The Counseling Podcast: Recent Episodes
Doctor Jaclyn
Welcome to a place where you'll leave feeling whole. The Counseling Podcast brings at-home counseling right to you-- focusing on self care, self expression, and breaking down barriers. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring over 20 years of combined experience and a new sense of style to the word counseling. The two use humor and lighthearted conversation to explore these deeper feelings. Let's take the stigma away from counseling together.
Avoidance is the number 1 coping mechanism people turn to. Today's guest, Glenda Gonzalez, along with Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes aim to change that and offer you tools to maintain stability and handle day to day stressors in a high pace society. This episode comes at a time we all may need a little help to take better care of ourselves. With the holidays coming up, it's common to feel overwhelmed and a strong rush of emotions. Implementing self care practices into your regular routine can make a huge impact.
Glenda hasover 15 years of experience working in mental health with diverse populations and demographics ranging from community mental health to private practice. She is driven by a desire to innovate how mental health is perceived and facilitate treatment. Glenda's approach emphasizes the mutual development of goals for therapy and the provision of ongoing evaluation of the therapeutic process. She seeks to create an integrative, dynamic, and holistic approach to treating mental health through evidence-based practice and techniques.
What You Will Learn:
- The importance of proper sleep cycles and eating well
- Constantly challenge yourself
- The correlation between self care and people pleasing
- Actionable tips to implement into your day
Resources:
Books:
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff
The Mastery of Self: A Toltec Guide to Personal Freedom by don Miguel Ruiz Jr.
The Power of Ambition By Jim Rohnn
Series on Netflix:
Human: The World Within
This week Dr. Stokes and Dr. Jaclyn invite on men's health expert Hector Venture, LCSW. Hector specializes in helping his patients through their grief, trauma, and imposter syndrome. Men's mental health is still a taboo conversation in varying levels in different cultures. This episode aims to help in normalizing the conversation and assist in breaking through those mental blocks.
What You Will Learn:
- How cultural values can impact a man's relationship with mental health
- Helping men construct their own individual sense of masculinity
- Your role as a father and the first male figure in your child's life
Resources:
Instagram: @ariseconnections
Facebook: facebook.com/ariseconnections
Website: ariseconnections.org
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/ariseconnections
This week's guest is Kendra Wilson, LCSW, certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, certified DBT counselor and certified trauma professional. Kendra shares the different types of eating disorders, behaviors to look out for if you think you or someone you know may be struggling with an eating disorder, and how to create a separation.
Kendra has been working with clients struggling with eating disorders for over 15 years and in the mental health field for over 20, at all levels of care and with all kinds of clients. She also specializes in DBT, and uses that framework to teach clients and families ways to short circuit the eating disorder and the many things driving those maladaptive coping behaviors to make their natural personalities work for them.
What You Will Learn:
- The effect of constant comparison
- Understanding your values
- What is body neutrality?
- Most common age range eating disorders affect
- The most dangerous set of behaviors
Resources:
https://windoverwater.net/2022/06/27/creating-an-anti-diet-culture/
https://windoverwater.net/resources/
Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD
Sick Enough by Jennifer Gaudiani, MD
Amazon list of therapy books: https://a.co/1995sc9
Here are some podcasts:
iWeigh – Toxic Diet Culture with Dr. Joshua Wolrich
Maintenance Phase – debunking the myth of BMI
Ed on ED – Dr. Ed Tyson has been a guest on several podcasts about eating disorders and has his own treatment center in Texas as well as serving on the advisory board at Within Health – here is one such episode that I thought was helpful: What People with Eating Disorders Want You To Know
PeaceMeal – the Dangers of Clean Eating
Fighting Diet Culture
ADHD is an amazing gift, but we often are carrying frustration and shame about the ways it has made our lives so difficult. ADHD has a strong impact on executive function and emotional baggage, especially if not diagnosed until adulthood. This week's episode dives into how ADHD affects all aspects of a person's life and how it manifests in adults. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes invite on guest therapist Erika Barrington LPC, BC-DMT to share their perspective on how affirming therapy can help break through those mental barriers that stem from ADHD.
With 9 years of experience in practice, Erika works to bring a body-based, creative, playful, trauma-informed, and trans-affirming approach within the Internal Family Systems model to their sessions. Three essential fuels for the ADHD mind/body are: movement, creativity, and connection. Erika's training in dance/movement therapy helps their clients integrate movement and creativity in the therapy process to center the healing energy of connection. Erika is invested in an anti-oppressive framework for therapy and seeks to embrace antidotes to the white supremacy culture that we are steeped in every day.
What you will learn:
- ADHD is described by some experts as an interest based nervous system
- ADHD and hyperactivity, sensory issues, rejection, and social interactions
- Impulsivity presents verbally in adults
- The shame that can build in a person with ADHD
- How ADHD affects the LGBTQ+ community
Resources:
www.erikajunetherapy.com
Keep an eye out for Erika's upcoming support group
https://www.additudemag.com
http://chadd.org
This week's episode focuses on how we can take better care of ourselves to prevent burnout. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on guest Dr. Davisha Scudder to help transform the view society has about balance between self care and the feeling of needing to always be working.
Dr. Davisha Scudder is a psychologist licensed in Florida and New York with over 7 years of experience. Dr. Davisha's counseling style is empathic and warm. She believes in treating anyone with compassion, understanding, and openness.
What You Will Learn:
- Stress is the number 1 contributing factor to medical issues
- Focus on facts vs feelings, what is happening vs what might happen
- How to be more intentional with your time
- Self care does not have to be scheduled
- How to put together a morning and evening routine
Resources:
https://growtherapy.com/provider/prfip2fzix1o/dr-davisha-scudder-?insuranceType=Cash
This week's episode discusses how Covid affects mental health, whether you'd caught it or not. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes discuss with guest Dr. Caroline Tomlinson all about what post-covid depression and anxiety look like and how to manage these feelings.
Dr. Caroline Tomlinson MPH/PMHNP-BC offers a wide variety of services that are client centered in empowering and stabilizing clients who struggle with mental illness. Every individual matters, they just need to be understood. Dr. Tomlinson uses a patient centered approach to meet patients where they are. each patient has different needs
What You Will Learn:
- Are your symptoms due to covid or other reasons
- Establish a consistent practice and implement tools to reach small goals working toward an eventual larger goal
- Each individual is unique
- The importance of maintaining social connections
https://www.kempsyc.com
Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on another esteemed expert for this week's conversation on gaming disorders. They discuss the effects of unhealthy gaming use, screen time limitations, and effective coping mechanisms.
This week's guest is Amanda Weston, PhD, LMHC, Doctor of Behavioral and Community Sciences & Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Amanda's passion is to assist individuals in making meaningful changes to their lives and to learn how to tackle life's hardships with the tools and skills learned in therapy.
What You Will Learn:
- How to promote healthy habits
- the importance of modeling healthy habits
- Dealing with denial
- When to reach out for help
Resources:
https://growtherapy.com/provider/vtvqu4853ib2/dr-amanda-weston?insuranceType=Cash
amandalmhc@gmail.com
This week Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on child anxiety & OCD therpist, Natasha Daniels to discuss Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, which it looks like in children, and tools to help your child cope and gain independence. Knowledge is power and allows you to approach things in an effective way.
Natasha Daniels has battled her own anxiety throughout her life. She is the author of Social Skills Activities for Kids, It’s Brave to Be Kind, Anxiety Sucks: A Teen Survival Guide, and How to Parent Your Anxious Toddler. She is the creator of ATParentingSurvival.com, the host of the highly ranked, AT Parenting Survival Podcast and creator of the Youtube channel, Ask the Child Therapist. Her work has been featured in various places including Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, PsychCentral, The Child Mind Institute and The Mighty.
What You Will Learn:
- What does ocd look like in children
- Toolbox to help your child cope with OCD
- A parent's education is key to the child's experience
- How to spot OCD symptoms outside of the stereotypes you may already know
- How to use incentives as a tool
- How parental guilt can impact a child's diagnosis
- The best way to help your children is to help yourself
- If you're in doubt research
Resources:
- Website: Www.atparentingsurvival.com
- Online School: www.atparentingsurvivalschool.com
- Online parent membership: www.atparentingcommunity.com
- YouTube: www.YouTube.com/c/anxioustoddlers78
- Free Facebook group: www.facebook.com/groups/atparentinganxiouskids
This week's episode of The Counseling Podcast is a wellness check in with Dr. Jaclyn.
Your negative thoughts keep you stuck. Change can be scary, but changing your mindset can set you free. Join in as Jaclyn guides you through a healthy self talk journey and offers positive affirmations you can take with you towards your daily practice.
This week Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes invite Julia Kristina for their first video episode! Julia is a registered clinical counselor in Vancouver that helps heart centered humans break through the crap that is holding them back. She helps others learn how to have dominion over their own life and emotions by tackling anything that is getting in the way of how you want to think, live and feel. Her online presence makes therapy accessible to everyone, which helps break the stigma in counseling. This episode covers self trust, self talk, and overall mental and emotional wellness.
What You Will Learn:
- How to get unstuck
- Learning how to build trust with yourself
- Where does your relationship with yourself start?
- The more solid you feel about yourself, the less you will stress about what others think
- Breaking the stigma in therapy
This week Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on Dr. Marni Feuerman, LCSW, LMFT. Dr. Marni uses Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) in her practice to help others get unstuck from their negative patterns and restructure the way they communicated. She shares a hypothetical study to give you a walk through of how an EFT session would work, de escalation strategies, and how building new mindfulness practices into your day can help you.
Dr. Marni Feuerman is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in South Florida. She is a nationally recognized relationship and marriage expert with specialized training in couples therapy. Dr. Marni is a frequently quoted expert in the media and content contributor. She has written for HuffPo, VeryWell.com, Dr. Oz’s ShareCare and The Gottman Institute among others. Her popular self-help book for women who struggle with repeated unhealthy relationship patterns is titled, Ghosted & Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart about Healthy Relationships.
What You Will Learn:
- What if EFT and how can it help you?
- Questions to consider when discussing disagreements
- Restructuring the way you communicate
- What does a session with Dr. Marni look like?
- Deescalation strategies
- How can mindfulness practices help you
Resources:
https://thetalkingsolution.com/
https://www.drmarnionline.com/
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1608685861
This week's episode is all about modern day dating struggles. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes discuss the effects of dating apps and the impact on mental health, dealing with the fear of rejection, and the importance of setting expectations and putting yourself first.
What you will learn:
How to have important conversations with the person you are dating
The importance of being open
Dating is a numbers game
This week Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on a licensed school Psychologist and Parenting Coordinator with extensive experience to provide families with the tools to raise healthy, well-adjusted, successful children. They discuss working with children and families through a divorce. Divorce is one of the most stressful experiences your child can go through. It is important to keep in mind that each child's experiences will result differently. Terry offers coping tips so your child feels safe throughout the process.
Terry Mattingly has been a licensed school psychologist in private practice since 2004. She has worked in a variety of roles including work as an Certified Associate Behavior Analyst with children on the Autistic Spectrum, a provider of in-home behavioral therapy services, an assessor of children in the foster care system, and an assessor of incarcerated juveniles. She has an excellent understanding of the needs of children and families from all socioeconomic, ethnic, and cultural backgrounds. Terry is also the founder and co-owner of Conflict Solutions Group, LLC, a group dedicated to providing training and professional services.
What You Will Learn:
- Letting go of pain
- Coping skills to move forward from high conflict divorce
- Modeling behavior for your child
- Provide an outlet
- What does this process look like
https://www.terrymattingly.com
www.ConflictSolutionsGroupLLC.com
Happy New Year! A new year is a great start for a new beginning. This episode is all about planning for successful New Years Resolutions. Where most people fall short is they don't know the process to get there and what it takes. This episode shares the step by step on setting your goals to be your best self in 2022.
Remember, success looks different for everyone. Make sure to set your goals with your own best interest in mind and not in relation to the people around you.
If you'd like to join us on the podcast as a guest or have any questions you'd like us to answer, please reach out to us at TheCounselingPodcast@gmail.com.
What You Will Learn:
- What is a vision board
- Using vision boards as a tool
- Unleashing your inner coach
- When you say no to someone else you're saying yes to yourself
Resources:
https://www.doctorjaclyn.com/
https://www.stokescounselingandconsulting.com/
Our office phone number: 407 205 7734
Many men don't seek mental health treatment. This week Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on Matthew Braman, LCSW to discuss mens' mental health practices. Matthew and Jeremiah share their perspectives aiming to normalize mens' mental health concerns.
Matthew's practice, Verve, focuses on working with men, new dads, and their partners. His practice provides a safe space for men to show up and be understood. Verve Psychotherapy is a modern & inclusive online mental health practice for busy adults in New York & Georgia. Verve's approach focuses on empowerment at it's core providing personalized, integrative, and emotionally focused support.
What You Will Learn:
- Signs you should seek a counselor
- Distress tolerance and emotion regulation
- Practices to slow down in times of distress
- Work on the journey from head to heart
- Develop self compassion
- Mindfulness based approaches
- The importance of expressing emotion
- Are you inside a 'man box' ?
Resources: https://www.vervepsychotherapy.com
This week Dr. Jaclyn is joined by Ekiba Smith, LMHC and EMDR specialist (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing). Ekiba practices under Wellness Mindset Counseling Services. She has specialized in behavioral and emotional issues such as trauma, depression, anxiety, and anger issues for 12 years. She helps her clients overcome the obstacles that are affecting them to maintain a balance in their life. She practices under the guise of therapy as a guide to help you get back on the road to your destination, and it begins with developing the right mindset. What we think and believe is powerful.
What You Will Learn:
- How can emdr therapy benefit you
- What is dissociation
- The 8 phases of emdr
- How your body holds onto trauma and how triggers can manifest in your life
This week Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes discuss how learned behaviors and autopilot responses can lead to stress and anxiety. This episode of The Counseling Podcast aims to assist you in understanding what your responses are and how you can alter them to reduce anxiety. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes share new positive behaviors you can implement to notice patterns, lean into mindfulness, and improve your mood and confidence.
What You Will Learn:
- How to replace irrational thoughts with rational thoughts
- How to notice your triggers
- Finding the root of your emotions
- The importance in valuing the small changes
- What are some mindfulness practices you can implement
This episode of The Counseling Podcast aims to help those affected address and work on their most intimate life challenges, including their religious, sexual, and racial traumas, interracial family challenges, and multicultural developmental challenges. Childhood trauma affects adults into their 50s and 60s. This episode will help you feel more comfortable in taking the next step in your healing and provide you with coping skills you can use to manage your trauma symptoms.
Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on Jude Singh to share his dynamic experience and expertise. Jude is an ethically and culturally driven mental health professional with experience in the clinical setting for diverse clients with mental disorders. He is a graduate of CACREP certified program with a M.S in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. He specializes in trauma focused psychotherapy for children, youth and adults. His experience is diversified in working with individuals and families with mental illness and co-occurring disorders.
What You Will Learn:
- Telltale signs you may be dealing with trauma
- What to expect during a trauma counseling session
- The differences between acute trauma and chronic trauma
- Coping mechanisms that provide additional emotional support
- What is the TF CBT model and how can it help you
- Trauma doesn't define you
Resources:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jude-singh-64009056/
https://www.endurancecounseling.com
Shantala has over 20 years experience working with individuals, families and children, and has worked as a guidance counselor and mental health counselor for Orange County Public Schools for 14 years. As she expanded her experience with children and families, she extended her expertise towards working with teenagers, adults, and couples.November is the busiest time of year for mental health professionals and clients. This episode gives you the tools you need during this hyper focused time of the year. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on Shantala Boss to share how you can manage your holiday stress, expectations, and family drama to instead focus on your mental health.
What You Will Learn:
- How you can work on your emotional intelligence
- How to say no in order to save your energy for yourself and what really matters
- Take a step back and reevaluate what our expectations are for ourselves
- Telltale signs that you may need to seek out a counselor
Resources:
http://shantalaboss.com
In this week's episode of The Counseling Podcast, Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring on today's guest, Sabrina Sarro, LMSW: UTI/vulvo-vaginal therapist, PCOS specialist, and spirit exfoliator. Sabrina joins the podcast with their biopsychosocial and multi-culturally informed approach to share how they help clients advocate for themselves in their healthcare journey.
Sabrina specializes in supporting people with vulvo-vaginal disorders, chronic illnesses, and Interstitial Cystitis. They help their patients navigate anxiety and stress to find ease in their bodies and give them the tools to work towards a pain-free life. Sabrina's practice offers a special container for BIPOC, Queer, disabled, and chronically-ill folx. They believe each client is the expert of their own story and narrative, and that psychotherapy exists to center, support, and illuminate that narrative.
What You Will Learn:
- How to advocate for yourself to get the care you need
- The psychological and emotional component of chronic pain
- Various questions you may need to ask your provider to fully advocate for yourself
- The importance of intersectionality in healthcare
Resources:
The IC Network
https://www.ic-network.com
National Vulvodynia Association
https://www.nva.org
Centers for Vulvovaginal Disorders
http://www.vulvodynia.com
In relationships, both partners are coming from different backgrounds, core values, and childhood learning behaviors. Each person has learned their own communication style and coping patterns. These differences can cause a rift in the relationship, but the three C's of connection, commitment, and consistency can help you navigate your rough patch.
People just want to be heard and understood in their relationship, but there are often barriers in the way. Today's guest is couples counselor Nicole Kleiman-Reck, LMHC. Nicole joins the show today to share the tools she uses in sessions with her clients and how you can incorporate them into your life.
Nicole has been practicing as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Florida for the past 20 years, is a Board Certified Behavior Analyst, and has worked with individuals of various ages across the Autism Spectrum. Overall, her specialty is in helping her clients realize that managing their stressors is more important than just managing the stress as it allows you to cope with anything that comes your way.
What You Will Learn:
- Why is tension building and how to work through it
- What is flooding and how can you avoid this by emotionally soothing yourself
- The importance of putting in the work outside the counselor's office
- Validation is key
- Identify your flexible areas
- How to seek out a couples counselor
Resources:
https://growtherapy.com/provider?id=160
https://doctorjaclyn.com
Anxiety in children has skyrocketed in the past year and now more than ever it is important to get your child the resources they need. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes are joined by Beliza Perez this week to discuss everything you need to know about child therapy. Tune in to hear how you can help build your child's confidence, help them self soothe, and creating a regular night time routine.
Beliza is a licensed child therapist providing services to parents kids siblings focus in anxiety, anger, and giftedness. She has worked in community agencies, elementary school, crisis centers and is now full time in her practice.
What You Will Learn:
- How to find the right provider to connect with your child and you
- The importance of play in child therapy
- How your children's coping mechanisms can impact you
- When is the right time to reach out
Resources:
perezcounseling.com
beliza@perezcounseling.com
https://perezcounseling.com
Dr. Dan Siegal https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcTk7DmiA7NRmpxeX4jeB3w
https://doctorjaclyn.com
In today's harsh climate it can be tough for your children to process their emotions. The signs that your child is struggling may not be as obvious as you'd think. Making your home a safe space and spending personal time with your child is more important now than ever before. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes discuss how your actions affect your child's as well as practices you can implement so your child feels their best.
What You Will Learn:
- How to make your child feel safe and heard
- Does your child feel known?
- Are you vulnerable with your child?
- What positive affirmations can you use?
Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes delve into sex and intimacy in this week's episode of The Counseling Podcast.
Your relationship is built on two sided emotions and both individuals have to do their own work. This episode will share the tools to build security, stability, and trust with your partner. This increased intimacy will help facilitate that sexual dynamic and improve all aspects of your relationship
What You Will Learn:
- How do we become more vulnerable and how do we help our partners receive our vulnerability?
- Fostering emotional availability
- Proactive measures to prevent larger issues
Folks these days are no strangers to stress, but stress management can still be seen as taboo. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes aim to remove the stigma around mental health so you can move through life with ease.
Your life is like a puzzle and Dr's bring you the tools to piece it together. The two divulge their own self-care systems as well as how you can start your day with a philosophy of self care.
What You Will Learn:
- Distinguishing the difference between stress and stressors
- Replacing your negative thought patterns with positive alternatives
- Are your thoughts coming from feelings or facts?
- Setting boundaries to protect yourself
- The importance of routine for your quality of life and stress management
The Counseling Podcast brings at-home counseling right to you-- focusing on self care, self expression, and breaking down barriers. Dr. Jaclyn and Dr. Stokes bring over 20 years of combined experience and a new sense of style to the word counseling. The two use humor and lighthearted conversation to explore these deeper feelings in a safe and comfortable space.
Let's take the stigma away from counseling, together.
What You Will Learn:
- Finding the right counseling style for you
- Learn about your emotional responses
- What are your expectations and needs