The Imperfect Parenting Podcast: Recent Episodes
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A podcast by Doctor Rob Pluke, a Psychologist who specialises in child and adolescent mental health, and issues around parenting. For Rob, family is a primary relational space. It challenges everyone, both young and old, to learn and grow. And as we come to really see and care for each another, then God is there at work, in and among us. Rob is a father of three children, two of whom are young adults, while the youngest is in the closing stages of high school.
Rob has been counselling for more than 20 years, and brings all this incredible experience to these podcasts. Rob has also written two books; 'Parenting the sensitive child' and 'A son to be proud of'.
Join us, Rob and Stu (the novice parent) as they discuss imperfect parenting and Rob offers practical advice for parents.
This is part two in a series on when children compare themselves to siblings or other children and struggle with the comparison.
Rob starts a new series on the question:
What should we do when one of our children is struggling, and the other is doing well. Should we mute the praise for the one, trying not to hurt the other, or is there a better way?
This is part six of a series where Rod Charlton talks into his area of expertise around performance coaching. Rod and Rob speak to what builds high performance and it might not actually be what we think it is...
This is part five of a series where Rod Charlton talks into his area of expertise around performance coaching. Rod addresses the "average child" approach and the paradox of performance.
This is part four of a series where Rod Charlton talks into his area of expertise around performance coaching. He speaks to the topics of competition, winning, losing, extra coaching and confidence for our children.
This is part three of a series where Rod Charlton talks into his area of expertise around performance coaching. He touches on what success for children should look like and how he and Rob think about parenting and performance.
Rod Charlton who is a high performance coach, mainly working with top sports men and women, kindly joins us on the podcast.
He and Rob talk to us about talent and how they think we should approach talent or the lack there of - as parents, coaches and schools.
In this episode we welcome Rob's good friend and high performance psychologist Rod Charlton to the podcast, as he shares his 30 years of experience both as a high performance coach and parent.
In this episode, Rob explains a technique "when, then" and explains the dangers of asking children to "do their best".
Rob speaks into the topics of brittle children, resilience and what it looks like to teach toughness to our kids.
Rob and Stu debate different scenarios and real life experiences around parents pushing (or not pushing) their children towards life endeavors.
Rob gives us an honest reflection on why and how pushing can be harmful to both parent and child, while also mentioning when pushing is ok.
Rob talks into the tricky topics of a father, child/teenager bond and pushing our children towards goals. What is ok and what is not.
Rob continues his series on fathering, and speaks to how to build stronger bonds with our children, but especially when they have interests and attitudes that differ from ours.
Rob continues the series on fathering, looking at how parents deal with children that are different to what they expect or had hoped for.
Rob explains how fathers (and mothers) can become more aware of what drives their parenting, and how significant this can be for family bonds.
Rob talks about some of the research he has done around fathers and the difficult emotion of disappointment as a parent.
Rob speaks into a parenting experience Stu had and helps us understand the importance of such stories for a family and for parenting.
We talk about why, when and how to involve a professional with a child that is depressed.
Rob helps us understand the important differences between Anxiety and Depression and what to do when our child has low mood/depression.
We want our children to have much hope in their future, while not putting the weight of unhealthy expectations on their young shoulders.
Helping our kids when their expectations are not met, while being cognizant of how our expectations of our children affect them.
Rob speaks into the important topic of depression and low mood, giving us some important insights into what matters when we or out children are feeling down and/or depressed.
Rob looks at the important difference between an anxious child and a depressed or down child and what is the key question to ask.
In this series on anxiety in children, Rob looks at how parents can play a significant part in creating anxiety in their children, and how to navigate this better.
In this episode Rob talks to the underlying motivations behind our children's behaviours and how to firstly understand our children's truth and move them towards strength.
Rob talks into helping our kids and ourselves understand scary emotions and how important this is to parenting and the future of our children.
Rob spends some time looking at the second part of the triangle of anxiety. The first being the body, or physical sensations and the second being the part the mind plays in anxiety.
Rob spends some time talking into some practical examples of anxiety in children and how he would handle the different situations.
Rob spends some time upskilling parents on what to work towards when our children are anxious or worried. He gives some practical approaches for ourselves and our children.
Rob takes us through one of the first steps when dealing with children's anxiety or worry. Helping a child understand what is happening in their body.
Rob spends some time helping us understand how worry or anxiety exists in a child's mind, to help us accept the reality and handle the anxiety better.
Rob begins to tackle the topic of anxiety or worrying. He speaks into some of the key causes and gives some practical thoughts on what can be helpful.
Rob continues talking about this difficult time of Covid. He tackles the big topic of what to do when our child or even ourselves are feeling down, giving us some ways to move forward.
Rob continues the theme of children relating to their peers and looks at step three of how to go forward with wisdom.
Rob looks at how to engage and go forward with a child who is in relational distress with friends or peers.
Rob continues the theme around emotions and children and moves on to step three. How to move forward.
Rob looks at how to better understand your child and then begin to help them understand who they are.
Rob continues the discussion about children and feelings/emotions, looking at three useful steps we can move through as parents.
Rob continues the discussion about children and feelings, exploring the common difficulties when parents try to engage their children or teens.
Rob steps into the world of emotions and parenting, looking at what it means for us to be leaders in the home.
Rob continues from the last episode, expanding on where self-worth comes from and how we should go about building it as parents.
Rob continues to explore how important it is to build a foundation of healthy self worth in our children.
Rob looks at wise ways to parent when it comes to the ache within all of us to matter or be special. He emphasises the importance of digging into this for the sake of our children.
This episode is the first of a series on parenting during Covid. Here we look at self worth and the possible impact of social media.
In this episode Rob explores how families can develop and care for each other, with specific thoughts for single parents.
The fourth podcast in a series where Doctor Rob Pluke shares his years of experience with us. In this episode, Rob takes us through the problem of certainty in parenting. Helping us think about how to engage our children more wisely when an impasse arises.
The third podcast in a series where Doctor Rob Pluke shares his years of experience with us. In this episode, we discuss one of the paradoxes of parenting, where we need to accept that we are ok being imperfect, while still being willing to reflect and grow from our imperfection.
The second podcast in a series where Doctor Rob Pluke shares his years of experience with us. In this episode, Rob helps us think through how to do family, when we live in a world so full of transactional relationships.
The first podcast in a series where Doctor Rob Pluke shares his years of experience with us. This introductory episode delves into a real life scenario of what to do with the frustration parents at times feel.