RETURNING TO REAL: Recent Episodes
Carmen Jelly
These conversations are hosted by two women, Suzanne Rochon and Carmen Jelly, who are Psychotherapists, Published Authors, and Compassionate Inquiry Practitioners. They invite clients and listeners into a safe space to explore life challenges, deep wounds, transitions, personal growth and self development. They created the Raw Risky & Real™ approach to guide you from Wounds To Wellness™. The ultimate intention of these podcasts is to guide listeners in their journey in Returning to Real, and thus Reclaiming Your Authentic Self.
Three Therapists` Carmen, Suzanne & Leah explore Chapter 7: Meeting Our Needs
- Our failure to stop and check in with ourselves and make time for the things that are meaningful to us can increase our stress and burnout
- Meeting our needs brings fulfillment, balance, and authenticity
- Developing our potential is not selfish
- Meeting our needs is a gift to the world
In this meditation, Carmen mindfully explores how we can set an intention to elevate our performance with the mind/body state.
- Set an intention
- What would it look like without fear or anxiety?
- Sense and visualize yourself meeting this target
- Tap into your fierceness
- Play the mental movie
- Believe in your visualization and yourself
In this episode, Carmen, Leah and Suzanne explore chapter 6 of Fierce Self-Compassion. They examine the concepts of bravery, empowerment, and clarity when drawing boundaries and protecting ourselves from harm. Self-compassion provides resilience needed to survive physical or emotional harm. When we develop and integrate fierce and tender self-compassion we can alleviate our suffering.
Carmen & Suzanne are joined by Leah, to explore how we can hold ourselves tenderly to integrate all the aspects of who we are. Learn how to love, connect and be present with yourself. This practice can help us to be with pain, difficult emotions, and then move to action.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and Leah examine the MeToo movement and fierce self-compassion, as women need to protect themselves. Women are waking up to their true nature, which is potently fierce as well as gently tender. They explore: types of abuse, sexual harassment, the scars left behind, and the role of self-compassion after abuse, and taking action.
In this episode, Carmen, Suzanne and Leah explore Chapter 3 of Fierce Self-Compassion, entitled Angry Women. They discuss that women do not usually honour their anger as a power source. Together they examine: how anger can be a positive productive emotion, destructive and constructive anger, social justice and anger, and many other gifts of anger. Join them in reclaiming anger as a compassionate fierceness!
Suzanne, Carmen and Leah explore chapter 2 of Kristen Neff's book,Fierce Self-Compassion- How Women Can Harness Kindness To Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive. This Raw, Risky & Real conversation examines sexism, gender maps, and moving beyond gender roles to balance tender and fierce self- compassion. They share personal stories, insights and life lessons.
Join three Psychotherapists, Suzanne, Carmen and Leah as they explore Chapter 1 of Kristen Neff's groundbreaking book, Fierce Self-Compassion -How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, And Thrive. This unedited conversation is Raw Risky and Real inviting all women to embrace imperfection with new ideas that expand our notion of self-kindness. Like yin and yang, the energies of fierce and tender self-compassion must be balanced for wholeness and wellbeing.
In this conversation Suzanne and Carmen introduce and discuss their shift in podcast title and new creative intention. Growing and learning themselves, they explain what it means to be raw, risky & real so that women can reclaim their authenticity, power and truth. They introduce the 8 qualities of our authentic self, developed by internal family systems theory: calmness, clarity, curiosity, compassion, confidence, courage, creativity, and connectedness. They unpack the importance of recognizing these 8 innate qualities so that women can show up authentically and speak their truth, and thus move away from confusion, drama and over-commitment. These qualities are potent tools for healing our wounds and creating a more just and equitable world.
Tapping In: A guide to activating your internal healing resources
- let's imagine our natural healing potential.
- a wellspring of untapped resources within us.
- In this practice, we will imagine Love Resources.
- those you love
- those who love you
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 13 in Brené Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go To Self-Assess
The words and concepts explored: Pride, Hubris, Humility, Near Enemies and Far Enemies.
They also unpack her grounded theory of cultivating meaningful connection through: developing grounded confidence, practicing the courage to walk alongside, and practicing story stewardship.
Be kind and gentle with yourself as you enter this safe and curious place to explore and learn.
Together We Are~ Raw, Risky & Real.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 12 in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go When We Feel Wronged
The words and concepts explored: Anger, Contempt, Disgust, Dehumanization, Hate, Self-Righteousness.
Be kind and gentle with yourself as you enter this safe and curious place to explore and learn.
Together We Are~ Raw, Risky & Real.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 11 in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go When Life Is Good
The words and concepts explored: Joy, Happiness, Calm, Contentment, Gratitude, Foreboding Joy, Relief, and Tranquility.
Be kind and gentle with yourself as you enter this safe and curious place to explore and learn.
Together We Are~ Raw, Risky & Real.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 10 in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go When The Heart Is Open
The words and concepts explored: Love, Lovelessness, Heartbreak, Trust, Self-Trust, Betrayal, Defensiveness, Flooding, and Hurt.
Be kind and gentle with yourself as you enter this safe and curious place to explore and learn.
Together We Are~ Raw, Risky & Real.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 9 in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go When We Search For Connection
The words and concepts explored: Belonging, Fitting In, Connection, Disconnection, Insecurity, Invisibility, Loneliness
Be kind and gentle with yourself as you enter this safe place to explore and learn.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 8 in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go When We Fall Short
The words and concepts explored: Shame, Self-Compassion, Perfectionism, Guilt, Humiliation, Embarrassment.
Be kind and gentle with yourself as you enter this safe place to explore and learn.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 7 in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go With Others
The words and concepts explored: Compassion, Pity, Empathy, Sympathy, Boundaries, Comparative Suffering
Be kind and gentle with yourself as you enter this safe place to explore.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 6 in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go When We're Hurting
The words and concepts explored: Anguish, Hopelessness, Despair, Sadness, Grief
Be kind and gentle with yourself as you enter this safe place to explore.
In this episode Carmen, Suzanne and April explore chapter 5 in Brene Brown's book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
- In this creative conversation, these 3 women examine The Places We Go When Things Aren't What They Seem.
- This is a timely conversation given our current experiences
The words and concepts explored:
Amusement, Bittersweetness, Nostalgia, Cognitive Dissonance, Paradox, Irony, Sarcasm
In this episode April, Carmen and Suzanne explore chapters 3 & 4 in Brene Browns book, Atlas of the Heart.
Mapping meaningful connection and the language of human experience is the intention of this book.
In this raw, risky and real conversation, these ladies share what they are learning from their heads and hearts.
Chapter 3 is about the places we go when things don't go as planned. This creative conversation dives into the concepts of boredom, disappointment, expectations, regret, discouragement, resignation and frustration.
Chapter 4 takes us to the places we go when it's beyond us. They invite you to rumble with the emotions of awe, wonder, confusion, curiosity and interest.
You have to feel to heal, but what are we feeling, thinking and sensing? Learning about the relationship between thinking, feeling and behaviour is emotional intelligence. We all have feelings continuously, yet we go through life trying to pretend otherwise. Our feelings can be messy, inconvenient and sometimes confusing. In her new Book, Atlas of The Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, Brene Brown identifies 87 emotions and perceptions. Wow! The average personal can name 3 feelings.
In this episode, Carmen, April and Suzanne explore chapters 1 & 2 and share their personal insights and aha moments. It is their hope that we can learn more about the emotions and experiences that define what it means to be human. Naming our emotions is powerful! Language helps us to make sense of our experiences. Once we open up our language portal, we can step through it to create new perceptions and to make new choices.
Carmen Jelly, Suzanne Rochon and April Porter reflect on 2021, and explore how to imagine and create what they want in 2022.
Looking backward and looking forward, we are closing a chapter and entering a new one. We reflect on what worked well and what did not work well for us in 2021. They discuss how to discard or hold onto identities, set new intentions and imagine new beginnings. When we can imagine, we can reframe and set positive intentions with grit (not grind). Like sands through the hour glass, these are the days (and years) of our lives, so let's create a meaningful life.
On today’s episode of Returning To Real, Suzanne Rochon, Carmen Jelly and guest host Leah Brown discuss Perfectionism. Perfectionism drives people to be concerned with achieving unattainable ideals or unrealistic goals, often leading to many forms of problems such as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and a host of other psychological, physical, relationship, and achievement problems. They share personal stories, key inner strengths, and strategies for creating a compassionate relationship with your perfection pattern and personality part.
Exploring Our People Pleasing Part:
As we start congregating again, we must take delicate care with ourselves and one another. After all, despite our proverbial solitude, we’ve gone through the entire past 18 months together. Pandemic fatigue and a post-vaccination lifestyle can feel like total overwhelm. This is a time to pause and check-in with ourselves. Most of us have a people pleasing pattern, which means we can say 'yes' when we really want to say 'no.'
Join Suzanne and Carmen as they discuss re-entering the new world, while returning to our real selves.
On today’s podcast, Carmen and Suzanne talk about the second chapter, The Inner Critic, in their book, Returning to Real.They sharehow one simple shift can create your next extraordinary chapter in your life. They discuss how we have to compassionately understand our Inner Critic, so that we can understand the old negative beliefs they hold. With compassion and understanding, we can unhook the inner critic and reclaim our authentic voice.
In this Returning to Real episode, Carmen and Suzanne tap into the insights and wisdom of their guest. In today's conversation with Psychotherapist, Jennifer Jurkofsky they discuss developing a connection with and returning to our true selves. They delve into an exploration of various concepts, practices and modalities to assist people on their journey towards wellness and wholeness.
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Returning to Real Summer Series: Join Carmen Jelly Weiss and Suzanne Rochon in a soulful conversation with Gina Clark, a certified Creativity Coach. In her work with left-brained creatives and analytical artists, Gina Clark, weaves in the Kaizen-Muse philisophy which is to use small steps, mindfulness and intuition to gradually build creative momentum without overwhelm.
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Welcome to a new series entitled, Returning to Real. In this new series WeR3 will unpack the Why and the How of returning to our real authentic selves. Using their Raw, Risky & Real approach these Therapists will engage in conversations with guests who will share their personal journey's, lessons and discoveries. In life there are constant challenges, struggles and crisis. There are cycles of change and growth, birth and rebirth. In this episode Carmen Jelly and Suzanne Rochon connect with guest, April Porter, to discuss the power of everyday rituals in connecting to self and others. They discuss April's contribution to the newly released collaborative book entitled Ordinary Oneness, published by As You Wish Publishing.
WeR3, Suzanne Rochon, Carmen Jelly and Natalie Lebel explore self-growth and development during a pandemic.
- Part of our mission is to de-stigmatize and humanize mental health, wellness and personal growth.
- WeR3 Psychotherapists who believe it is important to humanize ourselves outside of our professional roles as therapists and business owners.
- The past 13 months has been a strain on everyone's growth and mental health, nonetheless we show up.
- We are living in a unique time as we continue to explore our personal journey and healing.
- Do we ever stop learning?
- How do we change as we age?
- Moving into our authentic self doesn't happen overnight. It happens with small, incremental and intentional steps.
- You are worth the effort you put into the internal work.
In this episode, Natalie, Carmen and Suzanne share quotes to help move you forward in times of stress, discomfort or pain. Quotes can have the power to build up, challenge or change the next thought we have about ourselves and others. Quotes are one way to practice mindfulness because when we focus on a word or phrase we can pause and engage in self-reflection. Quotes as tools for:
- relationship expectations
- self-awareness
- body-mind connection
- courage and confidence
- bring attention to our our stories and self-limiting beliefs
- create and imagine new perceptions on being human
In this episode, WER3, examine their Raw & Risky jagged edges in their 40th Real podcast! Join Suzanne, Carmen &Natalie as they reflect on their 2nd year anniversary of creating powerful and meaningful podcasts.
- Reflections on a journey of self-growth and development
- What is meaningful: consistency, stability & grounding
- A magical safe space for grounded conversation in difficult times
- Challenging old beliefs and stories
- Pushing ourselves to the jagged edges of our comfort zone
- Walking our talk with vulnerability
- Authenticity, Creativity & Playfulness
What causes stress and anxiety? For most people, stress, and anxiety come and go. In this episode, Carmen, Natalie, and Suzanne examine the difference between stress and anxiety on a spectrum. They explore the connection to the body; the importance of awareness; perceptual and practical tools that lead to change and positive mental health. The desired outcome is to live our lives from a place of hope rather than fear.
In this episode, Natalie, Suzanne and Carmen explore:
- What does it mean to nourish our lives?
- Small changes lead to big ones
- Nourishing our minds: growth mindset; fear vs joy
- Nourishing our bodies: connecting to our bodies; leaning into action or stillness
- Nourishing our souls: engaging in authentic practices; do what lights you up
It is our hope that when you recover or discover tools or practices that nourish your body, mind, and soul - that you create the space for it in your life.
In this episode, Natalie, Suzanne, and Carmen explore self-limiting beliefs that lead to feelings of not belonging; of fooling others; and of believing we somehow don't deserve the success or accomplishments that we have attained. We hope this episode is helpful in cultivating a deeper understanding of Self, which naturally moves us towards self-compassion and a more positive view of Self. A shift from shame to authenticity.
Natalie, Suzanne and Carmen revisit boundaries, specifically barriers that impact our ability, or willingness to say "no". Boundaries are important, yet extremely difficult to set. Join us in exploring strategies that will improve your practice!
In this episode, Carmen, Suzanne, and Natalie explore how to live in our present world with COVID. They examine how to explore health, contentment, calm, and inner peace while also experiencing the natural emotions of confusion, frustration, and anger. Join them in exploring the qualities of inner strength, stability, and resilience.
Natalie, Carmen, and Suzanne discuss new beginnings during times of uncertainty. How do we marinate in the feelings of calm and strength when we are in the middle of storms which we cannot control? Join us in a discussion of self-responsibility and suggestions on how to cultivate inner strength, stability, and resilience. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a first step.