Clouded Compass: From Barriers to Breakthroughs: Recent Episodes
Laurie Smith, LMSW, CDE, CCATP, CCTP, CAIMHP, IHRP, SMART Facilitator
Tools for Individual and Collective Healing Exploring Sustainable Solutions through a Trauma Informed Lens
Hosted by a Veteran Social Worker of 20 years in the trenches of Human Suffering Author: LifeHacks: Tips and Tricks for Accessing Your Inner Resilience https://www.amazon.com/Life-Hacks-Tricks-Accessing-Resilience-ebook/dp/B085LVNDCV Owner: Clouded Compass, LLC - Coaching, Consulting, Training (in development) Storyteller Adventurer
I share my reflections on Netflix's The Program: Cons, Cults and Kidnapping
I share insights on the impact of carceral care programs, including boarding schools and juvenile detention centers from the Individual to World.
Then I discuss root causes and sustainable solutions.
We can do better and we must!
Send me a message and let me know what you think!
https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
In this episode I share reflections on living within ADHD.
As a Neurodivergent female, this piece in the Rainbow Goddess: Celebrating Neurodiversity Anthology spoke to my heart and I wanted to share it with others.
If this episode speaks to you, I've created tools that you would dig, available here.
Life is full of hidden internal landmines - do you know yours?
Gain Clarity within the Chaos and improve your quality of life exponentially by understanding how YOUR unique brain and body are wired!
https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
Dr Simmons and I had a great conversation about our wellness as mental health providers, the mental health climate in Florida, preventing burnout and compassion fatigue and spirituality as an added buffer against oppressive forces.
Dr. Simmons has been practicing for 15+ years, identifies as Neurodivergent and is the co-owner of the Collective Wellness Institute in Tampa Bay, Florida. She is the author of Fight With Faith, which discusses her journey with breast cancer and is committed to being a "change agent" in her work.
Her tools can be found in the following links: https://linktr.ee/drshnai
https://thecollectivewellnessinstitute.com/shnai/
In this episode I explore my journey with CPTSD and at-home Ketamine use. Insights are shared as they relate to what my 'sessions' have been like as well as the longer term outcomes I'm seeing in my daily life.
Have a listen if you'd like to learn more about the use of psychadelics in healing mental health!
My additional healing tools can be found here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
Welcome back!
This episode talks about what I was up to in 2023:
*Bariatric Revision Surgery
*Mental Health
*MH Recovery
*Aligning business, authenticity and mental health
I've also created additional tools for transformation including a new book, several new webinars, etc. https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
Let me know what you think!
Lindsay Drouillard is a Nurse Practitioner. She is the Director and Founder of Therapy Ranch, which connects Horses and Humans in Healing. She is a graduate of Michigan State College of Nursing and Wayne State with a Master's of Science in Nursing. She is a proud mother of 3, wife, and has been EAGALA Certified as an Equine Specialist since 2017.
Therapy Ranch provides Equine-Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP) as a mental health intervention and teaching method to decrease symptoms of several mental health issues. The benefits of EAP are too numerous to mention, so you can start learning more here! https://www.therapyranch.org/
To volunteer for Therapy Ranch and/or to learn more about supporting this organization and utilizing their services, all upcoming information is available here linktr.ee/therapyranch.
To learn more about Horses for Mental Health and their campaign for mental health awareness Seen Through Horses. (May 1-31), click here https://horsesformentalhealth.org/Seen Through Horseshttps://horsesformentalhealth.org/campaign/
Our guest this week is a Local Powerhouse and Treasure!
She is fighting with 'boots on the ground' against Stigma as it relates to Mental Health and Substance Use locally, with Youth, Community Groups and in our Surrounding Churches. Her latest project is a new Movie entitled A Sick Church Can't Heal a Dying World (out soon so stay tuned!) in which she explores the Churches role, treatment and shifting perspective on its participants that are struggling with mental health and/or substance use. She is also Host of the Podcast/Talkshow The Real Black Coffee-No Sugar, No Cream, Straight Talk with Valerie https://www.therealblackcoffee.com/
You are going to want to listen up to hear how Community Action and Change is made! She is a Veteran Change Agent in Belleville, Inkster and the Greater Detroit Area!
Please welcome Valerie Kelley-Bonner, who is the founder of Strategies to Overcome Obstacles and Avoid Recidivism (SOOAR) https://www.sooar-nonprofit.org/, a 501C3 nonprofit organization licensed by the Michigan Department of Community Health Substance Abuse Prevention Section and prevention services provider for the Detroit Wayne Mental health Authority. She is also the CEO and Lead Consultant of Strategic Transitions Consulting. For over 20 years she has been helping people reach their full potential through business development, mentoring, empowerment coaching, career development, behavior modification, and various life skills coaching programs. Her goal is to provide a level of service that will encourage, enlighten, and empower individuals to adopt the leadership behaviors required to divert life’s black hole and make informed choices for their lives.
Valerie holds a Bachelor of Business Administration-Marketing and Master of Business Administration with an emphasis in Non-Profit Administration from Cleary University. She has worked in the fields of business, science, education, engineering, and information technology. She is a Certified Prevention Consultant (CPC-R) under the auspice of the Michigan Certification Board of Addiction Professionals, a Certified Trainer of several evidence-based prevention programs, and has several other certifications and different areas of expertise. She enjoyed volunteering her time for Kiwanis Club and on the Boards of the Metro Detroit Charter Center, Romulus Mayors Drug Task Force, and the Executive Board of the Belleville Downtown Development Authority.
Let us know what you think about this episode, the topics and/or our guests! Find more information about the host here: https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
If we are not careful, we will have ourselves believing that this messy world is the only reality. It will have us believing there is no way out from the distress and pain that we experience on a daily basis...
Want to work with me? Check out my Linktree for my resources! https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
It's Women's History Month... let's talk about women and their role in our lives. Who are your sheros? Why? And who are mine and why? Why is this important? Listen up for the power of this resource in our lives!
Let's unpack this current event. Ethics and Expertise of both client and Therapist matter and the media isn't talking about THAT. Wanna know how to spot a Therapist that can handle your stuff (ps, that's our Job, so they better), listen up!Wanna work with me? I've got Tools that fit.https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
Rachel Kapp-Brown is a Registered Dietician and a long-term colleague. She is currently a Nutrition Coach and, since it's National Nutrition Month, we sat down to have a chat about what it truly takes to change our relationship with food. Behavior Change is only part of the equation so you are going to want to listen up as we 'talk shop' about how to get YOU to your Goals with food or any other substance!
You can find Rachel at Moving Fully Nourished https://movefullynourished.com/about-me/ and her IG is rachelbrown_movefullynourished.
Would you like to work with me? Want my free workbook on Tools for Transformation? Head over to my Linktree and follow me on Social Media for updates! During the month of December, my Signature Course is 50% off!!!! For $199 you can kick of a year of Me and 2023! https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
It's Black History Month and I'm sharing 4 Authors who wrote 4 books who have impacted my personal and professional life.
This week we are exploring Mariam Kaba's book We Do This Til It Free's Us. It offers an excellent overview of Abolition, why it's important, why defunding the police is practical and necessary and why and how we can use transformative justice in our own lives to create the world we want to live in. It's a great book with several facts and figures.
New York Times Bestseller
“Organizing is both science and art. It is thinking through a vision, a strategy, and then figuring out who your targets are, always being concerned about power, always being concerned about how you’re going to actually build power in order to be able to push your issues, in order to be able to get the target to actually move in the way that you want to.”
What if social transformation and liberation isn’t about waiting for someone else to come along and save us? What if ordinary people have the power to collectively free ourselves? In this timely collection of essays and interviews, Mariame Kaba reflects on the deep work of abolition and transformative political struggle.
With a foreword by Naomi Murakawa and chapters on seeking justice beyond the punishment system, transforming how we deal with harm and accountability, and finding hope in collective struggle for abolition, Kaba’s work is deeply rooted in the relentless belief that we can fundamentally change the world. As Kaba writes, “Nothing that we do that is worthwhile is done alone.”
You can find out more about Ms. Kaba here https://bcrw.barnard.edu/fellows/mariame-kaba/ and her book here https://amzn.to/3l65UTB
Let me know what you think on social media and take a peak at my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
This is a MUST listen for anyone struggling with custody, family courts and/or sticky legal situations!
Maryann Petri is my guest today. She was first on my podcast last year (4/8/22) and she is back to share more of her own story and that of Countless guests she's had on her own podcast Slam The Gavel.
We are pulling the curtains back on what REALLY happens in the court room and why it's CRITICAL that you understand your Rights and Resources available to you.
You are going to want to share this episode with somone you know. It's chocked FULL of information needed for those who find themselves in these anything but Just situations!
You can find more about Maryann here:
Author of Dismantling Family Court Corruption and Cry Out For Justice, Poems of Truth and the Creator, Host and Organizer of Slam the Gavel Podcast: Slam the Gavel is a podcast to discuss Family Court Issues, Support Court, Support-contempt conferences and hearings and Child Services issues. Advice on how parents can cope with these issues along with Parental Alienation. Based off the book, Dismantling Family Court Corruption, Why Taking The Kids Was Not Enough. This book can be found on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Kindle, Apple and Smashwords.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com
Keep in touch with my offerings on Social Media and Linktree. Available here: https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
It's Black History Month and we are covering 4 Authors and Trailblazers who have impacted my life and my work.
This episode we cover Patrice Cullor's Book The Abolitionist's Handbook.
Think you know what Abolition is? Think again. I am an active Abolitionist and it has changed my relationships and is part of being a Harm Reductionists. She offers practical tips that are relevant to us all to liberate our minds and bodies from the limiting conditions we've been living in.
Cullors asks us to lead with love, fierce compassion, and precision.
In AN ABOLITIONIST’S HANDBOOK readers will learn how to:
- have courageous conversations
- move away from reaction and towards response
- take care of oneself while fighting for others
- turn inter-community conflict into a transformative action
- expand one’s imagination, think creatively, and find the courage to experiment
- make justice joyful
- practice active forgiveness
- make space for difficult feelings and honor mental health
- practice non-harm and cultivate compassion
- organize local and national governments to work towards abolition
- move away from cancel culture
You can find more about her here https://patrissecullors.com/ and her book is available here https://amzn.to/3wR35s1
Let me know what you think on social media and learn what other offerings I have available here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
It's Black History Month so I'm sharing Author's who have impacted my life significantly and sharing them with YOU.
bell hooks has influenced my life for the last 20 years. This book, however, is an underutlized resource for how to heal the lack of compassion and hope we have in our world.
A New York Times bestseller and enduring classic, All About Love is the acclaimed first volume in feminist icon bell hooks' "Love Song to the Nation" trilogy. All About Love reveals what causes a polarized society, and how to heal the divisions that cause suffering. Here is the truth about love, and inspiration to help us instill caring, compassion, and strength in our homes, schools, and workplaces.
“The word ‘love’ is most often defined as a noun, yet we would all love better if we used it as a verb,” writes bell hooks as she comes out fighting and on fire in All About Love. Here, at her most provocative and intensely personal, renowned scholar, cultural critic and feminist bell hooks offers a proactive new ethic for a society bereft with lovelessness--not the lack of romance, but the lack of care, compassion, and unity. People are divided, she declares, by society’s failure to provide a model for learning to love.
As bell hooks uses her incisive mind to explore the question “What is love?” her answers strike at both the mind and heart. Razing the cultural paradigm that the ideal love is infused with sex and desire, she provides a new path to love that is sacred, redemptive, and healing for individuals and for a nation. The Utne Reader declared bell hooks one of the “100 Visionaries Who Can Change Your Life.” All About Love is a powerful, timely affirmation of just how profoundly her revelations can change hearts and minds for the better.
You can learn more about this National Resource here https://www.berea.edu/bhc/about-bell/ and her book is available here https://amzn.to/40q6LP1
Let me know what you think on my Social Media and take a look at my other offerings, available here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
Welcome guest Mary Beth O'Connor! Author of Junkie to Judge: One Women's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, available here https://amzn.to/3DTWtND
For Mary Beth, childhood abuse and other traumas led to substance use disorder (addiction).
Beginning with alcohol at age 12, she spent several years abusing various drugs. She found methamphetamine at 16 and started shooting up at 17. Mary Beth struggled with meth until she was 32 years old.
By incorporating ideas from multiple sources to build a secular (not 12-step or faith based) recovery plan that works for her, Mary Beth has been sober since 1994. She used similar techniques to address the trauma and related anxiety as well.
Mary Beth is a board member for LifeRing Secular Recovery and She Recovers Foundation. She speaks on behalf of these organizations, about multiple paths to recovery, and about all topics related to substance use disorder and recovery. She also speaks about sexual abuse and rape, child abuse, domestic violence, ptsd, anxiety, and recovering from these as well.
Mary Beth's book-length memoir, From Junkie to Judge: One Woman's Triumph Over Trauma and Addiction, is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bamm, Indie Bound, and other sites, and at your local bookstore. She also has placed essays in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, and Recovery Today.
Professionally, 6 years into recovery, Mary Beth attended Berkeley Law. She worked at a large firm in Silicon Valley, then litigated class actions for the federal government. In 2014, Mary Beth was appointed a federal Administrative Law Judge, a position from which she retired in 2020.
https://junkietojudge.com/
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings! Check out my Coaching Courses, my Webinars, my Tiktoks, my Book, 1:1 sessions, etc. available here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
It's Black History Month, so we are celebrating 4 Black Authors who are changing history by sharing their solutions.
Resmaa Menakem is a fellow social worker who wrote My Grandmother's Hands and I discuss how this book has impacted me, my work and offered incredibly useful tools for HEALING within families and our greater culture.
You can find Resmaa's work here https://www.resmaa.com/about and My Grandmother's Hands here https://amzn.to/3DCnaGo
Stay tuned for our next episode where we explore bell hooks All About Love.
Wanna work with me? Leave me feedback? You can find my social media, tools and podcast here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
I'm so excited to bring you my personal Mentor and Coach DeeDee Stout. When I was in the trenches of a toxic and lethal 'voluntary' program of help that harmed, I had lost hope. Little did I know that MOST WOMEN will experience this in carceral programs (in fact, most humans). DeeDee and I speak about her experiences in the Substance Use community from working IN systems of harm to escaping them and why she wrote her book (I highly recommend) Coming to Harm Reduction Kicking and Screaming. Her work focuses on Harm Reduction and Human-Centered Care and she has taught many of us...
Dee Dee Stout was named one of the top 10 Harm Reductionists you should know by Psychology Today and is a Harm Reduction Coach, Consultant and Teacher/Trainer with over 30 years of experience in the substance use treatment industry. She has been noted in many media outlets, movies, videos and podcasts and is the Author of Coming to Harm Reduction Kicking and Screaming. Learn more about DeeDee and her services here! https://www.deedeestoutconsulting.com/
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc. available here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
I recently had Bariatric Revision Surgery. I talk about Pacing, self-compassion and gut hormones as it relates to so many of our chronic illnesses. This matters because we live in a world that drills it into our brains to produce, produce, produce! Let's think bigger, wiser and more sustainable! These are the guts of genuine healing. Listen up and let me know what you think!
Let's talk New Year, New Goals, New Tools!
Today's episode I will discuss caring for self as a Trauma Survivor. I will share my own journey from productivity to effectiveness and what I'm doing about that in 2023 through a trauma focused and harm reduction lens. Listen up for those of you with shame, guilt and 'not good enough' feelings...
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
Chapter 12: Horticulture on the Moon: Parenting, Undermined
Barriers to parenting and how our ‘norms’ often set parents up to fail
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Thanks for listening!
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
Chapter 11: What Choices Do I Have? Childbirth in a Medicalized Culture
The unnecessary Traumas associated with childbirth and why it matters how are doctors are trained
Listen as we explores the ‘lay of the land’ in terms of Trauma and its effects. Mate’s work is relatable, digestible and groundbreaking.
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 12: Horticulture on the Moon: Parenting, Undermined
Barriers to parenting and how our ‘norms’ often set parents up to fail
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in December!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
Chapter 10: Trouble at the Threshold: Before We Come Into the World
Why a mother’s health and stress matter pre-birth
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 11: What Choices Do I Have? Childbirth in a Medicalized Culture
The unnecessary Traumas associated with childbirth and why it matters how are doctors are trained
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
Part 2: The Distortion of Human Development
Chapter 8: Who Are We Really? Human Nature, Human Needs
What are basic human needs and exploration of how our ‘norms’ work against them
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 9: A Sturdy or Fragile Foundation: Children’s Irreducible Needs
Vital Child Development Needs and the generational cost of not meeting them
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/
Chapter 9: A Sturdy or Fragile Foundation: Children’s Irreducible Needs
Vital Child Development Needs and the generational cost of not meeting them
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 10: Trouble at the Threshold: Before We Come Into the World
Why a mother’s health and stress matter pre-birth
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them
Part 2: The Distortion of Human Development
Chapter 7: A Traumatic Tension: Attachment vs Authenticity
When human needs compete we all lose and how ‘Type C’ personality is a byproduct and often causal factor in our future health
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 8: Who Are We Really? Human Nature, Human Needs
What are basic human needs and exploration of how our ‘norms’ work against them
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal (available here https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/) is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
Part 1: Our Interconnected Nature
Chapter 6: It Ain’t a Thing: Disease as Process
How we relate to these processes matters! Why and how an adversarial relationship with our dis-ease becomes a self fulfilling prophecy
Listen as we explores the ‘lay of the land’ in terms of Trauma and its effects. Mate’s work is relatable, digestible and groundbreaking.
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 7: A Traumatic Tension: Attachment vs Authenticity
When human needs compete we all lose and how ‘Type C’ personality is a byproduct and often causal factor in our future health
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/
Part 1: Our Interconnected Nature
Chapter 5: Mutiny on the Body: The Mystery of the Rebellious Immune System
How our immune system responds to external threats
Listen as we explores the ‘lay of the land’ in terms of Trauma and its effects. Mate’s work is relatable, digestible and groundbreaking.
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 6: It Ain’t a Thing: Disease as Process
How we relate to these processes matters! Why and how an adversarial relationship with our dis-ease becomes a self fulfilling prohecy
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/
Part 1: Our Interconnected Nature
Chapter 4: Everything I’m Surrounded By: Dispatches from the New Science
How gene expression is impacted by our surroundings and encodes our nervous system
Listen as we explores the ‘lay of the land’ in terms of Trauma and its effects. Mate’s work is relatable, digestible and groundbreaking.
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 5: Mutiny on the Body: The Mystery of the Rebellious Immune System
How our immune system responds to external threats
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/
Part 1: Our Interconnected Nature
Chapter 3: You Rattle My Brain: Our Highly Interpersonal Biology
Discussing the relational nature of our health
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up, Chapter 4: Everything I’m Surrounded By: Dispatches from the New Science
How gene expression is impacted by our surroundings and encodes our nervous system
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/
Part 1: Our Interconnected Nature
Chapter 2 Living in an Immaterial World: Emotions, Health and the Body-Mind Unity
Suppression, Repression and our Bodies Response to such Terrorism per the Science
Listen as we explores the ‘lay of the land’ in terms of Trauma and its effects. Mate’s work is relatable, digestible and groundbreaking.
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Next up we explore Chapter 3: You Rattle My Brain: Our Highly Interpersonal Biology
If you like the Podcast, you may also like my other offerings here https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass. Check out my Group Coaching Course (50% off in Decemember!), my webinars, my tiktoks, my book, 1:1 sessions, etc.
There are lots of ways to work with me. Let’s Uncover Your Inner Assets!
Gabor Mate's latest book the Myth of Normal is VITAL to our well-being. I find it SO relevant to our current individual and social ailments that I'm sharing the first 12 chapters and my reflections on them based on my personal and professional experience as a Behavioral Health Provider and a Trauma Survivor.
https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/
Part 1: Our Interconnected Nature
Chapter 1
Listen as we explores the ‘lay of the land’ in terms of Trauma and its effects. Mate’s work is relatable, digestible and groundbreaking.
In the following chapters we will be exploring:
- How our ‘norms’ are working against our well-being
- How mind-body are have been separated and why that matters,
- The interpersonal nature of our health,
- The assault on our minds and bodies of our current ‘norms’,
- The cost of our unnatural inauthenticity,
- The human needs we aren’t meeting (including the basic human needs of children)
- How we transfer trauma generationally and biologically and;
- The medicalized trauma of how we birth our next generation.
I promise it’s not all doom and gloom though, we will be covering solutions as well, so stay tuned, listen up and let me know what you think!
Chapter 2 Living in an Immaterial World: Emotions, Health and the Body-Mind Unity
I'm not tech savvy, but I wanted to share the interview with Maryann Petri and share her offerings with the world.
In this episode we tackle how to handle being alone for the holidays, through the lens of isolation and loss.
Listen up and tell me what you think!
Then head over to Slam the Gavel and listen to all of Maryann's guest as they tackle the terrain of legal injustice.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCMyLd1bOXY
Listen up as my Colleague Katie Allen and I discuss writing, it's benefits, when NOT to write and what and how writing can transform your wellbeing. So exciting to be talking about a FREE tool for Transformation!
Katie also offers resources, retreats and writing support at https://www.katieallen.net/ Join her for a weekend retreat or an hour of creative non-fiction writing weekly!
Finally, we didn't discuss her other endeavor, but she partners with her Senegalese friend to offer unique and hand crafted items here! It's also where you can find her own self-published book about her experience there! https://www.terangamarket.com/
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Welcome back! This book should be offered in high schools across our world! Listed up as I share Gabor Mate's new book: The Myth of Normal. So Important, I'm sharing it all with you! Mixed with my own professional knowledge base! Let me know what you think!
Kyle Johnston and I recently met when I learned of his movement called Drop the Label. He and I speak about Recovery Alternatives and the Dangers of a one size fits all approach. Listen up and follow Clouded Compass on IG, FB and TikTok (Cloudedcompass2021).
Also listen up as we recently recorded a Podcast on his show Get Happy with cohosts Heather Bellovich and Diamond Morales https://open.spotify.com/show/4oBQzQe3pd79rSX0lVPGrp?si=71c29ab87194452f
Let us know what you think and check out my other offerings here: https://linktr.ee/cloudedcompass
Sign up for my email and I'll send you a free workbook: How to Calm Your Nervous System
Then... stay tuned... I'm lining us up a collective Dinner Date for Decolonizing soon!!! I hope you'll join us!
Meet my friend Dara (pronouns They/Them)! A colleague who has been passionately working with gender-questioning, transgender, and nonbinary clients for decades. Their YouTube Channel is full of an incredible wealth of information Conversations with a Gender Therapist YouTube channel and their book is a must read for anyone wanting to learn more about Gender Identity and how EACH of us have a right to define that for ourselves! https://discoveryourgenderidentity.com/product/you-and-your-gender-identity/?attribute_pa_format=printed-edition
It was an honor to have this much needed discussion on career transitions mid-career and how to listen to our own needs and pivot when needed!
Follow Clouded Compass on IG and FB and TikTok, stay tuned for Back to Basics Course, coming soon!
My guest today is Dr Jo Lamm, a fellow healer based in Minnesota. Listen up as her and I discuss our mutual transitions from our previous work toward Coaching, Why, Why it Matters to You and HOW we serve the folks we work with and uphold our Social Justice Ethics while doing so. This conversation was so fun and she is doing great work! Check her out at the following places! Then stay tuned because we are planning an Trauma/Body/Mind Virtual Workshop coming in Late Summer! Dr. Jo Lamm, PsyD (she/her) https://www.tulasoul.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/drjo77 https://www.alignable.com/plymouth-mn/dr-jo-lamm https://my.yogaalliance.org/people/jo-l-e-ryt-200-ryt-500 https://www.spiritualclassifieds.org/minnesota/minneapolis/spiritual-coaching/dr-jo-l
Let us know what you think at Clouded Compass on IG and FB, subscribe to the Podcast and SHARE these RESOURCES with someone you know who may need them!!!
Lisa May Bennett and I have SO much in common. I wonder if some of you have similar experiences? Listen up as we talk about our relationship with Alcohol, what it did for us, what it did not, how it's related to early relationships and how we overcame unhealthy drinking! Oh, and Lisa wrote and published a book about her journey too! Check out My Unfurling: Emerging from the Grip of Anxiety, Self Doubt and Drinking on Amazon! https://www.amazon.com/My-Unfurling-Emerging-Self-Doubt-Drinking/dp/B09WZJXBCZ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=238IF3QTWPUVJ&keywords=lisa+bennett+unfurling&qid=1651863987&sprefix=lisa+bennett+unfurling%2Caps%2C120&sr=8-1
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You are going to want to listen to me and this Lady! She is blazing trails all OVER the State. From Wayne State, to sharing plant based medicines, Harm Reduction, Sex Therapy, Tarot and Art - she's one incredible resource!er
I had so much fun talking to her about our similar life paths and how we went from our past and are paving the way towards our future.
Let me know what you think of our conversation and her and I hosting a Michigan-Based Holistic Healing Retreat at the end of June, so stay Tuned!
Here's here fancy Wayne State Profile https://socialwork.wayne.edu/profile/hb9997
And here is her Private Practice/Business site. https://www.threefates.org/?fbclid=IwAR2wdc15cz2ndb0f6wHaxJwQu-Z6ADseMI1odgb8-nnwzk5X_BOrcb-20qk
Oh, and she's incredibly intuitive and is great with Tarot too!!!
Stay tuned for more great guests and subscribe to the Podcast. Let us know what you think on Clouded Compass IG and FB.
In this episodes I talk about my own Transformation after 5 years of Retraumatization and Psychiatric Gaslighting.
I'm also a mental health provider and I have lots to say about this now that I'm finally ready to talk about it.
Even better: this transformation led me to Clouded Compass.
That matters to you because: I have worked with thousands of humans in my lifetime and I'm bringing YOU the KEY factors that have worked in their transformaiton as well.
Listen up and let me if you enjoy it!
Follow me on FB and IG (leave a comment, share, etc). If this has value, I also wrote a book (LifeHacks) and have a course launching soon!
Thank you for the time you took to listen to this, my strongest passion is helping others in EFFECTIVE ways!
Share widely!
Back to Basics is coming soon and I want to share it with the WORLD.
I've seen incredible transformations in my clients and myself in utilizing the tools I'll be offering in this Course.
6wks. 12 videos. Group Coaching = Transformation
Find YOUR North, so that YOU can gain Clarity within the Chaos.... in a Choose Your OWN Adventure Format!
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Remember when you used to daydream? Imagine? Have hope? Want some? Listen up...
Talking about internal imprisonment and how to unlearn what clouds our inherent light!
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I'm on a mission to lift the whole boat and heal the world from the Inside Out... this chapter in a Group Context!
If this resonates with you, please share with someone you know who may need it.
Course coming soon! Back to Basics launch in May!
Will you hear something in this episode that will help you on your journey?
I share my Neurodiversity, how it is the NORM and how I've learned to lean IN to the Assets it has given me!
In fact, I've birthed 2 new entities into the World: my 2 businesses.
Wanna know what they are teaching me that could help you too?
Listen up and let me know what was helpful!
Comment on FB and IG, share with someone you think this may help and consider my book (LifeHacks) or my Group Course: Back to Basics
Find Your North and Move from Chaos to Clarity
In this episode I lay the groundwork for the Mission of Clouded Compass and why it matters to every human on Earth.
We dig into how and why we have become disassociated from our internal wellness and how to heal the relationship with self and world from the inside out (my version, there are lots in the world actually lol).
I grew tired of band-aid approaches and I can't wait to share with you what has helped my clients excel, grow and learn their OWN True North!
Follow me on FB and IG and let me know what you think, consider my book LifeHacks: Tips and Tricks to Access Your Inner Resilience and Stay Tuned as our Course Back to Basics launches soon!
I lost my cell phone recently... and it led me to share this analogy with you on your Worth and how life runs us over! See if it makes sense to you, then leave a comment on FB and IG and/or share with someone who it might resonate with.
LifeHacks is also available and the Back to Basics Course is launching in May!
Stay tuned... never know what metaphor I'll use to describe our basic human functioning!
Today I share part 2 of piece of Adrienne Maree Brown's book We Will Not Cancel Us: and other dreams of transformative justice ... found here https://www.akpress.org/we-will-not-cancel-us.html
We move from Call Out to Transformation, Healing and Solutions... listen up.
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Today I'm introducing you to Adrienne Maree Brown and her book, which can be found here: https://www.akpress.org/we-will-not-cancel-us.html
I do so in effort to raise consciousness of our collective Soul Wounds and how they are expressing themselves in our current environment.
"Cancel or call-out culture is a fraught topic these days. Originating as a way for marginalized and disempowered people to address harm and take down powerful abusers, often with the help of social media, it is seen by some as having gone too far. But what is “too far” when you’re talking about imbalances of power and patterns of harm? And what happens when people in social movements direct our righteous anger inward at one another?
In We Will Not Cancel Us, movement mediator adrienne maree brown reframes the discussion for us, in a way that points to possible paths beyond our impasse. Most critiques of cancel culture come from outside the milieus that produce it, sometimes even from its targets. Brown explores the question from a Black, queer, and feminist viewpoint that gently asks, how well does this practice serve us? Does it prefigure the sort of world we want to live in? And, if it doesn’t, how do we seek accountability and redress for harm in ways that reflect our values?"
Listen up everyone,
An Excellent Resource here with Maryann Petri. I met her in the underbelly of the Court System recently and she is a Powerhouse!
Had trouble with the Courts? Had trouble in Family Courts? Had job trouble because of an Abusive relationship? Had injustice when raising sounds of Alarm? This ones for you or someone you know.... Consider it your intro to our Pay for Play System.
Author of Dismantling Family Court Corruption and Cry Out For Justice, Poems of Truth and the Creator, Host and Organizer of Slam the Gavel Podcast: Slam the Gavel is a podcast to discuss Family Court Issues, Support Court, Support-contempt conferences and hearings and Child Services issues. Advice on how parents can cope with these issues along with Parental Alienation. Based off the book, Dismantling Family Court Corruption, Why Taking The Kids Was Not Enough. This book can be found on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Kindle, Apple and Smashwords.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com
Nancy Becher has been a business owner most of her life. She also has a Chronic Illness. So she started a company to work with other individuals facing the same. Now... she's off and running with her next venture: a Nonprofit designed to offer support to business entrepreneurs with chronic illness titled The Invisible Entrepreneur. Listen up as she is asking us to support this vital work that will lift entire families.
For more info, follow her work:
"Growing a successful business is hard enough but trying to do it while adjusting to a new challenge like a chronic illness can definitely derail the best of us! Nancy understands...she has been there, done that! With 30 years of success, she knows the necessary business hacks to increase your income and relieve the day to day stress of running a business all while living in an unco-operative body! Nancy can help you...go to http://businesssuccessunlimited.com/ to set up a Curious Call today!"
They don't call her the Chief Flying Pig Wrangler for nothing!
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Where did Cancel culture come from? You might be surprised. Most of all when I speak about the fact that it is WE who cancel ourSelves first. Listen up and...
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Warning in this episode I misspeak Severely. Near the end, I refer to the historical behaviors as they relate to the Jews. I MEANT to say the 'that's what the Nazi's did', instead, I didn't realize until after I said 'that's what the Jews did'. The Jews did not and I'm not tech savvy enough to fix this audio, so I offer this apology and disclaimer as it was my error and I wanted to set the record accurate.
ACES are a critical point of reference to review what our life history provided us. Listen, learn and love yourself after you hear more about these hidden assets!
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What parts of yourself are you showing the World? Listen up as I talk about the Costs/Benefits of your Strategies.... as told through my Purple Hair!
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What color is your Life showing up as lately? What flavor is it? If these are foreign questions to you, listen up, I'm talking to you. Time to expand your resources and learn how to use your wet noodle!
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For years I diagnosed 'the problem'. What they don't emphasize is the hidden VALUE of including a diagnosis of ASSETS from those same symptoms. Hand to God. This is a good one. Pay attention and share with your friends!
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What ARE your Beliefs? How did you arrive at them? Did you know they can effect your Nervous System?
Want Solutions? Listen up!
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Tell your friends if this was helpful and why! Sharing is Caring and Growing is in the Knowing!
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Many of us are taught to Give.
To Others.
Rarely are we taught how, why and the value of Receiving.
We need Both and here's why.
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Tell your friends if this was helpful and why! Sharing is Caring and Growing is in the Knowing!
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Today we talk about the Value of our Ancestors and what we may have inherited bodily from their experiences. Then, I read an excerpt from Oprah and Dr Perry's book What Happened To You? https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Understanding-Resilience/dp/1250223180/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3DCNBBF4JWNAY&keywords=what+happened+to+you&qid=1645474504&sprefix=what+happened+to+you%2Caps%2C108&sr=8-1
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Tell your friends if this was helpful and why! Sharing is Caring and Growing is in the Knowing!
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Discussing ACES, Developmental Trauma and how to harness the ASSETS that gave you. You earned the skills you have for Life by all that you've already been through. Let's look at them to see what's helpful, what's not and/or which ones may need to be recalibrated!
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Peers. Professionals. Fellow Humans. Listen Up.
Are you working in jobs that kill your Soul? Are you asked to do things at work that are against your own inner values?
What do you do with that!?
Who do you talk about it with?
Listen up. It's Juicy.
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Everyone has a Story. Many of us have several different versions. Stories, when told and heard, are a Healing balm... Listen as I discuss how they shape our lives...
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Today I speak about the Need I saw bubbling up over and over again, which led to my newest venture Clouded Compass. We talk about you. We talk about needed Tools and I offer Solutions.
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This episode we talk about Expectations, how to Renegotiate your Future (and why) and how to build Empowerment within while doing so.
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Stay tuned for a Recalibration Course for your Nervous System coming soon!
Want a Revolution in the World? Feeling Irritable, Restless and Discontent? Listen up....
This Revolution isn't going to be Televised.
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I love mining for Diamonds. It's not that the Diamonds aren't underneath the Coal, it's that we are afraid to unearth them. Today's episode talks about the Value of Storytelling, Ancestors, Sheros and Joy.
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Hey Everybody, welcome to the Clouded Compass podcast. This is Laurie, I'm your host, I am a social worker, in a lot of other things. And I'm here to talk to us today about one of my favorite frameworks for understanding what to keep and what to let go of. And it's I frame it in the terms of shedding, not shoulding. So if you look back at your life, and I want you to ask yourself how you arrived at the beliefs that you have? In other words, where did you learn these things from? Then I want you to ask if you agree with them or not. Because most of the time we live our lives in the land of Should: Should do this, I should do this, I should do that option, do that, shouldn't do this, oh, my God, I should I should really pay attention to my own mental health, blah, blah, blah. Yep, we should do a lot of things. Guess what, The world ain't perfect. But where did those values come from? The reality is, if you really set an intention, and were meaningful and purposeful, and those things had value to you, it wouldn't be a question you would do them, there would be no shoulds. The disconnect is between I should get use my rational brain that yep, that's a great idea. And where you're actually ready to go in terms of your readiness, willingness, and skill level, I believe I can't and I, I'm getting them wrong, but but your readiness and willingness often don't match the should. When that happens, we beat ourselves up. What if we, instead of shoulding, What if we start shedding, stop, shoulding. Start shedding the belief that I'm only going to be okay, if I do what I should stop, start shedding the belief that I can only be successful because of what I should do, stop shoulding, start shedding the belief that I should do what's best for everybody else, start shedding the belief that I should do it because X, Y and Z told me to, start shedding the belief that I should do these things because I want to be a good person. That is a motivator. It is not the most successful motivator because like I said, you beat yourself up. And that's really not how behavior change works, you are not going to get to where you're going if you don't give yourself a little bit of support. So what if we started shedding all of these things? What if we started asking instead: Do I want to? Do I have to? Do I need to? Do I want to get out of bed today? Because my depression is bad. And yeah, I know it's gonna be good if I go out walking, I really should do my physical activity. But my mind and body are saying something completely different to me today. And I'm not listening. Well, somebody with chronic illness should be able to walk around a mall for two hours!?, if you have chronic pain, and it is screaming at you, why the fuck would you? Why should you? Why should you exacerbate that? That is not to say and more importantly, when you don't force yourself to do things you don't want to do, you're not as resentful. you don't betray yourself, you actually start maybe considering that your own internal compass has some value, you listen to yourself and when you are then in a safe place to change internally it will happen as a byproduct of your nervous systems regulation, your thought processes etc. But when we look externally for option x y&z we need to really get clear and match that up with what we what we're ready to do, what we're willing to do and what we're able to do. Because if you should get a college degree and you've never graduated high school, okay, maybe, but what is it that that thing, again whatever you 'should' be doing, what is the meaning that that has for you? what value does it have that you should have and so let's take for example weight loss you know, I should lose 10 pounds, why should lose a lot because I had a whole year of PTSD where I ate all year because of my emotional dysregulation even if I'm not happy with my weight now I'm actually a health at every size person. I particularly am just not comfortable physically with the si
Hey Everybody welcome back to The Club compass podcast. This is Laurie your host. I'm talking about social issues, behavior change, and empowerment based strategies that provide sustainable outcomes. Today I'm going to read some excerpts of a book from somebody that I appreciate. This book was really helpful to me. And her name is Valerie Kaur. She wrote a book called See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto Of Revolutionary Love. She has a history with the social change. And I want to just read you an excerpt because because it's so juicy. Okay, so here we go. Wonder is our birth rate. It comes easily in childhood, the feeling of watching dust motes, dancing in sunlight, or climbing a tree to touch the sky or falling asleep thinking about where the universe ends. If we are safe and nurtured enough to develop our capacity to wonder, we start to wonder about the other people in our lives to their thoughts and experiences, their pain and their joy their wants and needs, we begin to sense that they are to themselves as vast and complex as we are to ourselves, their inner world as infinite as ours. In other words, we are seeing them as our equal. We are gaining information about how to love them. Wonder is the wellspring for love. It's easy to wonder about the internal life of the people closest to us. But it's harder to wonder about people who seem like strangers or outsiders. When we choose to wonder about people we don't know, when we imagine their lives and listen to their story, we begin to expand the circle of those we see as part of us. We prepare ourselves to love beyond what evolution requires. The culture loves beyond our own flesh and blood is ancient. And that goes down to us on the lips of indigenous leaders, spiritual teachers and social reformers through the centuries, Nanat called us to see no stranger, Buddha, to practicing unending compassion, Abraham to open our tents all he says, to love our neighbor, Mohammed to take in the orphan nearby to live without limits. They all expanded the circle who counts as one of us, and therefore who is worthy of our care and concern. These teachings were rooted in the linguistic, cultural and spiritual context of their time, that they spoke of a common vision of our interconnectedness and interdependence. It is the ancient Sanskrit truth that we can look upon anyone or anything and say, xxxxxxx. I am that is the African philosophy, philosophy Ubuntu. I am because you are. It is the Mayan precept in xxxxx, you are my other ME. What has been an ancient spiritual truth is now increasingly verified by science. We are all individually part of one another. We share common ancestry with everyone and everything alive on Earth. The air we breathe contains atoms that have passed through the lungs of the ancestors long dead. Our bodies are composed of the same elements created deep inside the furnaces of long dead stars. We can look upon the face of anyone or anything around us and say, as a moral declaration in the spiritual, cosmological and biological fact, you are a part of me I do not know yet. But you don't have to be religious in order to wonder. You only have to reclaim a sliver of once what you once knew as a child. If you remember how to wonder, can you already have what you need to learn how to love. Wonder is where love begins. But the failure to wonder is the beginning of violence. Once people stop wondering about others, once they no longer see others as a part of them. it disables their interest for empathy. And once they lose empathy, they can do anything to them, or allow anything to be done to them. It's higher institutions built to preserve the interests of one group of people over another depend on this failure of imagination. Violence comes in the form of policies on the seat and sometimes bloodshed in the streets. More often, it comes in the form that are hard to see, unless we find a way to make them visible through our stories. As a child, I learned how to wonder.
Hello, everybody. Thanks for joining Clouded Compass. Welcome back in last week's episode, I spoke about women in prison. And I want to talk today about our own internal prison, which most people I have met in life have. And it's such a fascinating thing for me to talk about. Because there are so many angles to discuss it from one of the angles that I will jump into is the fact that so many people are living in prison like conditions in their brain. Here's how I know. It looks like playing small, it looks like self doubt. It looks like low self esteem. It looks like depression, anxiety, pick your diagnoses, it looks like chronic pain, it looks like fear, it looks like people pleasing, hyper vigilance, etc, and so on. And often, the internal prison is a result of very, very, very good survival skills, skills that taught us how to survive in threatening environments. And I'm not, we don't need to all be living in a war, but I'm talking about emotional threads. And so this would this is another way for saying internal censorship, in case but I call it internal imprisonment. Because it is because we're held hostage because we're in the basement of the floor of shame, basement of shame on the floor, without our own blankets, and our own heat in our own windows and our own life and light in sustenance and nurturing and nourishment. Why? Because we withhold it from ourselves. Why? Because that's what we were taught to do. Why? Because we live in a culture that says to the individual, you only have worth if you can do something for me. And that's a really blatant way to put it. But when you think about the systems we work in, we're in a very capitalistic society. And I have no issues with capitalism, when I have issues with though, is rampant gross, dehumanizing capitalism. I have issues with a patriarchy not because I hate men, but because it dehumanizes men and women, I have issues with racism, not because it dehumanizes a certain population, but because it dehumanizes us all. And with those conditions, we I have issues with white supremacy not because I hate white people. I am a white person, and I am surrounded by white people, I love many white people. It is the fact of what that system does to us all. And so let's talk about that. Let's talk about what freedom is there. When we continue to allow conditions that try to erase us. If you go on social media, what is the big? What's the big? How do we know we've made it in the world? Well, we've got a viral social media posts. Ladies and gentlemen, that does not mean that what that person had to say had value. That means that it had a collective vote of affirmation, much like intellection, it does not mean that you're suddenly more valuable to the world. In fact, in many ways, you might be less valuable. But that's neither here nor there. And no, you're never less valuable. Kim Kardashian has no more value than you do. And furthermore, I wouldn't want her life. There's not I don't want to live on camera, I just have zero interest. And so when you're trying to push to be, quote, unquote, successful, I want you to ask yourself what that looks like for you. What does success look like for you? So I asked my clients when they come in? Where do you want to be in one to three months? What do you want your life to look like? What do you want it to feel like? How do you want to be different? So that we have an intention. So if success for you is getting a financial goal, we've talked before about goals and expectations, set the goal. But let's let go of the attachment to the expectation because that is where we start to have shame. If your goal is a million dollars, and you make it there and you think you're better because of it. That's I don't know if that's really the value of the million dollars. If you make a million dollars, and you make 100 towards that million, and you feel a shift in yourself, within, and you can pay off your debts and all that stuff, that's, that to me, I wou
Hey everybody, thanks for joining the Clouded Compass Podcast. I'm Laurie, your host, social worker of 20 years. Today, I'm going to talk about the criminal justice system and the women in prison. At the time of this recording, it is Martin Luther King Day. And I'm not sure how much you know about that person, but he risked incredibly great things, to share his message with us. And I think his message is relevant to all of us. So it isn't just a black person's holiday, it's a holiday, inviting us to pause and and look at, you know, are we getting the results we want, and can we do better? We can do better. And here's how.
So yesterday, I went to a rally at the Huron Valley Women's Correctional Facility, I always get that name wrong. And I have been wanting to work with women in prison for a long time, I'm involved briefly on the outskirts with a project called the Compassionate Prisoners Project. And I learned about that through Gabor Mate's work and they go in and they do trauma informed classes that are healing for the for the prisoners. And that's a wonderful thing, I want to be involved in that. So I've been looking for ways to be involved with women in prison. And the other reason I wanted to be involved with women in prison is because I don't know who knows this about me, but I could very well have been there at any point in my life, had one circumstance been different, mostly the color of my skin, my socioeconomic status, my social location, my skills, or lack thereof, etc, and so on. There are very many reasons that I could just as easily have been behind those bars. I'm grateful that I'm not, but that does not make me a better person. I'm gonna say that again, because I know what some people say. Because I'm not in jail doesn't mean that I've done life any better.
It means that I had resources, and I had support. And I had direction. And I had somebody showing me the way on how to do things differently. But you know, many women in prison are in prison for protecting themselves. And we don't talk about that. We don't talk about these women in domestic violence situations with complex intergenerational trauma behind them, not to mention environmental degradation and dehumanization. Say they're in a domestic violence situation, and they pull a gun on a guy to protect themselves. And then there's 30 to 40 years. Not only that, not only are you then punished for protecting yourself, you are thrown into a system and given a number and thrown away behind closed doors.
And if you're a woman, you have children, you have families, you have communities. And when you take a woman out of their community, you take the community out of the woman and the community. I really have no interest in where you stand on the prison justice system, the criminal justice system, whether people deserve to be in there or not. I'd rather talk about how this results and how we can do better. Regardless, I mean, if you think people need to be locked up, that's fine. Come to me with why. And then also, give me the evidence to your point of view, and if you disagree with me, I will demand that you just disagree with me in a respectful manner, instead of just saying you're full of shit, and you're wrong, and you know, you don't know anything, you know, kind of mean terms that we're taught to say to somebody when we don't agree with them. So it's okay that we disagree, but I'm going to talk about the value that we are losing out on. So women behind bars are raising families from behind bars, believe it or not, they get out with a felony which impacts the job abilities they have with really not a lot of support because they've been isolated on purpose for many years. And believing that they are broken and not able to be repaired. And because of the experience they've gone through and because of the torture, the the the human rights violations happening inside of these places. They're coming out and believe that they're worth less and with less val
Hello, everybody, welcome back to the cloud campus podcast. This is Laurie your host, I'm here to talk about social conditions our well being, and how we relate to ourselves in the world.
Today, I'm going to talk about the behavioral health perspective of internal and external circumstances. So I'm a behavioral health specialist, I've been a social worker for 20 years, I've studied human behavior. And I have been taught to I'm not even going to say, fix human behavior, although that's what many of my jobs have required, or asked of me to do. I'm gonna say more importantly, observe, and assess, and relate and provide interventions for and etc, and so on. And that's incredible. Like, I love my job. I love the clients I work with. And I've gotten some really good results with people.
Here's the concern that I have. I'm in 2019, I was hospitalized for suicide attempt. And it was a in 2019, it's 2022. I've done some healing. I know now that that was a direct result of a provider. In fact, multiple providers continuing to neglect, what I told them was the concern. They didn't listen, they didn't hear me. And they didn't want to, because they have their own preconceived notions, it's actually called implicit bias on what my problem was, and how it needed to be fixed.
That is not how I practice today. In fact, in that suicidal hospitalization, I was in the padded room. And I'm not going to be ashamed of that. Because my emotions were so, this is what happens when somebody isn't heard and listened to him. So when you see people fighting on the streets, when you when you see, you know, gang violence, and when you see powerful men dismissing you and devaluing you, and humanizing you to the point where you feel yourself, you don't deserve to exist. That is not an individual problem anymore. That is a social condition, it is a symptom of how we are living our lives today.
So when I was in the padded room, and the nurses and the staff could not get to me, they refused to be medication. And they left me in there to in a severe panic attack. And if you've ever had a panic attack, you know how incredibly terrifying they are, you know, how explosive they can be, you know, how just emotive they can be. And so that's actually also called rape. It's also called a tantrum. It's also called, misbehaving, it's called a shit ton of things. But what it really is, what really was happening to me that was that I was in such incredible fear in I was in a fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response. And the response I was exhibiting to the world was fight. And internally, at that same moment, in my own internal navigation system, something came through, even as I was exhibiting those behaviors. And it said to me, you really need to get clear on what's going on here.
There is no one no one, no one in this world that knows what you've been through.
They don't know how you experienced it.
They don't know how you relate it to it. They don't have that information.
Therefore, they only have, let's say 50% of the information, meaning whatever assessments are being made about you, this is the voice in my head clear his day. You might want to reconsider how much value you place on other people's beliefs and expectations and shoulds because a they don't know half the information, and they do not have your best interest in mind, so you fucking better. You better have your best interest in mind because they don't have it. If you're going to survive this. You must.
You must start listening to yourself instead of the people telling you what your problems are. Now, at that point I was, I was pretty clear about what my problems are. And nobody was listening. And I propose that so many of us in this world also know exactly what our problem is. And nobody's listening. Here's why I propose that because I've been working with you for 20 years, I've been working with the public for 20 years coming to me sharing with me their deepest, darkest secrets, and shames an
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