Rooted with Pamela Benson Owens: Recent Episodes
Pam Owens
Candid, teachable moment centered, deeper, honest. Rooted focuses on topics that help you get more clarity around what you think, believe, and value in order to live more wholeheartedly.
Rest is a right. It took me a long time to figure it out. And both rest and sleep must occur for optimal health and wellness. During this podcast, we will explore the seven types of rest and how to prioritize rest and sleep.
It’s our first visual podcast! During this podcast, we will explore assumed constraints and how the ability to identify what is an assumption and what is a real constraint is liberating. Watch us on youtube @rootedwithpamelabensonowens!
On this episode of Rooted, we will make good use of the last week of Black History Month by addressing not just the concept of Black joy, but how it brings about assassins and joy killers due to a variety of factors. And, the declaration of embracing the paradox that exists between embracing Black joy and clearly understanding the systemic demons that position us to often fight each other (by design), instead of fighting the system is for the taking.
During this podcast we will explore a few things that have become boldy uninvited for me as a Black woman. Listen in and make your own uninvited list.
During this episode, we will explore the importance of doing an ongoing personal audit. Our cars need tune-up, we go to annual check-ups each year, and you get performance appraisals at work, but how are you performing as the author of your own life? Listen in to learn the components of a personal audit and why it’s so important.
During this episode I sit down with a real thinker, Eric Hepburn. We go from gratitude to parenting and a little bit of everything in between. Tune in for what is sure to be a conversation that will make you pause and think, which we should all give ourselves more permission to do!
Parenting is hard. During this podcast, we will explore the long-term impact of being critical and hard on our kiddos. I had to drink a lot of vulnerability punch on this one to actually name that the first several years of parenting were NOT my best stuff.
In this episode of Rooted, we are exploring just how to approach having a difficult conversation. One thing is for sure, not having the conversation isn’t helpful. So how can we equip ourselves to courageously convene the conversation with the intent of finding a solution or at least creating clarity? Let’s dig in.
Whew, negative self-talk is such a beast. And, doing so fundamentally alters our neural pathways. During this episode, we go right up the middle on why we must practice speaking affirmatively and lovingly to ourselves. If we don’t, nobody will. Period.
Life is short and it goes fast. I’ve realized that I truly must be intentional about living. How I’m living, what I’m living, how do I define living well, all of it. During this episode, I will tell you my specific acts of living and why you need to explore your own.
I’ve been on the quest to learn how to say no and well for a while. Many ask me how to actually do it. I didn’t realize there are steps until I really gave it some thought. On this episode, I outline the specific steps I practice to say no.
Yes, still talking about peace. During this podcast, we will talk about what I gave up and stopped doing in order to prioritize my peace.
I talk about my peace a lot because I went years thinking it was something I didn’t have access to me. Now I know, it’s essential. During this podcast, I will talk about five mindsets that I embraced to ensure my peace.
There are too many days when I’ve said, I’m so stressed. Can you relate? During this podcast, we will explore the seduction of chronic stress and how to put a stop to it.
Leaders listen up. Too many cases are being reported regarding leaders who are issuing toxic doses of quiet retaliation. I’ve lived through this professional terrorism and it’s not okay. During this podcast I will give examples of what quiet retaliation looks and sounds like, check yourselves.
I've been told I'm too sensitive my whole life. The comments aren't at all positive and I now realize that being sensitive is one of my superpowers. If you've ever been told, "don't be so sensitive", this podcast is for you. If you've said these words to someone, listen in and check yourself.
I have wasted so much time apologizing and doing so habitually. On this episode, I will share what I am no longer going to apologize for and challenge you to come up with your own list too.
During this podcast we will explore those deep, dark things within us that make us judge and criticize and harm people.
I am a huge fan of self-love. Been on the journey myself for a while, but I also think there are ways that this societal norm isn’t serving us well too. Tune in to this episode and weigh in.
Reflecting on my trip to Italy and what my learnings have been. During this podcast, I will explore, admit and resign from how long I’ve been beholden to being right. Don’t we all love being right? But at what cost? So, what does it look like to be reconciled instead of right?
Our thoughts can keep us tied up! During this podcast, we will explore some quick ways to reframe your brain!
Life is big. And once you are on the hamster wheel, it’s hard to get off. During this podcast we will explore the power of opting out.
The world is crazy right now and many bad people are stuck in the mud! On this podcast, we explore how to not stoop to their level and meet them there.
I love the concept of holding space, but in several instances, I’ve applied this idea poorly. Learn why I’ve adjusted the idea of holding space and why it’s important to recognize this for yourself.
Whew, why did we rush to grow up? Adulting is not a joke. During this podcast, we will explore the adulting hacks that are saving my life right now.
Off Course? Correct. The older I get the more I know and actually don’t really know. What I can say is that I’m getting better at identifying when I’m off course which also helps me course correct faster. I’m at my lowest right now for so many reasons, and I have a slate of things I consistently do to make sure I don’t go off roading permanently. Listen in.
Whew. I keep getting on that hamster wheel of life. Do you? Let’s stop. During this podcast, I share the things I’m currently working on unlearning.
During this podcast, we will explore those life lessons that keep coming back for me. In the spirit of growth, identifying the lessons is an important way to grow past what the lesson has to teach us.
During this podcast episode, I will fully admit that some of my worst communication bad habits have once again surfaced. Let’s name those and make sure we aren’t perpetuating poor habits and why it impact the culture of communication in your own circles and beyond.
During this podcast, we will explore areas of our lives that require necessary walkaways. Not in an effort to have a dramatic exit, but to be able to name that your time is needed elsewhere and is not to be taken up with certain scenarios that aren’t serving you well.
There is so much talk about courage these days. It’s easy to get lost in what everybody else thinks is courage and never really explore it for ourselves. During this podcast I will share what I’ve learned is courage, in addition to all those aspects of courage we’ve already been conditioned to realize.
This evening podcast is a raw and real account of how I sit at the intersection of navigating women- hurtful ones and heroic ones. No thoughts spared, no feelings not expressed, for real.
Kicking off Women’s History Month with the one and only Allyson Owens. She’s usually behind the scenes but agreed to be my first guest to explore the concept of Black Girl Magic and share her thoughts about the notion of what it means to be a strong Black woman. You don’t want to miss this one!
ROOTED Podcast Celebrates Black History Month 2023: On this episode, just sharing more truths about my experience being black.
Every single time we gather, I learn from these two insightful, honest, brilliant, and beautiful Black women. On this episode of Rooted, we will hear from Lashanda Reed Larry and Fran Dillard about their experience being a Black woman today! Grab your coffee and tune in!
During this deep dive no jive podcast episode, I am talking with Chas Moore of Austin Justice Coalition, and Terry P. Mitchell, serial entrepreneur, Founder of the Black Leaders Collective, Co-Chair of the Black Fund, and all things fabulous, about what it really means to lead while Black. Stop and get your coffee, wine, cookie, edible, or whatever you need to get comfortable and listen in. No words spared, no vulnerability guarded.
During this episode, we will merely scratch the surface on some important information regarding Black folks. Any idea what the Black population is nationally? What about the wealth gap of the middle class? Any idea how many Black folks are high school and college educated? Tune in and equip yourself with information.
Grit. Grace. Gratitude- the three G’s of how I practice staying in this thing called life. During this episode, we will explore these three and learn ways to implement them in our daily lives.
Growth is inevitable. And- acknowledging the behaviors that create a level of self-avoidance is a challenge. Do you fix it? Rescue it? People please it? Tune into this real and raw episode on self-avoidance.
We use that phrase a lot but what does it actually mean? Defining it is an individualized sport for sure and it’s worth thinking about. On this episode of Rooted, we will explore what the phrase could mean and how to make sure that we know what it means for us.
As we walk away from 2022, and vision boards, SMART goals, and new year’s resolutions fly, this podcast will explore my 2023 playbook!
Nothing says heck nawww like passive-aggressive statements. Let’s disrupt our pattern around leaning into these phrases and behaviors and simply ask for what we want and need. Tune into the podcast for ways to reset our words.
Merrychristmakwanzukkah Survival Tips- the holidays are in full swing and that means egos, hurt, drama, trauma and family dynamics can be too. Before you gather, get yourself in order with some tips and tools to survive it all.
Invalidating Yo Self- I have spent way too much time letting my inner critic, I call her Paula, tell me negative things about myself. I used to say things to myself that I wouldn’t say to my biggest enemy, and it’s not okay. During this podcast, we will explore the things we say to ourselves that are simply not okay.
Today on the podcast we are talking about the gift that comes from embracing our rough edges. Yep, we all have them. The stuff that makes us human, imperfect, gritty, and real. We don’t talk about it enough and naming and leaning into the parts of ourselves that we don’t like much can onboard a level of self-acceptance that can’t be messed with.
Breathe B*%#$! On this podcast, I will talk about the next part of my journey that has unlocked the door to moving forward in my healing and health in ways I never imagined.
Whew- burnout is real. And- we’ve managed to associate being productive with a burnout in ways that are harmful. During this podcast, we will explore burnout culture in both our lives and on the job, what happens to the brain when burnout is sustained over a long period of time, and how to recognize burnout and do something to change it.
On this podcast, we are talking about growth. Yep, the word growth comes out of my mouth a lot, but on this podcast, I go up the middle on a list of things that have been instrumental in elevating my growth agenda. I invite you to get serious about what your growth plan is and actively pursue it.
It's the last podcast of the Pamtober Series! In this episode, we will explore consistency. Like, for real. It's time to get real about how we are living. We are worthy of living our best lives. The only way to get there is to be consistent- truly.
Coming in hot on this Pamtober podcast today because I play no games when it comes to life. Today we will explore what it really looks, feels, and sounds like to make real-life changes. From mindset to taking no mess, life changes are for the taking.
Whew- fear is a booger. It can also prevent us from taking a chance. However, taking chances is the pathway to living the life you want and deserve. During this Pamtober podcast series episode, we will explore the importance of taking chances
Pamtober Series this month- I’m going all in on these areas of my life where I’ve done the deep tissue work and come out on the other side. This episode is focused on choices and we will explore how to navigate choices for ourselves and how to survive them.
Here I am again arm wrestling with control! During this podcast we will explore the power of surrender. Yes, you read that right surrender. It’s a position of strength and I invite you to leverage it more often.
You know the song….
They smilin' in your face
All the time, they want to take your place
The back stabbers (back stabbers)
Yep. Backstabbers are real and they walk and work among us. During this podcast we will explore what you need to know in order to identify them. Seem like common sense? Not necessarily, these days they come wrapped in sugary sweet venom.
The Burden of Black Woman Strength- on this episode we will explore the burden of the Black woman strength persona. I live it every day, and I’m tired of it. It is eroding our mental, physical and emotional health.
Quiet Quitting isn’t new. For real, it’s not. During this podcast we will talk about quiet quitting and the call to action for organizations
In a world that finds worth in attributes and material goods that ultimately don't matter, the opportunity to be firm in our self-worth is required. During this episode learn about the playbook that helps establish unrelenting self-worth.
Tell me you are triggered one more time. I’m tired of navigating the defensive land mind often embedded in the human experience today. I am clear that there is trauma, and patterns of toxic behaviors, and habits that aren't helpful, but I also think it’s time that we explore the root of why we are so damn defensive when we don’t get a handle on why it doesn’t serve us well.
If you thought grade school friendships were hard, it has nothing on adult friendship. Wow- like how do you even do grown folk friendships these days? During this podcast, I will share the formula and attributes I’ve discovered in the small circle of friends I have that work well. Time to prune that friendship tree? Perhaps.
The world we live in brings forth a list of rules that can have us thinking we are failing. During this podcast, we will explore the notion of failing and redefine “failure” in a way that supports our growth and evolution on our own terms.
I’ve been accused of being a control freak since I was a kid. It used to offend me, but now I embrace it. Tune in and learn about the six things I am a control freak about, unapologetically.
**On this episode of Rooted we have got to discuss what often happens on the other side of loving yourself…. Friends scatter. It’s okay, trust me. There is always a cost when you prioritize your peace, yourself and your life. During this podcast we will talk about what happens on the other side of loving yourself and how to do so anyway.
About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
A friend suggested a book to me on the topic of codependency, and it single handedly blew up my life. I mean, every single aspect of it. And- I am so glad it happened. Codependency is real and it’s an imbalance in relationships that we often explain away or don’t want to deal with it. During this podcast we will explore if you may be swimming laps in the codependency pool.
**About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
On this episode we are going right up the middle on what it looks and sounds like when we disrespect ourselves. I’ve learned long ago that the only person that will ultimately lay down the law on my own respect is me. Listen in and determine if you have work to do in this area of your life.
About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com
**I first talked about manifesting last year and you had questions, as if manifesting what you want in your life isn’t accessible to you, it absolutely is! On this episode we will talk more about the art of manifesting and give you some tips to start doing so today!
About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
Ever wake up and realize that you are over indexing how you support others to your own demise? During this podcast we will explore how to determine if you are living for yourself or for others. There are some key things that you need to explore and get honest about to get yourself back on track.
**About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
We throw the word toxic around like skittles. It seems easy to name toxic behaviors in others, but what about ourselves? Naming when we go off into toxic land is important work to do. How can we identify when we are the toxic ones? Let's figure it out on this episode of Rooted.
**About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
To say I have felt like I’m drifting into unfamiliar territory is an understatement. It took me a long time to even admit it. However, once I did, I began the delicate and sometimes long work of coming home to myself. Do you feel like you’ve been on a journey of flux, unfamiliar and distraction? During this podcast we will explore how we need to reset some things in our lives to return “home”.
**About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
Peace is power. It really is. There are so many things that we feel powerless about, but our peace shouldn’t be one of them. During this podcast learn about the forms of peace and the types of peace as a way to define your own and gain access to power that was always there for the taking.
**About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
**We are conditioned to think that liking ourselves and affirming ourselves is boastful and selfish. It is not. The brain science clearly states that self-affirmation is key to changing those neural pathways! On this episode we continue to explore peace by way of self-affirmation. You have to make room for this piece if you are going to reach ultimate peace.
About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
**Peace feels like Unconditional Love: We ae conditioned to think that unconditional love is easy and what we are supposed to do. I know for a fact that unconditional love doesn’t have a fighting chance if you don’t love yourself and practice unconditional love of self first and foremost. During this podcast we will explore my formula for practicing unconditional love on yourself first. It’s the only way to possibly render it to others.
About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**
**Sometimes you must go through pure hell to recognize the premium on your peace. For the next several weeks we will explore peace with our Rooted Project Peace series. First up, Peace Looks Like Consistency. A look at the steps required for us to obtain and maintain peace by being consistent in some key behaviors. It sure is good to be back!
About Pamela Benson Owens:
Pamela Benson Owens is the President and CEO of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc and is currently serving as the Acting Executive Director of Six Square. For 23+ years Pam has owned Edge of Your Seat Consulting, a unique consulting firm that is dedicated to assisting for-profit, nonprofit, and faith-based entities. The major focus of Edge of Your Seat Consulting, Inc., is to provide methodologies that help manage perceptions and narratives about complex and challenging issues with courage and strategic passion. Pam feels she is most effective when she partners with organizations from the inside out in order to streamline the hierarchical needs, create infrastructure, coach teams, shift organizational cultures and, of most importance, help leaders become more effective.
Website:
www.pamelabensonowens.com**