’Unknown’ with JD: Recent Episodes
JD Finau
Unscripted, uncensored, and unapologetic - ‘Unknown’ is a show for those seeking a safe space to heal, learn, love, & discover themselves on a deeper level. 👣💙✨ Here, we discuss topics that challenge our current perceptions of the self, so we can better understand our needs and forge forward into the ‘Unknown’. 💙 Grab a cup of tea (or wine if you prefer 🤪🍷), and join your host: JD (Jayde) as she shares her experiences, breaks down her L’s, belly-flops her way through adulthood, & digs deep within herself - with the hopes of inspiring you to do the same. 👑
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Todays tea party is dedicated to all my crazies who are dirty, thirty, flirty & thriving. 🤍✨ Welcome to your best decade yet. 🥰😘🙏🏽
I’m so happy to finally be talking about this topic & to be sharing my own reflections & experiences with social anxiety. 😣 For all my social anxiety bugs and beloved introverts: this is my love note to you. 🤍 Be brave. Be bold. Defy & rebel. & in all things: refuse to be anything else but your amazing self. You are seen & adored. Love you xx
This one is for my crazies who struggle to say no; who fear disappointment; and who struggle to share & show who they truly are. 🤍 Keep doing the work: the breakthrough is just around the corner. 💪🏽 Love you xx
For all my crazies who struggle with self-sabotage: this one is for you. 🤍 Let’s learn how to start showing up for ourselves & others. Love you. X
April is here & we are officially entering our second quarter of 2023! 🤍✨ Today’s tea party is short & sweet: let’s review the month of March & give thanks for all the blessings & challenges we received & overcame before we forge into a new month. 💫✨🌙
Come on in & take a seat. 🥰🫖🍰 If your cosmic year started off rough & you feel like you’re waiting for a shift: this might just be it. 🤍 This episode is for my hard nuts, control freaks, perfectionists, & people pleasers. Welcome to our Soft Girl Era. 🤍✨| References: 🎥 How to live a softer life (practical tips): https://youtu.be/8LdfIPmeLEw . 🎥 How to remove trauma from your body - https://youtu.be/Ah71MQM6cMc . 🎥 How trauma gets trapped in your body (part 1: the vagus nerve) - https://youtu.be/dpN6bAc0T40 . 🎥 Turn off anxiety in your nervous system - https://youtu.be/FPH5CFSmYEU . 🎥 All 7 chakras: Crystal singing bowls 30 mins - https://youtu.be/qn5KYYxYMqU .
With the new cosmic year coming in tomorrow, today is the perfect day to reflect & release old hurts, shames, & anger: so we’re going to do just that! 😁💫✨The table is ready for you sis: let’s heal that mother wound of yours. ❤️🩹✨🌟 | References: 🎥 How to re-mother yourself (reparenting): https://youtu.be/gJ_GruafcDk . 🎥 Healing wounded feminine energy: https://youtu.be/eAmJb76pq4Q . 🎥 The hidden meanings of Yin & Yang: https://youtu.be/ezmR9Attpyc . 📖 Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu.
If you’re still healing from your father wound: this ones for you. 💘 | References: 🎥 Things you must know as a father: Jordan Peterson - https://youtu.be/q23cBMvPE7Q . 🎥 The importance of fathers - https://youtu.be/Eu22Wgu98VE . 🎥 We need to change the conversation about fathers: Anna Machin - https://youtu.be/cul4L441x9o . 🎥 Jordan Peterson - the importance of father figure - https://youtu.be/hpkdzDLD4JA . 🎥 The life long impact of absent fathers - https://youtu.be/vIAFSKr2xvE .
I thought I’d reintroduce myself & the show as our tea party is slowly growing! 🥰☕️ if you’re new to the party: welcome!!! You are just in time. 🤍 Take a seat at the table, grab your cup of tea, & let’s talk about self-perception. 😎 #GROWTH
I needed to vent & download my thoughts in today’s chin wag after a difficult week of sickness & reflection. Sit back and relax as I share my thoughts & feelings on guilt, and the impact it has on our health, wellbeing, and peace. | References: 🎥 Relationship with guilt - https://youtu.be/ozFMecgzjfM .
This week I want to expose my relationship a little bit 😋 & debunk the value we place on happiness. If the pursuit of happiness is nothing but an oversold lie from society: what is it that we should be chasing? #NoWaterfallsHere
Today’s ☕️ is all about evicting our inner-critic, shining a light on unknown shadows, & choosing to share ourselves & shine our light completely. ❤️🩹
You thought I was joking about that 2023 EOY Vision? 😂 Are you enabling the energy vamps in your life to jeopardise that vision? Are you sabotaging yourself by trying to help the energy vamps? Let’s chop it up & find out in today’s episode. 🧛🏻 | Reference: 🎥 Teal Sean - Psychic Vampires (How to recognise and protect yourself from an energy vampire): https://youtu.be/FWM-92ripck
New year, new goals. ✨ Grab your notebooks & let’s explore some questions that will help us uncover not only what we want to achieve this year: but also, why we want to achieve our goals and who we want to become in the process. 🪴✨ Happy planning! 💚 | References: 📖 The 5am club - Robin Sharma. 🎓 The Monk Who Stole His Ferrari Method - Robin Sharma. 📖 The courage to be disliked - Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Kota. 📖 The courage to be happy - Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. 📓 23 goals to set in 2023: Goal ideas for self-investment - https://gentwenty.com/goals-to-set-in-2023/ . 💗 Dayplanner - https://www.kikki-k.com/au . 🏡🧽 Long handled scrubbing brush - Kmart: https://www.kmart.com.au/product/long-handled-scrubbing-brush-43140237/ . 🏡🧽 Wet & dry hand vacuum - Kmart: https://www.kmart.com.au/product/wet-and-dry-hand-vacuum-42735878/ .
Happy New Year Crazies!!! ✨🤍🙏🏽 To kickstart 2023, let’s discuss how we can begin moving away from denial and distraction, & closer to ourselves & our truth. ❤️🔥 | References: 🎥 Why denial is unhealthy (psychology): https://youtu.be/I2OYoauwv1I . 🎥 How to call bullshit on denial (Teal Swan): https://youtu.be/mcg1WPuMX5M .
Let’s explore the functions of shame, the implications of toxic shame, & how we can begin the process of ‘unshaming ourselves’. ❗️Trigger warning ❗️Shame is intense & painful to talk about, so be ready to step all over your triggers in today’s chat. | References: 🎥 What is the difference between guilt & shame (Dr. Todd Grande) - https://youtu.be/E-r0x6Sxrv4 . 🎥 Nietzsche - overcome shame, become who you are: https://youtu.be/XnGIzeVRcow . 🎥 Shame is physical -Yoga helps (Carolyn Cowan) - https://youtu.be/_Kwt5Fb50wc . 🎥 3 ways to work with toxic shame - Part 2: https://youtu.be/4dnOzP29OWA . 🎥 Self-hate (the most dangerous coping mechanism): https://youtu.be/uvhhubvTX1o .
Grab your shovels & your tea cups, & let’s discuss the most common mistake we make when it comes to understanding our self-worth. We’re digging deep today. ❤️🔥 | References: ✨ my go-to daily bath bomb: https://www.lush.com/au/en/p/sex-bomb-bath-bomb . ✨ My favorite bath bomb ever: https://www.lush.com/au/en/p/goddess-bath-bomb . ✨ My night time shower gel: https://www.lush.com/au/en/p/sleepy-shower-gel . ✨ Must-have post-shower body lotion: https://www.lush.com/au/en/p/sleepy-body-lotion .
In today’s episode, let’s breakdown the difference between good & bad stress, & investigate how our stress may be tied into our childhood trauma. | References: 🎧 Ms. Stress - Floetry. 📓Stress effects on the body - https://www.apa.org/topics/stress/body . 📓 How some stress can actually be good for you - https://time.com/5434826/stress-good-health/?amp=true . 🔍 Google: The effect of stress on human behavior research. 🙏🏽 10 minute guided meditation - https://youtu.be/QHfy9J89mmY .
Let’s explore our ideas around conflict & the important role it plays in our relationships. Our goal for today is to challenge our current perspective of conflict, to get better at building “good fences”, & to learn how to create more SYNERGY in our current relationships. ✨✨| References: 📖 The Symposium - Plato. 🎧 Amar Pelos Doir - Salvador Sobral. 🎧 Love Rain - Jill Scott. 🎥 Les Brown - Love Yourself: https://youtu.be/5dfC2OYh9VQ . 📖 The 5 Love Languages - Gary Chapman.
This topic is so close to my heart, & I hope that it helps spur something in the hearts of all my fellow goats. 🐐👑✨ You’re not alone and you’re more powerful than you think. 🤍 | References: 🎧 PJ Morton - Stickin’ to my guns. 📖 The magic - Rhonda Byrne. 🎥 Teal Swan: https://youtu.be/mslv4Hs5n14.
I’ve been hanging out to do this episode so I’m extremely excited & ready to mind-map with you. 📍🤍 Grab your tea pots crazies: let’s talk about depression/sadness. 💙✨|References:🎧 Alright - PJ Morton. 🎥 https://youtu.be/IDPDEKtd2yM - “I’m Fine” Learning to live with depression - Jake Tyler. 🎥 https://youtu.be/GGorABGw418 - Depression (the truth about depression that no one sees or understands) - Teal Swan. 📖 The Prophet - Khalil Gibran. 🎧 Look Outside - Allen Stone. 🎧 Distance - Yebba. 🎞 Afterlife - Netflix.
Welcome to Season 2 my crazieeeees! 🌟🌟 It’s so good to be back & have you back! If you’re new to this beautiful shit-show: Hiiii & welcome! 🥰 Today’s chinwag is all about befriending our anxiety and learning how to better support ourselves in order to build a stronger sense of self. 💗 So grateful to have you here. Let’s jump into this new Season. ✨✨ love always - JD the cowardly lady 🐶
From the ashes of grief, come beautiful lessons of attachment and growth. 💙 If you’re feeling stuck, I hope this episode inspires you to break the ‘train track’ you’re stuck on, and take only the things that are meant for you into this next phase of your life. 🤍 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 🤍 All my love my crazies - Jd the ‘let go’ lady. 🐉 xx
I’m a straight-up rookie when it comes to grief, so today’s episode is an account of my current reflections on the emotional journey that is grief. 👣 I hope it helps. I hope you know you’re not alone and it’s okay to be vulnerable. ❤️🩹 ’Stop thinking; feel it’ 💙 Love - Jd the ’sookie but strong’ lady 🐉 xx
This episode is just for you Uncle Danny. 💙 I wish I was there with you. I wish I could cuddle you and make you laugh in person. ❤️🩹 But let’s do what we do best - reminisce & laugh together. I will love you forever my Uncle D. 💙 Always - Your Jd. 🐉 xx
Setting boundaries is a form of self love, & we usually establish boundaries to protect ourselves from external forces. But what happens when violate our own boundaries? With all things healing, accountability is a crucial part of giving ourselves what we need - & it is no different with our boundaries. By knowing and respecting our own boundaries, not only do we set the standard for others; we also build a sense of self trust in ourselves. 🤍 It always starts with YOU. Stay blessed & boundary up. 🥰 All my love - Jd the ‘accountable’ lady 🐉 xx
Reparenting has become a massive part of my self-care routine, so I want to share some of the wonderful things I am learning through re-mothering & re-fathering myself. 🤍🖤 I also wanted to extend a note of tough love to my babies (younger cousins, nephews & nieces) who have received a ‘shit hand off’ similar to myself. 📝 A big part of healing is GIVING OURSELVES the love, nurturing, understanding, compassion, and validation that we need(ed); and allowing ourselves to live the life we should have received in the first place. 💛 ‘Be better than the gap’ 🤪, run your race, and make it count. Always said with love - Jd the ‘tough love’ lady. 🐉 xx
It’s almost Mental Health Month, so it’s only appropriate we talk about Mental Health and how important it is. ✨ As usual, we’re going to address/challenge some cultural stigmas, but I also want to remind us all what this whole damn podcast is about: healing on all levels. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤍 Trust yourself, trust your process/journey, keep doing your homework, and be that one to heal your bloodline. 👑🖤 I’m so proud of us! Love always - Jd the ‘healer’ lady. 🐉 xx
This Sunday, let’s shine some light on the never-ending battle between body shaming & body love. 🧘🏽♀️ For us women, the pressure from society (& ourselves) around body image can be so heavy. 💔 Unlearning the idea of ’beauty’ that we’ve been taught, & learning to love and appreciate our bodies is a whole process - but we’ll get there. Be kind to your vessel, and start developing a loving relationship with it. 💗 Let’s begin loving our bodies in all it’s wonderful phases. 🌕🌖🌗🌘🌑🌒🌓🌔 See yous next *Sunday my loves. Always - Jd the ‘juicy’ lady. 🐉 xx
We’re gonna rock the boat today & talk about sex, & the shame that is often attached to it; highlighting how sexual shame impacts us as women - specifically us Polynesian women. 🌺👑 I want to challenge the cultural stigma and mentalities we have around sex, & encourage our Polynesian women to explore, embrace, & redefine what female sexuality means to US. 💗✨ Embracing & expressing your sexuality as a woman is a form of self love: so love yourself sis. 💗 Always - Jd the ‘sacred & sexy’ lady 🐉 xx
My longest episode yet - today I’m going to expose my perfectly imperfect relationship, & hash-out some relationship myths that we all fall for. 🙄 Don’t believe the hype fam: seek & develop a relationship that is right for you. Understand that NO relationship is perfect no matter how many filters you place on it - but imperfection is what makes it so incredibly special. 🥰 Love & RESPECT your team mate. Love & respect yourself. 💗 Talk to yous next Sunday. 🥰 Forever grateful for you all: Jd the ‘Spoiled’ lady. 🐉 xx
Through our discussions on social media, some of you have challenged me to soften my heart & open it up to forgiveness. Well… sis has realised that she knows close to nothing about it 🤣🤦🏽♀️. So today’s episode is a call for help to all you strong spirits who understand forgiveness: please teach this dragon with a heart of stone how to TRULY forgive. 💙 To make this episode extra special, I also want to share a bit about my relationship with my Father (Papa) - the first man to ever break my heart & piece it back together at the same time. 👑💙🐉 Hope to hear from you soon fam. Love - Jd the ‘heart of stone’ lady. 🐉 xx
Happy Sunday my loves. 💗 Todays episode was inspired by the many conversations I’ve had with yous about Bullying. ❌ I have been bullied AND been a bully, so I want to give some insight into the mind of a bully, & bring some awareness around how harmful bullying can be; not just amongst children: but amongst Adults as well. 👿 Disengage/speak up - but above all, know that your voice matters! Love always - Jd the ‘grow tf up’ lady. 🐉 xx
In today’s chin wag: we revisit fear & ignorance, & reiterate the importance of self education. 🤍 Through our self education, we are often confronted by the overwhelming ocean of opinions. I hope this message serves as a reminder that whilst we must keep our minds open to the push and pull of knowledge, we must also remain grounded in our values in order to make informed decisions that are right for US. Stay curious, ask questions, do your digging, trust your ability to make the right decision for YOU, & allow others to do the same. 🙏🏽💛 Love - Jd the ‘finite’ lady. 🐉 xx
With everything going on in the world at the moment, I wanted to discuss this demon we call ‘fear’, & the ignorance it comes with. Self-education & faith (in whatever form feels right to you) is so important during these times. 💙💙 Please know you are not alone & that I am always here. We’ll get through this together. 💙 Sending you so much love - Jd the ‘sorrowful’ lady. 🐉 xx
Today I want to acknowledge the men who raised me and highlight some of the lessons they taught me in my youth. 💗 A sweet reminder to honour who/where we come from and acknowledge the shoulders we stand on. 👑 To all the men I mentioned in todays episode: thank you for setting the standard. I love yous more than you know. 💙 - Jd the ’raised by Kings’ lady. 🐉 xx
In today’s pep talk, we’ll discuss two C’s - Chain-breaking & Comparison. In this episode, I want to call Comparison out & name it as the lamest, lowest, loser-est level of thinking. We are all too smart to be entertaining a clown ass demon like Comparison. 🤡 Love your lane fam and be about that. 🙌🏽 Important note: We don’t f*cks with Comparison. ❌ I love you for you - Jd the ‘Chain-breaker’ lady. 🐉
On our last episode, we spoke about keeping our hearts soft & open to the healing and love that we deserve. Today we’re going to dig a bit deeper & discuss a beautiful love we call ‘friendship’. 💛 When we find the courage to truly be ourselves & open our hearts to receive this type of love: its such a magical thing. ✨🙌🏽 Be brave. Be bold. Be ruthless in your growth/healing. And attract a true friend like my G. 👑😊💗 You deserve that & more. - Jd the ‘open your heart’ lady. 🐉 xx
In today’s episode, I will talk you through my journey in identifying the source of my anger, and what triggers set it off. 🧨 Through this process, we learn that anger can often be a defence mechanism/response to past trauma, but also a barrier that closes our hearts off from the healing we seek & need. 💙 WARNING: this episode is very heavy, so I ask that you keep your minds open & your hearts soft while listening. Remember: healing isn’t just about building our walls up to protect our hearts. It is also about lowering our walls, and keeping our hearts soft and open to the healing and love that we need, yearn, and deserve. 🤍 - Jd the ‘vulnerable dragon’ lady. 🐉 xx
Today we’ll discuss how to identify if we’re being ‘gaslit’ - more importantly, I’ll share 3 tips I use to protect myself from gaslighting. ❌❌❌ A gentle reminder: be sure to do your own homework & learn to start trusting yourself. Protect your hearts & minds my ‘Unknown’ fam. 💗 - Jd the ‘trust yourself’ lady. 🐉 xx
Happy 1st of the Month ‘Unknown’ Fam. 👑💗 Today’s episode is inspired by you beautiful souls who have shared your thoughts & reflections with me - specifically around self-doubt. 👿 I hope this episode gives you the hope & inspiration you need to walk into this week fearlessly. ✨ When doubt comes knocking (and he will): name that demon, tell him to f**k off, & remind yourself that what you do & who you are is so much more than your doubts. You are needed more than you know. 🤍 Love you. - Jd the ‘check yourself’ lady. 🐉 xx
Happy Friyayyyyyy my favourite people! 😊💗 We made it! Let’s take a moment to celebrate the fact that we’ve survived another week. 💃🏽🙌🏽 To thank you all for your love & for sharing my joy with me this week: please enjoy this beautiful mess of a bonus episode where I share a little bit more about myself, & show you how much of an awkward turtle I can really be. 🤣🐢 I hope this sheds a little more light on who I am & what I’m about. Mostly, I hope you’re still my friend after this episode 🤣🤪 - & if not, I’ll still send you all my love & light. 😘✨ Have a wonderful weekend & enjoy the show. Cheers my loves! 🥂✨ Forever grateful for you - Jd the ‘Awkward Turtle’ Lady. 🐢 xx
Welcome back my beautiful ‘Unknown’ fam!!! 😎👑✨ First & foremost, I want to thank you all for your love, support, and beautiful messages in response to Episode 1! 💗 Im so overwhelmed & I want to thank you for letting me be ME! 😚🤪💗 Now that we’ve decided to appreciate our past seasons & embrace this season we’re in - let’s discuss the importance of surrounding ourselves with loving people, taking control of what/who we let into our lives, and tending to our gardens. 💗 Remember: you are loved, you are worthy, you are heard, & you are needed. Loving you always - Jd the ‘Stay MF Woke’ lady. 🐉 xx
O 👏🏽 M 👏🏽 G 👏🏽 Guys! We’re here! Sis has no idea what she is doing or where this is going to lead - but I’m so thankful you’re here with me! 💜 Welcome, welcome, welcomeeeee to ‘Unknown’! 😍🥳🤪 Thank you for joining me on this first impromptu episode and inspiring me to share my story. Thank you for being YOU. 👑 Let’s dig deep & love ourselves as we learn to face our fears, unpack the outdated beliefs we have about ourselves, and appreciate our journeys and all it’s seasons - even the cringe-worthy ones. 👣✨ Excuse all my ‘Ums’ - sis was nervous as heck! But I figured it may make a good drinking game 🤣: a shot for every Um! 🤪 hehe. Enjoy the show & know your presence here is appreciated. Love you! - JD the ‘Unknown’ lady. 🐉 xx