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Keanna
Discussing real life topics and using my life experiences to voice my unique opinions on society. I will even touch base on some real sensitive topics as well. Need an opinion on something going on in your life you’ve found the right podcast. Some topics will get deep so get comfortable while you’re listening and even grab a cup of tea and some snacks. I hope my opinions and advice on my life experiences can help someone or even a group of people. As long as I know I’ve changed at least someone’s outlook on life I know my messages are making an impact on lives.
Adulting is a challenge in this episode I will be discussing that and my recent job experiences including the one I just recently had.
Discrimination is the worst experience someone can go through in a workplace. It can take a toll on our mental health, wanting to be at work, and it can definitely affect our pockets. As a person of colour you never get the benefit of the doubt to express your concerns, get your side of story heard, or much less feel included when it comes to equal rights and opportunities in the workplace. If you’re compliant, they get upset, you’re defensive they get upset. You know you are already set up for failure but you try anyways because you want to win. But you know in reality you will never win regardless of how good you’re.
Heyyyy guys I’m just here updating you guys with what’s going on in my life and talking about a few things.
It’s so important that as a human being living on this earth full of so many secrets, you always take time and spend it doing research. These are questions that need answers honestly. If the first human was basically a person of colour, what does that mean for the physicality of Jesus? When doing my own research the answers I saw had me astounded, I was very surprised at what I saw on my screen when looked up my questions. What I saw on my screen had me rethinking my whole entire existence. I honestly don’t know what to think anymore. It’s like you ask yourself, who have you been worshiping this whole time? Who has your ancestors been worshiping this whole time? Do you even know the religion you should be worshiping exclusively? I put all my questions together like a puzzle and the pieces all connected because it made a lot of sense. They say if you don’t have haters, that means you ain’t poppin. So what does mean for the black community? How are human beings so evil to even paint such a narrative like that and brain wash other people for centuries?
Taking pictures today is completely different from taking pictures now. You used to take one picture back then and it was fine, you were more confident with yourself and obviously had more self love, and lastly you had nobody judging you. You were just yourself on social media and society wasn’t pressuring you to be someone you’re not. Now a days you take a picture and you have to take at least ten more because you need to find a perfect one that is ‘Instagram worthy’. Honestly social media was never like this either. People would see a post and just like and comment or they would scroll past, nobody would leave rude comments or say rude things about peoples posts because nobody never cared about validation from other people. Nor tried to put on a facade for a bunch of people that probably don’t like them on social media. As a society we have become such perfectionist when it comes to social media to a point where it’s ruining our younger generation’s mindsets and how they view themselves.
School is a good teacher for some but for majority of people it isn’t. Schoo doesn’t really prepare you for the real world it just prepares you for failure which all the time but majority of the time. So many of us are going through things at home, mentally, physically, emotionally, even financially with family or ourselves and we still have to get up and go to school like every thing is ok. School doesn’t teach you how to love your self, much less love other people. School doesn’t teach you the basics of life. Like for example how to buy a house, how to build credit, how to maintain an apartment, how to maintain a car, and how to take care of ourselves and our families. School teaches the bare minimum when it comes to life. So many people go to college/ university trying to attain a degree/ certification but can’t even guarantee we will get the job/ results we want. Continue going to school but never forget to be your authentic self and embrace your individuality. As soon as yo I enter high school you completely forget about who you are because you’re so used to being controlled or being told what to do.
Life is definitely worth living. Not every one will agree. Some people will say it is and some people will say it isn’t. The people who are saying it isn’t probably aren’t where they want to be in their lives. They also just aren’t happy in general. Life is about experiencing, learning, and growing. Life isn’t always going to be easy so if you aren’t where you want to be or you’re going through something mentally, emotionally, financially. Don’t be scared to talk to the creator. Or fix your situation on your own. Make the best out of your life even if it’s not the best. Life isn’t only worth living if you have monetary gains. It worth living depending on how happy you’re with your self and the people around you. Also if you’re happy with the decisions you’ve made and the people you hang around with.
No one truly knows their authentic selfs because our souls are trapped in a body that doesn’t even belong to us. When we die our body’s become decomposed of and our souls travel somewhere else. We spend most of our lives getting to know other people and getting to know them deeply but never ourselves. We are so used to being on some one else’s program and schedule that we don’t even take the time to understand ourselves deeply. So many of us have problems in life because we are to busy trying to be like every one else and trying to fit in. Instead of being our authentic selves, we would rather be someone we are not. We go through high school not even knowing what feeds our souls and what makes us happy and then when we leave high school some of us are so lost because of all that time wasted. So many of us spend our entire lives just living and not enjoying. You only have one life to live, you should always try to make the best of our your situation. If you’re not where you want to be in life, it’s time for deep self reflection.
The human tongue is the very first powerful organ than second is the human brain. We should always be careful of what we wish for with our tongues because once we get it. We start to realize it’s not what we had intended for our selves or it’s not what we thought we needed in the first place. This relates a lot to relationships. We see someone we’re interested in and we say “I want that person” we get the person, we’re finally having conversation with that person and building a connection with that person and after a while we realize the person isn’t what we expected. We as human beings don’t realize the things we say to someone can affect their mental health and even cause them to harm themselves. Someone can hit you and you will feel temporary pain, you will eventually forget about the slap you received or the kick that hurt for a couple of hours. But you won’t forget that one person in Elementary school who called you that mean name, and it sticks to you forever. Yo use that pain to either improve yourself or you let it destroy you. It depends on the person, every one has their own limits. We as human beings forget that other human beings have limits and we forget that what we say will not only affect that persons future but also our own future, because what comes around goes around.
It’s so important that we as young people spend as much time as we can with the older people in our lives. Most importantly our parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles. If you have a good parents you should cherish every single minute you spend with them. Even though your parents get on your nerves sometimes you should always remember that one day they won’t be there. Some people grew up without their parents at such a young age, and find it truly hard to fill that void. We get older and lose that attachment we once had to our parents and forget they’re the realest ones on our teams. If you have parents/ grandparents go give them a hug, call them, or even go have conversation with them. You never know when they might go.
Poor people always steal from each other instead of helping each other. You never see a poor person stealing from a rich person, why? Rich people have lawyers, and accountants handling their money, so it would be really hard to steal from them. Poor people on the other hand don’t have those privileges so it’s easier to get away with stealing from them. A rich person wouldn’t even be looking for another way to make money because they already make enough money. You can’t get rich from stealing from people. That’s not how life works. People will blame their own environment as to why they’re still living the way they’re living but will never blame the people who they keep around them. Like their friends for example, your own friends will watch you fall in life and won’t even help you up. That’s how they keep you and them poor, they don’t want to watch you do better in life than them. Blaming your environment is a way of you saying you also lack motivation and drive to want better for your self. You can also keep your self poor by having a poor mindset instead of a growth mindset. You don’t have to be poor if you stop surrounding yourself with poor and thinking poorly.
Not every one is good at running a business and that’s ok. You don’t have to be like every one else. The world needs doctors, lawyers, pedestrians, nurses, and teachers. There is nothing wrong with someone else paying you. A lot of people are on social media offering the same service or product, and the marketing is trash, and the prices for the services or products is outrageous. A boss should never steal from their clients/customers. If you want your business to flourish forever you should pick better prices and take as much constructive criticism as possible. If your friends see you running your business and seeing that you’re embarrassing yourself on social media without telling you those aren’t your friends. If your business is just a side hustle then this a doesn’t apply to you, but most likely you want it to be your main source of income one day. But if your business is your main source of income be more passionate about it. A lot of people who want to be their own boss don’t even do it because they like what they do, they just do it because everyone else is doing it or they just don’t want to work. Technology has ruined the minds of many people today.
Nobody goes on social media to post quotes and memes that they have no relation to. I think every single quote someone posts has some passive aggressiveness in it, and it is directed to somebody or a situation they were/are in real life. If you do post quotes all day and your excuse for doing this is because you have nobody to talk to or you’re just posting quotes and memes just to post them. You clearly have nothing to do with your life. People who say what they post on social media is not related to who they’re in real life make no sense because of you have a different life, which means it’s more thrilling why would you spend most of your day posting all these quotes and memes? Women love throwing shade, and they do it to their own friends. If a women is posting all these quotes about fake friends they’re most likely directing it to somebody, and hoping they see it or even care. But most of the time the person who is being shaded doesn’t even care. Every thing you put on your social media platform is there because you either relate to it, you want someone to see it, or it’s something you want in life. There probably is small percentage of people who just post quotes to post quotes but majority of people have a reason as to why most of the quotes and memes they post has a specific theme.
Black women have just as much as a hard time fitting the beauty standard, and it’s been like that for years. Now all of a sudden black women’s features are the beauty standard. Even though curves have been the beauty stand for women for years. Now every one wants the other body features that comes with it. It’s so sad that black woken are still deemed unattractive even though our features are basically what every one wants. Women feel the need to spend thousands of dollars just to get the body they want and even fly out to different countries to get the body they want cheaper. Girls down to the age of twelve who have social media accounts already don’t feel beautiful because they don’t have the body nor face they see portrayed as beauty on Instagram. At such a young age having body dysmorphia already and aren’t even fully developed into a women yet. Every thing on Instagram is fake and the beauty standard has caused a lot of women to always feel like they have to go to the extreme to feel beautiful. The Eurocentric beauty standard timeline has a lot to do with this modern issue addressed to women. Over the years curves has always been the standard, but the standard has always changed.
If every women and man walking on this earth is beautiful why is there a beauty standard? God created every one beautiful and god for sure doesn’t like ugly so why would he create ugly? Society and men has made it so hard for specifically women to live themselves because of this toxic beauty standard. When I think of beauty standard I mostly think of women not really men. There is a beauty standard for men but it’s not pushed on them as much as the beauty standard for women is pushed on women. Women are expected to look basically like fantasies all the time, and no human can look like a fantasy all the time. Every women was created beautifully but every women also has flaws. Women have acne, body acne, acne scars, discolouration on their face and their body, hair obviously, and we don’t have perfect body’s. But because we are pressured to look this certain way we do take certain repercussions to attain this type of standard. For example going under the knife, using filters heavily, using photoshopping, using face-tune, and obviously enhancing ourselves. It would have been better honestly if the beauty standard was attainable for women. But it’s not. The beauty standard is specifically toxic for young ladies and women of colour.
People need to stop maintaining connections that aren’t there. There are so many people who are in relationships or have friendships that are over due for throwing away. We as humans take so long to notice that a friend or significant other in our lives is no good nor brings any good into our lives but want to keep them around because most of us feed off of the negative instead of the positive. If you’re someone who likes to see the good in people you will struggle with this. You will like the potential you see in the person trying to paint them as a good person, but that will stop you from seeing the real person behind that false person you have painted them as. Your time is borrowed, imagine borrowing something and still wasting it. It’s a lot of people now a days wasting their own time and those peoples time who they think has a ‘connection’ with them. If you can’t even be your authentic self around your friend or partner, why would you want to maintain something like that? You’re blocking your own blessings by maintaining an imaginary ‘connection’.
Players are just people who end up playing themselves in the end. They don’t even exist. They don’t even play a role in this world. They hurt all the good people who are meant to help them in some way and realize a couple years later when they finally decide to change their ways that there aren’t no good people left. They hurt all the good people and wonder why every relationship they get into after having their little fun with peoples hearts doesn’t work out in their favour. You can have stability if you ruined how many chances of having stability. There’s so many broken people walking around because of these kinds of people that exist. Imagine thinking hurting people is the right way of life. It’s so hard to find good people now a days, and your the reason why those same good people are scared of finding stable, long lasting relationships. How do you sleep at night knowing you’re wasting your time and so many other peoples time? Be careful of how you treat people and live your life, it comes back to you in so many different ways.
Why are so many people horrible at conversations in this day and age? People never have nothing to talk about but are so quick to say people are the problem when it comes to having and/or holding a conversation with them. People only talk about shallow topics now days, which includes celebrity gossip, gossip about others, or even one another’s business. Nobody truly builds a strong bond today because nobody truly has good conversation with one another. Hence why relationships don’t last because there is no emotional connection. Y’all don’t even know how to stimulate each other’s minds before y’all stimulate each other’s bodies in bed. Always remember to be yourself it can get you far in life. If you have to proclaim you’re different you’re not actually different. So many people now a days lack individuality and wonder why their conversations are so shallow.
Do you consider your self average? A lot of people now a days don’t want to accept their reality of where they stand in today’s society. There’s trillions of people on this earth and you’re still single for what reason? Most likely because you don’t want what you can get because they aren’t up to your standards. A lot of people wouldn’t die alone if they just accepted the type of lifestyle they live. I’m pretty sure no one wants to die alone much less go to bed alone. But unfortunately there is people who won’t be with somebody because they think they’re better than them or they can do better than them. This is because people go on social media and see these lavish lives these above average people live and think they can attain someone like that in real life. Social media is a big influence on today’s society. Social media really has people thinking because of a couple followers and likes they’re automatically not average and they shouldn’t be attracting a certain type of person. Wake up to reality people and your love life will improve.
Why is it that we spend our whole entire lives paying for stuff we will never see again? We’re born out of no where forced to go to school, and we do all of that just to get a good paying job just to pay for every thing we need to survive when we can just enjoy life without paying so much bills. People would be less stressed out and be more happier with life if bills didn’t exist. Why spend your whole life unhappy chasing money to survive when humans should be surviving for free? No one asked to be here nor was it anyone’s plan to be here. The sad part is you don’t have an option, if you don’t pay to live, you will pass away. You will never see your big house, expensive vehicles, or nice clothes again when you pass away, but you need it to live a good comfortable life. You will pass that on to your children and so on and so on. Women shouldn’t even have to pay for bras. There is really someone out there making profit off of someone’s body part that they didn’t even ask to have. What makes it even worse is if you have a big cup size and they just become more expensive. Bras should be free!
Why do men have so much opinions on women and what women do? Some men wish they could be a women for day probably even for a year they would do it for. These men have more opinions on women than women have more opinions on women. It’s weird. Especially on social media, you watch a video specifically for women for example it’s a hair tutorial, and there’s always that one man who is in the comment section in a women’s business. The comment section is full of women and the fact that a man is so bold to even comment with a whole opinion says a lot about him and his ‘sexuality’. It be the men who claim to be the most ‘straight’ stay having a slick comment about a women or a women’s physique while their beard and their hair is playing a game of tag. Men who hurt good women should also be questioned about their sexuality. How you know in the back of your head you have a whole diamond in front of you and still want to throw it away and pick up dirt? These men know what their doing and the last you as a women need to wonder is what you did wrong to a man for him to treat you like this. These men have brains!
Black men are the only men that publicly embarrass/disrespect black women all the time. Why? They have never been held accountable for their actions through out their whole life so why would they hold their actions accountable embarrassing black women. Black men are so bold when it’s comes to getting other people of other ethnic groups laugh at their own women. While these same people are laughing at them because of how stupid they look. Not every black man is this way but a good percentage of the black community is. Most of these black men are mamas boys because of how much they were coddled growing up, it gets to a point where they no longer see their mothers as their own mothers and vice versa. These black mothers think their sons are their husbands instead of their actual sons. These mothers literally watch their sons disrespect black women and won’t say shit to them instead make up a sorry excuse for his poor behaviour. Black men are the reason why there is so many one parent households in the black community. They disrespect their women in all kinds of ways.
What is your reason for still being a virgin? Some people are a virgin by choice and some people are a virgin by force. Even though we are attractive to someone on this earth, why are there folks who are still virgins by force? Millions of people live in your city and nobody wants to get in bed with you? For the people who choose to be a virgin and wants to save themselves for someone special and worthy of being their vulnerable self with. They have people who want to get intimate with them, but choose to keep themselves pure. It’s optional for men to be cute or not to get some play but for women not really because men are visual creatures. You will rarely see/hear a women asking a man to sleep with her because women are not that bold. We as women are the providers for intercourse and men are the receivers. In reality nobody will get aroused by someone who they aren’t sexually turned on by. It’s very important to be self aware y’all.
Friends are not even friends now a days. Friends are just people you link up with to do some catching up with, for example telling each other’s business. Not every friendship is like this, but it’s rare now a days to find genuine people who you can actually call your ‘friend’. A lot of females who are friends with each other has had off and on friendships, this is why they know so much about each other and it’s just awkward letting go of someone who knows so much about you. You’re obviously not going to go up to a stranger and tell them your business so your going to tell you friend, it takes a lot of trust to be vulnerable with people now a days that’s why you have to be careful. Females are very fake and shady so if you have a female friend that’s always asking you about your business, or only keeps you around to make sure you’re not doing better than her in life chances are knowing each others business and and other peoples business is what’s keeping the friendship going, and that is a waste of time.
Family is just as important as your career when it comes to success. You can attain this success by finding somebody who you actually want to build a beautiful family with and playing your roles the right way. When you and somebody has a good bond, whereas you both respect each other, know each other’s boundaries, and know each other’s limits. You guys will create a good family foundation together. Relationships isn’t easy and neither is marriage but I’m pretty sure nobody wants to grow old alone. Getting to know somebody is a very crucial way to know if they can have the maturity to build a successful family life with you. People now a days don’t communicate in a way to let the other person know their true intentions. One thing that you can’t get back in life is your time. A lot of people waste their time in an unsuccessful relationship and unfortunately have a hard time finding somebody descent because of the large amount of time that was put in to the previous relationship. Attaining success in your family life is easy if you choose the right person to do it with.
Staying motivated is hard at times especially if life gets hard. There’s ways you can stay motivated though. Remembering that what you want out of life is the most important one. Every one has a purpose on earth, and as long as you know yours. You have to remember to stay on track. Listening to motivational speeches on the internet, and not just going on the internet to go on your social media platforms. It’s hard to stay motivated in life with out a good support system, but once when you know the goal you’re trying to attain you’re going to be your first cheerleader and supporter when you start chasing after your dream. Always have people around you motivating you and keeping you on track whether it’s your parents, family members, close friends, and even maybe a trusted teacher. No matter how much you think you need alone time you will always need somebody there to talk to if you become overwhelmed with stress. Also having and maintaining a positive growth mindset will always keep you motivated to attain success. Keep an open mind when lacking motivation as well it will get you far.
The most important secrets to becoming successful according to successful people is explained in this episode. As long as you follow these seven secrets and implement them in your life on a daily you will live up to your highest potential and attain your own type of success. The most important secret of success out of all of these secrets is not trying to attain success for the amount of money you can make. When you’re truly passionate about doing something you don’t care how much time it takes to improve it, you won’t care about how much money you make doing it, you will understand that as long as your doing it, you don’t care about nothing else. You will also know that you’re not wasting your time doing what you’re doing. As long as you know yourself very well you will know what your experience of path to success will be like. Remember that you will be your first cheerleader and supporter on your path to success even if you have other people around you to do that. So maintaining a good mindset will get you to where you want to be.
Becoming successful is a lot of hard work and dedication. Success is not just handed to you, a lot of people from today’s modern generation doesn’t want to work hard or actually try, they just want the faster way out of things. You cannot make fast money forever. People go on social media and watch how others are doing in life for example celebrities, and feel ole they’re behind and wonder why they aren’t successful. Those people obviously put in years of hard work, dedication, and didn’t waste any time to get where they’re today. People spend so much time talking, aspiring, and wanting to be successful but never want to put in the actual work. Time is Avery important part of success don’t waste your twenties just partying all the time, actually prepare yourself for your future and try to reach your fullest potential. Your twenties go by very fast so spend that time very wisely. Success isn’t only attained by making a lot of money it’s also attained by how much love you put into your self, others, and doing what you do because you want to do it and not because you know you have to.
Success is a very important thing in life to a lot of people but do we as humans even know what true success is? A lot of spend our whole lives chasing after a bag and don’t even chase after our real dreams. We spend our lives being in jobs or having careers that aren’t fulfilling and wonder why we can only say we are successful based on how much money we make and our monetary gains. A lot of us don’t even know our true selves personally, we spend so much time doing something with our lives that we don’t like and wonder why we feel so unfulfilled. The modern generation thinks that making money is the only thing to life and what success is when there is so much more. Like having a good family life, loving your self unconditionally, and knowing that you don’t just do what to you get up to do every day because you know you have to but because you want to. True success is loving yourself, what you do, and how you do it. Don’t waste your time and life making money in a way that is unfulfilling.
Are you this kind of mother? It’s so un fair to have a double standard as a parent towards your sons and daughters. Some mother’s teach their sons they’re allowed to do whatever they want, for example stay out late, do bad in school, commit crimes, and never hold them accountable. But if their daughters even wear a certain garment outside, she will never hear the end of it. This kind of parenting can be very damaging to both of these children. This kind of parenting is the reason why there is a lot of feminine males and masculine women. Women are taught from young they have to be there own protection from men in this world and life shouldn’t even be like this. If men were taught to take accountability for their actions as boys from their parents the world would probably be a better place. It’s not uncommon to see a lot of one parent households especially in the black community, even though this is due to history some of it is also due to this kind of parenting. These men don’t want to take care of their responsibilities but always expect their mothers to.
Is your relationship with your mother toxic? Mother’s sometimes don’t realize how horrible they’re to their daughters. You love them but you just wish they would show the same amount of respect to you as you show them. You love your mother but sometimes you have to ask yourself if she truly loves you. Mother’s who belittle their daughters success or make their daughter feel like they have no right to speak up about what goes on at home are toxic mothers. If you’re a girl and you and your mother argue every day it’s very unhealthy and not good for your mental health. Mother’s who are jealous of their daughter or are in competition with their daughters are plain out weird and need therapy. It’s so sad that some mother’s who are toxic doesn’t even see how toxic they’re and when you do try to voice your opinion about it they gaslight you. All it takes is realization and you can fix your relationship with your daughter. No daughter should have to deal with no peace in their home and the world is already a noisy place.
Is being an only child worth it? Yes and no. Being an only child has its pros and it’s cons. You will have every thing to your self but you will never really have someone to talk to, if you’re an introverted person it won’t matter that much but if you’re an extroverted person it will bother you that you’re constantly alone. As human beings we always need human interaction constantly, I don’t believe any human walking this earth actually likes to be alone for a long period of time. Having a family aka siblings to come home to talk to is top tier, even if you don’t want to talk to nobody you still know someone is there if you need it. Now this is different if you and your siblings have a huge age gap but they can still listen. As an only child who doesn’t have a big family at home it’s not as good as you think it is. Try to be as close as you can to your siblings because you never know when you may need them or vice versa.
Jealousy is a horrible feeling to hold towards somebody especially if it’s your own family. Why be jealous when you can easily wish that person well. Jealousy among family members isn’t uncommon. There’s different reasons why a family member could be jealous of you. It could be what you own, your vibe, your energy, your life achievements, or even just your existence in general. It’s so devastating that people will have more than you and still be mad at you for what you have. You can’t even share your latest achievements or any good news in general because your family isn’t genuinely happy for you. These kinds of wools you should never trust. You never know the true intentions of someone who is jealous of you. It’s more scarier to be around a person who doesn’t like you rather than a person who is jealous of you. It’s easy to avoid jealous friends because you can just cut them off, but if it’s family it’s even harder. Nobody wants to have to turn their back on their family but sometimes it’s for the best.
Being amongst toxic family members can be very draining and not good for your mental health. Does your family demonstrate any of these traits? Do you go around your family and just don’t feel at ease or you feel like you’re walking on egg shells? That probably means they’re toxic. If you can’t even trust your family with your business or anything you’re going through in life why are you keeping them around much less putting energy and time in to them. toxic family members always have something to say about your appearance but never care why your appearance is the way it is. There are families who are so fake and toxic that all they do is talk about each other and when they’re at family gatherings every one is so nice to each other, the sad part is every one knows every one talks about every one but still make it seem like there is no toxicity in that. Don’t keep around toxic family members just because they’re family. Sometimes your friends are your real family, just not the fake ones.
It’s really hard getting rid of those fake friends but it’s very much worth it. Sometimes we as humans know it’s time for someone to go and we choose to let them stay because of history. But once you find a way to heal whether it’s working or trying some thing new which is a hobby. You will be so happy that you took that step and decided to do what’s best for you and your mental health. There are many good people on this earth but if you really want to meet these people you have to understand that you’re blocking your own blessings by keeping that ‘friend’ around. Stop giving your self false hope about people who aren’t good for you. Don’t keep around ‘friends’ who don’t have nothing intellectual to talk about other than other people or peoples business. It’s not worth it. People who sit around all day and talk about people or don’t plant goals for themselves have nothing going for themselves. They will keep you stagnant just by keeping you around them.
Instead of having fake friends around you constantly draining you. Learn to be by yourself. Do you really think your friend of how many years won’t do you the way you think they won’t do you? Sometimes you have to take a serious step back and do some self reflection and analyze your environment and see how toxic it really is. If you really care about your well being, why would you want to keep yourself in an environment like that? Taking a break off of social media and learning more about yourself and building a healthy relationship with yourself is crucial to understanding your self more and enjoying your own company more. The more time you spend by yourself the more you will not put up with fake friends! Throughout life we are always getting to know others but do we ever take some time to get to know ourselves? Having fake friends around can hurt you mentally, physically, emotionally, and even financially!
Keeping fake friends around is a no no! Y’all please don’t do this. It can have really bad side effects. For example, you can start losing your sanity, your money, and especially your time!!! Nobody on this earth is worth you putting your self worth on the back burner. Keeping around these kinds of people can take a huge toll on your mental health and cause you to ruin your own life. Especially if your friend doesn’t have goals in life, they can cause you to forget about your own goals and make sure you’re struggling just as much as they’re. Y’all it’s not worth it. Fake people don’t live themselves that’s why they go to good people and suck all their good energy and self love. After you realize the kind of person you have around you, you realize they done took every thing from you, and you have to re invent your self! Keeping around fake friends can put you in therapy. Find good friends only!!
There are many signs that someone is a bad friend, whether it’s a best friend, friend, or even a friend who became family. Do you think you may have someone around you who demonstrates these signs? If so please do your self a favour and get rid of them! We as humans know and even can feel when someone is not good for us but we keep them around for different reasons. What’s your reason for keeping bad people around you? If you do this. Do y’all believe there is still genuine friends out here? If you know in the back of your mind your friend is doing more harm than good in your life, why are you still keeping them around? Sometimes we are better off by ourselves because once when your alone enjoying your own energy, you can get to know yourself better and even learn about some skills you never knew you had before. Don’t spend time on people who aren’t worth it!!!
Are people real enough today to be your friend? Do you think your friend group is the right friend group for you? A friend is somebody you will want to be around all the time because you just love their energy and vibes. Do you believe in real friendships? It’s so hard to find a friend you can do every thing with and just know they’re keeping it real with you. But once you find that friend who you know is keeping it real with you, you better keep that friend around forever because it’s rare to come across good people. People aren’t who you think they’re, people now a days stay wearing masks, so it’s going to take a situation for them to show their real colours. Sometimes we’re friends with somebody for years and we swear we know them but we really don’t. What is a friend to y’all? There’s so many different definitions. Remember y’all, good people don’t lose people, people lose good people.
Is marriage how people make it out to be? Why doesn’t anybody in modern day living take marriage seriously? Do you think if people were to take marriage seriously, would marriage rates be higher and divorce rates lower? Marriage is a very life changing thing but it will all be worth it in the end because you don’t have to die alone or feel lonely later one when you’re retired. Who wants to be alone, when there is so many fish in the sea. I believe there is a fish in the sea for every body. Marriage is easy to get into and hard to get out of that’s why if you’re married to the right person it shouldn’t matter what age you guys get married at. The whole point of marriage is to build an empire with your significant other, why is that so hard now a days?
Most of the time it’s the women who gets hurt in this situation because women think with their heart and men think with their mind. Are you in a situation like this? If so why? My view on this is that man is wasting your time and your letting him. All those months and years you spend with this man doing friends with benefits could be spent dating and eventually getting married and having kids with someone who actually WANTS to be with you. If you don’t want to be labelled as a ‘wife’ or ‘girlfriend’ then proceed with your situation with this man. But if you do please stop. Ladies know your worth and men grow up. This type of relation is meant for kids or teens, not grown folks.
Why do people get their heart broken? There are many different scenarios and reasons as to why people get their heart broken. What is your experience with heart break if you ever experienced one? Why do people get in relationships just to hurt somebody? In today’s modern society involving dating, people tend to not care nor respect the other persons feelings. It’s better to be honest than have somebody wondering why they weren’t good enough or where they went wrong. There’s many fish in the sea so don’t be discouraged to go look for a new fish. People come and go all the time so don’t dwell on that person for too long. Going through a heart break isn’t easy but once you’re over that person, they won’t matter anymore because you have grown a lot as a person.
Relationships shouldn’t be hard at all nowadays, but unfortunately they’re. Modern day relationships are taken as jokes and it’s a sad thing to see. Nobody wants to take accountability for their actions but are so quick to point fingers. What is more important to y’all, money or platonic relationships? Life is all about experiencing not just only chasing until you can’t chase anymore. There is so much more to relationships than what’s on the physique of someone. Sometimes the outside isn’t even as shinny as the inside. Remember every one the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
This is my first episode every one so bare with me. Why waste your time on someone who clearly wasn’t good for you in the first place when there’s plenty more options out there that are better for you. In this episode I’m speaking on why you should NEVER trust someone who you’re talking to or dating that has their ex on their social media. No I’m not speaking for every body’s situation. Why keep someone around who is just taking up space and they’re not actually trying to build space with you?