The Menfulness Podcast: Recent Episodes
Menfulness
Thanks for being here, we're chuffed you found us!
Menfulness is a men's wellbeing charity run by 5 blokes in York. #DontManUpSpeakUp has become our mantra and what better way to honour that than by sharing our conversations with you!
Expect stigma-breaking, life affirming conversations where we will lead with honest vulnerability in a bid to understand what's going on with us, why don't we talk more and what are we going to do about it?
If you enjoy the podcast please do tell someone about it and if you've got any ideas or think you'd be a good guest then give us a shout!
TRIGGER WARNING: Suicide/Grief
It's International Women’s Day and we are glad to be joined by Victoria and Alex of the Charlie Dallas Lancaster Foundation. Two women who have been instrumental in the Menfulness journey and two sisters dealing with the tragic loss of their brother Charlie to suicide in August 2020.
We talk about what it was like to lose Charlie, how being sisters allowed them to relate to the grief they felt and how they have found purpose in helping other people and building a legacy for their brother with their foundation in his name..
As you might expect from the title this episode discusses grief and suicide and is upsetting at times, but as is always the case, it’s also heartwarming and inspiring story with a few giggles along the way.
Don't forget to have a look at the links below and if you’re feeling suicidal remember you are not alone. As well as organisations like the Samaritans (who you can call 24/7 on 116 123), there’s groups like ours here at Menfulness where we have members like Frankie who was suicidal himself and now has a zest for life which is absolutely infectious. There is hope so just take it one day at a time and remember, you are of value, things can get better and it’s OK to ask for help.
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LINKS:
Samaritans: https://www.samaritans.org/
Charlie Dallas Lancaster Foundation: https://cdlf.uk/
There She Glows: https://theresheglows.salon/
Al Chambers Podcast: https://youtu.be/SZrgKLywJQs
Frankie's Podcast: https://youtu.be/8vKSfWd_UVw
Lester Films: https://studio-lester.com/
CDLF Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCP8EXLbv1e4j61xMHm7pI2w
ASIST Training York Mind: https://www.yorkmind.org.uk/corporate-wellbeing/training/courses-available/asist-suicide-prevention-training/
Zero Suicide Alliance Training: https://www.zerosuicidealliance.com/training
The Jordan Legacy: https://thejordanlegacy.com/
Jordan Legacy Radio: https://thejordanlegacy.com/jordans-space/
Thirsk Yarnbombers: https://visitthirsk.uk/pages/yarnbombers.php
FOR THE RECORD
😀 - Eminem - Lose Yourself - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Yhyp-_hX2s
🙁 - Billie Eilish - listen before i go - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4z1O3miesI
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MENFULNESS MERCH - https://menfulness.myshopify.com/
The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
The first Menfulness Video Podcast! All five Menfulness trustees (From left to right) Mike Hewitt, Matty Lewis, Sam Watling, Dan Braidley and Jack Woodhams, answer questions from charity members and the public about what Menfulness means for them and what it takes to run a growing charity supporting men with their mental and physical health. MENFULNESS MERCH - https://menfulness.myshopify.com/The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Today we speak to Mark Sullivan. Mark is an Army veteran, turned Personal trainer, turned University Lecturer. His path through the Army is a fascinating one eventually leading to a role in the TV series Lads Army and career defining moments as part of the Queen’s bodyguard for Her Majesty’s funeral and King’s Bodyguard for his Majesty’s coronation. This conversation is full of insight on life, fitness and the importance of discipline, integrity and looking after other people. Mark may be retired but he’s still running marathons and working for the sovereign. His energy and relentless service was an inspiration for me and I hope it is for you too.
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LINKS:
LAD'S ARMY SEASON 1 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XgWwUX2bcMs
BAD LAD'S ARMY - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-cRJXhYSn4&t=387s
FOR THE RECORD
😀 - Elton John - Your Song - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CrznwpD-2tk
🙁 Led Zeppellin - Stairway To Heaven - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QkF3oxziUI4
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MENFULNESS MERCH - https://menfulness.myshopify.com/
The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Bereavement/Anxiety/Suicide
Content Warning - Swearing
Today we're lucky enough to have Al Chambers with us. Al is owner of Legions Gym and runs the monthly Menfulness Boxing sessions. He's a boxing coach, a counsellor, a father of three and an all round lovely bloke.
Al shares how he has built his business from a dream up, the importance of learning how to lose well, and how he's created a community around Legions. He also talks about his experiences of anxiety, processing death and how all these things have made him the leader he is today.
It's a fascinating conversation with a humble but inspiring man. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
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LINKS:
PHOENIX TRAINING + COUNSELLING - https://wearephoenixtraining.co.uk/
LEGIONS GYM - https://www.legions-gym.co.uk/
RICKY HATTON DOC - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Pk5affTu0E
HOW TO FAIL PODCAST - https://www.elizabethday.org/podcasts
HEDONIC ADAPTATION (LOTTERY WINNERS/ACCIDENT VICTIMS) - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedonic_treadmill
CHARLIE DALLAS LANCASTER FOUNDATION - https://cdlf.uk/
ONE MORE DAY - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJetTUVyl_U
FOR THE RECORD
😀 - Gerry Cinnamon - Sometimes - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=At3xXBEy4n4
🙁 - Stereophonics - Local Boy in the Photograph https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VHTOsW9LrA
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MENFULNESS MERCH - https://menfulness.myshopify.com/
The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Depression/Anxiety/Suicide
Content Warning - Swearing
Today we speak to Chris Klays who is Systems change lead for mental health charity York Mind. Chris talks to us about his chat chit podcast (see below for links), why pigeons and jam can both be good for your mental health and how his role involves working with young people to figure out how they want to look after their mental wellbeing.
Chris also talks about the challenges he has faced with his own mental health since he was in his teens and how that's helped shape the work he does today. We talk about mental health in the workplace, things we might do to stay well and what it was like interviewing his mum on his podcast.
It was absolutely lovely to speak to Chris, thanks to him and Mind for all the amazing work they do helping people and please do go and check out the chat chit podcast, available in the usual places after this episode. We do touch on a few triggering topics such as depression, anxiety and suicide but we hope you'll agree that it's an uplifting and honest conversation with a true gent. Enjoy.
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LINKS:
THE CHAT CHIT PODCAST -
https://www.yormind.org.uk/chat-chit-podcast/
YORK MIND -
https://www.yorkmind.org.uk/
CHAT CHIT WITH CHRIS AND HIS MUM -
https://open.spotify.com/episode/7hzdcE7QYdG4fFg3m6Zstj?si=8mAf3diSS4yGUCHyoVlCMg
YORK MIND KNOWLEDGE HUB -
https://www.yorkmind.org.uk/corporate-wellbeing/knowledge-hub/
THE STRANGER - ALBERT CAMUS -
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/49552.The_Stranger
FOR THE RECORD
Ludovico Einaudi - Nuvole Bianche https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4VR-6AS0-l4
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MENFULNESS MERCH - https://menfulness.myshopify.com/
The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Suicide/grief loss
Content Warning - Swearing
We've got the lovely Leo for you in today's conversation. We discuss what ADHD has meant for him, both now since his recent diagnosis but also how that's factored into understanding his life as a whole. We hear about how it's affected his relationships and education as well as his feelings of alienation in a world not always geared up for neurodiverse people.
As always we get honest insight into the mind of one of our members, as well as hearing how he copes, what's coming next for him and as always, what's at the top of his playlist.
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LINKS:
MENFULNESS HAPPY PLAYLIST - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0V21LpwpH4neT2NrP8KjVw?si=7f3577bdaf7d4308
MENFULNESS MERCH - https://menfulness.myshopify.com/
BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT - https://www.thecalmzone.net/guides/grief
ADHD FOUNDATION - https://www.adhdfoundation.org.uk/
ADHD UK - https://adhduk.co.uk/
FOR THE RECORD
😃 - Diana Ross - I'm Coming Out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F-mjl63e0ms
🙁 - The Cure - The Same Deep Water As You
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V35cxutR7gc
Mac Miller - NPR Tiny Desk Concert
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrR_gm6RqCo
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Suicide/child bereavement
We're glad to have Isa Celik with us for today's episode. He tells us about what Menfulness means to him, as well as taking us on his journey from growing up without power or water in the mountains of Turkey, to now running his own tile restoration business and how those experiences have shaped who he is and how he parents.It's a fascinating chat with a true ray of light and we hope you enjoy it.
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LINKS:
MENFULNESS MERCH - https://menfulness.myshopify.com/
CDLF - https://www.cdlf.uk/events/
BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT - https://www.thecalmzone.net/guides/grief
OPUS TILE RESTORATION - https://www.facebook.com/OpusTile/
GUILDHALL TILE RESTORATION BBC - https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1068951580528181
BUILDERS TALK GROUP - https://builderstalkgroup.com/
TILERS COMMUNITY - https://www.facebook.com/groups/259041332363551/
LIGHTHOUSE CONSTRUCTION GROUP - https://www.lighthouseclub.org/
ISA PODCAST (DON'T TOUCH THE CAT) - https://shows.acast.com/donttouchthecat/episodes/12-isa-celik
FOR THE RECORD
Lighthouse Family - Lifted
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Suicide attempts/eating disorders/bereavement/alcohol misuse/drug misuse/abuse
Content Warning - Swearing/Assault
DONATE TO MENFULNESS YORK 10K - https://justgiving.com/campaign/Menfulness10K2023
Today we're talking to Adam Pike. This episode was originally recorded to be released during alcohol awareness week as we delve into Adam's experiences of addiction, relationship breakdown, physical injury and pain. While we cover a lot of heavy topics which might be triggering for some, it's a hopeful conversation with lots of wisdom and learning from Adam who is now helping others with their challenges.
If you're looking to adjust your relationship with alcohol then have a look at https://www.lowermydrinking.com/ to compare your consumption to the national average and find out what support is near you.
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LINKS
MENFULNESS MERCH - https://menfulness.myshopify.com/
YORK HEALTH TRAINERS - https://www.york.gov.uk/CYCHealthTrainers
SUICIDE SUPPORT - https://www.samaritans.org/
EATING DISORDER SUPPORT - https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/
BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT - https://www.thecalmzone.net/guides/grief
DRUG AND ALCOHOL SUPPORT - https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/recreational-drugs-alcohol-and-addiction
YORK DRUG AND ALCOHOL SERVICE - https://www.changing-lives.org.uk/find-support/york-drug-and-alcohol-services
BRENE BROWN ON EMPATHY - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw
JOHANN HARI - ADDICTION - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=diZe29kLMqM&t=380s
BOOKS:
ADRIAN CHILES - THE GOOD DRINKER - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/62965796
JOHANN HARI - LOST CONNECTIONS - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/36979438-lost-connections
GABOR MATE - THE MYTH OF NORMAL - https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/
FOR THE RECORD
HAPPY
Toto - Africa - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTQbiNvZqaY
SAD
Crosby, Stills and Nash - Southern Cross - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3kImL2gDkI&t=38s
Dan Fogelberg - Leader of the Band - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qsocZrEcp0Y
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Poverty/Self Harm/Bereavement/Suicide
Content Warning - Swearing
Introducing Adam Jones in this huge and brilliant episode! Adam talks about his upbringing, from living in poverty in rural Northumberland, making friends at Leeds Uni into employment, relationships and parenthood. Adam's a wonderful speaker and paints a vivid picture of his childhood as well as how he came to love the natural world. We hear about his mental health journey including experiencing anxiety and panic attacks. We also find out how he's coping with supporting his autistic brother and his mother who lives with Parkinson's and Lewy Body Dementia.
It's an emotional conversation but it's a hopeful and ultimately positive one too.
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LINKS
PARKINSONS SUPPORT - https://www.parkinsons.org.uk/
HELP FOR SELF HARM - https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/self-harm/getting-help/
AUTISM - https://www.autism.org.uk/
POVERTY ADVICE - https://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/poverty
MUSIC FOR PLANTS - https://pplprs.co.uk/benefits-music/how-music-and-nature-harmonise/
ALL IN THE MIND - https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b006qxx9
Adam's For the Record:
Happy
Jimmy Eat World - The Middle - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oKsxPW6i3pM
Sad
Radiohead - True Love Waits - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02nS2EC35go
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Eating Disorder/Self Harm/Bereavement
Content Warning - Swearing
Simon Long joins us for Part Two of the LONGest podcast yet and we're honoured to hear him speak. In this episode we learn about the breakfast club he’s running for us, as well as so much more of Simon’s story including why Menfulness is so important to him. It's a brave conversation and we touch on some triggering topics including eating disorders, self harm and bereavement, so bare that in mind before getting into this if you’ve got something going on right now. This is a really emotional one at times, but there’s also plenty of hope, we talk counselling, Mental Health First Aid and music, with all Simon’s 'For the Record' selections in here too.
Visit https://menfulness.org/podcast if you want to hear those playlists or apply to come on this podcast, we would love to hear your story too.
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LINKS
BEAT - UKs Eating Disorder Charity - https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/
HELP FOR SELF HARM - https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/feelings-symptoms-behaviours/behaviours/self-harm/getting-help/
Donate to Poppy's Trust - https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/poppystrust?utm_term=4gqBj8aGK
Diary of a CEO w/ Mel C - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfzFFQgG2zU
Sigmund Freud - Theory of Psychodynamics - https://www.simplypsychology.org/psychodynamic.html
Simon's For the Record:
Happy
Cat Burns - People Pleaser - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPWwfDHwACA
Harry Styles - Treat People With Kindness - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L0X03zR0rQk
Paul Simon - You Can Call Me Al - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uq-gYOrU8bA
Sad
The Lunar Year - Boys Will Cry - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJnIkSpXEp0
Billy Lockett - Don't Be So Hard on Yourself - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7lTSt8GELQA
Marcus Mumford - You'll Never Walk Alone - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JoSsTXahPA8
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Suicide
Content Warning - Swearing
Simon Long joins us for part one of the LONGest podcast yet! Simon is a Menfulness expert. He’s been to pretty much all our events, runs a few himself and is an all round lovely chap. This turned into such a long one we decided to split it half! This first episode is going to be great if you’re interested in what we do, what our events are like or how to get involved as well as getting to know Simon. Please be aware we do talk briefly about suicide later in the conversation. We also hear a bit about Simon’s experience and start to learn about how he's now training to help others who are struggling too. Part 2 coming soon!
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Simon's Music
Cat Burns - People Pleaser - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPkuTVQAIiM
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Bereavement
In this episode we learn from Professor Paul Galdas. He’s a professor of Nursing at the University of York who has spent most of his working life focused on improving men's access to healthcare. He’s currently got funding from Movember to work on research in Behavioural Activation for men in frontline roles in the NHS. We hear about his important work, talk about what it means to be man and what it’s like in the Movember Head Office in Australia. We also get to hear some of his story too. Like all of us do, he’s got his own experience of bereavement and mental health challenges and we’re honoured to have him share it all with us here, on the Menfulness Podcast.
The BALM Project (Behavioural Activation - https://balmprogramme.co.uk/project-details
Movember - https://uk.movember.com/
Paul’s Links:
'Untold: Breaking Point' - Mardy Fish Documentary - https://www.netflix.com/gb/title/81026434
Children's Assumptions of Gender Roles - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G3Aweo-74kY
University of York's Mental Health Society - https://yusu.org/activities/view/mental-health-awareness-society
The Confidence Gap - Russ Harris - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/9245232
The Compassionate Mind - Paul Gilbert - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6372017-the-compassionate-mind?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_23
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Paul’s For the Record:
Lady Blackbird - Woman - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8jcW5gGGcVk
The Lathums - Struggle - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrDnjE_VENs
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Suicide/Eating Disorder
Today we speak to one of our volunteers James Rickett. He runs our monthly Retro Gaming Night at The Crooked Tap as well as being global lead for anti-money laundering and sanctions compliance for the International Compliance Association. We talk about his important work, the impact he’s had on Menfulness and that Menfulness has had on him. We're grateful for how generous James has been with his story, he shares with us how he's battled with imposter syndrome, suicidal thoughts, losing people from his life and his own self image. We talk music, love and tips on making progress despite your struggles. It's an awesome conversation with an awesome human and we hope you enjoy it.
James’ Links:
James Rickett LinkedIn - https://uk.linkedin.com/in/james-rickett-fica-2390a5214
The Crooked Tap - https://thecrookedtap.com/
Retro Gaming Night - https://www.meetup.com/menfulness/
Make Your Bed Everyday - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KgzLzbd-zT4
James’ Music:
Drake - Best I Ever Had - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VWOc39wC5-8
Future - Wait For You - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rP09GUQFDFk
Jenna Raine - See You Later - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NWgQ5WDBUyo
Turin Brakes - Save You - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wupg6FzqYMM
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - OCD/Suicide Today we speak to Matty Laycock who shares with us his experience of OCD and his path to mental health nursing, and now working as a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist for NHS Talking Therapies (was IAPT).Matty is a real one, out there doing the work helping people get better. In this chat he helps us understand what he's been through, as well as tips on embracing uncertainty, meditation, gratitude and finding his values (including a great tip to help you find yours!)Let us know what you think of this episode, Matty's Content:IAPT: https://yorkandselbyiapt.co.uk/Mark Freeman: https://www.markfreeman.ca/tag/ocd/Matty's Blog - https://ocdchoice.wordpress.com/OCD UK : https://www.ocduk.org/ Matty's For the Record:Hollow Coves - Blessings - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KY7rwjFmNfsJoni Mitchell - Both Sides Now - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aCnf46boC3I*The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Baby loss/Grief We're grateful to have Dr Jenn Chubb with us for this conversation. Jenn is a lecturer with expertise and research in the field of ethics, A.I. and the impact of science on society. We talk about algorithms and A.I. and their impact on us from both a general and personal perspective. We also hear about responsible AI and how Jenn has been working on an algorithm to help reduce triggering imagery on your social feeds. Jenn also talks openly and honestly about her experiences with baby loss and how her connection to music has been a vital part of her grieving process. We are so grateful to Jenn for helping us gain some understanding on this stigmatised and under-discussed part of life by sharing her story and some of her music.After you've listened to this episode please go and give Jenn's bands some love:This House is Haunted - https://open.spotify.com/artist/5HmxgeGOgfHm8bAYULVeHG?si=6zwe75M6SP-60obASDVpuAThe Hangnails - https://open.spotify.com/artist/13vSBCDB2Im38OAcK17Y9U?si=fgpA_fbnSPGlOXE1dGDItgJenn's Content:Coded Bias - Netflix - https://www.netflix.com/title/81328723https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/https://www.tommys.org/https://www.tommys.org/about-us/news-views/role-technology-pregnancy-loss-and-its-impact-mental-healthhttps://www.tommys.org/about-us/charity-news/how-stop-pregnancy-ads-following-you-after-losshttps://www.theredhandfiles.com/Nick Cave - Letter to Cynthia - https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sBgb6pVHGuEJenn's - For the Record:Pharell - Happy - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZbZSe6N_BXsKeaton Henson - Prayer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mHzpc8chXJ0*The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
HELLO AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU!
Thank you for joining us. We are grateful for every single one of you who tunes in to hear us speak our truth! We know it's not a happy new year for everyone. If you or someone you know is going through a rough time right now then get in touch via https://www.menfulness.org or come to an event via https://www.meetup.com/menfulness!
We are absolutely stoked to have York rapper and producer Liam Kritikal Powers joining us for today's episode. It's an awesome conversation with a remarkable person and we cover social media, alcohol, bereavement, suicide and relationships. We also talk about music, hope, faith and the future. It's a great balance but please be conscious about where you're at right now and whether any of these topics might be difficult for you to get into.
Huge thanks to Liam for sharing his story with us, but also for allowing us to use his music throughout this podcast. After you've finished please do go and check out his work using the links below!
Bandcamp - https://kritikal.bandcamp.com/music
All Hands on Deck Music Video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Brfzug5MSJs
Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/artist/1QVidep2o6OOxSkMLRV26M?si=TmcBxppKR3e0odGpQp8Jow
Soundcloud - https://on.soundcloud.com/aGrT7
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kritikalpowersmusic/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kritikalpowers/
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https://inspiredyouth.org/
https://balmprogramme.co.uk/
https://www.lowermydrinking.com/
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Liam's - For the Record:
Mika - We Are Golden - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hEhutIEUq8k
Burna Boy - Pree Me - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEgtltrAON4
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Today we're grateful to have Mike Hewitt joining us. Mike is a founder of Menfulness as well as our treasurer. He comes to us today to talk about what Menfulness means to him, how he came up with the name and how it helps him with life's challenges. We also learn about how the relationships with his family and friends have helped make him the man he is today! (We also find out about what #FriendshipChemistry is and why Jack hates it so much!) We're so lucky to have Mike on the team and for him to share his story with us!
Ainsty Ales/Menfulness Alcohol Free - https://ainstyales.co.uk/products/copy-of-coming-soon-jewel-of-york-alcohol-free-pilsner-lager-0-5-12pk
Play Football York - https://weplayfootball.com/venues/york
Menfulness meets Darren - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsgc2APvZUU
Lower My Drinking - https://www.york.gov.uk/health-wellbeing/cyc-health-trainers-3/2
Adrian Chiles The Good Drinker - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/62965796-the-good-drinker
Mike's - For the Record:
Phil Collins - You'll Be in My Heart - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MfrX4IOjCz0
Lady Gaga - Hold My Hand - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2CIAKVTOrc
Sam Fender - Spit of You - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xoODq7Ol1so
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Mike's - Content for Contentment:
Shoot Annual 1997 - https://childrensbookshop.com/book-83484.html
The Alcohol Rethink Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/2Ud8662qj5Q45m5aeAUg9s
James Frey - A Million Little Pieces - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1241.A_Million_Little_Pieces
Family Man Movie Trailer - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAI50GdruM8
The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
TW - Suicide
CW - Swearing
Today we're talking to Nick Sinclair. Nick is a Public Health Professional and a qualified Counsellor. He's also one of the stars of a new film which raises awareness of suicide called WHY (https://whysuicideprevention.co.uk/) brought to us by the wonderful folks at York Ending Stigma (https://www.yorkcvs.org.uk/york-ending-stigma/).
Nick speaks calmly and honestly about subjects such as suicide, alcohol, social media and counselling. It's a positive conversation but as expected it gets heavy at times, so make sure you consider where your heads at before you get into this one.
We didn't clarify on the recording but Nick's cats are called Cheetarah and Mumm-Ra The Everliving!
For online training on suicide awareness: https://www.zerosuicidealliance.com/training & https://www.livingworks.net/safeTALK
For more on Kev and Scott from Inspired Youth who made the 'WHY' film: https://inspiredyouth.org/
For more on 121 Counselling: https://121counsellingyork.org/
For the Lower My Drinking Quiz: https://www.lowermydrinking.com/
For help with Alcohol and Drugs in York: https://www.york.gov.uk/AlcoholAndDrugsHelp
If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts you can call the Samaritans on 116 123 to talk about this - https://www.samaritans.org/ If you're in an emergency and your wellbeing is at risk you should call 999, if you're local to North Yorkshire you can call the NHS Crisis Team on 0800 0516171. These numbers are all open 24/7. There's people out there who care and are trained to for these conversations, please reach out.
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The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
TW - SuicideCW - SwearingIn this conversation I talk to Frankie Sewell, a member and supporter of Menfulness. Frankie kindly told us he was ready to share his story in the hope it might help others who are going through a tough time right now. His sage advice that 'This too shall pass' is something that runs through this conversation. We talk honestly and openly about suicide and Frankie's journey and while it's an overall positive conversation and Frankie is in a good place right now, it is heavy and so please bear this in mind before listening if there's a chance it might trigger something for you. If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts you can call the Samaritans on 116 123 to talk about this - https://www.samaritans.org/ If you're in an emergency and your wellbeing is at risk you should call 999, if you're local to North Yorkshire you can call the NHS Crisis Team on 0800 0516171. These numbers are all open 24/7. There's people out there who care and are trained to for these conversations, please reach out. Eat, Fast and Live Longer - https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b01lxyzcFrankie's - For the Record:Culture Club - Karma Chameleon - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmcA9LIIXWwN-Joi - Anthem - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mDURChQ7w54Adele - Someone Like You - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qemWRToNYJYAndrea Bocelli - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4L_yCwFD6JoFrankie's Contentment:Diary of a CEO - https://stevenbartlett.com/the-diary-of-a-ceo-podcast/The Norse Mentality - http://www.norsementality.com/The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
Trigger Warning - Grief/Bereavement Content Warning - Swearing * "Coaching is unlocking a person's potential to maximise their own performance. It is helping them to learn rather than teaching them" - Sir John Whitmore A more in depth definition of Coaching from 'Real Coaching For You'. Today we're speaking to a passionate coach and Menfulness advocate, Wayne Cullen. We get into coaching and what it means to us both. We also hear about how Wayne found coaching, what he's working on including an introduction to his 'Pioneering Men' concept. Wayne bravely and honestly shares with us his struggle with the death of his brother and how he dealt with that part of his life, so please be aware of that before listening if that might trigger something you're going through. After listening why not visit Wayne's website to learn more or consider having three free sessions via Menfulness.org/coaching. * Wayne's - For the Record: The Chemical Brothers - K + D + B - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xuG6khuVHY U2 - One - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ftjEcrrf7r0 U2 - One Tree Hill - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WfKhVV-7lxI * Wayne's Content Recommendations: Coaching York (York Coaching Circle) - https://coachingyork.co.uk/ Rich Litvin and Steve Chandler - The Prosperous Coach - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/18934115-the-prosperous-coach Steve Chandler - Time Warrior Steven Covey - The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/36072.The_7_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_People Steve Chandler - Mastering the Beauty of the Present Moment - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/36193890-right-now Rick Carson - Taming Your Gremlin - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/339574.Taming_Your_Gremlin Michael Neill - The Inside Out Revolution - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16158160-the-inside-out-revolution Dr Seuss - Oh, The Places You'll Go - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/191139.Oh_the_Places_You_ll_Go_?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=B54cKRZoSy&rank=1 * The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. We don't claim to be experts in any field and the opinions of hosts and guests come from an honest place based on their own experiences. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
TW - Baby Loss/Bereavement
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It's hard to state just how awesome Pete Quinn really is. He's a consultant, coach, speaker and leader. He's an Inclusion Consultant and he's out there working in the education, tech, corporate and arts sectors making meaningful change and harnessing the power of diversity. Pete's consultancy strap-line is 'change through collaboration' and in this episode we learn how challenges have become opportunities, inclusion became a living, and Menfulness became a part of Pete's giving back.
We travel from Birstall to York, with Tanzania and Oxford on the way! We hear that you don't need a regular upbringing to find a meaningful vocation in life. We also understand.a bit more about how Pete found Menfulness and why he's so generous with his time and support.
We're so grateful to have Pete on board advising our group and his honesty in this conversation is truly inspiring. Find out more about Pete's work at https://petequinnconsulting.co.uk/
See our Impact Report put together by Pete and Joe Gardham - https://menfulness.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/12/MENFULNESS-IMPACT-REPORT-digital.pdf
Find out more about Joe Gardham at Social vision - https://social-vision.org.uk/
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Pete's - For the Record:
Pet Shop Boys - The Way It Used To Be (JCRZ Golden Age Ultra Extension Remix) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxBxWFXwSnI
Zadok the Priest - Choir of Westminster Abbey - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MiXgOQ9_-RI
Coast Contra - Never Freestyle - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdNxeepSpuk
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Pete's Content Recommendations:
Christopher Peterson - Pursuing the Good Life: 100 reflections on Positive Psychology - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/14830300-pursuing-the-good-life
The High Performance Podcast - https://www.thehighperformancepodcast.com/
Tara Brach's Guided Meditations: https://www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations/
Thich Nhat Hanh - Be Free Where You Are - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/95746.Be_Free_Where_You_Are
The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
TW - Drugs (Overdose)/Bereavement/Suicide
CW: Swearing
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Menfulness member and volunteer Aidan shares some stories from his new auto-biographical podcast, 'Days of My Life'.
Aidan's journey has taken him from 90s dance-floors, drug dealing and ditches of Nottingham, to the beaches of India, self-actualisation and finding his purpose to help others.
Aidan has been through more in his teenage years than many will experience in a lifetime and even though we only scratch the surface in this chat, his frank honesty and light hearted ownership of his past life is both eye opening and life-affirming to hear. We learn the importance of self awareness, finding a place where you belong and that it's never too late to turn things around and find a way back to where we're supposed to be.
We're so grateful to have Aidan as part of our group. Please go check out his podcasts - 'Aidan Rosewell' on Youtube.
The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
We're very lucky to have Sinead from Serendipity Counselling on the podcast!
Sinead has been a constant source of guidance and supported Menfulness as we've grown into a charity. She makes sure all of our members have access to top quality counselling quickly and effectively. We learn about Serendipity, what counselling is and what it means for Menfulness.
If you are thinking about counselling, whether generally or through our affordable Menfulness Counselling Offer, then this episode is for you!
The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. Please like, comment and share this podcast to make sure we're reaching the people who need us. If you'd like to become a guest, then we'd love to hear from you! Thank you for joining us - We're glad to have you on board.
TW: Suicide/Bereavement. CW: Swearing. * In this conversation we speak to Matty, Menfulness' self-proclaimed poster-boy and all round positive human being. We learn how gratitude impacts Matty's life and how experiences with his own parents have shaped the man he is today. Thank you for joining us! The Menfulness mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate life's struggles and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. We're glad to have you on board.
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Today we're speaking to 'Jean Claude Van' Dan about how discovering martial arts changed his life for the better. Dan has a very unique story and opens up about having Bell's Palsy in his twenties which massively affected his mental health, but ultimately became the inspiration for setting up Menfulness.
Thank you for joining us on our journey! Our mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate our struggle and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. We're so glad to have you on board.
TW: Suicide
CW: Swearing
WELCOME to the first ever episode of The Menfulness Podcast - It's a real inspiring one to start us off!
We're starting right from the beginning... Our founder Jack shares how he came to start Menfulness and what it's all about, how he copes with his daughter Poppy's epilepsy on a day to day basis and what's helped make him into the caring soul he is today.
Thank you for joining us on our journey! Our mantra is #DontManUpSpeakUp and we invite you to join us in kindness, honesty and vulnerability as we navigate our struggle and move closer to who we want to be. If you're just hearing about us then please visit Menfulness.org or find us on all the socials. We're so glad to have you on board.