Mindfully Modern Podcast: Recent Episodes
Zoe Airriona
A podcast about self-compassion, personal growth, exploratory conversation and modern perspectives. This is a place to grow in self-awareness and explore our evolution as human beings through the lenses of mental health, self-care, race-relations, and identity. Let’s celebrate our personal growth without shaming who we were in the different seasons of our life. Welcome to a community for intimate conversations and healing. Hosted by Zoe Airriona and Deion Delgado.
After their season break, Zoe Airriona and Deion Delgado catch up on all the things: personal and professional growth, insecurities, believing in yourself, and what transition looks like in its many forms.
Connect with your hosts on Instagram: @zoe.airriona and @delgado_creation !
Slide into their DMs and feel free to share topics you'd like them to cover for season 2! Upcoming topics include navigating your ever-changing identity, working through panic attacks and generational trauma, and developing self-awareness and fearlessness.
FIND YOUR SPOT:
00:00 - Episode introduction
02:14 - Catch up with Deion
03:08 - Be that B*tch
05:39 - Flashback to Episode #1-Deion’s Growth
17:12 - Flashback to Episode #1- Zoe’s Growth
21:29 - You Can Cash App Us
22:23 - How People Perceive You
25:25 - Modeling Agency Shift
26:49 - Katy Perry’s Stolen Files
29:09 - 2023 Zoe Fills in the Blank
32:02 - You’re Khloe
36:29 - Gaia App
39:54 - Advice for Going through Transitions
Iva Joe (@ivajoemusic), a music artist; producer; and minister, joins Zoe Airriona and Deion Delgado as they dissect music to explore some of the current pain points of modern society. The trio use Kendrick Lamar’s latest album, “Mr. Morale & The Big Steppers” to guide their conversations about daddy issues, toxic relationships, and the trans experience at church. While the speakers do make references to specific songs, you don’t need to have heard the album to follow the conversation; brief synopses of the songs are provided in the episode. The speakers briefly touch on Drake’s album “Honestly, Nevermind” .
TRIGGER WARNING: References to teen suicide are mentioned in this episode. Please, if this is a topic you are not looking to unpack, the hosts advise that you wait for the next podcast topic that best fits into your self-awareness journey. Deion Delgado and Zoe Airriona's intention is not to have their listeners unpack topics they are not ready to explore.
SONGS MENTIONED
Deion’s songs/albums
Hopeless Fountain Kingdom - Halsey (Apple Music / Spotify )
Fast Motion - Saweetie (Apple Music / Spotify )
Zoe’s songs
Rise - Lido (Apple Music / Spotify )
Stars Align - Majid Jordan, Drake (Apple Music / Spotify )
Iva Joe’s Songs
Count Me Out - Kendrick Lamar (Apple Music / Spotify )
Westside Boogie - Killa Mode (feat. Storm Ford) (Apple Music / Spotify )
Products/Songs/Notes
Listen to Iva Joe (Apple Music / Spotify )
Just Break Up Podcast (Listen)
Baby Boy (Watch on Amazon Prime)
"Worldwide Steppers" by Kendrick Lamar (Apple Music/ Spotify )
"Honestly, Nevermind" by Drake (Apple Music/Spotify)
KEYWORDS & VOCABULARY
Trade: “A young hyper-masculine looking gay man, usually black or latino in urban contexts. Trade typically dress in urban clothing and play to the thug stereotype. (urbandictionary.com)”
FIND YOUR SPOT:
00:00 - Episode introduction & trigger warning
02:51 - Music segment
08:53 - Being the underdog
09:56 - Iva Joe’s start in music
12:35 - Conversation begins
21:20 - “We Cry Together” & toxic relationships
32:42 - “Auntie Diaries” & the Trans experience in the church
35:48 - Zoe unpacks the loss of her brother
37:51 - “Auntie Diaries” shakes the black community
39:23 - Allies are important
43:52 - Issues being hijacked
45:16 - Iva speaks on Auntie Diaries from a religious perspective
59:00 - Unpacking the Drake album
01:00:56 - Dance music breakdown
01:02:01 - Deion gets controversial about Drake’s sexuality
01:06:07 - Artists using their voice on politics
01:15:42 - Talking “Father Time” and daddy issues
01:32:02 - Closing final questions
Dionte, an actor and supply chain employee, joins Zoe Airriona and Deion Delgado to discuss the phenomenon of getting in our own way. They unpack how getting in our own way shows up in our dating lives. The speakers also touch on topics like unintentional manipulation, forgiveness, closure, playboys, spirituality, fear-based thinking and emotional blocks.
SONGS MENTIONED:
Deion’s Song
Slab of Butter - Miley Cyrus
I am not a woman, I’m a God - Halsey
Zoe’s Song
N95 - Kendrick Lamar
United in Grief - Kendrick Lamar
Dionte’s Song
Essence - Wiz Kiz feat. Tems
Ooh Ahh - Tone Stith
BOOKS MENTIONED:
Spirituality reading list: https://www.mindfullymodern.net/read/self-awarenes-spirituality
Dionte’s book recommendation: Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey
FIND YOUR SPOT:
00:00 - Introduction
02:24 - Song segment
19:09 - Dionte introduces himself
22:03 - Platonic & romantic relationships
32:50 - Relationship with mom & filling a void
39:53 - Being emotionally closed off
45:30 - Unintentional manipulation
50:44 - Deion speaks on being emotionally closed off
53:03 - Fear-based thinking
59:42 - The wake up call
1:03:21 - Scaring people away
1:04:49 - Comparing our current partners to past partners
1:13:30 - Forgiveness & peace
1:25:25 - Closure
1:33:30 - Closing questions
In this episode Kay (@__journeytome / @chefki__ ), an ABA therapist and long term friend of Zoe Airriona, helps us explore our relationship with food. They discuss how their family dynamic impacted the way they relate with food and touch on topics like restrictive eating, bulimia nervosa, binge eating, diet culture, intuitive eating, and how to create a healthy relationship with food.
TRIGGER WARNING: In this podcast episode, Kay discusses her eating disorder recovery journey. Please, if this is a topic you are not looking to unpack, the hosts advise that you wait for the next podcast topic that best fits into your self-awareness journey. Deion Delgado and Zoe Airriona's intention is not to have their listeners unpack topics they are not ready to explore.
SONGS MENTIONED
Deion’s songs
Treat Me - Chloe Bailey
Persuasive - Doechii
Zoe’s songs
Anniversary - Mulherin
Poke it Out - Wale, J. Cole, Cool & Dre
City of Angels - Miguel
Kay’s Songs
Dreamville (ft. Ari Lennox) - Blackberry Sap
Earthgang (ft. Musiq Soulchild) - Amen
Products/Songs/Notes
Hair product: Dsmoothbutter @dsmoothbutter
Zen & Sugar Podcast with Dani Stoller: Listen now
HelloFresh: https://www.hellofresh.com/
KEYWORDS & VOCABULARY
Eating disorder: are behavioral conditions characterized by severe and persistent disturbance in eating behaviors and associated distressing thoughts and emotions. They can be very serious conditions affecting physical, psychological and social function. Types of eating disorders include anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, binge eating disorder, avoidant restrictive food intake disorder, other specified feeding and eating disorder, pica and rumination disorder (psychiatry.org)
Bulimia nervosa: Bulimia is an eating disorder. It is characterized by uncontrolled episodes of overeating, called bingeing. This is followed by purging with methods such as vomiting or misuse of laxatives...(hopkinsmedicine.org)
Compensatory behavior: Compensatory behaviors are eating disordered behaviors designed to counteract the effects of eating in order to avoid weight gain or to alleviate guilt associated with eating (www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov )
Binge eating: Binge-eating disorder is a serious eating disorder in which you frequently consume unusually large amounts of food and feel unable to stop eating (mayoclinic.org )
FIND YOUR SPOT:
00:00 - Introduction
00:23 - Trigger warning & topic summary
01:06 - Introducing Kay
04:25 - Being an ABA Therapist
10:00 - Feeling/Song Segment - Deion’s Choices
16:00 - Feeling/Song Segment - Zoe’s Choices
21:20 - Feeling/Song Segment -Kay’s Choices
24:11 - Discussion begins
25:44 - Food in our household & childhood
28:26 - The lack mentality & bulk shopping
30:40 - Listening to your body
31:32 - What does full feel like
32:24 - Deion’s learning curve with food
35:15 - Unpacking eating disorders
37:50 - Deprivation & misconceptions about food
40:51 - Deion’s perspective on diets
44:53 - Zoe’s perspective; skinny doesn’t mean healthy
48:10 - Reprogramming our mind & relationship with food
51:26 - Isolation & getting back to ourselves
54:30 - Fun with food & the inconvenience of cooking
1:03:42 - Restrictive eating & rituals
1:18:35 - Quick meal ideas
1:25:25 - Final messages
1:27:27 Closing questions for Kay
1:36:36 Closing & contacting Kay (@__journeytome ; @chefki__ )
Bridget (@ginger.cat.space.daddy), a local MUA (makeup artist) and IT Project manager at a law firm, joins Zoe Airriona and Deion Delgado to unpack queerness and identity. Deion unpacks his experience in the world as a gay black cisgender man. Bridget explores the concept of not finding attraction in any gender as a cisgender woman, while Zoe speaks on her limited experience in the queer community as a bisexual cisgender woman. The three of them learn from one another as they share their vastly differing perspectives, explore their own experiences and biases, and explore how society shapes our identity.
TRIGGER WARNING: This podcast discusses interracial dating and racism as it is one of our speakers experiences within their dating history. Additionally, our guest speaks to their experience in dissociating during sex and utilizing alcohol as a means to do so. Please, if these are conversations you are not looking to unpack, the hosts advise that you wait for the next podcast topic that fits into your self-awareness journey. Deion Delgado and Zoe Airriona’s intention is not to have their listeners unpack topics they are not ready to explore.
SONGS MENTIONED:
Deion Delgado’s Song
Sweetest Pie - Megan Thee Stallion
Be Alive - Beyonce
Pablow the Blowfish - Miley Cyrus
Zoe’s Songs
Stay Flo- Solange
Work B*tch - Britney Spears
Bridget’s Songs
Life Song - The Black Angels
Molasses - Kan Wakan
KEYWORDS & VOCABULARY:
Cisgender - describes a person whose gender identity and sex assigned at birth are the same
Pansexual - not limited in sexual choice with regard to biological sex, gender, or gender identity
Bisexual - attracted to both men and women
Compulsory heterosexuality (comphet) - theory that heterosexuality is assumed and enforced upon women by a patriarchial ad heteronormative society; term was popularized by Adrienne Rich in her 1980 essay titled “Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesibian Existence”
Asexual - a person who has no sexual feelings or desires, or who is not sexually attracted to anyone
Demisexual - sexual orientation in which a person feels sexually attracted to someone only after they’ve developed a close emotional bond with them
Sapiosexual - finding intelligence sexually attractive or arousing
Misogyny - dislike of, contempt for or ingrained prejudice against women
Gender expression - the way in which a person expresses their gender identity, typically through their appearance, dress, and behavior
Monosexism - referred to as biphobia, monosexism is a form of oppression that promotes exclusive heterosexual, lesbian, or gay male behaviors as the only legitimate concepts of sexual orientation
Videos mentioned: Compulsory Heterosexuality | Hannah Witton
( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tq5S8O0FpS8 )
Readings mentioned: “Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence” by Adrienne Rich
FIND YOUR SPOT:
00:00 - Introduction
00:05 - Trigger warning & topic summary
03:01 - Introducing Bridget
04:05 - Feeling/Song Segment- Deion’s Choices
09:30 - Feeling/Song Segment - Zoe’s Choices
12:14 - Feeling/Song Segment - Bridget’s Choices
15:21 - Queerness & identity conversation begins
20:04 - Discussing attraction - Zoe’s perspective
22:40 - Discussing attraction- Deion’s perspective
24:05 - Discussing attraction - Bridget’s perspective
27:41 - The value of women and misogyny
34:16 - Dating as a gay black men
37:44 - Delgado v. Deion
41:34 - Perspective from Bridget
43:22 - Dating talk
44:19 - Deion’s perspective on dating
45:28 - Same sex dating & gender roles
46:10 - Same sex dating through Bridget’s eyes
47:48 - Dating and the power of words with Zoe
49:16 - Dating and gender roles with Deion
49:59 - Deion “After Dark”; Deion explains the significance of being a “top”, “bottom” and “verse” in the gay cismen community
53:12 - Masculine & feminine labels
58:00 - Quick note on gender expression
59:21 - Bridget on dating women
1:03 - Deion unpacks dating men
1:04 - Deion & interracial dating
1:05 - Bridget unpacks the male gaze
1:06 - Zoe talks intersectionality in the queer community
1:09 - Talking compulsory heterosexuality
1:13 - Compulsory heterosexuality with Bridget
1:21 - Deion unpacks men and masculinity
1:30 - Deion unpacks race and dating men
1:32 - Zoe expands upon race & dating
1:35 - Final thoughts
1:37 - Closing questions
1:40 - Final disclosure & close
Zoe Airriona and Deion Delgado dive directly into their feels as they discuss practical ways for us to acknowledge, unpack and get in tune with our feelings.
Find Your Spot:
00:00 Introduction
0:57 Exploring emotions through song
14:47 Unpacking avoiding emotions & self-sacrifice
18:12 Speaking about emotions being a catalyst for inspiration
21:48 Discussing hiding emotions & perfectionism
23:58 Talking about social media, image, & authenticity
26:18 Continuing the talk on perfectionism with Deion
28:30 Facing emotions head on through journaling
34:50 Chatting about convenient crushes
36:00 Assigning names to emotions and bodily responses
38:54 Speaking on emotional eating
42:11 Sitting with our emotions & expanding your emotional vocabulary
44:47 Closing thoughts on journaling
54:37 Deion's product recommendation
57:21 Closing questions with Zoe and Deion
1:05:55 Outro
Zoe Airriona (host) and Deion Delgado (co-host) sit down to unpack their vision for the Mindfully Modern Podcast. They lead with high energy, humor and mindfulness as they dive into what experiences shaped their individual perspectives and what is to come in future episodes.
Find Your Spot:
00:00 Introduction
01:10 Deion introduces himself
02:16 How Zoe and Deion met
03:44 Zoe introduces herself
06:26 Why the podcast exists
14:50 Upcoming episodes
16:55 Closing thoughts
17:42 Outro