Grab Your Light: The Podcast: Recent Episodes
Lauren
Divorce and co-parenting are two of the hardest, most impactful, life circumstances women navigate. Each week, Lauren of the Grab Your Light blog will offer humor, personal experience, and tips for navigating these circumstances with strength and grace. If you’re a young woman of color, going through a breakup or divorce, trying to improve your co-parenting dynamic, or looking for some humorous personal stories, then give the show a listen!
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're continuing with our legal chat. I discuss receiving my final divorce decree. It is such a heavy experience. And there are many varied ways of responding to this experience. I share mine 🤗
We'll cover:
❊ My story of receiving a final divorce decree
❊ File the papers away
❊ Pause to observe your feelings
❊ Commemorate the occasion
I hope you listen, receive, and join the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlight
Twitter: @imlaurenmarie_
TikTok: @imlaurenmarie
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're continuing with our legal chat. I go into detail about my four court visits during the course of my divorce. It's intimidating, serious, and maybe even hostile. And while I can't keep you from feeling those things, I want you to have the information needed to prepare appropriately 🤗
We'll cover:
❊ My story of going to divorce court
❊ Bring a friend or family member
❊ Keep all important documents in a file/binder
❊ Bring all important documents with you
❊ Map out parking ahead of time
❊ Dress for success
❊ Treat yourself after each court visit
❊ Reserve a block of time
I hope you listen, receive, and join the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlight
Twitter: @imlaurenmarie_
TikTok: @imlaurenmarie
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're getting legal. I spill the tea on getting served with divorce papers. It's scary, nerve-racking, and maybe even insulting. And while I want you to feel those things, I want you to then have the information needed to respond appropriately 🤗
We'll cover:
❊ My story of being served with divorce papers
❊ Don't try to avoid the service processor
❊ Treat it like a business transaction
❊ Read everything you’re served as soon as you’re able
❊ Create a file with all of your divorce documents
❊ Hire a lawyer if you need to
I hope you listen, receive, and join the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlight
Twitter: @imlaurenmarie_
TikTok: @imlaurenmarie
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing relief - feeling it and embracing it during a breakup, separation, or divorce.
We'll cover:
❊ My story of relief
❊ Tip No. 1: Embrace it
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Twitter: @imlaurenmarie_
TikTok: @imlaurenmarie
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing shame, embarrassment, and self-esteem - feeling it, managing it, and recovering from it during a breakup, separation, or divorce.
We'll cover:
❊ My stories of shame, embarrassment, and self-esteem
❊ Tip No. 1: Don't isolate
❊ Tip No. 2: Fake it till you make it
❊ Tip No. 3: Get to the root cause and feeling
❊ Tip No. 4: Accept and move forward
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Twitter: @imlaurenmarie_
TikTok: @imlaurenmarie
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing anger - feeling it, managing it, and recovering from it during a breakup, separation, or divorce.
We'll cover:
❊ My story of anger
❊ Tip No. 1: Get to the root of your anger
❊ Tip No. 2: Make a conscious effort to let go of anger
❊ Tip No. 3: Redirect your focus and energy
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Twitter: @imlaurenmarie_
TikTok: @imlaurenmarie
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing confusion - feeling it, managing it, and recovering from it during a breakup, separation, or divorce.
We'll cover:
❊ My story of confusion
❊ Tip No. 1: Create your own narrative
❊ Tip No. 2: Let time offer closure
❊ Tip No. 3: Distract yourself
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Twitter: @imlaurenmarie_
TikTok: @imlaurenmarie
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how to purge your home (or life) of an ex's (material) things after a breakup and during separation or divorce.
We'll cover:
❊ My story
❊ Tip No. 1: Get rid of the stuff - give it back, sell it, donate it
❊ Tip No. 2: Purge sooner than later
❊ Tip No. 3: Keep the gifts you received, if you want
❊ Tip No. 4: Give back the gifts you gave
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Twitter: @imlaurenmarie_
TikTok: @imlaurenmarie
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how to manage social media after a breakup and during separation or divorce.
We'll cover:
❊ My story
❊ Tip No. 1: Only reveal what feels right to you
❊ Tip No. 2: Don't speak negatively of the breakup or your ex
❊ Tip No. 3: Delete past posts
❊ Tip No. 4: Mute your ex's mutual friends
❊ Tip No. 5: Mute, unfollow, or block your ex
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how to accept your breakup and start moving forward.
We'll cover:
❊ My story
❊ Tip No. 1: Give in to the moment
❊ Tip No. 2: Get rid of past hope
❊ Tip No. 3: Think about you
❊ Tip No. 4: Invest in a therapist
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this week's episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we finish our lists of comforting content by discussing social media influencers. Yep, I'm dishing on my favorite social media accounts.
We'll cover:
‣ My story
‣ I'm Dat Feminist (Twitter)
‣ Millenial Therapist (Instagram)
‣ Lisa Olivera (Instagram)
‣ Proverbs 31 Ministries (Instagram)
‣ Therapy Jeff (TikTok)
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this week's episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we continue on with talk of comforting content and discuss books and podcasts. Yep, I'm dishing on my favorite media.
We'll cover:
‣ My story
‣ "It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken"
‣ "Relationship Goals"
‣ "Love is Like A Plant"
‣ "The Self Love Fix"
‣ "The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema"
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this week's episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we continue on with talk of comforting entertainment and discuss TV shows. Yep, I'm dishing on my favorite TV shows.
We'll cover:
‣ My story
‣ "Sex and the City"
‣ "Girlfriends"
‣ "Gilmore Girls"
‣ "The Real Housewives"
‣ "Hallmark"
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we lighten it up a little bit and talk movies. Yep, I'm dishing on my favorite breakup movies.
We'll cover:
‣ My story
‣ "Sleeping With Other People"
‣ "Waiting to Exhale"
‣ "The Holiday"
‣ "Bridesmaids"
‣ "The Notebook"
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we have a very special guest! I invited one of Ava's teachers, Mrs. Bailey, to round out our discussion of actions to take to tend to our children in the immediate aftermath of a breakup, separation, or divorce. We talk about the role teachers play in our and our children's lives during a divorce.
We'll cover:
- My story
- The importance of the "village"
- Tips for teachers
- Tips for parents
- And more!
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with Mrs. BaileyPersonal IG: @akilahisshe
Fitness IG: @bodywerkfit
Fitness TikTok: @bodywerkfit
Fitness Website: Body Werk
Connect with meEmail: grabyourlight@gmail.com
Personal IG: @imlaurenmarie
Podcast IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how and why to get okay with co-parenting.
We'll cover:
‣ My story
‣ Tip No. 1: Grieve
‣ Tip No. 2: Take the rest
‣ Tip No. 3: Ignore people's unsolicited opinions
‣ Tip No. 4: Have a temporary arrangement
‣ Tip No. 5: (Reasonably) Release the unknown
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, I'm sharing some resources to supplement your conversations with your child(ren) about divorce.
Social Media:
‣ My blog post
‣ Dr. Siggie Cohen
‣ "The Mom Psychologist"
Books (for kids):
‣ "Two Homes" by Claire Masurel
‣ "Dinosaurs Divorce" by Marc Brown
‣ "Two Homes Filled With Love" by Steve Herman
Movies/TV (for kids):
‣ "The Parent Trap"
‣ "Inside Out"
‣ "Mira, The Royal Detective"
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how and why to talk with your child(ren) about divorce.
We'll cover:
‣ My story
‣ Tip No. 1: Tell the child(ren) together
‣ Tip No. 2: Be vague or general
‣ Tip No. 3: Let them know what to expect
‣ Tip No. 4: Allow them space to process and question
‣ Tip No. 5: Use language they can understand
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how and why to hold your head high after a breakup, separation, or divorce!
We'll cover:
- My story
- Tip No. 1: Do what you have to do
- Tip No. 2: Don’t try to solve everything or solve things all at once
- Tip No. 3: Hold your head high
- Tip No. 4: Try to see the good
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how to answer people's questions about your relationship and breakup!
We'll cover:
- My story
- Tip No. 1: Give people the benefit of the doubt
- Tip No. 2: Reflect on your relationship and patterns
- Tip No. 3: Say only what you want
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how to survive Valentine's Day as a single woman! Valentine's Day is just a few days away, and it can be rough. But there are a few things we can do to take care of ourselves on this special day.
We'll cover:
- My story
- Tip No. 1: Think about what the day means to you
- Tip No. 2: Insist on gratitude
- Tip No. 3: Treat yourself
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey! Oh, and Happy Valentine's Day you gorgeous girl, you ❤️
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're discussing how to manage people's opinions about your breakup, separation, or divorce! This is the first episode of February. And this month we're discussing initial reactions in the aftermath of a relationship ending.
We'll cover:
- My story of people giving false hope and unsolicited opinions
- Tip No. 1: Think about what you want
- Tip No. 2: Listen to yourself
- Tip No. 3: Protect your heart, mind, and energy
- Tip No. 4: Give people the benefit of the doubt
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we have our very first guest! I invited my sister, Lesley, to lighten up the mood as we close out this month and the segment of the podcast where we discuss the immediate reaction to a relationship ending. We chat about everything related to breakups.
We'll cover:
- Best and worst breakups
- Breakup routines
- Being the dumper vs the dumpee
- Breakups as we age
- The emotional intelligence we received from our mom
- And more!
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with Lesley
IG: @for__lesley
Connect with me
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're talking all about family. We're discussing how and why you should ask your family for support during a breakup or divorce.
We'll cover:
- My personal story
- Tip No. 1: Ask for their advice
- Tip No. 2: Ask for support
- Tip No. 3: Let them be a listening ear
- Tip No. 4: Move back home
- Tip No. 5: Establish boundaries
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me:
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're talking all about friendship. We're discussing how to ask friends for support, what kind of support is needed, and whether friends will stay or go.
We'll cover:
- My personal story
- Tip No. 1: Allow your friends to help
- Tip No. 2: Know which friend is good for which type of support
- Tip No. 3: Be mindful of your friends' relationship scenario
- Tip No. 4: Ask for what you need from your friends
- Tip No. 5: Hold space for the friend going through the divorce
- Tip No. 6: Check in with the friend going through the divorce
- Tip No. 7: Distract the friend going through the divorce
- Tip No. 8: Offer unsolicited help to the friend going through the divorce
- Tip No. 9: Follow the emotional lead of the friend going through the divorce
- Tip No. 10: Remind the friend going through the divorce of their worth
- Tip No. 11: Be understanding of the friend's shenanigans
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me:
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
In this episode of the Grab Your Light podcast, we're getting into the meat of it. We're discussing what to do immediately after your spouse (or significant other) tells you they're leaving. It's heavy and uncomfortable, but where the journey begins.
We'll cover:
- My personal story
- Tip No. 1: Listen
- Tip No. 2: Self soothe
- Tip No. 3: Don't problem solve
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me:
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
This episode is the final part of a four-part introductory miniseries for the podcast. In the first episode, you learned a bit about me. In the second episode, I detailed what topics I'll discuss on this podcast. In the third episode, I explained why divorce and co-parenting are my topics. In the fourth episode, I do some storytelling of how I chose the name of this podcast.
We'll cover:
- John Mayer's song, "Gravity"
- R.H. Sin's Quote, "Some women fear the fire. Some simply become it."
- Daenerys Targaryen of George R.R. Martin’s Game of Thrones
- 2 Samuel 22:29 - He turns my darkness into light
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me:
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
This episode is the third part of a four-part introductory miniseries for the podcast. In the first episode, you learned a bit about me. In the second episode, I detailed what topics I'll discuss on this podcast. In this third episode, I explain why divorce and co-parenting are my topics.
We'll cover:
- My personal experience
- My reason for starting my blog
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me:
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
This episode is the second part of a four-part introductory miniseries for the podcast. In the first episode, you learned a bit about me. In this second episode, I'm going to detail what topics I'll discuss on this podcast.
We'll cover:
- Separation
- Divorce
- Parenting
- Co-parenting
- Womanhood
- Rebuilding
I hope you listen, enjoy, and join me on the journey!
Connect with me:
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com
Hi, friend! Welcome to Grab Your Light: The Podcast. I'm Lauren. I'm the host of this podcast. Before we dive into all the nitty-gritty, let's get acquainted first.
The first four episodes of this podcast will be an introductory miniseries. In this first episode, I'm going to introduce myself. I don't know about you, but before I listen to any podcast, I want to know who I'm listening to. And this episode will tell you just that.
We'll cover my:
- Basic, identifiable information
- Education and occupation
- Hobbies and passions, and
- Miscellaneous fun facts
Connect with me:
Email: grabyourlight@gmail.com
IG: @grabyourlightwithlauren
Website: grabyourlight.com