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Brenda Miller
Joy is natural—rediscover yours! During challenges with your kids, you can go from upset to uplifted in 30 seconds—instant evolution is the new powerful, positive, peaceful way to parent. Learn The Kid Code—because you deserve a peaceful parenting experience and all kids deserve a peaceful parent.
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Want to turn down the volume on the stress you feel around your problems. Take a minute to learn this simple technique and another one to implement it—and stress loses its power.
Remember to spread the love, it’s for your wellbeing.
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When you feel an upset arise, save yourself a lot of trouble, by asking yourself, “How can I respond to this in a way that makes me feel good?” “Is there a decent way for me to respond to this?”
It’s for our wellbeing.
Show Notes:
No, sorry. This is less than a few minutes long.
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Imagine going from mad or sad to happy in a matter of a few seconds. There might be nothing better on earth than that! Doing this technique several times a day accumulates peace in your inner banking system.
It also directs you, instantly, to your beautiful inner self and then you can share that with the world.
It’s for your wellbeing.
Show Notes
Not yet. The podcasts are three minutes long!
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Do you have a voice in your head you’d like to adios? Listen to find a simple way to exorcise it once and for all! It involves a stuffed animal or a coffee mug and some humor.
Let me know how it goes for you: Brenda@TheKidCode.ca
Remember to spread the love. It feels good.
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You’ve probably heard about this; have you ever tried it?
Would you like to try an experiment with your life? Could you commit to thinking, speaking and acting in a way that you want others to think, speak and act towards you—for one week and see what happens.
Let me know how it goes for you: brenda@thekidcode.ca
Remember to spread the love. It feels good.
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Talking about change again. It’s easier than we think it we don’t overthink it and just do it. Do you have one thing you’d like to change in the way your parent?
Pick one thing:
- I don’t want to be huffy when I talk with my kids
- I don’t want to holler anymore
- I want to take more time for me and spend more time with my kids
- Whatever it is, think of that one thing that causes you stress as a parent or even as a partner
Listen to see if this might work for you!
Let me know how it goes for you: brenda@thekidcode.ca
Remember to spread the love. It feels good.
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My dad used to remind me to always look for the best in other people because it calls forth the best in them. I noticed that calling each other by this affectionate, humorous name, “Genius” brought out the best in us.
How can you bring the best out in your kids and your partner using an affectionate name or some other strategy?
Let me know how it goes for you: brenda@thekidcode.ca
Remember to spread the love. It feels good.
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Every morning, at noon and every evening, remind yourself of what you’re going to change and how you’re going to feel when you change. What do you want to change as a parent. How will you feel when you change that? Like a champion!!
For me it’s helpful to remind myself that my behaviors and words aren’t serving me when I act out. It motivates me to change.
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This razor helps me so much—to move me out of my comfort zone with less stress. Outside of our comfort zones is where we learn the big lessons and get really wise!
How can you use this razor for yourself and for your kids. I remind myself that I’ll learn something every single time I go outside of my comfort zone—if I pay attention.
Remember to spread the love!
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This simple razor inspires you to step up your game to get 7 years of output in one year!
How can you use this one to help your kids?
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These ‘razors’ help you and your kids get smarter, wiser!
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Replace regret (when speaking or acting from a highly charged emotional state) with a simple statement that keeps you from digging a hole you have to humbly climb out of.
Think and thrive, and remember to spread the love.
Show Notes
Sorry, no. Still needing to spend most of my energy healing from cancer so I can continue doing what I love!
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Want to help your kids find their genius? Introduce them the clear thinking and nudge out confusion using the Philosophical Razors.
Try one of these razors with your family applied to a local or global issue and let me know what you find! brenda@thekidcode.ca
Shift your thinking and thrive—and remember to spread the love!
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This Harvard study shows how powerful the mind is in affecting the functions of the body. See what happens when you simply think about being 20 years younger. Maybe you’ll have all the energy you need to parent those awesome kids of yours!
Show Notes:
https://www.harvardmagazine.com/2010/08/the-mindfulness-chronicles
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When things start to go south, reverse thinking and make it into a fun adventure. Your kids will love you for it. And you’ll be pretty happy with yourself too!
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If the news, the neighbors or the nuts do our thinking for us, we’re easily manipulated and can’t connect the dots we need to, to make good decisions, and to feel at ease.
Remember to spread the love.
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Did you know that dancing, even when you’re not “good” at it has benefits that outweigh even an exercise bike…among other things! Get your kids to dance, here’s some ideas.
Show Notes
Maybe never. I don’t know.
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Did you know that playing can help relationships and improve brain function? And it does so much more for us!
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Even if you’re not good at it, there are so many benefits to singing, it’s like a magic pill. It doesn’t just make you feel good, it even helps fight infections, who’d have thought? Want to have a sing-along with your family tonight?
Show Notes
Not yet.
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Even if we don’t feel like being positive, even if we’re tired of everyone preaching about it, even if it seems hard to achieve—and we’d like to stomp on the idea when we’re feeling grouchy…research shows that people who have three positive thoughts to one negative thought have a better chance of human flourishing.
That is a fascinating, simple, and inspiring formula for human flourishing.
Show Notes
Sorry, nope.
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How would your life change if your brain produced feel-good hormones when you are positive-obsessing vs. how you feel when you are negative-obsessing and producing stress chemicals?
How can you become positive-obsessed?
Spread the love.
Show Notes
Sorry.
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Listen to learn a simple question to boot us out of a ‘thinking-box’ we can sometimes gravitate towards. This question kicks us into solution-oriented thinking and out of problem-obsessing!
Remember to spread the love.
Show Notes
Not yet.
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Asking a simple question can stop an unwanted desire. Studies show that with no resistance, we act on 70% of our desires and with resistance, we act on 17% of them.
Show Notes:
This article demonstrating percentages on resistance was created by Hugo Alberts (Ph.D.) and Lucinda Poole (PsyD).
https://pro.positivepsychology.com/wp-content/uploads/Increasing-Self-Control-through-Repeated-Practice-2.pdf?utm_source=ActiveCampaign&utm_medium=email&utm_content=%5B5-Bullet+Friday%5D+The+Secrets+of+Self-Control%3A+Overcoming+Instant+Gratification+%28%2B+Science-Based+Tool%29&utm_campaign=%5B5-Bullet+Friday%5D+Instant+Grat
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Since your family or friends are still going to be around more than usual for a few more days, in this podcast I share my favorite ways to dissolve my important impatience and return myself back to the decent person I want to be.
Show Notes
Ever hopeful.
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How to downgrade stress and upgrade peace, harmony and fun!
Show Notes
Sorry! I’m still healing from this cancer that I plan on beating, so I’m making it easy on myself with really short podcasts.
xoBrenda
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No matter what we think, we will never find happiness by controlling others, even if it seems like if we control things, all will be right in the world.
Find out how to dissolve the painful impulse to control with a few simple silent statements!
Show Notes
I wonder if I’ll ever do them again? Probably not when the podcasts are so short. Should I? Please let me know if they matter to you: brenda@thekidcode.ca
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Dr. Jordan Peterson has a simple, respectful way to help you communicate with and understand your kids or anyone else, and—to help them learn to articulate—and that helps them to become clearer in their thinking. This is tremendously helpful in the world we live in today.
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Isn’t it strange that we do things we don’t really want to—like react negatively towards our kids? This podcast helps us see that we can correct our own course with a simple question.
Show Notes:
Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellness
https://www.serene-hypnosis.com
403-498-8884
eliot@paramountlearning.com
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This week we’re talking about how to ask a few simple questions to go from making decisions that lead to some degree of destruction to making decisions that come from a place of collaboration—and way less internal stress.
Show Notes
Eliot’s contact info:
Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellness
https://www.serene-hypnosis.com
403-498-8884
eliot@paramountlearning.com
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We can take our instructions from a negative thought or ask ourselves a simple question or two to change course! That sounds too easy. Try it and see!
Show Notes:
Eliot Hoppe, Serene Hypnotherapy Health and Wellness
https://www.serene-hypnosis.com
403-498-8884
eliot@paramountlearning.com
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This simple secret is like taking a feel-good tranquilizer without the side effects when stress arises around the never ending ‘to-do’s’!
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Who are you grateful for? Why? How did that change you? How can you use that to help your kids and others?
Contemplating how your life changed and how you can help others feel peaceful instead of panicky or paranoid is a good life-skill.
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With this recap of our Kindness Series you are invited to take the joy-causing strategies into your future with you.
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The Princess, Lady Diana, and The Pauper, Mother Teresa both led lives that were blessed in some ways and impoverished in others—what they had in common—and spread around themselves, was kindness.
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Dedicate your day to kindness with a simple affirmation in the morning when your eyes pop open—and silently count how many times you can be kind to yourself and others each day—for the next week.
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Regulate yourself out of unkindness and cruelty before the urge materializes—with one simple statement.
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Did you know that when, on autopilot, we judge another person, we are doing it to make ourselves feel superior, feel better? The cure for the unkindness of judging another human being is in providing ourselves with inner security. Listen to see how.
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What do you (unconsciously) gain by not forgiving yourself? Are there any more good reasons you can find for not forgiving yourself? Can you see that it’s actually ludicrous to not forgive yourself?
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Making a mistake is not a good enough reason to not forgive yourself, withhold love from yourself, be unkind to yourself. Making a mistake that’s not remedied causes guilt and that causes suffering. This simple strategy will guide you to the freedom of forgiving yourself!
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A quick reminder and simplified version of ridding yourself of guilt over how you’ve treated your kids and others awaits! If we want to be truly free to naturally be kind, we have to dissolve the learned parts of ourselves that hold on to the idea that we’re bad and should feel guilt. Our job is to blossom ourselves, not devalue ourselves and if we’ve been mean to someone, it will store in the unconscious mind and guilt will arise to haunt us.
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Self-honesty, a few minutes, and 6 simple steps to letting go of guilt and finally giving ourselves the kindness of forgiveness. This is one of the most helpful exercises I’ve ever done to dissolve guilt.
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What are the stumbling blocks to giving yourself kindness? You can’t hate yourself into being a better person, so that thinking needs to go. Believing that you’re not good enough, or believing you’re bad because bad things have happened to you isn’t a good reason to withhold kindness. We shouldn’t be forgiven because we’ve done bad things also isn’t a logical argument for not giving ourselves kindness. We could recognize we have done bad things because we were ignorant, and be kind to ourselves and others as atonement! That means, in case it wasn’t clear, be kind is the atonement, being kind is making up for being unconscious that we were hurting ourselves and others. See how it’s true that we are worthy!
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Take a couple of minutes to think about what kindness means to you when you demonstrate it to your kids and other people. Is it kind to show patience, compassion, playfulness (when your kids want to play, for example), etc. What else can you do to show kindness to the people in your life? Can you think of someone who is kind and see how and why you would like to live like that? Can you give that same kindness to yourself—so that you are giving yourself a dose of love-flooding, pain-reducing, upset-dissolving ‘feel good hormones?’
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There is a remarkable physical and mental phenomenon that happens when kindness is given and when it’s received. It can pull you out of an upset in an instant, and put you into a blissful state that overrides pain. Listen in to see how you can use this to your benefit and of course, for the benefit of your kids!
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When you’re feeling snappy and crappy, ask yourself, “Right now, is there a good reason not be kind to other people or to myself?”
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Six minutes of ideas to find peace when your partner’s ex is a bee in your bonnet! No one is worth your peace—choose one or two of these ideas and use them every time you get stung!
Show Notes
Not yet. Maybe never. These are short, short podcasts with quick and effective ideas to self-regulate into joy. Go!
xoBrenda
www.thekidcode.ca
Is anybody or anything worth your peace? If you have 13 minutes to spare, you can gain insight into how to lead the charge out of protest against your ex and into peace for yourself, learn why people lash out, and discover 6 quick tips to dissolve your resentment and anger towards your ex. While you definitely won’t like all of these at first glance, if you do them, you’ll love the result and so will your kids. Parent-up and get doing this. Just a suggestion.
Show Notes
Nope.
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The subtitle says it all: I don’t like them, but I want them to like me.
Why do we want the other to like us, approve of us, agree with us, fawn all over us?
Why?
To make us feel important, valued, needed, wanted, accepted, indispensable, and superior to name a few false gains from this way of living. Would you rather be peaceful, kind, and playful or important, valued, accepted, needed, wanted, indispensable and superior? That’s easy: most people have replied they’d like to be peaceful, but how? That’s what we’re here today to work on.
Anyone can use this strategy, but you’ll have to hold on and wait for the wisdom of it to resonate with you. You will have to use it and have the personal experience of it helping you regulate yourself from protest into peace when your kids or your partners kids are acting out.
Wanting what the other wants for themselves doesn’t mean we don’t have wants and needs that need to be met. It means we cause ourselves less stress by not controlling others.
Support runs both ways. We want others to support us, and they want us to support them. Can we do that and find peace?
By understanding that we have two natures operating us and driving our behaviors, we can learn to be okay with others (our kids and partners kids) acting out and not engaging.
As Rumi says, There are two lives being lived. Stay in your heart by using a strategy like HeartMath or any of The Kid Code strategies when your kids or your partners kids are acting out and when you achieve the superpower of wanting what they want in the moment and giving consequences from a place of wanting well-being for them, you are a peaceful, positive parent.
Do you have a fifteen-minute drive you’re taking today? Have a listen to see if you can use some of these strategies like ‘the complaint fizzle’, making stories up while doing jobs to make jobs more fun, the solution oriented family conflab once a week meeting, calming down to communicate so we don’t teach that being upset is the way to be heard, and transition days techniques to help with shared space success.
What ideas do you have to make your house a shared space success?
There are simple ways to dissolve the idea that you will only be valued if you do, do, do. Reflection and self-care are the solutions to ending overwhelm and burnout. Once you do these few simple exercises you will feel like a new person and show up for your kids in the more clear, joyful way.
Then you show up loving your life with time and energy for what matters: you and your kids.
Show Notes
Still no.
Nicer language might be: don’t be a nasty. Don’t be a nincompoop. Don’t be…you decide.
Listen to find out how to make behavior modification into a game of sorts that everyone in the family can play. Winner gets to…well, you and your family can decide.
Show Notes:
Is This Woman Ever Going To Do Timed Show Notes Again?
I don’t know. The podcasts are too short for that.
Go from nasty to nice by using a ‘checkmate for the misery-making mind’ strategy every time you have a negative thought that threatens your inner peace. You can still get your needs met or have a difficult conversation—you can just remain calmer and more rational which makes for more effective outcomes.
Listen to find 13 ways to ‘turn down or turn off the volume’ when a negative thought tries to ‘be the boss of you’!
What ideas do you and your family have for redecorating your inner world when negativity shows its nasty head?
Show Notes
Still none.
Do a little experiment and see if should and shouldn’t statements subtly activate the fight, flight, freeze response inside of you.
Should and shouldn’t tell us we’re not good enough and that can’t be true because we’re here on the planet—we must be good enough!
How can you change your language when you notice that you are using should or shouldn’t on yourself or others? Listen for some ideas on making conversation instead of activating the stress response in us and our kids.
Show Notes
Nope.
Don’t wait for a scary diagnosis or life altering event to change your life to the way you want it.
My priority became love flooding when I was diagnosed with cancer—because everyone flooded me with love, and it changed my life.
Since it’s true that everyone is dying, we just don’t know when, instead of spending so much time putting out fires with our kids, spend some time finding out what each person really, deeply wants for their lives and help them get it.
Ask these simple questions to help you make the changes you want to in your life—and don’t wait for the fire! Blossom yourself and your kids now!
Show Notes
Nope. Not yet.
It doesn’t feel like it in an upset with our kids or anyone else, but there are only two states to be in right after the upset arises: presence or pain.
In the state of presence, we feel calm, centered and unbothered. Why do we feel unbothered in the state of presence? Because there is no past or future in the present. There are no old patterns, old emotions, old wrongs done to us, and there are no future worries or wants.
Upsetting emotions have made us their servant and we’re not happy in that position.
The pain in an upset comes from an identity, an opinion, an old thought, it comes from the I know it all mind. In the moment of upset, we become know it all’s, especially as parents. We’re taller than them, after all, we should know more! The I know it all mind wants to control others and the situation, which is painful. Notice every time you want to control your child and notice that you don’t feel good, notice the pain.
These kinds of superpowers are waiting for you to discover them. And teach them to your kids!
Amaze yourself with this superpower. Presence is a nice present to give yourself and your kids.
Show Notes
It’s too short to write about! It only takes a couple of minutes to listen!
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Listen to discover how to help yourself and kids every day with every kind of upset. Use the strategies you like best and if you need a reminder, they’re all in the book, The Kid Code. The Kid Code teachers have simple and short online classes that teach the codes to you, too at www.TheKidCode.ca A few reminders are:
-When you come to the Y in the road, the moment of upset offers two opportunities, either consciously take happy street or stay on sad/mad street. Tell the upset, “You’re not the boss of me.” Yes, adults can do this strategy and say that too.
-Bless yourself for your mistake if you let the emotion control you by saying and feeling the truth of the words, “I matter more than the mistake,” and them make the mistake right by apologizing to another person or doing whatever is necessary.
-The tantrum tamer.
-The turnaround.
-Natural consequences.
-Diverting to Divinity
-Grumpy to Grateful
-I am that.
-Power struggles.
-BullyProof Yourself and Your Kids
-and many more…
In addition to a Comfy Corner Calming Sheet, you can write some encouraging messages on the other side. Here are some examples that Amanda wrote for her daughter to refer to when she felt upset:
- Remember you’ve worked through and gotten through these feelings many times.
- Mom is so proud of you when you find a way to regulate your emotions.
- You can do hard things.
- This too shall pass.
- Breathe. Deep breathes. Let your tummy gurgle and all the emotions release downwards.
- We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong.
- Send all your emotions up to the sun to be transformed into light.
- Ask yourself if the thought you are believing is true.
- Get your body moving, handstands, skipping. Etc.
- Worry, anxiety and panic don’t help you control the future. They just make you feel out of control in the moment.
Some other encouraging notes you can write to your kids that they can read to help them self-regulate are:
- Repeat to yourself, “I am loved. I am safe.”
- Remind yourself that to self-regulate and become calm and playful is a superpower and you’ve got this!
- These big emotions don’t help me, they hurt me.
- Anger and sadness and all other upsetting emotions are not the boss of me. I’m the boss of them.
- My nature is peaceful and playful. How I know that is I feel natural when I’m like that.
- My nature is not mad and scared. How I know that is I don’t feel natural when I’m like that.
What other things might you tell your child to encourage him or her?
So make this hard work easier for you and your kids with some comfy corner calming sheets!
Show Notes
Nope, still none. My arms aren’t recovered from surgery as of yet, so no typing for me.
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I’m not sure why we insist on being heard. Just say what you want to (and suffer the consequences without complaint).
“What if I didn’t say anything, how would I feel inside?” Serene is how I felt when I stopped telling Blake where parking spots were that he could see all by his grown-up self! Sometimes we don’t need to be heard.
Let this lesson help you become a more peaceful parent.
Show Notes
Still no show notes—it’s two or three minutes long!
Carlos Castaneda, an American writer said, “We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”
Kids challenge us—a lot. We have a long list of buttons they push: they don’t clean their room or listen, they talk back…
What if we put our energy to work to regulate ourselves back to our peaceful, calm, kind nature instead of wasting our energy putting it to work complaining, talking to ourselves about the problem, venting to our friends and partner—generally staying in a bad mood, waiting for the next upset to show up.
Learn why the meaning of breath in Hawaii is life force and how you can use one breath to make yourself strong and happy instead of using your energy to make you miserable.
Show Notes
Still no show notes—I’m fighting for my life (cancer came to teach me) and need my energy to help me!
This podcast is dedicated to Dana, Cole, Ny and Eclipse (Ny’s companion working dog).
Emotional pain can be left in the moment it happens! It doesn’t need to inform the next moment or ruin your day. When you say the words, “There, got through that one,” in a lighthearted way after any troubles with you or your kids is over, you reset yourself to your true and good nature.
Okay this was a tiny bit longer podcast, but still no Show Notes!
The words "I’m willing," when they are felt as they are spoken can clear a lot of emotional baggage. Clearing that stuff can’t get simpler than that.
Using this simple exercise not only seemed to have healed my foot, but also gave me relief from self-devaluation, a useless and painful emotion.
Notice your upsetting parenting emotions and try this simple but powerful exercise.
Show Notes:
Still not writing show notes. The podcasts are so short!
Resentment eats us alive. Louise Hay, founder of Hay House, teaches a simple way to forgive yourself and others so you don’t go on feeling the inner pain resentment causes.
Listen now to hear the simplest, shortest, and most effective technique for forgiveness you will ever find! Louise says all you have to do is be willing to forgive and the Universe will take care of the rest.
Freedom is our birthright.
Show Notes:
Still not writing show notes. The podcasts are short!
If you want your kids to listen, change the energy behind your words. Everyone will benefit.
One way to change your energy is to notice how you feel when you speak with your kids. If you’re frustrated, angry, or are lecturing—the feeling of frustration, anger and being lectured is what the child registers and they don’t want to listen.
If we speak from a calm place, the child registers that and is able to listen more easily.
Learn 3 quick ways to shift your energy to being calmer.
When you forget, and speak from a negative place, bless the mistake and make it right!
Show Notes:
Still not writing show notes. The podcasts are short!
If you could let go of the upset around any problem that arises (your kids act out, the garbage spills all over the floor, someone gives you the you-know-what on the freeway because you accidentally cut them off…) would you let go of it? What would be strong enough to let you let go of the upsets?
You are invited to let go of all problems and upsets as they arise because your peace matters more than your problems. When you’re peaceful, it’s easier to solve problems.
Show Notes:
Have you noticed that I don’t do these anymore because the podcast is four minutes long, max! Listen and learn to love life.
My wise young granddaughter educated me the other day by saying we need to make more space for kids. She pointed out that we make physical space for them when they’re born but go on treating them like children and then expecting them to have adult responsibilities and emotions.
What does it mean to you to give your kids space?
Take three minutes to listen to this podcast to provide relief for everyone in the house by making the kind of space that makes for a peaceful household.
Wouldn’t you love a strategy that keeps you stress-free when encountering difficult people (including your kids)?
There is no gain in being difficult.
Take three minutes to listen to this podcast to keep yourself calm and rational when others aren’t.
We are out of our integrity if we don’t pursue what we want and get our own needs met.
Kids know what their parents and their peers want for them, but they often don’t know what they want for themselves because they place too much value on seeking approval from one or the other.
Decrease stress and increase connection with others in your life and want for others what they want for themselves.
Take three minutes to listen to this podcast to change your mindset from “I need others to approve, to: I approve and that’s enough.”
We wish we didn’t have to, but all of us, including our kids are going to go through tough times, climb what look to be insurmountable mountains and feel like we can’t handle what life is delivering. All of us, including our kids are going to have physical, mental, and emotional bumps in the road, so when they come, use the wise words from a dear cousin of mine to go from overwhelmed to solution oriented.
Take two minutes to listen to this podcast to change your mind set in a heartbeat from Why Me?
When we look after our own mental and emotional wellbeing, we are teaching our kids to do the same.
Show Notes:
It’s one minute long, listen to the whole thing to see how to stop being owned by negativity!
You can save a whole lot of trouble with a pause and this simple question, “What is this kid trying to teach me?” when they act out, act up and act like the wild little creatures they sometimes are!
When they’re slow setting the table, sassing you, refusing to do homework or household chores, what to do?
Listen—it’s only a couple of minutes—to find out how to find your inner Oracle and replace your inner confused-parent with that!
1:06 When they act out, you pick up your game.
1:17 How to keep your cool and learn what they are trying to teach you.
1:19 Examples: sassing, lying, being disrespectful, being impatient.
4:25 Replace your inner lost-parent with your inner Oracle and teach yourself amazing lessons when your kids act out!
The Mayo Clinic says being positive can reduce risk of death from a number of diseases, lower levels of depression, distress and pain and increase resistance to illness. I say being positive is your True Nature and raises your bliss barometer so that you can love your life.
What to do?
Collect coins as you stomp on your negative nut and set the record straight!
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950
1:25 The Mayo Clinic’s report on the miracle of positivity.
2:29 Might being negative do the opposite and be a disaster?
2:43 A silly, simple stress-saving strategy: Mario to the rescue!
t’s an inborn instinct to behave in ways that we think will help us survive. We can be conciliatory or domineering in an attempt to secure our position.
The way to stop some of the sibling rivalry involves notes and pillows and mirrors. Have a two-minute listen to learn more.
1:17 Siblings rival to establish their security.
1:50 Assessing each child’s survival behaviors (conciliatory to avoid conflict, or aggressive to be the top dog).
2:07 The way to stop some of the sibling rivalry.
Do you feel like it’s too much, sometimes? Do you feel like something tips you over the edge of being ‘able to handle’ it?
Except the reality is that you’ve lived through a lot and that proves it’s never actually been too much, even when it feels like it is!
Listen to the simple lateral logic in this podcast, designed to disempower the belief: it’s too much—and bring your relief.
Once you’ve gotten this aha, to help yourself when it feels like things get to be too much, remind yourself that nothing is too much, except your thinking that it’s too much.
Every time you are faced with a challenge, and you don’t know how to meet it, remind yourself you are just falsely believing it’s too much and then wait as the relief takes over.
1:06 The kids fighting, won’t do must do’s, resisting all commonsense suggestions, pushing back just to push back, etc.? What to do?
1:25 Let’s bring some understanding and relief to the belief, “It’s too much,” so we can fall back on our resilience.
1:50 The unsuccessful need to escape reality.
2:08 Lateral logic to dissolve the stressful belief.
Remember the box we called The Past? Use it on each mistake you made over the holidays and then move on to using these practices that cause wellbeing. A simple practice is to give 100% of your attention to watching as you get upset: watch the impatience, watch the anger and what it does, watch the hollerer as it comes out of you, etc.
They say it takes 10,000 hours of doing something to become a master at it. If you start this practice now, each time is one step closer to mastery.
Teach this to your kids so they master themselves early in life.
1:20 As always put your mistakes in The Past and move on.
1:34 Wellbeing, what is it?
2:10 Fast track to wellbeing: notice the upset and watch it, watch the tears as they fall, watch impatience, watch the anger make you act out, watch yourself holler, etc.
2:55 The know-it all won’t help, this will.
Family holidays bring connection, but they also bring train wrecks. What to do?
As always, bless yourself and others for their mistakes and move on.
Learn from the mistake and leave it in the past where it is. Journal about your part in the upset. Make an imaginary box at the entrance to your house called The Past and once you’ve learned something from an upsetting event, place it in the box.
Volunteering is vital. There is a Hindu proverb that goes something like this: help your brothers boat to the shore and yours arrives too.
Reassess your needs.
Learn something wonderful about your community, country or the world and share that on social media.
1:15 Bless the train wrecks (the mistakes) and move on down the track.
1:58 Learn from the mistake and leave it in the past where it is.
2:09 Journal about your part in the upsets. What do I need to do to help myself?
2:28 Make an imaginary box called The Past and use your imagination to dump upset feelings into the box but only do that once you have awareness about the situation because awareness is what changes us.
3:01 Volunteering: helps others fills us up.
3:25 Revisit you needs, are they reasonable, are they being met, will they actually help you.
3:33 Learn something wonderful about your community, your country, the world and share that with others (instead of gossiping, complaining or fear mongering—none of which are good for you).
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Oh boy, kids are home, spaces shrink, there’s more to do and organize and tempers can heat up and boil over faster than the potatoes on the stove for Christmas dinner. What to do?
Everyone needs a designated quiet space—the toilet seat will do. Everyone needs to have a list of needs. Everyone needs to limit screen time because connection doesn’t happen on the phone, so have lots of other games and hobbies available. Let kids Google fun activities—everybody participates for a half an hour in that activity. Make the list of consequences for disruptive behaviors beforehand and when the kids act out, with all the kindness you can muster and love in your heart, refer to the list. Let everyone be in charge of a meal and full clean-up. As a family make a list of chores for each member—everyone’s space is everyone’s responsibility. Invite everyone to think about and maybe even make up a new tradition for the holidays. Download the gratitude games from parent resources on www.thekidcode.ca
Bless everyone’s mistakes because there will be many of them and it’s easier to be kind than cruel when a mistake is made.
See the book, The Kid Code for more info or take one of the online classes. You can do so in the time it takes to have a coffee break! Nobody wants to be around bad behaviors and correcting them with consequences, kindly given, starts to dissolve them.
1:20 Quiet spaces for each person de-escalates trouble.
1:43 List of needs for each person.
2:05 Limiting screen time is a need so have lots of games and activities on hand.
2:20 Everyone chooses activities that every participates in.
2:30 List of consequences for disruptive behaviors that do need kind correction to help keep the peace and teach the child how to be in the world.
2:55 Let everyone be in charge of a meal and clean up and list of chores.
3:16 Make a new tradition for the holidays.
3:21 Downloads available for gratitude games and ideas.
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Keep your own side of the street clean (from AA). Saying you’re sorry to your kids when you misbehave does that.
Be your own street sweeper by watching your behaviors or making a list of them and then apologizing to your kids when they appear.
Tell your kids that you feel vulnerable and at the same time retain your parental authority.
This is freedom and family building.
1:34 Keep your own side of the street clean by saying sorry to your kids.
1:45 Become your own street sweeper (picking up and moving out all of your bad behaviors and instantly apologizing to your kids for things like: disrespecting them, controlling, hollering, criticizing, judging, etc.).
2:09 Make a list of how you don’t want to be treated…
2:24 If you have a hard time apologizing because you think it makes you vulnerable or bad in everyone else’s eyes, tell them that first. Yup, that’s right you spill it. You’ll feel free, you don’t have to give up your genuine peaceful authority, and everyone’s jaw will drop to the floor.
What does the word parent mean to you? All words are sounds with our own learned meanings attached to them. This podcast is an invitation for you to reinvent yourself—or not—by considering what a parent truly is and what kind of parent you want to be. And then you make it happen—little by little. The simple exercise in this podcast will help.
Get out a pen and paper and write The Kind of Parent I Want To Be on one side and The Kind of Parent I Am on the other. Then sit quietly for a minute and see that all the descriptions and behaviors under the list The Kind of Parent I am, if they’re negative, have never once delivered what they promised. Being overly excitable, hollering, hitting, judging, criticizing, etc. have never once delivered what they promised to.
This helps us correct our own parenting behaviors—the ones we don’t like!
1:06 The word ‘parent’ is a sound that has meanings attached to it.
1:35 Get out a pen and paper and make and label two columns: The Kind of Parent I Am, and The Kind of Parent I Want To Be.
1:45 Bless yourself for each thing you write under the column (if it’s negative): The Kind of Parent I Am. Say and feel the truth of the statement, I matter more than that parenting mistake. And then make it right as best as you can.
1:53 The main purpose is to show you what you can achieve as a parent.
1:10 Ask the simple question, of these negative ways of being in the world, “Has this behavior of mine ever delivered what it promised?”
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Sugar causes the crazies—but what to do? It’s my favorite food group.
I also recall seeing severe autism reduced to minor autism by cutting out all processed foods, including sugar. It was in a documentary and the child wouldn’t eat for nearly five days but when she did, she stopped her wild overreactions. Food matters and yet those foods that give us comfort also cause us discomfort—yes, life is full of paradoxes.
Kids will need a healthy body to do what they want: be a fireman, a teacher, an astronaut, a garbage collector, a restaurant owner, an electrician, a computer expert, a musician, etc. We can’t do what we love without a healthy body.
When you Google the phrase “How much sugar is in…” you will find…
Do an educational moment with your kids and sugar—more info in the podcast.
Do your best and make a couple of changes. We are all a WIP. It’s okay.
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/262978#breakfast-cereal
1:21: Autism and food
1:48 Why reduce sugar: we want the body to run like a Tesla not an old junker and it causes extra trips to the dentist, disease and makes us misbehave.
2:20: Google “How much sugar is in…”
2:23 When you Google that phrase you’ll find how much sugar is in a coke a chocolate bar, your favorite cereal, etc and you an compare and find replacements that you can enjoy
2:38 Put these foods on the counter and pour out the number of teaspoons of sugar in front of the box—the visual will help you want to make some small changes that reap big rewards.
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Pressure builds, like a volcano about to explode and as I’m fond of saying, you can’t put a lid on lava, so you want to keep the lava under control. You can help yourself by taking the pressure off every few minutes before it culminates in an explosion—try this simple strategy every day this week to help yourself be a calmer parent.
It’s called simple self-care.
1:27 One way to get calm: drop your shoulders, drop your thoughts, and sink into one conscious breath as it goes in and out of the body.
2:05 Examples of when to use this strategy when kids and partners are contributing to the explosion by pushing our buttons.
Hi peaceful positive parents. I noticed my last podcast was dry as dirt, but it also has a valuable place in our lives. If we use critical thinking we save ourselves a lot of trouble. Combine critical thinking with conscious feeling and right and wrong thinking before you make decisions, so you suffer less painful consequences!
1:20 Places you can use critical thinking are what area to move to if you’re considering a move, what is the best vehicle to buy for your family, whether or not to continue with medical decisions, etc.
1:47: If you train your mind to use information and data correctly you won’t have to suffer mistaken opinions.
2:08: Conscious feeling is becoming aware of how you feel inside. Simple. But not easy!
4:05: The clearer a human being is, the easier it is to ‘know’ or ‘feel’ the truth when you hear it.
4:25: Don’t fall into confirmation bias.
4:41: Right and wrong thinking.
5:09: Common sense.
If you can determine fact from fiction, you and your kids will be more confident in, and comfortable with decisions you need to make.
Our courts use a system to help determine the truth and I’ve included some of that in this podcast. You can use this process when determining your and your child’s health decisions or on any political or cultural issue that you are involved in.
1:35 The steps for critical thinking (collecting reliable, verifiable, credible data and information, asking questions and then assessing the information to make a decision.
2:15: Important ideas to convey to your kids: truth, openness, willingness, sharing information to spark conversation and revelation.
Our kids are going to be mini-me’s with some of their own character built in. Sadhguru teaches us to be like we want our kids to be. Spend a minute or two pondering that statement. To me it means if you want your kids to be kind, take every opportunity to be kind to yourself, them, and others. If you want them to be playful, play with them and drop seriousness when you can. If you want them to contribute instead of be entitled, be grateful for everything. Pick one of these, or one of your own try it for a week and see what happens! Listen for more.
1:27: What does spirituality mean?
2:03: How to get your kids to great human beings!
The Kid Code Playground Podcast
Air: October 25 2022
Title: Correcting a Child
Subtitle: For Your Mental Health & Their Happiness
Kids learn by nudging, pushing or smashing through boundaries, depending on their personality, so you already know that they are going to push every button you have.
1:29 We don’t want to act out when our kids do!
1:45 The mental awakening smack.
2:05 Correcting the child.
When you feel like you’re beyond being able to tolerate another of your kids shenanigans without you blowing a gasket, that’s your ego blowing it for you—that’s not your True Nature. Ego is the one who hollers at kids, lectures them to death and pushes them away with impatient disapproval.
2:25 So, when you feel any upset arises, remind yourself, I’m not being myself and try one of these anchors to your True Nature taught by Mooji:
2:38 Don’t log in.
3:16 Have you ever experienced inner power?
3:41 Remind yourself that your ego has come to tempt you .
4:03 Forfeit your peace for any reason?
4:08 Don’t give attention to the I, to the ego. Don’t be trapped by the mind.
5:20 Remind yourself that you’re going to watch the tyrant in your mind until it dissolves, instead of becoming one.
If you have any questions about this podcast or would like to request strategies to help specific problems with kids, email me at brenda@thekidcode.ca I’ll help if I can.
I know you don’t want to feel upset, troubled, challenged or at your wits end, so this podcast is designed to help you with a couple of quick ways to catch yourself before you react and one idea to calm you when you feel yourself start to sink down away from your good nature.
1:39 The first part of this exercise is to notice when you being to feel upset—become aware of it. Try these 3 tricks to help you notice the upset and switch gears into a mantra that calms the crazies.
- Stand on one leg—probably you won’t do that but it’s a good visual and cue to stop the overreaction.
- Imagine you have a stop sign on the palm of your hand and hold it up to your face.
- Failure to launch is your success.
2:45 As soon as you feel a bit calmer, here’s one idea to clear the toxic emotions and thoughts: do Ho’oponopono.
There is an ancient proverb that says we didn’t come here to teach our kids, we came here to love them; love will teach them.
To help with that understanding, all day long today, think about what it is you love about your kids. When they start to challenge you and you feel your voice rising or feel like you’d like to stomp your feet and pull your hair out, think of why you love them. That doesn’t mean they don’t need correction or consequences which knocks the entitlement we put in there—right out of them, it means that we catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
1:30: When kids are challenging us
1:42: A simple strategy to help you get to love before the hair pulling wins
Everything we do is towards our own and our kid’s wellbeing. We go to work to take what we get from that to provide wellbeing for ourselves. We call a friend, hoping that will result in the feeling of wellbeing. We parent, hoping for wellbeing for the whole family.
In this episode, discover one question to ask yourself every time you parent in a way that upsets you.
1:35 What we want.
2:15 One question that can dissolve negative parenting strategies (because they are not part of your nature).
This podcast is about what to do when you feel your kids needs or your own needs are a nuisance.
2:59 Pinpoint the upset
3:24 How to free yourself from the upset
Listen in to free yourself!
Today I want to talk about the symptoms of a difficult identity and offer a bit of help. No parent wants to think about their child being a victim, but we all carry the tendency that’s minor or major or somewhere in between.
2:05 – 4:47
- If you let a child get away with adopting victimhood as a way to experience life, it will become habitual.
- The symptoms of victimhood can include:
- Not wanting to go to school (and using physical or emotional pain as an excuse)
- Not feeling safe
- People pleasing so they don’t get bullied (but they get bullied anyway
- Feeling anxious
- Withdrawing
- When your kids don’t want to go to school and claim an illness, one thing you can do is…
- Parents often give in when their child is a victim…
- Don’t despair, it takes time to make these changes, and when you notice them, you can take pleasure in your peaceful, positive parenting style
In this short episode, you can learn how to instantly dissolve negative thinking and negative emotions.
Once you have the hang of it, you can teach it to your kids to knock them out of entitlement and into gratitude.
Every time you have a negative thought, turn it into a positive one—or find reality! For example, we can focus on being grateful for rain because the food we eat needs it, or focus on the plans we had and feel upset. This simple strategy neutralizes the identity that has ahold of us and is causing the negative experience and delivers us back to our innately grateful nature.
Find your own examples that feel true for you because that’s what causes relief from the pain of overreaction.
1:51 Neutralizing negativity
1:55 Examples: I wish it wasn’t raining.
I’m upset that they left an empty carton in the fridge.
I’m upset that they backtalk.
That driver is a threat because they’re speeding.
Do you ever wonder why you have to repeat yourself with kids? It’s because you haven’t made a lasting impression with them. Usually, it’s because you don’t want to be a nasty parent and impose rules and boundaries that might hurt their feelings—you want to be a nice parent (who ends up feeling bad due to yelling about whatever kids leave on the floor).
Do you a 3 minutes to listen to this podcast that will help you leave your emotions at the door while you make a lasting impression on your kids—for their, and your, benefit?
1:55 Don’t want to upset our kids
2:33 Reasonable and real consequences that make an impact
2:59 What to do when they leave their stuff in the doorway
As my husband says, gratitude spreads, so become a super spreader. We talked in the last couple of podcasts on gratitude that it has immense benefits for us personally, but it also has a beautiful, fulfilling ripple effect inside of us, and with others.
Excerpt from Grumpy to Grateful, Grow Your & Your Kids Grey Matter.
When Kids (Or Others) Won’t Do Must Do’s
Grumpy…
Do you have to cajole, bribe, demand, threaten, or manipulate in order to get your kids (or others) to do what needs to be done?
To Grateful…
Showing gratitude to your kids can improve their willingness to help over and above what we would generally expect by 50%.
As mentioned earlier, Harvard Health Publishing cites research from the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania who had two groups do fund-raising. One group did it the way they always had in the past and the other group received a “pep talk” from the director who told the fund-raisers she was grateful for their efforts and that group made 50% more fund-raising calls.1
What this tells us is that a little bit of gratitude goes along way. “Thank you for doing the chores,” vs. “It’s about time you did the chores.” Change your language, and you change your effectiveness and relationships.
1Harvard Health Publishing, Giving thanks can make you happier. August 14, 2021. Accessed February 12, 2022. https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier
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As Gregg Braden says in his video, you don’t have to go to Tibet to be monk-like! Right now, in your own home, you can be like a Tibetan monk, by using your breath and gratitude, to accomplish, on demand:
- Self-healing
- Improve immune function (SIGA response, white blood cells in your mouth)
- Improve awareness, intuition, and fast information retrieval
- Regulation of body temperature and production of anti-aging hormones
The simple practice below causes coherence and sends different, calming and healing chemistry to your brain.
- Gently touch heart to bring awareness to your heart.
- Do slow breathing, 5 seconds inhale, 5 seconds exhale (when we feel safe, we automatically breathe slower).
- Feel as though the breath is coming from the heart.
- Feel any one of the feelings that create 0.1 Hz: appreciation, gratitude, care, compassion.
- It takes 72 hours to build the connections so keep it up!
Braden, Gregg, Two Powerful Methods To Awaken Heart & Brain Connection, You Tube 18:04, July 14, 2021
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=gregg+braden+the+powerful+methods+to+awaken+heart+and+brain+connection+
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Today I have the pleasure of being with Jackie Bailey, author, radio host—and a parent and child educator.
She’s devoted to giving kids (and adults)—a more powerful voice. She’s going to share 5 rules of effective conversation you can use, and that you can teach to your kids because voice is valuable and powerful!
She offers summer camps, workshops, courses and more—to empower you and your kids!
2:50 Five rules of communication
Must listen to learn them!
For more information and to contact Jackie: https://jackiebailey360.com/
director@speakfeedlead.org
Today I am sharing some information that might interest you about the benefits of growing gratitude in your family. This is from our upcoming book that is designed to help parents live more of their day in the state of gratitude, even when kid-chaos is happening. Stay tuned next week for some easy strategies to dissolve grumpiness into gratitude in a heartbeat!
2:26 The amazing benefits of gratitude: dissolves toxic emotions, increase your immune system by 50%, feel happier, better relationships, lessens stress, anxiety and improves sleep (Gopi, my co-author says it’s like a sleeping pill for him!), improves productivity, etc.
5:10 Strategies: Jordan Peterson/self-regulation, Sadhguru “be how you want your kids to be.”
To help parents and kids with food and all the fun of culinary medicine we bring you, once again, Chef Dr. Mike. As you learned last week, he is a board-certified interventional cardiologist, professional chef, and Professor of Culinary Medicine at The University of Montana.
His children’s book, coming soon (see a pic of him below)—is an offering to parents and their kids to help them relate to fun characters who teach positive messages about food rather than kids adopting ‘brand loyalty’ to companies who produce food that is dangerous to our bodies.
A bonus in this segment: studies from Harvard show cooking healthy food one night a week affects kids food choices into adulthood.
1:05: There’s an adventure-bound fairy!—to the King and Queen, no less.
2:55: Brand loyalty….to processed food.
6:30: The annoyance factor…yes, our kids are exactly that in a grocery store and some food producers and marketers use it to their advantage.
7:40: Nurture your kids as they cook with you.
See more about Chef Dr. Mike’s children’s book:
www.joyoffairies.com
To help your heart burst with flavor, and much more, you can find out more information at www.ChefDrMike.com
P.S. Meet Windows DocLeaf!
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For an informative trip through the grocery store(y), we bring you Chef Dr. Mike. He is a board-certified interventional cardiologist, professional chef, and Professor of Culinary Medicine at The University of Montana.
Take a trip through the grocery store to see how to navigate it and come out as a modern-day hunter-gatherer with your cart piled high with foods that nurture you and your kids.
2:25: The crafty packaging!
3:23: The unhappy surprises in the outer aisles.
5:03: Thinking in categories.
5:28: Vegetarian…if it’s ultra-processed…maybe not.
12:12: Sugar, Salt & Fat…brain pleasure providers.
To help your heart burst with flavor, and much more, you can find out more information at www.ChefDrMike.com
Kim Muench, a Real Life Parenting Guide with a degree in psychology, author of the book, Becoming Me While Raising You, has some valuable tips for you to use with your teens and adolescent kids.
Kim shared why we shouldn’t be afraid of setting boundaries—or be afraid that our boundary’s might push their kids over the edge. Learn about non-negotiable boundaries and why they are important and how to navigate boundaries that your kids have some kind of ownership in—boundaries where they are not just being told what to do and what not to do.
Kim has 4 questions that help you as a parent come into awareness and give you relief for many of your parenting problems and patterns!
1:05: Non-negotiable boundaries & why.
5:05: Being flexible & when.
9:45: Natural life consequences can be enough when they break the non-negotiable boundary but there are times when consequences need to be imposed.
10:20: 4 Questions to bring relief to parenting problems or patterns.
Learn more or contact Kim here: reallifeparentguide@gmail.com
https://reallifeparentguide.com
Becoming Me While Raising You
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Welcome back! I’m with Michelle Willett, a Thought Transformation Coach who is sharing another couple of secrets today:
1:51: What is it inside of us that gets upset when a child spills their milk, or we’re called to the Principal’s office.
2:59: What is a pre-programmed idea and how can we know it’s appeared?
6:57: Stop the cycling of generational behaviors like abuse, etc.
Contact Michelle to buy her books, have a private session or get more information at: www.balanceyourpath.com
I’m here once again with Michelle Willett, who you met awhile back. She’s a Thought Transformation Coach who is sharing some secrets today: how do you STOP a negative thought or emotion (because they don’t care about you—as taught by Guy Finley).
2:53: Learn how to be aware of a thought so you can be in more control
3:39: 95% of the time we don’t recognize we’re drawing on pre-programming (from the past) in a current situation.
4:45: Remember, when we’re dealing with a child—we’re not dealing with an adult and we often expect them to act differently than any curious, boundary-discovering child is going to.
5:53 Have a token on you that reminds you that the child is just a child.
6:35: Show kids the fun side of the must-do’s.
7:20: Use video games: Mario’s World—clean and collect superpowers points!
Contact Michelle to buy her books, have a private session or get more information at: www.balanceyourpath.com
It’s my pleasure to be joined again by Michael, who is the founder of The Mindset Evolution Method® a simple, yet powerful interactive path helps parents get what they want in life!
14:17: The Mindset Evolution to make unconscious/subconscious changes
16:20 Transform the perception of the situation and the stress that’s felt (the child’s clothes on the floor might bring a big over-reaction but in reality it’s not a big event in the scheme of big events)!
1:59 Get some separation from the emotion so you’re calm and centered
4:02 Strategies like hollering don’t work for either the parent or the child because the child is not in a state to be impacted except by our overreaction
6:12 Free will, DNA, nurture vs. nature
7:02: Two ways to view the world
8:17 The (pre-installed) Mom Program
15:00: A parenting tool for you. Put rocks in a bottle and…listen for more!
To contact Michael:
https://memevolver.com
michael@memevolver.com
You Tube Interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbM3r0NJsiE
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It’s my pleasure to be joined by Michael today, who is the founder of The Mindset Evolution Method® a simple, yet powerful interactive path that has helped people from all walks of life begin to, and this is the most important part, see verifiable results in areas they've been stuck in for years, in just minutes! Getting unstuck is a big part of life!
Where’s the Manual for this thing we call parenting? How do we do it differently?
5:30: Consciously re-perceive ourselves: what do I need to believe to be a good mother or father?
6:13: When your toddler is screaming, put your oxygen mask on first
7:00: Triggers happens when the unconscious has been activated—takes us out of calmness and puts us in fright or flight
8:05 The pre-programmed manual kicks in to trouble
9:15 What are the symptoms of your programming
9:34: Mompetition: the comparison trap is programmed into us
11:20 Core beliefs determine our attitude in life, attitude determines behavior and behavior determines a result
12:45: What do you want instead?
To contact Michael:
https://memevolver.com
michael@memevolver.com
You Tube Interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbM3r0NJsiE
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Curt Jordan is a Childhood Educator with some simply profound ways to give your child security, and help teach them that making responsible decisions makes sense. He says that what you protect your children from you don’t prepare them for and what you prepare them for you can’t protect them from.
1:28: Navigating basic, often over-looked structures.
4:17: Protection and preparation and when to prove the weights over from protecting them to preparing them.
5:40: Making responsible decisions makes sense.
10:58: Security in your child.
For more information on Curt, his work, and a parenting course: Thriving Kids Parenting: www.kongacademy.org
Naomi is a Kid Code teacher who uses the strategies to keep peace in her heart and her house! Today she joins me to talk about lying and what you can do about it. Listen in to discover some fascinating discoveries about lying.
3:45: No punishment for lies
5:56: All about lying: why do kids lie & what to do when they do.
For more information on Naomi’s 90 Day Positive Parenting Program, which consists of thirteen 10-15 minute videos (one a week for 13 weeks!) for parents with kids ages 2 – 11 for $29.99, here’s the link: https://www.thekidcode.ca/master-course-landing-page/90-days-to-postive-parenting As Naomi says, you and your kids are worth it.
Lalaine, a Parenting Coach is here to talk to us about sibling relationships and other important parenting ideas that you can use today to improve the relationships in your home.
Lalaine’s going to talk to us about not comparing your kids, why rivalry is real, how to motivate your kids, how to get them to successfully be a part of the family team and how to let them fall down and fail so they become aware of their wisdom and resiliency.
2:48: Comparing kids doesn’t motivate them.
4:13: Praise isn’t always the answer.
5:21: The pressure of a label.
7:01: “Child of mine, what do you enjoy?”
7:25: Why sibling rivalry is real.
9:50: Family team: a two-year old can take napkins to the table and feel part of the team so that…
11:30: Failing is inevitable and produces resilience and wisdom.
Find out more about Parenting with Lalaine at:
https://www.instagram.com/parenting.with.lalaine/ and https://www.facebook.com/Lalaine.Parent.Education.Coach.
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Michelle Willett, a Thought Transformation Coach helps parents dissolve pre-programmed responses and think from a “mindful state of mind.”
Follow your gut means you need to listen to your emotions; they are your natural guidance system and they’ll guide you into good and bad feelings and places. When you learn to stop and take a minute—you put yourself back in charge!
80% of our thoughts are negative and they cause us to act and speak negatively. Practice stopping when a negative emotion or thought arises—the more we practice—the more power we have.
1:05 Follow your gut or your heart
2:10 How many thoughts a day? & 80% are negative! Yikes.
4:55 Negative emotions arise because of something I’m believing
5:45 Two paths
6:09 STOP
7:50 Don’t work on fixing the upset after, fix the cause
8:25 Help kids create how they are going to respond when they grow up
You can find Michelle and get her books at:
Authors page on Amazon
Website: Balance Your Path
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Michelle Willett, a Thought Transformation Coach joins us again to help parents dissolve pre-programmed responses and think from a “mindful state of mind.”
Want to learn something about thoughts and emotions? Pre-programming guides us 95% of the time. Ugh!
As children we had no control, so now we try to gain it, but we do it by losing control (overreacting with a child).
Learn about lies and where they come from.
1:05 What guides us 95% of the time
1:55 Tantrum moment
2:40 STOP
3:30 Where the thoughts & emotions come from
7:34 We search for power in memory instead of innate power
10:40 Emotions are so strong
11:25 Jordan Peterson, sit on your bed and ask yourself what’s wrong in my life, what’s my part
11:35 Use emotions as a guidance to help us see what needs to change inside of us
You can find Michelle and get her books at:
Authors page on Amazon
Website: Balance Your Path
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Michelle Willett, a Thought Transformation Coach helps parents dissolve pre-programmed responses and think from a “mindful state of mind.” Who doesn’t need that?
In this podcast, she has some ideas to share with you about how to transform your thoughts and emotions when there’s kid chaos all around you—so, if a child won’t do must do’s and your last nerve is screaming…this can help!
1:42: What is a Thought Transformation Coach.
1:50: 95% of thoughts are pre-programmed.
4:05: Negative emotions inside of us is not about the child, it just appears to be.
5:04: Questions to ask yourself after you head to another room!
8:05: Doing ‘must do’s’—life lessons that make life easier later on in life.
10:40: Getting a kid’s buy in!
10:55: Take 17 seconds!
You can find Michelle and get her books at:
Authors page on Amazon
Website: Balance Your Path
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Angie Patterson, photographer extraordinaire—tells us how photography connects kids to nature, to their parents and to their own creativity. It helps them with productive screen time, (vs. brain deadening screen time) they can use it as play time—it’s a peaceful outlet, it helps them use their imaginations, and gives them something positive to focus on.
Kids can use the camera to tell a story about a caterpillar’s journey, or for older kids, they can tell a story about friends, special events or even things in their rooms. If they are feeling stress, they can go and immerse in some peaceful time with their camera—take pictures of whatever resonates with them—they can even start with their own feet!
2:09 Why photography is good for your kids.
6:24 Storytelling with a camera.
7:30 Kids on a photo shoot!
8:40 Go high, low, and wide.
9:52 There are mirrors in the bathroom! Beware!
11:10 What to do with the kids photo masterpieces.
You can contact Angie or purchase her book (Making Photography Easy & Fun) here:
www.angiepattersonphotography.com.
Email: angie@angiepattersonphotography.com.
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Dr. Joanne Light holds a doctorate in education and her expertise is in helping parents with the difficult job of parenting tweens and teens.
She helps parents convert upsets into emotional intelligence with simple strategies anyone can learn in a minute and practice over a lifetime to find peace when parenting. She shares the value of listening, giving ‘emotional space’, becoming self-aware and much more! Have a listen.
2:05: Listening.
3:19: Become self-aware and deal with your big emotions so you can help them deal with their big emotions to grow resilience, grow confidence, and you—showing up.
4:10: Giving your kids emotional space, non-judgmental space when they mess up.
4:50: A connected parent has a happier relationship.
5:30: Emotional space.
8:35: Listening to yourself, digging down and really thinking.
8:50: Punishment is just more negative results.
9:30: Parents are close to the edge.
9:45 It’s okay to mess up and if you’re listening here, you’re trying to understand.
A free gift, access to her newsletter, and sign up for a complimentary session are available on her website: Joannehlight.com
Parents are welcome to email Joanne directly at:
Joanne@joannehlight.com
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This is our 3rd podcast with Lisa Sugarman a parenting author, a syndicated columnist, a radio show host, and—a mom—out of Boston.
Lisa’s work centers around the idea that we can all live a much more stress-free and joyful life when we learn to embrace our perfectly imperfectness. And that involves cutting ourselves and the people around us some slack and not being afraid to drop some balls once in a while.
She loves having organic and honest conversations about the benefits of positivity and the importance of letting go of pre-existing ideas and expectations. Because that’s how we create resilience and growth.
Today she talks about parenting as being a collaboration with our kids and leaves us with a few other tips, including, ‘attack the problem not the person’.
1:05 Parenting is a collaboration with your kids
3:29 Kids notice when we screw up and watch what we do about it
4:58 No value in instilling fear
8:21 Attack the problem not the person
7:44 Info on Lisa’s books
You can get more of Lisa’s sugar by signing up on her website at www.lisasugarman.com and that’s in the show notes.
You can find more information on her work and books and reach Lisa at:
lisasugarman@hotmail.com
www.lisasugarman.com
facebook.com/TheLisaSugarman
twitter.com/thelisasugarman
instagram.com/lisa_sugarman
linkedin.com/in/lisa-sugarman-16925b69
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I’m back with Lisa Sugarman a parenting author, a syndicated columnist, a radio show host, and—a mom—out of Boston.
Lisa’s work centers around the idea that we can all live a much more stress-free and joyful life when we learn to embrace our perfectly imperfectness. And that involves cutting ourselves and the people around us some slack and not being afraid to drop some balls once in a while.
She loves having organic and honest conversations about the benefits of positivity and the importance of letting go of pre-existing ideas and expectations. Because that’s how we create resilience and growth.
Today you can learn about the types of (unintentional) parenting: lawnmower, helicopter, & bulldozer—so you can re-evaluate and let your kids navigate through troubles. She discusses consequences and why you need to give yourself permission to screw up as a parent because we’re learning, right alongside our kids.
1:05 The types of parenting
3:14 Fending for themselves
4:00 What is and isn’t bullying
4:54 The consequences of entitlement
7:15 Give yourself permission to screw up
8:10 We’re learning to parent right alongside of our kids learning to be humans
11:02 Be intentional about your mistakes with your kids
You can find more information on her work and books and reach Lisa at:
lisasugarman@hotmail.com
www.lisasugarman.com
facebook.com/TheLisaSugarman
twitter.com/thelisasugarman
instagram.com/lisa_sugarman
linkedin.com/in/lisa-sugarman-16925b69
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Today I’m joined by Lisa Sugarman a parenting author, a syndicated columnist, a radio show host, and—a mom—out of Boston.
Lisa’s work centers around the idea that we can all live a much more stress-free and joyful life when we learn to embrace our perfectly imperfectness. And that involves cutting ourselves and the people around us some slack and not being afraid to drop some balls once in a while.
She loves having organic and honest conversations about the benefits of positivity and the importance of letting go of pre-existing ideas and expectations. Because that’s how we create resilience and growth.
Today’s she’s talking about the importance of listening, realize our expectations aren’t helpful, and the wisdom of letting them make their mistakes and seeing where to pivot from there.
4:55 Shut up and listen, stop being the one that needs to be talking!
5:49 Stop having expectations for yourself that yoy have to do everything right (that translates to swooping in and being hyper-obsessed with making the pathway (falsely) easier for our kids.
11:05 Ebb and flow within the idea of when to give opinions and when to let go. Let them make their own mistakes and have gained something and pivot in another direction.
You can find more information on her work and books and reach Lisa at:
lisasugarman@hotmail.com
www.lisasugarman.com
facebook.com/TheLisaSugarman
twitter.com/thelisasugarman
instagram.com/lisa_sugarman
linkedin.com/in/lisa-sugarman-16925b69
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I’m here once again with Michelle Willett, who as you know, spent more than a decade homeless on the streets of Los Angeles as a child. From her personal trauma she developed a system to help others create Wellness in Chaos. Her Mindfulness techniques are unconventional, unique and easy to apply to everyday life.
Michelle is a Thought Transformationalist, Co-Founder of Balance Your Path and Co-Author of The 5 Steps to Wellness Series.
And also!!! Michelle is offering 10 FREE copies of one of her books, The 5 Steps to Wellness Workbook to you, the listeners. If you email her through the contact page on the website or directly to contact@balanceyourpath.com with BRENDA in the subject line, she will select 10 listeners and send them a PDF version of the book complete with all the practice sheets.
In this podcast you can learn about:
…the evaluation process is simply setting your emotions aside for a moment and asking yourself pertinent questions about the situation.
…the feelings tent.
1:05 Setting emotions aside for a moment.
2:47 Teach your kids to do this.
3:35 ‘The tent’ keeps the feelings.
7:21 Your power lies in the way you process and handle information.
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I’m here again with Michelle Willett who, as you know, spent more than a decade homeless on the streets of Los Angeles as a child. From her personal trauma she developed a system to help others create ‘Wellness in Chaos’. Her Mindfulness techniques are unconventional, unique and easy to apply to everyday life.
Michelle is a Thought Transformationalist, Co-Founder of Balance Your Path and Co-Author of The 5 Steps to Wellness Series.
And also!!! Michelle is offering 10 FREE copies of one of her books, The 5 Steps to Wellness Workbook to you, the listeners. If you email her through the contact page on the website or directly to contact@balanceyourpath.com with BRENDA in the subject line, she will select 10 listeners and send them a PDF version of the book complete with all the practice sheets.
In this podcast Micelle is going to teach us how to teach our kids to communicate, set boundaries with peers, take fear out of the decisions, and help them create self-confidence—and talk about a couple of statements in her books!
1:45 Communicating
2:20 Boundaries and peer pressure
2:45 Celebrating them telling you what their truth is
5:15 Kids? Filter? Haha!
6:55 Stop handing out your power like a party favor.
10:20 Step into power or it we’re offering it up to give it away.
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I’m here today with a guest who has some hard-won and helpful wisdom. Michelle Willett spent more than a decade homeless on the streets of Los Angeles as a child. From her personal trauma she developed a system to help others create ‘Wellness in Chaos’. Her Mindfulness techniques are unconventional, unique and easy to apply to everyday life.
Michelle is a Thought Transformationalist, Co-Founder of Balance Your Path and Co-Author of The 5 Steps to Wellness Series.
And also!!! Michelle is offering 10 FREE copies of one of her books, The 5 Steps to Wellness Workbook to you, the listeners. If you email her through the contact page on the website or directly to contact@balanceyourpath.com with BRENDA in the subject line, she will select 10 listeners and send them a PDF version of the book complete with all the practice sheets.
In this podcast Michelle teaches us how to help our kids:
Learn about feelings
- Allow your kids to understand their own feelings by helping them find their own "Why's".
Teach your children about their personal power
- Allow them to make decisions but teach them how to look at all the options and consider the consequences before they make it
1::05 Homeless in Los Angeles
4:55 You Are Your Children’s First Teacher
6:02 Help Your Children About Feelings with the “Why” question.
8:55 Teenagers Sharing Their Feelings
9:55 Primal State is One of Well Being
10:25 Build Self-Confidence & Personal Power
10:45 Consequences…What Are They…And Then Decide.
You can find Michelle and get her books at:
Authors page on Amazon
Website: Balance Your Path
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Today we welcome Allison Jeffereys, a Divorce Coach, Motivational Speaker, and Author of the bestselling book “A Woman’s Guide to Surviving Divorce.” As a Divorce Coach, Allison helps women face their grief, fear, and loss to discover what happiness looks like for them, for their kids, and to live their lives on their own terms.
Allison’s Tips:
2:50: There is no “timeline” to the Divorce process.
3:25: This is the time to focus on and work on YOU!
4:15: On some level, we ARE okay.
4:55: The Guilt. We haven’t failed our children.
5:25: You only ever get one mother and one father, and you don’t have to choose.
You can find Allison at: https://isurvived.info
Do your kids tattle, stick their nose in their sibling’s business? Do you have one child is too judgmental, or does your child worry about what others think about them?
I’m here once with Amanda Miller, my daughter, who as you know from our last podcast together, has been studying and practicing health and well-being for the better part of her life. She is intrigued by the complexities of human behaviour and loves working with stressed out parents to uncover the psychological contributors that are causing parents to feel out of control and disappointed in their parenting experience.
Amanda is also a trainer for Kid Code teachers, along with Lasha Watson, so if you’d like to help parents, they can show you how to do that.
Today we are going to share the strategy in the book called Whose Business Are You In? which comes from Byron Katie’s work found at www.thework.com
2:40 How good it feels not to be in other people’s business.
2:35 When one child gets something.
5:04 The actual discomfort of being in someone else’s business.
5:35 Stop before you make a comment and see if that’s your business.
6:51 Advice giving.
8:30 When one child makes a judgment on another child.
10:05 Use it when someone is criticizing you.
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I’m honored to be joined by Gregory Newson, an accomplished artist, writer, and historian with a background that gives him a unique perspective on life!
I love the idea he puts forth—that it’s time to drop victimhood! And how to escape from political correctness and tribal politics. Yes please!
He embraced the Black Panther Party looking for role models. If you make your home a safe haven, your kids will look to you as the role model.
2:40: Toxic Parents, peer pressure, sound bites of hate from my community.
6:10: The Black Panthers as role models as so-called leadership.
8:03: Analyze yourself and talk to your child like you’d talk kindly to yourself, correct yourself—in a civilized way.
10:50: Stop being surface readers! Skin color doesn’t matter to the intelligent person who knows that what lies beneath the surface matters most.
Contact Gregory at: newsonpublishing.com
Title: Transform the Burden of a Secret, Part 2
Subtitle: Dissolve The Stress Around Secrets Without Telling The Secret
Show Notes
I’m back with Gina Nelson—an artist, writer, Energy Healing Therapist and Body Mind Counselor but most importantly, she is a mother of a 13-year-old son.
When Gina was experiencing some of her most debilitating and hidden experiences, she saw her need to become the Secret Keeper. Gina’s role is to educate and empower others to defuse and transform the energy of secrets so that each person has more energy and permission for their much-deserved joy seeking.
She hopes concepts shared during this podcast can create more self-compassion for parents and offer fun, useful tools for their children. Together we can teach ourselves and our loved ones to move away from shame and isolation and towards connection.
Gina offers us simple, but profound ways to dissolve the stressful energy around secrets. Please listen to the last podcast to learn what the S,E,C,R, and E mean in the word Secrets!
T: in the word Secret, the letter ‘t’ is to ‘tend to’.
S: Support system (great strategy for kids to learn who is part of them team—with a note by their bed!).
Gina’s upcoming book is called The Energy of Secrets, Ease the Burden of Your Secrets Without Having To Share Them.
Gina has also illustrated a book: We have created a picture book that is entertaining, teaches children how to express and deal with negative feelings, and demonstrates to parents how to assist their children in this process. A Garbage Can Day is the story of a boy who has a very bad day and thinks that he'll be sad forever. Playing the Garbage Can Day Game is the way he learns that he can choose another way. You can too! Come along on Jake's journey as he discovers the amazing power he has to recognize, share and learn how to change his emotions. One unexpected reaction from most adults with whom we have shared this story is that it seems to touch the child within and evoke memories long forgotten and often, unresolved. Many expressed that they wished a book like this had been available to them as children. We hope our story touches your heart.
Contact Gina at:
www.nurture3healing.com
gina.nurture3healing@gmail.com
Look for Gina’s SECRETS on her website: it’s a useful tool to discover healthier secret keeping for yourself and use to teach others.
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Today I’m pleased to introduce to you, Gina Nelson—an artist, writer, Energy Healing Therapist and Body Mind Counselor but most importantly, she is a mother of a 13-year-old son.
When Gina was experiencing some of her most debilitating and hidden experiences, she saw her need to become the Secret Keeper. Gina’s role is to educate and empower others to defuse and transform the energy of secrets so that each person has more energy and permission for their much-deserved joy seeking.
She hopes concepts shared during this and the second part of the podcast can create more self-compassion for parents and offer fun, useful tools for their children. Together we can teach ourselves and our loved ones to move away from shame and isolation and towards connection.
There are other things to do with secrets besides suffer! Gina offers us simple, but profound ways to dissolve the stressful energy around secrets.
4:20: S is for self-compassion.
5:50: E is for everybody has secrets—we can normalize it.
5:31: C is for connecting (with your own children to teach them it’s okay to have a secret and they don’t have to tell it).
7:40: R is for relationship to secrets (things you can do in that relationship to help yourself).
10:03: E is for energy feeling (starting to feel it).
Listen to next week’s podcast to learn more about dissolving the stress around secrets!
Gina’s upcoming book is called The Energy of Secrets, Ease the Burden of Your Secrets Without Having To Share Them.
Gina has also illustrated a book: We have created a picture book that is entertaining, teaches children how to express and deal with negative feelings, and demonstrates to parents how to assist their children in this process. A Garbage Can Day is the story of a boy who has a very bad day and thinks that he'll be sad forever. Playing the Garbage Can Day Game is the way he learns that he can choose another way. You can too! Come along on Jake's journey as he discovers the amazing power he has to recognize, share and learn how to change his emotions. One unexpected reaction from most adults with whom we have shared this story is that it seems to touch the child within and evoke memories long forgotten and often, unresolved. Many expressed that they wished a book like this had been available to them as children. We hope our story touches your heart.
Contact Gina at:
www.nurture3healing.com
gina.nurture3healing@gmail.com
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Today I’m here with Janna Glassman, a Kid Code teacher, and Franklin Method Instructor, and she’s going to share with us how to help yourself in an upset, so you can help your kids.
What to do when your kids are freaking out and there is nothing to do that will help them? Take a gentle ‘parent time out’. Listen to Janna to learn how!
2:35: Take a time out when your kids are freaking out.
4:17: Can’t always get a child to self-regulate, but we can always self-regulate back to our nature.
7:03: Going out the door and the upset happens (not time for a parent time out) regulate breath or do The Turnaround to disrupt where your mind is going.
9:09: Use all the strategies to get calm yourself.
10:28: I need a moment (Suzi Lula, self-care expert).
11:47: Self-regulation feels so much better than punishing.
12:57: I don’t have to get mad (in the middle of a kid’s madness).
Do your kids have boundary issues, get a bit manic or cave to peer pressure? Here’s how to help them stay in a calm, clear state of mind.
Amanda Miller, my daughter, has been studying and practicing health and well-being for the better part of her life. She is intrigued by the complexities of human behaviour and loves working with stressed out parents to uncover the psychological contributors that are causing parents to feel out of control and disappointed in their parenting experience.
Amanda shares with you how to get your kids to get the attention they really want using the strategy in the book called Am I Being Me?
3:05 When kid’s behaviors aren’t getting them the attention they want.
5:35 What do you need and is there a better way to get it?
6:45 Do you feel natural, like yourself.
8:00 Taking it too far…peer pressure.
9:17 As parents do we really need any attention or if we are in our nature do we have everything we need.
For your health & dining pleasure, we bring you Chef Dr. Mike. He is a board-certified interventional cardiologist, professional chef, and Professor of Culinary Medicine at The University of Montana.
Learn simple changes that include:
- having your kids help you in the kitchen
- check for non-GMO labels
- put the package back on the shelf if it has more than 5 ingredients
- and—why our attention is like a pizza!
3:17: be proud of this, instead!
4:35: when kids cook, they reap benefits into their adulthood
5:22: 4 simple things to remember
7:47: attention is like a pizza
8:14: shift from mindless eating to focus and give a moment of thanks: the attitude of gratitude—shifts us from reward center to a center of love and that reduces inflammation!! Be there (with every bite) for the whole pizza!
To help your heart burst with flavor, and much more, you can find out more information at www.ChefDrMike.com
Please welcome Naomi Barr, wife, mom and Kid Code Teacher and she’s here today to talk about a strategy called ‘I am That’.
Nobody wants negative emotions, and they don’t have to have them (for long). Naomi explains how to stop kids from fighting and accusing each other in order to restore peace in your home in seconds!
You’re invited to take a class on this subject with Naomi on the kid code website—strategies that work for busy parents because you can learn one in the time it takes to have a coffee break. www.thekidcode.ca
What is I Am That: 1:40
Kids Accusing Each Other: 2:05
Kids Have Compassion For Each Other: 6:45
Deborah Myers is the founder of Health at Your Fingertip. She graduated as a certified acupressurist from the Acupressure Institute in Berkeley, California. She then pursued training under well-respected Jyutsu masters, and you’ll soon see how she’s committed to share what she has learned to help you.
Deborah shares how to use these fingertips we’ve come equipped with to connect with our energy and help it move us to calmness, clarity and all those other states we love.
Learn that a simple self-hug helps lungs, breath, heart and—how that gives a message to your body that you are taking care of it. When you give yourself love and compassion, that’s what it will give back to you!
Acupressure de-stresses and re-patterns your body so it doesn’t automatically jump to the stress response unnecessarily. Yes, please.
Are your kids listening? Invite them to follow along!
Deborah has three books to help, parents, kids, and teachers—available on Amazon:
Easy Self-Help Acupressure for Kids and Parents:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B077TJ5WPS/
Easy Self-Help Acupressure for Students and Teachers:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B077TG3QT7/
Easy Self-Help Acupressure for Grown-Ups:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B077TGL9ZG/
School program information:
https://www.deborahmyerswellness.com/productive-mindfulness-school-program/
More information about the self-help video and her books (links to Amazon for the books):
https://www.deborahmyerswellness.com/easyselfhelpacupressur
Her upcoming Workshop information:
https://www.deborahmyerswellness.com/presentations_workshops/
Blog:
https://www.deborahmyerswellness.com/2021/10/
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The Highlights
The Body You Walk Around in Is Your House: 3:45
Teachers Can Teach Their Students (from her 6-minute animated video): 5:45
1st Step (Acupressure ‘hug’): 6:30
Jumper Cables to ‘Jump Start’ the mind and body: lose worry, fear, anger, sadness, and trying (letting go of it): 8:20
Projects Instead of Problems: 12:29
How to Get a Good Sleep: 12:40
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Naomi Barr teaches a simple strategy, taught by Guy Finley, a spiritual teacher, that only takes a few seconds to dissolve the stress you feel come up in you when you think about someone else’s problem. The bonus with this one is that you lose the stress and gain connection to the other while the problem recedes to the background, sometimes leaving space for a solution to pop to mind!
How To Use The Strategy: 1:45
Example of Using it: 5:08
Yup! You Can Use It to Dissolve Stress About the Dishwasher: 6:12
No More Replaying Upsetting Events: 8:35
Louise Sevigny is an entrepreneur, mom, wife, Reiki Master, and Kid Code Teacher who is here to share a strategy called ‘Give the Kids the Floor’.
Guy Finley teaches the two most spiritual words you’ll ever hear, Shut. Up. Louise explains why and what happens when you get this little secret!
Louise teaches (in the time it takes to have a coffee break) pre-recorded classes to help parents achieve their goal of being a peaceful positive parent on www.thekidcode.ca
Give The Kids The Floor: 2:05
Two Most Important Words You Can Ever Say To Yourself: 2:38
Result of Those Words: 4:50
Drop Into Your Heart: 5:23
I Gave Ruby the Floor: 6:35
Step Back, Learn & Hear: 9:05
Kim Sorrelle is an entrepreneur, director of a non-profit organization, breast cancer survivor, author, mother, grandmother, and a lover of all people. While working in Haiti, she dedicated a full year to figure out the true meaning of love. A daunting, sometimes scary, sometimes funny task that she writes about in her book, "Love Is."
Kim shares how to use ‘love is patient’ by noticing that if impatience shows up, we need to just take the moment to practice ‘love is patient’.
“The more we do it better, the more we’ll want to do it better, the better we’ll become at it.”
“Should you be angry with yourself. Impatient with yourself. How much energy do you want to give that?” None—thank you, Kim.
See below for her book link and how to contact her.
2:17 Love is Freedom
2:55 Love is Patient
5:05 Pulling on Apron Strings
6:05 Getting Out The Door On Time
7:15 Frustration Isn’t Love
9:50 This Isn’t Love
11:05 Turning Love is Patient To You
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Gopi Nair is a Gratitude Practitioner (have you ever heard of anything so wonderful?)—and teaches the seven virtues of gratitude. Learn a simple but powerful 30 second gratitude prayer that even a five-year-old child can do to make your day better and help you sleep better when you do it just before bed.
Gopi says that gratitude is a celebration of life and irons out the negativity, judgment and blame in us. Once you start celebrating your life, nothing will bother you. Yes, please!!
Importance of Gratitude: 2:13
Daily Gratitude Practice: 3:10
Negativity: 5:24
Ego is Contained with Gratitude: 7:32
Entitlement and Bird Poop: 9:01
Respect: 11:27
Gopi’s Gratitude Journal to learn the 7 virtues of gratitude, and start your journal, is available on Amazon.com https://www.amazon.com/Gopis-Gratitude-Journal-Gopi-Nair/dp/1641336536/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=gopi%27s+gratitude+journal&qid=1636657259&sr=8-2
Barnes & Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/gopis-gratitude-journal-gopi-nair/1140142989
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Louise Sevigny is an entrepreneur, mom, wife, Reiki Master, and Kid Code Teacher who is here to share a strategy taught by Guy Finley, Spiritual Teacher, called “The Y”.
She shares how she uses this simple strategy to bring anyone into calmness when an upset arises. This strategy is especially good for helping our kids self-regulate—which creates connection and reduces stress for them and us!
Louise teaches pre-recorded classes to help parents achieve their goal of being a peaceful positive parent on www.thekidcode.ca
What is “The Y”: (3:11)
Support Our Kids in Their Own Wellbeing: (5:25)
Parent/Child Relationship: (6:00)
Happy Street or Mad Street: (7:49)
How To Use “The Why”: (10:24)
Julie Veresh, Founder of Innate Dynamics, Intuitive Coach & Kid Code Teacher enlightens us about how to put our swords down during a power struggle with our kids so we can take a ‘mommy minute’ and self-regulate back to sanity—and bring that serenity back to the conversation with a child.
The Strategy: Power Struggles: (2:45)
Rising Above Tension: (3:39)
The Dunce: (4:05)
The Mommy Minute: (5:35)
Swords are Down: (6:35)
Time Out & Time In: (8:45)
Behavior: That’s Not You: (10:35)
Why Do We Want Control Over Someone: (11:05)
True Power is Peaceful: (11:40)
In this interview with Lasha Watson, Kid Code Instructor/Teacher, Entrepreneur, Mom & Wife, you can learn how to use the strategy called ‘Attitude or Gratitude’ in The Kid Code.
Life is like a vending machine—what you put in; you get out. If you put in attitude, you get misery out. If you put in gratitude, you get joy out.
Lasha shares how their family re-wires, reframes and dissolves tension when attitude arises by naming three things they are grateful for. To encourage the kids to participate, she often shares with her kids, what she’s grateful for in her kids. The exercise skips blaming and jumps right into joy—the place we all want to be!
Because our work is about well-being, it’s good to ask kids how they want to feel when they’re done a fun activity—do they want to feel the same way when they’re done the activity as they felt when they started it (like watching TV). This helps them realize that they can self-regulate back to their nature and can skip the painful step of having a hissy fit!
To take Lasha’s Kid Code courses online—in the time it takes to have a coffee break—www.thekidcode.ca
Intro: (1:04)
How Lasha uses the strategy with her teens when attitude arises: (2:10)
Kids watching tv: self-regulating back to their nature: (5:31)
Use gratitude every morning to initiate your day: (9:04)
Dissolve the tension attitude creates by using this strategy: (9:58)
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:In this podcast you will hear a heart-opening reminder of how you want to send your kids out into the world.
I also share one simple life-altering strategy that helps calm the pandemonium in the pandemic. This strategy works on everyone in the house to bring them back to calmness.
(1:04) Echoes of Love
(9:45) Solitude as a solution
In this podcast, there is a recap the connection-creating, stress-reducing Kid Code strategy called Blessing Mistakes with more ideas for Post It Notes around the house to reduce stress when a mistake happens.
There are so many good reasons to intervene with a peace-keeping strategy any time a stressful or negative state appears: one study shows that if kids had a wish, they’d wish their parents were less tired and stressed. Another shows that 1.6 million kids have behavioral problems. If there is a way of out stress the moment it appears, why wouldn’t we take it? If we stay stressed out, we’re no good to ourselves or our kids. It fractures relationships.
Everyone knows about the breath as a strategy to bring about calmness, but did you know that many Yogi’s say if you slow down and deepen your breath, you live longer? And when you get curious about what’s going on inside of you in an upset and ignore the outer world for a minute, and then add gratitude for the breath (we’re alive!), problems disappear, and solutions appear.
Recap Blessing Mistakes: (2:13)
Post It Notes around your house: (2:42)
Stress is optional: (3:25)
Coherence: (5:24)
Ellen Galinsky, kids wish about parents: (6:00)
Dr. Joe Dispenza: (6:37)
Behavioral disorders: (7:38)
A strategy to bring about calmness: (10:45)
Connect with Brenda Miller:
- Kid Code
- Email: brenda@thekidcode.ca
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Kids make a lot of mistakes and regularly push our buttons—but it doesn’t need to lead to chaos!
As a parent, you have two options—you can either use a peace-keeping strategy in these situations to get ‘right now relief’ in an upset with your child or you can get sucked into the stressful chaos that drains your energy and fractures one of the most important relationships we have, the one with our kids. We all want positive parenting because we know it provides the biggest opportunity for us to guide, listen, and love.
My name is Brenda Miller and I welcome you to this first episode of the Kid Code Playground podcast where you’ll hear some simple strategies to help you achieve a peaceful parenting experience by dissolving stress every time an upset arises. I’ll share with you some important parenting tips that will help you on the journey to achieving harmony-filled relationships—and I’ll invite you to consider something few people know—the true cause of, and the guaranteed cure for stress!
Tune in and join me on the journey to peaceful parenting!
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
- Why you should give others Grace and not grief when a mistake is made (04:45)
- The two states that operate human beings (05:13)
- Why stress is optional (07:06)
- A feel-good strategy to dissolve stress the moment it arises (08:50)
Connect with Brenda Miller:
- Kid Code
- Email: brenda@thekidcode.ca
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