The Divorced Girl Smiling Podcast: Recent Episodes
Divorced Girl Smiling/Jackie Pilossoph
Grab a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and start smiling! Every show is 30 minutes aimed to empower you, validate you, and connect you with some of the BEST divorce professionals in the industry.
The financial aspect of a divorce can be the most stressful part of this major life transition. Who better than to offer money management tips than my guest, Financial Divorce Coach, Hirsch Serman? These are game changers in helping you feel more calm and organized.
If you are considering divorce, you have probably been thinking about it for a long time-months or even years. Making the decision to divorce takes time and a lot of thought. But there's something else that might help you make the best decisions for you and your kids: planning. My guest in this episode is NY based divorce attorney, Andrea Friedman, who talks specifically about the kind of planning that will help you make those really important decisions--everything from financial and real estate to parenting plans and lifestyle.
Parenting plans can be tricky. You don't want to have everything set in stone, yet you need to make sure there is structure. My guest in this episode is divorce mediator, Erik Feig, who offers tips on creating healthy parenting plans to benefit both parents and kids.
Want to know the key to being successful in divorce mediation? According to my guest in this episode, the answer is: setting goals. David Louis is a divorce mediator, who talks about the importance of both the mediator and the participants in setting goals before each session. David also offers tips on how to determine the goals.
Gray divorce continues to be on the rise. Why? We tell you in this episode. My guest is Divorce, Relationships and Life Coach, Michèle Heffron and we get into what to expect in a gray divorce, as well as tips for those in it or who are about to be in it. Read Michèle's article on the subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/gray-divorce-what-it-is-why-its-different-and-how-to-move-through-it-well/
Are you going through a divorce with teens, college-age kids or young adults? If so, this is a great episode for you, as my guest, Therapist, Fabianna Laby gives us a look into what these kids might be feeling, and how you can make things easier for both them and yourself.
Financial decisions are so important in divorce, and oftentimes, people make mistakes for two reasons: they make the decisions with their emotions and they don't have the support they need to help them make decisions. My guest in this episode is Julia Shteynberg, Money Coach, who lists the three biggest mistakes she sees divorcing women make, and offers advice on how to correct them.
Dating is hard for everyone. But it can be even more challenging if you are a high-achieving woman. We are talking about successful, driven, happy, healthy women who are constantly saying how hard it is to meet someone. My guest is Relationship Coach and Hypnotherapist, Mina Yang who has a lot to say to high-achievers on the subject of dating! And hypnotherapy? It's not what you think at all! Follow Mina on Substack: https://minayangtrue.substack.com/
The marriage of Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce has everyone excited and happy, but while we hope their marriage lasts forever, the reality is, what happens if it doesn't? My guest is Divorce Attorney, Jeffrey Lance Abood, who talks about prenups, and the importance of mediation in a high-profile, high-asset divorce.
Sometimes after going through a divorce, people lose sight of what a healthy relationship looks like. Maybe you've been treated so poorly in your marriage, you don't even remember what it feels like to be in a relationship free of toxicity. My guest in this episode is divorce recovery therapist, Juli Walton, LCPC, and she offers a look into what "healthy" is in relationships. We also offer tips for your for your next relationship. Read Juli's article on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/healthy-vs-unhealthy-relationships-how-to-recognize-the-difference/
This episode is a comprehensive discussion about child support and the issues that can come up in a divorce case. My guest is divorce attorney, Debbie Cohen, who answers so many questions you might have. Read Debbie's article on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/child-support-what-every-divorcing-parent-needs-to-know/
A divorce could be going relatively well, but the dynamics can dramatically change when one person gets into a relationship. This happens often, and we want to help you manage your feelings and make good divorce decisions, despite the hurt you are going through. My guest is Divorce Attorney, Sandra Fava, who has advice both for the person who is in the new relationship and the person whose ex just got involved with someone new. Read Sandra's article on this subject here:
https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-a-new-relationship-during-divorce-changes-everything/
Marriage isn't easy. But how do you know if divorce is the right option or if you are just so exhausted that you don't feel capable of making that decision? Maybe it can work if the two of you get some help. Or, maybe divorce is the best solution at this point. My guest in this episode is Dr. Ginny Wright, Discernment Counselor Master Practitioner, who offers advice on how to figure out what's really best. Read the article on this topic here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/am-i-truly-done-with-this-marriage-or-just-exhausted/
"Who am I now?" "What am I supposed to do?" These questions are often asked by those facing divorce and after divorce. My guest in this episode is Women's Empowerment Coach, Shannon McGorry, who helps women figure out a path to a happy, healthy life forward. We talk about values and choices that will help you shape what you want and how you live your life from this day forward.
When going through a divorce, it's really easy to think about yourself since you are in so much pain. It's also easy to not realize the pain your kids are in, as well. My guest in this episode is Divorce Mediator, Michael Cohen, and we are coming from the kids' perspective in this episode, and highlight what they want from their parents in the divorce. Read Michael's article on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-your-children-want-from-your-divorce/
If you are intimidated by finances, and/or have never managed money, or even if you have, but you have no idea what your life is going to look like after divorce, this is a great episode for you! My guest is Financial Advisor, Amanda Campbell, and we are all about empowering you, helping you feel worthy of your wealth, and making financial decisions that lead to a happy, healthy post-divorce life! Read the article on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/financial-empowerment-female-power-and-universal-truths-about-women-and-money/
Want to know what a huge mistake in divorce looks like? Go into mediation without planning your strategy. I did that and it wasn't good. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney and author, Katherine Miller. Katherine explains what a divorce strategy looks like, and offers tips on how to build yours.
Going back to work during or after divorce can feel scary, especially if you haven't worked in awhile or are getting into a new field. My guest in this episode is Financial Advisor and Divorced Mom, Joanne Litman, and Jo and I have both walked the walk! We stayed home and went back to work when our kids were older. We share our stories and the benefits we saw when going back to work, and we offer tips on job searching.
What's the difference between a getting a really good divorce outcome, and not getting the outcome you wanted? According to my guest, the difference lies in whether or not you have a divorce team. My guest is Luke Sauter, a personal financial specialist, and we talk about what a divorce team specifically does, and why your lawyer can do his/her job better with one. We also talk some "fast ones" your ex might try to pull during the divorce, as well as gray divorce.
How many times have you heard someone say, "Change your mindset?" I actually love these words, and believe mindset is responsible for a happier, healthier life. My guest is David Fletes, a divorced dad and CA based real estate professional, who has tips for changing your mindset during and after divorce. If you want to be inspired and feel like you have control over your happiness and success, this is a great episode for you.
Two words that can send anyone into a panic attack: budgeting and investing. My guest in this episode is Leah Hadley, a divorce mediator and financial counselor who specializes in helping women become empowered financially during and after divorce. Leah breaks these two words down and offers tips to help you understand what you need to do to feel calm and confident when it comes to your money. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/budgeting-and-investing-for-divorced-women/
Feeling like you don't know who you are anymore? My guest in this episode is Gaynor Mielke, a life, parenting and business coach, who says the reason this happens is because people don't realize how intertwined love, family and business are. Gaynor and I talk about the benefits of taking ownership of who you were meant to be, and how to combine love, family and business in your everyday life.
There are countless decisions to be made during divorce, and oftentimes, people feel indecisive because of emotions like fear, anger and stress. My guest in this episode is Trina Nudson, who is the founder of BeH20, a coparenting program and BeAligned, an app, both which are tools to help you coparent better and make better decisions during the process.
In divorce, do you know what the biggest advantage you can have is? EDUCATION. My guest in this episode is Kimberly Miller, JD, who is the founder of PartWise, her divorce education platform. Kimberly lists the 5 most searched questions on PartWise, and then gives the answers, along with tips for a better divorce outcome. Read the article Kimberly wrote on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-divorce-questions-people-are-asking-right-now/
Taxes stress everyone out, but what if you are getting divorced and there are tax issues involved? Double the stress! My guest in this episode is Patrick Wanzer, CPA and Tax Representation Consultant, who talks about tax issues that can arise in divorce and what you can do.
When going through a divorce, it's easy to suffer when it comes to self-worth, joy and peace. My guest in this episode is Energetic Wellness Coach, Lauri Stern, who talks about how to get these three things back. Her tips are practical and inspiring!
"Sneaky divorce tactics" is a heavily searched term, which is why we decided to address it in this episode. My guest is Orange county based divorce attorney, Marc Garelick, and Marc reveals 5 sneaky divorce tactics he's seen in his lengthy legal career. You might be shocked when you hear the things people try to get away with, so we hope we can help you be aware and handle it if it happens to you! Read the article Marc wrote on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/4-sneaky-divorce-tactics-in-a-high-conflict-case/
What are "the firsts" in divorce? The first holiday you spend without your ex, your first birthday divorced, the first time you meet his new girlfriend, etc. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Mardi Winder, and Mardi and I talk about the firsts, what you might be feeling and how to handle it.
Have you read "Strangers" by Bell Burden yet? My guest in this episode, divorce coach, Jenine Marie Powell has read it and so have I, and we are discussing it in this episode. We are particularly talking about trauma and betrayal that can happen in divorce. Read Jenine's article about this, too!: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-the-viral-memoir-strangers-by-belle-burden-teaches-us-about-divorce-trauma/
This episode is all about filing for divorce. What does it actually mean when you file? Are there benefits to filing first? Should you tell your spouse you are planning to file? Colleen Breems, divorce attorney and partner at Beermann is my guest in this episode and she answers these questions and so many others you might have. Read the article she wrote on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/filing-for-divorce-what-women-need-to-know-beforehand/
In this episode we are celebrating the awesomeness of single parents! My guest is Ron Platt, co-Founder of the National Association for Single and Divorced Families (the NASDF) and we talk about the challenges and benefits of being a single parent, as well as tell our own personal stories.
This episode is dedicated completely to gray divorce-divorce over 50. My guest is Florida divorce attorney and mediator, Anthony Diaz, and we talk about the issues in a gray divorce, and how to set yourself up for the best possible post-divorce life.
Are your wedding rings sitting in a drawer? Why? What do you plan to do with them? If nothing, that's OK. But we're going to give you some options and some things to think about. My guest is Anne Gabel, co-Founder of MJ Gabel diamond and jewelry buyers, the company I sold my rings to in 2011. Anne tells some really good stories and offers advice to those who just don't know what to do with their rings or how to go about selling.
If you are getting divorced and you have kids, this is such an important episode. My guest, Tiffany Hughes, is a divorce attorney, a GAL, and a mom, who gives us a look into what your kids might be thinking and how to handle it. Read the article on this subject here!
If you have cryptocurrency (or you suspect your soon to be ex has it), telling your divorce attorney about it is good, but not enough. Ryan Settle is the founder of his cryptocurrency auditing and valuation firm, and he says he's seen divorce attorneys make mistakes involving finding and valuating crypto in a divorce case. He's here to talk about it and offer advice!
She stayed with her partner too long, and tragically, he murdered her. This is the Chicago domestic violence case everyone is talking about. My guest is Divorce Attorney, Liz Felt Wakeman, and we discuss the case, along with tips for those facing domestic violence.
It's one of the most common questions people ask a divorce attorney in their initial consultation: How much is this going to cost? My guest in this episode is Divorce Attorney, Catherine Becker Good and we are breaking this down by talking about all the factors that go into the cost of divorce.
This episode is dedicated specifically to the topic of divorce litigation. My guest is Virginia Divorce Attorney, Lu Aloupas, and we are diving into the divorce process, explaining what exactly happens, who it's for, who it's not for, and of course, the positives and negatives.
I can't imagine how difficult it would be to figure out a custody schedule for a dog in the divorce! Karis Nafte's career is dedicated to finding solutions for pet owners going through a divorce. We discuss some different custody options in this episode.
Are you divorcing a narcissist? Even if the person isn't a true narcissist (meaning he/she has been diagnosed), people getting divorced can show narcissistic tendencies, given the stressful, scary situation. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney and partner, Renee Read, who talks about divorcing a narcissist from the legal perspective. Renee offers some great tips to help minimize costs and get the best possible outcome.
As everyone gets older, I'm starting to see posts on Facebook and other social media outlets about an ex passing away. This has got to be so painful, so my guest and I decided to address it in this episode. My guest is high conflict divorce coach, Cherie Morris, and Cherie and I talk about what people might be feeling and thinking, and things you can do to help yourself and of course, your kids.
It's one of the biggest issues in so many divorce cases: Should I or can I afford to keep the house? Stacey Ellison is a CDLP® and a Divorce Mortgage Planner, who lists 5 myths about keeping the house in your divorce.
That first Mother's Day during divorce can be so emotional! That's why my guests and I (we are all divorced moms) decided to talk about the emotions you might be feeling as the day approaches. My guests are Mimi Sullivan and Carolyn Bilyak, co-founders of Rebranding Divorce-The Ready for More Community, and we have so many wonderful nuggets of advice that will help you feel less stressed and even excited for Mother's Day and other holidays during and after divorce.
It's really hard. You go from being married to acting like strangers, or even worse, enemies. Ever wonder why your ex is being so cold and mean? My guest in this episode is divorce attorney turned divorce and decision coach, Karen Covy. We address the reasons he/she is acting the way they are and we offer advice on what to do.
Every divorce is difficult, but when you add infidelity into the mix, things can get more heated. That means legally, as well. My guest in this episode is Texas based divorce attorney, David Heiman, who explains how an affair can impact a divorce case. David also offers advice to those who are in this situation.
It's a pretty scary thought: You're thinking about divorce or going through one, and you're not sure if you will have to split your inheritance. That's what this episode is all about. My guest is New Orleans based divorce attorney, Zara Zeringue, who offers a look into this very important aspect of divorce and offers advice on keeping what you feel is yours!
When it comes to divorce, one of the most stressful aspects is the house: should we sell it? Should we rent? should we buy a new place? Realtor, Real Estate Collaboration Specialist-Divorce, and Certified Divorce Specialist, Megan Sullivan is our guest, and she explains some of the mistakes she's seen divorcing couples make in a divorce and how to avoid making them.
Is my ex hiding cryptocurrency? That's a question divorcing people are asking more and more lately, as crypto investments continue to grow. My guest in this episode has been a crypto expert for over a decade. His name is Chris Groshong and he's the founder of her company, Coinstructure. Chris offers advice on finding crypto, as well as the importance of making sure it's valued accurately.
"The 5 Love Languages" is a famous book by Gary Chapman. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Coach, Justin Milrad and I talk about the 5 love languages, as they pertain to your divorce. Our discussion might help you feel validated, and understand what went wrong, and what you can do to make your future relationships better!
We all want the same things for our kids: we want them to be self-confident, loving, and emotionally healthy, right? My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Sharon Oberst DeFala, who has been working with divorcing families for decades. Sharon shares her wisdom and insight about how to ensure your kids grow up healthy and happy, even during divorce and of course, after divorce.
Feeling like your kids are blaming you for the divorce? Feel like they think Dad can do no wrong? My guest in this episode is Kristen Noel, Divorce Coach and Co-founder of The Intuitive Divorce. We talk about how you might be feeling and what you can do.
Emotional support is so important during and after divorce. That might mean many things, including therapy, friends, family, or a divorce coach. Debra Alper is a Divorce and Recovery therapist, who says support groups are the way to go to have an overall much better divorce experience, and to have a happy, healthy life after. Learn more by listening or read the article on this subject here!
If you are thinking about divorce or going through one, this episode will help you see mistakes others have made both in the mediation and litigation processes. My guest is divorce attorney, Megan Beck, who offers her expertise based on former clients. We hope it will help prevent you from making these mistakes!
Divorce can feel stressful, sad and scary. But have you ever thought about the upside of this huge life transition? Brian James is a divorce mediator, and our discussion focuses on the opportunities divorce creates to rediscover yourself. We also offer tips on how to create a life you love after divorce.
What is an amicable divorce? People often think if you are in a financially complex divorce that it's impossible to be amicable in the process, but that's actually not true. My guest is Erin Bodendorfer, divorce attorney and partner at Katz & Stefani, and she offers us a look at amicable divorce: what that means, what it looks like, and tips if you want to try to have one.
When you finally get to the place where you have a divorce agreement, it can feel like a huge relief. But before you sign on the dotted line, there are certain things you shouldn't overlook. My guest is Karen Chellew of My Divorce Solution, the well-known financial preparation platform for divorce, and Karen offers 5 things you should not overlook.
This is a comprehensive discussion about child support and spousal support, also known as Alimony, or Maintenance. My guest is Minnesota based divorce attorney, Kathryn Murphy, who explains what these are and answers questions you might have.
If you have questions related to the financial aspect of your divorce, you are going to love this episode! Financial Divorce Advocate and CDFA®, Sue Plisch lists some common questions people getting divorced have, and then offers her advice on each one. Our goal is to empower you financially!
Are you going through a divorce and menopause or perimenopause at the same time? Oftentimes, this is the case, and women don't know if a change in hormones might be the cause of their unhappiness in the marriage, or if the marriage is causing the unhappiness in their life. My guest in this episode is Brittany Baker, LCSW and therapist, who talks about menopause and perimenopause, and how hormone changes can affect a marriage and contribute to divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-menopause-or-perimenopause-when-life-transitions-collide/
Every divorce is difficult, but can you imagine getting divorced as a celebrity or someone who is in the public eye? It brings a whole new set of issues to the table. My guest in this episode is Jeff Abood, a divorce attorney who has represented many high-profile clients. He talks about what the issues are, and how to handle them. Also included: the benefits of mediation for high-profile divorce.
Going back to work after divorce? Or, are you going to start dating soon? Perhaps you just feel like you need a makeover for your closet. This is such a fun and interesting conversation about the power of what you wear, and how it can help your self-confidence and make you feel beautiful, especially after divorce. My guest is Suzanne Bernie, a personal stylist who has worked with Rod Stewart and Elizabeth Hurley!
HOW you get divorced not only sets the tone for the process, but can impact your divorce outcome and post-divorce life. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Jessica Zadjura, who explains the divorce processes: litigation and mediation. We also have a conversation about pros and cons of each.
"I can't meet anyone." "There are no good guys out there." "I hate dating." These are things I hear from divorced women way too often! Well, listen to this episode and things might change! My guest is Dating after Divorce Coach, Laurie Gerber, who offers 5 ways to increase your chances of finding love.
Are you feeling panicked or anxious or fearful during your divorce? If so, we understand, and this is a great episode for you. Divorce can feel chaotic, but my guest, Lisa Schnitzer, a professional divorce concierge, can help take the panic, fear and anxiety out of your life by helping you get organized and restore control. In this episode, we offer tips to get started.
What is a holistic divorce? Collaborative Divorce Attorney and Mediator, Rosemarie Ferrante explains in this episode, and we talk about the benefits of a holistic divorce and how it can increase your chances of having a good outcome and the best possible post-divorce life.
Change isn't easy, and it takes guts to take steps to change your life. Michèle Heffron is a life, love and relationships coach who is no stranger to change, and getting out of her comfort zone. We talk about why change is so scary, and how to not only cope, but to embrace it.
Coparenting is so important, yet anger, resentment and hurt feelings can make healthy coparenting so difficult. My guests in this episode are divorce mediators (and sisters!) Lizzie Stevenson and Martha Heywood. These wonderful women offer healthy coparenting tips that will help you put your children first.
One of the scariest parts about getting divorced is figuring out if you are gonig to stay in your home, and if so how you can financially make that work. There's also the decision of "Should I buy a new home or should I rent?" My guest in this episode is Rebecca Turley, Realtor, who offers her thoughts and so much wonderful advice.
If you are living with or leaving an alcoholic, this is a great episode for you! My guest is Amber Hollingsworth, Licensed Drug and Addiction Counselor, who offers insight into what the addict is thinking and feeling, along with tips on getting the person to get help.
Do you know what the most important asset you have in divorce is? It's not your home or your car or your 401K, it's time. My guest in this episode is Hirsch Serman, a financial divorce coach and divorced dad, and this conversation is so inspiring, you're going to love it!
Dating after divorce can feel frustrating and disappointing. My guest in this episode actually wrote a book about some of her unbelievable dating stories and she shares them in this episode. This isn't all doom and gloom, though. It's lighthearted, funny, and meant to inspire you that from every date, you learn something.
"I never loved you," "You're going to regret divorcing me," "No one will ever want you." These are just some of the very cruel things people might say during divorce. My guest in this episode is Joanne Litman, Financial Advisor and divorced mom, and we discuss why people say these things and why if you hear "I never loved you," that's simply not true.
"Starting over after divorce at 50" is heavily searched in Google, and understandably so! It can feel scary to start over at an older age. My guest in this episode is Juli Walton, LCPC, and we talk about fresh starts, reinvention, and living your authentic life after 50. Read the article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-move-on-after-divorce-in-your-fifties/
What does it mean to be emotionally savvy? My guest in this episode is Katherine E. Miller, Divorce Attorney and author of her new book "The Emotionally Savvy Divorce." Katherine shares some of the key takeaways in her wonderful divorce advice book, with the goal of helping you have the best divorce outcome.
Most people think that if they are getting divorced, the first thing to do is call a divorce attorney. While divorce attorneys are definitely needed, my guest says there's someone you should call first: a divorce mediator. Michael Cohen, divorce mediator, explains why in this episode, and offers tips on achieving the best possible divorce outcome. Read Michael's article on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/why-every-couple-considering-divorce-should-talk-to-a-mediator-before-a-lawyer/
One of the most painful questions people ask after becoming separated is: How can I ever learn to trust again after being betrayed? My guest in this episode is Divorce Coach, Jenine Marie Powell, who address the question and offers advice on how to get to a place of peace, and move on to healthy relationships in the future.
Some states require a separation period before you can officially get divorced. North Carolina is one of those states and my guest is Divorce Attorney, Whitney Butcher, who talks about the law and offers advice on those thinking of separating or who are already separated.
Getting divorced requires the couple to walk away with a parenting plan, which might sound comforting. But what happens when life changes and that parenting plan is no longer working? My guest in this episode is Divorce Mediator, Erik Feig. Erik and I give examples of life changes and how they might affect your parenting plan, as well as how to create a plan that can adapt.
People going through a divorce often feel like they've lost their purpose in life. They just don't know what they are supposed to do now or who they are. My guest is Phil LaGiglia, and both Phil and I have been where you are. We talk about how to find that purpose again and the fact that life is going to be wonderful again. Read the article we wrote on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/lost-your-purpose-in-life-one-things-for-sure-its-wonderful/
It's very common for women getting divorced to feel scared and intimidated by having to now manage their own finances. My guest in this episode is Leah Hadley, Founder of Intentional Divorce Solutions, Mediator, and CDFA®, who addresses: fear of paying your own bills, understanding the stock marketing, planning for retirement and tax issues. This conversation will help you feel a lot better!
Let's be honest. Financial fears might be the biggest fear for those getting divorced, especially if you've never managed your money. My guest in this episode is Financial Advisor, Pete Mullins, CDFA®, who offers tips to help ease your anxiety and empower you to feel confident when it comes to managing your own finances and making good financial decisions.
"I just want to get through the divorce," is a common statement people make. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Mardi Winder, who explains that although we understand how you feel, that's just not enough. Mardi talks about strategies and mindset to set you up for the best possible post-divorce life. Read Mardi's article on this topic: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/2-things-that-matter-and-why-just-getting-through-a-divorce-is-not-good-enough/
Many people choose mediation as a way to get divorced in hopes that it will cost less, go fairly quickly, and result in a better coparenting relationship. My guest in this episode is divorce mediator, David Louis, who talks about some of the obstacles to effective communication that can hinder the mediation process.
When people going through a divorce start thinking about custody and parenting time, things can feel stressful and scary. After all, we all want to spend time with our kids and be a part of big life decisions for them. My guest in this episode is Andrea Friedman, divorce attorney and partner at Friedman & Friedman. Andrea explains the differences between sole and joint custody, and talks about options in parenting time.
"Life is a balancing act," says Amanda Campbell, my guest in this episode. You're a mom, you work, you have kids, you have family and friends, and trying to balance it all can feel overwhelming. Same with your financial life. Amanda Campbell is a financial advisor and offers advice on spending and saving in a smart way--in other words, balancing your financial wellbeing. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/balance-mindfulness-and-money/
Splitting up assets in a divorce can get complicated, especially when there are retirement accounts involved. My guest in this episode is Divorce Attorney, Liz Felt Wakeman, who offers information and advice on making sure things are fair and equitable, and that you don't make mistakes that could cost you down the road.
Can you mediate a high-net-worth divorce? My guest in this episode is high net-worth divorce mediator, Mara Linder, who says not only "can" you mediate a high-net-worth, high-asset divorce, but that there are many, many advantages to doing so. Mara explains the benefits of mediation, and offers tips to a better outcome and post-divorce life.
Divorce is always difficult, but it gets even more challenging, both emotionally and practically, when you are living in another country, and/or you live in the U.S. but are from another country. My guest in this episode is Keren Asher, an Israeli based divorce attorney and worldwide divorce coach, who helps coach people all over the world if they are divorcing in a foreign country. Keren offers insight and tips into these situations, and also talks about divorce laws in Israel.
A huge part of the stress that goes with divorce is change. There are so many changes going on in divorce and for most people, it feels overwhelming. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Catherine Becker Good, who talks about some of the major changes in divorce. Catherine and I offer tips on coping with those changes.
People often ask, "How can I be 'better' with money? My guest in this episode is money coach, Julia Shteynberg, who talks about how to reduce stress when it comes to money, and how to make good financial decisions during and after divorce. Read Julia's article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-be-better-with-money/
Two of the most prevalent emotions in a divorce are anxiety and fear. My guest is Divorce and decision coach, Karen Covy, who addresses these emotions and offers advice on how to cope. Read Karen's article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/fear-and-anxiety-why-they-show-up-so-much-in-divorce-and-what-you-can-do/
It's pretty common to have doubts and second thoughts about the divorce. But how do you know if your doubts are valid? Maybe you are considering reconciling. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes, who offers an explanation for why these thoughts occur, and a list of things she wishes every person going through a divorce knew. Read the article on this topic here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/having-doubts-about-the-divorce-here-is-what-you-need-to-know/
Co-parenting is hard. So, what do you do when you feel frustrated and angry and resentful towards your ex, but you still want what's best for your kids? My guest is Trina Nudson, who is the creator of her new app, BeAligned, which is a tool to help you vent, think through thoughts, and answer difficult questions. The goal: to help you be the best co-parent you can be, and to improve your quality of life! Read the article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/co-parenting-is-hard-weve-got-you-covered/
Wondering if your spouse is cheating? My guests in this episode are Anthony DeLorenzo and Tony DeLorenzo, who are private investigators. These two are wonderful in offering signs your spouse is cheating, what to do if you find out he/she is cheating, when to hire a private investigator, and how to cope with the news. Read the article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/is-my-husband-cheating-on-me-what-a-private-investigator-wants-you-to-know/
We do many episodes offering coparenting tips, but we've never done a show on custody tips for pets! My guest in this episode is Karis Nafte, dog and pet mediator, dog behavior specialist, author and speaker, who gives tips on what to do when it comes to figuring out "who keeps the dog" (which is the name of her company!) Read the article: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/do-you-have-a-pet-custody-agreement-tips-for-divorcing-parents/
Loneliness is one of the most painful emotions someone can feel. Whether you are lonely and still married, or lonely and going through a divorce, or lonely after divorce, my guest, Divorce Coach, Lisa Lisser is here to help. Lisa offers 3 practices to help you transform your loneliness into emotions that are healthy and hopeful! Read the article on this subject here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/3-practices-to-transform-divorce-loneliness/
Coparenting is difficult in any situation. But talking to your ex about the kids gets a whole lot more challenging if you have feelings of anger and hurt. How are you supposed to have a conversation and pretend like you don't want to explode to the person who has hurt you so deeply? My guest in this episode is Colleen Breems, divorce attorney and partner at Beermann. Colleen offers practical tips for those who are hurting and trying to coparent. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-tips-for-coparenting-with-someone-who-hurt-you/
Taking accountability isn't easy for a lot of people. But if you are someone who is self-aware, there is a healthy way to take accountability versus having toxic guilt. My guest in this episode is Dr. Ginny Wright, Discernment Counselor Master Practitioner, who explains the difference between these two, and offers advice for those wanting to grieve their divorce in a healthy way and move on. Read Ginny's article on this subject: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/toxic-guilt-versus-healthy-accountability-in-divorce/
Hurt, pain, and anger are emotions that can cause a divorcing spouse to disengage and just stop talking to you. Receiving the silent treatment can not only feel hurtful, but it can slow the divorce process, and hinder good co-parenting arrangements. My guests in this episode are Catherine Shanahan, CDFA® and Karen Chellew, Co-founders of the well-known divorce preparation platform, My Divorce Solution. These amazing women (who both went through a divorce) explain reasons the silent treatment can happen and what you can do to cope. Read the article here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-ex-wont-talk-to-me-makes-co-parenting-pretty-darn-difficult/
When people are first separated, many tend to say things like, "We are going to do this amicably" and "We are going to figure this out together." In other words, they have the best intentions. But as my guest explains, a lack of education can really derail things. My guest is Kimberly Miller, Co-Founder of her divorce education platform, PartWise, and she tells the story of a couple whose divorce conflict escalated quickly because they didn't know the facts. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-kitchen-table-divorce-that-failed-from-lack-of-education/
Divorce is a complicated process that takes a lot of time. So, it's not uncommon for people to feel frustrated by how long the process is taking, and the long periods of time you might not hear from your attorney. All that said, if your gut is telling you your attorney is not a good fit, you might consider changing attorneys. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Renee Read, a partner at Remley Law, who offers advice and things to keep in mind if you are considering switching attorneys. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-is-it-too-late-to-change-attorneys-during-divorce-almost-never/
If you are living with an addict, or going through a divorce from someone who is an addict, or if you have a child, family member or friends who is an addict, this is a great episode for you. If you are feeling frustrated and have tried so many things to get the person to stop and nothing is working, listen to my guest, Amber Hollingsworth! Amber talks about a method she uses that could be effective! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-help-an-addict-invisible-intervention/
If you are a woman paying alimony in your divorce, or if you are going through a divorce or thinking about a divorce and you think you might have to pay alimony, this is a great episode for you! My guest is Leah Hadley, CDFA® and Divorce Mediator, who offers advice, both practical and emotional advice for this situation. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/women-paying-alimony-myths-facts-and-advice/
Anger in divorce is normal and understandable. But if you don't manage it properly, or if you hang on to anger too long, it can hurt you in many ways. My guest in this episode is therapist, Juli Walton, LCPC, who explains the dangers of holding onto anger, and offers advice on how to let anger go. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-let-go-of-anger-in-divorce-and-the-impact-if-you-dont/
Grieving the breakup part of your divorce? Of course you are. My guest in this episode is Divorce Coach, Jenine Marie Powell, and together, Jenine and I talk about 9 emotions you might be feeling and how to cope. If you are hurting emotionally, this is a great episode for you! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/your-painful-breakup-9-things-you-might-be-feeling/
Do you want wealth and abundance after divorce? Of course you do. It's a loaded question. Divorce can make a person insecure and stressed about finances, budgeting and saving. My guest in this episode is financial advisor, Amanda Campbell, CFP®, CDFA®, who talks about little, baby steps you can take to get to a place of comfort, and yes, wealth and abundance. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/baby-steps-to-wealth-and-abundance/
If you are selling your home in a divorce, the last thing you probably want to think about is renovating it. But in this episode, we talk about how a small renovation--that takes very little time and doesn't cost a fortune, can help you in a justified higher asking price and much larger profit. My guest is Amanda Valente, co-founder of Renovation Sells. Amanda and I talk about "selling smart in divorce" and we offer tips for those stressed about the process. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/before-selling-a-house-in-divorce-consider-renovating/
Coparenting is never easy, but it gets a lot more difficult and challenging when one of the parents is in a new relationship. My guest in this episode is Trina Nudson, founder of the BeH20 coparenting program. Trina offers practical advice on coping, setting boundaries, and making sure you put the kids first. Trina and I also share some personal stories. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/co-parenting-boundaries-while-in-a-new-relationship/
Every divorce is unique, but there are some challenges that comes with high net worth divorce--situations where there are complex assets. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Odalo Ohiku, who explains some of the issues that arise in a high net worth divorce. He also offers advice on how to protect yourself in one. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/understanding-high-net-worth-divorce/
During divorce, confidence suffers. Even the most emotionally healthy person with tons of self-love can find they have a lack of confidence during a divorce. My guest in this episode is Justin Milrad, CDC. Justin, a divorce coach and divorced dad, explains in more detail why this happens, and offers 7 ways to rebuild your confidence during divorce. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-self-confidence-tips-for-those-facing-divorce/
No parent sets out to put the kids in the middle of their divorce, but it happens. There are many reasons it happens and there are things you can do to prevent putting your kids in the middle of your divorce. My guest in this episode is Erik Feig, divorce mediator, co-parenting specialist and disability informed professional. Erik talks about why this happens and what you can do to keep your kids happy and healthy through divorce and after. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/youre-both-still-their-parents-co-parenting-tools-that-keep-kids-out-of-the-middle/
Is it possible to be friends with your ex? There is so much to talk about to answer this question! My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Lisa Lisser. Lisa offers insights into this complex question, along with tips to having the kind of relationship you want with your ex. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/being-friends-with-an-ex-who-hurt-you-is-it-possible/
It is so normal and understandable to have anger in divorce. But be careful. If you make decisions based on anger, it could have a negative affect both in the outcome of your divorce and in your post-divorce life. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Debbie Cohen, who explains, and offers tips on managing your anger during the legal process. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-role-of-anger-in-divorce-and-how-it-can-affect-your-outcome/
"My husband has no friends or hobbies," is something I hear a lot from women who are considering divorce or going through one. My guest in this episode is Divorce Coach, Karen Covy. Karen and I unpack this issue. We talk about what being married to an anti-social spouse looks like, how it can affect a marriage, and whether or not it's a good enough reason to get divorced. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-husband-has-no-friends-or-hobbies/
Divorce isn’t just the end of a marriage. It’s also a financial reset, a unique and powerful opportunity to reimagine what money means to you—and how it supports your future. My guest in this episode is Luke Sauter, Personal Financial Specialist and Investment Advisor Representative. Luke explains why your financial identity matters, and offers tips on rebuilding it. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/reclaiming-your-financial-identity-during-and-after-divorce/
No one wants to be in an emotionally abusive relationship, or an addictive relationship. So, why is it not so uncommon that people get into these kinds of relationships? One big reason is that people don’t even realize they are in or heading into one. My guest in this episode is Relationship and Recovery Therapist, Debra Alper. Debra and I discuss 5 signs that you might be in one or headed there. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-signs-you-are-in-or-are-heading-into-an-addictive-or-emotionally-abusive-relationship/
It sounds intimidating and overwhelming, but it really isn't! My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Jessica Zadjura, who has answers to your questions about retirement accounts, pension plans, and other assets in divorce. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/retirement-accounts-pension-plans-and-divorce/
Being your best self in divorce has so many benefits. Not only will it give you a better divorce outcome, but it will help you in self-love, and in your post-divorce life. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Sharon Oberst-DeFala, who offers tips on how to be your best self, as well as a story that will inspire you! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/a-great-example-of-how-to-be-your-best-self-in-divorce/
If you know your divorce needs to happen, but you're not sure what to do to prepare, before telling your spouse officially that you want a divorce, this is a great episode! My guest is divorce attorney, Ardené Fox, who offers advice on how to prepare for the start of your divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-to-do-before-telling-your-spouse-you-want-a-divorce/
It's so wonderful when parents can put their differences aside and be there in a peaceful, loving way for their kids. Unfortunately, not all divorcing couples are able to do this. So, if you are someone going through a divorce who has a difficult and toxic ex, this is a great episode for you. My guest is divorce attorney, Matt Butts, who offers 3 tips for coparenting with a toxic ex. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/3-tips-for-coparenting-with-a-toxic-ex/
If you want to get calm or stay calm during your divorce, this is a great episode for you! My guest is divorce coach, Cherie Morris, who offers 5 somatic techniques to get you to a better, calmer, more rational place, so you can not only make better decisions during your divorce, but so you can have a better quality of life! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/recovering-from-divorce-through-somatic-practice/
I had never heard of insight mediation before this podcast, but I'm so glad I know about it now! Wait until you listen to this episode! My guest is divorce mediator, Melissa Wheeler-Farag, who uses insight mediation in her practice; a method that is shown to give divorcing couples a better result, and a better co-parenting relationship. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/insight-mediation-what-it-is-and-how-it-can-help-your-divorce/
Why is it important to empower yourself as much as possible in divorce? Because you will make smarter, better decisions, you will have less anxiety, and you will have a better outcome by far! My guest in this episode is Divorce Attorney, Catherine Becker Good, and we are giving you 7 steps you can take to empower yourself in the divorce process. You're going to love this one!
If you are going through a divorce (or are already divorced) and you need some inspiration and empowerment, this is a great episode for you! My guest is Hannah McKitrick, Wellness Coach and Retreat Leader, and we have 7 things we swear by, that we think will help you get happier and healthier.
What a great conversation! Life, Love and Divorce Coach, Michèle Heffron is my guest, and we talk about so many things that we think you are thinking about and wondering about as a divorced woman over 40, 50 or 60. Topics include: figuring out what you want to do now, and finding love at an older age.
The divorced woman is juggling a lot of things, including her home, health, kids, dating, aging parents, and so much more! My guest in this episode is real estate agent, Staci Yesner, and wait till you hear this conversation! It's so vulnerable and relatable! We hope it's both validating and inspiring! https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/make-your-house-a-home-after-divorce/
What is a guardian ad litem (a GAL)? If you've never been through a divorce, you might never even have heard the term. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Colleen Breems, a partner at Beermann, who is also a guardian ad litem. Colleen explains the role of a GAL, and answers so many questions you probably have. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-a-guardian-ad-litem/
What does equitable distribution mean? If you've never been through a divorce, you probably don't know. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, John McKnight. John explains equitable distribution and offers some insight into dividing assets in divorce, and how the divorce process works. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-equitable-distribution-in-a-divorce/
Every divorce case is unique, and so are the reasons people get divorced. My guest in this episode is Dr. Ginny Wright, Discernment Counselor Master Practitioner and Therapist, who gives us a look at both the hard and soft reasons people decide to get divorced. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-top-reasons-for-divorce-understanding-hard-and-soft-reasons/
One of the scariest parts of getting divorced is being alone. In fact, many people decide not to get divorced because they fear this. If this is you, you are going to LOVE this episode! My guests are Catherine Shanahan, CDFA® and Karen Chellew, (both divorced) and the founders of My Divorce Solution. We offer tips, and we hope you will feel inspired from this conversation.
In the wake of the Megan Kerrigan Andy Byron Coldplay kiss cam cheating incident, I was wondering, is it going to be possible for them to mediate their divorce? My guest is Divorce Mediator, Brian James and he says yes. We get into how these kinds of cases differ from other divorces, and we offer tips for those getting divorced from a cheater.
If I was getting divorced now, one of my biggest sources of stress would be my beloved dog. Is he going to be OK? Will I get custody of him? Am I going to have to share custody? This is a great episode for dog lovers. My guest is Karis Nafte, a dog and pet mediator, dog behavior consultant, author and speaker. Karis answers all the questions you might have. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/professional/karis-nafte-founder-who-keeps-the-dog/
Divorce attorney, Joi Fairell tells it like it is, and in this episode, she shares insights into the divorce process, and answers so many questions you might have if you are newly separated or in the middle of your divorce. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-is-child-support-calculated-in-georgia/
It's not easy being married to someone who is controlling. But it might be even more difficult to divorce a controlling spouse. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes, who offers tips for going through a divorce when your soon-to-be-ex has a controlling personality.
I'm a big fan of marriage therapy, but so often, I hear that it didn't work for couples and they ended up divorced. My guest in this episode is Ann Cerney, a Marriage Intensive Therapist, who shares her stories about couples who went to her for marriage intensive therapy, and the success they had. We explain what marriage intensive therapy is, and then talk about what goes on in the process and how it's different than traditional marriage therapy. Trying to save your marriage? This is a great episode for you! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-marriage-intensive-therapy-and-is-it-for-us/
So many times, women getting divorced have no idea what their life is going to look like after. That can feel scary, depressing, and sad, but my guests in this episode--who both went through divorces say life after divorce can be wonderful! Mimi Sullivan and Carolyn Bilyak are full of inspiration and tips for your post divorce life! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/3-words-that-can-help-you-build-your-post-divorce-life/
Online dating can feel so frustrating and disappointing, that you might be asking, "Is this really worth it?" My guest in this episode is dating after divorce coach, Laurie Gerber, and Laurie and say yes! We will offer you tips that will inspire you to keep trying if you want to find real, meaningful love. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/is-online-dating-worth-it-you-decide/
When people are first getting divorced (or thinking about one), they start googling. Actually, now they ask AI, as well. My guest in this episode is Hirsch Serman, Financial Divorce Coach and divorced dad, who found out just what information people are searching for. We reveal 10 things people want to know and then offer our advice. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/google-trends-for-divorce-topics-what-people-search/
Do you have divorce guilt? My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Katherine Miller, who explains why people getting divorced feel guilt and shame, and what the difference between the two is. We also offer tips for those feeling guilt and shame.
When going through a divorce, it's hard to picture your life after, especially pertaining to happiness. My guest in this episode is Joanne Litman, financial advisor and divorced mom, and Jo and I talk about happiness after divorce, specifically what you need and don't need to be happy. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-you-need-and-dont-need-for-happiness-after-divorce-and-how-to-move-on-after-divorce/
No one likes to be uncomfortable, but with divorce, you are going through so many changes and well, it's uncomfortable! Time to get comfortable being uncomfortable! But that's a good thing! My guest in this episode is Ron Platt, divorced dad and co-founder of the National Association for Single and Divorced Families (the NASDF.) Ron and I tell our divorce stories of feeling uncomfortable and some things we did to get comfortable. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/get-comfortable-being-uncomfortable-and-other-advice-on-love-and-divorce/
One of the biggest mistakes people make in divorce is waiting until they are officially divorced to hire a financial planner/investment firm. My guest in this episode is Peter Mullins, CDFA® and Vice-president at Vestor Capital, who explains what exactly a financial plan is, and how you can benefit by consulting with a financial advisor (especially a CDFA®) before or during your divorce. I am a client of Pete's (have been for a long time) so this is personal for me!
Do you sometimes feel like you're never going to be happy again? Think again! My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Mardi Winder-Adams, who explains all the wonderful things that happened to her during and after divorce that she didn't expect. Of course, I tell my stories, too! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-unexpected-benefits-of-divorce-that-women-dont-talk-about-but-should/
What a great episode this is! With my guest, divorce attorney, Theresa E. Viera, we offer tips for those in the thick of your divorce. These include: remembering you're not at war, being cautious of those who call themselves "experts," and making sure you give yourself the option of changing your name back after divorce-even if you haven't made a decision on that yet.
It's a heartbreaking situation that causes unbearable pain for the victim, and for the kids. I'm talking about parental alienation. My guest in this episode is divorce mediator, Michael Cohen, who explains what parental alienation looks like, how parents might be doing it without even knowing, and specifically how it hurts everyone involved. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-alienation-of-a-child-from-a-parent-hurts-everyone-involved/
Every divorce case is unique, and so is every divorce case that involves some kind of alcohol use or abuse. My guest in this episode is Chris Beck of Soberlink, who talks about the differences between sobriety and recovery, and how each one affects the divorce process and of course, the parents and children. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/sobriety-and-recovery-key-differences-and-how-they-affect-divorcing-parents/
Meditation and mediation are two entirely separate practices. That said, not only are they only separated by one letter, but they are related a lot more than you might think. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney and mediator, Erica Speraw, who offers a look into each, and the benefits of doing both during divorce. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/mediation-vs-meditation-not-as-unrelated-as-you-might-think/
Hurt people hurt people. We've all heard that statement. But what happens when a person decides to have an affair just to get revenge on their spouse? My guest is Brittany Baker, LCSW, a therapist who explains why people have revenge affairs (and affairs not for revenge) and why hurting someone this way is a really bad idea. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/revenge-affairs-why-people-have-them-and-why-its-a-bad-idea/
Having a strategy is always wise in any goals you have, and that includes a good divorce outcome. My guest in this episode is Tracy Coenen, Forensic Accountant and the founder of the Divorce Money Guide and the Divorce Strategy Guide. Tracy offers tips for planning and implementing a strategy that will help you get the best possible divorce outcome and post-divorce life. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/planning-for-a-divorce-lets-talk-strategies/
Online dating can feel frustrating, disappointing, and hopeless. But it doesn't have to be that way! My guest in this episode is online dating coach, Alyssa Dineen, who offers tips for online dating that we hope will leave you feeling inspired and ready to mingle! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-be-successful-in-online-dating-5-tips/
When I got divorced, my kids were 3 and 5, and college was not something I was thinking about. But I feel like I blinked and they were at the age when they started applying to schools. College was not in my divorce agreement, and we had to go back to court a few times to sort things out. But you can avoid that! My guest in this episode is Vicki Vollweiler, College Planning and Financial Aid Expert. Vicki offers tips on college planning, and talks about what it looks like to add college to your divorce agreement, regardless of your kids' current ages. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-importance-of-including-college-in-your-divorce-agreement/
No one wants to be divorced, and divorce can feel painful and devastating and hopeless. But believe it or not, divorce creates so many opportunities I bet you haven't even thought of. My guest is Liesel Darby, divorce mediator and coach, and we talk about the opportunities you might not even realize that are now at your fingertips. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/recognizing-opportunities-created-by-divorce/
Divorce is so painful, but we all have to remember that it's painful for the kids, too. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney and children's book author, Anna Krolikowska, who offers 10 things your kids might be thinking during divorce and how to handle it. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-and-kids-10-things-they-might-be-thinking/
So many people decide that divorce is the right decision, but they decide before having all the information they need. My guest in this episode is Kimberly Miller, J.D., LMFT, CDC®, who is the founder of her divorce education platform, PartWise. Kimberly offers a glimpse into what to expect and how to educate yourself so that you are prepared. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-is-it-time-for-a-divorce-what-you-need-to-know-before-you-decide/
What a fun but also important conversation about being in a relationship or dating men who don't have a lot of money. My guest is financial advisor, Amanda Campbell, CDFA®, CFP®, AIFF®, AAMS®, and together, we offer some relationship red flags for men who might not have a lot of money. By the way, there are a lot of wonderful men who don't have a lot of money, but we tell you what to watch out for! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/there-are-men-with-no-money-and-then-there-are-men-with-no-money/
We all want our children to grow up happy and healthy, and going through a divorce might cause you to worry that they won't. My guest in this episode is Katharine Rupp, divorce attorney and Judicial Education Coordinator for OurFamilyWizard. Katharine offers insight as to what your children can learn--both good and bad from the choices you make during and after your divorce. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/children-and-divorce-3-things-they-will-learn/
When is a bad time to sell your ring? What frame of mind should you be in when selling your rings? Where shouldn't you sell your rings? And what shouldn't you do with the money you get from your rings? These are all questions that we address in this episode about what NOT to do with your wedding rings. My guests are Matt and Anne Gabel, co-founders of MJ Gabel diamond and ring buyers. I sold my wedding rings to Matt and Anne!
Grieving a divorce is key in healing and moving on. My guest in this episode is Divorce Coach, Lisa Lisser, who explains many forms grieving can come in. We also offer tips on healing from grief. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-grief-its-complicated/
Self-compassion and self-love: two very important things needed for someone going through a divorce. My guest is Juli Walton, LCPC, therapist and mediator, who talks about each of these, their differences, and what the benefits are of each. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-self-compassion-and-how-is-it-different-than-self-love/
It might sound like a small thing, but it's not: the words you use when communicating with your ex, both in mediation and during your divorce. My guest in this episode is divorce mediator, Erik Feig. Erik and I discuss using certain words that might affect the outcome of your divorce-both in a good and not so good way. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-mediation-advice-words-have-power/
What is a personal mission statement? We discuss that in this episode. My guest is divorce coach, Andra Davidson, who talks about how to create one, and the many benefits it will provide-including a better divorce experience and outcome. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-a-personal-mission-statement-why-you-need-one-during-divorce/
Are you a highly sensitive person? Not sure? My guest in this episode is Sue Bruckner, a Holistic Relationship Coach and founder of Tribe Rising, a community for highly sensitive women. Sue offers signs of highly sensitives, along with reasons to embrace and even celebrate being one! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/highly-sensitive-person-symptoms-and-strengths/
I am not Okay. That is something that almost every person who has ever been through a divorce has said. My guest in this episode is Darlene Taylor, a divorce and co-parenting coach, who says it's perfectly normal to feel that way. Darlene has wonderful advice if you are feeling this way. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/i-am-not-okay-heres-our-advice/
It's hard not to sit around and think about your ex, what went wrong, what you "should" have done, and what he's doing now. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Jenine Marie Powell, who offers tips on how to stop thinking about your ex--how to get out of the "ex zone" and position yourself for a better life ahead. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-an-ex-5-tips/
There are so many podcasts about what to say during mediation, but this episode focuses on what NOT to say! My guest is divorce mediator, Ellen Feldman, who shares some things she's heard in her almost 20 years of mediating, that she says NOT to say. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-not-to-say-during-mediation-part-2/
What does it mean and what does it look like to "give away your power" in the divorce? Divorce Coach, Karen Covy offers 7 ways you might be giving away your power and you don't even realize it! This is a can't-miss episode for those who want the best possible divorce outcome (which we all know you do!) Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/are-you-giving-away-your-power-in-your-divorce/
What is healthy co-parenting? What does that look like during your divorce and in your every day life after divorce? High-conflict and co-parenting divorce coach, Cherie Morris explains, and offers tips that will leave you feeling inspired, and that will help you see that co-parenting, even with someone you have a lot of resentment and anger towards, is entirely possible! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-ultimate-act-of-love-for-your-kids-healthy-co-parenting/
Every divorce is hard. But things can get a lot more emotional--especially during the legal process if one person is leaving the marriage for someone else. My guest in this episode is Amelia Warchal, Divorce Attorney for Klein Law Group in South Florida. Amelia has advice, both for those who have been left and those who are leaving for someone else.
Are you wondering if your marriage can be saved? If so, Discernment Counselor Master Practitioner, Dr. Ginny Wright might be able to give you some insight into whether or not it's possible. Ginny is my guest in this episode and she talks about things she hears in discernment counseling sessions that leads her to believe the marriage can work, or that divorce is probably imminent. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/can-my-marriage-be-saved-it-depends/
If you are getting divorce and you are thinking of selling your home and/or buying a new home, this is a great episode for you! My guests are Debbie Glickman and Tami Levy of Glickman Levy Residential (@properties) who together bring 16 years of real estate experience to the table. Love these women and you will too, as they give us myths and truths about real estate and divorce.
I get so many emails from people getting divorced who ask if divorce is a sin. Why? Because their religious leaders, family and community tell them it is. My guest on this episode is Michèle Heffron, Life, Relationships and Divorce Coach, and you're going to love our conversation about this! We also talk about Michèle's idea to have a "Tea Pause." I had no idea what that was and love it!
It's a question I hear time and time again from people getting divorce: Will I be able to keep my home in the divorce? My guest in this episode is Jeff Landers, CDLP®, CDFA®, and author who has dedicated his career to helping people stay in their homes if that's what they want. Jeff has so much knowledge and many wonderful tips. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/homeownership-after-divorce-the-emotions-and-financial-reality/
It's something I've heard from hundreds of divorced women over the years: My ex moved on two seconds after we separated, meaning he was seeing someone else. It can feel shocking, hurtful, infuriating and unfair. My guest in this episode is T.H. Irwin, co-Founder of exExperts and wow, do we get into this topic! We talk about why men move on so quickly, and offer tips on how to cope if it happens to you.
Supervised Visitation has a really negative connotation. But there's a lot you might not know! My guest in this episode is Trina Nudson, JD, CDC, divorce attorney, mediator and founder of her co-parenting program, BeH20. Our discussion is dedicated to what you need to know about supervised visitation, which Trina calls "supervised parenting time" since no parent should have to "visit" their children. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-things-to-know-about-supervised-visitation/
Who better to talk about the differences between men and women when it comes to coping with divorce than a divorced woman and a divorced man? My guest is Justin Milrad, a divorced dad who is a Certified Divorce Coach. This is such wonderful insight for women going through a divorce to get a glimpse into what your soon-to-be ex might be thinking and feeling. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/men-and-divorce-everything-a-woman-should-know/
Divorce is hard and the outcome is so important! That's why my guest and I want to warn you about 10 mistakes people make so that you can avoid making them. My guest is divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes, who offers 12 years of experience and a lot of great tips! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-big-divorce-mistakes-you-really-dont-want-to-make/
What happens when three women-all divorce professionals who all happen to have gone through a divorce get together and talk divorce? A lot of: wisdom and tips, and a little bit of laughter. My guests in this episode are Catherine Shanahan, CDFA and Karen Chellew, who are the co-founders of their amazing divorce financial preparation process called My Divorce Solution. Learn more here: https://mydivorcesolution.com/
Most divorce cases are complicated and stressful. But divorce can get a lot harder when one of the parties has a substance abuse issue. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Catherine Becker Good. Catherine offers insight and advice for cases that involve substance abuse.
Divorce is not a word that should be used lightly. What I'm saying is, once you say "Maybe we should get divorced", be prepared because you've opened the door. Maybe that door needed to be opened. My guest in this episode is Divorce Mediator, Michael Cohen. Michael and I talk about what can happen to a relationship when someone threatens divorce. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-can-happen-when-someone-is-threatening-divorce/
Being around negative people, especially a spouse or ex-spouse can feel toxic and exhausting. In this episode, my guest is Joanne Litman, financial advisor and divorced mom. Jo and I talk about what negative people do and say, and we offer tips on coping with and not letting the negativity stand in your way. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-partners-negativity-is-draining-me/
What is a high net-worth divorce? My guest in this episode is Turner Thornton, divorce attorney and partner at Varghese Summersett, who explains. We also discuss ways someone going through a divorce might try to hide money during one of these complex divorces. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-a-high-net-worth-divorce/
Custody battles can turn ugly fast, especially when one party is being falsely accused of something. That can include being falsely accused of drinking and/or being intoxicated around the kids. My guest in this episode is Chris Beck of Soberlink. Chris and I talk about what you can do to protect yourself. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-someone-is-falsely-accused-of-drinking-around-the-kids/
Ever been in an on-again off-again relationship? Also known as "situationships," they can be toxic and really bad for self esteem. My guest in this episode is dating coach, Alyssa Dineen. Alyssa and I talk about the signs that your relationship might fit into this category and we offer tips for avoiding falling into this kind of situation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/ever-been-in-an-on-again-off-again-relationship/
What do we mean by "difficult conversations?" Telling your spouse you want a divorce, asking your spouse to move out, conversations that come up in mediation, every money conversation. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Mardi Winder-Adams, who offers 4 great tips on how to have these conversations to get what you want and maintain a good co-parenting relationship. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/4-tips-to-having-difficult-conversations-with-your-ex/
Co-parenting isn't the easiest thing to do. And, it gets a lot more difficult when your ex decides he isn't speaking to you! It can feel frustrating, infuriating and hopeless, and your kids are probably going to feel it, too. My guest in this episode is Nikol Sotos, a divorce attorney and Judicial Education Coordinator for OurFamilyWizard. Nikol offers advice on what you can do if you're in this situation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-ex-wont-talk-to-me-makes-co-parenting-pretty-darn-difficult/
When two people sit down and just talk about our divorces-the mistakes we made and what we learned, I think that's a pretty powerful thing for those facing divorce. So, that's exactly what I did in this episode with my guest, Phil LaGiglia, Mortgage Lender and divorced dad. This is such an authentic, honest conversation, and I think you'll benefit from our advice!
Divorce brings significant change to the lives of your children, and in this episode we talk about something that might help them cope with all the changes and feel some stability. What is it? It's WHO is it: your nanny. My guest in this episode is Brynn Ungerleider, founder of Premier Nanny Network, who offers reasons why sharing a nanny will benefit your kids during and after the divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-benefits-of-divorced-parents-sharing-a-nanny/
One of the hardest parts about divorce is that you have to face so many changes! The good news is, if you look at change in the right way, you will learn to accept and even like the changes! My guest in this episode is Liesel Darby, Mediator and Divorce Coach, who offers tips on handling change with grace, courage and an open mind. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/tips-for-handling-change-during-and-after-divorce/
Blending families and moving in together is so exciting! But have you ever thought about how your dog is going to feel (and behave) during the transition? My guest in this episode is Karis Nafte, Certified Dog Behavior Therapist and Pet Mediator, who offers tips on making sure your dog adapts to your blended family. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/blending-families-moving-in-together-and-the-dog/
Divorce is hard, no matter what the situation is. But divorce gets a lot more stressful and frustrating if you are divorcing a narcissist. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Lisa Lisser, who describes the characteristics of a narcissist, and then offers tips on dealing with that person through your divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-tips-to-keeping-your-sanity-when-divorcing-a-narcissist/
Divorce can feel incredibly stressful when it comes to finances and spending money. My guest in this episode is Financial Divorce Coach and divorced dad, Hirsch Serman, who offers 9 ways to save money in your divorce.
Going back to work can feel stressful and scary, especially during or after divorce, or if you haven't worked in awhile. My guest in this episode is Amy Ratnow, founder of ALR Connections, her company that helps women with job skills and helps them get jobs! Amy, who was a stay at home mom for many years before going back to work, reveals 5 job search tips that will have you feeling motivated and empowered! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-job-search-tips-for-women-going-through-a-divorce/
If you are getting divorced and you have kids, this is a great episode for you! My guest is Colleen Breems, divorce attorney and partner for Beermann, LLP. Colleen explains child support in detail and offers a guide to everything you might want and need to know. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/child-support-definition-and-your-guide-to-illinois-child-support/
Money can be such a source of stress during and after divorce. I get it. I have been there. My guest in this episode is financial advisor, Amanda Campbell. Amanda and I talk about where the anxiety is really coming from, and how to live comfortably and literally stress-free when it comes to money-no matter how much or how little a person has.
What's your divorce strategy? Do you want to hire a "shark" and battle things out in court? Do you want a good divorce outcome that leads to a wonderful post-divorce life? If you chose the latter, this is a great episode for you. My guest is divorce mediator, Erik Feig. Erik offers some great advice on what to think about when you're first starting the divorce process, or even if you're in the thick of it.
During and after divorce, finances can feel intimidating. There are countless women who have never invested their own money, never had a financial plan done, and never had a budget. There is no shame in that and it's never too late to learn! My guest in this episode is Financial Advisor, Craig Richman, who offers financial tips for divorced women. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/budgeting-and-investing-for-divorced-women/
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If your ex is difficult, disrespectful and/or toxic, that makes it pretty hard to co-parent with him or her. But Divorce Coach and co-parenting coach, Cherie Morris says there IS a way and in this episode, she shares her advice and tips. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/difficult-disrespectful-and-toxic-how-to-coparent-with-this-person/
If you are selling your home after divorce, you might be feeling all kinds of emotions you didn't expect: sadness, fear, resentment, and at the same time a tinge of excitement. My guest in this episode is Maci Chance, real estate agent for Live. Laugh. Denver, and certified divorce professional. Maci experienced firsthand the emotions of selling her marital home. This episode is inspiring and touching, and will give you so many wonderful tips if you are selling your home during or after divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/selling-the-house-after-divorce-letting-go-and-moving-forward/
What is possible after divorce? A happy, healthy life! That's what I talk about in this episode with my guest, divorce coach, Julie Danielson. Julie and I, who both went through a divorce, discuss ways to heal through divorce. We also talk about getting yourself in a good place to start dating, figuring out if you would actually date yourself, and debunking that myth: I'm too old, no one's going to want me.
If you have mediation coming up, or if you are in the process of mediation, this is a great episode for you! My guest is divorce mediator and negotiation coach, Melissa Wheeler Farag. Melissa offers 10 tips to help you negotiate successfully and walk away with a settlement you feel really good about. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/mediation-and-negotiation-10-tips-for-success/
Co-parenting isn't always easy, especially if there's a lot of anger and resentment between parents. But we have some tips that could change your life! GREAT episode with my guest, divorce mediator, Michael Cohen, who went through a divorce and because of the litigious nature of it, dedicated his career to helping people co-parent in a healthier way. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-benefits-of-healthy-co-parenting/
Michèle Heffron has some life lessons in this episode--wisdom she obtained from her divorce experience that she wants to share with you! The first is: the importance of feeling worthy and the second is helping you find your healing journey. Learn more: https://micheleheffron.com/?p=2296
If you're newly separated (like I was several years ago) you probably don't know what divorce mediation is, or what goes on in the sessions. My guest in this episode is divorce mediator and parenting coordinator, Brian James. Brian and I offer insight on what to expect when you enter divorce mediation, and why we both think it's such a productive way to get divorced. Learn more: https://celandassociates.com/
What do you do if your spouse doesn't want a divorce? Even worse, what if he/she won't even acknowledge that the divorce is happening? Can you get divorced without the other person participating? My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Karen Covy, J.D. Karen offers advice for you if you are in this situation. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-your-spouse-doesnt-want-a-divorce/
When people tell me they are going through a divorce, I always recommend they do two things: get into therapy and hire a divorce coach. Both are so beneficial but in very different ways. My guest in this episode is Juli Walton, LCPC and therapist, who explains what each one offers. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/understanding-the-difference-between-a-life-coach-and-therapist/
My guest in this episode is Anne Gabel, the co-founder of MJ Gabel Diamond and Jewelry buyers, and the company I sold my wedding rings to! I love this episode because Anne and I talk about so many things related to your wedding rings, such as, who gets the rings by law? When is the right time to sell? What can you do with your rings? And, what a few women did with the money they got after selling their rings.
One of the most complicated and scary aspects of a divorce is deciding what's going to happen with your home. Are you going to buy your ex out and stay there? Are you going to sell the home? Are you going to buy a new home? My guest in this episode is realtor and CDRE (Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert) Shannon Lindstrom. Shannon offers a step-by-step guide on making the best decisions for you and your kids. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-and-real-estate-a-step-by-step-guide/
Loneliness is one of the most painful emotions someone can experience. My guest in this episode is Jenine Marie Powell, Circles Support Group facilitator and divorce coach. Jenine and I talk about what loneliness looks like and ways to feel less alone and isolated. Learn more and sign up for Circles here.
What is a mixed-agenda couple and how do they fair in couples counseling? My guest in this episode is therapist and discernment counselor, Dr. Ginny Wright, who explains. Wright also talks about the differences between couples and discernment counseling. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/does-couples-counseling-work-sometimes/
Every divorce is difficult. But for those divorcing after decades, things can be a lot more complicated, and the emotional aspect could be a lot harder because it's been such a long time. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Katherine E. Miller, who offers advice to those divorcing after a very long-term marriage. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-after-30-years-of-marriage-or-more/
What is an emotionally immature adult? What are their characteristics? And how do you deal with someone like this during and after divorce? My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Theresa E. Viera, who offers the answers to these questions and lots of great advice if you are dealing with this! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/dealing-with-emotionally-immature-adults-in-divorce/
We all have anxiety, but add divorce into the mix, and anxiety can get a lot worse. My guest in this episode is Haley Weaver, an author and anxiety expert who took her pain and experiences with anxiety and wrote a best-selling book! Haley offers advice for anxiety for both adults and kids. Learn more and get the book here: https://www.haleydrewthis.com/
People usually start their divorce by calling a divorce attorney, and that's fine. But divorce can get really complicated, and there are so many other wonderful divorce professionals who can help you get divorced smoothly and with a really good outcome. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes, who talks about what exactly your divorce attorney does, and what he or she does not do, meaning who can help you with so many other things. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-do-divorce-attorneys-do-and-what-dont-they-do/
Broadcasting from the island of Samos, Greece, my guest is my AMAZING retreat leader, Culinary and Wellness Coach, Hannah McKitrick. We had just finished a 7 day retreat and we are here to tell you all about it! Growth and transformation? Ummm...yeah... It changed my life. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/growth-and-transformation-a-retreat-i-attended-in-samos-greece/
Inner peace is hard to find sometimes, especially during and after divorce. My guest in this episode is Dr. Mort Orman, Anger Elimination Expert. Dr. Orman offers advice on finding inner peace and literally getting rid of your anger.
Do you want to be happier? It is so much more in control than you think! My guest in this episode is Kat Artemis, a Positive Mindset Coach and author, and our conversation will lift you up! Kat offers 10 steps to to directed thoughts aimed at positivity and a happier life.
Facebook, or as I sometimes refer to it, "Fakebook" can play a big role in relationships. My guest in this episode is Divorce Attorney, Anna Krolikowska, who talks about the ways facebook and other social media can contribute to the breakdown of a marriage, and can affect a divorce case. Learn more here:
https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/6-tips-for-facebook-and-other-social-media-and-divorce/
My guest in this episode is Brittany Baker, LCSW and therapist, who talks about depression versus sadness versus grief. Brittany and I also talk about depression and divorce. Sometimes it's hard to know which came first. We have some answers. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/depression-and-divorce-which-came-first/
Do you know what the difference is between getting a good divorce outcome and not getting one? PLANNING! My guest in this episode is Tracy Coenen, CPA, Forensic Accountant and the founder of the Divorce Money Guide. Tracy offers 6 steps to planning for your divorce--things you can do that will make the process easier and that will ultimately get you the outcome you want and deserve. Learn more: https://www.divorcemoneyguide.com/plan
To women going through a divorce or who are already divorced: Stop shaming yourself. Stop apologizing. Stop being mean to yourself! Stop criticizing yourself! My guest in this episode is financial advisor and divorced mom of 3, Joanne Litman. Jo and I talk about these things and more things you should stop doing if you want to be happy. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/stop-shaming-yourself-and-stop-apologizing-you-deserve-better/
What is resilience? Resilience is not about faking it till you make it or pretending everything is fine. It’s not about ignoring your feelings or using toxic positivity to cover up your pain. Instead, resilience is the ability to bounce back from challenges, adapt to difficulties, and stay flexible in how we think and respond. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Mardi Winder-Adams. Wait till you hear her advice! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-steps-to-building-resilience-during-divorce/
If you've never been through a divorce, it's not surprising not to be familiar with what marital assets are and what non-marital assets are. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Liz Felt Wakeman, who gives an explanation of each and offers tips and advice on the division of assets in a divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-are-marital-assets-and-non-marital-assets-in-a-divorce/
Every divorce situation is unique, but one thing I can say that everyone getting divorced has in common: we all want the best possible outcome. My guests in this episode are Catherine Shanahan, CDFA and Karen Chellew, co-Founders of My Divorce Solution. Catherine and Karen talk about 4 common mistakes people going through a divorce make, and how to avoid making these mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/4-mistakes-when-getting-divorced-and-how-to-avoid-making-them/
Boundaries are so so so important when it comes to being happy and healthy in life. That includes the boundaries you set with your ex. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Jenine Marie Powell, who offers an explanation on the types of boundaries you should think about setting, along with tips for setting them. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/setting-boundaries-in-relationships-especially-the-one-with-your-ex/
If you've never owned a home by yourself, finding, buying and maintaining one can feel stressful and scary. But it doesn't have to be! Real Estate Agent, Staci Yesner, who specializes in first time home buyers offers tips and advice that will make you feel excited instead of nervous. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/first-time-home-buyer-after-divorce/
Turns out, your parents were right. Life's not fair! It's especially not fair in divorce. My guest in this episode is divorce mediator, Leah Hadley, who talks about the concept of fairness in divorce, and offers tips on how to cope when you feel like screaming "this is unfair!" Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/lifes-not-fair-that-includes-your-divorce/
Although online dating is very popular, surveys indicate that more and more people have the desire to meet someone IRL (in real life.) My guest in this episode is dating coach, Alyssa Dineen. Alyssa offers 7 great ways to meet someone in person. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/do-you-have-dating-app-burnout-tips-for-meeting-people-offline/
Divorcing a controlling spouse can be incredibly difficult and draining. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Jason Tuchman, who offers some insight into why controlling spouses act the way the act in divorce, and how to handle the behavior. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-spouse-is-controlling-what-that-means-during-divorce/
Planning, applying and paying for college can feel stressful and overwhelming. Add divorce into the mix and well, you know. It's hard! My guest in this episode is Vicki Vollweiler, MBA, CDC, and college planning and financial aid expert. Vicki offers tips for divorced parents on everything from the application process to the FAFSA form, scholarships and more! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/myths-and-facts-about-divorce-and-college-planning/
Living with your soon-to-be-ex during divorce could possibly be the worst part of the divorce! With raw feelings of resentment and anger, cohabitating can feel stressful and like you're walking on eggshells. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Lisa Lisser, who offers tips on making living together during divorce more manageable. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-tips-for-living-together-during-divorce/
Loneliness and substance abuse go hand in hand. Add co-parenting into the mix and things can get complicated. My guest in this episode is Laura Crossett, CADC and Outreach Manager for Soberlink. Laura offers advice for those who are experiencing substance abuse in their marriage and/or with an ex, and offers tips for managing loneliness and reducing addiction risk. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/loneliness-and-substance-abuse-and-how-it-can-affect-co-parenting/
Many people going through a divorce will say, “My dog is anxious. Do you think he/she knows I’m getting divorced?” The answer is: dogs have no idea what divorce is, but they do know when you are anxious, tense, angry or worried. My guest in this episode is Karis Nafte, Dog Behavior Consultant, Pet Custody Mediator, author and founder of her company, Who Keeps the Dog? Karis offers advice for you if you think your divorce is affecting your dog. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-dog-is-anxious-thanks-to-my-divorce/
Cheating is one of the biggest reasons people decide to get divorced, but if you are dealing with infidelity in your marriage, there is a way to work it out. My guest in this episode is Lora Cheadle, a Betrayal Recovery coach, who offers advice to those who have been cheated on, so that you can decide if staying or getting divorced is the answer.
You might be wondering how the heck cooking can help you heal from a divorce. Well, it can! My guest in this episode is holistic nutritionist and culinary wellness coach, Hannah McKitrick, who explains the benefits of cooking to heal. This is not about the food-although it is, in a way. It's about using the practice of cooking to heal emotionally and spiritually.
Is it possible to mediate a divorce when substance abuse is involved? Absolutely! My guest in this episode is divorce attorney and mediator, Christine Diorio, who offers an understanding of substance abuse as it pertains to divorce and mediation, along with options, advice and tips for those in this situation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/getting-divorced-because-of-substance-abuse/
Do you find it difficult to communicate with your ex? Of course you do! It's not easy. My guest in this episode is Rebecca Perra, Divorce Attorney, Mediator, and Judicial Education Coordinator for OurFamilyWizard. Rebecca offers four tips that we hope will lead you to a more peaceful, amicable relationship with your ex. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/4-tips-to-improving-co-parenting-communication/
Anger in divorce is understandable, and actually, it's healthy to express anger. But, there are times during the divorce when you need to put the anger aside-especially the times when you are making divorce decisions. Making decisions when anger is present can hurt not only your kids, but it can hurt you. My guest is Cherie Morris, Divorce Coach, who will share how and when to put your anger aside, so that you can be your best self. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-anger-in-divorce-can-hurt-everyone-involved/
Self-care is such a buzz word these days, but people don't often think about one form of self-care that is so important for your wellbeing: WEALTH care. My guest in this episode is financial advisor, Amanda Campbell, CDFA. Amanda offers a wealth care checklist that will have you feeling less stressed and so empowered! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/one-area-of-self-care-is-wealth-care/
No one wants to get divorced, but I have to say, you learn a lot, and so much of what you learn is incredibly valuable. In this episode, I talk about 9 things I learned in my divorce. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-divorce-changes-a-woman-9-more-things-i-learned/
In the midst of pain, anger and sadness, it's not always easy to look at the bright side of things. My guest in this episode is Hirsch Serman, a divorced dad who shares 10 ways to look at the bright side, and the wonderful future you have awaiting! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/looking-at-the-bright-side-of-divorce/
What does it mean to be a strong and independent woman? Maci Chance knows and in this episode, she tells her story that starts with a devastating divorce and ends with a fulfilling life where she is not only independent, but she's madly in love. Maci is a real estate agent and divorced mom, who will inspire you to become the strong and independent woman you know deep in your heart that you are! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-strong-and-independent-woman/
Arming yourself with knowledge is key to confidence and peace of mind as you go through your divorce. A great way to do this is to become familiar with divorce laws, or the laws in your state. My guest in this episode is Colleen Breems, Divorce Attorney and Partner at Beermann, LLP. Colleen and I discuss 5 laws that will give you the framework to start making decisions. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/five-illinois-divorce-laws-to-consider-in-your-divorce/
There are so many decisions that need to be made in divorce, and that can feel confusing and scary and intimidating. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Catherine Becker Good, who names a few big decisions that need to be made and offers tips on making good ones! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/cant-make-decisions-during-divorce-we-understand/
Camp's ending, you might be taking a summer vacation, and then school is starting. That's a lot of transitions for kids, and that can mean anxiety for them. Add divorce into the mix and stress in kids can be off the charts. Erik Feig, Divorce Mediator, Co-parenting specialist and Disability Informed Professional is my guest in this episode and he offers so many wonderful tips to help your kids not only get through all the changes, but to learn to enjoy them! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/change-anxiety-and-your-kids-tips-from-a-parent-mediator/
Wondering what to do with your wedding rings? My guests in this episode are Matt and Anne Gabel, co-Founders of MJ Gabel-the company I sold my rings to in 2012! Matt and Anne offer many options for keeping or parting ways with your rings. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/mj-gabel-ring-diamond-and-fine-jewelry-buyers/
Do you know what a QDRO is and do you understand the process? My guest in this episode is Wade Griffin Jr., a divorce attorney and partner at Varghese Summersett, as well as a QDRO expert. Wade and I discuss everything QDRO related! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-a-qdro-this-is-your-go-to-guide/
What and how you say things in mediation can make a huge difference in the outcome. My guest in this episode is Divorce Mediator, Ellen Feldman, who offers tips that we hope will get you what you want in mediation! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-to-say-in-mediation-to-have-a-positive-outcome/
Wondering what you are entitled to in a divorce? It's a complicated question, but divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska offers some factors to consider, which will give you a better idea of what you might end up with. Learn more here:https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-much-is-a-wife-entitled-to-in-a-divorce/
Because interest rates continue to stay high, people are looking for other options than to refinance. Karla Kyte, Mortgage Lender, CDLP, and Divorce Mortgage Planner is my guest in the episode and guess what? She's got a GREAT option for you if you are trying to stay in your home but can't afford high interest rate payments. We are talking about mortgage loan assumptions and everything you need to know. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-hottest-topic-in-divorce-mortgage-loan-assumptions/
When anyone asks how you are doing, you probably respond, "I'm fine." But why settle for fine if you can be fabulous? Divorce, Life and Relationship Coach, Michèle Heffron is my guest, and she offers 10 tips in getting from fine to fabulous. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-tips-to-transform-your-life-from-fine-to-fabulous/
Are you in a relationship and trying to decide whether or not to leave? Or, have you left, and you want validation that leaving was the right thing to do? My guest in this episode is Tracy Malone, an author and Narcissistic Abuse Coach, who offers 9 signs of a destructive relationship. Our discussion is aimed to help you recognize if you are in an unhealthy relationship, or that you were in one, and find a healthier, happier relationship next time around.
Taking the high road can feel lonely, especially in divorce. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Karen Covy, who offers 10 ways to take the high road. In addition, Karen and I discuss how taking the high road will not only benefit your kids tremendously, but will give you a better quality of life. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/why-taking-the-high-road-in-divorce-matters-and-10-ways-to-do-it/
Every divorce is unique, but all divorces are devastating and sad. But what happens when a couple is getting divorced because one of them is gay? Do the dynamics change? What's different and how are they feeling? My guest in this episode is Sally Srok, author of her book, "Bonus Round: A Gay Ex-Husband, a Divorce, and a Life Re-imagined." Sally tells her story and also offers tips to those who are in her same position. Learn more and get Sally's book here: https://www.sallysrok.com/
Running into your ex can feel traumatic and shocking and upsetting. Even if you knew he was going to be somewhere and you see him for the first time since you've been separated, it can stir emotions to the point of tears, anger and sadness. My guest in this episode is Therapist and Mediator, Julie Walton, LCPC, who offers tips on how to handle it--both right then and there, and then after. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-handle-yourself-when-running-into-your-ex/
Making impulsive decisions during divorce can have a lot of negative outcomes. My guest in this episode is Dr. Ginny Wright, Certified Discernment Counselor and therapist, who offers advice on taking things slowly when it comes to divorce, and how discernment counseling can help do so. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/impulsive-decision-making-in-divorce-and-the-ramifications/
Not knowing when and/or how to tell the kids about the divorce can feel stressful, scary and depressing. My guest in this episode is Divorce Mediator, Michael Cohen, who offers advice on when (and when not) to tell the kids, along with tips on how. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-and-when-to-tell-the-kids-about-the-divorce/
In this episode, it's just me. Just me explaining what I learned during and after my divorce: the valuable lessons, the mistakes I made, and what I did right. This is me being vulnerable and not judging, and trying to empower those going through a divorce. If you have an idea of what to expect during a divorce, it somehow makes everything not as scary.
This podcast could change your life, and I mean that in a good way! Sarah Nitschke, LPCA, Therapist for Affiliates in Counseling offers some great tips for those who have never engaged in these practices, as well as the benefits it will give you during and after divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/practicing-mindfulness-and-meditation-during-divorce/
If you are in a blended family and having issues, or if you are thinking about blending your families, this is a great episode! My guest is Katherine E. Miller, a divorce attorney who several years ago blended her family. Katherine and I talk about some of the advantages and disadvantages, and we offer some great tips. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-blended-family-advantages-and-disadvantages/
Parental Alienation is such a painful situation. My guest in this episode is Monique Mason, a co-parenting and reunification coach. Monique answers so many questions you might have about parental alienation. Topics include signs that it is happening and what to do if you feel like you are a victim. Learn more: https://pathwaysfamilycoaching.com/
This entire episode is dedicated to empowering and inspiring you to engage in self-forgiveness and self-love, especially during and after divorce. My guest is Joanne Litman, a divorced mom and financial advisor, who specializes in helping women during and after divorce. This is a can't miss episode. You will feel so great after listening to our advice on self-love and self-forgiveness for: financial mistakes, dating mistakes, your job, and your relationships with friends and family.
Ever thought about using hypnotherapy during or after divorce? You might be skeptical, but after listening to this episode, I think you'll change your mind. My guest is Hypnotherapist and Coach, Karen Ross, who offers a look into the hypnotherapy process, and tells us some real life success stories! Learn more: https://karenrossnow.com/
Going through a divorce can cause stress. A lot of stress. It feels like every minute there's a different thing to worry about. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Lisa Lisser, who will share 10 steps in reducing your divorce stress, which will not only help you get a better divorce outcome, but will give you a peaceful, happy post-divorce life. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-steps-to-reducing-divorce-stress/
When people get divorced, everyone tells you, "You need support." But what does that mean specifically? My guest in this episode is divorce mediator, Leah Hadley, and Leah and I talk about the benefits of joining a divorce support group. Not only can a support group help you with the outcome of your divorce, but these women will have a wonderful long-term affect on your overall life. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-power-of-divorce-support-groups/
As women, we often say, "I can handle this," or "I'm fine." We say these things even during the toughest times, including divorce. Well guess what? If you don't take care of yourself, there is a ripple effect. My guest in this episode is divorce coach, Mardi Winder-Adams, who explains the ripple effect and offers tips to those who are going through a divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-ripple-effect-of-divorce/
If you are dating after divorce, you've surely heard the term "ghosting." It's a terrible thing to do to someone, but guess what? It happens to everyone. My guest in this episode is dating coach, Alyssa Dineen. Alyssa and I discuss her 12 things you should know about ghosting. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/depressed-after-being-ghosted-12-things-you-need-to-know/
People who are facing divorce don't sleep well. I can attest to that. My guest in this episode is the amazing Kathryn Nicolai, creator of the podcast "Nothing Much Happens." Kathryn explains how simply listening to her podcast can be life changing, and offers tips on how to get better sleep. Learn more here: https://www.nothingmuchhappens.com/stories
One of the hardest decisions a person will make in his or her life is whether or not to get divorced. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Jason Tuchman. Jason offers 7 tips for those contemplating divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-tips-if-you-are-thinking-divorce-is-your-best-option/
So many people facing divorce have a huge fear of owning a home by themselves. In this episode, my guest is Karen Ranquist, a Chicago based real estate agent, who also went through a divorce and experienced buying her own home after. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/homeownership-after-divorce-an-introductory-guide/
Hannah McKitrick is a wellness coach and culinary instructor, who takes groups of women to Italy for cooking retreats! In this episode, Hannah tells us about her trips, and just what her divorced attendees experienced. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/why-italy-is-the-perfect-way-to-supplement-therapy-post-divorce/
Divorce is so stressful, and people cope with the stress in many different ways: some healthy and some not-so-healthy. That would include excessive drinking. My guest in this episode is divorce attorney, Christine Diorio, who talks about the dangers of excessive drinking and how to get help if you think you might have a problem.
There's no better way to get divorce advice then from someone who's gone through it! My guest is Phil LaGiglia, who is a divorced dad, who is remarried, and who was truly able to look in the mirror and fix his life, be a better husband and father, and find true happiness. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-is-devastating-my-story/
Divorce anger is so common, unfortunately, but it's understandable. That said, no one enjoys being angry. So, how do you get rid of your divorce anger? Dr. Mort Orman, Anger Elimination Expert and Author is my guest. Dr. Orman offers insight into why some people stay angry, and offers tips on how to rid yourself of this toxicity and live a happier, healthier life. Dr. Orman also talks about his new book, Dr. Orman's Life Changing Anger Cure.
Intimacy is so important in the health of a romantic relationship. Lack of intimacy can cause a lot of problems, including divorce. My guest in this episode is Divorce Coach, Cherie Morris. Cherie and I talk about how to maintain intimacy in a relationship. We also offer tips to those who fear intimacy. Learn more about Cherie here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/cherie-morris-divorce-coach-founder-dear-divorce-coach/
Conversations about who gets the dog in a divorce can feel scary, stressful and confusing. My guest in this episode is Karis Nafte, a Certified Dog Behavior Consultant and Accredited Mediator. Karis and I talk about 5 things you should know when it comes to pet custody and your divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-things-you-need-to-know-about-pet-custody-and-divorce/
It's not new, but discernment counseling has gained a lot of popularity recently. The process of trying to figure out whether or not you should get divorced or try to work things out--that's what discernment counseling is, is discussed in this episode with my guest, Erin Birt, a Chicago based divorce attorney and mediator. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-discernment-counseling-and-is-it-right-for-you/
Women going through a divorce are under so much stress, which can lead to poor financial decisions. My guest, Tracy Coenen is a forensic accountant and the creator of the Divorce Money Guide. In this episode, Tracy reveals the 5 biggest money mistakes she's seen women make, and offers advice on how to avoid them. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-money-mistakes-women-make-in-divorce/
Divorce is difficult for all children. But what happens when the children are neurodiverse? Divorce Mediator and Disability Informed Professional, Erik Feig is my guest on this episode, and he offers advice on what to think about when you're creating your parenting plan with neurodiverse children. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/erik-feig-mediator-founder-feig-mediation-group/
When I was getting divorced in 2007, divorce coaching didn't exist. Now it is a huge industry! Why? What does a divorce coach do? How do you find a good one? These questions are answered by my guests, Debra Doak and Tracy Callahan, co-Founders of Divorce Coaches Academy, the company that trains and certifies divorce coaches. Learn more here: https://www.divorcecoachesacademy.com/
Are you worried about your ex spouse drinking alcohol during parenting time? Are you being accused of drinking during your parenting time? In this episode, my guest, Thy-An Tran, Director of Marketing for Soberlink talks about the solution: an alcohol monitoring device. Includes benefits and court involvement. Learn more and get $50 off your device: https://www.soberlink.com/partners/dgs
How do you end a marriage with someone you love? Therapist, Brittany Baker, LCSW has advice. In this episode, we talk about preparing for the conversation, what you might want to say, and what NOT to say. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-end-a-marriage-with-someone-you-love/
Divorce can take a toll on your emotional wellbeing, but it can also affect your physical health. In this episode, my wonderful guest, health concierge, Leslie Urbas offers an explanation on how divorce stress can take a toll on your body, and gives tips on having the body you want and being happy and healthy. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/leslie-urbas-health-concierge/
Are you feeling abandoned by your soon-to-be spouse, either emotionally and/or financially? If so, my guests, Catherine Shanahan and Karen Chellew, Co-founders of My Divorce Solution, have some wonderful advice for you. We get into practical solutions, as well as managing your emotions during what feels like a really lonely, scary time. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/feeling-abandoned-in-a-relationship-emotionally-and-financially/
There is nothing more frustrating in divorce than an ex who isn't complying with a court order! If this is you, we have some great advice in this episode. My guest is divorce attorney, Liz Felt Wakeman, and we will share some practical advice on what you can do in this situation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-ex-is-not-sticking-to-a-court-order-what-to-do/
Are you thinking about divorce or are you in the thick of it and wondering if you're doing the right thing? We'll give you some things to think about in this episode! My guest, Chicago divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes and I talk about bad reasons to get divorced. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/8-bad-reasons-to-get-divorced/
Is it possible to be friends with an ex who hurt you? I love this conversation I had with Maryland based divorce attorney, Cary Jacobson. Cary offers reasons that might make being friends difficult, along with advice on how to divorce amicably. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/being-friends-with-an-ex-who-hurt-you-is-it-possible/
When I was getting divorced, I had so many questions. Sometimes, I didn't even know what to ask! So, I've dedicated this episode to educating you, with the help of my guest, Divorce Attorney, Turner Thornton. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/30-questions-about-divorce-and-our-answers/
When people think of PTSD, they usually think about war veterans, or someone who has been in a car accident. But did you know that divorce can cause PTSD? And, it's a lot more common than you think. In this episode, my guest, Dr. Kevin Skinner, talks about divorce related trauma, the signs of PTSD, and how to get help. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/can-divorce-cause-ptsd-you-bet/
How do you rebuild your life after divorce at age 50? Or at any age, for that matter? Maci Chance is a mom and real estate agent, who had to rebuild her life after divorce, and in this episode, she shares her story, her advice and her inspiring attitude! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-rebuild-your-life-after-divorce-at-50/
For circumstances that make in-person parenting time challenging, there's a wonderful alternative: Virtual parenting. My guest, Brad Benedetto, Divorce Attorney and Legal Liaison for Our Family Wizard explains what virtual parenting time is, how it works, and its benefits. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-virtual-parenting-time-and-how-does-it-work/
I often talk about what healthy relationships look like, but in this episode, my guest, Divorce Coach, Michèle Heffron and I shift gears to tell you some signs of an UNhealthy relationship. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-signs-of-an-unhealthy-relationship/
Empathy is the ability for someone to understand and share the feelings of another and to see things from that person’s perspective. My guest, Divorce Mediator, Brian James talks empathy, and why it's crucial to the success of mediation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-empathy-and-why-is-it-important-in-divorce-mediation/
Valentine's Day can be so emotional, especially if you are getting divorced or are newly divorced. In this episode, my guest, Anne Gabel of MJ Gabel and I talk emotions as they relate to jewelry, parting with your rings and buying jewelry for yourself. Learn more: https://mjgabel.com/
Valentine's Day is a big one when it comes to how you're feeling about your divorce. It can be emotional, so in this episode, I address how you can not only get through it, but how it can turn out to be a great day! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-ways-to-enjoy-valentines-day-after-divorce/
Juli Walton, LCPC, is a therapist, but she's also a divorce mediator. In this episode, Juli shares the benefits of hiring a mediator who is also a therapist. We also talk about which divorce situations benefit from having a mediator who is also a therapist, and which situations don't. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/can-a-therapist-be-a-mediator-yes/
Wondering what the heck you're supposed to do, now that you are getting divorced and need to go back to work? Get ready to be inspired by Joanne Litman, a financial advisor and divorced mom who lived this. I lived this, too, by the way! Our conversation will help take away your fears and leave you feeling hopeful! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/going-back-to-work-after-divorce/
What is a Certified Divorce Lending Professional, a CDLP? Karla Kyte is a mortgage lender and a CDLP and she explains the advantages of working with one. Karla also offers advice on everything mortages when it comes to divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-a-certified-divorce-lending-professional/
Have you ever said the words, "I feel like my life is falling apart?" I know I have! My guest, Lisa Lisser offers advice on how to cope, and 3 steps to a positive divorce outcome. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/advice-for-i-feel-like-my-life-is-falling-apart/
This is such a wonderful episode for both divorced dads and for divorced moms, as it will give you insight into your ex-husband's situation. Offering these great tips is Divorce Mediator and divorced dad, Michael Cohen. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/16-tips-for-divorced-dads-from-a-divorced-dad/
Most divorcing or divorced couples have issues, and hopefully over time, anger, resentment and bitterness fades. But that's not the case with everyone. I'm talking about the vindictive ex, who can't let things go, and who makes it their mission to ruin your life or harm you to "get even" in their mind. Here are my thoughts and my advice for victims. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/vindictive-ex-hate-comes-children/
Divorce Mediator, Ellen Feldman and I had a podcast several months ago called "What NOT to Say During Mediation," and it was so popular, that we decided to do another podcast on the topic and call it "Part 2!" So, here are some more things you should NOT say during mediation! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-not-to-say-during-mediation-part-2/
When you decide to date after divorce is such a personal decision, and it's one that no one should judge. That said, there are some disadvantages to dating while you are going through a divorce, and they can affect the outcome of your divorce in a negative way. To talk about the potential drawbacks is my guest, divorce coach, Karen Covy. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-reasons-dating-during-divorce-might-be-a-bad-idea/
Need some words of encouragement during your divorce? If so, you're going to love this episode, featuring Divorce Attorney, Catherine Becker Good. Catherine is inspiring and tells the stories of some of her past clients who went from being "a mess" to happy, healthy and ready to begin a new life! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/a-divorce-attorneys-words-of-encouragement-for-someone-going-through-a-divorce/
Divorce can make you feel paranoid. What do I mean by that? Because you might feel like you are being "watched" by a judge and by other divorce professionals, you might feel like you have to be on your best behavior for fear you might be judged and not get what you want in the divorce. To talk about things that can actually be held against you in a divorce is my guest, Divorce Attorney, Anna Krolikowska. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-can-be-used-against-you-in-a-divorce/
What is love bombing? It's definitely a buzz term these days. In this episode, my guest, Dating Coach, Alyssa Dineen explains the term, addresses the differences between love bombing and healthy love, and offers tips for those who think they might be a love bombing victim. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-love-bombing-tips-from-a-dating-coach/
What do you do when your ex gets a new girlfriend and you aren't even divorced yet or you are newly divorced? In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney and Mediator, Erin Birt offers tips on what to consider when creating a co-parenting plan, how to cope emotionally, and how to protect your kids against your ex's new partner if you are concerned. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-ex-has-a-new-girlfriend-tips-on-co-parenting-and-coping/
This episode will provide you with everything you need to know about discovery in the divorce process. My guests, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan, Co-founders of My Divorce Solution offer information and tips that will help you get divorced quicker and less expensively. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-discovery-in-divorce-and-what-is-its-role-in-the-process/
What is a gray divorce? This episode and my guest, Divorce Coach, Cherie Morris will tell you so much about what to expect and how to plan if you are considering or going through a divorce at the age of 50 or above. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-a-gray-divorce-and-questions-to-ask-if-youre-considering-it/
More and more women are finding themselves going through a divorce when THEY are the breadwinner. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney, Katherine Miller offers advice for this scenario, and also offers tips on how to protect yourself. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/katherine-e-miller-founder-of-miller-law-group-new-york-and-connecticut/
It's the million dollar question, and perhaps the toughest one you will ever have in your life. In this episode, my guest, podcaster and author, Kate Anthony offers advice in making this life-changing, monumental decision! We also talk about her new book, "The D Word," a must-read for those considering or going through a divorce! Learn more: https://kateanthony.com/dword/
Divorce is devastating, but believe it or not, there are many, many lessons and blessings that come with this major life transition. My guest, Divorce attorney, Christine Diorio and I talk about the divorce blessings we experienced, and what you can expect (in a good way!) Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/lessons-and-blessings-from-divorce/
Are you a corporate executive getting divorced? Or, are you getting divorced from a corporate executive? If so, this is a great episode for you! Divorce Attorney, Tiffany Hughes offers tips and advice. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/tips-for-executives-in-a-company-getting-divorced/
Overeating and all the emotions that go with it is stressful during the holidays. But add divorce into the mix and holiday eating just got a lot more complicated! Health Concierge and Dietician, Leslie Urbas, M.S., joins me to talk about emotional eating and tips not to gain that seven pounds over the holidays. Learn more: https://www.leslieurbas.com/
The holidays can be such a challenging time for co-parenting, especially when there's alcohol misuse involved. In this episode, my guest, Chris Beck from Soberlink talks about some co-parenting strategies for those in this tough situation. We also talk about Soberlink and how it can help. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/co-parenting-alcohol-misuse-and-the-holidays/
Child support might seem confusing, if you're newly separated. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney, Bonnie Rabinovitch-Mantel answers my questions about child support, including how it's calculated and what happens when people don't pay. We also discuss the role of mediation when trying to determine a fair amount of child support. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/child-support-definition-and-more-of-what-you-should-know/
In this episode, my guest, Paulette Rigo, Divorce Coach and author of her book, "The Better Divorce Blueprint" offers some divorce tips to help you have a better divorce outcome.
I want you to have a great Thanksgiving, despite your awful divorce! So, in this episode, I offer advice for all kinds of challenging Thanksgiving scenarios, including: if your ex has the kids, if you are home alone, or if your kids are upset that Dad isn't around. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/thanksgiving-after-divorce-its-going-to-be-a-great-day/
Are you stressed about the holidays? Do you want to give your kids a wonderful holiday season despite the divorce? If so, this episode could be a game changer! Divorce Mediator, Erik Feig offers tips for parents to navigate the holiday season. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-and-the-holidays-tips-from-a-mediator/
I'm not a man, but I divorced one, and I also spent years around newly separated men, so I think I have the authority to talk about the emotions I've seen when it comes to a man going through a divorce. Additionally, my co-host for the day, Hirsch Serman, Financial Coach and divorced dad, is a man, and weighs in! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-emotions-of-a-man-going-through-a-divorce/
Think your divorce might be headed to trial? If so, this is a great episode for you. Divorce Attorney and Partner, Turner Thornton offers a glimpse at what to expect. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-to-expect-in-a-divorce-trial-in-texas/
When people think of abuse in a marriage or relationship, they tend to think of physical abuse-hitting, shoving, punching; hurting the victim’s body somehow. But there’s another kind of relationship abuse and it’s more difficult to see because there are no visible bruises: emotional abuse. In this episode, my guest, Therapist, Brittany Baker offers insight into signs you are a victim of emotional abuse, along with what you can do to get help. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/are-you-a-victim-of-emotional-abuse-my-q-a-with-therapist-brittany-baker/
Parental alienation is heartbreaking. In this episode, my guest, Jenna Noble, high-conflict, co-parenting and reunification coach talks about parental alienation, specifically what it is, signs you are being alienated, and steps you can take to repair your relationship with the kids. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/jenna-noble-and-monique-mason-co-founders-pathways-family-coaching/
Want a happy life after divorce? Of course, you do! My guest, divorce, relationships and life coach, Michèle Heffron offers 10 suggestions that will give you a great start to getting there! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-things-you-can-do-for-a-happy-life-after-divorce/
Parenting after divorce is one of the most stressful aspects of a divorce. In this podcast, Karey O'Hara, Ph.D and professor at ASU offers 16 tips for parenting after divorce. Learn more about getting into the ASU study-Project Brain Team here: https://sites.google.com/asu.edu/asu-projectbrainteam?usp=sharing
What exactly is the silent treatment? In this episode, therapist, Jennifer Solomon explains, and talks about why people give the silent treatment. She then offers tips on how to cope if you are a victim of this abusive behavior. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/is-the-silent-treatment-abuse-we-have-answers-and-more/
Thinking of selling your wedding rings after divorce? My guests are diamond and jewelry buyers, Matt and Anne Gabel of MJ Gabel, who offer wonderful advice and tips for: deciding when the right time to sell is, the process, your options, and the emotions people feel when selling. Also includes ideas on what you can do with the money. Learn more: https://mjgabel.com/
This is such a wonderful episode, in which my guest, Divorce Attorney and Mediator, Cary Jacobson offers what you need to know about your inheritance and your divorce. Jacobson also gives tips on how to protect your inheritance. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/inheritance-and-divorce-what-you-need-to-know-and-how-to-protect-yourself/
Feeling sorry for yourself during divorce? I can relate! Here are my tips on getting out of that funk and moving on. Includes 7 reasons I know you are going to end up happy after your divorce! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/feeling-sorry-for-yourself-in-divorce-i-can-relate/
In honor of domestic violence month, and as part of the Divorce Coalition initiative, this episode is designed to help victims of abuse. My guest, divorce coach and founder of the Divorce Coalition, Beverly Price offers signs of abuse, types of abuse, and how to get help. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/if-he-didnt-hit-me-is-it-abuse-signs-and-tips-for-victims/
This is a non-sugarcoated, VERY REAL discussion about how to get your shit together after divorce. My guest, Coach, Bradley Richardson, tells it like it is and trust me, it might be hard to hear but you need this!
Financial abuse is a kind of relationship abuse that outsiders can't see. If you think you might be a victim, listen to this episode, with my guest, Therapist, Juli Walton as we talk about signs. We also get into steps you can take to get out of the situation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/financial-abuse-in-a-marriage-signs-and-steps-to-take-if-youre-a-victim/
How do you help your child dealing with divorce? Who better to ask than Elle Barr, a veteran Guardian ad Litem! Wait till you hear all of Elle's wonderful advice and suggestions to make this time easier and less stressful for your kids. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-help-a-child-deal-with-divorce/
Dating after divorce brings a lot of anxiety, mainly due to not knowing what to expect. So, let me help you with that! In this episode, I share some of my dating after divorce stories that I hope will help you weed out some of the bad guys and find true love! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/dating-after-marriage-5-people-you-dont-want-to-date/
Preparing to sell your home and move during or after a divorce can be stressful, scary, sad and more. In this episode, Real Estate agent, Tara Lubin and I offer tips to preparing, both physically and emotionally. learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-prepare-your-home-for-sale-during-divorce/
When you get divorced, what should you do with your wedding dress, photos, rings and other wedding stuff? In this episode, my guest, Financial Advisor and divorced mom, Joanne Litman and I have a great discussion offering you some options! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-should-you-do-with-your-wedding-photos-after-divorce/
This is a wonderful episode with divorce mediator, Michael Cohen. He offers ten benefits of mediation, and also explains the pitfalls of litigation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/why-mediation-works-and-why-litigation-has-so-many-pitfalls/
I have a love hate relationship with Facebook and other social media for several reasons. In this episode, I talk about how social media can affect your divorce and your life, in general. Also includes 5 examples of what I call "Facebook Divorce Behavior." Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/facebook-divorce-the-good-and-the-ugly/
Divorce is devastating. It can be traumatizing, and it can take years to recover fully. Some people recover so much quicker than others. Why is that? Because some people get stuck and they just can't move on. In this episode, Divorce Coach, Karen Covy and I offer tips on how to not get stuck and/or how to get unstuck. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/why-some-people-recover-from-divorce-and-others-stay-stuck/
I know, I know. Your divorce is frustrating and you just want to feel heard and validated and understood. But, make sure you avoid venting to your kids! In this episode, Divorce and Co-parenting coach, Cherie Morris talks about 3 reasons you shouldn't share your divorce details with the kiddos. Cherie also offers suggestions for more productive ways to ease your anxiety and frustration. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/3-reasons-not-to-share-the-details-of-divorce-with-the-kids/
Arguing a lot with your ex? Do you feel like every conversations seems hopeless and nothing gets resolved? In this episode, I offer a few tips that will help you feel more in control, more at peace, and hopefully more productive. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/arguing-with-the-ex-know-when-to-walk-away/
This is a great episode for those who are new to dating apps, or who feel frustrated and need some inspiration! My guest, Online Dating Coach and Personal Stylist, Alyssa Dineen offers red and green flags as you navigate dating apps. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/green-and-red-flags-on-dating-apps-weve-got-you-covered/
Surviving loneliness during and after divorce is so much more in your control than you think! In this episode, I offer several tips and suggestions to help you through this time. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/surviving-loneliness-after-divorce-its-up-to-you/
Are you dating a liar? Are you in a relationship with a liar? Are you divorcing a liar? In this episode, my guest, Divorce Mediator, Lesa Koski and I talk about liars--in dating, relationships and divorce. Includes: signs you might be dating a liar, lies told in relationships, and tips on divorcing a liar. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/dating-liar-11-signs-might/
Divorce is complicated, but if you have a family business it takes complicated to a different level! In this episode, Texas Divorce Attorney, Turner Thornton offers advice on divorcing with a family business. He also offers tips on how to prepare and what to think about from an emotional perspective. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorcing-with-a-business-in-texas-a-guide/
Getting divorced with kids is complicated. But, having a thorough co-parenting agreement helps reduce stress, minimize conflict, and most importantly provide the best possible post-divorce life for the kids. In this episode, my guest, Therapist and Parent Coach, Rita Morris offers 6 key ingredients that will ensure wellbeing and stability for both you and your kids. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-key-ingredients-of-a-great-co-parenting-agreement/
What does it take to be happy in a romantic relationship? Although every couple is unique, I think some of the biggies are: Friendship, trust, thoughtfulness, and attraction. But there’s one thing that is perhaps the most needed, and it’s the thing that is needed to have all of the other components to stay happy and healthy. What is it? RESPECT. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Mediator, Ellen Feldman and I talk about respect in relationships, but also about the importance of respect in divorce, specifically in mediation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/respect-in-a-relationship-its-everything/
Every divorce is painful, but divorce takes on a whole other level of hurt when it's happening because of an affair. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney, Katherine Miller offers insight into divorce after an affair, and offers legal and emotional advice for this situation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/advice-for-divorce-after-an-affair/
Financial planning is one of the most stressful aspects of getting divorced. How do you know what's fair when it comes to the allocation of assets, child support, maintenance, and more? In this podcast, my guests, Catherine Shanahan and Karen Chellew are going to offer you an option designed to save you time and money in your divorce, and to make sure your settlement is fair. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/financial-planning-for-divorce-4-reasons-you-absolutely-need-the-mds-divorce-financial-portrait/
Feeling frustrated during divorce? Of course you are! Frustration is a helpful feeling that can lead to anger and hopelessness. Been there! In this episode, I offer 20 things you can do when you are feeling frustrated. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/frustration-during-divorce/
This is a really fun episode with my friends, Mara Price and Marissa Woods. The three of us talk online dating and talk about my 11 tips for beginners! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/11-online-dating-tips-for-beginners/
This is such a wonderful and important episode! My guest, Divorce Mediator, Erik Feig and I discuss asking for forgiveness. Feig offers advice on how to apologize to increase your chances of getting a better response, along with what happens when you apologize and you get a negative reaction. We also talk about what to do if you receive an apology, but you're just not feeling like you want to accept it. Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-ask-forgiveness-from-someone-youve-hurt/
Let's say you just heard you girlfriend is getting 5 times the amount of child support and maintenance that you are getting. Before you jump to the conclusion that you got a horrible divorce deal, listen to this episode! My guest, Divorce Coach, Jason Levoy and I talk about why every divorce is unique, and all the factors that go into the divorce agreements people end up with. We also discuss who to listen to for divorce advice and from whom to stay away!
A true friend is a true friend. BUT, when it comes to divorce, even our dearest friends--if they are married, might not understand how we are feeling, what we need from them, and what NOT to say. This episode uncovers 11 things we want to say to our married friends. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/11-things-divorced-people-want-to-say-to-their-married-friends/
Sit down with divorce attorney, Catherine Becker Good, and hear advice that will lead you to having a good outcome in your divorce! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/6-tips-on-how-to-have-an-amicable-divorce/
Divorce is very stressful on your body and your mind. You might not even realize it. So, stress management and self-care are the keys to living a happy, healthy post-divorce life. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Coach, Paulette Rigo talks about what divorce stress can do to the body. She also tells us about her amazing upcoming divorce wellness retreat in Belize! And guess what? You're invited! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/why-a-healing-and-wellness-divorce-retreat-is-just-what-the-doctor-ordered/
Want peace after divorce? Of course you do! I have one word that will help you get it: self-awareness. This episode is dedicated to the topic of self-awareness. It is a must-listen! I promise, it makes a huge difference. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/want-peace-after-divorce-one-thing-will-truly-help/
When it comes to sharing expenses with your ex, things can get stressful, and can lead to frustration, disappointment and resentment. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney and Mediator, Rebecca Perra offers 4 tips that will help. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/4-tips-for-sharing-expenses-with-your-co-parent/
You are going to love this episode! I share responses of 7 questions I asked a large group of divorcing women. These include: What are your biggest fears? What has divorce taught you so far? and What is the most inappropriate thing someone has said to you about your divorce? Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/
Suburban Bigamy is the name of Michael Zimmerman's memoir about finding out at age 42 that his father had another wife and family just a few suburbs away. A great book, which I think would make an incredibly meaningful movie! Here is my interview with Michael. Learn more: https://suburban-bigamy.com/
Getting a mortgage after divorce can feel scary and intimidating. In this episode, Mortgage Lender and CDLP, Jennifer Brown offers tips that will make a huge difference, and that will empower you to stop the fear and live a happy, healthy post-divorce life! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/lets-talk-about-getting-a-mortgage-after-divorce/
As if you don't have enough stress in your life while going through a divorce, what happens when you feel like a friend stops being your friend? Also, how can you continue to be a good friend during your divorce? My guest, Divorce Coach, Holly Herzog has some advice! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/friendships-after-divorce-can-be-surprisingly-disappointing-and-wonderful/
A lot of people assume that you have to be friendly to have an amicable divorce, but that's not the case. Tracy Moore-Grant explains what an amicable divorce means as a divorce process, and offers tips to having an amicable divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-does-amicable-divorce-mean/
If you are a divorced mom, Father's Day might be a day you are dreading. In this episode, I offer advice on your kids going to Dad's for the day, how to talk to them, and how to make sure the day turns out great for you, too! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/a-checklist-for-divorced-moms-on-fathers-day/
The subject of child support truly is touchy. The person paying child support might have feelings of resentment and anger, and the receiver might feel entitled or like it's not enough. In this episode, I address feelings of both the giver and receiver of child support, and I offer suggestions on how to deal with these feelings. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/why-he-cant-stand-giving-you-that-child-support-check-every-month/
When a couple decides to get a divorce, they usually want it to be over with A.S.A.P. But sometimes, one of the parties decides to intentionally delay the divorce. Why would they do that? Divorce Attorney, Anna Krolikowska explains, and offers tips on how to cope, as well as other solutions to help prevent this from happening. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/3-possible-reasons-for-intentionally-delaying-divorce/
Waiting for an apology from your ex? Please stop. In this episode I talk about coping with an apology you know in your heart isn't ever coming. I also talk about the different kinds of apologies and the benefits of apologizing. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-advice-waiting-for-an-apology-that-will-never-come/
So many men and women become frustrated and disappointed because they want things and they feel like they don't know how to get them. This includes finding love. My guest, Cheri Stefanelli, Holistic Wellness, Health and Life Coach, Fitness Instructor, Yoga Instructor, and more offers tips to manifesting what you want in life and love. Learn more at: https://www.Bewell-cc.com
Confronting a cheater isn't an easy thing to do. In this episode, my guest is Susan Guthrie, Attorney, Mediator and podcast host. We aim to help you in possible scenarios you might get if you are thinking of confronting your spouse. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/confronting-a-cheater-4-different-reactions-you-could-get/
What's it like to be a divorced woman in your 50s? Listen to this episode to find out! My guest, Joanne Litman and I talk about the challenges and benefits of being where we are today. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-does-a-57-year-old-woman-look-like-moi/ or Learn more about Joanne: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/joanne-litman-financial-advisor-for-eagle-strategies-llc/
I believe all parents have the common goal of raising healthy children. But when you get divorced, it can feel stressful. Divorce Mediator, Michael Cohen has 10 co-parenting tips that will increase your chances of raising happy, healthy children. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-tips-in-raising-healthy-children-through-divorce/
Divorce is hard! That's why Divorce Coach, Karen Covy and I want to offer you some tips. This episode will help you feel empowered, inspired and more calm. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-is-hard-17-divorce-tips-we-think-will-help/
If you are considering divorce, going through one, or you are newly divorced, chances are you are heartbroken. Understanding your broken heart is so key in healing. In this episode, I offer some things to think about to help you work through your pain. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/breakup-advice-understanding-your-broken-heart-is-the-key-to-healing/
Why do people during divorce sometimes say "I never loved you?" Here's my take, and here's why it's not true. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/he-never-loved-me-brutal-to-hear-and-why-its-not-true/
Getting divorced and wondering if you should buy a new home because of rising interest rates? I don't blame you! But Mortgage Loan Consultant, Andrea Ransom says there are some silver linings to high interest rates, and she shares them in this episode! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/is-it-a-good-time-to-buy-a-house-despite-rising-interest-rates/
Going through an unfair divorce? In this episode, I offer 7 tips to help you not only get through it, but to feel empowered and inspired! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/going-through-an-unfair-divorce/
This is a great episode for those who just started dating again after divorce, or for people who are frustrated with dating and want some tips. My guest, Dating and Love Coach, Maria Spears offers really great advice, with everything from what your profile should look like to what to do when you start getting contacted by potential dates! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/3-dating-profile-examples-and-other-dating-tips/
The day the divorce is final can bring all kinds of emotions and stress. This episode offers a look into that day, along with my story and some advice. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-the-divorce-is-finalized-pity-party-or-celebrate/
Divorce is complicated enough without having to think about paying for college! But if you have kids (even if they are years away from going to college), you need to listen to this episode, where Divorce Mediator, Brian James offers college planning tips and places to "find" money to fund college. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/college-planning-during-divorce-and-finding-money/
Getting divorced and wondering if you can stay in your home? Mortgage Lender and CDLP, Jan Leasure is my guest in this episode, and offers some great advice. Includes different options you have! Learn more here: https://diamondresidential.com/janleasure
Do you suspect your spouse or soon-to-be-ex is hiding money? If so, this is a great episode for you! My guest, Forensic Accountant, Tracy Coenen lists some red flags to look for and steps you can take. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/do-you-suspect-your-spouse-is-hiding-money/
If you're thinking about getting divorced, going through one, or starting to think about dating again, this is a great episode! In this episode, I talk about the 3 S's of a lasting romantic relationship. I can't take credit for these, they were part of the wedding officiant's speech to the couple. They are wonderful! Learn more here: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/3-kinds-of-love-in-a-lasting-romantic-relationship/
Co-parenting isn't easy, but it can get a lot more difficult with an ex who is behaving in a way that is unhealthy for the kids. In this episode, my guest, Therapist and Divorce Coach, Rita Morris offers some examples of inappropriate co-parenting, followed by tips on how to cope. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/inappropriate-co-parenting-examples-and-how-to-cope/
Thinking about getting divorced, but not sure if the marriage might be able to be saved? In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney, Katherine Miller addresses some things to consider. Also includes signs a marriage cannot be saved. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-signs-a-marriage-cannot-be-saved/
Divorce is devastating, but there is an upside: an opportunity to learn, to grow and to become your best, most authentic self. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Coach, Wendy Sterling talks about her journey, including 5 lessons she learned after her divorce. Oh, and she has a new book out! Learn more: https://www.amazon.com/Divorce-Sucks-Now-What-Yourself/dp/B0BVCWTFTR
When you get divorced, don't be surprised if certain people who you thought were your friends aren't your friends anymore. Here are 10 people who might not like you when you're getting divorced, along with my advice. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-people-who-might-not-like-you-when-you-get-divorced/
Anger during and after divorce is very understandable and very normal. But for some, it's hard to let that anger go, even when they want to let it go. In this episode, I offer tips on how to stop being angry so that you can have the post-divorce life you really want. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-do-you-stop-being-angry-about-divorce/
Divorcing an alcoholic is a long, stressful process. In this episode, my guest, divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes talks about how to prove alcoholism in divorce. She and I also offer other really good tips when it comes to divorcing an alcoholic. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-prove-alcoholism-in-divorce-and-other-tips-on-divorcing-an-alcoholic/
People think that the first step in getting divorced is filing for a divorce. While this is technically true, there are many questions to ask yourself and things to consider before filing. To discuss this is my guest, Divorce Mediator, Michael Cohen. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/michael-cohen-divorce-mediator-and-founder-michaels-mediation/
Most people hope for an amicable divorce, but amicable could turn ugly, which causes lots of anger, anxiety and resentment. Here are 9 reasons an otherwise amicable divorce could turn ugly fast. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/amicable-turned-ugly-divorce-9-reasons-it-could-happen/
Wondering what a collaborative divorce is? In this episode, divorce attorney and mediator, Anna Krolikowska and I discuss this highly effective divorce process: what exactly it is, who it's for, and the benefits. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-is-collaborative-divorce-and-why-should-you-consider-it/
This is a great episode for those who are thinking about divorce or newly separated. Financial Advisor, Joanne Litman is my guest. Jo and I both went through a divorce with kids and share our experiences. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/12-things-i-wish-i-knew-when-i-was-getting-divorced/
Divorce isn't easy, and there are times I can remember feeling like I just got punched in the gut. In this episode, I talk about those times, and offer advice on how to cope. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/coping-with-divorce-the-times-you-feel-like-you-just-got-punched/
Do you find that you have a lot of anxiety stemming from your divorce? You might have even had a panic attack; something that is new for you. In this episode, my guest, therapist and divorce coach, Holly Herzog offers an explanation of why it's happening and tips on coping. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/anxiety-and-panic-attacks-after-a-breakup-or-divorce/
Having regrets about getting divorced? Having second thoughts or doubts? In this episode I talk about healthy ways to cope, and how to figure out what you really want. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/regretting-a-breakup-advice-for-second-thoughts-and-doubts/
Getting divorced and selling your home? In this episode, my guests, real estate agents, Missy Jerfita and Meredith Pierson and I offer advice and tips. We discuss everything from staging to emotions to moving and more! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-jerfita-team-at-compass/
Being a single parent isn't easy. I should know. I've been one for 15 years! In this episode, my guest, Wills and estate planning attorney, Stephanie Sexuaer and I talk single parenting challenges and benefits, and we offer dating tips, too! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/you-got-this-girl-10-single-mom-dating-tips/
Dating Expert, Bela Gandhi is my guest on this episode, and I decided to ask her 10 common dating questions I get from my readers and listeners. Wait till you hear some of these answers! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/category/dating-relationships-sex/
Meeting a divorce attorney for the first time is stressful and sad, and confusing, because hiring one is such a big decision! Asking the attorney good questions is important, but If you are newly separated, you might not even know what to ask! Divorce Attorney, Catherine Becker Good has put together a list of 10 questions to ask a divorce lawyer at your first meeting, and she shares it in this episode! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-questions-to-ask-a-divorce-lawyer-at-your-first-meeting/
Divorce is difficult for everyone. But things can really get stressful if your spouse doesn't want a divorce, meaning he or she won't participate and just ignores the divorce, hoping you will give up and stay married. To talk about the challenges and to offer tips is my guest, Divorce Coach, Karen Covy. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-your-spouse-doesnt-want-a-divorce/
"My husband/wife has no friends or hobbies." It's something I've heard from a lot of people. In this episode, I address this situation, and offer tips for the antisocial person and for the spouse. Also included: how to decide if you should work things out or get divorced. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-husband-has-no-friends-or-hobbies/
Wondering what the 40 something divorced guy is thinking? What he wants, what he doesn't want, what his perspective is on divorce, kids, dating and more? In this episode, you will find out! This is my interview with Rob Roseman, divorced dad and founder of WTF Divorce. Learn more: https://www.wtfdivorce.com/
Looking for love, but not sure what exactly you want? In this episode, my guest, Maria Spears, CPPC and Dating and Love Coach has some advice. We discuss and offer tips on figuring out what you really want, why you might be having a hard time meeting someone, and how to ensure that your next love is your best. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-attract-the-love-of-your-life-in-2023/
How is your teenager doing when it comes to your divorce? In this episode, my guest is Rebecca Sheinman, LCW and therapist. We discuss divorce and teenagers, specifically, signs your teen is hurting and how you can best help. Learn more: https://affiliatesincounseling.net/
Do you feel like your marriage is falling apart? Well, you have two choices: try to save it or get divorced. In this episode, my guest, Marriage and Relationship coach, Denise Fitzpatrick offers 5 tips to saving a marriage when you feel like it's falling apart. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-save-a-marriage-that-is-falling-apart-5-tips/
Do you feel like you have a vindictive ex? Does he/she hate you? Do you hate your ex? In this episode, I address vindictiveness and hate, and offer tips on coping. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/?s=vindictive+ex
A question I hear from a lot of divorced people is, "I wanted the divorce so why am I so sad?" In this episode, Divorce Mediator, Ellen Feldman and I answer the question and talk about coping strategies. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/i-wanted-the-divorce-so-why-am-i-so-sad/
Are you trying to co-parent with a narcissist? If so, we understand the difficulties and frustration that go with that situation. In this episode, my guest, divorce attorney, Katherine Miller offers 7 tips to co-parenting with a narcissist. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-tips-for-co-parenting-with-a-narcissist/
Penny Fisher is a divorced mom and newly published author of the book, "Aftershock: Reinventing Myself One Piece at a Time." In this episode, Penny shares her unbelievable story and offers advice to anyone facing change and challenging times. Learn more: https://www.amazon.com/Aftershock-Reinventing-Myself-Piece-Time-ebook/dp/B0BLZQ4PC6
Happy New Year, Everyone! I wanted to start of 2023 by offering 23 tips to help you have a happy, healthy, safe enjoyable year, and a year that is going to be your best year yet! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/happy-new-year-beautiful-divorced-girl/
I haven't heard of one divorce that didn't include a lot of stress and anxiety. In this episode, I interview Betsy Murphy, RN and Holistic Nurse about Mindful Breathing For Stress Reduction (MBSR): what it is and how it can help you tremendously during and after your divorce. Learn more: https://www.mindbodyrn.com/
Who gets the dog in a divorce? It's a complicated answer. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney, Anna Krolikowska offers some great information about how divorce judges view dogs in a divorce. She also gives great tips on increasing your chances of getting custody of your dog. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/who-gets-the-dog-in-a-divorce/
Eighty-eight percent of Americans find the holidays to be stressful, so add in divorce and co-parenting during the holidays and anxiety, here you come! In this episode, I interview therapist and parenting coach, Rita Morris on tips for co-parenting during the holidays, and actually enjoying yourself this season. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/tips-for-co-parenting-during-the-holidays/
This episode is dedicated to everything dating related. I include tips and advice for what NOT to say on a first date, how to end the night, and what happens if he doesn't call back. Also includes the answer to, "Why can't I meet anyone?" Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/dating-after-divorce-at-50-what-to-wear-what-to-say-and-other-tips/
Many people coming out of a divorce carry a lot of financial stress, due to not only the expense of the divorce itself, but to uncertainty of their financial future. To alleviate your fears, my guest, Forensic Accountant, Tracy Coenen offers 8 money management tips. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/8-money-management-tips-for-after-the-divorce/
Are you newly single or divorced and stressed about the holiday season? I've got some inspiring tips, including what to do about your holiday cards this year, going to holiday parties solo, putting up your holiday decorations and feeling alone. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/going-through-a-divorce-during-the-holidays/
One rough aspect of getting divorced is that first Thanksgiving when you are separated or newly divorced. It can feel sad and depressing and isolating. But there are countless women (including the host of this podcast and my guest, Joanne Litman) who experienced our first Thanksgiving after getting separated and we not only survived, but we had fun! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/alone-on-thanksgiving-tips-to-making-it-a-great-day/
Everyone has stress, fear and anxiety, but add divorce into the mix and those things just got a lot more intense. In this episode, my dear friend, Ruthe Schwartz and I give THE BEST tips for managing these negative feelings. Learn more about Ruthe: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/ruthe-schwartz-insurance-financial-professional-moneyinmotion-inc/
Dating after divorce can be wonderful, and there's nothing better than those first few weeks of dating someone new and pinching yourself because you're so happy. Here are my 10 pieces of advice for dating someone new. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-pieces-of-advice-for-a-new-relationship/
One question a lot of people going through a divorce ask is, "Who am I supposed to be now?" In this episode, Former Second City comedian and Improv club owner, Kim Green Hiller and I offer advice on reinventing yourself after divorce, both professionally and personally. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/8-job-searching-tips-for-moms-going-back-to-work-after-divorce/
Trust and vulnerability are two things that are challenged during and after a divorce. In this episode I address both, and offer advice on how to trust again after divorce, and why being vulnerable is absolutely important in having meaningful relationships. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-trust-is-broken-in-a-relationship-can-you-ever-trust-again/
Divorce mediation can be wonderful, but be careful what you say. Certain things can hurt the chances of success. My guest, Divorce Mediator, Ellen Feldman talks about 4 things you shouldn't say in divorce mediation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/mediation-tips-and-4-things-not-to-say-during-mediation/
Divorce is hard, but second divorce can be even harder, especially if you are experiencing second divorce shame. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney, Patricia C. Van Haren and I talk about second divorces, 4 things to keep in mind, and why there's no need to feel shame! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/experiencing-second-divorce-shame-keep-these-4-things-in-mind/
Everyone assumes older men are looking to date much younger women. That is not true and I have proof! In this episode I talk about the results of a poll I did asking men in their 40s and 50s how they feel about dating women their own age. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/15-reasons-single-men-over-40-prefer-dating-women-their-age/
Are you just starting your divorce? If so, I have some advice, which is a to-do list I think you'll appreciate! Listen to this episode, in which I offer 8 things to do at the start of a separation. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-start-a-separation-my-to-do-list/
Are you a divorced parent trying to navigate the college application process and figure out how you will manage financially? In this episode, my guest, Vicki Vollweiler, Founder of College Financial Prep offers advice and tips that will save you a lot of stress, and could save you thousands of dollars! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorced-parents-paying-for-college-how-does-it-work/
Second marriage could be a horrible experience, or it could be the best thing that ever happened to you. You have a better chance of the second marriage being healthy and happy if you have certain discussions. In this episode, my guest, Wills and Estate Planning Attorney, Stephanie Sexauer and I talk about 5 topics you might want to discuss with your partner before getting remarried. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/second-marriage-after-50-topics-to-discuss/
In this episode, my guest, divorced mom and mortgage banker, Tami Wollensak talk about life after divorce. Topics include: being alone, moving, dating, and being empowered. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/life-after-divorce-for-a-woman-can-be-wonderful/
What happens when you are divorced and your adult son or daughter is getting married? That's the topic of this episode with my guest, Allison Alexander, a divorced mom and financial advisor whose daughter is getting married. Allison and I also offer relationship and dating advice. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-daughter-is-getting-married-a-divorced-moms-thoughts/
I get very sentimental and reflective around my birthdays, so as I turn 57, I dedicated this episode to talking about what I'm thinking and how I'm feeling at this age. Let me know if you can relate! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-does-a-57-year-old-woman-look-like-moi/
Wondering if your spouse or soon-to-be-ex is hiding money? Well, listen up! In this episode, my guest, CPA and Forensic Accountant, Tracy Coenen offers advice on how to find out. Includes red flags to look out for what you can do if he or she is. We also discuss Tracy's 10-step handbook, "Divorce Money Guide," an inexpensive tool to be your own forensic accountant. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/is-your-spouse-hiding-money-in-the-divorce/
When people are getting divorced, they just want it to be over. While I can understand that (and have been there) it's important to be thorough when it comes to your divorce agreement. In this episode, my guest, divorce attorney, Katherine Miller offers a list of 4 things that are often overlooked in divorce agreements. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/4-things-often-overlooked-in-divorce-agreements/
Let's be honest. We all have dirty little secrets. But, do you realize how healthy and beneficial it is to admit them? In this podcast, my guest, Gretchen Hydo, Master Certified Coach, shares some advice on dirty little secrets, internal rules we create, and how to shed the secrets and get to a happy, healthy place. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/being-honest-with-yourself-in-healing-after-divorce/
Coparenting isn't easy, especially if you are still hurt and angry with your ex. In this episode, my guest, Therapist and Parenting Coach, Rita Morris offers tips for coparenting with someone who hurt you. Read this article on the same topic: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-tips-for-coparenting-with-someone-who-hurt-you/
I spent about a decade meeting, befriending, interviewing, dating, loving and leaving divorced men. In this episode, I reveal what I learned, and offer advice to women who want to get married again. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-makes-a-man-want-to-get-married-these-9-things/
Parental Alienation is ugly, hurtful, vindictive and heartbreaking for children. In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney, Tiffany Hughes and I talk about parental alienation, we offer examples of it, and tips on what to do if you think you are a victim of it. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/parental-alienation-against-a-mother-or-a-father/
In this episode, we're having some fun talking fashion tips and the new you after your divorce! Fashion expert, Suzanne Newman and I talk about everything from cleaning out closets to shopping, to the importance of loving your body and being healthy. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/
Can you go back to court after divorce? Of course you can, and sadly, it's not uncommon. In this episode, Divorce Attorney, Anna Krolikowska and I discuss 6 possible reasons you might end up back in court for what's called "post-litigation." Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/can-you-go-back-to-court-after-a-divorce-is-final/
Change is difficult. It's a bitch! The changes that come with divorce can feel scary and strange and intimidating. In this episode, I offer 6 tips to help you cope with changes that happen during divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/change-is-a-bitch-tips-for-coping-with-fear-of-change/
Are you hoping to get divorced with mediation, but you don't know how to sell it to your spouse? In the episode, my guest, Divorce Mediator, Ellen Feldman offers 6 ways to convince your spouse that mediation works. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-convince-your-spouse-to-divorce-with-mediation/
One scary aspect of getting divorced is the feeling that you are going to be alone. Many people fear independence and loneliness. In this podcast, I talk about why you should not only NOT fear independence, but how wonderful and empowering independence can be! Includes tips on spending time and living alone. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-be-independent-in-life-after-divorce/
Lack of control might be the hardest part about getting divorced. In this episode, I'll explain what I mean by that, and how to cope with things that are causing you anxiety; things you really can't control. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/hardest-part-getting-divorced-lack-control/
Get empowered and educated in this episode! My guests, mortgage banker, Tami Wollensak and real estate broker, Leslie Glazier offer 10 tips that will help you to make the best decisions before, during and after your divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/
Divorce is a time when emotions are high, and one of those emotions include anger. Anger is understandable, and even healthy to experience, but when anger turns to rage, it could be a problem if you don't know how to manage it. My guest, divorce attorney, Katherine Miller talks about the negative impacts rage can have, along with ways to mange anger and rage. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-deal-with-anger-and-rage-during-divorce/
No one wants to feel hatred, anger, bitterness or resentment. It can feel toxic. That said, it's a common feeling in divorce. Here's my advice on how to manage hate and anger. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-advice-hate-ex-husband/
People going through a divorce can lack self-confidence. Even the most secure person can become lacking in self-confidence during or after a divorce, or even in an unhappy marriage. So, here are 15 self-confidence boosters that might help. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/15-self-confidence-boosters/
One of the most difficult emotions that come with divorce is fear. In this episode, I talk about the fears people going through a divorce have, the negative and positive impacts fear can have, and ways to cope with fear. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/two-powerful-tools-for-divorce-sadness-stress-and-fear/
When going through a divorce, the last thing you probably want to hear or talk about is your will and trust documents-your estate plan. But the truth is, it's an easy process, it doesn't cost a lot of money, and getting knowledge about it will empower you and give you peace of mind! My guest on this episode is wills and estate planning attorney, Stephanie Sexuar, and our conversation will tell you what you need to know! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/will-and-trust-documents-after-divorce-what-you-need-to-know/
This episode is dedicated to all single moms. It is meant to empower and inspire you. You're doing a wonderful job and you're a great mom! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/9-characters-who-played-single-moms-and-the-gifts-they-gave-us/
One of the biggest stressors associated with divorce is not knowing how to prepare. We've got you covered! In this episode, my guest, Divorce Attorney, Patricia Van Haren and I talk about things you can do to prepare. We even give you a checklist! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/your-divorce-preparation-checklist-is-here/
Are you facing a high conflict divorce? In this episode, I interview Divorce attorney and co-Founder of Katz & Stefani, Dan Stefani, who offers 19 tips that will help ease your anxiety and help you get the divorce outcome you want and deserve. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/19-tips-for-those-facing-a-high-conflict-divorce/
Based on my weekly Chicago Tribune syndicated column, Love Essentially, I decided to answer some readers' questions about divorce and dating. I offer my thoughts, tips, and inspiration. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/
One of, if not the best reason to get divorced using the mediation process is the kids. In this episode, my guest, divorce mediator, Brian James and I discuss 6 benefits of mediation for kids. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/6-benefits-of-mediation-for-kids/
Want some complimentary divorce advice? In this episode, I talk with Florida and Illinois divorce attorney, Tiffany M. Hughes. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-q-a-with-divorce-attorney-tiffany-hughes/
Everyone falls down, physically and metaphorically. In this episode, I address the "falls" that come with divorce, and the heartbreak that makes you feel like you'll never get over this. But you will! Falls make us stronger, smarter, and tougher. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-i-realized-about-divorce-and-heartbreak-when-i-slipped-on-ice-and-then-slipped-again/
Every divorce story is unique, and people get divorced for all different reasons. In this episode, I interview divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska on some of the reasons she's seen clients get divorced, and how the cases are handled from a legal perspective. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-reasons-for-divorce-each-unique-but-all-painful/
When starting over after divorce, there's one word that matters so much: independence. In this episode, I address independence, what it means, and how to feel comfortable and happy with the transition. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/starting-over-after-divorce-at-50-or-any-age-one-word-matters/
In divorce, our emotions can feel like a roller coaster ride. In this episode, my guest, divorce coach, Jennifer Warren Medwin offers inspiring advice about 8 divorce paths you might go down, and how to handle each. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/8-divorce-emotions-you-might-be-experiencing/
I often write articles about how to get over divorce, but I don't think I've touched on the things that will actually prevent you from healing and moving on. That's what this episode is about. Learn more: https://www.divorcedguygrinning.com/cant-get-over-my-ex-wife-says-divorced-man/
Wondering how to heal from divorce? In this episode, my guest, Wendy Sterling, a divorce coach and life transition specialist, offers 5 ways to help you heal and move on. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/wondering-how-to-heal-from-divorce-here-are-5-ways/
One of the questions I get asked so often is, "Why can't I meet anyone?" Single people often get frustrated and disappointed in dating. In this episode, my guest, relationship expert, Jaime Bronstein and I talk about ways to manifest love, and things you can do that will lead you to finding the love of your life.
Are you getting divorced and dreading Valentine's Day? No need to feel sad or depressed about it. Instead, make it a wonderful day for yourself. Here are 7 ways to do that! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-ways-to-enjoy-valentines-day-after-divorce/
Every divorce situation is unique, meaning there are so many different reasons people get divorced. My guest, Divorce Coach, Jenny Stevens and I discuss some of the top reasons for divorce and how to cope with each. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-top-reasons-for-divorce-and-how-to-cope-with-each/
Thinking of changing your name back after divorce? In this episode, I tell my name-change after divorce story, and offer good and bad reasons to change. Also included, a step-by-step checklist of changing back. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/here-is-your-name-change-after-divorce-checklist/
Now that "divorce season" is in full swing, real estate agents are getting busy and so are mortgage bankers. In this episode, my guest, Leslie Glazier, real estate agent and Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert, offers advice on staying in your home, selling your home and more! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/here-is-your-to-do-list-as-you-take-your-first-steps-in-divorce/
The new year means lots of new divorce cases, and many people will try to mediate their divorce. In this episode, my guest, divorce mediator, Ellen Feldman offers advice on how to prepare for the mediation process. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-prepare-for-divorce-mediation-emotionally-and-practically/
Happy New Year, you beautiful, kind, smart, and wonderful divorced person! To start off 2022 in a great way, I am offering 17 pieces of advice. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/happy-new-year-beautiful-divorced-girl/
Everyone makes New Year's resolutions, but most are broken. If you are newly separated or divorced, here are 17 questions you might want to ask yourself so that you can make resolutions that will be meaningful and that will stick. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/17-questions-that-lead-to-the-best-new-years-resolutions/
One of the most stressful aspects of a divorce is making sure your kids are doing OK. In this episode, I talk with Dr. Don Gordon, Ph.D., who offers 6 evidence-based strategies to help your kids during divorce. Includes tips for the holidays. Learn. more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/6-strategies-in-helping-kids-through-divorce/
If you are getting divorced, should you still send out holiday cards? Are you going to be OK going to a holiday party by yourself? Will you survive the holidays emotionally? Yes, yes and yes! In this episode, I answer these and other questions pertaining to divorce and the holiday season. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/holiday-and-christmas-card-etiquette-after-divorce/
Among the many stresses that go with divorce, getting a mortgage is up there. My guest, Mortgage Banker and Certified Divorce Lending Professional, Tami Wollensak and I discuss 5 fears about getting a mortgage after divorce and how to handle them. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/5-common-fears-about-getting-a-mortgage-after-divorce/
What do you do when your spouse doesn't want a divorce, and refuses to participate or even acknowledge that you are moving forward? My guest, divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes, has answers to your questions and some great advice. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/when-your-spouse-doesnt-want-a-divorce/
Recently separated or divorce and alone on Thanksgiving? Been there done that, so I have tips and inspiration. Also includes 10 things to be thankful for on Thanksgiving, despite your awful divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/alone-on-thanksgiving-tips-to-making-it-a-great-day/
Many people find Facebook and other social media comforting and validating during divorce. While this coping strategy can help, be careful. Social media can hurt you in court, and can ruin an amicable divorce. Divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska offers tips about social media that could make a huge difference in the outcome of your divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/6-tips-for-facebook-and-other-social-media-and-divorce/
What's it like to fall in love after 50? In this episode, I share my personal story, along with benefits to falling in love at an older age. You'll be inspired to be your authentic self when it comes to your love life! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-it-is-like-to-fall-in-love-after-50/
Thinking about second marriage? in this episode, my guest, Bonnie Hillman Shay (a newlywed) and I discuss second marriage, along with 10 questions to ask yourself that might help you decide. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/second-marriage-after-40-10-questions-to-ask-yourself/
Have questions about divorce mediation? In this episode, my guest, Certified Divorce Mediator, Marjorie Jacobs and I discuss 12 truths and myths about mediation. Jacobs also offers advice for this wonderfully effective way of saving time and money in your divorce, as well as getting an outcome that gives you and your children a great post-divorce quality of life. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/12-truths-and-myths-about-mediation/
Going back to work after divorce was scary as hell for me. In this episode, I share my story and offer job searching tips. I also share what several women have to say about going back to work after divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/8-job-searching-tips-for-moms-going-back-to-work-after-divorce/
I get so many emails from readers going through a divorce who write about loneliness. It breaks my heart. I've been there. The good news is, you won't feel this way forever. Here are my thoughts on divorce loneliness and how to cope. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/surviving-loneliness-after-divorce-its-up-to-you/
Getting divorced and not sure what's going to happen with the house? In this episode, my guest, Tami Wollensak who is a mortgage banker and Certified Divorce Lending Professional offers information that will empower and inspire you! We answer your questions to help you make the best decisions for your future. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/six-reasons-to-refinance-your-mortgage-including-divorce/
Thinking of blending families? In this episode, I interview WLIT radio host, Melissa Forman and we discuss the topic and offer tips to a happy, healthy blended family. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/blending-families-moving-in-together-and-staying-happy/
A breakup, whether it's someone you're dating, a boyfriend/girlfriend or a divorce, is never easy. Here are 9 things you might be feeling. They are meant to help validate you and help you realize you aren't alone. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/your-painful-breakup-9-things-you-might-be-feeling/
Should you get a prenup? What if you are considering divorce and don't have one? What is a postnup? Join me, Jackie Pilossoph and my guest, divorce attorney and senior partner with Katz & Stefani, Amanda Clayman to answer these questions and more! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/prenuptial-agreements-should-you-get-one-and-tips-if-you-do/
If you've never gone through a divorce before, you probably have no idea where to start. In this episode, my guest, divorce attorney, Anna Krolikowska offers advice for women filing for divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/filing-for-divorce-what-women-need-to-know-beforehand/
Dating after 50 can be challenging, but falling in love at this age is nothing short of blissful. In this episode, I offer reasons why love after 50 is wonderful, and tips for dating in your 50s. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-it-is-like-to-fall-in-love-after-50/
Having divorce regret and doubts is very normal and understandable. After all, divorce isn't an easy decision. In this episode, I address why people have doubts, how to handle your doubts and regret, and why I really don't like the word "regret." I also read an email I received from a divorced guy who writes, "I've broken my own heart." Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/regretting-a-breakup-advice-for-second-thoughts-and-doubts/
Dating after divorce can get complicated, especially when you start seeing someone who is separated, but not officially divorced yet. In this episode, I offer insight and advice on the subject. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/should-i-keep-dating-a-separated-man-going-through-a-divorce/
You've been separated for only a few weeks and you find out your ex already has a girlfriend. It's like a bomb dropping! In this episode I discuss why people move on so quickly and why it feels like a punch in the stomach. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/my-ex-moved-on-immediately-3-seconds-after-we-got-separated-in-fact/
It's pretty normal to suffer from low self-esteem during and even after divorce. So, how do you get it back? Here are 10 tips by Dr. Mary Beth Wilkas Janke, Clinical Psychologist, Author, Speaker, Consultant and Professor, and my dear friend from college! Learn more:https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/how-to-get-your-self-esteem-back-after-divorce-10-tips/
Divorce is hard no matter who decides to leave who, but what if YOU'RE the one who wanted the divorce? My guest, Life Coach, Sheila Jacobson and I discuss common feelings and how to cope. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/honey-i-want-a-divorce-when-a-woman-decides-to-leave/
Wondering if you are going to be happy after divorce and how to get there? Here are my 12 things you need (and don't need) to be happy as you move on after your divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/what-you-need-and-dont-need-for-happiness-after-divorce-and-how-to-move-on-after-divorce/
Are you struggling to forgive your ex or someone else in your life? If so, this entire episode is dedicated to the subject of forgiveness. My guest, author and speaker, Karen Kaplan and I talk about what forgiveness really means, how to forgive if you can't figure it out, and the benefits you will get if you embrace forgiveness. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/3-reasons-why-forgiving-your-ex-is-the-right-thing-to-do/
Are you experiencing a lot of anxiety during your divorce? Of course you are. In this week's episode, my guest is Mollie Kopp, M.A., a Chicago based therapist who has a large focus in her practice on anxiety. Mollie and I discuss causes of anxiety, symptoms, and tips on how you can stay calm and have a good quality of life, even during your divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/dealing-with-divorce-anxiety-by-thinking-differently/
Are you getting divorced because your ex is a narcissist? Let's talk about the word narcissist. In this episode, my guest, Susan Guthrie, divorce attorney and mediator, discuss how the word narcissist is overused, and what a narcissist really is. But regardless of whether or not your soon-to-be ex is or isn't a narcissist, we offer tips on how to deal with someone who displays symptoms of narcissism, whether he or she is one or not. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/
Are you nervous about being alone after divorce? Does being by yourself feel lonely, isolating, depressing? This episode is dedicated to helping you change your mindset, and actually enjoy being alone. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/being-alone-after-divorce-why-its-okay-and-tips-on-how-to-enjoy-it/
Getting divorced isn't easy, and one of the biggest stressors is the house. Trying to figure out if you are going to stay or sell can cause fear, anxiety, sadness and so many more emotions. In this episode, my guest, Leslie Glazier, a real estate agent with @properties and a Certified Divorce Real Estate Expert, is here to share some things you need to know that will surely help you along this journey! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/11-questions-to-ask-when-hiring-a-real-estate-agent-during-your-divorce/
Divorce Mediator, Ellen Feldman is my guest on this episode. We talk about what goes on in mediation, the benefits of the divorce process I think is wonderful, and how to ensure its success. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/three-of-the-biggest-issues-that-arise-in-divorce-mediation/
Are you dating a guy/girl with kids and feeling frustrated? Are the kids making you feel unwelcome? Are you banging your head against the wall trying to change things? We understand and have advice! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/they-hate-me-dating-a-guy-with-kids/
This is a great episode for newly separated and/or divorced people who need a little bit of hope when it comes to your future. My guest, Kathy McCarthy recently celebrated 10 years of being divorced. She offers 10 things she's learned over the past decade. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/
The pandemic, which has been so painful in many ways, has also taken a toll on marriages, meaning the number of divorce cases is extremely high right now. Why is that? Kate McMahon Vivanco, a divorce attorney and partner at Katz & Stefani is my guest. She explains the high numbers, and offers 6 specific issues that might have led couples to divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/divorce-and-the-pandemic-6-issues-that-could-lead-a-couple-to-splitting-up/
One of the hardest things about divorce is not knowing what to expect. Here are 20 things I wish I could have told my newly separated self. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/20-things-wish-told-newly-separated-self/
COVID was a rough year for everyone. In this episode, Life and Leadership Coach, Dr. Lisa Kaplin is my guest, and we discuss change, divorce, dating fear, resilience, courage and more. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/
What can you expect when going through a divorce? Not knowing can feel stressful and scary. In this episode, I offer 10 emotional stages of divorce that you might experience. Although divorce can feel like a roller coaster ride, eventually you get through all these stages and life gets really good! Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/the-emotional-stages-of-divorce-are-like-a-roller-coaster-ride/
Dating after divorce? This is a can't miss episode! I offer advice and tips that range from before the date, to what to talk about (and what not to) to how to handle the disappointment and frustration that often goes with dating. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/dating-after-divorce-at-50-what-to-wear-what-to-say-and-other-tips/
When I was going through my divorce, I had never heard the term "mediation" before. I went through mediation, and I have to say, I firmly believe it's the best way to get divorced. In this episode, I interview divorce mediator, Brian James, who gives a step-by-step of how mediation works, what to expect, how it can save you time and money, and why you might be very happy with the outcome. Learn more here.
How do you heal after someone cheats on you? It happened to me in two different relationships, and I have talked to dozens of other men and women who were devastated by a cheating partner and then moved on and thrived. Here ere are 9 tips healing after cheating. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/were-you-cheated-on-advice-for-the-cheatee/
When I was getting divorced, I received good advice from some people. But I also got some really bad advice. Here are 10 pieces of bad divorce advice I heard, and why. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/10-pieces-really-bad-divorce-advice/
Your divorce is hurting your kids just as much as it's hurting you. But you have more control in their happiness and wellbeing than you think! In this episode, I interview Dr. Don Gordon, who wrote the widely known and acclaimed parenting class "Children in Between." Gordon offers 7 things that will hurt your kids during and after your divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/7-things-that-contribute-to-negative-effects-of-divorce-on-children/
"I just hope I get to keep the house," is something many people going through a divorce say. In this episode of the DGS podcast, Real Estate Agent and Certified Divorce Real Estate Specialist, Leslie Glazier addresses this subject and answers questions about all things pertaining to divorce and your house. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/11-questions-to-ask-when-hiring-a-real-estate-agent-during-your-divorce/
A divorce often times starts out amicable, but somewhere down the road it turns ugly. Why? There are several reasons, which I discuss in this podcast. This episode also includes how to deal with an ugly divorce. Learn more: https://www.divorcedgirlsmiling.com/amicable-turned-ugly-divorce-9-reasons-it-could-happen/
Divorce can feel depressing, sad and hopeless, but believe it or not, there are many great things divorce ends up doing for a woman. Here is my list of 8. You may also read this article on Divorced Girl Smiling.
When I was 21, I was a dating idiot! Thirty plus years later, I'm older, wiser, divorced and truly in love. I've learned a lot and am happy to share 21 dating tips I wish I could have told my 21 year-old self. Read this article on Divorced Girl Smiling.
Everyone going through a divorce makes mistakes. That's OK! It's normal and understandable. But, here are 10 big divorce mistakes you really don't want to make and why, as told my divorce attorney, Tiffany Hughes. Learn more: visit Divorced Girl Smiling.
Ever feel like you’re not going to survive your divorce? Of course you will survive! Here are my 15 tips on surviving divorce. Learn more: divorcedgirlsmiling.com
It’s hard to understand how a person who used to be loving and kind can switch gears so quickly and become angry and mean during your divorce. Here are 8 possible reasons why your ex might be angry and hateful towards you. Learn more: divorcedgirlsmiling.com
How do you know if you’re in a healthy romantic relationship? If you’re divorced, you probably know you weren’t in one. In the pilot episode of the Divorced Girl Smiling podcast, I’d like to share 9 signs of a healthy relationship. Should you decide to give love another chance, you might find these helpful. To learn more: DivorcedGirlsmiling.com.
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