A Better Love with Dr. Greg Matos: Recent Episodes

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Join Dr. Greg Matos, a nationally board-certified couple and family psychologist in Los Angeles, to learn how to foster a healthier, more fierce love in your life. The show explores love in our society with a focus on modern dating, long-term relationships, and the dynamic cultural forces redefining relationship expectations in friendships, romance, and family. Special guests include industry leaders in mental health, entertainment, and business. This podcast is sponsored by the charitable contributions of listeners like you with tax-deductible donations to A Better Love Project, Inc. Support the show with a donation today: https://donorbox.org/abetterloveproject.

Join Dr. Greg and Child Psychologist Dr. Earl Turner to learn what you need to know about therapy for children and adolescents, especially kids of color.

In this episode:

~ When should parents bring their child to a therapist?
~ What’s therapy like for kids and their parents?
~ Dr. Earl’s initiative: Therapy For Black Kids
~ Dr. Earl’s upcoming book: “Raising Resilient Black Kids”
~ Talking about systemic racism with our children
~ Top tips for navigating social media with your children + adolescents

If you want to learn more about Dr. Earl you can connect with him on Instagram @drearlturner.

As always, you can find us @abetterloveproject everywhere.

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Join Dr. Susie Gronski to talk about men’s sexual health and much more. Dr. Susie is a licensed doctor of physical therapy, certified pelvic rehabilitation practitioner, and sexuality educator.

In this episode:

Common pelvic and sexual health issues: erectile dysfunction, vaginismus, and more.
What a healthy pelvic floor has to do with sexual functioning.
Dr. Susie’s book: “Pelvic Pain: The Ultimate Cock Block”
Pelvic health treatment and incorporating sexual partners.

If you want to connect with Dr. Susie and learn more about her work, visit her on Instagram @dr.susieg.

As always, you can find us @abetterloveproject everywhere.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos and a live TikTok audience to talk about the rituals of emotional connection he recommends for couples at the end of the year.

In this episode:

Introduction to the 7th principle of Gottman’s theory: Creating Shared Meaning.
Short quiz about whether you have the same meaning regarding dinner, holidays, etc.
One question I have all my couples ask themselves before the new year.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos and a live TikTok audience @abetterloveproject as we talk about the 4 core relationship skills everyone needs to know.

In this episode:

Introduction to the 4 Biggest Relationship Toxins: Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling
Introduction to Gentle Startup
Taking Responsibility
The Antidote to Contempt
Self-soothing and Flooding Strategies
Q&A with Live Audience: dating, co-parenting, and much more!

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Join Dr. Greg and Dr. Greif, a Distinguished Professor of Social Work at the University of Maryland, to discuss the power of male friendships.

In this episode:

The types of friendships: must, trust, rust, and just.
The barriers to male friendships, including how men pursue a connection with other men.
Lessons from "Buddy System: Understanding Male Friendships".
The importance of couple friends, biggest takeaways from "Two Plus Two: Couples and their couple friends."
Strategies for creating new friendships.

To learn more about Dr. Greif, you can visit: https://www.ssw.umaryland.edu/content/people/name-627914-en.html

As always, you can find us @abetterloveproject everywhere.

Books:

Buddy System: https://www.amazon.com/Buddy-System-Understanding-Male-Friendships/dp/0195326423

Two Plus Two: https://www.amazon.com/Two-Plus-Couples-Couple-Friendships/dp/0415879272

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Join Dr. Greg and couples therapist Eliza Boquin to explore modern love in the Latinx community.

Eliza is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and founder of Melanin and Mental Health.

In this episode:

How the definition of love is changing in the Latinx community.
Challenges around mental health care access, trust, and use of couples therapy.
Cultural aspects of self-sacrifice and service in traditional relationships.
Dating issues for those who identify as black, indigenous, and people of color (BIPOC).

For resources and a directory with providers of color, visit: https://www.melaninandmentalhealth.com or on Instagram: @melaninandmentalhealth

To connect with Eliza, you can find her @elizaboquin and as always, you can find our content @abetterloveproject on TikTok, Instagram, and elsewhere.

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Join Dr. Greg, a couple psychologist, to learn what's in your control to prevent loss of sexual attraction in long-term relationships.

In this episode:

Bumble's 2024 Dating Trends: Shared values and action.
Loss of sexual attraction is an increasing problem for long-term relationships, specifically related to weight gain and stigma.
Learn what to listen for on your first few dates to assess whether or not you're compatible with fitness, nutrition, and overall lifestyle.

Follow us @abetterloveproject on TikTok, Instagram, and elsewhere.

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Join Dr. Greg and Dr. Becca Payne to learn about Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and the things you need to consider when dating someone with the condition.

In this episode:

What is PTSD and is it chronic?
Identifying and talking about symptoms and triggers with a romantic partner.
Specific treatments, benefits, and how to talk to our partner about trying therapy.
Counteracting avoidance as a couple and building out social connections.
Complex PTSD, attachment, and what you need to know.

To learn more about Sabrina, visit her on Instagram @itsdoctorpayne and as always, you can find us @abetterloveproject on all major platforms.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/oMpPkh2zgFs

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Join Dr. Greg and yoga instructor Sabrina Rose to learn how yoga can be a path toward greater self-awareness and self-love.

In this episode:

How yoga can improve your mental health and confidence.
Yoga as a self-care practice that connects you to a community.
How to stay present with the process of growth while having fitness goals.
Trauma-informed yoga and healing.

To learn more about Sabrina, visit her on Instagram @sabrinarose_yoga and as always, you can find us @abetterloveproject on all major platforms.

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Join couple psychologist Dr. Greg and author Leah Aguirre, LCSW to discuss how to be intentional in the modern dating landscape with concrete advice and updates on relationship trends.

In this episode:
1. What is intentional dating?
2. Top strategies to foster a healthy dating experience and get what you want.
3. Discussing Leah's book: "The Girl's Guide to Relationships, Sexuality, and Consent"
4. Understanding consent in modern relationships.

And much more!

If you want to learn more about Leah and her work, you can find her on Instagram @leahaguirrelcsw and as always, you can find us @abetterloveproject on TikTok, Instagram, and elsewhere.

This episode is also available on all major podcast platforms.

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Join Dr. Greg to talk about repair in real-time or afterward, his top strategies for staying connected through conflict:

How To Take Responsibility In The Moment
Staying Curious With Clarifying Questions
After An Argument: Identifying How You'll Try Differently Next Time

That's a wrap for Season 2! We'll see you in Season 3 but stay tuned for other content on YouTube, TikTok, and Instagram @abetterloveproject

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Join Dr. Greg and returning guest Dr. Becca for breakups 101 plus:

Top tips after a shocking breakup.
How to regain self-worth and heal after a toxic breakup.
What to do if you're living together when you break up.
The tips for being clear and setting good boundaries.
Is being single a skill?

To connect with Dr. Becca, you can find her on Instagram: @itsdoctorpayne

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Join Dr. Greg as he explores big questions related to human sexuality with Sexologist Dr. Anya de Montigny.

In this episode:

The 2 biggest misconceptions and myths about human sexuality.
What is the state of sex education in the U.S.?
How to begin exploring your sexuality through touch and pleasure.
Common sexual challenges couples are facing today.
Slow and quick libido, how couples can discover their unique pathways to pleasure and a sexually satisfying relationship.

To connect with Dr. Anya, visit her site: https://teachmeaboutsex.com/

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Join Dr. Greg and Dr. Payne to talk about how insecure attachment styles develop and how they may be impacting your relationship right now.

In this episode:
1. Awareness of dysfunctional relationship patterns.
2. How to slow down conflict and respond differently.
3. Creating a relationship culture that values self-soothing and expressing strong feelings effectively.

To connect with Dr. Payne, visit her on Instagram: @itsdrpayne.

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Join Dr. Greg to talk about avoidance and how you can make sure you're living your fullest potential.

In this episode:

What is avoidance?
What is the antidote to avoidance?
How does avoidance work in romantic relationships?

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Join Dr. Greg, a couple's psychologist, to explore the three questions you need to ask before moving into the same place together:

Creating a Home & Cleanliness
Finances
Rituals of Connection

Surprised about commitment questions in your relationship? Watch until the end to learn the #1 reason I find prompts these questions sooner than you may expect : )

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Join Dr. Greg, a national expert on couple's therapy, to discuss the 5 dealbreakers that if ignored would likely become gridlocked perpetual issues in a long-term relationship.

In this episode:
1. Sexual Chemistry
2. Emotional Intelligence
3. Consistency
4. Shared Core Values, Beliefs, and Ethics
5. Compatible Dreams

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Only a few more episodes left in Season 2!!

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Join Dr. Greg, a couple's psychologist, to talk about mental health and relationships:

How to know when to share about serious mental health challenges.
Individual responsibility, autonomy, and building rituals of self-care that work for you.
How to take a position of genuine interest and curiosity with our partners.

This episode was made possible by the generous donations of donors on Patreon.com/abetterloveproject.

Special shout-out to our sponsors: Dr. Julie Landry, Kendra Johnson, and Suzanne McMillan.

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Join Dr. Greg for the final episode of 2022 for shoutouts to our amazing guests, interns, and sponsors : )

Love of love,

Dr. Greg

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Join Dr. Greg and special guest Alyssa Fletcher to talk about yoga, mental clarity, self-love, and healthy relationships.

In this episode:
1. What drew Alyssa to becoming a yoga instructor.
2. Yoga as a form of love.
3. Mental health, clarity, and awareness.
4. Physical strength, flexibility, and wellness.

If you want to connect with Alyssa, you can find her on Instagram: @alyssafaletcher.
Alyssa currently teaches private yoga classes as well as at Yoga Nest in Venice, CA.

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Join Dr. Greg and his guest Dr. Kris Marsh to discuss her new book "The Love Jones Cohort" about being black, single, and middle-class in America.

In this episode:
1. Choosing to be single and a paradigm shift led by single black women.
2. How racism, wealth, and other social constraints impact dating options for those seeking a relationship.
3. New ways to think about intergenerational wealth from the Love Jones Cohort.

Pre-order Dr. Marsh's book by visiting her site: https://drkrismarsh.com

Follow Dr. Marsh on most major platforms @drkrismarsh

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Join Dr. Greg and Courtney Pong to talk about improvisation, comedy, and the skills everyone can benefit from:

1. What are the key lessons of improv comedy for communication?
2. The power of connection and getting on the same page.
3. Why local art, comedy, and theater are needed now more than ever!Visit @courtneypong on Instagram and Twitter.

Check out Comedy Sportz Boston: https://www.cszboston.com/csz-leadership

Courtney’s back in San Jose for a show: Friday 12/09/22 @ 8:00 PM!

Learn more about Rozzie Square Theater: https://www.rozziesquaretheater.com/

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Join Dr. Greg Matos and Jaqueline Hurst for a conversation about dating fatigue:

Is it worst for men than women? In Los Angeles versus London?
How to have fun and stay hopeful in a confusing dating landscape.
Dating communication fumbles that you don't want to commit.

Learn more about Jaqueline and her work in the UK: https://www.jacquelinehurst.com/my-story

Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jacqueline_hurst_

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Join Dr. Greg and Bruna to discuss how our childhood spiritual beliefs shape how we love and why creating shared meaning in family is so important:

Spiritual values, beliefs, and love.
Creating shared meaning about freedom, love, choice, and path.

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Join Dr. Greg and returning special guest Ginger Dean for a conversation about men's emotional health and relationships.

In this episode:
1. How to talk about vulnerability.
2. Defensiveness and Change.
3. Setting new norms for masculinity and mental health.

For more from Ginger, visit her on Instagram @lovingmeafterwe.

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Join Dr. Greg, the founder @abetterloveproject, for updates on the project. In this episode:

We're shifting from a health podcast to a culture genre podcast with commentary about love in our present society.
10-minutes of Mindful Breathing practicing core life skills: diaphragmatic breathing, metacognition, and a little loving-kindness meditation at the end.

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Join Dr. Greg to talk about infatuation, love, and romance. In this episode:

What is infatuation and is there a healthy dose in love?
Can you be captivated?
Reading of Psychology Today Article: "America's Crisis of Distrust"

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Join Dr. Greg Matos and Bruna Nessif to talk about our ‘shadow’, the parts of ourselves that we dislike or that carry some shame.

What is the Shadow?
What are the benefits of exploring that part of ourselves?
How to recognize some examples of shadow in relationships.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified couple and family psychologist, to talk about how to navigate long-distance relationships. In this episode:

What percentage of relationships last the distance?
3 strategies to maintain emotional intimacy.
2 ways to maintain sexual intimacy.

For a certified sex therapist in LA, visit Dr. Nazanin @sexologypodcast.

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Join Dr. Greg and Bruna to talk about how to take the stress out of dating. In this episode:

How to be yourself for you and your potential partner.
Asking, “are you my husband?” every first date and what to do about it.
Spiritual values and when they come up in dating.
And more…

To connect with Bruna, follow her on Instagram @brunanessif or on TikTok @itsbrunababy.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos and Ginger Dean to discuss 'over-functioning' in relationships and what every 'people pleaser' needs to know when dating.

In this episode:
1. What is over-functioning and how to stop doing it?
2. Setting healthy standards with self-worth and assurance.
3. How do they react to disappointment? One signal about how they value you.

Dr. Greg Matos is a board-certified couple psychologist in Los Angeles and Ginger Dean is a licensed psychotherapist in the DC area. You can follow Ginger on Instagram @lovingmeafterwe.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified couple psychologist to discuss the first 1-6 months of dating. When do we get or give titles? How does that conversation start? How easy should it be?

Also in this episode:
1. All the reality shows we're watching for you at @abetterloveproject, including one show you might not expect.
2. Healthy loves start with clear signals and clear communication.
3. The first 12 months of a relationship set the tone for long-term loves.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos and Guest Co-Host Mariana Moreno to discuss Gary Chapman's 5-love languages. In this episode:

What are the languages?
Things to avoid with each love language.
How to be responsive to each other's bids and ways of emotionally connecting.

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Join Dr. Greg for episode 8 of A Better Love to talk about FOMO and why we're becoming distracted in long-term relationships. Also in the episode:

The Bachelorette and Dating Multiple People
Focus and Immersion
Fidelity

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If you're a college radio station producer with an audience who would benefit from dating and relationship advice, let us know. We'll have Dr. Greg on your show for a 5-10 minute live Q&A answering your audience members' questions.

Dr. Greg Matos is a psychologist and monthly contributor to the blog, "The State of our Unions" on Psychology Today. Greg covers trends in dating, relationships, marriage, and divorce.

Reach out to Dr. Greg by emailing greg@abetterloveproject.org or DM our producer Kareena on IG: @kareenadeol7 to schedule an interview.

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Join couple's psychologist, Dr. Greg, to compare what’s “toxic” relationship behavior versus normal conflict. Also in this episode:

Toxic = abusive and other insights from Kaitlyn Tiffany’s article in The Atlantic.
Reaction: Netflix’s Indian Matchmaker + honoring cultural differences.
Skill of the Week: Micro-repairs and how to stay more emotionally attuned.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified couple psychologist, to talk about concrete ways you can improve open and honest communication in your romantic relationship. In this episode:

TLC's Doubling Down With The Derricos and Welcome to Plathville, comparing openness in communication.
Creating new standards for healthy romance and emotional connection.
Gottman-Method Stress-Reducing Conversation, a ritual for daily, open communication.

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Join Dr. Greg + Mariana to dive into 5 key green relationship flags from Lexi Inks' article "15 Early Signs Your Relationship Has Potential":

They Make It Clear How They Feel About You
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They Prioritize Making Time For You
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Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couple psychologist, for a quick episode on:

1. Secure attachment and fear as a target for intervention.

2. Defensiveness and narcissism.

3. Your influence in relationships by setting boundaries.

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Join Dr. Greg and his live TikTok audience for a conversation about the power of "positive perspective" in long-term relationships and marriage.

In this episode:
1. What is the positive perspective?
2. Can it be directly improved?
3. Why is it so important to sustain effort in marriage?

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Live TikTok Event with Dr. Greg Matos discussing alcohol misuse and its toll on relationships, self-love, and the challenge of individual responsibility when it comes to doing the work of love.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos to chat with Melissa Dumaz, host of the Hatz Podcast, about core beliefs and their impact on long-term relationships. In this episode: 1) communicating beliefs about your worldview early, 2) creating shared meaning in times of crisis, and 3) leaving relationships with a “soulmate” or “twin-flame” when it’s not healthy anymore.

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Join Dr. Greg and Dr. Nazanin Moali to talk about love and sex in our Season 2 Premiere! Greg and Nazanin dive into loveless marriages, masturbation, porn addiction, and more. Make sure you share this with everyone you love.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified psychologist, for our season finale to talk about the antidote to self-absorption and answer live TikTok relationship questions. In this episode, we chat with Tamara in Wyoming about her husband’s spending habits and what to do next. Join us for our Season 2 Premiere on Father’s Day, June 19, 2022!
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Join Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified psychologist in LA, to answer live TikTok audience member questions about dating, love, and sex. In this episode: 1) learning to love in unfamiliar ways with a partner who is neurodivergent, 2) the legacy of love we can leave our kids, and 3) asking to be touched more in a 20+ year marriage.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified psychologist in LA, for this live morning show on TikTok @abetterloveproject. In this episode, you’ll learn how to set boundaries, strengthen your emotional connection, and the importance of being admired as well as having self-love.

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Join Dr. Greg Matos, a board-certified psychologist, for this live TikTok Morning Show that was recorded Sunday @ 10 AM (Azorean Time).

In the episode:
1. How to support your partner when they're exhausted.
2. Grief, Loss, and Gentleness
3. Emotional Connection in Marriage, Never Stop Dating Your Spouse

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Join Dr. Greg to answer a TikTok audience member's question about "breaking things in the home" and how we define violence in relationships.

In this episode:
1. Defining Intimate Partner Violence
2. Deficiencies in communication and behavioral skills
3. Free resources: The National Domestic Violence Hotline+

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Join Dr. Greg to answer a TikTok audience member's question about sexual guilt, the idea of purity, and how to begin shifting toward a positive stance on sexual health.

In the episode:
1. Religious/Cultural Values + Family Conversations about Sex
2. Normalizing sexual development and positive sexual experiences.
3. Redefining "purity" to include loving, positive, sexual pleasure.

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss a few key questions to consider if you're getting back together with someone you've been separated from for a while. In this case, our listener is re-connecting with a co-parent with who she's still married and wants to make it work.

In this episode:
1. What was co-parenting like during the separation?
2. What is it you both want to actually commit to?
3. What is going to be different this time?

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss emotional labor, sharing functional and emotional tasks, and being clear about what we need.

Tonight we’re talking about compromise and I’ll teach you a specific strategy. Get your spouse on TikTok right now, the person you love the most, whoever that is… join me together every Sunday to talk about getting through hard stuff and fostering a healthier relationship.

You’re listening to episode 77 with a live TikTok audience.

Tonight’s episode is made possible by Mona, our third official sponsor who honors her late father Mohammed Sanjakdar. She hopes you will join her in supporting this show as a way to honor those who helped you learn about love.

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I want to take a moment to celebrate. I started this show almost a year ago and after tonight, I will have shared all of the core relationship skills I think you need. You can watch and listen to 76+ episodes on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts.

Shout out to our moderators for fostering a supportive environment. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments and I’ll get to them later.

Let’s dive into how to love more fiercely. Let’s start with when we need compromise the most: during gridlocked perpetual issues.

What is that?

Example: gridlock around their dinner-time routine: one person wants to sit down at the table each night to share a meal while the other person prefers to eat on the go, especially if they’re getting home late, which is a common occurrence.

Defining your core needs, values, and dreams, areas of inflexibility.
Defining your areas of flexibility.
Experiment with a temporary compromise that recognizes both your core needs and dreams.

We need to feel safe in order for a compromise to work, for this dialogue and process to be maximally effective.

RIFF:

To remember:

Compromise never feels perfect.

Everyone gains something and everyone loses something in a compromise.

The important this is feeling understood, respected, and honored in your dream.

Ladies and gentlemen, that’s all for our show tonight! Sponsor this public media project, don’t wait, do it right now to get exclusive member benefits at: patreon.com/abetterloveproject.

As always, ask for what you need in your relationship and start couple’s therapy sooner rather than later.

I’m Dr. Greg Matos, from Hollywood, California, until next time, love each other fiercely.

Join Dr. Greg Matos, a licensed couple and family psychologist in Los Angeles to address relationships on the brink and what you need to consider:

Why do you want to save this relationship? (Motivation/Importance)
What have you already done to save it? (Readiness for Change/Effort)
What are you willing to commit to? (New Rituals of Emotional Connection)

I've worked with many couples through very hard things and believe in Gottman-Method Couples Therapy and evidence-based couples therapy broadly. Reach out to a qualified, licensed professional in your local community for support.

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It is normal to experience heightened levels of emotion in conflict with a family member, whether they're your child or your spouse. The key is leveling up your capacity to regulate and self-soothe.

The masters are great self-soothers. The good news is that this is a skill that can be learned.

In this episode:

Nervous System + Flooding
Rituals of Emotional Connection in your family: Support a healthy mind and body (cardio, walking, yoga, tai chi, meditation, painting) **Share this episode as a free mental health resource!

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Join Dr. Greg and a live TikTok audience to discuss adult child-parent relationships. In this episode:

Emotional connection across the lifespan with a primary caregiver.
Communicating wants and desires in all relationships, including child-adult ones.
End of life and caretaking.

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Join Dr. Greg for a recorded live show of A Better Love with Dr. Greg on TikTok! The show aired last night at 8 pm PST.

It's brought to you by viewers and listeners like you, who have donated to support our mission. Thank you to our advocates: Mariana, Jennifer Dix-Geddie, Melanie Pastores, Elizabeth Henson / Sustaining Supporters: Natasha Haricombe, Brielle Maxwell.

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Let’s talk about the skills necessary to navigate narcissism.

In all things on this show, we talk about first attending to ourselves. So I’ll ask you, if you’re listening to this right now and have been told by one or more people, that you’re egocentric, self-absorbed, defensive, and maybe even contemptuous, I’ve got an amazing skill that will help you reach your fullest potential.

It’s called accepting influence and adoring your partner like yourself, loving them as you would want to be loved. This might sound scary, but especially if you’re a heterosexual man, your well-being and relationship satisfaction will actually increase when you are more accepting of your partner’s influence.

This may seem impossible if you or someone out there has a more rigid version of this in terms of a personality disorder.

1 in 200 people, 75% of men can display narcissistic traits/relational patterns that ride to the level of a disorder, meaning it’s negatively impacting several spheres of their life including social relationships.

That’s. .5% of the population. Instead, I want to talk about two topics: self-esteem and emotional connection.

So what about the other 99.5% of people in relationships who aren’t narcissists but lack the skills to truly emotionally connect, to truly adore our partner, to be open to their feedback, to their needs and desires, and see these desires as valid as our own.

Incorporating a simple ritual of emotional connection where everyone gets heard and validated routinely, is a great way to practice seeking understanding and validating. The SRC is one example of this.

More on the episode: answering live questions from the show!

Welcome back to A Better Love, I'm your host, Dr. Greg, today we're diving into step-parent relationships across families with children and just the beginning of the conversation about integrating family systems and doing the best you can.

If you're new to the podcast, I'm Dr. Greg, a board-certified couple and family psychologist, and the full-time content creator @abetterloveproject. Today's episode is sponsored by one of our founding sponsors, Molly. Thank you to Molly for your generosity and for this episode.

Let’s first name the players on stage, the possibilities are endless but may begin with two biological parents and one or two step-parents oh, we're in the words of one of our other donors mentioned, a bonus mom or dad. I appreciate that sentiment. And then the child or children across these 2-4 adults.

From the vantage point of biological parents introducing new people into the family system, I’d suggest being deliberate, supportive, and nurturing healthy relationships across the system. That can begin with when you first introduce a new woman or man to your kids, deciding for yourself, the pace that happens, the meaning you build around this new emotional connection for your kids, and their involvement with normal daily activities that are involved in parenting for serious relationships.

From the perspective of communication between biological parents and a new step-mom or step-dad, aspirationally we’d love for there to be great communication and support there, particularly if your children are younger. The new person can be seen as a force multiplier, another member of the greater team supporting your kid’s growth.

And from the vantage point of a child, it’s important to see all the adults playing nicely with one another in the sandbox. Where else do our children learn what is possible in adult relationships, if not by watching us live our life? Their developing minds crave consistency, emotional support, a sense of safety, and belongingness, all these things can be nurtured in a new version of the family system with step-parents.

I understand that it’s difficult to make this a reality in our lives. Many families struggle with disagreements around parenting, antagonism between the three primary players, and negative impacts on children’s mental health abound. Let’s talk about three specific tips you can try to start off on the right foot as new adults are joining the family system:

Be patient with yourself and your family, creating a new family system that is healthy is more like a marathon, a long-term investment.
Maintain communication with your partner about adjustment challenges, validate and support each other through any growing pains.
Parent together, this is an ongoing experiment and dialogue about parenting norms, house rules, etc. that we hope is relatively consistent amongst all adults involved.

If you’re a step-parent who is experiencing ongoing conflict-related to family system adjustment challenges, consider reaching out to a local family therapist or psychologist who can help the entire system do a better job.

We’ll continue to talk about parenting and family systems as we develop our web series later this year. If you have specific relationship science you’d like to help share with the world, I hope you’ll consider joining our current 26 donors as a sponsor of the show.

Go to patreon.com/abetterloveproject to donate $20/month or more and help sustain our full-time content creation at A Better Love Project, Inc. We’re a 501c3 nonprofit media company in California, run by a combat veteran, and committed to 4 years of producing high-quality video content to help millions of families across America.

I’m Dr. Greg, until next time, love each other fiercely.

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Join Dr. Greg and Dr. Kate Balestrieri to talk about online dating safety and catfishing, what you should consider before meeting IRL.

It's a privilege to have Dr. Kate to speak with on this topic, she's a psychologist and certified sex therapist who is reaching millions of people with awesome sex education and support for their relationships.

If "catfishing" is a new term for you, go check out MTV’s Catfish at 8 pm Wednesdays. A catfish is someone who steals someone else’s online photos and impersonates them to develop romantic relationships with people online, on TikTok, other social media, dating apps, and dating sites.

To connect with Dr. Kate, visit her on TikTok and elsewhere @drkatebalestrieri.

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Today's episode was brought to you by our first sponsor, Kendra Johnson. Thank you.

Join Dr. Greg for a sneak peek into the extra 5-10 minutes you'll get when you support the show with a $10/mo donation. To learn more, visit https://www.patreon.com/abetterloveproject.

On this one-time sneak peek episode:
1. A listener's love story about an 8-month storm in a 43-year love.
2. The % of bids that masters effectively respond to.
3. Ways you can keep this mission moving forward.

To each and every one of you who has downloaded this podcast once, I appreciate every moment of time you shared with me. For our supporters, here are stats about the growing reach of our show so you can get as excited about A Better Love Project as I am : )

Our podcast is 8-months old and our 70 episodes have been downloaded 4,180 times in the following places:

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Join Dr. Greg for this short conversation about disorganized attachment style, what most often leads to its development and general recommendations for couples navigating high conflict in their life right now.

On the episode:
1. What is disorganized attachment style?
2. What environmental factors contribute to its development?
3. What you might consider doing.

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Ladies and gentlemen, I want to start with my sincerest gratitude for your ears and attention. each of you who listens to this podcast has made an investment and themselves, their relationships, their friendships, and family.

And you are not only in California but all across this country and around the world. Wisconsin, Florida, Michigan, Canada, the UK, and Portugal. Our fastest-growing audience on YouTube is from India, followed by Indonesia, Vietnam, and the Philippines.

I want you to know that I see you and from the bottom of my heart, appreciate your support.

I'll be headed to LA for the next 4 months and look forward to meeting fellow creators in the City of Angels. My goal is to hire freelance videographers to help produce our two web series soon and hope to meet awesome people. If you’re in the LA area and you’re a creator excited by our mission, DM me on TikTok or Instagram, let’s chat.

Friday, I sit down with superstar Sex Therapist Dr. Kate Balestrieri of Modern Intimacy in LA/Miami. We’re talking about online dating safety and what you need to know to avoid all things catfishing.

Just yesterday, we premiered our conversation with Dr. Kate King on massage in long-term relationships and its importance in our older years. Make sure to listen to that episode and watch show clips on YouTube @abetterloveproject.

And congrats to my friends who are celebrating their 26th wedding anniversary, your story is a hopeful one : )

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Join Dr. Greg and Dr. Kate King, co-host of the Noble Mind podcast and Geropsychology Concentration Director at William James College. Dr. Kate is also a licensed massage therapist and talks to us about the power of touch in romantic relationships, including non-demand touch like massage.

On the episode:
1. The importance of touch throughout our lifespan.
2. Partner Massage
3. Specific Techniques to Try

You can connect with Dr. Kate King here: https://drkateking.com

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss healthy boundaries after a physically abusive relationship and thoughts on co-parenting with a formerly abusing ex-partner.

On this episode:

Safety
Setting Boundaries
Seeking Mental Health Support

Bottom line: Unwanted touch of any kind is not something we want to tolerate in our relationships and homes. After a divorce, you can create a safe home environment for you and your child with these firm boundaries.

This is the last in our 3-part series on divorce for now. There are many other issues that people can face after a divorce, like:

Depression, Anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress
Estrangement, Co-parenting Conflict, and Issues with Child Support
Periods of housing or financial instability

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Join Dr. Greg and matchmaker Jade Bianca to talk about dating after divorce, dating apps, and safe sex.

Dating after divorce can be a challenge or bliss depending on how the algorithms are treating you on dating apps. In this episode, we talk about dating app strategy, choosing an app, how many apps you should use at a time, and more.

We dive into “situationships”, consent, and safe sex. You don’t want to miss this 8-minute episode whether you’re dating or just want to be able to help a friend who is.

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Dive into a 3-part series on divorce and separation with Dr. Greg, a board-certified couple and family psychologist.

On today's episode:
1. Seeking support and expert advice.
2. Acknowledging stress and managing it like a wave.
3. Defining the kind of practical connection you can maintain with your spouse (especially for co-parenting).

Send your divorce questions to Dr. Greg @abetterloveproject on TikTok/Instagram or drop a comment on this video.

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Join Dr. Greg and special guest Dr. Nazanin Moali, a Certified Sex Therapist, to discuss menopause, sexual health in mid-life, and great preventative health recommendations.

On this episode:
1. Defining menopause and potential impacts on sexual health
2. Discussion about hormonal therapy, diet, and adapting
3. Dr. Moali on how you can foster a healthy, thriving sex life

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss 4 common family roles that you may be enacting right now - is it helpful to you or the family system?

It's clear we all enact roles in our life, in our work, relationships, and family. Our developmental life shapes our personality and relational skills, influenced by roles we may place.

Listen to the descriptions of these common roles and see if they resonate with you?

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Join Dr. Greg and Stephanie Smith, host of the Dirty Blondes Podcast for a bite-sized conversation about how to leverage sexual fantasy to increase sexual arousal and desire.

On this episode:
1. Your relationship with fantasy and the power of your imagination.
2. Common fantasies and where to begin with your partner.
3. Vulnerability, trust, and fun with role-playing.

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Join Dr. Greg for this quick episode on what to do when you're being asked for separation before understanding what the issues are in your relationship.

Let your first response be to seek understanding and couples therapy. Any two adults who have children together deserve time in couples therapy to determine what's changeable.

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss non-monogamy, what it is and whether it works on today’s episode of A Better Love.

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…today we’re talking about non-monogamy and since it’s the first time we’re talking about it here, I’ll start with a broader framework that I consider when thinking about couples I’ve worked with who were non-monogamous. I’ve got a book recommendation at the end of the episode as well, so let’s dive into it.

I want to start by clarifying my cultural views and biases on this topic as a way to acknowledge that each of us has our own values and belief systems. When you work with a couples therapist, it’s totally relevant to ask about their work with open relationships and polyamorous couples to date and their overall view of healthy relationships as it relates to these forms of love.

I was raised in a somewhat socially conservative family which has obviously evolved over time on a range of subjects. However, there really wasn’t an option except for monogamy in my home as much as I’m sure for many of you, monogamy remains the dominant strain of romantic relationships in the world. Non-monogamous relationships account for only about 1-4% of romantic relationships.

My views of non-monogamy have evolved with my training and clinical experience, though admittedly my work with non-monogamous couples is slim. There are probably lots of reasons for that including barriers to care that involve stigma and overall a lack of funding for research of non-monogamous couples to build out our foundation of knowledge and training in the field.

So here are three points I want to be clear about:

There are, in fact, many healthy non-monogamous relationships in the world.
I believe it's productive to view our relationships as social constructions, agreements between two or more people that are chosen freely and without coercion.
I believe that core healthy relationship skills are equally necessary for all versions of romance, love, partnership, friendship, etc.

I’d say for most of us who were raised to view monogamy as the only choice, that monogamy will likely be the easiest choice to make and, relationship skills being equal, would lead to fewer friction points, adjustment difficulties, and the like. The bottom line here is: you can suck at relationships regardless of whether you’re monogamous or not, you can be a disaster doing the most traditional thing ever, the rules might be different but living the rules with trust, commitment, persistent attention, emotional connection, good conflict management, they’re all equally powerful in determining the health of your love.

Join Dr. Greg to answer a listener's question about how to find themselves after a divorce. And I think this is a great time of year to think about this question and set out on some self-exploration.

Today’s episode:

Divorce rates and common experiences.
The importance of validating individual joys and aspirations.
Self-exploration and self-affirmation.

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Join Dr. Greg on our final daily episode in December to talk about the power of hope in our lives and loves.

On today’s episode:

We’ve reached 30,000 followers on TikTok! Thank you.
Focus on positive needs.
Focus on what’s possible for you in 2022.

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Join Dr. Greg to talk about leaving a toxic relationship in the context of degrees of freedom and decision points.

On today’s episode:

Privilege/Marginalization
Fostering Self-Belief
Fostering Social Connection

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Join Dr. Greg to explore the foundation of a healthy co-parenting relationship and the benefits to your health and your child's wellbeing.

On the episode:
1. Mission mindset.
2. Teamwork.
3. Consistency.

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Join Dr. Greg to talk about how to set up boundaries with ex-partners that honor your collective values. We’ll be talking about relationships with co-parents in another episode, today we’re talking about a situation where there aren’t children involved.

On the episode:

Open and closed systems.
Understanding your cultural norms and influences.
Starting a conversation about it.

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss the impact of narcissistic personality traits on a relationship. On today's episode:

What are common narcissistic traits?
What are their consequences on emotional validation and defensiveness?
Understanding the possibility for change in the context of flexibility.

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Join Dr. Greg to answer a listener's question about how to handle her spouse spending hours on Xbox until the wee hours of the evening and then just coming to bed versus spending quality time with her.

On today’s episode:

Gaming habits as relationship problems.
Gentle Startup
Focusing on Positive Needs and Integrating Partner’s Needs

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Join Dr. Greg to reflect on this past year and set your intentions for the life and love that you want to create in the coming year.

In this episode:

The power of intentions.
Intentions in single life, dating, and long-term relationships.
Examples of rituals of emotional connection.

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Join Dr. Greg to answer this TikTok listener's question: do we always get it right, when someone doesn't see a future for the relationship?

On this episode:
1. My fundamental relationship rule.
2. Making meaning of loss.
3. A basis of hope in the midst of sadness, loneliness, and loss.

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss attraction, dating, and the chase in this 3-minute episode:

Novelty of the chase
Discussion of the chase in dating and long-term relationships.
Discussion of genuine interest as well as avoidance.

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Join Dr. Greg for a conversation about understanding our family systems better ahead of family celebrations over the next couple of weeks.

In today's episode:
1. Clarifying a healthy developmental environment.
2. Challenging ourselves to identify our 5 most important social connections.
3. Deepening relationships with biological or chosen family.

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss dating and match, how looking for fewer similarities may mean more relationship adjustment stress. Big picture, think about matches that will put less wear and tear on your relationship in the long term.

In this episode:
1. Locke Wallace Relationship Adjustment Test
2. Similarities and Differences
3. Examples of differences that lead to growth.

Send us your relationship questions @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram. And today, let us know how A Better Love Project has had a positive impact on your life. Send an email to greg [at] abetterloveproject.org. I look forward to hearing from you.

Join Dr. Greg for an in-depth discussion of Love Maps, including a free Love Maps Card Deck from the Gottman Institute and instructions on how to play a Love Maps game with your partner.

Stay curious about your lover and their world with this exercise and supercharge your emotional connection.

Our podcast is audience-centered, answering your relationship questions.

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss diaphragmatic breathing and retraining our mind and body to lower overall physiological arousal. This is the first of our podcasts with an exercise you'll do along with Dr. Greg.

In this episode:
5-minutes of breathing retraining for you.

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Join Dr. Greg to answer a listener's question about how to navigate the impact of emotional abuse after leaving a toxic relationship.

On today's episode:
1. The real impact of very unhealthy relationships.
2. Starting places for reflection and action.

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss sexual attraction in long-term relationships and understand the likely case that attraction wanes it's likely a symptom of a systemic problem.

In this episode:
1. Dating someone you're not sexually attracted to, even if they're awesome.
2. Exploring what's changed in a long-term relationship when experiencing shifts in your attraction.
3. Sexual health and interdependence.

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Today’s episode answer’s a TikTok listener’s question about who I am and why I founded A Better Love Project. I hope I answered your question, let me know.

Today’s episode:

Why I got into psychology and founded this non-profit.
Our vision: to support the development of foundational relationship skills with 1 million families by sharing science-based relationship advice daily.

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Join Dr. Greg and Jenna Carlsson for the last part of a 3-part series on the KonMari Method, decluttering, and joy.

This episode we're diving into:
1. Dating and understanding your partner's values early on.
2. Create shared meaning about your family's relationship with stuff.
3. Finding a new home for things that you don't need.

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Join Dr. Greg and Jenna Carlsson, a certified KonMari Consultant, to continue our conversation about decluttering and joy, this is part two.

On today’s episode:

Common challenges to decluttering and ways forward.
Creating a vision and aligning with your values.

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Thanks for listening!

Join Dr. Greg and Jenna Carlsson, a certified KonMari Consultant, to talk about our relationship to material things and their impact on our wellbeing and relationships. This is part one of a continuing conversation with Jenna.

On today’s episode:

What is the KonMari method and how does it work?
What joy has to do with things in your home.
Creating a vision for yourself and your space.

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Until tomorrow, love each other fiercely.

Join Dr. Greg to discuss a listener's question about change, defensiveness, and a partner's reluctance to go to therapy.

In this episode:
1. The antidote to defensiveness.
2. Change conversations and boundaries.
3. Compassion for the difficulty of vulnerability.

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Join Dr. Greg as we answer a listener's question: Any advice for someone who grew up in a very chaotic childhood so they have learned to feel comfort in chaos and seek it out? I get easily bored in relationships and when things are going very good, and feel very healthy, I feel very uncomfortable. I want to overcome that though.

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-- TranscriptFor our listeners who didn’t have childhoods like this but are bored in their relationships, I’d recommend you take the pulse of how stimulating your love is. We’ll do another episode on this later.

For now, let’s talk about loves with folks who may have symptoms of complex post-traumatic stress. The prevalence rate for complex PTSD is .5 to .7%. If you’re listening and you experienced a very chaotic childhood like this listener, your relationship with adrenaline is going to be important to understand. The worst thing, is if this was happening for you, and you ignored it.

As I mentioned on a recent episode about anxious attachment, we adapt for survival and then these adaptations can persist into adulthood. They don’t work well now.

Hearing you’re feeling bored in day-to-day life isn’t a surprise to me. I'm a combat veteran and have worked with many people who have experienced combat, sexual violence, and unimaginably horrific childhoods. Our response to trauma will be different based on the unique context of a trauma and how long it latest or reoccurred. Earlier trauma is often the hardest because you may have lived in a chaotic, toxic home your whole childhood.

My first suggestion is to you be curious about it and I think you’re in this space now. This will help you move beyond attending to just the boredom and asking yourself, what it is you want or need in that moment? What I mean by this is that your emotional life is likely a bit more complex than just this one dimension. Work to understand the full picture of your physiological and emotional experience.

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Join Dr. Greg to discuss the challenges of long-distance relationships and potential opportunities to deepen your love before reuniting. Covered in today's episode:

Clarifying what you need.
Breaking up the separation with short trips to savor physical and sexual intimacy.
Determining what you're willing to accept.

Share this episode with someone you love and ask your relationships questions @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram.

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Transcript:

For those of you who are listening and have ever been in a long-distance relationship you know for yourself the limitations and perhaps some of the benefits.

The benefit of physical distance is that you'll learn a lot about what a romantic relationship means to you. What are the most important parts? One study I looked at suggested 60% or more of respondents who have been in a long-term relationship report that the lack of physical intimacy is the biggest challenge, with 31% saying they were missing sex the most. It's definitely not surprising that physical intimacy was the biggest challenge, and I'm also not surprised that sex and sexual intimacy was as low as it is because any relationship that lasts pass in 3 or 4 months long distance is likely between two people With greater willingness to sacrifice this essential part of a fierce love.

Set for my listener who's struggling with this long-distance situation, I would have the following recommendations:

Define an end date for the physical separation. Now, I know this isn't as easy as I suggest. There are many couples, I've worked with some, who have very specific professional requirements that have them in other countries living in other countries working in other countries so the amount of options you may have is likely Limited because you're physically separated in the first place. Still, have a sense of when the separation will end.
Ask yourself what do I need right now? If you really love the person, want to stay in the relationship, and the only issue to you is the physical separation, then perhaps scheduling some time to spend with that person to break up the period of separation would be a straightforward way to address that issue.
And lastly, ask yourself what am I willing to accept in this situation? If you're not willing to experience whatever discomfort comes up from this distance then acknowledge that, honor that, and communicate what it is that you desire and want with your partner. Perhaps, there's room for compromise or an option that you haven't considered yet 4 getting to the same apartment or condo or home, or maybe just the same city.

For those of you who are considering a long-distance relationship here are a few things that I wanted to share. First, for you high school sweethearts who experiment with a long-distance relationship oh, it's very common for college students to have a long-distance relationship oh, and it's also common for those to end at some point during the College Years.

For those of you who met online and wonder how many of those relationships persist into marriage, it seems that about 10% of marriages in the US started as long-distance relationships.

And for those of us who may have been dating during the pandemic and still now, it's more and more likely that you initiate romantic relationships in digital ways, connecting on dating apps, dating websites, etc.

It’s possible to have a fierce love that either begins online or with distance and has a period of physical separation. They include a very strong friendship building a deep understanding of one another, admiration fondness, effective conflict management and communication skills, lots of these things can be communicated effectively through video and voice and all the other ways that we...

Join Dr. Greg for today's audience-inspired episode about body image, feeling attractive, and how we can avoid critical and contemptuous conversations with our long-term partners.

Send your questions to @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram! Love each other fiercely.

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Transcript: First, I want to acknowledge that there is a lot of suffering in our world today related to body image. It is disproportionately impacting women and young girls. However, young boys and men are not immune to having body image issues.

My professional views on how to navigate these issues in a healthy way are directly informed by the fact that I was trained as a psychologist by the military. I spent 4 years on active duty in the Marine Corps and another 3 years in the Navy.

The Marine Corps and navy as well as the other branches of the military have very specific height and weight requirements that will mean something very different to each and every service member. Yet, the overall mission of the military demands a level of physical fitness including strength, endurance, good nutrition, etc.

The bottom line is when I'm talking about anything related to one's body in couples therapy. I'm talking about it in the context of Health, Wellness, and my clients' values.

Yet, recent reporting on the impact of social platforms on particularly young girls and women, calls each of us to consider our own relationship to our body and its impact on our overall health. Why?

Let's start with the message we communicate in our own home around food, nutrition, eating, body weight, and all the other things related to body image.

And I want to focus on right now, even though I know for many of my listeners it's the case that they themselves heard critical messages around either their bodies or other people's bodies. If that is the case, are you currently talking about and thinking about these things differently? In a way worthy to be passed on to your kids or those who look up to you?

If we think poorly of ourselves when we look at ourselves, how could we not be shaped by that? I’ve worked with many who restrict themselves, who binge, who sometimes are only drinking water. It’s so important that we understand the mind x body connection here and get medically evaluated and commit to individual therapy to address these issues.

In our relationships, we need to understand our partner's experiences. If her husband or wife struggled with being picked on in high school or middle school for their weight, for instance, we’ll more easily understand the importance of our words, how we touch, how we love. Sadly, that’s often not the case.

With some of our listeners on Tik-Tok and definitely with folks that I've worked within the past, partners can be cruel. They can be insensitive. They can be unthinking. The worst: making their love conditional, predicated on the partner going to the gym or losing weight or whatever.

In my view, it may be in foreign 4 that a partner who is feeling less attracted to their wife or husband gets some emotional validation around that experience from maybe a close friend or an individual therapist. Yet, when it comes to the relationship, it's critically important that conversation around this be contextualized within the couple’s values about living a long, healthy life centered around a lifestyle they both value. If that includes cooking healthy meals together, going on Long hikes throughout the week or running together, going to the gym together, then cool. But if that's not you, it's okay too. These things will likely lead to many psychological and physical benefits, including balanced nutrition, better sleep, better sex, etc.

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Welcome back to A Better Love, I'm your host, Dr. Greg, today we're talking about anxious attachment styles and post-traumatic stress symptoms. If you have experienced trauma in your life you're going to want to listen to today's episode.

First, let's answer the question: have I experienced trauma? if you grew up in a house where there was physical or psychological abuse If you experience sexual abuse or sexual assault if you've experienced War or intimate partner violence oh, it may be the case that you'll experience post-traumatic stress symptoms. briefly, these symptoms fall into several clusters including intrusions, avoidance, persistent alterations in cognition and mood, or hyperarousal.

If you had any of these kinds of experiences in childhood, oh, there's a high likelihood that your attachment style was shaped in a way that may lead to more anxiety or avoidance in your interpersonal attachments. it may be the case that you had this type of attachment with your primary caregiver. and lastly, it may be the case that your primary caregiver induced the trauma in the first place.

Let's pause for a moment so you can answer this question: have you experienced psychological trauma in your life?

Now let's consider whether you describe your attachment style as anxious. Do you experience persistent fear of interpersonal rejection or abandonment? Do you have excessive concerns about and desire for proximity to close others? Do you experience significant distress when relationship partners aren't immediately available or unresponsive?

If any of these things describe your experience in your current relationship or maybe past relationships, what you can develop is the awareness of where your attention and focus is going before, during, and after conflict with your partner.

Is your mind scouring your partner's words for indications of threat? in this case the threat of losing the person? This will definitely have an impact on your experience of the relationship. It will discuss in a moment my general recommendation is it going to be for folks who tend to have a more anxious attachment style.

Perhaps you have less of an anxious attachment style and more of an avoidant attachment. Do you experience discomfort with close interpersonal relationships? Are you excessively self-reliant? When you feel things intensely do you move away from the emotion so as to deactivate it in a way as a way of regulating it? folks with an avoidant attachment 10 to have challenges acknowledging negative emotional states in themselves, they tend not to seek social support end of the attachment styles this group of people is likely to experience proportionately higher rates of depression.

The connection between these two attachment Styles and post-traumatic stress is the following: first, those who have these styles tend to report more post-traumatic stress symptoms than folks with secure attachment styles. The general take-home here is that strong emotional connection to family and friends after trauma serves as a protective factor in later experiencing PTSD symptoms, in other words being diagnosed with PTSD in the first place.

For listeners who may have experienced trauma in their childhoods, post-traumatic stress often becomes much more complex and is stickier to work through. and this gets me to my general recommendation here which is not going to surprise any of my listeners.

There's a significant benefit to those who have experienced physical emotional or sexual abuse neglect, and from intimate partner violence to combat. It's important to integrate processes and make meaning of these experiences. and in relationships oh, it will be important for our partners to understand these difficult parts of our story. I've worked with many combat veterans to be able to share meaningfully with their loved ones and build context

Join Dr. Greg to discuss a question providers often hear: how do I know if they're the one? We'll dig into the concept of soulmates, how many Americans believe in them, and if it's helpful for lasting love.

Send your relationship questions to Dr. Greg @abetterloveproject and until tomorrow, love each other fiercely.

Join Dr. Greg and special guest, Dr. Jenicka, to talk about picking the best gifts for your loved ones this holiday season and learning our love languages to do that. Dr. Jenicka Engler is a developmental neuropsychologist in Massachusetts and we're covering:

Identifying our love language and how it developed.
Communicating with our partner about their love language.
Considering how our gift fits our partner's love language and present desires/hopes.

If you’d like to connect with the good doctor, visit her on Instagram @drjenicka. And to you, our listeners, thank you for spending time with us today and your commitment to a better love. Send your relationship questions to me, Dr. Greg @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram.

Until tomorrow, love each other fiercely.

Join Dr. Greg to talk about growth in midlife (age 40-59) and why a crisis in midlife is NOT part of a typical developmental trajectory. Still, there are a few things everyone approaching or in their midlife years can consider.

In today's episode:
1. Normalizing changes in mood and appearance/body.
2. Reflection on the meaning of life choices/creating shared meaning.
3. Celebrating accomplishments and honoring dreams.

Today's topic came from a TikTok audience member! Make sure to send your relationship questions to Dr. Greg @abetterloveproject. We'll answer them on the podcast. Until tomorrow, love each other fiercely.

Join Dr. Greg for a quick overview of the Gottman's Sound Relationship House Theory, with particular emphasis on:

Trust and Commitment
Building Love Maps
Sharing Fondness and Admiration
Turning Towards vs. Away

Ask your relationship questions @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram. Until tomorrow, love each other fiercely.

Join Dr. Greg, a couple psychologist, to answer: How do I get past missing someone I spent 24/7 with?

On this episode:
1. Grief
2. Loss
3. Meaning Making

Ask your relationship questions @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram. Until tomorrow, love each other fiercely.

Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couple psychologist, to answer the question: How do I manage the boundary between depression in my partner and my own needs?

In this podcast:
1. Generating understanding and compassion
2. Supporting our partner's choice to do individual therapy
3. Honoring our needs and communicating those with our partner

Send your relationship questions to @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram, we'll answer them on the podcast soon. See you tomorrow.

Our first 5-minute daily podcast answering your relationship question: How do I try not to find others attractive whilst in a relationship?

We dive into:

Turning Towards vs. Away
Refocusing on your desires within your relationship.
Reinforcing your boundaries, especially if the issue is a reoccurring experience.

Send your questions to Dr. Greg @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram, we'll answer them on the podcast!

Join Dr. Greg and guest Hayley Almeida for their conversation about frustration on hikes, how to leverage nature, time, and mindfulness to still enjoy your day together.

Conflict is normal, so of course, it will sometimes come up when you're out with your partner in nature.

I know many couples who love being outside together and enjoying the fresh air. Getting exercise together is a great ritual of emotional connection. It's also a time when meaningful conversations can deepen. What do you typically do when frustration arises or a regrettable incident?

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Connect with Hayley on IG: @HayleyAlmeida for nature photography and for daily relationship advice, stop by @abetterloveproject.

Join Dr. Greg for a quick review on attachment styles and what they have to do with our childhood as well as our adult romantic relationships.

This topic comes from a TikTok audience member who was struggling with an anxious attachment. We use the example of waiting for a text response from our partner to consider the different styles.

Have a question we can answer on the show, follow us on TikTok and Instagram @abetterloveproject!

Join Dr. Matos and our guest Hayley Almeida to discuss dating in nature, sizing up our potential match, and safety tips for first dates.

There are a few things you want to consider:

Set a pace you're comfortable with when you're dating and on the trail.
Choose a trail or location that's busy with other nature enthusiasts.
Control your mode of transportation.

Listen to the episode to hear Hayley's take on nature as a mirror and other insights before you schedule your next nature date.

Connect with Hayley and some nature photography on Instagram @HayleyAlmeida and as always, for daily relationship advice, we’ll see you @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram.
Stay tuned for part three of our conversation with Hayley next week, we're talking long-term relationships and navigating difficult emotions on the trail.

Join Dr. Greg to explore intrusive thoughts about past betrayals and what you could be trying this week to love more fiercely.

Today's episode is all about identifying what might be going on with an intrusive thought. If you've experienced infidelity you may be experiencing post-traumatic symptoms. We'll discuss this in a future episode, but today we'll focus on 1) reflection and 2) communication.

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Join Dr. Greg and Hayley Almeida, our first guest, in a 3-part podcast series on the power of nature in our romantic relationships. If you’re into hiking, climbing, or doing anything in the fresh air, you don’t want to miss today’s episode.

A big day for this podcast, joining us from San Diego, Hayley has a background in the environmental sustainability space and has lived in some beautiful spots from the coast of RI to the mountains of Colorado.

We'll dive into hiking dates and navigating challenges in a long-term relationship while in nature, next. Stay tuned.

Folks, if you want to connect with Hayley and some nature photography, you can find her on Instagram @HayleyAlmeida and as always, for daily relationship advice, we’ll see you @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram.

Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couple psychologist, to talk about breakups and the idea of taking a break, whatever that means, and at the end of today’s episode, we’ll share actionable advice on how to navigate the first few weeks after a breakup.

"We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." – Joseph CampbellAttachment makes breakups hurt. No one should take a break from their commitment unless they want to stop trying. And no matter how hard it is, don’t lead anyone on with false hope or a lingering, unfinished romance.

Call to action: If you have a question like this about dating, relationships, or sex, record a voice message with your question and we’ll answer it in an upcoming episode, just click the link in today’s show notes.

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Opening: Happy Life by Fredji
Transitions: Autumn 2011 by Loxbeats

Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couples psychologist, to discuss how to foster greater emotional connection and shared vulnerability in your long-term relationship.

We’re talking about core beliefs about vulnerability, emotional expression, and connection on today’s episode. Stick around for a specific tip on how to start addressing this if it’s an area you want to grow in.

Ask us your relationship question on TikTok or Instagram @abetterloveproject.

✨ Subscribe to hear more science-based relationship advice on other timely issues facing you and your relationship today.

Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couple psychologist, as he answers audience relationship questions. This week we're talking about dating again and what vulnerability might look like in that context.

Anyone who is in a relationship started it by meeting each other first : ) If you want a fierce, lasting love then you have to be open to opportunities to meet your kind of people.

Bottom line: Date when you want, when you feel a desire to, and think you're in a good spot to create something healthy.

Listen to today's podcast for the rest. And come follow us on TikTok and Instagram @abetterloveproject.

Join Dr. Greg for a look at a version of a Stress Reducing Conversation and see if you're doing something like this already. Couples who have rituals of touching base about their day and life outside of the relationship are able to strengthen their emotional connection. This is especially important for military families and veterans who are often adjusting to new duty locations, deployment or training mobilizations, etc.

This month we're focused on the resilience of veterans and their families, exploring topics particularly important to them. After many years in the military and many working closely with veterans of all kinds, I'm diving into how we can strengthen our relationships in all sorts of ways. Thank you to everyone who serves, no matter how long or in what area of the world, each one of you matters.

If you have a relationship issue that you'd like to hear about, email: greg@abetterloveproject.org or visit us on TikTok and Instagram @abetterloveproject. You can also submit an anonymous question on our website: https://abetterloveproject.org/.

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We're answering one of our TikTok viewer's questions on today's podcast: what to do about attentional issues getting in the way of remembering and understanding.

Let's start with this, our TikTok videos are 9-seconds on average. Yet, to get 9-seconds of our attention these days is a challenge. What does that mean for our long-term relationships?

There are tons of changes that we can make in our life that will nourish healthier attention. In this episode, we dive into one strategy we can use when in conversation with our partner. Tomorrow we'll talk more about the Stress-Reducing Conversation within Gottman's conceptualization.

Tip: Consult with a psychiatric nurse practitioner, physician, or psychiatrist about addressing chronic, long-standing inattention and/or hyperactivity. You can always start a conversation about this with your primary care doctor.

There is consensus in the field that a stimulant like Adderall or Ritalin can be an effective tool in addressing attentional issues that begin in childhood. In adulthood and in long-term relationships, options continue to exist and all are encouraged to consult with local mental health professionals about those options.

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Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couples psychologist, to discuss how to love less conditionally in our romantic relationships and with our kids.

We want to distinguish between self-worth and the availability of our love and affection. Kids who have parents who are emotionally validating regardless of their progress toward goals (i.e. academic, extracurricular) fare easier in romantic relationships.

Marriage, for instance, has us showing up as ourselves every day with a partner for decades at a time. We want to feel loved as we are, regardless of transient moods or any given day in a 10+ year relationship.

The same goes for kids, who soak up critical or contemptuous messages that hurt their self-esteem, efficacy, and sense of self-worth. When talking to their kids, it’s helpful for parents to stay focused on their life-affirming values and less on what a child may not be doing particularly well at that moment.

When a child develops strong self-worth through positive reinforcement versus criticism, they can thrive. And when they start their own relationships, they’ll do so with greater self-esteem and relational skills.

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Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couples psychologist, to discuss respect, friendship, and the antidote to contempt.

True or false: My partner really respects me. If the answer is False or "not as much as they used to" or "not as much as I'd like", listen to this week's episode.

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Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couples psychologist, to discuss three strategies for promoting healthier social media usage in your relationship or family.

In any system, norms are created by a consistent reinforcement of certain behaviors. Parents are the powerhouses of influence in their children’s life. A parent’s day-to-day use of the technology will speak louder than any one conversation you might have with your kid.

Are you scrolling through TikTok in your bed right before bedtime? Here’s a great place to start a new bedtime ritual for the whole family: phones away an hour before we go to sleep!

Listen for all three ways to make positive changes this week.

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Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couples psychologist, to discuss commitment and how trust develops in the early parts of a long-term relationship.

Trust and commitment are essential ingredients to a long-term relationship. Yet, a common issue I hear about is a mismatch of commitment. What commitment looks like will differ across the span of your relationship, but a common theme is consistency.

If your partner is consistently communicating their desire for commitment through their words and actions, trust and commitment will rather naturally deepen.

Depending on attachment styles and individual histories, this process will unfold uniquely for all of us.

If you’ve been dating for over a year, it’s likely you’ve had conversations about commitment (i.e. long-term plans and dreams). It’s also likely, particularly if you’ve lived with someone, that you’ll have learned a lot about them and how consistent they are with things you value. Let that guide your discernment if things don’t appear to be “on track” for you.

It’s super helpful to take part in traditions that allow discernment and deeper exploration of what long-term commitments mean to each partner. Created sharing meaning about anything, marriage included, will be critical to staying emotionally connected to each other and the dream.

This commentary presumes a general desire for long-term, monogamous relationships. Not all people have that desire and some certainly experience relationships and love outside of marriage. The important thing is that you live aligned with your values and the kind of love life you want to create. Let mutual respect and admiration be your guide.

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Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couples psychologist, Monday mornings for a short but deep dive into the skills necessary to love more fiercely. It will help you set relationship goals for your week.

This week, we’re talking about romance mostly in the context of long-term relationships. If you’re single and dating, don't go anywhere. It’s important to be attuned to how your desires for romance, passion, and sex are being met from the beginning.

There’s a lot that needs tweaking in the dominant narrative of human sexuality and long-term relationships. It’s not something that evolution teaches us how to do well naturally in longer-term relationships (especially in today's changing relationship landscape). Yet, it’s possible to pair raw desire and good science to deepen your passion for the long run.

As our appetite, desires, and comforts shift over time, we’ll want more of some things and less of others. It’s important to keep your partner updated.

Make romance a daily thing by staying emotionally connected and flirty through touch, words, and a million other ways that will be unique to your love.

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We do a deep dive on the first four sessions of couples therapy in this model as well as some things to look for in starting therapy, in general.

Definitely save this one and share it with anyone who’s ever been curious about the beginning of couples' work. While there are several evidence-based models out there, this is the one primarily.

Bottom line: make sure your provider does a solid assessment and you have a sense, “they get it” after their assessment. It’s essential that each client begins to feel understanding and emotional validation from their therapist from the start, so they can do the hard work that lies ahead.

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Have you ever thought, “how can you say that?” It often comes up in conflict when we can’t understand our partner’s perspective. Chances are, they aren’t understanding yours either.

A healthy presumption to make in a loving relationship is that you’re both invested in understanding each other, especially in conflict.

The Gottman’s Aftermath of a Regrettable Incident or Fight is a map toward that goal.

My recommendation this week, have those conversations in the context of a weekly “just you” time where you get to share gratitude and talk about loving each other well. This is a great ritual of emotional connection, a State of the Union convo.

Honest, gentle conversations about anything are cool. I’d recommend reserving SOTUs for relationships that are more developed, where you’ve found yourself organically talking about “us” already.

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This week's podcast dives into your relational schemas, part of your "rulebook" for relationships.

If you're dating, knowing what healthy looks like is super important. These internal guidelines set the tone at the start of a relationship with healthy boundaries and clearly articulated desires.

If you've been together for 1+ years, here's something to consider together. Think of two couples, the one the two of you consider the healthiest and one you think is the unhealthiest. Understanding each other's roadmaps is important now and if you're interested in ever having children.

If you have kids, you could be conductors of a beautiful symphony for them, letting them witness kindness when in conflict, emotional validation, affection, etc. These early experiences for kids nourish their emotional health, foster a sense of safety and predictability, and hopefulness about their own capacity to love well.

Happy Labor Day Weekend everyone!

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Until next time, love each other well : )

What does chemistry mean to you?

This week’s episode explores how to reconnect to what you found most attractive about your partner when you first met 🔥

The intensity of passion, romance, and admiration in your relationship will fuel emotional connection.

Listen for more on @bachelorinparadise, sexual attraction, and what you could be doing to Love Better ❤️

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If you believe in growth and want to reach your dreams with your partner.
If you’ve noticed a perpetual issue that you want to address in a new, effective way.

…and the rest is in the podcast ✨

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Being a good dad is about being a good parent:

Do no harm
Show up
Share your values
Live your values

Share specific gratitude every day then 5 x on Saturday or Sunday ❤️

Learn about the power of gratitude in romantic relationships ✨

Do you want to be in a long, nurturing, and passionate relationship?

I recently chatted with a couple on our flight from Boston to Lisbon. She told me they’re celebrating 50 years in September. It’s his 4th marriage, her second. I share what she said was the most important thing this episode. We delve into relationship topics for couples in their 70s and 80s 🔥

In this week's 8-minute summertime podcast, I talk about:

Trust and commitment.
Rebuilding trust.
Quick introduction to Gottman Method: Atonement, Attunement, and Attachment process.

To be in a long-term relationship is to choose a partner with strengths and relative weaknesses. We all have areas that we're growing in (naming emotions, listening for understanding, settling after getting flooded, etc.).

Shout out to Carl Rogers, positive regard, validation, and authenticity.

How are you showing up as yourself and loving each other for who you are in this moment of your life? Show each other some admiration this week for that : )

This is a summertime series with Dr. Greg, a board-certified specialist in Couples and Family Psychology. Today's episode was recorded from Washington, DC. Tune in weekly for new episodes throughout the summer. Invest in your love this weekend.