The Conquer Yourself Project: Recent Episodes
Bill McConnell
A Podcast of Positive Direction by focusing on the 4 primary aspects of personal development and success: Mindset, Obsession, Superpowers and Time. Once you conquer yourself, everything else becomes possible. I’m Bill McConnell. I help people rediscover their passions and unique contributions to the world so they feel confident and have momentum toward the life they want.
3 SIMPLE IDEAS FOR BETTER SLEEP
1. Close Your Mouth
- Stop eating/snacking after a certain time
- No caffeine 10 hours before bedtime
- No food/snacks 2 hours before bedtime
- No liquids 2 hours before bedtime
2. Set the Alarm
- Mine is 8pm… 2 hours before bedtime
- It’s a trigger in your mind to shift gears from whatever it is you’re doing to get ready for bed.
- It begins a routine created to settle your down for a good night’s sleep
3. Digital Curfew
- Shut down all the electronics
- TV, smart phone, iPad
- What are you missing? Probably nothing!
Read a book. Listen to a podcast. Settle into an evening routine * 2 hours minimum before bed
The Key is Consistency
- You don’t do this for a few nights and quit if things don’t work.
- Give it 2 weeks minimum… every night.
- Same Closed Mouth. Same Evening Alarm. Same Digital Curfew.
- Monitor your sleep - Make a simple chart
- Check off all 3 each night.
Record your “lights out” time. Record when you wake up. Record how much sleep you got. Record how you felt every morning “Great” - “OK” - “Not So Good"
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Tim Ferriss, author of "The 4-Hour Workweek", said, "Win the morning. Win the day."
Well, if you want to win the morning, you have to win a good night's sleep.
And... if you want a good night's sleep, you have to win the evening before.
Put another way... "Your Best Day Starts @8pm."
Who's driving your life? Let's find out https://billmcconnell.me/drive
Some people call it coincidence. Other call it divine intervention. Yet others label it a miracle.
I'll let you decide. Here are the broad strokes.
I'd been in a job for 8 months, working as a youth pastor. I walked into the office on a Monday morning. The pastor called me into his office, handed me a check for $1,000 and told me my services were no longer needed. I had the morning to clear out my office and that was it.
We were renting a house for $250/month, so I had 4 months rent.
My wife was working part time bringing in about $80/week. So we had money for food.
That was it.
We had options, short term and long term.
I looked at my wife and said to her in all earnestness, "Do we really believe and trust in God completely or not?"
We prayed together, made a decision together, and 4 months later (do the math) moved to another state with a new job for me, new direction for my wife and the rest, they say, is history.
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Everything is changing. There are some things in your life you want to keep doing and there are other things that need to be adjusted, replaced or eliminated. We're talking about creating good routines and habits in your life and I know what get’s measured gets done.
"What Gets Measured Gets Done" is a phrase I first heard this first from Michael Hyatt.
Route 66 Theory... According to a 2009 study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, it takes 18 to 254 days for a person to form a new habit. The study also concluded that, on average, it takes 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic. What you want is a behavior to become automatic.
A Target Keeps You Focused... "The Patriot," a movie starring Mel Gibson… Oldest son is arrested and taken away by the British army. He goes after them with his two younger sons. He’s been teaching them how to shoot a musket.
Rule of thumb when aiming. “Aim small, miss small.” “Aim small, miss small” means that when you're aiming at a target, rather than aiming at the whole target, you should aim at a small section of the target. This way, if you miss, instead of not hitting the target, you just miss the small part of the target you were aiming for.
Milestones Keep You Moving... I solo-hiked the Bear Lake to Grand Lake trail 3 years ago. The first 4.2 miles are all uphill. I couldn’t wait to get to the flat-top. I also decided not to stop for any reason un til I got there. It took me 4 hours. “I can’t do 66 days. I could do 14 days."
Accountability Keeps You Honest... I have decided to be accountable to you, and my good friend Jamey. He’ll hold me to it. I’ll show you my checklist on the weekly LIVE. The easiest person to lie to is yourself, all alone, with no consequences.
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Seeing this world through God’s eyes matters.
- "God must be blind, so many people died in the past year."
- Rudy’s search for an answer. "I’ve been a priest for over 40 years and I only know 2 things with certainty. There is a God, and I’m not Him."
- God is not blind but I believe Him to be heartbroken.
- God is not a chess player and we are not pawns or kings.
- If I had to fully understand something before believing it, I’d never drive a car, own a computer, use a cell phone…
Seeing this world as it could be matters.
- This is not rose-colored glasses.
- If you see it as it is, depression is your only option.
- If you see it as it could be, you see hope… possibilities…
Believing you can contribute matters.
- Yeah, you! It all starts with you being a better you.
- It all starts with me being a better me.
- Contribution starts with contributing to your own well-being.
DISCLAIMER (Kinda)... I feel like this is the worst LIVE audio I've posted. I almost didn't post it, yet here it is. Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly, especially if you believe in personal development.
Every morning, when you look in the mirror, what do you see?
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Confidence or Confusion
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Smart or Stupid
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On a Mission or on a Treadmill
STOP asking yourself, “How do other people see me?"
- This… Does… Not… Matter!
How you see you will have a greater effect on your life and future than anything else.
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HOW TO GET OVER A TERRIBLE DAY
STOP AND BREATHE . . .
- Inhale 6 seconds... through the nose
- Hold 2 seconds
- Exhale 7 seconds… though the mouth
- 4x = 1 minute
1st… Define “Terrible”
- My terrible may not be your terrible. Definitions matter.
- One big thing or a deluge of little things?
- Incoming Tide is many little things building up.
- Tidal Wave is ONE BIG THING.
2nd… Break Down the Pieces
- One big thing or several not-so-big things?
- Break it all down.
- All the little things building up.
The ONE big thing… can you break it down? * Write them all down on paper (Make a list)
3rd… Become Solution-Oriented
- Write out possible solutions to each item on the list
- Remember, there may be more than one solution to each item.
4th… Put the List in Order
- Most feasible win. Doing this is the easiest to accomplish.
- Most rewarding win. It’ll feel great to get this one done.
- Most eliminating win. If I get this win, it will eliminate other items on my list.
5th… Take Action… one item at a time
- The first 4 points are all actions you’ve just taken
- Do what you just decided to do.
“THIS TERRIBLE DAY WON’T DEFINE ME!"
JUST TAKE ACTION… ON JUST ONE THING…
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Last Saturday, in the NCAA men's basketball semi-final matchup between undefeated Gonzaga and UCLA, in overtime, Jalen Suggs of Gonzaga shoots a nearly half-court shot as time runs out. It banks off the glass and in...FOR THE WIN!
It's being called one of the greatest college basketball games of all time.
Analyst Skip Bayless disagrees and said this via twitter.
"No idea how you can call that an all-time great college basketball game when it was won by a lucky shot."
Skip Bayless has since been massively roasted for uttering such a statement.
This begs the question, "Was Jalen Suggs lucky?"
Let me ask you, "Would YOU rather be lucky or good?”
Being good prepares you to be lucky.
"Luck comes to the prepared mind… how any hours of basketball has that boy played? Yes, it was a lucky shot, but it came after hours of preparation to be in the right place at the right time to have the opportunity to take the shot. He also had the gumption to try.”Alicia Berberich
LUCKY IS AN EXCUSE NOT TO BE GOOD.
GOOD IS THE BEST REASON FOR REPEATED LUCK.
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I know a person who lives up north that started their own game show. Well, kinda. This person just started applying the 3 absolutes necessary any game show/reality TV show needs in order to be successful.
By the way, who's driving your car?
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When I read these lies, I could relate to most all of them. I'm been saying them to myself since childhood.
Clearly, someone taught these to me.
In the book "Limitless" by Jim Kwik, these 7 lies are confronted and can be replaced by new beliefs.
Let's connect. Find out if you're in the driver's seat or in the back seat eating Doritos. https://billmcconnell.me/drive
Are you feeling overwhelmed by your own lack of self-control?
It’s like you own the car but it just doesn’t seem like you’re the driver.
Today I’m going to help you find out exactly who’s in the driver’s seat.
When you’re in control of your own life, you get to choose your future. You get to choose the speed, direction and destination of your own car, your own life.
Will there be roadblocks and detours? Absolutely. Let’s just talk about what’s happening in your own car right now.
When you done, take the Driver Seat Quiz to see where you really sit.
https://billmcconnell.me/driver
SHOW LESSHow to Reach Difficult Goals... this is so simple, I'm almost embarrassed to tell you. You may already know this but so many people don't so here it is.
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This is a synopsis on the book I wrote in 2018 titled "Conquer What's Next."
Here are the nine questions you need to answer in order to be successful in any future endeavor.
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"I have a magnificent obsession. All I want to do is change the world ...make it a better place for this and future generations." W. Clement Stone
What is the world's greatest waste of time? It's a relative question. A waste of time for yo may be someone else's lifetime passion/obsession.
What is your magnificent obsession and what will it do to make the world a better place?
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You read that right. What happens next?
3 Questions to ask yourself as you take your idea to a new level.
Do you know where you're going? You need a MAP.
- A map offers destinations.
- A map does not offer a solution, only options.
Do you know how to get there? You need a COMPASS.
- A compass offers orientation, perspective
- A compass does not offer a destination, only a direction.
Do you know what to do when you get there? You have an IDEA.
- An idea offers a solution to a problem.
- An idea needs the right map and the right perspective.
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If you're ever going to conquer yourself and move forward in success, you must deal with your own unfinished business.
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Drip. Drip. Drip. Time slowly and methodically slips out of your life.
This is how you lose time and productivity during any given day, week or year.
time #timemanagement #solittletime #clock #ticktock #timeofyourlife #timeofmylife #timeaddsup
Success is a DIY Project... But you don't have to do it alone.
In fact, you shouldn't even try. Here are three myths about success you need to know.
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Was this video/audio edited after I recorded it LIVE on Facebook?
Nope.
Should I have edited it? That's your call. Let me have your opinion.
You can't edit LIVE Streaming when you're live.
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2020 kinda just happened to us. We never saw it coming. Now our eyes are opened to the possibilities and this coming year isn't going to take us by surprise.
Instead of letting stuff happen to us, we're going to make stuff happen for us. Here's the recipe.
Join me for a 21-Day Kickstart to 20212. https://www.billmcconnell.me/21-day-kickstart
Did you know only 8% of people who set annual goals actually achieve them?
There's so many "How to Set Goals" programs out there and some of them are pretty good. This episode is about having a great start to actually reaching those goals.
Let's crack into that top 8% this year.
https://www.billmcconnell.me/21-day-kickstart
Why you need a great start to 2021 is a rather redundant statement. Everybody wants a great start to whatever they're, well, starting.
Here's what you need to get the best start you can possibly have to the new year.
Minimize Bad
Eliminate Lucky
Guarantee Baseline
Join me for the first 21 days of 2021 to Kickstart the new year like never before.
https://www.billmcconnell.me/21-day-kickstart
2020 has been a dumpster fire. Most of us just can't wait for the new year to come.
Guess what? January 1st is just another day on the calendar. Nothing will magically change around us.
Don't focus on those things that you cannot control... like the economy, politics, the pndm*c. (Yow know... It's kinda like a bad word these days.)
If you want to have the best year every regardless of what the rest of the world wants to throw at us, join me for the first 21 days of 2021.
Here's the link... https://bit.ly/3fTEPMQ
Christmas gift story… an ungrateful teen who wanted an iPhone for Christmas and instead was given a mere $700 cash.
She went ballistic over not getting what she asked for.
She was a very ungrateful child... and clueless about money management.
Mentioned in the podcast is the book "The Gratitude Effect" by Richard J. Cavaness. Grab a copy here. https://amzn.to/3nUIufS
Don't be blind to the opportunities around you because your mindset is too narrow.
STEP BACK: You’re too close to your own work
WALK AROUND: The backside looks much different from the frontside
OPEN BOTH YOUR EYES: There can be more than one right answer
Having just one point of view eliminates many opportunities.
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Do you avoid setting goals because you know you're going to fail? There's a reason you feel that way and there's a way to overcome it.
Grab this FREE Goal-Setter Checklist you can download right now. https://www.billmcconnell.me/goalchecklist
Not obsessive in a weird way. (Awkward) Also not obsessive over a person. (Super Awkward) Obsessive in a way that is focused on you going deep into your passion over a sustained period of time.
Do you avoid setting goals because you know you're going to fail? There's a reason you feel that way and there's a way to overcome it. That's what you'll learn quickly with this FREE checklist you can download right now https://bit.ly/2JGH4qv
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