sad in Paris…or something like that.
Breakups are hard. Transitions are hard. Instead of giving ourselves time to process it all, we flee. But sometimes walking away is just what we need to realize that what we’re looking for has been there the whole time. In this episode, I share the uncomfortable story behind my solo trip to Paris and what I learned in the aftermath.
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It all started at 4 in the morning with a one-way ticket to Milan…
Consider this a first-timer's guide to planning the trip of your dreams. In this episode, I finally share how I pulled off a month-long trip in Europe as a broke college student. We walk through the planning process, including budget hacks and travel tips to craft the perfect itinerary. Throughout, I share stories from my own experience both solo and with others, as well as a list of things I wish I knew before taking off.
Need to get out of your comfort zone? Time to book the trip.
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Spoiler: it’s not by doing the most.
There’s a lot of pressure to make the most of this “defining decade.” It can quickly make us wonder and stress over the question: Am I missing out on my formative years?
Let out a sigh of relief because in this episode, we have a conversation about how to actually make the most of your 20s by staying in your lane and leaving space for what’s to come. Instead of chasing what these years should look like, it’s time to start living in a way that makes sense for each of us in whatever era we’re in right here, right now.
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If your health and fitness journey revolves around dieting, maybe it’s time to revisit the drawing board.
In this episode, we talk diet culture and how our societal attitudes around food may be depriving us of freedom. I open up about how these misguided beliefs fueled my eating disorder, as well as how my relationship with food continues to evolve over time.
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Cue 2023: fresh start and new goals. But in trying to get ahead, we can easily forget where we are. In this episode, we take a step back and talk about the ‘in-between’ seasons that often get overlooked. I share difficult realizations from my New Year’s reflection process and how they inspired a need for change. Plus, I reveal how to lay a foundation to become the person you want to be this year. (Hint: it’s my third word of the year…)
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A lot can change in a year…
2022 was a year of letting go. In this episode, I recount the experiences that made this year transformative, as well as the messiest “Oops” moments that inspired the very meaning behind this podcast. Then, we walk through the three New Year’s rituals I practice to manifest a fulfilling year—an alternative to resolutions that makes personal growth a habit as much as a state of being. I can't wait to see what the next year has in store for us!
Bring it on, 2023.
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Navigating the holiday season is HARD. In between all of the chaos, it can be difficult to put yourself first. In this episode, we walk through a list of tips to help you prioritize self-care during the holidays—from nourishing your body and addressing food guilt, to knowing when to lean into the discomfort of broken routines versus when to say no. It’s my hope for you to have an honest holiday and use this season as momentum to feast on your life all year round.
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Hello and welcome! In this first episode, I share snippets of my story to help us get to know each other and establish a casual, open dialogue for episodes to come. We walk through my experiences as a content creator on Instagram, teaching spin in college, going against my life plan, and more. For what purpose? To connect and have fun along this crazy journey together.
I am so excited to see where this (both the podcast and life) goes—thanks for listening!
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