The Man Myth: Recent Episodes
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Okay guys hold on to your hat! Cass brings the heat and opens up the rawness of a ton of shadow experience and how he and his wife over came it and start teaching what they learned. A little about Cass.
Cass has been privileged to work with 3200 men in my first 22 months of business. Kathryn wife, just over 1000 women. They have the ability to polarize their audience with their story, their out-of- the-box thinking and really, the lessons they have learned to save their toxic, abusive and sexless marriage. They are also incredible at creating systems that circumvent the "normal" way Society encourages saving or, even simply, helping struggling marriages. Cass, as a managing, self-aware, severe narcissist who only knew 7 day anger binges and how to emotionally abuse, physically and sexually assault his wife... It’s no wonder they separated 7 times... He had restraining order and 1 year of probation after being charged with assault… He was going to lose it all. So Cass began to learn. 14 years of therapy did not work. Court mandated anger management... nothing. It's no wonder Society's solutions are not working, and divorce rates are climbing. Cass got to work. Kathryn followed his lead. Between Cass and Kathryn, They have spent $380,000 on courses, certifications, diplomas, degrees, books and countless coaches and mentors. With 250K followers and growing it feels like their mission is inevitable!
We talk about the nice guy syndrome, and how men have lost the ability to be strong and be there for themselves and others. He also mentioned some readings and the "nice guy triangle". Huge thanks for him to join us you may not agree with everything he says but you definitely will learn from this conversation!
He also suggested to read (listen to) "No More Mr Nice Guy". written Dr Robert Glover!
I've started it and it’s very eye opening......
You can find cass morrow and all his social media here!!! http://links.morrowmarriage.com/
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This was a fun episode! Talking about dreams and how they can motivate or sabotage us. Confusing dreams with wants or needs can create a smaller steps forward because ego doesn't want us to be too successful. Seeking to see what we are really asking for with the dreams without the fear of actually blocking what we want. It seems a little weird thinking dreams can actually keep us from getting want we want or deserve. We’ve pointed out the limitations of our core wounding and how it can interfere with our true needs and wants. Feeling back to the old saying “dream big” which is given to those that are more afraid of success then failure. We also tap into why some don’t dream, or why they don’t remember them. It is important to write dreams down when and if you do remember them. We can also help getting into the natural dream state by not eating too late, journaling what subject of the dreams you would like to explore and having the intent to remember them. Touching on lucent dreaming and how to work to get to that state for more help in seeing what is available. All in all there are many lessons in dreaming and in the not dreaming. So keep a journal by your bed, create and intention to dream and write them down after the dream not waiting until morning so the real is much clearer.
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“I AM”
This one hits me deep. I (Pop) had an experience of this looking to the core of myself and it hit me out of no where. During a Chiropractic Seminar a slide came up and stated simply “I AM”. This made me realize I really didn’t feel like I knew who I was. Hiding behind my strength, I was caught me off guard and it hit my heart so strongly. I cried without feeling weak, what did this mean. Where did this come from. How or what was the lesson this was going to teach me? At that time I didn't feel shame or lack. It actually made me feel happy that I got to explore who I am. Bobby had a similar epiphany, where his heart and soul was opened. Remembering what you do is not who your are. I remember working with a mentor and she asked why I assumed the protector role. I said it what I do, and she said no, its who you are, it not something you just do it’s part of your essence. It would be a great for you to get a sense of your “I AM”. Get solid with that feeling so what others flip your triggers, you can be unwavering in your you-ness! Write “I Am” on a paper and feel in your heart and get to know yourself!
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In this episode we discuss if "these pants make my butt look big?" "You can't handle the truth"......Of course, referring back to the Jack Nicholson scene in the movie "A Few Good Men". We discuss how in relationships there are occasionally (sometimes more) questions have that have no good answers. Questions that trap the other person into a no win situation. Then, if that becomes a common theme, how we aren't able to tell the truth. Especially if things have been held against us from previous conversations. We need to be given questions that are, in essence, safe to answer truthfully. We also discuss about how the relationship becomes a competition once the scoring starts. This episode is a little shorter but full of good insight and situational references.
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In this episode called “Boneless Wings” we are playing with the untruths we tell ourselves. Dipping (pun intended) into the mystery of boneless wings. We know they are not really wings but it’s okay for the convenience of not having to deal with the bones! It gets a little crazy throughout the episode and a diatribes referring back to the boneless wings. Samantha Bay wins us with our inviting her to cohost with us. Looking at the times we tell ourselves we are unloveable, alone, no one would miss us….we touch on most of these are inability to receive or see that we are each of these. We discuss various views of the craziness in many ways we “boneless wings” ourselves. Samantha and Pop kinda roll into some crazy convos and Bobby just bares grins through some seriously bad puns and strange angles that are attempted. We do get into some very eye opening situations where we lie to ourselves! It a fun and crazy episode.
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In this episode we look at the dynamic of the woman's perspective on how they see men's mental heath. What does it look like from the "other side". Samantha Bay joins us on the podcast. She is very dynamic and enthusiastic about helping our cause. Does the conversation change if we add a female to the podcast. She also does counseling in different types of trauma situations. The additional perspective is refreshing. We dig deeper in the dynamic of how men talk and open up in a group of men vs a coed group. Is there a point where the discussion changes? This is a salute to the women in our lives that help us in the long run be the best versions of ourselves. The mental health of our partners directly affects our ability to be honest and open.
Update : some huge and exciting changes coming, stay tuned!
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“Flowing with the go” a fun title that looks at how our lives can be directed by outside influences. The opposite of ‘going with the flow’ which can sometimes seen as taking the easiest route. Going with the flow is not a non navigation of life but an awareness of the direction you are wanting to move in your life. Flowing with the go as I see it is going to take you in the direction of where others are wanting you to go. As an example, trying to be something you want others to see in you or that they have conveyed they want you to be. Also, it is changing your personality or path in you career to make someone else happy. These outer influences sometimes push us in the direction other than what is in our best interest. Let's see how we navigate these angles and how we have seen or done this in our lives. Influenced by influencers is different than being motivated by what someone you admired or tried to emulate, Michael Jordan or Randy Johnson were a couple of those for Bobby. Be yourself! Don't try to be someone else ,just be you and maybe use their work ethic to get where you want to go!
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This episode is amazing in so many ways! First our guest, Samantha Bay, was/is amazing. There was a lot of insight on how some people who think they are victors are actually victims and the opposite is true as well. Perspective on how you deal with things/obstacles is not always based on reality. Some self-proclaimed victors that hurt others along the way can also be seen as victims. We also discuss how you handle traumas to your life can flow into victim or victor. We've all been through things in our lives that reached the proverbial victim/victor fork in the road. We celebrate those who survive that fork in the road and learn better to handle the next time it happens. We also discussed some people have been taught or experienced that the role of the victim gets them more attention, which in the long run, amplifies the victim role as leading to creating more of that into your life. One of the main things we felt was important is how your past, and/or how you were raised has a huge impact on how we react or act on these roles. Occasionally people feel it may be the hardest thing to work your way through the victor side of the process. We really felt the victim role may be the easier path initially, in the long run its only in the short side of the process.
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In this episode we discuss the art of being present, being in the "now". We discuss during the time of depression and/or anxiety, one of the commonalities is depression is linked to being in the past and anxiety has its roots in the future. If we can come into the present, both lessen either or see that they are a part of a mental stirring that creates a false narrative. Tools to become present are breathing or a pattern of something you can use to disrupt the path to both the future and the path to the past. In one case we talk about the example of flicking a rubber band on your wrist to bring you to the present. You can, as a lot of the current gurus chat about, develop a routine in the morning or a patterning throughout the day that draws us back to the present moment. Tasks can also help, having a list of things to do so our brain doesn't flow as easily to the future or the past. Remember fear a main distractor of the present. Knowing where the fear comes from is a huge tool in dealing with it. We'll dive into that in a future episode.
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During this episode we chat about some tools to use if you are feeling "alone in a crowd". We discuss the tools of being the Observer, how it can increase your ability to be aware of the people and there actions. Watching the details and getting to be more comfortable with them. Time to practice Independence and feeling into what you can do to to amuse yourself. Using creativity to connect with people and possibly provide inspiration to the gathering. Ideas to create a space for yourself or to have a time to observe or admire the surroundings. It's also time to embrace your introvert(ness). Introverts often thrive in the the solo settings so there can be increased focus and observations to bring you into the present moment. Additionally you can, if you feel overwhelmed, use a breathing technique and come into the present moment. If these situations continually make you uncomfortable, play a game of introducing yourself to the first person you see with a blue shirt or count how many people have red shirts on. We also talk about some energy protective practices you can use. You can do things to distract you from the feeling of being uncomfortable in a crowd either small or large.
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A deeper look into men's mental health and how we can get better in touch with our emotions in a safe and healthy way. This episode we're looking at the last six rules of Stoicism. I was not aware of how this could be applied due to how it was (mis) represented to me at an earlier age. The best part of this for me was the way it can be interpreted and fit into the way we deal, connect and show emotions. This is a great topic that give insight into the healthy connections to the emotions that come up. As we have discussed earlier in numerous episodes getting emotional is not just crying or feeling sad. It is a gambit of different feelings and emotions. Boxing emotions in a small category that seems to reflect weakness is how we are taught growing up. Now as we mature and grow we need to find new ways to communicate these strategies and teach our young men.
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This episode we go over the movement of stoicism, and the ways it has been warped and changed over time. We go over the subtlety of and the different ways people have interpreted the movement.
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Exciting episode today!!! We have the amazing Kenny Weber on to talk about how comedy has had an impact on his life! This episode is a little different because we are not on topic at all!!!! Check out his website, www.heykennyitskenny.com
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This episode we go over how in order to love others you have to not only be able to receive love from them but be able to love yourself.
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In this episode we will be talking about the Vagus Nerve. We talk about what it is responsible for, and what things can be effected by the Vagus nerve. It is a huge nerve and responsible for so much that it is important to have a healthy and strong tone to your vagus nerve!
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Today we talk about the shields we all use. Sometimes to protect us from others and sometimes to protect others from us. We talk about different types of shields and we talk about how shields can be good or bad.
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Today we are actually focusing on one song that just hit super close to home!! The song goes back into one of our old topics of the masks we wear to hide our true selves from the world, but also to protect us from the world. Also how to shed those masks and let your full potential come through!
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Today we discuss the correlation of health between your mind, body, and soul. We talk about how when you have one in a healthy state you can get the others in a healthy state easier. But also that you need to focus on getting all 3 in sync to become the best version of yourself there is. We go over how difficult connecting your mind and body can be and how even if you dont succeed dont stop, slow it down and take your time and then return better than before!
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This week we have a great episode that is harder to wrap your head around sometimes. The Dark night of the soul is such an important thing. But it is also easy to get into that zone and stay in that zone instead of letting it show you the light inside that is shining bright and the one you should follow.
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Today we have a lot of subjects and it is fitting with the name. We discuss how sometimes in life we worry losing our lives. And in those instances we show our fear of death.
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Today we talk about we talk about the chapters we come across in our lives. Some of the chapters are good and create boundaries. While others are not healthy and end up being malicious and devistating.
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Today we talk about the voices we hear all around us. Not only from the outside world but also from within ourselves. We also talk about how to listen to the voices that want to build you up and not to listen to the destructive ones.
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The Superhero Complex is a tough one to deal with. We all have it a little bit and we all try to protect those that mean the most to us. But we also have to remember that we may need help and cant do everything alone. And that even some superheroes need help sometimes
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This week we talk about dreams and how our dreams may be coming true on their own and how we may already have dreams that we dont even realize have come true. Also we talk about how we cant leave our dreams up to others, or let others dictate our dreams.
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Today we talked with our friend Alyssa and have a great conversation about how the wizard of oz has different layers to it and different lessons to learn depending on the perspective you look through. Also how people sometimes look for things from the outside but it has been inside them all along.
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A scorpion wants to cross a river but cannot swim, so it asks a frog to carry it across. The frog hesitates, afraid that the scorpion might sting it, but the scorpion promises not to, pointing out that it would drown if it killed the frog in the middle of the river. The frog considers this argument sensible and agrees to transport the scorpion. Midway across the river, the scorpion stings the frog anyway, dooming them both. The dying frog asks the scorpion why it stung despite knowing the consequence, to which the scorpion replies: "I am sorry, but I couldn't resist the urge. It's in my nature.
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We go over the reasons we may get cold feet and start chasing our tails instead of doing what we know is best for us and chasing our dreams. Our dreams may seem out of reach but they are not and chasing your tail just lets them get further away!
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This week we go over how the seeds we sow and our expectations of them growing what we have planted, instead of what we wanted to plant. The things we put out into the universe is what we get back.
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Today we talk about the Heroes And Villains that we have in our lives. They may be real or they may be made up. Also how we can be our own heroes and villains. We go over our own life lessons and ways we have gotten in our own way and been our own villain, and how sometimes that lets us release our inner hero as well.
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This week we talk about the benefits of letting go of things that hold you back or weigh you down. We will also talk about the difficulties of letting go of those things. Sometimes letting go can be tough. But with the right tools you will be able to do so with confidence.
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Today is all about mothers! So today in the podcast we talk about mothers and the different ways they have affected our lives! Not just our own mothers but all motherly figures in our lives and how awesome they have been! Happy Mothers Day to all you amazing Moms!!!!
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This week we talk about the ebb's and flows of life. How just because things are bad/good right now does not mean that is how they are going to stay. So enjoy the good times and push through the bad.
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This week we go down a little deeper path. We talk about terminals in two different descriptions of them. First we talk about positivity and negativity and how they relate to terminals. And also we go into the terminality of life choices!
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Stretchy jeans can be very dangerous! They may be comfortable but the expansion of ourselves may be getting out of hand and they accommodate us and help us to ignore the real problem. And we us figurative stretchy jeans for our emotions and let them get out of control.
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Synchronicity, sometimes things that don't seem to be related at the time, are actually signs that you should be moving in a different direction. We go over how we have experienced synchronicity and how it has affected our lives.
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We start by discussing the big buts in our lives. Today it is such common place to hear i would do that "but". It has become an everyday part of our vocabulary and we need to stop letting it be that way! So we go over why it is so dangerous to have those big buts in your life.
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Today we talk about the things we "have to" do verses the things we "choose to" do.
So the have to/choose too! Kinda souds like a sneeze which is why we have chosen Gesundheit as the title. We get into the trap of doing things we have to do verses the things we choose to do.
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We are so happy to have Matt from Beardlaws here with us today. We go over what really matters in life. Also we go over how beard care can be a gateway to self care and to health. And the commonalities in beard health and physical health.
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We talk about the ways we can receive the good and expel the bad. But how in the society we live in we are programmed to take in and care about all the bad instead of the positive things people say.
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In this episode we go over some of our own struggles with patience and taking our time. Not only in every day life but also in life changing things as well. We talk about how we can change our outlook to let things happen in time instead of getting caught up in the expediting of our goals.
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We get a little more in depth and deeper with the questions and thoughts of finding yourself and loving yourself and how to keep yourself when the world seems to be trying to make you someone else. We also welcome Michael Woolever to the podcast and get his take on this topic!
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Today we go more in depth about finding yourself. Also making ourselves responsible for our own happiness, and not having it be someone elses responsibility.
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Today we are both on location in Pa and having a great weekend! We go over the "I am" statement and ask the question "Am I?" We go over things that make us, us. And we go over the differences between who we are and who people want/ expect us to be. We have a great exchange and we get to go in depth on what made us who we are!
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This week we talk about the way we keep score in our lives and the way that divides us not only from other but ourselves. Learning to let things go and not keep a tally of the wrongs others do to us and wrongs we do to ourselves is a sure way to get things to start feeling like you have control over yourself.
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Today we talk about engaging in not all only on social media but also in our everyday lives! Also we have an amazing guest coming to give us a little extra insight! The amazing Alex Colkitt! Alex is a life and happiness coach! She helps burnt out high-achiever's find life-work balance by giving them the tools to discover what meaningful work looks like in support of their happiest healthiest lifestyle. You can find her on Instagram @alex.colkitt Go check her out you wont regret it!!!!
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In this episode we go over how sometimes we lie to ourselves to get to a truth and tell a truth to ourselves to get through a lie. Also we go over absolute speak and how harmful that can be to ones self!
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We dig deeper into the "F" word today and start talking about joy. We share how we have find our joy. And how sometimes it is the littlest things that bring us the most joy.
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This week we go over something that I'm sure a lot of people struggle with. Saying the F word. In this case it means "fine". And the reasons we say fine instead of accepting peoples help or burdening them. This week is brought to you by Everyman.co
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Today we discuss how to free yourself from other people's opinion. How to start to love yourself so you can truly love others!
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IN this episode we dive into some difficult conversations. We talk about the impact that social media has in our lives.
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This episode we go over the experience of having my first Akashic records reading. And go over the results of the readings and other spiritual ways to deal with emotions!
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In this weeks episode we go over the difference between dying and not living. And the different ways we can overcome the fear of death and the fear of not living.
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In this episode we talk about what we are thankful for and some of the things may not be what you expect! Stay tuned for even more surprises around the corner!!!
In this episode we talk about all the different ways we can be abandoned and abandon ourselves. We also talk about ways of working past that and through the emotions this brings out in us.
In this week's podcast we have a discussion about finding your purpose and the ways that everyones purpose differs. We also discuss what we feel our purpose in this crazy world is and how we found ours!
In this episode we talk about the changes we have seen in ourselves as we have discovered our true selves. We will also talk about things in the past that have molded our father son friendship to this day!
In our first ever podcast episode we will be going over what we want to achieve with this podcast. We also introduce ourselves and get into what made us want to podcast!