Transparently Speaking: Recent Episodes
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We are Diana and Joy - two moms who each supported their children to transition in early elementary school to become their true selves. We are using our voices to reflect our child’s voices, and have navigated everything from family and friends, to health care offices and schools. We are here to share our experience and our learning along this transgender journey, to provide support and guidance, parent-to-parent, and if you find yourself on a similar journey, we want you to know that you are not alone. Beyond parenting, we are also excited about building a community of allies and chosen family who will stand together with us, Transparently Speaking.
Joy and Diana open up about their current challenges amid the ongoing attacks on youth gender affirming care. They discuss the real-world hurdles of managing prescription renewals, medication access, and insurance barriers. The episode also offers an inside look at Samantha’s upcoming endocrinology appointment and the thoughtful planning behind timelines and next steps for blockers, hormones, and future surgical care.
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Diana and Joy share the profound isolation of raising transgender children while maintaining their privacy. They discuss why they limit who knows their children's identities, the risks they're protecting against, and the loneliness of being unable to share their biggest challenges with friends and family. A raw conversation about the emotional cost of keeping their children safe in today's political climate.
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In this episode of Transparently Speaking, Joy and Diana explore the challenge for everyone in adopting new names and pronouns. They share personal stories and reflect on how it feels when someone dismisses or neglects pronouns, how to respond (or not), and how allies can do better.
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From new driver’s licenses to marathon training, we share family updates alongside deeper reflections on advocacy, trans rights, and why a simple message like “You Are Loved” matters more than ever.
In this episode, we catch up on big life updates—from teenagers getting their driver’s licenses to the final stretch of marathon training. But woven through these everyday milestones are deeper conversations about what it means to parent, advocate, and show up for transgender youth.
We share the relief of seeing correct gender markers affirmed on official documents, the bittersweet transition of kids gaining independence, and the courage it takes to wear a message as simple—and as controversial—as “You Are Loved.”
Along the way, we talk about the troubling rhetoric labeling transgender people and their advocates as dangerous, and why visibility and allyship matter now more than ever.
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Diana and Joy reflect on the impact of the Minneapolis shooting (Aug 27, 2025) as they prepare for sending their trans kids off to a new school year.
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A physician dad shares how politics are disrupting research, parenting transgender kids, and the sports debate.
In this episode, Diana sits down with her husband, Arthur, a physician researcher and parent, to talk about how today’s shifting policies and headlines affect real families. Together, they cover three big themes:
- The ripple effects of political decisions on medical research and patient care
- What it means for parents of transgender kids to prepare and protect their families
- The science, myths, and realities behind the transgender sports debate
This candid conversation sheds light on how systemic changes impact everyday lives, and what families and allies can keep in mind moving forward.
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Recorded in the first half of July, Episode 103 is a reflection of how Joy and Samantha are feeling since the Supreme Court agreed to take up the constitutionality of laws that bar transgender women and girls from participating on girls’ and women’s sports teams. Since 2020, 27 states have banned grade school transgender girls from participating on girls sports teams. Since this recording, in late July, the U.S. Olympic & Paralympic Committee (USOPC) updated their athlete safety policy, effectively barring transgender women from all women's competitions.
Access details here: https://www.usopc.org/diversity-equity-inclusion/transgender-athlete-participation-in-sport
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What does it mean to truly be yourself in a world that often demands conformity?
In this episode, Diana sits down with author, coach, and nonbinary trailblazer Jeffrey Marsh to talk about authenticity, allyship, parenting, and the emotional stamina it takes to keep showing up. From Buddhist wisdom to real-talk about crying in public, this conversation moves between laughter, reflection, and raw honesty.
They explore:
- The difference between helping your child and centering your fear
- How to find peace when the world feels chaotic
- Why allies shouldn't wait for perfect language to speak up
- And what it means to raise (or be) a kid who doesn’t fit the mold
Whether you're a parent, an ally, or someone figuring it out in real time, this episode offers permission to exhale, feel, and try again.
🎧 Listen now—and share with someone who needs a little wisdom and wonder today.
If you want to learn more about coaching with Jeffrey Marsh or the work they do, visit jeffreymarsh.com or listen to their podcast Inner Voice on YouTube or wherever you get your podcasts.
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In this episode, Joy and Diana provide listeners an update and overview of the latest political and news stories impacting them and all transgender youth. From US vs. Skrmetti (6.18.25 - which upheld Tennessee's law banning gender-affirming care for minors) to the announcement that the LA Children's Hospital Gender Clinic will be shutting down, to passport sex marker updates, join us to learn about impacts and implications.
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Speaking up for transgender youth doesn’t always mean being loud or public. In this episode, Diana and Joy explore different forms of LGBTQ advocacy, including private conversations, writing to lawmakers, and simply staying informed. They also examine subtle media bias around gender-affirming care and explain why naming misinformation is a powerful way to protect and support trans kids.
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In this special Pride Month episode, Diana and Joy share their third annual letter to LGBTQIA+ youth, families, and allies. In a year marked by escalating attacks on transgender and queer youth, they offer solidarity and support and speak to the fear, the grief, and the fierce love that define this moment. Pride is more than celebration — it’s resistance, resilience, and community. To our kids, and to all trans folx out there: You are seen. You are not alone. And we’re not going anywhere.
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In this episode, Joy shares updates from her daughter’s recent endocrine visit—including conversations about hormone levels, breast development, and timing for potential surgeries. She also reflects on a powerful session with a legal coach that shifted how she understands disclosure, identity, and what it means to legally and medically define sex. Together, Joy and Diana explore how policies, procedures, and personal decisions intersect in the evolving landscape of gender-affirming care.
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In this episode, Diana receives an SOS call from Clark and cancels her commitments to travel and support him. This episode explores Diana's approach to supporting him, and the layered frustration and fear resulting from our current sociopolitical environment.
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From a hard-won court victory to the uncertainty of college athletics, this episode moves through triumph, fear, frustration, and hope. Joy shares the emotional journey of changing her daughter’s birth certificate—and the questions that remain about safety, outing, and the future of sports for transgender youth.
Listen in as we explore what progress looks like when the path ahead is still uncertain.
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In Episode 95 of Transparently Speaking, Diana and Joy share their response to the new federal proclamation, "National Child Abuse Prevention Month," which indicates that gender affirming care is child abuse. They also reflect on how they are choosing to show up and resist, each in their own way.
https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/04/national-child-abuse-prevention-month-2025
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Spring break used to mean picking a destination based on fun and weather. Now, it involves scanning state laws and planning how to stay safe in public spaces. In this episode, we talk about how political shifts are changing everyday decisions for families with transgender kids—and how we try to hold onto joy anyway. We also share two court rulings that offer real hope.
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Join Diana and Joy as they reflect on continued national and state level legislative efforts, specifically transgender girls in sports. The key arguments offered by those proposing these bills are based largely on considerations of safety and fairness. In this episode, those considerations are explored and challenged.
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What happens when a name becomes a risk factor? In this episode, we explore the emotional toll of parenting transgender children in a time of heightened scrutiny, the delicate balance between advocacy and safety, and the exhaustion of constantly weighing the risks of visibility. How do families decide when to speak up and when to stay quiet during a child's transition? And what does it mean to reset expectations with self-compassion in uncertain times?
Listen in as we unpack these challenges and consider what it means to protect, support, and sustain ourselves in the face of ongoing uncertainty.
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Diana and Joy share how they are navigating their anxiety associated with the current political environment. Since the 47th President's inauguration there have been 4 Executive Orders focused on transgender people (youth especially). In this episode, join us to hear how Diana is setting boundaries in offering support to other families and how she is finding space for joy, and how both moms explore the concept of trust as they question the level of support they have from friends and acquaintances. Joy also shares her plan and path to resist, as her family continues to support Samantha to live and play her sport as if nothing has changed.
By listening, you are joining us in stepping into advocacy, education, and resistance - and for that, we are grateful.
4 Executive Orders:
- https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/01/defending-women-from-gender-ideology-extremism-and-restoring-biological-truth-to-the-federal-government/
- https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/01/protecting-children-from-chemical-and-surgical-mutilation/
- https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/01/ending-radical-indoctrination-in-k-12-schooling/
- https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/02/keeping-men-out-of-womens-sports/
Additional Resources:
How Trump's policies target transgender people
How the Binary Sex EO Ignores Science
Trump’s Anti-Trans Attacks Won’t Stop With Us
The Government is Erasing Trans People from American History
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The latest executive order banning gender-affirming care for anyone under 19 has sent shockwaves through families with transgender children. In this episode of Transparently Speaking, Diana and Joy share their raw and honest reactions—from shock and anger to the looming fear of what comes next.
How will this order impact hospitals, physicians, and the future of care for trans youth? What can parents do to fight back? And how do we protect our kids in the face of such overwhelming uncertainty?
This conversation is a call to awareness, action, and community. If you’re feeling lost or scared, you are not alone. Listen in as we navigate the fallout of this executive order together.
Resources Mentioned:
- Erin in the Morning (erininthemorning.com)
- Parents of Trans Youth (Instagram or parentsoftransyouth.com)
- Local LGBTQ+ community centers
- PFLAG chapters
- Legal aid organizations at county courthouses
- Contacting your senators/representatives
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As the inauguration looms less than a week away, Diana and Joy reflect on their biggest fears and how they are currently thinking and preparing to face challenges. After this recording was complete, the House Bill, "Protection of Women and Girls in Sports Act" passed 218-206; if passed into law, this legislation would amend Title IX to ban transgender girls and women from sports in federally funded schools.
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As January 20th approaches, many families with transgender children face uncertainty, fear, and the need to prepare for possible changes. In this episode, Diana and Joy discuss the steps they’ve taken to safeguard their children, including creating safe folders, updating documents, and navigating the current political climate.
They also reflect on the emotional toll of recent events, share moments of resilience, and highlight the importance of supporting organizations like Lambda Legal, ACLU, and NCLR.
For families, this episode offers a sense of solidarity and practical advice. For allies, it’s a call to action to support transgender families in these trying times. Hope still gleams, even in unexpected places, reminding us that progress can prevail.
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In episode 87, Joy and Diana share key updates, including: Clark's first vote, Samanta's doctor's response to insurance denial and final decisions, navigating an inadvertent sharing of Samantha's medical procedure, and ongoing challenges with preferred names and pronouns at the Children's hospital.
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In this heartfelt episode, Diana & Joy reflect on Diana's recent conversation with Clark from episode 83, offering an intimate look into her journey as a parent of a transgender young adult. From the wisdom Clark shared about navigating disclosure and safety to the bittersweet experience of letting go as a parent, this episode explores the complexities of growth, identity, and love.
Diana & Joy revisit key moments from Diana's discussion with Clark, including his thoughtful advice for young transgender individuals, his awareness of challenges faced by those in unsafe environments, and his clarity about living authentically while setting boundaries. These reflections underscore how much he’s grown—and how ready he is to face the world on his own terms.
This episode is also about learning to release control and embracing the present moment. As Diana shares the emotional highs and lows of their cross-country trip and Clark’s transition to a new phase of life, Diana & Joy remind listeners that while the journey may not always be perfect, it often leads to better, richer experiences and deeper understanding.
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Following the 2024 Presidential election, Diana and Joy reflect on the results and share insights about their families' personal reactions and responses upon learning that Trump will be president in 2025. The discussion includes a reflection upon biggest concerns and how they are navigating next steps. Resources mentioned include a reference to Erin Reed's "Erin in the Morning" journalism and FreeMomHugs.org.
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In the lead-up to Election Day, Diana and Joy discuss the escalating impact of political misinformation—particularly surrounding transgender rights. With personal stories and clear-eyed insights, they explore the emotional toll of anti-trans rhetoric in media, the role of misinformation in shaping public perception, and the essential need to vote. This episode is a call to action, encouraging listeners to make their voices heard, support truth over fear, and stand firm against disinformation. Diana and Joy’s candid reflections underscore how every vote impacts families, truth, and the rights of marginalized communities.
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In this special episode of Transparently Speaking, we have a first-time guest: Clark. After sharing stories about him for so long, we are excited to present Clark's own voice as he opens up about his transition journey, his identity, and his thoughts on the challenges and triumphs he’s faced. Clark reflects on his childhood, discusses navigating life as a transgender man, and offers his insights on issues like misgendering, the importance of safe environments, and what he hopes for the future of transgender rights.
Tune in to hear Clark’s perspective on what it means to be himself, how he approaches relationships and community, and his advice for transgender and nonbinary kids just starting their journeys. This is an episode full of heart, honesty, and powerful insights—don’t miss it!
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We're excited to invite Sophie back in Episode 82. Join Joy and Sophie in exploring parental roles and responsibilities in communicating preferred pronouns and navigating extended family understanding (in Alex’s case, in advance of a 1:1 ten day trip with their Aunt, who doesn’t yet know Alex is nonbinary). Also, in this episode, Sophie names her (and our generation’s) challenge in having minimal visible adult nonbinary role models.
Sophie also references a helpful book: A Quick & Easy Guide to They/Them Pronouns (Quick & Easy Guides), by Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson. NOTE: Joy has several pronoun misses in this episode (referring to Alex as ‘he/him’); It’s a journey for all of us!
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In this episode, Joy and Diana discuss the unexpected cancellation of a conference for families with transgender and non-binary children. Five days before it was set to occur, the conference was called off for security reasons.
They explore the implications of this disruption, the emotional and physical safety concerns it raised, and the broader societal context impacting transgender support events. They also examine the personal experiences of their own families, the resilience of their children, and the ongoing importance of advocacy and community.
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Diana shares a specific challenge she's facing as she discovers an organization she enjoys working with is not currently open to conversation around gender identity. Join us in Episode #80 as Diana and Joy explore how values drive boundaries and influence the ways in which we choose to engage.
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Join Diana and Joy as they discuss the ongoing journey of supporting Samantha, a transgender athlete, in youth sports. This episode explores the importance of maintaining Samantha's privacy while ensuring her right to play. Hear their insights and correspondence with regional authorities to navigate these evolving policies.
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In Episode #78 we welcome a new voice and storyline to share another family's journey as they support their non-binary child. Joy introduces her friend Sophie, whose child recently named their pronouns as "they/ them."
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In this episode, Diana shares a recent incident involving Clark with an organization they previously had to educate to ensure Clark’s equal rights. This new interaction sheds light on the deeper impact last year's events had on Clark and reveals that his wounds are still far from healed. Tune in to learn more about their ongoing journey in advocacy.
If you want a reminder of the events of last year, listen to Episode 52 from July 1, 2023: Celebrations & Adventures in Advocating
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In Episode #76, Joy and Diana reflect on how gender identity (and nondisclosure of gender identity) has influenced their thinking about who, when and how their kids might spend an overnight with others. Join us to hear a broader reflection on sexuality and how we navigate the topic for our cisgender kids, too!
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In this episode, Joy and Diana discuss how their approach to managing summer activities has evolved since their children first transitioned. They explore the challenges and strategies related to their children using gendered facilities, such as bathrooms and locker rooms, and share their experiences navigating summer camps. Additionally, they reflect on how their decisions regarding disclosure have shifted over time.
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Join us in episode #74 to kickoff and celebrate pride month! Joy and Diana share another letter of hope and love, dedicated to any and all who might benefit from being seen and supported.
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In this episode, Diana and Joy continue their discussion from last time, focusing on the book about a transgender boy that was shared in Dinah's class. It's an episode you won't want to miss, full of laughter and hope. Diana also shares a letter she wrote to the parents, which is a valuable resource. Tune in to hear Diana and Joy talk about navigating this "big" reveal and the reactions it elicited.
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In Episode 72, Diana shares the details of a school-based scenario that’s arisen, and how she’s preparing for the possibility of Dyna disclosing his transgender identity. Join Joy and Diana as they explore what’s different this time (vs. with Clark & Samantha), and listen to their reflection on how gender identity disclosure may help or hinder success (e.g., in sports or music / the arts).
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Diana gives an update on preparing Clark to leave the house and go to school next year. Listen as things get real for Diana, as she realizes her feelings as she considers saying goodbye to her oldest child.
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Join Diana and Joy as they share what's been holding them back from having conversations with their trans youth about intimacy and safe sex, and learn what they are taking away as opportunities for further conversation.
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Diana talks about Clark's next steps after graduation and her feelings about them. Joy helps Diana explore what is coming up for her and provides perspective.
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Diana and Joy share their experience in discovering and navigating the news of Nex Benedict’s tragic bullying and death in Oklahoma.
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Join Joy and Diana for an update on the discussion with school district administration, as Joy pursues Samantha's eligibility to participate in the sport she loves. Listen to learn about an Endocrinologist's perspective on sex vs. gender, ongoing considerations for maintaining privacy in non-disclosure, and Diana's advice about how to set the tone in making requests for confidentiality.
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In this podcast episode (#66), Joy is getting ready for a meeting with her child's school district to discuss sports participation. The focus shifts to the importance of trust in the administration to safeguard her child's identity during this process. This prompts a broader conversation between Joy and Diana about the trust parents place in others, specifically in not disclosing their child's identity. The discussion extends to the broader theme of trusting others with personal feelings, emphasizing the delicate balance between openness and privacy when it comes to one's emotions and family matters.
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Joy, after many years, has returned to attending a support group. This leads to Diana and Joy reflecting on their experiences attending various support groups in Episode 65. They discuss the advantages and disadvantages of attending support groups.
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Join us in this episode to hear more about Diana and Clark's trip to Mexico in October. This episode is also a reflection and celebration of key learnings from 2023.
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Diana and Joy discuss their holiday traditions and reflect on what the first years post-transition were like. They share their advice and lessons learned.
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In this episode, Diana and Joy explore assumptions, fears, and challenges in giving, receiving, and asking for support. The concept of support is in the context of anti-trans legislation that has been passed or proposed in many states. Joy and Diana articulate the impacts of proposed anti-trans legislation, even when not likely to be passed into law, and name the burden carried of navigating the news and risks our kids and families experience.
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In episode 61, Joy and Diana talk about their experiences with how they approached family gatherings. They discuss everything from the tone of their presentation to setting boundaries.
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In Episode 60, Diana and Joy reflect on the latest round of legislative bills being proposed in their state; one, named the “Help Not Harm Act,” is legislation similar to that which has been passed in 20 states. Also proposed is regulation around transgender participation in sports. Join to hear about Joy's reflection as Samantha continues to participate in competitive volleyball, undisclosed.
This episode references a few resources we encourage you to check out:
- Powerful testimony by Representative Ryan Clancy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PqsFLWXKv4
- Skylar Bailar, transgender advocate and athlete: https://www.pinkmantaray.com/
- Chris Mosier, transgender advocate and athlete: https://www.thechrismosier.com/
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Diana and Joy explore the concept of "Gender reveals" and their history in deciding whether or not to find out (before birth) what their children would be assigned at birth. They explore what the possible assignment meant to them and Diana also shares context around the historical economics of "finding out" the assignment prior to birth.
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In Episode 58, Diana and Joy share stories and their family journeys of names, including how names were selected for their gender non-conforming children (to better reflect their identities). They also explore how emotion arises in relation to the meanings associated with names, including the challenge of disclosure and safety when a name feels misaligned with gender expression.
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Diana and Joy start this episode discussing Diana's pre-school year meeting with Dinah's teachers. They explore being asked questions as well as finding people to answer their own questions. Who is an expert?
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In episode 56, Diana discusses how she is handling helping Dinah's classmates misgender him less. She discusses her theories of why this is happening two years after he started at the school where he has always identified as a boy.
Diana and Joy discuss how people's words may reflect various perspectives and not always what we imagine.
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Join Joy and Diana in episode 54 as they share their personal interpretations of individual's social media posts, likes and comments. They explore specific examples of recent social media posts (by family and others) to gauge levels of support and openness to LGBTQ+ beliefs, and how this informs their choices and decisions to engage.
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In Episode 53, Diana and Joy respond to listeners' questions and update on Clark's after-high school journey, Samantha and Clark's newest gender-affirming care, Joy's move to a more affirming school district, and disclosure.
This episode is not only an update but a great representation of many of the aspects of life that non-binary and transgender children nd families navigate. Diana and Joy share it transparently. Some are ups, some are downs, and some are a bit of both.
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Join Joy and Diana to celebrate 4 recent wins (3 national news, 1 personal). Episode 51 explores Diana's experience in advocating for Clark's privacy and non-disclosure for an upcoming (overnight) event.
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Joy shares an experience that she and Samantha experienced when called by a counselor. Joy and Diana discuss how they believe their children may have more on their minds than academics as they navigate school.
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Diana and Joy celebrate pride month with their 50th episode! Listen in to hear another letter of hope and love, dedicated to any and all who might benefit from being seen and supported.
Also, a listener request is shared; listeners in southeastern Wisconsin are invited to join a community discussion on Saturday, June 17th at the Waukesha Public Library beginning at 1:30pm. This Town Hall program includes education and discussion about LGBTQ+ issues in Waukesha, with a panel of citizens answering questions from the community. Find more information by searching in FaceBook for “Town Hall on LGBTQ Issues in Waukesha” or email pflagwaukesha@gmail.com with any questions.
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Joy explores what the risks are of assuming that people will all be "good." They discuss the potential "harms." Together, Joy and Diana discuss when they want to share, and how they navigate their lives. They share some ideas of how to "test the waters" around them, and how they look for "winks." They include how they look for those "winks" or signs that a health care person is "safe" and knowledgeable.
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In this episode, Joy and Diana explore considerations in disclosing their children's transgender identity and in which communities and situations they feel safe to do so. Diana and Joy also reflect on their struggle in engaging authentically with individuals and the community around them, since in most cases they aren't disclosing their identities as parents of transgender youth.
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Diana shares her experience taking Dinah to the Gender clinic to establish care. Diana and Joy discuss how some things have changed and the challenges of attaining care.
For clarity, no medical intervention is being offered or requested for Dinah at this time. It is only to establish care and support.
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Joy and Diana reflect on a post from a parent about the effect on their family of discussing anti-transgender bills. They discuss the recent changes in various states over the past weeks. They end with hope for the future from an article from Time that you may find here.(https://time.com/6258586/utah-transgender-bill-essay/?utm_medium=email&utm_source=sfmc&utm_campaign=newsletter+brief+default+ac&utm_content=+++20230304+++body&et_rid=207245074&lctg=207245074)
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Hugh (Small Town Dad) joins us for Episode 45. He and Joy reflect on: 1) their process of reviewing school records, 2) seeking to understand how school board resolutions drive policy change, and 3) sports policy in their school district. Listen in as new insights arise and decisions are made after meeting with the School District’s Assistant Superintendent.
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Diana talks with her friend Kirby, who shares her journey of her child's transition. They discuss transition as well as navigating society's perceptions of gender diversity and neurodiversity.
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Join us for updates as Joy shares the steps she and Hugh are taking to navigate the anticipated Parental Transparency school district policy. Joy and Diana share gratitude for all the “Mr. Rogers” helpers out there - we encourage (and celebrate) your allyship and encourage listeners to thank those in your community who speak and act in support of gender nonconforming youth.
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In episode 42, Joy shares the new resolution passed in her school district. She discusses the potential impact on her family. As Joy opens up about her emotional journey through their changing landscape, she discusses her family's options. She also walks through Hugh and her plan on how they are approaching this resolution that may become policy.
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In Episode 41 we reflect on the universal parental desire to keep our children safe, and both Joy and Diana explore additional considerations for people of trans experience (especially as teens mature into dating and sexual exploration). Listen in to explore questions such as:
- When is the 'right time' to disclose one's transgender identity to a romantic partner?
- How does one know it's safe to kiss someone, or go somewhere alone with a person of interest?
Join us to also hear conversational tips and tricks to help prepare your kids to navigate risk and make good choices.
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In this episode, Diana and Joy give updates on what has occurred over the past year.
Episodes referenced in the order mentioned are:
Episode 29: Have Courage Will Travel
Episode 23: A (Testosterone) Path Less Talked About
Episode 12: Gender-Affirming Estrogen Therapy
Episode 38: Permission to Play (Sports)
Episode 32: Stepping Out
Episode 18: Siblings and Boundaries
Diana and Joy also talk about considering name change and the cost of medication.
Lastly, they discuss what they hope to bring in the new year on the podcast.
Happy New Year!
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Join us in episode 39 to reflect on the importance of self-awareness and self-care during stressful times. Diana shares a lesson learned about knowing one's limits, and she encourages us to bring awareness to our individual capacity for handling stress. She and Joy also explore boundary setting, preparing for difficult situations, and navigating anticipated challenges.
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Joy explores the implications of Samantha's desire to play on a competitive volleyball team. She shares what she has learned about USA Volleyball’s gender competition guidelines and how she is navigating the system while trying to maintain privacy.
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In episode 37, Diana and Joy explore how their children's gender journey has enhanced their lives, including a reflection of gratitude for the lessons learned.
November 20th is Transgender Day of remembrance, which is observed to memorialize those who have lost their lives as a result of transphobia. In this episode, we honor those lost by celebrating the beauty that has arisen from the journey of living one's truth.
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In episode 36, Joy and Diana explore their increasing sense of fear, as mid-term elections near. In many places around the US, there are laws being considered that would eliminate access to transition-related health care and other laws that consider supporting a child's transition to their true self to be child abuse.
Watch:
1. The Problem with Jon Stewart: The War Over Gender
2. Last Week Tonight with John Oliver: Transgender Rights II (HBO subscription needed)
Please, remember to vote on November 8th!
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Diana & Joy reflect on their learning and insights from the podcast with Chris Hale. Join us as we share additional insights, including Chris’s perspective on his transition and Clark’s struggle with being misgendered at school.
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Diana talks to her good friend, Chris Hale. They share with Diana their journey to understanding their identity as a non-binary person. Chris gives parents advice to consider the things that you say, and meet your child where they are.
If you are interested in hearing Chris’s podcast, You Need A Coach B*tch, click here.
If you want to learn more about Chris’ coaching practice, go to https://www.theonlychrishale.com/
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In episode 33, Diana shares a conversation theme she’s hearing from parents - specifically, a concern that youth are identifying as non-binary and transgender to be trendy. Joy and Diana explore the dangerous implications of parents/guardians questioning their children’s identity, while recognizing it’s in our human nature to question and seek explanations for things we struggle to understand. Join us to hear our perspective on the most impactful thing you can do to support any individual who might be exploring their gender identity.
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Diana shares a new discovery after talking to Clark. She and Joy explore how he got there, and what it means to Diana.
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From challenging gender norms (e.g., boys don't cry) to exploring gender inclusive language, join Joy and Diana as they explore the opportunity for greater awareness and language shifts to create a better world. Listen in to hear about mistakes they've made in assuming gender pronouns and misgendering individuals, and how they are working diligently to practice a language and mindset shift.
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Hear how Joy and Diana have navigated health care offices to help them affirm their children. They discuss their experiences before and after a legal name change. They also share some obstacles they have faced along the way.
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In episode 29, Diana and Joy explore their preparations for and experiences with transgender travel. Listen as Diana prepares for Clark’s journey to Israel, and as both Diana and Joy reflect on learnings and approaches, including getting through TSA (Transportation Security Administration), navigating legal and preferred names, considering carry letters and safe folders, updating passports, traveling with hormones (controlled substances), and more.
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This is the second of the two-part series in celebration of Father’s Day. Joy and Diana reflect on the essential and supportive role their husbands have played in the lives of their kids, and interview their husbands to allow these two men an opportunity to share their story, experience, and wisdom with listeners.
In part 2, Diana interviews her husband, Arthur to explore his journey and understanding of Clark and Dinah's gender identity. Join us to learn more about Arthur's perspective as a research physician, and his challenges and clarity along the way.
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Joy and Diana kick off a two-part series in celebration of Father’s Day; they reflect on the essential and supportive role their husbands have played in the lives of their kids, and interview their husbands to allow these two men an opportunity to share their story, experience, and wisdom with listeners.
In part 1, Joy interviews her husband Hugh to explore his journey and understanding of Samantha’s gender identity. Join us to learn more about Hugh’s context as a small town dad, and his perspective on the greatest challenges, concerns and best part of the journey.
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Join Diana and Joy in gratitude and celebration - one year of podcasting, and many years of pride celebration ahead! This episode reflects on a few pioneers who have inspired us, and ends with a note of hope and love, dedicated to any and all children who may not be surrounded by the support of their loved ones.
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Diana answers listeners' questions about the testosterone journey episodes. Joy discusses where Samantha is on her path to start estrogen. Diana and Joy discuss the requirements to start cross-sex hormones and their concerns.
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In episode 24, Joy and Diana explore the hesitance behind sharing episode 23 - A (Testosterone) Path Less Talked About , which had been recorded nearly 6 months prior to posting. Diana identifies her fears and also shares why she ultimately decided to share her experience. This episode also provides insight into how both Joy and Diana invite their children to openly explore their gender journey and gender identity. Ultimately, our hope is that by sharing these stories, listeners can acknowledge and accept that a variety of paths and diverse experiences may be part of the gender journey.
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In this episode, Diana speaks candidly about Clark’s journey with Testosterone. Join us to learn about Clark's early experience with gender-affirming hormone therapy; it is a narrative not often heard, and it's filled with pain and joy. Listen as Diana witnesses Clark come to know himself fully.
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Diana interviews her 82-year old dad to discuss his experience with his grandkid’s transition. Join us to hear his thoughts and how he approaches acceptance.
This episode was recorded remotely and although sound quality is not optimal, the quality of content is superb. A very special thanks to Abuelo.
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Diana and Joy share how they are experiencing recent anti-trans legislation. Efforts underway include: 1) bans on affirming healthcare for transgender youth, 2) the Texas governor’s order to investigate gender-affirming care (and parenting) as possible child abuse. Listen as we voice our vulnerability and concerns.
This was recorded prior to courts halting the order in Texas. Thank you ACLU and Lambda Legal! Check out the Texas legislation tracker for more details here: https://www.equalitytexas.org/legislative-bill-tracker/
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In this episode, we discuss some of the initial questions we were asked when our children transitioned. By reflecting, we look at the reasons and meanings that may be behind the questions. Our hope is to learn, and never to judge.
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In this episode, Diana and Joy explore the distinction between privacy and secrecy, and the concepts of shame vs. empowerment. We grapple with the question of our role in our children’s choice to be undisclosed, and we explore whether our focus on safety negatively influenced their sense of self. Join us to hear more about our perspective on the risk of disclosure, and our belief that it’s our children’s right to decide who knows their story.
Episode 19 references two books
- Calvin by Vanessa Ford, J.R. Ford, Ronald Martin Ford
- Sissy: A Coming of Gender Story by Jacob Tobia
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Join Diana and Joy as we explore privacy boundaries to support our children of trans-experience; in this episode we reflect on how we set expectations that siblings are not to talk about or mention anything related to their brother or sister being transgender. We distinguish between talking openly within the family about our transgender children’s transition and require confidentiality outside of the family. We grapple with age considerations and hold a belief around the importance of allowing our transgender children to determine if and when they want to tell their story. We also explore consequences and Joy shares her and her husband Hugh’s approach to a challenging situation with Samantha’s twin brother Bobby.
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In episode 17 we explore how cosmetics (makeup and nails) have been part of both of our children's journeys. We also explore our own feelings around this aspect of our child's journey, and get curious about how our emotions and experience were impacted by the fact that they are children of trans-experience.
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Diana shares her experience of talking with educators about using non-binary language. Joy and Diana both express the challenge in learning and building new habits, and the importance of inclusive language expression.
Gendered language is very often habitual; we discuss how it can perpetuate inaccurate assumptions and how conscious use of language is essential for identity validation. Listen in for tips - the first step is awareness and the second step is continuous practice!
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In Episode 15, we explore the role that hair played in our children’s journey of living their true self.
Of note, the definition of “gender expression” is “the external ways in which a person expresses their gender identity to the world, such as through their behavior, emotions, style of dress, hairstyle, makeup, interests, or choice of toys, colors, or activities“ (from https://transfamilies.org/a-gender-foundation/ 6/28/21).
Also, the organization mentioned in this podcast is Strands for Trans. They can be found via https://www.strandsfortrans.com/.
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Join Diana and Joy in exploring their experience of loneliness on the journey of supporting their children. In episode 14, we come to greater self-awareness regarding a sense of space and place, specifically recognizing how essential the experience of community is for us in feeling supported.
Episode 14 references the movie Boys Don’t Cry (1999). This article summarizes the divisive legacy of the movie, which some believe offers landmark representation while others believe it to be distressingly exploitative: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/09/movies/boys-dont-cry-anniversary.html
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In episode 13, Diana and Joy share their experience navigating holiday cards after transition. We share the thoughts and considerations that went into our decisions, and Joy reads an excerpt from her family’s first holiday card following Samantha’s transition.
The discussion naturally extends to family photos on display in the home, and we explore the thoughts and feelings surrounding decisions to keep up or take down photos taken prior to transition.
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Joy shares details from Samantha’s most recent Endocrine Clinic visit, in which they seek to understand what is needed to prepare Samantha for feminizing hormone therapy. The intent is to avoid male secondary sex characteristics (e.g., increased body hair, changes in voice pitch, etc.). Feminizing hormone therapy is also known as gender-affirming hormone therapy.
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Diana navigates emotional conflict in episode 11. Diana seeks to protect Dinah yet maintain relationships when her mother (Dinah’s grandma) resists recognizing Dinah’s gender identity.
This episode was recorded in two parts. The first part was recorded a year ago, when Diana first experienced her mother’s resistance to recognizing Dinah’s gender. The second part provides listeners an update, sharing how Diana chose to address her mom, and how the conflict was resolved.
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In our 10th episode, Diana shares her experience with Dinah’s first days of school. We cover tips for communicating a child’s gender identity with parents and students, and we continue to navigate disclosure and privacy considerations for our young children.
Episode 10 references the following resources:
- "Red: A Crayon’s Story" by Michael Hall
- "It Feels Good to Be Yourself: A Book About Gender Identity" by Theresa Thorn
- Gender Diversity (http://genderdiversity.org/) is an organization that works with schools, workplaces, and health care providers to create welcoming environments for people who are gender diverse at any age.
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In episode 9 we head back in time to explore our concerns and considerations in deciding to launch this podcast. The recording is unscripted, and in-the-moment as we face our fears and prepare ourselves to place our families and our stories in the public eye.
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Episode 8 provides additional guidance for those on the journey of engaging with school administrators and teachers during and after transition. This episode is focused on disclosure, and Diana and Joy’s approach (and how it’s changed) in regard to engaging schools and making requests to support their transgender children.
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Episode 7 provides guidance to consider how to engage your child and the school during the process of transition. We cover key topics including: name and pronoun changes, bathrooms and facilities, and misgendering.
Here are the resources mentioned in the podcast:
Welcoming Schools https://welcomingschools.org/
Schools in Transition
http://assets2.hrc.org/files/assets/resources/Schools-In-Transition.pdf
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We began this podcast after supporting our children’s gender transition, which began more than 5 years ago. After we began taping, Diana’s youngest child, Dinah, let her know that he was a boy. We wanted to share the beginning of that journey with you as it unfolded during taping. We share the thoughts, questions, emotions, and the challenges of changing pronouns with you in this episode. In this 6th episode we introduce you to Dinah, as his true self.
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In our 5th episode, we explore bathing suits as a key step in both our learning journey and in the validation of our children’s identity. We discuss the challenges of balancing affirmation with our concerns for their safety. With hindsight, we share what we wish we had done differently, and that there is no "right answer" to personal decisions.
We highlight some concerns around body shaming, and would like to recognize that all genders and individuals may deal with feelings of shame around their bodies.
Access information about form-fitting swimsuits and underwear for trans girls, at RUBIES here: https://rubyshines.com/
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In this episode we examine various view points of the anti-transgender athletic bills that have been introduced throughout the USA. Our episodes are unscripted and are recorded in the moment. Clarifications we would like to highlight include:
- “Hormone suppression” is in reference to the suppression of testosterone.
- When Diana says “Unfairness to female athletes,” she is quoting an argument and “female” refers to girls assigned female at birth.
To learn about athletic policies by state, NCAA, the Olympics, and other professional athletic organizations, we recommend the following resource: https://www.transathlete.com/.
Access more information on the documentary, Changing the Game, here: https://www.changinggamedoc.com/.
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Join us as we explore the discovery of our children’s identity, and our journey of learning. We discuss our feelings and introduce our decision to support our children’s transition.
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In this episode, we explore our journey and feelings as we supported our children in the first step of medical transition, puberty blockers. We share what we know, and how we decided to take this step that our children deeply desired.
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Join us, Diana & Joy, as we discuss who we are and why we wanted to create this podcast. We also explore the language we use for our children and why. *Of note. We pre-recorded this episode, as referenced by discussing being in the middle of the pandemic.
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