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Jaydee
"Hey, where do babies come from?" Feeling paralysed by that question? You are not alone! We live in a world were sex is highly politicised. We are scared of saying too much, saying too little, saying the wrong things. This podcast is to help you break free from the narrative that sex is a taboo and shall be hidden behind closed doors.Whether you are an educator like myself, a parent or simply someone who wants to learn how to talk freely and openly about one of the best things in the world - well, you've come to the right place. This podcast discovers the underlying causes of the discomfort that arises when having to talk about "it" and gives you the tools to help your students, your kids and yourself to be a sexually empowered being. On top of all that, The Sex Educator Podcast provides insightful conversations with experts and like-minded people as well plenty of resources on the art of sex education.
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The Sex Educator's topic this week is part two of a two part series on age-appropriate sex education focusing on how support children’s development through the ages 9-14 and up.
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The Sex Educator's topic this week is children's development in certain age ranges in regards to their interest in sexuality. Find out how to best support children to become sex and body positive beings between the ages 0-8 years in part one of this two part series.
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In this week’s episode we are talking about how to implement a fruitful conversation about sex, intimacy and bodies, how to built trust and be a reliable resource to your kids and students.
We will discuss
1. Why it is so important that YOU talk to children and teens about sexuality
2. Why it is that you might feel uncomfortable doing so
3. How to work through that, including helpful tools, a general guideline on mindset
4. How to respond to questions about sexuality
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Entertainer, comedian and musician Matt Griffo and host Jaydee are telling a story about how they went to a high school prom where Matt was hired to perform at.
The crowd was shocked when Matt started his set with the lyrics “Sit on my face and tell me that you love me”.
Now, let’s unpack what went wrong there. I was with Matt at this event and I could see all the reactions: The shocked but yet amused students, the mortified teacher and I saw Britt loosing her mind over it as well as the principal who was clearly fearful of loosing his job.
Where do all these emotions around talking about sex come from?
Everything starts by a misplaced anxiety that got engrained in our cultures and in our heads hundreds of years ago. Following that, sex was and is still today depending on the social context seen as exclusivly private. There is a lot of taboos still remaining around it and sometimes even public disclosure and back in the day disobeying that had serious consequences – so the fear around it was based on an actual, real-life threat.
Contraries have passed since then but this same fear still exists in our culture direct and open discussion about sex still is loaded with an intrinsic fear.
So when Britt was saying to Matt that brining up sex was okay, she said it thinking that Matt is subject to the same sexual narratives (which he clearly isn’t and shouldn't be). Also she was probably thinking of sex exclusively as vaginal intercourse and was thinking "well what is the worse thing that could be said about that?"
Why is oral sex in the eyes of Britt and so many others any different from vaginal sex? One would think that in an age where – thankfully – the heterosexual narrative is slowly retreating, that it should also be common sense that oral sex or any other type of sex is no less sexual than vaginal sex. Because if that WAS the case, we would basically be telling the gay community that they don’t really have sex and I'm sure we all strongly disagree with that
What are these adults at the prom are trying to be protective of?
Whom are they trying to fool thinking this song would be the first time these kids would ever hear of oral sex.
Talking about sex gained momentom bin 1981 when HIV was first identified first in the US and the need for talking about condoms arose and of course the media took advantage of that (because sex sells!). Ever since then we are bating in sexual content coming at us from EVERYWHERE.
The notion that sex is personal and private is contradicted by our culture, In our advertisement , music, movies, video game, language (you’ve heard kids use sexual language before, right?).
So in order for our young generations to not end up carrying the same narratives and the intrinsic fear of talking about sex openly we need to start creating a safe space that normalises sex and – more so – embrace sex as the pleasure creating , intimacy enhancing social behaviour that is simply is.
If we fail to do so, how are these young people supposed to make informed decisions for themselves or be responsibe with their bodies as well as other peoples bodies? Ho can they become confident sexual beings and tolerant adults if we keep hiding this important part fo life from them?
As parents, as educators and as any adult we should model that. Because if we can talk about sex freely and openly then others will start feeling more comfertable and kids won't inherent the fear and notions that are no longer based on a rational threats.
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Hey there!
This sweet and short episode is meant to give an idea about what this podcast is all about as well as give you a brief introduction of me – Jaydee – your host!
Let’s dive right in to that:
I live in the beautiful City of Chicago. So – now you’re either wondering or you might have guessed it: Where is this accent from? Yeah, you got me. I’m born and raised in Germany. I moved to Chicago in September of 2020 (yes, I moved across an ocean during a global pandemic, no fun, let me tell you!).
I – like many other educators – found myself more or less thrown into the role of a sex educator. Which – don’t get me wrong – I was excited about it, BUT BOY it was scary.
This podcast is intended for people like me: educators that found themselves overwhelmed by the topic of sex. But before you turn this podcast off because you’re thinking “I’m not a teacher” hold on! If you are a parent YOU ARE an educator. Not only that, you are THE primary, most important source of information for your kiddos.
You are not a parent? Ask yourself: Are you confident to talk about sex to kids and teens or even other adults? If you are – great! You have successfully mastered the art of breaking free from the sex-is-a-taboo-topic-narrative. How ever, if you still feel a slight itch when discussing sex, please sit back and enjoy the show. If you are someone who can still feel the anxiety from the last time you had to talk about “it” – even better – stick with me.
You are not alone.
The anxiety that creeps up on us when we have to talk about sex and our bodies stems from a deep rooted fear about saying too much, saying too little and a lack of confidence on how to frame things and what terms are appropriate to use.
This is not our fault. It comes from the fact that sex is HIGHLY politicised. We are basically terrified of making an unintended political statement in addition to the threat of the follow up questions that the kids may have.
The Sex Educator Podcast is intended to help you out here. It doesn’t have to be complicated, it doens’t have to be scary. Sex education can be a fun and rewarding task.
Even I didn’t have much guidance on sex education during my teacher training. In fact, I only ever encountered the topic of sex education once in over five years of studying Biology. This experience consisted of me and two of my peers sitting alone in a tiny room starring at a suitcase full of condoms (plus appropriate penis model) and other contraceptives. No guidance, no explanation. Let me tell you, we were shocked. Why is an important topic like human sexuality treated so negligently?
This feeds into a vicious cycle where teachers don’t know what the hack they’re doing, creating an uncomfortable experience for their students who might then in turn be unable to talk about sex with their children and rely on schools to provide these kids with everything they need to know. See the issue with that?
We are going to talk about that more in an upcoming episode. We are also going to talk about how to break free from the social narratives around sex, all of the different sex-related topics in detail, age appropriate communication and how to implement a fruitful conversation about sex.
My goal is to make us all familiar and comfortable with sex education.
This is why I am here today. We are on this learning journey together and I will share everything I’ve learned so far and am still learning with you. Additionally I’m hoping to bring on some guests and have some insightful conversations about sex education.
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