The Best of You - SoundSage

We are all creating the future version of ourselves every single day. We're either moving toward wholeness—or we're moving toward fragmentation. In this brand-new September series, I'm walking you through the most important steps you can take to cultivate resilience, embrace authenticity, and nurture intimacy.

Today's episode kicks us off with an overview of the key challenges we all face throughout the course of our lives. Here's what you’ll learn:

The 8 challenges we face from childhood to old age
The #1 challenge most of us are still working to resolve
Why identity precedes intimacy
A proven exercise to help you become your ideal self

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This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.

Go to www.simplemodern.com/bestofyou and by sharing your email you’ll get a unique discount code just for you or bundle and save for back to school. This should be your go to brand for your family.

Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.

Related Episodes:

Episode 66: The Truth About Anxiety & How to Become a Worry Free Parent with Sissy Goff

Episode 55: Am I Supposed to Distrust Myself? Why Trusting Yourself is Necessary to Establishing Healthy Relationships With Other People

Episode 56: Am I Really Supposed to Die to Myself? Misconstrued Messages and How to Disentangle From Them

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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I absolutely loved this conversation with Alli Worthington. We get so real about the toxic traps all around and how to stay sane as a parent. From "parenting book trauma" to bad advice about friendships, we’ve got you covered.

You'll learn practical tips & fascinating research from Alli's new book, Remaining You While Raising Them. Alli’s a business owner, podcast host, and the mom of 6 kids. Here’s what we cover:

The #1 source of mom guilt
The most important question to ask yourself each day
How parenting failures actually help kids
The surprising research on which relationships are happiest
Which friends to keep, and which ones to release

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.

Go to www.simplemodern.com/bestofyou and by sharing your email you’ll get a unique discount code just for you or bundle and save for back to school. This should be your go to brand for your family.

Related Episodes:

Episode 66: The Truth About Anxiety & How to Become a Worry Free Parent with Sissy Goff

Episode 67: The Link Between Faith & Emotional Healing—Gen Z, College Life, & A Hidden Search for Meaning

Episode 6: Do I Really Have an Inner Child? What It Means to Reparent Yourself

Episode 65: Vulnerability, Parenting, and Letting Go of Control—Inside A Guy’s Perspective With Our Friends From Dadville

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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Today’s episode is straight up 🔥🔥🔥. I got to know Cindy Gao last year, when she reached out to me about an internship. As a student at Harvard College, she experienced a crisis of meaning and found her way to faith—and—to emotional healing. I have loved getting to know Cindy, and I know you are going to love her too.

This episode is raw and inspiring. It’s packed with insight into faith, mental health, and Gen Z. Here’s what we cover:

The phrase Cindy Googled in a moment of desperation & what she found
What to do—and not do—when a young person expresses interest in faith
Why emotional healing & faith cannot be separated
The core belief that almost kept Cindy from faith
The challenges & longings of Gen Z

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Go to www.simplemodern.com/bestofyou and by sharing your email you’ll get a unique discount code just for you or bundle and save for back to school. This should be your go to brand for your family.

Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.

Related Episodes:

Episode 66: The Truth About Anxiety & How to Become a Worry Free Parent with Sissy Goff

Episode 62: Your Questions About Friendship—How to Test a New Relationship, Manage Your Capacity Through Different Life Seasons, & Become a Friend to Yourself

Episode 33: People Pleasing & Developing Your Own Inner Compass: Thoughts on Depression, Mental Health & the Church, and Finding Hope in Dark Places

Episode 27: 7 Ways We Manage Perceptions Instead of Forging Real Connections

Episode 28: The Pain of Performing For Others and How to Claw Your Way Out with Toni Collier

Episode 6: Do I Really Have an Inner Child? What It Means to Reparent Yourself

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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I am thrilled to be back this week, diving into an incredible conversation with beloved therapist, Sissy Goff! We're tackling the topic of anxiety and its ripple effect on our kids and on our parenting styles.

With 30 years of experience guiding kids and parents, Sissy brings a wealth of knowledge to the table. Plus, she's sharing tips from her latest book, The Worry Free Parent. We cover so much in this episode, including:

A parent’s most important job
Why we are seeing more anxiety in kids & parents
5 parenting traps
Your parenting superpower
Sissy’s moment of hope in the Covenant School shooting aftermath

Connect with Sissy on Instagram or at raisingboysandgirls.com

Pre-order The Worry Free Parent by Sissy Goff and get a free bonus chapter

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

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Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.

Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.

Related Episodes:

Episode 6: Do I Really Have an Inner Child? What It Means to Reparent Yourself

Episode 54: Can I Pray My Anxiety Away? A Surprising Approach to the Anxiety Pandemic & How to Walk Yourself & Your Kids Through It

Episode 39: Boundaries for Your Soul—How to Navigate Your Overwhelming Thoughts & Feelings

Episode 40: 5 Steps to Healing Painful Emotions & Why Parts of Us Get Stuck in the Past

Episode 41:Boundaries With Fear And Anxiety—How to Calm the Chaos Within and the Joy of Internal Boundaries

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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Research shows that many men are struggling and not sure how to get support. So I asked our friends from the Dadville podcast to come on and talk about how to encourage the guys in your life!

What a joy to host this insightful and fun duo! Jon McLaughlin and Dave Barnes are best known for their careers as musicians and song writers, but on their off-time, they encourage and inspire us on their popular parenting podcast, Dadville. You’ll find so much wisdom in this conversation, including:

How to find joy in the dream vs. the destination
Guys and vulnerability
The true goal of parenting
Why we all have to face our own blind spots
A beautiful picture of letting go of control with our kids

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.

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Episode 32: Productivity and the Never Ending To Do List: How to Stop Hustling & Embrace the Joy of Enough

Episode 28: The Pain of Performing For Others and How to Claw Your Way Out with Toni Collier

Therapy Adjacent Series:

Episode 63: Spiritual Direction, the Power of Listening, & How to Attune to Yourself and to Others

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Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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This episode is an absolute must-listen! If you're a woman journeying through your 30s, 40s, 50s, and beyond, or if you're parenting a daughter, you don't want to miss this conversation. We dive into women's health, including menopause, perimenopause, hormone shifts, reproductive health, and ways to empower young women and girls.

Dr. Leslie Appiah is a nationally-acclaimed OB/GYN who has helped women and girls for decades. Her practical and insightful approach is such a needed voice for all women. Here’s some of what we cover:

The impact of hormones on mental health
How to get relief for perimenopause and menopause symptoms
When to consider an anti-depressant
Why your physician might not have a clue
How to find one who will!
How to empower your daughters to live free of body shame

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions for Dr. Alison or Dr. Appiah?⁠ Leave them here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Go to www.simplemodern.com/bestofyou and by sharing your email you’ll get a unique discount code just for you or bundle and save for back to school. This should be your go to brand for your family.

Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.

Head to GreenPan.us and use promo code BESTOFYOU and you’ll receive 30% OFF YOUR ENTIRE ORDER plus free shipping on orders over $99.

Go to Reliefband.com and use promo code BESTOFYOU for 20% off plus free shipping.

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Episode 63: Spiritual Direction, the Power of Listening, & How to Attune to Yourself and to Others

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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Imagine if someone sat with you and listened to you attentively for as long as you needed. That’s what I experienced through a series of spiritual listening retreats. And today, I invited the Rev. Dr. Stephen Macchia and spiritual director in training, Rowena Day to talk with us about the practice of spiritual direction and deep listening as one component of your mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

This episode is so rich, so soothing, and so deeply nourishing. As a therapist, I have found spiritual direction to be a powerful part of my own mental health practices. It’s also taught me how to become a better listener in my relationships with others. Here’s what we discuss:

The deepest need we all have
How to attune to your own soul
The neurobiology of presence
What to do if quiet is hard for you
The links between spiritual and mental health

Connect with Dr. Stephen Macchia and Spiritual Formation resources here.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

If you've been searching for a better alternative to traditional healthcare and want to take your health to new heights, visit www.WildHealth.com/Premium to apply for membership.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.

Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code BESTOFYOU to receive UP TO 39%!

Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.

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Episode 31 and Episode 44 with Rowena Day

Episode 36: An Update on My Social Media Detox & How to Create Boundaries With Toxic Distractions, Numbing, & Unhealthy Coping Tactics

Episode 32: Productivity and the Never Ending To Do List: How to Stop Hustling & Embrace the Joy of Enough

Episode 47: Spiritual Bypassing vs. Embodied Faith & How Not to Harm Those Who Are Hurting, Including Yourself

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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Today we're trying something new! We've gathered up your most-asked questions about friendship and discuss them on the podcast. These are such thoughtful and real questions, and I love thinking through them with you. Here's what we cover:

The mother wound and female friendships
Managing expectations through your own healing season
Assessing trust in a new friend
Navigating a terminal diagnosis with friends
What about helping others who can't reciprocate friendship?

For communication scripts check out, ⁠⁠check out The Best of You⁠⁠.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Go to www.simplemodern.com/bestofyou and by sharing your email, you’ll get a unique discount code just for you.

Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.

Related Episodes:

Episode 58: How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney

Episode 59: Overcoming Past Hurt & Deepening Friendships Through Intentional Community with Jennie Allen

Episode 60: How to Make New Friends, Identify Red and Green Flags, & Extract Yourself From an Unhealthy Situation with Aundi Kolber and Dr. Monique Gadson

Episode 61: Reconnecting With Old Friends—Healing the Past, Naming Regret & Bringing Your Whole Self into the Future

Episode 45: Strong like Water—Finding the Freedom, Safety, & Compassion to Move through Hard Things & Experience True Flourishing with Aundi Kolber

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

The Best of You: Break Free from Painful Patterns, Mend Your Past, and Discover Your True Self in God

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This episode is so special! I sit down with my 3 childhood friends, including my older sister, as we describe what happens when you bring your past self into your present. We were close all through high school, but life took us on different paths, to different cities, and through different experiences of faith, marriage, and family life.

Over 2 decades later, we reconvened and replayed the tape of our lives—each one of us bearing witness to the other. Today, we share with you what we discovered about the power of reclaiming your past.

I pray this episode sparks your imagination and ignites your desire as you consider pulling in old and new friends as companions on your journey toward wholeness. Here's what we cover:

Why 4 childhood friends reconnected to each other—and our past selves
How diverse perspectives strengthened, not divided, our rekindled friendships
Confronting & overcoming regret
How revisiting my sister’s teen pregnancy became a catalyst for healing
What we'd each say to our younger selves now.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.

Related Episodes:

Episode 58: How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You, Why it Matters, and How a Good Friend Can Transform Your Life with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney

Episode 59: Finding Your People, Overcoming Past Hurt, & Deepening Friendships Through Intentional Community with Jennie Allen

Episode 60: How to Make New Friends, Overcome People Pleasing, Identify Red and Green Flags, & Extract Yourself From an Unhealthy Situation with Aundi Kolber and Dr. Monique Gadson

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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Making new friends is hard as an adult! We’ve been hurt. We’ve changed and outgrown old ways. So how do we find new friends? And how do we learn to trust after trust has been broken?

Today, I’m joined by 2 of my new friends, Aundi Kolber and Dr. Monique Gadson, as we discuss how to overcome past hurts and brave the work of finding new friends. This episode is packed with practical tips, and I was so touched by the raw emotion that surfaced at the end as we each reflect on our own experiences.

Here’s what we cover:

Friendship red flags
Green flags that indicate safety
The impact of trauma on friendships
Breaking free from people pleasing
How to “break up” with a potential friend
Is friendship about quality or quantity?

Connect with Aundi Kolber and Dr. Monique Gadson

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions about friendship for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Go to AquaTru.com and enter code BESTOFYOU at checkout to get 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier!

Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.

Related Episodes:

⁠Episode 14⁠: The Fawn Response and the Hidden Root of People Pleasing

Episode 33 with Dr. Monique Gadson

Episode 45 and Episode 46 with Aundi Kolber

Episode 58⁠: How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You, Why it Matters, and How a Good Friend Can Transform Your Life

⁠Episode 59⁠: Finding Your People, Overcoming Past Hurt, & Deepening Friendships Through Intentional Community

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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I loved this beautiful and honest conversation about friendship with Jennie Allen, bestselling author of Find Your People and founder of IF:Gathering. She shares candidly about a painful season where she felt alone and how she’s learned to lean into deep community, even when it's messy.

If you’ve ever struggled with feeling lonely, misunderstood, or like it’s hard to trust other people, please listen to this episode. There are so many gems in it, including:

Our greatest fear in friendship
How to say “that hurt” to a friend
What prompted Jennie to close off to friendship for a season
How she found her way into trusting relationships again
The healing power of knowing others & being known by them

Order Find Your People here

For tips on finding support: 7 Ways to Increase Your Support Network and Why It Matters

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.

Related Episodes:

Episode 58: How to Find Friends Who Bring out the Best of You, Why it Matters, and How a Good Friend Can Transform Your Life

Episode 33: People Pleasing & Developing Your Own Inner Compass: Thoughts on Depression, Mental Health & the Church, and Finding Hope in Dark Places

Episode 17: What is Church Hurt and How do I Heal?

Episode 27: 7 Ways We Manage Perceptions Instead of Forging Real Connections

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

Find Your People: Building Deep Community in a Lonely World

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I'm so excited to announce our brand-new series, "Friends on Friendships"! Join us over the next 5 weeks as we learn together how to forge transformative, healing, and life-giving friendships.

We are kicking things off with an incredible conversation with Dr. Curt Thompson, Amy Cella, and Pepper Sweeney, who are real life friends and hosts of The Being Known Podcast. We laughed so much during this episode, and at least 2 of us also cried 🙈 . You don't want to miss all the gems about friendship throughout this conversation.

Here’s what we cover:

Why friendship is a risk worth taking
The most important ingredient for safe friendships
The physics of “taking your friends with you” (even when they can't be with you).
Laughter as a form of intimacy
Why 3 is most definitely not a crowd
Glimmers vs. Triggers

Check out Curt’s brand new book The Deepest Place, available for preorder.

Learn more about Confessional Communities ⁠here⁠

Do you have questions about this series for Dr. Alison?⁠ ⁠Leave them here⁠.

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Wild Health has opened 10 spots in their Premium Program for BEST OF YOU listeners. Visit www.WildHealth.com/Premium to apply for membership.

Check out Nuts.com/bestofyou. You’ll receive a free gift and free shipping when you spend $29 or more!

Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.

Related Episodes:

Episode 20: Making Peace with Yourself (& Facing Your Fear of Disappointing Other People)

Episode 27: 7 Ways We Manage Perceptions Instead of Forging Real Connections

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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Phew! Today’s episode gets fiery 🔥🔥🔥! Many of us were taught to “turn the other cheek” as a call to be a doormat or to naively “love someone” into change. In today's episode, I’m not holding back as I paint a picture of what I think the Bible really teaches about standing firm against toxicity.

You'll discover a completely different picture of what it means to turn the other cheek. Here's what we cover:

What "turn the other cheek" really means
What the Bible has to say about toxic behavior
Why it doesn’t work to “love people” into change
Examples of toxicity & how to protect yourself
How to be shrewd when dealing with gossip, cruelty or manipulation

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BESTOFYOU and get on your way to being your best self.

Visit christiankitchenscoffee.com and use code bestofyou for a 10% discount on your first order!

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Visit hiyahealth.com/BESTOFYOU and get your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy adults.

Related Episodes:

Episode 2: What Should I Know About Gaslighting?

Episode 24: Boundaries, the Spectrum of Toxicity, and a Note About Evil

Episode 25: Types of No Part 1—How to Say “No” in Healthy Relationships

Episode 26: Types of “No” Part 2—How to Say “No” to Toxicity

Boundaries and the Bible Youtube Series

What Does the Bible Really Say Youtube Series

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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We’re hitting hard today on this question “Am I really supposed to deny myself?” So many have been encouraged to misapply the message of self-denial in ways that are not healthy. So what does the Bible really say about it?

Here’s what we cover:

Why it matters that you are an image-bearer
The surprising goal of self-denial
3 different psychological contexts
What about denying a “part” of you?
A practical exercise to apply to your own life
Are we healing for this life or saved for the next?

Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here.

Do you have questions for Dr. Alison?⁠ Leave them here.

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Thanks to our sponsors:

Go to ⁠www.organifi.com/bestofyou⁠ today and use code BESTOFYOU for 20% off your order today.

Go to fuller.edu/bestofyou to learn more about Fuller’s MS in Marriage and Family Therapy program.

Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code BESTOFYOU to receive UP TO 39%!

Visit christiankitchenscoffee.com and use code bestofyou for a 10% discount on your first order!

Get 35% off your first order of Sundays. Go to SundaysForDogs.com/BESTOFYOU or use code BESTOFYOU at checkout.

Related Podcast Episodes:

Episode 39: Boundaries for Your Soul

Episode 40: 5 Steps to Healing Painful Emotions

Episode 41: Boundaries with Fear and Anxiety

Episode 42: How to Honor Sadness

Episode 43: How To Tame Your Inner Critic

Episode 54: Can I Pray My Anxiety Away?

Episode 55: Am I Supposed to Distrust Myself?

Youtube Series:

What Does the Bible Really Say

Boundaries for Your Soul

Music by Andy Luiten

Sound editing by Kelly Kramarik

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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This week we're talking all about self-trust—how we develop it, and why it's so crucial to the health of our relationships with other people. We also talk about how trusting God is a process that develops in the context of healthy relationships.

Here's what we cover:

The surprising foundation for trust
The role of attachment
3 relationships that contribute to trust
What to do if you are too trusting of others
A first step toward building self-trust

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Today’s conversation is pure fire! We're talking all things anxiety with Curtis Chang, author of a brand new book, The Anxiety Opportunity. This is such a fresh take on anxiety, unlike anything you’ve heard at church or in the secular culture. We also touch on the problem of how most of us have been taught to view heaven, and how recasting that vision has everything to do with anxiety.

If you’ve struggled with anxiety or if you have kids who struggle with anxiety, please do not miss this episode. Here’s what we cover:

The problem with the “prayer” or “pill” approach to anxiety
The anxiety pandemic
The most important thing we can do to help our anxious kids
Did Jesus experience anxiety?
Curtis’s experience with crippling anxiety
The surprising discovery he made in therapy
Why heaven is not what you think it is & how that changes everything

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We are talking all about finding our strengths today with my friend, Laura Cootsona, an accomplished coach, consultant, and non-profit executive. She walks us through StrengthsFinder, a tool that helps you identify and lean into your strengths and uncover the strengths of others.

Research shows that leaning into your strengths at work and in life is absolutely life-changing. Here’s what we cover:

How to identify strengths to unleash your potential
The link between strengths and enjoying your work
Understanding the downside of your strong points
How to team up with other strengths
How to build a strength-based family

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Episode 52: The Enneagram

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What a rich conversation with Enneacast hosts Jesse Eubanks and Lindsey Lewis about the 9 types of the Enneagram! We talk everything from mistyping women to Jesus, Kevin Hart, and the Apostle Paul.

This is a great episode to share with your family, small group, and friends—it's an opportunity for honest conversations about your areas of brilliance. . .and the blind spots we all have.

Here’s what we cover:

The 9 different types
Your Enneagram number as one part of who you are
The Enneagram and narcissism
Why celebration is a discipline we all need to practice
How to love types that trigger us
The difference between comfort and shalom
What type was Jesus? Paul? Peter? Tom Brady?

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Do you struggle with taking a compliment? Are you a mind reader? A minimizer? Or do you tend to take things personally? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you do not want to miss today's episode.

We're discussing 12 common thinking traps, what psychologists call cognitive distortions. These are ways of thinking that trip up every single one of us. The messages you tell yourself have a direct impact on the health of your relationships, so this is a great one to share with your family or friends.

Here's what we cover:

12 common thinking traps
How to avoid toxic shame spirals
The problem with mind reading
How to stop taking things personally
Why we all need to learn how to take a compliment

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This week we're digging into intelligence. And believe me, it's not what you were taught! If you've struggled with comparing yourself to others, feeling inadequate, or unsure of your unique gifts (and that's pretty much all of us), you don't want to miss this episode!

Here's what we cover:

What is intelligence?
Why it's different than what you were taught
9 different types of intelligence
2 toxic consequences of comparing ourselves to others
9 ways to connect with God

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We are launching a new series this week called My Favorite Psychology Tools. Today, we're diving right into personality types. There are so many fads and trends related to personality. But what is it really and what does research actually tell us about it?

Here's what we cover:

1. What is personality and why we're so fascinated with it

2. The benefits and pitfalls in personality tests

3. The 5 most researched personality traits

4. The mysterious H Factor and why it's so important

5. How personality traits show up in the Bible

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Gosh, it can be hard to live in a body, let alone learn to love it. We have so many demands that compete for our attention, not to mention all the mixed up messages we get as women— how in the world are we supposed to take the time to honor these bodies God has given us?

In today's episode I share with you more about my own journey of learning what it means to be an embodied person. Here's what we cover:

Why so many of us bypass the body
4 insights from psychology about tending the body
3 ancient heresies that sneak into our modern thinking
The difference between what the Bible calls "flesh" and "body"
How to start to honor your body as a daily practice
Why I am learning to dance again (but definitely not in public)

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⁠Episode 11⁠ How to Start Loving Your body with Christy Joy

⁠Episode 19⁠ My Stroke and a Process of Healing

⁠Episode 36⁠ How to Create Boundaries with Toxic Distractions

⁠Episode 44⁠ Befriending Anger with Rowena Day

⁠Episode 45⁠ and ⁠Episode 46⁠ Strong Like Water with Aundi Kolber

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This week on the podcast, we're kicking off a mini 2-episode series on loving our bodies as a spiritual practice. Today, I dig into the problem of over-spiritualizing and how that does harm to ourselves and to others. Here's what we cover:

What is spiritual bypassing?
Does every problem have a spiritual solution?
How we spiritually bypass ourselves
How not to be a "friend of Job"
The antidote to spiritual bypassing
An example of spiritual bypassing from the Bible

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Related episodes:

Episode 46: People Pleasing as Survival, How Jesus Regulated Emotions & the Problem With Toxic Positivity and Spiritual Bypassing with Aundi Kolber

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Phew! Buckle up. Part 2 of my conversation with Aundi Kolber is out today, and it is absolute 🔥🔥🔥! We set aside the script and got real about our own experiences , including. . .

How people pleasing becomes a survival response
The shame we feel when we start to change
Alison's unexpected experience of comfort in a crisis
Jesus and the Nervous System
Did Jesus ever get "activated"?
The problem with toxic positivity & spiritual bypassing

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Listen to Part 1 of our conversation: Episode 45

More about the Fawn Response: Episode 14

More about Trauma: Episode 4

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What an honor to have my friend and fellow therapist, Aundi Kolber on the podcast today for Part 1 of our two-part conversation on her brand new book, Strong like Water: Finding the Freedom, Safety, and Compassion to Move through Hard Things--and Experience True Flourishing

Aundi and I connected through social media, and she has become the dearest real life friend. It was my absolute honor to have this conversation with her abut her personal story and her new book, Strong Like Water, available for pre-order now.

Here's what we cover:

The problem with being the "strong one"
The brave decision that led to her own healing
3 Different types of strength
How to find safety when you need it the most
The difference between information and transformation
How Aundi has come to understand strength now

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Today's episode is all about anger. It's an emotion that can do great harm and one that also has great benefits.

Whether you thrive on anger or try your best to bury it, one thing's for sure—we all have to reckon with it. When you learn to work with your anger, it can become a powerful force for good in your life and in the lives of the people you love. Today, my friend Rowena Day (see Episode 31) returns to the podcast as we discuss how we've learned to create space for healthy anger in our lives.

Here's what we cover:

Practical strategies to befriend and build trust with anger
The guilt and fear we feel about having anger
How to manage anger while parenting
Examples of speaking on behalf of anger vs. from it
The problem with comparing our pain
Jesus and anger

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Today, I am joined by my friend and co-author of Boundaries for Your Soul, Kimberly Miller, to discuss the almighty inner critic, how to get space from it, and how to bring this work into your relationships. Kim describes how she first encountered Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how combining it with Christian faith and practice changed her life.

We discuss:

How Kim finally healed the ache in her heart
The most ubiquitous part of the soul
Why self-acceptance is better than self-condemnation
How to differentiate from painful emotions
A real-time exercise for quieting your inner critic
How this work translates into marriage

Connect with Kimberly Miller at kimberlyjunemiller.com or on Insight Timer

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Other Episodes in this Series:

Episode 39 Boundaries for Your Soul—How to Navigate Your Overwhelming Thoughts & Feelings
Episode 40 5 Steps to Healing Painful Emotions & Why Parts of Us Get Stuck in the Past
Episode 41 Boundaries With Fear And Anxiety—How to Calm the Chaos Within and the Joy of Internal Boundaries
Episode 42 How to Honor Sadness, Set Boundaries with Loneliness, and What to Do When You Don't Have Time for this Work

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You need your pain. Grief makes you real, and disappointment can inspire creativity, change, and growth.

Sadness brings texture to the joys we experience. And yet, it's also not wise to let sadness take us over.

In today's episode, we discuss how to set healthy boundaries with emotions like sadness and loneliness.

Here's what we cover:

—The surprising benefits of sadness

—3 types of grief

—The science of tears and how they help us

—What loneliness needs to heal

—Childhood play and how it informs your adult dreams

—What to do when you just don't have the time for the pain

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So many of us live at war with ourselves. We hate our anxiety or battle with fear.

We beat ourselves up or try to get rid of these parts of us. But this approach only makes things worse.

One of the most surprising ways to calm your anxiety is to stop waging war against it.

In today's episode we discuss how to honor your fear and soothe your anxiety so that you are in charge of them, not the other way around. Here's what we cover:

How anxiety tries to protect us
The surprising truth about fear
How to establish healthy boundaries with both fear and anxiety
Fear and the Bible
5 Steps to work through fear and anxiety

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Do you ever feel like a part of your soul is trapped in the past, holding you back from fully embracing the present and moving forward? Pain, fear, worry, or even bitterness can weigh heavy on our hearts and minds. This is a common experience for all of us at times.

In today's episode, I guide you through a 5 step process of healing and growth. We'll discuss how to mend the parts of your soul that are causing you distress.

Here's what we cover:

5 Steps to healing painful emotions
How to overcome criticism, shame, and judgment
4 Questions to grow in self-discovery
A surprising way to pray throughout the day
Why parts of us struggle to experience God's love

Remember, this journey is a process, not a one-time event. With the right tools and guidance, you can learn to make peace with the parts of yourself.

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We all need a map to our soul.

A way to understand the emotions, the wounds, the areas that feel broken.

That's what I love about the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy—it provides a map that everybody can incorporate into their daily spiritual practice.

It's your guide to navigating overwhelming thoughts and feelings.

Today on the podcast, I'm walking you through this map, including the following:

A picture of wholeness
The cost of not tending your inner life
A map of the parts of your soul
The 3 types of parts we all have
How Jesus relates to each part
What it means to have healthy boundaries inside your soul

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Today on the podcast, I'm talking with my friend and teaching pastor at Crossroads Church in Cincinnati, Alli Patterson, about her new book, How to Stay Standing.

In this powerful and practical episode, Alli shares her own story of hitting rock bottom when the scaffolding of her life collapsed, and how she rebuilt the foundation from the ground up. We discuss the following:

How tiny decisions can lead us toward devastating realities
What kept Alli from making eye contact for over 6 months
How shame sneaks in, even when you know you’ve been forgiven by God
The power of telling your story in safe places
3 practical ways to build a strong foundation
How to take risks on God

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Today, we're discussing how to detox from the false beliefs that keep us stuck in unhealthy patterns of relating to other people.

These hidden messages are sneaky. They might sound true in the moment, but they keep us from the healthy two-way relationships we need.

Here's what we discuss:

Examples of toxic thinking
How it contaminates our relationships
An example of toxic thinking from the Bible
How to re-frame toxic thoughts

Plus, I answer your questions:

—How do I communicate with other people about what I'm going through?

—Can spiritual bypassing become a form of numbing?

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Resources in this episode:

For more on The 7 Red Flags of Friendship and Spiritual Bypassing, see Chapters 8 and 10 of The Best of You, by Dr. Alison Cook
Episode 1: What is Narcissism Really?
Episode 2: What Should I Know About Gaslighting?
Episode 35: Change is Hard—Why We All Need to Detox From Unhealthy Dependencies From Time to Time
Episode 36: How to Create Boundaries With Toxic Distractions, Numbing, & Unhealthy Coping Tactics

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Today's episode is a real-time update on my own social media detox and how what started as a pause revealed a deeper need.

I also lay out a practical framework for you to use in identifying the distractions, numbing, or unhealthy coping tactics in your life and how to replace them with the life-giving, soul-nourishing things you actually crave.

We cover:

Why I couldn't bring myself to get back on the apps
A roadmap for how to pinpoint areas in your own life that might need a detox
Healthy ways to escape, soothe, or find comfort
What is the difference between a fast and a detox?
Can I find a healthy balance with things that are also distractions?

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Also in this series: Episode 35: Change is Hard—Why We All Need to Detox From Unhealthy Dependencies From Time to Time

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For more on how to "Start with Yes" see Chapter 6 of The Best of You, by Dr. Alison Cook

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Today, we're digging into the hidden dependencies that creep in and keep us from the good things we need. The New Year tends to be a time of hope. We sense the possibility of change and are energized to set goals. But so often we move forward without first addressing the hidden dependencies that thwart our best efforts.

Here's what we discuss in today's episode:

Why we all need to “detox” from time to time
Examples of “good things” we can start to depend on in unhealthy ways
The role of pleasure, comfort, and healthy escape
The essential question to ask yourself before you consider introducing any change
What I learned by going offline for 6 weeks

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This New Year, I'm trying something new: I'm going to respond to your questions as we move through a series.

Please leave your questions about this topic here: Detox Question Doc

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So many of us have had negative experiences with power. It feels like something to fear, something bad, or something to avoid all together.

But what if God wants us to step into our power in a healthy way? And what if understanding the power we have is at the core of building healthy connections with other people?

Today's episode is straight from my heart and from my own tenuous relationship with power. Here's what I cover:

What is power?
Why we think of power as bad
What healthy power looks like
The problems that arise when we do not claim our own power
Different ways power is abused
Why women in particular tend to avoid their own power
The paradigm-shattering example of power in the birth of Jesus

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To learn more about the parts of your soul, check out my book with Kimberly Miller, Boundaries for Your Soul

Power - "the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events." (Oxford Language Dictionaries).

Podcast episodes Referenced:

Episode 1: What is Narcissism Really?
Episode 2: What should I know about gaslighting?
Boundaries & the Bible Podcast Series
Episode 24:Boundaries, the Spectrum of Toxicity, & a Note About Evil
Episode 25: Types of No Part 1: How to Say "No" in Healthy Relationships
Episode 26: Types of No Part 2: How to Say "No" to Toxicity, the Real Meaning of Turn the Other Cheek & How to Form a Boundaries Committee

Scriptures referenced:

Philippians 2:1-11
Matthew 7:6

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Were you subtly conditioned to please others at the expense of yourself? I loved talking with my friend and fellow therapist, Dr. Monique Gadson, on today's episode of the podcast. We met through an IG Live prayer session! She's since become the best sort of real-life friend—someone whose wisdom, empathy, and realness breathes life into weary souls.

If you've struggled with depression or felt overlooked—even as you constantly show up for others—please lean in close. Dr. Monique is candid about her own journey through depression and how she lost herself in all the voices around her. In a powerful turn of events, Monique began to bring mental health directly to the center of the church, where she's practiced as a counselor for decades.

We cover so much in today's episode, including:

A key moment from childhood when she learned to please others
Monique’s experience as a PK
The burden of always attuning to others when you're disconnected from your own self
Monique’s early experience with depression and how she got help
Practical tips if you struggle with feeling “joy” at the holidays
Finding your own way as a parent amidst all of the voices
Monique's call to bring mental health into the church
Jesus and people pleasing
The power of friendship to bring hope in dark places

Check out Dr. Monique's brand new book with Clarence Shuler, Finding Hope in A Dark Place: Facing Loneliness, Depression, and Anxiety with the Power of Grace.

Connect with Dr. Monique at drmoniquesmithgadson.com or on Instagram @drmoniquesmithgadson

If you are struggling with depression, please find resources for support on my website.

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Are you that person who gets the job done, no matter the cost to yourself? You're productive, you bring the results. But sometimes you don't realize how exhausted you are—you just know there's still work to be done.

If your inner task manager tends to take you (or someone you love) over, do not miss this episode with my friend and fellow therapist, Rebecca Ching. It's all about the blessing and the cost of being a highly productive, can-do person.

Rebeca speaks candidly about managing childhood trauma through becoming extremely productive—a survival skill she took with her deep into her adult life. You'll also hear more about our friendship, including the opposite ways we operate in order to protect ourselves.

The moment Rebecca, as a young girl, walked out on a family therapy session
The story of being mugged together in our early 20’s
How to re-org your inner circle to protect the health of your family
The shaming voice that surfaces when you give yourself permission to down-shift
The problem with the word “busy”
Key questions to ask in order to simplify your life.
Surprising ways you can start to rest & play
How faith messages can intensify productivity in not-so helpful ways

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Learn more about Fight / Flight / Freeze / Fawn Responses and The 7 P's of Managing Perceptions in my new book, The Best of You

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Rebecca mentions The Daring Way certification program with Brené Brown

Verses referenced:

Mark 1:11 “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.”
Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."

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Boundaries for Your Soul: How to Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts and Feelings into Your Greatest Allies

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You want to keep the peace at all costs. The problem is sometimes anger is warranted. Sometimes conflict is needed. What do you do when everything in you does not want to be the one to speak up?

On today’s episode, I am joined by my dear friend Rowena Day. This is a powerful conversation for anyone who has struggled with conflict, avoided anger, or stayed quiet to get along.

The second half of this episode is a WHOLE WORD. Listen in for deep wisdom on how to come out of that protective peacekeeping shell and start using your voice. Do not miss the end, when Rowena describes what she’s learning about finding her voice from parenting 4 young children. And check out the shownotes on my website where we have listed all of the amazing books, videos, music, and devotionals mentioned in this episode!

Here’s what we touch on:

Why it’s normal to talk to yourself and how to pay attention to that inner dialogue
The power of attunement—and why interrupting and fixing each other doesn’t work
Why we learn to mute our voices
The power of generational messages
Why we push anger aside, especially as women
Why it’s important for peacekeepers to make friends with anger
Rowena’s experience of speaking up about toxic behavior she was witnessing
Blame shifting and scapegoating in faith communities
Embracing the wildness of your soul
The double bind culture puts women in when it comes to using your voice
What we can learn from our children

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Today's episode of The Best of You Podcast is in honor of the Thanksgiving holiday, and the holiday season in general. If you're dealing with a mixture of emotions today, this episode is for you.

Holidays are complicated, and in today’s episode, I walk you through how to honor what’s hard, even as you give thanks for what’s good.

We'll discuss:

Why it's normal for mixed emotions to show up on a holiday
How old ways of managing kick in—and leave us exhausted
How to take brave steps to honor vs. manage hard emotions
The myth of the perfect family, the perfect holiday, or the perfect experience of gratitude
What we can learn from 5 characters in my favorite children's book

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OK, buckle up, today's conversation on The Best of You podcast goes deep, and we both get really honest about own struggles. I could have talked with Mary for hours about how to get off the treadmill of perfecting and proving your worth—and start claiming the life you actually want.

You do not want to miss the end where we get into social media, the curse of comparison, and the approval chain from which no one is immune.

We touch on so much in this episode including:

1. The hidden fears that drive us to perfect and prove our way into belonging

2. If we let go of working to earn the approval of others, then what?

3. The moment Mary discovered that chasing gold stars was not leading her to what she actually wanted

4. The pitfalls and perils of social media

5. How to get out of comparison traps

6. The voice in our heads that keeps us running in circles

7. The real mark of emotional health (and it’s not never failing or never feeling hurt)

8. 3 questions to ask yourself as you stop chasing approval

Connect with Mary at www.marymarantz.com/quiz

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On today’s episode of The Best of You podcast, I’m talking with the wonderful and wise Toni Collier who shares bravely about finding herself stuck in the performance trap, and how she clawed her way out.

Toni's capability & high capacity helped her survive, but she also wound up exhausted, broken, and numbing.

As Toni says, “I had a source, which is God, but the resources I did not have.” And she had to learn to discover a more authentic, wholehearted way.

Here's what we discuss:

How capability, strength, and achievement can turn into survival strategies
Why we turn toward numbing as a way to cope with pain
What finally drove her to get help
How she started to find healthy relationships and find her way out of the pain
Practical ways she keeps the performer part of her in check now
What she would say to her young performer's heart now

(Be ready for some tears on this one. . .)

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We’re kicking off a new series on The Best of You Podcast as we move into the last 2 months of the year.

How do you shift from managing the perceptions of others to showing up more authentically?

In today’s episode, I cover the 7 ways we tend to manage perceptions and why it doesn’t get us the real connections we crave.

I also walk you through an exercise you can do NOW (as in, before the holiday haze sets in) to help you make brave decisions this holiday season.

Here’s what we cover:

What does it mean to manage perceptions and why do we do it?
The 7 ways we tend to manage perceptions
The 2 main problems with managing perceptions
Why we have to “retrain” people (& their expectations of us)
Examples of steps you can take to honor yourself & your relationships
How to create your own “Yes/No List” to help you make brave decisions
The courage it takes to say ‘no’ and how to honor the emotions that inevitably show up when you do

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This week on The Best of You podcast, we're getting into how to say No to toxic behaviors—including practical strategies, scripts, and misconstrued bible passages. There’s no one-size fits all when it comes to setting healthy boundaries. A strategy that might work in a healthy releationship won't work with toxicity. It's important to understand the difference.

This is a packed episode. Here’s what we discuss:

Why toxic behaviors require an entirely different type of "no"
An overview of toxic behaviors
Extreme toxicity and when to cut off a relationship all together
5 steps to implement a boundary with toxic behavior
3 scripts for 3 different situations
What about turning the other cheek?
How to form a boundaries committee

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This week and next week on The Best of You podcast, we're getting into 3 types of "No"—including practical strategies, and scripts, for how to say No in different situations.

First up is how to say no in healthy relationships. This episode is for you if you struggle to set a boundary, state a preference, or honor your own limits even with people you know would respect you if you did.

It's hard to disappoint people. It's hard to assert honest needs, wants, and preferences when you've been conditioned to please others, fawn, or always put others first. So today we're focusing on how to exercise your "no muscle" even with people you love.

Here's what we discuss:

Why learning to say “no” is vital for the the ongoing health of your relationships
5 steps to develop your “no” muscle
Why criticism is tempting and how to avoid it
How to use “I statements” (and when not to)
Scripts for 3 different situations
What about when someone says no to you?
The hardest category of No I think we all have to face

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Today on The Best of You podcast, we’re diving into how to discern toxic vs. healthy patterns of behavior. There is no one-size fits all when it comes to setting healthy boundaries. It requires discernment and wisdom; strategy and skill. I discuss what I call the Spectrum of Toxicity and the topic of evil (a topic so many of you have asked me about!)

Here’s what we cover:

What is toxicity? How does it relate to what the Bible calls evil?
What about people who are consistently choosing to do harm?
The spectrum of toxicity
Behaviors that show up on the healthy side of the spectrum
Behaviors that show up on the toxic side of the spectrum
The key ingredient that distinguishes health from toxicity
The best way to become a discerning, wise (& healthier) person.
What does the Bible say about toxicity?

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Today on the podcast, we're diving into this question I keep bumping up against: Am I wounded or am I a sinner?

On one hand we go to church, and we’re told you're sinful; you need to repent, you need to die to yourself.

On the other hand, we go to therapy, and we're told you're wounded; you've had trauma. You need to heal, so you can become more of your true self.

So which one is it? In today's podcast episode, we discuss:

What is woundedness and how does it impact our behaviors?
What is sin?
The problem of shame
What about "the other side of sin" - the wounds of the sinned against?
What about repentance?
An application from the Bible
A next step you can take

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On this week’s podcast we’re talking all about building trust with yourself. This internal work is so important to the work of setting healthy external boundaries. I share with you an example from my own life and walk you through a process of connecting more deeply to what’s actually happening inside of you.

As you connect more deeply to yourself, the boundaries you set with others will flow from a calmer, clearer place within. Here’s what we cover:

A promise I made to myself and how it went
What to do when you’re activated by someone or something
The importance of understanding your own areas of wounding
What is a You-Turn?
Meeting & honoring the protective parts of you (before acting out of them)
How to get to the root of your own hurt (before taking action)
Learning to find your voice from that place of clarity deep within

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Today on The Best of You podcast, we're starting a new series on Boundaries and the Bible. And we're starting with what I call the Yes Side of No.

So many of us struggle with setting external boundaries because we keep the focus on the other person. But the work of setting boundaries starts inside of you.

In today's episode, I walk you through how to build to trust with yourself from the inside out. Here's what we cover:

Why I don’t believe boundaries start with No
Can I really learn to trust myself?
What about sin?
What is an internal (vs. external) locus of control and why does it matter?
Examples of promises you can make to parts of you carrying pain
Examples of promises you can make to your body
A challenge to you that we'll circle back to next week.

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Sometimes living at peace with other people, means living at peace with disappointing them.

It’s incredibly important to balance your responsibility to other people with a deep sense of responsibility to your God-given self. It’s not only good for you. It’s good for other people.

Living at peace with yourself is a process of figuring out that balance. Here's what we cover in today's podcast episode:

How to make peace with yourself
Making friends with yourself
Living at peace with others
Facing your fear of disappointing other people
How Jesus disappointed people
How to disappoint people with integrity

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At the exact moment I began to bring The Best of You to life, I encountered a trauma that would literally knock me off my feet, forcing me to test everything I hoped to write about. This week is the 2-year anniversary of that trauma. It’s unbelievable to me that this book is coming out next week on 9/13.

In today’s episode, I read this very personal story from the introduction of The Best of You, along with some added commentary. It’s a tender story. Thank you for holding it with me.

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This week on the podcast, we’re talking about selfhood. Many of us have been taught that "self" is bad. But there’s a big difference between selfhood and selfishness. Furthermore being selfless is not always the right choice.

Reclaiming a healthy sense of self is not opposed to faith. In fact, learning to honor yourself goes hand-in-hand with honoring the One who made you.

I get personal this week, because this journey is deeply personal for me. We discuss:

My own story of loving God but not having a self
What is the difference between selfhood and selfishness?
Why is selfhood key to healthy relationships?
How selfhood is the missing first step to setting healthy boundaries
What does the bible have to say about selfhood?
Jesus’s example of selfhood

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Today’s podcast episode is all about church hurt. A church is a family—at its best it’s a place to learn about God, a place to heal, and a place to give & receive in community. But just like any family, when leadership turns toxic the results are devastating. You have so many questions for me about the pain that comes at the hands of a church family. I enter into today’s episode with a spirit of reverence and a prayer for all who have been hurt in this way.

What is church hurt?
The problem with the term church hurt
Why anyone with power (pastors, leaders, parents, and yes, even therapists!) hold great responsibility
Examples of church hurt
3 Red Flags for toxic church cultures
The problem with groupthink
How do I heal from church hurt?

Key Point:

God doesn't force, control, or manipulate you. God meets you where you are tenderly, and He wants to restore the goodness in your life that was taken away from you by an abusive leader.

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Today’s podcast episode is one of your top requests: it’s all about attachment. Be sure to listen to the end for my thoughts on how attachment wounds impact our human relationships and our experience of a loving God. Here’s what we discuss:

Why I think we’re not just one attachment style
What are 4 different attachment styles?
Can your attachment style change?
The key ingredient that creates attachment
How to create secure attachment with your own children
Why our attachment styles create confusion in our adult relationships
A picture of healthy attachment from a favorite old movie
My thoughts on God and attachment

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Today’s podcast episode is packed. Phew! You wanted to talk CPTSD (or complex trauma) so that’s where we’re going, with a side note on trauma & faith communities and some thoughts on what it really means to find safety in other people.

What is CPTSD?
What are the symptoms of CPTSD?
How does it impact healthy self-trust & an experience of safety in other people?
Why I don’t believe you are a label
My thoughts on trauma and faith communities
4 key ways to heal from CPTSD

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Psychology Buzzwords are back, only this time you picked the topics! This week we're focusing on the 4 Fear Responses, often called Survival Responses or Trauma Responses, with a special look at the Fawn Response.

What are 4 common fear responses?
What is the freeze response?
What is disassociation?
How are these responses helpful?
What is this Fawn Response?
What are the hidden fears underneath it?
Why doesn't talking myself out of a fear response work?
What does work to help me return to calm?

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This week on the podcast, I’m answering 3 of your questions! All of these questions relate to dealing with our parents as adults:

How do you cope with an internal critical voice that came from a parent?
What is the next step after recognizing that my parents were narcissistic?
Am I disrespecting my parents when I set boundaries with them?

I discuss:

—What is an inner critic?

—How do we retrain an internal critical voice?

—What beliefs do we take in when raised by narcissistic parents?

—What is trauma-informed therapy?

—God’s heart for healing

—Boundaries 101 principles as an adult with your parents

Stay tuned for next week’s new series: Psychology Buzzwords Round 2 - Listener’s Choice Edition

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Divorce is so rarely discussed yet it touches all of us—whether you've gone through a divorce or love someone who has. That’s why I’m so grateful that Eryn Eddy bravely went there with me today. This is such an honest conversation about the pain of divorce—and the compounded pain that comes afterward.

She speaks with nuance & humility about the loneliness of a distant marriage, and how discovering the secrets that led to that distance didn’t come out until after she’d shouldered most of the blame. She is upfront about owning her own stuff, even as she finally realized it was not her job to own his.

Before we dive in, I want to highlight 2 points:

—If someone is telling you: “If you were more godly or if you were more loving, then HE wouldn’t do XYZ (porn, cheat, drink. . .)” that’s called blame shifting and it’s toxic.

—If your spouse is narcissistic, couples therapy likely won’t work. And it could end up hurting you. (See this episode podcast page for resources.)

Here’s what we discuss in this episode:

You can be loved well as a child and still bump up against toxicity in your adult relationships
How doing all the “right things” didn’t work.
How the pursuit of attention outside of marriage is often more subtle than we like to admit
Why loneliness or pain in marriage is so hard to talk about
How secrecy in marriage can lead to confusion and self-blame
How Eryn learned to “date herself” and find validation apart from men
Why it’s important to both own our mistakes and show compassion to ourselves for what we do when we are in pain
How she learned to trust a new therapist after a bad experience

Connect with Eryn on Instagram @eryneddy or @soworthloving

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If you struggle with body image or how to make wise decisions on behalf of what you actually want out of your life, please do not miss this episode.

Christy Meeks provides such grounded, thoughtful, and focused insight into how she overcame the pain of weaponizing her body and learned to work with her body as a beautiful and unique gift. She is a wife, a mom of 5 children, and a body image coach.

How one painful moment in childhood changed the way she viewed her body for decades
The way exercise can be both a weapon and a superpower
How to find ways to physicalize emotional pain, so that it flows through our bodies
The pain of miscarriage
Why she decided to leave social media
How to translate self-awareness to action, so that we’re living our lives with intention.
How true freedom comes from the inner conviction that you are living the life that is right for YOU.

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode here

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This podcast is a gold mine of rich, hopeful nuggets for anyone who has struggled to overcome limiting beliefs. My guest, Mary Marantz, is so gentle and thoughtful and wise as she reflects on the challenges of her childhood and the life she went on to create. It’s a beautiful tribute to the power of “both—and.”

We discuss these topics and more:

Different types of poverty
How the messages our parents give us and the desires of our own hearts can create painful inner conflict
The limiting beliefs we pick up without even realizing it—and how to break free from them
How to honor a parent while also disagreeing with them
The 10 scripts we all have to confront in our minds
The temptation—and the danger—of being the woman who always come through

Connect with Mary at www.marymarantz.com/quiz, or on Instagram @marymarantz

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode here.

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This conversation is an absolute gift. Bianca is a powerhouse of wisdom who talks honestly about the hidden pain that both motivated her and almost got the best of her. She shares about the moment she passed out on her dorm room floor from carrying so much hidden pain—and how she began to face the fears that drove her.

You do not want to miss her encouragement for listeners with mother or father wounds and the commitment she made to herself to “die empty." We discuss these topics and more:

Will I struggle with feeling pain forever?
Why trying to “just be happy” doesn’t work.
How her first trip to counseling was a bust
How fear can motivate us in both positive and negative ways
The burdens of generational trauma that can add to our pain
The pressure she put on herself to heal so she wouldn’t pass on pain to her own children
How she learned to advocate for herself and “staffed” herself accordingly

Connect with Bianca at behindtheconfidentsmile.com or on

Instagram: @biancancotton & @behindtheconfidentsmile

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We are launching a new series on the podcast this week:

Real People Overcoming Real Problems!

You do not want to miss this very first episode with author, speaker, podcaster, and new friend of mine, Ashley Abercrombie who shares with me her story of overcoming addiction and learning to ask for help.

Ashley speaks candidly about the pain in her life, how she tried to numb it, and the divide that nearly shattered her until she learned to ask for help. And do not miss the last part of this interview where Ashley talks about how she's been getting through a period of extended isolation and loneliness these past few years.

We discuss SO MUCH in this episode—here are just a few highlights:

The various big “T” and little “t” traumas that can lead to addiction and painful patterns of self-soothing.
Why carrying your pain silently doesn’t work.
How Ashley finally found healing in safe community
Why failure is our friend
How to be helpful (and what’s not helpful) to people who are struggling
The wisdom Ashley would give her 20-year-old self now.

Connect with Ashley onInstagram

Ashley’s After Hours newsletter on Substack

Books by Ashley: Rise of the Truth Teller: Own Your Story, Tell It Like It Is, and Live with Holy Gumption Love Is the Resistance: Learn to Disagree, Resolve the Conflicts You've Been Avoiding, and Create Real Change

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode, at https://www.dralisoncook.com/overcoming-addiction-and-learning-to-ask-for-help/

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The #1 question I get asked about is how to set boundaries.

They are so important and so powerful, and yet they are so hard to set.

We dive into the power of boundaries in this episode and I guide you through a real time exercise on taking that first step no matter what you are facing.

Why is it so hard to set boundaries?
What is the primary purpose of boundaries?
What 2 skills does boundary setting require?
What is the first step to setting boundaries?
What does the Bible have to say about boundaries?
An exercise to help you take a first step.

Key Take Away: Boundaries are not primarily about saying no to other people. Boundaries are first and foremost about safeguarding the heart, mind, soul, and body God has given you.

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode at www.dralisoncook.com/the-best-of-you-podcast/

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What is this “inner child” we see everywhere on social media and in pop psychology trends? Do I really have one? Is this just woo-woo psychology or is there science behind it? Why does it matter? We’ll get into all of this today, including the power of memory in shaping who you are.

Here’s what we’ll discuss:

What is an inner child and do I really have one?
Is there any science behind it?
What is an internal family?
Who is the wise parent inside of you?
What does the Bible have to say about our inner child?
A 10 minute guided reflection to help you connect to a young part of yourself.

Key Takeaway: Like a wise parent, we can learn to parent the young parts of us. We can bring them to Jesus who invited the children always to come to him—without shame or judgment.

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode at www.dralisoncook.com/the-best-of-you-podcast/

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Do you get so consumed with the needs of others, that you lose sight of your own?

Do you struggle with focusing on caring for yourself?

There's no shame in codependency—I've struggled with it for years. And I believe nearly everyone struggles with it on some level. Learn the surprising antidote to codependency and how to take steps toward healthy dependence.

What is codependency?
What’s the difference between being kind and being codependent?
What are some examples of codependent behaviors?
5 signs that you might have codependent tendencies.
2 indicators you might be in a codependent relationship
3 practical ways to move toward healthy dependence

Key Takeaway: There’s a difference between being kind—and caring for someone else while causing harm to yourself.

Questions for reflection:

What keeps you from noticing and focusing on your own needs?

Which of the 3 steps offered at the end of this episode can you take to move toward healthy dependence?

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode at www.dralisoncook.com/what-do-i-need-to-know-about-trauma/

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Trauma is a bigger player in our lives than you might think.

It's the unacknowledged guest at every gathering of humans.

And if we could learn to understand it better, we'd create a kinder, more compassionate world.

In today's episode we discuss trauma:

What is trauma?
What are Big T and little T traumas?
How does trauma impact your relationship to yourself, others and God?
The shaming messages that often sneak in as a result of trauma
What does the Bible say about trauma and healing?
How do you begin to heal?

Questions to consider:

What if what happened wasn’t your fault?

What if you didn’t deserve that treatment?

What if there’s not something wrong with you?

What if you were created a beautiful soul made in God's image?

Is there any sliver of you that could believe that?

What if the heart of God is to heal?

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode, including trauma-informed care, at www.dralisoncook.com/what-do-i-need-to-know-about-trauma/

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Do you shove yourself aside?

Do you think it's selfish to love yourself—or even wrong?

Learn practical steps you can take toward improving one of your most important relationships, your relationship with YOU.

We'll cover:

My story of shoving myself aside
What does self-love really mean?
Can I love myself and love God?
2 reasons you don’t love yourself
4 messages that teach you not to love yourself
An exercise you can do each morning to start loving yourself.

Questions for Reflection:

—What messages have you heard about loving yourself?

—What is one action you can take toward honoring yourself this week?

—Try the MEPS exercise mentioned at the end of this episode. What did you notice? Were you surprised by anything?

Key takeaway: The way you treat yourself will have a direct impact on how you treat others.

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode at www.dralisoncook.com/what-is-self-love-and-should-i-really-love-myself/

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In this special bonus episode, I answer two of your questions:

My spouse used to gaslight me, but has shown meaningful change. I'm still angry. What should I do?
My parents were narcissistic and now I constantly seek validation from others. How do I stop?

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode at www.dralisoncook.com/the-best-of-you-podcast

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What should I know about gaslighting?

In this episode we'll discuss:

What is gaslighting?
What are some examples of it in real life?
Why do people do this?
What does the Bible have to say about gaslighting?
The #1 question I get from people who are dealing with a gaslighter
How do I protect myself with someone who gaslights?

Questions for Reflection:

—Are there any relationships in your life where gaslighting is occurring?

—Who are the people you trust?

—Who are the people who help you move toward the best of who you are?

—Are there any areas in your life of dishonesty or deception?

Key takeaway: The more you get honest with yourself and with God, the more you detect honesty and health in others.

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode at www.dralisoncook.com/the-best-of-you-podcast/

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You’ve heard the word narcissist, but what does it really mean? In this episode we’ll discuss:

What narcissism is— how it’s presented in the Bible and the criteria psychologists use to diagnose it
The difference between labeling people vs. naming behaviors
Different types of narcissism
What it feels like if you’re in a narcissistic relationship
How do I know that I’m not a narcissist?
The antidote to narcissism

You can find a list of all the resources mentioned in this episode at www.dralisoncook.com/the-best-of-you-podcast-what-is-narcissism-really/

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Welcome to The Best Of You podcast with Dr. Alison Cook!

This podcast will help you discover what brings out the best of you. It's about helping you break free from painful patterns, mend your past, and discover your true self in God. Dr. Alison Cook is a psychologist who has worked with people for over two decades. She is also an author and teacher at heart who loves taking complex topics and breaking them down into practical tools you can apply in your everyday life. She also specializes in bringing faith into psychology. Her work came out of her own faith journey and how she found that while she wanted to know God she needed to figure out a better relationship with herself. Dr. Alison Cook shares these tools with you and the things she has learned from her own story and her work with her clients so together we can learn how to become the people we really want to become.

You will learn about what it means to have a strong sense of self, why that work matters, and why that goes hand in hand with a strong faith in God. Other topics include relationships, codependency, boundaries issues, and toxicity. You will also hear episodes on emotions - loneliness, anger, and guilt and how to discover new ones like confidence, playfulness, and joy. You will learn how to find your own voice as you turn away from harm and pull in the good things that you need so together we can envision the life and relationships we want with God's help.

Episodes come out every Thursday and Dr. Alison Cook will invite some friends and other experts to share their stories too. She'll also be spending time answering your questions along the way. Join us Thursday, May 5th for the first episode!

Follow Dr. Alison Cook on Instagram @dralisoncook!

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.

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