real talk tuesday: Recent Episodes
sierra scott
real talk tuesday is a podcast normalizing messy and candid conversations related to self-growth, self-love & navigating life in your 20's. hosted by sierra scott, a certified life coach & ex-vangelical, this podcast aims to cut through the surface levelness found within much of the self-help industry & normalize a more human, messy & authentic way toward growth. this podcast is a genuine deep dive into her journey of self-discovery & is intended to serve as a reminder that no matter where you find yourself in life; you are not alone.
in today's episode we are chatting all about a theme i find that has come up a lot in my 1:1 coaching sessions lately and that theme is the topic of self-responsibility. we talk about the importance of knowing what is within your control vs. not, the importance of allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable in the pursuit of growth, taking messy action and so much more.
so whether you find yourself subconsciously blaming a million and one things or people for where you are at in life or you're just ready to make a shift, then this is the episode for you to help you go from complacency to self-ownership.
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in today’s podcast episode we are discussing the fear of showing up & allowing your work to be fully seen. we chat about the many ways that creatives become their biggest block & some tangible practices & mindset shifts that can help you move from a place of perfectionism into security. if you find yourself continuously questioning your capabilities & awaiting to start out of fear of failing, then this episode is for you. we talk about the importance of taking messy action, how virality is overrated, the value of creating imperfect art as well as the importance of cultivating the security within yourself to be seen for all of it; not just the good parts.
there is no better time to start than now & this episode is here to get you out of a place of self-sabotage and into creative expression.
are you afraid of failure or just have afraid of being fully seen?
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in today's episode we are chatting all about some of the most commonly taught things i hear in the world of online self-help & my pushback toward it all. we talk about toxic positivity, the idea that you attract what you are & why it is that i intentionally steer away from manifesto lingo in my own personal work and marketing. we also chat about the importance of critical thinking as it relates to the content we consume & why it is so important to do so.
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in today's episode i'm getting reflective on how i've changed over the last handful of years & how that has affected the way in which i've shared content online. i also share a few short snippets of my old evangelical posts back when my content centered around that as well as fill you guys in on where i see the continuation of this podcast going.
important announcement!! during the month of august, i am stepping away from publishing new episodes to the podcast. this momentary step away is a chance for me to get ahead of planning process for these shows, to start implementing some new equipment (yay for even better quality) & overall ensure that i am giving the topics that we will be talking about & the conversations we will be having the value and quality in which they deserve.
you can expect me back here on tuesday, september 4th. tune into the episode to hear some hints as to what you can expect when i return!
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in today's episode of the real talk tuesday podcast, we are talking about the fact that the change that it is you are seeking is found on the other side of your comfort zone. as you listen in on today's episode consider,
- do you find yourself wanting to take action but struggling & remaining stuck?
- do you have something in your life that you want to pursue but are struggling with the motivation to do it?
- do you find yourself freezing up when it's time to make a big decision out of fear of making the wrong one?
- do you find yourself in the never ending loop of analyzing all possible outcomes only to never commit to one singular decision?
if you answered, "yes" to any of these questions then this episode is for you.
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time stamps:
0:00-1:25: podcast intro
1:30: episode introduction & context
8:00: listen to your body
11:35: how i'm being challenged in this right now & beginning 1:1 coaching
15:40: getting out of your comfort zone, why indecision is the worst place you can be, fear of making the, "wrong" decision, questions for reflection, when self-love isn't fun or pretty, the power of incremental change & self-ownership
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in today's episode we are chatting about the headline making documentary on amazon prime called, "happy shiny people" which showcases the life of the Duggar family who are known for their hit TLC reality show, "19 (etc) kids & counting" as well as brings to light Bill Gothard, the institute of basic life principles and the influence they both have had over generations of people who are wanting to live for God.
this isn't going to be the same kind of commentary you've potentially listened to on this documentary. in today's show we are going to be connecting the dots and showing the ways in which IBLP (institute of basic life principles) & evangelicalism aren't as different as some would think. whether it be purity culture, abuse of power or even some of the ways in which we've learned to look at the world; you may find in today's episode that the modern evangelical church has a lot more common with IBLP than many would like to take account for.
the purpose of today's episode is to expand the conversation; whether you are within the church or out of it so that we can make any and all spaces a safer place for all people to exist.
this episode includes a feature from one of our very own listeners who shares her own personal journey of growing up primarily in the SBC (southern baptist) as well as other independent fundamentalist bible churches. she shares her experience of how growing up in purity culture impacted her, whether it be through purity ring ceremonies, the books she read or even her experience of slowly recognizing the relationship she was once in practicing for marriage was actually toxic and not healthy.
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time stamps:
0:00: introduction & what you can expect in today's episode
4:57: what nobody's talking about when it comes to the commentary on the documentary
9:27: what is IBLP, who is Bill Gothard, the Duggar family & why is all of this coming to light right now?
12:45: theme one: separation from the world as means of pursing holiness & where it can be dangerous
25:33: theme two: purity culture & why it's problematic trigger warning: mentions of SA
38:48: lauren's story of purity culture and toxic relationships
41:00 - theme three: hierarchy & abuse of power
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in today's episode, we are chatting all about the messy process of navigating friendships and relationships in your 20's and 30's. whether it be the difficulty and nuances found in meeting new people, outgrowing friendships or relationships, or relational breakups of any kind, we are talking all about it today. there's a lot to this topic that i don't feel like i heard talked about a lot. over the last handful of years i have navigated so many transitions in regards to relationships on all levels. for those of us who resonate with deconstructing our evangelical faith and potentially leaving the church, friendships and relationships can start to feel really complicated really quick. today's episode is here to simplify it and help provide you some clarity and peace as you unpack the relationships or friendships in your own life.
some topics covered in today's episode include why the relationship you have with yourself is the foundation to any and every healthy and thriving relationship, ways to know if a friendship or relationship is no longer serving you, some questions that will help lead you back to your own experience with a sense of clarity as well as answering some of the questions and themes that came up when i mentioned the making of this podcast on my socials.
here's the relational check in we all need from time to time.
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in today's episode we are talking all about getting out of a rut and trust me, this episode is the kick in the butt i wish i'd had at numerous points within my own life, even recently. we talk about the importance of getting really curious with why it is we feel stuck, acknowledging our own self-imposed limitations and some of the perspective shifts that have really helped me shift from a place of inaction and overwhelm to a place of embracing self-responsibility.
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in today's episode we are chatting all about deconstruction, what it is, the way in which fear and shame have infiltrated our understanding of that term as well as some common misconceptions as it relates such. in today's conversation, i share my thoughts on this topic from both my personal experience of deconstructing my evangelical christian faith i once clung to but also through having talked to sixty (plus) of you all on your personal journey's of deconstruction.
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time stamps:
0:00: introduction + episode overview
8:42: what is deconstruction? apologetics vs. deconstruction
16:19: misconception one: "you're deconstructing because it's easier"
24:45: why (many) people deconstruct
30:10: misconception two: your deconstruction is an emotional response to church hurt
39:40: misconception three: you're deconstructing because you knew religion and not relationship
57:13: misconception four: everyone who deconstructs leaves christianity
audio references:
https://youtu.be/2b01_TDSL5g
what is deconstruction? (WWUTT)
https://youtu.be/X_r8IMU647g
the depth of the gospel sermon (matt chandler)
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2CM1GOUdOzxi7OcPD4bgnd?si=gg_g7L6DTp2xaGQYCmpapw
are they your leader or dictator? (podcast: the basement by tim ross)
https://youtu.be/iLT8XwBcF1M
the problem with christian deconstruction
https://youtube.com/shorts/G0_HjVy83Rk?feature=share
deconstruction commentary by mike winger
on today's episode we are chatting all about hustle culture, our society's obsession with constant productivity and the glamorization of workaholism. if you've been following me on social media as of recently you will know that i have felt beyond burnt out these last few weeks + it's got me reflecting a lot about my relationship to both work and productivity. we chat about what hustle culture is, what differentiates toxic productivity from mere passion + hard work, the ways in which our obsession with productivity is negatively impacting our mental health + what we can do about it.
we also get a bit vulnerable as i share some new inner revelations i've had in my personal life as of late which speak to some of the ways my experience with evangelicalism + the pain i experienced when leaving it has influenced my bend towards workaholism.
so if you find yourself feeling exhausted by life and need that extra bit of encouragement that it's okay to take a break, then this episode is going to be for you.
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time stamps:
quick catch up + episode topic introduction: 0:00-7:40
what is hustle culture + how it shows up in our everyday: 7:40-10:42
social media's role + equating value with busyness: 10:42-13:22
my experience with it + how my experience with evangelicalism played a role: 13:22-20:01
toxic productivity + it's effect on mental health: 20:10-28:10
the healing path + choosing something different: 28:10-39:30
in today's episode we are having a casual and candid conversation on the everyday realities of navigating life in your twenties. we chat about the grief that comes with not being where you once thought you would be, struggling with imposter syndrome, social media minimizing us all to two dimensional objects and so much more.
this week is a bit of a mind dump as life this month is kinda crazy! colby & i are in the middle of moving, i'm in the middle of a job transition and intentionally trying to not get burned out by life. so let's talk about all that's on my mind cause i know i'm not the only one feeling these things.
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today we are chatting about all the things i feel like we don't talk about when we talk about, "self-love". it's another candid episode where i address some of the problematic ways that both self-care and self-love have been marketed as well as talk about recognizing the limitations of self-love and self-care as a means of cultivating a deeper sense of liberation. is it true that self-love is the potion that'll save us from our problems? has self-care become another five steps for us to hustle for our wholeness?
what if we learned to talk about self-love and self-care in a different way; a way that allowed more room for our humanness rather than made us believe our humanness was the very thing in which we needed to be saved from?
i also share from you guys the listeners some of the biggest misconceptions you've found as it relates to self-love.
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in today's episode we are chatting all about fixing vs, healing oneself and understanding the difference. whether it be from condensing healing into a mere five steps or boxing it into a one size fits all approach, there's a lot of ways in which self-help can lead us toward believing that healing is all about cultivating the perfect morning routine, drinking green juice or attending a weekly yoga class. yet, what happens when those things too fall short + we are left at one point or another feeling just as broken as before? is the problem us or is the problem the five step system in which the journey of self-growth was marketed to us as? join in as we also dive into some of the correlations between toxic self-help + religious fundamentalism. it's an episode you don't want to miss!
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in today's episode we are chatting all about the aftermath of my deconstruction journey + where i am today with it all. if you haven't listened to last weeks episode, definitely check it out as today's topic will be building upon the story of my deconstruction journey as shared in the previous episode. as mentioned last week, the aftermath of deconstruction for me was in some ways more difficult than the deconstruction itself. we're going to talk all about the things so many of us lose as a result of deconstruction, navigating friendships + relationships outside of an evangelical lens + some of the nuggets of wisdom that have helped me piece my life together since then.
woven throughout today's episode, you will notice a couple of voice memos from you guys the listeners who have agreed to share bits of your journey of religious deconstruction. featuring you guys in this way on the podcast is something i'm really excited to explore as i hope to help give each of you who listen a platform to share parts of your story if you so choose. thank you to those who participated in today's podcast episode!
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time stamps:
intro: 0:00
my journey: 6:05
today is the most vulnerable episode yet because we are chatting all about my personal journey of religious deconstruction. we talk about my upbringing, the time in my life which led me to seek out something beyond myself, my deep & unexpected dive into evangelicalism as a nineteen year old girl, the five year journey in which that took me on as well as how & why i eventually left it.
along with sharing my journey i also provide some spontaneous commentary on the insanity of church camps, "altar calls", living life continuously with a "battle" mindset, and how a buzzfeed video made me cry out of fear i was no longer a, "true" christian.
the purpose of today's episode is not to sway you any which way; the purpose of today's episode is to give a real and vulnerable look into my life & the things that have made me who i am today, to build genuine connections with each of you as well as to provide some context as to why i do the work i do. as with any of the episodes i create, take what resonates & leave the rest.
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time stamps:
0:00 - intro
4:00 - defining, "deconstruction", what i was taught it was vs. what i've learned it is
9:13 - deconstruction vs. apologetics: what's the difference?
11:17 - my story
in today's episode we are chatting all about letting go of the idea that it is our job or responsibility to change, fix, heal or save those around us. we talk about how love that is tied with the motive to change the individual receiving it will always be manipulative in nature + why holding unto relationships or friendships out of potential is not serving to them or us.
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in today's episode we chat about how the biggest thing that is holding you back is not actually something or someone out there but rather it's you. we talk about what it means + what it looks like, practically speaking, to move through self-sabotage, move through that which we are quick to label as, "triggers" and how to take action in creating a life that brings us a sense of purpose and joy. if you've found yourself feeling frustrated by life, stuck, unmotivated or like your life hasn't quite turned out in the way you once envisioned, then this podcast episode is the loving kick in the ass that you need.
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in today's episode we chat about what it means to clean out your life + how you don't need a new year to experience a new you. we chat about three main areas that i have decided to recently reset, how i've done it + why it may be time for you to do the same.
if you're ready to clean out your relationships, your physical space, your mindset, and even your phone, then this episode is for you.
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on todays episode we are chatting all about topics related to overwhelm, not knowing your, "purpose" navigating life that maybe hasn't turned out quite according to plan, and the chaos that is to be experienced in your twenties. we chat about not only the way societal expectations have led us toward anxiety but also the way that social media influencer culture and movies have given us unrealistic expectations. it's a conversation all about what it can look like to have a quarter life crisis + how you can move through it.
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- 0:00: intro
- 1:09: how are you really doing?
- 1:50: the importance of acknowledging how we actually feel vs. what we think we should feel
- 3:10: the importance self curiosity + self-awareness
- 4:20: how i’m really doing
- 9:35: your capacity & the way in which you extend your capacity is meant to change; it’s not meant to stay the same.
- 12:50: my inner dialogue + struggles in prioritizing space away from social media rather than posting content
- 14:34: is that my inner critic or my inner wisdom? + how do i discern between the two?
- 16:45: your indecisiveness is robbing you of growth + here’s what to do about it
- 21:10: what is self-trust really + here’s some practical steps i took toward building it
- 26:35: your life is not meant to be a constant project + if you don’t know what your next steps are, it’s okay. i don’t either.
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today we are chatting about some of my struggles as it relates to self-help. we talk about how consumption of self growth related content & doing the work are two different things, some correlations i've discovered between toxic self-help & evangelicalism, and how becoming aware of our different capacities, limitations & needs will always liberate us; not bind us.
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an introductory chat where we talk moving through self-sabotage despite discomfort, struggling with social media, craving authenticity & some of my intentions for the new year.