Asking for a Friend: Recent Episodes
Kara-Kae James
For the woman who has questions about herself, the Church, and the world, Asking for a Friend provides a safe space to engage in tough topics. Each week Kara-Kae James confronts topics we all have questions about . . . but are too afraid to ask.
Join us as we break free from the status quo and engage in conversations that matter.
Many women are struggling to find their place in the church today. From misguided teachings to dangerous theology, women have been told to sit down, be quiet...or even go home. So, what is a woman's role?
In this episode, I'm having a raw and honest conversation with Meghan Tschanz about women in the church and how the church has come to look very similar to the sex industry. Meghan shares her powerful story of working with exploited women, and what that means for the church.
*Trigger warning -- We talk about some dangerous harm done to women in the sex industry.
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The making of biblical womanhood
Half the church
Malestrom
Meghan's Book: Women Rising
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It's no secret that kids are facing grief, trauma and mental health. We don't want to shelter our kids from the hard things happening -- so how do we talk to them about hard things?
In this episode, I'm chatting with Drs David & Donna Lane about how to have hard conversations with our kids about the things happening in our world and around them. They give great advice on walking through grief and trauma with our kids, and how to help kids through mental health struggles.
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My Dog Can't Jump Book
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As Christian women, the conversation around sex, singleness, and desire is a struggle. Even in marriage, it can be difficult to separate truth from the lies of purity culture. How do we navigate sexuality in a way that honors God?
Kat Harris and I are chatting today on the podcast about what it looks like to live with sexual integrity as a Christian woman. Kat gives challenging advice for the woman who desires to honor God with her body – and shares powerful truth about what Jesus really had to say about women.
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Kat’s Instagram
Sexless in the City Book
The Refined Woman
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“What are you?”
Many of us will never know what it’s like to get that question. For those with multiethnic and multicultural backgrounds, finding their place can be painful, but it can also provide unique opportunities to connect with Jesus and the world around us. How can people of mixed ethnicity find belonging?
Today I’m answering that question with Chandra Crane! With a Thai birth father, a European American mother, and an African American father who adopted her when she was five, Chandra’s experience provides powerful encouragement for anyone who is searching for belonging.
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Chandra on Twitter
Mixed Blessing on Instagram
Mixed Blessing Book
Chandra’s Website
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If you have ever felt your voice silenced, this episode is for you. For so many women -- this is part of your story. In this episode, I'm chatting with Tiffany Bluhm, author of the book "Prey Tell: Why We Silence Women Who Tell the Truth and How Everyone Can Speak Up". We discuss how women can speak up when they feel silenced and the power of your voice in this #metoo age.
In this episode, you will hear:
→ Why women stay silent instead of speaking out against injustice.
→ How to be an advocate for a silenced woman.
→ Encouragement and practical tips for the woman feeling silenced.
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When tragedy strikes, it’s easy to feel hopeless. But what if the very thing that hurts us is the thing that God wants to use? What if we allowed Him to use our pain to mold us into who He wants us to be?
If you’re struggling to find the purpose in your pain, this episode is for you! I’m chatting with author Andrea Bourgeois about seeking God in the midst of the struggles we experience. Andrea shares the lessons she has learned through her own trials and powerful encouragement for using your pain to impact those around you.
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Andrea’s Instagram
Just Breathe Devotional
Andrea’s Website
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We all know what it’s like to feel the sting of rejection. Whether it happened when you were a child or it happened last week, it can be difficult to put your heart back out there. Where is God in the midst of our heartache and can He really use rejection for good?
Today I’m answering these hard questions with Kait Warness. Join us as Kait gives practical advice for bouncing back from rejection and reminds us that heartbreak is what makes us into who we are.
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Kait’s Instagram
Thank You for Rejecting Me Book
Heart of Dating Podcast
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As Black History Month comes to a close, we still have work to do. How can we continue to elevate the voices of people of color? What does it look like to authentically come alongside one another as bridge builders?
This week I’m rounding out my February series with Patricia Taylor, as she shares her experience as a Black woman and bridge builder! We chat through what it looks like to be authentically yourself as a woman of color and how white people can continue to elevate the voices of BIPOC long after Black History Month. Patricia shares the importance of knowing your “why” and encouragement for the body of Christ to step into hard things with one another.
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Patricia's Instagram
Some Thoughts From Your Black Friend FB
Be the Bridge FB Group
Be the Bridge on Instagram
Upside Down Podcast
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One of the first steps towards anti-racism is learning from the everyday experiences of people of color. This Black History Month, I’m speaking with Black women of different backgrounds and life stages, listening to their stories, and elevating their voices.
Dorena Williamson and I are chatting today about her experience as a best-selling children’s author! Dorena shares the inspiration behind her writing and gives powerful encouragement for women of color aspiring to be published. We’ll also talk about our shared experience as pastor’s wives and how each of us, no matter our story, can continue to show up in the face of discouragement and doubt.
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ColorFull Book
Dorena’s Instagram
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One of the first steps towards anti-racism is learning from the everyday experiences of people of color. This Black History Month, I’m speaking with Black women of different backgrounds and life stages, listening to their stories, and elevating their voices.
This week, I’m chatting with Jena Holliday of a Spoonful of Faith. Jena shares her journey to becoming an illustrator (including her most recent partnership with Target!) and using her gifts to champion women from all walks of life.
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Spoonful of Faith Tumbler at Target
Spoonful of Faith Journal at Target
Jena's Instagram
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One of the first steps towards anti-racism is learning from the everyday experiences of people of color. This Black History Month, I’m speaking with Black women of different backgrounds and life stages, listening to their stories, and elevating their voices.
If you love to learn and want to feel supported on your anti-racism journey, today’s episode is for you! Join me in hearing from Lucretia Berry as she shares her experience as a Black woman in education.
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Stony the Road Book
Brownicity
Lucretia's Instagram
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Work, family, school, church… In the midst of a busy world, making the Bible a priority can seem like one more thing on a never-ending to-do list. If you’re struggling to consistently enjoy time in God’s word, you’re not alone, and this episode is for you.
Today I’m chatting with Brittany Ann about what it looks like to fall in love with God’s word. Brittany gives great encouragement for the woman who feels like she can’t get it all done, and practical advice for making a daily habit of studying the Bible.
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Fall in Love With God's Word Book
Equipping Godly Women
Brittany Ann's Instagram
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As Christ followers, we know that Jesus is coming back to make things right. We know He’s going to restore all things. But until then, it’s easy to feel stuck, as we deal with the reality of life in a broken world.
Where can we find hope? Today I’m answering that question with Kat Armstrong as she shares encouragement for all of us who find ourselves in in-between places.
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The In-Between Place Book
Kat’s Website
Kat’s Instagram
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If you’ve been around church for a while, you’ve likely been impacted by the messages of purity culture. Rachel Joy Welcher believes it’s time to talk back.
If you are struggling with untangling God’s desire for sex, dating, and marriage from the lies of purity culture -- this episode is for you. In this episode, Rachel gives great encouragement for those who have been wounded by the Church’s definition of sexual purity, and practical advice for changing the conversation.
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Talking Back to Purity Culture Book
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As we kick off a new year, how do we move forward and fight back against fear and anxiety? How do we continue to show up on our darkest days? Whether you consider yourself “Queen of the New Year” or the glamour is already wearing off, this episode is for you!
Today I’m chatting with Hannah Brencher, author of “Fighting Forward”, about how to establish rhythms, practice discipline, and show up for yourself January 1st and beyond.
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Fighting Forward Book
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Well, we did it. We made it to the end of 2020, the longest year of our lives. But it’s not all bad — there were some great things that came from 2020! In this final episode of the year, Brook and I are sitting down to chat through all the major things that impacted women, culture and the church. Plus, if you are looking for a book or twelve to read, we’ve got you covered!
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We all face seasons of suffering and hardship. In these times, we often find ourselves feeling isolated and alone in our pain. How can we find comfort and companionship when life gets dark?
Today, I’m chatting with Wendy Alsup as she reintroduces us to the companions in suffering that God has given us in His word. Wendy also gives practical advice for walking alongside friends who are suffering, and encouragement for those who are currently in the thick of it.
Companions in Suffering: Comfort for Times of Loss and Loneliness Book
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There is so much pressure on parents to do everything and be everything for their kids. How calm down and lighten up about parenting? If you feel the need to let go a bit, this episode is for you!
Melanie Dale and I are chatting about how to calm down about parenting. You will be encouraged by Melanie’s joy and walk away with some great tools to calm the h*ck down!
Episode 27: Can my parenting survive the apocalypse? with Melanie Dale
Calm the H*ck Down Book
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The American church still remains one of the most segregated places in the world. How should the church approach this struggle? Is there a place in the church to talk about politics?
Today I’m answering these hard questions with Trillia Newbell. Join us as we approach this tough topic and give practical ways to step into this space.
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The holidays can be hard enough for many people but then throw in the chaos of 2020…yikes. Is it possible to find joy in the holidays of 2020?
I’m chatting with Mary Carver about how to find joy in the holidays when it’s a struggle. We chat about holiday movies, difficult family members, and practical ways to give back.
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The world is noisy. It’s filled with criticism, rejection, and pushback. And when you already struggle with anxiety and/or an inner critic, it feels like a road to failure.
Is it possible to find peace in a noisy world? I’m answering that question with Jamie Grace as we give some really practical ways to find peace in the noise.
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When we find ourselves on the other side of an election, how can we continue to love people we don’t agree with? If you are struggling with seeing others through a lens of love this season, this episode is for you!
Today I am chatting with Sarah Anderson and giving you some ways to find your place in this conversation and give grace to others.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Single Story Narrative
The Righteous Mind
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The political season can be CRAZY, but can Christians find their place in politics? Should we even care? If you are struggling with all the pressure and struggles around politics, this episode is for you!
Today I’m chatting with Kaitlyn Schiess, author of “The Liturgy of Politics” about how Christians can find their place in this conversation.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Liturgy of Politics
The Color of Compromise
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If you are struggling with the pull of being pro-life, but wanting to honor God, women, and culture -- this episode is for you. In this episode I'm sharing a bit of what it means for me to be pro-life, talking through the nuances of the topic, and answering a few of your hard questions.
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Pantsuit Politics
Must Pro-Life Mean Pro-Trump?
What about Abortion by Holy Post
EP 30: How should the church handle abortion?
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If you are interested in foster care, but want to hear more about what growing up in the foster system is like, this episode is for you! In week two of our series of diving into what the foster system looks like, I’m talking with Tori Petersen. As a former foster youth, foster parent and advocate - Tori’s story will impact you deeply.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW CASA
Live in Grace, Walk in Love by Bob Goff
Tori’s cute baby :)
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Kicking off a two week series as we look deeper into foster care. This week, my dear friend Ruthie Hart who is a biological parent, adoptive parent, and foster parent is helping us understand all things surrounding foster care. We chat through what the foster system looks like for children, how you can get involved in foster care, and what the process looks like.
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Listener Survey
CASA
Foster Care Information (You can google for your state!)
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It's time for another episode of What Did I Miss? with Kara-Kae and Elizabeth! We discuss books, movies, tv shows, another things that have impacted us over the past couple of months.
If you are looking for resources to help you reframe your thinking about the world, this is the perfect episode for you!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW:
- You’ve Been Volunteered
- To the End of June
- Reconstructing the Gospel
- Rediscipling the White Church
- PURE
- The Liturgy of the Ordinary
- Honey Boy
- Cuties
- Unorthodox
- One of Us
- The Social Dilemma
- Nice White Parents
- The Oral History of the Office
- Evolving Faith Podcast
- Jen Hatmaker’s Enneagram Series
- Selling Sunset
- Married at First Sight
- Get Organized
- Cobra Kai
- Dead to Me
- Sherlock
- The Umbrella Academy
While justice definitely isn’t a new concept, it’s something we are seeing brought to our attention lately in the news and all around us. There has been a lot of focus on the word justice, but is it biblical?
In this episode, I'm chatting with Donna Barber - Executive Director of The Voices Project and author of Bread for the Resistance. If you struggle with wondering if this conversation of justice is for you, this is a must listen!
LINKS FOR THE EPISODE:
Perfectly Imperfect Event
The Voices Project
Just Mercy
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There is poverty and homelessness all around us. How can we step into the margins and what are the best ways to serve those in need?
Terence Lester is joining me to discuss this incredibly important topic. He gives us some great practical advice for what it looks like to help others. Let's go serve well!
Is white supremacy at work in our churches? Unfortunately, YES. When we are ready to face this hard truth, then what? Today I’m chatting with Daniel Hill and how to fight the racial systems that divide us by better understanding the lies we face.
Daniel shares his own path of racial awakening and how that changed his life and ministry. We break down a few of the lies we face and how to bridge the divide.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Why do all the Black kids sit together in the Cafeteria? by Dr. Beverly Tatum
whiteliesbook.com
We love to put Jeremiah 29:11 on our coffee mugs and wall prints — but what does it REALLY mean? How can we truly trust that God is in control of our lives? Does he really have our best in mind?
In this great conversation with Megan Marshaman we dive in deep to what is means to trust God. If God gives us a hope and a future, what does that look like?
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Sacred Rhythms by Ruth Haley Barton
Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer
Prayer can be tough for many of us. It can be challenging to talk to someone we can't touch or see. If you feel this struggle, this episode is for you! I'm chatting with Chrystal Hurst about creating a great prayer life and what it looks like to pray without ceasing. You will walk away from this conversation encouraged and ready to have a deeper relationship with God!
Today we are wrapping up the series “what are the secrets of a secure woman?” as I chat with Rachel Kang about her experience in finding security in our identity. Rachel has an incredible story of family, heritage and finding herself through Christ at the center of it all. Let's be secure women!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Aliens in the Promised Land
Playing in the Dark Toni Morrison
Toni Morrison - The Pieces I Am (PBS) (Apple TV)
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This week we are in part 2 of the series “What are the secrets of a secure woman?” and I’m chatting with Nicki Wilson about being secure in our bodies. Nicki gives some great encouragement and advice in loving yourself and your body no matter where you are. Come hear all of her secrets to being secure!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Intuitive Eating
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We all want to be secure as women, but is there a secret sauce to what security looks like? In part one of a three part series, I’m chatting with Alli Worthington about what it looks like to be a secure woman throughout the seasons we find ourselves in.
Alli gives great encouragement to what it looks like to stand strong through adversity, and find our security as a woman where God calls us.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Alli & Jo Morning Show
Standing Strong by Alli Worthington
Callings by William Placer
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Defuntland
I have a really fun episode for you today as I welcome back Elizabeth for a great chat about resources. In this episode of “What did I miss?” (Thanks Thomas Jefferson), Elizabeth and I discuss what to read and watch that have impacted us over the past few months (and some fun things too). If you are looking for some resources to help reframe your thinking, this is the perfect episode for you!
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Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria
White Fragility
Long Way Home
Everything’s Trash But It’s Okay
The Residence
Native
Born a Crime
The Myth of the American Dream
Such a Fun Age
Rhythms of Renewal
Blackfish
Athlete A
Unorthodox
Stateless
A 3 Minute Hug
The Trials of Gabriel Fernandez
Filthy Rich
Down to Earth
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We find ourselves in a time of great strife and division in our country. In the wake of the pandemic and a political season, people are at odds more than ever. Can we as citizens of the United States actually believe that we are equal? What does that even look like? John Kingston and I talk about this important question of “Can American really be united?”.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW American Awakening
Better Together Concert
Immigration. Such a hard topic in our culture today, but a much needed conversation. Maybe you are unsure of what to believe and struggling to understand the narrative behind immigration. Today's episode is a great conversation with Sarah Jackson, author of "The House the Love Built" and Executive Director of Casa de Paz.
Because, immigrants...we get the job done.
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A 3 Minute Hug
Casa de Paz
Locked in a Box
Brene Brown interview with Ibram X. Kendi
How to be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X. Kendi
We all know what it’s like to wait, and it’s not always an easy spot to be in. Whether we are waiting for a pandemic to end, waiting on an answer from God, waiting for a job — we all know what it’s like to wait.
Today I’m chatting with Jessica Hottle about how to wait well. When we find ourselves in seasons of getting a “no” or simply waiting, how can we do it with grace and patience?
"How do I talk to my kids about pornography?", a question I recently received from a listener and a great question! It's incredibly important to teach our children about pornography and help create a plan to resist. Kristen Jenson and I discuss this incredibly important topic.
Kristen gives some really great practical advice to help parents with this topic and tools to help our children be prepared. As Kristen says: “you have two choices: you can cross your fingers, or you can be proactive!” Let’s be proactive parents!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW protectyoungminds.org
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures
Within in the Church, talking about sex is often taboo. We avoid healthy conversations and say “true love waits”, but what was God’s plan for sex? How can the Church have better conversations about sex to not place shame on women?
This conversation with Mo Isom is so important for us to walk in freedom around the topic of sex. The Church needs to be having conversations that are uncomfortable but incredibly important! But how can we talk about it?
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Holy Spirit Revivals by Charles Finney
The number one question I’ve gotten recently from listeners is “how can I talk to my kids about racism?”, so I invited Jenny Delacruz to have this important conversation with me! Jenny and I tackle why it’s so important to talk to our kids about race, before they develop the world view of someone else.
We urge you to have this conversation with your kids and make it something you talk about often!
Is it okay to doubt and ask questions of God? It’s a heavy question with many caveats, but an important conversation!
I had a great chat with Knox McCoy, author of All Things Reconsidered and co-host of The Popcast, to share our own stories of doubt, deconstruction and reconsidering what we've always believed . We hope you find your place here to approach your doubts and ask big questions.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW All Things Reconsidered by Knox McCoy
Searching for Sunday by Rachel Held Evans
The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron
Beyond Belief by Elaine Pagels
Finding God in the Waves by Mike McHargue
The Good Place
Marriage is one of the greatest gifts, but also can be the most challenging to navigate. How can we build lasting marriages, stand strong together, or find ways to reconcile through hard times?
All of your questions are answered this week when I chat with Melody Lovvorn to answer the question “How can I make my marriage last?” Melody has an incredible story of heartache and redemption that will encourage and inspire you to build a lasting marriage!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Dr. Dan Allender
Gary Thomas
Abba’s Child
Wounded Heart
Lies Young Women Believe
Search for Significance
When racism rears its ugly head (on a daily basis), we all wonder “how should we respond to injustice?” Most of the time, we are unsure what to do, what to say or how to act.
I am grateful to have had the opportunity to sit with my dear friend Ashley to have a candid conversation about current events, white supremacy, growing up black in America, raising black boys, and much more. I pray this conversation gives you a place to work out some questions and learn.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Ashley’s post
13th Documentary
Amanda Seals
Angela Rye
Jamal Hill
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Single women after often overlooked or lost in the Church. They feel disconnected at times and struggle to find their place within the Church.
I sat down with Crystal Day and we chatted about how the Church can better support and love singles. We also discussed dating and how that can be done well.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Dating Done Right
Right to Real Love Podcast
The Light We Lost
ABOUT THIS EPISODE Do you ever feel like your voice doesn’t count? Do you feel silenced or not know where to start? Today I’m chatting with Csilla Muscan about why every one has a unique voice and how you have space to share your voice!
Csilla shares about her upbringing in a communist society and how she has learned to use her voice for good over the years. You will be so encouraged by her story!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Leadershift by John Maxwell
Master Chef Jr.
karakaejames.com/coaching
Mother’s Day is here and I’m taking some time to honor women in motherhood! I sat down with three friends at different stages of motherhood to answer the question “what do moms really want?”.
My guests for this special Mother’s Day episode are Yvette Henry, Sarah Bragg and Tam Hodge! You are going to love hearing different motherhood perspectives and what women really want on Mother’s Day!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Anjuli Paschall
The Road Back to You
The Gifts of Imperfection
Bri McCoy’s Simple Syrup
The Dream Giver
Did you know that 1 in 3 women have had an abortion? The stats are a bit shocking when you look at them, but tells us that so many women are suffering in silence. I'm joined by my friend Janay to talk about this challenging topic and help us all think a bit deeper about being pro-life, think outside the box a bit and discover how we can truly support women as the Church.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Forgiven and Set Free
Orthodoxy by DK Chesterson
Find Janay janaymcdonaldwilborn.com
@janaymcwilborn
As women, we feel the pressure to be a lot of things and stereotypes are constantly placed on us. How can we overcome those stereotypes?
This week’s conversation with Simi John about stereotypes is a must listen! We chat about stereotypes we’ve both battled and ways to overcome and live out our callings.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW Kim Walker Smith “How He Loves”
The Me I Want to Be by John Ortberg
“So You Want to be Like Christ” by Chuck Swindoll
We are stuck at home with our spouses — and no amount of premarital counseling prepared us all for quarantine. Can our marriage survive the apocalypse?
Brook and I share some funny marriage stories, and some advice to help your marriage survive during this time!
LINKS FROM THE SHOW 100 Humans
Zoey’s Extraordinary Playlist
Schitt’s Creek
Brooklyn 99
Kim’s Convenience
Blackish
Superstore
Does anyone else feel like they are trapped in the apocalypse and can't escape? We are all trying to survive this crazy season, and many of us are wondering — will my parenting survive?
Today I sat down with my friend Melanie Dale and we discussed our love for apocalyptic fiction (and dislike for the actual apocalypse). We share a lot of fun resources to read, Melanie encouraged us to find GRACE.
LINKS FROM THE SHOW The Fireman by Joe Hill
Outbreak on Netflix
Station 11 by Emily St. John Mandel
Prayer Forty Days of Practice by Justin McRoberts & Scott Erickson
Twister
The Iliza Schlesinger Sketch Show
Mike Birbilglia: The New One
Lock & Key
Marvel Films in chronological order
Lord of the Rings
Why is it so stinking hard to just love ourselves and have a healthy body image? As women, we pick ourselves a part and fight the battle with the mirror every day. But can we actually have a healthy body image? We think so! I sat down with my friend Brittany Estes to discuss this challenging topic. We have both struggled with body image after finding ourselves at a weight we weren’t happy with and talked about the challenge of learning to love ourselves through that.
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I'm taking the reins of the show with trembling knees but with a big heart! Listen in to this short and sweet episode to hear the heart behind the new direction of Asking for a Friend with Kara-Kae!
Sometimes life shifts and changes and we feel a bit scattered. How can we find our footing when everything changes direction? Today we are sharing some BIG news for the podcast and chat about life changes.
We recently received this question from a listener and we knew it was a topic we had to discuss! Raising kids in our western culture, we can get lost in raising them in the midst of entitlement. But how can we raise grateful, well-rounded humans? Join us as we share our stories and share some great ideas to implement!
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A big, heavy question and one that can be difficult to ask within the Church. - is medication OK for mental health? Today on the show, we are discussing this very question and what it looks like for women who love Jesus...but struggle with mental health.
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It’s not much of a surprise, any shows we talk about mental health are some of our most popular shows -- it just goes to show how much women are struggling with mental health, and maybe unsure how to have these discussions or possibly hiding their struggles. We want to encourage you with this discussion and if you’re struggling with mental health, you are not alone! Join us today as we answer the question “is anxiety a choice?”
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Today we are tackling the super popular topic of “self-care”. What is it? Why do we need it? How does it differ from soul care? We toss around manis, pedis, and yoga and call it “self-care... but that’s not necessarily the case. According to the definition, self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health.
Join us as we dig deeper into this topic and how we can truly find a place of renewal for our minds and bodies!
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We all have people in our lives who have been through hard things and we want to know how to love them well. Or maybe the person you are struggling to love is YOU and we just want to be able to love ourselves well through our hardships. Ashley Abercrombie joins us this week to discuss how to love broken people. Ashley is the author of the book “Rise of the Truth Teller” and she has an incredible story to share!
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Women are expected to be quiet and meek…but what happens when we aren’t? What does that look like in our marriages, especially if our husband has a quieter personality than you? Join us as we discuss marriage and battle those feelings that we are “too strong” when we are anything but quiet and meek!
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Friendships as an adult can be so stinking hard! Join Kara-Kae & Elizabeth this week as they chat through the difficulties of friendships, chat through a lot of listener comments and questions, and offer some resources to help you navigate relationships. If you ever feel alone in the struggle to find deep, meaningful relationships -- this episode is for you!
Thanks for joining us for another Episode of Asking for a Friend. This week we are tackling a health and wellness topic and answering the question , “How can I live with chronic pain?” We share the ups and downs of our own chronic pain issues and give you encouragement to live well in whatever season you find yourself in!
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This week we are talking about the criminal justice system and answering the question, “Is the criminal justice system working?” We’ll talk about the problems we see in the prison system, racial and social class bias, prison reform, rehabilitation, and much more. We also discuss the book and recent movie, Just Mercy, by Bryan Stevenson.
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There's so much pressure to start the year off right, lose the holiday weight, and be the best version of you...it can all be a little overwhelming! In today's episode Kara-Kae and Elizabeth tackle the question "how can I find purpose in 2020?". They dive into topics like "living a small dream life" and what that means for women, and focus on hitting the reset to live a more purposeful year.
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What do Beyonce, women’s soccer, congress, and Beth Moore have in common? You’ll have to listen to find out! What a year it’s been for women, the Church and culture! As we enter 2020, Kara-Kae and Elizabeth reflect on the people and events that impacted them the most in 2019.
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It’s a stressful time of year, isn’t it? Do you feel as stretched thin as we do? So, how can we make the holidays a more meaningful time? Join Kara-Kae and Elizabeth as they pause to discuss the crazy season we are in, and how we can find some margin, peace and meaning in it all.
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Join us next week for Episode 13 as we recap the big things that happened in 2019 that impacted women, culture and the Church!
Today we are jumping in with a bonus episode to recap the "Women in the Church" series. Kara-Kae and Elizabeth chat through the high points of the three-episode series and talk about their big takeaways. Join us for this special bonus episode to go a little deeper into the topic from their perspectives!
Kara-Kae and Elizabeth continue their three-part discussion on women in the Church by asking the question, “Should women lead in the Church?” Today they interview Mary Alice Birdwhistell, senior pastor at Calvary Baptist Church in Waco, Texas. Mary Alice presents the egalitarian point of view and offers great insight into her own calling as a pastor and advice for other women who feel led to lead in a church.
If you missed Episode 9 (where we introduced the topic of women leading in the Church) and/or Episode 10 (where we interviewed complementarian pastor John Durham), we highly recommend you go back and listen to those episodes, then join us for this episode, Episode 11.
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Join us next week for Episode 12 as we discuss the crazy holiday season and answer the question “How can the holidays be more meaningful?”
Kara-Kae and Elizabeth continue their discussion on women in the Church by asking the question, “Should women lead in the Church?” Today they interviewed Pastor John Durham from Highland Baptist Church in Waco, Texas. John describes himself as a “kind complementarian” and leads listeners through what it means to affirm and support women in ministry while still holding to a complementarian view of women in the church.
If you missed Episode 9—the first part of our three-part series—we highly recommend you go back and listen to that episode first, then dive into this episode.
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Join us next week for Episode 11 when we settle in for part three of this series "Should women lead in the Church?" and interview Pastor Mary Alice Birdwhistell.
Happy Thanksgiving, friends! In this week's episode, Kara-Kae and Elizabeth dive into the question "Should women lead in the Church?". They discuss Complementarianism and Egalitarianism and break down a lot of scripture. They also share some listener experiences as well as their own when it comes to women leading within the Church. Make sure you check out this week's full show notes, there's a lot to dig into with this heavy topic!
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Join us next week for Episode 10 when we chat with Pastor John Durham who falls on the complementarian side of the discussion and then in Episode 11 when we chat with Pastor Mary Alice Birdwhistle who falls on the egalitarian side. A lot to take in during this three-part series on women in the church!
This week co-hosts Kara-Kae and Elizabeth are recognizing National Adoption Month. As adoptive mamas, they want to explore the heartache and joys of adoption and answer the question, is adoption helpful or harmful? They each share their personal stories of adoption and talk about the painful and joyful parts of adoption. They end by answering three listener questions pertaining to adoption.
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Join us next week for Episode 9 as we kick off a three-week series and tackle the question: Should women serve in the Church?
Kara-Kae and Elizabeth offer an insightful and personal look at the issue of anxiety in children, and they answer the question many parents are asking, "How do I handle my anxious child?" Together, they explore the causes and symptoms of anxiety in children and also share their own stories of dealing with anxious kids.
Kara-Kae and Elizabeth discuss the difference between stress and burnout. Kara-Kae offers her personal experience dealing with burnout this past year. Together, they discuss what to do if you are experiencing burnout and ways you can help a friend or spouse who is going through the same thing.
Kara-Kae and Elizabeth discuss the importance of mentoring and discipleship both inside and outside the Church. They break down Titus 2 and discuss what Scripture says about older generations of women mentoring the younger generation. They answer questions such as, What role should the Church play in mentoring and How do you mentor someone who is not interested in growing spiritually? Join us as we challenge each other to engage in mentoring for the sake of our generation, and the one following us.
Kara-Kae and Elizabeth discussed the difficult, and personal, topic of depression. Each of them told their own stories of dealing with depression. They discussed the Church’s response to depression and the societal stigma surrounding depression. Then, they offered advice on how you can help someone who might be dealing with depression, and how you can seek help if you think you might be struggling with depression.
Kara-Kae and Elizabeth welcomed guest Ashley Danielle as they discussed the challenging topic of cultural appropriation and answered the question, “Why can’t I do that?” They offered a definition of cultural appropriation and ways we see this play out in our culture today. They also explored ways that Jesus treated different races and cultures with respect. Finally, they discussed the importance of understanding other cultures without defending our own thoughts/words/actions.
Co-hosts Kara-Kae James and Elizabeth Oates dive into the topic of body image and answer the question, “How can I love myself when I don’t like my body?” They discuss the lies we believe from the enemy and the world, and they offer a Scriptural view on the true purpose of our bodies. Then, they offer listeners practical ways to love themselves, even if they don’t like their body.
Kara-Kae and Elizabeth tackle the subject of leadership and answer the question, “How do I lead when I don’t feel like a leader?” They encourage listeners that they don’t need a fancy title or an army of people under them in order to be a leader. By offering Scripture supporting the idea that we can lead even when we feel ill-equipped. Finally, they offer practical steps women can take to lead, no matter how big or “small” their influence.
Welcome To The Asking For A Friend Podcast where each week Kara-Kae James and Elizabeth Oates confront topics we all have questions about . . . but are too afraid to ask.
Join us as we break free from the status quo and engage in conversations that matter.