Happily Ever After with Hannah Harvey: Recent Episodes
Hannah Harvey
Welcome to Happily Ever After… the podcast about the world of divorce, uncoupling and making peace with yourself after heartbreak.
Each episode covers a different but often challenging topic like addiction, domestic abuse, and mental health matters. If that sounds grim, it’s really quite the opposite.
The focus is ALWAYS on the positive, as my guests and I explore to take control of your life after trauma.
My ex-husband is getting remarried today so I figured what a perfect time to talk about when they move on...
If you've ever felt blindsided, heartbroken, or totally unravelled after your ex found someone new — this one's for you.
In this deeply personal episode, I share:
- The story of how my ex moved on just weeks after I asked for a divorce (and why I had asked for one)
- What spiralled me into pain and shame — and the tools that helped me claw my way out
- How I coped without falling back into alcohol... but still making mistakes (Tinder anyone?)
- The somatic healing that caught me by surprise — and brought unexpected peace
- And how I finally learned how to get what I most wanted to feel...
This episode is a journey through the messy, beautiful, heartbreaking, empowering rollercoaster of healing — and a reminder that you can get to a place where your ex getting remarried doesn't derail you.
✨ Resources mentioned:
- How to Divorce Sober: my book that shares the full story
- Free 7-Day Mini Course for divorcing mums who need a reset
- Free Venus Yoga Class: your chance to explore embodied healing through intention-based yoga. Tonight's Free class is all about embodying FREEDOM! (and if you get this after the event, follow the link as you can still do the replay video)
- The Magic Divorce Club: my upcoming group for women ready to turn divorce into alchemy
- Book a free 1:1 call with me - let’s chat about what's happening for you at the moment. 💌 you can message via:
Instagram: @hannahharveyuk
Email: hannah@hannahharvey.co.uk
"If you’re going through a divorce and you're having a really hard time, I just want you to know that you’re not alone. You’re really not alone. And I hope that this podcast, and hearing other people’s stories, and hearing from me, makes you feel like it’s okay. You’re doing okay. You're not broken." Hannah Harvey
In this 100th (!!) episode of Happily Ever After with Hannah Harvey, Katie and I are celebrating a heartfelt milestone — 100 episodes of walking through the mess, magic, and transformation of divorce and I'm so glad you're here with us!
We reflect on the evolution of the podcast, sharing how it began from a place of breakdown and slowly turned into a space of deep healing, community, and courage.
This episode is a raw and tender love letter to you — the listeners — who’ve found strength, solace, and sisterhood along the way.
✨ In this episode:
- The personal story behind the podcast and my own divorce
- The surprising gift that came from losing everything
- What I learned from speaking to a LOT of guests and 10s of thousands of listeners
- The recurring theme that unites every woman going through divorce
- A loving reminder that we are not broken!
🎧 Whether you’ve been with the show since episode one or you’re just tuning in now, this episode is for you - I'd love to hear what resonated...
💌 Love the show? Here’s how to stay connected:
- Get in touch with me on Instagram @hannahharveyuk
- Get in touch with Katie on Instagram @katiewomblingfree
- Join the waitlist for The Magic Divorce Course launching 2nd June
- Download the free video course: Love Notes Reset | 7 Days of Calm for Divorcing Mums
- Subscribe to the Love Notes newsletter on Substack for weekly inspiration
Episode 99: How I Manifested My Divorce (Wait… What?!)
What if the universe gave you exactly what you didn’t ask for?
In this episode of Happily Ever After, I dive into the unexpected way I manifested my divorce — not intentionally, but as part of a deeper journey of self-discovery and healing. Along the way, I share my personal manifesting process, how to shift your energy (without toxic positivity), and why obstacles might just be detours in the right direction.
Plus, I talk about:
- The surprising things I’ve manifested — from dream houses to the perfect babysitter.
- How to embody the energy of what you want — and why getting specific is key.
- Trusting the process, even when life feels like it’s falling apart.
Ready to tap into the magic of manifesting? Press play and let’s dive in.
Links + Resources:
- Join the Love Note Reset — A free 5-day challenge to manifest the spring you desire: hannahharveyuk.substack.com/manifest
- Re-Emerge Spring Workshop — Access the replay here
- Last Month’s Reset: Seven Days of Calm — Try it here
- Book Mentioned: Period Power by Maisie
- Gabrielle Bernstein’s The Universe Has Your Back Card Deck
- Vision Board Workshop — Get it here
Get in Touch:
- Email: hannah@hannahharvey.uk
- Instagram: @hannahharveyuk — DM me your thoughts or share your manifesting stories!
P.S. Next week is the 100th episode and my 42nd birthday — tell me how you think I should celebrate!
This week on Happily Ever After I'm sharing what I do on a bad day - almost like a checklist, so I know exactly what to do and I don't have to think about it - so I end the day better than I started it.
It's 5 things TO DO and 4 things NOT to do. See what you think and let me know if I've missed any of your must do things for a bad day! DM me on instagram @hannahharveyUK or drop me a message through my substack: Hannahharveyuk.substack.com
In this show I talk about...
My spring events:
- Re-emerge Spring Workshop: 10th March, 7-8pm (£15)
- Yoga and Vision Board Evening Retreat - 14th March, 6-8:30pm (£58)
- 6 weeks of Venus Yoga: starts 14th March 2025, 6pm (£90)
- Spring Equinox Fire Ceremony: 21st March, 6-8pm (£47)
Love Notes:
- Love Notes Membership - includes meditation library, live meditations, 7-day Resets -
- 7-days of Calm: Get the Day 1, 10 min meditation calming for FREE here
Also:
- Book - Good Sugar Bad Sugar by Allen Carr
- Thirlmere infinity pool
Do you ever feel like you're not enough? Not good enough ... lacking in some undefined way. Me too! It's very common.
Welcome to Happily Ever After, in this episode, I'm exploring the concept of 'Enough'.
- what is enough?
- am I enough?
- am I doing enough?
- how can we feel enough?
For someone who never had enough alcohol... and now ZERO alcohol is enough. It's a weird concept for me and yet this feeling of 'Feeling Enough' lingers on.
I had a profound experience at the Rebecca Campbell live event at the weekend, which has helped me to reframe the whole thing. Have a listen. Does this resonate with you? Get in touch and let me know on instagram @hannahharveyuk or through my website hannahharvey.uk.
other things mentioned in the show:
- Rebecca Campbell - Your Soul had a Dream, Your Life is it
- Re-centre Yourself - 20min Meditation - come back to YOUR centre when you're being pulled off-course and connect to your truth.
- Love Notes - my membership site over on Substack. Get live guided meditations, weekly challenges and more for only £8/month.
- Re-emerge | Spring Workshop - Get clarity on what you want to manifest and step into Spring with confidence, joy and purpose!
In this episode I share my thoughts on creating your support network.When we're in crisis—whether it's divorce, grief, anxiety, or panic—it can feel like we’re completely on our own, with no one to turn to.
In those moments, our brains convince us that we’re isolated, without a friend in the world. But the reality is, we aren’t. That’s why it’s so important to build our support network before crisis hits.
There’s so much more on this topic (because it's SO IMPORTANT) in my book, How to Divorce Sober. If you need more encouragement and permission to build your team, head there!
I also talk about my not-so-secret love of online courses and how they’ve become an essential part of my support system:
- When I’m too triggered to watch TV, I do a little workshop.
- When I’m not sure what to do next, I dip into an online course.
- When I need to breathe, I follow something from my yoga teacher’s online library.
- When I need to shift my energy and get out of a funk… you get it. I do an online course.
I also go for walks and chat with friends, but there’s something so comforting and familiar about learning from these people I’ve grown to love.
In this podcast, I talk about:Claire VenusCreative mentor and all-round babe. She was on ep 43 (love and slow living) and 58 (back to school) and you can find her treasure trove of online goodies at Creatively Conscious and Sparkle on Substack
Kat River - Art of Alchemy.Mother-centric business and life course that was truly transformational for me last. So many ah-ha moments, it helped to get through my book publishing fears and I loved doing it with my pal, Claire. We'd send each other long voice notes about what came up for us. Super bonding!
I've never seen motherhood and business being spoken about at all, never mind in such an insightful and practical way.
Just magic! The live round starts again on 27th Feb 2025 so have a look now so you don't miss it: Art of Alchemy. Use the code AOAFRIENDS for a 10% discount.
Leonie DawsonIncredible teacher who's been around forever so I'm sure you already know her! But boy do I love her. Such wise, brave, sensible, encouraging, get-your-head-out-your-own-butt tough love. Just what we all need from time to time!
The first course I did: Money manifesting and multiple streams of income
She's done hundreds of courses so now I'm in her Biz & Life Academy as you get everything for a fraction of the cost.
Jambo DragonYoga with intention, online courses for the soul, magic that works... I've been subscribed to Jambo's online world for about 5 years now and couldn't live without him. I tried. Those months were rough.
On this weeks episode, I'm talking to Rachel Smithbone about her work as a shamanic business coach. It's a giggly one! Tune in for armpit hair chat, my new found career as a trucker and Rachel's take on finding purpose in her Happily Ever After.
You can get in touch with Rachel and find out more about all the amazing things she has going on at the minute on instagram here.
I also recorded an episode with Sean who introduced us a little while ago which you can find here.
Here's Coraline by Neil Gaiman which is also a movie.
You can read the episode transcript here.
On this weeks episode, I'm giving you my 4 best tips on how to make friends. You have to get creative with this when you don't drink but I've had some major success with this lately and met some keepers ❤️
We talk about the amazing Wellness Journeys retreat which you can find more about here.
Josie is also on Happily Ever After episodes 55 , 41 and 18
I also talk about the episode where I spoke to my new friend Jo Feeley.
If you're interested in learning more about any of the clubs we mentioned, pop me a message via instagram @mumsdays
If you'd like to read the transcript of the episode you can find it here.
On this weeks episode, I'm catching up with Claire Venus about how she's juggling launching new strands of her business over the school holidays and still keep all her plates spinning!
We're also going back to school and talking about how to make time for yourself even with all the preparation to do.
You can find her new Sparkle on Substack here.
If you'd like to read the show transcript please click here.
On this week's episode, I'm talking to Amber Horrox about her sex ban and why she felt she needed that in order to form a healthy relationship in the future.
Amber mentions Fierce Medicine by Ana Forrest which is available here and also You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay which is here.
Amber runs Retreat with Me experiences which you can discuss with her by contacting her on instagram. She's also on substack here.
You can read the podcast transcript here.
On this weeks episode, I'm reading you the introduction to my book How to Divorce Sober which will be released in the coming months and I'd love to hear your feedback! Be kind :)
You can view the transcript here
To register your interest in the book and be updated with how I'm getting on, you can sign up to my substack here.
On this weeks episode of Happily Ever After, I have my pal Josie back in the hot seat talking us through how she transformed my diet and giving us her tips on how to manage your own nutrition as a busy mum.
Here's the article Josie mentions about creatine and menopause https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7998865/
If you'd like to work with Josie you can get in touch with her via instagram or her website.
On this weeks episode, I'm talking to Sophie Milliken OBE who runs Moja. She's telling us all the details of her divorce and how she built a thriving business while going through it. She's such an inspiration!
You can get in touch with Sophie on instagram @moja_sophie or at https://thisismoja.com/
You can access Sophie's free video series here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHluC603RAw
On this week's episode I'm talking you through 10 things I learned about Internet Dating in my 40's. It's a tricky beast!
Here's the episode about relationship ethics with Claire Venus - https://www.mumsdays.com/podcasts/happily-ever-after-with-hannah-harvey/episodes/2147940432
Here's the episode with Jambo - https://www.mumsdays.com/podcasts/happily-ever-after-with-hannah-harvey/episodes/2147913539
Here's the reel I referred to https://www.instagram.com/reel/CtRXUY8unPB/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
And please check out https://companyoftwo.substack.com/ - Claire Venus and Laura Oldfield's amazing new podcast about balance in business and motherhood.
We're celebrating our 1st birthday on this weeks episode! And to celebrate we've decided to talk you through the 10 things we've learned from a year of podcasting. This is the perfect listen if you're looking for a little bit of inspiration to start your own project.
Our sponsors for this episode are Company of Two - another amazing podcast which is a creative space for exploring being, balance and business in motherhood. You can sign up for their posts and listen to all of their episodes here.
On this weeks episode, I'm chatting with my chum-chum Katie and we're feeling a bit untethered. I get a lesson in perfectionism from the universe via Mama Cass and talk about my latest forays in the dating world.
This is the Beach Boys Song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v75f5W6LgLM
And this is the Mama Cass Song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZZ0PZRYin2s
This is the episode with Jambo https://www.mumsdays.com/podcasts/happily-ever-after-with-hannah-harvey/episodes/2147913539
This is the episode with Claire Venus https://www.mumsdays.com/podcasts/happily-ever-after-with-hannah-harvey/episodes/2147940432
Here's Nick Cave's Newsletter https://www.theredhandfiles.com/
And this is Claire's new podcast with Laura Oldfield. Company of Two! https://companyoftwo.substack.com/ . Give it a listen! You won't regret it.
On this weeks podcast, I'm catching up with Katie about getting gazumped, transitioning, fight or flight mode, nesting, general sea chat, some dating updates and other bits of general chat.
Plus I'll be answering some listener questions about what to do with your surname after divorce. Here's my list of options including Haddock, of course.
- Hagan - Japanese. Brave person, a fighter
- Hertz - German. Loving person, one with a heart
- Haddock - English. Prosperity or fortune
- Hardi - English. Powerful and bold
- Hudson - English. Mind or heart
- Halop - halo or divine
- Harding - bold and strong
- Hardy - bold and courageous with a strong heart and mind
- Harmon - warrior
- Harvey - strength
- Havart - to protect
- Holliman - a priest
- Hahn - proud
On this weeks episode I'm sharing my tips on what I learned about conflict resolution while going through my divorce.
On this weeks episode, I'm talking to Sean who is a shadow worker.
We're discussing past traumas, the inner child, elemental theory, archetypes, body work, getting over our problems and loads more.
You can find Sean on Instagram @sean_kelly_09 or on his website here https://seankellyhealing.co.uk/
Here's the episode where I talk to our yoga teacher Jambo https://www.mumsdays.com/podcasts/happily-ever-after-with-hannah-harvey/episodes/2147913539
The diagram I mention is here https://www.tcmworld.org/what-is-tcm/five-elements/
Josie Baxter is on Episode 41 and Episode 18
Katie's substack is here.
And Katie did find the Instagram profile she was talking about which is here
If you're interested in learning more about Josie's nutrition programme you can get in touch with her here
The books I recommend are here;
The Upward Spiral
Period Power
To find more about my yoga classes, pop me a message!
This week I'm having another catch up with podcast regular Katie and we're talking about my return to the dating apps, applying to be on Married at First Sight, love languages, sea swimming and loads more.
Here's a quiz to help you identify your love languages https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
Here's the dip club I joined for my first dip https://www.instagram.com/dipclubofficial/
Here's Lea's episode https://www.mumsdays.com/podcasts/happily-ever-after-with-hannah-harvey/episodes/2147800532 and her instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelifeshebuilt_/?hl=en
Cath Hindle from Clear the Clutter is back by popular demand to talk us through the festive period which for me is peak clutter time.
Cath is giving us advice on decorations, gift buying and wrapping, xmas trees and what to do with everything before, during and after. She's an organisational dreamboat.
Money Saving Experts advice for doing good this xmas including where to donate - https://www.moneysavingexpert.com/deals/charity-gifts/
Living 360's article on where to donate xmas gifts - https://living360.uk/five-charities-to-donate-christmas-presents-to-this-year/
The Salvation Army Christmas Present Appeal - https://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/christmas-present-appeal
Here's the government's advice on what to do with your Christmas tree once you're done with it - https://www.gov.uk/government/news/recycle-or-replant-your-tree-for-a-greener-christmas
Episode 18 is a double whammy because it's one I've been wanting to do for ages and it's something Mums' Days readers asked for in my recent survey.
I'm chatting with Josie Baxter who is my very good friend and personal trainer about health and fitness and how to fit exercise into our already jam packed lives.
We also discuss Josie's recent break up, how she got over it and the emotional strength she built from it.
Josie's upcoming retreats - https://www.jbptfitness.com/copy-of-1-2-1-coaching-in-person
More info on Josie and her services https://www.jbptfitness.com/
My Fitness Pal Nutrition Tracker https://www.myfitnesspal.com/
This week I have an extra special treat for you because I am chatting with Danielle Barbereau, who is a Divorce Coach and author of the book, After the Split.
I first met Danielle a year ago after she was recommended to me by my mediation solicitor, and she supported me through some of the hardest bits of my divorce, namely battling it out in court!
My solicitor had said, “ask Danielle for a compatibility call” and within about a minute I knew I had to work with her. She was so reassuring and instantly made me feel hope during a particularly traumatic time which is such an amazing skill to have.
Danielle is offering a brand new course 'Emerge and Recover' which starts on 21st November and is a live run-through as she will also be doing weekly Q&A's to support over Christmas (a pretty dreaded time for the newly divorcing and heartbroken!).
For more information on "Emerge and Recover from a painful breakup" click here.
Today I bring you a podcast that no one asked me for - my tips on travelling with kids! I’m no expert in travel. Or kids. Or anything really. But I’m bringing you my tips anyway as I have just got back from a holiday abroad with my kids. And it was a resounding success!
This week I want to talk about the Fairytale. You know the thing we thought we wanted and then maybe we got it, but is it all it's cracked up to be?
I called my podcast Happily Ever After because of this idea we may have when we’re younger: meeting the love of our lives, getting married, living happily ever after, etc.
And basically that bit hasn’t gone to plan for me, as I know it hasn’t for many of you.
Buuuuut, as I emerge from the otherside, I truly believe we can still have our happily ever after, it’s just maybe not the one you thought you wanted.
I mention a blog post I did about the first time Cath helped me declutter which you can find here: Decluttering
On this week show, I talk to Sean Alexander, bestselling-Author of Sober on a Drunk Planet.
This week is my 5 year anniversary of quitting drinking, so this was partly an episode to celebrate that (best thing I ever did!) and partly because the damaging effects alcohol (and other addictions) can have on relationships.
As a former addict turned coach, Sean shares some of his thoughts on alcohol and drugs, co-dependancy, enabling and other factors that can be so detrimental to relationships.
He also shares his tips for the sober-curious and sober dating (that's where I'm at!). Thanks Sean!
You can find Sean on instagram, @soberonadrunkplanet, and you can grab Sean's free e-book, 7 sober secrets you can't ignore, here.
On this week's episode, I'm answering some more of your questions, but these ones have a slightly different theme that I like to call 'dirty secrets'. This doesn't mean that we're talking about things that I think we should keep a secret, in fact it's the opposite! It's things that we might feel embarrassed to talk about or ashamed to admit.
Here's the Tina Turner documentary I refer to. Here's Big Little Lies - the book and the tv show.
We cover some pretty tough stuff in this episode so I've put some links for helpful services below and you can always reach out to me here or on instagram @hharveywrites.
Also a reminder that I'm not a therapist or mental health professional, I'm just a person who's been through divorce and I'm sharing my thoughts and advice with you.
Domestic Abuse Support
https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help#get-help-and-support
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/womens-aid-directory/
Alcohol Support
https://www.turning-point.co.uk/find-a-service.html#/
https://www.drugfam.co.uk/
https://adfam.org.uk/
https://escapefamilysupport.org.uk/
Mental Health Support
https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/mental-health-services/
https://www.mind.org.uk/need-urgent-help/using-this-tool/
Today I'm interviewing Lea Eccleston, a lawyer turned speaker and writer, and a huge advocate for women. She has been through a particularly traumatic divorce and has such a unique take on what it is to go through something like this but come out the other side stronger.
In this episode, we talk about victim mode. What it is and, crucially, what it is not. She shares her empowering tips on how you can both own your story but be free to move on and have the life of your dreams.
Not one to miss! You can contact Lea through her instagram The Life She Built.
This week I’m doing it a little bit differently because I’ve been getting questions and I wanted to start answering them.
I’ve got my version of divorce but obviously everybody else has so many different ways to go through it and different feelings that come up.
Here we cover everything from recovery time, when it's time to start dating again, regret, finances and even sex.
If you’ve got any questions that you’d like me to answer, you can just let me know via instagram @hharveywrites.
I have got a very special episode for you today because I'm talking to one of my very best friends, Cath, who supported me every step of the way through my divorce.
We've known each other a very long time and luckily for me, Cath is a professional declutterer at Clear the Clutter!
Two years ago, mere months after leaving my ex, Cath spent a week helping me prepare our family home for sale. This week was the culmination of years of renovation, building work, having babies in the middle of it all... and the second the house was finished was when the estate agents arrived to take photos. I would never use this finished house!
My memory of this period is very patchy but I do remember leaning heavily on Cath to get through it! It was fascinating to hear Cath's take on this time and reminded me how lucky I was to have her.
Cath also shares her tips for decluttering after a heartbreak (whether divorce or death). I really hope you enjoy it.
This week I am talking about single motherhood as I often get asked how I cope with the kids now that I’m a single mum.
It’s a funny one because I know plenty of mums who have to cope single handedly with children because their other halves are away working. And that is TOUGH!!
In this episode I talk through what I do with my spare time but also how I cope when it's just me and managing the chaos of children and heartbreak.
I share a letter from my mum that made all the difference to how I approached single motherhood. It still chokes me up and whether you're single or not, please accept this gift from my mum to all you parents, with whatever you are navigating.
Hello and welcome to Happily Ever After. This is a podcast where we explore all things Divorce and heartache but leave with hope. I am your host Hannah Harvey, and today we are talking about ways you can boost your mood during your divorce.
I can tell you from experience that, yes getting divorced is really tough, but in the words of Glennen Doyle, we can do hard things. We are really strong and if we are really kind to ourselves, we don’t have to just survive this.
I went from barely surviving my divorce to actually thriving and here are a few things you can put into place NOW to make sure that you are really protecting and caring for yourself during this challenging transition period.
Have a listen and let me know what you think on insta: @hharveywrites or email hannah@hannahharvey.uk
Hello and welcome to Happily Ever After, the podcast where we explore all things Divorce and heartache but leave with hope. I am your host Hannah Harvey, and today we are talking about failure. YUK!!!
Drew Barrymore quote
“When you break up with somebody, you’re like, ‘Yeah, that didn’t work.’ When you get divorced, you’re like, ‘I’m the biggest failure. This is the biggest failure.’ It’s so shameful and hard to actually go through that, even privately.”
This is so true. You really do feel like a failure BUT a huge thing I’ve learnt through my divorce is how to reframe failure. The process of divorce has shone a FLOODLIGHT onto all my insecurities and failure was a biggy.
I’ve had several failed businesses, a failed career in civil engineering, a failed marriage, etc. I’m a HUGE failure.
Have a listen to how I reframed this for the positive and please get in touch with your failures! Hannah@hannahharvey.uk or @hharveywrites on instagram and facebook.
Today we are talking about Building Your Team.
Have you ever seen Jim’ll fix it and the clip of the Scout’s who wanted to go on a rollercoaster with burgers and drinks: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfgqsenuwpo
This is what divorce was like for me... One of my biggest achievements during my divorce was to build a team so I could metaphorically give them my bottle of milk and burger to hold.
You can go around the rollercoaster holding your burger and your bottle of milk, but I wouldn’t recommend it. And, if you needed further convincing, did you know asking for help is an act of bravery? Listen on to find out more!
Contact me through hannahharvey.uk or on instagram and facebook: @hharveywrites
Hello and welcome to Happily Ever After, the podcast where we explore all things Divorce and heartache but leave with hope. I am your host Hannah Harvey, and today we are talking about How to thrive during your divorce.
People often ask me what I think the magic steps are to thrive during this shitty time and it’s really hard to define as each person is different but I’ve narrowed it down to the steps I've shared in this episode. Listen on!
FYI I quote from the book Malibu Rising by Taylor Jenkins Reid a couple of times and highly recommend it if you're off on hols and need a good beach read!
Hello and welcome to Happily Ever After, the podcast where we explore all things Divorce and heartache but leave with hope.
I am your host Hannah Harvey, and today we are talking about grief.
Obviously, no one has died in this instance but your relationship has, and even if it was a tumultuous one, you can still be sad that it’s gone. And grieve for it.
Jessica Simpson “It was like a death in the family: You go through the mourning stage, then the rebellion, and then all of a sudden you have to find life by yourself.”
I can definitely relate to this - there were some interesting decisions made during the rebellion stage and frankly the mourning stage still shows up at times. Each time you reach a new milestone, or you deal with something in your new life that you haven't before, it can just rear its ugly head.
We may always mourn the end of our marriages, remembering the happier times and some good things came from it.
But that's OK. When you look at the breakdown of a relationship from the perspective of grief and the stages of grief, it seems it’s essential that you go through the motions and feel sad when these feelings pop up and you acknowledge them and give them the space they need.
In this episode we explore these feelings in relation to the stages of grief from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's book On Death and Dying.
In this episode I also mention my therapists - Blue Talking Therapies - who have helped me so much. You can find them here and tell them I sent you! https://bluetalkingtherapies.co.uk
Hello and welcome to Happily Ever After, the podcast where we explore all things Divorce and heartache but leave with hope. I am your host Hannah Harvey, and today we are talking about overwhelm.
The average divorce takes 2 years. I know. WTF.
It seems incredibly daunting when you’re at the start. Navigating your emotions (not to mention your ex’s, your family’s and children’s emotions) alongside the practicalities of getting divorced, can feel like it requires a reservoir of resilience, whilst also feeling like you might die thanks to the body's response to fear and overwhelm.
But I’m here to tell you that there is hope. If I can do it, so can you. And I wanted to share something today that really helped me reframe my own abilities and how I responded to overwhelm.
Hello and welcome to Happily Ever After, the podcast where we explore all things Divorce and heartache but leave with hope. I am your host Hannah Harvey, and today we are talking about when should you leave?
You may have listened to last week’s episode out of interest because you are still in your relationship and want to know what you would do next if you were to leave. Perhaps you’re fantasising about leaving but don’t know when is the right time. So… when should you leave?
Dude, I do NOT know, but listen on for what I was doing the month before I left and how I felt it really helped!
Hello and welcome to Happily Ever After, the podcast where we explore all things Divorce and heartache but leave with hope.
I am your host Hannah Harvey, and in this episode I’m going to be talking about that bit straight after a break up. The aftermath of whatever event it was for you that has caused the irreparable breakdown of your marriage.
This period can be exceptionally traumatic for many and I certainly only remember it in chunks!
You can see a transcript of the episode below and don’t forget to review and subscribe. Please and thank you!
Also if you have a friend who might enjoy, please do recommend they listen too!
You can get in touch either through instagram @hharveywrites or via my website hannahharvey.uk.
Show notes:
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In the episode we talk about domestic abuse - if you are concerned for yourself or another, there are government guidelines here for getting help.
You can get help and support for all forms of domestic abuse (violent and non violent) here.
If you are in immediate danger, please call 999 or 55 from a mobile phone if you can't speak.
Welcome to Happily Ever After… the podcast that talks about the mysterious world of divorce and uncoupling, and living Happily Ever After heartbreak. I am your host Hannah Harvey. I am a writer and an award winning blogger. I am also the founder of the divorce retreat, Heartache Hall, which you can find at Heartachehall.com.
It would make my day if you could subscribe and leave a review so more people can find this podcast! I would also love to hear from you, so contact me through instagram @HHarveywrites with your stories of divorce and heartbreak, any thoughts you have on the episode or even questions you may want answering.
I have always wanted to do a podcast. For years, back in my blogging hayday I was always banging on about it - the podcasts I loved, and how much I’d love to do my own. But I was never brave enough.
Well, now I guess am. And I also have something to talk about too because the last couple of years I have been going through a divorce, has been a real eye-opener and I want to share what I’ve learnt about that and about myself.
To survive my divorce, I threw everything at it. I spent a lot of money on expert advice, woowoo stuff, online courses, books and learned a lot of lessons the hard way. And, I’ll be sharing that in this podcast.
I had to be really brave, which was tough but it’s muscle you’ve got to keep working so here I am. I am hoping that in doing this thing that really scares me, this podcast, that it might give someone else the courage to go for what they want out of life too.
So, this podcast is a collection of bite sized episodes on a theme, pretty much always book ended by a celebrity quote on divorce or life after love. I really hope you enjoy it and as I said, you can get in touch on instagram @hharveywrites or through my website hannahharvey.uk.