Unpacking Love: Recent Episodes
Michelle
Unpacking Love is a podcast that dives into all things love. We'll discuss everything from the talking stage, dating stage, relationship stage and even post-relationship stage. The goal is to learn from each other, while having a good time! Maybe you've been doing things or thinking of issues a certain way and you are curious to hear what others are doing or how they're thinking about the same issues out there. This is the place to be! I'd love to engage with you on Instagram @unpackinglove! Questions will be answered in Q&A episodes. Let's have a blast!
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT EP. 8 features 30 amazing guests who share their thoughts on whether their relationships with others feed into their self-love.
What are your thoughts about the topic? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG. I would love to hear from you!
Thank you for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen & 'Kyima' by Lanucess
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT EP. 7 features 31 amazing guests who share their experiences with self-forgiveness and self-compassion.
Do you find it easier to forgive yourself or to forgive others? What helps you forgive yourself? How do you show yourself compassion? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG. I would love to hear from you!
Thank you for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen & 'Kyima' by Lanucess
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT EP. 6 features 32 amazing guests who share their experiences with struggling to say no to others and how they overcame these challenges. Self-love often involves setting boundaries and effectively communicating your needs and expectations. Tune in to learn a thing or two!
What has helped you say no to others? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG. I would love to hear from you!
Thank you for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen & 'Kyima' by Lanucess
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT EP. 5 is brought to you by 33 amazing guests sharing what they've done to improve themselves over the years. Self-improvement is definitely an essential aspect of self-love & my guests understood the assignment & delivered!
What are some things you've done to improve yourself? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG. I would love to hear from you!
Thank you for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen & 'Kyima' by Lanucess
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT EP. 4 is presented to you by 31 incredible guests diving into all things self-celebration! Tune in to find out whether they celebrate themselves, reasons why they do or do not, and how they go about practicing it if they do.
Do you celebrate yourself or your achievements? Why or why not? If you do, how do you self-celebrate? Let me know on IG @unpackinglove. Always happy to hear from you!
Thank you for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen & 'Kyima' by Lanucess
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT EP. 3 is brought to you by 32 amazing guests sharing their self-reflection practices and what self-awareness means to them.
How would you answer the prompt? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG. Always happy to hear from you!
Thank you for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen & 'Kyima' by Lanucess
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT EP. 2 is presented to you by 33 phenomenal guests sharing what self-care means to them and how they practice it.
What does it mean to you and how do you practice it? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG. Always happy to hear from you!
Thank you for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen & 'Kyima' by Lanucess
THE SELF-LOVE PROJECT kicks off with 32 phenomenal guests sharing what self-love means to them.
What does self-love mean to you? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG. Always happy to hear from you!
Thank you for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen & 'Kyima' by Lanucess
Pastor Keith shares the 8 topics that he covers with couples in premarital counseling sessions. Tune in to hear about the importance of premarital counseling and the significance of these topics in this episode!
Here are some timestamps for easier future reference:
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Intro: What is it & Why is it important?
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18:02 Expectations
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29:25 The Possibility Of Children
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41:37 Finances
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54:49 Extended Family
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1 hr:17 Sexual Intimacy & Friendship
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1 hr:46 Faith & Religion
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1 hr:57 Conflict Resolution
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2 hrs:16 Personal Growth Goals
You can connect with Pastor Keith on IG @iamkeithmawoyo, on Facebook @Keith Mawoyo & on Twitter/X @keithmawoyo.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Oye & I share our thoughts about prenups in this episode. Grab your favorite beverage and tune in for a good time!
What are your thoughts about prenups? Yay or Nay? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG!
For more of Oye, check out 'Being In A Relationship & Breakfast Management - feat. Oye | 69'!
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Kicking off our premarital series with a focus on medical tests that couples might consider before tying the knot. I am not a medical professional; I've simply read some online articles and wanted to share my findings here. It's crucial to conduct your own research for a comprehensive understanding of these tests. Think of this episode as a platform to raise awareness about important considerations before marriage.
Up next: Ep. 99 Prenups & Ep. 100 Premarital Counseling
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Colin opens up about his journey through a divorce, sharing personal experiences and the valuable lessons he gained along the way. It's a candid conversation filled with insights and reflections that you won't want to miss.
If you have any questions for Colin, feel free to DM me on IG @unpackinglove.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Alexa play 'Talk' by Khalid ....Can we just talk? Referenced Article - https://www.iecouplescounseling.com/blog/how-to-have-a-relationship-check-in-with-your-partner?format=amp
Sneha shares her long-distance love journey with us and we dive into the perks & challenges of long-distance relationships....and hey, if you're in an LDR or thinking about taking the plunge, we've got some nuggets of wisdom for you! Tune in & don't forget to hit that share button - let's spread the love!
What are your thoughts about LDRs? Yay or Nay? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG!
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Charles shares what "being established" means to him & dives into why some guys prefer to have their lives sorted out before settling down, rather than figuring things out while in a relationship. Notable phrases in this episode? Glad you asked! - "the hoe phase", "some of your brothers have left some of our sisters wounded" & "there's a difference between 'a friend' & 'my friend'..." Tune in for a good time!
What are your thoughts about all this? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG!
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Zoe is back! This time we talk about the value of introducing your partner to your friends and meeting theirs..... Tune in to find out who said this ".....but also I know that my friend likes men so I'm like uh uh let me solidify what I have with my man before I take him to her". Listen, A TIME was had recording this!
What are your thoughts about all this? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG!
Check out 'Dating A Friend's Ex or An Ex's Friend - with Nish & Kudzai | 27' if you missed that one!
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Zoe & I dive into the world of friendships and relationships, chatting about the fine line between spilling the beans and keeping things private..... "You have to understand that Judas was also a disciple" - Zoe #micdrop. Tune in!
What are your thoughts about all this? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG!
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Shae & I unpack attachment in this episode - what it means to be attached to someone, how we get attached and practical steps we can take to not get attached too quickly or to the wrong people, especially in the talking stage. Listen, some personal stories were shared in this one lol... Sometimes experience truly is the best teacher...
What has worked for you in this area of life? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG!
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Dela & I unpack "mama's boy" definitions, pros & cons of being in a relationship with one, and our thoughts on why "mama's boy" often carries a negative connotation, while "daddy's girl" does not.
What are your thoughts about mama's boys? Let me know @unpackinglove on IGhttps://instagram.com/unpackinglove/!
Check out 'Love Story 6 - Dela & Francis | 56' for more of Dela!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Mawuena joins me in this 'Flags' episode! This one covered dating ultimatums, a man insisting on splitting all checks, a man being friends with his ex, multiple occurrences of one female character on his online dating profile, a man wanting you to leave your job after you get married & a man who's a mama's boy. Bonus term: "glucose guardian"! We had a time!
What do you think about these? Are they red, green or yellow flags for you? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Kyima' by Lanucess
Puwayi & I share our thoughts about the whole situation - the dressing, the dancing at the concert, the tweets, the merch, the 'Boyfriend' song/video and everything in between.
Here are some links & tweets:
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The Usher concert https://www.youtube.com/shorts/oIvHeQirlgY
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Tweet 1: “It’s the outfit tho.. you a mom”
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Tweet 2: "We live in a generation where a man of the family doesn’t want the wife & mother to his kids to showcase booty cheeks to please others & he gets told how much of a hater he is"
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"I'm a Motha" merch https://shop.kekepalmer.com/
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'Boyfriend' Usher ft. Keke music video https://youtu.be/56CW4SIqBzk
What are your thoughts about the whole situation? Let me know @unpackinglove on IGhttps://instagram.com/unpackinglove/!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Passi tells us through 6 stories if he would tell his friend, acquaintance, or friend's girlfriend if they were being cheated on. (....that's right, that last bit is whether he would tell on his boy who's cheating!) When I tell you this guy is hilarious! JUST VIBES! Call him Mr 'Cheating Detector'.
What would you do in these situations? Would you tell or not? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/!
Also, be sure to check out Cheating (Intro), (Storytime), (Psychology) & (Witness: Girl Talk) if you missed those episodes. For more of Passi, check out 'Games Night with Passi - Flags | 77' - vibes were vibin'!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Would Yolanda & I tell our friend, acquaintance, or friend's boyfriend if they were being cheated on? (....that's right, that last bit is whether we would tell on a friend who's cheating!) Teaser phrases: "Does being a silent witness make you an accomplice?" & "...I'm coming to you as a woman...." We had a blast recording this - just VIBES!
What would you do in these situations? Would you tell or not? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/!
Also, be sure to check out Cheating (Intro), (Storytime) & (Psychology), if you missed those episodes & be on the lookout for 'Cheating (Witness: Guy Version)', that will be coming soon. For more of Yolanda, check out 'OnlyFans, Posting Him For Research, Protection, FaceIDs - with Mufaro & Yolanda | 62' - vibes were vibin'!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Kylie (a Psychology PhD candidate) & I unpack cheating from a psychological standpoint in this Q&A episode. Join us as we cover motives, trust, guilt, confessions, the 'gut feeling', different responses to being cheated on, trauma, how to better oneself and/or the relationship after cheating occurs, questions to ask yourself after you have been cheated on or after you have cheated, exploring open relationships post-cheating & other issues.
Be sure to check out 'Cheating (Intro) | 83', which covered "What is cheating?", types of cheating & motives for cheating & 'Cheating (Storytime) - feat. Keisha | 84' for a wild storytime that covered cheating, being cheated on & being a side chick.
If you have any questions for Kylie or if you want to share your thoughts about this, feel free to hit me up @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Keisha's storytime is wild! Let's unpack cheating, being cheated on & being a side chick. A storytime involving sneaky links, exes, friends, passwords, screenshots, nighttime research, gut feelings, gaslighting, alcohol, physical & emotional cheating, Tinder, neglect, trust, guilt, forgiveness & more. From rabbits to cold turkey... Welcome to 'Entanglement City'!
Be sure to check out 'Cheating (Intro) | 83', which covered "What is cheating?", types of cheating & motives for cheating, if you missed it! Be on the lookout for the psychological episode (with a Psychology PhD candidate) that will cover a lot of things, including guilt & rebuilding trust after cheating occurs in a relationship.
As always, feel free to share your thoughts/experiences with me @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/. Always thrilled to hear from you!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Kicking off the Cheating series with this episode covering "What is cheating?", types of cheating & motives for cheating. Be on the lookout for the story-time episode and the psychological episode (with a Psychology PhD candidate) that will cover a lot of things, including guilt & rebuilding trust after cheating occurs in a relationship.
Article 1: Types of cheating - physical, sexual, emotional, flirting/inappropriate conversations, romantic, online/digital, financial, hobby/job - https://www.marriage.com/advice/infidelity/types-of-cheating-in-relationship/
Article 2: Types of Infidelity (Motives/Drivers) - opportunistic, obligatory, romantic, conflicted romantic & commemorative infidelity - https://www.brides.com/different-types-of-infidelity-1102872
Article 3: Why people cheat (self-gratification vs intimacy) by New York Times bestselling author of 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck',* Mark Manson - https://markmanson.net/why-people-cheat
Feel free to share your thoughts with me @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/. Always happy to hear your thoughts!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Tafadzwa shares his experiences and thoughts around dating older women. Bonus - comparing dating older women to dating younger women. Tafadzwa dropped some hilarious phrases in this one! Grab a drink and tune in.
Would you date a woman who's older than you or a man who's younger than you? If you've done it, how was that experience? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.
Check out 'To Date Or Not To Date Younger Men, That Is The Question - with Hilda & Chiechie | 9' to hear what these ladies thought about dating younger men, if you missed it!
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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Tino says at least one person always catches feelings in opposite-sex friendships if the two people spend enough time together, but I disagree.
What are your thoughts about this? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Wale & I discuss the themes that came up in Love Is Blind S4 - what’s yours is yours, unapologetically going after what you want, dating outside your type, red flags, knowing your worth, upbringing, trauma, family involvement, toxicity, mean girl energy, picking the right friends, pride, forgiveness, humility & physical attraction. Bonus - victims & villains. We had a blast recording this!
What were your thoughts about this season? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Margaret & I talk about dating men who are over 10 years older than us. This episode is jam-packed with pros, cons & tea! Bonus - advice from a woman who's married to a man who's over 10 years older than her.
Would you date a man who's over 10 years older than you? If you've done it, how was that experience? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.
Check out 'To Date Or Not To Date Younger Men, That Is The Question - with Hilda & Chiechie | 9' for thoughts around the other side of the age range, if you missed it!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Ayanda & I discuss ChatGPT's responses to our prompts: a love confession to a crush, a text to gently let down someone who has feelings for us, a maid of honor speech, a text to get an ex back after breaking up over jealousy, a love letter to a significant other, the perfect wingman, handling a crush on a professor, the most outrageous pickup line and advice to our younger single self.
What did you think about ChatGPT's responses? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Passi joins me in this 'Flags' episode! This one was a juicy one covering having a preference to date outside your race, opposite-sex best friends, on-and-off relationships, eating from each other's plates, being introduced to your significant other's opposite-sex friends by your first name with no title, faith, waiting for someone to exit a relationship, excessive phone usage, name tattoos & travel. We really had a blast recording this!
What do you think about these? Are they red, green or yellow flags for you? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Kyima' by Lanucess
Ryan & T share their thoughts about the 'Girlfriend Allowance' in the first half of this episode & unpack the 'Boyfriend Allowance' in the second half. Find out what these guys think about the girlfriend allowance, if they've given one out before & if they would give one out in the future. Also find out if they've received a boyfriend allowance in the past and if they would accept one in the future. Some notable phrases from this episode were "power dynamics", "love", "provider", "independent woman", "ego" & "a blessing from God". We had a blast recording this!
Be sure to check out 'Girlfriend Allowance (Dollars & Pounds) - with Irene & Chiedza | 63' if you missed it.
Question: What do you think about the boyfriend allowance? Would you want it/would you give it? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG!
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Michelle & Garabed let us in on their friend group's dating pact in this episode. Find out what the dating pact is, the rewards & punishments, why they came up with it, how it's been helpful, some fun stories that have come out of it and some of the creative ways in which they've met people in this dating world!
What are your thoughts about all this? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Joey and I talk about the friend zone - everything from personal stories of being in the friend zone to dealing with people who wanted to come out of the friend zone that we had put them in. Find out whether we were successful or not in this episode!
Family zone vs friend zone - is one worse than the other? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Steph, Nana & I talk about a dating questionnaire some girl sent to some guy as seen on TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRsYR8JJ/). Find out if we would send out or answer people's questionnaires and the best part - what we think about each question that was in the questionnaire (full list below).
What are your thoughts about all this? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
- For your entertainment, here are all the questions:
Are you married? (Yes, No, Separated)
What are your dating goals? (Not sure/just vibing, Casual sex/dating, short-term relationship, long-term relationship, life partner/marriage)
Do you believe in marriage or is it just a piece of paper?
Highest level of education (Undergrad degree, Masters degree, Doctorate, Other)
How would you describe your financial/employment situation right now?
How would you describe your current living situation? (own place/living alone, living with roommate(s), living with family, other)
Do you have kids? (Yes, No)
Do you want kids? (Yes, No, Not sure)
If you had a child who was LGBTQ+ would you (love them and support their choices, love them but not support/condone their life choices, disown them, other)
Are you a person of faith (i.e. christian, muslim etc.) ? (yes, no, somewhat, other)
Are you close with your family? (Yes, no, other)
Have you ever been to therapy? (I'm currently in therapy, I've been to therapy in the past, I haven't been to therapy but would go, I've never been to therapy. I don't feel I need it and don't see myself going, other)
What is your zodiac sign? (sign, moon and rising if you know it) Otherwise when is your birthday?
Can you swim? (Yes, No)
Does the toilet tissue roll go over or under? (over, under, doesn't matter)
Do you have a passport? (yes, no) - picture of a passport included
My love language (giving) is (check all that apply): (acts of service, quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts)
My love language (receiving) is (check all that apply): (acts of service, quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts)
On a first date, who should pay? (the man, whoever asked the other person, both (split the bill/go dutch), other)
What's you preferred method of communication? Check all that apply (texting, talking on the phone, Facetime, in-person)
What's wrong with this picture? Your answer [it's a woman and a man on a sidewalk with the woman closer to the road and the man closer to the wall)
Name one no-skips album or mixtape
Top 3 tv series/sitcoms of all time?
What artists are heavy in rotation on your playlists right now?
Are you allergic to seafood? (Yes, No, Not allergic. I just don't eat it)
Choose the sentences that use the correct homophone (check all that apply):
Your beautiful
I think you're gorgeous
I haven't been over there yet
Everyone's leaving there cars all over the place
They're coming over later
This questionnaire is doing to much
It's too hot in here
Their isn't much left
Belight joins me in the 'Flags' kickoff in this episode! This is a game in which my guest and I have to say if something would be a green, red or yellow flag for us.
How do you see these? Are they red, green or yellow for you? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Kyima' by Lanucess
In this episode, Kris shares her arranged marriage knowledge and experience. We unpacked everything from what an arranged marriage is, differences between modern day & olden day arranged marriage, the caste system, dowry, apps used to search for suitors, family involvement in the process and so much more. The cherry on top was Kris's arranged marriage story. An insightful episode to kick off Season 2 of the podcast!
What was your biggest takeaway from this episode? Feel free to let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Their words, their actions & your gut are telling you something....Believe them! Thank you for listening & for supporting me on this journey! You are a real one and I appreciate you - Michelle
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Oye and I talk about what being in a relationship means to us and how that has changed over time. We also talk about how we've managed chopping breakfast in the past (shoutout to Burna Boy for giving us 'Last Last'!). So much to unpack in this episode - intentions, commitment, expectations, lists, healing, learning the lessons & more. We had a blast recording this!
What does being in a relationship mean to you and how have you managed chopping breakfast in the past? Feel free to let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Honestly, do mind what you say to people out there.... Avoiding 'Sticky' situations 1 episode at a time lol. Thank you for an incredible 2022! Lots of love to you all & Happy Holidays - Mimz
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Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Therapist Kayla Bell-Consolver joins me in this episode where we dive into attachment styles & therapy. Find out what attachment is, how it's developed, the 4 attachment styles, attachment style compatibility, how to navigate a relationship with someone who has any of the 3 insecure attachment styles & how therapy can help someone earn a secure attachment style. Kayla also gives us more insight into what therapy looks like and encourages us to go to therapy by sharing how we could all benefit from it. Feel free to follow her on TikTok @questionkayla, on Instagram @questionkayla28 & on YouTube @ Question Kayla for more content.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
& just like that, it's a wrap on the Communication Styles series folks. Effective communication is SOOO important in relationships. Let's unpack the Assertive Communication Style in this episode.
As always feel free to DM me your thoughts on IG @unpackinglove.
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Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Glo, Chuks and I debate the following statement "women have higher standards than men when it comes to seeking romantic partners".
What are your thoughts? Are women's dating standards higher than men's dating standards? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Effective communication is SOOO important in relationships. Some communication styles are ineffective, and we are going there in this series. Let's unpack the Passive-Aggressive Communication Style in this episode.
As always feel free to DM me your thoughts on IG @unpackinglove.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
What if I told you there were girls getting allowances from their boyfriends out there? Chiedza, Irene & I unpack the 'Girlfriend Allowance' in this episode. Find out what it is, how to bring it up in conversation, which girls are getting it, how much is reasonable, what the girls have to give up (if anything) to get allowances, why some girls aren't getting it, which guys are giving girlfriend allowances and the expectations that come with it. Hot phrases dropped - 'the provider', 'your value in the sexual marketplace', 'Miss Independent', 'Damsel In Distress', 'submission', 'sugar daddy, sugar baby', 'act the fool', Mihlali Ndamase. This was loaded, chile! A blast!
Question: What do you think about the girlfriend allowance? Would you want it/would you give it? Also if you've gotten a boyfriend allowance, let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Yolanda, Mufaro & I present 'Social Media & Relationships (Girl Talk)'. THIS RECORDING SESSION WAS LIT! Lots of laughs for sure. You have to hear it for yourself! Grab a beverage and enjoy. Question: Are heart-eye emojis, fire emojis and drool emojis at the same intensity level? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Effective communication is SOOO important in relationships. Some communication styles are ineffective, and we are going there in this series. Let's unpack the Aggressive Communication Style in this episode.
As always feel free to DM me your thoughts on IG @unpackinglove.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Sam & T present 'Social Media & Relationships (The Guy Version)'. THIS RECORDING SESSION WAS A BLAST! You have to hear it for yourself! Grab a beverage and enjoy. Bonus - find out what Sam & T think about making relationships social media official. Are you team Soft Launch or Hard Launch? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG.
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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Effective communication is SOOO important in relationships. Some communication styles are ineffective, and we are going there in this series. Let's unpack the Passive Communication Style in this episode.
As always feel free to DM me your thoughts on IG @unpackinglove.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
It's getting personal! Mandi & I wrap up the 'Boundaries In Relationships' series by sharing some of our boundaries and situations where they've been violated. This episode brings it all together - physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual, time & material boundaries. One big takeaway is "BE EMPOWERED GUYS!" (Mandi 2022) to say what your boundaries are. We had a blast recording this!
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
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& It's a wrap! Here's a recap of the first season of 'Conversations with Married Couples' (Ep. 23-28) - some lessons learnt by your host.
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Dela & Francis share their love story in 'Conversations with Married Couples' Ep.6. Tune in to hear how they went from strangers to spouses. Bonus lessons include: setting expectations & navigating busy schedules in a relationship, figuring out how your partner wants to be loved and having conversations about the future with your partner. They are such a fun & hilarious couple! You guys also get 2 free performances of "All Night Long" & "Peru". It was a blast!
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Ep. 6 of 'Boundaries In Relationships' focuses on Material Boundaries (including Financial Boundaries). Lots to unpack here! Be sure to check out TT 23, 24, 25, 26 & 27, if you missed those. They're solid foundations on boundaries in general, physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual & time boundaries (in my very biased opinion, lol)!
Thanks for listening!
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Selicia & Collins share their love story in 'Conversations with Married Couples' Ep.5. Tune in to hear how they went from strangers to spouses. Bonus lessons include: navigating interracial/intercultural relationship challenges, cultivating bonds with each other's siblings & handling fights in a relationship. They are such a sweet & funny couple - two of the best storytellers I've met! We had a blast! This episode was so wholesome.
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts @unpackinglove on IG.
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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Ep. 5 of 'Boundaries In Relationships' focuses on Time Boundaries. Lots to unpack here! Be sure to check out TT 23, 24, 25 & 26, if you missed those. They're solid foundations on boundaries in general, physical, sexual, emotional & intellectual boundaries (in my very biased opinion, lol)!
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Chido & Fungai share their love story in 'Conversations with Married Couples' Ep.4. Tune in to hear how they went from strangers to spouses. Bonus lessons include: navigating a long-distance relationship during the pandemic, praying & fasting about a relationship for confirmation and the difference between loving & liking your partner. They are such a fun & hilarious couple! We literally laughed throughout the recording talking about entanglements, sliding into DMs and the wedding ring dilemma. It was a blast! For more vibes follow them here: Youtube Channel - Chido Mudzviti. IG Handles - @chidochristy @_f_t_g_m @afroketogenic @fungai_finance
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts @unpackinglove on IG.
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Ep. 4 of 'Boundaries In Relationships' focuses on Intellectual Boundaries. Lots to unpack here! Be sure to check out TT 23, 24 & 25, if you missed those. They're solid foundations on boundaries in general, physical, sexual & emotional boundaries (in my very biased opinion, lol)!
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Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
& of course it starts with me saying "basicRRy" instead of "basically" LOL! Anyway #wemove!
Danella & Josh usher in the 50th episode of the podcast!! Tune in to hear their love story in 'Conversations with Married Couples' Ep.3. This is the perfect lesson-infused storytime covering everything from how they met, to why they got married, to how they knew they wanted to marry each other and everything in between. Bonus lessons include: making the best of every situation, qualities to look for in a life-long partner & solid advice on dealing with naysayers. I enjoyed chatting with this fun couple - their joy is infectious & their story is a perfect example of "when you know, you know"!
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Ep. 3 of 'Boundaries In Relationships' focuses on Emotional Boundaries. Lots to unpack here! Be sure to check out TT 23 & TT 24, if you missed those. They're solid foundations on boundaries in general and physical & sexual boundaries (in my very biased opinion, lol)!
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Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Ep. 2 of 'Boundaries In Relationships' focuses on Physical Boundaries & Sexual Boundaries. Lots to unpack here! Be sure to check out TT 23 - The Intro, if you missed it. It's a solid foundation on boundaries (in my very biased opinion, lol)!
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Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
Matt & Ashley share their love story in 'Conversations with Married Couples' Ep.2. Tune in to hear how they went from strangers to spouses. This is the perfect lesson-infused storytime covering everything from how they met, to how they knew they wanted to get married to each other and everything in between. Bonus lessons include: navigating the first few months of moving in together, effective communication & qualities to look for in a life-long partner. This was a heart-warming story and a wholesome episode!
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts @unpackinglove on IG.
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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Kicking off 'Boundaries In Relationships'. This one covers what they are, how to set them, the importance of communicating them to your partner and how to make them effective - let's talk consequences!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Sabdy & Troy join me in the 'Conversations with Married Couples' kick-off! Tune in to hear how they went from strangers to spouses. This is the perfect lesson-infused storytime covering everything from how they met, to how they knew they wanted to get married to each other and everything in between. They have one of the cutest engagement stories I've heard! Bonus lessons include: dealing with fights in a relationship, navigating a long-distance relationship & handling an intercultural relationship. We definitely had a blast recording this one!
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts @unpackinglove on IG.
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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Ryan & I break it down for you from the studio - Why Summer is your best dating season. #cashmeoutsidehowboutdat?
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Adaeze, Doris and I had a blast sharing our thoughts on the (somewhat dreaded) question people are asking out there....."Why are you single?" Check out this episode to find out if we've ever asked or if we've ever been asked that question, what we think about the question, if we think that's a question people should ask, our sample responses (you're welcome, lol!) and our reactions to some responses we found online. It was truly a good time putting each other in the hot seat here & there!
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts about the topic @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
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You can take the quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language , so you can know and know and know what your love language is or what your boo thang's love language is. Thanks for listening!
Music - "Ndiwe" by Masa Caroleen
Derrick & Mike present Part 2 of the Attractive Qualities In Women conversation in this episode. The analogies that were dropped in this one are beyond me. I also learnt a new term - "clatchet"... LOL!
What do y'all think about women getting down on one knee to propose? sips beverage of choice
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
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You can take the quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language , so you can know and know and know what your love language is or what your boo thang's love language is. Thanks for listening!
Music - "Ndiwe" by Masa Caroleen
Mike & Derrick from Ep. 8 - Our Biggest Turnoffs (Guy Version) are back by popular demand! Tune into this episode to hear what they consider the most attractive qualities in ladies.. There are some very funny moments in this one AND some very real moments as well.. The only spoiler I'll drop is Kevin R Samuels (The Godfather) came up...
As always, feel free to DM me your thoughts and questions @unpackinglove on IG... Be sure to tune into Ep. 21 next week to hear the rest of the conversation.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
You can take the quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language , so you can know and know and know what your love language is or what your boo thang's love language is. Thanks for listening!
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Riri from Ep. 7 - Our Biggest Turnoffs (Girl Talk) is back! Joining her is Yeye, the Sagittarius! Tune in to hear what the three of us picked as the most attractive qualities in men... A short episode that's packed with details! I won't spoil...
Gentlemen - take notes LOL.. Ladies - what qualities do you find most attractive in men? As always, feel free to DM me @unpackinglove on IG.
Thanks for listening!
Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen
You can take the quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language , so you can know and know and know what your love language is or what your boo thang's love language is. Thanks for listening!
Music - "Ndiwe" by Masa Caroleen
Ethan, Tanya & I are back with a bang - Part 2 of the Opposite-Sex Friendships In Relationships talk! This time we covered the following: Would it bother us if most of our partner's friends were of the opposite sex? How much would we want to know about what they talk about/do with these friends? What type of meetings would be completely off the table? Would we be ok with our partners forming new friendships with people of the opposite sex after we are in a relationship? Would we be ok with our partners remaining friends with people who had a thing for them in the past?..... All I can say is..... this was a very juicy episode that covered everything from the gym, church, sleepovers, numbers, LinkedIn and everything in between sips beverage of choice
..... What are your thoughts about all this? My IG DMs are ready for you @unpackinglove
Thanks for listening!
Music - "Ndiwe" by Masa Caroleen
You can take the quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language , so you can know and know and know what your love language is or what your boo thang's love language is. Thanks for listening!
Music - "Ndiwe" by Masa Caroleen
Shoot Your Shot Gang Gang, Tanya & Ethan, are back by popular demand! Join us as we take on opposite-sex friendships in relationships! In this episode (Pt. 1), we shared our thoughts about whether men & women can just be friends, having a best friend of the opposite sex while being in a relationship, boundaries between friends of the opposite sex when one of them is in a relationship, handling opposite-sex friendship issues that can come up in relationships..... & so much more! Vulturing, sitting on laps and trips to Paris came up sips beverage. Grab something to sip on because this one was a wild ride and we were just getting started!
Thanks for listening! Be sure to come back for Pt. 2 next Friday!
..... What are your thoughts about all this? My IG DMs are ready for you @unpackinglove
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Let's talk about comparisons in relationships... Based on Judge Steve Harvey S1 E8 Case 3
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Ayanda, Vimbai & I share how we rank the 6 types of attraction (sexual, emotional, physical, aesthetic, intellectual & romantic attraction) when it comes to being in a relationship. We also share if we could still be in a relationship if one or more of these types of attraction were missing. You don't wanna miss this tea!
Curious to hear how you rank these and if you could do without some of them in a relationship. Feel free to DM me @unpackinglove on IG.
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Music - "Ndiwe" by Masa Caroleen
Ceremony: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZMzCt7le7g
Interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I_BCTnhQ8lc
What are your thoughts? Feel free to DM me on IG @unpackinglove!
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Carol (our girl from Episodes 1 & 2), Kudzayi & I talk Ultimatums - the "if we don't make this an official relationship, I'm out" type of ultimatum & the "if we don't take this relationship to the next level, I'm out" type of ultimatum. Find out who's for them and who's against them in the first half of this episode. In the second half of the episode we share our thoughts about The Ultimatum, which is trending on Netflix.
Are you for or against ultimatums? Feel free to share your thoughts with me @unpackinglove on IG.
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Unrelated/somewhat related ....Do you think the honeymoon phase is shallow? Feel free to DM me @unpackinglove on IG!
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Kudzai, Nish & I bring this spicy eX-factor discussion about dating a friend's ex or an ex's friend... Grab something to sip on (water, tea, juice, wine, perhaps something stronger..) and enjoy this fire episode! Should a friend's ex be off limits? Should an ex's friend be off limits? Feel free to share your thoughts with me @unpackinglove on IG.
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INTRODUCING SHOUTOUTS ON THE POD! Now that that's out of the way, is it ever ok to ghost, most or orbit? Feel free to DM me @unpackinglove on IG!
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Vidya, Colin & I talk about handling calling/texting temptations, blocking, social media, gifts, photos, venting, therapy, mind, body, soul, staying busy and creating a new life after a breakup. In part 2 of the breakup talk, we share practical steps that helped us get through breakups. We even drop some music recommendations in this episode!
As always, please feel free to DM me on Instagram @unpackinglove if you have any thoughts that you wanna share about the topic. Thanks for listening!
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Has this worked for you or for anyone you know? You can actually just share your story in next Tuesday's episode at this point, so that I can be a believer lol. Feel free to DM me @unpackinglove on IG. Article: https://qz.com/1247382/online-dating-is-so-awful-that-people-are-paying-virtual-dating-assistants-to-impersonate-them/amp/
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Colin, Vidya & I have a very real, very deep conversation about the stages we go through after a breakup. We hope this helps someone out there. If you are currently going through a breakup, you are not alone and the feelings you are experiencing are valid. Give yourself time and grace. Sometimes it's about taking it one day at a time. This too will come to pass. Sending you lots of love & hugs!
As always, please feel free to DM me on Instagram @unpackinglove if you have any thoughts that you wanna share about the topic. Thanks for listening!
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It might be time for us to ask ourselves if we are out here kittenfishing... Do you think kittenfishing is ok or not? Feel free to DM me your responses @unpackinglove on IG. Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Nyasha & I kick off the eX-Factor episodes with this 1-on-1 about Getting Back Together With The Ex (sips tea).. Join us as we share our thoughts on what to consider before getting back together, questions you may want to ask yourself & your ex before making that decision, strategies & resources you can use for your analysis and more.. Sometimes it's perfectly ok to get back together with your ex but sometimes it's not... That's always your call though, based on the situation you find yourself in... Remember to always do what is right by & for you.
As always, please feel free to DM me on Instagram @unpackinglove if you have any thoughts that you wanna share about the topic. Thanks for listening!
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Do you have any vulture stories you want to share? Feel free to DM me @unpackinglove on IG. Thanks for listening!
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Chiedza, Ronny & I had a passionate discussion in this one! We talked pros of dating a guy with kids, reservations and everything in between. A mic drop moment was when one of us said "I'm worried about having a baby daddy problem, not a baby mama problem." (and the crowd went wild!)
- Grab some tea or wine or juice..Grab SOMETHING to sip on, cause you'll need it.... and when you have, tune in! *
As always, feel free to DM me on Instagram @unpackinglove if you have any thoughts that you wanna share about the topic. Thanks for listening!
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Referenced Article: https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/relationships/a32314885/dating-bad-boys/ Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Steph, Ruttie & I talk about the themes that came up in Netflix's 'Love Is Blind' S2. Whether you watched it or not - this one's for you! We went everywhere and back - from not being physically attracted to someone you're in a relationship with, to being a home wrecker, to dealing with insecurities in a relationship, to being someone's second choice, to doubtfully accepting a proposal, to letting someone know that you feel like they would be making a mistake if they say 'I do'.... We left no stone unturned and we had a blast doing it!
I'd love to connect with you on Instagram @unpackinglove. Feel free to DM me if you have any thoughts that you wanna share about Love Is Blind or the themes that came up in this episode. Thanks for listening!
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Derrick & Mike share their biggest turnoffs when it comes to girls! Ladies, this one's for you! Find out what really goes on in guys' minds in this episode. They're both wise and hilarious..... More importantly, they're both single (at the time of this recording, lol!)
I'd love to connect with you on Instagram @unpackinglove. If you have any questions for these guys, you can DM me and I'll forward those to them!
Thanks for listening!
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Your girl is back at it again with the Q&As! Bonus - my personal meet-cute story which features K-Ci & JoJo
Riri, Angie & I talk about our biggest turnoffs when it comes to guys! Enjoy this storytime-infused episode! We had a blast recording this one! No spoilers in this description, okurr!
I'd love to connect with you on Instagram @unpackinglove. Thanks for listening!
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Demonstrate value | Engage physically | Nurturing dependence | Neglect emotionally | Inspire hope | Separate entirely Long story short - this is a toxic type of love! It's just like poison (insert Poison by Beyonce) Link to It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia S5 E10 clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bg5ZrkaGlFA I'd love to connect with you on Instagram @unpackinglove. If you have any questions, please feel free to DM me and they'll be answered in a Q&A episode. Thanks for listening! Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Ryan, Danella & I dish it out as it is - our raw/uncut commentary on Netflix's trending documentary - The Tinder Swindler. This episode presents our reactions, character analyses, thoughts on the hot topics of gold-digging, scamming, passport-details giving, loan-taking in the name of love living and of course the red flags that may have appeared yellow or green. If you thought the documentary was fire, this is the commentary you need to hear! We had so much recording this one! Ryan even started singing the theme song at the end!
I'd love to connect with you on Instagram @unpackinglove. If you have any questions, please feel free to DM me and they'll be answered in a Q&A episode. Thanks for listening!
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Hilda, Chichie and I share our thoughts about a controversial topic (in some circles) - dating younger men! It's controversial and that's why we are going there in this episode, lol! We talk about pros, cons, expectations, biases, society, family and we end the episode with advice for a woman who is thinking about dating a younger man.
I'd love to connect with you on instagram @unpackinglove. If you have any questions, feel free to DM me and they'll be answered in a Q&A episode. Thanks for listening!
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If you're the Anxious or Avoidant type, this book can help you understand your behavior & give you tips on how to move closer to being Secure. There is some great advice for the Secure type too, which would be beneficial if you end up dating someone who is not Secure. Attachment styles affect so many things in relationships, including but not limited to intimacy, how people deal with conflict & how they communicate with their partners. Knowing your attachment style helps you find a partner who is right for you and helps you keep your relationship healthy. Whoever you are - you are deserving of a great love and it's out there for you! Book - "Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
Ethan, Tanya and I talk about women & men shooting their shots in this spicy episode. If you wanna be startin' somethin' (yes, that's a Michael Jackson reference), one person needs to say something! In this episode, we tackle questions like: "Who should make the first move?", "What does one party not making a move OR making a move communicate to the other?", "Why do some women not approach men to tell them they like them?", "Why do some men not approach women to tell them they like them?", "Do the same rules apply when it comes to making relationships official?". We end the episode with some tips for those who wanna do the approaching.
I'd love to connect with you on instagram @unpackinglove. If you have any questions, feel free to DM me and they'll be answered in a Q&A episode. Thanks for listening!
Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
Referenced Article: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/attraction/what-are-different-types-of-attraction/ As always feel free to DM me your thoughts/questions @unpackinglove!
Hannah, Lynnette and I talk Online Dating - what we love about it, what we don't love about it, which apps to use for what, how to screen dates before meeting up with them and safety precautions. One of us even drops a "how to walk away from a date that's not going well" tip. 9 apps dropped in here but we know that there are plenty of fish out there, even when it comes to dating apps (.......yes, that was a pun! lol). I'd love to connect with you on instagram @unpackinglove. If you have any questions, feel free to DM me and they'll be answered in a Q&A episode. Thanks for listening! Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen
This Tuesday the tea is hot. I won't even spoil. From Polls to Exes to a Q&A session. The whole 9 yards.
George, Carol and I increase the heat in the kitchen as we talk about the Dating Stage. Questions like: "How many people can we handle dating at a time?", "Who should be paying for these dates?", "What happens if Ronaldo, our favorite player, won't commit?", "What are our physical boundaries in this stage?", "If she orders food for that date and for tomorrow, should he still pay?". If you're curious about the difference between talking and dating, rights, expectations and boundaries of the dating stage, we got you!
I'd love to connect with you on instagram @unpackinglove. If you have any questions, feel free to DM me and they'll be answered in a Q&A episode. Thanks for listening!
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This one is a Q&A about finding a rich man, finding love in a pandemic and about the podcast
Carol, George and I bring the heat as we talk about the ins and outs of the Talking Stage. Questions like: "Is there such a thing as talking to someone for too long?", "Do I have the right to ask whoever I'm talking to where they've been and who they've been with?", "Are there boundaries in this stage or is anything game?". If you're curious about the purpose, duration, rights, expectations and boundaries of this stage, we got you!
I'd love to connect with you on instagram @unpackinglove. If you have any questions, feel free to DM me and they'll be answered in a Q&A episode. Thanks for listening!
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