Unveiled with Anne Teagarden: Recent Episodes
Anne Teagarden
Unveiled is an invitation to "lift the veil" and experience the healing joy found in bringing God behind-the-scenes of your marriage. Marriage is a journey of ups and downs that stretches and grows us. I'd love to travel this journey with you as the encouraging, practical voice of a friend pointing you toward the heart of God for you and your marriage.
One of the keys to a healthy relationship is being able to see things from the other person's point of view. This will often help us get past an impasse and have more empathy and compassion for our spouse. Use this key to unlock a door when you are stuck at odds with each other. Scriptures used in this episode:1 Peter 3:8, Romans 12:10, Ephesians 4:32
This is part of the Keys to Healthy Relationships Series
We may not realize that we are judging others, but the ramifications of judging on our relationships are very destructive. Matthew in the Bible has a lot to say about it and Jesus models grace for us. Scripture in this episode:Matthew 7:1-5, Luke 6:37
Whether it's fighting or disagreeing or other trials of life, there is a place to start to find healing. This key is intimacy with Jesus. Going to Jesus and allowing Him to work in our own hearts, will begin to turn things around in our relationships. I've seen it work in my own life and the lives of others.
Scriptures used in this episode:
Matthew 7:1-5, Matthew 11:28, Romans 12:1-2
It's so easy for relationships to slip into "work" mode and talk mostly of logistics. To have a "GREAT" marriage, there needs to be a deep friendship which includes intimate heart talk.
Creating safe spaces is the key.
Scriptures used in this episode:
Genesis 2:24, 2 Corinthians 6:11-13
Another key to healthy relationships is cultivating a culture of honor in your home. We don't talk about honor much anymore. We don't always know how to show it. In this episode we look at a few ways to create a culture of honor.
Scriptures in this episode:
Romans 12:10, Proverbs 15:33, Proverbs 18:12, Proverbs 22:4, Proverbs 29:23
Five Principles of Honor:
1 - Honoring someone is respecting their position.
2 - Honoring someone is not speaking ill of them or to them.
3 - Honoring someone is fighting against selfishness.
4 - Honoring someone is listening to their thoughts and feelings and taking them intoconsideration.
5 – Humility fosters honor.
Everyone wants healthy relationships. One of my favorites is being quick to apologize and quick to forgive. (aka "Keeping short accounts") Don't let the yucky stuff pile up!
Scriptures in this episode:
Romans 12:17-19, Matthew 18:21-22, Matthew 6:15
Sometimes I act like an undercover Christian. Why? I don't know. Jesus calls us to be salt and light. Are we making others thirsty for what we have?
Scriptures in this episode:
Matthew 5:13-16, 1 Peter 3:15, Romans 12:1-2, Ephesians 6:12
Do you have negative voices in your mind that keep you discouraged? Good news - You have power over your thoughts! Learn how to choose what to think.
Scriptures used in this episode:
1 Kings 19:11-13, John 10:10, Proverbs 4:23, 2 Corinthians 10:5, Isaiah 55:8
I'm not endorsing Disney nor their theme parks, but I did grow up loving to go to Disney World. Here my story and how it relates to receiving all God has for us in His Kingdom.
Get hungry and thirsty for more.
Scriptures in this episode:
Matthew 6:25-27, 33, Psalm 34:8, Matthew 4:17-18, Matthew 18:3-4, 2 Corinthians 5:17
It's frustrating to not see our prayers answered. It's even more frustrating to not know how to pray for something.
Make your prayers more effective by praying WITH God, rather than TO God.
Scriptures referenced:
Matthew 11:28-29, Luke 12:2-3, Matthew 6:10, Matthew 18:19
God is speaking to us all the time, but like a radio, we have to know how to "tune in." I learned this technique some 15 years ago and it forever changed my life. There is more than one way to hear from God, but if you are not yet able to have long two-way conversations with God - this episode will teach you how. It is based on the teaching by Mark Virkler entitled "The 4 Keys to Hearing God's Voice." https://www.cwgministries.org/store/4-keys-hearing-gods-voicePlease try this. You won't regret it. It may take more than one try to get it, but don't give up. Jesus wants to talk to you!
Scriptures referenced in this episode: John 10:27, Habbakuk 2:1-2
Do you ever wonder how to pray for your husband or whether or not it does any good? Join me as I interview author, Kim Gordon, talking about her new book, "Helper. Rescuer. Defender. Praying as the Wife God Made You to Be."Kim tells about the inspiration for the book as well as what praying for her husband has meant in her relationship. God gave us a unique role and purpose in marriage. It's more than you think.I highly recommend this book. Do you and your husband a favor and order your copy and pray through it! (I don't make any money from the sales.) Order it here from Amazon: https://a.co/d/faNVhpoOr Advantage books: https://www.advbookstore.com/product-page/helper-rescuer-defender-ebook
Just think what we could accomplish in our region, country, world if we were united? God wants to work through his "church" to reach the world and bring His Kingdom on earth. BUT - a Kingdom divided will fall.
Scriptures used in this episode:
John 17:20, Luke 11:17, Psalm133, Ephesians 4:2-6
Society is crazy right now. It may get worse. Regardless, life is full of storms that come unexpectedly. If spouses are not unified, the storm may be the last straw. Married couples must unify to stand together through the good times and the bad. Even the most divided house, can be reunited. But God. :)Scriptures:Ephesians 4:26, Luke 11:17, Ephesians 6:12
It's amazing to me that Jesus' prayed for all those who would believe in Him in the future. What did he pray for us as recorded in John 17? That we would be one as He and the Father are one. So beautiful. Scriptures used in this episode:John 7:37-39, John 17:20-23, Galatians 2:20
Most of us feel overwhelmed at some point and some feel that way every day. Some seasons are harder than others. Jesus has helped me learn to change my mindset and yoke to Him in ways that lightened the load. Don't be so weighed down this year!
Scriptures used in this episode:
Matthew 11:28-29
We all want to start the new year fresh - so let's do that? Beware of bringing last year's hurts, resentment and negative emotions into the new year. I'll tell you how and why to leave them behind.
Scriptures used in this episode:
Matthew 6:15, Psalm 103:12, Isaiah 43:18-19
Nothing is impossible - with God. Do we really believe that is true?
God is more powerful than we know.
Scriptures in this episode:
Matthew 19:26, Luke 1:37
Why doesn't God heal this part of my life? Do you ever feel like try as you might, things in a certain area of your life just don't seem to get better? Give yourself a wonderful gift this Christmas... Unlock the hidden places of your heart to Jesus and allow Him to come in and bring healing. Then see the progress that is made in many areas of your life. Jesus has come to set us free - from everything that hinders us!
Scriptures used in this episode:
John 8:36, Matthew 11:28-29, Isaiah 43:2
How we use the power and influence we have can make a huge difference. Esther was very wise and we can learn so much from her example - and Vashti's, too. Remember her? The former queen that got the boot?Scriptures used in this episode: The Book of Esther
In this episode I teach and model a skill that can bring immediate healing to past hurts. The power of the Holy Spirit within us gives us counseling and access to the Father's heart. Try this method and receive healing and comfort for past painful experiences.
We each need freedom. If your pain is too deep or this doesn't work for you, please get counseling. Don't let your past steal your power any longer.
Scriptures used in this episode:
John 14:26 , 1 John 4:18, Joshua 1:5
Why do we feel like we have to be perfect or do it all? We'll never be perfect on our own, but there is a path to being perfected in Christ.Scriptures in this episode:Matthew 5:17, Galatians 3:2-3, James 2:26
Imagine if Jesus himself were living inside of you. How much power would you have? Oh right - He is! He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world!
Scriptures referenced in this episode:
1 John 4:4, John 14:12-14, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Joshua 1:9, 2 Timothy 3
God's encouragement to us:
My beautiful bride. It’s time to get ready for the wedding. You, united with me, will be so attractive to others that they won’t be able to resist. Fear not about what you are to do. Just follow my lead. We are in this together. We are side by side, yoked together, working together. You are my hands and feet. Completely give yourself to me as you would in a marriage covenant, then we can be one. My power can fully manifest in and through you. You are my chosen one.
God sees His purpose that He created us for. He sees our potential. He sees what we look like empowered. Seeing yourself as God does, will change your life.
Scriptures used in this episode:
Isaiah 6:8
Story of Gideon - Judges 6
Sometimes we feel like we can conquer the world and others times we are beating ourselves up that we screwed up again. We feel powerless to overcome those things we do that we know we shouldn't do. Those bad habits that keep us down. It's time to step into our new identity and our new nature in Christ. We already have it!2 Corinthians 5:17Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!Read Romans 7 for more on this topic.Scriptures used in this episode:Galatians 2:20-21
Sometimes we feel powerless to change our circumstances. We feel trapped and helpless. You don't have to feel that way anymore. You are more than a conqueror through Christ! Jesus in you is the power you are looking for. Go from victim to victor - it starts in your heart and mind. Affirmations in this episode - repeat daily:I don’t have to stay a victim. God’s power is at work within me. God wants what is good for me. He is a loving, kind God that is full of goodness.I have the power to make choices and God will guide me.Scriptures used in this episode:Jeremiah 29:11, Romans 8:28, Romans 8:31, Romans 8:37, Ephesians 3:20, Philippians 4:13, John 10: 27-29
https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/what-is-a-victim-mentality
"Happily Ever After" seems unattainable, but it's real. (Just maybe not the way you think it will be.)
Scriptures used in this episode:
Revelation 19:7, John 15:13, Revelation 21:4, Ephesians 3:18
Sometimes we get "stuck" in a dark season. There is a way out and UP. In this episode, I give 4 steps to getting out of dark season. Scriptures used in this episode:Isaiah 43:1-2, 16-19, Jeremiah 29:13, Exodus 16:3, Ephesians 3:20
Learning to identify the "season" you're in, embrace it, learn from it and remember it's temporary is the key to contentment.
Scriptures used in this episode: Ecclesiastes 3:1 and 3:3
We've been in a difficult season this summer and now in a season of grief. Grieving is real and healing comes by experiencing it and going through it. You should not ignore it.
Scriptures used in this episode: Eccesiastes 3:1 & 4, Isaiah 53:3-4, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, 1 Thessalonians 4:13
Frustration is common in relationships, but it is like a "clog" that keeps things from moving forward.
Scripture Verses Referenced in this episode: Romans 8:28, Proverbs 3:5-6
God wants to set each of us free from insecurity of all types. He loves us absolutely and completely. When we get solid in our acceptance by the Father, we can begin to dismantle the Fear, Shame, Control Triad. There is freedom!
Verses referenced: Psalm 103:12, Hebrews 10:17, Philippians 1:6, James 4:7
Insecurity can keep us from fulfilling our God-given destiny. It can interfere in our relationships. But God not only has the key, He IS the key. When we totally grasp His love and acceptance of us - as we are right now - we can overcome insecurity. There's no need for it once we get His acceptance totally settled in our heart. This is my prayer for you!
Meditation by Graham Cooke: "Becoming the Beloved: https://youtu.be/XOeQjMJVZRk
Scriptures referenced: Matthew 17:5, Romans 5:8, Luke 15:11-32
We throw the term "unconditional love" around a lot, but what is it really? Do we have it? Do we show it? Is it even possible?
Scripture used in this episode: Luke 6:27-38, Romans 5:8
Don't you wish you could customize your husband? Keep the good and toss the not-so-good? What would that look like? Or, in reality, do they come as a "package deal?" :) Scripture used in this episode:Romands 3:23, 1 Peter 4:8, 1 Corinthians 3:12-13Quote by J. Grant Howard, Jr. “We have a picture of the perfect partner, but we marry an imperfect person. Then we have two options. Tear up the picture and accept the person, or tear up the person and accept the picture.”
I've had strep throat this past week. Here's a short story to share with you instead. Sometimes God wants to show us just how much he loves us.
We have not, because we ask not! :)
When fighting for our marriages, we have to start by looking in our own hearts and seeing what is there that needs to be changed. We can only change ourselves! :)Bible Verses quoted in this episode:Psalm 39:23-24, Psalm 51:10
This is a spiritual battle, so spiritual weapons are needed for the fight.
Verses used in this episode:Matthew 5:44-45, Proverbs 10:12, Ephesians 6
It's important to remember that God wants your marriage to succeed and He's a mighty commander. He is stronger than the enemy that is working against you. Bible verses referenced in this episode:1 John 4, Romans 8:31, Romans 8:37
Don't let your marriage self-destruct. Fight for your marriage! It begins by knowing who the real enemy is. Fight the right enemy. Be alert and understand your enemy's tactics. There is hope!
Scripture referenced in this episode:
Ephesians 6:12-20, 1 Peter 5:8-10, James 4:7, John 8:44
For more teaching on guarding your mind, see Episodes 62, 46, and 3-12
The Bible teaches a lot about doing to "one another." Too long, married couples have been trying to dominate each other, or one dominating and the other getting railroaded. Unfortunately the Church has taught "wives submit to your husbands" from a harmful perspective. The New Testament as a whole teaches to Submit to One Another, love one another, serve one another and more "one anothers." In this episode I explore what "mutual submission" does and doesn't look like. If you need a fuller discussion, email me at anne@synergiamm.com.Verses Referenced: Ephesians 5:21
God tells us that a cord of three strands is not easily broken. When we invite God in to our marriage he helps us in multiple ways.
Verses referenced in this episode: Ecclesiastes 4:12, Psalm 51:10
Every relationship needs this to survive and especially to thrive. Why is it so hard then? Add this to your marriage and watch the difference it makes!
Verses quoted: Psalm 127:2, Ecclesiastes 3
Do you get tired of trying to please everyone and feeling like you always come up short? It can be so exhausting trying to be all things to all people. But God asks us only to glorify Him. He is our audience of 1!
Link to the music lyric video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EFxVfAZj5Q0
Bible Verses Quoted in this Episode:
Galatians 1:10, Ephesians 6:7, Colossians 3:23 – 24
We're so in love when we are dating and first get married. Then those "lovin' feelin's" wax and wane throughout our marriage. How do we get back to the beginning? It starts with remembering...
If you would like more information about working with our group cohort this year, contact me at anne@synergiamm.com.
Verses quoted in this episode: Revelation 2:3-5
If we seek first God's Kingdom and His righteousness, He promises that "All these things will be given to you as well." Wow, what a promise! But what does seeking his kingdom and righteousness mean? This is the final episode in the First Things First Series.
Verses quoted in this episode: Matthew 6:33, Micah 6:8, Matthew 22:37-39
Most of us are seeking God's will for our lives. We get paralyzed sometimes trying to figure it out. He may have specific assignments for us, but in general, there is one thing He wants of all of us. If we get this right, the rest will flow.
Verses quoted in this episode: Matthew 22:37-40, 1 Peter 4:8, 1 John 4:7-8, John 13:34-35, 1 Corinthians 13
We all have problems. We all like to solve our problems. We spend a lot of time, energy and stress trying to find solutions, when God probably has just what we need. My advice to myself this year - Go to God First.
Verses Quoted in this episode:
Philippians 4:6-7 Isaiah 55:8-9 Psalm 46:10Matthew 6:27
Contuining our series on "First Things First" - guarding our thoughts FIRST is so important as our words and actions start with thoughts. Have you ever wondered, "Why did I do that?" It started with a thought. Not all of our thoughts lead us down good paths. In this episode I look at three things that can take our thoughts down negative paths.
Verses Quoted in this episode:
Philippians 4:8, James 1:14-15, John 8:44, 2 Corinthians 10:5, Colossians 2:8, Romans 12:2
We know that putting God first is important, but do we do it? Great things happen when we put first things first and get our relationship with God at the top. The other relationships will improve as a result. This is the first in a series of "First Things First."
Verses quoted in this episode:
Matthew 6:25-34, James 1:22, Philippians 4:9, 1 Peter 5:7
That very first Christmas, God gave us the best gift of all - himself! He gave us his presence in Jesus and continuing through his Holy Spirit. He is "Immanuel" - God with us! Jesus' last words to us were, "I am with you always, to the very end of the age." (Matthew 28:20)
loneliness, #Immanuel, #Emmanuel
Bible verses mentioned: Matthew 1:21-23, Psalms 34:18, Psalm 18:16, Isaiah 9:6, John 14:26, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4
It's easy to forget to be grateful for all the little things you do for each other. But it's SO important and beneficial to your relationship.
Verses referenced:
Colossians 3:12-15 (I erroneously said Philippians instead of Colossians on the recording. Oops!)
Philippians 2:3-4
Sometimes couples don't feel "close" anymore, or like they are drifting apart. They don't always know how it happens. They are several things that can cause it, but you can get back from it by beginning to spend more time together.
Bible Verses quoted: Ecclesiastes 4:9-11
It's easy for moms to develop strong bonds and friendships with their kids and enjoy spending time with just them. The danger is that your focus on your kids will take your focus off of your husband and begin to harm your marriage relationship. Keep the Marriage relationship as the primary relationship.
Bible Verses Used: Matthew 10:37, Proverbs 31:28
If you feel a tug-of-war between extended family and one of you, it's time to pull back and regroup and be united. Don't dread the holidays with family, plan for it. Be united.
If you're interested in a longer workshop on this topic or a worksheet with questions to help you get on the same page, email me at anne@synergiamm.com and I'll send it to you.
Do you ever feel like you do most of the work around the house? If so, this can lead to resentment which can in turn undermine your marriage. What's a different way to look at things? How can you resolve this issue?
Bible Verse Quoted:
1 Corinthians 13:5
I'm introducing a new series on some of the Danger Zones to avoid in marriage. These are seemingly small things that can have a big impact. Unity is key in marriage, so anything that can divide you should be guarded against. You've got to be on the same team!
Quotes:
The Zax by Dr. Seuss
Bible: Mark 3:25, Mark 10:6-9, Genesis 2:24
Comparing ourselves to others is more about our insecurity and discontent than it is the other person. Learn how to combat this natural instinct of women. :)
Verses used in this episode: Philippians 1:6, 1 Timothy 6:6-7, Philippians 4:11-12, Hebrews 13:5
You can contact me at: anne@synergiamm.com
Life is hard, but you don't have to wait until it's better to be happy. God promises to trade our sorrows for joy and give us "a garment of praise INSTEAD of a spirit of despair." (among other "insteads")
Verses quoted in this podcast: Psalm 30:11, Isaiah 61:3, Job 8:21, Psalm 30:5, Acts 2:28
Last episode I said the fastest path to peace and out of stress is to "give up" control - aka "surrender." So why is surrendering things into God's hands so hard? Could it be a trust issue?
Verses referenced: Isaiah 55:9, Ephesians 3:20, Deuteronomy 31:8
We often feel like giving up, throwing in the towel, running away. We feel like we've tried everything. I don't advocate that kind of giving up. But - when we give up trying to fix it ourselves, that's when we often see forward progress. God can make a way but we need to get out of the way.
The Story of King Jehoshaphat mentioned in this episode can be found in 2 Chronicles 20.
I struggle with stress and guess that many women do too. I want to share what God has been sharing about stress with me. It's not from the Father. Also, what does his word say about stress? It says He gives us peace!
Recently God showed me a vision of a treasure chest of the heart and that sometimes we are treasuring the wrong things there. But - there is hope. We can exchange negative things for positive ones with God's help!
Verses quoted in this episode: Matthew 6:20-21, Luke 2:19, 1 Corinthians 13:5, James 3:17-18
As busy women we don't feel we have time to rest but the consequence of not resting is harm to ourselves and our relationships. God commands us to rest because he knows we need it. He also offers to carry our burdens and give us rest and refreshment for our souls.
Take time for this episode, give yourself permission to rest and have fun, and see what a difference it can make.
I recorded this episode outside for fun and a restful ambiance, but the crickets and cicadas were quite vocal! :) Hopefully your yard is quieter than mine.
This is about my terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day when the enemy hijacked my mind and send me down a path of negativity. We must always guard our minds, but be especially viligant when we are weak (stressed, sick, overwhelmed, etc.) The path that our mind is on determines how we process what's coming at us. Our mindset affects how we feel and how we relate with those around us, so we must guard our minds!
Feel free to contact me with questions or episode ideas at anne@synergiamm.com
Shaunti Feldhahn graciously gave me a few minutes of her time to discuss her book and the impact it has made. She shares a few things she has learned since publishing this book.
Keep listening for a preview of some of her new resources you can check out at the end.
Resentment is like the pesky weeds in our gardens. It pops up everywhere and then takes over. I learned about keeping short accounts in my relationships and the dangers of resentment this summer. This could be the answer you're looking for to fix that broken relationship.
I learned a lot of lessons throughout my crazy 2022 summer of caring for my elderly parents and moving them to assisted living and out of their home. For the next few weeks, I'm going to share what I learned.
This week - it's the lesson that true freedom is found in dependence rather than independence. Wait, what?! That sounds backwards, but God's ways often are.
What is it that many men wish they could convey to their wives? Shaunti asked this question as an open-ended question in her survey and here's the number one answer. Well, I won't spoil it - listen in. It may surprise you.
This is the last chapter in the book, "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn as we almost wrap up this series. Stay tuned for an interview with the author in a few weeks!
Why do men care about how we look after we're married? Shouldn't he love me no matter what? Yes. And he does. But men also appreciate us taking care of ourselves. And guess what - it's better for us, too!
This is based on Chapter 9 from the book, "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn.
Are men as a whole romantic? Shaunti's survey says "Yes!" So why do we often wish they'd be more romantic? I share several reasons from Shaunti's research. Don't worry - there's hope!
This information is based off of Chapter 8 of "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn.
Why is that guys notice every time a hot babe walks by? And what is going through his mind? This week, Grant joins me as we discuss chapter 7 of the book, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. Learn how men are biologically wired up to notice and what does that mean and not mean.
Please note - if your husband is addicted to porn - get help. This episode is about the thousands of images they are bombarded with on a normal daily basis.
My family is still in crisis/chaos mode with my in-laws. I'm learning the importance of seeking joy in the midst of difficult or "hard" times. We all go through hard seasons and joy is our best option. So how do we find it?
Sex is more than just a physical need for our men. It affects every area of their lives. And - it's great for us women, too! :) This is information from chapter 6 of the book, For Women Only, by Shaunti Feldhahn.
The Orgasm Course for women:
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The Orgasm Course – Husband Edition
https://sheilawraygregoire.thinkific.com/courses/orgasm-course-for-husbands?ref=7c2dcb
The Orgasm Bundle of both courses:
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Boost Your Libido Course:
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Spicy Marriage Dares
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31 Days to Great Sex
https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/books-2/31-days-to-great-sex/
Surprisingly, most men want to provide for their families and feel a deep need and burden to do so, regardless of their wives' income. This is based on the research done by Shaunti Feldhahn for her book, For Women Only. This episode discusses chapter 5 of the book.
Does your husband every walk away in the middle of a disagreement or refuse to talk? Does he tell you he doesn't know what he's thinking or that he needs to time to veg and think about nothing? These are all covered in this episode based on chapter 4 of For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.
My life turned upside down this past week with some unexpected events. I share some of my struggles and thoughts in going through a time like this. This is raw sharing. :) I'm thankful that no matter what life throws at us, God is always with us!
If you believe in your husband and he knows you believe in him, he can slay dragons! We have a great opportunity to help our husbands reach their full potential. They need us to be their cheerleaders!
This week I discuss chapter 3 of the book, "For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men" by Shaunti Feldhahn.
This is the third part of our series, "What are Men Thinking?" based on the book, "For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men" by Shaunti Feldhahn. This episode discusses the second half of chapter 2: "Your Love is Not Enough."
Why don't our husbands feel respected by us? We don't mean to disrespect them. How can we help them feel respected and break out of the cycle of irritation with each other.
Feel free to buy the book and follow along.
This is the second part of our series, "What are Men Thinking?" based on the book, "For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men" by Shaunti Feldhahn.
This episode discusses the first half of chapter 2: "Your Love is Not Enough." Our men crave to be respected more than to feel loved. What does that look like in practical application? Shaunti outlines 6 ways we can show respect to the men in our lives. Feel free to buy the book and follow along.
What are men thinking? Men and women are so different! Author Shaunti Feldhahn has surveyed thousands of men to understand men and how they think. She put it all together in her book, “For Women Only: What You Need To Know About the Inner Lives of Men.” I will be going through the information in this book over the next two months. It’s so helpful to understanding our husbands better! Today’s episode is information from Chapter 1, the introduction to the material and a preview of what’s to come.
Join in me the reading the book by purchasing it at: https://www.amazon.com/Women-Only-Revised-Updated-About/dp/1601424442/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1650919784&sr=8-1
We need to love ourselves before we can fully love others well. Guarding our thoughts is the first step. Continuing our discussion of mindsets - what are your mindsets about yourself? It's time to identify negative ones and then use the three R's of Jon Acuff to change them to positive ones: Retire, Replace, Repeat.
Are you feeling stuck in your life and relationships? What are you thinking about? It could be your mindsets that are holding you back. Change your mindset and thoughts and change the outcome. Your thinking may be stuck in a rut leading down a negative path.
Some of this episode discusses Fixed vs. Growth Mindset based on the book Mindsets, by Carol Dweck, Ph.D.
Scriptures referenced are Romans 12:2 and 2 Corinthians 10:5
When you feel alone, afraid, depressed, look up. God sees you. God hears you. God knows what you are going through. He may be the only one who understands, but he does.
Have you ever said, "He makes me so mad!!!!" or something similar? Or "It's your fault that...." We love to lay blame on others. Why? How does it affect our relationship?
It’s so easy to get offended over minor things that seem major at the time. But offense drives a wedge between us and the ones we love. Let’s become unoffendable!
Scripture Verses: James 2:13, Proverbs 19:11, Proverbs 17:9, Proverbs 17:14, Luke 6:28, Ecclesiastes 10:4
Questions - email me at anne@synergiamm.com
Self-pity is a common temptation and robs us of joy, peace and power. I find it's my biggest trap I fall into! We can learn to recognize it and reject it and choose thankfulness instead.
Scriptures referenced: Proverbs 17:22, James 4:7, Philippians 4:13, Philippians 4:19, 1 Thessalonians 5:18, James 1:2, 1 Peter 5:7, Psalm 13, Psalm 43:5
Song “His Eye is on the Sparrow” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H74FBgOZTDw
It's so hard to work out problems when we're sure we're right! Well, sometimes we are, but not always. And even when we are, do we have to "Be right?" Insisting we are "right" blocks communication and problem solving. Scriptures referenced: Proverbs 12:15, Proverbs 16:25, Proverbs 18:17, Proverbs 21:2
Are you looking forward or backward? Our past mistakes can haunt us and make us dislike ourselves. Our husband's past mistakes can keep us looking at him through the lens of the past. Unforgiveness can eat away at us from the inside out. The past is the past. Leave it there and look toward what God is doing now and in your future.
Scriptures cited: Philippians 3:13-15, 2 Corinthians 5:17, Isaiah 43:25
I often get frustrated when my ideals aren't my reality. I try harder and harder to make them happen. I don't like letting go of "my" plans. But this creates frustration and disappointment. My plans and ideals are good. Why should I have to let them go? To get free. Letting go of "my" plans and ideals in favor of God's vision and plans, is freeing! His are better anyway.
Scriptures: Proverbs 19:21, Isaiah 55:8-9, Mark 8:33
Why do we complain? Is it helpful or does it hold us back? Be empowered by embracing gratitude and joy instead!
This is a short two minute bonus episode to share the real life story of me overcoming self-doubt after writing the episode on Letting Go of Self-Doubt.
We sometimes doubt our own abilities for success which can hold us back and make us give up. But our confidence is in God, not ourselves. I struggle with this issue myself. Join me as we look at it a new way.
Main verse: Philippians 4:13
Do you feel weighed down and exhausted? You want to soar through life, but how? What are the things that are holding us down that we could let go of in order to soar on Eagle's Wings? Join me for the intro to a whole series on "Letting Go...to Soar!" It's time to get your wings and fly! Guiding verses: Isaiah 40:31 and Hebrews 12:1-2
What do you DO during the Waiting Place? It's hard to sit and do nothing. This episode discusses what to do and what NOT to do.
Often we find ourselves in "The Waiting Place" (term borrowed from Dr. Seuss.) We are waiting for God to act or something to change. It's a frustrating place to be. So how do we get through that time? Join me as I continue the story of our infertility and adoption.
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Sometimes life hands us huge disappointments that we don't know how to handle. In this episode, I outline three steps to overcoming those big disappointments in life.
When life hits hard and you don't know where to turn or what to do, start with praising God and see what happens! (Enjoy my dog, Bingley, "praising" at the end! LOL)
'Tis the season for romantic Christmas movies. Do you ever wish your husband was more like the men in the "Hallmark"(TM) movies? Why isn't he?
God created sex and it is good. Women should enjoy sex with their husbands, too! If you're squeamish about this topic, this episode might be TMI.
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After searching for years for the "right" way to do everything, I've come to the conclusion that this is yet another lie. There is no ONE "right" way to do things, so be free! God will show you the best way for YOU!
Have you ever thought, "If my husband really loved me, he wouldn't do that," or "If my husband really loved me he would do this?" Many of us have had these thoughts at some point in our marriage. But, are your husband's actions a test of his love for you? Or maybe it's yet another ploy of Satan to divide you both and play on your insecurities.
Change is hard. We are who we are, but we CAN change. What if you changing some little thing made a big difference in your marriage?
If we believe things will never change, they won’t. We have lost hope. Hope is essential to moving forward. Join me for a good dose of hope and encouragement that things can change in your marriage!
Sometimes we feel so exhausted and tired of trying that we begin to believe that we'd be better off alone. But this is a ploy of the enemy to make us hopeless. I explore the truth that new problems are created when a couple separates.
Verses Referenced in this episode: Galatians 6:9 and James 1:2-5
This is not to discount that if you are in an abusive situation, please get help. You are better off getting out of an abusive situation.
Often as Christians we believe the lie that we're supposed to perfect, that we "shouldn't" have marriage problems. It keeps us from admitting it and getting help. Join me as I unpack this subtle and often subconscious lie.
Women often can feel stuck waiting for their husband to change thinking that will fix everything. Unfortunately, even if they need to change, we can not change another person. But - we can change ourselves and affect change in the marriage.
We often question whether or not we're "good enough." This episode explores how "I'm not good enough" or "I'm a bad wife/mother/person" are all lies that we fall prey to and what the truth really is. You're not the only one who's thought this. :)
This episode introduces a series about the Overcoming the Lies that women believe about themselves and marriage and where they come from. We can get stuck believing lies from Satan that color how we see things and negatively affect us and our marriage. We often have thoughts like, "I'm not good enough" or "I'm a bad person" go through our minds. Guess what? They aren't true!
Scripture from today's episode: 2 Corinthians 10:5 We are destroying arguments and all arrogance raised against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.
Fear can infect you and lead you down a path of negative thoughts. You can begin to recognize and stop the negative thoughts by catching and beating the "What If" monster. Psalm 34:4 and 2 Timothy 1:7 were mentioned in today's episode.
God is inviting you into a side by side relationship with Him on your marriage journey. You are never alone!