Married to Military: Recent Episodes
Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh
Married to Military is a podcast dedicated to elevating the lives of military spouses. Hosted by Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, clinical psychologist turned relationship coach, this podcast discusses all the challenges of being Married to Military, while also offering effective, evidence-based solutions to help make life easier and more enjoyable. Married to Military is a place where military spouses get to be the priority.
You know I always keep it real with you, and this episode is no different—my marriage is in a rut. Not in crisis, not in shutdown, but just… off. More bickering, more distance, less connection. And if I’m being honest, it’s been really hard.
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on what’s going on, why I think we got here, and what we’re doing to climb out of it. Because ruts are part of every relationship, and they don’t mean your marriage is broken. But they do require intention, support, and some solid tools to move through them.
If you’ve ever felt like your marriage was stuck in a harder season, I hope this one gives you encouragement and the clarity to take a step forward.
Tune in to discover:
- Why even strong couples end up in ruts (and what causes them)
- What “safe haven abuse” is and how it shows up in everyday stress
- Why systemic stress after big life transitions (like having kids) can tank your connection
- The daily habits and conversations that help us reset and reconnect
- A brand new tool I created to help you build (or rebuild) the emotional support system your marriage needs
The Us System: Coming soon
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Ever find yourself planning a celebration (like Father’s Day) while quietly thinking, “But I’m the one doing everything”? When it feels like your involvement in the family is mandatory and your partner’s is optional, that disconnect can lead to resentment, disconnection, and burnout. In this episode, I’m getting real about this dynamic so many moms face—and sharing what you can actually do about it.
Whether it’s Father’s Day, your spouse’s birthday, or any other moment that asks you to celebrate someone who feels like a part-time participant in family life, this episode gives you practical ways to handle the emotional load and honor your own boundaries.
Tune in to discover:
- What to do when celebrating your spouse feels loaded with resentment
- The deeper reason it feels like your involvement is mandatory and theirs is optional
- How I handled this dynamic in my own marriage (even with an involved spouse)
- Why this is not just about effort, but about systems and conversations
- How to show up authentically, without gaslighting yourself or faking it
FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
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Even in the healthiest marriages, disappointment is inevitable—especially after kids. Maybe your spouse forgets something important, doesn't show up how you hoped, or just doesn’t respond the way you needed in that moment. It’s frustrating, lonely, and can stir up a lot of resentment if it isn’t dealt with well.
In this episode, I’m walking you through how I personally deal with those moments of disappointment in my own marriage, and the tools I use with clients to keep these experiences from quietly unraveling connection. If you’ve ever felt let down by your partner (or struggled when your partner felt let down by you), this episode is for you.
Tune in to discover:
- Why disappointment hits harder after kids—and how to make sense of it
- How I stopped reacting and started responding when I felt disappointed
- The exact process I use before communicating hurt (and why it matters)
- How to turn disappointment into a conversation that actually strengthens your marriage
- What it actually takes to release resentment and rebuild connection
FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
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Whether you're in the early days of parenting or years into raising kids, this conversation is going to speak to your heart. Dr. Joanna Parga-Belinkie, neonatologist, pediatrician, and mom of three, joins me to talk about what babies really need from us (hint: it’s not perfection), how those early moments of connection matter more than we realize, and why the same emotional tools that build strong bonds with our kids also strengthen our marriages.
This episode is full of warmth, wisdom, and truth, and I know you’re going to feel so seen and encouraged by it.
Tune in to discover:
- What truly helps your baby feel safe, loved, and connected from day one
- Why bonding is about showing up consistently, not getting it “right”
- How your relationship with your baby lays the foundation for all future relationships
- The powerful overlap between parenting and marriage connection
- A new way to think about missed moments (and why it’s never too late to reconnect)
This is the episode every new parent (and honestly, every human) needs to hear. And if you know someone who’s expecting or in the thick of new parenthood, send it their way. It’s also a beautiful conversation about what makes connection last—for our children and for ourselves.
Connect with Joanna:
Purchase her book! https://a.co/d/8wykSfW
Website: https://www.jpbelinkiemd.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jopargalinkiemd/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-parga-57133923/
Connect with Lindsay:
FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:
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Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
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Have you ever found yourself prepping everything before you leave the house—or swooping in to “just fix it” when your partner handles a parenting moment differently than you would? It might feel helpful or necessary in the moment, but over time, it can quietly erode your partnership and leave you feeling more like a manager than a teammate.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden cost of stepping in too often, why it happens (hint: it’s not just about your spouse), and how you can begin to shift this pattern in a way that benefits everyone in your family.
This isn’t about blame—it’s about awareness, relief, and building the kind of marriage where you feel held, supported, and safe to let go a little.
Tune in to discover:
- The deeper reasons why moms step in, even when they don’t want to
- What stepping in too often teaches your partner (and why it’s not helping)
- The emotional weight of always being “on” and how it builds resentment
- The powerful mindset shift that helped me finally stop doing it all
- Conversations that build real partnership instead of more to-do lists
Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:
https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call
FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets
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Do you sometimes feel like, even after years of marriage, your partner still doesn’t know how to love you in the way you truly need? In this episode, I’m opening up about a pivotal shift in my own relationship—one that completely changed the way I felt seen, loved, and supported in my marriage.
If you’ve ever found yourself wishing your partner could understand your needs without you having to constantly explain them, or if you’ve felt the slow burn of resentment building, this episode will speak directly to your heart.
Tune in to discover:
- Why feeling unloved doesn't mean your marriage is broken
- What needed to shift in me before I could ever expect change in him
- The quiet ways resentment builds (and how I stopped it)
- How I helped my spouse understand the kind of love I actually needed
- What changed when I stopped dropping hints and started being clear
Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:
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Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
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Mother’s Day is supposed to be a celebration of moms—but for many of us, it just ends up highlighting how much we’re carrying, how little help we’re getting, and how unseen we feel most of the time. While the cards and flowers are sweet, they don’t solve the deeper issue of the mental load so many moms are buried under.
In this episode, I’m getting real about what’s really going on beneath the surface, and why one day of appreciation isn’t enough when you’re carrying it all the other 364. I’ll walk you through the steps I took to get out of resentment, build true partnership, and create a system where I feel supported every day—not just on Mother’s Day.
Tune in to discover:
- Why the mental load is about way more than just household tasks
- What your heart is actually craving (and it’s not a better gift)
- How to feel more emotionally supported by your spouse
- The difference between a “manager” and a true partner—and how to shift out of that role
- What to ask for when you’re tired of holding it all alone
This episode is for every mom who feels like one day of celebration just isn’t enough (because it’s not). Let’s create the kind of marriage and support system that makes every day feel like you matter.
Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:
https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call
Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets
3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie
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Do you find yourself spiraling after a single comment, text message, or weird tone from your spouse—wondering what it meant, why it happened, and if your marriage is okay? If you’ve ever found yourself overanalyzing or panicking that you’ll never feel truly loved or happy again, this episode is for you. I’m sharing exactly how I stopped freaking out about my marriage (yes, even when things feel hard!) and how you can too.
This isn’t about ignoring real issues. It’s about building systems, tools, and a mindset that help you feel calmer, more secure, and able to respond in a way that creates the connection you’re really craving.
Tune in to discover:
- Why spirals and freakouts happen—and why they don’t mean something is wrong with you or your marriage
- What I realized in one powerful moment that changed everything for how I show up in my relationship
- The mindset shift that keeps me grounded and out of panic-mode (even during conflict)
- The exact tools I use when I start to spiral—so I don’t push my spouse away when I’m actually craving closeness
- How to create a system with your partner to get through tough moments together
This episode will help you replace panic with peace—and feel more secure, connected, and loved in your marriage. Share it with a friend or partner who needs it too!
Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets
3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie
Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:
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You know something feels off in your marriage—but where do you even begin? When you’re not fighting, but also not feeling close… when you’re carrying the load and still feeling unseen… it can feel overwhelming to figure out what to do next.
This episode answers one of the most common questions I hear: “Where do I start if I want things to change?” I’m breaking down where to focus your energy (especially if your partner isn’t on board yet), and how just one shift can start bringing you back to a place of connection and support.
Tune in to discover:
- What to stop focusing on when you want things to improve
- The mistake many couples make when they’re feeling disconnected
- Where to start when your partner isn’t doing their part
- Why your emotions are the key to reconnecting (yes, even the hard ones)
- The first step toward a marriage that feels more loving, supportive, and connected
If you’ve been stuck in “I don’t know where to begin,” this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement to take that first powerful step forward.
Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets
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Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call:
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You’ve probably heard of attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure — and maybe you’ve even taken a quiz to figure out your own. But what happens after that? Does knowing your attachment style actually help your marriage… or can it do more harm than good?
In this episode, we’re unpacking what attachment theory really means in real life and whether it can be the key to a stronger relationship — or just another label that keeps you stuck.
Tune in to discover:
- Why understanding your attachment style can feel validating and frustrating
- The most important mindset shift if you want to use this info to improve your marriage
- How knowing your partner’s attachment style can reduce conflict and increase connection
- What to do if you’re “insecurely attached” and don’t know how to change it
- The #1 way to avoid using attachment styles as an excuse for disconnection
Whether attachment theory is brand new to you or you’ve gone deep into it, this episode will help you use it as a tool — not a limitation — to grow a more connected, resilient relationship.
Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin
FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets
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Setting boundaries in marriage should help you feel more respected, connected, and secure—but what if they just lead to more frustration instead? If you’ve ever tried to set a boundary with your spouse, only to have it ignored, misunderstood, or make things worse, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m breaking down why so many boundaries fail and what to do differently so they actually work.
Tune in to discover:
- The biggest mistakes couples make when setting boundaries (and how to avoid them)
- Why boundaries are about YOU, not controlling your spouse
- What to do when your spouse resists or ignores your boundary
- A key mindset shift that makes enforcing boundaries easier
- How to set boundaries that actually strengthen connection instead of causing conflict
If boundaries haven’t worked for you in the past, don’t give up yet! This episode will help you set them in a way that feels good for both you and your spouse. Share it with a friend who needs this too!
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You know that moment when you look at your spouse and wonder, Are we even connected anymore? Maybe you’re not fighting, but you’re not exactly feeling close either. If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a loving relationship, you might be experiencing marriage shutdown: a slow, sneaky disconnection that erodes intimacy and leaves you feeling unseen, unappreciated, and alone.
In this episode, I’m breaking down what marriage shutdown really is, why it happens, and the subtle ways it’s impacting your emotional and physical connection. More importantly, I’m giving you the tools to wake your marriage back up and start feeling like a team again.
Tune in to discover:
- The sneaky signs of marriage shutdown most couples miss
- Why your marriage might feel more like a business partnership than a relationship
- How small, everyday habits could be killing intimacy without you realizing it
- A simple shift to make conversations feel meaningful again
- The first step to reigniting connection (even if you feel exhausted or resentful)
If your marriage feels stuck in autopilot, this episode will help you recognize what’s really going on and give you practical steps to shift things in the right direction. And if you want even more support, grab my Marriage Shutdown Checklist by commenting "Checklist" on any of my Instagram posts. Let’s get you and your spouse back on the same page!
For more on this topic, check out Ep 154: Are You In Marriage Shutdown?
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Social media has us believe that a great marriage means feeling like newlyweds forever, with constant passion, weekly date nights, and never-ending butterflies. But that’s not real life. And when we compare our relationships to those unrealistic expectations, it’s easy to feel like something is missing.
In this episode, I’m breaking down what a truly strong, healthy marriage looks like, what Instagram gets wrong, and how to shift your perspective so you actually appreciate the marriage you have.
Tune in to discover:
- The misleading message social media sends about what a happy marriage “should” look like
- Why the absence of passion or frequent date nights doesn’t mean your marriage is failing
- The key expectations that can make or break how satisfied you feel in your relationship
- The sneaky comparison trap that might be making you feel less connected to your spouse
- What a healthy, fulfilling marriage actually looks like and how to build one that feels good for you
Let’s redefine what a great relationship really is, one that makes you feel safe, secure, and truly supported.
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Being sick is hard enough, but have you ever noticed how it also stirs up tension in your marriage? Maybe it highlights just how uneven the mental load is or leaves you feeling uncared for when you need support the most. If getting sick has ever made you feel resentful, disconnected, or just plain exhausted in more ways than one—this episode is for you.
Tune in to discover:
- Why sickness can trigger disconnection and resentment in your marriage
- The real reason moms struggle to rest when they’re sick (and why dads don’t)
- How societal expectations shape the way illness plays out in partnerships
- The mindset shift that prevents arguments before they start
- The simple steps you and your spouse can take to support each other better
This episode will change how you and your spouse navigate illness and care for each other—so you feel like a team, even when life (or the flu) tries to take you down.
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What if the biggest thing keeping you disconnected from your spouse isn’t about spending more time together or even putting in more effort? So many couples focus on what’s missing in their marriage, but what if the real secret to reconnecting is something completely different? In this episode, I’ll help you shift your mindset and show you a powerful way to start feeling closer to your spouse again—without forcing anything or twisting yourself into a pretzel.
Tune in to discover:
- Why feeling disconnected has more to do with how you see your spouse than what they’re actually doing
- How to stop your brain from only noticing the things they aren’t doing
- The subtle but powerful mindset shift that makes everything feel easier
- Why focusing on the proof of your spouse’s love can create a ripple effect of connection
- A simple challenge to help you start seeing your spouse in a new way—starting today
This episode will change how you think about connection in your marriage. Share it with a friend and don’t forget to send me your review of the podcast for my free gift to you to celebrate 200 episodes!
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Something sneaky is quietly eroding connection in so many marriages, and chances are, it’s happening in yours too. It’s not just the big fights or major betrayals. There’s something else that builds up over time, leaving you feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected. But here’s the good news—once you recognize it, you can clear it out and finally feel like you’re in this together again.
Tune in to discover:
- Something that happens all the time—intentionally or unintentionally—that creates disconnection (and what to do instead)
- Why missing your spouse’s bids for connection is more damaging than you think
- The shift that stops you from feeling like you’re carrying everything alone
- How to express what you need in a way that actually gets heard
- Simple strategies to replace resentment with real partnership and connection
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What does it take to build a marriage that not only lasts but thrives for 78 years? After witnessing my grandparents’ incredible love story, I’m sharing the key lessons from their decades together—lessons that can help you strengthen your own marriage today. These aren’t just old-school values; they are the foundations of a happy, connected, and resilient partnership.
Tune in to discover:
- The simple daily habit that keeps appreciation alive in a marriage
- Why respectful communication (even during conflict) is a game-changer
- How to prioritize your relationship through every season of life
- The mindset shift that makes your spouse feel like your greatest teammate
- The small but powerful ways to keep love and connection strong for the long haul
If you want to build a marriage that stands the test of time, this episode is for you. Share it with your partner or someone who could use these insights!
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The little things in your marriage matter more than you realize. Those tiny, everyday moments—how you respond, the words you choose, the way you show up—are either strengthening your connection or quietly pulling you apart. But with just a few intentional shifts, you can start feeling more loved, supported, and connected in your marriage!
Tune in to discover:
- The hidden habit that leads to resentment (and how to shift into a team mentality instead)
- A simple mindset change that prevents defensiveness and encourages connection
- How micro-moments of connection can completely transform your relationship (without requiring big date nights or getaways)
- The key difference between assuming the worst vs. giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt
- A small language tweak that instantly makes conflict feel less like a battle and more like a collaboration
These shifts may be small, but they have a huge impact. Try them out and watch how they change the way you and your spouse connect!
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Ever feel like your marriage is the problem? Like your spouse isn’t meeting your needs, follows through on nothing, or always gets defensive? While those things do need to change, there’s something bigger at play that makes everything feel so much harder—and it’s not just your relationship. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden stressor that’s quietly making marriage after kids so challenging (and what you can do about it).
Tune in to discover:
- Why marriage feels so much harder after kids—and why it’s not just you
- The unseen force that turns small conflicts into major disconnection
- How this stress makes even good marriages feel bad (and rocky ones fall apart)
- The mindset shift that helps you and your spouse work together instead of against each other
- The two must-have tools to get unstuck and actually feel happier in your relationship
If you’ve ever felt like your marriage shouldn’t be this hard, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about what’s really going on—and how to start fixing it today.
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Parenting disagreements can feel so personal—like you’re being judged by your spouse or anyone watching from the sidelines. But when you and your partner don’t see eye-to-eye on how to raise your kids, it can lead to fights that leave you both feeling disconnected. In this episode, I’ll show you how to navigate these differences and create a parenting partnership that works for both of you.
Tune in to discover:
- How to handle the judgment you feel from your spouse (or that stranger in the grocery store)
- The key to hearing each other and finding a way forward—even when you disagree
- Why keeping your shared goal of raising great kids in mind changes everything
- The power of emotional validation and saying the things that often go unspoken
- How to compromise without always agreeing, so you both feel good about your parenting decisions
This episode will help you as parents take the first steps toward working together as a team. Share it with your partner or a friend who could use these tools!
FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets
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Have you ever opened up to your spouse about the mental load, only to be met with defensiveness, resistance, or invalidating responses? It can feel hopeless, lonely, and leave you questioning whether your partner truly understands or cares. This episode is for you if you’ve tried having these conversations but still aren’t getting what you need.
Tune in to discover:
- Why defensive or invalidating responses to the mental load feel so painful and isolating
- Scripts you can use when your spouse says frustrating things like, “Well, no one asked you to do all that,” or, “I guess I’m just a bad husband”
- The importance of understanding your spouse’s intentions and how to navigate the emotions behind their reactions
- How to avoid shutting down in your marriage, even when things don’t go well
- Why the solution lies in building systems that work for both of you (and how to start that conversation today)
If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying everything alone or that your spouse just doesn’t “get it,” this episode will help you approach these tough conversations with confidence, clarity, and love. It’s not about proving who’s right or wrong—it’s about finding a way to tackle the mental load together.
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Are you tired of feeling like you’re the one holding everything together - not just managing the household, but also keeping track of every need, schedule, and responsibility for your kids and spouse? The mental load can feel overwhelming, and even more so when you’re carrying it alone. But how do you talk to your spouse about it without it turning into an argument?
In this episode, I’m sharing exactly what to do to approach this sensitive topic and how to build a stronger partnership in the process.
Tune in to discover:
- Why the mental load isn’t just about tasks, but about the emotional weight of carrying everyone’s needs
- The #1 reason holding the mental load makes you feel disconnected and lonely in your marriage
- How to feel more appreciated and validated, even if your spouse doesn’t fully understand what you’re going through
- A step-by-step approach to talking to your spouse about the mental load without triggering defensiveness or conflict
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Have you ever felt upset when your spouse says they’ll do something and then just… doesn’t? Or when they say they’ll be home at a certain time and aren’t? These small moments might not feel like a big deal at first, but over time, they fracture trust in your marriage. And without realizing it, these small cracks can lead to resentment, disconnection, and even marriage shutdown.
In this episode, I’m diving into the small ways trust is broken, how it impacts your relationship, and, most importantly, how you can fix it fast to restore connection and partnership.
Tune in to discover:
- The surprising everyday actions that are quietly breaking trust in your marriage
- The quickest way to push your marriage toward shutdown (and how to stop it)
- How to rebuild trust through small, intentional actions that make a big impact
- The secret to knowing exactly what your spouse needs to feel valued and supported
- Simple strategies to repair fractured trust and create a stronger, more connected partnership
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As we head into a new year, let’s focus on setting your marriage up for success in 2025. Whether your relationship feels strong or strained right now, these actionable tips will help you intentionally improve your connection and partnership in the months ahead. This episode is packed with simple yet impactful strategies that don’t require a ton of time or energy—perfect for busy parents.
Tune in to discover:
- Why lasting change takes time and how to stay consistent long enough to see results
- A surprising and powerful tool (that takes less than 5 minutes!) that has the ability to transform your marriage
- How to align your daily actions with your priorities (and make space for what fills you up)
- A simple method to organize household management and reduce resentment
- How to spot and shift negative thought patterns about your spouse and marriage to build a stronger foundation
Let’s make 2025 the year your marriage thrives—starting today.
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The holidays can be an overwhelming time, especially for couples already feeling the strain of marriage shutdown. Many couples find themselves struggling even more during this season, and divorce filings spike right after the holidays for a reason. In this episode, I’ll share practical, research-backed strategies to help you avoid becoming part of that statistic, feel more connected to your spouse, and create the holiday season you truly want.
Tune in to discover:
- The staggering statistic about divorce after the holidays (and what it means for your marriage)
- Why holiday stress puts extra strain on marriages (and how to counteract it)
- How to avoid fights or de-escalate them before they spiral out of control
- The importance of clearly communicating your needs (and not assuming your spouse can read your mind)
- One simple question to ask yourself daily to ensure you’re staying aligned with what truly matters
- Why expert support can make all the difference when your marriage feels stuck
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Parenthood is a never-ending grind, and the stress of it all can often feel overwhelming. But did you know that how good you feel as a parent is directly impacted by one key thing? In this episode, I’ll reveal what that is and show you how to create more capacity for joy in parenting by prioritizing this often-overlooked area of your life.
Tune in to discover:
- The connection between the quality of your marriage and your happiness as a parent
- Why resentment, disappointment, or frustration with your spouse depletes your capacity to parent at your best
- How to prioritize fun with your spouse, even when resentment feels like a barrier
- The tools you need to switch the dynamic in your marriage instead of focusing solely on what your spouse isn’t doing
- Why the thoughts you have about your spouse might not be true (and how reframing them can strengthen your bond)
- The #1 tip to take your marriage from struggling to thriving
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62% of couples polled on my Instagram admitted to fighting with their spouse most of the holiday season.
Holidays are supposed to be joyful, but the stress can bring out the worst in even the happiest couples. In this episode, I’ll show you how to stop feeling like enemies and start working as a team to handle the most common holiday stressors—so you can actually enjoy the season together.
Tune in to discover:
- What to discuss before the chaos begins (so no one ends up disappointed)
- How to handle family dynamics as a team—even with triggers, in-law drama, or differing traditions
- Tips for navigating holiday parties to avoid tension, misunderstandings, or solo parenting
- The one thing couples often neglect during the holiday rush—and why it needs to stay a priority
- A simple approach to gift-giving that feels fair and stress-free
- Scripts and exact words to get on the same page with your spouse about it all
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Feeling unseen, invalidated, or completely shut down in your marriage? You’re not alone—and there’s a way to feel connected again (and it’s simpler than you think).
Marriage isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning, growing, and showing up for each other, even when it’s hard. In this episode, I’m diving into the powerful reactions to one of my viral reels about feeling lonely, unvalued, and disconnected in marriage. Let’s explore what these struggles have in common and, most importantly, how to move forward.
Tune in to discover:
- How societal themes around marriage shape our relationships and expectations
- Why it’s okay to need more than your spouse to feel fully supported
- How to take control of your happiness in marriage—without waiting on your partner to change
- The key to building a stronger connection (and the do’s and don’ts of listening, validating, and understanding your partner’s perspective)
- Why timing matters and how waiting for calm can transform tough conversations
- The importance of developing the skills that will not only ease conflict but also make you feel better in your relationship
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In this episode, we’re diving into something I know so many of us feel but don’t always talk about: that deep need to feel supported and truly connected with our partner. Sometimes, it’s not about what your partner does or doesn’t do; it’s about the little moments that either build trust or chip away at it.
Remember that classic line from The Break-Up with Jennifer Aniston? “I want you to want to do the dishes!” It’s a funny moment, but it’s also deeper than that. We're exploring what this really means when it comes to feeling supported by our partners.
Tune in to discover:
- The 3 most common reasons couples feel unheard and disconnected - and what you can do about it
- How small, every day promises (like showing up on time or picking up groceries) can significantly impact whether we feel truly supported and seen
- The truth about the “mental load” and why an imbalance here can lead to resentment
- Practical tips for creating a fair, flexible system at home where both partners feel valued
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Intimacy goes far beyond the physical; it’s about creating a safe, loving space where you and your partner feel truly valued and cherished. With the whirlwind of daily life, kids, and endless to-do lists, building a relationship that not only survives but thrives can feel overwhelming. But making time to nurture each other isn’t just a nice-to-have - it’s essential.
In this episode, I’m joined by the amazing Susan Bratton, an Intimacy Expert and advocate for couples who crave lasting passion and connection. Trust me, you won’t want to miss her insights on keeping the spark alive, especially during life’s busiest seasons!
Tune in to discover how to:
- Cultivate intimacy that feels safe, pressure-free, and fulfilling for both of you
- Make time for what truly matters to build a joyful, lasting marriage
- Harness the power of communication and empathy to deepen your connection
- Bust through the “no time” myth and prioritize your relationship
- Use “erotic play dates” to keep things fun, fresh, and free from pressure
Resources mentioned in episode:
- seductiontrilogy.com
- Sex tips newsletter: betterlover.com
- sexlifebucketlist.com
- 30 Day Masturbation Challenge: https://betterlover.com/30-day-masturbation-challenge/
- pumpingguide.com
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Sometimes, the topics that make us most uncomfortable are the ones we need to talk about the most. In this episode, we’re diving into the tough (but crucial) topic of triggers - those moments that make us feel defensive, frustrated, or downright vulnerable in our relationships. If you’ve ever felt like certain conversations leave you feeling overly angry or misunderstood, this one’s for you. Tune in to discover:
- Why it’s often easier to focus on what we wish our partner would change rather than looking inward (and what happened when my partner pointed out something I never expected)
- The hidden reasons behind feeling “triggered” and how to understand what’s really going on beneath the surface
- A surprising strategy to use in arguments that shifts the dynamic and helps both of you feel seen
- How to recognize your own triggers and communicate them to your spouse
- Why facing your triggers head-on is essential for breaking free from the same frustrating cycles
- The power of grace and love when dealing with uncomfortable feelings
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You don’t want to wait months (or even years!) to feel happier and more connected in your marriage. And the good news is, you don’t have to. There are simple shifts you can make today to start seeing results right now. Let’s dive into strategies that can help you bring more joy, ease, and connection into your relationship, even in the busiest seasons of life.
Tune in to discover:
- Why the importance of feeling good in your marriage is often overlooked
- A surprising question to ask yourself about how you spend time together (hint: is it more about connection or just tackling to-dos?)
- How things outside your marriage may be influencing how you feel inside your marriage - and why taking care of yourself could be the key to feeling closer
- The underrated power of setting up systems with your spouse to support each other and keep the household running smoothly
- Why setting clear boundaries in your marriage is key to feeling respected and connected
- Why getting the right kind of support could make you feel a huge sigh of relief (and where to start)
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Have you seen the “marriage is scary” TikTok trend? While it’s fun to laugh about the little things that can be scary in a marriage (and trust me, they are valid), there’s often a lot more beneath the surface that couples may not realize.
In the spirit of Halloween, let’s dive into the bigger, deeper issues that can make your marriage feel scary - especially after having kids and, most importantly, how you can address them to move forward in a happier, healthier way.
Tune in to discover:
- The #1 thing every relationship needs to thrive (spoiler: it’s the opposite of scary - safety), and why couples who lack it are in dangerous territory
- Why your spouse’s words - whether it’s a compliment or a criticism - cut deeper than anyone else’s
- What to do when you feel stuck - when you want things to change in your marriage, but don’t know how to work together to make it happen
- How to resolve conflicts without damaging your relationship, and instead, use disagreements to build a stronger connection
- The hidden danger of carrying an unequal mental load, and how to address it when you’re feeling overlooked, unsupported, and uncared for
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Juggling the demands of parenthood often leaves intimacy on the backburner. In this episode, I’m joined by marriage and family therapist Steph Flood, who has helped countless couples rediscover a healthy, joyful marriage. Together, we’re diving into realistic ways to stay connected, even in the busiest seasons of parenthood.
Tune in to discover:
- Why the first five years of parenthood require so. much. grace.—and how to give it to yourselves and each other
- The common challenge most women face post-baby and how it impacts intimacy
- How men can help reignite intimacy in their relationship
- Our conversation on why today’s dads are more involved than ever, but often lack the models or skills to actively support intimacy
- The one small shift that brings lightness and fun back into your marriage
- Practical tips to help women get to a place where intimacy feels good again
- What she works with couples on (figuring out what feels right/good)
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Is your spouse preventing you from being happy in your marriage? The truth is, you may be focusing on the wrong thing. In this episode, I’ll guide you through the most common barriers to building the marriage you want - and how shifting your approach can lead to real, lasting change.
Tune in to discover:
- Real-life examples of why couples come to me feeling unfulfilled (often assuming their spouse simply won’t meet their needs - when that’s rarely the case)
- What’s actually getting in the way of your spouse meeting your needs (hint: it’s not that they don’t care)
- The biggest factor holding you back from the marriage you desire
- How mismatched or unclear expectations are creating tension and frustration
- Why the way you’re asking for change may be pushing your spouse away and causing defensiveness or distance
- The impact of being at different stages of change and how it’s affecting your ability to grow together
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When your marriage feels like it’s falling apart, it can be hard to imagine things ever changing for the better. The hopelessness creeps in, making you feel like a failure. And social media? It only adds to the pressure. The truth is, marriage doesn’t have to be this complicated - especially after having kids - and I’m here to help you make it easier!
Tune in to discover:
- The common myths couples come to me with (hint: they think marriage should just work)
- The biggest mistake people make that ends up making their marriage harder
- Why you feel so guilty when you try something new you saw on social media and it doesn’t work
- The three simple keys to having a happy and healthy marriage
- How to block out the noise and figure out what truly works best for you and your relationship
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Reality TV. Bridgerton. Romance novels. We all crave that kind of intense, sweeping passion in our own relationships - the kind that has us glued to our screens. But what if that kind of love is actually setting us up for disappointment? Here’s my (very) unpopular opinion: The real magic in a successful marriage lies in safe, steady, and consistent love - not in grand, movie-worthy gestures. In this episode, I’ll break down why stability is the true secret to a fulfilling relationship. Ready to be convinced?
Tune in to discover:
- The one thing no one tells you about deepening your connection with your spouse
- How to figure out exactly what works for YOUR marriage (and why Hollywood-style romance is setting you up for a letdown)
- Why prioritizing this one thing can make your marriage feel so much better
- Simple ways to better support your mental load as a team (without adding stress!)
- What brushing your teeth daily has to do with having a healthy marriage (it makes more sense than you think!)
- The only time to have important conversations with your spouse (hint: when you’re able to really listen and validate them!)
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Do you know what works for you when life feels overwhelming? Do you know how your spouse can best support you? When the mental load is already heavy, and the to-do list feels endless, it’s time to talk about how to avoid tension and get the support you need most.
In this episode, I’m getting real about the stress I’m feeling in this season of life. I’ll share how I’m handling it, the strategies that have helped me (and my clients), and how you can use them too.
Tune in to discover:
- The very first thing to do when it all feels too much
- How to ask for and accept help - from your spouse and others
- Ways to go from feeling lonely and unsupported to genuinely feeling cared for by your partner
- The powerful shift I made in my marriage to feel fully supported
- Why it’s essential to work on this now - and the cost of not addressing it
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No one seems to be talking about this. After years as a marriage expert and staying on top of the latest research, I recently came across something that made my jaw drop. It sheds new light on why so many couples struggle after having kids, and I’m surprised I’ve never seen it framed this way before.
Tune in to discover:
- A staggering statistic about marriage and parenthood that changes everything
- How having a child shifts both individuals in a relationship - and why it can feel so isolating
- The single most important thing you and your spouse need to do to stop your marriage from feeling like a struggle
- How to align with your spouse and become a team to support each other through the challenges
- The key thing you and your partner are probably missing that’s creating conflict - and how to fix it
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Here’s the thing: this tool works every single time when it comes to defensiveness, yet so many people resist it - including my clients. But if you’re serious about building a stronger marriage where both your needs are met, this is one tool you can’t afford to skip. Ready to try the tool you’ve probably been avoiding but absolutely need?
Tune in to discover:
- A deep dive into defensiveness in relationships (with relatable personal examples)
- The real reasons behind your defensiveness and how it shows up in your marriage
- What makes this defensiveness tool completely maddening, yet so effective
- How to approach conversations when you suspect your spouse might get defensive
- Practical steps to increase trust, safety, and love in your marriage
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We all know that feeling of being surrounded by people yet feeling completely alone—like no one truly sees or notices you. Parenthood can make it all too easy to lose yourself and your sense of joy. In this episode, we normalize those feelings and explore how to reconnect with who you are and what you need to feel more fulfilled.
Tune in to discover:
- The hidden shame of not knowing who you are or what you truly enjoy
- The key to unlocking your unique path to feeling less lonely (hint: it’s different for everyone)
- Practical steps to take when loneliness hits
- Thought-provoking questions to help you discover and prioritize YOUR needs—not everyone else’s
- The one crucial thing everyone should know about themselves (that no one else can tell you)
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If you're waiting for things to magically improve in your marriage once the kids are older or life calms down - think again. Change doesn’t just happen; it requires active, intentional effort. If you notice any of these red flags in your relationship, start acting on them today.
Tune in to discover:
- The misconception that everything will return to the way it once was “someday”
- How you might be blocking your spouse from validating you without even realizing it
- Whether your actions are truly justified when your spouse makes you mad - and vice versa
- The one thing you should prioritize above all else to fuel your marriage (and it’s not about scheduling date nights)
- How your assumptions about your spouse can shape your relationship and your happiness
- What to focus on to ensure your marriage works for BOTH of you
Sign up for my live FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets
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You’ve asked for what you need. You’ve given examples. You’ve worked on your mindset. And yet, nothing in your relationship has changed. It’s heartbreaking to feel like you’ve tried everything, but don’t lose hope - this episode is your light at the end of the tunnel. There are still ways to create the marriage you desire!
Tune in to discover:
- How learned helplessness can sneak into your marriage and why it happens so often
- What to do when you feel like it’s not even worth bringing up what’s bothering you anymore
- The one major factor researchers found to avoid marriage shutdown
- How to shift from "I’m never going to get what I need from my spouse " to "we just haven’t figured it out YET"
- The key to using realistic thoughts
- What more you can do when your needs still aren’t being met
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Conflict is a key aspect of maintaining a healthy relationship.
It doesn’t mean having screaming matches all the time. Instead, conflict can involve respectful disagreements and deep conversations that come from a loving place. If this seems completely foreign or impossible to you, then this episode is for you. Loving well is crucial, but in my opinion, fighting well is even more important.
Tune in to discover:
- The importance of identifying both your and your spouse's fighting styles
- One essential question to ask yourself about conflict - especially if you find yourself having the same argument repeatedly
- Tips for having effective and productive arguments
- How to argue without getting defensive
- What to do if you fall back into old, unhealthy patterns
- Why establishing rules for conflict in your relationship is vital and what to consider when creating them
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This has the potential to completely change your marriage, just like it changed mine.
I dare you to try this - it will make your marriage easier, happier, more fulfilling - all the good things! This is the go-to tool for making your marriage improve quickly and allowing you to feel better in your relationship. Get ready to dive in - trust me, you won’t want to miss this!
Tune in to discover:
- How to “do the work” in your marriage, even as a busy parent
- Why waiting for someone else to make you feel better isn't the answer and how it takes away your control, preventing lasting results
- Real-life scenarios that illustrate how changing the way you look at things can improve your relationship
- The importance of taking control of your automatic thoughts and why they are often unhelpful
- Practical tips to help you put this into practice regularly
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Are these 4 marriage killers lurking in your relationship? Discover the key pitfalls that predict divorce and learn how to address them to safeguard and strengthen your relationship. Don’t wait—tune in now to turn things around before it’s too late!
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- What types of negativity are undermining your marriage
- The difference between complaints and criticisms
- The lethal impact of contempt and how to counteract it
- How we protect ourselves from getting hurt or being wrong
- Why stonewalling is the deadliest pitfall
- Essential tools to help you avoid divorce and how to implement them
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How do you start a conversation so that your spouse truly listens? And what should you do if their response isn’t what you hoped for? Here’s a hint: the WAY you have these conversations is more crucial than WHAT you actually say (a kind and loving tone makes all the difference!).
Tune in to discover:
- The significance of waiting to have the conversation if you can't approach it kindly
- What you need clarity on before you start the discussion
- An introduction to the “conflict burger”
- How to work with your spouse's reactions to ensure your needs are met
- What to do if your plan never gets set into motion after you’ve agreed on it
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If you aren’t doing what I discuss in this episode, you definitely won’t get your needs met by your spouse. This is the second episode in our mini-series on how to get your needs met by your spouse. I’m focusing on what we often do (or don’t do) that unintentionally gets in the way.
Tune in to discover:
- The two things I focus on when clients feel their needs aren't being met by their spouse
- A wildly effective tool that will significantly impact not just your marriage, but all of your relationships
- My top tip to avoid exploding at your partner or shutting down during an argument
- Practical ways to calm down when emotions run high
- Immediate steps to start implementing these strategies right away!
Mentioned in the Episode:
- The Antidote to Divorce episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1vVi5KSBz4iSSBvAnCYFy6?si=e4q80edARbamyabQHdk3xg
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We all have needs. Whether you already know what those needs are but struggle to express them to your spouse, or you're unsure about what needs require fulfillment right now, this episode is for you. This is the first in a mini-series dedicated to helping you get your needs met. Let’s start with the FIRST STEP to take when your needs aren't being fulfilled by your spouse. Ready?
Tune in to discover:
- Where to start in order to get your needs met
- The mindset shift required to effectively identify your needs
- One crucial component that will make a big impact on the change you desire
- An in-depth exploration of unmet needs to help you understand and articulate your own needs better
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Energy is a precious commodity for a busy parent like you!
Raising kids, managing a household, and juggling everything else requires energy! When you’re running on empty, EVERYTHING becomes more challenging. So, how can you show up in your marriage and life when you have no energy left? Let’s get into it!
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Key questions to ask yourself about your current energy levels
- The pressure of “doing it all” and its impact on your relationship
- One surprising habit that unknowingly drains your energy
- The one non-negotiable that can make the biggest difference in how you feel
- Crucial strategies for managing your energy and the consequence of pushing beyond your limits
- A significant factor affecting your energy and practical solutions to combat it
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Have you heard of default parent gatekeeping? Likely not.
It’s a crucial issue that could be affecting your marriage in significant ways, leading to extreme resentment, relationship conflict, and parental alienation. Let’s talk about this topic to prevent - or repair - the impact on your relationship with your spouse.
Tune in to discover:
- What parental gatekeeping is and why it happens
- How gatekeeping can lead to resentment, lack of confidence, and zero skill building
- Real-life examples of what gatekeeping looks like in action
- How to handle differences in opinion between you and your partner (or other caregivers) about child care
- The serious consequences of engaging in gatekeeping
- Effective remedies to overcome gatekeeping and foster a healthier relationship
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Are you feeling overwhelmed by a never-ending to-do list while trying to maintain a happy marriage?
In this episode, we explore the challenges of balancing household tasks and childcare responsibilities within a marriage and how imbalances can lead to feelings of exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection.
Figuring out how to do this together will literally make you happier, strengthen your marriage, and keep your love alive!
Tune in to discover:
- The mental exhaustion of maintaining a household and raising children (which typically falls more on one partner), and its impact on marriages
- Societal perceptions of women in homemaking and childrearing, and the influence on men's expectations
- The guilt that arises from not meeting perceived standards
- Effective ways to approach this topic with your spouse so you can collaborate on strategies TOGETHER
- Practical tips for achieving a more equitable workload, ultimately strengthening your marriage
Don’t forget to check out Fair Play (mentioned in episode): https://www.fairplaylife.com/documentary
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If you’re not as happy as you want to be in your marriage, this episode is a must-listen. Let’s explore the critical lesson of what we make acceptable and what we don’t in our relationships, and how it shapes our happiness.
Tune in to discover:
- The essential element that determines the success of marriage counseling or support
- The hidden trap behind thinking “things will change” on their own
- Real-life examples of couples who settled for “fine” and missed out on years of true happiness
- The ripple effect of having a joyful marriage
- Seven signs that indicate your relationship needs marriage support
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Let’s talk about how intimacy goes deeper than the bedroom. In today’s episode, we’re joined by Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver from TantraNova Institute. Discover how true intimacy is about connecting hearts and energy, and not just about sex.
Tune in to discover:
- How to redefine intimacy in your marriage, even if you only have three minutes to spare
- Which couples are actually having the most sex (the answer may surprise you!)
- A beautiful and intentional practice to connect with your partner daily
- Techniques to shift your energy from the mind into the heart
- The story behind National Intimacy Day and creative ways to celebrate it
- How mastering intimacy can lead to greater happiness in your relationship
MORE RESOURCES
**FREE GIFT Introduction to Sexual Meditation (Video Class): Learn distinctions and practices of Sexual Meditation to access and channel your creative spark
https://tantranova.lpages.co/introduction-to-sexual-meditation/
TantraNova website to find out about TantraNova workshops and programs
https://www.tantranova.com/
Sexual Enlightenment book in hard copy and audio format
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1452585431
Care and Feeding podcast episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mom-guilt-is-real-but-so-is-healing/id774383607?i=1000655079941
Submit your question about intimacy in your marriage!
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How were arguments modeled for you growing up? We don’t want perfection, but how do we fight less and make repairs when we do? Let’s talk about the art of constructive marital conflict - fighting well, making genuine changes, and fostering love and respect throughout. It’s never too late to transform your approach to conflict. Which approach will you adopt today to benefit both you and your children?
Tune in to discover:
- The surprising impact of marital conflict on children's well-being, happiness, and sense of safety
- How we can use healthy conflict to create positive habits in children
- Why the goal isn't to eliminate conflict but to navigate it skillfully
- How to have “happy conflict”
- Six essential skills to elevate your approach to marital conflict
Quiz: How well do you know your partner? https://gottmanconnect.com/site/quiz?utm_source=tgi-blog&utm_medium=quizes&utm_campaign=tgi-blog-quizes-influence&__hstc=138906604.3fe4b3b64c10176ec9c9c2d68b14e80d.1714634029654.1714706232706.1714708483372.5&__hssc=138906604.1.1714708483372&__hsfp=2830137320
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Ever feel like your spouse has all the fun, and you’re left wondering if you’ll ever get the same carefree moments too? It’s a common issue that increases exponentially once you have kids. In this episode, we tackle this issue head-on, offering proactive strategies to spark productive conversations with your spouse.
Tune in to discover:
- The surprising normalcy of feeling envious of your spouse's carefree moments
- Real-life examples shedding light on navigating this challenge
- One helpful strategy to break free from having the same argument over and over again
- How to cultivate a mindset that serves you and your marriage
- The best way to ensure both of you are heard and that your needs are met
- Setting clear boundaries and limits through open, constructive dialogue
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Feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin can significantly impact your marital happiness. In this episode, we explore the complexities of body image post-baby, offering insights that resonate whether you're a parent or simply navigating life's changes.
Tune in to discover:
- The hidden insecurities that can affect how you feel about yourself
- Navigating the challenges when negative body image affects your relationship
- Understanding the link between body image and marital satisfaction, especially post-baby
- Strategies to address body image issues and enhance intimacy in your relationship
- Reframing negative thoughts and fostering a positive self-image
- How to include your spouse in the journey towards body positivity
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This Mother’s Day, let’s ensure you get the celebration you deserve. Ditch the disappointment for a day that fulfills your true desires and needs this year. And guess what? You can apply the same approach to any aspect of your marriage!
Tune in to discover:
- How to visualize your ideal Mother’s Day (or any celebration)
- Strategies to identify your needs and effectively communicate them to your spouse
- How to get what you really want, both on Mother’s Day and in all areas of your marriage
- What to do so your spouse understands EXACTLY what you need
- Anticipating potential obstacles and finding solutions to ensure the best celebration possible
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Want to get on the same page as your spouse now that you have children? Let’s talk about how to approach these hard conversations (no matter what age your kids are!) to help you feel like a team again.
In this episode, my guest Ashley Chitty shares openly and honestly about the hurdles parenthood threw at her marriage and how they faced these challenges head on while keeping their relationship a priority.
Tune in to discover:
- How Ashley’s marriage evolved after welcoming children (and continues to evolve as her kids grow older)
- One game changing conversation every parent needs to have with their partner
- A vital but often overlooked aspect of nurturing and strengthening your marriage
- Overcoming the challenge of slowing down to address issues and have meaningful conversations amidst the chaos of family life
- One powerful realization to help you and your spouse stay committed through life’s ups and downs
Listen to Ashley’s podcast! https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/chitshow/id1556176899
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Feeling loved is one of the most crucial aspects of a thriving marriage. In this episode, I share practical strategies to ensure that you and your partner feel loved and appreciated on a regular basis.
Tune in to discover:
- Challenging the validity of our thoughts about our spouse: are these perceptions actually true?
- One key component to showing love that often gets overlooked, especially for couples with children
- Whether you should plan intimacy or leave it to spontaneity (and surprising myth-busters about scheduling sex)
- Four proven connection rituals tailored for busy parents
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The average time it takes couples from recognizing there’s a serious problem in their marriage to seeking counselling is SIX YEARS. I want you to feel loved and supported in your marriage NOW - so let’s face it head-on in this episode!
Tune in to discover:
- What marriage shutdown looks like, with real-life examples
- Why simply loving someone isn't enough for a strong marriage, especially with the added complexities of parenting
- Understanding that experiencing marriage shutdown doesn’t need to be shameful, and how to move forward without blame
- The key ingredients to getting out of marriage shutdown
- The role of guilt in relationships and how to navigate it
- How finding happiness in your marriage can positively transform your life, from parenting to sharing the mental load and beyond
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Get ready for a deep dive into some fascinating research findings that are going to revolutionize your marriage! I've sifted through the data to bring you insights that are going to be crazy useful in making your relationship the best it can be. Because in the realm of marriage, it's often the little things that make the biggest impact. Those everyday gestures of kindness, the heartfelt words of love and support—they're the secret sauce for a happy, fulfilling marriage.
Tune in to uncover:
- The powerful results of committing to daily acts of joy in your marriage
- Specific examples of small yet practical actions that yield big results
- How to integrate small gestures into your daily routine to stay connected with your spouse, even when you are busy and time is limited!
- What maintaining a rock-solid foundation in your marriage looks like
- Why these little acts of love and appreciation leave you feeling validated, seen, and deeply cherished
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Ever feel like you're stuck in a loop with your spouse, replaying the same conversations over and over again? Or perhaps you leave discussions feeling more misunderstood and alone than before? Maybe you've even stopped having conversations altogether, knowing that nothing will ever change.
If any of these scenarios sound familiar, this episode is a must-listen. Because deep down, you long to feel validated, loved, and understood in your marriage – and guess what? It's entirely possible, even if emotional validation feels like an unattainable dream.
Tune in to discover:
- Real-life examples of how seemingly small fights and conversations carry deeper meanings
- What emotional validation is and why it’s necessary in thriving relationships
- The consequences of neglecting emotional validation in your marriage
- Five game-changing benefits of prioritizing emotional validation
- Practical steps to effectively communicate your need for validation to your spouse
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Have you heard the term default parent before? It’s something that impacts every household, yet not everyone is talking about it openly to create better relationship dynamics. Join me on this episode as I share more about what it means to be the default parent and how it affects your marriage.
Tune in to discover:
- What it really means to be the default parent
- Who usually ends up as the default parent, backed by research and 16 years in my own practice
- The symptoms and characteristics of default parent syndrome
- Common reasons for resentment in default parents (and what we can do about it)
- How having a strong mindset can help you feel so much better in your relationship, even when you’re not feeling supported right now
- Take away practical tips tailored for both default and non-default parents to find balance in your family dynamic
How does the default/non-default parent dynamic play out in your own relationship? I’d love to know!
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Even when something as devastating as infidelity occurs, there is still hope that you can work towards the best marriage you’ve ever had. In this episode, I share a client’s experience of infidelity, and what we did in the very beginning and throughout this (admittedly messy) process. Prepare for goosebumps as we dive into a heartwarming follow-up over a year later - they're now stronger than ever! This is not just for couples going through infidelity, but anyone wanting to gain insights on how to feel better in their marriage!
Tune in for:
- The crucial first step towards healing after infidelity
- Why things typically get worse before they get better
- What you may find surprising about my work with clients after an infidelity
- How to make amends in a way your partner needs
- Permission to never invalidate yourself when thinking “things could be worse”
- Overcoming the isolating feeling of struggling alone in your relationship battles
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Let’s unravel the mysteries of healthy relationships in our society. Because no one taught us how to have a healthy relationship (or marriage), so it makes sense that so many of us are struggling. Join us as we challenge common misconceptions and uncover the secrets to fostering deeper connections and greater happiness in your marriage.
Tune in to discover:
- The surprising truths about what we perceive as normal in relationships
- Debunking myths surrounding passion in marriage
- True or false: do our partners truly hold the key to fixing our feelings?
- Uncovering the unintended consequences of well-intentioned behaviors
- Navigating the topic of guilting and understanding its impact on relationships
- Dismantling the habit of deflecting responsibility
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“I don’t know what my needs are in my marriage after having kids, I just know they’re not being met.” Sound familiar?
In this eye-opening episode, I share the (not often talked about) challenges we face after welcoming children into our lives and the profound impact they have on our overall happiness and marital bliss.
Join me as I explore the hurdles of parenthood and share actionable strategies to strengthen our marriages amidst the chaos.
Let's normalize the inevitable dip in happiness (it's not your fault, nor your partner's!) and open up the conversation. Because the more we discuss these issues, the closer we come to finding solutions.
Tune in for:
- How children can strain your marriage, leading to various challenges
- All the new issues that emerge, from differing parenting styles to financial strain post-kids
- Shifts in identity, desires, and needs after becoming parents
- How the love for your child differs from that for your spouse
- The result of increased transactional conversations
- One amplified new role that potentially adds complexity to marital dynamics
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Welcome to the rollercoaster ride that was our life after welcoming our second child - it was simultaneously easier and more challenging than the first go-round.
Join me in this episode as I share the highs and lows of navigating parenthood round two with an international move and my spouse's deployment thrown into the mix. Find out what worked wonders in our marriage, what didn't quite hit the mark, and the unexpected twists we faced.
Tune in for:
- A game-changing move I made (and would totally repeat if more little ones were on the horizon)
- Our biggest and longest fight during pregnancy (and what I wish we did differently)
- Why I firmly believe there's still time for you and your spouse, even in the chaotic world of parenting
- The exhaustion and mental load that reached levels I didn't think were possible
- How we became better support systems by understanding and meeting each other's needs intentionally
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Want the inside scoop on what went down in my marriage after the birth of our first daughter?
In this episode, I’m sharing what we did well in our marriage (which wasn’t much!), what did not go well, and how things changed for me - which contributed to the challenges I experienced in our relationship.
Even with all the preparations we made and intentional conversations we had prior to our daughter’s birth, we still had difficulties in our marriage. That’s why this episode is vital for anyone who has kids or is planning to have kids someday. Maintaining a strong relationship after kids is possible!
Listen in to hear:
- An insight into my postpartum period and the struggles I experienced
- What led to friction in our marriage after our daughter was born (and why I unfairly blamed my husband for the problems)
- What helped our relationship in those early stages of parenthood
- One wildly helpful exercise to improve the mental load of mothers
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Welcome to Married After Kids! I’m kicking things off by sharing personally about the early days of my own marriage, giving you an inside look at what it was like BEFORE kids entered the scene!
We're diving deep into my past relationships, unpacking the nitty-gritty of our marriage pre-kids – the highs, the hurdles, and the heartwarming moments. Get ready to share a laugh over the things we nailed, chat about what I wish we'd known, and discover some golden nuggets that resonate, whether you're navigating parenthood or dreaming about it one day.
Tune in to hear:
- A sneak peek into my previous relationships
- What we mastered in marriage before having kids
- The chats I wish we'd had before diving into parenthood
- What you can glean from this episode to enrich your own marriage
- Prompts to deepen your connection with your spouse
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I have something special to share with you! In this unique episode, I am unveiling a very exciting update. Your support is invaluable and I can't wait to hear your thoughts (and all the feelings that may come up for you!).
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Ever found yourself at odds with your spouse, unable to agree on something important? In this episode, we're exploring what to do WHEN disagreements arise.
Disagreements are inevitable and can range from small to significant topics. Arming yourself with the knowledge of what to do when they happen, will prepare you for a strong and successful marriage.
We’re digging into:
- The often-overlooked factor when facing different perspectives
- Strategies for handling situations when you and your partner aren't on the same page
- How to get a deeper understanding of your spouse’s wants and needs (and vice versa)
- Collaborating (and getting creative!) on finding a solution that accommodates both sets of needs - the key to preventing resentment later on!
- Recognizing the moments when it's beneficial to pause the conversation and focus on loving each other
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Struggling with feelings of being unloved and unsupported in your marriage? These emotions can be challenging to navigate, yet they're a common theme among many of my clients. In today's discussion, we dive into the unique challenges faced by military spouses and provide empowering insights to help you strengthen the supportive foundation of your marriage.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- The secret element in your marriage you need to make EVERYTHING easier
- Actionable steps to ensure you feel the deep level of support you deserve from your spouse
- How to identify and communicate your needs effectively
- The significance of evaluating your thoughts about your spouse and their level of support
- Ways to prepare for and initiate a conversation with your spouse about the support you need
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Happy New Year! If you want your relationship to improve this year, run (don’t walk!) straight to this episode. There’s no denying it can be difficult to make changes, and that’s why I’m sharing insights on how you and your partner can continue building a successful marriage and rediscover the “new relationship” energy you had when you first started dating.
Learn how to implement changes you want to make in your marriage this year to spice things up and make your relationship better than ever. Remember, there’s always room for improvement no matter where you are in your relationship currently.
We’re exploring:
- How to evaluate your successes and areas for improvement from the last year
- The exact questions my spouse and I ask each other for reflecting on the previous year, along with our candid answers
- My top advice on where to begin once you’ve identified areas for improvement in your marriage
- How to support each other effectively in making changes, even when it’s difficult
- Methods to consistently maintain and check in on your relationship goals for year-round success
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
We’ve all heard about mindset work, right, but what does that REALLY mean? If you’re wondering WHAT inner work you can be doing to make a difference in your marriage and life, let me break that down for you!
Join me as I share what it means to do the work in your own military life and tangible tools you can use while answering some of the MOST popular questions I get on this topic. Learning this will help you if you want to feel more like a priority with your spouse, don’t like your duty station, and so much more!
Tune in as we explore:
- The reason why most people aren’t doing their mindset work
- What exactly IS the mindset work that will make a difference in your life and marriage
- 4 BEST mindset tools you can start using today
- There’s no one-size-fits-all to mindset work and how this can look different for everyone
- Why the HOW isn’t important when it comes to your daily mindset routine
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The new year is a great time to figure out what you want to change, but also what you want to stay the same. And if you feel like rigid resolutions don’t work for you, don’t worry! In this episode, I’m sharing 5 SIMPLE and EASY ways to set you (and your marriage) up for the MOST successful 2024—so you can have a fun and positive year regardless of what the military sends your way!
Tune is as we explore:
- How to create simple and positive habits that will serve you all year long
- Why this ONE shift can be the most powerful thing you do for yourself this year
- What a little decluttering can do for your mental well-being (and your marriage, too!)
- Setting small goals that nurture you and your marriage
- Why you need to audit how you spend your time—and how to create boundaries when things aren’t serving you
- My favorite SIMPLE ways to bring positivity to your year
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Want to have the best holiday ever - for yourself and your marriage? We’re digging into the thoughts and actions crucial for the best experience during family gatherings, festive parties, and the busiest season of the year. Being prepared is key to ensuring a holiday season that aligns with both your and your spouse’s desires.
In this episode, we explore:
- How to reflect on our feelings and roles of past holidays, traditions, and expectations (and I unveil one unrealistic expectation that made me completely miserable!)
- Understanding the role of your close family unit and extended families during the holidays
- Discovering what to do if you’re feeling overwhelmed or disappointed about the holidays this year
- Learning how to have each other’s back this season (and ensure YOU are getting the support you need)
- Insights into what to prepare before planning your Christmas calendar, ensuring a stress-free and enjoyable holiday season.
- My favorite tool to use daily throughout the holidays
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
There’s an unspoken expectation that you know what you signed up for as a military spouse. I call BS on that.
Nothing prepares us for the challenges we face, such as managing our own career while constantly relocating, the familiar feeling of resentment, and the struggle to maintain a sense of self outside the military identity.
In this episode, Jenna Griffith, International Best Selling Author and Coach, shares insights on overcoming these challenges and empowering other military and first responder spouses to find their purpose, embrace their individual skills, and thrive.
The key takeaway: A happier you translates to a happier marriage!
We’re exploring:
- The biggest barriers that keep military spouses from executing their dreams
- One powerful tool you can use today to help uncover your purpose (without feeling overwhelmed!)
- What can get in the way internally of pursuing your dreams
- The (surprising) impact on marriages once you start uncovering your purpose and skills
- And so much more!
Jenna’s Service and Soul Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1956837264?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860
Jenna’s website: www.serviceandsoul.com
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
We all have preferences for how we give and receive love. Learning the love languages of both you and your spouse is a powerful tool to ensure that both of you feel deeply loved. But you may be surprised to know that it can create challenges for some couples.
Tune into this episode as we explore:
- Overcoming challenging thoughts, such as “my marriage will never work” or “my spouse doesn’t care about speaking my love language”
- How to use love languages in the right way (an absolute game-changer in my own marriage)
- What to do when you and your partner have different love languages (especially when it feels hard)
- The danger of putting too much pressure on speaking each other’s love language
- Discerning whether love languages are effectively working in your marriage
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
I talk a lot about mindset (because it’s just that important!). In this episode, I’m unpacking a simple mindset shift that can transform your military life and marriage. And it goes beyond just military life – it's a game-changer for every facet of your life.
Discover how you can break free from the notion that happiness is conditional on specific circumstances. Instead, learn the art of finding joy in the present moment, even amidst challenges. Embracing the journey, with all its twists and turns, is not just a mindset shift but a pathway to getting positive results in your marriage.
We’re diving into:
- Navigating the dynamics of change, such as unlearning, breaking habits, and the amount of time it takes
- The toll of enduring prolonged periods of unhappiness and its impact on you and your marriage
- Real-life examples to anchor and reinforce this transformative mindset
- How to give yourself the option of being happy, even when it doesn’t seem like a possibility
- Learning to love the journey to your end goal (and what to ask yourself to increase happiness at every opportunity)
- One empowering way to view your circumstance and how you’ll get through it
- Practical strategies to start feeling the way you want to feel right now
BLACK FRIDAY DEAL! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage Course: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Homecoming is often a magical moment, but the days and weeks leading up to it might bring feelings of fear, anxiety, and intense anticipation. This episode offers insights to help you prepare for your long-awaited reunion with your spouse by providing expectations and coping strategies for the most joyful experience possible!
Bottom line: Only do what feels good and what you have the capacity for, and don’t make yourself wrong for ANY of it!
Here’s what we cover:
- Exploring the common feelings of fear, anxiety, and pressure before homecoming
- The key to overcoming anxious thoughts and mental preparation for the big day
- Permission to prioritize self-care and manage overwhelming emotions during this phase
- Handling decision fatigue and readying yourself for unexpected changes
- Aligning expectations and desires with your spouse post-homecoming for a smoother transition
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Resentment can sneak into ANY marriage, and it often shows up in military relationships, sometimes even more frequently. In this episode, I dive into the core reasons behind resentment in military marriages and provide actionable solutions to dissolve it. However, it's important to recognize that feelings of resentment are quite common in many aspects of military life. What truly matters is knowing how to address it effectively, and more importantly, how to tackle it together as a team with your partner.
Tune in as we explore:
- The dynamics of division in marriages, especially in military marriages
- The roles of “default” and non-default” in every relationship
- Hidden sacrifices made by military spouses
- The profound importance of creating a culture of appreciation
- Tips to have a productive conversation with your spouse about resentment
- Shifting your mindset to embrace love and care, especially in challenging times
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Want to fight less? 🙋♀️🙋♀️🙋♀️
If you’re tired of constant conflict in your military marriage, don’t miss out on this episode.
We're unveiling a powerful conflict resolution hack that can reduce arguments, boost your happiness, and transform those disagreements into productive discussions filled with love and respect.
Are you ready to discover this game-changing conflict hack? Tune in as we explore:
- Unsolvable problems in your marriage (and how to manage them)
- The essential qualities to bring to your next argument
- Strategies for showing love and respect outwardly during an argument
- Practical examples to implement this conflict hack
- How to cultivate the mindset to have productive conversations with your spouse, turning conflicts into opportunities for connection and growth
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Want to know how feelings of isolation can become your source of connection and empowerment?
Meet our inspiring guest, Sarah Curtis, who doesn’t shy away from the challenging topics of military life. In this episode, we share aspects that are less commonly discussed within the military community, like the feelings of loneliness and the rollercoaster of emotions that can impact not only you but also your marriage.
Why is this conversation so crucial? Because it reminds you that you are not alone in your experiences. It's a reminder that your feelings of isolation can be shared by others, and together we can find strength and connection.
We’re exploring:
- Maintaining a strong marriage whether your spouse is home or away
- Embracing and normalizing uncontrollable timelines
- How Sarah navigated the questions “who am I?” and “what impact do I want to have on the world?”
- The importance of choosing compassion over comparison
- Addressing feelings of loneliness and isolation
- The duality of military life
Connect with Sarah:
- Website: https://amilitarywifeslife.com/
- Book: Sitting in the Unknown: A Collection of Poems for Military Loved Ones
For support during your next or current deployment, check out my course! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Have you reached the point where you don’t think you can continue in your marriage anymore?
No shame or judgement here. Many of my clients experience these moments, filled with emptiness and exhaustion, where it seems like repetitive conversations yield no progress.
Maybe you’re in a similar position, where your spouse isn’t able or willing to do what you need them to do to have a fulfilling relationship. Or maybe this military life feels like it’s too much. Whatever situation you’re in, feeling like you want to give up on your marriage can happen to ANY one of us.
The last thing we need is to judge ourselves or others. Instead of judging, let’s normalize these emotions. In this episode, I’m sharing five actionable steps to help rekindle your relationship before considering the option of giving up.
We’re exploring:
- Reasons you may be pulling back from your spouse (and what to do about it!)
- Your #1 responsibility before communicating with your spouse what you need
- How to have a more productive conversation (instead of having the same conversations over and over again without anything changing)
- What I mean by “spreading the love” instead of trying to get it all from your spouse
- Why talking to a professional is different than talking to a friend about the relationship with your spouse
For more support during your current or next deployment, check out my course In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Let's face it, having kids can be so hard on your marriage. In this episode, I share what you can do to have a stronger marriage after having kids. And here’s the twist - even if you don’t have kids yet, let this episode give you a helpful preview of what’s ahead. It’s never too early (or late!) to improve your relationship with your spouse!
We’re exploring:
- How my own marriage was impacted after having children
- Surprising statistics about the “marriage crisis” after children
- The importance of confronting this reality, especially for military spouses
- Three pivotal factors to navigate any life storm
- What to do if you are unsatisfied in your marriage after kids (and how to prepare your marriage before having kids)
- What to do TODAY to improve your marriage
For support in ALL the hardest parts of deployment, check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
There are people like you all over the world who just “get it”. We can have completely different backgrounds and be in completely different locations, yet have very similar experiences in military life.
Friends and family can do their best to support you, but the truth is sometimes you need another military spouse who truly understands the hardships and loneliness of deployment, the struggles of keeping everything together when their spouse is gone, and the uncertainty of not knowing where you’ll live in the next few years.
You’re never alone in this journey and we’re here to support you, no matter what your address is.
In this episode, I introduce you to Suzie (my amazing Virtual Assistant that keeps Married to Military running so smoothly!), who shares her personal experience as an international military spouse. We explore:
- How Suzie’s career was derailed due to being a military spouse
- The key distinctions between US and UK military spouse life
- Suzie's perspective on the different phases of deployment
- Insights into her virtual work and the flexibility it offers
- Valuable advice for all spouses when it comes to asking for support
- How military life can enrich your life
Join us for an engaging discussion on the challenges and opportunities faced by military spouses worldwide.
Connect with Suzie:
- suziestanier.co.uk
- instagram.com/suziestanier/
Bring more ease into your current or next deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The reality is we will always encounter triggers, even when we put in the work to eliminate them. That’s why this conversation is so important because we discuss how to manage triggers without negatively affecting our marriages. In this episode, we will discover how you can use triggers to strengthen your bond with your spouse and navigate them more effectively.
Tune in as we explore:
- How the military (and our spouses) can trigger us
- What it means to be triggered (and recognize our emotional and physical responses)
- Examples of negative reactions to triggers and the brain's role in justifying behavior
- When to engage in a productive conversation with your spouse and prevent further damage from triggered responses
- Three actionable steps to take when you encounter triggers, starting today
Check out my course to support you and your marriage during your next deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Having a healthy marriage requires an investment from both you and your spouse. There’s no denying that putting in time and energy every day maintains a strong bond. But we aren’t exactly taught how to have a good relationship or what we need to do (and not do) to maintain that connection.
I want you to have the best marriage possible, regardless of the time and money you currently have. So, tune into this episode because it might just shift the way you think about investing in your marriage.
We’re exploring:
- The stigma of receiving support and why investing in your marriage is the best-kept secret
- Hidden costs and consequences of not investing time, effort and money into your relationship
- Why a thriving marriage enhances your health and overall well-being compared to the negative emotional and financial impacts linked to divorce
- Three fresh viewpoints on why investing in your marriage will change everything for you and your spouse
For support during your current or next deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Resentment – we've all felt it at some point, but what exactly is it? In this eye-opening episode, we dive into all things resentment, how it can creep into your life, wreak havoc on your marriage, and, most importantly, what you can do to overcome it. Resentment tends to be a catalyst for a slew of other negative emotions and thoughts about your spouse, military life, and more. It can stem from various situations like jealousy, betrayal, shame, or feeling like your needs aren't being met.
In this final episode of the deployment 2.0 series, we’re breaking down:
- The common triggers of resentment in military spouses
- How the feeling of unmet needs can lead to resentment
- Recognizing the signs of resentment
- Effective strategies for working through and managing resentment
- A powerful tool that can be applied in any situation to improve your marriage
- The importance of open communication with your spouse, choosing the right time for these discussions, and focusing on solutions
For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Let's peel back the curtain on a topic that often remains hidden in the shadows. It's something we seldom discuss openly, yet many of us face often. The challenges we experience in our marriages during deployments are more common and normal than we think. The problem lies in our reluctance to talk about it openly with others.
While working with my clients, I've listened to them express emotions of shame, resentment, and frustration, often believing that their unique problems have no viable solutions. You're not alone feeling like this. It's time to shed light on what leads to the most unhappiness during deployments.
We’re exploring:
- How we unintentionally inflict hurt and pain on ourselves, making marriage and deployment way more challenging than necessary
- Research findings on the tendency to internalize problems and negative experiences
- What pulls couples apart, particularly during deployment (and the destructive nature of this pattern)
- The ripple effect of staying in “defense mechanism mode”
- Our brain's role and the misinformation it can feed us
- What to focus on when you’re struggling in your relationship that will change everything
The perfect resource to thrive during your next deployment, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Communication during deployment is always so challenging. Despite having access to phone calls, texts, and video chats, it still doesn’t get easier. Having worked with countless military spouses over my 15 years as a marriage therapist, I know firsthand that the desire for deeper connection always remains.
In this episode, we’re on a mission to transform communication from not just bearable but enjoyable during deployment. Are you ready to thrive in this aspect of military life?
Here’s how you can make it happen:
Step one: Tune into this episode.
Step two: Prioritize communication that enhances your connection and allows you to discover new aspects about each other.
In doing so, you'll not only improve your communication during deployment but also experience a deeper bond with your spouse.
We’re also diving into:
- Different types of communication (and why the best marriages include a balance of all of them)
- Setting a primary goal before engaging in conversations with your deployed spouse
- My number one piece of advice (a true game-changer) to elevate your communication during deployment
- Thought-provoking questions that reveal how well you really know your spouse
- Tips to maximize communication so you have fun, feel more connected, and learn more about each another
For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Whether this is your first deployment or tenth, I want you to be as supported as possible and ready to face anything that comes your way. This episode breaks down what you can expect during each stage of deployment, and provides practical tips to manage and prepare for them so it’s easier and more enjoyable for you.
We’re exploring:
- How to thrive during deployment
- The BEST questions to ask yourself to figure out your REAL expectations
- The five stages of deployment and how to prepare for each
- Common challenges that may come up and how to navigate them
- Ways to keep yourself busy but NOT burnt out while your spouse is away
- Reintegrating once they are back home and the top challenges you can prepare for
For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Feeling overwhelmed, defeated, and hopeless while your spouse is deployed? You’re not alone.
Too often I hear from struggling spouses that they can’t take one more day of deployment. It’s just. too. much. They feel helpless because getting through another day seems impossible, and they just don’t know what their next step should be to make it better.
Feeling this way about deployment while your spouse is gone AND having difficulties in your marriage is HARD. You may feel unsupported, underappreciated, and not valued by your spouse. This makes all the sacrificing and everything you’re responsible for back at home very challenging.
In this episode, we’re breaking down what you can do when you’re at the end of your rope with deployment (or your marriage).
We’re exploring:
- How to make the biggest difference in your life and marriage
- The one simple thing that will literally change EVERYTHING for your marriage (and the science to back it up)
- How our thoughts and expectations can impact our relationships during deployment
- The slippery slope of deciding you can’t do this anymore
- The “right” support you need throughout deployment that is crucial for spouses
For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Sure, deployments create physical distance from your spouse, but that doesn’t mean you have to be emotionally detached as well. In this episode, we uncover the hacks to maintaining an unbreakable connection with your spouse throughout deployment. This is your guide to intentionally nurture your relationship during this challenging period.
Let this empower you with actionable strategies to strengthen your relationship, making deployment a time to maintain connection in new and unexpected ways!
We’re exploring:
- How feeling disconnected from your partner impacts your mental and emotional well-being
- Why prioritizing intentional connection during deployment is a game-changer and how to make it a reality
- Strategies to break free from negative thought spirals that sabotage your connection
- What I classify as “deployment mode” (and knowing what you need and how to modify it for connection during this time)
- A simple way to measure the strength of your connection and decide if any adjustments are needed
For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Do you know why I typically sign off with “I hope you are taking care of yourself” at the end of each episode? Well, it’s not just a well-meaning gesture, but a powerful not-so-secret secret that holds the key for all military spouses - especially during those challenging times of separation.
Taking care of yourself is hard to do in the best of times, and deployment makes it that much more difficult because you're juggling not only your own responsibilities but also those of your spouse. But here’s the truth: Neglecting self care can have serious repercussions on both your health and your marriage.
In this episode, we uncover what it really means to take care of yourself, even when it feels like you have zero time or energy left in your day. But if you truly want to increase your happiness, strengthen your relationship with your spouse, and improve deployments, THIS is the way.
Tune in to this powerful episode as we explore:
- Five signs that you are on your way to burnout (and how burnout can impact your health and marriage)
- The pivotal role of self care in fueling your ability to manage your daily demands and responsibilities
- Discovering what self care is (and how to incorporate it even with limited time and capacity)
- Why relying on your spouse for the same support during deployments may lead to disappointment and arguments
- How taking charge of your own happiness can lead to a stronger, happier you and a healthier, more resilient marriage
For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
In this episode, we’re diving deep into the often-overlooked phase known as the fourth trimester - the postpartum period.
In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Kristal Lau, a physician, postpartum wellness consultant, and author of Postpartum 30, shares personal stories from her own postpartum, sheds light on why this time can be uniquely challenging for military families, and educates us on the unmatched expectations couples often have when entering this significant phase.
Tune in to discover how the postpartum period impacts mothers and their marriages, whether you have children, are planning to have them, or simply wish to better support and understand mothers during this transformative time.
We’re exploring:
- What you need to know about the postpartum period (and what “normal” and “abnormal” things to expect)
- Real talk on postpartum depression
- The fascinating changes that occur in a mother's brain during this phase
- One powerful way to decrease resentment in your marriage after having kids
- What most people don’t talk about when it comes to the postpartum period
- Preparing and planning for your postpartum period
More resources for the postpartum period:
- 3 Essential Postpartum Changes That No One Really Talks About And What To Do About Them: www.mamaswingwoman.com/pplist1
- Dad University: https://www.daduniversity.com/
- Military Birth Resource Network & Postpartum Coalition: https://www.militarybirthresourcenetwork.org/
- Postpartum Wellness Consultant and Owner of Mama's Wing Woman
- Author of Postpartum 30
- Host of 'The Postpartum Wellness Show' on YouTube and Podcasts
For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Good news! You can raise incredible kids AND nurture a strong marriage within this extraordinary world of military life. However, let's be real - challenges are part of the package, too. But fear not, because this episode will empower you with strategies and insights to conquer those challenges and create a fulfilling military marriage as parents.
Discover how the joys and demands of parenting impact your relationship, uncover effective strategies for navigating deployments with children, and dive into a conversation on managing different parenting styles.
We are also exploring:
- The impact of having children on your marriage and the challenges it presents
- Essential daily actions and tools to enhance your role as a spouse and parent
- Maintaining effective relationships without spending excessive time
- Nurturing your connection with your spouse amidst the demands of parenthood
- Prioritizing your marriage and finding time for each other, even when your schedule is packed
In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage course: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Marriage is hard. Add in military life and children, and we get an “extra, extra” marriage.
Join Elizabeth Newcamp and me as we dive into the complexities of military marriage, parenting challenges, and the unique hardships that arise in military life. Elizabeth shares invaluable insights on navigating disagreements, deployments, and difficult situations as a military spouse, offering practical ideas to foster a stronger marriage and family.
We’re exploring:
- Managing different parenting styles in a military family
- A solid framework for resolving disagreements in marriage
- Establishing guidelines for emotionally charged situations
- The transition period when your military spouse returns home
- One surprising way to help strengthen your military marriage
- How to have a successful marriage despite differences
Connect with Elizabeth:
- Mom and Dad are Fighting podcast: https://slate.com/podcasts/mom-and-dad-are-fighting
- Dutch Dutch Goose family travel blog: https://www.dutchdutchgoose.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ejdn/
For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Finding friends can be one of the most challenging aspects of military life. And yet it’s also the key to unlock more happiness, especially when your spouse is away.
It’s no secret that friendships are important. They make our lives more enjoyable and also help carry us through difficult times. So when you experience friendship drama, backstabbing, or anything that just doesn't feel good, you may find it extremely hard to build new friendships and avoid letting people get to know you.
In this episode, we’re exploring:
- Why it’s vital to have friendships, especially with other military spouses
- What you can do to feel empowered instead of anxious in difficult friendships
- How to manage your own emotions and mood in toxic situations
- The #1 way to navigate all spouse drama
- Tips to deal with cliques (and who to seek out to build new friendships)
FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge
Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Not to get too therapist-y on you here, BUT your past can have a significant impact on your marriage (and your self).
The unique moments and roles you experienced in your childhood are still influencing your marriage today. However, you're not stuck playing the same roles forever. You get to decide if the roles are still serving you and if you want to continue them or not.
Let's dive into the nitty-gritty of how exploring your past can shed light on your current relationship dynamics and help you understand your partner on a whole new level.
In this episode, get ready for:
- Unveiling how your past influences your current relationship patterns and triggers
- Empowering yourself to shift (or embrace!) the role you play in your marriage
- Juicy real-life examples and stories from my clients and my own marriage
- The #1 golden nugget to remember when digging into your past
- One key question that can help improve your relationship with your spouse
- Plus, a little secret sauce to strengthen your marriage as you explore your past
More resources to strengthen your marriage:
In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you craving better communication during your spouse's deployment or TDY?
I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to deployment communication, and providing actionable tips to improve communication that allow you to connect deeper with your spouse, even across different time zones and limited availability.
Deployments and TDYs bring unique communication challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, you can maintain a healthy and meaningful connection with your partner.
So don't just accept that deployment communication will not be great while they’re away. Join me in this episode as we explore:
- Four practical ways to improve communication during deployment
- How you can get what you need most when your spouse is away
- Ways to approach the conversation when there is something pressing you need answered or you have something bothering you
- An effective tool you can use anytime to improve communication
- How your mindset plays a crucial role in all of this
FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge
Check out my course for more support during deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Ever have that sinking feeling when your spouse's promises start fizzling out?
We've all been there, wondering why they aren't following through after promising they’ll communicate at set times during deployment, or even pick up something they promised after work.
But here's the kicker: solving this problem doesn't have to lead to a fight! Join me as we dive into real-life scenarios, uncover the hidden negativity, and discover the secrets to rebuilding trust without causing a major meltdown in your relationship.
We’re exploring:
- Scenarios from my own marriage and my clients’ relationships (and how you can overcome and even grow stronger in the process)
- Why we try to make lack of follow-throughs mean something more than they really are
- How small things can chip away at the trust you have for your spouse and what you need to pay attention to for rebuilding that trust
- The best thing you can do to remain a solid team
- Five steps to successfully repair trust based on psychological research
- Why it’s so difficult for our spouses to make a repair (and two ways we can make it easier for them to communicate about it)
Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Do you ever find yourself longing to rediscover the person you are beyond the role of a military spouse?
Our identities, goals, and dreams outside of being a military spouse are essential to our well-being, yet they can feel so challenging and even beyond reach at times. However, not pursuing our desires can negatively impact our marriage, and lead to resentment and conflict.
Molly Rose has found a way to help us as military spouses have everything we want AND stay married. This is something that will allow us to show up more for ourselves, our marriages, and our families.
Her mission is to support military spouses by creating remote work and rewarding careers. She is the creator of Virtual Assistant Academy, which provides trusted virtual assistance solutions and flawless tech execution services for busy entrepreneurs and business owners.
If you find yourself thinking, “I just need something for me”, you want to step into an exciting role outside of being a military spouse, or you desire to add extra income each month that allows you to get support however you need it most, then this episode is for you.
We’re exploring:
- Molly’s transition from climbing the corporate ladder to training others how to become Virtual Assistants
- What a Virtual Assistant is (and the various aspects of working from home)
- The benefits of being a Virtual Assistant (especially as a military spouse)
- How having a flexible job impacts our marriages
- The skills you have as a military spouse that you can get paid for RIGHT NOW
Learn more about Molly Rose at virtualassistantacademy.com
Connect on Instagram: @mollyrosespeed
Get the needed support during your next deployment: In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Maybe you have thought or even said out loud, “I can’t do this anymore”. We all know how challenging marriage can be, and trust me when I say I completely get it. Today I am sharing one of THE hardest moments in my marriage. The moment I felt the most uncertain. The moment I didn’t know if we were going to make it through.
In an effort to be more open and normalize the difficulties in marriage (yes - even as a marriage psychologist I still have difficulties in my marriage!), I am sharing my struggle that I’ve safely kept behind closed doors, until today. I will take you on my personal journey of how we overcame the “this isn’t working anymore” moment in our marriage.
We’re exploring:
- A vulnerable story of when I wanted out of our marriage
- Four steps we used (and still use today in difficult times!) to overcome the biggest challenge in our marriage we’ve ever had
- What you can do to make your spouse feel confident in how they are supporting you
- How to turn TO each other and work as a team when you’d rather figure things out on your own
- What you can say and do for each other so you both feel better, faster
Looking for support during deployment? Look no further! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Krista got the call. The one every single one of us dreads, the absolute worst-case scenario. Join us inside this courageous conversation where she shares her unimaginable tragedy and how she created something so beautiful from it. Together, we discuss the resources available to you in these situations, how to normalize moving through feelings of healing while reminding you to have the difficult planning conversations now so you can both be prepared for anything.
We’re exploring:
- How to give yourself grace when you feel the need to be strong all the time
- The ways the military community kept showing up for Krista when her direct connection to the military was gone
- Foundations and organizations every military spouse should be aware of for support on this journey
- Top questions to ask your spouse, so you both can have an extreme understanding should something happen to either one of you
- Resources to reach out to if you’re experiencing financial hardship
- How to thrive in our role as a military spouse for ultimate preparation
- And so much more!
The Military Life Binder : https://www.listandfile.com/
Keeper Security password manager: https://www.keepersecurity.com/
The Unquiet Professional, making noise for those who serve: https://www.theunquietprofessional.org/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Available now! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/44943126970086
What do you do when you want out of the military, your marriage… or both?
Reaching this breaking point is all too common in military spouse life. You feel broken down, it seems impossible you’ll ever get out, and you have no energy or emotion left to give.
Take heart, you’re not alone.
When you find yourself at your breaking point (or to prepare for next time you want out), this episode walks you through how to get in the best possible place yourself in order to make these hard decisions.
We’re exploring:
- The first thing you can do when you are at your breaking point
- One difference-maker that will help you feel better and have more confidence you are making the best decision
- What you should NEVER do when you are in a dark emotional space
- When to have conversations with your spouse about wanting out (and how to prepare for it)
- How to keep yourself from saying or doing something you’ll regret (and also how to better understand and support each other)
- One tool anyone can use to help you gain clarity on the best decision for you
Come along with me while my spouse is deployed and we can support each other! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you dealing with a spouse who refuses counseling? I’ve been in your shoes and understand just how frustrating it can be. You feel completely stuck and not sure what to do to move your relationship forward.
In this episode, we dive into why your partner isn’t accepting help and what you can do about it. Spoiler alert: It’s not about convincing them. Listen in to get a better understanding of what your spouse may be thinking and arm yourself with tools to communicate what you need for a stronger marriage.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- The reasons why your spouse may be against marriage counseling or coaching
- Why friends and family are not the people who can best support you
- How to bring up the topic of counseling without causing a fight
- What we need to do to have a more productive conversation
- One game-changing tool to help you understand your partner better
- How to communicate (not convince!) your reasons for wanting to get support and why it’s important to you
In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage! Access now: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you struggling to maintain connection with your spouse, whether they are away or at home?
I expect there to be dips in connection within every relationship, but it’s especially difficult in a military marriage. Figuring out how to feel more connected emotionally when you’re already feeling disconnected physically is HARD.
Good news! Military life does not have to impact the connection you have with your spouse if you are intentional about the five things I’m sharing in this episode.
We’re exploring:
- What to do when you feel resentment towards the military for losing connection with your spouse
- One powerful decision that will change the way you show up for each other
- How your thoughts can work against what you really want in your relationship
- Two assumptions you can immediately put to rest to feel more connected to your spouse
- The danger of relying on other people to determine how you feel
- One key to making this lifestyle work for both of you
Join here for access to my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Want to know how we can better support the unique and diverse experiences of military spouses of color?
Joelle Clayborne is an advocate for mental health services, Gen Z military spouses, and military spouses of color. She is an expert in Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion, as well as a freelance consultant, author, content creator, and military spouse.
For anyone wanting to bridge the gap in race, age, and diverse perceptions of the military, this episode is a must listen! From topics such as embracing our identities as military spouses, to addressing our biases, to starting conversations that support military spouses of color, you don’t want to miss this very important conversation.
We’re exploring:
- How being a military spouse impacts Joelle’s mental health (and what helps her improve mental wellness)
- Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in the military
- What Joelle believes is massively helpful for military spouses of color
- How to start conversations that support military spouses of color
- Joelle’s three steps to addressing race and inclusivity
Connect with Joelle: * Website: https://www.joelleclayborne.com/ * Podcast: Business DEI Under 5
Resources: * Harvard Implicit Bias Test: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/user/agg/blindspot/indexrk.htm
Blogs/Articles * I'm a Black Military Spouse—Here's How Our Family Navigates Life as a Black Military Family * Down in the Trenches…. Life as a Black Military Spouse * BLACK HISTORY MONTH THROUGH THE EYES OF A MILITARY SPOUSE * SPOTLIGHT ON BLACK/AFRICAN-AMERICAN MILITARY FAMILIES * Fostering an Inclusive Community for BIPOC Spouses * The struggles of Military Spouses of color
Social Media Groups: * Blackmilitarywives.com | Black Military Wives Instagram * Esposas Militares Hispanas
Scholarly / Government Articles: * Does Ethnicity Affect the Coping of Military Spouses?
- Understanding Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in Defense Communities
- Diversity in U.S. Military Families
Books: * The Mocha Manual to Military Life: A Savvy Guide for Wives, Girlfriends, and Female Service Members
In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage (available now!): https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
I love research y’all. I stumbled across an 85 year Harvard study recently that blew my mind. It sent me into deep-dive research mode, and I came out of that wanting to share what I learned with you in this episode: what will make you happy, healthy, and live longer.
This episode validates what I have personally learned and experienced as a Military Psychologist and Marriage Coach. I only want to share things with you that are backed by research and apply to ALL of us, not only a handful of my clients. This is something we need to be prioritizing and talking about more with those around us. So, listen in to learn what makes the biggest difference in our happiness above anything else, so you can start implementing this in your life today.
We’re exploring:
- The #1 thing that contributes to us living happier, healthier, and longer
- What does NOT make us happier (that most of us think will)
- How our mood and experience of physical and emotional pain are impacted by relationships
- Harmful thinking that prevents couples from getting what they want
- What we need to be prioritizing over everything else for the biggest positive change in our lives
- Why this is crucial for military couples specifically
AVAILABLE NOW! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Have you ever thought about getting support in your marriage, but thought, “our relationship isn’t THAT bad?”. Yet nothing changed, and if anything, it’s now worse?
It’s normal to have anxiety and worry about what will happen in your marriage if you do decide to ask for help, but we were never taught how to figure out relationships all on our own. And it doesn’t have to mean anything that you are trying to improve your relationship.
Instead of wondering if your relationship is going to make it, listen to this episode to hear my answers on when to move forward with the divorce process, and when your marriage can be repaired (this often surprises people!).
We’re also exploring:
- What makes getting support in your marriage so difficult
- The scenarios when I recommend (and don’t recommend) divorce with my clients
- My take on issues like infidelity, addiction, physical or emotional abuse, and more
- What happens if neither of you are willing to have tough conversations together
- Encouragement to get support and make small shifts toward a healthier marriage
Be brave and reach out for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
NOW AVAILABLE! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Make the ask. That’s just one piece of advice from Dr. Sharita, who is with Mission:Milspouse, an organization that empowers military spouses with resources, supporting them to conquer adversity, foster confidence, and thrive in this military life.
Making the ask means having the courage to reach out and ask for what you need. That’s how you can improve military spouse life, and we want to encourage you to do just that. We talk about this and so much more in this episode.
We’re exploring:
- What lessons Dr. Sharita has learned in her 12 years of being married to military
- The importance of finding your tribe in new places (and advice if you don’t feel in alignment with the new people you meet)
- The difficulties of sharing our struggles as military spouses
- What Mission:Milspouse is and how it can benefit us
- How to find the resources you need when you’re not sure where to look
- What will help make military life easier for us all
Connect with Mission:Milspouse Website: missionmilspouse.org
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missionmilspouse/
Available now! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Wondering how to make deployments smoother? It's natural to reflect on previous deployments and wonder what you could have done better, what you could have done differently, and what strategies you can implement to make the next deployment smoother. And if you've been through it before, you know deplyment is a challenging experience.
Today, we are diving into the five hardest parts of deployment. My aim is that this episode will validate your experience of deployment and help you prioritize where to focus your energy and attention during your next deployment to make it the best it can be. Whether you're a seasoned deployment veteran or a first-timer, these insights will help you improve your deployment experience, and support you in feeling more confident in yourself and in your relationship with your spouse.
We’re exploring:
- How loneliness impacts our life and relationships
- What to do when the stress and pressure of deployment feel like too much
- Frustrations, barriers, and challenges of communication during deployment
- The painful gap between our expectations and our reality of deployment
- How to move through not feeling like you are a cohesive team
- What to prioritize to have the biggest impact on creating a more positive deployment experience
NOW AVAILABLE! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Can our relationship really survive time apart from each other? Managing our day-to-day life on its own can be a challenge, but also remaining connected to our spouse while they’re away…it’s tough. And THRIVING in our marriage while apart... well, is that even possible?
I absolutely hate being separated from my spouse, but we have learned how to create positive and long-lasting benefits in our relationship during these times. We have core aspects of our relationship that we focus on every time we’re away from each other that not only keep us connected, but actually strengthen our relationship. Listen in to find out how!
We’re exploring:
- How to get laser-focused on what your needs are in the relationship
- The one trap to avoid to prevent unhappiness while your spouse is away
- What factors are impacting your relationship negatively, even though they are often out of your control
- What you can do before approaching a difficult topic with your spouse to have the best outcome possible
- The key to having a successful conversation, even when you disagree
- Tips on what you can be doing to strengthen your marriage while your spouse is away
Celebrate this 100th episode with me! Two military spouses will be selected to access my new course for FREE when you join in! Click here for the details.
Join the waitlist for my new course (coming VERY soon!), In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Curious about the #1 issue I work on with my coaching clients? I haven’t seen anyone else talking about this publicly, and yet it is something that can make the biggest difference between flourishing in your marriage or staying stuck (and having arguments over and over again).
In this episode, I am giving you the essential tools to get what you need from your spouse in the most productive and healthy way. Tune in if you are done with the criticizing and defensiveness from your spouse, and instead desire to listen openly to each other about issues, continue having conversations together, and create greater happiness in your marriage.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- The role of defensiveness in your marriage (and what defensiveness can lead to)
- What a “soft start-up” is and why this is crucial in any marriage to get results
- How to start difficult conversations with your spouse so they actually want to continue talking instead of getting defensive and critical
- Guidelines to follow when having these hard conversations
- What research says about the link between conflict discussions and divorce
- Specific examples of how to approach your spouse when experiencing marriage issues
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
To be happy in your marriage, it’s incredibly important to first be happy yourself. In this episode, we demonstrate that our body health, mental health, and spiritual health, are all connected to our marriage. Listen for encouragement and ideas to incorporate healthier options into your day, even when it feels like there’s no extra time to focus on yourself.
Special guest Kristen Noriega is a registered dietician, nutritionist, military spouse, homeschooling work-from-home mom of 4, and essentially living proof that we can include good nutrition and movement even in the midst of chaos. Her goal is to empower busy moms and military spouses to feel their best NOW.
We’re sharing:
- Kristen’s experience of trying to lose weight (and keep it off!) after having children
- The relationship between your health and your marriage
- Bite-sized health strategies to easily incorporate into your daily life
- How to maximize the hours in your day (and use pockets of time for your health)
- Tips for military spouses who want to start their health journey
- How to keep moving forward when you get off track
Connect with Kristen:
- Baby Weight Nutritionist Podcast
- Website
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
I’ve been holding something back from you. Something that’s been on my heart for a while, but I didn’t know how to share it until now. As vulnerable as it is, I am opening up in this episode because I know I’m not the only one feeling this way.
Step aside guilt and shame - I’m only allowing room for acceptance and validation of my opinions and feelings from now on.
In this episode, I’m sharing:
- What I am REALLY feeling these days (and why I refrained from sharing this until now)
- How to not make yourself wrong for what you are feeling (and what to do when you find yourself spiraling)
- The truth about unpopular opinions (and how to accept them)
- How to stay on the same team as your spouse (or in any relationship) even when you have different opinions
- The one question that will shift your focus toward marriage growth
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Military life is hard enough, without the added layer of marriage problems too.
I get how frustrating it is when there seems to be no solution to the problems you’re facing, or your spouse is not doing what you think they should be doing to solve those problems. But in this episode, I challenge you to look at marriage problems differently.
If you feel like you have a lot of problems in your marriage or are often anxious about something in your relationship, you’ll want to tune into this episode. I have helped numerous couples make sure they are solving the RIGHT problem, which isn’t always what couples initially think it is. I want you to get comfortable looking at your marriage problems this way, so that you and your spouse can feel closer than ever before!
In this episode, you will hear:
- How to view problems in your marriage through a new lens
- Lots of examples to help you understand problems vs. tradeoffs and solidify why this is so important
- What solving the right problem looks like, no matter how strong your marriage is
- How to identify the goal of your arguments to create more understanding and connection
- One simple and effective tip to help you work on problems and increase joy in your marriage
- The secret to getting your spouse to be more vulnerable
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
If you're looking for the secret ingredient to overcome the challenges and loneliness of military life, this episode is for you. Building resiliency is key as a military spouse to identifying your needs, finding your community, and tapping into needed available resources.
Joining me in this episode is Manda McVey, a resilience and wellness coach and community building expert. We share ways to feel more included and understood in your community, as well as what you can do when loneliness and unhappiness creep in (especially when moving somewhere new). Don’t miss out on hearing Manda’s inspiring stories as a military spouse and how she makes this lifestyle work for her when challenges arise.
In this episode, you will hear:
- The difficulties of finding your community as a “late career” spouse
- Manda’s ultimate dream of sharing resources with other military spouses
- What she recommends for building community, no matter how long or little you are in any installation
- Our challenge to you if you feel like you already have enough friends and don’t need any more
- What to expect when moving somewhere new (and what can motivate you to get connected!)
Connect with Manda:
- Website: https://www.thehealitaryspouse.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealitaryspouse
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Feeling a bit more like roommates rather than lovers these days?
We’re bringing the heat and getting spicy in this episode! I’m sharing my version of what leads to long-term happiness and how to maximize the time you spend with your spouse, whether at home or away, regardless of how busy your schedules are. Step out of your regularly scheduled routine and breathe fresh air into your relationship, starting today.
In this episode, I’m exploring:
- The key to bringing more fun into your relationship
- What a recent study shares in the correlation between chores and sex
- Two small yet effective things you can do physically to improve your relationship now
- One way to bring back those early lovey-dovey feelings in your relationship
- How to become a calm space for each other (and bond deeper as a team)
- Why planning for spicy moments is so important in long-lasting marriages
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Do you ever feel like family and friends just don’t understand what you are going through as a military spouse? They have their own ideas and thoughts about what it's like being married to military, but how can we get them to understand and support us during difficult times?
This episode will help you rise above the thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of others when it comes to the military and your role as a military spouse. Listen for a huge dose of encouragement in making the best of the situation you are in, and ways you can get support now and in the future. Whatever you are feeling and experiencing is right and true. Please don’t make yourself wrong for any of it.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Military 101: SGLI (Service Members Group Life Insurance)
- Five common perceptions that family and friends have about us as military spouses
- How to gain support from friends, family, and your spouse when your spouse is away
- Tips to ride the emotional rollercoaster that is the military
- Permission to feel like you don’t need to be stronger than everyone else
- One phrase I hear so often that is wildly unhelpful when trying to be supportive
- Why you don’t need to completely sacrifice your life and dreams for the military and your spouse
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
If you are feeling overwhelmed, insignificant and disconnected as a military spouse and instead want to feel empowered to live your best life confidently, this episode is for you! With the constant moving, starting new relationships, beginning new jobs, and growing a family, it’s no wonder we feel lost and even have a hard time identifying who we are and what we enjoy.
Sherry Eifler joins us in today’s episode to talk about finding your passion and overcoming the overwhelm and loneliness we all are familiar with (yet don’t talk about often enough). After years of struggling through 8 deployments and moving over 17 times as a military spouse, Sherry believes “there’s always a way” to find your passion and feel truly fulfilled in life.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Military 101: Taps
- How being a military spouse enriches Sherry’s life (and how this role led to a purposeful career)
- Tips to get your needs met as a military spouse (especially when you often find yourself saying “I can’t”)
- The hurdles it took for Sherry to find her passion (these are so relatable!)
- What can help you identify who you are to bring more purpose to your life
- How to handle being rejected or burned in relationships
- The surprising impact that finding Sherry’s passion had on her marriage (and the key to overcoming relationship struggles)
Learn more about Sherry at her website https://sherryeifler.com and check out her free CORE assessment “Who am I?” at https://mailchi.mp/sherryeifler.com/where-are-you-core
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Want to know how you can make a big difference in your community? By getting involved!
There is no one better to share their insight and experience than 2022 Armed Forces Insurance Navy Spouse of the Year, Sergio Rodriguez. His perspective as a male military spouse (and also a veteran) who volunteers with multiple military-based organizations is SO inspiring. Whether you have a lot or very little availability, this episode is sure to motivate you to be a difference-maker as a military spouse in your community.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Military 101: Colors
- How the transition from active member to veteran impacted Sergio personally and professionally
- The challenges of being a male military spouse
- What prevents male military spouses from getting involved (and what we can do as female military spouses to break these barriers)
- What Sergio does and why (and how this affects his community)
- What the research says about altruism and helping others
- Sergio’s message to anyone who is curious about volunteering
Connect with Sergio:
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/sergiomsoy2022/
Website https://www.sergio-rodriguez.com/
Connect with Lindsay:
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
I’m betting reintegration is a challenge for you, too.
The adjustment period when you and your spouse come back together again after being apart for a length of time (no matter how long or little) can be really difficult.
My spouse, Sean, joins me in this episode to share our experience of previous reintegrations, what it’s like currently as we are in the thick of it, and so much more!
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Military 101: Deployment
- How to best prepare for reintegration as a spouse to make the transition easier
- Tips for reintegrating with children
- The biggest challenges we experience during reintegration periods (and what you can be on the lookout for during this time)
- Permission to give ourselves so much grace in it all
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The #1 issue I hear my clients speak about as a Military Marriage Coach is that you want to improve communication with your spouse. Today I’m sharing five steps that will teach you how to go deeper on an emotional level, even if your spouse is completely uncomfortable with emotions. My aim is to equip you to build your spouse’s confidence in handling and talking about emotions AND have him actually want to do it more, too!
In today’s episode, you’ll hear:
- Military 101: Ditty Bopper
- How our past impacts the person we show up as in relationships
- The role the military plays in influencing emotions
- What is emotional safety (and what you need to do to create space for emotions)
- A personal share of how I began the process to create emotional safety in my own marriage
- The biggest obstacles facing military couples when creating emotional safety
Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you experiencing the closeness you desire in your marriage? You may wonder how it’s even possible to feel close and connected to your spouse, whether they are away OR at home. In this episode, I am sharing three ways that will help you feel good, less alone, and more like your spouse truly cares about you. So, tune in to learn how to strengthen your marriage as we dive into developing more connection.
In this episode, you will hear:
- Military 101: Military Police
- Why even the best marriages need connection
- What you can do (starting today) to increase your connection with your spouse
- The basis of connection and how to apply this in every negative scenario
- How to take conscious effort to bring you and your spouse together, even when you are busy and it’s hard to do
- Why you don’t need to wait until your spouse is on board or you have more free time to improve your marriage
Hop on the waitlist for my self-paced course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
How do you want to experience your marriage in 2023?
The new year is a great time to evaluate your marriage and figure out what you want to carry forward into the year ahead and what you want to change. If you want to feel more loved, more connected, and happier overall in your marriage, be sure to listen to this episode. I’m sharing my top three marriage resolutions that are easy to implement and will set your marriage up for success in 2023.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: COLA (Overseas Cost of Living Allowance)
- Why I have a love-hate relationship with resolutions
- The importance of having dedicated times throughout the year to assess what is working well and identify where we can grow personally and in our marriage
- How to apply goal setting principles to ANYTHING you want to improve (and how to create better habits in the new year)
- Three of the biggest difference makers that will have you feeling so good in your marriage, whether your spouse is home or away
- The key to setting marriage resolutions that you will actually want to work on all year
Join the course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The holiday season presents many challenges when you’re Married to Military. From deployments to pressure from family to visit, there are so many decisions to make, and it can feel really overwhelming. Been there? In this episode, I’m sharing all of my tips and tricks to overcome any family frustrations, my FAVORITE ways to keep communication open between you & your spouse, and the TOP 5 ways you can bring joy into your holiday season!
I released this episode last December, and still believe it applies today and will support you through this holiday season, whether your spouse is home or deployed.
Tune in to hear:
- Married to Military 101: TSP (Thrift Savings Plan)
- How to manage BIG feelings that get magnified by the holidays
- Why THIS is one of the most common arguments during the holidays (and how to work through it!)
- My 3 BEST recommendations to help tackle feelings of frustration
- 7 things to try when you want to support someone whose spouse is deployed
- And much more!
Join my new course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Today you are in for a treat! This is the FIRST time I am introducing one of my clients on the podcast to share her story and experience coaching with me. If you are curious to learn more about marriage coaching and how I work with others, be sure to listen to this episode!
Kassie is a military spouse, entrepreneur, photographer, and mama to two girls, and I commend her for sharing so openly and vulnerably with us about her journey and biggest lessons learned through coaching.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Military 101: Discharge Classifications
- How Kassie felt reaching out for marriage support
- Her experience through marriage coaching, specifically with me
- Kassie’s thoughts about our calls, communication, and length of the program
- How to make marriage coaching work with your hectic schedule (and other tips for military spouses thinking of getting support in their marriage!)
- The biggest takeaways and results of Kassie’s experience and how she is now, 6 months later
Don’t forget to show Kassie some love and tell her what you thought of the episode!
Check out her website: kassielayne.com
Join the waitlist for my NEW course In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Do you ever wonder how it’s possible to have a strong marriage while your partner is deployed?
In this episode, I share the toughest parts of my husband’s current deployment, similarities and differences between past deployments, how I got through it all, and what I will change next time.
Tune in to hear:
- Military 101: What is POM leave (Prior/Post Overseas Movement) and how it works
- What to do when you and your partner feel “against” each other when prioritizing different things (and how to get on the same page)
- The game-changer when it comes to making compromises and elevating your mindset
- A common challenge we all face as military spouses (even those of us who have worked on it for years, and continue to work on it today)
- How to make the most out of your (limited) calls together, especially when you are feeling frustrated or upset
- How to stay on the same team when your spouse is gone
Get through deployment stronger! Check out In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The busyness of military life can make it that much harder to find extra time to take care of ourselves and prioritize our own wellness. But I truly believe that when we’re happier, feeling good, and well-cared for, everything else gets easier. So, finding a wellness strategy that works for YOUR unique body and life? It’s a game-changer.
In today’s episode, Lauren Chante, wellness strategist specializing in military spouse health & wellness, shares her inspiring take on milspouse wellness, why she ditched traditional diet culture and diet damage (and why you should too!), and how she helps women find wellness with ease while focusing on the unique challenges in the military experience.
A one size fits all approach to health and wellness just doesn’t work - especially for us, Married to Military™ family! Join us for some important tools to find a wellness strategy that works for YOU.
We’re exploring:
- Military 101: BEQ & BOQ
- Lauren’s struggles with body image & an eating disorder
- Diet culture and the threat to women’s mental health
- How she makes getting started in your journey to wellness SUPER easy (you don’t want to miss her take on this!)
- Diet Damage - what it is, how to avoid it & ways to heal
- The gap that’s created between service members and their spouses around wellness & physical fitness (and how to deal with it!)
- And more
Connect with Lauren:
Website: https://laurenchante.com/
Podcast: https://laurenchante.com/index.php/category/wellness-podcast/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenchanteofficial/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Does it feel like you’re always bickering with your spouse, or they’re always pointing out your mistakes (or they express that you always do this), or that you can’t catch a break and nothing is getting better?
Even though these ruts are totally normal, I know they just don’t feel very good. So, this week I want to give you the KEY to getting out of these ruts and avoiding falling into them as often.
In today’s episode of The Married to Military Podcast™, I’m sharing how to build a culture of appreciation in your marriage and why this is the antidote to divorce. Ready to learn more about why you might be falling into these rough patches and shift to establishing a foundation of appreciation and gratitude for your spouse (and them, for you) instead? Join me!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: Military Childcare and access to the resources you need
- 4 steps to help you create a foundation of gratitude in your marriage
- The medicine & vitamin of gratitude and appreciation
- One of the BIGGEST causes of divorce - and my favorite way to avoid it
- And more
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
When you’re in the midst of an argument it can sometimes be really hard to see the end, right? Problem-solving can feel impossible (especially if you have a defensive partner) and distance can exacerbate these issues if you’re disagreeing during a deployment.
But I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again - conflict is necessary for healthy relationships! We aren’t trying to eliminate the conflict, just the parts that are unhealthy and unhelpful.
So, are you ready for the SECRET WEAPON you need for better arguments with your spouse?
It’s an apology!! I know it can seem almost too simple, but stick with me - it’s actually A LOT more complicated than it seems. In today’s episode, I’m diving into the apology, how you could be doing them wrong (yes, there is a wrong way to do it!), and what you need to know to start using the apology as the surefire secret weapon to ending an argument and moving towards compromise in a real way.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: How many people are actually in each US branch and abroad?
- My surefire secret weapon for better arguments & less defensiveness with your spouse (and how to do it right!)
- How to know if you’re the under-apologizer or over-apologizer in your relationship
- Some examples to help you work through arguments & apologies with your spouse (to reduce damage to your connection and work towards resolution)
- TOP TIPS to make sure you are apologizing effectively - and the kind of apologies you should be avoiding
- The 5 Apology Languages and how these can help you avoid miscommunication with your spouse
- And more
Sign up for my FREE training to bring more ease into your holiday season while strengthening your marriage in the process (you’ll also get some free journal prompts as a special gift!)
Managing Holiday Stress: Military Marriage Edition: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/masterclass
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Money tends to be one of the biggest things that couples struggle with - and TAXES can play a pretty big role in this (especially if you’re in the military and aren’t familiar with the tax code!)
In today’s episode, I invite military tax expert Judy Gilmer, EA, USTCP, to guide us through the MOST IMPORTANT things to know about the tax code as military members so we can avoid any potential tax problems, and maximize the benefits available to us.
Ready to prepare yourself for this next tax season? She’s sharing some of the most common issues that come up with military tax returns and her biggest tips for avoiding them. You don’t want to miss this.
We’re exploring:
- The 2 MOST common tax problems that come up for Judy’s clients (if you’re thinking about buying a home or renting out your home, this one’s for you!)
- What you need to know about tax protections & The Military Spouse Residency Relief Act
- Using free software vs. paying a professional to do your taxes - what really is the difference?
- Some of the BIGGEST errors Judy sees in military members’ tax filings (and how you can avoid them)
- Tax provisions for when you’re in a combat zone (extensions and suspensions)
- What you need to know about your taxes if you’re planning to get married to a military member
- And more!
Connect with Judy:
Website: https://judydoesyourtaxes.com/
Email: admin@judydoesyourtaxes.com
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Hello hello, Married to Military™ family!
If you’ve been listening to the show, you know how passionate I am about helping military spouses feel good in the lives they are living. This includes making sure ALL parts of our identities are being taken care of.
This week, Army military spouse, coach, and podcast host Jayla Rae Ardelean, shares her story of embracing the identity of a Late Career Army Milspouse, how she coped with being flung into the new military world (and motherhood!) later in life, and the challenges she faced in her life & marriage as a result. You don’t want to miss this unique military spouse perspective - come join us!
We’re exploring:
- Military 101: USS - a navy term
- The Late Career Milspouse identity and its unique challenges
- Why Jayla had to beg to do laundry (this is good!)
- The path to creating “The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast” and documenting the deployment journey
- Jayla’s BEST advice for other Late Career Milspouses
- And more
Connect with Jayla:
Website: https://www.jaylarae.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mil.spouse/
Check out “The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast”: https://www.jaylarae.com/podcast
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Let’s talk about sex!
I know this can be an emotionally charged subject for a lot of us, but talking about sex is the KEY to increasing the satisfaction and sexual connection in your marriage.
In today’s episode of The Married to Military™ Podcast, I’m sharing some of the MOST IMPORTANT factors to building a healthy sex life with your spouse and some powerful tips and tools you can use to have these important conversations with your partner so you can improve your sex & intimacy.
I’m exploring:
- What the research has to say about building sex & intimacy in your marriage
- Why focusing on romantic feelings, technique, or even frequency ISN’T the best way to have better sex (and what is!)
- The BEST way to increase your sexual connection - and my TOP TIPS for doing it
- Keeping intimacy alive, even when you’re apart
- Some questions to ask yourself (and your spouse!) to help improve your sex life
- The biggest barriers in the way of deeper sex & intimacy in your marriage
- Why I encourage my clients to schedule sex (hint: spontaneous sex isn’t the only path to a fulfilling sex life)
- And more
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
As you know, military life requires us to wear a lot of hats. Wouldn’t it be a lot easier to juggle it all if we were working together to lift each other up? This is something that’s incredibly close to Monica Fullerton’s heart, today’s guest on The Married to Military® Podcast!
Monica is an ambitious entrepreneur, twin mom, and Air Force spouse who created a business that is filling a giant need for us as military families - and she’s here to talk all about it! Join us to learn more about Spouse-ly, a unique platform designed to offer products and services created by military and first responder families. It’s an amazing creation that has landed her on the Forbe’s Next 1000 list and many other large platforms & publications.
Ready to find out more about this trailblazing idea and how you can contribute (whether you’re a military family with a business/product or simply looking to support those who are)? Let’s go to the show!
We’re exploring:
- Military 101: The Salute and its historical context
- What is Spouse-ly? And why it’s so impactful for military families
- Monica’s take on the secret to military retention
- Collaboration over competitiveness (and how Spouse-ly does this so well)
- Growing a successful business as a parent and Air Force spouse
- The opportunities at Spouse-ly for vendors, customers & supporters (it’s a place for everyone!)
- And more
Start shopping on Spouse-ly! https://spouse-ly.com/
Follow Spouse-ly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spouse.ly/?hl=en
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you solving the right problem in your marriage?
If your marriage isn’t getting any better, it’s common to think the problem is with your partner, or you two just aren’t right for each other - but I don’t want you to fall into this trap! If you want to improve your marriage and really see results, you have to solve the right problems.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about why your marriage isn’t getting better, the MOST COMMON issues that I see getting in the way of having the marriage you desire, and the important work you can do to have the happy marriage & life you deserve!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: Commissary & Exchange, and something you might not know that will change the game!
- Why your marriage may not be getting better - and what to do about it!
- One of the MOST common traps you can fall into if your marriage isn’t going the way you want it to (and how to avoid it)
- The 3 C’s of marriage problems
- Avoiding marriage comparison and shame around marriage issues
- The 1st thing I want you to do if you feel your marriage isn’t getting better
- And more
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
What happens when you get to your next duty station - and you just don’t like it?
In today’s episode, I want to talk about the ways you can navigate feeling unsettled or unhappy in a new duty station - because moves are hard enough, we shouldn’t have to worry about feeling at home too, right? Join me for my favorite PCS mindset tips and THREE important action steps that will greatly improve your experience in a location that you’re just not digging.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: Boot Camp, where the term came from
- Permanent change of stations (PCS) & the hardship it can have on military families
- Some real-life examples of military families who did not like their duty stations - and what they did about it!
- The 1st thing you should do if you really dislike your duty station & my BEST mindset tips to help you do it
- The 3 IMPORTANT actions you can take to start enjoying your new duty station
- And more
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
We know military life can sometimes be really hard and feel very serious.
And that’s why this week, I’m challenging you to add more humor into your military life & marriage - because it really can do wonders. (Like how today’s guest literally got me through my postpartum experience with her hilarious reels!)
In today’s episode, I invite stand-up comedian and fellow military spouse, Ashley Gutermuth, to share her bright light and refreshing insights with our community as we discuss bringing humor to military life - and using it to strengthen our marriages.
We’re exploring:
- Military 101: JAG, why you should start here for any legal expertise you need
- Ashley’s life as a military spouse and how it impacts her work as a stand-up comedian
- How her hilarious reels helped me through my challenging postpartum
- Being chosen to win a contest by Jimmy Fallon & Jerry Seinfeld - and what opened up for Ashley because of it!
- How humor plays a role in her marriage (and why you should try it in yours)
- And more
Connect with Ashley:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgutermuth/
Website: https://www.ashleygutermuth.com/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
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ashleygutermuth.com @ashgutermuth on TikTok, twitter, instagram, and Ashley Gutermuth on Facebook
I have a highly requested episode for you this week, Married to Military family!
Today, I’m bringing on a guest who literally made me Married to Military - active duty U.S. Navy pilot and my husband, Sean Cavanagh. We’re diving into all the tough topics as Sean answers questions submitted by you - my incredible audience! We discuss prepping for deployment and long separations, reintegrating into the family after time away, what it’s like being married to a psychologist and coach (I was really interested to hear this one!), and so much more. Wondering how Sean feels about airing our “dirty laundry” on the podcast? Join us for this one.
We’re exploring:
- Military 101: QLE (I’ve had 5 of them in the last 12 months!)
- Sean’s military journey in the U.S. Navy
- One of the BIGGEST changes we’ve had to make in our marriage because of the military
- How military members can better support their civilian spouses in acclimating to the military lifestyle
- Some of our favorite tips around communication when your spouse is away (for the good stuff & for when you’re struggling!)
- The MOST challenging part of coming home (from deployment and TDY’s)
- And so much more
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Sometimes your marriage isn’t going to feel good.
BUT whether you feel like your relationship isn’t working, you’re simply in a rut, or things are going well, but you want them to be better - there is ONE important thing you can do to jumpstart your marriage.
This week, I want to talk about why we tend to stop taking action in our marriages (even when we know it would help!) and why loving action is the quickest and MOST IMPORTANT tool to making a shift in your marriage.
Let’s talk about the real, practical ways you can incorporate more loving actions into your daily life - and improve your marriage!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: DOD & a helpful fact about government jobs and being a military spouse
- The fastest way to get out of a cycle of unsatisfaction in your relationship
- Why we STOP taking loving action
- Examples of how you can start actively communicating love to your spouse (even when you just aren’t feeling it!)
- Two military hurdles that could get in the way of this shift - and how to work through them
- Why I am prescribing THIS to you if you are having trouble taking consistent, loving action with your spouse
- And more
Come join my “Create a Happier Military Marriage NOW” challenge: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/marriage-challenge
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Building community and connection when you’re starting over in a new place can be really tough. And it’s especially hard when you’re doing it every 2-3 years! So, what can we do to make starting over after a military move a little easier on ourselves? This week, military spouse & podcast host Alison joins me to share the good, the bad, and the ugly of “starting over” as a military spouse - and what she created to provide more support to our community during these times of transition.
We’re exploring:
- How we can support each other as military spouses during (and after!) a move
- Thinking outside the box in military life
- How Alison is contributing to the military spouse network with her podcast, The Unspoken Life of the Military Wife
- Some of the BIGGEST struggles that can come up with frequent moves, and finding resources to help!
- Moving to a new duty place as an introvert
- One of the BEST pieces of advice Alison was given when she was put on her first ship
- And so much more!
Connect with Alison on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themilspousepodcast/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Get ready for a giant permission slip as we debunk some post-deployment myths! You’re not alone if you’ve experienced pressure to fill countless desires either before or after your spouse's deployment. Get ready to set some new boundaries! In today’s episode, we are discussing decorating for homecoming, hosting family and friends, sex, cooking ALL the meals and everything in between!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: POV: What this stands for specifically as related to the Military
- How to NOT feel bad about your boundaries
- Top 5 Tips to navigate common requests in a way that feels good for both of you
- What to do if your spouse is using their return as an excuse to do ONLY the things they want to do
- Decorating for your spouse’s return and how to get signs made for free
- The psychology behind THIS does not lead to great things
- What you AREN’T responsible for when it comes to their demands
- And so much more!
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
It's easy to get caught in the magic of planning for homecoming, almost creating this fairy tale in our heads of how great it will be. I don't care how many deployments you have done, this adjustment period of reintegration can be COMPLICATED. There are not enough people talking about HOW to deepen your marriage with someone you haven’t seen or talked to in months and WHAT the appropriate preparation is. Let’s dive into this episode, where I’ll help you set realistic expectations so it can go smoothly for you.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101 - O.H.A - What this stands for and when you can use it
- Why you will have to learn how to live together again and my best tips for this
- How our expectations might not match the reality of what will happen
- The TOP questions you can start asking your spouse in the weeks leading up to their arrival
- The story of our first reintegration and how it was NOT what I expected at all
- My BEST tip that can help you avoid this type of fight altogether
- Ideas for reintegration with kids
- And so much more!
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Being a Military spouse is not your ONLY identity, but it is a big part of it. This is something that other people might not understand because they aren’t exposed to this type of lifestyle. Joining me today are Kodie and Felicia, two Military spouses who built a deep and fast relationship because of this lifestyle and have created a safe space for you to come and feel inclusive while normalizing everything that’s going on. Through curveballs that are thrown your way during deployment, negative experiences you might be going through or finding your own support system, we will cover IT ALL to help you be prepared, find friendship and have fun!
We’re exploring:
- Military 101: A.I.T: what it is and what it stands for
- How Kodie & Felicia became BFFs
- Organic Friendship and Military challenges
- How being a Military spouse impacted them professionally and personally
- Kofe Confessions and how it’s a space where comments can be demystified
- Their TOP tips for deployment and how communication plays a key role
- How knowing the stages of deployment will help you
- And so much more!
Check out Kodie & Felicia: https://msha.ke/kofeconfessions/#links
Connect with them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kofeconfessions/
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Whether you’re prepping for your first deployment or you’ve been a part of the Military for 30 years, the gift behind what Becky & Joanna have created is something we ALL can benefit from! Join us as we discuss taking deployment from a season focused on counting down the days for your spouse to return into a season where you can be focused on making every day count! Whatever season you're in, we're going to make it easier for you.
We’re diving into:
- Military 101: The term ‘down range’ and what it means if you hear the phrase
- How Becky & Joanna started their businesses and blog
- The story behind Military life bringing them to their dream career and how they had to take that first step
- An uplifting, encouraging and forward-looking space you can join (I’ll be there, too!)
- Their TOP 8 tips for getting through deployment
- Tons of free resources you can start using today
- And so much more!
Follow them on IG: https://www.instagram.com/pillardeploymentretreat/
Jo’s personal blog: https://jomygosh.com/
Get a deployment countdown box: https://bravecrates.com/
Sign up for the 2022 Retreat: https://pillardeploymentretreat.com/
Listen to workshops from 2020 & new episodes every month: https://pillardeploymentretreat.com/podcast
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Deployments are hard. ESPECIALLY if you're going in blind and trying to figure it out as you go, which is what happened with today’s guest, Meredith Snyders. She’s sharing her story about overcoming mistrust in friend circles and how she turned that negative experience around so we can benefit from it. Whether you’re looking for a distraction from the struggles of deployment or a way to admit that you’re tired of pretending to be doing great when you’re not, this episode is for you.
We’re diving into:
- Military 101 - F.O.U.O - what it stands for and when you might see this
- How normalizing Meredith’s difficulties turned into a workbook for others
- Isolating situations and relatable early experiences during deployment
- A healthy way to stay busy as a positive distraction while you’re struggling
- What can happen if you don’t feel like you have a community you can trust
- And so much more!
Get Meredith’s Book Just Stay Busy: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09RLRHMR1
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you worried about a lack of communication while your spouse is gone? Do the thoughts of dealing with challenges while they’re away bring you all sorts of uneasy feelings? Today, I will help you work around the most common communication challenges during deployment, different types of scenarios you can expect and how to maximize ALL of the options that you DO have so you can feel better, more prepared and with surprises along the way!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: FA or Field Artillery Branch
- My 4 BEST Tips for managing deployment communication
- Learning to build a strong foundation with words
- What you can do if you HAVEN’T heard from your spouse
- Who you can call on for support while your spouse is away
- Being careful what you say during deployment and my secret workaround
- And so much more!
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Whether this is your first deployment or your tenth, I want to give you a REALISTIC picture of what goes on during deployments and help you prepare to better manage them with more ease and happiness. Join me as I unpack the MOST common myths and fears associated with deployment, discuss the top things that people worry about, and debunk a few not-so-good rumors.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: Statistics of women in the Military
- Top 7 MYTHS about Deployment that you need to know about
- Discussing the TRUTH about long and short deployments
- What to do when communication feels out of your control
- How recognizing that it WILL be challenging can help you feel BETTER
- Cheating in the Military and stats that might SHOCK you
- And so much more!
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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It's one thing to miss your significant other on a normal day but another thing entirely to miss them on holidays or other important dates. Whether you’re heading into your first holiday without your spouse, are as prepared as you think you can be or have recently been totally caught off guard with it all, I can’t wait to share my tips with you! You will learn how to ask for help when you need it, set boundaries without feeling bad and figure out your own unique and special ways to feel connected while they are away.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: AOR: what it is and why it’s important
- My top 6 tips for getting through and THRIVING during the holidays
- How you can ask for support and set boundaries with those you love
- Things to look out for when it comes to arranging holiday plans
- My own deployment holiday examples and what I do NOW
- How to prioritize YOUR needs during big events (without feeling guilty)
- This ONE expectation to help you through the day
- And so much more!
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
If you’re wondering WHAT to prep for and HOW to make sure nothing gets forgotten, I’ve got you covered! From everyday decisions to the BIG life changes that can happen without warning, I’ll break down the top questions to discuss BEFORE your spouse leaves and everything in between! By the end of this episode, your deployment will run smoother, you’ll feel WAY more confident to deal with it and both of you will manage the deployment in a way that feels good.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: I'm covering theater and how it relates to the Military (it’s not where you go watch plays or musicals!)
- TOP Logistical things to set up ahead of deployment
- The secret code that my husband and I use to discuss dates (and where you can find it)
- 5 categories to cover ALL your bases before and during deployment
- From every day tasks to BIG life decisions and how to create a game plan for them all
- Examples of conversations I have with my husband before deployments, as well as some examples from my clients
- And so much more!
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Whether this is your first deployment or tenth, the news can hit hard and the challenges are all too common for us Military Spouses. Inside this episode, I will break down what you can expect during each stage of deployment while giving you my TOP tips to manage and prepare for them so it’s easier and more enjoyable for you.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: POA or power of attorney: Why you need one and when you might use one
- TOP ways to help you thrive during a deployment
- The BEST questions to ask yourself to figure out your REAL expectations
- The 5 Stages of deployment and how to prepare for each
- Common challenges that may come up and how to navigate them
- Ways to keep yourself busy but NOT burnt out while they are away
- Reintegrating once they are back home and the top challenges you can prepare for
- And so much more!
Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Welcome to the Deployment Series! Deployment doesn’t have to be a dreaded time that’s completely horrible. Although it can be difficult and there will be more on your shoulders than usual, my aim is to make it EASIER for you while ensuring that you are setting realistic expectations for this time. In this episode, I am breaking it ALL down for you so you can set yourself up for success with my best mindset shift ideas, the facts behind how we think, aligned affirmations to help you stay on track, and everything in between!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: What OPSEC is and why it’s relevant to deployment
- BONUS: Deployment Survival Guide discount and details
- The Mindset you will need for the deployment to be successful
- Top questions to ask yourself to really dig into how you’re feeling
- The BEST ways to get you from surviving to THRIVING during this time
- How changing your thoughts will make ALL the difference (and how to do it)
- And so much more!
Grab my Deployment Survival Guide eBook here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Whether you’re on a good stretch with your spouse or in the middle of a challenging phase, in this episode, you will learn how to recognize and troubleshoot the most common challenges I see in Military marriages. As a military psychologist and marriage coach for over a decade now, there are DEFINITE themes that I’ve seen as to what troubles military marriages, and the SAME things that keep popping up for many of us. I’m sharing them with you so you can make sure to avoid them and put in the right ingredients in your marriage!
I’m exploring:
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- Military 101: Cover: what it is, when it’s needed and why you might receive a panicked phone call
- Top 5 Themes to recognize and course correct in your marriage
- The MOST common pitfalls I see when it comes to expectations for your spouse
- How to have more fun with the challenges of the Military lifestyle
- Why troubleshooting what’s coming up in your marriage right now is VERY doable
- Figuring out what fuels your marriage so you can do MORE of it
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
While I am all about celebrating in the face of challenges, I absolutely want to ensure that the gravity of this holiday is always remembered and honored for what it is. Whether you are listening to this episode on Memorial Day or not, I want to help you understand this holiday and the small ways you can honor it on your own.. It’s normal to want to celebrate the start of summer and at the same time, it’s important to remember the gravity of the day that we are celebrating and what it actually means. I’ll be discussing all of this and more while sharing my best quick tips on deepening the connection with your spouse at the same time!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101 - The history of Memorial Day
- Valuing the duality of this holiday
- 5 most powerful (yet small) ways to acknowledge the importance of Memorial Day
- My BEST quick ideas to love up on your spouse today (and every day!)
- Why the small thank-yous go a long way
- Gold Star Families and other organizations you can support
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Has there been an incident of mistrust recently? Infidelity? Or maybe something from your previous relationship is creeping back in. Whether you are the jealous one or your spouse is, I’m going to tackle both angles inside this episode. I want to make sure you have the tools to work through to the core issue, so it doesn't negatively impact your marriage. While jealousy is normal, I’ll show you how to handle it in a healthy way that will be beneficial to BOTH parties in the long run, while sharing my journey AND giving you my tried and true tips to work through this.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: EFMP: A program that provides comprehensive support to family members with special needs
- -Why jealousy in and of itself is an important emotion that serves a purpose
- -EXACTLY how I overcame infidelity and jealousy in my relationships
- -4 steps to navigate jealousy in your marriage
- -TOP questions to ask yourself or your spouse to get to the CORE issue
- -Alternative ways to let out the negative energy without ruining a special moment
- -And SO much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you stuck in a season of feeling completely lost? Your role as a military spouse is clear, but do you spend a lot of time trying to figure out WHO you are BEYOND being a wife and mother while navigating HOW to find a deeper sense of purpose in this military lifestyle? If so, you’re not alone. Joining me today is Christine Hinrichs, and she knows exactly what that feels like. Get ready to hear ALL the tips on how to turn your life around, find a purpose that fits YOUR current phase and reclaim your unique dreams without settling.
We’re exploring:
- -Military 101: Challenge coins: What they are and why you receive them
- -How to find yourself again when you can no longer follow your career path
- -The BEST questions to ask yourself to find meaning and purpose in your life
- -What you can do if you’re in a season of feeling frustrated with where you’re at
- -The evolution from a blog to a podcast and what the entrepreneurial path looked like for Christine
- -WHY entrepreneurship is an attractive option for our military lifestyle
- -The importance of choosing fulfillment over ease when building a business
- -How your thoughts can be negatively impacting the narrative between you and your spouse
- And so much more!
Connect with Christine on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/milspousemastermind/
Get Christine’s Free Growth Wheel: https://milspousemastermind.com/growthwheel/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The overwhelm of meal prep is real especially when your spouse is gone or you have other things going on (aka, ALWAYS!).
If you’re anything like me, you are definitely not taking an entire Sunday to chop and prep your food for the week. No matter how hard I try, I know it just isn’t going to happen.
Joining me today is the amazing Heather Campbell, who is an amazing advocate for military families who are struggling with food insecurity, as well as just getting meals on the table at times.
If you’re ready to get intentional with your nutrition, make better decisions that are REALISTIC for your family, while creating more space in your life, we got you covered!
What does this have to do with military marriage? I find that taking things off your plate, like meal prep or planning, opens up so much more space you can dedicate to your marriage and your family so it is a win-win
In this episode, Heather and I explore:
- -What is food insecurity and how Heather is creating a much-needed change for our community
- -TOP Healthy eating tips for our Military lifestyle
- -How decision automation with your meals and marriage go hand in hand
- -Intentionality and planning to avoid failure on the plate and in your marriage
- -Why second-guessing needs to stop, and how to move on (without guilt)
- -The magic in making meal prep feasible by limiting decision fatigue
- And so much more!
Connect with Heather on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/glorynutrition/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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If you feel angry at the Military from time to time, congratulations, you are human and we’ve all been there! In today’s episode, I’m sharing with you HOW to move through your anger instead of making yourself feel wrong. Whether you’re isolating yourself from others, feeling resentful towards your spouse or the Military right now, let’s do something about it so you can have the tools to get to the root cause and manage these feelings without further impact on your marriage.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: FRG: What this is and how you can benefit from participating in these events
- Why you should book your FREE call with me right now!
- How negativity can be impacting you in different ways
- My TOP 5 Tips to dealing with your anger
- The reason why figuring out what’s UNDERNEATH your anger is the key to your transformation
- How to use humor to take the edge off (without being sarcastic)
- Real examples from my journey as a Military spouse
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Married to Military was created to talk about the good AND the bad, to share my struggles so people wouldn't go through them. I wanted to strip everything down to build it up to something stronger and sturdier, to make this life that we are living just a little bit easier. Thank YOU so much for listening, you are a big part of this exciting milestone, and I feel really lucky to be part of your world! To celebrate, we have a huge GIVEAWAY going on right now. Tune in to find out how you can win the prizes ranging from gift cards for a date night to a private 1:1 session and so much more!
I’m exploring:
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- Military 101: USPO: Who they are, what they do and the resources they provide Military and family members
- What our MTM Podcast prizes are and how you can enter to win
- The first steps in figuring out what you TRULY want in your life and how to go for it
- How to go from thinking about doing something to actually pulling it off and bringing it to life
- Top 5 ways to get started in achieving your goals
- The sweet sauce in figuring out how to make your Military situation work for you and your dreams
- What I’ve learned from doing this podcast and what’s possible for us Military spouses
- How practicing what I preach improved my marriage alongside my listeners
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And so much more!
Graphics to share for the Giveaway: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/married-to-military-anniversary
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you finding it difficult to keep your career or achieve your own personal dreams while being a military spouse? The most common thing I hear from the women I speak with is the growing unfulfillment or difficulty in this department. So, how can you prioritize your boundaries, be open to opportunity AND find your success in a lifestyle that isn’t traditional? We’re breaking ALL of that down for you today with Married To Military’s very first international spouse, the founder of Mothers of Enterprise, Suzy Olivier.
We’re exploring:
- How becoming a Military spouse forced Suzy down this alternative path and into unbelievable success
- A look at how the Military has allowed us to do things we never thought we would EVER do
- Why YOUR life lessons have special insight into what you’re REALLY capable of
- Recognizing if you’re trading time for money and what you can do about it today
- Figuring out how to make your personal dreams achievable with the Military lifestyle
- Why flexibility is the MOST important factor to remember when it comes to YOUR opportunity
- Top tips for starting your own business or are feeling unfulfilled in your current work situation
- And so much more!
Mothers of Enterprise: https://www.mothersofenterprise.com/
Connect with Suzy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mothersofenterprise/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Do you feel like you’re competing against something that you will never win in your relationship, have recently discovered a form of deception or are in a potentially unhealthy dynamic? Get ready to discuss a topic that is so necessary AND taboo, which is why people don't talk about it much. You will feel inspired by the vulnerability and courage of our guest, Katie, as she shares both the truth AND the path to discovering her solution, as she went from knowing that her marriage was crumbling to a marriage that is even stronger than before.
We’re exploring:
- The specific problems Katie and her husband ran into and how she discovered his truth
- What you can do if your world shatters and you feel like you’re being lied to
- How to stop yourself from going back into cycle of insanity and how Katie found support throughout the healing process
- What you can (and should) do for YOU if your self-esteem or self-confidence feels shattered
- Why the ‘issue’ could actually be a deeper problem that is out of your control
- When the power dynamic switches and you fill more than one role in your relationship, WHY this isn’t sustainable
- Katie’s TOP tips for going through something hard right now (no matter what phase you’re in)
- Why setting boundaries in hard times sometimes means giving your spouse their ‘stuff’ back
- And so much more!
The group Katie attended: Unintended Journey at North Coast Church in Vista, CA
The leader is Marlene who can be reached at 760-497-8662
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone and it wasn't going anywhere? Like it felt like you were pulling teeth, and working really hard just to keep it going? You’re not alone! We all know that we need every little bit of time that we can get when our spouses are deployed. In today’s episode, I will deep dive into my FAVORITE questions that I personally use and encourage all my clients to use, to deepen your communication and connection with your spouse. You will learn how to make the MOST out of the time that you do have while understanding which types of questions to ask, which to avoid and so much more!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: TDY orders: What this means and why keeping receipts for these TDY orders is very important
- 5 Questions to improve your connection and understanding to make your marriage stronger
- Why the type of questions you ask will determine the quality of the engagement that you get in return
- How the quality of conversations with our spouses change over time and what you can do about it today
- The problem with closed and transactional conversation
- THIS type of question to ask that will lead to a better conversation
- Couples who ask THESE types of questions have greater intimacy in their relationship
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Connection to your spouse means something different for everyone. Today I’m sharing my BEST tips to help you deepen your connection and start feeling supported, loved and valued while also reciprocating this to your spouse at the same time. Whether you’re looking at deployment or an overseas move, if you and your spouse are not on the same page, everything can become 1000 times more difficult. Being more connected is not only a good thing for your marriage but SUPER important for surviving this military life. Join me as I break down 3 QUICK tweaks, my top tips and sharing examples along the way.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: Are we or are we not supposed to talk about our spouse’s rank? I’m breaking this all down for you
- Small things you can do to feel more connected to your spouse right now
- How your love language can play an important role
- Why connection impacts your communication and how to fix this if it’s not where you want it to be
- Top 3 tweaks with FAST action steps you can do today for each
- The connection between household chores and a healthy sex life
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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We’ve all heard about mindset work, right, but what does that REALLY mean? If you’re wondering WHAT inner work you can be doing to make a difference in your marriage and life, let me break that down for you! Join me as I share what it means to do the work in your own military life and tangible tools you can use while answering some of the MOST popular questions I get on this topic. Learning this will help you if you want to feel more like a priority with your spouse, don’t like your duty station and so much more!
I’m exploring:
Military 101- Boards: all the little things that go into making a promotion
- The reason why most people aren’t doing their mindset work
- What exactly IS the mindset work that will make a difference in your life and marriage
- 4 BEST mindset tools you can start using today
- There’s no one-size-fits-all to mindset work and how this can look different for everyone
- Why the HOW isn’t important when it comes to your daily mindset routine
- The BIG celebration announcement that is happening next week!
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Is overwhelm impacting your marriage? Do you find yourself snapping at your spouse, stuck in one of those seasons where you feel like you’re over your head and everything’s too much? It’s such a common thing, particularly in this military world of ours. EVERY marriage has its challenges, even the healthy ones. In today’s episode, I’m sharing ONE game-changing tip that’s more effective than 100 put together. Get ready to feel better and lighter to get through this lifestyle.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: What geo batching stands for and why one might find themselves in this type of scenario
- The catch 22 that happens to us all with overwhelm in our marriage (and how to navigate around it)
- How to get yourself out of overwhelm if you’re there right now
- The ONE tip you could do that will bring you MORE results faster
- Why the pandemic has made this worse for us
- Top physical impacts of being overwhelmed and how this can show up in your body
- How using the one tip to reduce overwhelm can look different for everyone
- The two stigmas you might come across when taking action to reduce overwhelm in your marriage
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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As Military Spouses, we have a lot on our plate, from making sure that the family is okay to keeping everything together so that our spouses can go and do their job well. Joining me today is Moni, Founder and CEO of AMSE, and we’re going to break down how YOU can get what you want from life and your career while being a Military Spouse. The growing number of women who are unfulfilled in their careers, are unable to find work or who don’t feel like they’re meeting their own needs is ever-increasing, which is why our special guest has created an entire organization to change that.
We’re exploring:
- Military 101- Military IDs: the benefits, facts, expiry tips and more
- A new way to look at certain benefits of the military that you might take for granted but are incredible
- Examples of places you can ask for Military discounts
- The ‘elephant in the room’ for a growing number of Military Spouses
- Mindset changes that need to happen in society
- The stigma that Milspouses receive (and don’t deserve)
- Why the unemployment rate for military spouses is the highest of any population that exists
- Biggest challenges Milspouses face in terms of career or business
- Top tips if you’re starting your own business or are unhappy in your current work situation
- And so much more!
Connect with AMSE: https://amseagency.com
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The Military trains our service members to be defensive, so if you’re feeling trapped in not knowing HOW to make progress with your spouse in certain scenarios, THIS episode is for you. I want to help you diffuse the situation on both ends by teaching you my top tips and tools to handle it all. Whether you’re the one who gets defensive or your spouse is the defensive one, I will help you understand how to get to a healthy resolution faster while coming from a loving place.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: What the GI Bill is and how you can use it
- How to NOT push back when you feel like you’re being criticized, blamed or threatened in some way
- What the Gottman Institute identification of defensiveness is and how you can use it to your benefit
- Top 3 tips for managing defensiveness in the most common military marriage scenarios
- The ‘burger’ technique that I teach my clients and how this can help YOUR marriage today
- 3 Things to think about FIRST when a problem arises with your spouse
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Whether you’re looking at a new duty station, are nervous about making new friendships, or are wondering how you will manage it all on your own, this episode is for you! Joining me today is Caitlin, a lifestyle content creator and influencer, also known as The Kindred Ginger. Together we will help you see the greater purpose and sense of belonging that’s waiting for you to discover in your current location. From plans of dual military to finding balance and blessings in tough situations, we are opening your eyes to see how each place you are in now is where you are supposed to be at this EXACT point in your life.
We’re exploring:
- Tips on how to use the Military network to your benefit
- Biggest blessings of the Military family and what you can use to your advantage today
- Why it’s important to normalize whatever role the Military is playing in your life right now (and why that’s OK)
- Other ways YOU can serve from right where you are
- Our favorite part about being a Military Spouse
- Tips for staying positive on social media
- Why seeking out knowledge to support you can make or break the deployment
- How you can vent and still lead to positive outcomes
- And so much more!
Follow and connect with Caitlin on Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/thekindredginger/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The military gives us extra stuff to fight about, like changing schedules, frequent moves, long periods apart, and voluntary deployments. The GOOD NEWS is that today I’m sharing proven and simple methods you can do that are within your control. I’ll guide you through making negative moments easier, how to be on the receiving end of more compliments and ways to add more celebration into your relationship.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101: The importance of school liaisons, so you can utilize them and the resources that exist
- Simple ways to celebrate with your spouse that doesn’t cost money
- The type of celebration that is proven to enhance a marriage
- 8 Simple and positive interactions you can do for a happier marriage
- THIS experiment led to a 90% accuracy in predicting which couples would stay together and which would end in a divorce (and what you can do about it today).
- The proven MAGIC ratio to a happy marriage
- And so much more!
Join my FREE 5 day challenge: Create a Happier Marriage Now: https://lindsaycavanagh.ac-page.com/Military_Spouse_Hacks_EVENT
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Often as a Military Spouse and the life that we have, we feel so powerless and have little control over so many things. This is why I’m sharing my best hack that you need to do NOW! Not only will it help your marriage, communication and happiness, but my favorite part is that it’s something YOU have 100% control over! This hack brings me a lot of power in my position as a Military spouse making our marriage easier as we navigate this journey, and I’m so excited to share it with you today!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101- Financial planning and interest-free loans to help you cover unexpected expenses
- What conscious thought and inner work is required from you (and why you might want to resist this)
- The importance of your small mindset ‘tweaks’ that contribute to getting YOUR partner to change
- The BEST thing you can do for your marriage and specific questions to ask yourself
- A positive mindset switch when looking at deployment and how this will drastically help you get through it
- How to identify and eliminate the element of self-sabotage that could be keeping you stuck
- 3 tips you can do TODAY to bring a positive change into your Military relationship
- And so much more!
Join my FREE 5 day challenge: Create a Happier Marriage Now: https://lindsaycavanagh.ac-page.com/Military_Spouse_Hacks_EVENT
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
There’s no one size fits all when it comes to marriages and we all have our moments. Joining me today is Bree Carroll, an advocate to strengthen military marriages and the woman behind our newest Armed Forces holiday! Whether you’re looking for resources that we’ve seen work ourselves or want to hear specific advice on what it takes to have a successful relationship, you’re not going to want to miss this episode! It’s time to start normalizing the feelings and ALL the moving parts too, right?!
We’re exploring:
- Highlighting the realities behind what military marriages go through
- REAL eye-opening stats about military marriages and how we want to help change this
- Why each new season you’re in provides you with a new opportunity to be your most authentic self
- How to feel like you’re succeeding and keeping a positive attitude as a Military Spouse
- Our TOP ideas on how leadership can help change the culture of military marriages
- Challenges that we want to normalize by raising our hand
- And so much more!
Connect with Bree: www.breecarroll.com
Access resources and learn about the Military Marriage Day with Bree: www.militarymarriageday.com
Join my FREE 5 day challenge: Create a Happier Marriage Now: https://lindsaycavanagh.ac-page.com/Military_Spouse_Hacks_EVENT
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
No one really enjoys fighting with their spouse, but we all do it from time to time, right? Instead of making your marriage stronger, though, fights can often leave one or both of you feeling hurt and sometimes feel like it actually made things worse. But there is a BETTER way to face disagreements with your spouse so that you can minimize how big they get and ensure that you actually get positive outcomes from them. So join me in today’s episode where I’m breaking down what the point of your arguments SHOULD be, how to decrease them BEFORE they start, and ONE easy way to do this that will make a big difference in how you fight. You don’t have to wait until your marriage is on life support to start making some of these changes, let’s dive in now!
I’m exploring:
- Military 101 - The ins and outs of leave
- What to do if you get stuck focusing on the little details of an argument
- How to make sure you’re fixing the RIGHT problem while still addressing your hurt
- The 3 types of arguments and how to make sure the amount of damage that occurs is as minimal as possible
- My top tips to making sure you get to a positive outcome from your disagreements or fights
- THESE 2 approaches that will help to decrease conflict between you and your spouse (it’s worked in my marriage as well as with 100s of my clients!)
- How to get to a solution that allows both of you to coexist and have your needs met without the silent treatment, getting defensive, or keeping it all to yourself
- And so much more!
If you want to take your marriage from good to great, I would love to help support you to get there.
Join my FREE 5 day challenge: Create a Happier Marriage Now: https://lindsaycavanagh.ac-page.com/Military_Spouse_Hacks_EVENT
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Krista got the call. The one every single one of us dreads, the absolute worst-case scenario. Join us inside this courageous conversation where she shares the unimaginable tragedy and how she created something so beautiful from it. Together, we will discuss the resources available to you in these situations, how to normalize moving through feelings of healing while reminding you to have the difficult planning conversations now so you can both be prepared for anything.
We’re exploring:
- How to give yourself grace when you feel the need to be strong all the time
- The ways the military community kept showing up for Krista when her direct connection to the military was gone
- Foundations and organizations every military spouse should be aware of for support on this journey
- Top questions to ask your spouse, so you both can have an extreme understanding should something happen to either one of you
- Resources to reach out to if you’re experiencing financial hardship
- Top 4 tips to thrive in our role as a military spouse for ultimate preparation
- And so much more!
The Military Life Binder : https://www.listandfile.com/
Keeper Security password manager: https://www.keepersecurity.com/
The Unquiet Professional, making noise for those who serve: https://www.theunquietprofessional.org/
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/44943126970086
As a military spouse, stress and anxiety kind of come with the territory, right? We may not always talk about it, that doesn’t mean that it’s not there, so let’s start normalizing it! Whether it’s an upcoming deployment, the inability to plan, unpredictable schedules, or worst of all: the fear of losing your spouse in the line of duty, I want to help you manage these stressors as much as possible. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my 7 BEST tips for managing your stress and anxiety while strengthening your partnership and a few things to avoid along the way.
I’m exploring:
- Military 101 - Leave and how it works (so you don’t lose any!)
- How to manage specific anxiety and fears that accompany military life
- What you can do to make sure you're as prepared as possible to handle what’s coming in the future
- The major life events happening to us and how to navigate the feelings associated with them
- How to manage the stress of the unimaginable and the risks we don’t really talk about
- The physical symptoms of stress and anxiety you may have and what you can do about it
- And much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The new year is a great time to figure out what you want to change, but also what you want to stay the same. And if you feel like rigid resolutions don’t work for you, don’t worry! In this episode, I’m sharing 5 SIMPLE and EASY ways to set you (and your marriage) up for the MOST successful 2022—so you can have a fun and positive year regardless of what the military sends your way!
I’m exploring:
- How to create simple & positive habits that will serve you all year long
- Why this ONE shift can be the most powerful thing you do for yourself this year
- What a little decluttering can do for your mental well-being (and your marriage, too!)
- Setting small goals that nurture you and your marriage
- Why you need to audit how you spend your time—and how to create boundaries when things aren’t serving you
- My favorite SIMPLE ways to bring positivity to your year
- And much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
The holiday season presents many challenges when you’re Married to Military. From deployments to pressure from family to visit, there are so many decisions to make, and it can feel really overwhelming. Been there? In this episode, I’m sharing all of my tips and tricks to overcome any family frustrations, my FAVORITE ways to keep communication open between you & your spouse, and the TOP 5 ways you can bring joy into your holiday season!
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: TSP (Thrift Savings Plan)
- How to manage BIG feelings that get magnified by the holidays
- Why THIS is one of the most common arguments during the holidays (and how to work through it!)
- My 3 BEST recommendations to help tackle feelings of frustration
- 7 things to try when you want to support someone whose spouse is deployed
- And much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you looking for guidance on how to create change in your military relationship, but you’re nervous to reach out? This is so common, and that’s why I’m EXTRA excited to share this special episode with you! Join me for a behind the scenes look at an actual Military Marriage Breakthrough Call to see just how much this FREE and CONFIDENTIAL consultation can help you through any challenges in your marriage. You’ll hear more about how I assess your relationship concerns, ways to determine what you need & want from your partner (and vice versa), and how to clearly communicate these in a way that builds a blueprint for a successful and strong military marriage.
Are you ready to have the military marriage of your dreams? Let’s get started! Connect with me for your FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
What qualities do you value in a good friend? After talking with last week’s guest, Suzie Humphrey, about cultivating milspo friendships, I felt inspired to dive deeper into what it takes to create quality friendships (especially in this Married to Military life!). In this episode, I'm digging into why making friends as an adult can feel downright difficult, as well as my TOP TIPS to establish friendships that make a difference for you—because YOU are worthy of fulfilling & quality relationships in your life!
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: Leave blocks
- What the research says about friendships (and the significant ways having quality friendships can benefit you!)
- The pros and cons of technology and online friendships
- How to get REALLY clear about what you’re looking for in a friend (and why you should know this BEFORE you start meeting people)
- Overcoming some of the common obstacles that pop up when making friends—and how to get on the path to friendship opportunities
- Why this ONE thing can make all the difference in your new (or old!) friendships
- Everything you need to know about my upcoming Marriage Communication 101 Masterclass
- And much more!
Sign up for my Marriage Communication 101 Masterclass: https://lindsaycavanagh.ac-page.com/marriage-communication-101-sales-page
Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
It can be a struggle to create quality friendships as an adult, let alone as a military spouse that moves all the time. Have you felt this way? I definitely have, and so has my guest (and amazing, supportive friend) Suzie Humphrey. As the team lead for Naval Services FamilyLine’s CORE (Continuum of Resources and Education) in San Diego, she’s educating military spouses about all of the available supports for when things feel hard. In this episode, Suzie shares how to be intentional about meeting new people, her #1 tip to take the first step, and why having kids (or not!) shouldn’t limit your invitations to hang out.
We’re exploring:
- How her experiences as both an Air Force kid and a Navy wife have influenced her
- Why cultivating friendships is KEY to a happier marriage
- What happened the first time she attended a spouse club (and why I love them!)
- Suzie’s decision to be child-free (and what this means for her friendships)
- ONE thing I wish I would’ve known way earlier as a military spouse
- And much more!
Contact Suzie Humphrey: Coresandiegoteamlead@nsfamilyline.org
Resources mentioned in this episode:
San Diego CORE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/coresandiego
Naval Services FamilyLine: https://www.nsfamilyline.org
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Have you ever felt lonely? It is SO COMMON to feel loneliness when you’re Married to Military—and this emotion won’t be going away anytime soon. So, what can we do about it? In this episode, I’m sharing 4 simple tips to help you manage loneliness in a way that is productive & healthy, some SURPRISING statistics about loneliness, and why I wish we acknowledged (and normalized) our lonely feelings.
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: Military spouse clubs
- The relationship between feeling disconnected and feeling lonely
- Why loneliness can have huge consequences (and how to ask for help!)
- How holiday gatherings impact feelings of loneliness
- Why a social media break might be just what you need
- And much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you prepared to take on the curveballs of being Married to Military? Do you need help managing the emotions that come with this unpredictable lifestyle? Look no further! In this episode, I’m sharing my TOP 6 tips to manage the inevitable curveballs military life throws at spouses, so you can overcome these challenges in a way that is beneficial to you AND your marriage.
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: Military OneSource
- What a military curveball looks like (and some of the crazy ones I’ve experienced lately!)
- Productive ways to stand in the truth of your feelings
- Why keeping a team mindset is CRUCIAL when the curveballs come
- The ULTIMATE curveball that has changed our family’s trajectory (and the new reality it brings)
- Why you shouldn’t feel guilty asking for help (so give yourself some grace!)
- And much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
You don’t get a manual when you become a military spouse, but sometimes we wish there were! That’s how this week’s guest, Callie Meredith, felt last year when she became a milspo, so she created the resource she was looking for! With her podcast, Call to Marriage, Callie strives to be a positive, knowledgeable resource for new spouses trying to figure out this crazy life.
We’re exploring:
- Married to Military 101: Bases—what they are, what kinds of things you can expect from them, and my top tips for when you get to a new one
- Callie’s experience and struggles as a new military spouse
- The stigma around milspos vs the reality we found
- What to do when rank issues come into play while looking for support
- Callie’s biggest tips for surviving (and even finding the fun in!) military spouse life
- Two significant crazy events around her wedding day that really taught her
- Several benefits we experience through the challenges of this crazy life
- And so much more!
Connect with Callie:
https://instagram.com/calltomarriage
https://www.tiktok.com/@calltomarriage
Check out her podcast, Call to Marriage, wherever you listen to podcasts
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Need some ideas to help make military life a little easier? Want to know how to keep the important parts of your identity (and values!) alive? My guest this week is seasoned military spouse Ali Simon. As a Navy FTS wife, mom, and teacher-turned-contractor, she has learned a thing or two along the way, and she’s joining me to talk more about her journey. In this episode, Ali dives into the difference between active and reserve duty (and how she transitioned between the two), she gives her BEST advice to prioritize the parts of your identity that matter MOST, and her TOP 2 tips to help any milspos out there who are struggling with the challenges of being Married to Military.
We’re exploring:
- Married to Military 101: GS Jobs
- Why Ali struggled to balance her teaching career with military life—and the #1 thing that helped her through
- What she believes is the new path for working military spouses
- Why doing THIS can help make your marriage so much easier!
- And much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
What kinds of things do you look forward to? What makes you excited to wake up in the morning? These things are an important part of your identity—but many military spouses struggle to come up with them! Can you relate? In this episode, I’m diving into why it’s so important to prioritize the other parts of your identity (beyond your career!) that make YOU feel good, and my TOP TIPS to help fill your cup when it starts to get low!
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: Soldiers and Sailors Relief Act (SSRA)
- How being Married to Military impacts ALL parts of your identity
- A visualization activity to help you identify what is MOST important to your identity—and get your needs met!
- How to start the conversation with your spouse to keep your cup full (especially during deployment)
- And much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Having one active duty spouse is hard, but what about when both spouses are in the military? My guest today is Padgy Soltis, a mom, Marine, and author of the children's book “Volveré De Nuevo - I Will Come Back." She's been navigating the challenges of the dual military lifestyle since meeting her husband (who's also in the Marines) and adding two young kids to the mix. In this episode, Padgy shares how to keep close bonds when you or your spouse are deployed, the small ways to make a BIG impact on your kids when you're away, and why she's made the decision to exit the military after 11 years.
We're exploring:
- Why building a strong community is CRUCIAL when you’re dual military with kids
- The positive ways they've been impacted by the military
- Padgy’s TOP advice for any dual military couples out there
- Why they set boundaries for their quality time (and stick to them!)
- How her experiences inspired her to write “Volveré De Nuevo - I Will Come Back” - plus, a special reading by Padgy!
- And much more!
Connect with Padgy Soltis!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/padgyyyy/
Get your copy of “Volveré De Nuevo - I Will Come Back” by Padgy Soltis: https://www.amazon.com/Volveré-Nuevo-Will-Come-Back/dp/1736768425
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Imagine having the life and career you desire, while also being a supportive military spouse. You CAN have it all, and my guest this week—career coach, CEO, podcast host, and military spouse, Danielle Cobo—shares her amazing advice to help you achieve it! In this episode, we dive into what it takes to stay supportive in a military relationship, why resentment should be talked about more (because it is SO common!), and Danielle’s TOP TIPS to help YOU reach your career potential as a military spouse!
We’re exploring:
- Married to MIlitary 101: Bootcamp
- The sacrifices both Danielle and her husband were willing to make for their dreams
- All about her VIRAL Christmas card
- How you can find the BEST version of yourself during deployment
- A simple and easy way to shift your mindset
- The POWER of connecting to the military spouse community
- And so much more!
Connect with Danielle:
Check out her podcast “Dream Job with Danielle Cobo” wherever you stream your podcasts!
Instagram: www.instagram.com/TheDanielleCobo
Facebook: www.facebook.com/TheDanielleCobo
Good Morning America article on The Cobo’s viral Christmas card: https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/family/story/mom-edits-christmas-card-photo-include-military-husband-67490447
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
If you want to know more about making the transition out of the military easier, this episode is for you! I’m digging deeper into this topic with my special guest and fellow military psychologist, Dr. Mardi Smith. Mardi has worked specifically with both active duty and veterans since 2009, and she has TONS of amazing advice to share with you to make retiring from the military as easy as possible! Tune in to hear the MOST common theme among people about to retire from the military, how to prepare for the challenges that arise, and her BEST tips to make your relationship a priority as you move on to the next phase of your lives together.
We’re exploring:
- Married to Military 101: Military disability
- Why doing THIS will help your retirement be more successful
- Overcoming the struggles of transitioning to day-to-day normalcy
- What Mardi believes EVERY military spouse should do during retirement
- Her #1 tip for military couples preparing for transitions
- And so much more!
You CAN have the marriage you truly desire! Sign up for my FREE 5 Day Challenge: Create a Happier Marriage Now starting October 4th at 3 PM EST: https://lindsaycavanagh.ac-page.com/create-a-happy-military-marriage-in-5-days-challenge?test=true:
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Retiring from the military is a BIG milestone that can have an even BIGGER impact on you and your spouse's lives. Want to know how to prepare for this inevitable event? It's never too early to start thinking about it! In this episode, I'm digging into what to expect when your spouse retires, how to take care of yourself as you go through it, and my TOP TIPS to help make the transition to civilian life as smooth as possible.
I'm exploring:
- Married to Military 101: Veteran Transition Assistance Program (TAP)
- What the research says about celebrating your retirement (or any positive thing that is happening in your life!)
- How to prepare yourself (and your spouse) for the emotional toll of leaving the military
- Why having full control of your life again can be so overwhelming - and what to do about it!
- Finding a new community when you're no longer active duty
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Military spouses have to be the flexible ones in the relationship, and this expectation can make it really hard to maintain and thrive in a career. It’s no surprise that I consistently hear that this is the one of the most difficult aspects of being a military spouse! In this episode, I’m sharing my BEST advice to overcome the challenges milspos face when balancing a career with the demands of military life, because it's time for you to reap the amazing benefits of a fun and fulfilling career!
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: Post-9/11 GI Bill
- The differences between a career and a job
- My TOP TIPS to get the career you want
- How to tend to the emotional toll of balancing career and military life
- The #1 thing to AVOID when you are feeling resentful or frustrated (this is so important!)
- And so much more!
Take your military relationship to the next level at the virtual Military Marriage Fest™! Register here: https://www.theresaalexis.com/mmf/
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
If you’re a military spouse, you know first hand how hard it can be to stay motivated when things feel tough. My guest this week, Elizabeth Smith, has a message for you—you CAN thrive through the challenges of military life! As an Air Force wife and host of The American MilSpouse podcast, she’s giving military spouses an outlet to share their stories and be heard. Tune in this week as she dives into her passion for empowering milspo experiences, what she’s learned from the amazing military spouse community, and the importance of doing what makes YOU happy in order to be the best version of yourself in your relationship.
We’re exploring:
- How her podcast has allowed her to speak less and listen more
- Why military life should only be a piece of your identity
- What we both realized about being a stay at home parent (and what to do about parent guilt)
- The ONE thing Elizabeth wants all military spouses to remember
- Some EXCITING things to look forward to in Season 2 of The American MilSpouse podcast
- And so much more!
Connect with Elizabeth Smith:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theamericanmilspouse/
Check out The American MilSpouse podcast wherever you stream your podcasts!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Have you heard of the post-PCS funk? This is the period after you’ve moved in, your checklist is done, you're ready to get to normal life, but you still feel stuck in the transition. Been there? Me too! In this episode, I’m normalizing this hard period after moving (or deployment) with some of my BEST tips to kick post-PCS funk to the curb, so you can take control of your feelings and settle into your new home faster!
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: PCS term - UAB
- Why you AND your spouse can experience a funk after a move (and why they might look different!)
- The TOP 3 things you can do to beat the post-PCS funk
- My FAVORITE way to reframe your funky feelings
- What it looks like to give yourself grace through this tough period
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-assessment-call
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The situation in Afghanistan is truly devastating. So many active duty service members, veterans, and their families have been affected by this 20-year war—some giving the ultimate sacrifice—and they are struggling to come to terms with how the events are unfolding. This week’s special episode is not just for military spouses, but for ANYONE who is (or was) a part of the military family. I’m sharing important advice to help you be open with loved ones who are struggling with suicidal thoughts (whether they show it or not.) I’ll also dig deeper into what it means to create safe communication spaces, how to do it, and why even small gestures can make a huge impact for someone struggling with a burden.
Never struggle alone! Check out these helpful resources for support:
TAPS military survivor helpline: 800-959-TAPS (8277) or email info@taps.org to be connected w/ grief & trauma resources for Gold Star families
Military OneSource: 800-342-9647 to speak w/ a consultant on their 24/7 hotline
Veteran Crisis Hotline: 800-273-8255 & press 1 or text 838255 to receive confidential support 24/7
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255 - Lifeline provides 24/7, free & confidential support
You can also reach out to your local chaplain or base MFLAC (Military & Family Life Coaching) for free & confidential support
Other affordable resources can be found through TalkSpace or BetterHelp, who both offer virtual talk therapy over text, video, & phone at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy
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Being a mom and a military spouse can be SO hard—and you’re not alone if you feel this way! My guest this week is a mom of three, submariner wife, and host of the podcast Keep Calm Mother On!, Christy Thomas. Christy’s on a mission to remind moms everywhere that they are not alone in their experiences. In this episode, she shares about the unique world of being married to a submariner, how motherhood factors into Married to Military life, and why she wants all military spouses (and moms!) to remember that YOU are amazing—give yourselves the credit you deserve!
We’re exploring:
- Married to Military 101: CoC (Change of Command)
- The #1 communication challenge Christy and her husband face during deployment (and her creative tips to overcome it)
- Christy’s TOP 2 tricks to easily manage your emotions when your spouse is gone
- How to give your kids space to express themselves (and what to try if they don’t like talking about their emotions)
- Her 3 FAVORITE parts of being Married to Military
- And so much more!
Connect with Christy Thomas!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/everyday_runner_christy/
Check out her podcast Keep Calm Mother On!: https://everydaymotherhood.libsyn.com
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/227092-free-married-to-military-marriage-assessment-call
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We can’t talk about relationships without first addressing the most important one—the relationship you have with yourself! Practicing self-love can improve SO MANY aspects of your Married to Military life. Want to know more? In this episode, I’m digging into ALL of the benefits of loving yourself, how to keep the TOP 3 barriers from holding you back, and my BEST tips to turn your self-love journey into an exciting adventure filled with things that feel good to YOU!
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101 - TRICARE Prime vs. TRICARE Select
- What the research shows about people who hold high levels of self-love
- Why it’s so risky to put the responsibility of love on your partner
- How to reach your potential by replacing self-criticism with self-love
- Practical examples of what self-love REALLY looks like
- How to take action towards loving yourself (and why it’s different for everyone!)
- The sacrifices I’ve made being Married to Military (and why I don’t let them determine my self-worth)
- My #1 tip to prioritize loving acts for yourself—plus, inexpensive ways to start loving yourself right NOW!
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/227092-free-married-to-military-marriage-assessment-call
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Do you feel like you’ve lost some of your self-identity as a military spouse? Are you looking to rediscover your independence and still be a supportive partner? Being Married to Military can REALLY challenge your identity, and it’s a common theme that weaves its way into many military relationships (my own included!) In this episode, I’m diving into some of the self-identity frustrations military spouses experience, as well as my TOP 5 tips to reclaim your uniqueness—so you can be proud of yourself AND your spouse status!
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: PCS Terms - HHG and POV
- Why you are MORE than just a dependent
- The limitations of being a military spouse with a career (and how to make it work!)
- How to let the good parts of being Married to MIlitary really shine through
- The strategy I LOVE to help visualize your career & life goals
- Why grief is such a common (and normal) feeling for military spouses
- And so much more!
Connect with me for a FREE Married to Military Marriage Assessment Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/227092-free-married-to-military-marriage-assessment-call
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Have you found it difficult to balance your career with being a military spouse? You’re not alone! Many military spouses struggle to find a career they love that can also keep up with the demands of military life. My guest this week, realtor and Coast Guard wife Laurel Arenivar, is taking on the challenge and following her dreams to build her realty business—even when her family has to PCS! In this episode, Laurel shares why she never thought she’d be Married to Military, how she’s getting creative to expand her client network, and her TOP TIPS to pursue your career goals anywhere the military takes you!
We’re exploring:
- How Laurel’s using her PCS experiences to fill a realty niche (and connect with other military families)
- Why being honest & vulnerable can be so hard in military spouse communities
- How her Facebook group is helping real estate professionals level up their inclusion & anti-racism practices
- The KEY to having a successful career AND a healthy relationship
- And so much more!
Connect with Laurel Arenivar:
Your Home is Here Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your.home.is.here/
Get her FREE downloadable guide for home buyers, geared specifically towards military families: https://mailchi.mp/196435df02e0/free-resource
Join her Facebook group Real Estate Professionals Against Racism: https://www.facebook.com/realestateagents4change/
Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Moving for a permanent change of station (PCS) is an expected part of being Married to Military, but it can make it really hard to define what “home” means to you. If you struggle to settle in and turn your house into a home when you PCS, that’s ok! It is SO common (and normal)! Are you ready to change your mindset? In this episode, I’m jumping into what the research says about making your house into a home, some of the common barriers you may face, and my TOP 7 tips to overcome them—so you can create comfort no matter where you live!
I’m exploring:
- Married to Military 101: PCS Terms - TLA and TLE
- The MANY benefits of turning your house into a home (and how it impacts your well-being)
- What you might not know about the connection between your home and your emotional identity
- EASY ways to make connecting to your new home a priority
- And so much more!
Join us for Military Marriage Day: https://www.militarymarriageday.com
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
There is a huge difference between GETTING married and BEING married—and the challenges of military life can add a lot of stress on a relationship over time. Can you relate? My guest this week, Marine Corps veteran and relationship coach Theresa Alexis—also known as The Military Bride Strategist™—is using her experiences from active duty to milspo to help transform the relationships of the military couples she works with. In this episode, she shares the realization that inspired her to become a military relationship coach, how to overcome the #1 struggle of military marriages, and her TOP TIPS to help you strengthen your marriage through ALL of the stages of military life.
Listen now to hear more about:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: MWR (Morale, Welfare and Recreation)
- How Theresa’s experiences as dual military, a military spouse, and then veteran have shaped her life and business
- What it means to be intentional about separating home life from work (and tips to get started!)
- Our BEST advice to prioritize what’s REALLY important in your relationship (and how to work through the small things that bother you)
- How to give what you want to get back in your marriage
- Why honest and open communication is SO IMPORTANT during transitions in military life
- And so much more!
Connect with Theresa Alexis:
Check out Theresa’s podcast Black, Married, and in the Military wherever you listen to your podcasts!
Join her FREE private Facebook group Military Marriages Matter: bit.ly/3_MMM
Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theresaalexisspeaks/
Book her through her website: https://www.theresaalexis.com
Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book
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It’s that time of year again when many military families are in some phase of moving for a permanent change of station (PCS). Although moving is a normal and expected part of being Married to Military, it can bring overwhelming feelings of stress and anxiety. Been there? Me too! In this episode, I’m sharing my BEST tips and tricks to take the stress out of PCSing, how to give yourself the space to feel ALL of your feelings during a move, and the TOP 4 ways to make PCS easier on your marriage—because even though you can’t control where you move, you CAN make it manageable!
I’m exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: MALT (Monetary Allowance in Lieu of Transportation)
- Why moving is one of the MOST stressful life events (and why it’s even harder when you’re Married to MIlitary)
- How to set REALISTIC expectations for your move
- Why you shouldn’t underestimate the effects of grief and loss during a move
- My #1 TIP for practicing self-care during a PCS
- And so much more!
PCS checklist:
www.myultimatepcs.com
This month I’m offering 10% off my relationship coaching packages! Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call to find out more: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book
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Do you find yourself making excuses as to why your military relationship is struggling? Is fear of the unknown keeping you from making your marriage stronger? If so, you’re not alone! Change can be scary—but don’t let your relationship fall into the trap of believing you can’t make things better. In this episode, I’m debunking the 7 myths that might be holding your relationship back, how to overcome them, and why you need to remember that your spouse chose YOU as their life partner—together you can take the steps to make your relationship work!
I’m exploring:
- The 3 common reasons you might be hesitant to make your relationship better (and what to do about them)
- Creating a safe space to encourage vulnerable conversations
- What it means to “talk about talking” (and how you can benefit from it!)
- How to make TIME for productive relationship conversations
- The ONE thing you should never say to your partner
- My TOP resources to help your relationship flourish
- And so much more!
This month I’m offering 10% off my relationship coaching packages! Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call to find out more: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
This week I am talking ALL things relationships with my very first podcast guest, relationship coach and sexuality educator Courtney Boyer. Her work focuses on helping high achievers be as successful in their personal relationships as they are in their career. Courtney is also Married to Military, and knows just how important it is to find (and offer!) valuable support for the unique challenges of military life. In this episode, she’s sharing her journey as a military spouse, her TOP TIPS to overcome relationship obstacles, and the #1 thing YOU can do to empower your independence and have the healthy relationship of your dreams!
We’re exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: Sponsors
- The TOP 3 ways the military has impacted Courtney’s marriage
- What she believes are the BIGGEST barriers to maintaining a healthy relationship
- Why you should reevaluate your independent role in your relationship
- The MOST common theme that comes up when you're Married to Military (and how to address it!)
- And so much more!
Connect with Courtney Boyer - The Stepping Stones Coach:
Download her FREE Self-Coaching Guide to Overcoming Frustration here: https://www.steppingstonescoaching.net/freeguide
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneyboyercoaching/
Website: www.thesteppingstonescoach.com
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Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book
If you’re married to military, you know that there are SO MANY unique challenges our relationships face everyday. From deployments to moving all the time, the military can make all aspects of a marriage A LOT harder. In this episode, I’m diving deeper into the 4 BIGGEST relationship challenges military relationships face, as well as the TOP tools and tips you’ll need to know to work through them—so even when times feel hard, you can still have the strong & resilient relationship you WANT!
I’m exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: DEERS (Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System)
- Why military training doesn’t always translate to being a good partner (and how to work through it together!)
- The TOP 3 strategies to navigate periods of separation
- How to get support for the aspects of military service that are out of your control
- Why recognizing and experiencing your emotions is CRUCIAL for a healthy relationship
- My TOP TIPS to manage ALL of the challenges of being married to military
- How to think positively about the ways the military has shaped your relationship
- And so much more!
Apply for the scholarship program for my signature 3 month 1:1 relationship coaching package here: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/231489-coaching-scholarship
Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
If you’ve ever felt like your military relationship has been on the brink of collapse, don’t give up! It’s never too late to improve and strengthen the connection between you and your partner, and I’m sharing the tips to help you achieve it! In this episode, I’m diving deeper into the research-backed relationship insights of Drs. John & Julie Gottman to help you have the BEST marriage possible. Tune in to hear their TOP 4 things to AVOID in your relationship, why you should try these 2 proven intervention techniques, and what you can start doing RIGHT NOW to help your relationship flourish.
I’m exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: Chain of command
- Why I LOVE The Gottman Institute’s relationship resources
- My TOP TIPS on improving your love maps
- What it means to “turn towards your partner” (and how you can benefit from it!)
- SIMPLE and EASY ways to nurture fondness and admiration with your partner
- Why the MOST successful relationships have a balance of these 2 things
- And so much more!
Apply for the scholarship program for my signature 3 month 1:1 relationship coaching package here: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/231489-coaching-scholarship
Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Are you wondering if it’s possible to have healthy conflict while your partner is deployed? In this episode, I’m talking about everything deployment and conflict to help YOU work through challenges while your military partner is gone. Tune in to hear the SIMPLE strategies you can try on your own to work through your emotions, and my TOP TIPS for keeping deployment conflict productive so you and your partner can continue to grow in your relationship no matter where they are.
I’m exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: Rank
- What you NEED to know about the TOP 3 deployment communication barriers
- Physical and emotional consequences of bottling your emotions
- Ways to tackle conflict without putting your deployed partner in danger
- My TOP recommendations for discussing important issues BEFORE deployment (this is so important!)
- And so much more!
Do you want to make lasting and healthy changes in your military relationship? Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Did you know that you can fight in your relationship in a way that is not only good for it, but also improves it? It might be hard to believe, but it’s true! In this episode, I am sharing everything you need to know to make your conflict productive, why you should know your fighting style, and my tried and true conflict rules—because the sooner you have healthy arguments, the sooner you can get back to the FUN parts of your relationship!
I’m exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: OPSEC (Operations Security)
- Some common misconceptions about conflict
- The 10 types of fighters; which one are you?
- Why it’s not JUST about “winning” the fight—and what it’s ACTUALLY about, instead!
- Try THIS top technique to have a productive argument with your partner
- What you NEED to do to create healthy conflict rules (and stick to them!)
- Why military-style conflict is SO DIFFERENT from healthy relationship conflict
- And so much more!
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Do you know your love language? What about your partner’s? Understanding how you communicate love with your spouse is KEY to a healthy relationship—and when you’re married to military, the challenges of military life can really get in the way. In this episode, I’m diving into navigating communication obstacles with your partner, Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages, and I'll share my BEST tips for showing & receiving love in the craziness of military life.
I’m exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: Ombudsman
- Why lasting love takes work—and action!
- Everything you need to know about the 5 Love Languages
- What you can learn by speaking you & your partner’s love language
- SPECIFIC examples on how to show love (even during deployment!)
- And so much more!
Learn your love language with the 5 Love Languages Quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
The Five Love Languages Military Edition: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/book/the-5-love-languages-military-edition/
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Do you feel like your relationship expectations don’t match up with your partner's? Are you feeling disappointed when your expectations aren’t met? This is a common struggle in any relationship, and especially so with all the extra stuff that comes with being married to military! In this episode, I’m sharing SIMPLE strategies you can use to strengthen your relationship by identifying & communicating expectations—because having a healthy connection with your partner is so incredibly important!
I’m exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: CONUS vs. OCONUS moves
- How solid relationships can make other things in your life EASIER
- Some SURPRISING statistics & research on military relationships
- EASY steps to creating an expectation list with your partner
- The 2 things that might be happening when you and your partner’s expectations don’t match up (and how you can work through them)
- My TOP 3 recommendations for engaging your partner about relationship expectations
- And so much more!
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
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Sacrifices are a normal and expected part of being a military spouse. But, this doesn’t make it any more easy to accept them as they come (and often by surprise). In fact, it can bring up feelings of frustration, anger, or unfulfillment. Been there? Yeah, me too.
This week, I’m addressing some common themes in the sacrifices military spouses make, and how you can better manage the emotions that arise. I’ll give you my BEST TIPS to face your fears and use your challenges in productive ways, so you can have the things you want and achieve your goals!
I’m exploring:
- This week’s Married to Military 101: PCS (permanent change of station)
- Why even short work trips can be so difficult on a spouse (especially during a lockdown!)
- The difference between KNOWING about a sacrifice and ACCEPTING it
- STAGGERING statistics on unemployment among military spouses
- Breaking down the stigmas of being a full-time parent
- 4 people you might not know were military spouses — plus, a reminder that we ALL have struggles no matter our status
- My TOP TIPS for setting realistic goals (and why there’s no better time than NOW to start achieving them!)
- Recognizing and embracing fear so you can change and grow
- And so much more!
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Continue the conversation in my PRIVATE Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
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What kinds of things do you say to yourself on a regular basis? If you feel they are mostly negative, you're not alone! We naturally default to think negatively about ourselves, and these negative thoughts can have a huge impact on our physical and mental well-being. This is why it is SO IMPORTANT to achieve a healthier inner voice, especially with the extra responsibilities that come with being married to military. In this episode, I’m sharing everything you need to know about improving your inner dialogue, how to overcome the barriers you may face on your journey, and the techniques you can do RIGHT NOW to start thinking more positively about yourself — because you deserve it!
I’m exploring:
- Surprising ways thinking negatively impacts ALL parts of your life
- The #1 reason a healthy inner voice is so important — especially, when you’re married to military
- Why we MUST support and cheer each other on through good and bad times
- How you can find a balance for your negative thoughts
- The TOP 3 barriers that get in the way of a more positive inner voice
- Simple (and EASY!) exercises to improve your inner dialogue through gratitude and affirmations
- A guided activity to jump start your journey improving your inner voice
- And so much more!
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Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Military spouses are superheroes — always stepping up to the challenges of military life when duty calls. It’s a busy and responsibility filled world being married to military, and it takes time to learn the ropes of what to do or what to expect as a spouse. That’s why I’m excited for YOU to join me on the Married to Military podcast, as I share tips, tricks, and advice on how to navigate the wild ride of being a military spouse. Whether you're new to military life or just tuning in for a reminder, there's a little something for everyone to learn! In this very first episode, get a SNEAK PEEK into what you can expect on the Married to Military podcast, why I am passionate about helping people live their best lives, and I’ll dive into the TOP superhero traits of AMAZING military spouses (like you!) who get shit done.
I’m exploring:
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The unique challenges of being married to military — because it’s MORE than just a marriage!
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Why I want to give you easy access to my BEST tips and tricks about being a military spouse
- Lessons I’ve learned on my married to military journey
- AWESOME benefits of focusing on your good qualities and the things that are going well in your life
- The TOP 5 superhero qualities military spouses possess
- And so much more!
Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/
Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869
Connect with me for a FREE Discovery Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/book