The Total Man Podcast: Recent Episodes
Oluwaseyi Akinsola
The Total Man’s Podcast is an opportunity for me to share my unique message to the world on redefining masculinity amongst other issues plaguing young men. I have come to realise that many men have misconstrued the essence of being a man, and have largely deviated from the original plan of our creator. We have believed more in myths that have robbed us of showcasing our authenticity as men and showing forth the beauty of masculinity as intended by our creator.
In recent times many men have been overwhelmed and pressured by the societal demands which has made them to conform to what they know was against their wish and core values.
In this episode, Itofa shared his story about how he was able to start his non-profit organisation at a younger age snd not conform to the pressure and sterotypes that was prevalent at that time. He also discussed how he was resilient and determined in the face of hardship and criticism.
Itofa Ivarah is a development consultant, and a founder of two Nonprofits in Nigeria; Church on The Street & My9ja FoodBank.
His work involves designing community-led interventions to tackle food insecurity, & increasing Access to immersive education for vulnerable children in Nigeria.
Through his advocacy, Itofa has raised over $16,000 in funding to design sustainable solutions in education & food security.
He is a TEDx speaker, & a 2023 Chevening Scholar pursuing a Masters in International Development & Management at the University of Bradford, England.
The Importance and role of a man in his family cannot be overemphasized. The man needs to see to the growth and wellbeing of his family.
This episode with Mr Stephen delved into how the role of a man in the family impacts the children a great deal. The presence and availaibility of the man in the home leads to the upbringing of wholesome children.
Also, the episode shared light on the importance of a man working to grow and become the best version of himself, because he cannot give what he doesn't have. He cannot make his children become who he hasn't become himself.
Mr Stephen Olugbenro is a Project Support personnel with the and currently serves as the Assistant Pastor of Dominion Christian Connections, Peterborough. He has been engage to work on projects that involves people development, leadership, ministry and so much more.
Comparison is a natural human tendency but it can quickly become toxic when we constantly measure ourselves against others. Social media, advertising and and societal expectations often fuel the comparison trap, leading to feelings of inadequacy and self doubt.
Men, just like anyone else, can fall victim to comparing their achievements, appearance, relationships, and overall success to others.
Comparison with other people is futile because one isn't going to the same destination as they are.
A man loses touch with his core and authenticity when he compares hi self with others.
All that he needs to strive for is to be a better version of himself than he was yesterday.
Seeking to be the best you can be on a daily basis.
Responsibility is very key to the becoming of a total man in life. In our world today there is a trend of irresponsibilities that is on the rise because many men don't want to own up to their actions whether good or bad.
This episode with Mr Ovie Daniels will help you to see the importance and benefits of taking responsibilities as a man. One of the reasons why being responsible as a man is very crucial is because the generations after you will be impacted or affected by actions.
Mr Ovie Daniels is a life coach that is passionate about helping people live a rich and fulfiling life by recalibrating their mindset, dreaming big dreams, setting goals, and holding them accountable. He has been involved in training and development for more than 15 years.
In this episode of the Total Man's Podcast, I sat down with Tokunbo Koyi an experienced Chartered Accountant to discuss how men can manage their finances. He noted that money is intrinsic to the purpose of a man, and the need to set definite goals for our finances, because if there is no goal for money, it goes in any direction.
Tokunbo Koyi is an experienced Finance professional, who believes in empowering people to take personal responsibility of their finances, to grow and develop healthy money habits.
As a Chartered Accountant, he has worked for multinational companies and in his spare time runs CAP Money Course, which is a revolutionary money management course that teaches people budgeting skills and a simple, cash-based system that really works.
Tokunbo is a keen multi instrumentalist and also enjoys playing 5 aside football game.
Growing up, more emphasis was laid on raising the female child right, ensuring she's morally upright, emotionally stable and able to do the domestic house chores. On the contrary not too much emphasis and intentionality was laid on how the male child is been raised. The male child are been overlooked and assumed they will get to figure out life as they grow up.
In this episode I had a conversation with Ebuka Ode the Boys Coach on how the male child can be raised rightly.
The highlights of our conversations are:
1. The transitioning of a boy to a man
2. The importance of a male child
3. Ways a male child can be raised
4. Investing to make the male child knowledgeable, because it is cheaper to invest than to recover.
5. The role of a father to raising the male child.
6. Ways on how difficult children can be raised.
7. The Correlation between the well being of the parents and the child.
8. The roles of a single mother in raising a male child.
Ebuka Obika Ede
Boys/Men Development Coach
Founder; Save the Boys Initiative
He is into Boys Development and Youth Mentoring. He does this through Mentoring, coaching and training them in life, leadership and purpose, also by acting as parent partner. He sees to the total development of boys and advocates for their well-being. He has certificates in Emotional Intelligence, Teens Mentoring and Organizational Leadership.
He is a graduate of Sociology with Msc in Organizational Leadership (in-view). He also has certificate in Non-Profit Leadership Management Course from Lagos Business School.
For over a decade, he has taught Boys, Teenagers and Youths in a unique, practical and humorous way to learn personal responsibility, breaking and overcoming addictions and leadership.
He is a TedX speaker and also speaks at Youth conferences, Seminars, Schools, Churches, Youth and Parents platforms.
He offers consultancy services for individuals and families.
As way of sharing feedback from my experience with the boys, we convene the 'Boys Leadership Academy', 'Total Men Online Summit'', Mentoring Clubs for Boys and convene the annual 'International Boys Conference' as a platform to train boys and men on how to positive and productive lives.
He received the National Volunteers Award in 2020 on his work for humanity and listed among the top 10 finalist for Nigeria Diversity Award.
He is the Author of 'The Journey into Manhood' that is a great resource for Boys and young men.
He is happily married to Ruth and their union of over 4 years is blessed with 1 biological daughter and many foster sons.
Facebook: @EdeEbukaObika
Instagram: ebuka_boyscoach
LinkedIn: Ebuka Obika Ede
Official Handles: 'Save the Boys Initiative' on all social media handles.
www.savetheboynow.org
In this day and age, many men find it easier to ditch what makes them tick, that which aligns with their core, for a facade all in the name of feeling among and to be seen as pleasing to the society. Many men have lost the essence of being authentic, and living life that is true to them from the core of their being.
I had a conversation with Gbemiga Adejumo to discuss the authenticity of a man. The highlights of the conversation were:
1. Who is an authentic man?
2. Why do men find it easier to be a fake than to be authentic?
3. It takes courage to be authentic as a man.
4. It's a lot easier to live a fake life, than to live an authentic life.
5. Correlation between being authentic and self love.
6. The essence of being authentic as a man.
7. The real yardstick for measuring Success.
Gbemiga Adejumo is a singer/songwriter, Music Minister, Audio Engineer and a Business Development Manager (IT) with over 15 years of experience in music and sound crafting. A Master’s Degree holder, he is passionate about value delivery in his areas of expertise and he’s an avid lover of God!
As men one of the things we often shy away from but has a great effect on our disposition and well being is our mental health.
In this 5th Episode of the Total Man Podcast, I sat with Tobi Adelaja to talk about mental health as it concerns men, and how men can best manage it.
Some of the key points Tobi shared are:
1. Why Mental Health is a big deal
2. The correlation between your food and mood
3. The connection between men and their mental health
4. Becoming Self aware as a man
5. Identifying and Engaging in things that makes you happy and delightful
6. Warning signs for Professional support and many more
Tobi Adelaja began his career with Cambridgeshire and Peterborough Foundation trust, gaining unparalleled experience in mental health. He has extensive background in eating disorder, dementia care and adult acute mental health. Tobi is an active member of the Royal College of Nursing, Nursing and Midwifery Council.
Tobi is currently working as a Clinical Lead for First Response Service and Ambulance Service as a Mental health Joint Response Service. He is involved in key clinical decision making within the team to give patient the best quality of care and provides support for his colleagues in making timely decisions with patients in crisis.
Tobi is married to Ibukun Adelaja and blessed with two wonderful boys.
Episode 4:
The fourth episode of the Total Man Podcast is the concluding part of the session with Dr. Samuel Ekundayo about having a compelling vision for your life. In this part of the conversation Dr. Sam talked about how to identify and deal with toxic people in order to prevent them from being a stumbling block to the accomplishment of the compelling vision you have set for your life.
Key Highlights:
1. Building the right relationships for your vision and protecting your vision from toxic people – 01:20
2. Having Strategy for your vision – 13:10
3. How to avoid been frustrated with your vision? – 16:50
4. Vision and Legacy – 21:30
Dr. Samuel Ekundayo is the president and founder of the School of Purpose and Influence (SPIN), an institution with a vision to raise men and women for transgenerational influence and impact worldwide.
He is also the founder of Motivitality, a weekly motivational video series on social media with the vision of helping men and women find their purpose and maximise their potentials, reaching thousands of people weekly.
You can connect with Dr Samuel Ekundayo on Instagram @drsamekundayo, you can also check out his website - www.samuelekundayo.com
As you listen don’t forget to subscribe and share with others. This episode is for men and the women that love them.
On the third episode of The Total Man Podcast, I had an enriching conversation with Dr Samuel Ekundayo - the Purpose Preacher . He shared from his heart how a man can have a compelling vision for his life.
Key Highlights:
The importance of having a vision as a man - 03;58
How to get a vision for your life? - 06:45
Selling your vision - 10:10
Making your vision plain - 13:20
Communicating your vision - 15:20
Setting realistic vision and how to achieve it - 16:50
Moving the vision forward - 21:18
Dr. Samuel Ekundayo is the president and founder of the School of Purpose and Influence (SPIN), an institution with a vision to raise men and women for transgenerational influence and impact worldwide.
He is also the founder of Motivitality, a weekly motivational video series on social media with the vision of helping men and women find their purpose and maximise their potentials, reaching thousands of people weekly.
You can connect with Dr Samuel Ekundayo on Instagram @drsamekundayo, you can also check out his website - www.samuelekundayo.com
As you listen don’t forget to subscribe and share with others. This episode is for men and the women that love them.
In the second episode of the Total Man Podcast, I spoke about few of the myths that has hindered many men from living an authentic life. It has made many men to suppress what should be expressed in their lives. It has also denied many men the opportunity of
living a life that is true to their essence. The few myths that were discussed are:
1. Men don’t cry
2. Men are the opposite of women
3. Men have an insatiable appetite for sex
4. Men are Big, Brave and Strong
5. Men aren’t emotional and don’t express affection
All the myths above were debunked in this episode, dive in to listen and be blessed.
This episode will liberate you to start living a fulfilled life as a man and from your core. It will enable you to live happily a well-rounded life as intended by your creator.
As you listen don’t forget to Subscribe and share with others. This episode is for men and the women that love them.
The first episode of The Total Man Podcast is an introduction to Redefining Masculinity. I made it clear that many young men are living lives on the terms of other people and the society at large, and this has made them loose touch with their core and hindered them from living from a place of authenticity, hence the call for them to redefine their understanding about masculinity.
I mentioned that many of us as men have been conditioned to always show the better part of us even when a lot is going on within us. We’ve been taught how not to speak up when going through unpleasant situations. We believe so much in the word “MAN UP” which has led many young men to keep quiet about all that isn’t right with them and in no time implode because they are not getting the help they need as at when needed.
I noted that the myths many young men have believed for so long will be debunked in the next episode in order to make us live a life that is true to our core and authenticity.