From the Nth POWER: Recent Episodes
Nicole Devlin
“TO the Nth power” explains exponentiality. If you multiply a number by its exponential (i.e. 3(6)) it grows with each multiplication by itself. The world today needs a formula like that. Cohesive, sustainable, power and leadership in the world are lacking. Power needs a new genesis, a place from which it can multiply on itself to create more like it.
That’s what the “FROM the Nth POWER” podcast is about. It’s a new foundation and a re-definition around inter-connected values that we all share.
We need this now because:
Our leadership spends more time blaming than finding common ground.
Our social media tattletale cyber-society is censorship.
Our children are growing up learning about life from their phone.
Our citizens are afraid of being infected and dying when they weren’t fully living.
Our path to adulthood is rife with debt, disharmony and depression.
Our picture-perfect and supposed authentic images fuel low self-esteem.
Power is not in things, other people, or ANY external systems.
It is in awareness, being present, and having a connection within to a greater being and purpose.
Power is having the courage to go for your desires.
Power is choice, allowing & connection.
Power is being yourself.
At birth, you were given the power of the ages to use to its full potential.
Power is the way. Your power, in YOUR hands, connected to laws of being, will be the love that heals the world.
You know what good head is, but your real head gets in the way of the orgasmic bliss of a good life all the time. What's waiting for you beyond your daily thinking which is distorted by over-thinking anxiety is the life of freedom and contentment you crave. How can you even begin to get past the harm done to you that you're still stewing over? You get clear and you get calm and you try the path of the WAY. The way is in your body because your body is the ONLY route to connection. Your thinking will give you unsatisfactory head again and again - and you'll stay for that til the better end when you'd leave a poor lover long ago. Healing is waiting...why ain't you moving instead of thinking more?
I know, you have a lot of rights you feel like people are going to take away from you.
You spend a lot of time asserting those rights in defense of the fear others hold over you.
However, have you recently stopped to consider what you DO have the right to do but should stop because it doesn't actually create any more space for your rights - while it also pisses people off?
Think about it a new set of anti-rights that might actually liberate you FULLY.
If you don't have a vision, it's hard to establish a goal. This is so simply because without imagination, your end result has no spark...no capacity to magnify the world or people.
Your brand is YOU - who you are, how you speak, what you want, and how you'll get where you're going. It's the concept - the why - behind being alive. And it needs to get into the world and shake things up!
If you're unclear about your vision, or you have a vision but don't understand how to get to your brand from there, then watch my latest podcast where I'm joined by Brand Strategist & Mindset Coach Lisa Guillot (Find Your Clear Vision podcast). Lisa's concept of a C.L.E.A.R. vision will spark your imagination and help you get to the next step in creating the greatest concept of your lifetime - YOU!
You could be missing out on great vocational purpose and fulfilling work because you think of work as a four-letter word. The conundrum with this is that you'll spend way too many hours trying to GET something out of work while giving NOTHING to it. In other words, the days are flat...the mission useless...the people not measuring up.
All of this would be resolved if you could change your perception of work and transform it into something you really give a s**t about.
Ahriana Platten (https://www.youtube.com/@asoulfullworld) has a great perspective on how to be a Wise Woman (wisewomanguide.com) at work, even if your energy is masculine.
Having the experience of being a businesswoman AND coach, Ahriana sees what's needed to change the energy of do, work hard, be smart and be productive for the growth of modern business with reverence and space for the feminine AND masculine.
We agree it's not about hiring more women. Have a listen...
Learning to BE with life will help you balance your energy for proper and most maximum effect. If brokenness happens to you, if you feel darkness and despair, your over-intellectual mind will lead you to over-thinking which augments your negative feelings. Most things are small experiences that you keep mulling over and fighting, which makes them larger and most painful. When you remind yourself that being broken up can be worked through, your surrender makes each experience less painful. The most painful experiences SHOULD change you by breaking you and creating pain. Then, the pain creates innumerable heights of greater self-acceptance. You must accept that life will break you open and dealing with it by stopping your feelings is a way of avoiding the problem and, subsequently, the solution. Not to mention, there are thousands of people in your life that you'd like to save and when you're broken open you have the empathy to truly do good for these people. When you change, you can change others. What can you do to make a difference by finding out who you really are?
Hope is highly useful for keeping us going emotionally and mentally. Hoping for the Best is a great attitude. But hope, in and of itself, is nothing but a feeling going neither up or down nor into good or bad. When you add simple actions, the hope become a bona fide strong hold for living a truly succesful life from the inside out. We are only the energy we are creating and hope is a foundation that needs action steps to move us into the life we want. What you want cannot be thought after as much as it needs to be energetically manifested by living your life from reflection, vision and embodiment of love and desire. What you want is available, you just need to stay connected within and living your purpose.
We all have darkness inside. That's never been the problem. The real problem is the mis-use and misunderstanding of darkness...of how and why it can be beneficial.
Along with that, when you are trying to relate to your darkness, blank spots and lack of self-esteem, you'll find people who will validate you too well, thereby helping you stay stuck while saying they're helping you get out of it. Belonging is good for validation, but NOT when you can't seem to find a way toward the light.
It will become more and more important to learn how to intuitively grow and self-actualize over the next few years. The outside world has changed and you can no longer live externally first, it has to be from the inside out.
Chasing a mania of excitement and validation will only serve to help you fall more deeply into the loneliness of despair. But there is a place inside you and out of the quicksan you've been drowing in. It's your true depth - where sanity exsits and love can take you back to your Highest Self which is powerful and purposeful.
When you're older and you cannot remember your own innocence, you'll suffer more from your unhappiness.
If you've learned to be unforgiving and believe the world is out to get you, instead of accepting what's happening and being flexible to job, life and love changes, you falter around finding new ways to emerge from the types of crises that affect ALL of us at one time or another.
Life is not a never-ending lovefest with peace. It's more often a struggle between what you've come to believe that can be limiting and what your intuition or highest self wants you to believe...
That everything can be resolved and overcome with love.
If your career is stagnant and you're not getting what you need from your profession, if you don't make changes you'll feel consumed with hate and blame.
If your relationships are unfulfilling and you find yourself thinking obsessive, ugly thoughts of guilt and resentment, if you don't make chagnes, you'll feel consumed with a feeling of codependence that strips your sense of wild independence.
Your life is designed for movement and change. If you can't live in the present it's because you can't settle with a past that stripped your innocence.
But that innocence CAN return if you remember the gift...that being vulnerable to your fear contains the strength you seek.
And when you're strong enough to overcome even the slightest harm, you're on your way to greatness in your career - and everywhere in your life.
You CAN kickstart a new job, career or business if you can be in your innocence once again.
When confronted with how to change, most people become overwhelmed before they even begin.
Such questions as: How do I change? Where do I start? and What should I do? - being vague in nature - become the starting place for a quick ending. When you can't define a path or see things as manageable most people quickly give up.
This is a truth around anything from changing careers, growing a business, working on a relationship or even just wanting to improve a personal habit.
If you talk to Cody Smith, however, he will tell you that change happens incrementally. Although it's good to dream and to surround yourself with people who are where you want to be, you also must realize that many of them got to where they are with perseverance and time.
HOWEVER, if you truly want to be where they are, and can envision yourself there, you don't need to worry about how or how long, you simply need to take small steps. Because one small step leads to another step which ultimately leads to traction, change, and the place you really want to go.
What's stopping you from that new job, more purposeful business, better relationship or better you? Pretty much you and the ego-driven sense of failure in thinking you have to have arrived before you even begin.
Cody's Habit Tracking system can help you change that, and to start a real path to change, progress or success one step at a time.
You think you know what love is? Of course you do because it's what it is to you - what it feels like, looks like, sounds like, smells like.
But what IS it REALLY?
Is it a feeling? Is it an experience? Is it simply everything all at once...the convergence of energies that will alter your existence, even if only for a brief moment in time?
If you ask me, love is the highest vibrational force in the universe. It can explode, implore, impart, include and revere anything. It is the greatest gift you never asked for and the most painful thing to experience when you believe you've lost it.
But ask Scotte Burns, and he says it's not a feeling at all. It's more about connection and ways to bridge a gap between another person and what's happening inside of you. For love, according to Scotte, is all about the embodiment of a power in you and the way someone else brings up the gift of that power inside.
In the end, love is only and ever inside of you, waiting to flow into the next experience you have. It really doesn't matter if the experience "feels" good or bad. Love is the energetic essence of your being and when you deny it's there, or believe it's only a fleeting feeling, you may be missing out on the greatest loves of your life.
If you're like me you might have learned that kharma is about some big-bad God waiting to get back on you for everything from a minor fault to an egregioius mistake. Realistically, universally and simply, kharma, according to Dr. Lynn Anderson, is about cause and effect.
And EVERYTHING you do is the cause of something else.
Now, you don't need to worry about that person you offended so much as you should be a bit concerned with how these "effects" have and will turn into consequences to/for you. BTW, none of this is about moral judgment. It's about how you feel.
So for those of you who love to immerse yourself in how you feel, let me say this...
How YOU feel should matter to no one but you. Because as you traipse through this world thinking, doing and being, everything within you that is energy is pulling and pushing you toward lightness and love or darkness and despair.
It's you who gets to decide the cause and effect of all your thoughts and actions - based on how you feel. That's what feelings are...indicators for self-knowledge and, if you're healthy of mind and body, indicators of self-actualizing actions.
Some that if you don't take, will lead you down a road of effects you don't like.
But don't listen to me, hear my conversation with Dr. Lynn Anderson here.
Your work life is never far away from who you are. Many people want to bring more of themselves to their work but don't understand why they don't feel fulfilled. It's probably because fulfillment is not something that you get just by showing up and getting a paycheck.
You have to be invested in a vocation, a calling, with who you really are. Some think that the overall change we seek in business by bringing a deeper self is to talk about feelings, or hire more women. This is one way to balance a historical lack of duality, but it doesn't make enough of an impact to change business.
WHY? Because business lacks real masculine and feminine the best ways, those ways that produce, that birth great ideas and that create synergies of the utmost greatness. Unfulfilling work is the earmark of the post-Covid workplace and era. Sitting in your house should have shown you, more than ever, how unhappy you are lacking purpose at work. Your eyes have now been opened. Your heart has been warned that you cannot turn back now that you have this knowledge. Any attempt to ignore the obvious lack of purpose in our work will lead to misery and lack of health, pure and simple.
Have you forgotten who you are? You ARE the light in the world because you are you. And if you are NOT fulfilling what you came here to do, well, you're simply missing out on that happiness and real intrinsic success that you know you want - and keep telling yourself is in the next paycheck or vacation. It's NOT...and you know it.
So why not do something about that? I'll coach you find out what happened to that purpose-filled person who wanted to become and do more than what s/he is doing.
Let me...nicoledevlin.com
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Getting your entire life into LOVE mode takes the kind of work that's about practice. And that practice can last a lifetime.
Because even though we were born to love, we have had TOO much practice learning to fear. Yet, as Nina Presman reminds us, fear, although distinct, dark and seemingly overpowering, will ALWAYS vibrate lower than love.
How does one start the shift in the direction of love? How do you begin to understand your individual fear- and harm-based scripts and patterns that will thwart the journey to love?
Well, as Nina puts it, you have to understand and modify your own programming. Sometimes that programming can be translated, sometimes it has to be slayed. Either way, it begins with becoming just enlightened enough to be aware of it and just diligent enough to do a little something loving and energetically cathartic every day.
If you want to find out more about shifting from fear to love and how it will change your life, listen to this week's podcast episode and interview with Nina Presman, Energy Healer and unlimited being of transformative and healing work. Nina can be reached at 561-654-0177 and energyworkunlimited@gmail.com.
If you've ever enjoyed a good magic show as a child, you know how fun, mysterious and enlightening it can be.
As adults, we've been looking at our lives as way too pragmatic, not enviable and definitely like a computer program that we haven't exactly gotten to run quite right. In other words, we're in a loop...a loop of boredom, mediocrity, lack of questioning, and FEAR.
So the big question is WHAT HAPPENED TO THE MAGIC? Magic is like the elements, there but unpredictable and unknown. And most of you are scared to death of the unknown. You'll change your whole life to avoid the unknown. You'll stay stuck to avoid the unknown.
You'll need to come to BELIEVE in magic once again to FEEL the life within you that can counteract the boredom, stuckness and darkness.
This week's podcast is about just that...my interview with Alane Hathaway, professional Tarot Card Reader, Energy Healer, and Spiritual Advisor. Alane has intellectually thought-provoking and fascinating ideas that demand looking at if you are a seeker, or even just interested in opening up stuck spots and trashing limiting beliefs.
The more prominent and divinely-inspired things we talk about are:
1-The difference between religion & spirituality
2-How to use spirit guide communication and a healing practice to grow and recover from trauma l 3-Ways to channel the divine into your thoughts, body and overall life.
Have a listen to our conversation.
Many people feel they need more guidance than ever...but the people, places and systems they used to be guided by in the past (media, government, work, authority, etc) haven't been working quite as well. Even the weatherman (or is it weatherperson?) seems to be wrong more than ever.
WTH do we do NOW? We do what we should have been doing in the first place - relying on our own intrinsic power, our Good Powerful System (GPS). This guidance system is in ALL of us, whether we answer to it or not.
Deb Kelly has been teaching kids about their Good Powerful System for years. Deb believes it's important to teach children about thoughts and feelings, since they are the receivers to direct us in how to respond to life using our GPS. In other words, our natural intelligence is always consciously directing us through our thoughts and feelings. Deb believes (and so do I) that it is important to teach our children how to use their GPS to take conscious actions and live good lives.
This isn't just for young people though. Many adults never learned about their GPS when they were young and now lack power, which is responsible for much suffering and disconnection from others. This is true simply because disconnection from others stems from disconnection from self.
The remedy? Start building your GPS - a good powerful system - within you that grows power and can withstand ANYTHING the world can throw at you with strength and peace.
Everyone wants to win or - at the very least - not feel like a loser. Despite all types of money and successes, deep inside a lot of people is the "not enough/loser" feeling. If you have that, "losing" will continue to follow you despite anything you acquire. Since everything you acquire is on loan, choosing to chase "stuff" prevents you from working out the kinks in your foundation that prevent real and lasting success.
You were born to win. Let me say that again... YOU WERE BORN TO WIN. If you think that's not true for any reason - gender, ethnicity, orientation, identity - you are mistaken. There is a divine streak in all of us that knows the greatest heights and the most magnificent pathways. That energy wants you to express yourself exactly as you please and exactly as you are.
This week's podcast, I spoke with Kat Sterling, Coach and Author who has led people into winning mindsets and strategies - and has written a book about it. We talk about how to be who you are and where you're at. We talk about our own struggles and the beneficial self-discoveries in those struggles.
Have a listen, but only if you want to WIN with a POWER that creates the growth, change and success you've wanted your whole life.
When you're angry, have you ever tried Counting to 10...before you do or say anything? Or, when learning a new sport or a musical instrument, using some form of counting brings your mind to the task - and to the present moment. And, it's always the present moment where things happen and love & learning occur. When your mind is focused on one task, all sorts of solutions appear. A gateway to greater and more powerful consciousness opens and you are present and in your physical body. From the most present, physical place, your emotions can be addressed and learned to be tolerated. This is because most (maybe all) emotions are learned and conditioned scripts and things developed and nurtured from the past. When you are present, you start to learn that you are NOT feeling things based on what others are doing or saying, or what's happening outside, but what's happening inside. This inside experience is a calling of the highest self, as creative consciousness is asking you to address your own emotional well-being to the exclusion of the outside experience. Right now, the world is validating that your feelings are caused by what's happening outside and it's justifying how you feel based on external events. THIS IS POWERLESSNESS at the level of the victim** - and it is DEADLY to your emotional well-being. Pain is a signal or indication that you need to step up and SEE your power. When you deny this pain through avoidance, blaming, medicating or changing things to "get away" from the "source" of your pain (the external or the other, not yourself) you are avoiding growing toward the peace you say you want. What do you really NOW about this peace if you've never even experienced it. Who do you wanna be? Do you want to live in the fullness of your feelings, heart, mind and spirit? You'll probably need to become more autonomous. And then you'll probably feel MORE FEELINGS, not less. This is where trudging the road and seeking help and support comes in. Your unhappy life, living to avoid or living for others is limiting your space your growth and your confidence. Seeing this takes time and help. Get it. Use it.
If you've ever sought to change another, you know it's not as simple as having ONE conversation and expecting them to change. Progress and the process take a lot of time. Nature is of the highest order in the decision to change even one thing about yourself. In particular, when it comes to another person, self-acceptance will allow you to understand that their transformation need not be part of your struggle. If you want to change another person and think a conversation or scripted formula will do the trick, it won't...unless that person wants to change.
And changing ain't easy for anyone, no matter what the wish or motives.
Changing requires diligent effort and open communication. It's about recognizing negative habits, creating consequences for re-evaluation and re-training one's thinking through acknowlegement and ongoing effort. We train dogs by ringing bells, giving treats and petting. Humans need similar efforts of acknowlegement, yet we don't change from the simple desire for a treat.
Our habits and conditioning are like sticky gum. Once it gets into the tread under the soles of your feet, it takes A LOT to get it out/off. Once you're out of childhood and your personality has been molded, change doesn't come easy--most of the time desire comes from pain or suffering. Even if pain and suffering are there, getting all that gum out will take time.
Give time time and BE loving to yourself and others.
Are you sitting comfortably surrounded by people who talk and think like you do? Do you see/spend time only with people who agree with, or relate to, everything you say? Have you also taken it upon yourself to find media which keeps you stuck in this bubble? When was the last time you let your mind wander to the space where people are "on the other side", thinking very unlike you? There are lots of places where you can find people who don't see things the way you do and it can get really uncomfortable quickly. Yet, with all your passion, are you not willing to be uneasy for the sake of your conviction? Better yet, can you stay your convictions on the sidelines while you listen and even interact with people with questions instead of disagreement? Are you the person who shuts down arguments that people have when you don't want to hear it? Let's face it, if you keep talking, you might win through manipulation, shaming, name-calling, or even annihilating someone's point of view. Maybe it's time to stop telling and start listening to what's happening below the level of the conversation. If you want to be seen and heard, yet you won't afford tolerance and understanding to others, what kind of message are you sending? When you live the way you want, you give permission to others to lean into who they are. You don't need to be at the edge of the minefield - for the mind can't handle the fear and insanity there. Staying unattached and free to allow the mind to wander away from the minefield and toward problem-solving (and LOVE) is what/where we want to grow toward. Think about that the next time you want to engage with those people who "don't get it" (while you do?)
Your mind is capable of higher thinking - MUCH higher than you can imagine. But your thoughts have to get out of the way. Sounds like opposite ideas, but your mind isn't just about your thinking, especially when it's detached from your heart or soul. This is the story of me obsessing about not remembering the combination of a lock on my bicycle. This obsession lasted a solid three days. I had to let it go before I could take it to the bicycle store. And guess what happened? I remembered, late one night, out of the blue, that the combinaton of my lock here is not the one I was thinking. My mind surrounded itself around these numbers and my mind became a block. I set about any way to use my brain to figure out how to figure it out. And I just kept hitting walls. The lock analogy you may find simple and funny, but do you realize that your brain can work the same way vis-à-vis your emotional problems. Thinnk about it, don't you obsess on what's wrong with you? Don't you have a hard time mentally trying to overcome emotional problems? Don't you re-live a bothersome situatoin again and again, talking about it and justifying your feelings, in order to be right? And, after all that, isn't progress minimal? Where are your answers...REALLY? Not entirely in your brain. And if you think it is, creative and emotionally healthy solutions will elude you as your brain attaches itself to justification and resentment. Your mind really IS a bridge... is the ultimate bridge or tool between the depth of you and your thinking. Your mind, when connected like a bridge is a higher self, higher mind and the depth of being that is ME. Get the brain out of the way to create greater connection through awareness and toward growth.
Reality is not necessarily REAL. How do you define reality? How do you know that you know reality? I'm pretty sure that reality is not one's opinions...because opinions come from intellect- and are often ego-based. Convincing other people of the need to see and believe what YOU believe is not reality, it's your conviction and drive to have others see you, i.e., your perception. Your reality is very much emotion-based, which means it's not always going to be completely in line with others who have different feelings. BTW, those other people are not wrong for having different feelings. The problem with the power of human emotions is that if your reality starts to differ from your peers, you might feel alienated and lonely, which no one wants. Then, the fear of ostracization will probably provoke you to join the opinions of the predominant group. No questions asked is the way to stay safe, yet the questions to be answered will remain there waiting for you to look at them. Your soul needs you to become a human being of the utmost self-expression of love. No one can determine your reality, it must come from within and be validated by making up your own mind.
You pass on SO much inforation that you don't question. As a matter of fact, you have layers upon layers of beliefs that are cemented and are making/keeping your soul sick. Then, because of prolonged sickness, your perceptions are continuing to be limited. Your realit(ies) were gathered before you learned to question - you just BELIEVED. You validated and sought out continued confirmation - through the unconscious nature of your eyesight. You CANNOT poke holes in people's belief systems without trust so you can stop fighting with people to get them to SEE. No knowledge is irrefutable...TRUTH is. You cannot take away people's beliefs but you can share your own power by bringing people into healty, open conversations where they can be right and wrong, not simply parroting what others are saying. "Your" truth has holes because as soon as you say it's yours, it has bias. You never have to give anything up when you're open and loving. You practice love with your choice. Choice can be right or wrong, but it must be conscious. No one has to accept another's experience as proof because you think they "know more" as a person of an identity group. They can be "wrong" because they're biased too. Liberation comes from an energy that allows connection. By growing ourselves, we infuse our inner energy with more emotional intelligence and spirituality.
Our lives are full of a lot of emotion these days. The way you feel can be validated by finding like people and communities who provide security, belonging or comfort. This is GOOD. Yet, these spaces of comfort can provide limited thinking and can enhance narrow minds. They can become a bit of a bubble because their purpose is to inflate a "safety zone." What happens when that bubble becomes destructive and you start to feel "apart from"? In other words, that bubble is being pricked and then it BURSTS. At that point, you may feel invited to look at another landscape, or you may feel alone because those other people don't present a warm and fuzzy feeling. You might feel lost. Then the question becomes HOW do I figure out who I am or how I feel? If you're open, you can start to change your mind by opening it. You will - if you move through the world without being victimized by it - find new space and new awareness of yourself. Awareness and action TOGETHER can create a desire to question and express yourself in new ways. Maybe, just maybe, you'll find new parts of yourself that you didn't even know were there because you never questioned how you see things. Instead, you've always accepted others' opinions as your own. A new perspective and experience will be created by questioning your decisions and experience. Question reality...it may not be real. Power comes from thinking for yourself after the bubble bursts. Making up your own mind is real freedom - the kind that CANNOT be taken away.
Awareness, awareness, awareness. It's key and it's also not about you being aware of me, but me being aware of myself. What is it that awareness is supposed to do? Do we need more awareness when, in fact, there is more awareness than ever and things don't seem to be going away? It seems to me that the "awareness-building" media are creating more openings for more pleas for more awareness. But once I'm aware, what do I DO? Where does my awareness take me? Am I now qualified - because I understand more or am talking about it more - to help more people get more healthy? Does my awareness of something in the world help it become eradicated? Truth be told, is it possible that the problems that are plaguing us are not really being addressed? Is it likely that the problem is that these problems are multi-faceted...and EVEN SPIRITUAL in their essence? The patterns in your thinking are conditioned by your experiences and the responses in your community to those experiences. Can it be that the solutions you were offered never really dived deep enough into what was happening in your thinking and emotions? Was what you learned missing something spiritual?
I'd like to propose that we need to increase spiritual health awareness instead of mental or emotional health awareness. What would happen in your life if you decided to seek a higher power instead of seeking another doctor or another pill? Solutions to human mental deficiencies and scary emotions can sometimes only be alleviated by something far greater and more deep than your own human understanding (or physiological solutions). If you decide never to explore this because of your pride and prejudice against God, you are missing out on a valauble and ongoing cathartic healing. It's more often about what's going on in your soul, not your head. The world is NOT responsible for how you feel, you are. Without a personal and autonomous purpose, feeling lost is automatic. Give time time. Open your mind. Start questioning the stupid shit that you think makes sense...
Your fulfillment of deep spiritual human needs can be compared to eating. We eat in gluttony and don't think about whether or not we're getting what we need. We "fill up" our well, but with things that leave us empty; we're not satisfied to our fullest human digestive state. When you eat empty calories, they fill up your stomach and you'll be satisfied momentarily, but it will trigger an addictive cycle of wanting more. Material fulfillment is like that - it's empty and fundamentally dissatisfying. Nothing is stored for later and nothing is balanced. You don't have enough of macronutrients, the pieces of nutrition that create full satiety. When you're not fulfilling your need for deep spiritual connection, you're forever hungry and you're living a half-life that is stressful and disconnected. Smooth, connected satiation is something you only dream about, staying hungry for another car, relationship or money that will scratch that itch. This is the root of fear and unhappiness where you can no longer give yourself the satisfaction of your desires. It is a chronic escapism of what IS.
Why are you struggling so much? Your barrel/well that you keep trying to fill up with "stuff" has a hole in the bottom and you keep scraping for more of what you can't reach. The container that is YOU needs a balm for the loneliness that's been fueled by low self-esteem. Low self-esteem resides in your thinking and is waiting to tell you that you'll never fill the barrel and that you're still not enough. The stuff you've been taught to fill the barrel with is the vapid-who-you-think-you-are that rules your life...your job, where you live, who you're married to, what your kids look like. These "feathers" can never completely fill a barrel. The more you focus on them, the easier they float to the bottom. A foundation of true self-respect and self-esteem is the only way to fill the hole AND the well. The full well is who you're meant to be. That fullness ABSOLUTELY NEEDS CONNECTION! Don't let negativity and scarcity become darkness and feed your demons. Your life should be steeped in deeper consciousness, larger purpose and vision which will determine how you truly feel within your highest self. From there you'll see face to face what you fear and you'll surrender to a release that will bring the peace you crave.
Sometimes I feel disappointed in what I see as weakness, and I'm not talking about expressing feelings, nor about strength. Sensitivity is human and far from weak. What makes me weak is what I do with what's happening with me and how I feel. When you don't address feelings by taking responsibility and owning what's happening to YOU from within YOU - you lack courage. No one is "making" you feel anything and believing so by assigning blame to others is a form of weakness. If your feelings cause another feeling of weakness, that may be because you haven't been present to these feelings before. Vulnerability is beautiful but when you start talking about having boundaries or working on self-care, you're probably assigning meaning to another and not REALLY being vulnerable. Just because you express your feelings you don't necessarily have a consciousness that is power because you're still waiting for responsibility to come from someone else. You'll never pinpoint how you can grow and become powerful when you're complacent and waiting for others to act. Courage is stepping up and not playing the game. "The Game" is you being obese with self - in your opinions, arrogance and the vapid nature of your weakness. Once you're weak and then you wait on the world to change, you're on your way to a slow death of unhealthy finger-pointing and attachments. You think you know what should happen and you're not acting on what you believe is right. Don't be an entitled idiot...aspire, be motivated, indulge in integrity, seek the highest love. The highest love is your spiritual nature. Stand in that nature and BE.
Limiting beliefs and excuses put up roadblocks to your dreams. And our society reinforces these falsehoods all the time. Just look around at those living their dreams. They refuse to believe what people would say to keep them down or limited. People's masks are telling you that you can succeed, while showing you all the things you should be warned about the potholes that will stumble and harm you. The message is "keep yourself safe", "don't risk", "take it easy". AND if you think outside the box, you might be identified by people - even those closest to you that you've known all your life - may start to think you're crazy. But ARE you crazy, or have you been freed from pervasive social fears that have been ruling your life and keeping you stuck? Your main focus in life should be to cut ties to your limiting ideas. Once you are freed from this thinking, your path becomes a new game to play. Get excited about your life, about what you want to achieve. STOP listening to people who are afraid of you being "all that" Who DO you think you are? The answer should be Greatness...because that's who we ALL are. Your failure is seeds for success, as a freed and humble servant of life.
How do you find answers? Do you automatically, when struggling or seeking, go within and negatively over-examine or do you quickly seek answers from others before any self-introspection? There are many self-help modalities built on dialogue, commonly known as shooting the shit. Education, also, is a form of trading ideas. No matter what the modality, these types of conversational self-help are a great catharsis because, of ourselves, we cannot fully find our own answers. When you have a problem, if you go to therapy or get coaching, for example, you're affording someone else the intention to get to know you and help you find YOUR OWN answers. The opportunity there, for me as a coach, is to get people to see themselves more clearly and honestly to open windows within them. However, if you - or any client - is not being honest, you cannot expect to find answers. The coach's job, in a therapy of words, is to allow a client to grow in their self-awareness through language, finding words and having free-flow conversation. There is a lightness, being, power and freedom for those who seek and talk with honesty and clarity. They find liberation through a sense of higher consciousness. This freedom affords a surrender that has more answers than one can find from self or any other PERSON. When you find the capacity for presence, you realize you know more than you thought you did. Your feelings now have clarity, meaning and purpose. You are alive. You are changing. THEN go change the world.
When situations present themselves and you don't like what you see, you probably want the easy way out - which is usually just to listen to others and follow along with the predominant messaging or what "they" tell you to do.. Yet, what will that net you in finding truth? What will you sacrifice in terms of your own confidence when you can't make up your own mind? When a larger group pushes an agenda, and you are in conflict, you'd be wise to go to the people you know whom you can ask "What do you think I should do?" and their response is "What do YOU think you should do?" The building blocks of self-esteem are created from ignoring those who want to tell you what to do. It will be HARD to find peace and clarity in the midst of people who yell and scream for fear that a person making up their own mind is dangerous. In this podcast, I look at Covid vaccination and social justice as two subjects around which I had deeper questions outside the "normal" scope of simple acceptance of what I was being told about how to think. The larger dialogues aren't always the best or most forward-thinking dialogues, I've found. But those questions I ask myself find me the right place to be truthful and helpful - even transformational - as I seek to change my world one conversation and one day at a time. These important conversations need the creation of unlimited potential for power and change.
Catharsis is the purging of emotions or the alleviation of emotional tensions. Metamorphosis is change of form or substance. Catharsis should lead to metamorphosis if the alleviation of emotions or the eradication of emotional tensions is followed up by action. That action should naturally lead to change within once your inner tension has been released. When you purge emotions, you are releasing hormones AND stuck energy. Catharis begins a spiritual process that MOVES energy for your improvement. You can change your own substance by catharsis followed by metamorphosis. Until I relieve myself of emotional tension, I can't see the path ahead. That path needs actions to define where you're going to go, and how you're going to do things differently. Metamorphosis will eventually come if you remain open.
What is true happiness to you? Is it an excited feeling or the presence of calm? When you're happy does it mean things are going your way and life is good? Or is there more to it...such as the idea that brokenness can bring on ever greater happiness? Real happiness - in a power sense - is the presence & awareness of peace of mind. For some, the belief that happiness should be ever-present is what brings more dark/lack thinking. When happiness eludes you, do you think there's something intrinsically wrong with you? Well, let me tell you, you're wrong about that, LOL. Happiness "feels" most embedded within not when I'm excited, but when I'm calm. On the one hand, too much happiness can create imbalance and leave you with an emotional hangover. On the other hand, when negative thoughts pervade peace of mind, most people experience unhappiness, but this is not the whole picture of reality outside your pleasure-seeking mind. Peace is a powerful connection of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Happiness can also be being broken over things that make you unhappy and tear apart your ego and intellectual headiness. We need more reliance from the sixth sense of our own fully integrated power. To conclude, power is also in the harsh realities that we've perpetrated on each other. Every time we break, we open up new evolutions of greater intrinsic power. New seeds are being planted for true dynamic power. I can't wait to see what will happen next for us.
Are you a confused modern woman like me? What type of energy do you as a woman express in your life? Do you doubt your femininity because you don't fit a mold of the traditional woman - but you don't know how to define what feminine means to you? The ultimate goal of the feminine, in all of our lives and society, is to infuse it's deeply intuitive resourcefulness into more places that are imbalanced - no matter who we are and how our feminine expresses itself. This does not mean to give more positions of leadership to women because leadership is about balancing energies. Without the equilibrium of true personal power, there will still be a lack of masculine/feminine ying/yang in too many aspects of our sociey. The society we know, the one I've been a part of, has missed out on using and creating more space for assertive and powerful feminine energy. What would feminine leadership or feminine partnership look like if my success depends not on my position or wealth, but on intuitively matching another's energy? The feminine is absolutely powerful enough to adapt itself without losing itself. Being successful means partnering with someone for that person's growth and peace of mind. Within each of us there ARE strong energies that match whatever role we're being asked to play for the benefit of ALL. The feminine is creation itself, we need to give it the power it deserves.
Manipulation takes many forms, but why would we be trying so hard to manipulate our reality to be mediocre, to not grow, to be stuck? There is a great force moving through the world to be yourself...express yourself...live how you wish. Personal expression is terrfic. What is challenging, though, is that people can't be the fullest expression of themselves if they don't know who they are. If you're seeking a goal but you don't know where you're going, it's easy to settle into mediocrity. And, mediocrity is not about not being OK where you are. I absolutely know it's true that when you can't accept being stuck, you must accept being stuck before you can grow or move ahead. Yet, settling in when you won't try to change is accepting a powerlessness that will keep you stuck. When things are hard and you overcome them you become stronger, you're not mediocre or as vulnerable. When you submit to the dark energy within you and stay in that mediocrity, you become ill. Don't get OK being mediocre when your spirit demands you grow to higher heights. You don't have to run marathons or become the next Einstein. You just want to keep doors open for your increased sense of being alive and to allow you to become more of the you you REALLY want to be. Mediocrity is another form of fear.
We all know about "What You DON'T Know Won't Hurt You", which means don't ask or seek to find out what other people are saying about you that may not feel good, because the aggravation isn't necessary. Let people say what they want when you're not around; you don't want it to drain your power. Yet, there are little things that you believe and don't question (traditions, beliefs, conditioning) that are laying under the surface of your consciousness and driving your behavior and your life - and you don't know they're there. Not coming to consciousness and understanding how these things propel your beliefs, your opinions, your relationships and feelings is NOT knowing about what will hurt you. This is true because some of these limiting beliefs, biases and stereotypes are holding you back and putting you into resentment in ways that steal your power. It will prevent you from having success and healthy relationships. How do you change the vibe that is drawing these harmful subconscious/unknown ideas into your life? You seek consciousness and humility. You seek higher power and energy. You question your negative attitudes toward others. Power will bring you situations - sometimes painful ones - that create the opportunity to become conscious and free. Know your history and the ideas that have been passed onto you that will keep you stuck...even harm you and stall all spiritual growth.
So many of us are looking more closely at our beliefs - especially around culture and race. While we're looking for "answers", personal experience is causing many to feel defensive in their lack of understanding of broader issues. Then there are those who are certain they know the answer - and that there is a larger problem that is "someone else's" (probably those people who don't get it, or are being defensive). This energy is particularly curious for me because I want to know the thoughts, opinions and predominant beliefs of all those around me. We ARE different. How much of us are creating the larger dialogue and present reality while claiming to want to dismantle it? The most outspoken can often be the most guilty. Predominant ideas circle and return again each time society has changed as people continue to hold to stereotypes because of fear fed by messaging that sets us apart. Yes, we're different, but we're also all human and we won't be able to see that unless we increase our power by seeing ourselves in our experiences and allowing ourselves to tell the truth in intimate conversations. We cannot continue to fear "the other"; self-honesty must deconstruct our limiting beliefs and cease the payment of buying into false walls. Take what you like in finding the value in those who are not like you. Learn about others, make friends, open up, seek to understand and identify from the inside out.
The ISMs that I'm talking about here are those of sexism and racism. What I'd like to talk about here is how those structures in the world that create imbalance and powerlessness, but also how I am seeking balance and power as I show up as a woman and a white person and am trying to grow my own sense of personal power. As a caveat of explanation, I feel a strong sense of responsiblity in growing my power to understand what this dialogue looks like in the world and in systems and how that may be aligned or different from how those ISMs show up in my personal experience and the experience of people I want to connect with and help grow. In the work world, I will not explain myself as a woman and I don't subscribe to the belief that men in business lord over me in any way. In fact, tapping into my feminine energy makes business better overall. Historically speaking, it's just been hard for many women to do that in a domain which was dominated by men. Notice I say dominated, not controlled. I don't believe a man - or structures developed along masculine energy lines can control me. This is because feminine energy, by it's very nature, leads by moving, dancing, flowing and nurturing the masculine to procreate balance in energy that becomes whole. Everyone knows when this energy is present - it's called true leadership and it can come from a woman or man. And it can be destroyed by a woman or man who is misaligned and out of balance. Lastly, as pertains to racism (and sexism), it's about opportunity seen, not individual unhealthy and biased behavior that would work against you as an individual. Power is THERE, take it and own it, there's never a need to give it away to anyone. The shame is that there never was...
When you debate - especially the more contentious modern day subjects - it is hard for anyone, once emotional, to hold their own. Debate, if you can be met, can be exhilirating, informing and convincing if you are capable of feeling stupid. Are you strong enough to see the loopholes in your own position? Are you capable of allowing the petty nature of your emotional insecurities to make you feel small and stupid...and to let it go? Passion about what you feel or your point of view is great, but when your emotions rule the communication, you may more easily lose the interest and connection of the other person. When you need to WIN - you'll lose more of yourself than you'd like, most importantly, self-esteem. Yes, persuasion/debate/argument can be highly emotional and it can also be a strong educational tool when you stay in the game and your emotions become something useful instead of just something that drain you of energy and power. Emotions can become the foundation of impactful lessons. Stay in the communication, feel your ignorance and see how much more you can win by not needing to win at all.
Your awakenings - when they first happen - are like new relationships. You're learning about yourself and expanding your capacity for gratitude and love. You're life feels exciting. Then things get routine, and maybe you get bored. THAT is when you should start serving others. When you serve others and share with them what happened to you and how, you RE-LIVE your awakenings while watching others wake up. You feel power as you see the light come on in people's eyes. You know the light burns strong, finding additional homes in more of your cells, which helps you heal and release additional stuck energies. The love you share flows like an infinity pool. Transitioning into the area of romantic relationships, a recent break up left me feeling like my love tank was empty and I did not have the capacity to re-fill it. In a new experience, I see today that I was the person I left and I am now watching this new person be who I was in my past relationship. It's quite the revelation, separating me from my grief and also allowing me to feel the loss of love other people don't have from within themselves. In order to fill the love tank - again and again - like an infinity pool - one must let go, surrender to the grief and allow life to provide new seeds of love for more growth. Love is an energy that cannot be stuck. Your ability to love again, depensd on giving it away to keep it and grieving and losing. It's about the infinity of forgiveness.
Normalcy, often correlated with tradition, can be an expectation. You go along, you fit in a box, you do what others did or are doing because...why wouldn't you? But if you wake up one day and discover that what's normal and helps you "belong" is now unattractive or scary, THEN what do you do? It's time to redefine normal by changing traditional expectations...of YOURSELF. However, when you break out, it's going to feel dark, lonely and even dangerous as your ego tells you to belong...to not stray too far. If you won't challenge yourself to think for youself you settle into being normal - and often depressed from never finding your depth by walking through the challenges of life. Breaking away from normalcy can be painful and also enlightening. If you shy away from your true self, the fitting in you settle for is a half-life of half-happiness. AND you'll still have challenges, which your insides will be constantly afraid of. So YOU choose, safe but fearful or risky and free.
A prick of the heart can change your life without someone trying to change YOU. As a Boston friend said, "I'm gonna prick their haaahts" - which was a way to nudge or prod his children to take action, or "do the right thing." This prick is the puncture of a small idea into another person, WITHOUT pressing. It isn't about controlling other people. It is NOT about you knowing better what someone else should do. Rather, it is about planting a seed into becoming a small gut-feeling that cares or is connected to others. Someone's sense of responsibilty cannot be taken away... but I can exercise an obligation to point to LOVE. Some slight re-frame may provoke responsiblity that allows someone to think for themselves. This is a concerned and loving - but hands off - way of being present. No fixing, no doing for, no taking away one's right to handle their own lives. Leaving someone alone allows them to know when they know. What follows is the beauty of freedom.
When you came to realize who you are, you may or may not have accepted or liked what you realized. You asked if it reflected your ideals or values, which is when you also started to question your reality and experience something different. At that point your experience became your greatest teacher. You set in motion wheels of change from within and the world responded. Situations and experiences were mirrored toward your thoughts. Teachers of your goals start showing up that you can relate to because they are only slightly ahead on the path you wish to travel. In other words, they've experienced the next step. You find out what they thought and did and you decide to follow the wisdom of their experience. Think about it - when was the last time you wanted to change and thought you couldn't but when you saw someone who DID (aka experienced it), you knew you could. Know that the experience of the highest value in your existence is to use power to stand FOR what you want to experience, rather than against what you no longer desire. When you desire to change you life, first, change your mind and then act differently. Your efforts to re-experience something new with the confidence of a higher power will win in the end, no matter how long it takes.
The bondage of others is when someone says something - or poses a question - that makes you disturbed or propels you into over-thinking. In other words, you personalized their response to something you said, or you made up a general opinion they had about you. Certainly, people say things that make you think, or plant a seed of self-examination about your own dis/comfort level. SHOULD the things people say or [seem to] insinuate provoke you to question yourself? It's normal to be affected by your response to what others say. However, it's trying to find the parts of what they said that were relevant to you and also to feel your own bodily reactions that are the most important parts of self-discovery. When in a group setting, it's appropriate to want to be heard and to want the communication to go well. Questioning oneself after the fact can also be good...Over-attachment to a perception of negativity from another that makes you over-analyze yourself is NOT. Understand the difference so you can let go of what others think of you. Without sef-examination, your thinking can go to extremes...and next thing you know you're feeling bad about yourself and you don't even know why. Being aware is finding out what's best for you to let go of. That's being truly free of the bondage of others.
Madness, in our modern world, is doing things to each other that are disconnected and even harmful - with intellectual justification. We also insanely over-protect people from their own consequences by trying to remove or cushion their "bottoms" (aka breakthrough)--so they don't grow a willingness to change. Our relationships are peppered with constant back-biting and overly criticism, while talking unconditional love...and this is another form of madness. Our hardness, fixed-firm lines and gaps between each other is all about "I'm right". But what does it all mean? Where is there sanity in all of this? Can we meet each other, or understand each other in such madness? Yes, we can. I don't have to win and the humanity won't die if I seek to allow EVERYONE to their own point of view. The new mechanism - a way to produce an effect or accomplish a purpose - has to be positive and allowing. The only way to sanity is to accomplish a valid purpose amongst us that can work even when we disagree. As we continue to draw attention to our lives, how can that attention to be on the path of sanity? One way is humor..another is greater openness and willingness. These things work to create lightness and being which conquer darkness. From there, you can find an opening in communication, expression and understanding, not your own intellectual superiority. Are you trying to be a greater being? A simple way to do so is to change your purpose to greater awareness so you can see things differently.
Understanding sameness means you find or connect with the things in you that you share with another. Being different means no matter how similar you are - in values, upbringing, etc. - there will still be things that have differed in your lives and experience. When something (job, relationship) fails due to these differences, it provokes a greater understanding of how to respect all sorts of other differences that may never make sense. If you are someone who likes order, organization and clarity, it may disturb you to find that when you look for similarities and stereotypes you still cannot understand completely what's happening with others. Yes, common threads can mean common sense. They can also remove you from the education you get being present to someone who is different in ways that intimidate you. Worse yet, when you try to find too many similarities so as to avoid discomfort, you don't benefit from finding ways to think for yourself. When you think for yourself, you are more liberated to avoid generalizations and even the need to stereotype. What follows is more openness and vulnerability to new experiences and new people. Reservations and stereotypes block love. Consciousness has needed to replace my bullshit and too-smart-for-my-own-good need to categorize to understand. I DO understand...that I DON'T understand.
The world is plagued by mediocrity - people living to die in a state of absolute contemplation of nothing. The path of least resistance is a well-worn road, rife with depression, anxiety, stress and lack fo fulfillment. Why? Because it's EASY. And people love easy. The problem is that easy is not IT. Easy is failure. Easy is lack. Easy forgets and deserts the connection you claim to want so bad but won't work for. As you barely plant seeds and don't water the plant, you wonder why nothing grows. BECAUSE THERE IS NO SUNLIGHT. Because you let no storms in. Because you haven't surrendered your life to nature in a way that will satisfy your soul instead of your pocketbook or your vanity. What a shame-based life to live, brought on by nothing and nobody but your ignorance and unwillingness to be uncomfortable or stupid. Life is difficult, you won't learn how much until you live it fully. The more fully you live it, the more likely you will master storms - AND the more likely you will learn how to REALLY LIVE. You'll climb mountains when you thought you didn't even own hiking shoes. You will swim oceans when you're afraid of the tides. There is plentiful courage. You simply first have to face pain. Welcome to the mastery of your life at the top of the mountain of resistance. Enjoy the climb!
Nope, it ain't to take a new job, get married (or divorced), move or have children. It's TO LOVE. What makes it the most major decision is because the decision or choice to love creates the most amount of positive consequences. Making the decision to love is conscious and ideally balanced between logic and emotion. Many feel love is a feeling but it can also be very grounded in logic and sanity. A decision to love can produce a ripple effect of positive energy for you and others. Choice is so powerful because it clears away uncertainty and leaves a foundation of connection. To understand all this consciousness make me feel more comfortable being more emotionally loving. The decisions I made to be "in love" produced the greatest consequences and fundamentally transformative experiences for me and others. Don't think you can "decide" to love? OK--but if you don't choose--are you preparing for a grounded love that will last or, at least, produce positive movement, change and energy? Love is the greatest force in the universe...choose it for better or worse. FromTheNthPower
"What it all boils down to is __________" refers to extracting things down to their essential elements. Can this be done with people? Are we all similar when it comes to something like our values? It doesn't appear to be so. As someone who likes to figure things out and form scripts that could make it easier to understand how human beings tick, it has been virtually impossible to find a clear path through human behavior by examining values. Although I would still insist that people are motivated by the same needs, it's still difficult to match those needs to common values that make sense for everyone in the same way. Despite not having enough common values, we can still better meet each other if we grow our ability to be open-minded and to reserve simple judgments when it comes to what people do and why. The first place to start - if you want more healthy connection to others - is to meet people on their terms and from their point of view. It will seem odd, or be difficult at first, but soon you will start to see more and more how people really are very much the same despite our vast differences.
What is "security consciousness" and why is it a sword? We all know people who have no money but who are abundant and confident. On the flip side, there are wealthy people who live an emotionally empty existence. The Sword yields force...Consciousness is powerful...Security is abundance mindset. Much of the people I know who grew up without a lot of money often work hard but still don't feel secure financially, no matter how much money you/they make. Simply put, a security consciousness is necessary for the financial freedom most seek. It means that you choose to believe that you can have abundance and that your consciousness will draw abudance to you through dreams and visions. Ideas you have about money have been taught with words and unconscious behaviors so you must unlearn them with words and conscous actions.
Also, one of the biggest block to security consciousness says that money and people who make more money are BAD. If you believe this, your own security consciousness - and therefore financial abundance - will continue to be a struggle. Deep early childhood experiences revolving around family financial drama will also prevent the level of financial (and even emotional) security you crave. Having a hard time getting ahead financially? Might be time to do some work around financial and emotional security limiting beliefs.
You may need to search deep within your heart to find security. Let me lead you there.
Let's be honest, love is - and never should be - about keeping score. But let's play with that anyway because sometimes we don't know what we know (or don't) about love. For me, consciously, LOVE is doing/being/becoming what you love. LOVE is everywhere all the time. LOVE is living in abundant manifestation. The (imaginary AND creative) scorekeeping system of LOVE I present here is creative food for contemplation...
Love is about:
TIME: if you want love, you give your time. I am a liar if I say "I love you" but won't give you my time. It is my greatest and most precious gift to give or spend.
ATTENTION: if I give you my time, I will do my best to not allow distractions to remove me. Even if I have my own emotions happening, I will come back to being there.
ENGAGEMENT: Being fully engaged means I'm on the highest level of deep listening. I ask questions. How do I engage with you to help you experience my time as powerful?
PRESENCE: Being fully present means my body - mind, eyes, ears, feelings - are looking to KNOW who you are. Breathing consistently re-engages presence. I am MYSELF.
RESPONSE: Am I attentive to your/our needs both then and later? How I respond to you as an individual and partner means I do my best to remember what you need.
If you explore this type of scorekeeping, the game of competition ends and the game of LOVE remains and reigns supreme - as it should.
Opinions these days are rampant. Even as I watch highly intelligent, sought-after speakers, authors and experts voice what is meant to be open-minded and tolerant, I hear the voice of opinion. Why is this? Because to be truly open-minded, it takes being completely in the experience of now and deciding how you're being. When one lives in the intellectual space too long and too exclusively, there is a lack of being that permeates an inability to go DEEP. Do you crave a better life? If so, have you come face-to-face with your need to be vulnerable - and how much you avoid it with your smart opinions? Opinions are great and strong ones that take years to form can be valuable. What is NOT valuable is using those strong opinions to create divisions, or refuse to see another point of view. If greater conscious creation is moving us to better things - to a source of POWER greater than anything you've ever known - are your opinions helping or hindering you from getting to that power? Only your heart knows...
You're on the precipice of change and the fear and discomfort you're experiencing will prompt questions that you don't know how to answer. It's when WTF will be in your face that you'll have to seek solutions from a place of greater power. When you start to seek those answers, you may have a level of perfectionistic denail that makes it hard to see yourself. Your need for security actually prevents you from seeing what's happening. Logic won't serve you at this time - which is why WTF is the most prominent question. It means you're frustrated by the lack of clarity in your over-thinking mind. Because of your suffering, you may not understand that greater energies have led you to WTF to let you know that you're out of answers. Because when you're out of answers, you're at the beginning of everything you've been looking for... When you're willing to go anywhere in surrender to this type of energy, WTF is the question of surprise and curiosity that takes you to the next greatest version of the grandest vision of who you really are ("Friendship w/God," Neale Donald Walsch).
It's been said that Autonomy is a $$million-dollar$$ word. More clearly, it's invaluable to your self-esteem and overall well-being. If you weren't taught - or aren't cultivating - a powerful way of making up your OWN mind and evaluating what's happening to you without layers of stuck conditioning, then you're not truly free. You are, effectively, not yourself. Autonomous people have integrity. They know when to ask for your help. They thrive on examining circumstances logically, emotionally and intuitively to make decisions. Autonomy gives a person a sense of calm, thoughtful presence to self and others - something that, in these days and times - cannot be bought or paid for. If you have unhealthy attachments to controlling yourself or others, start with this...
LEAVE THEM ALONE.
See how you feel about that. Let me know how uncomfortable you get.
There is a distinction between religion and faith. In this episode, and this subjective explanation, I'm speaking of a faith from inside and with acknowledgment of the greatest powers of all time. When the idea of a power greater than me was introduced to me as a way to make my life better, I was perplexed and afraid that I would become boring. I was certain that the end of my creativity and passion was near. Yet, what I found was that once I started to "Act As If" - by becoming active in a relationship of connection to a great, higher power - my life became more passionate, fuller, more creative and better than I could ever have imagined. When I explored fully relying on this power, I realized that there was so much more of ME that I could become. I'm still at it...being bolder than ever.
Many people would say they are searching for meaning. At the very least, most are asking questions having to do with superficial meaning, such as "What does that mean?" or "What I meant to say was_______" What this tells us is that even though meaning is crucial to connection and understanding, once we travel deeper inward, meaning becomes very individual. So if meaning is perceptual and experiential, how DO we come to know each other, connect better and mean no harm? Well, this is where coaching comes into play. Examining contextual communicative meaning and what the deeper meaning of things is for you is about finding the spaces to self-examine. You're going to have to dig deeper into your scripts and conditioning to see the ways you're blocking your deepest meaning, purpose and true joy from coming into your life. If you're looking for meaning, look no further...fromthenthpower.com
Your dreams never were about mediocrity, but if you've been ignoring them, then your life probably is. When you sit in stuckness, you'll blame others for your lack of energy. When you fear risk and forget what you came here to be in this life, you learn to accept less. Somewhere along the way, life, the world, your family, etc. taught you to play it safe and forget about the higher heights of living. Yet your true purpose - AND more peace, contentment, love and abundance - are waiting on the other side of that blind spot. When you ignore your dreams, you become stuck. After staying stuck, the infection of this stagnant energy becomes illness. Stop living in mediocrity and forgetting your dreams. Your health can't handle it. And there's not enough time to leave them behind.
I equate blaming others and attacking things outside of you to "change the world" to trying to get rid of a stye. It has a process that is beyond what I think should be happening. Trying to force things to change - especially when you have your own mental blindness and limitations (aka "mental styes") - is like holding someone down with your foot and not letting them up until they submit to what you think should happen and how. Finger-pointing and frustration is as futile as trying to get rid of a stye before it's natural time. Any person's mind cannot see what needs to change until it comes to conscious awareness. That awareness has to come from them wanting to go within. People's confusion cannot be overcome without an acceptance of self and a keener eye beyond the mind's stye. I cannot bring someone to enlightenment by making her wrong. MY growth is what brings me to power. I want yours to bring you there too...with love.
Some of you are so steeped in discord that it's become a way of life. Worse yet, you certainly cannot figure your own way out. Has it occurred to you that even though this state began with valid feelings, you don't realize that you do things to make sure that it continues to make you miserable? Your fear and your ego are dead-set on making sure your monthly mortgage is paid for this comfortable, dark silence. You don't see that there are ways your mind tells you it's safe. Yet, the more you pay rent on the darkness, the harder it is to get away from. If you want to start living higher, better and longer - and from fruitful and faithful contemplation about your life and purpose - then it may be time to start looking at your thinking and the ways your ego NEEDS this discord to continue. You can opt-out at anytime. Just cancel the subscription and start moving forward with more positive self-talk, affirmation, meditation, self-examination and HOPE.
There are things you've been struggling with that you want to work on. Maybe, though, you've been learning that even though this doesn't serve you, you can't seem to get rid of it. Some aspects of your personality won't budge in the face of persistence. If this happens and you're unknowingly seeking perfection, your frustration will increase. Then you'll get out the BIG guns. But it's not about the bigger blast, but - rather - how or where you shoot "the enemy". You might need to work on liberating yourself from your attachment to perfectionism before you can make any progress. Or, you may just have to accept where you are. If you've done your work, it may be clear that you ARE where you are supposed to be, progress is slow and some dragons cannot be slayed at all, or right now. Trust the process. There are answers in front of you that you just don't see yet time will show you what you need to know, and DO.
People who have contentment of being are in touch with their minds and bodies at the same time. They LIVE from a knowing that is a marriage of all the nuances of being. Their intuitive connectedness has changed their attitude and their lives. This marriage is a development of finding self in what you think AND feel. The greater life that develops from this marriage lets go of limitations and then your spirit grows - and so does your life - despite your physical circumstances. Surrender to this marriage brings perfection of awakening daily while learning to make mistakes. This foundation is a sacred spiritual design for ALL good things. When your life is lived this way, you have constant access to principles of truth that are the alpha and omega - the depth and weight - of LOVE and POWER. Without this daily ceremony, the feeling of being whole will elude you. The POWER that marries logic and emotion - the middle - awaits you. Let's get there together.
It seems amazing to me to continue - over many years - to hear the cries of unfairness and powerlessness again and again from women. There is much power to be gained by women participating in and changing things (like business) - but it can't be done before the greater need of self-change and inner focus. I fear that women still don't know how to find true purpose because their intuitions are still trying to find balance through the masculine. Power is not masculine OR feminine - it is the marriage of the two. It's the place where you know you are strong and sensitive too. It is the pit of your gut, deep behind your belly that feels and KNOWS what is good and right, and doesn't have to make anyone wrong (including you).
Your intuition serves and your logic defines. The relationship you crave is inside the correlation of the two...it cannot be found hiding behind the scarcity of your lack and blame. When it comes to TRUE Power, it must be found in your own depth and wisdom, which is cannot steer you wrong. Find that wisdom outside the ghetto of your mind. Tip your toe in a warmer water of self-trust and being all that you are - without having to define it by someone or something else outside of you that you believe has more. You ARE More.
What does it mean to "stand"? It doesn't mean to do nothing, it means you just don't have to fight everything. Change what you can (you have power over only yourself), and then create a new experience and world through your own growth and actions. It takes courage to stand in principles that are fluid. Living according to "rules" (some of whih are only in your head) keeps you stuck and can make you feel worse as you try to control these rules, other people, and their adherence to these rules (from their OWN forms of control). Power over yourself enables you to stand and wait on nature to provide answers. They WILL come...In the meantime, be responsible for adhering to energies instead of pushing against energy that cannot be moved by you alone. The greatest power of hope is in love acceptance and knowing.
What is it that makes one person like someone, and another NOT like that same person or thing? How much of our likes and dislikes - who or what we follow - is determined consciously in the moment, or by things within that we don't even question? Is your ability to make decisions solely from your own resources and autonomy, or have you become an unwillful follower of the "norm" instead of your own conscience? Your conscience, if you're like many these days, seems to be overrun with fear, insecurity, sometimes downright depression and panic. It's time to get back to self. You really DON'T have to follow blindly. You really CAN gain confidence and self-respect by making up your own mind, intelligently and spiritually, of course. Get on the course back to yourself through coaching today: nicoledevlin.com
How do you know if your feelings are facts? I mean, if you "feel" them should you necessarily believe them? Is it possible that some of your feelings are attached to perceptions you've formed from denial or dishonesty? The world divides are currently being fueled by the "feelings are facts" and "your feelings don't matter" camps. There is truth in the middle of camp - around the fire where we break bread and learn to communicate. The ability to communicate is with ourselves first and then with others. If you can objectively immerse yourself in feelings that are separate from the lies in your head then the purity in them will be felt and you can be healed. If you ignore deep feelings, or become totally accountable to them ALL the time, you miss out on the building of deeper self-esteem. Let yourself feel. Let yourself let go. You're all-right, no matter how you feel.
Remember the debate team where teams argued sides and HAD to win... Some of us are still acting like conversations where we disagree are about winning. You don't need to be right and you don't need to win. In fact, by focusing on changing another's point of view - especially when they can't or don't want to change, or hear you, will only create loss. Conflict is still communication and healthy communication is still two ways. If I can remain open-minded to other people's lifestyles and opinions - and my own - true freedom and greater awareness grows inside and all around me.
The search for deeper meaning will come...it's inevitable unless you fight it. If you trust the natural process of conscious creation you don't have to fight for anything. It's all already there. So why are changes and challenges so difficult? Because the best and most intelligent of us subscribe to the God of the outer. Highly intellectual people live by the power of the brain and material things - which is never all there is. There is greater goodness, light, life and power available if you are just willing to open your mind to bigger ideas manifesting in your heart and deepest gut-knowledge. Decision-making is isolated and difficult when all you rely on is your thinking. It can get crowded real easily up there without the strength of the ages in deeper contemplation, self-awareness and wisdom. BEing and allowing will bring what you seek. Oh, patience don't hurt either.
Light is change that comes from your inner energy and belief in your own POWER. The lowest power is about your patterns of thinking and feeling that are prone to lack and ugliness. The highest power is about focusing your mind on expecting your most beautiful expression and vision. Whatever conditioning you have that makes you feel like you don't have light - or that darkness follows you - is about the way you think and how that magnetizes and manifests negative experiences. You must, through your power of choice, see the real and valid nature of GOOD. You must refill your well of light and love repeatedly through taking care of self and emptying that well into the lives of others. Uncover and discard what doesn't work, but don't forget to look at it for gold-mine energy about how you can be the best you can in love...just for today.
We say we want peace, but are we creating it? Are we building a peaceful life from within? Are we willing to forego argument and dissension for the sake of more calm? Peace can be hard to find sometimes. Most think peace is a state of the world, but it's truly an internal state of mind and emotion. Can you handle more peace? What do you do when you have no drama and chaos? Are you able to sit and be still? Most would say no. Most wouldn't know how to find their way to the lightness of peace. Their minds are too dark, especially after the past two years of having to sit in the silence of fear and sickness. Whole health needs attention from the mind and peace starts there. If you have no peace, look within. Change your thinking patterns, learn to let go, create peaceful terms to engage in more peaceful interactions. Your mind can be your friend, start from there and then go out to create peace in the world.
Pain cannot be avoided, so when you try to fight it, it becomes more painful. Happiness should be pursued, but happiness is elusive. The return of pain - due to life, to you, to others - is inevitable. It is a part of life. If you face pain, it will evaporate (not instantaneously, but over time). If you avoid pain, it will return to bite you. Why is this? Because change is the supreme surrender. Without this type of deep DEEP surrender, without letting go of your self-help prescription, change will remain difficult to achieve - and an equal level of pain will return continually. Willingness and openness bring re-birth. Resistance and control of emotions (a dead-end exercise) bring more pain. Getting results in your efforts to change necessitates direction from Love and Good-Orderly-Direction. Stay on the course, remember to help others, etc. Stay out of your own way. Become free.
Simple daily interactions that provoke strong emotional reactions can be intimidating. It is, quite frankly, EASY to blame another person's actions or attitudes, for there is certainly lack of awareness in the world around us - and INSIDE of us too. In the realm of personal responsibility, there is, however, an education from the seeking within, one where the learning is always about YOU.
So when an interaction derails an otherwise good day and you don't understand why - why your reaction was so strong, or why you had one at all - taking a deeper look by asking pertinent self-examination questions is key to your growth. Think about it...most of us are just trying to live and connect. We don't understand that a lack of connection doesn't come from without, it comes from within. It is a sense of lack, intolerance and limiting beliefs. We all have them. The road to power is about finding them and using spiritual, mental and emotional tools to explore, demystify and mitigate their hold on you. NO one is saying don't feel your feelings. At From the Nth Power, we're simply aiming for something better than that - POWER that's about more of you than those feelings.
We all do things that we want - and make excuses as to why. This is not because one is being negligent, it is becuase people, even the best of them, are motivated by self. Self, in and of itself, is not bad. It is a part of our entire wholistic being. The point is not to be full of self, or selfish, but to understand your own self-serving and self-preserving motivations. When you do this, you can learn not to judge yourself. As a result, you do not need to judge others. Everything, when peppered with neutrality is neither good nor bad. It is understanding what you do, getting clear about what motivates what you do, that enables you to find greater peace. Without peace, how CAN you experience greater connection to others? It is only through self-awareness that one can experience true connection and empathy for others. You don't need to people-please. Be Yourself, it's what the universe wants from you (and will get you to do) anyway.
Yep - THAT subject. Sex. So personal. So secretive. Or, worse yet, shunned or, these days capitalized with an openness that is being portrayed as ideal. But IS it? How can we be truly open and free about sex if we attach so much shame to it. As we move out of a deadly flu virus, I would purport that the virus of sexual shame can also be as deadly - to our self-esteem, to our connections and to our next generation. If we don't actively participate in healing our sexual shameful wounds, it will be difficult to allow our children to openly express themselves in whatever is most open, creative and healthy for them. We need healing around sex. We need love, forgivenes and compassion. We need it NOW.
We've made such advances in our emotional and spiritual evolution and yet, when someone asked me during Women's History Month, what still concerned me for women, I said, "low self-esteem", which is another expression to describe Lack. Lack is in our conditioning - it's why some people succeed and others do not. Yet the world will tell you you haven't or can't succeed because someone or something with more power than you holds you back. No, my friend, YOU hold you back. The lack in your thinking, the fear in your body is what holds you back. We've seen evidence, time and again of people who succeeded despite great odds stacked against them. They decided to move ahead beyond lack to the promised land of self-awareness. When you do that, you will know true success.
Feeling successful is about coming to terms with where you are, who you are and what's happened in your life to get you to this place - both good and bad. Without the necesary acceptance of life's circumstances and a strong belief in the power of good and love, your life will probably seem empty and you will feel stuck, no matter how much success you achieve. That's because your experience - how you got here - is neglected in favor of the chase of some "other/better" experience. Your life matters to other people who need to find out who you are and where you've been so they can envision a better place to aim for. The success blueprint is within you, why not start chasing THAT?
"I can see why you would feel that way"... seems simple enough to say but that's not where a lot of conversations go naturally. Yes, we say we want to connect - to hear each other - but something clearly isn't working. What IS the problem? One could say ego, another would claim ignorance, others think it's a lack of empathy. I would say it's SELF. The strong, self-protecting ego cannot have us disagreed with, looking bad, sounding stupid, being wrong or NOT knowing. This is why the landscape of feelings is so slippery and grey. If you are not confident or incapable of seeing another's point of view for fear of any of the above, you will likely not be able to grow toward better understanding in your relationships. Growth comes from deep knowing that even if someone feels differently it doesn't make either of you wrong. Opening a heart opens the mind and a little willingness goes a long way.
Ignorance used to be a way to avoid sometimes unpleasant things, or even just to stay on your own side of the street in an effort to be comfortable or compatible. Now, it's almost seen as somewhat critically unhealthy because you are not choosing to see things the way your friends do, or a "predominant" part of society does. The individual way of thinking is not as attractive at the same time one's ability to make up one's own mind is necessary for confidence. Power is in your accountabilty and self-mastery, which includes thinking for yourself. If you want to be ignorant of some things, while cognizant of others, more open dialogue should be the rule when communicating. Let's remember divisions grow into chasms when we focus on differences and can't be rendered smarter by another person's experience.
I KNOW, it's HARD to say "I don't know". It doesn't feel good. Maybe it doesn't promote the kind of connection you seek, where we all know and all agree - all the time. But Is that real? Probably not. Saying "I don't know" is downright humble. And humility - a true inner compass of integrity - is what we can all use more of. Without the ability to admit to not knowing, you cannot learn those things that counter your points of view and make you more whole. Without the open-mindedness of professing your ignorance, you cannot become truly intelligent in a powerful way...a way that makes the world a better place. I don't know about you, but I'm looking for a humbeler brighter space for all of US.
Let's face it, being responsible is not easy. It requires a perseverance and fortitude that is an enigma to many. Even with a desire to grow, a focus on anything else besides yourself may mean the contented usefulness you crave will elude you. Absolute joy comes from the courage of facing oneself in all its forms. Loving to and from the depths of one's conscious soul is a practice. It's not a homework assignment that is a one-and-done for which you get graded on the virtue of your accomplishment. The practice itself is what makes it perfect. The peace you feel that buzzes in your skin is the reward. Focusing on your growth above all else opens up possibilities.
While you sit in your feelings, the moment passes. When you judge others, the moment ceases to exist. As you passionately persist in your righteous thinking, the moment ends as your ego seeks reinforcement in the past. It's all so unnecessary as the truth and knowing you really seek is only in the stillness of NOW. Connection is based on your experience, open-mindedness and honesty. Yes, those things are cultivated by events of the past and your projections or vision of the future. Yet ONLY now do all things collide as one...being eternal, right and good. Think about your moments. Open your mind. Practice stilllness and acceptance.
Sin gets a bad rap...people think it's a toxic tradition of some religions. To me, it's actually a measuring stick for how I can be more powerful. There is NO right in me trying to convince anyone of what I believe. What I really want - what is really RIGHT** is for me to dialogue to find foundational values for discussion. If I try to control what you think and how you feel, I will suffer. To alleviate suffering and create peace, I allow more space for other people to feel however they do. Being "right" is acknowledging and, sometimes, pulling back. The bulls eye is connection.
There are way too many ISMs born of unequal power structures across the globe. We can recognize this because of the rising nature of those who have been powerless speaking up. This is GOOD because we are on our way to greater consciousness. However, on that road, there are bumps as people get stuck in victimhood that focuses on the imbalnces and stresses anxiously on needing things to change. Things change when we change - with power from within - which we all posses.
There probably never was a time when fitting in was NOT an issue for most people. These days it's even worse. This is so because even though people are adaptable, the world has become a place of much stronger and further apart sides. So, imagine you're an extroverted and healthy person who enjoys having friends and who makes up her own mind. You'll probably find that, as most people align with what's easiest, you may feel more out-of-sorts. But with real power, it doesn't have to MATTER AT ALL.
It's become SO easy to rely on systems & ideas that are not tested and true, or are constantly changing. Despite the struggles we experience when thees systems or people fail us, we return only to have them fail again. We accept feelings of love, but shun feelings of wellness that don't correlate with the worldwide word pandemic. We need a change to what we rely on. Life and nature change - surrender to that. The greatest POWER that you can rely on is inside you. Start digging toward your brightest future.
There are answers everywhere and for everything. People think they can change/re-arrange their lives in 1-2 days by asking one question. Yet answers from Mama Internet are often manifestations of self-will from empty people who do not know how to ask the questions of the soul. Being with yourself, examining what you believe and probing how you think - those actions bring answers. Ask questions that will bring you to the next question, or person who can help. Be disciplined and follow the path home.
While we wait for the next catastrophe, POWER also waits - behind all that is happening - to show us more. We only need get out of the way to see and use it. The belief necessary to overcome the destructive nature of worldly things starts inside the human body - a phenomenal feat of nature that survived crazy obstacles to come into existence in the first place. I'm talking about YOU. The power that got you here is also there to get you (and us) out of the mud we're stuck in. Time to wake up to that POWER.
"Who ARE You?" I ask, and you provide your status, position in family or the world. But are you really touching upon what matters about you? Have you fearlessly explored who you were before your experiences gave you references? "BE yourself" is a modern aspiration, but too many find it hard to accomplish due to constant need for approval. There is more to your existence and the path that is here for you to be the greatest version of yourself. It lies in this moment and beyond. Get TO it by being present.
Life can sometimes feel bleak. No one would deny a pervasive negative energy that just won't go away. We NEED this energy - because it's part of nature. It will show us the way to something better - if we let it. Darkness is part of us and its manifestation exists because we are a part of the universe. When disconnection feels rampant, we need to look harder for ways to feel PART of something...connected. When you examine your darkness, you'll likely just find a boogeyman - and a little more enlightenment.
Everywhere I look, I see the re-birth of an insecurity-filled sense of not-enough. Not smart enough. Not beautiful enough. Not compassionate enough. It's full of vapid judgement rooted in the fear of not knowing who you are. Power comes from an introspective and full sense of self - not what you look like or how much money you have. All around, the God of materialism and externalization of self-esteem is showing itself to be the fantasy it always WAS. KNOW thyself...and don't judge anyone until you do.
If I asked just about anyone if they thought themselves honest, they'd say "YES!" and they'd know they were lying. Because honest is not just "I don't lie" - a true north of honesty is that I don't lie to MYSELF. And who can say that? What IS it that measures how honest you are? It's YOU. No one or nothing else. The problem is most people's honesty gauge is malfunctioning due to lack of awareness and self-centered fear telling you it's OK to be dishonest - especially when it's for the Good of ALL.
Are you entering conversations trying to insure that you don't look stupid? Are you afraid you'll have nothing to say to defend yourself...when you don't HAVE to? Power in communication is in neutrality that can be felt in your emotions and your body. It is calm between what you believe and how capable you intrinsically ARE--not having to dominate any space with everything you KNOW about how the world works and how to fix it. Be present to be powerful for the kind of progress that leads to real peace.
Conviction, is not against, but FOR the rightness of what you believe in. It may seem to be too fixed, but what I'm seeking, in truth, is a demonstration which can be a beacon for people to be who they are. Being who you are means being present, aware and free. Distractions in our current world are so pervasive that people have become convicted in a too-closed and destructive way. Let's get back--through power and responsibly--to those personal convictions arising from values, openness and living healthy.
Everyone wants the world to change tomorrow. That task would be easy if you were willing to change yourself first. What that means is that each person takes it upon him/herself to find the places where they are stuck. Each person finds ways to move energy ... creating catharsis and metamorphosis in their own body, before thinking it's in their power to change the world. Digging deeper down IN YOU is the path to enlightenment. It's time to change the inside to gain the power needed for your life's mission.
How peaceful IS your life...truly? Are you creating problems by trying to be perfect? Do you spend too much time thinking about what other people think of you? When we don't do what's needed to find the power to live from true integrity and strong connection to our virtues, we feel lost no matter how purposeful our efforts to connect with others. It's about a peace and acceptance that can't be found in your head and in trying to be perfect or try to make everyone like you. THAT is a life worth living!
Without freedom there is no real autonomy to be able to do what makes one happy. Freedom cannot be obstructed without one's desire being affected negatively. Once you understand that you are ALWAYS free...that desire and vision are directing your life, your voice will not have the most powerful affect on others. Grow YOU so you can elevate others through your OWN example. Desire of this kind creates BIG change. Passion and enthusiasm comes from an energy that is alive inside you. Find your voice there.
Your dream is to be light years ahead of where you are. But you have no foundation and, worse, you can't even be in the moment, so when you get "there", you'll miss the achievement - and won't be happy - because you'll seek the next "there". If you pursue success with empty motives, it will be fleeting. Money is a finite measurement of abundance. True growth and lasting success is built from a foundation of power and an inner core of security. It's never lost because it's not a feeling...it's a knowing.
Your diet is what you consume, not what you are made of. Why this clarification on what kind of matter you are? Because people tend to think if they change what they consume, or how they express themselves, that a "bull" (or anything coming at them) will see them as different than who they are. Who you are expresses itself. Changing yourself won't stop misunderstanding or negative responses. We don't control the world and its actions. POWER is controlling ourselves and being who we want to be.
We keep talking about responsibility because it's so fundamental to vision and growth. Without owning your life in a responsible way, you'll be limited - in overcoming adversity, in feeling joy and in being successful. What DOES "being responsible" mean? HOW are we responsible? In this episode, we'll talk about being bodily, mentally and emotionally responsible. We'll come to accept the truth that responsibility leads to right action. And right action is what will determine your level of accomplishment.
Super...Beautiful...Fragile? Fragility is superbly beautiful in its purest form, such as when we are vulnerable yet confident, when we are in touch with ourselves and can meet others. These days, we are seeing fragility - in too many instances - as a weakness in form. Fragility when lacking in power is an attachment to ignoring the truth. It is a victim state that requires more security from others than is due anyone. Humanity comes with the acknowledgement of just how super-crazy resilient we really are.
There is a gurgling that comes from the belly but is connected to a lack of consciousness. Our bodies and minds are fundamentally and forever attached to our experiences. The highway to freedom and autonomy requires that our boogeyman be probed and slashed again and again. Life's upsets are not coming from outside of you altogether. The foundation for health and wellness come from a power that stems from an increase in connection. Responsibility and accountability can kill the boogeyman within.
There are issues rooted in self-centered fear that have been the root of many debates and rifts over the past few years. These "isms" have confounded many an intelligent person, including myself. What plagues us seems to be how to continue a conversation in which another throws up a wall of blame we don't know how to climb over. How do we get to the root of an autonomous responsibility...before going to anger? Listen to identify these smokescreens of finger-pointing that lead nowhere--fast.
The world is chaotic, but you don't have to be. The difference between discomfort vs an all-out crisis is how much you empower other people to save you. People are embodied with the power to do so much more...yet give it away easily for security that is not really possible with so many unknowns. Surrendering to what cannot be controlled is scary. Yet look back at history and survival - surrender is the only thing you own, and the only thing besides ACTION that will bring the peace that you desire and need.
Don't those things sound GREAT? Who wouldn't want more of those? Well, I'm going to disappoint you by letting you know what people say they want vs what they act towards wanting or becoming, are quite different. Most want a quick fix jolt to burst them into the power that "looks" successful but is empty. You must learn to feel power from inside your bones to achieve the success that IS freedom. Listen to learn about a proven practice of principles that will propel your power from the inside out.
Do you have a good sense of how to make the best decisions or do you find yourself constantly seeking others' advice or approval? If you are a people-pleaser, you are likely not making the best personal choices. You may also become resentful when you don't like the results. Yet you keep on doing it because it's hard to be personally responsible. With responsibility comes maturity and freedom. With your own rudder as your guide, sailing through life becomes smoother than you can imagine.
Autonomy is your best and most conscious and heartfelt thinking. It keeps you connected to you and open to others. It is the wide open space where you wholly and freely make up your own mind - apart from anyone who would suggest that you should follow. Following is for the meek. Leading takes an ability to be more emotionally intelligent. Autonomy is your true self....and how to be that doesn't get the air time it should. Listen to this episode about how we forfeit autonomy and how we can get it BACK.
Lacking leadership is the order of the day - or decade. People seem to follow more than think for themselves. People often seek those who talk a big game but cannot, in fact, deliver the things they want. A shot of honesty, hard-work and a triple duty code of principles is what is sorely missing today. The difference that is needed lies in growing power and practicing responsibility. The path to happiness is inside you. Do you want to lead? Then get your booster shot and discover yourself.
What IS shame anyway? Why do we defend it so strongly when it's not ours to own? Do you know the difference between guilt - which can be great change motivation - and shame - which is baggage from outside that doesn't fit who you are? In this episode, Nicole aims to explore the differences to help you determine WHAT should define you. Listen to uncover your inner peace rather than constantly fighting against everything and trying to change the world from lack of self-awareness, which opposes your aim.
Once upon a time...Our stories began like that, and they were fantasy-driven or narrow in scope. But now, instead, we're opening up wounds and reciting narratives beginning with "it's so hard to be me..." The scars have become the thing that sells papers or gets likes. In turn, hope has taken a back seat to over-emotionalized expressions of powerlessness turned into vapid stories of wounds and blame. You CAN heal. You CAN have hope. You CAN! In this episode, Nicole seeks the power from our scars.
You read that right. It's not inaction, but UN-action - not just stalling but sabotaging your growth personally and professionally. Riding the wave of success is about learning to stand on that board and feel like you can surf whatever comes your way. Managing people and business is about managing yourself and the actions in your life. These actions must be targeted, specific and successful to form a truly great business, become an effective entrepreneur and cultivate true leaders. BUILD FROM ACTION.
Fear of death is such an in-our-face topics these days. How do we live more HOPE? Life is not just completing the dash between birth and death. This episode examines the beauty of life gained from self-awareness, connection and the premise that everything that happens is opportunity - subject to your interpretation and desires for growth & happiness. Life is not something to trudge through. If you're not feeling fully alive, here you may discover awarenesses and perceptions that OPEN your MIND.
Is virtue social or personal? As a principle, it has a sound foundation for building self-esteem. When your sense of virtue is based on what others think, or if you believe there is one definition of virtue for everyone, you will find conflict. This episode explores keeping virtue personal instead of using it to reign supreme in your mind over others. The good/bad in people is not something we can always know. We'll win if we keep virtue strong in our OWN hearts - and keep pure love alive toward others.
As we get closer, or further, from our own realizations of what life itself means these days, and many are frustrated by things out of our control, "I've had enough" comes to mind. Yet what does "enough" mean--as it relates to what's happening around us or inside us? The question "ARE YOU ENOUGH?" is a great place to start to decide how you want to be, rather than allowing others to tell you how to be. When it's all summed up, the truth is it's always been all about your relationship with yourself anyway.
In the current call-out, blame-game culture, it's quite accepted to think that changing the world will solve our problems. We forget that we share common experience and solution-based principles that work no matter what depresses, plagues or aggravates us. One of these is forgiveness. We harm each other... Once this is admitted, it can be resolved. When I act like you harm and I don't, or you are bad and I am good, I have shut the door to greater self-actualization and responsibility. Open your heart.
FREEDOM. CONNECTION. We're turned ON by these words and what the reality of living them can create. Freedom is autonomy to be of self but not arrogantly FOR self. Connection is a deeply rooted feeling of care born from love of self. We want these things, but don't know how to get past "following along" and being angry when others pursue what we want so desperately. It's time to wake up and see where we're missing something inside. Freedom won't arrive until our own disconnection is respectfully expunged.
PEACE is a hard-earned word coming from common ground or safety. Many are having a hard time feeling calm as a result of divisions, strong feelings and fears. There is a gap BETWEEN US...in our understanding, in our limited thinking and in our emotions. Without a foundation around which we can come together, or at least start out agreeing, resolution will not be on the horizon in these conversations. In this episode, Nicole will examine what is happening in an effort to close that gap.
These days, truth is quickly invalidated or irrelevant. Do we question what truth is? Are we examining our conscience against information? Lack of self-awareness is a thick layer of absence of self, blanketed in fear. Without some ability to connect within and develop a stronger mind-body foundation, happiness eludes us...for we are always looking outside and finding reasons to be afraid. You are stronger than you think. And faith - in greater powers - is within your reach; it's inside you.
We could afford to be getting along better. Open-mindedness has been replaced with opinions & follows. "Expert" opinions are being followed without questioning. Our minds and emotions have given into seeking outside ourselves, becoming zombies skulking in a dark fear that is pervasively lacking in solution or bliss. We want and need hope. It starts with finding foundation from the things we want and need, not trying to control what others can't accept. Freedom - love...we need them more than ever.
Life is simple but secure...you have "enough". IS that true? Do you want more but are afraid to go after it? Many very intelligent people play it safe and are suffering because their sense of freedom and adventure has been lost. Unless you're willing to risk, you cannot have more. Your bike wants the high road and you're attached to your training wheels. Listen here to find out how the things you're missing in this life - that you may not even know that you want - won't show up until those wheels come OFF!
Breathing supports life and creates a foundation for everything we do, yet little attention is paid to how important it is...it's just there. There a lot to be learned from your breathing re: health and the mechanics of your body. Breathing IS life and when coupled with movement, creates a foundation for GOOD. The thrill in your life comes and goes with the breath. The ecstasy comes when you expand that breath through you, asking for greater experiences in the moment and onward.
Your disconnection is not about world events. Yes, world unity and a perfect climate would certainly engender harmony and the Internet CAN create greater human depth. However, the necessary solutions are not in those directions. Connection is in YOU...in your body. You've spent years eating, drinking, obsessing and acquiring to ignore it and now you're not at all inhabiting the real and deepest YOU. You CAN be happier. There IS more, it's just not OUT there.
It's easy to cultivate blame when life has treated you wrong. Knowing how prohibiting to growth the blame game is...What can/will you do? How can you unleash your purest liberating emotions? Where is the help you need? Without a foundation of principles, you may remain stuck, and lacking a solution that will unleash the power you seek - which is past your unhealthy scripts and inside you. Listen to find out more about how to conquer your lack and become your greatest self.
How little focused and centered attention we pay to our bodies...unlike our cars or phones. The result is often physical & mental breakdown, or vulnerability to illness. It's clearly a modern miracle that our bodies are as resilient as they are (your phone would NEVER last as long). Breakdown CAN be voided and bliss increased--by giving the proper focus to your moments, breath and to what your body tells you. This takes minutes but can change the trajectory of your life.
Do you feel like you're paying too much attention to how to circumvent people's erratic emotions? Does it seem like erratic emotions used to be in a here-and-there acquaintance but now they're in government, media, just about EVERYWHERE? Worse yet, whatever you do to get around the insanity, you just can't. Sometimes you even feel just as insane after an interaction. Join Nicole as she correlates a simple driving experience to a constant feeling that "just driving down the road" ain't what it used to be.
Having a hard time feeling secure these days? Feelings of loneliness and isolation are prominent. The good news is that exponential certainty is POSSIBLE. Join Nicole as she explores why certainty eludes you, how fear prevents the belief that you're ok. That bad news you're getting is worsened by the lies you tell yourself about not being able to focus or change...that you need to take care of everyone else or that you're not good enough. Let's change your mind - and life.
Are you in your body now? Probably not. Distractions are numerous and the loudest and most disturbing are in your own head. That's right... your thinking keeps you from being happy. Don't get me wrong. We ALL think; the smart ones like to think a lot. The solution to solving problems is to consistently examine the mind's attachments to stress and chaos, instead of what's happening in your body. Wanna change? Stop, think and direct your attention DOWN. That's where your answers are.
Do we need to identify as masculine or feminine? Aren't you made up of emotions and feelings that are both? Have you lived your life trying to sort out what it means, or if it even matters? If so, you're not alone. I've worked with many people who feel like outsiders because they're not accepted and are trying to identify to belong. This episode talks about how to balance, identify and accept all your energies - instead of constantly defending or trying to fix what you're not.
Are you having difficulty communicating around topics you feel passionately about? Do you want your conversations to have greater impact? Communication can be difficult; wanting to show people that they are wrong is ineffective when I walk away not feeling good despite being justified of my position. How can I learn to behave in a more evolved way, leading myself and others toward an understanding I'd like to see between us? Listen to this episode to find a place of victory instead of having to be right.
How much are we stifling or censoring the things we think and say? Are we feeding a fear our ideas will be unacceptable, or there will be reprisal for expressing our thoughts - not as opinions - but to share ideas and to find answers? This episode aims to take off our ego's blinders and learn to have healthy expression, even around subjects that may be difficult. If we cannot share our innermost thoughts - and meet each other while we're hashing them out - then what IS the point of communication anyway?
Is anger troubling you these days more than in the past? Do you find yourself being hyper-sensitive to things that used to roll off your back? Are you moving through the world a little more "tightened up" and even feeling less likely to engage or express any thoughts for fear of not belonging or confrontation? I can relate. Discoveries made through my own journey - and clients - is leading me to find more answers within about how I avoid confrontation, or don't deal with real fears because "I should be smarter than that." Or, it's highly likely that I'm just as ignorant as I'm finding others these days.
In dealing with communications, especially when emotional flare-ups occur, it takes some time and practice to see where and how one loses power by becoming a victim to another's actions. In this episode, Nicole tells how she sees and hears the voices of the victim, the inner and connected self and acceptance...so that she doesn't need to be in bondage to knee-jerk reactions and the personalization of other people's behavior.
Why is it that communication can be so difficult at work...especially for women? Is it important to cater to, or try to understand our work relationships like we do our personal relationships? And what happens when a work relationship is "off", or we really dislike someone we work with? In this episode, Nicole will share helpful communication tips for dealing with work relationships - and the resentments that will make your work day too personal and very counterproductive
Do you sometimes feel like you could be doing better, knowing you're doing the best you can? Or maybe you're not...who's to decide? Is there some sort of ideal person who "handles" things that you should be more like? Join Nicole as she examines a loss and the way a person handled this loss in a perfect way...unbeknownst to her. Notdoingitright ... just another killer of self.
What do you do when you "know that you know" but you're surrounded by experts and opinions that oppose that knowing? Is your knowing always leading you down the right path, or are you sometimes mistaken in what it means? In this episode, Nicole talks about knowing, the error of perception, and how to find answers, especially when you want to connect but feel discord in a world of experts.
We've all heard (and many/most believe) LOVE believes, hope and conquers all things. It wins. But what about when people bring their "baggage" (defined as unresolved feelings we are/are not working through) to their relationships? How do these feelings, and actions, bear fruit into more love for selves and others? In this episode, we'll examine self-esteem from the viewpoint of a simple situation of clutter in a back room. Unaddressed for months, once this man addressed the "clutter", his mind was made free. Join Nicole will talk about the why and how...
Most serve money as the "there" place to get to. Once one has enough, one is "successful." Yet we've all seen the emptiness of many who have plenty of stuff. Instead of starting from the outside-in, maybe it's time to switch it up and make it an inside job by using our life experiences to find the work we love doing because it's who we are.
Basically, when we do work that expresses who we are--our cumulative experiences good and bad--we are fulfilled and successful.
There are those who would say I'm delusional and know nothing of success. So be it. I'm happy and I have more than enough outside AND on the inside. It's called personal POWER.
Why do we covet pain? What's the best thing to DO with it? How can we best handle it so that it becomes a better part of us, rather than something that holds us back? These are fundamental questions that I ask and try to answer. Pain, when coveted, becomes harm to me...and others. And that's not good. I'm trying to live toward a better solution.
In this episode, I'm turning away from interviewing other people and moving into exploring a foundation of wisdom from experience. Life has brought many challenges which have been overcome and I endeavor to share what has been learned about building and growing power...and the success that comes with it.
Liz sees her life as working much more fluidly when she's tied to a real source of abundance and love.
Power is agency over herself, rather than the idea that she was helpless to commandeer her own life.
Oh Happy Day!
Mike understands that his brain can be connection or unhappiness, dependent on what his choices are. His release from destructive thinking--and behavior--comes from the power that his practice creates in his life.
Be present, be useful, think about others...not a bad prescription for a great life.
He also hosts a podcast: Keep Coming Back: Real Stories of Sobriety and Recovery.
Ann talks about the power of getting and staying in the game by accepting herself, owning what she CAN control and allowing a power greater than herself to pave the way to better understanding and a better life. Power is consistency and measuring self by one's own standard.
Enjoy Ann's sharing of her own journey, which includes the power of accepting powerlessness.
Ryan believes in the power of words. Ryan believes in choice. He sees the best life experience as showing up for what you wish to accomplish--doing what you say and having to take one step. This, to Ryan, is the power of a modern successful life.
Calm Claire has a magical way of seeing life as service. She has found the way, through connecting to others, to use her life experience to allow others the freedom to find their own answers.
If you need a reminder of how precious and full of depth and weight life really is, you'll listen to what Claire has learned about being present in her OWN power.
Bob calls himself "just a neighborhood guy". Yet, like most regular people, when asked, Bob has as clear of a perception of power as anyone else with more or less "status".
Like his friend Mark, Bob is still THAT guy...the one who makes good choices and good decisions, backed by a power that keeps his best hitter in the game--rather than leaving and best life on the bench.
Sharon Allen, a self-declared introvert, has more energy than many and a heart of gold. Sharon outright declares that without opening herself up, moving through her shyness and those things that she doesn't understand, she can get past her limitations, learn to sing and grow into more power.
Sharon reminded me of the old saying "Courage is faith that's said its prayers."
Today's interview is with Suzanne Goodson, a woman who I know to be authentic, clear and in her body as a way of life. She has a wonderful presence of sacred energy. I hope you feel an enjoy our discussion. Here is more info about her: Suzanne is a Sacred Sexuality teacher and a sex, love and relationship coach who helps people wake up their relationship to their sexuality, spirituality and aliveness She has spent over 28 years formally pursuing spiritual studies. She helps people to have better sex, better communication, better relationships and better lives. Website: www.suzannegoodson.com IG: @suzanne.najarian.goodson FB: whole self essence with Suzanne Najarian Goodson
Through a simple daily practice--whilst not always knowing specifically what to do--Wheeler believes in taking a step out anyway.
Through him we see that acceptance is simple gratitude and abundant action and giving yourself.
This very first episode features the most everyday atypical/typical but unique and funny person I know...My Mother.
Sometimes the good life is very simple.
Enjoy!